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I am NOT Original OP — OOP is u/Silent-Occasion-6870 posting in r/AITAH TRIGGER WARNING: gambling addiction and abuse ——————————————— [Original] May 4, 2026 | AITAH for not donating for a sick kid which led to others doing the same? My (39M) husband (35) has a big family and they are always in about each other's business and causing drama. I generally keep out of it and let him deal with them all. This time I was dragged into it and it has all blown up. He has a cousin who is married to a twat of a guy, they have an 8 yo boy. They are all about show and live outside there means, everything is on finance. Nice cars, luxury holidays etc. Through the family grapevine we have heard that they are in about 80k of debt. He has a job that pays about 100k a year. We have never got on. There have been the gay "jokes", nothing too bad but irritating. He also HATES the fact we both do extremely well for ourselves. Not to brag but we have access to 7 figures in savings and investments. The family knows but people on the outside have no idea. We live a quiet life, no flashy cars or insta posts about our holidays. Last year he came into a decent inheritance in the form of a 750k house, would not shut up about it. This is all relevant. Now to the issue, unfortunately their kid has become ill, extremely ill, not going to die but their life will definitely be more difficult. There is a treatment available that MIGHT help but it will cost around 250k. They came to us and asked if we would pay for it. We said we would need to discuss it and ultimately went back to them and said that this isn't something that we would do. This was not a fun phone call, he kicked off calling us every name under the sun. Our reasons will become clear soon. After this call they put us on blast in the family group chat and Facebook. We were getting calls and messages from people going in hard on us. This is when I messaged the chat and commented on their FB. I explained that if they could not afford it, we would have helped. They have a paid off 750k house. I pointed out that there is nothing stopping them from releasing some equity in the house and this would pay for the treatment and clear their debt. Their mortgage payments would be less than what they previously paid in rent. I also pointed out that they could cancel their 2 upcoming 10k holidays and down grade their cars. I said that I felt like we would be paying to maintain their lifestyle and as parents they should be doing everything they should to help said kid. Since this there has been more name calling and dramatics but most of the family have now pivoted to our POV this has led to some of them who previously promised money pulling out. We are all being called monsters for not helping a sick kid. I don't think we are but that is why we are here, AITAH? UPDATE: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1tcbg22/update_aitah_for_not_donating_for_a_sick_kid/ Relevant & Top Comments #1 OP: Apparently because we are rich and don't have kids we should cough up. They have also pointed out how we have helped other family members. We have paid for 3 of their University's and also bought 2 houses for ones who were genuinely struggling. #2 With people like that, if I did want to gift money for such a reason, I would ask for the bill amd pay it directly. If they refused, I would know something was up. OP: The whole thing is horrible. My husband's family do not have a lot of money. They were all trying to see what they could scrape together, if they were lucky it would have been 15/20k. This is what made me say no, they are supposed to be going on holidays totalling more than that this year and they were happy letting the rest of the family make pretty severe sacrifices. #3 I feel like it’s obvious but it’s your money, why do they expect you and your husband to “help their child” when they’ve shown who they are as a person against you two and the way they treat you. This isn’t even about “helping their child” it is essentially helping to maintain their lifestyle, as a parent it is their job to do whatever they can to be the first ones to help their child but instead they choose to ask others just because they don’t want to make sacrifices with their lavish lifestyle and maintain a facade. They should write a note to themselves, always treat others with kindness cause you never know when you’ll need their help, also that’s a basic human thing to do. As a side note I just want to say that you are what I aspire to be, a successful gay married couple that is able to help family, the ones that are actually in need. please teach me your ways hehe jk OP: Thank you but I feel a bit of a fraud being called successful. The money came from a payout that I got when I was 13 and my parents were killed, it was invested well. I didn't "earn" it. Me and my husband started a business doing something we love, it does well but 75% of our money comes off the back of the payout. This is why I like to do what I can for his family who need it. It kind of feels like dirty money and it makes it feel cleaner by doing what we can for them. #4 OP: The family have bailed, they won't be getting anything. The sad thing is that the kid is going to be messed up because of it. Not because of their illness but they have apparently told him that his family won't help when he is sick and they are going to "lose" their house because of it and I am the number one villain out of everyone. #5 Absolutely not! If they're comfortable living in a high debt lifestyle, the kid's treatment is roughly the price of a new car. If their kid isn't worth the price of a car when they already have equity waiting to be tapped. So since they essentially already have the money. It's not that hard to get an equity loan then, poof! Money! You're right in your assessment that they were looking for a way for this to not ripple their pond. Besides, any hospital will make payment arrangements in their billing department. That's what us poor folks do. So, it not like the answer was ever really going to be no for the kid. That's like a burning itch in my brain though.... Sitting on 750k and running around with their hand out like they're overextended and strapped for cash. Didn't everybody else know about the house too? Yet your knowledge of their assets was what they needed in order to "get it" Well, in a family that likes to be up in each other's business and spin drama, y'all better watch your back. Cause when all this is said & done with their kid being sick, they'll be aiming at you. You better shore up your lives, and make sure you've got nothing going on that they can get a fingernail under to expose. Expect them to come out petty. Unless they've already got something from years & years ago to throw at you cold. I mean, I hope they just go - and go away quietly. But from what you described about your family in general, I don't see that as an option. OP: This is going to sound bad but my husbands family are not well off and he was the first to go to university. There is a lot of issues in the family that comes with living close to poverty. My parents died when I was 13, it was 100% the fault of a large company and I got a substantial pay out. This was invested well and I have maintained that in adulthood. I met my husband at Uni and we started a small passion business that does well. There is nothing nefarious in how we came into our wealth so he has nothing on us. We regularly help his family out and we don't begrudge them at all, they might be annoying, but they have had hard lives due to generational trauma. We try and focus any money we give in helping the younger generation break that cycle. We pay a full time therapist just to work with his family, she has no other clients. We pay for further education and help out the ones that don't want to study start their own businesses. We have shares 2 landscape businesses, a hairdressers, a plumbers and a bakery. This is why he can't get his head round us not giving money for a sick child when we do these sort of things for the rest of the family. I was an only child and don't really have family of my own, his family are far from perfect but most of them have good hearts and have taken me in. That is why we overlook a lot of their behaviours and help where we can. They money will be no use to us when we are dead and we have more than enough to see us out with the lifestyle we live. ——————————————— [Update] May 14, 2026 | UPDATE: AITAH for not donating for a sick kid which led to others doing the same? Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1t2ztpo/aitah_for_not_donating_for_a_sick_kid_which_led/ It has been a crazy couple of weeks so I thought I would update you all. First off, a lot of you were right, there was a lot more going on than anyone knew. There was something off about the whole situation , but the one thing we knew is that the kid was sick. My husband saw a post on socials that his cousins husband was out of town for the weekend, we decided to reach out to the cousin and see if she would meet us for a coffee, she did and she invited us round to their house. I know a lot of you will say we were stupid to go round but my husband had been close to his cousin growing up and just wanted to see if there was something that could be figured out, I was against it but it was important to him. I didn't need to be there but I am going to be honest, I was there for the tea. Anyway things were off in the house, I don't know how to describe it but she seemed out of place in her own home, on edge. At first I thought it was because we there and the whole situation was awkward. After everyone was settled, we started talking and basically said that we stand by what we said but if we could help in other ways that worked for everyone, we would. She broke down and it all came out. It turns out the her husband has a gambling problem and the 80k was nowhere close to their debt. He had taken out 550k against the house as soon as he got it, this cleared what he owed on credit and to some less than savoury people. The problem is his gambling problem did not go away, surprise surprise, and it had crept back up again to the tune of about 100k, fucking crazy. As predicted by some of you, the out of pocket for the treatment was not 250k it was closer to 125k, he decided to double it and approach us to kill two birds with one stone. Clear the debt and pay for treatment. Before I go any further, we are now paying for the full treatment directly to hospital. Appointments are being made and hopefully the little guy will start it in the next few weeks. What we didn't predict and what nobody had any idea about was what else was going on in the household, I won't go into details because I would need to post trigger warning but I am sure you can figure it out. I have to say, I had said that his family can be troublesome but they rallied as soon as the flag went up. The cousin, the son and all of their personal belongings, documents etc were out of that house within two hours, there was not a trace of them left. I was impressed, all the family shit and dramas were forgotten. We moved both of them into our guest house and that is where they will be staying for the foreseeable future. Sunday night the shit hit the fan. He came home to an empty house, his stuff was still there. She had blocked him on everything so he started going round all of the family members kicking off, he was met with a wall of silence. Everyone denied all knowledge of anything and told him where to go. The only place he couldn't get to was ours, he couldn't get past security. We had given them all his details, told them the situation and said that under no circumstances was anyone to be let through to visit us without calling and confirming with us. He showed up and made a scene, but got nowhere, I think security enjoyed it, it is normally a pretty boring job. Next thing we knew, we had the police at our door. I think he had called in a welfare check as he guessed/ knew they were here. We explained the situation and that went nowhere for him. She is talking with our lawyer and they will be dealing with everything for her. The main thing is that they are both safe and her kid is getting the treatment that he needs. I know I shouldn't take any pleasure in this but I do, I hate the guy. He will lose everything, they have been missing their mortgage payments, the house will be gone soon. Divorce will be happening and there is apparently an excellent chance of full custody for her. He is spiralling, it would not surprised me if he messes up his job as well. So for now everything seems to be under control. I don't expect anymore updates unless he does something spectacular. Edit- There have been a lot of comments saying that he could be dangerous right now as he has nothing to loose. While you can never be 100% we are in a good position. He would need to get past 2 security checkpoints just to get to our front gate. There patrols that drive about 24/7. We have 5 dogs, admittedly 3 of them are useless but we have a Doberman and a German Shepard who spend most of their time outside, by choice. She has no desire to venture outside of this right now and if she does she will be with someone on high alert, just until the dust settles and we see how the land lies. The lawyers are doing their thing in regard to restraining orders etc but I don't think we will know what is happening until next week. Thank you for your concern but for now they are both totally safe. Relevant & Top Comments #1 honestly all of this also, Op is a MUCH better man than i am, cause even though HE said shouldnt take pleasure in this asshole getting what he deserves I certainly do lol #2 OP: That won't be a problem, money wise things should be close to balancing out. There will just be nothing left. We will be helping them get back on their feet, my husband was looking for therapists today for both of them. I expect them to be here for a couple of years, she has talked about some courses she can take. Even though it reeks of nepotism we will create a job for her so she can start building her confidence back up. Once she is ready of course. #3 OP: We are aware that this is a risk but I don't think she will. We are getting her into therapy. She is sleeping a lot just now, I think it is just the release from all off the stress. Materially she does not need to worry about anything. Family are all coming round, there is a really good atmosphere around her right now. I know that will fade when people go back to their owns live and I am sure the nights will be difficult for her. I think they have found someone who specialises in her situation who will hopefully help her. Also her kid is much happier, he is coming out of his shell. He is loving the pool and we bought him the new Switch 2 since he has been desperate for the Harry Potter game, I am letting my JK boycott slide this one time. It is a bit annoying I have made such a song and dance about getting rid of all my old HP stuff, the game looks really good. My husband can tell I am desperate to play it and finds it amusing that I won't. Might have to come down at 3am for a quick shot of it. ——————————————— THIS IS A REPOST SUB—I AM NOT OOP. DO NOT COMMENT ON THEIR POSTS submitted by /u/Altruistic_Virus8460 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

PhD graduation present from my husband 😍. I know this subs had beef with “bags from husband” post for while but I’m broke (see PhD stipends😂) and unemployed (gestures wildly at job market) so I haven’t girl bossed my way there yet. If you are looking for a computational biologist, hit me up though as I do have a bag in mind for when I get a job Jokes aside, I’m in love! submitted by /u/forcedtojoinr to r/handbags [link] [comments]

Windhelm = Freezing, racism/segregation, crumbling infrastructure (the city bears the scars of many sacks throughout history) Riften = political corruption, poverty, thieves, open-air sewers, crumbling infrastructure (the whole town burned down in a fire decades ago and what's left was hastily put together), wooden architecture (good luck if a fire breaks out) Markarth = political corruption, racism, terrorists, cannibals, crumbling infrastructure (it's literally just a giant ruin) Whiterun = freezing (in the middle of a tundra), crumbling infrastructure (walls and gate in ruins), wooden architecture (good luck if a fire breaks out), furries, also giants love the open tundras outside the city so good luck Morthal = on the edge of a vampire-infested swamp Dawnstar = freezing Winterhold = freezing Villages = no walls, no fortifications of any kind, good luck Reasons why I would live in Solitude or Falkreath Solitude = It's described as a rich city thanks to its close connections with the Ruby Throne (and the Septims once), we see that the infrastructure of the city is well-kept and all buildings are made of stone, there's also hardly any racism, corruption, or social divide in the city, it's also the most well-defended city in the province, having high walls and an extraordinary natural advantage due to its landscape, also the climate isn't too bad Falkreath = Good climate with lots of food to be found, it's well-defended (Skyrim did it dirty, check ESO and you will see that Falkreath is actually quite fortified), and most importantly, it's very, veeeery close to the border with Cyrodiil, and thus Civilization submitted by /u/Beacon2001 to r/SkyrimMemes [link] [comments]

They called and left a message: "Hey [redacted], this is [redacted] from [redacted] hey I'm just calling because I got a message from [redacted] that says I trimmed some plants that you had. if I did I greatly greatly greatly apologize for that. I usually don't and they must've not been developed yet. anyway I'm not making excuses but the picture looks like it's still gonna be able to blossom. so give me a call back [redacted] and like I said I apologize I couldn't decipher if it was a weed or a plant. I didn't know if it was a landscaping trim the side of landscaping. It's all around the edges of blocks and things so maybe we need to mark those somehow so this won't happen again. Once again, I apologize I didn't do it on purpose so if you have any other questions or comment, just give me a call back thank you very much bye..." submitted by /u/RowboatCop3 to r/mildlyinfuriating [link] [comments]

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Hey everyone! I'm u/YourBeuta, a founding moderator of r/Beuta. 🌳 This is our new home for all things related to Beuta PolyRock and Steel landscaping products. We're excited to have you join us! What to Post Post anything that you think the community would find interesting, helpful, or inspiring. Feel free to share your thoughts, photos, or questions about garden edging design, how to measure your project, product durability, and more! Community Vibe We're all about being friendly, constructive, and inclusive. Let's build a space where everyone feels comfortable sharing and connecting. How to Get Started Introduce yourself in the comments below. Post something today! Even a simple question can spark a great conversation. If you know someone who would love this community, invite them to join. Interested in helping out? We're always looking for new moderators, so feel free to reach out to me to apply. Thanks for being part of the very first wave. Together, let's make r/Beuta amazing. 🌱 submitted by /u/YourBeuta to r/Beuta [link] [comments]

My husband (29M) and I (28F) have lived in our home for over six years now. Our house is over 100 years old and we’ve slowly been making improvements when we can. When we got married my father-in-law gifted us landscaping for our front yard. We planned out what we wanted, talked to a landscaper, and he wanted to pay for it as a wedding present. The landscaping was completed over three years ago and we were very pleased and appreciative for such a great gift. The landscaping included a much needed retaining wall where there was a low patch in our front yard that previously turned into a mud pit when it rained. Fast forward to last year and our neighbors sold their house to a new owner. Almost immediately after she moved in she made it clear that she was going to be unpleasant to live next to. In the first week or so living there she came into our backyard and chopped the top off of one of our juniper bushes and threw it into our yard. The bushes were next to her garage, but clearly in our yard. It’s an old neighborhood and a lot of the garages were built long after the homes so everything behind the houses is very close together. Her garage is very close to the property line and maybe even a little bit on our property. We would’ve understood if she didn’t like the bushes. They were looking scraggly and landscaping for our backyard was next on our list for improvements. However, she gave no explanation and she hadn’t even introduced herself to us. I knew she did it because I could see her from my dining room window. We ended up clearing all three of the bushes out by her garage because they were unattractive (especially after having the top lopped off of one). About a week later she ran over our retaining wall with her lifted truck. It damaged the wall, but her truck is so tall it did no damage to her vehicle. Again, she never talked to us about it or apologized but I had seen her do it because I’m home all day. That summer we had the same landscaping company do work on our backyard so we asked them to add on a repair for the front yard retaining wall. The repair cost $100 and we paid it because we didn’t want a confrontation with our neighbor. One week after the wall was repaired she hit it again. Still we had no apology from her. We’re outside a lot, so we thought eventually she would approach us about it so we gave her time. She never did. One day I saw her walking her dog and came outside to discuss it. I just opened by saying that I wanted to talk about our retaining wall and she responded back by saying that she didn’t know how the wall was damaged. When I said I’d seen her run over it with her truck many times she started making excuses. She said the wall is too close to her driveway and that it could’ve been a delivery driver or any random person who used her driveway. I stayed firm. Initially, I was just going to ask her to pay for the next repair, but I decided that since she didn’t even apologize, I would ask her to reimburse us for the initial repair as well as the upcoming repair. She agreed, but said it wasn’t a big deal and she couldn’t make any promises she wouldn’t just hit it again. The wall was repaired again yesterday and this is the part that my husband says I would be the AH for. I put an ornamental iron post at the edge of our wall, but completely on our side of the property. That way it would be easier to see where the wall is, but if she hit the wall again she would also hit the post and it would probably damage her truck. My husband told me to take the post down. He said I was being vindictive and immature. I took it down immediately after I put it up, but I really want to prevent further damage to our property. I don’t want her to hit the wall again, but if she did hit it and our wall wasn’t the only thing being damaged I think she’d be less likely to do it again. So, would I be the AH if I put the post back? submitted by /u/SmellyChiChicken to r/AITAH [link] [comments]

Bessent, Powell Summon Bank CEOs to Urgent Meeting Over Anthropic's New AI Model - Bloomberg Powell, Bessent flag systemic risk from advanced AI models | investingLive Article below: Obvious plays seem like anything Anthropic related ( Chips & clouds), $AMZN $GOOG +20% from here imo. _______________________________________________________________________________ US regulators convene major banks over AI-driven cyber risks, highlighting growing concern over systemic vulnerabilities. Info via Bloomberg (gated). Summary: US Treasury Secretary Scott Bessent and Fed Chair Jerome Powell held urgent meeting with major banks Focus: cyber risks tied to advanced AI model “Mythos” Model reportedly capable of identifying and exploiting system vulnerabilities Regulators see AI-driven cyber threats as a top financial stability risk Systemically important banks urged to strengthen defences Controlled rollout via “Project Glasswing” to limit risk exposure Highlights emerging intersection of AI capability and systemic financial risk US financial authorities have moved swiftly to address a growing threat at the intersection of artificial intelligence and financial stability, convening an urgent meeting with major Wall Street banks to assess emerging cyber risks. Treasury Secretary Scott Bessent and Federal Reserve Chair Jerome Powell brought together senior executives from the largest US banks in Washington this week, underscoring the seriousness with which regulators are treating the issue. The focus of the discussions was a new generation of AI systems, particularly a model known as “Mythos,” which is believed to possess advanced capabilities in identifying and exploiting vulnerabilities across widely used software and infrastructure. The meeting, organised at short notice, reflects rising concern that increasingly sophisticated AI tools could materially alter the cyber threat landscape. Regulators are worried that such systems, if misused, could enable more effective and scalable attacks on financial institutions, raising the risk of systemic disruption. All banks involved in the discussions are considered systemically important, meaning any compromise of their systems could have far-reaching implications for the broader financial system. By bringing these institutions together, policymakers appear to be aiming for a coordinated and pre-emptive response rather than reacting after vulnerabilities are exploited. The concerns are not purely theoretical. The developers of the model have themselves acknowledged both its offensive and defensive cyber capabilities, and have taken steps to limit its release. Access has initially been restricted to a small group of major technology and financial firms as part of a controlled rollout designed to strengthen system resilience ahead of wider deployment. This initiative, referred to as “Project Glasswing,” is intended to ensure that critical infrastructure is hardened before similar technologies become more broadly available. It reflects a growing recognition that advances in AI are not just productivity-enhancing, but also introduce new classes of risk. The issue also intersects with broader tensions between the technology sector and policymakers. The company behind the model is reportedly engaged in a legal dispute with US authorities over its classification as a supply-chain risk, highlighting the complex regulatory environment surrounding cutting-edge AI development. Overall, the episode signals a shift in regulatory focus. Cybersecurity risks driven by AI are increasingly being treated not just as operational concerns, but as potential threats to financial stability itself. submitted by /u/iMakeGOODinvestmemts to r/wallstreetbets [link] [comments]

Game Information Game Title: Marathon Platforms: Xbox Series X/S (Mar 5, 2026) PlayStation 5 (Mar 5, 2026) PC (Mar 5, 2026) Trailers: Rook Cinematic | Marathon Marathon - Rook Cinematic Trailer | PS5 & PC Games Launch Gameplay Trailer | Marathon Developer: Bungie MetaCritic - 81 average on PlayStation 5 with 35 reviews | 81 average on PC with 32 reviews OpenCritic - 80 Top Critic average - 69% recommended (nice) - 58 reviews Critic Reviews 3DJuegos - Mario Gómez - Spanish - Recommended Divisive as it might be, Marathon is an incredibly polished product that ultimately brings the genre into maturity thanks to its ideally sized maps, flexible matchmaking, deep and satisfying combat and (perhaps most importantly) rich endgame system full of both short term and long term goals for the whole season. Game has you building up some quality loadouts, then wasting it all on unfortunate runs and not giving a damn about it since you'll be back in stock in no time. Great gameplay loop overall... if you have the patience to learn it. 4P.de - Christian Just and Sören Wetterau - German - 7.5/10 Marathon is an extraction shooter that truly does its own thing. It is visually unique, yet complex and not easily deciphered. However, those who stick with it are rewarded with fantastic matches and a motivating gameplay loop. Areajugones -Álex Pareja - Spanish - 8/10 Marathon demands a great deal of patience and time before you begin to truly enjoy it, but as the hours pass, it manages to transform into an obsession. Bungie’s signature touch is evident in its gameplay, as well as in the construction of its universe and its difficulty. It stands unique among extraction shooters, yet its high barrier to entry—along with the constant dedication it demands—won't win over everyone. Atomix - Sebastian Quiroz - Spanish - 85 Marathon is a difficult game to recommend. It's undeniable that Bungie has done a great job with this title, but it's not an experience for everyone. The gameplay is too aggressive for a large portion of the audience, and even those initially interested may be discouraged by the steep learning curve. It remains to be seen whether this game has what it takes to survive this challenging period for games as a service, but if anyone can make it happen, it's Bungie. But Why Tho? - Matt Sowinsky - English - 8/10 Marathon has me locked in, sitting in my brain until my next run. The barrier to entry is high, but it’s rewarding, with each death being a lesson learned. CD-Action - Jakub Dmuchowski - Polish - 8+ Marathon is a very good shooter, but in the long run, it may paradoxically suffer from being limited to just one game mode. CGMagazine - Zubi Khan - English - 8.5/10 Marathon is an addictive extraction shooter featuring the same masterful gunplay that has made Bungie legendary, making it a must-play for fans of the genre and even those adverse to it. Console Creatures - Johnathon Cariati - English - 7/10 If you give Marathon your time, it will reward your patience. I really believe that. I also think the time commitment is a big reason this game won’t be for everyone. And maybe it doesn’t have to be. After all, a game for everyone is a game for no one. This isn’t a casual shooter that’s welcoming to new players. If you’re willing to stick with the game, learn the systems and play with friends, then there’s a good chance you will find a shooter you really enjoy. If you’re looking for something easier to jump into and understand right away, then Marathon is going to be a much tougher sell for you and your friends. Daily Star - Tom Hutchinson - English - TBD Gameplay is brilliantly addictive, the graphics and sounds standout - it’s just that crappy menu system that falters. There’s more to come from Marathon but this is a great start to a live service shooter and a great rival to the likes of Arc Raiders. DayOne - Győző Baki - English - 7 / 10 Marathon is a hugely inconsistent game. Some marvelous vistas and stylistic choices, yet the world feels void of interesting events and feels small, with only a few small, static and repetitive maps. Some great shooting is accompanied by a crazy low TTK that encourages playing as passively as possible. Destructoid - Scott Duwe - English - 8.5/10 Everything about Marathon has been polarizing from the start, including its very existence as another live-service game alongside Bungie's Destiny 2. But in spite of its faults and struggles, the studio has managed to ship a great yet niche extraction shooter, even with its high barrier of entry and existing flaws. It's absolutely not for everyone, but if it's for you, it may be your next addiction. Dexerto - Nathan Warby - English - 3/5 Marathon is a wildy inconsistent game that reaches blood-pumping highs, in between rounds of pure frustration. There's a great shooter hiding in there, but players will jump off before they find it. DualShockers - Shane Limbaugh - English - 8.5/10 Marathon is hands down the best extraction shooter on the market. From the gunplay to the way the game handles the distribution of story, there's a lot to love in Marathon. While the quality of life could be improved in some respects and some of the UI elements could be adjusted, the overall game stands as a testament that Bungie knows how to make a good game. Eurogamer Germany - Benjamin Schmädig - German - 5/5 Marathon is an incredibly intense, nearly perfect first-person shooter in a visually breathtaking scenario. It keeps you engaged with an incredibly well-tuned cycle of looting and improving, while you constantly progress even after failing a mission. EuroGamer Portugal - Adolfo Soares - Portugese - 3/5 Not even Destiny's brilliant gunplay can save Marathon from its own mess. Bungie's new shooter drowns in too much visual noise, rudimentary menus and boredom. An extraction shooter that doesn't innovate and becomes tiresome long before it becomes fun. If you're hardcore in this genre, Marathon can be seen in a much more optimistic light. Everyeye.it - Giovanni Panzano - Italian - 8/10 Marathon is not a game for everyone. The hardcore nature of Bungie’s latest effort creates an experience with a high barrier to entry—one that will drive away anyone unwilling to commit to mastering its intricate mechanics, while conversely trapping everyone else in an endless loop of runs. This specific quirk ensures the game will likely never become a mainstream hit or reach record-breaking levels of popularity; yet, there is no doubt that Bungie’s take on the extraction shooter genre is one of the most compelling titles currently available on the market. Anyone with a visceral love for this subgenre should at least give it a chance—or, to put it more aptly, try going for a run. Final Weapon - Saras Rajpal - English - 4.5/5 So far, Marathon is an absolutely fantastic multiplayer shooter. The narrative manages to be compelling, even without a single-player campaign; the presentation is a treat to look at, and the gameplay still has me hooked. While I fear for its ability to deliver consistently good content in future updates, Bungie's care for the game thus far and the fact that it already has a committed fanbase have me hopeful and even excited to see how Marathon continues to grow in the coming weeks, months, and years. If you're a fan of multiplayer shooters, then this is a must-play. Finger Guns - Joshua Thompson - English - 8/10 Bungie are once again at the forefront of sci-fi with their extraction shooter Marathon. Whilst none of the elements are purely unique individually, Bungie have cultivated a brutal ecosystem that gives you as much as you're willing to put in. The barrier to entry is high, and the player base are already daunting, but what is on offer is an FPS with exceptional gunplay and heightened encounters, wrapped in a brilliant setting. Game Informer - James Galizio - English - 9.25/10 Like any good extraction shooter, Marathon is a game about the choice and consequences inherent within a run. Yet, it's more than just that. Bungie's excellent audio design and gunplay, paired with increasingly complicated level design borrowing from over a decade of expertise designing Destiny raids coalesce into something special. Marathon is proof Bungie is still at the top of its game. Gamekult - Alex Cortes - French - 6/10 Marathon makes excellent use of Bungie's strengths, whether in its narrative, visuals, or gameplay. But despite this polished presentation, it remains a relatively conventional extraction shooter, and the few attempts to differentiate it—particularly the fast-paced and challenging combat and the hero system—fail to truly convince. There's no doubt the game will find the dedicated community it deserves for its undeniable qualities, but following the vibrant Arc Raiders unfortunately makes Marathon somewhat bland for the average player. GameLiner - Rudy Wijnberg - Dutch - TBD Marathon shows moments of brilliance, especially in its signature Bungie gunplay, but the current package feels limited. A low amount of maps, heavy monetization push, and reliance on coordinated teammates hold the core experience back. There's potential here, but Bungie still has serious work to do. [Review in Progress] GameOver.gr - Alexandros Papadopoulos - Greek - 7.5/10 Bungie once again nails the shooting, delivering consistently satisfying combat moments in Marathon. Its retro-futuristic aesthetic and lore create a dilapidated sci-fi world that feels both mysterious and captivating. During traversal and tense firefights, as you attempt to extract valuable loot, the game offers a thrilling and engaging experience. However, it’s baffling how convoluted the menus are, creating unnecessary confusion even for simple tasks. Additionally, in its current state, the content feels somewhat lacking,though Bungie has promised to expand it in the near future. Gamereactor UK - Magnus Groth-Andersen - English - 7/10 Marathon’s foundations are solid, strong, and well-functioning, and although the game might lack a hook, or simply maps that build on this solid foundation, I feel confident enough, even without Cryo Archive, to recommend Marathon solely on the basis of this rather fantastic loop. That doesn’t mean Marathon is a fantastic game in itself, but it could very well turn out to be one, and that’s more positive than for a great many other live-service games. Gamer.no - Espen Jansen - Norwegian - 7/10 Marathon delivers a plethora of deep mechanics, engaging gunplay and a truly unique look, but there's simply too much tedium and way too much busywork between fights. GamersRD - Alejandro Paula - Spanish - 8/10 Marathon is an addictive extraction shooter with the unmistakable hallmark of Bungie. Its hostile map Tau Ceti IV offers great tension and survival, standing out for its colorful aesthetic and an accessible learning curve. Although the on-screen interface is overwhelming and gives the feeling that it could have launched more polished, its solid endgame content makes up for the experience. Gamer Social Club - Adam S. D. Stewart - English - 9 /10 Coming from someone who is completely new to extraction shooters, Marathon is a triumph. The excellent visuals, audio design and gameplay creates a game and world that wants you to have “just one more run”. Hell, I’m only writing this during the server maintenance downtime, otherwise I’d struggle to tear myself away! Bungie have succeeded in creating a world that is begging to be explored and experienced even if the lore and storytelling feels slightly secondary. It may feel overwhelming at first, but a little perserverance, and not much at that, will open up a game that is incredibly well made and demonstrates a lot of love and work. GameSpot - Phil Hornshaw - English - 9/10 I've now sunk nearly 90 hours into Marathon, and it has quickly eclipsed many of my other go-to multiplayer games. It's currently all I'm thinking about and all I want to play. I'm excited to see how else the game will change over time, whether that's with new Shells, new contracts, new story, new modes, or new enemies. And so far, Bungie has been highly attuned to player feedback, and that has already resulted in lots of tweaks and improvements to the experience. GamesRadar+ - Andrew Brown - English - 4.5/5 Marathon steals the breath from your lungs. An intense shooter that thrives on PvP encounters and a well-realized setting, Bungie's extraction shooter is off to an exceptional start Gamesurf - Simone Rampazzi - Italian - 7/10 Ultimately, Marathon presents itself as a kind of digital Rorschach test in which each player projects their own tolerance thresholds for frustration and aesthetic fascination: it is a work dedicated to gunplay fetishists who demand a physical response to every mouse input, and to those who, tired of the reassuring linearity of modern blockbusters, seek the thrill of fragmented and brutal storytelling. The shift toward the extraction shooter genre proves to be a bold strategic move to test the limits of competition, attracting anyone curious to see how the DNA of 1994 has mutated under Ziegler’s vision, while simultaneously forcefully repelling those who look for a guided approach or a minimalist UI. It is not a game for those who detest extraction anxiety or the permanent loss of loot, since the absence of waypoints and the informational overload of the HUD require a cognitive investment that many might find exhausting. Those with modern hardware and ultrawide displays will derive the greatest visual pleasure from this chromatic jungle, but they will still have to reckon with a system that gives nothing away and turns every mistake into a definitive erasure. Marathon, ultimately, is a technological shell that admits no compromises: either one accepts living within its distortions, or one is rejected by the system like obsolete code. Gaming Age - Austen Canupp - English - 90 I will not pretend that Marathon is a game for everyone. I don’t even think it’s a game for most people who enjoy FPS games, but… that does not stop it from being a great game in the end. Marathon offers a lot to give people the ability to experience a hardcore looter shooter in a more well-designed and refined environment than has otherwise been available before its existence. Tarkov or Delta Force might look good, but what they are both missing is that casual friendly polish that you can only get from a studio with a long history like Bungie. In my opinion, both of the aforementioned games suffer from being unpolished in the grander view in a way that, while not necessarily making them bad, definitely makes them hard to approach. Marathon’s UI might be a bit wild, but it’s not the crazy patchwork that you’ll find in its competitors. It does what every other extraction shooter before it has done, but more polished and cohesive. There’s always clear goals and expectations, and upgrades are easy to understand and progress. Marathon is, in my opinion, the clearest winner of the genre to date that offers the kind of experience it does. Gaming Boulevard - Toon Borremans - English - 9/10 The gaming landscape rarely sees a PvP first-person extraction shooter like Bungie’s new Marathon. It blends fun, engaging gameplay with fast-paced matches and smartly chosen mission structures. Tao Ceti IV feels like a vision of the future that we haven’t already encountered in sci-fi, boasting a unique visual design and a futuristic soundtrack that shapes the atmosphere like no other. I really hope this game finds a consistent player base, because I want Marathon to stick around and show me more of its world for years to come. GamingBolt - Ravi Sinha - English - 8/10 Bungie delivers a compelling extraction shooter in a trippy new setting, though whether that will be enough remains to be seen. GamingTrend - Corvo Rohwer and Joe Morgan - English - 85/100 Marathon is top-tier Bungie gunplay in a beautiful extraction shooter setting, and it makes for an addicting gameplay loop. Exploring the dangerous world of Tau Ceti IV and the looming colony ship with your gear on the line makes for some of the most intense PvP available, though the punishing early game might be too brutal for some. Gfinity - Chris Davison - English - 8/10 Bungie’s Marathon reboot successfully transforms a sci-fi classic into a tense, visually stunning extraction shooter. While a steep learning curve and punishing seasonal resets may alienate some, the satisfying gunplay, unique Runner Shell abilities, and addictive loop of high-stake runs make it a rewarding experience for those who brave the dangers of Tau Ceti IV. GRYOnline.pl - Dariusz Matusiak - Polish - 7.0/10 Despite these shortcomings, Marathon still manages to be deeply intriguing—if only for its distinctive audiovisual style. It truly feels like a small work of art in a museum: the kind that some would instantly want to take home and admire at every spare moment, while others might not fully grasp it—or perhaps wouldn't choose to display it on their own shelves—yet will still find themselves gazing at it with fascination, if only for a moment. I am incredibly curious to see how Marathon evolves over the coming seasons, and I will certainly be keeping a close eye on it. Hobby Consolas - Álvaro Alonso - Spanish - 90/100 Marathon's return as an extraction shooter had everything stacked against it... But Bungie always hits the mark. The studio's three strengths mesh perfectly with the extraction formula, resulting in a game you always want to play again. IGN Adria - Mladen Tapavički - Bosnian - 9/10 Marathon is a challenging FPS multiplayer extraction shooter that will not leave you indifferent as you explore the ruins of the Tau Ceti IV colony. It allows players to experience incredible success and defeat in a game that has a surprisingly good narrative and audio/visual presentation. We hope this will be the basis for a long series that will add new content regularly. IGN Benelux - Tom Van Stam - Dutch - 9/10 Marathon is a game that is truly unmatched, especially in terms of style and gunplay. Beneath its visual presentation and incredibly strong soundtrack lies a game that is remarkably special, though it will not immediately appeal to everyone because it is so hardcore. For me, it is one of the best first-person shooters ever made. In terms of level design, Marathon is even better than Destiny, and the release of its most recent level, Cryo Archive, only reinforced that even further. It takes a little while to get into at first, but once you push through that initial barrier, you are in for an unforgettable experience. IGN Brasil - Bruno Renzi - Portugese - 7.5/10 Marathon offers the best of what Bungie has to offer in terms of pure gameplay and a unique hardcore experience within the extraction shooter genre. However, pacing issues and its appeal to a niche audience make the barrier to entry too high for the vast majority of players. IGN - Travis Northup - English - 9/10 Marathon is a ruthless and unforgiving extraction shooter that’s worth every ounce of hell it puts you through. IGN France - Paul Blanchard - French - 8/10 Memorable for its excellent game feel and striking artistic direction, Marathon is a punitive, extreme and exponentially addictive extraction shooter. IGN Spain - Estrella Gomez - Spanish - 8/10 At first glance, Marathon feels strange and confusing. It's a game that demands a lot of patience from the player, as only then can you truly discover the wonders of its world. This extraction shooter doesn't reinvent the wheel, but it stands out thanks to its fast-paced gameplay, which always feels satisfying, and its distinctive style. Jeuxvideo - Alexis Mariel Zema - French - 17/20(?!) Marathon is a radical proposition (you either love it or hate it), and if you have nothing against its unforgiving PvP and art direction, then I highly recommend it. The art direction, the atmosphere, the demanding nature of the game captivated me. I was completely absorbed on the planet Tau Ceti IV, displaying heightened vigilance against other Runners, fascinated by the universe Bungie has created. The creators of Halo and Destiny have put their FPS expertise to work in service of an excellent extraction shooter. Jeff.zone - Jeff Gerstmann - English - 5/5 I think that’s the thing about Marathon. It all fits, creating a cycle where even failure can be more inspirational than discouraging. Considering most of my time with other extraction shooters ended after a way-too-discouraging defeat, I’d say that’s a huge part of what sets Marathon apart from the pack. They’ve created (well, iterated on) a story and universe where you want to know what’s next, you want to see the next part of this mystery unfold, whether that’s in-game or through some kind of ARG. Bungie’s set the stage for something truly special, and I hope they take this opportunity to really play around in this space and come up with a wide variety of weird activities to match the game’s vibe. Kotaku - Zack Zwiezen - English - Unscored Marathon is a good game. It is a great game. It’s a special game. This is something that I’ll remember for a long time, even if it dies like so many other live-service games. Metro GameCentral - Adam Starkey - English - TBD At the moment, Marathon shows signs of being able to go the distance, especially if its thrills deepen the more you sink into its breadth of upgrades and weapons. But after this early test, it feels like there are a lot of obtuse hurdles, and peculiar design choices, stopping it from being a true contender. [Review in Progress] MMORPG.com - Justin Harmon - English - TBD From what we've played so far, Marathon feels like a modern love letter to the classic games from Bungie’s past, while keeping their sights on the future. While the learning curve is steep, the community the game is building is already growing strong. PC Gamer - Morgan Park- English - 90 Marathon is a brilliant distillation of what makes extraction shooters great, and a glimpse at where they could go next. PCGamesN - Jamie Hore- English - 8/10 Marathon is a feast for the senses - vibrant sci-fi visuals and world building, amazing sound design, and a brilliant combat experience are the main things elevating it above its extraction shooter competitors. Its endgame map, Cryo Archive, also creates the same intimidating yet jaw-dropping atmosphere of some of Bungie’s finest Destiny raids. However, issues such as clunky inventory management and dull faction quests hold it back from true greatness right now. PCMag - Matthew Buzzi and Zackery Cuevas- English - TBD We tag-teamed the server slam to parse the good and the bad of Marathon's public debut, and after 10 hours of play, found it an engaging shooter with a few head-scratching elements. [Review in Progress] Playstation Country - Mike I really did try to find a last name. I did. I listened to five minutes of podcast intros from nine years ago. I can’t find it. I stalked LinkedIn. I can’t find it. I don’t know who this guy is. It’s just Mike. He “gets all the racing games.” - English - 7 Overall Against some odds, Marathon is a compelling extraction shooter that offers some really satisfying combat. I do think having only one contract at a time slows progression down but there's plenty of other meters to work towards. Solo play has a tension to it which I really enjoy, although the game seems to be built more around squads. With just a few maps available at launch, I only hope that the game evolves and grows over time. I love the aesthetic and, generally speaking, it's doing quite a few things right. PlayStation Universe - Tommy Holloway - English - 9/10 Marathon is further proof of Bungie's pedigree and ability to create enthralling, engaging, and addictive shooters. While Marathon is brutally challenging and unforgiving, especially for the solo or casual player, it begs to be experienced. Pocket Tactics - Sam Comrie - English - 9/10 Bungie’s unwavering commitment to its hardcore niche makes Marathon an enthralling experience the FPS genre needs. Best-in-class gunplay, sleek art direction, and masterful sound design deliver white-knuckle tension in spades. Its versatile playstyles let you approach it as a stealth powerhouse or turn it into a squad-based riot. Press Start Australia - Brodie Gibbons - English - Unscored Marathon is a special game that, like Destiny before it, is firmly rooted in the team’s focus on shared communal experiences, immaculate gun feel, and just straight-up vibes. I hope it finds enough of a foothold to exist in the live-service space longer than some of its contemporaries, because if death is the first step in Marathon, I can’t wait to see what the next one is. PSX Brasil - Bruno Henrique Vinhadel - Portugese - 85% Marathon is special within its own universe and shows how Bungie continues to deliver high-quality first-person shooters over decades. It still needs slight refinements and more content over time to remain consistently interesting, but its release is a huge success. Push Square - Aaron Byne - English - 9/10 Marathon doesn’t have that instant fun factor and casual appeal that an extraction shooter like ARC Raiders does. And for a lot of people, that likely means it isn’t the game for them. But Marathon is a game that gives more to you the more you give to it. With impeccable Bungie gunplay, a gorgeous world and artstyle, and a gameplay loop much denser than its competition, we think Marathon is something special. The more we play, the more we love it. Region Free - Joonatan Itkonen - English - 3/5 If you're really into extraction shooters and you've gone through all the other major competitors, chances are you might love Marathon, too. But if you're a solo gamer or with friends available only occasionally, it's best to skip it for now. There are other worlds than this. Restart.run - Jesse Vitelli - English - 4.5/5 [Marathon has] brought a multiplayer shooter back into the rotation for my friend group. A central game for us to rally around, to share memes, tips and tricks, and just discuss theories and where it could go next. The possibilities in Tau Ceti IV feel endless if Bungie is given the runway to continue building out this universe. Screenhub - Michael Murphy - English - 4/5 Longevity is a touchy subject in this day and age, as many live-service titles have struggled to keep up with the gaming landscape. Marathon, for a while, looked to be one of those one-and-done that would be lost to time...Fortunately, Bungie has crafted something that proves that wrong, but looks to get better with each update. While not a single-player haven or easy-to-enter title, what you get is a great multiplayer extraction shooter that many should get in on as soon as possible. Screen Rant - Chris Carter - English - 7/10 With any luck, developer Bungie will spruce up the strong foundation of Marathon to make it a bit more palatable. SECTOR.sk - Peter Dragula - Slovak - 70 Marathon is an interesting project from Bungie that has some merit, but so far it doesn’t feel like it’s living up to its full potential. It’s held back by limited content, a cluttered layout, poor navigation, and repetitive gameplay. That said, the game has a solid foundation in its shooting mechanics, movement, and the need for tactical decision-making during extractions. Spaziogames - Andrea Maiellano - Italian - 8.5/10 After dozens of hours, Marathon left me with something rare: a deep, renewed respect for a studio that, week after week, always seems on the brink of collapse. It’s not a perfect extraction shooter, nor an accessible one, let alone easy to love. But it is authentic and consistent. It’s a production that doesn’t seek compromise, that rewards dedication, punishes improvisation, and above all refuses to follow any trend. Stevivor - Hamish Lindsay - English - 9/10 I could write a whole other review on just how much I’ve come to adore Marathon. The gentle patter of rain, the falling rocks that sound like footsteps. The designs of the guns and the sounds they make. There’s genuinely so much excellence here that I can’t help but lament the troubled path Bungie took to get here. What I can tell you though is that, without a doubt, Marathon is not only the best extraction shooter available right now by a wide margin, but also one of the premier PvP experiences out there. It’s a must buy for anyone who enjoys thrilling PvP combat. TechRadar Gaming - Dashiell Wood - English - 3/5 Marathon looks great and benefits from some excellent moment-to-moment action, especially if you’re playing with friends. Even so, the clear lack of content, terrible cosmetics, and abundance of repetitive fetch quests give you few compelling reasons to keep coming back for more once the initial burst of excitement wears off. The Games Machine - Alessandro Alosi - Italian - 8/10 Marathon takes the Extraction Game philosophy and molds it into the Bungie style. It's not perfect—the UI is awful, and the missions lose their edge over time—but the gameplay loop is fun, and the shooter foundation is solid. And what a style, guys. VGC - Diego Argüello- English - 4/5 Despite the tumultuous landscape of live-service games around it, Marathon firmly carves its own place in the extraction shooter genre with an unmatched presentation and breakneck rhythm. Voxel - Igor Almenara Carneiro - Portugese - TBD Marathon is a brutal and potentially frustrating extraction shooter. It's not beginner-friendly, but offers significant value for those who persevere. The art direction is bold and extremely striking—capable of attracting or repelling players from the very first moment. [Review in Progress] Wccftech - David Carcasole - English - 9/10 All that said, Cryo Archive is still an incredible endgame reward for the players who make it there, and in the meantime you get to enjoy the rest of Marathon's wonderfully designed zones. Now that I've experienced Cryo Archive, I can definitively say Marathon is the full package for shooter fans, stealth game fans, and anyone who feels like they've been missing some of the magic that made Bungie the iconic studio it is today. Xbox Achievements - Richard Walker - English - 75% As disheartening as failed runs can be in Marathon, it's worth sticking around for the triumphs and the game's cool and frenetic, albeit slightly headache-inducing, 1990s-style neon-hued design. Its Designers Republic-esque iconography and surreal cutscenes are uniquely bizarre (I've never loaded into a game while watching a big moth chewing on some weird worm thing), but it's all part of a unified design and vision. It all hangs together nicely, but Marathon's survival will ultimately hinge on whether Bungie can keep it fresh and whether players will be prepared to stick with it. I hope that they do. Xbox Tavern - Jamie Collyer - English - 80 While there’s no denying Marathon is an aggressive PvPvE extraction shooter, it is also a remarkably moreish one. The core loop of exploration, looting and fighting feels great as we’d hope from FPS veterans Bungie, and while the UI could use some touch ups in both inputs and clarity, that one more game feeling is present and correct enough that I can see myself sticking with this for some time to come. With constant updates and additions promised, I think the future is bright for Marathon indeed. submitted by /u/LycaonMoon to r/Games [link] [comments]

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/skskhohohoe Originally posted to r/AITAH AITAH for telling my half-sister I can't have a relationship with her? Editor’s note: made small edits and added paragraph breaks for ease of readability Thanks to u/soayherder for suggesting this BoRU Trigger Warnings: death of a loved one, bullying, emotional abuse and manipulation, infidelity, falsifying statements ---- Original Post: January 20, 2026 Sorry for the long rant, I'm just really lost and need to give a lot of context!! Fake names! When I (21F) was very little, my dad had an affair with a woman called Elizabeth, which resulted in my half sister Jaylynn (20F). I also have three other siblings, Morgan (29F), Ruth (28F) and Ashton (26M) that don't really have a relationship with our dad since they were old enough to understand and remember a life with our parents married. When the divorce was finalized, my dad, Elizabeth and Jaylynn moved to another nearby town 30 minutes away, so we weren't exactly close by to the point of attending the same elementary or high school, but we saw each other quite often because we had to go every weekend to our dad's. That really sucked because specially when my siblings and I got older, we couldn't really make plans on the weekends with our friends since we would be gone Friday evening til Sunday afternoon. Whenever me or my siblings had events/birthdays/competitions on the weekends, we would have to go to our dad's home, get ready there and then he would drive us so my stepsister felt included. The real issue started when my siblings started turning 18 and deciding not to come anymore since legally, my dad couldn't force them, so from 14 to 18 I still had to go, but alone (to give my dad some credit and since I was starting to act out for not being able to make plans with friends on the weekends, he allowed me to stay at my mom's 2 weekends a month). But being there sucked all the joy out of me because I was alone facing Jaylynn and Elizabeth (my dad got home around 7pm and Elizabeth was a sahm). I dreaded listening to them make digs at my mom and sisters for their appearances, which i shot down every time but they would keep going, talking my ear off about my mom and siblings being too old to "keep up with me" whatever that means. I guess since Jaylynn and I were closer in age than to my siblings, they expected that alone time they had with me to be enough to turn me against my mom and siblings, giving me gifts and trying to get us to bond, which gave the opposite result and made me resent them even more. Once I turned 18, I had a heart to heart with my dad and told him I wasn't going to keep visiting if his wife and daughter were here because I felt trapped with people who hated my mother and would make vile comments about her when my mom has never being anything but graceful towards them and has always told us to give Jaylynn a chance since we were the only siblings she would ever have (Elizabeth had to get her uterus removed due to a tumor a few years after having Jaylynn). My sibling sometimes had dinners with my dad, but they decreased overtime because Elizabeth demanded to come as well, my siblings refusing since they just wanted alone time with dad and since he was stuck between a rock and a hard place, those dinners very rarely occurred. Every graduation or event became very headache-inducing because Elizabeth always wanted to upstage my mom and made backhanded comments, even tried to name herself mother of the bride at Morgan's wedding, along with some other stuff that prompted her to being escorted outside by my uncles. Ruth didn't even invite her to her wedding, which in return made our father only attend the ceremony and not the reception since she threatened him with divorce. Last year in Ashton's graduation, he didn't even attend because the day before he was suppose arrive, Jaylynn tried to commit and was admitted to the hospital. To say things have been tense would be an understatement. Last time I spoke to her was a few days after her admission when I went to check on her, but couldn't really see her much because her mother accused me of being the reason her daughter was in that state, because I never let her in my heart and that I should've been the one in the hospital bed, I responded back at her and she tried to slap me but I managed to avoid it and drove back home without even talking to my dad. A few weeks ago my grandma on my dad side died. My siblings and I didn't really have a relationship with her because she assaulted my mom when she was pregnant with Ashton and then moved away, so we only saw her maybe once every two or three years. She was also never welcoming or loving since she always said my mom cheated and all of us were affair babies even though we were proven to be his. This doesn't apply to Jaylynn since she's a carbon copy of her when she was younger, so my grandma really favored her over any of her other grandkids. When we attended the funeral was the first time we all saw each other in a very long time, but we mostly kept cordial for the occasion. The problem came when Jaylynn approached me and sobbed in my arms because last year she realized just how depressed and miserable it made her to have being denied a relationship with her siblings, that she realized how wrong she and her mother had treated us and wanted to make ammends and start fresh with us. She also said that our grandma's death had fully broken her because we had our maternal grandparents and lots of cousins, but she only had us (my dad is an only child whose father passed when he was a kid and Elizabeth is an only child too I believe). I held her hands and told her that I understood how bad she must've felt in that moment and that I was sorry that she was in a situation like that because it wasn't her fault for being born from an affair, but that I personally couldn't give her the relationship she craved because I still struggled to see her as anything more than the product of the affair my dad had, not family, even less a sibling. That I wish things had been different and that our parents had made better choices, but truth is, for the moment, I can't bring myself to be a part of her life or have her be a part of mine. She looked at me like I had just stabbed her and I went away because in that moment I felt like crying, but I couldn't keep that in my chest anymore. I went to my car and went home, I haven't spoken to my dad in person since that day and I don't know if Jaylynn told him what happened, but I've been so anxious ever since. My mom told me I was very harsh and could've phrased it better if that's really how I felt because she's going through so much at the moment. Most of my friends agree with me saying she needs to stop demanding a relationship and better herself instead of just crying, but one of them told me I was very cruel because if her step sister ever said the things I said, she would crash out. I'm really lost and would appreciate some insight from people who have experienced something similar ? I don't really even know if I'm justified in being this resenting because as I said, I haven't really known a life with my parents together. Thank you so much TLDR: My half-sister is asking for a relationship now that we're older, but I can't really bring myself to do it. AITAH has no consensus bot, OOP received mixed reactions of NTAs, YTAs, and ESHs. Mostly leaning toward NTA Relevant Comments Commenter 1: NTA. You weren't harsh at all; you were being honest. Also, you didn't slam the door completely, you told her that FOR THE MOMENT you can't give her what she wants. She should back off. It may someday happen, but it won't if she tries to force it. OOP: Also what bothers me is that she only seemed to want to "have a relationship" with me? None of my other siblings, when me and her have been the ones to argue the most ?? Commenter 2: Not really surprising though. The opposite of love is not hate, but indifference. While she may have fought and struggled with you, that still means you had a relationship, which is more than she probably had with either of your siblings. It’s not uncommon for people to prefer even adversary relationships to absolute solitude. OOP: Yea maybe that's why, I never thought of that. I just thought she saw me as weaker? My siblings definitely don't care for her now, when we were younger they mostly ignored her and comforted me when we would argue. Now that they're older and have a life outside the family maybe she thinks she has no chance at ever getting to know them organically without me?? I'm really confused Commenter 3: NTA. And your mom is a SAINT and better woman than I'll ever be because damn if I didn't raise holy hell and danced on my ex mil grave while toasting champagne if she did that to me OOP: I didn't add this because I didn't think it was relevant, but my mom was actually the one to tell us that our grandma passed. My dad called her and said he had enough to deal with having told Jaylynn Commenter 4: NTA could you have handled it better, sure. However very few handles being put on the spot in public/crowd so everything considered, including your age and how recent this was your life you handled it relatively kind. It’s great that half-sister realizes how wrong her and her mom’s behaviors were, but she also has to realize you are processing trauma as well. Consider talking to a third party, it well help you figure out if you even want to pursue a relationship with half sister and dad and how it will need to happen to be respectful of your boundaries. One thing I noticed was your dad only there after 7 when you were on weekends at his house? If he purposefully left you and your siblings with his AP/wife knowing the conflicts he is certainly an Ahole! Everything considered it probably went a well as could be expected. As for your mom (my own daughter is about your age) she likely didn’t mean anything negative against you just to point out where half sister is coming from and for you to be your very best version. She sounds pretty realistic so if nothing else ask her what she meant. If she think you were mean or if she think you could have done better. Remember she wasn’t there for the b***hing sessions she may not even have heard about half of them. I’m pretty sure you are correct in only having a relationship with your dad until you have processed and figured out yourself first. I don’t think I’d done much differently than you did (I may have passed on the funeral but that’s just me) An apology is like an invitation, receive it with grace but you are not obliged to accept it. OOP: Yes he was gone most of the day since he had to get a new job after the divorce (he worked with my grandpa and quit when everyone found out he got another woman pregnant), we would tell him all the hateful things his wife and kid would say and he'd just shrug and tell us not to provoke them. I'm beyond grateful my oldest sister always stood up for us even as young as 13 and always made sure call out her behavior to her face. And for my mom, I don't even know how she does it, she's never once badmouthed my father, grandma, Jaylynn or Elizabeth. I think she's a little disappointed that I said those things but won't tell me, I think she's wants us to have a relationship. And looking back I think me and my siblings all wished we didn't attend the funeral because that woman didn't deserve having us there and that would've saved me the whole "start fresh" OOP on her mother who should had protect her and her siblings better from their father and his wife OOP: Yea I wish my mom had a spine and chewed my father out for allowing that shit, but she's always said she's nonconfrontational and to let "things take its course" which I imagine was let them deal with the consequences later, but said course also impacted my ability to deal with shitty people in my life. My oldest sister was far more effective in dealing with that than my mom when she shouldn't have because if every adult failed the children, they failed her the most :((.   Update: February 25, 2026 (over one month later) UPDATE: AITAH for telling my half-sister I can´t have a relationship with her? Hello everyone, I know it's been a long time since my post and wanted to update as soon as I could with the advice I got from here, but this past weeks have been very chaotic with school and my family, and I haven't had the energy for anything else, but now I feel ready to write it all down. I'll try to explain everything in order but just know that everything was happening all at once and my brain can only handle so much at a time. Morgan called me the next day after I posted this and didn't even ease into it, she just went ahead asking what exactly I told Jaylynn because people were telling her different things, and I told her the truth, that I can't give her the relationship that she wants and that I don't see her as a sister. Then she started in on how sometimes you don't have to say everything exactly as you feel it, that there are ways to say things, especially when someone is not doing okay mentally, and that I wasn't particularly new to dealing with mental health problems. And that really irritated me because when were we ever given softness growing up? I said nobody cared that we were being dragged there every weekend, listening to Elizabeth make vile comments about mom, having to act polite while being insulted to our faces. Then she snapped back that I have no idea how much shit she had to deal with before she even turned 10, trying to shield the rest of us, that not everything happened in front of me and that I don't even know the half of it. And then it just spiraled into a screaming match because pulling out old stuff just makes you feel 13 again for some reason, she even threatened to call Ruth to back her up in what she was saying to prove I have no reason to be acting like a martyr because, according to her, I had "the easy part having the three of them like hawks around me". I honestly don't know how she could be so wrong considering I spent my late adolescence crying every single weekend I had to go, and begging them to come with me because I couldn't handle it anymore. I want to think she just said it because she was angry, I know she carries a lot of resentment because she had to "do it alone" because even though Ruth is only one year younger, she was always pretty much on the more innocent side and just dealt with everything more quietly while Morgan was the one who spoke up every single time. I know both of them are still pretty angry even if they hide it better now that they have husbands and houses and everything. Talking to my dad was way worse. I went to his job to pick him up and talk on the way to his home because I know his wife would be there and that was the only way I could talk with alone, and because I wanted to clear up what happened at the funeral and needed to say everything to his face. I asked him why he never shut Elizabeth down when she talked badly about mom or us, why he never drew hard boundaries with them like he did with us, why "keeping the peace" always meant we were the ones who were adjusting and why even after having all of their kids say they wouldn't see him if his wife was there, it didn't click for him that maybe his wife was really the problem. He did the whole forehead rub and saying he was so tired of everything and everyone, that he was trying to maintain stability, that Jaylynn didn't deserve to grow up feeling unwanted and that --YOU'RE NOT GONNA BELIEVE THIS--, Elizabeth is his wife and he will always be by her side even when she's wrong and would never let anything come in between them. I asked him how can you love someone who has destroyed every single relationship in your life because you refuse to put her in her place and he just said I didn't know anything about her and couldn't judge her because everyone has "their little things". In that moment I wanted to swerve and crash the car because what do you even mean. That honestly fucked with my head more than anything else he's ever said, because suddenly it's not a mistake he made years ago that he can't fix now, it's a present day choice he isn't embarrassed to continue making and it honestly repulsed me. When I was little I was so sad because I thought my dad was being abused by this woman because he couldn't POSSIBLY be ok with her doing all that stuff and surely he was planning on divorcing her any moment. Came to find out, he is completely fine with this and isn't bothered by the fact all of his kids completely hate him. I also talked with my mom because as a many of you said, her passiveness when it came to what we endured was not ok and she also needed to be held accountable. I asked why she didn't push harder legally, why she didn't take dad and Elizabeth to court when lines were crossed and let us handle comments like that as kids. She said she didn't want our childhood to turn into a constant legal warfare, that she thought dignity and calm would protect us more than dragging everything through court, but I said dignity doesn't stop people from humiliating you and that she just acted cowardly because she didn't want to be seen as the bitter ex wife. She just didn't respond after that and went to her room. I don't know if it was fair to say it but that's just how I feel after being villainized by my own mother for responding to abuse. After that it was mostly peaceful for about a week and a half but Jaylynn asked to meet a few days later and for some reason I agreed to meet in the parking lot of the train station in my town because honestly I don't want to set foot on hers anymore. It was just so awkward at first because we sat on one of those metal benches where everyone passes by you and listens, it was so public and exposed I kinda wanted to just leave. She said she's in therapy now and that she realizes her mom filled her head with stuff about us blaming her for existing, that she spent years thinking that if she tried harder to become "better" than my sibling I'd eventually choose her. I told her I never wanted or had the intent of choosing anyone, that I was just trying to survive in that house alone for four years while my siblings were old enough to stop going. And yes, I know they had their own versions of hell but I was physically there all by myself dealing with Elizabeth, not only in person but also on my phone on the weekdays because I wasn't allowed to block either of them or I would be made to come every weekend, not just every other. She told me I've always treated her like the symbol of the affair instead of a person, and I said this isn't about the affair, it's about how I was treated, about the comments and about trying to alienate and isolate me from my family. But if I'm completely honest, the comments on my previous post and what she said made me reflect on how much of my stance was about the principle of the infidelity and how much is about the actual behavior, because on the worst days, my mind always came back to her being born from an affair that destroyed my family and that made even angrier than before. The conversation started getting heavy because I had never seen her this vulnerable and honestly it made me extremely uncomfortable because she was constantly alternating between crying, shaking or getting angry. She also said I have the luxury of standing on a moral high ground because I wasn't the one labeled "the affair baby" my entire life and that I had other family and she didn't, but I said I'm not the one responsible for giving her the family her own parents created from a broken one, and that her own actions ensured none of us wanted to have a relationship with her as adults. After that she just asked if there's genuinely nothing in me that wants to try and I said I don't want to force anything just to make everyone else comfortable and that she should focus on sorting out things with her mom and not me. Also I got the impression she was using a lot of therapy speech on me because she kept saying how hating her made me feel that I'm the one in control so I could keep punishing her forever but nothing would undo what happened. After that we just said goodbye because it was getting late and honestly we were just going in circles. A few days after, Ashton sent me a screenshot of a chat request from Jaylynn saying she's sorry for everything and that she hopes he'd be open to maybe grab a coffee someday and talk about everything. He just said "look at this" and when I asked him if he was going to respond he said " idk I'll think about it", which kind of makes me angry because if he's open to reconciliation I don't know where that leaves me with the rest of them. I also talked with Ruth about everything, she's the most "detached" one but that's just her personality. She just said life's too short to make this our defining trait and that for so many years it looked like this was the only thing that kept us close, not shared interest, just circling each other like wounded animals. She also said that both me and Jaylynn were acting from ego and were so young to make this our hill to die on. I told her about the message from Jaylynn to Ashton and asked her if she would be open to communication one day, and she said, and i quote, "I don't know what I'm gonna have for dinner today, what makes you think I know what I'm gonna do tomorrow, maybe if the wind changes". Then there's Will, Morgan's husband, who I've known since I was like 6 and honestly feels like another brother to me. I ended up talking to him in my car because I wanted to show him how I've decorated it because it was originally his old car that both of them gave to me as a present on Christmas since they were getting a new one. He said he didn't want to get involved because he's technically an in-law and he's seen enough through the years, but from his perspective this says more about me than about Jaylynn, that he loves me very much, and needs me to let go because it feels like "secondhand anger", that I stopped having contact almost 4 years ago and it still manages to upset me. He's been around since the beginning and he's watched Morgan fall apart and put herself back together, he's heard things I probably don't even know about. That set me off because yes, Morgan absolutely suffered but at the end of the day she stopped going right after she turned 18 and I was just there until it was my turn. He said that pain wasn't a competition and then we just went back inside and continued like nothing happened because Morgan was already on edge about something at work and both of us knew this would set her off. So right now no one is really taking sides, we're just exhausted and want to pretend like nothing happened, and I get it, they're older and have far more complicated lives than I do, but that doesn't exempt them from being just as involved as I am. I just know for the moment I'm going to try to focus on the things and people I love and stop worrying about the past. Thanks for reading this long rant ! I know it's a lot and really ambiguous, but things like this take time and are extremely mentally taxing. Thanks also for all the encouraging words on my last post and even to the meaner ones because they helped me try to open my mind to all the possibilities. Relevant Comments OOP should listen to her BIL's advice on the pain not being a competition and she doesn't owe Jaylynn a relationship OOP: Thank you for your words, I know that on paper you're right and that would be the healthy and mature way to go about this, but I'm beyond tired of the ground shifting under me and being the only one who reacts to it. I get that they’ve had more time and distance to process it, I get that pain isn’t a competition, but it doesn’t feel neutral to me if they choose to let her in. It feels like I’m the only one still carrying it and I hate that, because I don’t want to be the bitter one but it feels like everyone is set on making me the one stuck in the past when the past keeps coming after me OOP responds to several comments regarding her siblings, especially, Morgan, not wanting to acknowledge the pains and experiences she went through with the whole situation and Jaylynn OOP: I don’t even know how to respond to this without sounding defensive, because part of me feels very seen by what you said and another part of me immediately bristles at it. Yes, it’s exhausting, that’s exactly the only word for it. It feels like every time I try to explain why something hurt me, it somehow turns into a group discussion about everyone else’s pain, and then suddenly mine is either too loud or too much or just inconvenient. So reading someone say “you’ve been invalidated” makes me feel less crazy, honestly. But the part about maybe they’re just tired of me confronting everyone all the time… that stings because from my perspective, I’m not walking around picking fights for fun. I’ve spent years not saying anything, swallowing it, trying to keep the peace like everyone else did, and the second I start actually speaking plainly because I have been confronted by OUR past, now I’m the one who “won’t let it go.” It’s frustrating because it makes me feel like I only get to have feelings if I take into account literally everyone else. At the same time, I know all of us were victims in different ways, I know Morgan suffered, I know Ruth internalized everything, I know Jaylynn grew up in something toxic, I'm not saying I’m the only one who was hurt, I just don’t understand why acknowledging their pain seems to require me shrinking mine. And yeah, the parents carry the most fault. That’s obvious to me, none of this exists without their choices but somehow they’re the ones who get to move on and build their lives while we’re left sorting through the debris, and that makes me angrier than I probably even admit out loud. Also cutting ties with everyone is much simpler in paper than in reality, they're still my siblings and mother, they're tied to almost every good memory from my childhood, and I already have to make peace with the fact that I had half my childhood stolen by pieces of shit, I don't want to lose the other half. OOP: I don’t know if I fully agree, but I’ve thought about what you said a lot. The guilt thing with Morgan… I’ve wondered about that, I don’t know if she consciously feels guilty, but sometimes when she starts listing all the things she “shielded” me from, it does feel like she’s trying to balance some invisible scale, like if she reminds me enough of what she endured, then my four years don’t get to stand on their own. But at the same time, I know she suffered because she was old enough to really understand what was happening and she carried that in a different way than I did. I don’t think she was wrong for protecting herself by not going once she turned 18, hell I would’ve done the same, I just hate that I was still there when they weren’t. With Jaylynn, yeah. She is lonely, I'm not blind to it and I do think her mother poisoned a lot of things for her, but I get stuck at the part where I’m somehow supposed to compensate for that. And maybe she does blame me because it’s easier than blaming her parents because, I think she thinks the same about me, about being easier to blame her than to blame everyone else, but I blame her for her vile behavior and she blames me for not having family bonds. About my mom… I know she probably did the best she could with what she had emotionally at the time, I know she was wrecked and my whole extended family was always there for her, but man it still hurts that she would see us in distress every week and just chose to look the other way. The part about not letting them rewrite my life hits though because that's exactly what it feels like sometimes. Like everyone is smoothing it out into something more manageable now that we’re older and I’m the only one going “no, that was actually really bad" and then I become the dramatic one. You’re right that I’m not responsible for their guilt or anger but I also don’t want to become the person who just lives inside that anger forever and let it become my personality trait. And I agree about not reopening old wounds, but the problem is it doesn’t feel old. If my siblings start building something with her, that changes everything for me. I know technically they’re allowed to, I’m not trying to control them, but pretending that wouldn’t affect me would be a lie, I really wouldn't stand for it. I don’t want to debate whether I “owe” anyone anything anymore because I know I don’t, that part isn’t up for discussion. But I also don’t know how to exist in this family without this shadow hanging over everything. OOP responds to multiple comments about getting therapy to deal with the unresolved family issues she has OOP: I get what you’re saying, and I know therapy is probably a broken record at this point, but what’s really messing with me isn’t just “different childhood experiences,” it’s how fast everything shifted. Before the funeral, none of my siblings had any interest in her (editor's note: Jaylynn), like it wasn’t even a debate. She wasn’t part of our lives and that was just understood because what tied us to her was our dad, who basically all my siblings had cut off. And now, suddenly, it’s “I don’t know, maybe one day,” or “we’ll see,” and that whiplash is what’s throwing me off. It feels like something changed overnight and I'm the last one to realize. So when people say I should approach them softly and acknowledge their pain, it’s not that I disagree, it’s just that I feel like I’m reacting to something very current, not re-litigating childhood for fun. This wasn’t an open door last year and now it is. And with Jaylynn in therapy… I can’t help but think she’s probably being told she’s a victim of all this too, which she is in some ways, but I can already see the narrative forming where she’s the lonely one trying to reconnect and I’m the angry one blocking healing and she should just go for it with the rest of them. Also as far as I know, she's only reached out to Ashton and he hasn't responded yet, who, looking back, was the one who ignored her the most and was never interested in anything to do with her. + I'm not currently in therapy but based on the comments, I should probably look into it because I feel I'm losing my sanity with this mess. I don't quite like using the word "abandonment" because it feels dramatic, but when you line it up like that it hits hard ngl because before all this, I didn't have this debilitating fear, I still had my family and friends, despite my dad not being in the picture, but now I can only think about my life being turned upside down. I don’t consciously think of myself as only existing as part of a unit, because as I said, I felt pretty secure in my relationships with each one of them, but if I’m honest, my siblings have always been my safety net. They were the “we” in all of this, even when everyone built their own lives, so the idea of that “we” shifting feels like losing oxygen, that’s probably not healthy, but it’s real. The popularity contest comment wow. I don’t think I’m trying to win anyone, and actually I'm the one who is pulling back from them because they keep calling and texting like normal, but I can't move on from the possibility of them welcoming Jaylynn into their lives, I know they're their own separate beings apart from the family, and it was never a problem until now, but I'm feeling such anxiety that I can't even speak to them without freaking out. I don’t want to be unstable in my family or have them tiptoe around or pull away from. There’s this constant tension between wanting to hold on and wanting to protect myself from being the last one left again. And I know I don't have to like or be liked by everyone, that’s true in theory, but it feels extremely threatening right now, I don't know if territorial is the word but I'm sick with worry. But I hear you, I don’t want to build my whole identity around reacting to this, that's why I wish it would just end. OOP responds to a comment on if Jaylynn is her nemesis OOP: No, she's not my nemesis, it’s not some dramatic rivalry where I’m trying to destroy her life, it’s just that our histories are so entangled that pretending this is neutral doesn’t feel honest to me because her life is essentially built on the pain of mine. I understand the false dichotomy point, and I’m not asking my siblings to “choose sides” in some theatrical way, but it does feel like a shift when something that wasn’t even on the table before the funeral suddenly becomes a possibility, because even if they don’t mean to, that changes the emotional landscape for me. Even now I find it difficult to talk to them because it feels like impending doom. And no, I know I wasn’t “just fine” before everything exploded, that’s kind of the point, what I mean is that since I turned 18 and stopped seeing them, I was good, sure I was sad about not having my dad in my life, but it didn't stop me from enjoying them family that did stay in my life. I honestly never thought about Elizabeth because that woman doesn't even deserve the oxygen she breathes, and for Jaylynn she was an out of sight out of mind honestly. I agree that therapy isn’t some magical fix, but I also don’t love the implication that I’m dragging around unnecessary baggage like it’s optional luggage I can just set down tomorrow, because some of this isn’t abstract trauma, it’s ongoing family dynamics that still affect me right now and currently more than ever. The straw that broke the camel’s back idea actually resonates more than people might think, because it does feel like all of these things were manageable separately, and then suddenly they weren’t, and now I’m reacting to the accumulation rather than a single event but from the outside it seems like I just found the right moment to explode on everyone. I’m not refusing help, and I’m not pretending I don’t have things to work through, but I'm angry nobody else seems to see what I see DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

After a year of research, debate, and help from many of you in your home regions, I’ve finished a national map of 78 U.S. food regions. Each area is based on distinct culinary traditions shaped by geography, culture, and history, from Gullah and Tex-Mex to Monroe BBQ and Crucian cuisine. I’d love your feedback: Did I miss something obvious? Should a region be renamed, removed, or split further? A version of this map’s headed to print next year as part of a national cultural atlas, so this is the last round of tuning before it gets locked in. Methodology note: This map is interpretive rather than purely statistical. Regions were defined using a mix of historical settlement patterns, agricultural zones, immigration history, regional dishes, and feedback from locals across multiple revisions. This is the 5th major revision, and I’m posting here specifically to invite critique before it goes to print as part of a larger cultural atlas. Edit- just tried to reupload this in higher resolution. I went as high res as Reddit would let me. Sorry if it's still blurry or unreadable. DM me or look at links in my profile and I'll point you to a higher-res version submitted by /u/piri_reis_ to r/dataisbeautiful [link] [comments]

After a year of research, debate, and help from many of you in your home regions, I’ve finished a national map of 78 U.S. food regions. Each area is based on distinct culinary traditions shaped by geography, culture, and history, from Gullah and Tex-Mex to Monroe BBQ and Crucian cuisine. I’d love your feedback: Did I miss something obvious? Should a region be renamed, removed, or split further? A version of this map’s headed to print next year as part of a national cultural atlas, so this is the last round of tuning before it gets locked in. Edit- just tried to reupload this in higher resolution. I went as high as Reddit would allow. Sorry if it's still fuzzy. DM me or look at links in my profile and I'll point you to a higher-res version submitted by /u/piri_reis_ to r/MapPorn [link] [comments]

Single Cell Landscape - Subnautica concept art It originally was going to be a gigantic biome that is one organism that reacts to life, and if I’m not wrong, I believe it was going to be the edge of the map originally. Colossus’ / Titans - My Singing Monsters Gigantic creatures that the singing monsters stand on top of and sing. They’re probably very important, I just don’t know the lore. Giant dragon corpse - Elden Ring DLC The corpse is so big that it has basically become apart of the landscape, with you being able to cross over its wings. This one is probably the least fitting because it’s dead, and it’s not necessarily ‘apart of the landscape’, but I couldn’t think of anything else to put. submitted by /u/jorgendorgen to r/TopCharacterTropes [link] [comments]

Hi good people of r/popculturechat. We are making this post to announce a few rule changes, effective immediately. 1. Participation in "banned" subs is now prohibited. This means that we will be automatically banning users who are part of the subreddits listed below. You are welcome to view the community, you will just be banned from commenting or posting in it. Banned subreddits : r/taylorswift, r/funnyvideos, r/mildlyinteresting,r/news, r/movies, r/royalsgossip, r/publicfreakout, r/foodporn, r/shittyfoodporn, r/LAinfluencersnark, r/whatthefrock, r/BestofRedditorUpdates, r/AITA and r/AITAH, r/KUTWTK and r/KUWTKsnark, r/theoffice, r/austintexas, r/LiveFromNewyork, r/SabrinaCarpenterDisc, r/kpop, r/LoveIsBlindOnNetflix, r/thebachelor, r/MadeMeSmile, r/photoshoprequest r/unexpected r/mildlyinfuriating, r/interestingasfuck, any other gossip sub that has more than 10k members. Edited to add : "r/blink182" This list is non exhaustive and will be routinely added to, similarly to the list of stale topics. You will be able to access the list in the sidebar of the subreddit. But why? As our subreddit grows and evolves, we recognize the need for a curated community and this starts with our members. We want originality, edge, atypical and outside-the-box thinking. As such, we are limiting what we consider "normie" users. Again, they will be able to browse the subreddit and its posts, just not participate in it.We realize this may be a controversial decision but, to be frank, it is needed. 2. Banned GIFS In the same vein, we will be banning certain gifs. Users will get a warning removal and a temporary 3-day ban upon first offense and then a permanent ban if they reoffend. Banned gifs : - "Good for Her" Lucille Bluth - "Good" Childish Gambino - "Ew" Dan Levy - Nene Leakes painting and rolling her eyes - "It's what she deserves" Kim Kardashian - Jim Carrey gagging - Blond mullet man saying "what the fuck" - "Oh no! Anyway" Jeremy Clarkson - "Groundbreaking" Meryl Streep in the Devil Wears Prada Edited to add : "Sure Jan" gif This list is non exhaustive and will be routinely added to, similarly to the list of stale topics. You will be able to access the list in the sidebar of the subreddit. 3. Low effort comments We are expanding our "No Low Effort Posts' rule to comments. Moving forward, comments such as : "LMAO" or any other variation, a bunch of emojis and no other commentary, generic compliments like "she's so pretty","tired of hearing about her", gifs with no commentary, "mother", "queen", "ew", any one word comments, really, WILL be removed. Repeated violations will earn you a temporary 7 day ban, and then a permanent one. 4. Renaming the Guest List The Guest List will now be the "A-List". All approved users will be referred to as A-listers. This is to reflect our status as THE Reddit gossip sub. In today’s crowded social media landscape, it's essential for our community to stand out from the noise. We’re not here to blend in with the typical subreddits or echo the usual trends. We want to create a space where witty users, forward thinkers, spicy thinkers, and people with bold hot takes thrive. Our community is all about engaging with smart, witty individuals who challenge the status quo and push boundaries, offering fresh perspectives and lively discussions. After all, we cover the cultural zeitgeist. We are archivists, but also trendsetters. It’s time to make a mark, be different, and elevate the conversation. Thank you for understanding, we look forward to seeing you take that next step with us. submitted by /u/clemthearcher to r/popculturechat [link] [comments]

The other day I asked whether it was worth joining yoga or dance classes to meet women, and to learn some new skills but mainly to meet women. The responses boiled down to 'you should never take up any hobby that you don't have a real interest in as it will become obvious' Well, my REAL interests... reading, poetry, writing music, working out... are solitary pursuits or at least that's how I prefer to keep them. The concerts I hit up are full of guys and the few women there are usually with a partner and there's limited opportunity to chat to them anyway when the music starts. Plus I love live music so I'm usually not even thinking about meeting people (sidenote that whole BS about how love finds you when you're not looking for it has proven to be a load of crap, I don't even meet people when I take that approach) My Basketball league is male only. I joined a mixed volleyball league for a while and there were a few women but they were either taken or I wasn't attracted to them. Women on other teams we played I didn't have enough face to face contact with to get to know them. Approaching women at shops or the gym isn't appreciated. However it is where I see most attractive women, I've done it before and will again if the opportunity seems right because a great relationship is worth risking 30 uncomfortable seconds but I know most women are taken off guard and usually they're just trying to go about their day undisturbed. Art festivals and various unique events can be ways of meeting people but they're usually really expensive, few and far between and again most women presumably don't want to be hit on. It also seems to have gotten more difficult to strike up conversations with strangers nowadays - many people are wearing earphones which is like a do not disturb sign on a door handle, many just seem to get on edge when anyone they don't know interacts with them, even in social spaces. Work is off limits for most people, and mine is full of middle aged men anyway. Bars and clubs are obviously fertile grounds for single people to flock but I don't enjoy them anymore. I don't like drinking much these days, they're all obscenely expensive, and there seems to be a lot of aggression now, the last time I went out I had a guy try to pick a fight with me while I was minding my own business. I don't need that shit. Besides, the music is so loud that even if I see a cute woman what am I supposed to walk over and scream in her ear? Drunk hookups don't appeal to me anymore anyway, they never really did. My friends are nearly all married and don't go out much anymore. No more house parties or spontaneous events. Dating apps have become greedier and are crawling with window shoppers, scammers, sex workers. They worked well enough for me for a while but they have gotten steadily worse over the past few years and now I can hardly even find any profiles I'm interested in let alone get anyone out on a date, meanwhile my profiles gotten better if anything. Deleted them for now. For the first time I'm really feeling like I'm shit out of luck. Like I missed the boat. When people would complain about how they feel like the have no way of meeting people I would think 'come on, there are plenty of ways' but one by one they have shriveled up as I moved through my 20s. I don't want to get desperate and drop my standards and I don't want to give up but the dating landscape is feeling more like a wasteland with every year submitted by /u/AnomicAge to r/AskMenOver30 [link] [comments]

I am not The OOP, OOP is u/lostandcheatedon8 I recorded my wife cheating on me and I can't stop watching it. Originally posted to r/offmychest Thanks to u/soayherder for suggesting this BoRU Original Post July 3, 2024 A couple weeks ago I decided I wanted to surprise my wife with a kid-free night out. My parents live about an hour and a half away from us and I arranged for the kids to stay with them for the weekend. Usually, when I go to my parents I am gone until later in the evening. We spend all day there and leave around dinner time. This time, I was dropping the kids off and immediately going home so I could surprise my wife and we could go out as soon as possible. I had made reservations at a nice restaurant and was hoping to go to a few places for some drinks first. I left at 8:30 and was back in our housing plan before 12:30. As I pulled onto my street I saw a truck parked in front of my house. I did not recognize it. I assumed it was someone seeing the neighbors though because it's not that unusual for someone to park in front of our house. I parked a few houses away thinking I would sneak into the house and surprise my wife instead of pulling in the driveway and going in the garage. I went in through a basement door. I was as quiet as possible but as soon as I walked in I heard her making sounds from the floor above. When I first heard it I thought she was just by herself, maybe having some personal time. I didn’t want to interrupt her privacy and embarrass her so I was going to go back to my car and just go in the garage so she would know I was home. Then I heard a man’s voice. I immediately felt sick. My heart felt like it was going to explode out of my chest. It is hard to describe how I felt in this moment. I decided to go upstairs. I had no desire to confront them, I just wanted to see what was going on. I moved slowly and quietly and went up the stairs. The door was halfway open. The kitchen was empty but I could tell they were in the living room. It was obvious what was going on at this point by the sounds. There was no way for me to look in the living room without them seeing me. I pulled out my phone and opened my camera app. I put my phone just around the corner of a wall. This part is so hard to write. I could see my wife with a man I didn’t recognize. I won’t go into detail on what they were doing but I think you can figure it out. I started recording it, I was thinking that I needed a record of it for whatever I decided to do in the future. I just stood there in my kitchen, watching this all unfold on my phone screen. I felt like I could just scream at any moment but for some reason I just froze completely. This went on for several minutes. She finally jumped off of him and made a comment about going to the bedroom and they went upstairs. She even made a comment about how much time they had left. I walked into the living room and found the guy’s pants. I took his wallet out and took pictures of his driver's license. I know his name and his address now. I've never met him. I have no idea how my wife knows him. I left the house the same way I entered. I went back to my car and cried like the pathetic man I am. I decided to watch the video to make sure it recorded. I watched it all. I'll spare the details but I sat in my car for at least half an hour. I couldn't drive to my parents and get the kids as I would have to explain why. I decided that I would pull in the driveway, open the garage, and just pretend like I was there to surprise her. I took my time getting into the house. I made a lot of noise. When I saw her she was very flustered asking me why I was home, etc. She was in a robe and said she was just getting ready for a bath. I told her about my plans and she seemed excited. She poured us both a glass of wine and said we should pregame before getting ready. I don’t think I talked much really. She took me into the living room. I’m not proud of what I let happen. I could faintly see the guy sneaking downstairs and going to the basement stairs but I didn’t say or do anything, I just let my wife continue doing what she was doing to me. Since that day, I have watched the video of her repeatedly. I can’t bring myself to make any decisions on what I should do next. She seems to know something is wrong with me because she’s asked a few times if I’m ok. I feel worthless and every time I hit a low point I watch that video again. I feel like I've watched it at least 10 times a day since I caught them. RELEVANT COMMENTS bigedf There are 2 things you SHOULD NOT do in this situation: Don't look for "revenge" against her and/or the guy, it'll just hurt you more and worst case, put you in jail. Don't let her hurt you like this again, because if you stay with her, she will. OOP I have spent multiple hours looking up this guy. And so considering options from the ultp sub ~ Phragmatron So what happened to his pants and truck? He run out without his pants? What did wife say about the truck in the driveway? Wife kick his pants under the couch? OOP His truck was on the street. I don't know where the clothes went to but I assume she panicked as soon as she heard the garage open. ~ shoogashooga So OP I’m a bit confused here. You were still able to go through with your plan to take her out on a surprise date and were able to look her in the face, eat dinner and act like there’s nothing wrong? OOP Not really. We didn't stay out late and went home early. She asked a few times if something was wrong. I tried getting drunk to get through it but was just too hard Update July 13, 2024 (10 days later) I don't know how to link my old post, sorry. I stopped watching the video after reading all the comments on my first post. It has helped clear my mind and allowed me to focus on next steps. This has allowed me to be mostly back to my normal self for both my kids and my job. I have gone through my wife's phone and found nothing. I searched the guys name from the driver's license. I've figured out how they met. He's a landscaper. She was calling some a few months ago to clean up our yard and ended up getting some mulching and clean up done. I've driven past his house many times. I think he is single as I couldn't find any records of other people living at that address. I've only seen a truck parked in the driveway when I have driven by. I have been avoiding my wife after the kids are in bed to try to limit 1 on 1 time. I don't want any awkward conversations and I also don't want to have sex. I have mostly been successful with this but did slip up one night when I had a little too much to drink. I hated myself for it the next day. I don't believe she has seen him since the day I caught them. I've been paying attention anytime she's gone. I obviously can't track her 100%. I've read about apple air tags but I use android. I'm guessing any app I would put on her phone may be discovered. I have installed a doorbell camera on our house though so I can always see the street. When i did this my wife didnt say anything. We continue to do things as a family as we normally would. I have done my best to not let her know what I know and to continue to be a good dad to my kids. The weird thing I'm dealing with now is that she's planned a night out with a friend for drinks. It's a friend from work so I don't know her at all and I'm not connected with this person on social media. When she told me I made up some excuse about work and said I couldn't watch the kids. She ended up getting our neighbor to agree to babysit. Now I'm debating if I should follow her to really see if she's meeting her friend or the guy. It seems like I'm heading towards a confrontation either way when I just want everything to go back to normal. I'm going to leave my house soon and pretend to be going to work. I'll probably just go to a bar to kill time until I can drive by the place she's supposed to be going to. I'm filled with fucking dread about all of this. Update 2 July 20, 2024 (7 days after 1st update) Update 2: I recorded my wife cheating on me and couldn't stop watching the video I've had so many messages asking how I am doing that I felt I should probably post an update. On the night when she was going out with her friend I still pretended I had work and left the house after the babysitter arrived. I went to a bar and had a few drinks. Then I drove over to the restaurant she said she was going to. I saw her car in the parking lot. I'm not going to lie, I was on edge and incredibly nervous despite the drinks earlier. I was so worried I would walk in and see her with that guy. I was hoping to sneak in and get a look without being seen but that failed miserably. She saw me as soon as I walked in the door. She was with her friend and not the guy. We had the “What are you doing here? Thought you were working” expected conversation. I told her work ended early so I wanted to stop by to say hi since we had a babysitter. I left after a couple drinks and went home to relieve the sitter. So many of you have commented on my last post that I need to confront her and I decided in that moment that I would. I couldn't hold it in any longer. I got the kids to bed and waited for her to come home. I watched the video again to remind myself of what happened. When she got home she was surprised I was still up and apparently could tell from the way I looked that something was wrong. I poured it all out on her. It probably wasn't fair of me, I didn't even let her sit down. I told her everything. I played part of the video to show her what I saw. I called her some harsh names, said she ruined our lives. In that moment i was incredibly angry. She was very upset, heavily crying and shaking. She told me how terrible she felt about everything that happened. I told her she had to tell me everything that happened with that guy and she laid it all out. She cheated on me twice with him. After the time I saw them she cut things off because she knew it was wrong and she loves me. I asked her for proof but she said she had already deleted and blocked him on her phone, Facebook, and Instagram. She did tell me that he is single and knew she was married. She asked me to delete the video but I refused. She asked me why and I really didn't have a reason other than I feel I need to hold onto it for now. She got a little angry at that and asked if I was keeping it to watch again. It was very late at this point so we decided to go to bed and talk more the next day when we had more time to think. She continued to apologize repeatedly for what she did. We slept separately that night. Over the next few days things between us seemed better. I felt some relief that it was all out in the open now. We have continued to talk and it feels like we are on a path of staying together and moving past this. I have made it clear that she is never to see or talk to that guy again. While things feel like they are improving I am still struggling to trust her. Worse yet is that I have a trip coming up for work and I'll be gone for a few days. I've told her that I am not comfortable with leaving right now but I can't skip this trip. My boss made it clear that I'm needed. She said I could put cameras up in the house to keep an eye on her if it would make me feel better. Sadly I may do that. I'll be gone for at least 3 days. Overall things are ok. Kids are oblivious that anything is going on and it seems that slowly my wife and I will eventually get back to normal. I hope so at least. I'm a little ashamed to admit that I have watched the video a few times since all of this. I'm thinking that I should probably delete it so it's gone from my life. I don't know what's wrong with me. RELEVANT COMMENTS Flynn_JM I remember your first post. Did she say how it went from yard work to him in your bed? What was the development? OOP She did. He came to the door to ask to wash his hands in the laundry sink. They struck up a conversation. He came out again to finish up the work and they got to talking again. They already had each other's phone numbers and she said some texts were exchanged and she basically made up work for him to come out a third time. That third time led to her cheating. THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP's OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7 submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

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