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Queens who won a crown/fan reception by smarts. For me Suzie comes to mind. She was very smart to come with a "bad" mug and day by day showing her better makeup. Finally, got a glowup after her elimination, now she got a whole fanbase for her looks. Who is your cerebral queen? submitted by /u/Brilliant_Way_8407 to r/rupaulsdragrace [link] [comments]

I am NOT OOP. OOP is u/Honeybellmama Originally posted to r/TrueOffMyChest My husband doesn't see how his 'work wife' is trying to destroy our marriage Trigger Warnings: emotional infidelity, bullying, past trauma, hostile workplace, breach of privacy / trust Mood Spoilers: sad, frustarting Original Post: February 9, 2025 I (31F) am at my wit's end with my husband's (32M) coworker Sarah (30F), and his complete inability to see what's happening. I'm not usually one for reddit, but I need to know if I'm going crazy here. Where do I even start? Three years ago, my husband Mark started working with Sarah. At first, I tried to be welcoming. I invited her to our BBQs, included her in group outings, and genuinely tried to be friendly. Big mistake. She spent the entire time making backhanded comments about everything from my career ("Oh, you're just a yoga instructor? How... peaceful.") to my cooking ("I guess not everyone can master basic seasoning."). The real problem is that Mark thinks she's "just being funny." Last month, she literally threw away the anniversary mug I gave him because it "clashed with the office aesthetic." When I got upset, Mark said I was being too sensitive and that "Sarah just has high standards for office decor." IT WAS A MUG WITH OUR WEDDING PHOTO ON IT. Some greatest hits from Sarah: - She scheduled a "mandatory" work dinner on our anniversary - She convinced Mark not to take a promotion because it would mean working with a different team - She posts daily photos of them together with hashtags like #WorkPowerCouple and #WorkSpouse - She tells everyone at their office that she "takes better care of him than I do" - She changed his coffee order and now tells everyone she "trained him right" The worst part? My husband is completely blind to all of this. Yesterday, he actually told me about how Sarah said our new house (which we spent months searching for) was "charming, in a starter home kind of way." He repeated this while LAUGHING. I tried talking to him about it, but Sarah has convinced him I'm "just insecure." She's managed to insert herself into every aspect of our lives. They text constantly - even on weekends. She knows his schedule better than I do. She rearranged his entire desk and office wardrobe because his style was "too suburban husband." THAT'S WHAT HE IS! Last week, I suggested marriage counseling. He looked genuinely confused. He of course went and talked to Sarah about it I found out from another coworker that she's been telling people that Mark and I are "going through a rough patch" and that she's "just being a good friend by giving him someone to talk to." We weren't going through anything until she started this nonsense! The breaking point? I stopped by his office to surprise him with lunch (I know, I know, but it was his birthday and Sarah was supposedly out sick). Guess who was there? Sarah. She'd "miraculously recovered" and bought him a cake that said "To my work hubby" with a photo of them from the office holiday party. She saw me and said, "Oh, Amy! You came too... how nice. Mark, you didn't tell me your real wife was coming!" I'm not crazy, right? This woman is trying to destroy my marriage while my husband stands there grinning like it's all some big joke. What do I do? Divorce seems extreme, but I'm running out of options here. TL;DR: My husband's "work wife" is actively trying to sabotage our marriage while he remains completely oblivious to her obvious manipulation. ETA: I should have stated that the promotion wasn't one that would increase his salary but his title. It would give him more leadership experience. It still blows my mind that he turned it down just so he could stay on the same team as her. ETA: I should have told the mug story in its entirety. She "accidentally" broke the mug. I noticed it was gone when I was visiting him one day and I asked him about it. He said she accidentally knocked it over and then later he repeated a "joke" she made about how it didn't fit the office aesthetic. Top Comments Commenter 1: You have a husband problem. Go to counseling and get professional help to communicate your concerns. Remind him that he’s married to you, not Sarah so her opinions shouldn’t matter when it comes to your marriage. Good luck, but be prepared for the worst. Commenter 2: Sarah would not be able to sabotage your marriage if your husband wasn't allowing it.   Update #1: February 12, 2025 (three days later) Hi! I (31F) posted a few days ago. I really didn't expect my post to blow up the way it did. I got so overwhelmed by all the comments that I haven't responded to any. I want to address everyone who says it's fake - I understand why you think that, but this is my personal hell. I only listen to Reddit stories on TikTok, but when this reached its boiling point, I just needed a place to talk. So I made an account and tried to yell into the void. Well, the void turned out to be less empty than I thought! Now, to why everyone is here - the update: Before I talked to my husband (32M), I decided to do some investigation. I started with his phone and read all the messages between him and Sarah. She bad-mouthed me a few times (he did nothing to defend me but didn't engage either). She was flirty; he wasn't really flirty back. They talked a lot, and he praised her frequently for her work ethic and intelligence. I didn't see anything about cheating. I checked his email - nothing. I checked his work email - nothing. I looked through our other devices - nothing. I searched high and low for a second phone - nothing. Everything I found was always dancing that line. Nothing was outright cheating, but here are the things I found that did hurt my feelings: \• He has lunch with her, and only her, every day in the office. They don't really like anyone else, so they'll criticize others and say, "Let's talk more at lunch, they're serving xyz today." \• He'd say things like "I'm sure if you were a wife, you would xyz." He always kept it as "a wife" and not "my wife," but it still upset me. \• She admitted to breaking the mug on purpose. He didn't get upset with her, just said, "Yeah, the photo gifts are kind of corny." I confronted him. I laid it all out, and while he wasn't upset, he did try to brush things off. He said I was being sensitive and overreacting. I told him if we didn't have a real conversation about this, I would file for divorce. That got his attention, and he sat down with me. He admitted that at first, he found it odd that Sarah was trying so hard - he saw her trying hard with all the men in the office. The more attention she gave him, the more he enjoyed it, and the more he responded, the more attention she gave, until she just had her sights on him. He knew some of the other men were envious, and he liked that too. He admitted that eventually, he just got too deep. He said he knew it was wrong but had gotten addicted to the attention and didn't want her to move on to another man. So he indulged her sometimes at my expense. He said it was just nice to have two women in the two major parts of his life, stating that he knew we'd rarely see one another, so what was the harm? He reiterated that he never EVER physically cheated with her but admitted it could be called an emotional affair. It was painful, I won't hide that. I mean REALLY painful - like I wasn't enough. I told him from this point on, he needed to stop communicating with Sarah and ask to be transferred or switch jobs altogether. Now folks, I mean it when I tell you this: He. Lost. His. Shit. He began raising his voice, saying things like he never cheated, it was all above board, and I couldn't control who he talked with at work. He called me a narcissist and a control freak. He told me I had no idea how hard it was, how much stress he had in the office, and that his personal relationship with Sarah helps a lot - taking it away would just damage his mental health. It got so bad that I started crying. I couldn't take it anymore and decided to leave. I packed a small bag and called my MIL - she's the only family I have here. I gave her a rundown of what was going on, and she offered her home to me. I'm staying here and just hoping my husband calms down so we can revisit this. I want to work it out; I love him more than anything. I will try harder to answer comments on this post, and I will definitely update if something new happens. This has been really therapeutic and makes me feel less alone. TLDR: I confronted my husband about his work wife, and he lost it on me. Now I'm staying with my MIL. Relevant Comments Commenter 1: INFO: what does MIL have to say about all of this? Has she talked to her son, your husband? OOP: My MIL is on my side and told me point blank that he is wrong. However, she said she doesn't want to get in the middle bc she doesn't want to damage the relationship with either one of us. She told me I'm welcome as long as I need but she won't bring anything up to her son until he brings it up to her. Commenter 2: Has he tried to contact you since you left what does your mil say about his actions it’s time he either stops contact moves to a different job he has to get away he is thriving on her attention it’s all not fair maybe counseling but he might be to far gone maybe it’s time to move on he is choosing her over you I’m so sorry I feel your pain stay strong maybe go do something nice for yourself maybe your hair or nails or a new outfit just something for YOU OOP: My MIL agrees his actions are wrong but doesn't want things to escalate or to damage her relationship with either one of us so she is staying out of it unless he contacts her. As for my husband he has tried to reach out. He's called left message texted. I let him know I was safe and left it at that. He will message or call every few hours but we haven't talked.   Update #2: February 14, 2025 (two days later) Well, I'm back! First, I want to address some of the negative comments. To all the people saying they're "team Sarah" and hoping Sarah and my husband get together – I even saw a nasty comment saying Sarah and my husband would be "the office power couple" – how can you sit here and say nothing's going on? You claim my husband didn't cheat and I'm being crazy, yet in the same breath wish they would get together? You're contradicting yourself because deep down you know something romantic was developing. Now for the update. My husband came to my MIL's house (she didn't call him). He knew I was there because I told him, and he said he wanted to talk. Some big things happened in such a short time. He wanted to explain. According to my husband, after I left, he started to reflect, he did call his mom and they had a long talk (I didn't know any of this) She asked him if he was happy with me and he said yes but I made him extremely happy. I was a good wife and a great partner. This is kind of what it all sunk into him that he was being juvenile for wanting attention from another woman. I did ask him why he always brushed things off and never took action before. He said He couldn't explain it – it just felt good. He assured me he never wanted to sleep with her and never advanced things that way. It was just nice having someone around who was fawning over him, like a fan. For those who said he didn't know what an emotional affair was and was just agreeing with me – you were right. He admitted he didn't really understand what an emotional affair was, but after looking it up, he agreed that's what it was, though unintentional. He said he didn't want to lose his friend, so he just went along with a lot of what she did. He admitted he was deep into a fog but me leaving And this conversation with his mom was the one thing that brought him out of it. He said he didn't want to fight. My husband is big on giving me my space so when I left he didn't chase after me because he thought it would be best for us to just cool down and think about this and hopefully come back and discuss it more rationally. He did reach out to Sarah. Though they didn't meet in person, they had a phone call. He told her they couldn't remain as close, that their out-of-office texts and calls needed to stop, that he would get a replacement mug she wasn't to touch, and that they needed to cut back on their lunches. He wanted to handle this before talking to me, to show he was serious. Sarah didn't take it well. She started berating me, saying I was forcing him to do this. My husband stopped her and said no – he was doing this because his marriage was important. He admitted letting things go too far but clarified he had no romantic interest in her. He told her if she had feelings for him, she needed to distance herself immediately. Sarah ended up ruining their friendship herself. Though my husband was willing to maintain a more distant friendship, her comments about me and him, claiming she'd never want him and that everything she did was because she knew we weren't meant to be together, and she was trying to open his eyes. He said he couldn't believe he'd never seen how vindictive and awful she was – she was almost venomous. It didn't end well. After handling that situation, he came to see me, wanting to ensure I knew he understood and was taking the proper steps. He said we could do whatever I needed. I know some of you will say I'm wrong, that divorce is the only option because he had an emotional affair. I'm sorry to disappoint, but I'm not divorcing my husband. I told him we needed counseling for both of us. Yes, going through all his devices, emails, and texts might have been extreme – he agreed it felt like a breach of privacy but understood given the circumstances. I told him we both needed to work on things. As of right now, I guess you could say that we're separated. We're not staying in the same house. We're going to attend counseling. I don't want to just jump back into things with him. I don't want it to seem like it was okay to make me feel like I was the second option to ignore all those red flags and to brush me off. This has to be worked on. I'm leaving his mother's house and staying with a friend I'm not sure if anyone's going to want an update after this. Sorry it's so anticlimactic sorry it's the typical. Oh you just got back together. I mean it is but it isn't. I love my husband. I know he loves me. I don't think everything is an end-all be-all yes, it's a terrible situation. Yes he did a terrible thing but I want my marriage to last so we're giving it another go. I genuinely hope this is my last update, but if it's not, Y'all will know. Thank you for all the messages. All the support everything it really has been a huge help. Relevant Comments Commenter 1: As a female in a male dominated industry (and employer), the term work wife/work husband sickens me to no end (I've been labeled a colleague's work wife in the past, fortunately, the one who labeled me his work wife vot transferred to a different {new} location when about 18 months ago). I have two questions for you if you don't mind me asking. Have you looked into his employer's policies on workplace romance? Have you reached out to HR about Sarah, given her patterns at his job? I ask because I fear that things will get worse before it gets better. OOP: I appreciate it. Work wife and work husband is definitely something that can quickly become disrespectful and cross a lot of boundaries. I'm glad that uncomfortable situation rectified itself for you. I did not look into their policies because they didn't really have a workplace to romance. Emotional affairs are such slippery slopes because there's nothing physical going on so there's nothing that HR can really do. Technically in the eyes of policies and stuff they were just good friends. HR can't really control what you do on your personal time Or on your personal social media? Unless it makes the company look especially if there's no sexual component. As far as reaching out to HR, I can't do that. I mean I could, but it's ultimately up to my husband and I'm sure he will on Monday and if he does I'll definitely update how that goes. Commenter 2: Hi i'm glad that' you're not going through the typical reddit "divorce him!" route. This is real life with real people and real feelings. You have to see if you can work through. This is marriage. It's tough sometimes. When you go through shit like this you go through shit like this together. Now if he had a physical affair with her, then, yeah divorce him. But since he didn't, it's more nuance than that. And you know what I would like to hear an update because if things do or don't work out, I want to see you living you're best life with or without him. In the end you'll be coming out stronger than you did your first post. Edit: Also, I agree with other posters, you need to tell your husband that distant friendship isn't good enough. That no friendship is the only thing on the table. If he won't agree to that then... maybe divorce is the only option then. OOP: I know a lot of people have been saying this But you have to understand. My husband still has to work with Sarah. Yes, he could quit his job but finding another job takes time so As of now he has to work with her. So when I said he wanted to maintain a distant friendship, I was meaning that he wanted things to be cordial at work so he didn't just outright cut her off. We had a very long conversation about it and I should have added it into my update but I didn't. When I mentioned him saying distant friendship It wasn't him saying. "I'm not cutting her off" it was, "I don't want this to turn into a big thing at work so I'm going to do this gradually and go ahead and set hard boundaries and then slowly will just drift apart because I'll start pulling away." I'm not sure if that makes sense, but That was his thought process.   Editor’s note: the body text for the next update was saved before it got removed Update #3: February 18, 2025 (four days later) Hi reddit, We are continuing our work wife saga. As a lot of you predicted in my last update, Sarah wasn't happy about my husband ending their friendship and trying to put a distance between him and her. I seriously thought she was going to reach out to me but she never did why? Because this was never about me. I was not even on her radar except for somebody to tear down. I will give Sarah one thing. She is extremely efficient. She started her campaign long before Monday morning. Over the weekend she reached out to several of my husband's co-workers, (mostly male.) She told them that my husband had randomly stop being friends with her and she suspected it was my fault. She said she couldn't believe it. Everyone knew how close they were. She just felt bad for him. Wanted to be a friend for him and hopefully he help him out of our terrible marriage. She went on and on about how she couldn't believe how much this is going to affect her during her working hours that she didn't know if she can continue working at this job. One of the female workers at my husband's job messaged me all of this. As a lot of you predicted, she is gearing up to accuse my husband of sexual harassment. Monday alone she has put herself In the path of my husband multiple times. It kind of feels like she's setting up to do and he said she said argument because she's doing a lot of odd things at least according to my husband. Think stuff like intentionally following my husband into a room or a section of the office that is somewhat closed off, accidentally emailing him or forwarding him things, going to his cubicle multiple times day for no reason, sitting close to him in meetings. It seems harmless but really it feels like she's gearing up For something. My husband did go to HR first thing Monday morning and like I kind of thought they pretty much said they can't do anything unless it affects work or working hours. (His HR is not the greatest) He did let them know what she was doing today but honestly I don't think they took him seriously. We've been thinking about moving. The only thing that keeps us here is really his mom. So he might just transfer jobs? We're not really sure. I hope things don't escalate anymore and since he went to HR already, I'm hoping that nothing big happens. I'd like to give a little update about our counseling. To all the people who tell me that I'm making a mistake by giving my husband another chance and trying to work it out. I am so happy I don't listen to you. I understand it was a shitty situation. I lived through it. I know it is. I know how it felt. But counseling has revealed a lot about my husband that I didn't even know. Apparently he was bullied severely in high school and he kind of went through a little glow up when he went into college. Sarah is definitely one of those stereotypical blonde pretty girls and my husband admits that it did kind of feel like he finally got his chance to be "popular" In a social setting. My husband admitted that Sarah basically mirrored everything about him. His likes his dislikes. She talked to him like he walked on water. It definitely sounded like she was boosting his ego In a manipulative fashion. Like I said I understand this isn't just a forgive and move on kind of situation but hearing my husband talk about it how it felt the way it affected him. It made me have a lot more sympathy for him. I still haven't come back home but we're doing it one day at a time. I went and had lunch with him on Monday and I'm going again today. I'm trying to be there for him so he doesn't feel alone. I'm really ready for all this to die down. I'm hoping it doesn't get taken farther at work but if it does we'll deal with it. Top Comments Commenter 1: OP, Your husband should be documenting EVERYTHING, IN WRITING. AS IT OCCURS. And then, provide it to management. In addition, a consultation and possible engagement of a seasoned labor law/employment attorney. Commenter 2: Sounds like it's not going to die down until he leaves. Either he gets a different position in a different team away from Sarah or he quits and finds a new job. Because the way you're explaining stuff she is going to cause massive issues for him at work. And I'm hoping after you said with your counseling that your husband's being smart. I understand you said he went to HR. HR is not going to care because he's a man, since she's not physically doing anything and it's not going to be an issue until she says something he needs a new job. I would have this conversation with him in counseling and state to him that it's only going to get worse. I've seen this happen time and time again. Nothing's going to change the way Sarah acts and for her to say that she trying to help him get out of a terrible marriage, is already telling enough. She's going to blame everything on you and then blame it on your husband and make it 10 times worse. 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Crossposting this from /travel since for some reason they blocked the thread. When people find out I've been to so many countries, inevitably they always ask what's my favorite countries. I always say, these kind of questions lose the nuance because of xyz. But still, maybe the below list can help people when they're looking to plan their 2026 trips. my top 5 list is at the bottom of this post. you'll have to earn it by scrolling. Seems like this line isn't getting read enough: The numbers aren't in any order. So #1 is on the same level as #5. This list was created under the pretense of limited time, limited resources. We're not billionaires that'll live to 300 years old. Top 5 Underrated Countries Georgia Oman Ecuador Namibia Taiwan Countries that might not be on your radar but should be for your next vacation Lesotho - Mountains Latvia/Lithuania/Estonia - Beautiful capital cities with some unique cultural offerings Georgia - Cradle of wine with yummy food Montenegro - Croatia but cheaper (maybe?), but also one of the best road leading into a city (Budva) Timor Leste - Disclaimer: i haven't been, but everything I've read makes it amazin so it's on my list for my next vacation Best car drives in the world Pacific Coast Highway, California Great ocean drive, Australia Great Coast Road, New Zealand Garden Route, South Africa Ha Giang Loop, Vietnam Locations you might not have heard but need to visit before it gets overrun with tourists Palenque - Mexico Tikal - Guatemala San Andres - Colombia Omadhood, Maldives Balabac, Philippines Beer beer in the world Belgium Germany Czechia USA (Craft beers only, none of that budweiser piss) Beer wine in the world South Africa Czechia Portugal Greece Georgia Best Local spirits Rakjia - Croatia/Balkan Sake - Japan Pisco - Peru Mezcal - Mexico Amarula - South Africa Worst local spirits Ouzu - Greece Cha Cha - Georgia Arak - Indonesia Aguardiente - Colombia Guaro - Costa Rica Best country where there are no sca Best country where there are no scammers at the airport none. all taxi drivers at any airport in the world are scammers. The best place to pet wild capybara in nature Brazil The best place to swim with sea lions in nature Galapagos Best free snorkeling spots in the world Red Sea, Egypt Con Dao Vietnam Maldives Galapagos, Ecuador Okinawa/Ishigaki Island Chain, Japan Countries where they love their cats more than their family Turkey Greece Japan Countries where once is enough and I have no desire to ever come back Morocco Bangladesh Belize El Salvador Mozambique Countries where you will get stared at by everyone and their mom if you don't look local Georgia Egypt India Myanmar Morocco Friendliest Countries (in terms of hospitality by the people. Literally them inviting you to eat with them 5 minutes after meeting them). Oman India Philippines Georgia Mexico Seychelles Best Cuisine Vietnam Mexico Japan Thailand Malaysia Best Beaches/Islands Philippines Indonesia Australia Mexico Maldives Countries that is most likely unsafe for a woman to travel solo (regardless of how many solo women you've seen traveling in said country) India Bangladesh Morocco Egypt Sri Lanka Countries where there's a decent chance you'll get mugged (knife/gun) if you don't have street smart Mexico Colombia Brazil South Africa Nigeria Countries where there's a decent chance you'll get pickpocketed in their major cities Spain France Italy South Africa Ecuador Best for African safaris South Africa Namibia Botswana Madagascar (Maybe Kenya/Tanzania—haven't been). Best for Americas tropical rainforest exploration Brazil Ecuador Colombia Costa Rica (Looking forward to seeing Guyana/Suriname in the future for this) Best for just seeing animals in the wild without needing to pay for expensive tours and you can self-drive Australia Namibia South Africa Botswana Madagascar Best country if you're a backpacker and wants to travel on the cheap for a month Mexico Vietnam Thailand Indonesia India Best country if you're interested in lots of local culture to explore (think museums, historical/cultural sites, ruins etc). Italy Egypt Japan Turkey India Mexico Guatemala Jordan Greece Spain Best "worth it" locations where it might cost a lot to visit but oh so worth it Galapagos The amazon Madagascar Patagonia Argentina/Chile South Africa/Nambia Safaris Maldives Best country that has a diversity of nature all compressed into a tiny package where you can see everything in a matter of 2 weeks or less New Zealand Ecuador Vietnam Japan Georgia Countries where it has something that most people would find unexpected or unheard of Oman / Seychelles-> Super friendly people Brazil / India -> Pretty much cashless these days Laos -> Beautiful hiking Japan -> Some of the best tropical islands/beaches in the world Best things you have to do once in your life Nepal -> Annapurna Circuit Spain -> El Camino Belgium -> Tomorrowland US -> Burning Man Mozambique -> Swim with whale sharks Vietnam -> Ha Giang Loop Brazil -> Carnival. Doesn't really matter where. Just anywhere in Brazil Guatemala -> Fuego/Acanatango Volcano Trek Indonesia -> Bromo/Ijen sunrise trek Colombia -> NYE celerbration in Cartagena. best NYE party in the world in terms of local vibe Valencia, Spain -> Las Fallas Barcelona, Spain -> Festia de Gracia Places in popular countries that surprised me the most in its beauty and lack of tourists Taxco, Mexico Skeleton Coast, Namibia Jerash, Jordan Karlovy Vary, Czechia Salento region of Italy Galicia region of Spain Ishigaki, Japan Moc Chau, Vietnam Countries with the worst road conditions Madagascar Botswana Bulgaria Cambodia Nepal Best country that knows how to party (where people can literally start drinking randomly on a train or just start a street party cuz there's music) Mexico South Korea Brazil Spain TBD Country most obsessed with tips Canada USA Egypt Costa Rica Most romantic locations if you're ever thinking of proposing Baobab Avenue - Madagascar Cesky Krumlov - Czechia Santorini - Greece Kurokawa - Japan Mu Cang Chai - Vietnam And the ultimate -> Cheat code countries. Countries where it does everything excellent in terms of cuisine, nature, people, culture, so basically countries I always want to come back to Mexico Vietnam Japan Thailand TBD My best secret spots in countries that's so mind blowing that I'm surprised no one barely goes there. xdljdslkf -> somewhere in Mexico dslkjsdklfds -> somewhere in Vietnam dslkfdjskl -> somewhere in California dslkjfdslk -> somewhere in Australia dslkjdskf ->Somewhere Happy to answer questions. I also own a hostel in Georgia if anyone is passing through it in the future. Come stop by! submitted by /u/Embarrassed-Wolf-609 to r/backpacking [link] [comments]

When people find out I've been to so many countries, inevitably they always ask what's my favorite countries. I always say, these kind of questions lose the nuance because of xyz. But still, maybe the below list can help people when they're looking to plan their 2026 trips. my top 5 list is at the bottom of this post. you'll have to earn it by scrolling. Seems like this line isn't getting read enough: The numbers aren't in any order. So #1 is on the same level as #5. This list was created under the pretense of limited time, limited resources. We're not billionaires that'll live to 300 years old. Top 5 Underrated Countries Georgia Oman Ecuador Namibia Taiwan Best car drives in the world Pacific Coast Highway, California Great ocean drive, Australia Great Coast Road, New Zealand Garden Route, South Africa Ha Giang Loop, Vietnam Countries that might not be on your radar but should be for your next vacation Lesotho - Mountains Latvia/Lithuania/Estonia - Beautiful capital cities with some unique cultural offerings Georgia - Cradle of wine with yummy food Montenegro - Croatia but cheaper (maybe?), but also one of the best road leading into a city (Budva) Timor Leste - Disclaimer: i haven't been, but everything I've read makes it amazin so it's on my list for my next vacation Locations you might not have heard but need to visit before it gets overrun with tourists Palenque - Mexico Tikal - Guatemala San Andres - Colombia Omadhood, Maldives Balabac, Philippines Beer beer in the world Belgium Germany Czechia USA (Craft beers only, none of that budweiser piss) Beer wine in the world South Africa Czechia Portugal Greece Georgia Best Local spirits Rakjia - Croatia/Balkan Sake - Japan Pisco - Peru Mezcal - Mexico Amarula - South Africa Worst local spirits Ouzu - Greece Cha Cha - Georgia Arak - Indonesia Aguardiente - Colombia Guaro - Costa Rica Best country where there are no scammers at the airport none. all taxi drivers at any airport in the world are scammers. The best place to pet wild capybara in nature Brazil The best place to swim with sea lions in nature Galapagos Best free snorkeling spots in the world Red Sea, Egypt Con Dao Vietnam Maldives Galapagos, Ecuador Okinawa/Ishigaki Island Chain, Japan Countries where they love their cats more than their family Turkey Greece Japan Countries where once is enough and I have no desire to ever come back Morocco Bangladesh Belize El Salvador Mozambique Countries where you will get stared at by everyone and their mom if you don't look local Georgia Egypt India Myanmar Morocco Friendliest Countries (in terms of hospitality by the people. Literally them inviting you to eat with them 5 minutes after meeting them). Oman India Philippines Georgia Mexico Seychelles Best Cuisine Vietnam Mexico Japan Thailand Malaysia Best Beaches/Islands Philippines Indonesia Australia Mexico Maldives Countries that is most likely unsafe for a woman to travel solo (regardless of how many solo women you've seen traveling in said country) India Bangladesh Morocco Egypt Sri Lanka Countries where there's a decent chance you'll get mugged (knife/gun) if you don't have street smart Mexico Colombia Brazil South Africa Nigeria Countries where there's a decent chance you'll get pickpocketed in their major cities Spain France Italy South Africa Ecuador Best for African safaris South Africa Namibia Botswana Madagascar (Maybe Kenya/Tanzania—haven't been). Best for Americas tropical rainforest exploration Brazil Ecuador Colombia Costa Rica (Looking forward to seeing Guyana/Suriname in the future for this) Best for just seeing animals in the wild without needing to pay for expensive tours and you can self-drive Australia Namibia South Africa Botswana Madagascar Best country if you're a backpacker and wants to travel on the cheap for a month Mexico Vietnam Thailand Indonesia India Best country if you're interested in lots of local culture to explore (think museums, historical/cultural sites, ruins etc). Italy Egypt Japan Turkey India Mexico Guatemala Jordan Greece Spain Best "worth it" locations where it might cost a lot to visit but oh so worth it Galapagos The amazon Madagascar Patagonia Argentina/Chile South Africa/Nambia Safaris Maldives Best country that has a diversity of nature all compressed into a tiny package where you can see everything in a matter of 2 weeks or less New Zealand Ecuador Vietnam Japan Georgia Countries where it has something that most people would find unexpected or unheard of Oman / Seychelles-> Super friendly people Brazil / India -> Pretty much cashless these days Laos -> Beautiful hiking Japan -> Some of the best tropical islands/beaches in the world Best things you have to do once in your life Nepal -> Annapurna Circuit Spain -> El Camino, Festia de Gracia, Las Fallas, Running of the bull Belgium -> Tomorrowland US -> Burning Man Mozambique -> Swim with whale sharks Vietnam -> Ha Giang Loop Brazil -> Carnival. Doesn't really matter where. Just anywhere in Brazil Guatemala -> Fuego/Acanatango Volcano Trek Indonesia -> Bromo/Ijen sunrise trek Colombia -> NYE celerbration in Cartagena. best NYE party in the world in terms of local vibe Places in popular countries that surprised me the most in its beauty and lack of tourists Taxco, Mexico Skeleton Coast, Namibia Jerash, Jordan Karlovy Vary, Czechia Salento region of Italy Galicia region of Spain Ishigaki, Japan Moc Chau, Vietnam Countries with the worst road conditions Madagascar Botswana Bulgaria Cambodia Nepal Best country that knows how to party (where people can literally start drinking randomly on a train or just start a street party cuz there's music) Mexico South Korea Brazil Spain TBD Country most obsessed with tips Canada USA Egypt Costa Rica And the ultimate -> Cheat code countries. Countries where it does everything excellent in terms of cuisine, nature, people, culture, so basically countries I always want to come back to Mexico Vietnam Japan Thailand TBD My best secret spots in countries that's so mind blowing that I'm surprised no one barely goes there. xdljdslkf -> somewhere in Mexico dslkjsdklfds -> somewhere in Vietnam dslkfdjskl -> somewhere in California dslkjfdslk -> somewhere in Australia dslkjdskf ->Somewhere Happy to answer questions. Btw, I own a hostel in Georgia if anyone's keen to visit in a few years! DM me submitted by /u/Embarrassed-Wolf-609 to r/travel [link] [comments]

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I am not The OOP, OOP is u/SuperZero561456 AITB for not letting my boyfriend be the hero while we were getting mugged at knife point? Originally posted to r/AmItheButtface OriginalBoRU Posted by u/qwerty98765432101 Original Post March 15, 2020 My boyfriend is a big hero fanatic and does everything in his power to be like one. It's really endearing and it's one of the many things I love about him, because he wants to be the good he wishes to see in the world. But this mindset he has is why we are fighting right now. We've been quarantining at my apartment (he's not on the lease), and he suggested we go on a night walk since we've been getting stir-crazy from being inside all day. He figured that it'd be better for social distancing to go out at night. I was hesitant because we live in a bad neighborhood, but he assured me he'd protect me. On our walk, we were cornered by a man with a knife that demanded our wallets. I remembered John Mulaney's "STREET SMARTS!" bit from the Netflix show and was going to throw my wallet past the mugger so we could run away, but my boyfriend started arguing with the him and was spouting off a bunch of stuff about justice and how the the mugger "wOuLdNt gEt aWaY WiTh tHiS". It looked like he was getting ready to fight. I was taken aback by this, and I guess the mugger was too, because it gave me enough time to take the important stuff out of my wallet while he was distracted. I interrupted my boyfriend's monologue and said "Take it, just don't hurt us" and threw it behind the guy. When he turned, I grabbed my boyfriend's hand and we booked it back to the apartment. We got home safely, and I was relieved that we were okay, but my boyfriend was FUMING. He was pissed that I interrupted him from "protecting" me when he could have, in his words, "clearly handled it himself". I told him he could've gotten himself killed. He said that he was "obviously stronger" than the mugger and would've won. I explained to him that the guy had a weapon and my boyfriend didn't, so the odds were stacked against him. Not only that, but I didn't want my boyfriend to get KILLED over a damn wallet. We argued for longer than necessary, so I shut it down and told him we could talk about it when our adrenaline wasn't so high, but I needed to file a police report while the event was fresh. He stomped off to our room while I called the cops. When I was off the phone, I went to lay with him but he rolled away from me. The next day, he was still angry, and had already told his friends and family about what had happened to us. I thought that they would be understanding about how I handled it, but they were MAD at me for not letting him have his opportunity to be a hero. His mom even ridiculed me for emasculating him. I want to reopen the conversation so we can understand each other and move past it, but if he isn't receptive, I'm going to ask him to move back in with his mom. I want to understand where I went wrong if I went wrong, but honestly, I feel like he's being childish and unreasonable. I just want to know AITB, or is he? TL;DR: Boyfriend tried to play hero when we got mugged at knife point, I managed to get us away safely, he's mad that I ruined his chance. RELEVANT COMMENTS [deleted] NTB tell fuckin justice league over there that life isn't a movie and that anyone who fights someone who has a knife, are guaranteed, 100 percent going to get cut regardless of if he trains """krav maga""" or how many marvel movies he's seen. OOP I told him 100x that a fist wouldn't win against a fight but he won't hear it. I don't understand how the people in his life encourage this. He could have DIED SweetPandaCookie Send him back to his mothers to sulk there because that’s what he is doing. Sulking. He insisted on going a walk in a bad neighbourhood at night knowing the chances of something bad happening were high. He put you at risk. His response is childish and pathetic. How do you know that it was a real mugger and not a set up to prove to you how hero like he can be? I honestly wouldn’t stay with him. I don’t see the hero worship endearing, just means that he doesn’t like himself very much, it’s tied in to his self esteem so when you wouldn’t let him be the hero in his eyes you smashed his sense of self/purpose/self esteem. He’s also sexist as all hell, wanting to save you, dear lord. His hero fantasy is escapism at best and damaging at worst. Wannabe Superman needs some therapy. Also don’t listen to all that sexist BS, your quick thinking got you both out unscathed. Emasculated my arse. NTB OOP You know, I really don't think he'd stoop to set up a fake mugger, but at this point I don't see how the hell he can react the way he is since this was a VERY REAL THING that happened to us. We still haven't talked about what happened yet because he went to visit his mom (probably to sulk, like you said) but these few comments are making me reevaluate a lot about his values when it comes to this hero shit. I didn't even consider the sexist undertones to everything, so thank you for pointing it out. Update March 16, 2020 (Next Day) So... he called me last night and I answered. He asked if I was okay and how I was doing. Then he asked if he could come over and I said he could. I planned on bringing everything up again myself because he had been very passive-aggressive and refusing to talk about it, but when he showed up, he immediately started apologizing. Everything you guys pointed out, he started agreeing with. He was saying that he was being delusional, unrealistic, the whole hero fantasy isn't healthy, he jeopardized my safety and that wasn't okay, etc. I wasn't prepared for this behavior, especially compared to how he'd been acting all week. We talked for hours before we went to bed together and everything seemed like it worked out fine. I was really on the verge of ending things, so it was a relief I didn't have to in that moment. Then this morning came and shit hit the fan. In my comment update on the last post, I mentioned that a friend was trying to mediate. I texted that friend that things worked out, and they said something along the lines of "I'm so glad you were able to apologize!" ...hmm. Some people mentioned that maybe he told a different story, which isn't something I looked into. but I decided to ask, and WHOO BOY, I'm glad I did. Firstly, he told everyone that the night walk was MY idea. Then, apparently, we were NEVER MUGGED! Nope! Apparently I just started talking shit to a stranger on the street in an attempt to make him show he was a "strong man" and protect me! And the only reason we were able to get away was because HE deescalated the situation, and that it was emasculating because he was put in a position where he felt like he was FORCED to fight "for my honor". ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME. To make a long story short, he tried to play dumb and back pedal this morning when I confronted him about it, and then when I pressed him to be honest, he snapped again, and said: "What was I supposed to say? The whole situation was embarrassing, and it was going to make me look bad!" We argued again for a bit, but I was just done. I told him to go and that it wasn't gonna work. He didn't have much stuff so it was easy to put in a spare grocery bag and just toss at him while he angrily left. He's currently outside of my complex waiting for mommy to pick him up. As far as I'm concerned, I dodged a bullet. Fuck his friends, fuck his mom, and fuck him. Thank you for opening my eyes, Reddit. TL;DR: He came back ready to talk, it seemed like everything worked out fine and he was understanding. Turns out he lied to everybody about what happened and got mad when I confronted him. I kicked him out. THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP's OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7 submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

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Every job has a defined benchmarked time - if not documented, then too in your team lead / manager's head. For an example - my colleague used to take 4 days for a job.. I being efficient - and after sacrificing my personal life and working my ass off for the company, I complete it in 2 days.. The new benchmark now would be 2 days.. and in exigency, they'll ask to complete the same stuff in 1.5 days - which when you wouldn't deliver (because you are already at your 100% at 2 days), you'll be labelled as inefficient. Give your 60-70% exertion at work place (eg complete in 3.5 days in this case) - which will be decent, and when the boss / manager wants something quick - expand it to 100% (say 2 days) thus being valuable when required and getting the most brownie points - that the guy does stretch himself when we require him to. That way you'll have work life balance, Annndd you'll be in good books of the management. submitted by /u/Capital_Original_776 to r/jobs [link] [comments]

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I. Intro Warning : this is a long ass post, with some meandering, but I promise you, there is a point to all of this. There’s been a lot of talk in the early part of this year about the down trend in scoring. This isn’t really anything new - this has been the trend ever since 2022. Right now, it doesn’t seem like the next innovation on the offensive side of the ball is coming this year. They’re still getting their asses kicked, and don’t seem to have gotten closer to countering the defensive trends that really kicked off in 2022. With this comes talk of, whose fault is it? Is the QB play bad? Is it cover 2? It’s gotta be the OLs, right? Coaching? I think there’s a pretty undeniable correlation here, and it’s what’s been in the mainstream discussion since 2022. Spoilers : the two deep safety alignment (which often will mistakenly get called cover 2, thanks Chris Collinsworth) has undeniably played a large factor, in my opinion the biggest factor, in the beatdown defenses have been giving to offenses the past three years But really, I think to explain why this has happened, we have to examine the 2010s to see how we got here. Because really, these defensive trends are just a reaction to the offensive trends that were annihilating NFL defenses and leading to record yardage/scoring throughout the mid/late 2010s.. And those trends were a reaction to the defensive trends at the time, so on and so forth, but really, the more I think about the 2010s, the more I stop and think : What the fuck were defensive coaches and Front Offices thinking?! II. The Seahawks Ruin Defensive Football for the Next Decade Starting around 2011, we had the beginnings of what became known as the Legion of Boom. They were pretty good, don’t ask me how I know. Primarily built around FS Earl Thomas, CB Richard Sherman, and SS Kam Chancellor (along with some other good players such as CBs Brandon Browner, Walter Thurmond) the Seattle Seahawks dominated the league defensively from 2012-2014, and were able to bring Seattle it’s first SB. Allegedly, I don’t remember a Superbowl being played that year. … And in doing so, they set defenses back for approximately a decade. The thing about those Seahawks is they were very simple defensively. For their front, they ran a 4-3 hybrid front that combined two gap and one gap concepts - unlike most 4-3 defensive fronts, they utilized a 5 technique DE to the strong side of the formation to two gap and help stop the run. For Seattle, this was Red Bryant, a 6’4” 320 pound mammoth who was the dictionary definition of a run stuffing, 3-4 DE rather than the typical 4-3 DEs who were lighter and expected to rush the passer. This front helped protect their all-pro/pro bowl level ILBs Bobby Wagner and KJ Wright, who were smaller, lighter, and faster than many typical ILBs at the time and excelled in coverage. But as a lot of people probably know, it’s not the front that the LOB was known for schematically - it was their cover 3 defense on the back end. Cover 3 is a pretty good defense. Despite the trend to two high safety pre-snap alignments today, cover 3 is still the most common cover call in the league - every team utilizes it to some degree. Why is this? It’s just overall a very reliable, safe, and balanced call, where there aren’t a lot of calls an offense can make leaving you going “oh shit this is going for 6”. It allows you to have a safety walked up in the box - in Seattle’s case, this was the Eater of Worlds, Destroyer of Run Games Kam Chancellor, who looked a little bit more like a LB than a safety at 6’3” and 230 pounds. The advent and wide spread adoption of pattern matching - which the Seahawks mastered - helps you play fundamentally sound football against some of the traditional weaknesses cover 3 has - unlike what Madden told you, 4 verts doesn’t always beat cover 3. The simple explanation of pattern matching - which really dates back to Nick Saban with the Browns in the 90s - is essentially, following a list of rules, defenders man up on receivers depending on the offensive play call - this is in contrast to the traditional “spot dropping” many think of when they hear zone - where a player is keeping his eyes on a QB and dropping to a landmark to cover. As I alluded to, this was developed by Nick Saban after his 1994 season with the Browns - where they faced a dilemma. A split safety defense, or two deep safety defense, was strong against the pass and the west coast offenses of the 90s in particular. Single high safety defenses - with that second safety in the box - stopped the run. Nick Saban, DC for the Cleveland Browns under Bill Belichick, felt the Browns didn’t have the talent to run a cover 1 defensive scheme, so cover 3 was their solution to stop the run. The Browns defense was best in the league that year - a league low 204 points allowed. They finished 11-5. If I remember correctly, it was one of the best in league history at that point in time. They lost to the Pittsburgh Steelers three times that year, by a combined score of 26-63. The problem the Browns ran into is that they had to go to a single high safety defense to stop the Steelers run game, which meant cover 3, but in doing so, the Steelers would run 4 verts and torch them. Simple concept – 4 players running deep, 3 deep defenders in zone coverage = your toast. Play cover 3 and get killed in the air - or play a split safety defense and get gashed by the run, they had no answer. The result was cover 3 rip/liz, what I’m pretty sure is the earliest concept of pattern matching we know of. Here’s how it works vs. a 2x2 offense running 4 verts: Flat defender covers #2 man to man (slot or TE) if he goes vertical CB has #1 man to man if he goes vertical Hook defender covers #3 if #1 and #2 go vertical (in a 2x2 alignment this typically means a LB covering a RB in the flats) This has you manned up on 4 vertical threats, and lets the FS choose where he needs to help. This is just the beginning of pattern matching, which is used all throughout the league today out of different coverages with many different rules to combat dozens of different passing concepts, like cover 3 mable to defend 4 verts from a 3x1 by splitting the field into cover 3 on one side and man on the other, but I’ve already gotten side tracked on this topic too much. All of this is to say, the Seattle Seahawks were able to play a scheme that was well balanced vs. the run and pass and could play fundamentally sound football vs. the passing concepts of the time. They didn’t really disguise much - outside of the fact that cover 1 and cover 3 looks the same pre-snap (more on this later, maybe) - they just lined up and said “we’re better than you, you know what we’re going to do, and we’re going to beat you”. And it worked. You couldn’t run the ball - not with guys like Red Bryant, KJ Wright, Bobby Wagner and Kam Chancellor in the box. You’re not beating them deep - not when you have the fastest, rangiest FS in the league in Earl Thomas and Richard Sherman who could play the cover 3 man match to perfection - not to mention an elite pass rush featuring Cliff Avril and Michael Bennet - they dared you to throw underneath, and trusted the speed and sure tackling to prevent any YAC. Forcing you to take these slow, methodical marches down the field amplified any mistakes you made – taking a sack, offensive holding, turning the ball over were back breakers – and the Seahawks were a great ball hawking defense. Something else to mention as a key part of their success - and this is probably relevant later to offensive production exploding - the Seahawks basically realized that you could pretty much hold on every play, and refs wouldn’t call it, not wanting to throw a flag every play. This was very smart gamesmanship IMO, and I don’t mean to say it to discredit them at all - but after 2013 the league passed the LOB rule, which didn’t really change anything in the rulebook, but made it a bigger point of emphasis. The result was a significant increase in defensive holding calls - from 181 in 2013 to 235 in 2014 - this number didn’t fall back to under 200 again until 2020 (which also had a record year in DPI). Defensive holding has also trended down in recent years, to 186 last season. As we all know, the league is a copy cat league, and the race was on. Everyone wanted to be the next LOB, and single high safety defenses became the de-facto in the league - after two high safety defenses such as the Tampa 2 had been used all throughout the 2000s to combat the resurging west cost offensive concepts and quick game passing QBs like Peyton Manning and Tom Brady excelled at. Beyond that, teams wanted the next Richard Sherman, Earl Thomas, Kam Chancellor and it heavily influenced defensive drafting as a result. Whereas 6’3” used to be seen as a detriment for a corner, it was now sought after. Safeties who could play in the box and cover man to man were desired. Everyone wanted a highly athletic, elite cover FS with range to be their deep man. This was further cemented when the 2015 Broncos, AKA No Fly Zone, AKA the greatest defense to ever live dominated the 15-1 Panthers and MVP Cam Netwon in SB50, the best Superbowl ever. The 2015 Broncos were fundamentally a pretty similar defense to the LOB, and I feel the differences are rather superficial. They played a lot of cover 3 man match as a base defense. They differed from the LOB in that they ran an aggressive, one gap 3-4 front. Whereas the Seahawks ran cover 1 to mix things up, the Broncos used it more heavily. The Broncos liked to green dog blitz out of cover 1 - where if a TE/RB stays into block, his man rushes the passer. But fundamentally, they were both single high safety, middle of the field closed defenses that didn’t hide what they were doing - just lined up and said “I’m better than you”. And it also worked for the Broncos, who had the league’s best pass rusher and future HoFer in Von Miller with HoFer Demarcus Ware lining up across from him, two high end iDL in Derek Wolfe/Malik Jackson, two great ILBs Brandon Marshall/Danny Trevathan, dominant man corners Aqib Talib/Chris Harris/Bradley Roby, and two safeties in Darian Stewart and TJ Ward who fit the prototypical deep safety/box safety combo. So really, it wasn’t just enough that teams wanted the next Richard Sherman, Earl Thomas - teams wanted two book end pass rushers. They wanted ILBs covering side line to sideline who could cover TEs down the seam and run with RBs on wheel routes. They wanted to have three starting material corners who could man up every week. A penetrating iDL that pressured the QB. You might be noticing there’s a problem here. I distinctly remember feeling something was off when Stanley Jean Baptise was a highly rated prospect. You probably don’t know who that is. It’s ok, he wasn’t good. His appeal was being 6’3” and 215 pounds in a time when everyone wanted the next Richard Sherman. His downside was well, he couldn’t really play corner. The Saints drafted him in the 2nd round in the 2014 draft, and cut him early the following year after he got torched early in the season. He bounced around on teams practice squads following that. He recorded one tackle in his NFL career, and that’s it. So, here’s the thing. These two defenses worked so well, and are all time great defenses, because they were just flat out better than everyone. They were stacked at every level of the field. It didn’t matter if you knew the plays and route combos that would theoretically work against them, they were still going to win. These defenses aren’t exactly easy to execute. Cover 1 in particular. With all of the WR talent today and 11 personnel, you need three corners who can cover man to play cover 1. You need a superb talent at FS to cover the post. Your SS needs to be able to a) fit the run b) cover man to man and c) be comfortable covering the hole or dropping into flats. You better be able to pressure the QB with a 4 man rush - because you aren’t blitzing a lot. So we get back to the question that led to me rambling about all this : what the fuck were teams across the league thinking when they all decided they were going to live out of a single high safety defense and that was their blue print? How did practically every front office, DC think that the way to build their defense was to get all the talent at every position and just win games forever? That they’d get away without disguising anything schematically? It felt like Vic Fangio was the sole curmudgeon running a two high defense, refusing to bend the knee. So now the trend of the league is this : everyone is living out of single high defenses, and running heavy cover 1 and 3. Nobody is really trying to hide their coverages. Everyone wants to be a team with a 4 man rush. Surprisingly, GMs find out that no, you can’t just get all pro talent at every defensive position and destroy offenses. We have bland, predictable defenses that requires high level talent, being ran by teams all across the league, the majority of whom are very much not the LOB/NFZ. This should send alarm bells. You could see passing yardage starting to go up around 2015 - you had guys like Russell Wilson, who was very, very happy to fire up a moonball anytime he saw cover 1 - but we’re only really getting started. III. The Offenses Strike Back If I had to point to the beginning of these defenses getting taken to the woodshed - it’s probably the 2017 Rams with Sean McVay. Here’s another weakness of cover 3 : deep crossing routes off of PA pass. This wasn’t a new idea : defenses had just learned how to have a fighting chance of this passing concept out of 12 and 21 personnel - which is what the west coast offense, who ran this passing concept, liked to run it out of. They dealt with this by having the deep defenders exchanging routes based off of pre/post snap reads : this is hard to describe in words, but it works. What McVay did was a lot of 11 personnel, 2x2 sets with tight WR splits - oftentimes aligning a WR in a typical TE split. Instead of checking into cover 3 match like you would with a typical 2x2 formation - teams would play cover 3 zone. You prevent the deep safeties and corners from exchanging routes by occupying them vertically with the outside receivers. Your inside receivers run deep crossers - defenses are forced to cover the crossers with the ILBs - who are getting sucked up by the play action. If you’ve ever heard of a Robot technique, where a LB reads PA, flys up into the LOS, and then suddenly turns around and runs full sprint down the middle of the field, it’s because of this. It’s called a Robot technique but it’s really more of a “oh fuck” drop to me. The ILBs are taught to turn and look for crossing routes and chase them down so it’s a 20 yard gain instead of a TD. This wasn’t entirely brand new or anything, but the Rams ran it so often and executed it at such a high level and it carved up defenses that year. The passing concept perfectly complimented what was a new take on the Shanahan wide zone running scheme at that point in the NFL - which was running it exclusively out of 11 personnel, forcing defenses into nickel packages and emphasizing blocking by your WRs. Another wrinkle is the Rams start abusing pre-snap motion to figure out if it’s man or zone, even forcing defenses to audible into coverages they want. 2017 was great and all, but 2018 someone by the name of Patrick Mahomes came along - and the Chiefs had a guy named Tyreek Hill and Andy Reid decided this idea of deep crossing routes looked appealing, and the Chiefs absolutely broke defenses. They had a video game offense where you had guys running wide open 20 yards down the field multiple times a game - Patrick Mahomes only ever needed to even read one side of the field to have one of the most dominant seasons in history, in his first year starting. Beyond Mahomes ability to throw these 20 yard deep crossing routes, even if you pressured him he had a tremendous ability to get out of the pocket and chemistry with his WRs who ran scramble drills at a high level, further stressing defenses deep down the sidelines. And now a new trend is born, where instead of teams trying to find a Brady/Manning type of pocket passer, they want the guy with a strong arm who excels at playing out of structure and generating explosive plays. The book on beating defenses across the league is pretty much written at this point. It’s never been easier for QBs in the league - seriously, 2017-2021 was Madden on rookie mode. Young QBs are hitting the ground running : you have Watson, Mahomes, Allen, Jackson, Murray all enter the league in a span of three years, these guys all excel at playing out of structure, with everyone playing the same defense across the league and not hiding at it, you really don’t have to go through many post snap reads, you have passing concepts carving up defenses while your QB only has to read one side of the field, you have teams who want to rush 4 but aren’t nearly talented enough to simultaneously generate pressure and be disciplined in their rush lanes, keeping QBs in the pocket. You have the most athletic QBs in history, with WR talent at an all time him, who WANT to get out of the pocket and oh shit, guess what? These single high safety defenses are exploitable own the deep sideline, which is oh so coincidentally the area of the field that a QB escaping the pocket running a scramble drill will absolutely shred. Guys see cover 1 and they know their chucking it down field and either getting a bomb, an incompletion, or a spot of the foul DPI. I realize this is probably simplifying a bit about the offensive innovation during this time period, and there were other factors in play – RPOs, read option, QB draws being an obvious example. Unfortunately, I ain’t getting paid to write all of this, I’m just a guy who started writing down my stream of consciousness thoughts on the shitter at work. But I do have to emphasize how badly these deep crossing routes were carving up defenses at the time – Chiefs and Rams being chief among them. IV. Thankfully, DCs Eventually Have a Moment of Clarity Just like the Rams began the downfall of the single high defense - you really can’t talk about the trend to two high without mentioning them. This time, in a way Rams fans probably don’t want to hear. See, two high didn’t really start becoming adopted in 2021, and became defacto in 2022. But in 2018, Vic Fangio, still churning along as Chicago Bears DC with his two high safety scheme that mixes in cover 3/4/6 - gives the Rams the absolute fits, holding them to just 6 points - and Bill Bellichick takes notice. Beyond having coverage calls to combat these deep crossers - Jared Goff ends up struggling mightily reading the coverage the Bears are in - as Vic Fangio doesn’t give it away pre-snap. Fangio almost always aligns both his safeties deep - and rolls a safety down after the snap when he plays a cover 1 or 3 defense. Belichick and Brian Flores take note of this, and ends up coaching one of the best SB performances in history - first I want to acknowledge they used a 5-1 front to shut down the Rams bread and butter outside zone run - but I want to focus on the coverage here. The Patriots, who have always been a cover 0/1 heavy team, play a lot of quarters on early down, play two deep safeties pre alignment, and disguise their coverages all game. They also do an extremely clever tactic - knowing that Goff and McVay utilize the headset communication very heavily, they show a defensive look, wait until 15 seconds on the play clock, and switch to a different look. The Rams get shut out all night. Fangio gets a job as the HC of the Denver Broncos the following season - and brings Brandon Staley, an OLB coach, along with him. McVay specifically seeks out Staley, a Fangio disciple in 2020 to replace Wade Phillip’s as his DC, because of how the Fangio defense was giving his offense fits. The 2020 Rams go on to have the best defense in the highest scoring year in league history - utilizing two high safety looks and heavy quarters coverage. The Fangio led Broncos, despite being on a losing streak of some amount of games to the Kansas City Chiefs that I’m definitely not hiding - consistently play Patrick Mahomes better than any team in the league and make him look mortal, with CBs picked up off the streets. Suddenly, teams across the league realize there might be something to these two high safety defenses - now everyone is hiring guys who has sat in the same room as Vic Fangio one time to be their DC, and the two high safety defense returns, once gone, but never forgotten. By 2022, two high is the new standard. … And it works. Some people will try and argue that it’s not the two high safety defense - teams still run a lot of cover 3 - which they now do out of two high safety looks, rolling a safety down after the snap. Some guys will say it’s not that because teams don’t run cover 2 often - kinda true, but the idea that it was ever cover 2 is bad information being repeated by guys like Chris Collinsworth who confuse cover 2 with two high safeties - two high safeties is just a pre-snap alignment, not the post snap coverage, and in fact teams very often run cover 4/cover 6 when they go with a two deep alignment. You have QBs who came up in a league where post snap movement wasn’t a thing. You have vets who hadn’t dealt with these concepts for over a decade. The way to beat these defenses through the air (running the ball isn’t as simple as an idea as people think today, IMO) is through good pocket presence, reading defenses post snap, going through progressions, knowing when and where receivers are going to be open and throwing them open - and it often requires throwing into the middle of the field - after we’ve spent the previous 5 or so years where playing out of structure was the highly coveted, sought after traits from QB prospects. We have guys like Russell Wilson and Deshaun Watson put up all pro numbers while never throwing down the middle of the field, making their money deep down the sideline - and they’re suddenly faced with defenses that are telling them to do the thing they’ve never done in their career. You have guys like Patrick Mahomes and Josh Allen handle this gracefully and still be the best of the best - partly because of raw talent, partly because they’ve got enough experience and are smart enough to adjust, but all in all it leads to a continuously downward trend in passing and scoring the past 3 seasons. While all this is happening on the coverage front, DCs have become menaces cooking up pressure looks - you end up seeing last years Vikings, who are paradoxically the most cover 0/1 man blitz team in the league and also the team most likely to drop 8 into coverage. You have them lining up 9 guys on the LoS with no idea who is coming, who is dropping, how many are coming - you end up now with teams like the Vikings and Broncos blitzing over half the time, and not just 5 man blitzes, but sending the house. Even when they drop guys into coverage, OL have no idea who the hell to block and you ensure 1 on 1 match ups for your rushers. Stunts and twists have never been more dialed in. Guys like Patrick Mahomes, who grew up on abusing undisciplined rush lanes by 4 man rushes have no idea where the hell a player is about to be, and finally! After some amount of years that I definitely do not remember, the Broncos beat the Chiefs in a game where that Kermit voiced asshole spends half the day trying to bail out of the pocket just to run into a blitzing DB or running into his own blockers. Today, you have the Broncos opening up a game against Aaron fucking Rodgers of all people with an all out blitz and get a sack of the first play of the game. What the fuck? How many times in his life do you think Aaron Rodgers saw an all out blitz on the first play of the game? I don’t know why it took DCs across the league like 5 years to realize you can basically get free pressure by showing double mug pressure looks - I remember the Mike Zimmer-Vikings doing this in like, 2017 with Kendricks/Barr to success. Here’s a cool clip this past week where the Packers are showing a double mug look, Aaron Jones goes up to the A gap to meet the mug - Quay Walker points this out to the slot defender, drops into the coverage, and you get a Packers DB separating Sam Darnold’s soul from his body. How do you even deal with this? V. What The Hell Do We Do Now? Honestly man I got nothing. It’s been 3 years and it seems like offenses aren’t any closer to dealing with this problem. Unlike last time around, defenses are winning off of scheming and creativity, not talent. The Broncos have a top defense in the league - despite having just one 1st round pick in the lineup. Not that guys like Zach Allen and Jonathon Cooper aren’t ballers, but they aren’t household names either. Personally, I wholeheartedly welcome this change. The league is much more fun because of it. DCs have rediscovered the concept of the oldest play in the book - deception - and you have guys like Brian Flores and Vance Joseph acting like maniacs. It forces QBs and offenses to be smarter, and more disciplined, punishing poor fundamentals. There’s a lot of solutions that get floated, but I don’t think they’re obvious. The most common is “the run game is coming back!” Modern rule sets, evolution of the passing game still heavily favors passing the ball. There’s also just so many variables that make building around a run game difficult. First, even though two high safeties are weak to the run on paper, it isn’t always true in practice - a lot of these safeties these days are good at coming down from the box and making a tackle after the snap. Quarters coverage can actually be sound against the run by letting you walk your safeties up closer to the LoS - kinda like 9 in the box. There’s been the development of the gap and a half defense - a defense that takes advantage of the athletic, penetrating DL of today but allows them to cover more gaps similar to a two gapping defense. Speaking of those DL - even though rushing the passer has been the premium, a lot aren’t giving up anything vs. the run - look at Aaron Donald. Finally, whether it’s talent pool, lack of development at the college/NFL level - DL are just flat out better than OL these days, and you can’t run without an OL. Some people say that this will make the QB position less important, and this is a good thing. I don’t really think that’s the case. I think we’ve most likely just ended back at square one, where teams are going to try to get the Manning/Brady, elite football IQ, good processing QBs who can play in the pocket. Of recent draftees, that best describes CJ Stroud. As we found out throughout the late 00s and most of the 2010s, scouting those qualities is no easy feat. But even then, defenses are faster, more athletic, more creative, and more complex than the comparatively vanilla defenses Brady/Manning faced in their prime. I also want to make it clear, that guys like Mahomes, Allen, Jackson feels like Pandora’s box – it’s not going to go away. Teams are going to continue to want guys who can play out of structure and generate chunk plays. I know this Sunday I’m going to turn on a Cardinals game and see Kyle Murray do his patented “toddler running away from his parents” scramble, dodging 15 different defenders and throwing a 40 yard bomb to MHJ. Lamar Jackson’s running threat is still the primary driver in a rushing offense that’s just gashed teams two weeks in a row. But QBs are going to learn how to play the position again at a NFL level again. What does this mean for someone like Caleb Williams, someone I’m a huge fan of? I don’t know – I feel like Williams probably tears up the league pretty early on five years ago – but he was highly touted, and his out of structure playmaking ability played a big part in that – I can see a world where it takes him a year or two to really develop. I think the 2018 era still has a lasting effect on how teams are valuing positions today that hasn’t quite swung around. Teams like the Chiefs and Rams invested heavily into skill talent and it paid out. The WR market has been insane in FA - guys like Jerry Jeudy are making 17.5 million a year - that’s what some all pro players make at other positions. How is that justifiable for a guy who is, at best, a mediocre WR2? With the passing game being heavily de-emphasized? Tee Higgins is going to get like 28 million a year next year - 4 million a year more than Patrick Surtain, a corner is who orders of magnitude above him. When you have more WR talent than any other position coming in every year, smart teams are going to stop paying all but the top tier receivers, draft, save a ton of money that can go elsewhere. Anyway, this has gone on way longer than I expected, I was going to include more clips, stats, sources, definitions etc etc but I’d basically be writing a book at that point so if there’s any questions about anything in here feel free to ask. TLDR; Defensive Coordinators, what the fuck were you thinking last decade? TLDR2 since that wasn't an actual TLDR; Teams decide they want to copy the LOB blueprint - which wins with little deception, and A LOT of talent. They mostly get the part with the no deception right, but not the talent part right. This plays out very badly for defenses across the league, and for a few years offenses and fantasy football players are very, very happy submitted by /u/Sparkee58 to r/nfl [link] [comments]

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/luvthyf_ingneighbor Originally posted to r/EntitledKarens My Neighbor Demands I Marry His Son Trigger Warnings: homophobia, cancer, destruction of property Original Post: August 22, 2024 This is a weird one, and I don't reddit normally, so sorry. My GF told me to post here, lol Okay, so I "Zennia" F35, inherited my Pop's (my grandfather) house. Well, technically, me and mom did. Mom is a college professor and remarried to a technical writer/engineer who makes a ridiculous amount of money and a big Ole mansion of a house (to me) in the well-off part of town. So she said Pops house is mine. I was grateful and am still. This was about a year ago. I need to sort of set the stage here. Pop was a popular man. He helped everyone. The kids all called him Uncle or Pops, and his peers called him the Sultan of 2nd Street (never knew why they went with Sultan, other than illeration, since he was black lol). He donated and loaned and gave money to whomever needed it. He was a Vietnam War vet, and despite the stigma of it at the time and that of being a black man, he made something of himself as boxer and boxing instructor. He opened his own place and eventually opened more. When mom was small, he bought that house, and when mom got pregnant with me and my father flaked out, Pops became that father figure. My childhood bedroom is in this house (it's now my study) and so everyone here knows us. Pop passed, and I got the house. All caught up? Okay, so there is a neighbor to my immediate right, who we call Sugah Mama or Sugah. Everyone knew that she had it bad for Pops but see after he left Mama (my grandmother) or more likely . She left him, he chose the bachelor/Playa life. Yeah, he got around. It's still debatable if the woman who owns the house is on the 3rd, if her son is my uncle. Anyway, Sugah has a son "Miles" (M50-something) who also has a son “James”. James is my age, and we get on well. We used to be joined at the hip in grade school, and even though we glowed into different cliques in middle and high school, we were friendly. Sugah and some of the other older folks would joke about us. Soulmates. We even share a birthday with a strange coincidence, I will admit, but then they keep adding AT THE SAME HOSPITAL! well, yeah, because back then, there was only one good one nearby. Lol Now, to be clear, I am bisexual with a strong preference if my dating history has any sway for nonbinary people or women. No shame in my game. I can talk about the absolute bullshit of homophobia in the black community, but you're not here for that. So I meet my now GF "Dinah" who is also my age and she is absolutely a dream. She's smart and hot and sweet and thoughtful and kind and a million other things. I have to stop there, or this post will be all about how out of my league she is. I started having her around the house, and Mr. Miles was around and offered his and James' help in getting stuff from the truck into the house. At one point, James pulled me aside as he knew she was my GF and said I shouldn't mention it to his dad, but it was too late. Mile had asked her if the two of us were college buddies, and she replied that we're dating. Mr. Miles pulls me aside after and asks if it's true, and I said yes. Enter the homophobia and what would Pop think? Lol, I told him, Pop knew I was bi for years. I came out to him in high school, and he was a-okay with it. That shut him up for a bit, and we got me moved in. Well, now about a week ago, Mr. Miles came by. I WFM, but the fiscal year is coming about, and it's a busy time, so I made Mr. Miles had some tea and sat with him but made him aware I was calling this my lunch hour and couldn't entertain long as I was still working. He said "well I will cut to the chase then," and said so matter of factly, "you need to leave that woman." I laughed as my GF and I have been together now for over a year and are happy, so... no. why the hell would he even come here with this? He said Sugah is sick (which I knew. She sadly got uterine and breast cancer in March) and she needs to see her boys married. He said he prefers I marry James, but IT WOULD BE OKAY with him if I marry his older brothers Daniel (36) or Paul (37). I told him yeah no. I won't be marrying any of his sons. I said I already have a ring for Dinah and am planning to propose to and marry her. I said I know he doesn't agree with gay marriage, and he frankly doesn't have to. It's my life, and while I love and respect him like a real uncle, he will not tell me who to love or marry. He yelled at me and said some awful things, and I wanted to say I was a badass and stared him down like Gayle King did to R Kelly in the meme but...I cried. A lot. I just asked him to please leave. He did but ripped my pride flag from my pole at the door, calling me slur. I got a new one the next day, and it went missing, so my GF bought me a door cam and a new flag. Sure enough, he came that night and ripped that one down, too. I texted him the video and said I would not press charges if he stopped all this. He said to go ahead, "call the police on another black man," and if he's killed, it's on me and my "sins." It's night here and I was cuddled up to my boo after a movie date night and were playing Mass Effect (video game) - ASIDE but can you beleive this woman has never HEARD of this game!? - and there is knock at my door. It's Paul. He asks to speak with me outside, so I tell Dinah to keep playing, and I will be back. I don't see Paul often, so I thought something happened - maybe Sugah got worse or something happened to his dad. Paul explained that he was here to ask me out. He had flowers and a stuffed unicorn (I like unicorns don't read into it lol), and I, of course, told him ummmmm, I am in a relationship." He said he knew I had a GF but that wasn't a real relationship as a relationship is between a man and a woman and he knows I date men as I've dated a male mutual friend in my 20s. I just said my relationship is both real and none of his business and to leave. He then said he guessed I liked feminine men since my GF is trans - which OK bud she's not, but even if she was, HAVE YOU SEEN THIS HOTTIE. So I just laughed it off snd said he was jealous he couldn't pull a hottie like mine and said I have cameras with audio so if he can please fuck all the way off and not force me and my GF to call the cops, it would be appreciated. I told Dinah, who howled in laughter and paused the game to watch the doorcam footage, laughed more, and then told me to post here. So here we are. Sorry? You're welcome? Idk. Relevant Comments OOP needs to take extra precautions for herself and her partner OOP: My mom agrees with you. She's pushing for us to stay with her for a spell. Dad said he bought extra cameras and lights on Amazon and can sinatll them tonight. They are acting like a cross is burning on the lawn and my GF doesn't think they are overreacting at all. This is the South in the USA and GF is a retired Marine so...she's got her 2nd amendment right and the papers for it so I feel okay as long as she is with me... That said if she were hurt I would hate myself for not listening so we're in her care right now going to my parents and daddy is on his way to my house to put in the cameras and lights. Sadly I am used to folk telling me they can "fix" me somehow or that sleeping with a man will "fix" me etc. Mr. Miles ain't the first bigot but he damn well is the most dedicated. Mom talked with Sugah and Sugah is horrified and said she will put up a rainbow flag at her house and see if "that boy got the balls to rip it down from my damn house" Gotta love her.   Update #1: August 27, 2024 Howdy. Y'all might not remember but I'm that bi chick madly I'm love with my smokin brilliant GF and living beside my homophobic neighbor. Heres the post I'm updating - https://www.reddit.com/r/EntitledKarens/s/67P8SoK3Ao So a few days ago I shared about Mr. Miles losing his ever-loving mind about me having a GF and basically put his son up to come over, demean my relationship, and ask me out cuz that's suuuuuuuuuch a great plan /s For safety, given Mr. Miles losing all the sense the good lord gave him, GF and I stayed up at my folks and just got back yesterday evening. My dad double checked all the new lights and cameras and then walked over to "have a friendly chat" with Mr. Miles. Not sure what he said but it had to be good because Mr. Miles didn't even sit on his porch to smoke his nightly cigar. And if you knew that man the way I do you know that's not in character. I asked Daddy what he said to the poor man and he laughed and said "Oh, Baby, definitely nothing that would remind him of our good and mighty God or offering to send him to Him." Sooooooooo Sorry I digress. So I expected everything to be okay - because I'm stupid - and thus went back to life per usual. I ran my GF's bath, jumped her bones, and woke up to make her breakfast thinking my life is some kind of wonderful. Only to hear a knock at the door. Today is Monday. Everyone who works is off to work and everyone who doesn't knows I WFH on weekdays. Something didn't feel right so I woke my Love up and told her to get dressed just in case something was about to happen. I'm no warrior but I did have my bat and opened the door and made eye contact with a cop. We stare at each other. He looks down at my bat, then back to my face, then turns showing the cop behind him and looks at her. And I am here thinking well SHIT this is what I get for assuming this all would blow over. I will admit, I am not everyone's cup of tea so I use humor to compensate for being...well a weirdo lol don't know how else to put it. So I grin at the cops and ignore my heart racing and place the bat down and just say "Sorry I thought you were someone else. Coffee?" They...weren't amused and apparently didn't want coffee either. Who was I expecting and why a bat? I just said I wasn't sure, but we're two women alone in a house with someone at the door at the ass Crack of dawn so.... They asked for me by name and I confirmed I was who I was, even showed my ID. They asked me for my GF as they got a call. GF comes out and shows her ID. They ask to speak to us separately and I was getting upset. "Whats this about, sir?" The cop looked at me really annoyed, then looked at my GF and asked if she felt safe with me, to which she said she did. He said he needs to investigate a call. I ask what call. He says he's the one asking questions and all I could think was greeeeeat he's that type of cop. He tried to step inside but we were speaking through a screen door which I locked last night and it was then he actually asked if he could come in. I said no, sir. My GF said she will step out with him to answer any questions and she does and the female cop takes her a distance away and talk. The male cop opens the now unlocked door and peers in my house asking if he can have a look around. I ask again what all this is about. He asks me questions. All centering around why anyone might think I am holding my GF here against her will. I was like what do you mean against her will? He says her BF called and said I took her forcefully and kept her here overnight. To which I reply, what fucking BF? She's a lesbian and gay as the day is long. At this point GF and female cop come back and GF looks mad. She points at Sugah's house and asks if thats where the call came from and outline everything that's basically in my last post. GF then goes, "show them the videos", so I hand over my phone with the ring app pulled up with the footage of Mr. Miles yanking our pride flag down and using slurs. The cops were looking at one another and then back at Sugah/Mr. Miles' house. Mystery solved, I'm thinking. I'm not good in tense situations so I just Crack "Sure you don't want a coffee?" And GF whacked my arm. We did the whole song and dance, sending files, getting their cards, filing a complaint for the damage of my property on Mr. Miles' part, and then my GF said she wants to pressed harassment charges too. The male cop snorted "based on what?" And the female cop took over. She said without solid and consistent proof, they can't press charges of that nature. We ask about hate crimes and they said taking down a pride flag isn't a hate crime, it's destruction of property. Suddenly I can hear the guy cop saying "Sir, stay inside" and who else could it have been but dear old Mr. Miles - look at this old rooster up this early! Fuck. The old sour raisin is yelling for them to ask about me throwing around my GF last night. Cops aren't even listening to him, just telling him to go inside and he keeps repeating that i was brutilizing her last night (Which the creepy bits aside about him knowing anything about last night, I want to take as one HELLUVA compliment). The cops yell for him to go inside or he will be in cuffs. He does and the female cop turns to me and I just blurted "If 'throwing around' is what we're calling sex now..." And my GF gave me a look like shut 👏 the FUCK 👏 up so I did. (It did get a laugh from the lady cop though). They told us to stay inside and we did but you better believe we minded everything but our business at that point. We watched through my study window as they went and spoke to Mr. Miles. There was a back and forth and I heard the cop say "turn around" and Mr. Miles was saying like "why are you hassling me, man? I didn't do nothing." So the cop got louder and said "Either turn around and I take you in or you go back in the house, sir." Mr. Miles was saying this ain't right but he went inside. The cops stayed on the porch for a few minutes more. Then they departed. Happy Monday. Relevant Comments Commenter: Wow. If you can afford it, I suggest consulting an attorney. Give them all the info and evidence of things to date, so they’ll be ready to help if this escalates. for example if you end up needing a restraining order or want to pursue that harassment charge that the cops didn’t want to deal with.   Update #2: August 31, 2024 This is slowly just becoming my little hobby of sharing what Mr. Miles and his family have been doing. After the police incident it was pretty quiet this week. Dinah, my GF, and I also have just been living quietly in general hoping the storm passed over. I can be such a damn fool sometimes. I thought it was all going to be fine. We have cameras, lights, Dinah made a (rainbow - cuz of course) no trespassing sign. She got mini pride flags and staked them in the front garden. Did I mention she gardens? She's literally a dream girl. Mr. Miles sort of went back to normal. He smoked his nightly cigars, washed his car, all the usual shit. Enter the HOA. I live in a community that, how can I say this? It's not the hood, but it ain't fancy. Lots of the people here are people of color and generational owners meaning their grandparents or great grandparents bought the house way back in the day and the owners inherited it. Nobody minds their business, but we let each other be as far as how we use the lawns and shit like that. It's very much a "stay in yo lane" situation. Guy shows up at the door. I'm not home, but Dinah is so this is what she described happened but I admit I "Zennia'd" some details for that extra oomf - Dinah has coined that phrase as according to her I allegedly add a flair to retellings. She opens the door with the chain on and this pleasant looking man is smiling at her so she assumes he is a salesman. She just asks if our no soliciting sign is there and is about to close the door at that but he said he's not selling anything, he's an officer with the HOA. Dinah hears the word officer and is cussing in every tongue she knows internally and just asks what he wants. He hands her a notice. Apparently we are in some sort of violation. Dinah's no pushover so she's rather unimpressed at this point and he is trying to explain "we noticed some violations-" and she asks point blank if what he's about to say is in the papers he gave her. He says yes, and she looks it over again. Hmmm...our rainbow shit? A violation. Oh no it's 7. 7 violations all related to our rainbow shit. Now Dinah's got a main suspect in who is behind all this and she is laughing in this man's face. He says he really doesn't want to fine us since they prefer to laid back. But this is causing complaints. So I get home and she's out back painting...nothing off about that. She likes creative DIY stuff so I just let her know I'm home and there's a box. I assumed it was for her because she freaking LOVES Amazon. She comes in and shows me what she's working on. Rocks, signs, a set of garden pots you name it, she has rainbowed it and I just sigh and go "What did that man do now?" And she tells me about HOA. I was like "we have an HOA?" And she hands me the papers. I called the number and the voicemail prompt checks out that it is an HOA. I've been the owner of the house for over a year. So its news to me. But I'm also first-time homeowner and I've been wrong before. I had and have a million questions. Like dont we get billed for it or something if we're part of HOA housing?? Then I noted that all the issues they are threatening to fine are accompanied by grainy photos of said items and they are all our rainbow stuff. I realize that Dinah is two steps off scorched earth (it takes a lot to get her there but baby look OUT when she arrives at that destination) the sign being that she is about to rainbow the whole damn house. I asked her her intentions and she just shrugs and says "Oh I thought they didn't get the asthetic so I'm helping complete your vision" (HOW IS THIS MY FAULT NOW!???? lol) and I'm like oooooh sweet baby Jesus, I don't have the financials to say fuck you if they fine me to oblivion. We had something of a tiff about it (a tiff is a small little argument, but "argument" makes it sounds far more dire than it is) as she was camped in "F them especially" territory and I'm thinking of the possible consequences. I finally calm her down and she's starting to see my side of it. Guys, I fought the good fight, I really did, she was coming around, I was so close. So close to squashing this issue, calling it a night, play video games with my boo and go back to normal. BUT FUCKING NO because the goddamn box. The box wasn't addressed. It was just a box with a note that said it's a gift. They were flags. Not pride flags but like various sizes of the American flag. Dinah saw this and FLIPPED the fuck out. She's walking around the house cussing in more than one language. And I'm there in F my life mode knowing damn well we're a step closer to scorched earth. That was last night. She was still creating her DIY rainbow stuff when I went to bed. I'm not even going to try and sound like I want to attempt to think it's anyone else up to this bullsshittery for obvious reasons - gestures broadly - but also because Mr. Miles smoked his nightly cigar and I don't know what he said to Dinah, who happened to be out there (yeah right, Baby, since when do you even like sitting outside at night...ALONE) and she is swearing up and down he all but admitted it BUT EVEN IF HE HADN'T she checked our camera and Mr. Miles's son seems to be taking photos of our home from the sidewalk. So now we know at least Paul has something to do with this too. Dinah's not back from work yet, and I WFH so I'm basically just waiting for the other show to drop because now my GF has gone full gollum and God help anyone who tries to stop whatever it is she is thinking about doing. It's like trying to stick your foot out to stop a bullet train. Not gonna happen and damn painful. I'll update when the other shoe drops. PS: Our complaint to the police after my last update is still being "investigated" and not to be any sort of way but I don't expect much from it. Fingers crossed though. Pray for me y'all. PPS: Also sorry for all the cussing. This has put us both in a STATE and I have a pretty foul mouth. Edit: Just called my mom because she generally knows all lol she said that while she isn't 100% about the now as it's hard to recall so randomly while she's working, she knows for a fact there wasn't one when Pop owned the house. I'm going through the paperwork now because I can't let his go. Relevant Comments OOP should had the documents regarding this suspecting HOA OOP: I don't remember any mention of it, but also at the time I was not in the best state mentally for various reasons, including the death of my grandfather - which is why I inherited the house. I do remember a LOT of paperwork, that said. I will ask my mom if she recalls anything as she was there helping me. + I'll have to go through them. The phone number checked out because the voicemail prompt sounded legit, but the email is a generic one (think like yahoo or something). I can't even wrap my brain around how he would even be able to fake this, but after all the shit happening thus far, I am not far off believing it possible.   Update #3: September 1, 2024 This shit is going to make me into some gossip columnist or something because what I am about to share is fucking WILD. HOUSECLEANING FIRST since my last post had so much going on. The police, after many calls from my GF Dinah, have basically said that our case doesn't constitute harassment and there is no evidence of anything more (ummm video??) but only destruction of property. They said its largely a civil matter and thus should be handled I'm civil court rather than criminal. Best beleive Dinah is not about to let this go. As for the HOA. We. Dont. Have. One. And by "we," I mean my street. Miles lives on the corner house, so he's on a technically different street. We checked and double-checked, and Dinah helped me sort through some paperwork for good measure. Nope. My street never had one and never signed on for one. Dinah was DELIGHTED by this. I mean, that hot hellion put all her rainbow projects out and then started talking about rainbowing the HOUSE. Like, the whole damn house. She wants to make it a project and for all to call our queer pals together and rainbow paint the exterior, including the garage doors and driveway lol. I...said we should start small, and we agreed that she can paint our front and back porches first and she found cute lights to shine on the house that can project rainbows so we have to check with our other neighbors but I said if they are fine with it, fine, hun. And now ladies, gentlemen, nonbinary monarchs and all, I present to you, the fuckery. Mr. Miles saw me washing my Love's car for her. It was just a thing I wanted to do for her. Not a normal thing I do at all. But she's been stressed, so I was going for the "hot girl washing cars" thing in part to be cute and silly and was in swimwear. She was calling to me from the upstairs window, whistling and stuff. I laughed. My other neighbors laughed. Mr. Miles came out with a mug of whatever the fuck evil drinks (blood of the innocent? Puppy broth? Who knows. Maybe just shitty coffee) and was glaring at us, scoffing when she would come out on our porch with her tea to "enjoy the show" - let me be clear, we were not being lewd or anything. She was saying shit like "What are your rates? My car has never been so beautiful. I'll pay you double" it's cheesy shit couples around here say all the time. Maybe the worst thing she said that maybe was less for public consumption was admittably my favorite thing: "Hey good looking, what am I cookin? I WILL MAME IT HOT for you" implying she will make dinner. I don't know if I ever mentioned it, but Dinah is the BEST cook but generally doesn't take that on regularly, so her offering was heaven for me. Mr. Miles would ahem loudly, shake his head, do that indignant laugh older folks do, everything so we knew he disapproved and was in the audience. So we ignored him. And I definitely didn't defiantly stay out longer, flirting with my woman to piss him off...solely. Anyway, Mr. Miles was too much of a coward, so sent Paul again. I was done with the car and Dinah made me a cool cocktail (where we live outdoor shit in the summer is done nice and early before the sun gets too high, so it was hotter than Satan's ass out) and we sat near the fan enjoying just chatting. Mr. Miles had long gone inside anyway, and this is our home. Fuck him. We're going to enjoy it. Paul waved as he walked towards us and Dinah said her favorite curses under her breath. He made some small talk with us but Dinah was frosty with him, so I did most of the answers but even I was short. But this is the South, so politeness is a bitch. Hard to explain. He said he was concerned about our cameras because it looks like they cover the yards of others and there are kids here and "you know what that can look like". I will blame the cocktail but I was feeling like fucking with him, so I acting dumb. "What will it look like?" And he was all "you know what I mean" and I was like "nah what do you mean, Mr. Paul?" And that went on for a bit and he just stared at me and did a condescending chuckle and shook his head "well we'll see about what everyone thinks- just trying to be helpful given.." And he gestures at nothing in particular. I smile as sweet as pie and thank him for coming by but the cameras don't seem to bother anyone but I wil ask around. He told me to do that and walked off. We had been putting it off but this spurred Dinah to look into Mr. HOA. He's legit. An officer of the HOA on the street the other end of Mr. Miles's/Sugah's house. But Sugah has been in the hospital for surgery and won't be back for at least a few days. She has a daughter I keep tabs with who has been in town to help care for her. When I talked to my own mother, she sounded annoyed about the situation as a whole and ask if I would mind if she herself had a discussion with Miles. She grew up with him so I said that was up to her. She said "Great!" In that way that I knew she would be calling him. This morning, Daniel, the other son, caught me as I brought out the trashcans. I was surprised because he doesn't live there, so I don't often see him. Small talk blah blah blah, and then he gets close and says that he's sorry about the whole thing with his dad, but I should be warned that he got into quite mood after talking with my parents (I assume mom) and to tread lightly. I thanked him and went back in to tell Dinah. Dinah was in the nook (like a half room bay window situation where Pop used to smoke) and she had gift stuff out like gift bags and ribbon. I was trying to figure if I had forgotten a birthday or something and she just giggled and told me to come here. Rainbow flags. A lot of mini ones. Stuffed in a bright gift bag. I just looked at her like "Baby nooooooo" and she just shrugged saying she was the newbie here and wanted to be a good neihbor. To her credit there are more than one gift bags and she is dropping them off as I write to every house on the street but I know my GF. This is an F you too to Miles. She said to ask my internet friends (you and a Facebook group I've been sharing this with) for ideas of how to "spruce up the place" now that we know there are no HOA restrictions while she's out. So this is an update and also a plea, for the love of God please don't give her too many crazy ideas. Give us some fun ones - I am all for painting rocks and patios and shit, but I still gotta live here ya know? Anways, have a good long weekend if you're in the states. I still have a BBQ to plan. Edit: I just spoke to my mother video chat. Mom and Dinah have now sync'd energies. Help. Me. Mom said she talked to Daddy and they are wanting to pay for at least 2,000 USD to "spruce up the place" - Dinah is over the moon, has taken the device and is still talking with Mom now. God help us all lol   Update #4: September 7, 2024 Well the Mr. Miles saga continues so to pick up from my last post, the BBQ happened. It was fun. Had my parents and chosen family over (open invite to my community so some neighbors too) and Dinah's twin even came and by twin I mean they're not actually twins (image THAT much hotness doubled. Lawd.) But siblings born on the same day a few years apart. For this I will call him David (M30s...? Idk I never remember). David is also as gay as the day is long and has heard of all the shit Mr. Miles has been putting on. Actually ever single person at the BBQ knew. It was a topic I couldn't escape. Dinah was serving vodka mixed drinks and you can image what 3 queerdos can come up with after a few dranks. David loudly announced "PAINTING PARTYYYYYY" as Dinah went and found every bit of paint we own. Before I could even work through my vodka-indused brain fog, people were painting...EVERYTHING. the porch, my chairs, damn near every rock around my trees and all the raised garden beds. Now my backyard looks like a gay unicorn had projectile diaherea and shat rainbows. I like it. We played Lily Allen "Fuck You" and other gay ass songs, sang along, there are rainbow flags inside and outside my home at every window, in the garden, between my pumpkins (THEY PAINTED HALF MY PUMPKINS) - this is not a euphemism, both cars have those mini flags that stay when you close the window. It was insanity. Aaaaand the police arrived. They got a call about a disturbance from a neighbor and we all knew damn well which (my whole street of neighborswere literally right there except him). A quick aside here but it's not illegal to play loud music during thr day here. Just after like 8 or 9 or something. So no laws were being broken. The cops even admitted that. But they suggested we "just keep it down" - we thanked them, and didn't. It was a fun evening. My mom waited until everyone else left and she and Daddy were drinking my best wine, just LOVING this chaos, singing Dinah's praises, gushing over how she's designed the interior of this old house (she did really well I have to admit). It's updated in here and just brighter and fresher. There was a knock on the door and Mom got it. Mr. Miles stepped in with Paul and Daniel in tow. My southern-politeness brain shit the bed, so I audibly groaned at the sight of him. Dinah came back from the kitchen, saw him, crossed through the whole ass room and planted a kiss right on my lips as she handed me a fresh drink and sat right on my lap like a housewife. Mr. Miles asked for a drink. Dinah told him everything is out and in the kitchen basically to say "fuck you get your own" in Nice. His sons went to make him a drink and I politely asked what he needed. He said he wanted to have a take with me, alone. Mom said "And what do you need with my daughter, Miles?" And he said that that was between him and me. I said I was drunk and tired so it will have to wait until morning. He had his drink, made some passive aggressive comments, wished us a good evening, and said he will come by later. Mom walked him out. He did. The very next day. And sure enough I was alone. Sugah isn't doing well. She's not responding to treatment. They're planning for the worst. I was devestated to hear this. She's like our neighborhood mom. I've known her all my life - she's practically family. So I started to cry. He was being so nice to me, handing me a napkin, speaking to me softly, rubbing my back and telling me to let it all out. So I did. And then right when I was able to catch my breath and calm down he said he wanted to tell me in person. I told him that was appreciated and I was so sorry for his family. He said "I know. Thanks. Thats another reason I wanted us to chat like adults. I know that woman you live with doesn't like me much." And I laughed without meaning to. Not like him? She would piss on his grave and stomp the dirt down to the tune of "hit the road jack" should the chance arrive. And if she weren't fit for prison, she'd give herself that chance with her own bare hands. Mr. Miles is still being nice and says that he knows I am the reasonable one. And that we had our fun but this tantrum of ours needs to end. Sugah will be coming home to live out her time and he doesn't want her to see our "mess" of a yard. He said it would upset her and he knows I don't want to ever upset her. I will be honest, I was so in my feelings over the news that he almost sounded reasonable to me. Then he offered to have Paul come over snd "help me" make my home presentable again and my brain kicked back in. I stared at this man, who just used the worst possible news a child could share about a parent as a tactic, and the spirit of Dinah came upon me. I very coldly told him to leave, as I have decorating to do. I think he thought I meant to tear everything down, because he left without a fuss. I told Dinah the moment she got home. At this point, her patience was up. She stormed out of the house and for a moment I was like "oh God honey don't do it, I don't even know where the jail is." And she came back in with bags. She had been shopping apparently and THIS PART IS ENTIRELY YALLS FAULT. She found SO MANY items. INCLUDING colorful windchimes. She just held up a few things and asked me to help her unload the rest and I was like "REST!?" So we spent the whole night decorating the front porch. I will fucking marry this crazy ass woman lol This past Wednesday, Sugah got home. I rushed out to hug her and she hugged me back. It was one of those "mama" hugs that make you want to laugh and cry and let everything out. She held my hand tight and looked at our porch. Then she laughed and said "Damn girl, you really leaned in huh?" Then said something was missing. I asked her what and she said my flag. The big one I had in the front. I told her what Miles did to it and a storm went over her whole face. She got quiet and asked me to explain I said she should rest and it's a long story. She turned to tell her daughter (who drove her) to make some lemonade and that she was going to sit with me on my porch a while. So I told her everything basically in all my posts including Miles' recent visit. She kept her expression steely the whole time. She asked a lot of questions. Then asked me if she ever told me about her first love. I thought she meant Mr. Richard, Miles' late father, and she laughed. She told me a story about how when she was young, before Richard ever asked her out, there was a woman her age who always dressed in suits, which for the time was not considered okay or normal. People hated her but Sugah fell for her almost instantly. She said Dinah reminds her of her and that I seem really happy now that Dinah has moved in. Then she looked at me so serious and said "So are you?" And I went inside to show her the ring I had long bought and that I am going to marry that woman if she'll have me. She smiled and patted my cheek, kissed my hand and went home. Yesterday my Daddy called and said "Heya what's this about a wedding?" And I was like what? And he said that he's not supposed to be telling me this so don't tell Mom but she and Sugah had a long phone call and Sugah wanted to pay for my wedding. Not some of it. The whole damn thing. This is already long sorry, I swear I am skipping a lot here but I was obviously floored. There's paperwork involved and mom is working with Sugah on it and Daddy said "Well, I guess you gotta ask that woman to marry you." And I said I intended to. So I am writing this antsy as fuck, ring in pocket, dressed up, waiting for Dinah to come home from the salon so we can have date night. Mr. Miles is about to have a complete caniption. Wish me luck. Edit/update: Hey guys- so I'm sad to say she said no. It was a lot to- I'm fucking with you. She said yes! Y'all I am going to marry the most amazing, smart, strong, hilarious, crazy, loving, beautiful woman in this GODDAMN world and I cannot fucking stand to keep it to myself!!! We had such an incredible time. She came home and was already dressed, so we went out. It was my turn to plan date night, so I was at an advantage. I took her to a place that was like the restaurant pur first date was in (sadly, the original is no more) and we shared stories about that date (I was nervous and word vomited like an overfed baby - she found me charming), we then retraced a walk we had when I first told her I loved her. She had claimed up at it and skirted saying it back, but now she tells me every fucking day multiple times a day even when she's pissed at me. We then ended at our city aquarium - hey quick trivia, I was once a "professional mermiad" there. You read that right. Chloe eat your heart out) - where she "stalked me" just to ask if we are real (not just a fun summer fling) and to go steady. I took her to our favorite bar for karaoke, got down on my knee, and she stared at me and just went "shut the FUCK up are you proposing to me?" And before I even knew it, she pulled out a ring and we just laughed and kissed. We wanted to update you the good news. I'm up to sing "At Last" for karaoke so gotta be on my toes to serenade my fiance. Fuck me you guys I just said fiance. I have a fucking fiance. Me! With her! I'm so fucking dumb happy right now. Sorry. Rambling. Love you all so much. I love everything right now.   EDITOR'S NOTE: It has been brought to my attention regarding this BoRU not formatting correctly with the missing letters at each paragraph. I have cleared the possible issue with the moderators of the sub. Many of you might be dealing with glitches. I posted this from desktop and wasn't missing anything. My apologies to all. Thank you.   Latest Update here: BoRU #2   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I purchased a mug with “Harris for President” for myself and my mother. Thought it would be a cool gift since her married name is Harris. Yes I am voting for Harris. So I gift it to her and in all seriousness she said she can not take the mug home because her boomer husband will be angry and said he will divorce her if she votes Democrat. I am honestly sad for such a smart independent vibrant woman. submitted by /u/HardBananaPeel to r/BoomersBeingFools [link] [comments]

I am NOT the Original Poster. That is u/afraidstrawberry-. He posted in r/relationship_advice I replaced letters with names for readability. Thanks to u/Direct-Caterpillar77 for the rec This is a VERY LONG post. Do NOT comment on Original Posts. Latest update is over 7 days old. Mood Spoiler: communication helps Again, this is a long post. Original Post: July 2, 2024 Repost as my last post got removed: I have been with my wife 4 years. I have a 5 year old from a previous relationship. My 5 year old (Leah) is from my first long term relationship during college. We split shortly after her birth, as my then-partner admitted to being unfaithful and not being ready to start a family. My daughter LOVES my wife. They are inseparable. My ex does not have much to do with my daughter or myself except cause the occasional drama. She did not want any custody or visitation time, so my wife is her mother for all intents and purposes. My wife is almost 8 months pregnant. She has shut me out of the entire pregnancy but refuses to admit anything is wrong. I feel completely ignored and hurt. When we first learned she was pregnant, she told me while I was making breakfast. Of course I was elated! However since it was an unplanned pregnancy I asked how she was feeling at first. She began smiling and crying about how excited she is. I picked her up, gave her a million kisses, and told her I was so excited to have a baby too, and what a wonderful mother she would be. All good right? She went all out to announce to everyone else. Balloons and boxes, tshirts and “best big sister” mugs. I assumed the casual announcement with me is because she wanted my feelings on growing our family before celebrating. However, when her sister asked about how I liked my box, my wife quickly said “he didn’t get one, this isn’t his first rodeo.” It was like pulling teeth to get her to let me go to the ultrasound appointments. She didn’t want me to miss work, didn’t want to interrupt Leah's routine, excuse after excuse. When it came to listening to the heartbeat, my wife instantly started crying happy tears. The tech was telling her how strong the heartbeat was, how precious our little one was, etc. I was feeling a bit emotional and cleared my throat to prevent crying. The tech said aw dad, isn’t that sound beautiful? My wife immediately said “this isn’t his first child, it’s not that special for him”. I immediately said this is one of the most important moments of my life. I can’t think of anything MORE special. The atmosphere was clearly awkward after. Another thing that bothered me, I heard Leah and my wife’s mom laughing in the living area (I was in the kitchen making dinner). When I walked in and asked what the fuss was about Leah was touching my wife’s stomach and was laughing with excitement that the baby was moving and it would be so cute. My wife let my daughter and MIL feel the baby move before me. I was hurt but simply said how happy I was. Later that night, my wife was poking her belly and laughing. I asked her to feel as well and she said, “you’ve felt Leah move as a baby. What can be better than that? She was the cutest baby ever” She has felt pretty poorly throughout her pregnancy, but refuses to let me help her. If I bring her a snack and drink, she offers it to our daughter. If I try and rub her feet or legs, she asks me to play with our daughter so she doesn’t feel like she is being replaced or ignored. I simply do not ignore my daughter. We have bonding time, I’m an active parent but I want to love my wife! She can hardly eat but when I asked her what I can prepare for her, it’s “whatever Leah wants”. We went to the zoo with Leah, and my wife started feeling bad. She had cramps and was considering going to the hospital, severe nausea and dizziness. I carry her to a bench nearby, and she began to cry saying she can’t even stand up. I told her let me call an ambulance or I’ll carry you to the car and drive you. She said she didn’t want to ruin Leah's trip and we didn’t even make it to the aviary (Leah's favorite part). I said I wasn’t leaving when she asked me to continue to go through the zoo with Leah. We sat for a while until her dad showed up (she didn’t even tell me he was coming) and he took her to the Dr. I was shocked, and followed them with Leah. When we arrived, Leah was upset about missing the aviary and pouting. At that point the health of my wife and unborn child were my concern, I really didn’t care Leah was upset. My wife was IRATE that I made Leah miss out. Another example: we were watching Leah play in a local kids sport. I asked her, do you think our kid will be athletic? Artistic? Enjoy science or math? She said, this is Leah's moment, we shouldn’t make it about someone who isn’t even here. Leah was on the field, we were sitting in the stands. We had both waved to her, held up a sign for her, everything. I just wanted to talk about OUR baby. When her bump was really showing, she would always show it off to anyone who wanted to look. Her family, friends, siblings, etc. do you want to see my bump? I’m huge, so excited, I can’t believe it’s only x more weeks. They all touch her bump, talk to it, etc. Her parents come and reads or tells “back in the day” stories. They go to the beach? A thousand bump pictures posted on her friends social media accounts “so ready to be an honorary auntie, her sister “wife puts the B in bump AND beautiful”. If we go out together? She wears the loosest clothes so I don’t see it. I’ll even see her pull her shirt down when she sees me come into the room. She sat on me the other day after being playful in bed. Her bump was right in my face, I ran my hands up it and said you are the most beautiful woman I’ve ever seen, you already are a great mom to Leah, I can’t wait to see you as our family grows. This was one of the first times I was really able to feel her bump so I rested my hand there and said I love you so much already, I’m so excited to meet you. I hope you have your moms eyes”. She moved off of me and said “I know “ex partner” had a bigger bump than me, I bet it was fun seeing Leah move all the time. You don’t have to act like you care, I know you’ve done this before”. I said I don’t think about it that way. Leah is special, but this is a completely new and different special because it was with her and our baby was someone completely new and special. She began to leave the room and I could see her shoulders shake from crying. I am 100% positive she is not cheating, nor has she ever. I just cannot wrap my head around why she doesn’t want me to be happy about this? The rest of the time is completely normal as long as I don’t mention the baby. She is affectionate, initaties intimacy, brags about what a good husband I am and how great I’ve made this pregnancy. We plan for our future, have date nights, everything else. Unfortunately, we had a fight where I snapped. I had a break between clients at work, so I went to a local baby store and got a lot of things she had planned for the baby and nursery on her pinterest board. I came home and surprised her with flowers, a prenatal massage certificate, and her favorite food, as well as the baby items. She seemed very grateful, but when I came home (editor's note- OOP meant when he got home after going back to work again,) the items were no longer there. She said she returned it to buy Leah stuff, as she was going to feel left out. I lost it, I cried for the first time in our marriage and yelled that having a child with her was the worst mistake I’ve ever made, that at least my deadbeat ex at least gave me the chance to know my unborn child. That I didn’t care about the baby because she wouldn’t even let me bond with it (I do care, have since she told me). That I hoped she was as miserable as she made me and that she better be prepared for a custody dispute (she is a SAHM for Leah). She simply said “I know you don’t care about the baby, but I’ll die before you take my baby from me.” What??? I have BEGGED her to let me interact with her/our baby. I asked her if her therapist had any insight on to why she was being like this- she said no, that she isn’t doing anything. I told her what I said above and she said I had those experiences already so it shouldn’t matter. I asked her if the baby was mine (I know it is, I was just being mean) she threw her phone at me and said yes, go through it. I’ll do a paternity test, whatever you need. I just called her parents and asked them to go to our house as we were having a disagreement and went to a hotel. I do not want to stress her or our unborn child, and I really want to repair this but I truly don’t know how. I’m staying at an Airbnb for now until we can figure this out, but I truly don’t know what to do. I miss her like crazy, and I can’t even begin to understand why she wants to behave this way. I have apologized for what I said, but I can’t take back what I said and I worry about when our baby is born if she will even want to be a family with me, or let me have anything to do with our baby. I spoke with a mutual friend who says she is very distraught and says she can’t be a single mom, loves me, but her actions prove the opposite time and time again even when I beg for change. Relevant Comments: Why did you say those things? OOP (downvoted): I said those things, because I wanted to hurt her like she has been hurting me. It’s as simple as that. I regret it. I have apologized. She has told me time and time again you shouldn’t care, and I told her whatever I thought I could to hurt her. It was childish and immature of me, and it was a knee jerk reaction. I hadn’t planned on saying any of that. Commenter: Yeah I can understand why you're angry. Has she explained why she has been saying those things? Resentment is a weird thing, she may not have even realised she had that until she became pregnant but I do think that if that was something she'd been feeling that its something she should have spoken to either you or your therapist about. OOP: Nothing! I’ve begged her to talk to me about it. I’ve told her we can go to counseling together- and guess what her response was? She cried and asked if I was unhappy in our marriage. I said no, I want to be more involved with you and this pregnancy. You’ve left me in the dark. I asked if she was unhappy? Did she want a divorce? Decide she doesn’t want this baby? More tears, seemed genuinely hurt I would even think that. Makes no sense in my mind, apparently I should just stand on the sidelines. Commenter: Is it possible she's resentful of your 5 year old? What's your relationship with Leah's mother like? OOP: I truly don’t think she is resentful. She adores my 5 year old and I think she is probably the preferred parent. She takes her to the park, museums, mommy and me painting, shows up to school events (muffins with mom, etc) without fail, takes care of her when she’s sick, plans our vacations out around my 5 year olds interests.Her cousin had said something about not bringing her stepdaughter before, and my wife completely freaked and said that we don’t use titles around here that make us feel like we aren’t one family. “She is my daughter and nothing less and will not be excluded” type thing. When she was first pregnant we took a short trip to see some of her family and she cried everyday about missing Leah. She is in therapy and has been since we met for anxiety and depression, but it is clearly no help. I have brought up prenatal depression at her doctors appointment, but she really doesn’t match as she is elated unless I specifically bring up the baby. Downvoted comment about seeing an attorney because he probably won't be allowed at the birth and they should just get divorced: It’s definitely a fear in the back of my mind. I know Leah will be devastated. My wife already mentioned wanting her mom in the delivery room since I’ve already seen my kid being born- that it would only serve to embarrass her if I’m in the room this time. Commenter: You two need couples therapy immediately. You should have started it after her first or second comment - you've known for months things weren't right. Also, call her OB and explain what's going on. Ask them to make a record of her shift in behavior, and stress that she's never done anything like this before getting pregnant OOP: I should’ve, I stupidly attributed it to horomones and other issues that come with pregnancy. She was sick for most of her pregnancy and for a lot of it actually lost weight, was constantly hungry but couldn’t eat and became very body conscious. She is doing much better now and is a healthy weight, and I genuinely thought it would get better. Its much easier to see in hindsight that the first few comments were deeper than that. Commenter: Why the fuck did you say all that shit?? She was acting really off (for sure) but you really fucked up. That’s some awful, very possibly unforgivable stuff you just said. And you seemed like such a decent guy. OOP: I am an idiot. I did fuck up, and I have apologized not that it means much to her at this point. I said whatever I could say to hurt her. It was months of resentment building up. Months of begging for her to tell me what’s going on, to let me in, to let me think of baby names with her. I was and I still am hurt. I hope it can be repaired, as I would like to be there for her and be a full time father to my child-it breaks my heart to think of splitting custody time. OOP clarifies his relationship with Leah and the aviary event: OOP: I absolutely did not care that we did not see the aviary. We go to the zoo regularly and I had promised we would go back. When your pregnant wife is so ill she begins crying that her legs don’t work and she can’t walk and begins saying she think she might die due to such strong abdominal cramps- you’re not concerned with missing the aviary. I did not tell my child I did not care. I told my wife in the hospital that her and our unborn childs health became before birds and that Leah can pout and be mad until we were certain she and our baby were okay. We do everything for Leah. Leah and I have bonding time both with and without my wife. Together we enjoy fishing, going to the arcade, and playing Barbie’s. My daughter is confident in our relationship, just the other day my dad said he didn’t want to play horses with her anymore and she of course said “fine, I know dad will always play with me”. I absolutely have not and never will neglect or abuse my child. This is such a far reach because I was concerned more about my wife than my daughter going to an aviary. To another commenter: She is 5, and is very smart. She knows that the hospital and ambulance are things people need when they are very sick. She completely understood my wife felt bad, even said I needed to get her tummy medicine so we could keep going. I didn’t say, we are leaving, cry about it. I did tell her we were following mom and grandpa to the dr because mom was feeling very bad, and that we can come back another day and said when mom feels better we will get her an ice cream since she didn’t get to see the birds. She pouted, all kids do. Did she see that I was more concerned with my wife? Yes! She even commented that grandpa seemed upset. We live in a hot and humid climate and my wife went from red and using a fan to pale white and saying she was cold- it was scary for me. When you arrive at the hospital and want updates. Are you okay? Is the baby okay? And your wife is miffed that you didn’t take your child to an aviary and that’s all she wants to talk about is that she is pouting- it hurts! Commenter: And for someone who is a self proclaimed, good husband; why has he not addressed this with his wife before? If she is acting so out of character, and showing odd behaviors, why has he not talked to her about it? Every “in tune” partner would be scrambling to get to the bottom of this after a few remarks. He just let that shit glide? OOP: You don’t think I’ve talked to her about this? I am shut down every time. I exploded after begging her to talk to me for the hundredth time. This was not out of nowhere. I have literally gotten on my knees in front of her and asked why she is doing this, if there is a reason, what does her therapist say, do you want to go to therapy together, and she says she doesn’t know what I’m talking about. It is the most frustrating, infuriating thing. It’s so hard to watch something so special pass by you and pretend it’s not happening. I regret what I said, and don’t expect sympathy. But my explosion was not from lack of trying Update Post: July 29, 2024 (27 days later) It’s been about a month since I posted. This is a bit long because so many kind Redditors reached out and gave me advice and shared their experiences and asked for an update. After I posted and stewed for a little while (and had a couple of drinks) I called my FIL. He and my wife are very close, and I respect his opinion. He has been married for a very long time, and seems to have a happy marriage and has good relationships all around with his family. I didn’t specify what issues we were having, but he was over at my house while I was staying in an Airbnb, so it was no secret we were having problems. He has more of a traditional marriage- and at some point asked what I had to lose by putting pressure on her to talk. I said I feared I would push her away more, and he pretty much told me that I was living in a separate house than my pregnant wife, freaking out about a potential divorce- what did I have to lose? He advised me to “be a man” and come back to my house and lay it on the line. I told him I’d be coming over the next day. They asked if they could take Leah to buy some sparklers for the upcoming holiday and spend the night at their house. I agreed, and when I went to my house the next day I came in with flowers and stuff to make dinner. My wife asked what I was doing there, to which I replied I lived there and would like to sit down and talk. I gave a long apology for my actions and words. When I finished, I said it was her turn to tell me what was going on. She tried to claim nothing, that everything was okay. After awhile, I said my heart is broken, that we have been through some tough things together, fought for each other, and now you sit here and lie to my face. We both sat there and she cried for about 30 minutes until eventually she said she felt like our relationship would end if she was honest. I said I would hear her out, no matter what. She admitted it was hard that this would be her first kid and not mine. She didn’t think it would bother her and it didn’t until she was pregnant and that she laid in bed at night thinking if my ex would have wanted to raise Leah we would still be a family together and she wouldn’t matter. She expressed that seeing me emotional about our baby, or wanting to touch her bump, or treat her made her think of me and my ex and how I had already did all of the things she was excited to do with me. Near the beginning of her pregnancy, she had told a close friend that she couldn’t wait to have a baby with her soulmate- and her friend replied that she didn’t think soulmates had other children or “baby mamas” that it was two people meant only for each other. She was very upset and asked if I thought we were soulmates like she did. She described herself and our unborn child as my “sloppy seconds” family- that no one grew up dreaming of having kids by multiple different people. That she was just the substitute when the family I wanted didn’t work out. She also shared she had found some old images of my ex on social media, and could not stop comparing her pregnant body. She feared the baby wouldn’t be an equal to Leah in my eyes. It worried her when I would ask what she thought the baby would be like that what if the baby was disabled, or didn’t like to do the things we enjoyed as a family, or the baby and L didn’t like each other? She said at one point she found herself wishing I had never had Leah, so she wouldn’t have to worry as much, and that is when she knew she had to really put in the extra effort to maintain a relationship with Leah. She feared that between work and Leah, I wouldn’t have time and wouldn’t bond with the baby like in the articles she read online where fathers didn’t bond with their children until they were able to do things with the family. When I did try and bond with the baby, she worried the baby wouldn’t live up to Leah. I have never been shy about saying how much being a father means to me, and how raising Leah has been the highlight of my life (along with marrying my wife, and now having our child together). She said it was initially what made her confident in marrying me, and excited to have a big family with me- but now constantly wondered if her pregnancy and this baby would be a highlight or a burden for me, because the stress is the same but the newness wasn’t, and then what if a newborn and then toddler wouldn’t be as interesting to me as Leah who is capable of doing activities? She showed me a million articles of different men explaining they didn’t bond with their children until 4+ years old. She also showed me the videos where people say things they did with their first kid, and then get more relaxed as they have more children. She said it freaked her out because it was clear people stopped caring the more children they had. She said that there were times she felt she was ruining our family and coming between me and Leah. For example, at the zoo she said she cried on the way to the hospital. She was afraid Leah would hate her and resent the baby for cutting our zoo time short, and that I would be upset that I was spending my time off work at the hospital instead of doing the activities we planned with Leah. While I work, Leah and my wife spend a lot of time out of the house (library, local parks, etc). One of their favorite activities is biking together, and we bike together on weekends as well. We have lots of local trails, but due to her pregnancy she has not been able to. We’ve been doing more indoor activities. My wife said that when I’m at work, Leah kept saying she hated her because she didn’t get to go on her new bike as often anymore. I said I would discuss it with her, because that is unacceptable. My wife asked me not to since there would be so many changes soon for Leah, and it hurt her because she missed biking together as well. A couple of months ago, my wife asked me and Leah if we wanted to read stories together. Leah chose the first story I read, and my wife chose the second (her favorite childhood story) for me to read to the baby (and Leah) since it helps promote brain activity and help with bonding. After that, I read another book of Leah's choosing. While I was at work the next day, Leah ripped the pages out of the book my wife chose. She said she was going to tell me, but her friend (same friend who says we aren’t soulmates) said I would think she was making it up and that it seemed to her she was trying to become between me and Leah. I asked her why she didn’t tell me any of this, and she explained that she didn’t feel comfortable telling me because her thoughts didn’t even make sense to her- she wanted me to spend time with Leah so she didn’t feel left out or jealous,and when I did she felt upset I wasn’t spending more time with her. She loves Leah but wishes we had our first kid together. She wants me around but also feels upset and guilty when I give her/ our unborn baby attention. She said she feared that I would think she was trying to come between me and Leah, when she wasn’t. By the time I realized something was truly wrong and started to ask what was wrong, if she needed therapy, etc she said she realized she was acting poorly, but didn’t want to admit to herself that she missed out on a lot with me and doubled down as it was hard to face that she made her fears reality by pushing me away and not letting me care- and that she couldn’t “start over”, that her first pregnancy was a somewhat bad experience because of her own actions. At this point, I realized how terrible I had been. I apologized for making her feel like she couldn’t come to me about anything. She said when she “researched” her feelings she found a bunch of forums were people were calling the poster evil for their feelings about their stepchild, and feared I would feel the same. She said if I had told her I felt about Leah the way she felt about Leah, that it would make her angry and upset, so she couldn’t see how I wouldn’t be. We both cried for a long time. I tried to reassure her. I told her how much I loved her, how excited I was, that she was the family of my choosing and my soulmate- that the universe knew that Leah and I needed her which is why circumstances allowed us to be a family. She apologized for the way she treated me, and said she wanted to make it right. She said she had wanted to apologize when I was beginning to have my meltdown, but was surprised when I yelled, and realized she mightve messed up beyond repair to get that reaction from me. We continued to cry for a long long time, and she asked if I wanted to feel the baby. Of course I said yes, and we cried even more. It turned out to be a great evening, I made us dinner and we laughed about how I was so stressed I went to Reddit for advice. She wanted to read the post and cried again when she did. I reassured her we could move past this, and she said she felt less horrible as she read some of the comments from women in her shoes. It was a bit awkward the first week, after so many months of tension. I knew things were turning around when she woke me up by whispering “baby wants blueberry pancakes” that Saturday. I don’t think I’ve ever prepared pancakes so fast, I couldnt keep the smile off my face. We ended up going to a pool party a few days later, and she let my choose her swimsuit- a big deal for someone who only wore baggy clothes around me. We took family pictures, and the universe is clearly on my side because on the way home she asked me to feel her belly and our baby was hiccuping- something I had never felt before and it was a first we could share together. She has even let me help her when she is sick without making an excuse about Leah. I’ve learned that when she comes and puts her back to me and lifts her arm that is my cue to lift her belly up. I now spend a lot of time rubbing and talking to her belly- and rubbing her feet, legs, back, shoulders, hips, haha- she is sore everywhere at this point. The first 500 times it made me cry, it has been such a relief to be involved. I never thought being tasked with acquiring the most random food items at 2am would be a great time for me, but it is. It still sucks that I missed out on a lot. I think it sucks for her too. She gets emotional and says a weight has been lifted off of her and things are so much easier, and she is upset that she didn’t talk to me sooner. I have been working to fix some of my wife’s guilt. I realized there was a lot of simple fixes. For example, I was able to go to my local bike shop and get a pull behind trailer. Now, I pull her in that and she can use a small fan and ice packs, and Leah can ride her bike. I have taken off work so I can spend more time with them both. We are all in therapy and thankfully Leah's therapist is continuing to say she is securely attached to both of us, enjoys the time we spend together, is coping very well (some of her behavior was do to another situation, which we have resolved), and she is excited to be a big sister. My wife was terrified that maybe she could sense her attitude shift, but her therapist says that she only has one complaint about my wife- that she forgot her candy one time and then it took 32 whole minutes for the store to deliver it. My wife is in therapy working to overcome the negative feelings she has. That is pretty much were we are now. We are getting very close to baby time and working hard to finish preparing. My wife still needs reassurance. There are a lot of times she brings up my ex and I’ve found bringing up our firsts helps. For example, she will ask about certain things and how it was for me. I’ll say I don’t want to talk about that, and steer the conversation to us. Do you remember our first house? First vacation? First kiss? Date? Remember that time blah blah? It made me fall more in love with you. Do you remember when you and Leah made me blah? That is still one of my prized possessions. It upsets me that my wife suffered for so long. I believe saying it out loud took a lot of power away from her feelings. I think most people know how badly it feels when you have thoughts that don’t feel like your own when you’re going through a mentally taxing time. I really should’ve stood up for our relationship and her mental health way sooner. I accepted her brushing me off for far too long when I should’ve realized she needed help. I appreciate everyone who reached out or offered advice. I posted this in detail with my wife’s permission- she hopes that it helps someone out there struggling with the same feelings she felt. TL;DR: My wife was facing insecurity and some mental health issues and did not feel she could reach out to me as they involved my bio daughter. Thankfully, l received great advice from my FIL and you all, and we spoke about it and worked it out. After some awkward times, things are somewhat back to normal and I am able to be involved in my wife’s pregnancy. Everyone, including Leah, is doing well and excited for the baby to arrive. Relevant Comment: Commenter: I wonder, how is your wife moving forward regarding her "friend" seems she didn't even consider having these insecurities before she had a snake in her ear. OOP: We have disinvited this friend from our home. It’s hard to cut her out as she is part of my wife’s larger friend group. My wife was unsure as this friend has went through some hard things lately. However, recently my wife hosted a girls night and her friends were arriving as I was leaving. I told her she looked beautiful and wished them a good time. When I arrived back, my wife told me this “friend” said in front of the whole group that I may be saying kind things to her now but after some changes after birth I won’t describe here, I will be after her. My wife said that was an unkind and untrue thing to say, and she said it was a joke. I made it very clear to my wife that I did not want her around, as we are in an emotionally vulnerable time and this person clearly does not wish us well, and she agreed. submitted by /u/LucyAriaRose to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

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Original by u/ToGayForSIL97 in r/askgaybros on Apr 26, 2022 ​ Trigger Warning: Homophobia, family problems Spoiler Mood: Happy ending for OOP ​ AITA for Hooking Up with New SIL’s Brother? Throwaway account because people know my main. Not posting on AITA because of space limitations. I (27M - USA, East Coast) recently attended my brother’s wedding. He really wanted me there even though I can stand his wife who openly hates gay people. I stopped going to a lot of family events where she is going to be around because she makes all sort of loud complaints about me, mainly my going to hell because I am gay. She also hates I’m an atheist who knows more about the bible than her. Anyway, to cut to the chase... I got invited to the wedding with no Plus One over, from what my mom said, objections by my soon to be SIL. She thought it would be disgraceful I made an appearance. Believe me when I say I questioned my brother extensively about why he is marrying this POS, and he simply said he’s in love with her. I warned him this marriage could ruin our relationship as brothers. He said he accepts the risks. So, I went to the wedding – alone – prepared to enjoy the wedding and reception. I noticed this really cute guy sitting on the bride’s side of the church, and again at the reception. I see he did not bring a date. Before I could build up the nerve to go talk to him, he wandered over to my table and sits down. He then, without any prompting, begins to talk about his nightmare sister. Honest to Jupiter he really is new SIL's brother. He also didn't get a Plus One. He asked me, and he knew I was the groom’s brother, why brother married his sister. We shared a few laughs about the train wreck this marriage will become. Under the table his foot began to rub against my leg. We spent the evening dancing, talking and laughing. Then he asked if I wanted to go to his apartment. I did and a lot of really things happened. I don’t know how SIL found out, but she exploded on her FB account how I corrupted her brother. My brother is mad at me for sleeping with this guy on his wedding night. AITA for sleeping with her brother on her wedding night? ETA: This really is about whether I was the asshole for hooking up with her brother after the reception because 1) I sort of knew it would get back to them and 2) I knew it would upset my brother. The day was supposed to be about them, even if the bride is an insufferable wench. I did not want to add bad memories to my brother's day. I love him too much for that. ETA #2: Have to go back to work now (11:15 AM EDT). ETA #3: Came back to answer a few questions and express my thanks to this community. The FB post. I got some interesting advice from someone I reached out to get the post. Said to me: "This will allow people to search for her post and give her shit. You'll make it worse than it is if you put the FB screenshot anywhere. Your brother will be super pissed." - I can't disagree with that. I am holding off from posting. (Plus, I never got a screenshot from anyone.) 2) I never met her brother before this, and I did not know he was gay. I knew she had a brother. That was it because I wanted to know nothing about her. It wasn't until he sat down and started chatting with me that I even got an inkling he was related to her. 3) We're friends at most. This will likely never evolve into a romantic relationship. It wasn't a hate fuck against his sister or any sort of revenge sex. We enjoyed each other's company, we were both horny, and we both wanted to get laid. Never once thought of her or my brother (ew) and what they would think. 4) This whole episode, including this Reddit post, forced me to acknowledge I need to have a serious talk with my brother. I love him, but he is condoning mental and verbal abuse against me by proxy through his now wife. I did talk to my parents last night about this whole situation, and they are now worried my sibling relationship will get fractured beyond repair. I reminded them my brother decided to marry this woman even after she started taking shots at me. That set them back on their heels. 5) I am incredibly grateful to r/ askgaybros for their advice, humor, insight, skepticism, and a load of brilliant ideas. You gave me WAY too much to think about, and I see now I desperately need that. 6) Adios! This user name will now be orphaned, but I am preserving then entire thread in a day or two. ​ Update on Jun 15, 2022 In the last almost seven or so weeks weeks these things happened. Talked to my brother about a week after the original post to give myself time to think. I laid out several of the points expressed in the comments. He said its now his responsibility to support his wife even when she is mostly wrong. I said I was sorry to hear that, and informed him I am going LC (actually NC) with him. It upset him, especially when I would not respond to his texts or requests. I told him already he told me all I need to know. My parents are really upset about this rift between me and my brother. I asked if they support his wife verbally attacking me, and they said no. I asked if it was fair people expected me to put up with it. They said no. I asked why my brother didn’t defend me against her attacks. They said nothing. I asked why they didn’t defend me. Mom cried and dad said we needed to talk about this later. Still waiting for the talk. Mother’s Day included only me and my brother. SIL spent it with her mother. It was a tense – read TENSE – day. Brother and I hardly spoke. I made direct eye contact with him all day, he could not look me in the face for long. Parents tiptoed around the issue, but brother and I made an effort to be civil and shower mom with love. Brother looked really upset when he left after 4 hours to go get his wife and see his mother-in-law. I heard they planned on visiting my mom later in the evening after I left. Memorial Day I did not show at my parents since brother and sister-in-law were going to be there. Mom asked for my coleslaw recipe, and I just ignored the request. Went to the house of a family friend (who happen to side with me on this), and they loved my coleslaw and Jell-O fruit salad (no, it is not a 1950s monstrosity). Parents were really upset I went there or anywhere instead of their house. I told them I didn’t go because we still needed to talk. Waiting to see what effect that produces. Showed K (SIL’s brother) the post in Reddit after showing my brother. We sat and looked it over together. He got quite a kick out of a number of the suggestions. Then K asked why I thought we would not be romantically compatible. I explained the big one happened to be about religion. I’m an atheist and he’s a fairly devout christian. K then hit me with this line, and it stunned me:“I don’t judge people on their religion. I judge people on how the act and treat others. I know a lot of non-religious people who are better human beings that half the people who go to my church.” As result we’ve become closer friends (yes, with a lot of benefits… it was just too damn good the first time), but refrained from discussing entering into any formal relationship. We both agreed to just let the situation float along and see where we each are in three or four months. We have a good time together, and we are going to my family’s 4th of July party together… because They will be there. 6) We got matching mugs (after a Redditor suggestion). His says “I went to my sister’s wedding, and all I got was fucked.” Date at the bottom. Mine says the same with brother replacing sister. 7) K learned sister is pissed off because a number of the reception photos, some of her favorites, contain he and I leading our fun lives in the background. She tried to get them airbrushed or edited, but all the people she talked to said it would look like garbage. She eliminated all but one of the photos from the album. One of the comments in the post predicted this, so kudos to that Redditor. 8) Father's Day is this Sunday, and I think it's going to be a repeat of Mother's Day. This will be hard on my dad since he always thought my brother and I would always be best friends. Brother and me usually splurge together for my dad, but this year I am going solo on the gift. I am pretty certain this will piss off my brother, but I haven't heard from him regarding the gift. Not a lot else to report. Again, HUGE thanks to this community for helping me better understand the dynamics at work. I lost a lot of respect (almost all) for my brother in our subsequent talks. SIL likes to trash talk both me and K (her brother) to anyone who will listen, and most people are telling her to get over it. Brother and SIL are looking to buy a house, but lack funds. Normally, my brother could turn to me for help, but that is not going to happen. Edited to try and fix formatting. ​ Update 2 on Jul 08, 2022 Here is final update to this, and I am combining the Father’s Day and 4th of July into one post. I appreciate people are invested in this story, but now I feel like a ninth grader required to give a book report. Dad had a talk with me on the Friday before Father’s Day. He said both he and mom did not want to get involved in this “spat” between my brother and me. I asked if it was because he feared SIL would withhold the grandchildren from them, and he said no. He said, as parents, they did not want to show favoritism to one child. He agreed SIL acted despicably toward me, and he already talked to my brother twice about her actions: once before the wedding and once before Mother’s Day. My father would not divulge the content of those talks. My mother talked to me after Father’s Day. She said I had every right to be upset. She said thinks SIL is clearly in the wrong, but she also reiterated what my father said about showing favorites. I asked why she and my father didn’t defend me against what SIL did and said. My mother said I am the most capable person in the family in regard to self-defense, and I said that did not excuse her from protecting her child. My mother got really upset when I said that, and the talk quickly ended. Father’s Day turned out to be a very awkward occasion. We did celebrate him, but perhaps in our own ways. SIL again spent the day with her family or at least while I was at my parents’ house. I could tell Dad really wanted my brother and me to talk. I made an invitation to my brother, but he declined. He said I already knew his position on the matter. I responded he knew mine. Radio silence from that moment onward. I asked K if he was enjoying the drama surrounding this, and he said not really. K said he doesn’t like fighting with his siblings. It’s made interacting with his family very stressful. I also asked him if he made a plan for his sister’s wedding that involved to get some sort of revenge or payback. He said no. K stated he mostly wanted to introduce himself to me so neither us of felt completely alone at the wedding. He told me he did not expect to find a charming, witty, and intelligent man that seemed to understand him from the start (he honestly said that). K said the dancing and fun, and the rest of the night, happened organically. 4th of July was… very interesting. K joined me in attending the family celebration. I brought my coleslaw and K brought some of the best damn cornbread I ever tasted (he told me in private his grandmother made it). We acted like complete and utter gentlemen as agreed upon prior to attending, meaning we never hugged or kissed. I said our presence alone would incite his sister, and it did. We stayed affable and friendly with everyone else. K is a great joke teller. Some of the relatives asked about our relationship status, and we said just friends. My parents seemed relieved at my (our) restraint. A number of comments to the first Update suggested this, and I decided it was good advice. I am fairly certain SIL wanted us to be fondling and groping each other so she could call us out on it. I believe our reserved conduct further angered her early on. Also on the 4th, SIL made a little huffing noise every time she spotted either K or me. After about two hours of this, my brother told her to knock it off as it made her appear childish. My jaw hit the floor and rolled down the hall because he said it when he knew I could hear it. She looked incredibly pissed off by that, but she held her tongue. There is something else happening either around or between them, but I don’t have any details. SIL actually eased up throughout the rest of the day. We went to see a fireworks display in the evening, and that was the last I saw of her or my brother for the day. K and I sat next to each other during the show among my family. It was a good show. At this point my brother and I are not on speaking terms. He made his choice. He gets to make it. I get to make my choice. This looks to be the permanent state of the situation. My parents are not happy with this, but they believe (and have said) this is an issue we need to work out for ourselves. It would be too easy to accuse them of cowardice, but I don’t think it’s that anymore. They still treat me with love and respect. They tell me they disagree with SIL’s actions and positions. Mom said she told SIL not to act like she did on the 4th ever again. My mother can be really scary when she’s angry. I took to heart some people’s questions as to whether I am purposefully being antagonistic. Maybe a little? However, I feel like I am defending my place in the home of my parents against an interloper who quite literally destroyed the family dynamic (yes, I know my brother actually did). I fully plan on just ignoring her if we happen to be there at the same time. I refuse to avoid any family gatherings for her sake (great advice from Reddit). It’s my parents and my childhood home, not hers. Both she and my brother need to remember and respect that. K and I continue to be friends with a lot on the side. I don’t know where this is is heading, but I am enjoying where things stand and how it could develop. He seems to be enjoying it just as much. We’ve gone so far as to introduce each other to our friend groups. Some people say they get a boyfriend vibe from us, and some say they don’t. I honestly don’t feel like sex is at the center of our friendship (or whatever this is) anymore. He told me on July 6th he knew how his sister would and did treat me. K said he didn’t want me to have to face it alone like he did. He really is a very good friend. One final development from yesterday. My father asked me if I knew my brother and SIL were looking to buy a house. I told him I sort of figured that out on my own. Dad did not ask me about money, but I did say I would not be available to lend any monetary assistance. He said he understood. [For the record, I got a B.S. and M.S. that led a great job I got through nepotism (through an aunt). It pays very well, but it doesn’t put me in the very wealthy category. I just save money all the time and invest conservatively. I scrimp and save on everything. K calls me cheap, but smart.] I am fairly certain my brother is following these posts, so he would know how I reacted to all of this. I don’t believe my parents know about Reddit. If they do, they kept quiet about it. This will be the last update. I came to Reddit to get some sorely needed advice and perspective, and everyone came through. I cannot tell you how much I appreciate the support internet strangers offered me as this unfolded over the past several months. They say blood is thicker than water, but so is chemical waste and dynamite. I am learning to put my family relationships on a more adult level, and Reddit helped me a lot. Peace and love to all. THANKS! ETA: PLEASE, everyone, do not try to make a movie or write a book about this. I withhold any permission to do so with any of the posts about this episode of my life. LAST ETA (Edited to Add): I am signing off from this account now. I cannot fully express my gratitude for all you Redditors who raised good points, offered advice, provided comforting words, shared similar experiences, called me out when needed, and basically reminded me there is good in this world. I am deeply and humbly in your debt. This is an awesome community, and I thank you all from the bottom of my heart. Cheers! (07/09/2022, 15:55 PM Easter Time). ​ Update 3 - Jan 08, 2023 ETA: Please do not use my post, any of my responses, or my personal story for any film, television, podcast, blog, or any other form of media entertainment. This is a short follow-up to the multi-part post about how I ended up hooking up with my new SIL's brother. Link: https://www.reddittorjg6rue252oqsxryoxengawnmo46qy4kyii5wtqnwfj4ooad.onion/r/askgaybros/comments/uccg0r/aita_for_hooking_up_with_new_sils_brother/ So, me and my brother haven't spoken to or seen each other since November 2nd. He sent me a text asking if I could give him some money to help with a down payment for a new house. He said "give" and not loan. I whipped up a loan contract and sent it to him. He got mad and complained with my dad who told him it was unrealistic to borrow a large sum of money from me. My brother called me an a-hole for not giving him the money because he believes I can afford it. He never even said please. We're done as brothers after that. Brother and I now split holidays with our parents. We're never there at the same time. This makes our mom really sad, and our dad isn't happy with it either. However, they do understand and -- although they never said it out loud -- I know they eventually sided with me on this. My SIL is just a horrific homophobe. We know this because of stories K told us about growing up with her (and his family is not really peachy either). As many Redditors predicted, K and I did become a couple. We figured that out right after Halloween when we realized we each stopped dating because we always hung out together. K all but moved into my apartment by Halloween. He spent more time there than at his parent's house. He moved in full-time just before Thanksgiving. He is so easy to live with, and the adjustment was never difficult for either of us. Apparently his sister and most of his family are really, really pissed off he is living with me and we're a couple. Who cares, right? Fuck them. K and I spent most of Thanksgiving and most of Christmas with my mom and dad. Mom said she's glad she doesn't have to pretend anymore that K and I aren't together. They really like him. K loves my folks. I think he's using me to get to them (just kidding). We went to a great New Year's party at a friend's house. Everyone there who knows us knew we'd become a couple. They said it was one of deals that just looked so obvious. I feel kind of stupid for trying to ignore the fact he and I just got along so well together. I'm pretty much a fool in love. So, kind of split down the middle. Lost my brother, but got a great boyfriend. Parents still refrain from telling me or my brother how we need to act toward each other. I can't see my relationship with my brother ever getting fixed unless... well, I do want him to be as happy as he can be. Peace to everyone. For those of you who predicted these outcomes, I guess it was kind of transparent and I was kind of being willfully ignorant. Thanks to all on Reddit! (K says hello as he's watching me write this.) ​ Reminder, I am not the original poster. This is a repost. submitted by /u/PsiqueLoveisLove to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I am NOT OP. Original post by u/superzero561456 in r/amithebuttface trigger warning: armed robbery   AITB for not letting my boyfriend be the hero while we were getting mugged at knife point? - 15 May 2020 My boyfriend is a big hero fanatic and does everything in his power to be like one. It's really endearing and it's one of the many things I love about him, because he wants to be the good he wishes to see in the world. But this mindset he has is why we are fighting right now. We've been quarantining at my apartment (he's not on the lease), and he suggested we go on a night walk since we've been getting stir-crazy from being inside all day. He figured that it'd be better for social distancing to go out at night. I was hesitant because we live in a bad neighborhood, but he assured me he'd protect me. On our walk, we were cornered by a man with a knife that demanded our wallets. I remembered John Mulaney's "STREET SMARTS!" bit from the Netflix show and was going to throw my wallet past the mugger so we could run away, but my boyfriend started arguing with the him and was spouting off a bunch of stuff about justice and how the the mugger "wOuLdNt gEt aWaY WiTh tHiS". It looked like he was getting ready to fight. I was taken aback by this, and I guess the mugger was too, because it gave me enough time to take the important stuff out of my wallet while he was distracted. I interrupted my boyfriend's monologue and said "Take it, just don't hurt us" and threw it behind the guy. When he turned, I grabbed my boyfriend's hand and we booked it back to the apartment. We got home safely, and I was relieved that we were okay, but my boyfriend was FUMING. He was pissed that I interrupted him from "protecting" me when he could have, in his words, "clearly handled it himself". I told him he could've gotten himself killed. He said that he was "obviously stronger" than the mugger and would've won. I explained to him that the guy had a weapon and my boyfriend didn't, so the odds were stacked against him. Not only that, but I didn't want my boyfriend to get KILLED over a damn wallet. We argued for longer than necessary, so I shut it down and told him we could talk about it when our adrenaline wasn't so high, but I needed to file a police report while the event was fresh. He stomped off to our room while I called the cops. When I was off the phone, I went to lay with him but he rolled away from me. The next day, he was still angry, and had already told his friends and family about what had happened to us. I thought that they would be understanding about how I handled it, but they were MAD at me for not letting him have his opportunity to be a hero. His mom even ridiculed me for emasculating him. I want to reopen the conversation so we can understand each other and move past it, but if he isn't receptive, I'm going to ask him to move back in with his mom. I want to understand where I went wrong if I went wrong, but honestly, I feel like he's being childish and unreasonable. I just want to know AITB, or is he? TL;DR: Boyfriend tried to play hero when we got mugged at knife point, I managed to get us away safely, he's mad that I ruined his chance. Verdict: NTBF   Update in comments: UPDATE: I just want to thank everyone who has commented. It relieves me to know I'm not insane. He's still at his mom's house and I haven't heard from him, nor have I tried to reach out. All of his friends have ghosted me too except for one of them, who is trying to mediate. If I don't hear from him tonight, I'll reach out tomorrow. I plan on updating in the comments depending on where this goes. Again, thank you to EVERYONE for sharing your thoughts on this!   AITB for not letting my boyfriend be the hero while we were getting mugged at knife point? -- UPDATE - 16 May 2020 So... he called me last night and I answered. He asked if I was okay and how I was doing. Then he asked if he could come over and I said he could. I planned on bringing everything up again myself because he had been very passive-aggressive and refusing to talk about it, but when he showed up, he immediately started apologizing. Everything you guys pointed out, he started agreeing with. He was saying that he was being delusional, unrealistic, the whole hero fantasy isn't healthy, he jeopardized my safety and that wasn't okay, etc. I wasn't prepared for this behavior, especially compared to how he'd been acting all week. We talked for hours before we went to bed together and everything seemed like it worked out fine. I was really on the verge of ending things, so it was a relief I didn't have to in that moment. Then this morning came and shit hit the fan. In my comment update on the last post, I mentioned that a friend was trying to mediate. I texted that friend that things worked out, and they said something along the lines of "I'm so glad you were able to apologize!" ...hmm. Some people mentioned that maybe he told a different story, which isn't something I looked into. but I decided to ask, and WHOO BOY, I'm glad I did. Firstly, he told everyone that the night walk was MY idea. Then, apparently, we were NEVER MUGGED! Nope! Apparently I just started talking shit to a stranger on the street in an attempt to make him show he was a "strong man" and protect me! And the only reason we were able to get away was because HE deescalated the situation, and that it was emasculating because he was put in a position where he felt like he was FORCED to fight "for my honor". ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME. To make a long story short, he tried to play dumb and back pedal this morning when I confronted him about it, and then when I pressed him to be honest, he snapped again, and said: "What was I supposed to say? The whole situation was embarrassing, and it was going to make me look bad!" We argued again for a bit, but I was just done. I told him to go and that it wasn't gonna work. He didn't have much stuff so it was easy to put in a spare grocery bag and just toss at him while he angrily left. He's currently outside of my complex waiting for mommy to pick him up. As far as I'm concerned, I dodged a bullet. Fuck his friends, fuck his mom, and fuck him. Thank you for opening my eyes, Reddit. TL;DR: He came back ready to talk, it seemed like everything worked out fine and he was understanding. Turns out he lied to everybody about what happened and got mad when I confronted him. I kicked him out.   Reminder - I am not the original poster. submitted by /u/toohottooheavy to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

When you're in school the "talent pool" for new friends is huge. Also, kids are doing fun things all the time. There will be another party, another gaming session, another thing to do next week. When you're an adult there are maybe one or two people at the office you'd want to be friends with outside of work. There will be a time that they invite you to a hockey game, concert, hike, or whatever and you're feeling like, "Meh, I like that thing but right now I feel like watching youtube." Watching youtube is a mistake. Say, "Yes" to the opportunity. By saying, "No" you are sending the message that you don't want to be invited next time. They might invite you one more time or they might write you off immediately. As an adult, these opportunities are more rare and if you want friends, you have to make the most of the chances to form a friendship when they happen. submitted by /u/vanguard_anon to r/LifeProTips [link] [comments]