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I will personally be basking like a lizard this weekend, but I would like y'all to not die so here's the tips I always remind my local friends of **Setup** - Hydrate!!! Seems obvious but I know some of y'all barely manage a glass a day. Start now, the body can only absorb so much water at a time so it's better to be hydrated in advance than trying to chug once heat exhaustion sets in and you get sick - drink water, but also make one of those drinks a juice or a sports drink. Keeps your sugars and electrolytes up, which are important. Also yum yum tasty. And get some ice trays, they're worth it - Keep your windows CLOSED with the best sunlight-blocking curtains possible as soon as the sun starts coming out, unless you have particularly good ventilation or something. Insulation works both ways, so better to keep the sun OUT from the jump rather than letting all the heated air in. If you can hang curtains or shades over your windows from the outside, do that too bc it will prevent the glass from warming (*if the outside air is still cooler than the inside air, windows open + curtains closed is acceptable. But as soon as it stops actually cooling, close it up) - place fans strategically to circulate air through the flat. The room most towards the center of the house will be the coolest, so open all the interior doors and point a fan to "pull" cool air from in there, then place other fans in a sort of ♻️ direction to form a smooth current flow. If you have hot rooms you don't need to use, keep that door SHUT (firefighter rules) **Cooling Yourself** - if out of sun, you can dress as skimpy as you like to sweat efficiently. If you're in sun, COVER YOUR SKIN!! light breezy fabrics keep the majority of the heat from hitting you directly - ice packs in the armpits, between the thighs, and/or under the neck. These are major artery zones and will cool you the most efficiently. The most effective option I've figured out for sleeping without feeling like a sticky disgusting mess, can even use a blanket to keep the cold in sometimes, lol - wet hair. Like the opposite of wearing a hat in winter, a lot of heat escapes your head so you want to encourage that as much as possible. Just dunk or run your head under the faucet every time you dry off, it's very refreshing. Bald people can use a wet rag on their head for similar effect - feet in a bucket of water, similar concept to the ice packs on major arteries but less intense. Best used for WFH desk folks or evening relaxing. Nice to get the sweat off - cool showers or baths. Try not to go COLD cold because it makes the muscles clench and resist heat release, but a "pool cool" bathtub is nice to just keep full for whenever you want to climb in, soak for five minutes, then climb back out lol (saves water, keeps you cool, no room for civil bath habits when you're risking heat stroke) - spray bottle for misting yourself. Basically supplementing your ability to sweat, most effective in front of a fan - "second skin", dress in a thin, close-fitting layer of clothes (athleisure stretch fabrics or swimsuits ideal) and dunk yourself. It's messy, but the water evaporating off acts like turbocharged sweat cooling. Stops being effective as soon as you're dry, so only use if you're somewhere you can stay dunking and don't mind dripping everywhere - other people swear by swamp fans, but I've never been able to get them to do much. Basically putting a brick of ice behind a fan to cool the air immediately behind it and then blast onto you. Worth trying at least once, I recommend plastic takeout boxes for freezing your bricks (lasts longer than ice cubes) Edit: Crowdsourced tips of things I forgot, some that were new to me, and some I had assumed were obvious but since they came up are worth tagging on lol stop fuckin sprinting around everywhere lmfao. Reduce your London Powerwalking by 1/8th of a MPH so you don't wind up dizzy in fifteen minutes, do as little as possible otherwise sunscreen! Doesn't reduce temperatures, but the UV is a factor and getting burnt makes you feel like you're on fire, so definitely best to slather it on umbrellas/parasols, incredibly peak the Laundry Fan! Like a swamp fan, but its pushing air through your damp laundry (which is cooling the air as it evaporates), so you get a 2-for-1 of faster laundry/cooler house (It's a great time to wash your jumpers). I love this one i can't believe i forgot it lol. Best utilized with a dehumidifier nearby Doubled up curtains! Like how an insulated thermos works better than normal, the air gap between curtains helps add an extra barrier between the room and the heat. Shoutout u/usual-charity-6772, i hadn't thought of this option but it sounds great for people that can't install exterior awnings Also suction cup shades like the kind you get for car windshields, I haven't driven a car since I got here so I forgot these existed lmao open your loft hatch, if you have one. Hot air rising into the attic space means the downstairs will stay cooler. Shoutout to the house owners lol BE CAREFUL OF YOUR MEDS!! some make you more vulnerable to heat, so doublecheck! This includes antihistamines, antidepressents, stimulant meds, blood pressure stuff etc Edit 2: Lots of tips about putting tinfoil (reflective side out) on windows, but this is only safe to do inside of SINGLE GLAZED WINDOWS! Double glazed risks heat getting trapped wrong and cracking the glass, so if you want to try this on double glazed, do it from the OUTSIDE. This has been your friendly "don't lose your deposit" PSA submitted by /u/willowsquest to r/london [link] [comments]

Always loved skeletal appearances. Anything featuring bones or skulls I always loved! Here's my Gravediver fit. I'm sure it's been done before but I think it looks neat! HELMET - AF-50 Noxious Ranger ( Chemical Agents Warbond ) ARMOR - EX-16 Prototype 16 ( Cutting Edge Warbond ) CAPE - Mantle of True Citizenship ( Helldivers Mobilize! Warbond ) submitted by /u/n_u_m_b_s_k_u_l_l to r/helldiversarmor [link] [comments]

Morning Brain strikes again! My mug was right there, I was so close… anyways shout out to my drip tray for containing what would have been a huge mess 😂 submitted by /u/bigfatcoffeeslut to r/nespresso [link] [comments]

This was popular in r/cakes so I thought I would post it here too! I tried swapping sugar for Jell-O because Jell-O is almost 90% sugar and they have some great flavors that would be really hard to find as extracts - key lime, island pineapple, apricot, strawberry etc. The flavor is intense, the color is incredibly bright, and the cake smells wonderful. The texture is soft and a bit sticky, but still like a great pound cake. I used 765 grams of Jell-O in place of my regular 800 grams of sugar (this ended up being about 3/4 cup less sugar in total). The outside browned more, I believe because of the acid in Jell-O. Mile High Orange Jell-O Pound Cake 1 pound (4 sticks) butter, room temperature 27 oz orange Jell-O (4 family size boxes plus one regular box), not sugar-free 1 tablespoon vanilla extract 1 teaspoon baking powder 1 teaspoon salt 8 large eggs, room temperature 4 1/2 cups cake flour or White Lily All Purpose Flour 1 1/3 cup half and half, room temperature Preheat oven to 300°F. Prepare Old Country Kitchenware square tube pan by brushing with pan coat (if using two piece pan, fit with a parchment paper square between the two pieces first). Beat butter and Jell-O in the bowl of a stand mixer until pale, light and sticks to the bowl (about 6 minutes at medium speed). Add extract, baking powder, salt, and 1/2 cup flour, beat until combined. With the mixer running on low, add one egg at a time, beating well after each addition until fully incorporated. Alternate beating in the flour until it just disappears and drizzling in half and half with the mixer running on low, beginning and ending with flour. Scrape the bottom and sides of the bowl and beat for another 10 seconds. Pour batter into prepared tube pan and gently shake to settle the batter. Place on middle rack of oven with a baking sheet on the rack below it to catch any drips. Bake 2 hours or until a skewer inserted into the cake comes out clean. Let cool until the pan is comfortable enough to handle. (If using two-piece pan, place it over a metal can and press down to remove the outer piece first). Transfer the cake to a wire rack in two steps: first, turn the cake up on its side, then invert fully. Let cool completely. submitted by /u/oldcountrykitchen to r/Baking [link] [comments]

Now obviously Darkseid himself is an iconic and amazing design, I love the cracked skin and glowing eyes and the scary teeth, but he just has no drip. The helmet makes his head look like a thumb, the tank top doesn't cut off at the right place to make his arms look bigger, his skirt doesn't even fit, the gloves are genuinely just rubber kitchen gloves, like it does not work at all. The kinky boots I can kinda get behind but even then he's not doing anything to make them pop. Also, indigo is just not a good complement for his skin tone. There's no detail, there's no flair, there's no nothing. I get that sometimes you want simplicity, but this is too far. I also included two outfits that I do like for him. I think the movie fit is kinda nice: Silver is a better complement for his skin tone, the armor plating and Omega symbol make his musculature really stand out, and the helmet frames his face a lot better to make him look intimidating. Turning the gloves into gauntlets is really nice too. If it had maybe one more thing going on and a bit more color, it'd be really awesome... like the cloak design, which I think is the best one here. The Omega symbol now in red, the asymmetry of the big weapon hand, the detail lines on the suit, the tatters on the cape to make his silhouette more jagged and imposing, it all really works. It's still mostly in indigo -- bitch has a favorite color and he wants you to know about it -- but it's a lot better-looking than his usual deal. I think the ideal Darkseid outfit for me would be the movie's silver armor and bracers with the red highlights and cape of the last image. He can even keep his kinky boots, as long as he puts a bit of red on the kneecaps. Silver and indigo with red highlights, now doesn't that sound like a killer color scheme? I think an outfit like that would sell "godlike apocalyptic embodiment of evil" a hell of a lot better than his current clothes, which mostly say "combination janitor and cheap stripper". EDIT: The comments have made me realize an even better idea. You guys are right, he doesn't need armor. He should drop it ALL and kick ass in nothing but the miniskirt, with maybe a belt and some bracers. Strip off the loser tank top and show us those pecs! submitted by /u/Dragons_Exist to r/TopCharacterDesigns [link] [comments]

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Source: https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2025/12/pam-bondi-wants-the-government-to-create-cash-bounties-for-turning-in-trans-equality-activists/ That’s why people refer to MAGA Nazis, and any amount of injured indignation will never be able to wash this stain away. You see, when you begin to drool over the possibility of prizes of cash from the government for the denouncement of a hated minority, you go from toying with the trappings of authoritarianism to standing squarely in them. That’s not policy discord and ideological variation. That’s the stench of souls who examine the darkest point of the historical record and stubbornly conclude the error was the packaging, not the brutality. MAGA continues to claim it’s misinterpreted, when the truth lies exposed. Nazis did not rollout their gas chambers. They rolled out the idea that it was righteous to be a traitor and that the life of another person could be exploited for financial gain. This was all done by paying individuals to reveal information about Jews, neighbors, coworkers, and even members of their own families—accusations all aimed at public service and the greater good of community safety. This is what MAGA is working from here. This is what is being monetized: hatred and fear, lives as prizes in a scavenger hunt for those without morals. Anyone who is applauding is not only ignorant of history, it is what turns them on. The ugliness in MAGA is made worse by the campy ignorance worn as a mask of its malice. They rage about being called Nazis themselves while employing the same mechanisms the Nazis did in order to terrorize the society they disdain: encouraging snitching, state-sanctioned persecution, specifically targeting already vulnerable communities. This is not just sloppy error or happenstance. It is the behavior of people who don’t possess empathy, who don’t possess imagination, who don’t possess the cognitive ability to realize they’re on the wrong side of history, who don’t realize being on the wrong side of history is a verdict, not a vibe. And yes, it is why so many Americans see MAGA and think trash, human trash, clinging to power by violence. A party not based on ideas or competence, but on the sting of resentment, the meanness of cowardice, the fleeting high of causing pain to others less able or willing to resist. If this analogy makes you angry, good. You should be. You should be ashamed. History is clear about people who take glee at the price offered for the head of a minority. History will not recall them as heroes or victims. History will recall them as accomplices to evil, fools who thought their ugliness was a virtue. submitted by /u/Kinks4Kelly to r/complaints [link] [comments]

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I am not The OOP, OOP is u/Odd_Atmosphere_744 Should I leave my boyfriend after he gave me a meal with shrimp (even though I'm allergic) and left me alone in the hospital? Originally posted to r/AskMeuf Thanks to u/soayherder for suggesting this BoRU Editor's Note: translated from the original french TRIGGER WARNING: attempted murder, food tampering, poisoning, abandonment, abuse MOOD SPOILER: terrifying and horrific Original Post Sept 16, 2025 Hi everyone, I need some advice because I'm going through a situation that's overwhelming me. I'm 24 years old, I've been in a relationship for 3 years, I've lived with my boyfriend for a year, and for the past few weeks it's been a bit of a fight after a fight, especially since I started a night job (a job I studied for 6 years, and he always knew I would do this job!). He doesn't like it because we see each other less, and I sleep during the day while he's working. But that's not even the point. I'm allergic to seafood. The other night we were invited to a friend's house for a party where everyone had to bring a dish. My boyfriend brought back some spring rolls. I was with my family. I went straight to him. I asked him if he made them. He said yes. I tasted them, and I immediately tasted them, and I could tell there were shrimp in them. I asked him, and he replied, "Oh yeah, I forgot to tell you." Luckily, my friend, who is allergic to peanuts, had an epinephrine pen and gave it to me, but it wasn't enough. My throat started to swell. The ambulance came, and I ended up in the hospital on an IV drip. When I came to, my best friend and parents were there. I asked where my boyfriend was. There was an awkward silence, and they told me, "He went out for a drink with some friends. He said we'd call him when you left." It really pissed me off. My best friend even told me he seemed completely oblivious to the whole thing. When I got home, we had an argument about his behavior. In a fit of anger, I said, "Did you try to kill me or something?" And he replied, "Too bad it failed, at least you wouldn't be annoying me." I went to my room to cry, letting out my hatred from the evening. We haven't spoken for two days, the atmosphere is icy, not even an apology, nothing. I tell myself I'm going to leave him, that there's nothing left to save, but I have this doubt in the back of my mind. I talked to my mother, who told me that every relationship goes through problems. But now we're talking about a problem that sent me to the hospital, and I find it really strange: he NEVER eats seafood, so why put it in the dish? Maybe I'm being paranoid? What do you think? Am I being dramatic or is his behavior serious? RELEVANT COMMENTS French-StupidSlut So, let me start by saying I'm sorry for what's happening to you, but I'm gonna go on with: What the heck is this question??!! First of all, that it's an accident after 3 years together is serious, without your friend you might be dead. Then what he tells you after? But seriously, love yourself and dump him! OOP Thank you for this response, in fact with everything that has happened, in my head I tell myself that maybe it's me who is being dramatic. That I need to take a step back, etc. In short, I'm a little overwhelmed by the situation but I'm going to leave him and that's it. French-StupidSlut Nah, there's nothing to save here! And excuse me, but your mom's completely out of it too. It's impossible to downplay what he did and said, and her attitude when you're in the hospital. Apprehensive-Flow346 The guy made the spring rolls himself, put in something you're allergic to "on purpose," "tells you, I quote: TASTE IT." You wake up, he's not there. Did he want to kill you? If we were in the USA, you could have sued him for endangering you... You should even seriously consider it, this guy doesn't want what's best for you! Get away from this person ASAP, who knows what he'll offer you next time.* Ditch him! ~ chattyradish So, obviously, it's really serious, and it seems like he's doing it on purpose. I just want to point out that adrenaline pens (EpiPens) aren't enough; they're used to buy you time, but you still have to go to the hospital after using one! Anyway, ditch him, block him, don't see him alone if you have to get your stuff back. OOP Yeah, I found out when I finished up at the hospital, unfortunately. The doctor told me that if I'd combined the pills and the pen, maybe it wouldn't have been so bad :/ Mini update Sept 16, 2025 (Same Day) Thanks to everyone for your answers. 🙏. I'm at work right now, but I took the time to read you, and you're confirming what I already knew deep down. Tomorrow, I'm going to get my stuff while he's at work, and I'm going to go live with my sister while I find an apartment. And yes, my mother isn't a great role model... she has a very old-fashioned mentality and downplays these kinds of situations a lot. Thanks again for your advice and messages, it gave me the courage to make a real decision even if it stresses me out, but hey, I'll go with my brother to get my stuff just in case, you never know. Update Sept 17, 2025 (Next Day) Update: Should I dump my boyfriend after he gave me a shrimp dish (even though I'm allergic) and leave me alone at the hospital? A quick update from this morning. I finished work at 8:00 a.m., and a friend came with me to pick up my things. Normally, my boyfriend was supposed to be at work, but unfortunately, he was there. He told me he was sick and asked what I was doing. I calmly told him I was coming to pick up my things and that it was over, that our relationship had to end. He just looked at me and asked my friend to leave so we could "talk" about how it was his place we didn't want him there. I refused, reminding him that the apartment is also in my name (there are two of us on the lease), so if I wanted, he had the right to stay. For an hour, I emptied my things while listening to him call me every name under the sun, my friend and I. He repeatedly told him to speak with his mouth, but hey, we were up against a wall. I grabbed everything and left. I'm going to get legal advice to clarify some things because, to answer those who asked: yes, he knew perfectly well that I was severely allergic to every restaurant. I spent time reading the ingredients, asking questions, etc. For those who ask if it was in his character: no, he was always gentle and caring, so it's very hard to understand what could have happened. But hey, human beings are complex, and I have to remind myself not to dwell on my situation (yes, I say that to reassure myself). Thank you again to everyone for your messages and support. ❤️. TOP COMMENT French-StupidSlut You did the right thing leaving, and also getting someone to go with you, and having a witness to the insults, plus your friend who saw him give you the shrimp spring rolls... Hang in there, block him everywhere, and don't feel bad about the apartment stuff and everything. The sooner you cut all ties, the better it is for you. ~ AmazonLilyEmpress "No, he's always been sweet and caring, so it's really hard to understand what could have happened." This part is even more freaky. I think a little investigation on him by the cops would be in order, the sweet personalities but capable of that are the worst. THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP's OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7 submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

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I had a wet-coughing, sneezing, nose dripping lady sit next to me. I asked her quite civily if she would consider wearing a mask. She immediately went off on a loud "you have no right" tirade and pushed the call button. I was reprimanded by the FA for just making such a request... "You CANNOT ask another passenger to mask up!" I was reseated to a middle seat near the toilets in steerage and the lady took over my econ plus aisle seat (my spouse was left across the aisle from her and caught a similar cold a few days later--coincidence?!) After I was reseated, a large enforcer came on the plane to ask me "are you going to be a problem?" My new seatmates must have wondered what minor felony I must have committed. Even mild mannered million milers can still learn something new every boarding. EdIt: I had no idea this submission would take off as it has. To answer many comments, yes we masked up after she sat down and started coughing and sneezing. So did another person near us. While reaching for masks, I offered her a spare, asked if she'd consider wearing it -- that's apparently what it to to light her fuse and when I was loudly told I had "no right to ask..." -- which, apparently, the FA concurs with. Many of the comments indicate it was rude for me to even ask and offer. I guess we just disagree. Civil society is under stress. I didn't think it important to mention it, but with many pointing to this being a peculiarly American issue, I'll just add without being more specific that the coughing passenger was from Eastern Europe. Several others believe there must have been much more to the story and just don't believe another passenger would go off immediately like this without more provocation. Several others have seen similar reactions and believe. I understand the skepticism -- I am aware of mask politics, but it startled me how quickly she went to anger and her choice to hit the call button rather than simply declining. Maybe she was having a terrible day. I understand coughing, sneezing and nose blowing may be due to allergies or other afflictions. I would have been comforted had she just said, "I have allergies." My spouse has athsma and allergies, and my father's terrible COPD likely contributed to his death. Masking oneself is not as effective as masking onself and having a considerate person that is coughing and sneezing do the same. My wife masks up in confined public spaces (and often in nature) when allergies hit; she believes when she has sneezing fits it's a considerate thing to do even if her allergies aren't infectious. I imagine the FA has dealt with similar situations and wanted to nip this in the bud. I understand why she reseated me, and perhaps there were no similar seats in plus (the flight was near maximum loading), so it may not have been an intentional choice to issue a less valuable seat. What we do not understand is why an enforcer was called in to ask if I was going to be a problem with zero effort to engage me even briefly in a conversation. The choice I was given was for having the temerity to inquire about masking and to offer one up was to move to the open seat or deplane. Given my neighbor's reaction, the FA likely didn't want to risk a situation of us remaining together even if I did want to stay. Given some of the crazy passenger antics of late, I understand. As for contacting UA and demanding an apology or compensation, I would appreciate if a UA employee could advise whether the FA handled this per policy -- and whether either the complainer or I already have some notes in the file. Regardless, given the million plus of you that have viewed this, I think my point may have been taken by someone in charge. submitted by /u/Lex_Mariner to r/unitedairlines [link] [comments]

I am still very much not the Original Poster. That is still u/Scared-Weakness-6250. New Updates marked with ****\ I removed ALL* previous comments included in the last posts so I could fit this in one post AND added TLDRs. You can find the most recent BORUs here, here, here, and one with full comments here. Thanks to u/Direct-Caterpillar77, u/undercurrents and u/Choice_Evidence1983 for letting me know about the new updates! Do NOT comment on Original Posts. This is a VERY long post. Mood Spoiler: entitled people get some comeuppance, but take others down with them Original Post: July 22, 2023 OOP reluctantly goes to a family bbq. OOP's nephews and nieces push people into the pool and eventually try with OOP. OOP sees this coming from a mile away and steps out of the way and the kids fall in, along with the phone they were holding to record. OOP's sisters got pissed for "almost letting their kids drown" and because the phone is now at the bottom of the pool. They insist that OOP should have let the kids push him into the pool and OOP needs to apologize. OOP is voted NTA Update Post: August 17, 2023 (Almost 1 month later) TLDR: OOP spends the first part of this post explaining that the kids were fully capable of swimming and that the party ended on a sour note. Turns out drunk BIL who face-planted had to get stitches. Sisters and BILs texted mean shit to OOP and he and his wife blocked them. Mom and Dad were pissed at the texts and made the sisters apologize and 'end this nonsense.' OOP thought things were over but instead gets a text from one BIL saying OOP needs to reimburse them for the phone. OOP refuses, sends a screenshot to his parents and says he's going no-contact with sisters. In what OOP says is an out of character move, Dad calls sisters and 'rips them a new one.' Grandkids are no longer welcome at their place indefinitely, which messes up the free babysitting Mom provides. They are banned from the vacation house and he tells them that OOP owns that vacation house, not the parents. Sisters freak out. Sisters and husbands come over unannounced to apologize a few days later- OOP and wife are out at dinner so they leave a note. OOP decides no contact is the best option for now. Update 2 Post: August 26, 2023 (9 days from previous post) (Editor's note- wanted to include this first line) Well, it's been an interesting last few days. I thought the shit had hit the fan before but it was more of a fart compared to what's happened this week. TLDR: OOP provides financial context here: OOP's sisters think parents are dripping in money when in fact they are not. Turns out oldest sis and her fam have been living beyond their means and are in need of a loan (which parents can't give). She's also been renting out the vacation house once a month or so for the last 3 years and has been keeping the money. Other sister was aware of this and possibly has rented it out previously as well. OOP's parents feel awful and let OOP know. They figure that the sisters will try to convince OOP to let them rent out the house- turns out they're right. The sisters show up and practically force their way inside OOP's house to convince them to let them use the place. They also say (quoting from OOP here): "I've been a shitty brother and that I needed to "step up" and plan on paying for their kids' college tuitions since "that's what family does"." OOP calls them out on their bullshit and there's a huge blowup and the sisters leave. OOP is exhausted, frustrated and drained. Update 3 Post: September 12, 2023 (2.5 weeks from last update) TLDR: OOP's parents decide they're done managing the vacation home (keeping track of who was using it, routine maintenance, etc) because sisters keep pressuring them to use it. OOP feels bad for his parents because he wanted them to be able to use it regularly and now dynamics have changed, but he gets it. OOP locks the gate with a heavy duty chain and lock, resets all keypads and creates new codes, gets security cameras and has signs put up saying the area is monitored by video. OOP gets a call from both husbands trying to convince him to let them use the house "like they always have." Oldest BIL tried to go up with some friends but couldn't get in. He threatens on the phone to basically break in and acts completely entitled. Other BIL sounds like he is being made to call by sister. OOP obviously says no and considers selling the home. He also has no plans to initiate contact with sisters and they are not talking with him. Update Post 4: October 16, 2023 (1 month later) TLDR: OOP hires a guy to manage/look after the vacation home. Parents are continually pressured by sisters to tell OOP to open up the vacation home for Thanksgiving. They refused and instead said they would organize a gathering at an Airbnb if everyone split the cost, otherwise they would host at their place. This causes and argument because middle sister is for the Airbnb, oldest sister doesn't have any money. So Thanksgiving will be at parents' house but OOP and wife won't be there. Parents ask OOP to not sell for now as they would like to still use the place, but won't until sisters have come to terms with the "new normal." Wife and OOP have stayed no contact with sisters, but they have called and left messages (OOP says "F you Google Voice") demanding OOP meets with them and work out "how everyone can use the 'family vacation home'." OOP doesn't respond. OOP also does not plan to turn the vacation home into an Airbnb. This part is directly from the post: My parents tell me that the oldest sister and her husband are getting out of the leases for their SUV and big ass truck and are selling their jet skis and some other shit they've never needed. That's going to be really hard on her, she's quite the braggart and won't like being seen in something older / smaller / cheaper. My BIL's identity is very much wrapped up with his truck as well, he even has a small tattoo of the truck company's logo. Which frankly is one of the many reasons why he and I never hung out. Update Post 5: November 27, 2023 (1.5 months later) Title: Update #5... Crap. TLDR: (used OOP's 'short version') Things have gone to hell. I really, truly did not think anything like this would happen. Short version: My brothers in law broke into my vacation home and were arrested. They've been charged with breaking and entering, destruction of property and communicating threats, all Class 1 misdemeanors. I've refused to drop the charges. I might do so if I'm fully paid for the damage they caused. They were still in jail as of Saturday evening, I assume they're out by now. Editor's note: my TLDR of the next part of the post BILs went to the vacation home and cut through the chain/damaged the gate. They messed up the front door trying to get in, ended up getting through another door and then broke into the barn. David (the guy OOP hired to manage the home) called the cops. Cops didn't buy BIL's excuses that they were allowed and OOP was unreachable at the moment due to spending the day with his wife's family and leaving the phones in the car. BIL's were booked at the sheriff's office- sisters freaked out but OOP had them blocked. Older sister couldn't afford bail because their cards were maxed out so middle sis would have to pay for everything. OOP and his wife checked their phones late on Friday on their way home and found that Mom & Dad, sheriff's department and David had all called. OOP called David when he got home and found out the extent of the damage. He ended Friday calling the sheriff's department and telling them it wasn't a misunderstanding and that BIL's did not have his permission to be there. From OOP's post: I waited until Saturday afternoon to call my folks. They were both pretty rattled about it all, my mom in particular. My sisters had browbeat them into telling me I should tell the cops it was all a mistake and that I wanted the charges dropped. I refused flat out, told them there was no way I'd do that until I spoke with an attorney and also not until I was paid in full for whatever it will cost to fix everything 100%. My mom was crying hard by the time we got off the phone which of course made me feel like shit. My dad suggested it was time for a complete start over but also said he thought they needed to pay for the damage. I haven't gone up to the property yet. There's nothing I can do and I'll probably go nuts when I see the damage in person, the photos are bad enough. I'm hoping to tomorrow or Wednesday but my job isn't one I can just wander off from for non-emergencies. I've left messages with two attorney friends asking them to recommend the right lawyer(s) to go after my sisters and BILs. I don't know what I can do exactly but I'm hoping to get restraining orders (I have all the texts they've sent me, that might help). I'm strongly considering suing them for the money they made renting the place, I don't care about the cash but it will help make them as miserable as possible. The gloves are definitely off at this point. A couple of side notes: BILs had no idea I'd hired someone to keep an eye on things or that there are cameras there now. My parents knew but hadn't told them because they knew it would just give my sisters a reason to drama up. There are signs on the property stating it's being monitored with cameras and no trespassing signs though. My wife has completely had it at this point. I don't blame her, she's been more than patient about it all but she reached her limit and was not shy about letting me know. She told me its up to me how I deal with this but that she thought they all needed to be taught a hard lesson. Older BIL likely won't face any repercussions at his job over this but middle BIL has a security clearance so he might. I'm hoping that will be motivation for middle BIL to pay for the damages himself immediately. David (the caretaker) has an interesting background. I knew he was friends with some of the deputies, figured it was because they were all locals. I was wrong, he was a cop in a big city for years, was shot on duty and afterwards decided to quit and move to where his parents had retired. He has some PTSD over it all, his dog is a certified service animal and is usually with him. I know law enforcement people tend to hang together, I guess that's how they became his friend group. I don't want to see or speak with these Aholes for the rest of my life. I know this is in direct conflict with my overwhelming urge to make their lives as miserable as possible. Update Post 6: December 2, 2023 (5 days later) Didn't think I'd be doing another post this soon but a lot has happened over the past two days. Short version: I think the corner has been turned on this crap. Thursday afternoon I got a courier-delivered envelope at my office. In it was a signed letter from both my brothers-in-law and a cashier's check for $5000. In the letter they made what I have to say was a really sincere apology. Among other things they acknowledged breaking in, acknowledged it was wrong, said the $5000 was to pay for the damage and that they'd pay more if it cost more than that. Also said they'd stay away from the vacation home unless my wife and I specifically invited them. They also asked that I do what could to get the charges dropped as soon as possible because they both could lose their jobs and that they'd agree to a restraining order or whatever else it took for that to happen. There was more as well, all conciliatory, but that's the gist of it. To say this was a shock is an understatement. It was (obviously) a total 180 from their past behavior. I'd already made an appointment with an attorney to see about suing my BILs over the damage and to try to get a restraining order. I called him and told him what I'd just received and he agreed to meet with me at the end of the day instead of next week. Told me not to deposit the check. We met for about two hours. He ended up recommending the wife and I do a "settlement and mutual release agreement" with all four of them (sisters and BILs). He said if we went after them via a lawsuit that we'd almost certainly win but that it could take two years or more, there would be sizeable up front legal fees and that we might never see any money. He also said we could keep the $5000 free and clear even if we didn't let them off the hook. He's drawing up the agreement, it won't be ready until Monday. The agreement will include what's essentially the civil equivalent of a restraining order. I'd already asked my property manager to work up a bid to get the damage repaired. I called him after the meeting and asked that he get me as close an estimate as possible ASAP. Got that Friday, he thinks it will take around $4000 to fix everything. Most of that is for the front door. On Friday my attorney contacted each of the BILs, told them what we were proposing and advised them to get their own lawyers. They both agreed to it. The middle BIL told him they could afford to either pay for the damages or pay for a lawyer but not both and they figured a lawyer wouldn't make any difference given that they really had no defense for what they did. His biggest concern was if the charges could be dropped. From what I can tell they're willing to do anything / sign anything to make this all go away. My attorney also called the DA's office on Friday to discuss dismissing the charges, got the name of the prosecutor and left them a message but has not spoken to them yet. He thinks they'll dismiss the charges because the BILs are paying up and they have no priors, but then again he's not a criminal lawyer. Also said I should be prepared to drive up there Monday or Tuesday and tell the prosecutor in person that I want everything dismissed. He's also advised me to continue to be no contact with sisters and BILs especially for the next six months and that it will be really important to follow the terms of the agreement when it comes to future interactions with them. I'm guessing that the BILs change of heart is due to them having figured out what's at stake for them, what it's going to cost them in legal fees and fines and so on. There's also the (highly unlikely) possibility that they could go to jail for up to 120 days, and as I've mentioned one of them has a security clearance for his job that could be at risk. So this is their Hail Mary pass to keep their normal lives. This isn't a perfect resolution to the situation, but at least it will get me past the legal and financial parts of the shit show that I've been in for the past few months. I doubt I'll ever have a civil relationship with any of them ever again and that's fine. What I want most at this point is to close this off, get on with my life and never speak to any of them again. I'm exhausted from this. Wife feels pretty much the same way. Kind of a side issue but getting the written apology was, weirdly, a huge moment for me. I wasn't expecting that ever but apparently it matters to me quite a bit. The money doesn't feel particularly important at this moment. I'll damn sure take it though. Also I'm pretty certain my middle sister and her husband came up with the money. The cashier's check is from the credit union of the company he works for. Once things are signed I plan to make one more update, probably just an edit to this post. I'm sorry for being so pedantic. Writing these posts has helped clear my head and the feedback has really helped. I truly appreciate everyone's comments, insights, and support. And I really, really hope none of you ever have to go this kind of nonsense. Update Post 7: December 7, 2023 (5 days later) Tuesday morning I met with my attorney went over the agreement. Changed a couple of minor things and he sent it to my sisters and brothers-in-law. It included a requirement that they pay my attorney's fee (about $3000). They weren't happy about that and tried to negotiate it away, but he told them they either accept it as is or there would be no deal at all and we'd proceed with suing them for the money they got from renting out the place, wear and tear from renting it, repair costs from their break in, emotional distress, lost income from having to deal with this, attorney fees and whatever else we could. He also told them I would push hard with the DA's office to prosecute every charge. Short version, they came in and signed. I wasn't there. I'm told it was a pretty tense environment, that the middle BIL appeared to have taken charge and that at one point he told both of my sisters to shut the hell up or he was walking away from the whole thing, making his own deal with us and the rest of them could all go to hell. They provided another cashier's check for $2500, claimed that's all they had. It's close enough that we're going to accept it as the final payment. Attorney also told me that everyone was very cold and curt towards one another, but that they all managed to keep it together long enough to sign and left without making too big of a scene. I drove up to the vacation house early yesterday to check out the damage and meet with the DA's office. Seeing the damage made my blood boil, it was so senseless. I was so pissed that I was ready to eat the cost of repairs and do everything I could to ruin their lives. Tried walking it off, failed utterly. Ended up calling a good friend who was kind enough to stay on the phone for over an hour letting me spew and vent. He eventually got me back to focusing on the bigger picture of putting this behind me and getting on with my life. Honestly I'm still not sure that's what I want to do but I settled down enough to get some food in me and I felt better. After lunch I went he DA's office. Hadn't made an appointment and had to wait a while but got to meet with the assistant DA who's got the case. Short version is that since I don't want to prosecute and the BILs have already paid for the damages that they are willing to drop all the charges except trespassing, which in this case will be a class 2 misdemeanor. The BILs will have to plead guilty and pay whatever fine the judge sets. I'm also told that if they fight the trespassing charge or ever so much as fart in public up there that it would go very poorly for them. It helped that the BILs didn't resist arrest, if they had none of the charges would have been dropped. I also went by the sheriff's office to thank them for getting there so quickly and everything. Wanted to thank the deputies personally but only spoke to the dispatch person. And I tried to meet up with David (the property manager) but couldn't get hold of him. A couple of notes: The agreement includes a no contact clause. Basically if any of them show up where my wife or I are (or the other way around) whoever got there last has to leave immediately. No contact except through attorneys or other "mutually agreed upon third parties". They get to keep whatever they made from renting the vacation house (my big "give") unless I have tax consequences which they will be responsible for. And we release each other from all other liabilities up through the present. There's more to it than that but those are the high points. Wife and I will sign the agreement later today. After that I can't talk about most of this but I can talk around it. I think this is my final update regarding all this nonsense but I'll respond to comments if I can. As I've said before, posting about all of this and reading folks thoughts and responses has been really helpful and has probably been key in my being able to handle this in a relatively healthy way. So thank you all again. Update Post 8: March 16, 2024 (3.5 months later, 8 months from OG post) Title: March 2024 - Oldest sister & BIL have filed for bankruptcy Thought it would be worth an update for anyone who's interested. Unsurprisingly my oldest sister and brother in law have filed for Chapter 7 bankruptcy. While I don't care about what happens to them financially or otherwise they've also managed to drag my parents into their mess, which I'm not happy about. At the start of the year my BIL's oversized-customized-pride-and-joy truck was repossessed. Pretty embarrassing for him I'm sure, happened at work. This was their breaking point, without the truck they have to share a Kia my parents loaned them and they can barely fit in it with their three kids. Financially they're f'd. They owe at least $125K (probably more) on high interest credit cards, they have zero equity in their house, and have a couple of personal loans that I'm pretty certain they got under false pretenses. They have loans on their jet skis, ATVs and trailers. They also owe a chunk of money from defaulting on the truck lease. They hadn't made any payments on their credit cards or loans in months and were behind on their house payments as well. They got out of the lease on my sister's massive SUV late last year. They were upside down on it as well so had to come up with cash to do so. They also had to pay an attorney, the fine and court costs for my BIL's trespassing charge at the vacation house. And they owe my middle sister and her husband money for bail and their portion of the damages to the place. As I've mentioned before my folks have never been financial wizards, but they have at least been generally responsible. They're retired, their home is paid off and they live off of social security and pensions. Altogether they get more than they spend. Minimal savings, just an emergency fund. Turns out my folks emptied out that fund, cashed out their small IRA (~$20K) and gave it to my sister. That let her catch up on the house payment and cover the negative equity on her car lease. But now literally every bit of savings my parents possessed is gone. Plus my parents have been paying for their groceries for several months and continue to pay the insurance on the car they loaned my sister. According to my dad my sisters worked my mom for weeks to get her to fork over the money. They'd worked on both my folks at the same time for a while but my dad flat out refused every time. Eventually mom caved, she was worried that my sister would have to move to a hovel in some backwater town and that the kids would be barefoot and eating dirt. Dad's not happy about it, and to say there's some tension between them right now is an understatement. But they'll be fine. I was pretty disappointed when my parents told me all this but I wasn't surprised. It sucks that that they emptied out their savings to help but I kind of get it, the way the bankruptcy laws are in our state by getting caught up on the home loan my sister should be able to keep the house. I tried hard not to say how I felt about this and my sisters, mostly succeeded. Really I'm way more pissed about this than I should be. The worst part for me is that my sister and BIL could now contact me and my wife without any real fear of repercussions. The only penalty the no contact agreement has is that if they violate it we can go after them for the money they made from renting out the vacation house and related damages. Since they've filed for bankruptcy that's now not an impediment for them. I'm hoping they'll leave us alone but who knows. Folks also told me that my middle sister and her husband have "hit a rough spot" and that he's not currently living with her and the kids. Just a guess but I imagine he's had it with the whole family dynamic that caused this nonsense. Not directly related, but on a brighter note I've spent two weekends at the mountain house since the start of the year, once with my wife and once alone. Both times there was a lot of snow. It was incredibly beautiful and relaxing. Very therapeutic. The place also has good Internet service now (thanks Starlink) which is nice. Plus knowing that I can count on David (the property manager) to keep the place in shape / ready for us to visit and to help if we get snowed in eliminates most of the stress in owning it. My folks have used it a few times as well and get along great with David. Relevant Comments: Could you get a restraining order? If they start up again I do indeed plan to get a restraining order. In fact my wife made it clear to me she expects a very hard approach to any BS from them going forward - which I agree with of course. I had the security cameras at our house upgraded at the start of the year just in case they come by. I also kept all their previous texts and provided screenshots to my attorney for safekeeping. If they cause any trouble at the vacation house they're toast, the sheriff's department and DA's office have the full story and are sympathetic to our situation. $125,000 on CREDIT CARDS???? $125K is my estimate based on my sister telling my parents they were racking up least $3000 per month just in credit card interest. She thought it might be more. Their credit was already crap before the bankruptcy so I'm guessing they might be paying as high as 28% interest. If so they'd owe about $125K. If they're paying a lower interest rate the principal would be higher. But yeah, it's an absurd amount. And that $3000 doesn't include all the other interest they're paying. And of course there's the principal that just sits there. On the other hand I'm told they had a great time going to Disney World for a week so there's that. Middle BIL: Younger BIL seems to be more decent than I've given him credit for in the past. I'll admit to a bit of myopia, for years I've seen the four of them and their kids as just one mass of inconvenient people I have nothing in common with but can't avoid. But he seems to have hit his limit and made some changes. Hope it works out for him and that he pulls my sister in the right direction. How sisters got so entitled: My sisters (and I) weren't raised to be like they are. When I was young they weren't any more self entitled than any other teenagers. We all worked crappy teenage jobs, didn't get spoiled, it was really a very standard suburban upbringing. We weren't super close but we weren't enemies. Somewhere along the line after going off to college they changed for the worse. I guess it could be worse, they could have become drug addicts or militant vegan volcano worshippers or whatever. But they sure became people I don't want to be around. And yes, the pool incident was the spark for the meltdown but the fuel had been accumulating for years. It would have come out at some point that she was renting the house out on the sly and things would have gone to hell then just like they did now. *****Update Post 9: July 12, 2024 (4 months later, almost 1 year from OG post)****\* There's been a fair number of requests for an update and considering it's coming up on the one year anniversary of the pool incident I thought I'd post one. My folks worked through Mom giving my oldest sister her IRA and their emergency fund. Altogether Mom gave her $45K. According to Dad once Mom realized how much she'd been manipulated she got as mad and upset as he'd ever seen her. I think she had a "moment of clarity". She and Dad ended up calling my sisters on a three way call and according to Dad it went south pretty quickly. Sisters were gaslighting them, Mom lost her cool and ended up ripping into them hard, there were lots of tears and eventually both sisters hung up. Mom really just wanted both sisters to acknowledge that they'd put her and Dad in a risky financial situation. Typical blowup I guess, but not the kind of thing that happens in our family. The next morning my dad called my older sister and told her he'd be picking up the car they'd loaned her. She tried to argue but he told her it wasn't up for discussion. He got a neighbor friend to take him to her house as soon as he hung up and drove it home without talking to her. Sister called and went off on him, said lots of nasty stuff, which of course hurt him. But at least they have the car back. Dad also told me something that left me dumbfounded. For the last 17 years they were giving both sisters a "grocery allowance" that was up to $500 per month. What the F'ing F? I'd thought I had a pretty good handle on where their money was going but clearly I was wrong. This started back when I was going to grad school and living at home. My sisters asked for the money because they thought it wasn't fair that I was living at home rent free, and then it just never ended. In any case my parents cut them off. Unsurprisingly my sisters weren't happy about it. Who the hell gets an allowance from their parents when they're in their 40's? Because of all this my folks and sisters quit talking for a while. Don't know if they've resolved everything but they appear to be on speaking terms again, though my folks aren't having them or the kids over. I'm in "don't ask" mode, it's their business. My folks are using the vacation home fairly regularly. Currently they're there for a two week stay and will probably make it three. Unfortunately my wife and I haven't spent any time there lately other than me having made a couple of day trips to check on it and drop off some supplies. The property manager I hired (David) is still taking good care of the place. Side note: Middle sister told my mom that the oldest sister had been making over $6000 per month renting the house out and that it had been going on for nearly three years. Pretty certain she didn't declare the income, so that's like grossing $8K - $9K per month. I will forever find that galling. Oldest sister and BIL still have their house. My attorney checked up on their bankruptcy case, the court converted it from Chapter 7 to Chapter 13 which I believe means they have to pay back a lot more of their debts. Middle sister and her husband are still separated. I don't know if my middle BIL has had any issues with his security clearance because of breaking into the house. I do know he's still with the same big defense company. At my parents request I've been working on putting their house into a trust. They want me to manage their affairs as they get older and keep the house safe from my sisters. I'm working with an attorney but it's not done yet. Folks have asked me to be the trustee and have also given me full power of attorney. The best part about the last few months is that my sisters / BIL's have left us alone and have stayed away from the vacation home. Wife and I are really happy to be back to our normal lives. Hope everyone else's lives are going great! Update Post 10: December 14, 2024 (5 months later, 1 year and 5 months from OG post) December 14, 2024. Some folks have asked for an update. Here you go: In August my attorney let me know he'd received a letter for me from my middle brother in law. This was the first contact from any of my sisters or their husbands since they'd been arrested. It was a long letter, had a sincere apology and a lot of information he thought I should know. Biggest thing was that he and my sister are divorced, not separated. He moved out and filed for divorce right after we made the settlement agreement. He and my middle sister kept it quiet until it was done. Their house sold in June and she's moved to an apartment. He told me that his being arrested last year (along with my other BIL) for breaking into the vacation house could have cost him his job and killed his career, and that it was a huge "moment of clarity". He said that the dynamic between the four of them (my sisters, him and my oldest sister's husband) had become totally toxic, that they are all borderline alcoholics or worse and that he had to get away from that environment. He no longer speaks to my oldest sister or her husband. He also asked if he, my dad and I could meet and have an extended conversation as there were things he needed to talk about in person. Frankly I was unenthused but my wife thought it was worth doing. I asked my dad if he was interested, he was, so I relayed a response to now-ex BIL through my attorney and we met over lunch. We talked for over two hours. It was pretty exhausting. ExBIL looked better than I'd seen him in, well, forever. He's quit drinking, is in therapy, has lost a lot of weight and looked fit. He was apologetic about all the BS he'd been involved in and apologized to my dad for hiding the divorce. Told us therapy is really helping him. Asked me if the $5K he'd sent covered all the damage to the vacation house (I told him it had) and thanked me for talking to the county prosecutor. Said he is strongly considering transferring to a new project that would have him living overseas for the next few years, that he really needed to reset his life but he was trying to balance his mental health against not being part of his kids' lives every day. ExBIL also hit us with what for me was quite the "WTF?". Apparently my sisters have hated me since before I was born but have always hidden it from the rest of us. They "liked things better" when there were just the two of them. He said when they drank (which was whenever they were together) my sisters would often bitch about me being the favorite child, how my folks gave me more opportunities than they had, how my doing well was a result of that and that I didn't deserve my success. None of that made any sense to me or my dad. All three of us went to the same public schools, had dumb part time jobs, etc. My folks paid for 100% of their college (not mine, I got a full scholarship). I was pretty shocked by this but my dad was literally speechless. Dad eventually said he had no clue they felt that way as kids and that he and Mom had never favored any of us. He's still having a hard time with this. Personally I'm embarrassed that I was clueless about it all my life. But it does explain a lot. ExBIL warned us that my sisters and remaining BIL intended to put on a full court press to alienate my folks from my wife and me. They also plan to keep the grandkids away from my folks to pressure them. He said that they're still 1000% convinced that my folks are sitting on a ton of money, they want some of it ASAP and are sure I'd stop my folks from giving them anything. That got a laugh out of my dad because he and Mom simply don't have any real money (they do have their house of course). ExBIL also told us that he and my middle sister had rented out the vacation house a total of six times over the years. He offered to pay me what they'd made, I declined and told him it was in the past. He also told us my older sister/BIL had never declared the income from renting out the vacation house (he did, he didn't want to get in trouble with the IRS). Both my dad and I spoke with exBIL separately for a few minutes. Don't know what they talked about. I thanked him for his apology and for making things right financially. Also wished him well and told him I'd be willing to talk with him again down the road. Don't think that's going to happen. I probably could have been more forgiving but I think he appreciated me not bullshitting him by acting like all this crap hasn't affected my wife and me. There was more but it's less important and this is too long as it is. After exBIL left I asked my dad if he, Mom and I could sit down and talk about all this. I didn't mean immediately but that's how he took it, he called Mom and let her know I was coming over so I rolled with it. She was pretty hurt by my sisters plans to ruin her and Dad's relationship with me an my wife and to use the grandkids as pawns. She cried a lot and wanted to confront them immediately. Dad got her to put a pin in that for a while. Mom was also dumbfounded about me supposedly being the favorite child. She feels like they were actually more strict with me because I had a hard curfew and my sisters didn't. To be honest I barely remember that, it was 25 years ago. A couple of side notes: Middle sister eventually told our folks she's divorced. She's currently living off child support and her half of the home sale. Supposedly she's trying to find a job. My parents have gone low contact with both sisters, no idea how permanent that is but Mom seems like she's completely had it with them for the foreseeable future. They're spending a lot of time at the vacation house, were up there over a month at one point. ExBIL found my Reddit posts. He's not terribly happy about them but feels they're more or less accurate, though obviously he found them slanted towards my point of view. He disagreed that he's boring but said to be fair that he finds me boring as well. I can live with that, our worlds don't have much overlap except my sister. We got the trust set up for my parents' house. I'm the trustee. All this has been emotionally draining for me. I decided it would be a good idea for me to see a therapist again (I've seen one in the past, mainly for stress related issues). I've been doing so for a while and it's definitely helpful. 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