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My (30F) semi-disabled mother (65F) moved in with me. My bf (34M) hasn't been handling well. How do I handle this?
I am not the OOP. The OOP is u/throwaway_9276 posting in r/relationship_advice Concluded as per OOP 1 update - Long Original - 3rd March 2025 Update - 27th March 2025 My (30F) semi-disabled mother (65F) moved in with me. My bf (34M) hasn't been handling well. How do I handle this? I want to try and be as brief as possible, but there's a bit of nuance. I'm an only child to a single mother. My parents divorced when I was really young and my mom was the person who raised me. I'm very aware of the sacrifices she made to ensure I succeeded in life, despite how poor we were. Maybe 5 years ago, my mom had a stroke and a series of TIAs. These changed her personlity somewhat, and caused some mobility issues. She doesn't exactly qualify for disability, because she is still able to walk around and take care of herself, she could theoretically hold a job, etc. She has about a year and a half until she qualifies for Social Security (we're in the US). My mom started her own baking business in 2019, after working as a baker for 20 years. This obviously failed in 2020. She coasted for a bit before becomeing the live-in caregiver for my Gran until she died - and then the executor of my Gran's estate. That brings us to now - She was living in my Gran's house - which sold. She found herself with nowhere to stay and no income. I live with my bf (35M) in a 2br 1ba apartment. We have been dating for 2.5 years. I am very much the breadwinner. I estimate that I pay around 80% of household expenses. I make $50/hr, he makes $21) I also wfh so I generally take care of making dinner, doing dishes, shopping for groceries, etc. If my partner does any of these tasks, it is under my direction. We originally agreed my mom could come stay for a month while she found a job. She has struggled to find a job (she can't be on her feet, and has limited use ofher dominant hand - and her last 25 years work experience is as a pastry chef). She's been applying every day, and she's had a few interviews, but no serious leads. We have had a lot of discussion about this - mostly that I am unable and unwilling to kick my elderly, disabled mother out with nowhere else to go (we have other family, but I am the only one with a spare bedroom) This has caused a ton of tension between BF and me. He has really started to be generally unpleasant to be around all the time. He's very moody, prone to outbursts. He gets angry if my mom stays in her room (says she's cowering and hiding when he gets home), he's even MORE angry if she and I are on the couch together when he gets home (I feel like I'm a stranger in you and your mom's house). If I go into my mom's room to talk for a little bit he says I'm ignoring him. Along with this he's started to tell me almost daily that I don't do things with him enough. I don't kiss him enough, snuggle enough, talk to him enough etc. etc. Any time I am doing something fun, or for myself he will start a big fight. It feels like living with a storm cloud and I constantly feel like I'm dropping the ball in like 7 different arenas. This all came to a head this weekend because he was driving me to a photoshoot (I had been working on making this big, crazy costume and a friend volunteered to take some pictures of me whearing the costume. I can't emphasize how meaningful this was to me) and decided this was the time to tell me that "he would never tellme to kick my mom out, but he's really angry that I haven't done it already." and that "I should be on 'team us' more that 'team someone else'" I understand a relationship should be a priority, and my mom HAS been with us almost 5 months. I don't think that this is an easy situation, or one that he isn't allowed to have feelings about. But the fact that he seems to genuinely believe that I should kick my elderly, disabled mother out into the street really shocks me. It also makes me really question our future. Like if this is how he is acting over a family member needing our spare room for a time...what would happen if we had a special needs child? Or if something happened to me? I'm a big believer that a good relationship is able to thrive even in times of crisis. How do I handle my boyfriend's big feelings without telling my mother to leave? Comments deedeejayzee I don't think this is the partner you want. My Dad was dying of pancreatic cancer and had home hospice. My mother (who was stage 4 breast cancer at the time) and I took care of my father, and a nurse would come in regularly. Toward the end, when my Dad lost control of his organs, my husband wouldn't let my mother or I change him. My husband changed my father's diaper because he said my Dad deserved dignity in his final days and having his wife or daughter change him wasn't dignified enough. That is the partner you want during the tough times. OOP: I was married before, and my ex husband's dad died pretty suddenly. I saw firsthand what the loss of a parent feels like. And the guilt that you might have been able to do more for them. I just honestly can't imagine putting the needs of a boyfriend over the needs of my mother. Glittering_Host9303 Exactly. So please don't. You have many many more years to be with this man if you choose to. But you really cannot tell how many more years you would have with your mother, and to me, the weight of angering some man is so miniscule compared to the weight of not being there for my mother when she needs me, who was always there for me, would be devastating to live with. DazzleLove I can 💯 see both sides and understand why BF doesn’t like it. However, BF is a choosing beggar. He is unhappy that his sweet deal has come to an end- he has a housewife that paid 80% of his bills. Is this really someone you’d want to have kids with- that would mean time off work (dependent on C section etc), more money for eg day care and much more work at home for you with a dead weight for a partner. It sounds like you’ve dodged a bullet finding this out now. Clearly he wants the status who to remain but he has to leave if he doesn’t want to live with your mum Update - 24 days later Thank you so much who offerred advice on my previous post. So much of it has been really helpful. I did my best to reply to comments and I was surprised by all the resonses I got! So much has happened sinced I posted this, and I feel there was some information that I excluded from the original post, because it felt irrelevant at the time, but now does seem relevant. First, I kind of want to elaborate on my mom's behavoir while living with us - this didn't originally feel relevant to this post because my mom really feels like a 'fixed point' to me. Like she's going to behave how she behaves. That doesn't change that she's my mom and I feel I have a responsibility towards her as long as she isn't violent or outright abusive. Also, I'm pretty desensitized to my mom's quirks. I've been dealing with her my whole life. It doesn't really occur to me to think critically of her behavior. My mom is really manipulative, and I am easy to manipulate. She is the type of person who will make small, seemingly innocuous comments that over time kind of create a new reality if you are around her frequently. So over the time she lived with us, she really made me feel that 65 is very very old, and it's unreasonable to expect a 65-year-old to take care of herself. She also basically didn't take care of her personal hygeine. It was VERY hard to get her to shower. To the point where she would smell terribly. It was hard to be in a room with her. I would, of course, beg her to shower. And every time it was a very long, drawn out, dramatic and emotionally intense scene. She would cry. Sob. She would tell me she'd PROMISE to do it in the morning the following day...and then the next day she'd be throwing up sick. She'd beg me not to shame her for struggling. Emphasizing that she's getting old, and as you get old it's hard to do things. She'd talk about being afraid of falling in the shower and no one helping her because I'm so ashamed of her. After she DID shower, if I thinked her, she'd burst into tears and talk abouthow difficult it had been and how scared she had been of falling. This happened almost every time. I want to emphasize that at the time this was upsetting to me, nut I kind of just accepted it. I also felt horribly guilty for causing her emotional distress, and going through this whole process like once a week was pretty overwhelming. Also, there had been a pretty big blow up where I realized that she hadn't been applying to any jobs. She wanted me to fix something with her phone, and it led to me seeing she had 0 'applied jobs' on indeed, 0 confirmation 'we jot your application' emails. none of that. I asked her to furnish ANY proof that she'd been applying and she couldn't. She swore up and down (tearfully) that she had been applying, but she couldn't prove it at all. This made me really upset, but like, she still had nowhere to go, and she's till my mom. So I didn't really know what to do. I started making her show me every morning the jobs she had applied to. Afterwards she did this voluntarily every morning. I had been told when she first had her series of TIAs that she needs to go on short, frequent walks. Otherwise she will experience bloodflow issues that cause things like...numbness in her limbs. She barely moves at all. So much that her leg muscles are VERY atrophied. I have offered to go on walks with her, buy her a walker etc. etc. but she always declines. It's worthy of note that I work from home. So I was around her constanly. She was the only person I talked to (other than BF) sometimes for weeks. And when bf came home, he was usually REALLY short tempered. So for me this created a reality where my mom was feeble, elderly, shouldn't be expected to care for herself. Trying her best. And BF was pissy, irritable, mean. Kind of ungrateful about everthing I did for him, and for our relationship. My mom would comment frequently about how hard I work to have dinner ready when he gets home, and how he never appreciates it. How immature he seems compared to me. So for like most of the day I would be dealing with my mom's emotional scenes, hearing a constant streams of subtle negative comments about BF, all so innocuous and focused on praising my efforts that I didn't realize how they were influencing me. All these realizations came later. Shortly after I made the original post, BF and I had a conversation that ended in us both calmly deciding it would be best for us to break up and move out. Luckily, our lease already ended and we were on month to month. So this wasn't an issue. It took a week for us to arrange new places to live. I got a 2br for my mom and I. He found a studio. This happened at the beginning of this month, we both move into our new places at the end of this month. BF requested that Mom go elsewhere for a while so we can pack without her being around. I wholeheartedly agreed. We've been together for a long time. THis is difficult. Going through a break up, living together for a month, and ALSO having your ex's mom be there constantly...terrible. My cousin agreed to let my mom stay at her place - this is not a long term arrangement, she's sharing a bed with my cousin's mom (who lives with her. My aunt has MS, it's a different situation. I can elaborate if desired)...it's fine for a bit, but not forever. With my mom gone...everything changed. BF and I were getting along PERFECTLY. BF's entire mood and vibe reverted back to how it was before. Fun, kind, hilarious, delightful. I felt like I was waking up. I had a few counsiling sessions that helped me to realize that MOST 65-year-olds DO take care of themselves. My mom does have some issues, but a lot of the issues are WITHIN her ability to fix. She hasn't been trying to sign up for government assistance. She hasn't been trying to do anything. She hasn't even been taking careof herself. At all. I realized through counseling and talking with friends and family that just because she's decided not to take care of herself doesn't mean I have to sacrifice my life to take care of her. I also had a lot of conversations with BF (exBF now) where we were able to really see how the other person was affected by all of this. He really now understands how this constant manipulation was causing me not to really see my mom ad the situation clearly. He also understands that despite everything...she is my mom. And for my part, I really understand why he was just at the end of his rope and was acting like a dick all the time. He WAS acting like a dick all the time. He openly agrees he was. But uh, yeah. I get it. I really do. He wasn't the problem. We def had some stuff to work on...and that was present before my mom moved in. But I think all that was fixable if we didn't have 6 months of me slowly being brainwashed, and him slowly becoming the worst version of himself. I do have a lease, which mom is on, for a year in the new place. I've decided that I will hold that lease for one year. After which I am moving into a 1br, alone. If in a full year she has not found a way to support herself, at that point it won't be ME making her homeless. I can't keep supporting someone who makes no effort to support themselves, seems perfectly happy to have my life fall apart, and contributes nothing at all to our shared home. I'm happy to help her however she asks meto during the next year. But I can't set myself on fie to keep her warm. Especially if she makes no effort. There are options out there for her. She's perfectly capable of looking into them. I need to give myself the love care and consideration I've given her. I have to have a question so: What guidance can you give for someone living with a parent who has a proven track record of being manipulative? Comments UnspentFluency You are doing everyone, you, your boyfriend and especially your Mom a disservice by moving with her for a year. Reread what you wrote you. Your inability to assess the situation as unworkable is highly concerning. OOP: I don't disagree with you. I am really concerned about it. I signed the lease and everything before she went to live with my cousin. At this current moment, my mom really doesn't have anywhere else to go. She's staying with my cousin and my cousin's husband is kicking her out the day our lease starts. I feel that 1 year is ample time for her to get her shit together, so I won't have to feel like it's my fault if she winds up homeless. I don't think this is like...a good solution. But it's kind of the solution I have right now. Prior_Lobster_5240 Stop this, dude Stop making excuses Stop putting her needs before yours Grow a freaking spine, OP lizzyote 6 months of me slowly being brainwashed So let's make it 18! NDaveT Let's be real, it's really been 30 years of brainwashing. SaveItUp1998 That started off so well and the same old excuses. She needs a year, she has nowhere to go, she can't stay at my aunt's. You have not learned nearly as much as you think you have or need to. You are just repeating the same cycle. You know your mom is a WHOLE adult. She knows she can apply for jobs, government assistance etc. She is choosing not to. Even if she doesn't know how, she can go to an office and get help. I guarantee in a year nothing has changed. She will call your bluff and you don't have the spine to actually kick her out because she still won't have money and still won't have a place to stay. She is smart enough to manipulate the hell out of you, so she is smart enough to see she can pull your strings to stay and have a live-in nanny do everything for her forever. All at the cost of your happiness, independence, youth and relationships. OOP I certainly hope that this isn't the case. I have already filed the intent to vacate for my new apartment at the end of the lease. I'm doing my best to set things up so I can stick to my boundary. I'm aware she's a whole ass adult and needs to do stuff for herself. I also know she's choosing not to. I worked with a counselor to help set a boundary that mitigated my feelings of guilt. The boundary was this one year lease. Dragonshatetacos Your boyfriend dodged a huge, spineless bullet. pepperpat64 This is extremely relevant info and shouldn't have been left out of the original post. Did you do that intentionally to get sympathy and make your BF seem like the bad guy? You may be as manipulative as your mother. Regardless, while your mom may be manipulative, it sounds like she might also have anxiety disorder, chronic depression, or both. She needs to see a doctor about these possibilities as there are many medications that can help. OOP: A lot of it I didn't realize until she left. No, I did not purposely exclude it. I included all details I thought were relevant at the time. At the time I made the first post I really wasn't seeing her as manipulative at all. I was just kind of seeing her as someone who is really depressed and struggling and needed help. I didn't realize the extent of the manipulation etc until she left and I had a few counseling sessions. I agree now that it's important information and should have been included, which is why I made this update. The first post was indicative of my perception of the situation at the time. As this post is indicative of my perception of the situation at this time. My mother does have diagnosed clinical depression and anxiety. She also has Graves disease and her thyroid was removed. Which kind of makes clinical depression symptoms a lot worse? Like it increases feelings of depression. She has been medicated for these in the past but she lost her insurance when she turned 65 and hasn't been able to afford Medicare due to not having a job. I've been doing my best to get her on state programs which was difficult because she was previously living in a different state than I am. And since she wasn't on the lease where my boyfriend and I were staying, she didn't technically have an address in this state and was unable to get State assistance. Now that she is on a lease she does have an address and is in the process of getting on some state programs so she can get properly medicated. I am not the OOP. Please do not harass the OOP. Please remember the No Brigading Rule and to be civil in the comments submitted by /u/SharkEva to r/BORUpdates [link] [comments]
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Christian neighbor asks my atheist/satanic self an odd, yet oddly sweet, favor.....
I am not The OOP, OOP is u/thefreakychild Christian neighbor asks my atheist/satanic self an odd, yet oddly sweet, favor..... Originally posted to r/atheism Original Post Sept 8, 2023 Story time: So, there's this old guy that lives across the street from me. We'll call him T, and T is in his early 80s. His wife died about 6-7 years ago, and now he lives alone. Over the past while, I've checked in on T to see how he's doing, bringing him some homemade meals every so often, giving him rides to the grocery store and shopping with him, making sure his companion cat has food, and just generally trying to be a good, caring, thoughtful neighbor and friend to a dude who probably needs it. Today, while I was working, T called me up and asked if I could bring him to the store, and I said 'Sure, of course! I need to go there myself. I'll see you at 5:30 after I get off work' So, off we go. He gets his list of groceries, I grab a few things, and back to his house we go to unload and get things put away. While doing so, for the very first time, he brings up religion... Which is also when I realized I was wearing a t-shirt with and image of baphomet on it T is really respectful, says that he's Christian, I acknowledge that I do not believe, and I thought that was that. Well, it wasn't. He goes on to expand on how he believes that the rapture is soon to come. (We're talking like next week, soon) I do that, 'ok, uh huh, sure' polite non-argumentative thing. Mentally checked out of the conversation, but present enough to respond appropriately yet politely not agreeing. At the end, he says 'the only reason I bring it up isn't to prostheltyize, but to ask you something.' "What's that?" I responded. "If it does happen, can you watch over my cat if I'm gone?" He asks. Ya'll, for real, I wasn't ready for that shit... Not at all where I thought he was going with it. Of course, I said 'yes of course' and backed it up with saying 'no matter what happens or why you may not be around anymore, if your cat is still around she'll be in good hands with me' Like, on one hand, it's an absolutely hilarious situation, but damn the heartfelt earnestness of it got me. Sweet, but silly, all at once. Anyone else had an experience even remotely similar? Edit 1: Wow, thanks everyone for all the wonderful comments and sorts of both support and of concern for T. I can't reply to everyone, but I just wanted to say this. We all have a choice in how we approach the world. We can do so in a positively impactful way, or we can do so in a way that isn't. It's completely your choice, and who am I to say which is more valid or responsible? I choose to conduct myself in a way that I perform acts of service for my community without, and free of, the thoughts or beliefs that doing so will return some sort of eternal reward. I urge everyone to do the same. None of us get out of this alive, so we may as well support and uplift each other when and where we can. Edit 2: Hot damn, ya'll... thank you so much for all the comments and love... For those asking for updates, I absolutely will post and update to this over the next week or so and let everyone know how T's doing and all that. For all those wondering, the cat's name is Lily. She's a super sweet orange and white fluffball. Be kind to each other. We never know what someone else is going through in their life, and a simple offhand moment of kindness to your fellow human could mean the absolute world to them and for you it's just another Tuesday.... Edit 3: Finding it kinda funny, and a little disheartening, that I've received so many 'you can't be atheist and Satanist' type comments..... Folks, read up on the differences between theistic satanism (a vanishingly small segment of those who identify as Satanist) and modern (TST, and some aspects of Church of Satan) aligned satanism. I use Satan and Satanism first and foremost as a way to utilize the social connotation of the imagery (to set one's self apart visibly) and for its 'othering' aspects mentally. I can get down with the 7 tenets, but I do not consider myself a TST satanist or member.. At my core, I guess you could say I'm fundamentally a humanist with baphomet wallpaper. Read up a little bit before making an uninformed comment. Cheers all, I challenge you to do something good both for yourself and for someone else today.... Update Sept 25 2023 So, some of you may remember my post from a couple weeks ago. /r/atheism/s/tAJ8tEq4nI Obviously, the Rapture didn't happen.... I've seen T several times before and after the day, and he seems to be doing ok... he hasn't referenced the date being missed, and I haven't pressed the issue.... Overall, I imagine he must be somewhat embarrassed, but who am I to rub that in? Ya know? The cat is doing well also, and I brought her over some nice freeze dried salmon treats yesterday for him to give her.... Either way it goes, I'm still being the same exact sort of neighbor as I was before this. Offering help when and how I can, providing that help if asked, and going over to just chat with him on the front porch for a while... If he never brings it up again, that's just fine by me. I just wish him a content and fruitful life for however long he has left. RELEVANT COMMENTS DrunkenKarnieMidget Lots people suggesting pranking this guy. Seems both pointless, and cruel to do such a thing to a neighbor that has brought no ill-will to OP, despite being aware of their theological differences. OOP replied Yeah... It's actually rather depressing and distressing that so many people are advocating callus and tone deaf reactions and actions.... We're better than that. I get it though, a lot of us have religious traumas that paint our view of religious practitioners and how we approach them. But, who are we to visit those traumas and trauma responses on individuals who have not harmed us directly? If anyone were to ever look at, and study, methods of deradicalization and deprogramming from religious cults, they would find that overwhelmingly the most effective and efficient methods begin and end with compassion, empathy, and making sure that the person is heard, cared for, and is able to make positive connections that differ from where they were at. Being constantly and openly so antagonizing does nothing more than feed a confirmation bias to the religious that 'godless heathens' are spiteful and 'evil', just as they have been taught to believe.... It actively drives people away from deprogramming and deradicalization...... We've got to be better than that... THE OOP HAS APPEARED IN THE THREAD Here Hi. OOP here. You can start at any time, there's nothing holding you back from being the person Mr. Rogers would want you to be. Good works for your fellow human don't have to be grand gestures or actions. Sometimes it's as simple and small as offering someone else the same compliment that you would want to hear for yourself. And here OOP here.... There's never anything but one's self stopping them from being a compassionate, empathetic, and good person. I have my faults, as we all do, and I am sometimes prone to anger and resentment... I am no role model, but I do make a conscious decision each morning when I wake up to confront the day with grace and forgiveness and to extend that to my fellow human when and where reasonable and just. Be the person Mr. Rogers would want you to be. Nothing's stopping you. Take careof, and be kind, to yourself, friend. THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]
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OOPs gets left at a pool after dental surgery by her SIL, which causes SILs marriage to implode
Reminder: I am not OP, this is a repost. Original post by u/throwawaypoolproblem in r/AmItheAsshole TW: Child neglect AITA for ruining my brother's marriage because his wife left me at the pool throwaway. this whole situation is so bizarre that I still can't really process it. it still doesn’t feel real but I feel scared and guilty I (19F) had surgery a couple days ago to get all 4 of my wisdom teeth out and because I have a really bad fear of dentists, they had to drug me pretty hard to do the removal. Not like laughing gas that wears off really fast, but actual IV medicine so I was pretty much unconscious during the whole thing. They told me to have a "responsible adult" drive me to the appointment and back because the meds they gave me would make it dangerous to drive. My mom was on a work trip and couldn’t take me, so I asked my sister in law Bri (24, not her real name) if she could do it as the whole thing would only take an hour or two. I even offered gas money because the dental office is about 45 minutes away. I would have asked my brother but he works during the day while bri is a stay at home mom to their 2yo daughter who I think was at bri's mom's house that day. Bri agreed to take me to my appointment and the surgery went fine, bri waited in the lobby for me to be done. When I came out of anesthesia I was very disoriented and nauseous, which I guess is normal. I had gauze shoved in my mouth to stop any bleeding and bri took me to her car after I was let go. I don’t really remember much of the drive but it felt like not enough time passed before bri got out of the car and told me to come with her. I was really out of it and just followed her because the alternative was staying in the hot car. long story short, we were at a pool?? I was really confused but once we were through the gate bri basically parked me at one of those little table-benches said she'd be back in a while. I was still trying not to puke and was really dizzy from the heat (90+ degrees) and the drugs, so I asked her to take me home but she wouldn't. I guess since it was her day off and she didn’t have my niece she was meeting friends at the pool. I was starting to feel really sick and on the verge of passing out or having a panic attack, so I called my brother. I don’t think he could understand me between the meds and the stuff in my mouth because he hung up and I guess called bri because she came stomping back over, cussing and yelling at me, and took me back to the car. I passed out on the drive home, but when we arrived my brother had left work and met us in the driveway. He was screaming at bri and she was crying. I was still pretty disoriented but my brother took me back home and stayed with me until the meds wore off. That's when he told me he's divorcing bri because of what she did plus some other things he didn’t go into detail about. It's been a few days since then and bri has been blowing up my phone telling me what a bitch I am and how me tattling destroyed her family. Part of me feels bad because of my niece and I wonder if I should've jjst dealt with it and waited for her to be done at the pool instead of calling my bro and causing problems. AITA?? Comment from OP: Oh wow I didn’t expect this to blow up like this. Thank you all for the reassurance it really does help. I still don’t know what my brother meant by "other things" but if I find out I'll post an update. Thank you all again, it means a lot. UPDATE (posted on their profile): first, thank you to everyone who read the original post and reassured me. It helped a lot and I understand now that my bros marriage was rocky before bri pulled the stunt in my original post. I'm not good at Reddit (usually just silently read posts) and my update kept getting deleted on the AITA sub but a ton of folks asked for it, so here it is: I called my bro to check on things, thank him again and see how he and my niece were doing and he told me some things about bri and why hes divorcing her. i don't think she's cheated on him or anything like a lot of people in the original post thought, at least my bro never said anything about that, but yall were right about the incident with me being the straw that broke the camels back and that I'm not the only victim of bri being careless. a while back I guess my bro came home early from work and found my niece (2yo) alone in their house with the front door unlocked. he called bri 3 or 4 times with no answer and she came in the front door right before he was about to call the cops. Apparently she went to the convenience store like a 5 minute drive from their place and left my niece by herself. When my brother yelled at her she said it was fine because nothing bad happened, and when he said the door was unlocked she just said she mustve forgot and that it wasn't a big deal. Her phone was silenced on the charger in their bedroom which is why she didn't answer when he called. Bri called him dramatic and told him to stop telling her how to parent and that niece was fine for 20 minutes while she shopped for dinner stuff. My bro is taking some time off work to take careof my niece because he kicked bri out of their house the same day I had my surgery. she is staying at a hotel that bro is paying for and he gave her two weeks (more like one and a half now) to find a place before he quits paying for it. He says he's going for full custody because bri is a danger to my niece and doesn’t trust her anymore. she tried to argue when he kicked her out but he threatened to call the police for what she did to me which I guess scared her because she left. Sorry it isn’t a very exciting update but that's all bro would tell me, I think this isn’t the first time bri neglected niece too but he said he's doing what it takes to make sure it doesn’t happen again. He also said he doesn’t think that bri is completely malicious but is extremely careless and doesn’t believe her actions affect other people which is why she cant be trusted not to hurt others by being selfish. I'm doing well after my surgery even after everything that happened so thank you all for the good wishes and advice! I've gotten a lot of messages and sweet words and it's a little too overwhelming to respond to all of them but it still makes me feel a lot better about everything. so thank you again. Reminder - I am not the original poster. submitted by /u/GTX660King to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]
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