Baby Shower Ideas

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I (36F) am the second daughter in my family. I grew up on my sister’s (Meg) hand me downs, and never got to express my own identity until I was 15 and got my first job so I could finally go shopping for myself. My mom and Meg are very girly and trendy (nothing wrong with that, just not for me), and I always felt uncomfortable in their clothes, especially because they didn’t always fit right. My mom was upset when I stopped accepting hand me downs and would just ignore me any time I brought home something I loved. I am currently pregnant with my first, a daughter. Meg already has 2 sons, and has kindly offered to throw me a baby shower. She wanted to help me with my registry, which I accepted since she’s been through this already, but when we started looking at my registry she kept saying things like “you don’t need to register for that, you’ll just take ours!” and “don’t put that on the registry, we’re giving you [son’s]”. She said this for almost everything, including things like the changing pad and crib sheets. Finally I said I don’t know why she wants to throw me a baby shower if I can’t even register for any gifts, and she should just cancel it. Meg got really offended and said I don’t appreciate what she’s doing for me. She accused me of thinking I’m too good for her son’s things, and said I need to grow up and realize I can’t have everything my way, which I thought was kind of hypocritical. I don’t mind getting some hand me downs, but she wants to box up EVERYTHING, including things like clothes, books, and toys for me to take. She has all traditionally “boy” things: blue with baseballs, books about trucks, and SO. MANY. DINOSAURS! She wanted me to take all of that off my own registry (I registered for a lot of things with rainbows, florals, and little animals on them) and instead only take her hand me downs, because she said other people shouldn’t have to buy things I could get for free. I understand that girls can (and do!) like those things, but I want my daughter to be able to find her own identity without being pushed into someone else's like I was. I’m actually planning to get a mix of everything, yes dolls and flowers but also cars and things like that. At this point it’s not even about the registry, I don’t care about people buying gifts. I’m having a lot of fun picking out and buying things for my daughter, and we can afford it. My mom is on Meg’s side and said I should just take the hand me downs and be grateful, which I heard a lot as a kid! She said she won’t buy anything for my daughter, since she already spent the money on my nephews and doesn’t want to spend it twice. My husband is of course on my side, and even said we can throw our own baby shower without the registry just to celebrate with our friends. I know Meg was trying to be nice by throwing the baby shower, but I’m really upset about the idea of my child not being able to be herself because of hand me downs. AITA for telling her to cancel the party? EDIT: I never said I wouldn't take ANY hand me downs. I actually have some lined up from friends who are being super generous and allowing me to only take what I want/need. The issue with accepting Meg's hand me downs is that for her it's very all or nothing. If I try to tell her I don't want something, she gets upset and continually asks what's wrong with it until I just give in. I'd rather the "nothing" over the "all". Also, Meg lives in a 5 bed house with a basement, and I'm in a 3 bed apartment in the city. She has a LOT of stuff. It's not worth it to me to try to find places to store all the extras and backups from Meg's things. Taking the hand me downs and donating would honestly be the most useful, but again, would end up causing more drama than it's worth. EDIT 2: To everyone telling me to take all Meg's stuff, sort through it, decide what to keep and donate the rest- I'm 6 months pregnant and work a full time job. I don't have time nor do I want to spend my own free time sorting through dozens of bins of things, then take more time out of my day to drive the rest of it to Goodwill. My sister can clean out her own house, I don't have to do it for her. submitted by /u/Vegetable-Exam3462 to r/AmItheAsshole [link] [comments]

My mom (62F) was in a car accident a year ago and she suffered a life changing TBI. She's in a nursing home and needs help doing everything. She's also not the same person she was prior to the accident. A few months after the accident my dad (66M) told me I shouldn't use my key anytime I (25F) like anymore because he had found a sex partner and I would not want to walk in on them when together. He gave this warning to me because after my sisters and I moved out we were told to use our key and keep coming over whenever. We al did it a time or two but now I'm the only one of us who lives close enough to stop by like that. I was shocked by the situation and my dad knew it. We drifted apart after that for a while and my sisters gave him shit for it so he told us all on a video call that she was just a sex partner and not a girlfriend and that he needed someone because mom wasn't who she used to be and he told us we don't have to like it but it will never affect us because she is not his girlfriend and never will be. Now things have changed somewhat. Apparently at some point during their hookups she has talked about her husband's dementia and her sadness that she doesn't have a family with him. So my dad decided she would be included in our family since they have their thing and he decided my baby shower should include her so she could be a part of the family and potentially a future grandmother to my child. He still says she's not his girlfriend and it's just sex between them because they love their spouses even with that idea in mind. And now he's angry because I said she wasn't going to be invited to the baby shower and I completely shut down the idea of her being the grandmother to my baby. He tried to involve my sisters but they disagreed with him too and pointed out how this was supposed to never affect us. I didn't want this to drive me and dad apart but I think it will and I don't know how to deal. Any advice? submitted by /u/ThrowRAflowelry to r/relationship_advice [link] [comments]

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My friend's baby shower is coming up soon and I offered to help with decorations, but I am honestly a bit overwhelmed. I want to make it look nice and put together without spending too much. I have been thinking about getting some simple party hats & festive hats for guests (especially for photos) along with a few matching decorations, but I am not sure what actually ends up being useful vs just extra clutter. I don’t want to overdo it and then have half the stuff not even get used. I have been browsing around for ideas on places like Etsy and Temu, and even came across some bulk options on Alibaba while comparing styles, but now everything is starting to blur together and I can’t tell what’s actually worth getting. I was also considering maybe doing a small theme so everything ties together, but I don’t know if that’s necessary or if simple is better for a baby shower. For anyone who’s planned or attended one recently, what decorations actually made a difference? did things like hats, props, or themed items get used, or is it better to just keep it minimal? submitted by /u/Shot_Celebration9668 to r/babyshower [link] [comments]

Hey everyone! I could really use your help. I’m trying to find a baby shower gift, but I’m honestly kind of tired of the typical stuff, diapers, clothes, bath sets, etc. Like, they’re great, but I want to give something that the new parents can actually use for a while, not just something that’s outgrown in a couple months. I’m thinking something that’s practical but also fun and maybe a little out of the ordinary. Any gift ideas that you’ve given (or received) that weren’t just the usual baby shower stuff? Better if it’s something that can help with the baby’s development or even get the parents involved! I really want to give something that will make the parents feel appreciated and maybe even take a bit of the stress off. I’d love to hear any suggestions you’ve got! Update: Thanks so much for all the great suggestions! I decided to go with KiwiCo because they’re practical, fun, and tailored to the baby’s age. I love that it’s something the parents can use for months, and I’m really excited to see how they like it! submitted by /u/Jamslsl-Tuana to r/predaddit [link] [comments]

Hosting a baby shower for my niece in two weeks. The theme is “berry sweet.” Would love your ideas on how to make this *actually* fun!? Thanks in advance! Edited to add: everything will be indoors since it’s winter where we are. ❄️ and there will be no formal gift opening since mom is traveling from out of state! Guests are shipping gifts to her home and we will print photos of the gifts to “open” at the party. 2nd edit: the mama to be was just diagnosed with gestational diabetes! Help us with low glycemix index on-theme ideas! submitted by /u/Dazzling_Apricot323 to r/partyplanning [link] [comments]

Hey Reddit, boy oh boy do I have tea for y’all. I (25M) met my beautiful fiancée (25F) in September 2024. I moved from my state to her state three months after we met so I could be closer to her. We got engaged in July 2025 (exactly 10 months after we met), and we set the wedding date for March 14th. No offense, but you’d think the females would be the ones bringing all the drama to our wedding, right? Not in this case. My two older brothers—let’s call them Dumb (aka Jay, 36M) and Dumber (aka Pat, 33M)—have brought nothing but drama to my wedding. I asked both of my brothers to be groomsmen since I was the best man in Pat’s wedding and also in Jay’s wedding. They both said yes, and that’s where the drama begins. A month later, Pat calls me and says he won’t be able to make it to my wedding because his wife is pregnant and her due date is in late April. Mind you, my wedding is 5–6 weeks before her due date, and it’s about a four-hour drive. I brushed it off, congratulated him on the pregnancy, and moved on. I then asked another friend of mine (who’s also out of state—let’s call him Steve) if he would take Pat’s place, and he said yes. Come Black Friday, I decided to rent our suits since that’s normally cheaper. It was about $175 (on sale because of Black Friday) for the suit, shoes, shirt, belt, and pants. Steve and Jay complained that it was too much money, that it was Black Friday, and that since they have kids, they wouldn’t be able to spend that much on renting a suit. They then reached out to me separately and asked if we could buy instead since that would be cheaper. So I gave in, and the suits, shoes, belt, shirt, and pants came out to a total of $250. So much for buying being cheaper. Fast forward to January. My fiancée and I decided to have a joint bachelor/bachelorette trip in the mountains since we figured it would be more fun with more people. The girls would do their own thing during the day, the guys would do their own thing, and we’d all do a group activity together in the evening. We decided to do it in January since Jay is an accountant and wouldn’t have been able to do it sooner. After my fiancée sent out all the details, Jay and Steve declined the invite to the bach trip. Without my knowledge, my fiancée had also included in the questionnaire she sent out whether the guys would want to save money and share a bed or pay extra to have their own bed. Jay and Steve saw this and started complaining behind my back, and my brothers and my dad then proceeded to call me gay for asking if the guys wanted to share a bed. The bach trip was absolutely incredible and so much fun! A couple of weeks after the bach trip, my fiancée gets a text from my sister-in-law (Pat’s wife). She sent us a save-the-date for her baby shower—and wouldn’t you know it, the baby shower is on March 14th. Yep, the SAME DAY AS MY WEDDING. A week later, they had the absolute audacity to send my fiancée an invitation to the baby shower with a message that said, “We know y’all are far away, but we’d love it if you could come.” And what—miss our wedding??? The reason they’re having the baby shower on my wedding day (in my speculation) is because my SIL can’t stand my family. So she chose our wedding day knowing none of my family would be able to attend, meaning only her family will be there. If you’ve seen The Help, my SIL is Hilly Walters. Update: A lot of people keep asking about my family and whether Pat is “making them choose sides.” No. My family can’t stand Pat and Hilly, so even if they tried to pull that card, my family would still choose to come to my wedding without a second thought. My siblings and my dad will be there. My mom will not be attending, as she passed away three years ago. Now for the part they’d probably prefer I leave out: this is NOT Pat and Hilly’s first child. This is their third child. They already have two daughters and another girl on the way. Hilly has had zero complications with any of her pregnancies or deliveries. This is not an emergency, not a crisis, and not some tragic circumstance—it is a conscious decision to hijack attention, and yes, it’s exactly as selfish as it sounds. And just when you think it can’t get worse: the person who contacted my fiancé was Hilly’s best friend. For clarity, none of Hilly’s friends have any relationship with my fiancé or I. My fiancé was intentionally added to make sure we knew that instead of celebrating our wedding, they’d be celebrating themselves. This was calculated, unnecessary, and dripping with main-character syndrome. So no, this isn’t a misunderstanding. This isn’t bad timing. This is two people repeatedly showing everyone exactly who they are. Update #2: I was talking to my dad last night, and (shockingly) the baby shower fiasco came up again. Turns out Pat and Hilly went over to my dad’s house on Saturday (my condolences), and he confronted them about why the baby shower was scheduled on my literal wedding day. Pat immediately played dumb and claimed he had “no idea” it was on my wedding date and proceeded to claim that it was the only day they could host the shower. Which is hilarious, considering he knew the date when I asked him to be a groomsman, and when we got the save-the-date, Hilly openly admitted she knew it was the same day as our wedding. So… yeah. That was a lie. For some background (because this behavior didn’t come out of nowhere): back in August 2025, when I asked Pat and Jay to be my groomsmen, we were on a family vacation. Normally, my dad buys the groceries for these trips and doesn’t expect anyone to pay him back. This time, before we even arrived, Pat and Hilly decided to go rogue, bought groceries for everyone without telling us, and then informed us we owed them $70 for each person/couple. No discussion. No heads-up. Just a Venmo request. At the time, my fiancée and I had just gotten engaged. I genuinely couldn’t afford it, especially since I had already paid my dad $450 for our share of the Airbnb (which is normal in my family and something we planned for months in advance). What I did not plan for was a surprise $70 grocery bill for food I didn’t ask for and didn’t know existed. However I refused to pay it, considering I couldn't afford it, and their lack of communication was not about to cost me $70!! My refusal apparently caused too much “drama,” so my dad paid Pat the $70 on our behalf just to make it stop. Fast-forward to this weekend: while visiting my dad, Pat mentioned that his wedding gift to me would be the $70 I “never paid him.” My dad snapped and told him he already paid it. Pat then denied ever receiving the money — confidently — until Hilly finally corrected him and confirmed that yes, my dad did pay him. And because why not pile it on, Pat also complained about how “expensive” our wedding registry is… before purchasing the cheapest item on it. This from the same man who proudly put a $700 Yeti cooler on his registry a few years ago. So to recap: lies about the date, selective amnesia about money already paid, and complaints about how "expensive" MY wedding registry is. Final Update 04/22/2026: Alright y’all, buckle up because this is the final update and it’s a ride. First off—the wedding? Absolutely perfect. Couldn’t have asked for a better day. 10/10, no notes. The honeymoon itself? Also amazing… when we were actually at the destinations. Getting there? Felt like we accidentally signed up for some kind of travel-themed endurance test. So originally, we were supposed to go to Cancun. Had it all planned… until we had to cancel two weeks before the wedding because of safety concerns. Cool. Love that for us. We scramble for a week, pivot, and land on Jamaica + Disney World. Not the original plan, but still solid. Now here’s where the chaos begins. We book a 5:30am Delta flight. Show up to the airport at 4am like responsible adults. Breeze through TSA, sitting at the gate by 4:45 thinking we’re winning at life. LOL. Flight gets delayed. And delayed. And delayed. We end up waiting 5 HOURS just to board. As we’re literally boarding, Delta cancels our flight due to a “tornado warning”… that did not exist. Not only that—it’s 9:45am and they cancel a flight that wasn’t even supposed to leave until 1:45pm. Make it make sense. We get to ATL and spend another 1.5 hours just waiting to talk to someone. The agent hits us with the classic “it’s weather.” We escalate, spend another hour and a half arguing with a supervisor, and the best options they give us are: Fly to New York, sleep in the airport overnight, then go to Jamaica the next day Fly to the opposite side of Jamaica and Uber 4.5 hours to our resort (on our own dime, of course) We ask if they’ll cover the Uber. They say no. So we’re like… yeah, that’s not happening. Their response? “Oh, so you don’t want to go to Jamaica today?” As Charlotte likes to say, "I BEG YOUR FINEST PARDON!!!" After an entire day of getting absolutely nowhere, we give up, book a hotel in ATL, and catch a 5:45am flight the next morning. At this point, I’m already done with Delta. Spirit could never make me this mad, and that’s saying something. We finally make it to Jamaica, and honestly? Worth it. Beautiful, relaxing, great time. The resort even worked with us and shifted our stay since we lost a whole day getting there. BUT WAIT. We’re not done. Next stop: Orlando. We already had a hotel booked, but since our schedule shifted, we tried to call them to adjust the dates—couldn’t get ahold of anyone. We figure, no big deal, we already paid through Monday, we’ll sort it out when we arrive. We land in Orlando after another long day of travel (left at 8am, didn’t get to the hotel until 10:45pm), completely exhausted. Go to check in… They marked us as a no-show. Because we arrived a day late. Even though we had the room booked through Monday. So instead of, you know, fixing it, they send us to a hotel across the street… which costs us an extra $200. At this point, I’m just laughing because what else can you even do? Disney was great though. No complaints there. Genuinely a highlight. Now for the final boss: getting home. We had first class seats (thank you, leftover credits from Cancun). We’re at the airport, waiting for the shuttle, and my wife has a medical flare-up that requires an urgent bathroom situation. Because of that, we miss boarding by less than 5 minutes. Delta’s solution? Downgrade us to main cabin. For missing boarding due to a medical issue. They tell us we can “maybe” get our seats back if someone doesn’t show. At this point I’m beyond irritated. Thankfully, no one shows and we get our seats back—but the damage is done. I’m mentally checked out with this airline forever. We finally get home around midnight with no more issues. Final verdict: Wedding: flawless Jamaica + Disney: amazing Traveling: absolute nightmare fuel If you ever feel like your trip is chaotic, just remember: somewhere out there, Delta is canceling a flight that hasn’t even boarded yet because of a tornado that doesn’t exist. submitted by /u/Conscious-Syrup6829 to r/CharlotteDobreYouTube [link] [comments]

I’m (29F) due in November with our first baby. We planned a small mixed baby shower at a local village hall: some nibbles, silly games, a couple of speeches. Me and my husband paid for most of it, my MIL chipped in for desserts. It wasn't anything mad, but it was our little celebration. A week before the shower, my brother (26M) texted asking if he could propose to his girlfriend during the party because “the whole family will be there.” I told him no. I said I’d be thrilled to help plan something special literally any other day, but I really wanted to keep the shower about, you know, the baby. He kicked off a bit and got my mum involved, who said it would be “so lovely” and “two birds, one stone.” I said no again, and thought that was the end of it. On the day, during the toasts, my mum calls my brother up “to say a few words.” He starts chatting about love and family, and I see him pat his pocket. He turns to his girlfriend and starts to go down on one knee. I stood up, walked over, took the mic (not yanking it, honest), and said, “Hey, we love you guys, but we’re not doing this today. Let’s please keep today focused on the baby. We’ll help you celebrate properly soon, I promise.” The room went dead quiet. His girlfriend looked mortified and legged it to the loos. My brother got angry, said I’d embarrassed him, and left. The rest of the shower was… awkward. Afterwards, a few family members said I did the right thing and that proposals at other people's dos are tacky. Others said I should’ve just let it happen and not caused a scene. That night the family group chat blew up. My mum said I was “controlling” and that she’d cleared a “surprise moment” with the venue (as if that’s the point?). I said I'd already told them both no and that consent matters for parties too. My brother said I ruined his big moment and that his girlfriend had planned to fly her sister over next month, so this was the only time everyone was together. I told him we would have all turned up for him, whenever he asked. Right, here’s where I might be the arsehole: the next morning I sent my brother an itemised request to cover half of the hall hire and the extra drinks package (£220 total) since he tried to, in his words, “make it our day too.” I said if he wanted to use the party as his proposal venue, he could help pay for it. He hasn't paid (obviously) and now says I’m being petty and tight. I know sending a bill looks bad, but I was so hurt that he and my mum just ignored a boundary I'd clearly set. Since then, his girlfriend messaged me privately to apologise and said she had no idea he was planning to do it there. She also said she doesn’t want their proposal tied to the memory of my baby shower anyway, which I totally get and was grateful for. I told her I was sorry for how awkward it was and would love to help them plan something nice later on. So, AITA for taking the mic and shutting him down? And am I an extra arsehole for the invoice? I'm willing to hear I handled it badly, but I also feel like if I’d let it happen, the whole shower would’ve just become about their engagement and the baby would have been forgotten. If you were at a party and someone tried this, would you just let it happen or step in politely? What’s a better way I could’ve handled it in the moment? I'm definately willing to make up, I just don't want to set a precedent that my 'no' doesn't actually mean anything. TL;DR: Told my brother he couldn’t propose at my baby shower. He tried to do it anyway, I stopped it mid-kneel with a quick announcement. Family's divided. I then sent him a £220 bill to cover half the party since he tried to hijack it. AITA for both the shutdown and the bill? submitted by /u/Mysterious-Desk1346 to r/AmITheJerk [link] [comments]

My stepsister and I (both 26f) are pregnant for the first time. I'm due 6 weeks before her if my mom's math is correct. My mom approached me about a month ago and asked if I would let my stepsister join my baby shower as an expectant mom to be. She said my stepsister doesn't really have friends. She doesn't have extended family she's close to either. But I have both of those. I've had friends since preschool and other friends since I started my job. And I have my dad's wider family who are ever present in my life even after he died when I was 7. She said it would be a kindness and would show some family and/or sisterly support if I could make sure she and her baby are celebrated too. I told my mom I would not do that. That firstly it would be a huge ask for mine and my husband's family and friends to buy someone and their baby a gift who they don't know and to expect them to bring two gifts. But also I'm not at all close with my stepsister and I told her that's a big ask for me to share the experience with someone I do not speak to outside of the occasional family dinner. My mom told me it's important to put all the childishness aside and come together so our babies can be cousins and so we can be a solid family unit. What mom means by this is I was never close to my stepsister and it annoyed me when we first became stepsisters age 10 that I was expected to see her as a real sister and be close to her. That's never how I saw her. She was in the family but not my sister and not someone I needed to be BFFs with. My mom used to tell me that I needed to be careful or I'd end up with nobody and she'd be all I have left in the world. She didn't like that I wasn't willing to be as eager as my stepsister was for a sister. I think my stepsister's eagerness lasted all of three years before she realized it was one-sided and backed off. But mom continued to want me to treat her like a sister. There were times she got really angry with me because my extended family let me include friends in my time with them if we went anywhere and I invited friends but never my stepsister and I never tried to include her in my extended family. This was always dad's family btw. My mom's parents died before I was born and her only sister is in and out of prison. So no family connections there. After I said no to including my stepsister in the shower my mom texted me for 10 days solid telling me to reconsider and she sent me a bunch of co-shower ideas. I warned my best friend what mom was doing too and luckily she didn't contact her but she's on alert. My stepsister also reached out and told me she really would like if we could share and she said I always had everything while she never had much and she doesn't want that for her baby too. She told me to think of it as setting the cousins up to be close because she wanted our babies to be cousins for real. I told her my answer was still no. Then mom texted me about 35 times (at last count) asking me what was wrong with me, where did she go wrong, and how could I say no to an upset pregnant mom who's the closest I ever got to having an actual sister. She told me it's childish and very disappointing that I would behave this way as an adult and expectant mom. AITA? submitted by /u/Vast-Shallot-1440 to r/AITAH [link] [comments]

We are starting to plan my shower and it will be a brunch hosted in a private venue. I don’t want to try baby food or diaper dolls! I’ve been to a lot of baby showers and funny enough I can’t remember anything we did but I would love some ideas for fun activities, games, or favors. Some things to note: it will be all friends, no family for me or my husband. (Passed away parents club). We don’t have any access to baby photos of him so we can’t do any of those types of games. submitted by /u/ohwellokaythenn to r/pregnant [link] [comments]

I’ve got a baby shower coming up and I want to gift something that’s super practical or emotionally meaningful. Any suggestions for things new parents don’t realize they’ll need—or just gifts that stood out to you? I’d love to hear what helped most in those early newborn weeks. submitted by /u/Equivalent_Soft_6665 to r/BabyBumps [link] [comments]

This is a repost. The original was posted in /r/relationship_advice by User ThrowRA_GoonerDude. I'm not the original poster. Status: Concluded Mood: Happy Original February 7, 2025 I M30 recently married the love of my life F28, and I’m super close with my brother M35. We always imagined our families being close too—until one single lunch ruined everything. So, my wife and I went out to eat with my brother and my SIL F31, who is pregnant and about to give birth to my first nephew. Needless to say, we are all very excited. Mid-meal, my brother—probably feeling sentimental—goes, “Man, I hope the baby turns out like [me]. He was such a cute kid.” Now, a bit about my SIL. She’s usually nice and I like her but she’s definitely Type A and a bit high-maintenance. Without missing a beat, she shuts my brother down: “Nooo, I’d much rather he turns out like you.” A bit of an awkward comment and my brother probably thought so as well, so he goes, “No seriously, we'd be lucky if the kid was like [me]. He was such a nice and cute kid". And then, SIL doubles down: “No, but you’re so much more handsome,” before turning to look directly at me and adding: “No offense.” Now, look. I wasn’t deeply offended—my brother is a very good looking guy, so I get it. But who just says that out loud? My wife, who had been quiet up to this point, clearly found it rude. So she jokingly goes, “Well, as long as the baby doesn’t look like [SIL], we should be fine.” I chuckled. My brother laughed. SIL did NOT laugh. She immediately got pissed, glared at my wife, and went, “What the hell does that mean? That’s extremely rude! We’re not close enough for jokes like that.” My wife was taken aback and so was I. My brother tried to say something but she stormed out. My brother followed her, looking about as confused as I felt. Fast forward to today—SIL has officially disinvited my wife from the baby shower/ celebration. My wife says she doesn’t even want to go, which, fair enough. My brother is devastated and really wants me to be there. Now, here’s the thing—my brother adores me. He’s always been my biggest supporter, and he wants me to be a big part of my nephew’s life. He’s having his first child, and this moment is really important to him. I love my brother too and can't see him sad like that. He says both my wife and SIL need to apologize eventually, but we shouldn’t force it right now and give them some time to cool off. He also thinks SIL owes me an apology for what she said—but again, pregnancy hormones or whatever, so he doesn’t want to push it yet. My parents actually side with my wife and think SIL was out of line first. But they also believe I shouldn’t miss such a huge moment in my brother's life, and that we should cut SIL some slack because of her pregnancy. Here’s my issue: I don’t feel right going if my wife isn’t welcome. I want to support her, but I also know this moment means the world to my brother. If I go, my wife might feel abandoned. If I don’t, my brother will be heartbroken. I feel completely stuck. Consensus: People tell OOP to send a gift and stay home. Update February 13, 2025, 6 days later Thanks, everyone, for the replies! I think I read almost every single one. I really appreciated the different perspectives. First, some clarifications: My wife is NOT a mean person. She made a joke in the moment, although I admit that it wasn't a great joke given the sensitivity of the situation. But she’s genuinely one of the kindest, most caring people I know. That’s one of the reasons I love her so much. I don’t think my brother did anything wrong by bringing up the topic. We were reminiscing about childhood, and he probably got nostalgic about having his little brother following him everywhere. My brother and I resemble each other quite a bit, though he’s definitely the better-looking one (funny how that works). And just to be clear, that doesn’t mean I’m insecure. If anything, he’s the outlier—he’s one of those people who naturally turns heads. Even when we were younger, he’d get random girls hitting on him wherever he went. It was such a running joke in our family that even my parents would tease him about it. The entire conversation lasted less than 5 min and escalated very quickly. I agree with the comments that all of us should have handled the situation better. But easier to say that in hindsight. In real time, things just got out of hand very quickly. I am sure that all of us regret what we said in the moment. Now for the actual update. I told my wife that I wouldn’t go unless she was also invited. She immediately told me that she didn’t want to be the reason I missed it and that I should go if I wanted to. She even said she’d be willing to apologize if my SIL was open to it, but that she wouldn’t attend even if reinvited because she’d feel uncomfortable. I told her I appreciated that, but for me, it was both of us or none of us. Then I called my brother. And this is where I have to give him a lot of credit—because I know he was upset. He had really wanted me there, and I could hear the disappointment in his voice. But instead of pushing, he just said: "I get it, man. Don’t worry about it." I know that wasn’t easy for him to say. He had to balance keeping things calm with his wife while also wanting his brother by his side. But he didn’t guilt-trip me, didn’t try to convince me otherwise—he just let me make my choice. He even said, "Don’t worry, we’ll save you guys some food and I'll drop it off later." I offered to help with setup if he needed it, and told him to say I have COVID to avoid awkward questions. He just laughed and said: "Got it! You caught the world's shortest COVID—just long enough for the baby shower but miraculously recovered the next day." Now, here’s where things got a bit more complicated: my mom was NOT happy with him for not sorting this out earlier. She felt like he should have stepped in and made peace before it got to the point where my wife was uninvited. But my parents didn’t say anything directly because they didn’t want to get involved in the drama. I think that really weighed on him. He was already trying to navigate a tough situation, and now he had our parents silently judging him too. It put him in an impossible position—trying to be a good husband, a good brother, and a good son all at once. A couple of days passed with no further drama. Then something unexpected happened—my wife got a call from my SIL. At first, my wife panicked, thinking she was about to get yelled at. But instead, they actually had a really good conversation. I overheard bits of it, including my wife saying, "No, you’re gorgeous!" which made me laugh a little. After the call, my wife told me that SIL actually apologized first. She admitted that she’d been feeling really self-conscious about her looks during pregnancy and that my wife’s joke had hit a sore spot. A little later, my brother called me. He told me that he had gently talked to SIL and helped her see that things had gotten out of hand. He also told me that knowing my wife was willing to apologize had made a huge difference. And then, he admitted something: he had wanted to fix things before the baby shower, but he knew his wife was already under a lot of stress. He didn’t want to add more pressure on her while she was in the middle of planning. And honestly? I respect that. My SIL is one of those people who needs everything to be perfect—her look, my brother's look, the house, the decorations, etc. So I can understand the pressure she must have put on herself. And my brother knew that pushing her while she was stressed wouldn’t have helped, so he waited. And after the event, when things calmed down, he quietly stepped in and fixed things. So where do things stand now? Things seem good on the surface. My wife and SIL made peace, and my brother and I are fine. My wife and I have decided to just be extra sensitive around SIL given what she is going through. All in all, the situation seems to have brought us somewhat closer together. The real takeaway: I have an amazing wife, but her humor could use some work! Also, my brother ain't too bad. Sidenote: Speaking of whom, my brother will probably never see this because he only uses Reddit for sports and news (or so he says), but in the off chance he does, well… guess I’m busted. But since I have your attention, I’ll admit something just this once. You are the best bro I could have asked for. That time you helped me for uni, I don't think you know how much it really meant to me. And when I was at a really low point, you stood by me. I don’t think I’ve ever said it, but I’ve always appreciated that. Of course, I won’t ever admit this in person and will forever deny I ever wrote this. TLDR: My SIL uninvited my wife from her baby shower after a joke. My brother wanted me to come anyway, but I refused to go without my wife. It caused some tension, but after a few unexpected conversations, things actually worked out—and I came out of it appreciating my brother even more. EDIT: Everyone keeps asking why my wife didn't apologize first. I thought I made it clear in the post but maybe not. My wife was going to apologize but wanted to check if SIL was open to it. She had just been uninvited, so we had no idea whether my SIL was even open to talking to her. I had told my brother that my wife wanted to apologize. And if he had given us the green light, my wife would have absolutely called. Instead, my SIL decided to call once my brother told her that my wife wanted to apologize. That was her being the bigger person. I'm not the original poster. submitted by /u/Schattenspringer to r/BORUpdates [link] [comments]

I am STILL NOT the Original Poster. That is still coolerbeans1981. She posted in r/tragedeigh Previous BORU here. New Update marked with ****\* Thanks to u/RaxaHuracan, u/Trick-Statistician10 and u/Direct-Caterpillar77 for letting me know about the update! Do NOT comment on Original Posts. Latest update is 7 days old- the newest update has not been posted on this sub before. Mood Spoiler: tragedeigh averted- mostly Original Post: November 19, 2024 My sister is due after in early January and we're planning her baby shower for early December. She decided she wanted to use my mother's maiden name (Rafferty) as her daughter's name. Not a Tragedeigh itself and I guess it works as a unique name. But yesterday I texted my sister that I needed to get the custom items with my niece's name ordered ASAP so they arrive in time for the shower. My sister then let me know they're going with an alternative spelling of Rafferty. I texted back, "An alternative spelling... of our mother's maiden name?" My sister wants to spell it Raefarty. So I sent back a bunch of laughing emojis and she asked "What's so funny?" I tried to explain that no one will pronounce that as Rafferty and she'll probably get plenty of the same mispronunciations. She told me I was being ridiculous. I texted back, "My poor niece, Little Miss Farty Rae." I was uninvited to the shower and my mom told me today my sister doesn't want me as the Godmother anymore. But, like, Raefarty is really bad, isn't it? Someone needs to tell her, right? Some of OOP's Comments/Top Comments: barge_gee: Yup, it's Ray Farty, no matter what sis wants to believe. OOP: Thank you! BalloonShip: Ray Farty (MGM, expected release 2025). A hardboiled detective living and working in the heart of Pittsburgh's Sulphur District, is tasked with investigating the theft of 12,000 durians. In an unexpected twist, the alleged mastermind of the crime, the CEO of Chipotle, was also Ray's high school chemistry teacher. OOP: OMG, I needed this! estamosready: That’s terrible. She is going to hate her name. Out of curiosity how old is your sister? OOP: My sister is 26. We both have fairly plain names and my sister was always jealous of people with more "exotic" names. She told my mom that spelling it Raefarty will be obvious that it's pronounced Rafferty, but it makes it look more girly. I mean, yeah, girls fart, too. Happy-Big3297: Rafferty comes under the category of names I wouldn't use (not a big fan of surnames as first names) but which I can see tick some boxes that would make them appealing to some people (honours your mum, sounds gender neutral, could use the nickname Raf) Raefarty comes under the category of names that sound like jokes. No wonder you laughed! Do what you can to dissuade her. Everyone's going to pronounce it rae farty. OOP: I agree. I wouldn't use it myself, but I get that it honors my mom and her family and it's not too out there. Thank God my mother wasn't born a Lewandowski (no offense to the Lewandowskis out there). My mom is mildly annoyed she wants to honor her last name but totally respell it. But my mother's opinion is that it's my sister's child and no one but she and her husband really have a say in the name. Apparently my sister insists everyone will understand it as Rafferty and not Ray Farty, smdh... What about BIL? I texted him last night to ask if he knew about the colorful respelling. Surprise, surprise, he HATES it and immediately thinks "Ray Farty," too. But he doesn't know how to approach it because my sister's pregnancy has been increasingly emotional and he's already walking on eggshells. :/ Update Post: November 21, 2024 [editor's note- I combined the post and the continuation of it in the comments into one section.] I don't know if updates are allowed here, but here it is and sorry it's long and I've been having a hard time submitting it (is there a character limit?). I'll try posting some and put the rest in the comments. So we had an intervention on Raefarty. I know everyone said to send a link to the original post to my sister to show her that 103% of the global population would call her daughter Ray Farty and that would be the easiest thing to do, but some commenters said some pretty gnarly things about my sister that she doesn't need to read and feel worse about herself. But I wanted to address a few things that came up. First, for those saying I shouldn't bother paying for the baby shower anymore, I had no plans to not continue to pay and help out. Disagreements and fighting aside, I love my sister and want her to go into motherhood filled with love and support, regardless of whether she wants my support or attendance at the event. Second, my sister's husband was made aware of the spelling change of Rafferty to Raefarty about a month before my original post. He said he didn't think much of it until he saw it written down and immediately saw it as Ray Farty, too. He said her emotions had been getting worse throughout the pregnancy and he didn't know how to approach her about going back to the original spelling. He had hoped that once she gave birth, all the hormones would somehow leave her body, she'd come to her senses, and it would be a non-issue. Third, a lot of you were lumping my mom in with my sister and said some pretty horrible things about her, too. All my mom knew was from my sister calling her to complain that I laughed at her for "slightly" changing the spelling. My mom just assumed it was a minor change like Raffertie until I told her to grab a pen and paper and I'd spell it out for her. Once she saw it was Raefarty, she was Team Save This Child. The rest of the saga is in the comments. [continued] The rest... Now for those of you who told me I didn't have any tact and my reaction was mean, my reaction was because 1) people would call the poor girl Ray Farty her entire life for the sake of my sister being quirky, 2) pregnancy brain aside, surely my sister would realise her child will be called Ray Farty once it's pointed out, have a laugh, change her mind, and this will end up being a funny story to tell at her daughter's future wedding or something, and 3) my sister is a bit of a joker so I also initially thought she was just pulling a prank or joking. But if she was joking, she took the joke really, really far. She spent $400 on a mural painted on one wall in the nursery (she wanted to "debut" the finished nursery to everyone at the baby shower, including her husband, who was forbidden to see it beforehand) that had RAEFARTY incorporated into it that now needs to be repainted. She also bought herself a "birthing gift" (is this even a thing??) she'd have my brother-in-law present to her in front of everyone at the hospital: a $900+ gold bracelet with R, A, E, F, A, R, T, and Y charms. The baby book also has Raefarty embroidered on the cover. I contacted my sister's best friend Katie (not her real name) if my sister has told her anything about the spelling change. She found out about Raefarty after the blow up with my sister, as my sister wanted to get Katie on her side. Katie, who's a teacher, was equally horrified about the spelling and told me this is the worst attempt at a creative name she's ever seen. The intervention of sorts (the Farty Party, if you will) included me, my sister, her husband, his mother and father, my mother, and Katie. My sister refused to believe anyone could possibly see Raefarty as Ray Farty and that we were just mad that she was taking creative license and that "everyone does that nowadays." My sister said children are not that cruel to bully her daughter for her name and Katie said plenty of kids are cruel enough and the others would join in so they're not singled out themselves. My sister countered that as long as all the adults are pronouncing it correctly that it'll be no problem and Katie told her that not only would the adults not know how to pronounce it to begin with, but that as long as 'fart' is in the name, kids will latch right onto that. I was happy Katie was there because she's shared "interesting" names her students have had over the past few years, so I knew her opinion on this would probably be the only one to sway her. My sister cried for about 10 minutes and finally agreed to entirely change the name because even Rafferty was tainted because we had all ruined it for her. We told her to take her time to consider a new name. She told us she still wanted to honor my mother and she suggested she'd combine my mother's first name with her mother-in-law's name and created a name on the spot that included a crass term for a lesbian. When my mother pointed that out, she started crying again and accused us of not letting her be a mom and her husband suggested we leave it for now and we should all go and give her space. It's been radio silence until my sister texted me a couple of hours ago that she and her husband landed on Theodora and she is absolutely in love with it. She even decided by my unborn niece looks like a Theodora in the ultrasounds (she got those creepy 3D ones done where every baby looks like the same copper potato). I replied that that was lovely and that I'm so happy she's happy. It's not my taste, but at least it's not Thee O'Doorrugh or some crap like that. So there you go, my niece has been saved from being called Ray Farty. I'm invited to the baby shower again and I know this is just a little blip with my relationship to my sister and we'll be fine, but Katie will be taking over as Godmother, which is fine by me. I can always be Godmother to their next child, who will probably be named something like Tara m'Sue. Thank you all for seeing the same thing I did and letting me know stopping Raefarty from coming into existence was the right thing to do. Some of OOP's Comments: Commenter: "She also bought herself a "birthing gift" (is this even a thing??) she'd have my brother-in-law present to her in front of everyone at the hospital" What the actual fuck. Silly name aside, what is this? Some kind of social media fuelled "look at me and how wonderful I am to get a gift as a reward for giving birth"? This feels very tacky to me. The whole "push present" concept gives me the ick. OOP: I agree. I've never heard of this before and it seems crazy. But also... if I ever ruin my body and push out a watermelon I'd kinda want a reward, too, though! Commenter: Pretty please tell us the amalgamation of her mother and MIL's names. OOP: There's probably no anonymity left on this situation, so here it goes. My mom is Lesley. Sister's MIL is Yvonne. The name was Lesyvonne. Pronounced Lezzie Von, like my niece is the lesbian baroness of some German village. "I'll have the staff prepare the birkenstocks for Lezzie von Fartenberg's arrival." Several commenters link to the story being published outside of reddit: People Magazine Link AOL News Link *****New Update Post: January 3, 2025 (1.5 months later)****\* Title: Raefarty has made it to the party! I don't know if you remember my post from a few weeks back about my sister wanting to name my niece Raefarty (pronounced Rafferty and not at all like Ray Farty). My niece has been born! Two weeks earlier than expected, but she is healthy and home now. When my sister first held her, she said, "She's so adorable," and got an idea: She wanted to change from Theodora to Theodorable. Thankfully my BIL put his foot down. He did give her carte blanche on the middle name. When it was supposed to be Rafferty, they went with Rose to counterbalance Rafferty being different. Now that Theodora was the "normal" name, and because my sister just cannot not be extra, she chose Jaczynvil. Theodora Jaczynvil. A Raefarty Rose by any other name would smell as sweet. We are not from Florida. BIL is not from Florida. I don't think my sister's ever been to Florida, much less to Jacksonville. I asked her how she came up with it and she said she always liked geographical names, which is news to me because I specifically remember a conversation about names months ago and she said she hated when parents name their kids place names like Camden or Brooklyn because "they're trying way too hard." But you do you, Raefarty's mom. Also, our city has a pretty sizeable Polish-American population and people will certainly try to pronounce it like it's a Polish last name, but at least the craziness is confined to the middle name. And there's no gas or slurs involved. Some of OOP's Comments: thapersonyoudontknow: Thanks for the update on Rae Farty!! At least it's a middle name... And thank goodness BIL stopped the other craziness!! OOP: Props to my BIL this time around. He said the look on the nurse's face when my sister suggested Theodorable was all he needed... lol! Capable_Box_8785: The entire internet remembers Raefarty. Your sister is a legend but that middle name tho... a full on tragedeigh. OOP: When we heard the name, my mother warned me, "Let's not go through this again. It's just the middle name." So I behaved myself. BroadwayGirl27: Does your sister understand the legacy she has created?? 🤣🤣 OOP: A few people know about the post, but I don't think she does... or is too embarassed to admit she knows. But she's not really on social media much except for WaterTok vids. [editor's note- WaterTok is people sharing recipes for like... flavored 'water.' But sometimes no water is involved or it is a monstrosity posing as water. Kurtis Conner did a video on it if you want to find out more. But regardless... it's certainly a more niche community.] MirandaR524: It has even made its way to TikTok. OOP: Suely she must know by now. :/ Sorry not sorry. I did what I needed to do to save Miss Farty Rae. submitted by /u/LucyAriaRose to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

My mom and “Jenny” have been best friends since they were little, we aren’t actually related but I still call her “Aunt Jenny.” Jenny’s daughter “Ellie” is also 16 and Jenny is sadly the kind of mom who thinks Ellie is never wrong. Here were some examples from over the years: Ellie stole a hair ribbon from another girl? The other girl was lying because she was jealous of Ellie. The teacher gave Ellie an F because she didn’t do the work? The teacher is also jealous of Ellie. (Also yea I know there are bad teachers out there and have had a few myself. But every single one and all the time? Really?) Ellie’s sister “Annie” hasn’t talked to Ellie since moving out? Nothing happened and Jenny has no idea why Annie is refusing contact. (Jenny is so in denial about this one especially. Something obviously happened that Jenny doesn’t want to admit to.) Mom notices this too, but she usually just changes the subject away from Ellie but never says anything about it directly to Jenny because she doesn’t want it to hurt the friendship. Jenny usually does take the hint and changes the subject. Mom took me to a baby shower where Jenny happened to be, so they obviously talked and my mom mentioned that me and my friends have a camping trip planned soon. Jenny was openly hinting that I she wanted me to invite Ellie too. Mom picked up on it and basically tried inviting Ellie along. So before she finished her sentence I loudly said “Oh Hell no!” Jenny clearly wasn’t happy, and Mom told me that my trip was cancelled. By the time we got home, she luckily changed her mind about canceling the trip but was still pissed at me. I said that her and Jenny have been friends forever, but I didn’t choose to be Ellie’s friend, and didn’t want her coming along. Mom said she knows I don’t have a great opinion of Ellie and that she knows Ellie has plenty of issues, but I should have declined respectfully instead of embarrassing Jenny and was capable of saying something like “Sorry, I would prefer nobody else come since we don’t have room or supplies for another person/my friends aren’t comfortable with someone they know well coming along” I realize I could have been more respectful, but I was also trying to put a stop to that immediately. Also, we got some looks, just because I admit I was pretty loud, but everyone outside of Jenny and Mom seemed to move on almost immediately. So I think she’s turning the “embarrassment” into a bigger deal than it actually was. AITA? submitted by /u/Icy_Coconut_3052 to r/AmItheAsshole [link] [comments]

First time mom here and planning for our baby shower in November (: We’re already doing a few “untraditional” things such as not opening gifts in front of everyone and not having it be only women attending, we want all of our friends and family to celebrate with us! Basically, we want this to be a stress-free fun time for our guests and us. There will be games, catered food, and we’ll be in a beautiful setting with lots of trees and a river. Our theme is nature/woodsy based as my partner and I work outside as white water raft guides and have a big passion for the outdoors (: My question is, what are some things you wish you did or didn’t do for your shower? I’m thinking maybe a photo booth area? All ideas welcome submitted by /u/Working_Tale_5156 to r/BabyBumps [link] [comments]

I am not OP. That is u/PollutionPrior2939 who posted to r/AmItheAsshole TW: mention of past eating disorder Original Post July 9th, 2024 I (22f) and my husband (23m) got married young, I was eighteen, he was nineteen. Both of us knew we always wanted to get married and start a family young. I started college two years ago, and he just graduated with a Bachelor of Biomedical Science. My husband has a girl best friend (23f), who i'll call Sam, who he met in College, both of them grew up Baptist, and while he's left the church, they had a very similar childhood and bonded quite quickly. Despite what you may be thinking her and I got along really well. She and I liked the same music and we were both studying in relatively the same fields so she became a friend of mine as well. Since I found out I was pregnant though, some issues have started to arise. We announced our pregnancy on social media after we told our parents. Sam texted my husband a congrats text and then told him to pass on her well wishes to me. She's been texting him nonstop with baby advice and what she likes to call "advice for mama" which includes sometimes relatively targeted jabs at what I should eat. Honestly i kept brushing the texts off, but it got a point where the conversations were less about the baby and more about me which I was getting increasingly uncomfortable with because she wasn't texting me she was texting my husband. My husband acknowledged this and has just started to show them to me and ask what I want him to do. I just told him to ignore them. When i announced I was having a baby shower and sent out the invites, I recieved a text from Sam. She said something along the lines of wanting to host my baby shower and set it up. I told her politely that my mom was planning on hosting it with the help of my sister and that it was a special moment for them and I wouldn't want to take that away. Well Sam ignored that message, because the next day, she came over and insisted we start working out arrangements for the venue. I told her once again, my mom and sister were hosting it and she told me that she should take her advice and let her plan it because she'd ensure that the baby shower would be better if she planned it particularly because she'd be working on the menu. Whether it was pregnancy hormones or just bottled up rage, i told her that the jabs she'd been making at me behind my back about my diet during this pregnancy to my husband are really annoying at that no she cannot host this shower and from now on her unsolicited advice was not appreciated especially if she can't say it to my face. That night my husband's phone blew up with messages from Sam saying that he had no right to show her those messages and they were just supposed to just be health tips because Sam was studying nutritional science and only wanted to help her best friend and ensure a happy baby and life. I know she had somewhat good intentions and she's been a good friend to my husband and to me so AITA? UPDATES IN COMMENTS Verdict was NTA Added Comments responding to a downvoted commenter who brought up Sam is more knowledgeable about nutrition and maybe trying to help I decided not to read a lot of the messages she sent simply because I didn't care, but according to my OBGYN I'm eating perfectly normal things for a healthy pregnancy. I've always been on the skinnier side and through high school I was severely underweight, but when I got pregnant I needed to eat more to sustain a healthy weight, I don't know if Sam knows that but I do know that according to my doctor I'm actually eating quite well so far. + Are you sam undercover?... I have to ask. Look i don't know her intentions but you saying "you have been and are still perhaps underweight" thanks for your unsolicited opinion on my body based on the small amount of information you have been given. I have been eating healthy, and I am now a healthy weight. As for the advice sam was giving me, it was sound advice yes, medically i'm sure it was perfectly normal advice, i'm not arguing with that, but my issue comes from her unsolicited comments, advice that was not ever given to me under the pretences of being a good friend. The advice was given to my husband, and apparently I was not supposed to see it. I don't know if you yourself have ever been pregnant but i'm going to assume no. Advice you don't ask for, comments on how you eat, what you eat, everyone loves to put their two cents in, but as long as my doctor says i'm healthy and i'm eating healthy, then as far as i'm concerned other people's opinions that I never asked for, can shove off. OP Adds extra info in the comments Added Info sorry I have to post this here due to character limits: Hi everyone OP here, just wanted to give some more context and info and answer a lot of your burning questions. Also thank you for all the well wishes, our baby girl is healthy and happy from what i've heard from our OBGYN. Okay here goes. Sam is in a short term relationship, they've been dating for about two months and he's nice. I haven't talked to him much but from what I have gathered he treats her well. ​ I was severely underweight for most of high school. My mom was always very thin and so was I, but in high school I suffered from an ED for a while and lost a lot of weight very quickly. For the past three years i've been working with a therapist and food specialist to maintain a good diet, and that has not changed since pregnancy. My OBGYN is happy with my health and the health of the baby. Sam does not know this, only my close family, friends and husband do. I don't share that info with many people because i don't find it necessary to. ​ Sam met my husband first before I met her, husband and I had been dating for three years by then, we started dating in high school. She has never expressed interest in my husband, that i know of. ​ It was not his choice to ignore the messages, but mine. Pregnancy has given me a lot of unnecessary stress and I didnt want to add to that by causing more drama with people, so if it was his way he would've shut her down. I told him not too because Sam has always been a passionate person and I didn't think much about the messages when they first started. That has since changed. ​ What I found most weird about the situation was that I was apparently not allowed to see those messages yet they were about me and how I was eating. Some of them were sort of snarky, the worst one I saw was along the lines of criticizing me for wanting macdonalds at three in the morning when apparently, a big mac, a large fries and a large vanilla thickshake is not healthy for the baby. I did cry a little bit after reading that, and my husband did send a text message saying that I was allowed to crave stuff during my pregnancy, which she ignored. ​ Husband and I are probably going to go low contact with her for a bit. Also, he rarely hangs out with her anymore, and if he does, he invites me, but I don't always go because i'm tired. ​ Edit: IT WAS MY CHOICE TO GO LOW CONTACT NOT MY HUSBANDS! Please stop criticising him for this decision as it wasn’t his. Im aware this post has now become a place where many people are insinuating that Sam and my husband may have something going on, I assure you, they do not. My reasoning for going low contact and not no contact are my own and it is what i am comfortable with at this moment. Thank you Update 1 July 10th, 2024 UPDATE Hi everyone, first I just want to thank you for all your support, truly it means the world. Okay so Hubby and I phoned Sam today and talked to her about the issues we were having with how she was acting. I explained that i was very uncomfortable with the fact that she had been texting my husband not me about my pregnancy and eating habits and that when she assumed she would be granted secrecy and she wasn’t she got mad. Sam explained that in the moment it seemed like a good idea not to text me directly in case she overstepped and made me mad, so she was hoping that if she explained things to my husband he would be able to relay that info to me casually. She assured she just wanted to help protect and nurture the baby and to that i said that this isnt her baby. I am perfectly capable of making sure the baby is healthy. She apologised and explained that truly she only thought she was doing something good. Husband and I explained we are just going to distance ourselves a bit because this situation has mot only made me uncomfortable but husband also said that he needs to focus on his wife right now and Sam needs to take a backseat. I don’t think she was overly happy with this but she said okay. She asked if she was still invited to the baby shower and Hubby said it may be best that she skips it but I explained if she wants to her invitation is still valid and she is still welcome. Sam did text me after the phone call asking if we can meet for coffee so i’m seeing her tomorrow. I’ll update you guys on how that goes. Honestly I think she was just misguided. Shes not a bad person at heart. Thanks! OP edited the previous comment for a final update OP Posted a final update July 10th, 2024 UPDATE TWO This will probably be the last update I do unless something else happens but safe to say after today, Sam is out of our lives! Essentially i did go see Sam, and she was not alone, in fact she brought her cousin who is… pause for effect… a therapist! About five minutes into Sam’s opening monologue I left. She explained that after hubby and I told her we wanted low contact she realised that clearly the stress of expecting a baby had caused me to act irrationally and she wanted me to have someone to speak to. She even tried to dress it up by saying that yay i didn’t have to pay for this. Yippee! Anyway I left. Hubby sent her a message saying we need distance and not to contact us for a while edit: this does not mean we are going low contact, we are going no contact, as i stated she is out of our lives. Sam’s a bit irrational right now and we just want to minimise fallout hence telling her “for a while” Not to psychoanalyse but honestly I think Sam needs help. Clearly she cares, but its too much. And honestly its insulting how little she thinks i can look after myself and my baby. Her overbearing personality has its limits and honestly I cant take it. Anyways thank you for all your support. If theres another update i’ll post here. For now, bye! I am not the original poster. Please don’t contact or comment on linked posts submitted by /u/secure-raspberry-763 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

This happened around 2 years ago, but I've recently been thinking about it because every so often, I get the "but he's still your dad" comment every time the subject comes up and today, it happened again. When I (26F) was 18, I went no contact with my parents for a little over 5 years. Both of my parents were/are toxic, but my father was a bit worse. To put things in perspective, im the middle child, yet still im the only one to have never gone on a family vacation, because i just wasnt ever considered family the way my siblings were. I spent most of my adulthood wondering why i wasnt good enough. Still, I always yearned for a dad and a mom. Two and a half years ago, I was pregnant and just getting out of an abusive relationship. I was isolated from everyone, even friends. After going to therapy and working on my mental health, I decided I needed to establish a support system for myself and my baby. In hopes that they had changed, I reached out to both my parents. They had finally separated during my period of no contact, so they were living separately. My mom lived in a different state, so she wasn't able to help much. My parents seemed thrilled at the idea of having another grandchild and seemed really supportive at first. My dad was dating a new woman and I thought she was really sweet at first. But then she got really controlling and manipulative really quickly. I'd see her call my teenage sister the most horrible names, and it was suddenly clear why my sister always hated her. One time she INSISTED on coming to my last ultrasound appointment with me and my dad. And I could only have one person in the room with me (COVID), so she sat in the car. The appointment took around 45 minutes to an hour. When we got back to the car, I was feeling SO happy over seeing my baby. It was an amazing moment, until we opened the car doors and she started literally yelling at us for taking so long. She very quickly soured a sweet moment. I could list off all the things she's done, but its not worth it. Anyway, The place I was living in wasnt the safest. My dad let me stay at his house for almost a month, just so I wouldn't have to spend even longer in a bad environment until I closed on my house. They were even "nice" enough to start working on a nursery for my baby at THEIR house. Which, I didn't think anything of, because his girlfriend said she wanted to watch the baby while I worked. It just seemed like excited grandparents to me. I was excited to have such a great support system during such a tough time in my life. During this time, he made it very clear, he wanted/expected to be in the delivery room with me when I gave birth. He wasn't willing for it to be my mom AND him because he refused to be in the same room as my mom (HE was the cheater, but acted like she was the devil), so it had to be JUST him. Personally, I didn't like the idea of being in such a vulnerable position AND being naked, infront of my dad, but I was just planning to do what he wanted anyway because I always wanted a dad, so if I had to make some sacrifices to get that, then I was okay with it. Towards the end of the month, I had my baby shower and people really came together to help me. By the end of the day, I had pretty much everything I needed and more. Right after the baby shower, my dad told me he should lock the gifts into the room behind his. That they'd be safe in there. So, I agreed. I mean, he had put me through a lot when I was a kid, but even so, I could trust him not to steal from me and my unborn child, right? No. The week before i was supposed to move into my house, I called him while he was on his break at work. I was nesting pretty bad. I asked him If he could unlock the door in his bedroom when he got home, or let me know if there's another key, just so I could get the things ready to bring to my house. I wasn't adamant about it, just asked him to do it whenever he had the chance or whenever we were both free, since i worked too. I was very polite about this. The sellers were letting me move in some of my things early, so i wanted to get a lot of the stuff done. He said NO. He refused to EVER let me have my things. I wish I could tell you there was some sort of trigger to this or that I saw this coming, but I didn't. It really did come out of nowhere. I thought we were good. He went on about how I probably wasn't even going to let him in the delivery room with me (I had planned on it, I never told him otherwise.) After he said that, I told him he'd never be in my life and that he would never meet my child or any future children I have. And I meant it. Even if he HAD given me my stuff back, the fact that he said he wasn't going to, at any point....I can't have someone in my life that even CONSIDERS doing that to me or my children. I went on to have my mother and my sister in the delivery room with me and it was an incredible experience. After the whole ordeal, MULTIPLE family members told me they were glad I cut contact with him, because they were SURE he was going to try to do something so I'd look bad, so he could have custody. I'm so glad I didn't trade one abuser for another by continuing to let my dad walk all over me. I've now moved to another state, living with the man of my dreams and our 2 children that my father has never met. Today, me and a friend from my hometown were messaging, having a conversation about our parents. She has a very good relationship with her parents. When I brought up that my father hasn't even met my children, she said I overreacted when I cut contact and I'm denying my children a bond with their grandparents. So reddit, AITA for going No contact with my father? EDIT: To answer some questions; yes, I did tell everyone who gave me gifts that their gifts were stolen. Yes, I did contact the police. And the sheriff. Neither would help me. They told me I'd need to bring my father to court. I would've done that, but I had just bought a house. I couldn't afford a lawyer and I was just ready to be done with him completely. Me and my now husband got together shortly after I had my first child. He was my biggest supporter. We were long time friends and it was a long time coming, so we got serious pretty quickly and he's raised both children as his own. EDIT #2: I couldn't break down the door or take it off its hinges. There were other people in the house, as my dad's gf doesn't work. I was 9 months pregnant and already under a lot of stress. They definitely would've called the cops if I tried to break into the room. submitted by /u/Peach-Buzz18 to r/AITAH [link] [comments]

My SIL is having a baby shower, and I was asked to do prizes for the games. I’m trying to figure out good options, I don’t just want to get junk that people will throw out, and I also don’t want to spend too much. What are some prizes you’d enjoy getting? Thank you! submitted by /u/Specialist-Speech772 to r/beyondthebump [link] [comments]

My husband and I are expecting our first baby in a few months and my SIL offered to throw us a baby shower. I was really in love with the idea and accepted and then my MIL got involved. But my SIL disrespected the one clear boundary regarding the baby shower that I had and she refuses to let it go despite being told by not only me, but MIL and my husband as well. She insisted that my half siblings should be invited as well as finding bio family from both sides and inviting them. This is an absolutely never thing for me. I did not invite them to my wedding and I have not seen or spoken to them in several years. But she's going extremely hard on the "but family" argument. Background: I'm an affair baby. My father cheated on his wife and I was the result. His wife kicked him to the curb and he and my mother stayed together. I was born and they did not take care of me and when I was 3 I was removed from their care by CPS. None of my biological family wanted me. My mother's family were supposedly good Christians who couldn't stand the thought of an illegitimate affair baby and my father's family were "not in the position to take care of such a young child". My father's ex wife ended up taking me. I'm not sure why. The fact she was paid to take care of me was possibly the reason. I do know is I was not loved. My half siblings ranged from 11 to 17 at the time and they all hated me. It was made perfectly clear to me from a young age that I was never to call her mom and I was never to call them my brothers and sisters. My father's family were still in their lives and knew how I was treated and they wouldn't even report it to my case worker. I mentioned it once or twice but I think she found it easier to dismiss a kids words. My childhood was miserable and I was seen as a burden and as someone who should never have been born. My half siblings continued visiting their mom as adults and all just made it clear they couldn't stand me and were disgusted by my presence. I just left when I was 16 and nobody ever reported me missing or came looking for me. My SIL knows my background and she knows that I would never want them in my life again. But push she continues to do and I spoke to my MIL and she tried to take over more but SIL insisted that she had offered first. When she brought it up again I told her to cancel the shower and I would rather have no shower than one thrown by her when she can't respect my boundaries. MIL stepped in and is now hosting one but SIL is pissed because she had spent a while planning and had paid for some stuff already. MIL said she'd give her the money back but SIL said I was in the wrong and I should appreciate her for wanting to "give me back my family". I told her I had no family until I met them and she needs to accept that my blood relatives do not want me and I do not want them. I know she keeps telling my husband how wrong I was and he keeps defending me but I feel bad about the tension now. AITA? submitted by /u/SpendOk2589 to r/AmItheAsshole [link] [comments]

Hey sexy mamas I need some advice. My friends are holding a baby shower for me in a few weeks, and I also have several pregnant friends. After 30 years of very limited interaction with babies I am quite clueless about the whole situation. I want some ideas of your most unexpected but most appreciated baby shower gifts, both to gift to my wonderful friends, but also to suggest when people ask what I want/need. Thanks! submitted by /u/Ordinary_Parsnip_680 to r/NewParents [link] [comments]

UPDATE AT THE BOTTOM TA account My (32F) husband of 7 years (32M) and I are pregnant. We have one previous child, Anne (6F, fake name) who has epilepsy. She has had 1 seizure before (relevant later in the story). ​ To be honest, my MIL is horrible. She gives backhanded compliments, insults me and my looks and always tries to set my husband up with other people. The last time we went to her place she said she could make my husband a tinder account, or set him up with some girl who is the daughter of MILs best friend. My husband has told her to stop, but doesn't do anything else. News flash, she doesn't stop. ​ When sending invites to my baby shower, I told my husband I didn't want my MIL there. He told me, "since you're not letting my own mother be in the room with you when you're giving birth, you have to invite her to this. You should be grateful that you get a baby shower at all". Also, he wouldn't even be at the baby shower, as he has something at work. ​ At the baby shower, I was telling everyone how our baby was once again a girl. My MIL then decided to say, "Wow another girl! Let's hope she's not like her sister". I asked what she meant by that and she said, "we don't need any other diseases in the family. Imagine seeing a new-born baby drop to the floor and shake everywhere. It's embarrassing". At first I was honestly confused as she clearly had 0 idea what she was talking about. But then the pregnancy hormones really kicked in and I started crying hysterically. I left my friends house and my mother drove me home. ​ Once I got home I saw my husband there. I didn't know why he was home and not at work but I just didn't stop crying. He said, "where are all the gifts? You do realise how expensive some baby things can be". I honestly couldn't believe he said that of all things so I decided to lock myself in our bedroom. ​ About 10 mins later he tells me he got a text from his mother explaining what happened. He told me that I "caused a scene" and "should be happy I got to meet up with some friends today". I tried explaining how wrong what she said was and how she insulted our daughter and UNBORN baby. He said "well Anne's epilepsy medication isn't cheap so I see why she said what she said. You just interpreted it wrong. Apologise to my mother." I packed a bag and called my mother to pick me up. I'm currently at her place and she's picking Anne up from school. My husband and his family keep blowing up my phone and calling me a "drama queen" along with other hateful names so I need to ask, AITA? Edit: WOW this blew up. I woke up to 700 new notifications so thank you all for your feedback. Just wanted to let y’all know that I am meeting up with my husband later today and we will discuss things. I will be showing him this posts and your comments. Also, thank you all for the kind messages and the awards too! However I don’t know what they do lol. Can someone please explain them to me? Thanks. See you soon. UPDATE: ok so I’d like to start by explaining my username. My friend (who hosted the baby shower) suggested the name as a joke. When I showed her the kind things y’all said I also asked, “why do people think I’m suicidal?”. So I’d just like to say I’m not and my friend apologised if we worried any of y’all. Ok now to what happened All of you were talking about how abusive my husband is. I guess I never realised it was abuse just because it wasn’t physical. I don’t know why I had that mindset, but I did. I sat him down and started reading. “You’re MIL is horrible” “Divorce this man” “Anne doesn’t deserve this” etc. I explained to him that I wanted a divorce. We were in a public cafe so I knew there was no way he’d physically hurt me. This was how the conversation went after I said I wanted a divorce: Husband: “So just because a few strangers on the internet told you to do something, you’re going to do it?” Me: “it’s not ‘a few’, it’s thousands.” Husband: “It doesn’t matter who it is, you don’t even know them” Me: “Well you don’t know the chefs in restaurants yet you trust them to cook your food” Husband: “Shut the fuck up” Me: “it’s not my fault all you do is run to mommy and choose her over your daughter” Husband: “I don’t give a fuck about you or your opinion you fucking bitch” Me: “ha ok” After that he stormed out of the cafe. I think y’all would be glad to know that I emptied our joint bank accounts and took any valuables. Y’all might think “oh that’s a happy ending to the story” but there’s way more. So my FIL contacted me (which is weird we only talk at family gatherings and what not) and told me he apologises on behalf of his wife’s actions. He told me that she never liked me because I “stole him away” from someone called Melissa?Apparently my husband and her were together during college but she cheated on him. MIL however still loved her like a daughter. Turns out, all these years we’ve been together he’s been cheating on me with Melissa. MIL knew. FIL knew. Everyone knew. It explains a lot, like why he wasn’t at work that day. What actually happened was Melissa came over to our house and they had sex IN MY OWN BED. I was disgusted hearing it. I’m not sure how but she must’ve left before I came home. So basically Melissa told MIL and MIL told FIL. FIL said he regretted not telling me sooner and kept apologising over and over again. I was shocked and started crying. I thanked him for telling me and said I just needed some space. However he also told me that MIL was telling a different story to what happened on that day (none of my soon to be ex husbands family was there so they didn’t know what happened) and that’s why everyone was telling ME to apologise to MIL. MIL told them that I started yelling at her for “wearing a better dress than me on my special day” and I “threw drinks and food on her”. (She made a mess of her dress previously so I’m guessing that’s what she used as ‘evidence’ lol). FIL said, “the woman really loves herself. In a couple of days I can guarantee you we’ll have another picture of herself hanging in our living room”. I laughed and said goodbye. I’ve also gotten a lawyer to sort out some divorce stuff. I’ll give y’all another update soon. ❤️ Edit: second update is under my profile Edit: to the people saying this story is fake, go ahead and believe that. Nothing I can say will change your mind so your opinion is fair. However, I don’t believe you need to be as rude as you were because I am going through a bit of a struggle. Thank you. submitted by /u/toaster_inthebathtub to r/AmItheAsshole [link] [comments]

This is super embarrassing so throwaway. SIL recently got pregnant and she asked my mom if she could host her baby shower at the house since we have a pretty back garden and deck. Mom gave the go ahead. Now SIL and I aren't best friends but I'm nice to her when we do interact, for my brother's sake more than anything. But SIL never liked me. I've no idea why. I've never said more than the usual polite conversation with her when my brother is around (i've never interacted with her without him there). So when I wasn't invited to her baby shower I wasn't shocked/hurt. But the day of I went to the kitchen and SIL was in there grabbing some finger foods. She didn't look happy to see me but before she could leave and head out back one of her friends came in and said hi. I said hi back and the friend asked who I was and I introduced myself as her sister in law. Friend was all smiles and asked if I was going to join them outside. SIL was glaring at me so I said probably not. I used my lactose intolerance as an excuse, saying I didn't think I'd be able to eat any of the food and I didn't want to make anyone feel awkward by not eating when they were. That line usually works but the friend said they had a few dairy free dishes because one of their friends was also lactose intolerant. Then I tried to use the 'I have a paper due' excuse and SIL latched onto that and said if I was busy with school then they shouldn't distract me. The friend said that was true but she started making me a plate of all the dairy free options anyways, saying they had tons and the more that gets eaten the less they have to pack up. I just wanted to leave and not be glared at by SIL anymore so I just thanked her and said it was nice to meet her before taking the plate and going to my room. I ate the food and it was good. It was some kind of dumpling, grilled veggies/meat, and soy mac n' cheese. But I think there was some kind of dairy in either the dumpling or pasta because my stomach started hurting REALLY bad almost the second I finished eating. I ran to the bathroom but mom was in the one by my room so I had to use the one by the kitchen. I barely got in and got my pants down before it was a volcano of painful diarrhea. It was so loud and felt like my body was trying to shit out all my organs. After I was done my SIL screamed at me for ruining her baby shower. Apparently it started raining so they all came inside to finish up and could hear me blowin up the bathroom and left? I apologized but she was sobbing and my brother texted me and said I was an asshole for eating food I knew would cause that reaction and then embarrassing his wife. I feel really bad for embarrassing her. Should I apologize again? AITA for not double checking the food was dairy free? edit--- So this actually happened a week ago and today I got a facebook friend request from the friend of my SIL who gave me the food. I planned to ignore it (because good god what would I say to someone who heard me pooping out my intestines?) but I was curious and read her message. She apologized for triggering my lactose intolerance and said it was the soy mac n' cheese that did it (it upset the other LI friend too she said but not as bad) and it was a complete accident. She used soy cheese to make it but after getting home she looked up soy cheese and apparently there's still dairy in it unless it's specifically labelled vegan soy cheese. She said sorry again and told me she wanted to apologize at the baby shower but (and here's the interesting part) SIL apparently kicked everyone out while I was still using the bathroom. According to the friend (Hannah) the guests only left because SIL basically booted them out in a fit of anger. I told my mom what Hannah told me and mom isn't happy with SIL lying and screaming at me (mom hadn't known SIL screamed at me cuz she had her headphones on). She had only heard SIL's side of things before today. Idk what's going to happen with SIL and everything. submitted by /u/FartBomb_41 to r/AmItheAsshole [link] [comments]