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So the title pretty much says it all, but here’s the full story for anyone who wants to witness one of the most humiliating experiences of my life. About a year ago I met this guy on Hinge. We hit it off immediately and he was genuinely the sweetest guy ever. We had a lot in common, and on our first date he cooked me traditional food I told him I grew up eating. This man spent EIGHT HOURS making broth for noodle soup. And there’s honestly nothing sexier than a man who can cook. After two bottles of wine and great conversation, one thing led to another and I ended up staying over. We both agreed we wanted to see each other again soon. Important detail: we’d only been talking for around 1–2 months and had only met once before this. So second date comes around. Since I lived out of town and it was kind of long distance, I planned on staying a few days. That morning though, I had the worst stomach pain imaginable. I also realized I hadn’t had a proper bowel movement in like 4–5 days. Weirdly, not that unusual for me. (I genuinely don’t understand how some people poop every single day.) Anyway, we spend the whole day together having a great time. Then nighttime comes. We’re cuddling in bed watching a movie when suddenly I start cold sweating and feeling nauseous. Immediately I think: “There is absolutely no way I’m about to take a massive shit in this tiny apartment while this gorgeous man is lying two meters away.” But it keeps getting worse. Eventually he notices I look pale and asks if I’m okay. He tells me not to be shy if I need the bathroom. He was being very sweet about it, so eventually I give in — but I make him put on AirPods first. I sit on that toilet fighting for my life. Nothing. Absolutely NOTHING. It genuinely felt like a concrete brick was lodged in my rectum. I convince myself maybe it just “needs to marinate a little” and go back to bed hoping I can sneak off later during the night. Ten minutes later I’m literally seeing stars. At this point he realizes something is seriously wrong, and I finally admit that I think I’m severely constipated and feel like I might pass out. It’s midnight, everything’s closed, but he finds a 24/7 pharmacy in the other end of town and offers to go get something. Before he leaves, we actually call the emergency room for advice because I’m convinced something inside me is about to rupture. I’m half crying while trying to explain to the nurse that I haven’t pooped in days and now feel like I’m dying. The nurse calmly tells us it’s probably severe constipation, recommends trying over-the-counter remedies first, and says to come in if I start vomiting or the pain gets unbearable. He comes back after biking to the other end of town with fiber packets. Looking back… probably not the best move. Attempt #1: Fiber powder mixed into a giant glass of water. As you can imagine, nothing happens. We briefly consider calling an ambulance before deciding I should just sleep it off. The next day he goes to work while I spend the entire day fighting demons in his apartment. When he comes home that night, he’s stopped by the pharmacy again and asked the employee for “the strongest thing they have.” Attempt #2: The suppositories. At this point I’m standing there questioning every life choice that led me here. I barely know this man, and now I’m considering sticking medicine up my ass in his bathroom. Then he goes: “Do you want me to help you put it in? 🙂” I wish I was joking. Now listen. Under normal circumstances I would NEVER agree to this. But my digestive tract was moments away from exploding and my dignity had already left my body hours ago. So I say yes. This man puts on a glove and inserts the suppository for me. And then… Nothing happens. ARE YOU KIDDING ME??? At this point I’m emotionally broken. That’s when he remembers the final medication. The last resort. Attempt #3: The enema. We open the box and pull out what can only be described as a medieval torture device: an enormous tube attached to a bottle filled with stool-softening liquid. Not a tiny little medical bottle either. This thing looked HUGE to me in that moment — like someone had taken a full-sized sports drink bottle, attached a hose to it, and decided “yeah, this belongs inside a human being.” An enema. I stare at it in complete horror while this poor man continues trying to comfort me through one of the worst moments of my life. Then somehow it gets even more absurd. He sets up a whole little station on the bathroom floor: a towel, a blanket, a pillow and a scented candle for vibes I guess. Like we’re preparing for a spa day instead of a medical emergency. I lie down. He inserts the tube and starts pumping what feels like an entire family-sized Coke bottle into my ass. Then he reads the instructions. Apparently I’m supposed to HOLD IT for 30 minutes. THIRTY MINUTES????? Ten minutes in, I’m sweating. Fifteen minutes in, I’m fighting for my life. And during all of this, he’s sitting there holding one of my hands while timing me on his phone like a supportive midwife. I keep yelling: “I CAN’T HOLD IT ANY LONGER.” And he keeps going: “Just two more minutes, you can do it.” And he had been saying that for the past 25 minutes…. Finally the timer goes off. I shove him out of the bathroom, slam the door shut, and sit down on the toilet. What happened next can only be described as Niagara Falls. The relief was so intense I genuinely think I ascended spiritually for a moment. After what felt like an eternity spent inside that bathroom, I finally gather the courage to leave the bathroom and face him again. I was fully convinced this would be the last time we ever saw each other. Instead, I walk out and he’s just lying there smiling at me. “You good again? :)” Anyway, we’ve now been together for about a year, and somehow this story became one of our funniest memories together. So yeah. Nothing tests a new relationship quite like severe constipation. Edit: anyone have a good idea for an anniversary gift to him?? (It’s kinda tomorrow… and I bought him a starwars Lego head, but any additional ideas???) Would be bonus if it was funny. submitted by /u/erlowkdownbad to r/offmychest [link] [comments]

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/Oploplou Originally posted to r/AITAH AITAH for telling my wife that our baby can’t go to her mom’s Triger Warnings: fungus exposure, possible mental health struggles, child neglect Original Post: May 9, 2026 When my child was born, I expressed concern over the state of the house. It had been smoked in for years, and it was not properly cleaned. There were spiderwebs all over the ceilings, a layer of dust that was so thick it was literally laughed at by my sister when she cleaned it, she’s a professional cleaner so I paid for her to clean the main areas of the house for the baby to be there. Well during this clean, she opened the cabinet underneath the sink, and was met with it being “entirely full of black mold.” “Like to the point I’m confident you can’t clean it and it needs to be removed.” She said both her and my wife made direct eye contact with the cabinet, but I was never told. When the cleaning was done, I told my wife that if the bedroom wasn’t cleaned by her mom, she refused to let my sister do it, and the main areas didn’t stay clean, I’d not be okay with the baby going there. Well fast forward 13 months, and the bedroom isn’t clean, and the main areas are already building back their same level of dirt, dust etc. from before, and I was just told about the cabinet by my sister. That night when my wife got home, I told her plainly that I did not want him to go to her house until at the very least that was taken care of. She said they wouldn’t replace it because they don’t have the money, even though I know they just remodeled part of the kitchen, bought a new fridge, and signed a loan for a brand new 2026 off the lot car. So now she’s acting very short with me, and I feel like she’s treating me as if it’s my fault somehow. AITAH for this? TLDR; wife’s mom’s house has a cabinet full of black mold. I said 13 month old can’t go until it’s clean/gone. (Reposted to fix title spelling error) AITAH has no consensus bot, OOP was unanimously NTA Relevant Comments Commenter 1: NTA. This stopped being about hurt feelings the moment ‘entirely full of black mold’ entered the conversation. A 13 month old’s health matters more than avoiding awkward family tension. Honestly the bigger issue is that your wife apparently knew about it for over a year and never told you. I can understand her feeling defensive because it’s her mom, but you’re not banning the child out of spite you’re asking for a basic safe environment. OOP: She said something to the effect of “the cabinets never open, and it’s never been a problem”. But obviously that doesn’t matter that the cabinets not opened. I also had to pause at that, because it made me wonder how long it’s been like that for her to say it’s never been a problem. Commenter 2: The second your child is old enough, they'll be crawling around OPENING EVERY SINGLE CABINET!!!!!!!!!!! She knew about it. She's been enabling her mom! It's easier than saying "you have a serious problem, you NEED HELP & I won't bring a baby anywhere near this danger zone!" YOU need to put your foot down as the parent-it's your job to protect your child!!!!! At this point, you have enough evidence to leave, ask for sole custody AND WIN because you're the only one who cares about what's best for your child! Fuck it, tell her "everything is changing NOW & we are prioritizing our baby's safety FIRST AND FOREMOST! If you can't get on board, then I'll be leaving, I will get sole custody & I will make sure you never have a visit that isn't supervised & IN A SAFE ENVIRONMENT!!!!!!!!!" She needs to wake tf up & face reality now, BEFORE something terrible happens! You need to make it clear you aren't joking or exaggerating & you will not compromise when it comes to your child's safety!!!!!!!!!!! OOP: She understands that I’m not messing around. The baby is not allowed to go there, and if I find out it happens, I will be taking action, I don’t know that I’ll leave her immediately (partially because I legitimately could not afford to be a single parent with sole custody), but that works be the very last straw so to speak. I love my wife with everything that I have, but I can’t risk my child’s health and safety, for me to not be sad. Commenter 3: Gma can look after baby at your house. Black mold is the reason I got pneumonia 3x as a child and have lifelong asthma. Black mold and cockroaches are some leading causes of respiratory issues in children. Do not compromise. That's your baby. OOP: I also had pneumonia and bronchitis as a child, and we believe the mold that was found in our basement shortly after, right by my game area, played a role. Commenter 4: NTA. Even ignoring the rest of it, black mold poses an objective risk to your baby's respiratory system. That stuff can take out adults with established immune systems and make them severely unwell. What's more important to your wife? Her feelings about going to her parent's shabby house, or her child's health? OOP: She has an EXTREMELY close relationship with her mom. I knew there’d be some feelings, but more than 72 hours out and I still feel like the bad guy. Commenter 5: NTA. Make sure she doesn't sneak him over there. OOP: We have each other’s locations, so I’m fairly confident I’d catch it if she did, but she also knows that would be the last straw Commenter 6: NTA. She's being manipulative to get her way. Her mum/ parents obviously have hoarding tendencies and that is a serious mental health condition that your wife is not acknowledging. Your child is not safe in that house. Is the grandma super attached to her stuff too? What if your kid breaks something that grandma considers to be of value? Reactions of people with hoarding disorders can be aggressive or violent. This is due to their condition. I'm not accusing her of being a horrible person or anything. It's just a lot to take into consideration. Your wife needs to be able to talk about this. Unfortunately, as we grow older, so do our parents and it can sometimes be difficult to admit that they're affected by serious health conditions. OOP: It’s actually not hoarding. It’s just a lack of cleaning. The house isn’t full like that. You can comfortably walk into every room, there are no piles etc. But I suspect that there is some base level similarities between hoarding and whatever happens in the brains of people who let their houses get to this point. I don’t have contempt for them over this, it’s just hard for me because I was raised in an EXTREMELY clean home, so it’s a serious juxtaposition for me. OOP on his MIL's house's background and how it came to be with the mold. Was this the same house OOP's wife grew up in? OOP: It’s not the house she grew up in, but she was there often. It’s her grandparents’ home. After her grandpa passed, her mom moved in with her grandma. I’m not sure what’s caused the house to get to this point. I’m told it wasn’t always like this by a family member that I have a very good relationship with, she feels like my “insider” sometimes. I know her house definitely wasn’t as clean as mine was growing up, white glove cleaned weekly, but I don’t think it was to this point. No hoarding. Maybe the baseline problems that present alongside it, but there aren’t years of shit just piled up and strewn across the home. I have been trying to be very careful with how I approach this, because I know it’s a pile of tinder, with gas on it. We had the initial conversation that I didn’t want our child going there, and since we’ve barely spoken. She says she’s not trying to make it out to be my fault, but it still feels that way. I’m worried about the backlash from her family when she takes the step to tell her mom, but ultimately as I’ve said, this is something I will not play around with.   Update: May 11, 2026 (two days later) UPDATE: AITAH for telling my wife our baby can’t go to her mom’s Well, it’s been a little more than two days since the post, and things have only gotten worse. Firstly I’d like to thank everyone for all the comments, and suggestions. It really helped me during this. So what’s happened? A whole lot of her not talking to me, led to a small fight last night. (I know it was Mother’s Day, I’ll get to that.) I came home from work, and put on a good face. I said happy Mother’s Day again, I asked if she had a good day, asked about the gift etc. Everything was cool until it was time for dinner. For a little additional context here, I do, and I mean this literally, all of the cooking and cleaning. She will put her own clothes away, and wash the babies dishes specifically when asked, other than that I’m on my own. It’s never not been a problem, but it’s also something that I’ve never felt comfortable ending things over. Well last night I got home, and everything was a fucking mess. It was like she just let the baby run through the house and throw things every which way, and picked up nothing. This in and of itself is not totally abnormal, but the level today was completely different than others. I ignored it at first, as I knew I needed to start making dinner ASAP because she told me she forgot to feed the baby lunch, and he was getting hangry. This immediately was like, wtf do you mean you didn’t feed the baby lunch? So I went to start cooking and realized we were out of the base for the meal I was making. I asked if she’d rather stay home or go to the store to have a minute to herself. She went to the store, I gave baby a shower. When I got him in the shower, immediately I could smell something weird. Under his neck appeared to be dry milk. The child drinks too fast, and sometimes it spills out of his mouth. We’ve always known this since he started in sippy cups, and I always wipe his face/neck off after a bottle to prevent this. Well I guess she had never thought to do that. So between these three things, I was a little upset when she got home. I wasn’t taking it out on her in anyway, I was just more quiet, and doing my cooking. She eventually asked me if the baby upset me while she was gone, and I said yes for the sake of saving face (again, it was Mother’s Day). Give it about 5 minutes of us not really talking, and she says to me, why are you so pissed off at the baby. Now I’m faced with a decision, do I try and fabricate some story as to why I’m mad at my child, or do I tell her the truth. I went with the latter. I won’t get fully into specifics, but I told her my problems. She cried, and said she would do better. I reminded her that we’ve been here before (her saying she’ll do better about these exact things), and she cried harder. I think it’s finally settling in for her that I’m serious, and that this may end up with us not together. I know she loves me, but I question greatly if she respects me. It’s become a growing trend in our relationship over the past 3-4 years, and I’m finally becoming aware of it in the last 6 months or so. As far as the situation with her moms, I found out last night that she hadn’t even told her yet. So now I’m stuck in this weird holding pattern of waiting for the other shoe to drop. I know there’s going to be backlash, and I’m prepared to weather that storm, but the waiting for it to happen is starting to really spark my anxiety. I’m considering telling her mother myself, as it was my decision, but I know my wife will feel undercut by this. It’s the last form of control she has over the situation. I’d love some advice on how to handle that if anyone’s got some. Anyhow, thank you all again. The advice in the first post really helped. Edit: yes she’s been treated for PPD. She’s not currently because it cleared up. Yes I understand this could be another trigger. No I’m not opposed to her getting treatment, it’s just been less than a week. Edit 2: it is not possible for me to arrange childcare for the days I’m at work. Financially we don’t have the means, and I don’t have family in the area. Edit 3: I have to put the baby to sleep, and go to sleep for work myself. I will answer more comments in the morning, and will probably have another update post tomorrow as these comments have really forced my eyes open about what’s really going on here. Thank you for the tough love. Edit 4: Wife has called and made an appointment to be seen for PPD again. Tomorrow at 1230. So for everyone telling me I need to do it because she can’t, or depression doesn’t work like that, she did it. Edit 5: commenting Update me isn’t going to do anything, as unfortunately you can only post one update here. If/when the next update comes, it will be in Reddit updates. I’ll update this post with a link, otherwise you’ll just have to track it down. I may unlock my post history to show this and that sub so it’s more easily accessible for those trying to follow the events. This is probably the last edit on this post other than that, so I’d like to thank everyone again for the comments. Some people are really giving me a hard time, and while I don’t agree with something’s being said, I need to hear it to keep myself from getting deterred Editor's note: OOP made lots of comments, I am sharing some common questions and responses Some Relevant Comments Commenter 1: Is your baby eating too fast because she doesn't feed him OFTEN enough? Babies don’t have three meals a day. Their stomachs are small and they need to eat and drink more often. She may have inherited some of her mom's mental illness or issues if she isn't doing the basics of feeding and can’t handle executive functioning OOP: I’m not sure why the baby does it, because it happens with me, and trust me the baby EATS with me lol. Commenter 1: What struck me is that he missed lunch and it was dinnertime. Does she have a regular schedule? OOP: She ate a package of Oreos yesterday. I just didn’t want to put that in the post because I felt like it was kind of dragging her a little. Commenter 2: Wow!! She FORGOT to feed him lunch? Obviously she is not capable of taking care of yourself child. You need to document everything, because I don't see this ending neatly. And if you separate she will probably go live with her mom, and your baby. OOP: I won’t allow that to happen. I’ll sue, and win, for custody. I have more than enough evidence to show she’s not a clean enough person, but also financially I’m the one who makes things happen. Her lack of general life skills also would not bode well for her in those arguments. OOP on if his wife has a mental illness of some kind OOP: If so it’s undiagnosed, and has been missed by her therapist twice. Not saying she doesn’t, but that’s where we’re at with that. She did have a PPD diagnosis, but was cleared over three months ago by her doctor and therapist. + The doctor, therapist, and herself had conversations, and they told her she could stop taking her meds. She was restricted by being told the baby (13 months) can’t go to her mom’s house. Saying this is on me is some weird victim blaming nonsense. I should be able to trust the mother of my child, with her own baby. This was the first thing that’s come to my attention to REALLY say I couldn’t, and I immediately started taking action. Commenter 3: What's best for your kid? Is this the best caregiver for him? Can you do better on your own? I mean, I think you can. It sucks to be a single parent... But what's best for your kid? Is this the level of care he deserves? I don't believe you think so or you wouldn't have gotten pissed about it. Maybe you think you can't do better on your own, but I don't believe that. OOP: I can’t do it on my own. Financially, mentally, any of it. I have my own problems, that makes dealing with all of this so much harder. I just came out the other way from my neglect/abuse as a child, and I’m hyper sensitive to the care of children. I’ll let myself either before my baby wants for anything. I know what you’re getting at though, and I’m laying the ground work for the potential that it is necessary Commenter 4: She's a STHM yet you do all the cleaning cooking while working being a stay at home parent is HARD you don't get days off or sick days 24/7 however it should at the very least be a 50/50 slit on chores she's not even taking care of baby forgetting to feed him isn't something you do they let you know they are hungry for your child sake and yours something needs to change OOP: She works also. She was STAHM for 10 months though and it was the same. Commenter 5: I think you've got bigger fish to fry here, OP. You clearly need someone from outside to take care of the house and the baby while your wife gets whatever kind of treatment she needs. It is NOT safe for her to be the one taking care of the baby when she's obviously neglecting the child. You need a Nanny or a responsible, helpful family member that obviously doesn't come from her side of the family who is capable of actually doing something while you work. And, frankly, if this doesn't work out you need to be documenting all of this so you can get emergency custody. She's not a fit mother if she can take care of herself, but can't be bothered to take care of her kid. OOP: Ooh if that were an option. I appreciate the advice, and definitely understand where you’re coming from. Just financially, we can’t do that. We live just above the poverty line. OOP on finding the childcare if daycare isn't an option OOP: If I’m being honest, the move would probably be to my mothers, and I would not work until I could find a job that opposed hers, to make sure there was always someone. I cannot do daycare, I was abused in daycare, and I won’t run the risk that happens to my child. Commenter 6: Sadly I think you married the same person as your MIL. Your wife doesn't cook, she doesn't clean and even neglects your baby. The only difference between your home and your MIL's is you. You do all the cleaning and home chores. If not for you your house would look exactly the same as MIL's house. Think about it. You're basically a single father with a roommate. OOP: I’m seeing it. I’m hoping getting back on meds will help. Probably not, but it’s the last thing I can do before we have to separate. I’m not letting things slide anymore though. She’s either going to contribute, or we’re not going to be together. Commenter 7: Focus on your child. Stop worrying about your wife. She FORGOT to feed the baby???? She FORGOT to clean the baby??? When is she going to FORGET the baby in the car???? Your child is NOT SAFE in your wife's custody. She is intentionally harming that child. Send her to live with her mommy or grab your child and move elsewhere. You need to protect your child. Do it before CPS has to come in and take the child away from you and give your son to someone who will actually pay attention, notice him and care for him. OOP: I’ve spoken with a lawyer that told me very directly not to do anything in terms of leaving yet. It’s likely we’d end up with 50/50 custody. But what I have started doing is enough g for him to fight for my case if it came to the worst case scenario. It won’t, but should it, I’m protecting myself.   Editor's note: below is the latest post that is tangentially to the original and update for more context AITAH for “freaking out” on a doctor for how they downplayed mold exposure: May 14, 2026 (three days later) So I’m sure some of you will remember the original post (https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/BMzlCcuS6i). TLDR, I told my wife our baby couldn’t go to her mom’s anymore because she has a kitchen cabinet completely full of mold. Well I made a doctor’s appointment for the baby, because they’ve been sick for 9 days now, and I just found out about the mold. I wanted to be sure that the baby was okay, as well as have explained to my wife why this was not okay. However during this appointment, I feel like the doctor SERIOUSLY downplayed the detrimental effects that black mold can have on an infant. Firstly, she said “if he goes to your moms, just make sure it’s sealed off good.” I immediately gave her pushback on that, and without losing my temper I said, “can you explain how to set up a proper seal.” She stammered and eventually agreed that it couldn’t be done under normal reasonable means, and would need to be taken care of before the baby returned. Then I asked about the negative effects, and this is where I was truly blown away. She said, this is a very literal direct quote “the most common thing we see is some old scarring on the lungs, and childhood asthma. It’s not that big of a lifelong concern.” While this is not completely false because she added the qualifier of “the most common thing”, but that is not the way to present this in my opinion. I admittedly lost my temper a little here. I said something to the effect of “can you quit bullshitting us and tell us the truth. I know about those, I want you to specifically talk about the worst of it. If I need to get a different doctor in here I will.” She started talking about chronic asthma, and reduced lung capacity finally. I pressed again and said, “what about cognitive impairment? What about reduced immune capacity. What about the litany of other problems it can cause.” She snapped back with something along the lines of “well if you’re so well informed why do you need me to tell you.” And I came back with, “it’s for my wife not for me.” My wife had been silent through all of this, and the doctor looked at her and said, “do you understand what you came here to understand?” She nodded, and the doctor left. It made me feel very invisible as a parent, but I can also understand that we had verbally sparred a little bit right there. Later, my wife told me that I “freaked out” and “was being a fucking dick to that doctor”. While I understand that I did get a temper (I raised my voice but wasn’t yelling, more in that way you do when you’re talking to someone who BARELY understands your language, or am I the only one who does that?) and I definitely had my angry tone on. I said, “I needed her to say the truth, not placate us”. So AITAH? I just feel like I’m trying to protect my kid, but I suppose I can see where the doctor shouldn’t be my adversary. Edit: for anyone that sees and cares. Thank you for the perspective. I think I needed it after the last posts have been so adamant in the other direction. The internet is a crazy place, and it will definitely color your perspective based on what you go looking for. I’m not saying I’m letting my baby go to MILs house before the mold is taken care of, but I definitely understand that I am very much probably too scared about it, and that may be because of my own respiratory issues, and sickness I’ve gotten from mold. I’m going to call the office and apologize to the doctor, and try and explain why I was so quick to get a temper. I don’t want it to become a problem for the baby because the care at that office is the best in the area. I’m going to take the time to find an allergist that specifically has the knowledge of mold to be able to tell us what the real concerns are here, and I’ll operate on their recommendations. AITAH has no consensus bot, OOP received mixed reactions, splitting between NTAs and YTAs Editor's note: in this post, OOP's responses were downvoted Comments Commenter 1: Did you even have this mold tested ? Just because the mold is black, doesn't mean it’s the Black Mold. YTA. You are not smarter than the doctor. OOP: I did not have it tested as I don’t care what kind of mold it is, my baby is not going to be exposed to it. Based off what I can deduce, it is black mold. I’m willing to admit I was wrong when they do eventually take care of it, but it’s immaterial to me what type of mold it is, that’s an absolute no for my child. Commenter 2: You are definitely the AH. You need to be invisible as a parent. You were not there to be educated, to provide your wife with information, or out of concern for your child. You were there to grand stand and shame your wife into not letting her mother see the child. A big part of being a medical professional is to tell people the truth about medical issues without causing hysteria or calming people down who are already hysterical when they come into the office, this was you. The problem with everyone going to the internet for medical knowledge is that they don’t understand how to differential diagnosis among all the things they read. You are in this category. You understood some of the words, but you have no idea the odds apply the things you were worried about. You don’t understand how the amount of exposure both in time and the amount of mold actually factors in. You read a bunch of words that sound scary, but that’s all it really was to you, so you went through the door with an agenda (likely because your wife was not as on board with her mother not getting to see the child as much as you were) and were not going to listen to what the doctor had to say unless it aligned perfectly with your highly educated opinion. You will be lucky if the doc doesn’t discharge you, and she rightfully should. OOP: The point of this is not to not let her see her mother. The baby will not go to her mother’s house until it’s fixed and that’s final, but her mother lives 15 minutes away, and has been at our house every day since I told my wife the baby couldn’t go there. Their relationship is going to be perfectly fine. The point was to educate my wife. I am willing to admit I was an asshole for losing my temper, but my wife’s careless attitude about filth is not new, and needs to be addressed and dealt with. This, minus freaking out, was the most common suggestion I got from my last posts about this. Read up on those if you haven’t, because it’s not as simple as I think you think it is. I did have an agenda, but so does everyone when they go into a doctor’s office. Mine just so happened to have been founded on half information, not bad information, just not enough research done into it. I also want to make this clear. We’re talking about A LOT of mold, that’s been there for at the bare minimum 2 years now, absolute bare minimum, and the baby is exposed 3 ish times a week for 12+ hours at a time. So yeah, no matter amount or time, I’m pretty sure we’d be in the threshold on that regard. I was an asshole for losing my temper, I see that. Commenter 3: I’m a doctor. Your concerns are unfounded and based on fear, not a real understanding of medicine. “Cognitive impairment and reduced immune capacity”? Spare me. What’s next, vaccines cause autism? Chronic Lyme is real? You went to the doctor hoping to use them as a club to bludgeon your wife with. When they refused to back up your neurotic bullshit, you became aggressive. You’re an asshole. Do better. OOP: I’d like you to look at the studies I did and tell me to “spare you” after reading those, and seeing this cabinet. We’re not talking about a few spots of mold, we’re talking about more than 10 square feet completely covered, most likely saturated into the floor and wall as well. https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1002/dneu.23000 https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3758954/ https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5377931/ I’m not trying to excuse the way I acted, that’s why I was honest I lost my temper, but I don’t think you’re fairly repenting the dangers of black mold exposure. Commenter 4: Doctor here, firstly sorry that you felt unheard, that's something we never want to see. Black mold is tricky to assess when it comes to health. We get very little training on the topic, and seeing patients actually infected with fungus in the lungs is thankfully super rare. As with many things it's on a spectrum, sleeping in a bedroom that has black mold on the walls and floorboards is obviously a no no, but visiting a house with mold in a kitchen cupboard that the child can be kept away from is not the same and far less worrying. Our immune system, and even that of a child, is constantly keeping pathogens out, viruses, bacteria and also fungi. So it would be very unlikely that your specific situation would cause long term health effects unless the child was exposed to the mold directly for longer periods of time. All that being said, doctors knowledge and confidence on these topics will vary a lot (as opposed to knowledge on more common conditions and those taught over and over again) so there may be a lot of difference in opinion that you'll come across. As for the AITAH question, hard to say but sounds like maybe a soft yta for raising your voice at someone who's just there to help, but I get the frustration aspect of it too OOP: I am absolutely open to the idea that I was an asshole for losing my temper. As for the situation. The kitchen is the house. It’s an 850 sq house, and it’s basically two rooms. The kitchen/dining room/living room first floor, and the bedroom lower floor, so there’s really no way to keep the baby away, and they are (or had been) there A LOT. OOP on if he has contacted someone to take looks at that mold? OOP: I’m not going to do anything for that house. It’s not my responsibility, they’ve know about it for years, I barely have enough to keep my family above water. Like I’m jump starting my car every time I need to start it because I can either pay rent or buy a car battery. There are there incomes in that home, they can afford to do it, they’ve chosen not to.   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

EDIT: thanks for all the tips! I think you guys have pointed me in the right direction. I appreciate it!! First time DIY oil changer here. I’m a little bit nervous about it but I figure for the price of two oil changes I can buy the supplies I need to DIY this from now on. The two cars are a Mazda cx30 (2024) and a Subaru Outback (2024). I’m hoping for feedback about my tentative plan before I order some supplies on Amazon (see pics). My plan so far: -Run car for a couple minutes -ramps, flat ground, parking brake, chock back wheels -Cardboard under drain pan under car -Gloves, glasses, paper towels, garbage bags, screwdrivers, wrenches within reach -Find oil pan cover and remove -Place oil pan (hold near drain plug?) gingerly remove drain plug with hand above expected path of flow -Try not to drop the drain plug, let drain -Plastic bag around old oil filter when I remove, remove old gasket -Prep new filter half way with new oil, place new filter gasket with a little oil, don’t over tighten -Replace drain plug and gasket -Reverse off ramps here, I’m assuming -Fill tank with new oil (can I just dump the whole big bottle or no?) using funnel -Run the engine for a bit, check level -Pour oil from catch pan into empty bottle, to be given to auto shop -Clean up Have I got that right? I have Valvoline 0W-20 in my Amazon cart for both cars…but can I just use Costco OW-20? Also, are my filter choices good or overkill? I just want a good filter with no surprises when I go to install it. These cars are leased, if that matters. Alternate recommendations welcome, specific links greatly appreciated. The filter I chose for the Mazda doesn’t come with a gasket…how do I know what size to get? Do the drain plugs need new gaskets each time too? Exactly what hand tools do I need to have within reach (aside from the oil filter wrench in my cart). Thank you for your help! submitted by /u/Silver_Department_38 to r/MechanicAdvice [link] [comments]

This story is pretty straight forward. There is a new strain of COVID-19, called BA.3.2. Unfortunately it has mutated enough from it's parent strains that the 2025/2026 vaccines are not effective enough to prevent symptoms, although they may reduce the severity of the illness. The strain does not seem to be deadlier, or include any new symptoms. It causes a standard presentation of COVID-19 that includes coughing, body pains, fever, etc. However, because neither vaccines nor previous exposure are protective against this strain it is important to protect yourself. If you have comorbidities such as Asthma, COPD, Obesity, Heart Disease, any immune disease, including both hypoimmune, hyperimmune, and autoimmune disease, or are a smoker, you are at greatly increased risk of developing SARS. SARS (Severe Accute Respiratory Syndrome) is a deadly viral syndrome that causes shortness of breath, and extreme coughing. This can result in hypoxia, or lack of oxygen. If treatment for SARS is delayed or ineffective, it can be fatal, or become ARDS, Acute Respiratory Distress Syndrome. ARDS can cause bleeding in the lungs, fluid in the lungs, hypoxia, and apoxia (no oxygen at all), and is fatal in the majority of patients diagnosed with it. SARS or ARDS requires hospitalization. If you experience shortness of breath, violent cough, or a fever with coughing, go to the Emergency Room. In the meantime protect yourselves as usual. Be dilligent with your hygiene and hand washing, take your vitamins, get outside, get exercise, hydrate, wear a mask if you are sick or are concerned you'll be exposed to sick people, and toss a bottle of hand sanitizer into your purse or glove box if you haven't already. Be safe out there everyone. submitted by /u/No_Minute_4789 to r/PrepperIntel [link] [comments]

Finally did a deep dive in the shed of my place and found this casually stacked in the back. Handled with heavy gloves and double bagged it to be disposed of properly submitted by /u/Maniacboy888 to r/Weird [link] [comments]

reposted to include photos I use waterbottles daily and my mum recently discovered sugar soap and thought it was a type of washing up liquid and used it to wash my plastic water bottles and other food related items. How safe is it for me to still use my water bottles or should I get rid of them? submitted by /u/karmacatcry to r/CleaningTips [link] [comments]