Best Squishies

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... seriously, since all of the squishies in our army are friends ... any injured it's easily the best place for you." Lissa pouts, ... able to escape." "That's the best you got? Running away?" Vaike ...

... bonuses and penalties (and quests best and worst suited for this... bit slower. A bunch of squishies going in together will have ...

... flute and one of the best off-seers, even serving as a ... Nefarious voice, "I'll grind you squishies into soup!" (Play "Vs. Klaww" ...

... test which we passed. At best we surprised her in a... security forces mobility, but the squishies"- you glance around and ... units." While searching for the best anti-ASF units gives me: "LRM ...are the best unit against ASF. Also Archers ... pretty unsound. What is the best defense against ASF? (The units ...

... valley and a bunch of squishies" His Wolverine crept up the..., Wright's Enforcer was probably the best machine, Taylor's Cicada was some ... galactic north", Kerensky sighed, "At best they can take over the ... Merlin might not be the best but it's my design, I ...

... the twerps pokemon doing their best to dodge and run from... more Amethio arrives, doing his best Tuxedo Mask impersonation and freshly... Amethio only having collected some Squishies. Cervantis is given info on... is still searching for more Squishies to stop the Laquium spread...

... the twerps pokemon doing their best to dodge and run from... more Amethio arrives, doing his best Tuxedo Mask impersonation and freshly... Amethio only having collected some Squishies. Cervantis is given info on... is still searching for more Squishies to stop the Laquium spread...

... the twerps pokemon doing their best to dodge and run from... more Amethio arrives, doing his best Tuxedo Mask impersonation and freshly... Amethio only having collected some Squishies. Cervantis is given info on... is still searching for more Squishies to stop the Laquium spread...

... the twerps pokemon doing their best to dodge and run from... more Amethio arrives, doing his best Tuxedo Mask impersonation and freshly... Amethio only having collected some Squishies. Cervantis is given info on... is still searching for more Squishies to stop the Laquium spread...

... the twerps pokemon doing their best to dodge and run from... more Amethio arrives, doing his best Tuxedo Mask impersonation and freshly... Amethio only having collected some Squishies. Cervantis is given info on... is still searching for more Squishies to stop the Laquium spread...

... the twerps pokemon doing their best to dodge and run from... more Amethio arrives, doing his best Tuxedo Mask impersonation and freshly... Amethio only having collected some Squishies. Cervantis is given info on... is still searching for more Squishies to stop the Laquium spread...

... the twerps pokemon doing their best to dodge and run from... more Amethio arrives, doing his best Tuxedo Mask impersonation and freshly... Amethio only having collected some Squishies. Cervantis is given info on... is still searching for more Squishies to stop the Laquium spread...

... since most of units are squishies and/or slow as hell... you get it. It always best when You and Your units...

... time trying to placate the squishies in your own caucus to... Noise Machine will do its best to pick them off one...

.... Just have to do the best I can and hope it's ... has them, always love new squishies. It will do for now...

... a game where you are best served by low or no-restriction... hit him instead of your squishies, then it's a good day... will almost always be your best move.

... not balanced. Starlord can one-clip squishies with body shots within ten.... He in fact has the best neutral burst combo in the ...

... Narcissist doing what she loves best which is looking after herself... playing with her toys, making squishies, talking to her friends about...

.... Usually Crusher will be the best target, but if you have ... Stove are very niche, probably best avoided unless you've got a ... Bomber's row, and your clunkers/squishies/anyone with ice block on ... tanks protecting any number of squishies. As vblu6 said, you can ... Pinkberry Juice is probably the best option if this is your ...

... and confirm kills on any squishies you get low. I've done... v 5 then die, The best ultron targets are the characters ...

... barb, Bard can be the best from fiddling with a stick, ... a rogue with that understanding. squishies just die if you get ...

... be like those other little squishies." One con rudely commented as... Autobot Buddy. The incredible, the best of three colors! Steelblast!" Squirrel.... ""What we're doing is the best for this whole–No, this ... doing this for what is best for this world, and the ...

... images that you do your best to weigh all at once... at him from inside their squishies, they can already understand what... at the Glameows doing their best to pounce for his butt... fine...he'll just do his best to climb! And besides, so... and when I try my best I can't even do it...

Just want to see how peoples league starts went? https://www.reddit.com/r/pathofexile2builds/comments/1tva4ky/4_days_into_the_league_review_your_build/ I need your help! Please post any poe2 builds you come across, be they reddit posts, youtube videos, moba/maxoll guides, forum posts, etc. Then if you want to help out more if you're familiar with a build archetype have a look at other builds posted here, if they don't pass the sniff test please let me know. I will do my best to have a look at each build myself before adding it but as above I'm not an expert here and will need a hand. Thank you everyone who helps out, I always appreciate the community effort that goes into creating a resource like this. Please read this before continuing This is not the same as the /r/PathOfExileBuilds index you may be used to seeing. My POE2 knowledge is FAR worse than my POE1 and so it's more likely bait builds are likely to sneak their way into this post. I am putting this post together because people have asked for this as a resource. Please do your due diligence when picking a build. If you aren't confident picking I'd advise following a creator who you have previously followed to success or asking in the comments here, there are plenty of helpful people happy to give advice. Useful League Links Return of the Ancients League info page Return of the Ancients patch notes Community links: Path of Building Community - a community tool for creating builds Filterblade - The place to get your loot filter The Path of Exile Wiki - The wiki to use, ignore the fandom one Craft of Exile - an excellent resource for helping you understand crafting Build Index 0.5 Return of the Ancients Druid GuyThatDies's Druid Wyvern Leveling Oracle Palsteron's Oracle Spell Totem DEADRABB1T's Oracle Plants Raxxanterax's Oracle Plants Allie's Oracle Spell Totem Woolie's Oracle Werewolf Zizaran x Steelmage's Oracle Spark TotemZizaran x Zen's Oracle Cast on Crit Comet Shaman Helm Breaker's Shaman Minion Army Helm Breaker's Shaman Lightning Minion CaptainLance's Shaman Meteor Bear Ronarray's Shaman Bear Waggle's Shaman Spell Totem Helm Breaker's Shaman Skeletal Sniper Huntress GuyThatDies's Huntress Grenade Leveling Asmodeus's Huntress Twister Amazon Lazy Exile's Amazon Lightning Spear Ritualist SillyIsLily's Ritualist Thorns Spirit Walker CaptainLance's Spirit Walker Tame Beast GhazzyTV's Spirit Walker Companions SiahZ's Spirit Walker Twister Snoobae85's Spirit Walker Twister Mercenary GuyThatDies's Mercenary Grenade Leveling Tactician Kingdom Twelve's Tactician Galvanic Shards KallTorak's Tactician Supporting Fire Blazeworks's Tactician Grenade Pin Witch Hunter Big Ducks's Witchunter Explosive Shot / Grenade Pohx's Witchunter Permafrost Bolt Aer0's Witchunter Permafrost Bolt Woolie's Witchunter Crossbow Run and Gun Gemling Legionnaire Monk GuyThatDies's Monk Glacial Cascade Leveling Acolyte of Chayula Invoker Martial Artist P4wnyhof's Martial Artist FGKorbyn21's Martial Artist Flicker / Falling Thunder Ronarray's Martial Artist Scorpius's Martial Artist Whilring Assault / Ice Strike + Bells Peuget2's Martial Artist Wyvern MilkyBK's Martial Artist Shattering Palm SillyIsLily's Martial Artist Mana Stacking Thorns Ranger GuyThatDies's Ranger Grenade Leveling Deadeye Fubgun's Deadeye Ice Shot Fubgun's Deadeye Ice Shot Leveling Moxsy's Deadeye Ice Shot / Snipe Pathfinder Reedmoorbook's Pathfinder Poison Crossbow Run and Gun Skadoosh's Pathfinder Corpsewade Decompose Squishy's Pathfinder Spark Sorceress Chronomancer lifecopy's Chronomancer Storm Lance Ky's Chronomancer Cold Spells Stormweaver Anime Princess's Stormweaver Spark Disciple of Varashta Goratha's Disciple of Varashta Plants Zizaran x Goratha's Disciple of Varashta Plants ds lily's Disciple of Varashta Summoner Ky's Disciple of Varashta Plants Helm Breaker's Disciple of Varashta Minions TovaDough's Disciple of Varashta Hardcore PhazePlays's Disciple of Varashta Sand and Flame Djinn GuyThatDies's Disciple of Varashta Leveling Warrior Titan Path of Evening's Titan Slams piggman's Titan Poison Bleed Shield Wall Warbringer POEGuy's Warbringer Grenade Ballista Totems Smith of Kitava Skadoosh's Smith of Kitava Bear Sanavixx's Smith of Kitava Whirling Assault Witch GuyThatDies's Witch Minions Leveling GuyThatDies's Witch ED Contagion Leveling Blood Mage PhazePlays's Blood Mage Ball Lightning & Volanco JayTX's Blood Mage Bleed Bow Infernalist XTheFarmerX's Infernalist ED Contagion FunkehChicken's Infernalist Shield Wall Helm Breaker's Infernalist Minion Army Helm Breaker's Infernalist Skeletal Sniper Lich Ronarray's Lich ED Contagaion / Bonestorm DEADRABB1T's Lich ED Contagion Helm Breaker's Lich Lightning Minion Helm Breaker's Lich Minion Army Helm Breaker's Lich Skeletal Sniper Abyssal Lich DEADRABB1T's Abyssal Lich Plants submitted by /u/NzLawless to r/pathofexile2builds [link] [comments]

I’m not sure if this belongs here but I came across a loaf of bread on top of my pantry. Best By date is SEPTEMBER 2025! I bought it at least around then and there is ZERO mold. The bread is still squishy (def stale but it’s still like….soft). No, I did not eat it. But my gasts are flabbered! submitted by /u/velvettriangles to r/StupidFood [link] [comments]

I know that title sounds dumb, but it will make sense. TLDR at bottom. I don't just like grapes, as Gavin Free said, I fuckin LOVE grapes. They are the best. Like if there are grapes I graze on them to the point where no else gets any, its a real problem. Thankfully my wife is not a big grape person, so it works out. That said I found out last night my wife has been running an experiment on me, and what she found is this; My brain, apparently, will not acknowledge grapes if they are not immediately in my direct line of sight. And its just grapes from what she has found. According to her this started months ago after we had another mini argument about how I wasted grapes. This mini argument usually happens because I put the groceries away and would put the bag of grapes on a shelf in the fridge, and then a couple days later she would move them to one of the drawers. By that point I had already grazed like 75% of the bag, and then by the weekend the remaining grapes are squishy and I don't like the texture. The mini would happen, we would then get more grapes, and the cycle would continue. My wife, being the amazing person she is wanted to figure out why this kept happening, so she started experimenting. What she included, but was not limited to, was; Hiding the grapes fully/partially behind other items to see if I would take any. Bringing up grapes at the store and then steering me in odd directions, to see if I would still seek out the grapes. Would not get grapes so as to test with other fruit Various containers, with or without lids After months of this she found that any fruit that I like beyond grapes can be put anywhere in the fridge or in any container, and I will still seek it out with 0 problems. However with grapes if they are not in the bag, or washed in a uncovered bowl, and basically in my immediate line of sight when opening the fridge, they more or less become a blind spot and go to waste. Since switching to putting them in an open bowl on the top shelf, I have wasted almost no grapes. Do I think my wife is a crazy person? Yes Do I love her for figuring this out? Also yes Do I think she did it partially to stop wasting money? Yes and I'm here for it lol And to be clear, as far as I am aware there's no like trauma or anything related to this. Like grapes didn't murder my father or something so no princess briding for me. TLDR - Wife would move grapes and I would stop eating them, she discovered they are the only fruit that turn into a blind spot for me if not directly in front of me. EDIT - yes i have tried frozen grapes, though I typically only eat them in relation to keeping my wine chilled. submitted by /u/brycejm1991 to r/CasualConversation [link] [comments]

Edit: I'm not complaining about the hero design or players who play Mercy. Not saying I can't aim or I suck either. I'm just saying that dmg boost makes me feel stressed out and I don't like it and I wanted to see why and see who feels that way too. Hey guys, Diamond DPS player here (main Pharah, but play most others too). Am I the only person who DESPISES being damage boosted/pocketed? I'm trying to see whether I'm crazy or there's other that feel like this. I see and hear soooooo many people who absolutely love it and manage to utilise it to the best of their ability, holding W down main and just deleting squishies. Whenever I play something like Pharah, Echo or Ashe, for example, I find a good sighline/angle and start doing my thing. Then, suddenly, I start glowing blue and it feels like Mercy is crawling up my ahh and literally telling me "YOU ARE BEING WATCHED AND JUDGED NOW, KILL SOMETHING!! QUICKLY, OR I WILL IGNORE YOU THE REST OF THE GAME!!!" And I've played Mercy, I know the satisfaction of the dmg dinks and assists when the DPS does damage. I know that's what they want from you. Then, once I get a few, she does not let go and keeps spamming "GOOD WORK!!! YES!! JA JA JA!!! SPLENDIDDDD!!! Am I crazy??? It feels like someone who likes that stuff has a praise kink or something...lol. Or I find a sneaky angle or go flank the backline on the DL, and all the enemy sees/hears is a blue-glowing DPS with a moth above them... we will probably both die, and our team has a singular lone Ana getting railed the entire game. And I feel so bad tho, because 99% of Mercy players are so nice and wholesome and good at their hero... but like... LEAVE ME ALONE PLS 😭 I mean... there are games where we all troll, feed our brains out and/or can't kill anything. Or games where we have to play a little more scared/passive... but the dmg beam feels like a demand to stop what you're doing and go tf in. And if you dare to not kill something, you receive no more love. Like that one teacher who obviously has favourites and everyone else is like a liability. Sometimes it also feels kind of unfair to the enemy team - I want to earn my kills by myself without cheese abilities and be proud of them. This may be a personality trait though, because I'm not a person who particularly enjoys help and being watched/judged like that... plus clingy things ick me out. It's like... pls let go of me!!! go kill something yourself or smth!! I am not a trash player, but whenever im dmg boosted, I feel like one. Every now and then though, I see a DPS players go like 'NO' whenever they're dmg boosted. I feel that.... but why is this like that? At the same time tho, if the Mercy never even dmg boosts me the whole game for whatever reason, I feel dismissed and hated hahahaha. It's such a weird thing. Anybody else??? image from: https://www.reddit.com/r/Overwatch_Memes/comments/jd8hku/cons_of_playing_mercy/ submitted by /u/Double-Hand3004 to r/Overwatch [link] [comments]

Since I am (still) a fan of Diablo games and had a lot of time on my hands I went a bit crazy and rerolled multiple times, here is my personal opinion on most \Edit goblin here]) all of the classes we have in the game atm: Warlock (stopped on T11): Pro: lots of builds new and amazing visuals some funny stuff you can do and lots of great defensive tools at your leisure Can be melee, can be range, can nuke screens, can be an assassin, can basically do the exploding chicken build from D3 Witch Doctor Con: a bit clunky at times and you will not be able to see anything on most builds due to the visual clutter that are most of warlock's sfx some builds are just a bit broken (Apocalypse hitting in the hundreds of trillions is a tad silly imo) while you have great defenses, surviving in t11+ will take some investment because you will probably be blind to any ground effects and need to adjust your build Barbarian (stopped on T8): Pro: op af lots of weapon slots for mythics and other fun aspects one of the most relaxed ways of farming in the game with WW barb Ragdolling stuff with big hammer smash is still as fun as on day one Con: still mostly exact same builds still one to two skills plus all shouts gameplay a bit...basic ? Another class that scales a bit too well imo (trillions just seems silly no matter what, then again at this point almost every class has figured out a way to see those numbers pop up so I guess it's more a general issue than specific to Barb or Sorc) Druid (stopped on t12+) Pro: best skill tree of all classes imo tons of fun build ideas to try omnistorm + wolf set charms is basically flickerstrike in a roundabout way (albeit you don't hold down right click but if you bind it to mousewheel it's kinda the same thing) and totally insane Companion druid is another super chill way to just blast t12+ Con: still some clunkiness at times with teleporting into the ground or getting stuck somehow (esp. with Wolf set teleports) transmogs are pointless because you are either a bear or a wolf now for 90% of all builds you will see Wolf and Lightning set are fun, the others are kinda boring imo one major defensive aspect I wanted to build around is broken (the resolve stacking one) and that put me off trying to keep improving my gear [Edit] : I'm talking about Glynn's Anvil aspect that should give dmg reduction based on resolve stacks. This currently doesn't work at all so it's kinda pointless which is sad because this aspect alone would probably solve most survivability issues on almost any build because you can temper resolve stacks onto armor which should net a ton of dmg reduction from this aspect alone) Paladin (stopped on t11): Pro: cool class great Transmogs (T2 WoW does look nice even if expensive af) -- but you wont see tmogs because 90% of all builds want permanent arbiter form Being able to support teammates with auras feels great and they also enable Paladins to get some free crit / res very early on iconic items like Herald of Zakarum and the sound of hammers being summoned is triggering my D2 nostalgia in all the best ways Con: auradin is kinda "eh" now surprisingly squishy considering we have items like Zakarum and Auras you constantly have to stack arbiter form stacks to actually do dmg which gets very tiresome imo it feels like there aren't that many interesting builds because it's either Arbiter stacking + dmg skill or "the other one" (Thorns Captain America) Necromancer (stopped on t12+): Pro: Blood wave is still fun and reigns supreme Mostly there build wise overall imo and now with unlimited mobility and teleports galore Lots of fun uniques or runewords that automate some of the more annoying parts like cursing or Corpse Tendrils Con: Minions still have subpar Ai imo Identity wise it feels more and more like "sorc but sometimes with skeletons" Sometimes you forget that some skills need corpses to work and will feel silly Can we please turn off the shouting from ultimates ? Blood wave Necro is basically "HYAAAAAH HYAAAAAH HYAAAAH" until your ears bleed (guess on theme there but please Blizzard my ears) just doesn't quite..."click" for me personally Sorcerer / Sorceress (stopped on t12+++) Pro: completely and utterly broken dps insane mobility to a degree that playing it almost becomes a hassle because you can barely keep up with the speed fire shield makes Mephisto fight almost bearable Con: too easy and too strong as Ball Lightning sorc (you basically get all the needed uniques and the set, casually stroll into t12 as a god and only go up from there) it seems like build wise it's still lightning sorc and lightning sorc and lightning sorc and maaaaaaaaaaybe something - NOPE it's lightning sorc with lightning blizzard now [EDIT ME HERE AGAIN - due to popular demand I have now also gotten a rogue and a spiritborn to max (thanks for whoever pointed out to me that you can just use max lvl caches on new classes to instaboost them) and put them through some speedgearing process to just get a feel for them so here goes for all you dex class enjoyers and thanks (no thanks 😛) for making me do this xD -- however enjoy these 2 opinions with a larger grain of salt than my entire ramblings beforehand because I really didn't spend much time on them, mostly I just did it because I felt bad about leaving all you rogue / spiritborn enjoyers hanging] Rogue (stopped on t8ish due to time constraints) Pro: leveling is fun and fast and we still are one of the more mobile zoom zoom classes I felt more tanky than for example Paladin probably because I mostly either spent time being in stealth (the new stealth set charms are amazing) or shot from a distance / or just froze everything and then blew it up Tons of build variety (honestly I was positively surprised here) - you can go melee, freeze, poison, shoot and stab things into the ground in a variety of ways - pick your poison (in a good way) [sry for this lame pun] Freezing mobs and then watching them explode just feels (insert *noice* meme dude here) Con: The stealth set charms are amazing, anything other than those feels kinda "eh" mostly because stealth set just reigns so hilariously supreme Lots of builds have a bit more positioning gameplay than I generally like until you really get better gear (which I didn't quite reach in the short time I took to just speed blast level it to appease the rogue enjoyers reading this post xD) Somehow they have become the "here comes the next bugged build clearing pit 150 in 30 seconds" class so I dunno why but it seems like rogue has the most wonky interactions the new / old "GoD" whirlwind rogue just feels un-rogue-ish to me, dunno why but I feel like after so many years of doing that build in diablo 3 I'm kinda over it at this point and not every class needs to be whirlwind barbarian Spiritborn (stopped on t6 because I kinda ran out of easy gearing stuff at this point) Pro: Gorilla big hand smooshing mobs into paste has always looked fun, is fun and will probably forever remain fun Poison creeper builds are finally viable from what I could tell in my arguably way too short time trying it out - YAY 😃 If you like summoning a big centipede and poisoning your enemies you're definitely going to have a good time If you liked perma evade gameplay we found a way to replicate it once again now with a bit less clunky mechanics (no need to bind evade on your mousewheel and have an unlockable mousewheel to truly zoom) Generally a mobile class that "feel" more dextrous than others somehow (can't quite put a name to it) Con: It's just...I dunno - the identity of Spiritborn seems weird to me. Am I a rogue who got comfy with some spirit animals ? Am I a monk that gave up fists for more stabby implements ? Am I some kind of animal summoner ? Especially now that we're out of Nahantu I'm having a hard time connecting with this class The poison set is super strong but also has this weird thing of having to kill something non boss for it to trigger which seems a bit convoluted to me Felt rather squishy on anything other than gorilla (mostly because gorilla just deals its damage faster than stacking poison dots from what I could tell) even though we have great mobility and some ok defensive tools Now I am sitting here on paragon 236 after a week of insane grind and am wondering what to play to finish the full season journey with and just goof around in t12 (no desire to push much really). Anyway maybe this helps someone, if you have any questions about builds used etc. just comment something --- If you read this whole thing I want to first congratulate on hitting 40 years old (jk) and thanks for taking time out of your likely busy day to read the ramblings of an old ADHD addled gamer. Cheers EDIT: I am so super stoked and eternally grateful that this random post by silly old me blew up and made it to the top of reddit and I am grateful for every single one of you who took their time, read my post and commented on it - no matter what it was. To quote Keeanu: You're breathtaking !! I have gleefully spent the past 3+ hours trying to answer all your great questions and amazing feedback - however I do still want to get back to playing the game for a bit longer myself (granted a lot less than this past week because I do actually have a real life and I do enjoy touching grass now and then) so I will tone down the answering because most of your (great and awesome) questions have been answered in one form or another at this point either by me or some other helpful individual engaging with this post 😃 Still here is a general tip thing summarised from what I've answered most: Get the warpath unlocks for lair boss nemesis+ portals to sometimes luck into insane loot drops from multiple bosses (just make sure you can survive something like Belial and Andariel stacking their mechanics) Make sure you get the Idols of War "Ancestral Tribute of Armaments" unlock from the Undercity tree as soon as possible because you can 5 to 1 cube those tributes into a mythic tribute which you can then run in a stack for tons of mythics for very little investment -- one caveat is that you also really want the left side unlocks from that tree called "Trials and Tributes" for the portal pranksters that all but make multiple mythic drops a guaranteed thing on your run if you are the person opening it and take your time to full clear the undercity to get more portal prankster kills (so either have a lot of gold to respec or grind to lvl 6 which takes quite some time) -- however if you prefer playing solo the middle path is perfect for just getting more mythic drop chances so I really suggest going for that Unless you really enjoy infernal hordes: avoid them - they take very long and are simply not worth doing beyond the seasonal unlocks atm You can gamble obol items for easy blue / white ancestral items that you can then cube into random ancestral unique items with the cube recipe - it needs a somewhat rare material but if you play long enough you will accrue at least a couple of those mats quite easily which can help you Belial is amazing. If you start doing tons of lair bosses (make sure to have a least the Two by Two unlock - even better if you get all the way to Ultimate Nemesis) you will get Belial husks which are the best way of avoiding the more cumbersome bosses (like butcher being super tanky or Astaroth and Bartuc being locked behind long grinds) to target farm certain uniques that you might want If you can't seem to get certain aspects to drop, remember that you can upgrade Rare items in the cube to legendary while also using Cube mats to somewhat force a certain kind of aspect - a quick and easy way to maybe luck into that rare aspect that seems to be elusive If you want to level fast and have a class that has some really strong screen clear ultimate skill, reroll your early war paths into undercity and try to craft / get some exp undercity tributes so you can double dip while also speed clearing because Undercity resets your ultimate all the time with its buff you get from doing the content Another great tip for leveling if you want to do a new character is to just craft blue items at lvl 1, cube upgrade them with random affixes so you can temper your max level tempers onto them and roll into lvl 1 penitent with thousands of hp and aspected and tempered offensive gear to completely smash penitent Almost all classes / specs are t10+ viable atm. Feel free to ignore the meta and just cook something up yourself, with sets and mythics being a lot easier to acquire than you might think (see points 1 and 2 about enhancing your loot) you can take any homegrown (and you're awesome for doing that !!) build into t10 at the very least. Don't be like me and just fotm hop around classes to find what you're enjoying, if you like something then do it and you will probably enjoy it a lot more than being the next Ball Lightning sorc that just melts t12. Final Edit with proof of my lunacy submitted by /u/Julch to r/diablo4 [link] [comments]

As the title states, this was my first season in which I focused on tanking. I came late into the season and read about the tank shortage and dps queues. Decided to roll tank and give it my best shot with the glowies. When I came back, the glowies were still limited to +5, but the following week they uncapped it. I almost exclusively used glowies as a guidance and played based on intuitive feel and party member feedback. Overtime there are pretty clear patterns in how Blizzard designs a dungeon to be pulled. I also have an addon that I would refer to sometimes (MDTHelper) which shows your MDT route on a minimap. I also made my push prior to hitting 280ilvl. I mostly ran my own keys and would just downgrade them to farm crests to raise ilvl. Majority of my climb and learning was when I was in the 260s and spamming 10s. Once I felt like I got the routes down then I just did a world tour and did all 12s in the high 260s and finished in the 270s. After this week I was able to jump to 280 as of just today. A lot of people complain about the squishiness of Pala. I personally only felt it when I ran in without defensives, ran in with my back to everything, ran in to too big of a pack, ignored pack mechanics, or my healer was afk. Other than that as long as I was aware of mechanics, I never would get one shot or be in a sketchy BDK situation. Majority of the times I am panicking over my party member's health and trying to hit them with BoS or Lay on Hands. I would typically run into packs with a defensive CD up, then I have a macro for wings/sentinel + combat potion + divine toll. And then I just hold X which is my keybind for the one button assist. I only really have to press defensives and utilities following this method. I think my best dungeon is probably WS due to me spamming it for Hero Track Heart of Wind. In the first room, my burst w/ lust usually peaks in the mid 400s. Extremely enjoyable and I will see how far I can continue to push it only following the glowies. Edit: There seems to be some curiosity behind why I actually use one button. I have carpal tunnel and I try my best not to aggravate it too much through gaming. Prot Pal always felt like I had to constantly be smashing buttons to min max dps, and I frankly just don't care that much since I'm a casual. Half the time I out dps geared DPS classes, perhaps not in single target on bosses, but in giant packs I absolutely smash and it feels AMAZING seeing the dps meter skyrocket your name to the top temporarily. Thankfully my livelihood is not dependent on my usage of a one button assistance in a video game, I'm not sponsored, I'm not a pro, I'm not a streamer. I'm just a chill cow trying to alleviate the "tank shortage". submitted by /u/fraser123567 to r/wow [link] [comments]

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I wanted to continue the trend Pngu, Viper and Rappen started recently 💛 The resourcepack is called Allure and it's available on Modrinth here! submitted by /u/Darq10 to r/Minecraft [link] [comments]

First and Foremost - WoWHead and IceyVeins talent builds are setup with Damage in mind for M+, not mitigation or healing. Adjusting for less damage and more defense, not following those builds, will help if you are struggling to live in M+ I will use Vengence Demonhunter as an example. Demonic Resilience Talent This talent allows Demon Hunters to get 2 charges of our powerful baseline defensive ability "Demon Spikes"(provides 5% damage reduction and 40%ish more armor and some parry).Without the talent you only have 1 Charge. Without Demonic Resilience it looks like average players can keep this defensive up 60-80% of the time(with the best players at 90%+ due to talents, cooldown, buffs, etc.) With Demonic Resilience(that WoWHead and Icey tell you not to take) you easily have 100% uptime on this buff. Plus the buff timer stacks on itself, so you don't get punished for using it again while the defensive is already active! It's much more forgiving especially for defensive rotation mind share(it's just always up!). WoWHead has you take a "10% glide speed increase" talent, which you could drop, in order to take a huge uptime increase on your main defensive. There are other examples of this, I was able to move 3 talents to get 25% more magic damage reduction and 2minutes off the cooldown of darkness(up almost every other pack now). The difference has been felt by my healer when running 7+ keys in a big way - we struggled to time a +10 but did the same +10 after the talent swap the same night and it was MILES easier. Check out the top tanks in warcraft logs, I haven't found any running the WoWHead or IceyVeins builds(for DH) and they all have more defensive talents in comparison: https://www.warcraftlogs.com/zone/rankings/47?class=Tanks&boss=-1 Don't be like me and just accept the build that these popular sites give you, I came back after a break and didn't want to deal with reading talents - but I set myself up to have a rough time until I did. TLDR - WoWhead and IceyVeins M+ Tank Builds leave lots of damage mitgation talents on the table, look at the warcraftlogs for top tanks or sites that show average talent data for ways you can be less squishy(if that's your current issue). Look at the top tanks for your class in warcraftlogs, you'll learn a lot: https://www.warcraftlogs.com/zone/rankings/47?class=Tanks&boss=-1 Suggestions for data driven talents sites(thanks for the suggestions!): https://murlok.io/ https://www.archon.gg/wow PSA THIS IS NOT TO CALL THE GUIDE WRITERS BAD, THEY ARE AMAZING AT WHAT THEY DO, THEY OFTEN HEAVILY GIVE YOU THE MOST OPTIMAL DAMAGE USING SIMS(OR ASSUME OPTIMAL ROTATION). BUILDS WILL ALWAYS HAVE A LEVEL OF PREFERENCE MIXED WITH YOUR PLAYSTYLE/NEEDS For those who say Demon Spikes can be kept up 100%, 44 of the top 50 players take Demonic Resilience. You can see a comment on my take here(some people don't like the talent, it's preference): https://www.reddit.com/r/wow/comments/1saoev2/wowhead_and_iceyveins_are_setting_up_tank_specs/odxbgxw/ submitted by /u/JJReklaw to r/wow [link] [comments]

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I am NOT the Original Poster. That is Funny_Leather_5540. She posted in r/AITAH Paragraph breaks added for readability. Thanks to u/BakingGiraffeBakes for the rec! Do NOT comment on Original Posts. Latest update is 7 days old. This has not been posted in this sub before. Mood Spoiler: some good but still a LOT unresolved and frustrating Original Post: January 4, 2026 I only have four days to make a decision. I have been going back and forth trying to decide if I should cancel my husbands birthday reservations I made for him at this really cool indoor golf place followed by reservations for dinner. He's always commented on wanting to try both and I thought it would make a nice gift. His birthday is only a few days after mine. For Christmas he legit took the time to buy and wrap me a box of diapers for our daughter in the next size up and presented it to me as my gift. I'm still angry about that. No, gag gifts for Christmas has never been a thing between us. Last year he got me a spatula and I thought this year he would do better after the falling out we had over the spatula. A little bit of Background info: Our daughter is now two months old and we have been working on replacing the floor and painting our home since before she was born with the goal of having it done before she can crawl. Over the summer he did the nursery floor and in the fall, a week before she was born, he did the flooring in our older son's room. Mind you, the flooring was given to us for free from my dad, and my dad bought my husband his own miter saw for Christmas to get the job done so we would no longer have to borrow his. I do all the painting. This past week as we have been clearing things out of our bedroom for me to do the painting and him the flooring he brought up my birthday. He said, "wow, all this work for your birthday gift." I said "Excuse me, what gift? He said "All the work of putting the flooring in our bedroom, but don't worry I'll still do a dinner for you and we can invite your mom and my family, what do you want me to cook?" I said "I would like to just have a quiet birthday dinner, you, me and the kids at Longhorn Steak House, come home and watch a movie together. Also, the flooring is not my gift. This is something we've been planning now for a year. And with the house torn up, I don't want to host anyone in our home especially after having hosted for Thanksgiving and Christmas. Besides we don't even have a place for people to sit. We have all the bedroom furniture, and our clothing in the living room. I'm currently sleeping on the mattress on the floor in here. Plus, I'm not a fan of your brother coming over so you two can sit and just drink beer all evening while I watch our and his kids." He said no, I'm going to cook at home, just tell me what you want me to cook. I said "Ok, I want to do steak, mashed potatoes, and green beans." (But there is a problem here, he can't make mashed potatoes to save his life and only likes green beans if their boiled. I like fresh green beans slowly sautéed with olive oil, garlic and herbs. So if I want it cooked this way, I will have to do it.) He said "no, we're not doing steak, it will cost to much if the family comes over. I'll just do a chicken." I lost it. I said again, "For MY birthday... I DO NOT want people over." He kept arguing the issue and I said "fine, do what you want for my birthday." Side note: Last year, he ordered the traditional tres leches cake but he ordered it with peaches. I hate peaches, he likes peaches. I like strawberries. Plus, my name was spelled wrong on the birthday cake, he thought it was hilarious. I am now seriously considering cancelling his b-day golf outing & dinner reservations, leaving home if he invites his family for my birthday, buying him a box of diaper wipes and presenting it with a card that says "Happy birthday. I painted the house for you." Would I be the Asshole? OOP's only comment: To a longer comment: Thank you. This is the first post I've read that basically wasn't calling me an asshole for not divorcing him over Christmas and birthday this year. And yea, about 2 weeks after Christmas last year, when I had time relax, I asked him for a genuine answer about the spatula as a gift and what the hell he was thinking. He said that he was at the store and saw that it was blue, the type of blue I like and and he thought of me and thought that it would match the utensil holder and our blue microwave that I found in the store one day and geeked over. He said he thought I would like it because of the pretty blue color. That's about as deep as the thought went. He said that he never thought the gift would be sexist, or imply that I had to do more cooking for him. To make up for the spatula though he did go out and buy me the KitchenAid stand up mixer I had my eye on for over 2 years. I was really happy about it...Until he said "So when are you going to make me some homemade bead?" We had the talk about never, ever buying kitchen appliances for someone as a gift unless directly asked for. That kitchen things used by the whole family is not a gift for one person. When I am no longer angry about the diapers, I'll be able to calmly ask him "after the 2024 Christmas spatula debacle, what the hell were you thinking gifting me diapers 2025." I mean hell, I'm thinking if this is how its gonna be, we might just make it a pact to buy each other practical gifts for the home. No more disappointment that way. Update (Same Post): Later that day Update: Birthday plans: I have since logged in and cancelled his birthday golf outing and dinner reservations for next week. Tomorrow is my birthday and his day off work so he will be watching baby as I have also booked myself for a 90 minute massage. After that I will be stopping by Starbuck for my favorite drink and one hour of un-interrupted time with my new book that my son got me for Christmas. Then I will be picking him up from school and taking him to go see a movie. I will round off the day by coming home, taking a long hot bubble bath, ordering DoorDash and ending my day holding baby girl. That sounds like an amazing birthday to me. For him, I will just be getting him a card that reads "Happy Birthday, I painted the house for you." The bag will contain a case of diaper wipes. If he looks disappointed, I will just tell him "I cancelled the Golf outing and dinner reservations and instead go this bulk pack of wipes; the perfect gift to accompany the box of diapers you got me for Christmas." He will get the message. Divorce: As for the people advocating for divorce, kicking him to the curb, leaving with the kids in the middle of the night, claiming that he isn't a good husband to me and father to our baby, please know that you only got one little glimpse into our life. He is a loving and caring father to our children. We struggled with infertility for a very long time so this baby was a surprise but a welcomed blessing. Every day I prayed to not miscarry and even feared death during labor as my pregnancy was high-risk. He took a month off of work to care for me as I recovered from 3 degree tearing and a bruised tailbone. Every night he does the night time routine: Bath, pajamas, story time, and rocks baby girl to sleep. While he does that, I do the house reset: dishes, garbage, sweep. He wakes with me for all her feedings and prioritizes my sleep over his to make sure that I am rested enough to care for our daughter during the day. This is the same man who, during pregnancy, cooked me breakfast every morning and massaged my feet every night. Before he leaves for work every day he will make sure I have time to self-care (shower, brush my teeth, eat breakfast, and pump) before handing me the baby (if she's awake). Then he will make sure I am happy on the couch with baby girl and anything I could need before he leaves-blanket, remote, water cup, my phone, phone charger, a clean binky and bottle for baby. As soon as he get's home from work, he will take her and give me 30 minutes to myself before we start talking dinner plans. We make a good team when it comes to daily life. I don't have to make him lists of things to do. I like that when were low on milk, he will just pick it up on his way home without having to be asked and he doesn't wait for a "thank you" like he did me some big favor the way I have seen other men seek gratitude for doing basic tasks. He sucks at gift giving and this year and last year, so yes! I will be doing nothing for him for his birthday. Despite the shitty thoughtless gift and non-birthday birthday plans, I will be holding off on kicking him out and just matching his energy for his birthday. For Christmas 2026, I think I will get him an IKEA toddler bed to assemble for our daughter and call it a day. Update 2 (Same Post): January 6, 2026 (Next Day) Birthday update: Yesterday was my birthday. Hubby surprised me with breakfast out at my favorite local spot and we did a Home Depot run for more flooring. After that, I did go for my massage, It was wonderful, and I did stop at Starbuck for my free birthday drink. I didn't have time to sit and read before I had to pick my boy from school, but that's ok. Instead of going to see a movie at the theater we came home and began a Harry Potter Movie marathon. I LOVE Harry Potter. However, my son, without my knowing, had texted my dad and my best friend to come over and surprise me with a visit. He didn't know that I had already had my best friend and her niece scheduled to come over to look through a pile of clothes before I took a large haul to donate at the Salvation Army. It was so much fun watching her niece try on dresses. We wrapped up the night with some pizza and cheesy bread. Hubby surprised me with a little gift: two new books, a pack of my favorite cookies, and a squishy niffler that I can add to my Harry Potter book shelf. Overall, I had a great day. :) OOP's Comments: OOP comments a stand alone comment and is downvoted: I am disappointed that an AITA post became a dumping ground for people advocating for divorce... He does not deserve to lose his family. I don't deserve to become a single mother, and my children don't deserve to have their family torn apart over this. I was only looking to see if I would be an ASS for matching his energy when it comes to gift giving, not throw the whole marriage away. However, because of all the negative comments, calling me an asshole if I don't leave him, telling me that I have no self-worth. I have decided that I am going to still make the original birthday plans I had for him happen. I'm going to do it not because he didn't do something for me, I'm going to do it because I want my kids to see him happy. I want him to be happy. I want my son to see me do the right thing and not be petty. Despite how I felt on Christmas/birthday he is such a good father & husband in other ways and that is something I don't need to justify here on Reddit to make other people feel good. My original idea to be petty and match his energy died when I read all the hateful comments here on Reddit. So thank you Reddit readers, all the hate made me see how small this really was in comparison. He sucks at gift giving but is still worthy of love and respect for all the rest that he does for me and this family the other 363 days in a year. Marriage takes work, time and a whole lot of patience. No relationship lives in perpetual happiness because we are human and we make mistakes. CatPerson88: My husband wasn't quite this bad, but he did get me a vacuum during one of our first Christmases together. He got a lecture about what giving a woman household appliances says, especially when your wife also works full time... I learned to send him a list of specific items in a wide price range. He still occasionally screws up, but he's much better. We're still married 30+ yrs. Set ground rules. If he's a poor gift giver, I recommend doing what I do- when it's time to get you a gift, offer him a specific list, with site links, sizes, and colors. Any home repairs in lieu of gifts is to be discussed openly, not assumed, and both parties need to agree. It will get better. OOP: (downvoted) Thank you for your thoughtful comment. I'm thinking that next year I will be making him an Amazon wish list and sending it to him. He can pick something off that list and it will still be a surprise as to what he chose. submitted by /u/LucyAriaRose to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

This is a repost. The original was posted in r/whatdoIdo by user No_Penalty9836. I'm not the original poster. Status: Ongoing Content Note: Harry Potter Editor's Note: I added paragraph breaks Original January 5, 2026 I only have four days to make a decision. I have been going back and forth trying to decide if I should cancel my husbands birthday reservations I made for him at this really cool indoor golf place followed by reservations for dinner. He's always commented on wanting to try both and I thought it would make a nice gift. His birthday is only a few days after mine. For Christmas he legit took the time to buy and wrap me a box of diapers for our daughter in the next size up and presented it to me as my gift. I'm still angry about that. No, gag gifts for Christmas has never been a thing between us. Last year he got me a spatula and I thought this year he would do better after the falling out we had over the spatula. A little bit of Background info: Our daughter is now two months old and we have been working on replacing the floor and painting our home since before she was born with the goal of having it done before she can crawl. Over the summer he did the nursery floor and in the fall, a week before she was born, he did the flooring in our older son's room. Mind you, the flooring was given to us for free from my dad, and my dad bought my husband his own miter saw for Christmas to get the job done so we would no longer have to borrow his. I do all the painting. This past week as we have been clearing things out of our bedroom for me to do the painting and him the flooring he brought up my birthday. He said, "wow, all this work for your birthday gift." I said "Excuse me, what gift? He said "All the work of putting the flooring in our bedroom, but don't worry I'll still do a dinner for you and we can invite your mom and my family, what do you want me to cook?" I said "I would like to just have a quiet birthday dinner, you, me and the kids at Longhorn Steak House, come home and watch a movie together. Also, the flooring is not my gift. This is something we've been planning now for a year. And with the house torn up, I don't want to host anyone in our home especially after having hosted for Thanksgiving and Christmas. Besides we don't even have a place for people to sit. We have all the bedroom furniture, and our clothing in the living room. I'm currently sleeping on the mattress on the floor in here. Plus, I'm not a fan of your brother coming over so you two can sit and just drink beer all evening while I watch our and his kids." He said no, I'm going to cook at home, just tell me what you want me to cook. I said "Ok, I want to do steak, mashed potatoes, and green beans." (But there is a problem here, he can't make mashed potatoes to save his life and only likes green beans if their boiled. I like fresh green beans slowly sautéed with olive oil, garlic and herbs. So if I want it cooked this way, I will have to do it.) He said "no, we're not doing steak, it will cost to much if the family comes over. I'll just do a chicken." I lost it. I said again, "For MY birthday... I DO NOT want people over." He kept arguing the issue and I said "fine, do what you want for my birthday." Side note: Last year, he ordered the traditional tres leches cake but he ordered it with peaches. I hate peaches, he likes peaches. I like strawberries. Plus, my name was spelled wrong on the birthday cake, he thought it was hilarious. I am now seriously considering cancelling his b-day golf outing & dinner reservations, leaving home if he invites his family for my birthday, buying him a box of diaper wipes and presenting it with a card that says "Happy birthday. I painted the house for you." Would I be the Asshole? Consensus: Not the asshole for cancelling, but people tell her she is an asshole for staying with someone who clearly doesn't like her or cares about her Comment by OOP: About 2 weeks after Christmas last year, when I had time relax, I asked him for a genuine answer about the spatula as a gift and what the hell he was thinking. He said that he was at the store and saw that it was blue, the type of blue I like and and he thought of me and thought that it would match the utensil holder and our blue microwave that I found in the store one day and geeked over. He said he thought I would like it because of the pretty blue color. That's about as deep as the thought went. He said that he never thought the gift would be sexist, or imply that I had to do more cooking for him. To make up for the spatula though he did go out and buy me the KitchenAid stand up mixer I had my eye on for over 2 years. I was really happy about it...Until he said "So when are you going to make me some homemade bead?" We had the talk about never, ever buying kitchen appliances for someone as a gift unless directly asked for. That kitchen things used by the whole family is not a gift for one person. When I am no longer angry about the diapers, I'll be able to calmly ask him "after the 2024 Christmas spatula debacle, what the hell were you thinking gifting me diapers 2025." I mean hell, I'm thinking if this is how its gonna be, we might just make it a pact to buy each other practical gifts for the home. No more disappointment that way. Update January 5, 2026, same day later Birthday plans: I have since logged in and cancelled his birthday golf outing and dinner reservations for next week. Tomorrow is my birthday and his day off work so he will be watching baby as I have also booked myself for a 90 minute massage. After that I will be stopping by Starbuck for my favorite drink and one hour of un-interrupted time with my new book that my son got me for Christmas. Then I will be picking him up from school and taking him to go see a movie. I will round off the day by coming home, taking a long hot bubble bath, ordering DoorDash and ending my day holding baby girl. That sounds like an amazing birthday to me. For him, I will just be getting him a card that reads "Happy Birthday, I painted the house for you." The bag will contain a case of diaper wipes. If he looks disappointed, I will just tell him "I cancelled the Golf outing and dinner reservations and instead go this bulk pack of wipes; the perfect gift to accompany the box of diapers you got me for Christmas." He will get the message. Divorce: As for the people advocating for divorce, kicking him to the curb, leaving with the kids in the middle of the night, claiming that he isn't a good husband to me and father to our baby, please know that you only got one little glimpse into our life. He is a loving and caring father to our children. We struggled with infertility for a very long time so this baby was a surprise but a welcomed blessing. Every day I prayed to not miscarry and even feared death during labor as my pregnancy was high-risk. He took a month off of work to care for me as I recovered from 3 degree tearing and a bruised tailbone. Every night he does the night time routine: Bath, pajamas, story time, and rocks baby girl to sleep. While he does that, I do the house reset: dishes, garbage, sweep. He wakes with me for all her feedings and prioritizes my sleep over his to make sure that I am rested enough to care for our daughter during the day. This is the same man who, during pregnancy, cooked me breakfast every morning and massaged my feet every night. Before he leaves for work every day he will make sure I have time to self-care (shower, brush my teeth, eat breakfast, and pump) before handing me the baby (if she's awake). Then he will make sure I am happy on the couch with baby girl and anything I could need before he leaves-blanket, remote, water cup, my phone, phone charger, a clean binky and bottle for baby. As soon as he get's home from work, he will take her and give me 30 minutes to myself before we start talking dinner plans. We make a good team when it comes to daily life. I don't have to make him lists of things to do. I like that when were low on milk, he will just pick it up on his way home without having to be asked and he doesn't wait for a "thank you" like he did me some big favor the way I have seen other men seek gratitude for doing basic tasks. He sucks at gift giving and this year and last year, so yes! I will be doing nothing for him for his birthday. Despite the shitty thoughtless gift and non-birthday birthday plans, I will be holding off on kicking him out and just matching his energy for his birthday. For Christmas 2026, I think I will get him an IKEA toddler bed to assemble for our daughter and call it a day. Update 2 January 6, 2026, 1 day later Birthday update: Yesterday was my birthday. Hubby surprised me with breakfast out at my favorite local spot and we did a Home Depot run for more flooring. After that, I did go for my massage, It was wonderful, and I did stop at Starbuck for my free birthday drink. I didn't have time to sit and read before I had to pick my boy from school, but that's ok. Instead of going to see a movie at the theater we came home and began a Harry Potter Movie marathon. I LOVE Harry Potter. However, my son, without my knowing, had texted my dad and my best friend to come over and surprise me with a visit. He didn't know that I had already had my best friend and her niece scheduled to come over to look through a pile of clothes before I took a large haul to donate at the Salvation Army. It was so much fun watching her niece try on dresses. We wrapped up the night with some pizza and cheesy bread. Hubby surprised me with a little gift: two new books, a pack of my favorite cookies, and a squishy niffler that I can add to my Harry Potter book shelf. Overall, I had a great day. :) ___ *I'm not the original poster* submitted by /u/Schattenspringer to r/BORUpdates [link] [comments]

I only have four days to make a decision. I have been going back and forth trying to decide if I should cancel my husbands birthday reservations I made for him at this really cool indoor golf place followed by reservations for dinner. He's always commented on wanting to try both and I thought it would make a nice gift. His birthday is only a few days after mine. For Christmas he legit took the time to buy and wrap me a box of diapers for our daughter in the next size up and presented it to me as my gift. I'm still angry about that. No, gag gifts for Christmas has never been a thing between us. Last year he got me a spatula and I thought this year he would do better after the falling out we had over the spatula. A little bit of Background info: Our daughter is now two months old and we have been working on replacing the floor and painting our home since before she was born with the goal of having it done before she can crawl. Over the summer he did the nursery floor and in the fall, a week before she was born, he did the flooring in our older son's room. Mind you, the flooring was given to us for free from my dad, and my dad bought my husband his own miter saw for Christmas to get the job done so we would no longer have to borrow his. I do all the painting. This past week as we have been clearing things out of our bedroom for me to do the painting and him the flooring he brought up my birthday. He said, "wow, all this work for your birthday gift." I said "Excuse me, what gift? He said "All the work of putting the flooring in our bedroom, but don't worry I'll still do a dinner for you and we can invite your mom and my family, what do you want me to cook?" I said "I would like to just have a quiet birthday dinner, you, me and the kids at Longhorn Steak House, come home and watch a movie together. Also, the flooring is not my gift. This is something we've been planning now for a year. And with the house torn up, I don't want to host anyone in our home especially after having hosted for Thanksgiving and Christmas. Besides we don't even have a place for people to sit. We have all the bedroom furniture, and our clothing in the living room. I'm currently sleeping on the mattress on the floor in here. Plus, I'm not a fan of your brother coming over so you two can sit and just drink beer all evening while I watch our and his kids." He said no, I'm going to cook at home, just tell me what you want me to cook. I said "Ok, I want to do steak, mashed potatoes, and green beans." (But there is a problem here, he can't make mashed potatoes to save his life and only likes green beans if their boiled. I like fresh green beans slowly sautéed with olive oil, garlic and herbs. So if I want it cooked this way, I will have to do it.) He said "no, we're not doing steak, it will cost to much if the family comes over. I'll just do a chicken." I lost it. I said again, "For MY birthday... I DO NOT want people over." He kept arguing the issue and I said "fine, do what you want for my birthday." Side note: Last year, he ordered the traditional tres leches cake but he ordered it with peaches. I hate peaches, he likes peaches. I like strawberries. Plus, my name was spelled wrong on the birthday cake, he thought it was hilarious. I am now seriously considering cancelling his b-day golf outing & dinner reservations, leaving home if he invites his family for my birthday, buying him a box of diaper wipes and presenting it with a card that says "Happy birthday. I painted the house for you." Would I be the Asshole? Update: Birthday plans: I have since logged in and cancelled his birthday golf outing and dinner reservations for next week. Tomorrow is my birthday and his day off work so he will be watching baby as I have also booked myself for a 90 minute massage. After that I will be stopping by Starbuck for my favorite drink and one hour of un-interrupted time with my new book that my son got me for Christmas. Then I will be picking him up from school and taking him to go see a movie. I will round off the day by coming home, taking a long hot bubble bath, ordering DoorDash and ending my day holding baby girl. That sounds like an amazing birthday to me. For him, I will just be getting him a card that reads "Happy Birthday, I painted the house for you." The bag will contain a case of diaper wipes. If he looks disappointed, I will just tell him "I cancelled the Golf outing and dinner reservations and instead go this bulk pack of wipes; the perfect gift to accompany the box of diapers you got me for Christmas." He will get the message. Divorce: As for the people advocating for divorce, kicking him to the curb, leaving with the kids in the middle of the night, claiming that he isn't a good husband to me and father to our baby, please know that you only got one little glimpse into our life. He is a loving and caring father to our children. We struggled with infertility for a very long time so this baby was a surprise but a welcomed blessing. Every day I prayed to not miscarry and even feared death during labor as my pregnancy was high-risk. He took a month off of work to care for me as I recovered from 3 degree tearing and a bruised tailbone. Every night he does the night time routine: Bath, pajamas, story time, and rocks baby girl to sleep. While he does that, I do the house reset: dishes, garbage, sweep. He wakes with me for all her feedings and prioritizes my sleep over his to make sure that I am rested enough to care for our daughter during the day. This is the same man who, during pregnancy, cooked me breakfast every morning and massaged my feet every night. Before he leaves for work every day he will make sure I have time to self-care (shower, brush my teeth, eat breakfast, and pump) before handing me the baby (if she's awake). Then he will make sure I am happy on the couch with baby girl and anything I could need before he leaves-blanket, remote, water cup, my phone, phone charger, a clean binky and bottle for baby. As soon as he get's home from work, he will take her and give me 30 minutes to myself before we start talking dinner plans. We make a good team when it comes to daily life. I don't have to make him lists of things to do. I like that when were low on milk, he will just pick it up on his way home without having to be asked and he doesn't wait for a "thank you" like he did me some big favor the way I have seen other men seek gratitude for doing basic tasks. He sucks at gift giving and this year and last year, so yes! I will be doing nothing for him for his birthday. Despite the shitty thoughtless gift and non-birthday birthday plans, I will be holding off on kicking him out and just matching his energy for his birthday. For Christmas 2026, I think I will get him an IKEA toddler bed to assemble for our daughter and call it a day. Birthday update: Yesterday was my birthday. Hubby surprised me with breakfast out at my favorite local spot and we did a Home Depot run for more flooring. After that, I did go for my massage, It was wonderful, and I did stop at Starbuck for my free birthday drink. I didn't have time to sit and read before I had to pick my boy from school, but that's ok. Instead of going to see a movie at the theater we came home and began a Harry Potter Movie marathon. I LOVE Harry Potter. However, my son, without my knowing, had texted my dad and my best friend to come over and surprise me with a visit. He didn't know that I had already had my best friend and her niece scheduled to come over to look through a pile of clothes before I took a large haul to donate at the Salvation Army. It was so much fun watching her niece try on dresses. We wrapped up the night with some pizza and cheesy bread. Hubby surprised me with a little gift: two new books, a pack of my favorite cookies, and a squishy niffler that I can add to my Harry Potter book shelf. Overall, I had a great day. :) submitted by /u/Funny_Leather_5540 to r/AITAH [link] [comments]

I am not The OOP, OOP is u/BattleScarredBear I thought my wife’s cat hated me for four years. Now he’s obsessed with me. I have questions. Originally posted to r/CatAdvice Thanks to u/soayherder for suggesting this BoRU TRIGGER WARNING: death of beloved family pets Original Post July 17, 2025 CW: Pet loss (mentions of the peaceful passing of two beloved senior pets) So, bit of backstory: In 2020, I moved in with my then-girlfriend (now wife). Along with our shared life came a shared menagerie. I brought my dog, Gemma. She brought two cats: Indy and Pekoe. I had high hopes that the animals would become some quirky Pixar-style blended family. I was a fool. Gemma was the sweetest, scruffiest, quietest old mutt you’ve ever met. The kind of dog who looked like she'd seen things but mostly just wanted a gentle chest rub and a soft place to nap. She loved cats, in a way that felt like she wished they were her pets. I've seen her gently lay down next to cats, with this hopeful look on her face. She never barked. She didn’t snuggle, exactly, but she’d lie nearby, always quietly hoping the cats might someday love her back. She was the canine equivalent of a kid on the first day of school holding out a juice box like, “Friends?” Indy, one of the cats, was a calico tabby with the emotional range of a bomb about to go off. Chaos incarnate. She hated the move, hated Gemma, hated everything really, except for my wife and, somehow, eventually, me. For the first year I lived there, she refused to come down to the first floor. Eventually, she came around to me, but she never stopped treating Gemma like an unholy menace. Even once she started hanging out downstairs, she’d travel across furniture and windowsills like a tiny fluffy assassin avoiding pressure plates, just to avoid setting paw where Gemma might have breathed. Poor Gemma had to give up on her dream of having a cat buddy real fast after getting swatted (undeservedly) two too many times. And then there was Pekoe. Pekoe is a large orange tabby with the emotional resilience of a wet loaf of bread. Anxious, clingy, and - this is important - he had absolutely no time for me. He was a sad fat boy who lived only for my wife. He didn’t like me. He tolerated Gemma. He hated cuddles unless they came from his chosen human. If my wife closed her office door, he’d cry like the Romeo understudy in a high school drama class. He’d side-eye me like I was the guy she told him not to worry about. We had an understanding. I existed, and he pretended I didn’t. So that was our house for years. Gemma trying to just exist peacefully with the dying hope the cats might one day accept her. Indy radiating murder vibes or snuggling my head with begrudging affection. Pekoe ignoring me with great enthusiasm. It was an uneasy truce, but it held. Two years ago, Gemma passed, peacefully, at 16. We were gutted. A few months later, Indy, who had slowly warmed up to me over time, decided I was her Person. She got clingy. She’d caterwaul when I left. Sleep on my chest, my head, my back. Wherever she could drape her angry little body. Full gremlin energy, but affectionate. Recently, Indy’s health declined. She had a worsening heart murmur, and about a month ago, we made the difficult decision to let her go gently. She was 17. We were devastated all over again. And then, immediately after Indy’s passing, like within a few days, something shifted. Pekoe changed. Suddenly, the cat who had ignored me for four years became obsessed with me. He sleeps with me at night now. Rolls over for belly rubs like I’m some kind of feline massage therapist. He insists on being in my office all day. If I go back to bed, he climbs in and snuggles up like I’m the last patch of sunlight in the universe. He wants me to feed him now. And he'll ignore my wife, his actual person, to come bop my chair and demand attention. Then he purrs like a dying lawnmower and looks at me with the kind of absolute adoration usually reserved for cult leaders and those who open cans. We didn’t change our routine. We didn’t rearrange the house. My wife is still very much present and fully available for cuddles. But Pekoe is acting like I’m his long-lost soulmate and he’s making up for lost time. Which leaves both of us, me and my wife, completely baffled. I have several theories: Indy bullied him into keeping his distance, and now that she's gone, he's free to pursue this forbidden human romance. He’s grieving, and somehow senses I'm grieving too. But it feels less like “let’s heal together” and more like “rub my belly, grief monkey.” This is a long con. He’s softening me up for something. I don’t know what. He’s terrible at being a cat, so probably not murder. But definitely something. The shift has been instant and total. I feel like I’m living with a completely different animal. Nothing else has changed. My wife is still here. She is supposed to be his person. Now apparently I am? Has anyone else had a cat pull this kind of emotional U-turn? I feel like I’m living with a completely different animal now. I mean, I’m not complaining - he’s a great cuddler and he’s terrible at being a cat, and that’s sort of charming in its own right - but I feel like I missed something here. Is this normal? Is this grief? Is he just now realizing I give excellent belly rubs? A glitch in the Cat Matrix? Or have I been a mark all along? TLDR: My wife’s cat spent four years ignoring me like I was a piece of furniture that owed him money. Then our other cat passed away, and now he’s obsessed with me. I have theories, and concerns. RELEVANT COMMENTS NeeliSilverleaf He misses Indy and Indy loved you. He's reaching out. OOP I desperately want to believe this, and you may very well be right. But I’ve been so suspicious of his motivations that it’s hard to trust this sudden wave of relentless adorableness. It feels like it could be nefarious. Or, at the very least, deeply selfish. Which, in all honesty, I respect. You get those belly rubs, Peeks. If this turns out to be a fully coordinated emotional assault, I will be in awe of the long game. I do want to reinforce that it never really seemed like the cats got along, which is why I have a hard time believing he’s grieving in any classic sense. Indy barely tolerated him any more than she tolerated Gemma. I once caught them sleeping on the same bed within inches of each other, and it was such a rare event it became a household breaking news. We discussed it all afternoon, like a panel of cable news pundits trying to fill airtime during an election cycle. To be fair, though, maybe Pekoe would have preferred a more peaceful, interloving household. I imagine he misses Indy in the way that the Stockholm hostages miss Jan-Erik Olsson. ~ Evinshir He's grieving and wants to make sure you are okay. Cats are odd like this. It's probably the new normal now. I don't Indy was bullying him. It's more likely that he us missing Indy and you remind him of her. OOP I can promise you, she most definitely was bullying. She bullied all of us. That was her love language. It was also her method of establishing her monarchy. She didn’t gently coax me into cuddles. She would caterwaul and screech until I followed her to the chair or bed she had chosen for our “shared” comfort. She would occasionally go out of her way to surprise-swat Gemma, just to remind her who ruled the realm. And if she realized Pekoe was even in staring distance, she would flip the entire fuck out. Indy was absolutely a bully. But she was our bully. In all seriousness though, I do hope this is the new normal. Pekoe is very squishy, and I like giving him belly rubs. If he pulls this rug out from under me, I will be absolutely destroyed. Update Aug 23, 2025 (5 weeks later) It has been over a month since I posted about this situation, and I can tell you: I am slowly going mad. Many of you responded to that post, alluding to some version of the theory that Indy, our cat who recently passed, had claimed me as hers, and that she had kept the other cat, Pekoe (I thought I should share some pictures of him this time), from me. I have now come to believe this may be true, but not in the way you all thought. I think she was protecting me from him. One might even say she did it for his own good. Editors Note: the 4 pictures OOP provided were of Pekoe stretched on the bed and 1 in the garden He does not stop meowing. Am I exaggerating? Of course I am. He is not capable of uttering a constant, repeating, irritating meow every second, on the second, for all eighty-six thousand, four hundred seconds of the day. He is asleep approximately 16–18 hours of the day. He also spends 10–30 seconds per meal inhaling the variety of damp, brown, pâté-like meat pastes we drop onto his ornate, flower-shaped ceramic cat dish, ,multiple times a day.* Meow. He is capable of keeping up that unrelenting pace of meowing for several consecutive minutes, sometimes as many as fifteen of them (my personal best in resisting his un-siren-like call), bundled together into an episode of mind-eroding sonic torture. It is not loud. No, it is worse than loud. It is like a psychic lance to the skull. As though someone is tapping on the blackboard of my mind with chalk-dusted fingers, little scratches of nerve-wrenching shocks to my cerebellum. Over and over and over again. Meow. Meow. I have ascertained some of the meanings of his belligerence. The purposes of these verbal assaults are many. Here are just a few of the reasons he has decided to employ this persuasion technique: He would like his breakfast approximately three hours early (5 a.m.). He would like a second serving of breakfast. He thinks he can convince whichever one of us didn’t serve him breakfast that he hasn’t had breakfast yet. He would like some of my breakfast. He would like lunch now. Yes, he has recently decided he would like lunch. He is thirsty. He, of course, has a massive cycling water bowl, but it seems he must announce when he is heading off for a drink. He would like an afternoon snack. He would like my afternoon snack. He is wondering if he can have some of our dinner. He would like his own dinner. He would like my wife to stop singing. He would like to be pet. He would like to be drawn into a cuddle and pet. He would like to be drawn into a cuddle and pet at 1 a.m. He would like to be drawn into a cuddle and pet at 3 a.m. He would like to have a post-breakfast cuddle. He would like to have a post-dinner cuddle. He would like to be elevated onto the bed. He would like to be de-elevated from the bed. Here are two things he does not utilize this skill for: Warning us he is about to vomit a hairball (or his dinner) onto the bed. Letting us know he has failed to reach the litter boxes, and has instead opted to poop on the stairs. Meow. Meow. Meow. And finally, to explain the elevation points, and the yet-unmentioned and most egregious use of this newfound misuse of his vocal powers, I must explain that my desk, where I work most days, is in a cubby in our bedroom. Directly behind me is our marital bed, which, in his ascension and self-crowning as King of this Domain, he has claimed as his royal throne. Yes, there are stairs installed at the end of the bed. Yes, he is perfectly capable of using them. But no, he does not lower himself to such indignities when his human-powered elevation device is present. To be clear: I am that human-powered elevation device. Not my wife. Not any other nearby human. Just me. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. And this leads us to the newest, and most heart-melting, yet infuriating, implementation of his royal declarations: begging for my attention. Not just my attention, but a very specific form of attention that he bypasses my wife for entirely. She cannot perform this task, apparently. Only I can. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. This is entirely our fault. He was terrible at being a cat in the first place. He had no motivation to chase mice, strings, or even little laser lights. He never showed any interest in getting to high places like most other cats. In fact, the only time I’ve seen him try to ascend further than the couch was to get to the back of the couch, where my wife had left her bowl of ice cream unattended. He has always been spoiled, and we spoil him further, because there is no going back. He is nearly 17. This is who he is. A hedonistic loaf of fur. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Even as I write this, he is pawing at the back of my chair, demanding that I perform my duty. That duty? Belly rubs. It’s not just any old belly rubs. He likes when I grasp him firmly, but gently, press my head against him, and flop him down onto his side. A gesture that began out of pure frustration (after being interrupted for the seventh time in an hour, I pressed him to the bed and gave him a fury-fueled belly rub as recriminations for his bad behaviour) only to have him start purring. Loudly. The same way he used to purr for my wife when she would relent and let him cuddle her in the wee hours. A purr I once interpreted as a petulant, performative, dramatic cat version of: “See, fat man? She loves me more.” Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Now, weeks later, I must repeat this ritual several times a day. I am not allowed on the bed with him. I must remain seated in my chair, leaning over him so he can paw at my shirt or attempt to clean my face. He either wants to be fully on his back, clinging to my arm with his front paws, or slightly on his side, kneading the air like a baker of invisible biscuits. Is it cute? Of course. Is it annoying and inconvenient? Almost exclusively. When I am in meetings. Meow. When I am deep in a programming binge. Meow. When I am desperately trying to maintain focus on a passage of prose. Meow. When I am trying to watch course material for work. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. It is slowly eroding away at my tether. I can feel each utterance pierce into the meaty noodles of my gray matter, like an infestation of furry caterpillars crawling amongst my neurons. And yet, how can I be angry with him? How can I be annoyed, his aged-purr muscles sputtering as I stroke his belly, sounding like an ancient lawn tractor lurching back to life, the engine struggling to turn over even with the choke fully pulled out. The kind of noise you hear before some gristled old man in a plaid shirt with a yellowed moustache says “you can’t just cold start ’em, gotta warm ’em up first.” Sometimes I try to re-establish my grasp of reality by engaging these mewlings in conversation: “Meow.” “Sorry, I didn’t catch that.” “Meow.” “No, it’s not time for dinner yet, buddy.” “Meow.” “You wouldn’t talk to your mother like that.” “Meow.” “It’s not okay to use that kind of language in this house.” “Meow.” “Seriously, where did you learn that word? It wasn’t from me.” Is it working? I don’t know. My wife and mother-in-law find these exchanges hilarious. They don’t realize this is my last-ditch effort to keep my sanity. I don’t think it’s working. I am losing it. He never stops until he gets what he wants. Any sense of autonomy I had as an adult has rotted away. I no longer feel in control of my day, let alone the idea of having any say in my destiny. I have no choice here. I must comply. I can only choose to endure or comply. There is no relief from it. I have no mouth but I must meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Is this why we often jest about cats owning us? It doesn’t feel so funny any more. It feels horrifyingly, viscerally, unerringly true. I once believed I was terrorized by the other cat, her machinations and demands feeling pointed, but now, I wonder: have I been inherited, passed like a crown, from one master to the next? Is this orange monster my Joffrey? I can feel myself coming unglued at times, and the conversations take a darker turn. I’ll turn to my wife and say: “Listen, I’m not 100% on the translation, but I’m pretty sure he’s saying he’s tired of it here, and he’d like to be taken to the shelter to find a more extravagant home, something more suited to his proclivities.” Or: “I’m pretty sure he just said it’s time to cut the apron strings. He’s ready to get out there, get a job, and find a place of his own. I think we should support him in gaining his independence.” Or: “Pekoe tells me he’s interested in taking up lake swimming.” She finds these less funny, especially since I’ve repeated them enough that she now warns of severe consequences if I even think such a thing. Do I think such a thing? Only in jest, I assure you. I may be going mad, but I am not a monster. I would never hurt this cat, or any other creature. I am gentle with them, and I love them more than people. Even this cat. This cat, who tests the limits of the love between us. I do love him. I do. I swear. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. I am just baffled. Annoyed, certainly, but mostly baffled. Why does he like this ritual so much? Is this play for him or some elaborate humiliation ritual for me that I do not yet fully comprehend? If I stop and turn back to my work, he will wait a few minutes, then cry for me again, and when I return he has stood up again. So being knocked over is part of it. But why? Why is he so particular? What does it mean? What is this? Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. I am resigned to my fate. I will act as his personal elevator, and I will serve him his rubs of the belly. I do, and will find mental fortitude and emotional sustenance as he enjoys my attention. I will let my heart melt as he grasps my arm. Or when he paws my shirt. Or when he makes his air biscuits. But …why are the air biscuits he makes so slow… and… so delicious? More Cat Tax!!! 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I am not The OOP, OOP is u/Throwaway1284930753 I [24F] had accidentally killed my boyfriend’s [28M] bird and had said hurtful things to him... I’m afraid that he’s going to hate me. TRIGGER WARNING: graphic descriptions of a birds death, abuse, animal abuse MOOD SPOILER: rage and horror Original Post Oct 14, 2018 Copy of the post I am going to say this now: in no way do I believe that my actions were justified. I hadn’t meant to do what I did, and I feel incredibly guilty about the whole situation. I feel like there is no way I can ever apologize to him in a way that would be adequate enough to atone for my actions. We’ve been dating for 3 years, but have known eachother for about 5 or so years. We had always been close friends. He’s had depression / anxiety for a majority of his life due to his childhood. Our relationship was, more or less, perfect. I have always tried my best to be understanding due to some strange habits / attachments that he uses to cope with his illnesses. While his attatchments were somewhat unhealthy (in my own opinion), as long as it helped him to cope, I tried not to mind it much. One of his weird attatchments was a bird. He had never been addicted to drugs / bodily harm, but had found comfort in this cockatoo that he said that he had since highschool. I had never liked birds much, but he says that doing stuff like birdwatching had always helped him to take his mind off of any intrusive thoughts. His bird wasn’t aggressive or anything, but I wasn’t a big fan of it. He had - what I considered to be - an unhealthy attatchment to the bird, but I had never said anything to him about it. These past couple of months, our relationship had been a little rocky. I’m not sure what happened, but he started to avoid me, and would clam up whenever I asked him what was wrong. (For context, we live together). This had happened before, but never to this extent / time period. I began to wonder if I had done something wrong or hurt his feelings somehow. He had explained before that sometimes he’s just “get like this” for no reason and he assured me that it would ‘always pass’. It normally would, but this time, I wasn’t too sure. It had gone on for too long. My boyfriend works from home, and I had the day off. He was in his office doing whatever the hell he does with that damn bird. I swear, he pays more attention to the bird than he does to his own girlfriend. At one point, I went into his office and locked us both inside, demanding that he tell me what the problem is. Bad idea, probably. He hates being cornered, and I knew that and decided to use that against him. He asked for me to unlock the door and to leave and that he’d talk to me later / in the living room. I refused, once again demanding that he tell me what’s wrong, and if he didn’t, I’d break up with him. I feel like it was kind of low of me to corner him and threaten him, essentially forcing him to share something that he wasn’t comfortable sharing at the time, but that thought didn’t cross my mind at that time. I feel terrible, but all I wanted at that time were answers. We had gotten into a heated argument (although one-sided. Admittedly, it was just a slew of insults on my end, and then he started to clam up and the bird ended up stealing his attention once more). I just about had it with him ignoring me to pay attention to his bird and - in the heat of the moment - told him just that. I clearly remember telling him “just date the damned bird since you obviously love it more than you love me”. He tried telling me that it wasn’t true but I guess I wasn’t having it and the end result was him pushing me out the way to unlock the door, and him leaving the house. I don’t know where he went but I didn’t care. I went to the guest room (as we had a shared bedroom that I did not want to be in at that moment) and I remember crying my eyes out. It was 3 in the morning and he still wasn’t back. I had trouble sleeping and was worried about his wellbeing. During the argument, I had said some things that were based upon a few of his many insecurities, and had said some awful things to him that I didn’t actually feel about him. I had tried texting him and calling him, but he had left his phone at home. His car was still there but I have no idea where he could have gone. I had left my room with the intention of getting a snack, and then waiting for him to come home to offer an apology. The bird was usually noisy at night, but the house was almost unnervingly quiet. I didn’t pay any mind to it. I was walking down the hallway (it was dark) when I felt something under my foot. I heard this crunching / snapping, squishy sort of sound. Sleep deprived and groggy, it took me a while to actually realize what had just happened. I moved back, felt along the walls for the light switch to the lights in the hallway. I hadn’t turned it on previously because it was bright, and I had been in the dark guest room all night. I figured that there was no hazard, but I forgot that my boyfriend was the one that put the bird in its cage every night. My boyfriend wasn’t there... I felt sick. Like genuinely, actually sick. The first thing I did when I realized what I had done was cry. The bird was still moving. I hadn’t killed it, but I’m guessing that it’s spine snapped or something, because it was on the floor, kind of sprawled out, struggling to move. I didn’t know what to do. I ended up putting it in an empty delivery box and sticking it in the closet in the hallway. Sure, I hated the bird, but I didn’t want it to die or anything, much less kill it myself. I hadn’t meant to do it. tl;dr: got into an argument with my boyfriend, accidentally killed his bird That was last night. It’s now late in the evening and my boyfriend called to apologize to me for storming out. He told me that he was at his friends house and staying for another night, that he’d be home in the morning. He asked me if I could feed the bird for him. I just told him ‘okay’. I really don’t know how to tell him. What if he thinks that I did it on purpose? A majority of that argument was spurred by, and spent bashing his obsession with the thing. I said all those hurtful things, and he felt that it was necessary to apologize to me. I feel horrible, like something less than human, and I don’t know what to do. He’s already in a bad place mentally, and this just puts the icing on the cake. How do I tell him? What do I even say to him? How can I ever make this up to him? RELEVANT COMMENTS OOP How else was I supposed to get him to listen to me? We live together, yet I rarely see him around the house. He'd avoid me, and I don't know why. Is it wrong to want answers when he's behaving weirdly?? He'd just stay cooped up in his office all day and night with the dumb bird and I'd only see him when he left to get food. People are assuming that he'd be better off if he broke up with me. Why? I'm not an abuser, and 1 am the only support system he has left. I technically didn't "lie" to him, either, so. AgnikaKaieru You're a horrible psychopath, maybe that's why he'd be better TooOldForThisShit642 Would you feel comfortable is he locked you in a room and demanded you do something he wanted? Not likely. OOP Well, I wouldn't avoid him for a month without explanation, SO if it all boils down to it, it's really his own fault that his bird is dead, not mine. ~ OOP I will tell him, eventually, when he asks about it. I'm not exactly sure how to bring up the fact that I accidentally killed his bird. ** a_wild_venonat** You call him right the fuck now, is what you do, LetsMakeCrazySyence You're hiding it from him. On purpose. Because you know he won't stay with you if you say what happened. OOP He'll stay with me either way. He has no choice in the matter. Other than the dumb bird he has no one else that supports him like I do. Unless he wants to die depressed and lonely, he'll stay with me. That's not my concern. I just want him to understand that it was an accident entirely, so I'm not sure why you're jumping to conclusions. ~ WonderfulAtmosphere You got jealous of a bird, wanted to control his relationship with his bird and neglected to care for it while he trusted you with it. Congrats, you need mental help, OOP I didn't want to "control" his relationship with the bird. I just felt like he was too attatched to it. I felt it was unhealthy for him to be so obsessed with a bird that was going to die sooner or later (as he had it for a long time). I wasn't 'jealous'. Is it a sin for a girl to want her boyfriend to pay attention to her?? flyingmotorbike Cockatoos live for 30+ years. They also require almost 24/7 care and what we was doing was 100% normal for cockatoo owners. They are one of the most demanding birds for care taking. You would know this if you talk to him about his hobby but it doesn't seem like you care much about him in the relationship. You're more worried about him hating you than how he's going to feel about losing his bird he could've had decades more with. Edit: They actually live around 50 years, OOP Even when he wasn't taking care of the bird, he'd do weird things like talk to it. I mean, I get why people talk to dogs, but a bird?? We live together but I still felt like he was giving the bird more attention than he was giving his own girlfriend. Whispurrr_ur Grow the fuck up. He loved his bird! Haven't you ever loved anything beyond yourself? People talk to their pets, how is this such a strange concept to you, are you a sociopath OP? You're too immature and mentally unstable to be in a relationship. I hope he realises this and fucking runs! update Oct 15, 2018 Copy of the update I’d like to start this off with a ‘thanks for absolutely nothing’. I posted to this site for advice, but got nothing but criticism and false accusations. I figured that you guys would appreciate an update, and are satisfied with the end result. :/ He came home this morning (or later in the morning of the incident, as it had happened at 3am... He came home around 8 or 9am). We talked for a bit about what happened, and he seemed to be fine for the most part. He was hesitant in asking if I had fed the bird like he had asked me to. I told him no, and he asked me why. I told him that I couldn’t find the bird. He gave me a weird look. I’m not even sure what kind of expression it was (sorr of like a grimace) and he asked me again where the bird was. I told him the story of how I had accidentally stepped on it and he immediately told me that it was bullshit. He told me that the bird was trained to return to his cage after sunset, and that it wouldn’t just lie down in the middle of the hallway like that at 3 in the morning (much like you guys said... except I was telling the truth). I had never seen him so upset, or angry for that matter. He accused me of killing the bird on purpose, which is something I didn’t do, and something that no one believed me when I say that was an accident, for whatever reason. He asked me to leave the house, and I refused, as I didn’t know if he was planning to hurt himself or something if I left. He locked himself inside his office and he won’t talk to me. I fear for his wellbeing, and I won’t be there to stop him if he tries to do anything drastic. tl;dr: boyfriend is convinced that i killed the bird on purpose (which i didn’t). has been in his office all morning to this afternoon and i can’t get him to talk to me / come out How do I get him to listen to me ?? A majority of you are convinced that I killed the bird on purpose and that I’m abusive even though that is not the case. It was an accident, and I am being misunderstood. I just don’t know what to do. THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP's OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7 submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

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