Leg Day Workout At The Gym

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Hey r/gym! Wanted to share this journey I've been on this year. I have been working out most of my life, staying in the gym 2-4 times a week but I never got results. I wasn't keeping track of my diet. In Feb I stopped drinking and in March I told chatgpt I wanted abs by the summer but not to lose muscle mass. It put together a diet for me that was a high protein cut. I stuck to it with very few deviations (music festivals and birthday dinners). I hit the gym 5 days a week lifting a different set of muscle groups each day and always ending with a core finisher and a 20 minute stairmaster session. On one of my off days from the gym, I'd swim a mile at the pool. I've switched everything to claude.ai to track it and for the past month I've been tracking my workouts there. What's great about using AI for the diet is that if there was a day I didn't have food prepped or I was out to dinner somewhere, I could ask or take a picture of the menu and see which item fell into my needs for that day. Super excited with the results. My diet started out with: Breakfast: 3 eggs, 6-7 egg whites in the morning (but I cut this out about a month in) Lunch: 6-7 oz shredded chx, cup of broccoli, half cup white rice Dinner: 6-7oz 93% ground beef, 1/2-3/4 sweet potato, cup of green beans Banana before workout 4 scoops of protein powder (2 before and 2 after workouts) 5mg creatine after workout 1 scoop of casein protein before bed Every now and then I'll have a cup of Greek yogurt with a tbsp of peanut butter if I'm hungry. I was only doing 2 total scoops of protein before I cut the eggs out. I added 2 more scoops to hit my protein reqs. EDIT: FAQ: -6 feet tall -daily calorie intake roughly 1700-1800 a day once I took eggs out of it. Started calorie cycling in late May where I would hit 2200 tops in a day one or two days a week. -Workout I try my best to stick to each week: Monday: CrossFit in my neighbors backyard. He's a coach and has a nice little setup. Focus on squats for strength and a WOD Tuesday: Arms. Wednesday: deadlifts and legs Thursday: Mile swim Friday: Chest and back Saturday: Shoulders and light arms Sunday: Rest (I play in a kickball league on Sundays during the summer so it's not a total rest day) Every day I'm in the gym I hit the two finishers I listed. Each day has anywhere from 8-10 lifts/pulls at 3x10 or 3x15 sets -Thank you all so much for your kind words! YOU CAN DO THIS TOO 💪💪 -This is the most rainbow flags I've ever gotten in my DMs. HAPPY PRIDE YALL submitted by /u/ksims0206 to r/GYM [link] [comments]

I started going to the gym two months ago and it really interests me, why do my legs hurt the day after leg day, not right after the workout (n same with arms etc)? It makes more sense that muscles are getting traumatised and after that the pain immediately starts, like with cuts or bruises. I tried to Google it but I don't understand the medical/biological terms at all so I'm still confused. Sorry for the wrong sentence structures, I'm still learning English, hope my thoughts are understandable submitted by /u/Fickle_Reindeer2263 to r/explainlikeimfive [link] [comments]

I’ll preface this by saying the men in my family don’t live that long. Grandad made it to 69, my dad made it to 75. I started getting pressure in my chest at times last year and I didn’t want to just give in to it. I had surgery last summer and basically stopped working out for a couple of months due to recovery. Boom, pressure in my chest. Saw the doc. My bloodwork came back poor. I do take statins. So I started forcing myself to the gym every day. Plus long 45 min to one hour walks, daily, rain or shine or snow or sleet. I also do lots of weight training. At first it hurt, my neck especially. I had neck problems for years. So I did lesser weights and that didn’t hurt so I went to heavier and heavier. Now I can curl 40 lb dumbbells which isn’t world record breaking but for me, damn good and more importantly no more neck pain. I went and hit a bunch of golf balls which usually hurts for a couple of days in my back but now, it doesn’t as I’ve been working on strengthening my back specifically. In fact I don’t have aches and pains in general. The only thing is I get antsy if I don’t go to the gym every day, and it affects everything because I don’t want to drink much at all as it wears me down too much the next day. But even after social nights I’m at the gym the next day. The thing is my mind but wants to do less and less as I get older, stay in my comfort zone. But I force myself to go anyway. And then it doesn’t seem hard anymore because it’s like just a part of my every day routine. I won’t BS and say I feel 20 years younger but I feel probably the best a 54 year old could feel and kick myself for not thinking of this earlier. I’ve lost a few pounds but it’s more that it’s toned muscle now. I do eat healthier but could still improve. My routine is I use the cable machines/pulleys for a while, nothing too heavy, and really get a sold stretch in of my shoulders and back. A bunch of those, then triceps, biceps, lats, pushups, leg work. Then 20-30 min on an exercise bike. Then a stretch room workout with back raises, abs work, pigeon poses for the hips. I feel so much better mood wise too. Anyway thought I would share. submitted by /u/Gloomy-Ad-222 to r/GenX [link] [comments]

so I go to this gym regularly and I mind my business, headphones on, doing my sets. yesterday I was doing shoulder exercises on one of the machines and it’s placed near this open area where trainers usually do assisted stretches and massages. so basically, if I’m facing forward on the machine, that area is just there in my line of sight. there’s this female trainer who was working with her client in that open space, doing hands on stretches. every time I rest between sets, I just zone out. like completely blank, staring forward, trying to breathe because shoulder day is no joke. but I kept noticing she was looking at me. not casual looking. more like suspicious looking. I caught her rolling her eyes at me at one point. it started making me self conscious because the machine literally faces that direction, and I’m not going to twist my neck to stare at a wall just to make her comfortable. after my last set, I was about to leave when she stopped me. she goes, can I ask why you keep looking over here while I’m working with my client? I said, I’m not. I’m literally just using the shoulder machine. she said it’s inappropriate, you keep staring while I’m doing hands on work. and that annoyed me because the machine is right there and that’s just where it faces. I told her I’m resting between sets, I’m not watching you. she said, well it feels like you are. so I said not everything is about you. I’m zoning out between reps, trust me. she said I don’t have to get defensive. I said you approached me with an accusation, what do you expect? she kept implying I was being weird, so I finally said I have a boyfriend, I’m gay, you are not on my radar. maybe that was unnecessary, but I was frustrated. she stepped closer and I instinctively raised my hand because she got in my space. I didn’t slap her, but I was heated. now I’m wondering if I was the asshole for snapping. I genuinely was not looking at her. the machine literally faces that area and I’m not about to turn my whole body just to avoid existing. so, aitah? edit hi, this is my first time posting something this personal here and honestly my boyfriend suggested I ask for outside opinions because I was overthinking it. for the people asking, I’m 25, male, and gay. the trainer is a woman. I’m not sure about her exact age, but she looks late 30s to early 40s. no shade at all, just answering the question. some comments asked why I kept looking in their direction if I noticed her rolling her eyes. it’s because they were literally 5 to 6 steps in front of the shoulder machine I was using. the machine faces that open area where they do stretches and massages, so when I rest between sets and zone out, I’m automatically facing that direction. when I zone out, I’m not actively staring at someone. I literally look at a blank space or just whatever is in front of me while trying to breathe. that area just happens to be in my line of sight. I don’t know if that makes sense, but that’s genuinely how I work out. this is also why I get anxious in gym spaces, especially since I just signed up at this new gym and I don’t really know anyone there. the only person I kinda know is another female trainer named Ories who helped me sign my contract. she definitely knows I’m gay because of how we were bantering during sign up. she was really friendly. I’m planning to talk to Ories about what happened and possibly bring it up to management like some of you suggested, since I’m new there and don’t want any weird tension. thank you to everyone who gave actual advice. I’ll update once I talk to management and see what they say. I have read all your comments and thank you to everyone who said NTA. I appreciate the reassurance because I was honestly spiraling after it happened. For those asking why I raised my hand, she approached me and confronted me. She stepped into my space while accusing me. What was I supposed to do, just stay quiet about it? Ofc not. All my life I have been the quiet one. I let things slide. I avoid conflict. And now that I am learning to stand my ground and actually speak up for myself, suddenly I am the bad guy for defending myself? She took her time to walk up to me and accuse me of being inappropriate. She did not ask neutrally. She did not clarify politely. She accused me. That already crossed a boundary. Then she stepped closer while we were arguing. I reacted instinctively because I felt cornered. And for those who keep saying I should not hit a woman, no. Just no. This is not about gender. This is about someone confronting and disrespecting me when I did nothing wrong. I did not touch her. I did not hit her. But do not twist this into some narrative where I am automatically wrong because she is a woman. Respect goes both ways. Boundaries go both ways. I am going to talk to management later today and handle this properly. I just needed to clarify that defending myself does not automatically make me the villain. UPDATE sorry for the late update. what happened next was honestly such a mess. I still went to the gym because I’m not about to stop my routine over this. when I walked into the locker room and was putting my stuff away, one of the male trainers walked behind me and I swear I heard him say “perv” in a way that sounded like he tried to cover it with a cough. I don’t even know if it was about me because the locker room was full of people showering and getting ready. but with everything that happened, of course it got into my head. I ignored it and continued my workout. while working out, I felt like people were looking at me. I don’t know if I was just paranoid because of the issue or if they actually were. but I kept remembering what my friends told me, that no one in the gym cares, everyone is too busy focusing on themselves. so I pushed through and finished my workout. two hours. after that, I went to the front desk and asked for Ories like you guys suggested. I told her everything. she listened and was very calm. then she said, don’t worry, I already know. Rose reported it to management. honestly I wasn’t shocked. I knew she would. Ories told me she believes me and went to get the manager. apparently the manager was already talking to Rose. they asked me to come into the office so we could talk privately. in the office, Rose kept insisting I was staring and that I was being inappropriate. she straight up called me a pervert. I explained again that I was already using the machine before she and her client positioned themselves in front of me. I said I had been there for 10 minutes before they even started stretching there. she kept giving me intimidating looks and then pointed at me and said, just admit you liked what you saw. us stretching our legs. of course you would like it. I literally laughed. like actually laughed. I looked at Ories and even she was smiling because it was getting ridiculous. I said, this is honestly insane. I already told you I’m gay. for the love of god, you are not my type and never have been. I was not interested, I was not entertained, I was trying to survive shoulder day. she kept going on and on trying to justify that I was a pervert. the manager was quiet, probably trying to assess everything. then the manager asked Rose, why didn’t you choose another area? it wasn’t busy that day. Rose said she didn’t like the other areas because they were dim and the spot she chose had better lighting and a mirror. I mean, sure, some areas are dimmer. but that’s not even the point. then Rose said something that honestly shocked me. she asked, how can you prove you’re gay? me and Ories just looked at each other like is this really happening? I pulled out my phone and showed her a picture of me and my boyfriend, him kissing my cheek. I said, this enough for you? she said, that could just be your friend. at that point I just wanted it over with. I showed her another photo of me and my boyfriend in bed, just hugging, clearly intimate but not inappropriate. I said, how about this? she looked stunned. then suddenly she started crying, face down on the table. I genuinely did not understand what was happening anymore. she said, I’m just wondering why you would look at us. I said, if you’re that worried about people possibly glancing in your direction in a public gym, maybe train in a private studio. you can’t control where other people’s eyes rest when they’re literally using equipment in front of you. I stood up and told the manager, I think we’re done here. thanked her for her time. Ories walked me out. afterwards, Ories told me this apparently isn’t the first time Rose has confronted people like this. man, woman, anyone. if she feels like someone looked in her direction, she takes it personally. apparently the manager can’t just kick her out because they’re friends. so yeah. that’s where we’re at. I honestly feel exhausted. but at least I stood up for myself. submitted by /u/Kindly_Ad_3762 to r/AITAH [link] [comments]

I try to go to the gym at least 3 times per week, with a dedicated day just for abs and doing some kind of abs exercise the other two days (mostly planks). On the ab day I do mostly russian weighted twists and ab crunches. Lately, I added leg raises. However, I don't see a lot of definition in the lower abs and in the sides. I'm wondering if it's a workout issue (needing new exercises) or I should be eating less food to get more cut? Thanks! submitted by /u/Zestyclose_Juice_531 to r/workouts [link] [comments]

Hello everyone ☺️ I (30F) am going to have my first gym session ever tomorrow morning. From what I understood, I'm going to spend an hour with a trainer who will help me create my personal plan that we'll then review every 8 weeks for changes/improvements. On one hand I'm happy that I found the motivation to go, after years of telling myself that I should start doing some physical activity. On the other, I'm dreading to go because I'm so nervous of looking stupid and out of place. I'm not a sporty or athletic person AT ALL, PE in school was a nightmare for me and the only sport I ever managed in was ballet. I'm aware that my movements sometimes appear awkward and my coordination is not always the best. Logically I know that people at the gym are not there to judge me, but I've seen too many videos online of people trashing other people at the gym, so I can't help but fear some judgement. And something else that is making me feel nervous is that now that I've prepared the bag for tomorrow it's pretty full (since there's a full change of clothes, shower supplies including a bathrobe, the sneakers I'm going to wear there, my water bottle), like you can see that the bag is at full capacity and I have this very illogical fear that going to the gym for my first day as a total beginner with a ready-to-burst bag will make me look stupid. Same for the fact that I bought some new gear (sports bra, leggings, sneakers) that I know are required, but I'm also scared that it will show that it's all new stuff that I bought "for the occasion" and it will make me look over-eager or something. I know that logically I shouldn't care what others think and that all this stuff is pretty irrational, but I'm going to try something completely new that I know is not very much up my alley, so everything is making me feel super nervous and anxious right now. I would really appreciate it if someone could give me some reassurance 😅 Thank you for reading this tirade of a post and thank you to anyone who will comment 😊 Edit/update: I would like to thank everyone who took the time to leave a comment. I received a lot of reassuring and encouraging messages, also during the night, and I'm really grateful for receiving so much positivity. On Monday morning I had my first session and it went way better than I expected. The trainer showed me how the machines worked but left me pretty much by myself all the time, which actually worked for me because I had the time to familiarise with the equipment and understand the right weights and settings at my own pace. The gym was pretty packed, but it's also true that we're still in the holiday season and a lot of people still hasn't gotten back to work. I'm going to go again on Thursday morning and I expect to find it more peaceful. The workout was supposed to last one hour, but in the end it took me 1 hour and 45 minutes, which actually surprised me and made me feel pretty proud of myself because I was convinced I would struggle with doing a whole hour, so seeing that I actually managed to last almost double that time without feeling completely wrecked made me feel pretty good about myself. Thank you again to everyone who encouraged and reassured me, your comments and advice helped me enter the gym that morning feeling more serene and determined 😊 submitted by /u/helpless_apricot to r/beginnerfitness [link] [comments]

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/TrainingDistance4448 Originally posted to r/AITAH Previous BoRUs: #1 [New Update]: AITAH for telling a woman at the gym that she's embarrassing herself? NEW UPDATE MARKED WITH ---- Thanks to u/queenlegolas for suggesting this BoRU Trigger Warnings: emotional manipulation, obsessive behavior, stalking, racism, falsifying accusations Mood Spoilers: scary and frustrating RECAP Original Post: June 2, 2025 I go to the gym a lot. About sixish months ago I noticed a woman I'll call Andrea. That's not her name, but it will be for the rest of this post. I don't know if Andrea started going to the gym six months ago or if that's just when I noticed her. Full disclosure, I spoke to her first, but I had no way of knowing what the result would be. A lot of the machines at this gym have little entertainment systems attached to them that can access local channels. I got on a treadmill and realized the TV on the treadmill wasn't working. Andrea was walking past and I said "hey, do you know if there's an issue with the cable? This TV isn't working, but I don't know if it's just this one or all of them." She said the same thing happened to her on a different machine. I thanked her. That was the whole interaction. A week later she asked me for some electrolyte powder for her water. I said I didn't have any. She was cool with that and asked me how long I'd been coming to the gym and what I did for work. I answered and returned her questions. She said she was new to the area and worked in private security. We had a few more chill conversations after that. Six weeks ago she asked me out. For reasons I won't get into here, I wasn't interested. I declined. She said not to worry about things being awkward at the gym if we don't work out. I said that wasn't the issue, just not looking to date right now. She kept talking to me, and at first I kept talking to her, but I started to think something might be wrong, and I started avoiding her. Two weeks ago she walked up to me while I was on a machine with only one way to properly dismount that involved stepping into whete she was standing. She asked if I was avoiding her. I said I was and apologized. I said I just don't want to date right now. She said I don't have to avoid her to not date her. I said okay. I kept avoiding her though. Tonight while I was working out she confronted me again about avoiding her. I had a bad day and told her to leave me alone. She asked why I'm being such a prick, and I said because I wanted her to leave me alone. I then said that she was embarrassing herself and needs to stop. She put her foot on top of the weights, and I thought she was going to press down on them, so I let go of the bar very quickly, causing the weights to slam and make a loud noise. Several people looked over. She said "now who's embarrassing himself?" and walked away. Did I go to far by saying that? Do I owe her an apology? Update: I went in early this morning for a run and told the front desk staff about Andrea putting her foot on the weights. They said they would talk to her. Then, after work, I went in again for a regular workout. I was working on my legs when she walked up to my machine. The first thing she did was apologize about the weights. I don't know if someone talked to her or if that was of her own initiative. I accepted her apology and apologized for saying she was embarrassing herself. She said she forgave me, but if I wanted to really make it up to her I could buy her a drink and she would buy me one too to make up for the weights. I said maybe we should buy our own drinks (meaning separately at different places and times) and she misunderstood me and asked when and where. I told her I meant that I didn't want to go out with her. She said this wouldn't be a date but a reset for our friendship. I said I didn't want to be friends. She said I was being a douche and asked what my problem is. I said the weight incident made me uncomfortable, and I would rather us just give each other space. She then asked me if my problem with her is that she's Hispanic. I was so taken aback. I didn't even know she was until she said that. I said no, that she just makes me uncomfortable. She wanted me to explain what about her made me uncomfortable, and I tried to do so, but she argued with every point I made. I got frustrated and told her to just stay away from me. She said fine and that I have a lot of maturing to do. Then she walked away. I'm hoping that's the end of it. Relevant Comments OOP on why he doesn't want to get in a relationship OOP: She's just not my type. Even if she was, I don't want to get into a relationship right now. My last relationship lasted three years, and I need to remember how to be single before I hop right back into another relationship. Commenter 1: "Something might be wrong" what do you mean? OOP: I don't know how to explain it. I almost felt like she was having a completely different conversation with me than I was having with her. She seemed inappropriately enthusiastic. That's the best way I can think to say it. Downvoted Commenter: Dude, she just moved into the area, probably lonely and doesn't know anyone I'm guessing, did she ask you out on like a friend hang out type deal or was it a proper date? OOP: It was a date. She asked me if I wanted to get a drink with her sometime, and when I declined she said I don't need to worry about things being awkward at the gym if we "don't work out" romantically, and I had to decline a second time. Commenter 2: Good for you on taking a breather. NTA by the way. She either has severe mental health issues or hasn't been socialized properly. No "normal" person would ever put you in that position. I make every excuse I can when I'm not interested in someone, but when someone can't take a hint you do eventually have to disregard their feelings. I mean, think about it. She disregarded yours. OOP: That is a good way to think about it. I hadn't considered that part. Thank you. Commenter 3: I wouldn't go to the police RN because you've only just told her to leave you alone. But if gym management doesn't stop it then yeah I would go to the police. Harassment is harassment. If you were a girl and she was a guy who worked in security who also put their foot on your equipment people would be really concerned- rightly so. OOP: That's kind of a different situation. I have at least sixty pounds on her. It's not like she can follow me to my car and beat me up one night. What she did was dangerous and creepy, but what could she really do that's worse? Maybe drop a weight on my toe, but I can't think of anything else. It's not like she knows where I live.   Update #1: June 8, 2025 (six days later) Summary of previous post (skip this paragraph if you read that post): A woman at my gym, Andrea (fake name) asked me out after some normal not at all romantic interactions. I turned her down and shortly after I stated getting a weird vibe from her and started avoiding her. She confronted me about avoiding her twice, and the second time I said she was embarrassing herself, after which she put her foot on the weight stack of the machine I was using, causing me to let go of the bar really quickly and slam the weights. I initially thought I was the asshole for my rude comment, and most posters said I actually under reacted and should talk to gym management, which I did, after which Andrea confronted me again and asked me out again. I turned her down, we argued briefly and she said I needed to grow up. Actual Update: Andrea is banned from the gym! I was running on the treadmill and watching TV. She came up to talk to me, and I ignored her, staring at the TV. She raised her voice and I continued to ignore her. She reached out and pulled the safety tab out of the treadmill (the one you connect to your wrist so the treadmill stops if you fall), causing the treadmill to come to a sudden stop. I tripped and fell onto the controls and TV, scratching my chin on the top of the screen. I went to the front desk with Andrea following me. I told them what she did. She kept trying to interrupt me and talk over me, but the woman at the front desk told her to be quiet and wait her turn. I told her Andrea pulled out the safety tab while I was running and injured me. The woman at the front desk then asked Andrea what happened. Andrea said I was "staring into the middle distance" like I was in some kind of "fuage state" and she thought I was having a medical episode so she pulled the tab. The woman at the front desk asked for her membership card. Andrea didn't want to give it to her, but the woman at the front desk said if she didn't she would ban her. Andrea gave her the card and the woman at the front desk said to leave and she was suspended for a month. Andrea objected and got into an argument with the woman at the front desk that escalated into Andrea calling the woman an N word B word. So she was banned permanently. I hesitate to call that a happy ending because the poor gym employee had to put up with racial harassment, but I won't deny getting to watch her cut up Andrea's membership card felt good. Relevant Comments Commenter 1: Still NTA. Andrea proved herself to be crazy, with a side of racist. OOP: And the irony is that SHE accused ME of being racist for not wanting to date her. Commenter 2: I’m guessing she doesn’t get told No very often. I’m glad it had a safe ending OOP: Thank you. I am too. Now that it's all over I'm starting to process it. The whole thing was so crazy. My heart rate is up higher than it ever gets when I run, which is nuts. Commenter 3: Hmm. If you see her again and she acts creepy it’s worthy of reporting to police. Just pay attention to your surroundings in case she stalks you OOP: She's banned from the gym, so I doubt I'll see her again. She doesn't know where I work or live. OOP on his race and Andrea's race OOP: She said she's Hispanic. I'm not going to tell you what race I am. Downvoted Commenter: Seriously, this is honestly your response. If so, you aren’t actually into women. You may not know it yet, but you aren’t. It’s a completely normal question for a person to ask is this crazed psycho who is trying to date you is Hot or not. Every straight male is thinking the exact same thing. OOP: I date women. I recently left a three year relationship with a woman, and she could tell you that I definitely like women. I just don't think women are defined solely by their appearance. I'll give you an example. I have this friend I grew up with. She is objectively very beautiful. Many men (and women) have told her so. While I can see that she is beautiful, the first thing I think when I see her is "that's my friend that I love dearly" not "that's an attractive woman that's probably good at sex." I have never been attracted to her because we treat each other like siblings. Conversely, in this situation, even if Andrea was my type (which she isn't) and I was looking to get into another relationship (which I'm not right now) it still wouldn't matter because her behavior towards me was so off-putting. She could look like Allyson Hannigan (an actress I think is particularly attractive) and it wouldn't matter because I don't date women that put people in physical danger when they're upset. Commenter 4: INFO: Are you okay from the injury? NTA, but just be careful. I’ve had jarring injuries while running from having to unexpectedly stop on a dime, and, while it felt okay at the time, it caused a stability-related injury next workout. OOP: I'm okay. It's just a scratch.   Update #2: June 12, 2025 (four days later) Sorry for the incomprehensible post. I posted this last night when I was drunk. I'll rewrite it to explain what happened. Last night I went to a bar near my apartment to meet up with some friends. The three of us were drinking and having a good time when Andrea walked up. I never saw her enter the bar. I only noticed her when she was in front of us. She greeted me and said it was good to see me and leaned in to try to kiss me. I pushed her away from me and she fell, but one of my friends caught her. She started yelling and asking what the fuck is wrong with me. I told her to stay away from me and not come any closer. She asked if I was embarrassed of her and didn't want my friends to see her. I said this is the third time you've tried to assault me and I want you to stay away from me. At that point the bouncer showed up to ask what was going on. Andrea said I pushed her. I tried to explain that she tried to kiss me and is stalking me, but I was drunk and not doing a great job. My friends also tried to explain that I was innocent, but they were also drunk. Security kicked me out of the bar. My friends walked me home. I am definitely going to try to get a restraining order. This has gone way too far. Top Comments Commenter 1: she is literally stalking you and it's going to just get worse. if she tries to follow you again PLEASE call the police. ask your gym for video footage of andrea purposely sabotaging your workouts, purposely trying to injure you and following you around. this situation is insane and escalating from following you around the gym to full on intruding into your personal life. does she have any of your social media? if so, definitely block her, as clearly she's starting to learn your patterns and outside hobbies. be safe!! Commenter 2: Might be a stretch but you should inform your workplace that you have a woman harassing you in retaliation for being rejected and banned from the gym after she escalated to violent and dangerous behaviour. If she found you in a bar (assuming it wasn’t a coincidence) then she can find out where you work and try to sabotage your job and reputation. And go to the police. Commenter 3: Now that it’s gone beyond the gym, you need to start the process of getting a restraining order. She’s unhinged as fuck, you need to get the law on your side. Go back to the bar on a different night and ask for the manager. Explain the situation and the context - make sure to mention that you’re in the process of taking out a restraining order against her for stalking and harassment. Try and clear your name, you were with friends and a woman walked in and immediately created a scene - but YOU were kicked out?? Nah I’d be fighting that, that’s some bullshit.   ----NEW UPDATE---- Update #3: December 20, 2025 (over six months later) Update: Andrea the Gym Nut I doubt anyone remembers this, and you can check my profile for context if you want, but I saw this subreddit while scrolling and remembered the password for my throwaway account. So if there is anyone out there that has been wondering about Andrea the Gym Nut, here's the answer. I did get a restraining order against Andrea as many suggested. It wasn't super effective. If I saw her and called the police she would usually be gone by the time they arrived. A couple officers gave me a hard time about calling. They thought I was wasting their time because I'm a man and she's a woman. The stress started to impact my job performance. My boss was sympathetic, but my coworkers started to get annoyed with me. Also the fact that Andrea had shown up at work was a huge liability for us. I saw the writing on the wall and knew I was going to be fired soon. I did what I had been putting off for a long time. I moved back home and decided to go back to school. It was hard at first. The situation with "Andrea" was more traumatic than I had been able to acknowledge to myself. I tried therapy, and the first therapist thought my issue was that I was too closed off and didn't want to give what sounded like a nice young woman a chance. So that sucked. I swore off therapy after that, but eventually my friends convinced me to give it another try, and I found a great therapist who has helped me a lot. My family wasn't particularly supportive at first, but they eventually came around (somewhat). My friends have been great this whole time, and they're the only reason I didn't have a meltdown. I also got back together with my high school girlfriend! I know, ironic. That situation isn't all sunshine and roses either right now, but we're working on it. I'll be starting school again at the beginning of the spring semester. All in all, I'm okay. I'm not great, but I'm okay. But who cares about that, right? You guys want to know about Andrea. What happened to Andrea? I have stayed as far away from her as possible, but my more tech savvy friend has been keeping tabs on her online presence in case she posts anything that might mean she's found out where I moved or had plans to do something to me. He usually doesn't update me unless it's something safety critical, but three weeks ago he told me I might feel safer knowing that Andrea is engaged! So she probably won't be stalking me in the future. I am amazed by this turn of events. There really is someone for everyone, even crazy stalkers. So that's the update. No prison for Andrea, only matrimony, which is its own kind of prison, in a way (just kidding). That's all folks! Relevant Comments Commenter 1: I totally remember this post! Wow, I find myself actually feeling bad for the idiot who's engaged to such a psycho. I am really glad, however, that you are doing so well! It's sad that you were forcing that situation, but it seems like it's worked out as well as could possibly be expected and even better! Congratulations and I hope everything continues to go well for you. OOP: Thank you, I appreciate that. It was really rough for a while, but I think I'm coming out of the other end of the tunnel now. As for Andrea's husband-to-be, maybe they're perfect for each other. Who knows? Commenter 2: Man people failed you every step of the way. Happy you got safe honey. OOP: Thanks. They really did! But I learned some important lessons.   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

My boyfriend and I have been having some pretty severe trust issues, for context we’re both 24. Over the course of our relationship we’ve both had some slip ups. Last year, he tried kissing one of his girl friends while black out drunk—he apologized profusely, told me he’s an alcoholic, and vowed never to drink again and he’s kept that promise so far. My boyfriend keeps a lot of friends some of which happen to be girls, they aren’t intentionally malicious but they have an incestual friend group where they’re perfectly fine passing each other around. My boyfriend and I are the only monogamous relationship within. I wasn’t friends with his friends prior to dating him. One of his loose friends, Sophie, was always getting invited to the gym by his roommate who was trying to hit. The three of them would work out together all semester long, my boyfriend complained that this girl has bad takes and wasn’t super enjoyable to be around. She ends up making them beaded friendship bracelets and hanging in their room like OnE oF tHe GuYs. There are zero boundaries, she’s changing in their room treating it like a hang out spot and sitting in there when no one is there (it was a dorm so the doors were always unlocked). Semester ends, I come back from college, my boyfriend and I start working out together, and she is never invited to the gym after. A month ago my boyfriend asked me if Sophie could join our gym session. I thought it was fine at the time but while driving over I had this awful nauseous feeling that I had to go get my man. Something about picturing him alone in the gym with another girl made me absolutely ill. She is gorgeous, thin, incredibly rich, exactly my boyfriend’s type, and she puts on this kind quirky demeanor with men but cannot hold conversations with women. While at the gym it was mostly them talking to each other, my boyfriend made an attempt to include me in the conversation but I didn’t know any of the people they were talking about so I didn’t really chime in. What really got me is that when we moved to go lift, they stood in front of me, side by side at the mirror, so my boyfriend could “correct her form”. At the end she had the nerve to ask him if they could workout every week on Mondays at this specific time, and he agreed???!?? Also it was clearly not an invitation for me to tag along, she wants 1 on 1 time with my boyfriend like he’s her personal trainer. After we left the gym I texted him “I don't mean to sound like a bitch but it would make me feel bad and uncomfortable if you continued going to the gym with Sophie alone routinely” he reassured me and said he’d find a way out of it. The next two Mondays roll around and he flakes on her with random excuses, I thought things were fine. A week ago he was scrolling through his text list and I saw a text under her name saying “Needed u for morale”. Instead of confronting my boyfriend about it I decided to snoop on his phone since he keeps telling me he has nothing to hide. I find out that he, in fact, did not “find a way out of it” but instead just hid the fact that he was going with her from me. I found out she had been texting him about her workouts on days they missed, texts are included above. After the most recent one, he went to the gym with her and then immediately came over to decorate my Christmas tree with my family, he had every opportunity to tell he in passing that he went to the gym with her and he didn’t. We spent the night together, had sex, hung out the next day, and still no mention of his gym rendezvous with Sophie. I confronted him about it yesterday and these were his reasons, please tell me if they are bullshit: - he enjoys helping people get acquainted to the gym, has done it with many guy friends - he interpreted my text wrong, he thought “routinely” meant that he just couldn’t go with her every week - he spent most of their time gymming together talking about me - he said he hadn’t gone with her in a month and thought it was okay to start going with her again now that my boundary expired - he didn’t mention it because it was “incredibly mundane” - sometimes he makes plans with his friends, like getting lunch between classes, and doesn’t tell me, so he didn’t feel the need to mention this to me (even after I told him it made me uncomfortable) Anyways I’m really torn up about this. I feel stupid for believing that he would care about my feelings and boundaries. I am so angry and confused. I don’t see why he would put his girl friend above his girlfriend but I don’t even feel justified in my anger because he keeps shutting me down. Anyways AIO submitted by /u/Significant_Hand3348 to r/AIO [link] [comments]

My elder brother 29M. One day he got sever calf pain on right leg while doing gym, it is very sever pain. Calf area turned red in color, hard, swollen. After 15 days he felt breathlessness, difficulty to breathe, pressure at chest area and on 17th day he collapsed at home.. By luck both are at home at that time and i was beside him. I started doing cpr immediate next second, did continously for 1 min, with lot of power. He revived, sat upright like nothing happened and within 20mim rushed him to emergency. Now he is safe and helathy. Now i want to share diagnosis, what actually doctors said why he collapsed. My brother diagnosed with "ACUTE MASSIVE PULMONARY EMBOLISM". Means a big clot from leg DVT(Deep vein thrombosis) travelled to lung and stuck between heart and lung and stopped blood flow to brain.. So he collapsed it is massive clot so stuck between heart and lungs. While he is in icu, we thought going to gym gave him massive clots.. But later when he recovered and shifted to room.. Doctor said my brother is genetically deficient in vitamin b12 from childhood, his body can't absorb vitamin b12..so he got hyper homocystien, So he has tendency of blood clots and by age that clot got massive in leg and stick to veins in the leg.. Now he is 29..when he started gym.. By workouts that massive clot got losse and separated from vein and started to travel in blood stram and reached lungs and got stuck. That clot separation from vein gave him severe calf area pain. So he has high chance of clots reoccurrence.. So he kept on lifelong blood thinner tablet and vitamin b12 tablet(methcobalmin, b12 folic acid).. He should take vitamin b12 tablet for life long. So what i need to say.. Vitamin b12 is so imp for our body.. Long term deficiency can lead to clots and sever trauma..so check vitamin b12 and consult doctor if have deficiency. While joining to gym newly , it is better to confirm that there are no clots in our leg. Small diagnosis can save life. And doctor also said generally vegetarians will get this type of b12 deficiency. because in any type of veg b12 will not be present.. Only non veg will have b12. But my brother is pure non veg.. So doctor said your brother body genetically can't absorb vitamin b12. I hope this post will create some awareness.. Thankyou.. submitted by /u/arunsaisai to r/india [link] [comments]

I have been working out for 9 months straight of mostly 6 days a week with more recently it being 4-5x a week if I’m lucky, due to a new schedule. I feel like I haven’t lost much fat off of my body for the amount of work I put in. The first photos are before and the second set is after which is self titled “9 Months.” I also attached photos of my workout regiment that I do on a consistent basis. I push myself to failure almost every time, and I maintain a calorie deficit of around 1900 calories with most of that being protein and good nutrients. I also walk 10k+ steps a day whilst at work lifting heavy boxes with most of those steps. I do cardio on my push and pull days, with doing abs on my leg days. Do I need to eat more? Do more cardio? Workout harder? I just don’t know what I am doing wrong. I feel unmotivated, but I won’t let that stop me from going as I love the gym and it’s become an amazing stress reliever for me in times where I need it most. Thank you for reading! submitted by /u/SkeetyBoi to r/workouts [link] [comments]

EDIT Here are answers to common questions I am seeing: Does my workout/diet interfere with time with my family? No, it does not. I wake up early before anyone else is awake and workout in the garage. The only time I go to the gym is on my lunch break at work. I would not be able to leave the office early if I did not workout at lunch. My meal prep happens on Sunday when the family is at church (I would not be going to church with them even if I was not meal prepping). I shop for the whole house for groceries for the week and then make a big batch of chicken thighs, big batch of chicken legs, and a big batch of chickpea salad, and then vacuum seal and put into the freezer in the garage. Do you cook for your family? Yes, I cook 100% of at home dinners for my wife and son. I make them whatever my wife wants. I will warm up my food in the microwave and eat with them. Does your wife get time to herself? Yes, my son is in daycare. That started in June. Prior to that, he was at home with my wife and did a mother's day out. Additionally, both our moms are retired and love to be with our son whenever they can, so she would regularly drop him off. Additionally, in the evenings during the week, after dinner, I am solely responsible for the kid until I go to bed at 10:30. I am also solely responsible for him on Saturday mornings. And if I am not working, I will be with our son whenever she needs/wants. Spending time with the little guy is incredibly fun for me. Do you spend time with just you and your wife? Yes, we have weekly date night on Saturday and usually do something just us on Sunday. We also spend an hour or two Monday-Friday together. Do you do chores? Yes, they include mopping, vacuuming, cleaning the bathrooms every other week, all yard-related tasks, doing any poopy/pee laundry for my son, doing all my own laundry, woring with my son to straighten up his room before bed, and maintaining my areas of the house (namely my section of the bedroom). This is a throwaway account My wife (Jen) and I went to the same college. We met at the beginning of her freshman year (my sophomore year) in Fall 2017. I was an offensive tackle on the football team, as such, I was always a large guy. Jen was a small girl with an hourglass figure who guys on campus would pretty brazenly check out whenever she went anywhere. We started dating pretty quickly and dated on and off over the next 2 1/2 years. When COVID shutdowns hit, we were living together. Jen got pregnant during the shutdowns. At that time, I was weighing about 350 lbs. I had some pretty significant back and knee problems. I decided I needed to make a change because I wanted to be an active and involved father. At first, Jen was supportive. I changed my diet (no fried food, sweets, or soft drinks). I increased my workout routine. The weight pretty quickly started coming off. By the time my son was born in early 2021, I was down to 310 (about the weight I was when Jen and I started dating). We got married in the Summer of 2021. I decided I wanted to keep losing weight. I was motivated, feeling great, and wanted to get to about 200-210. Jen became less supportive, but she was not hostile towards my goal. I did my best to structure my workout routine to decrease the amount of time I was away from home. I started going to the gym during my lunch breaks from work and made a little area in the garage for me to do my cardio in the morning. I made all of my own meals. Outside of her concerns about my weight loss, our marriage seemed good. I was in individual counseling and had suggested couples counseling, but Jen was not open to the idea. We were both enjoying our little family life with our son. We decided to try for a second child. Jen is currently six months pregnant. Since getting pregnant, Jen has become very hostile towards my diet and workout routine. It has mostly consisted of digs and passive-aggressive remarks about my working out and about my body. About two months ago was her 25th birthday. We got dressed up and went out to a nice dinner. The evening seemed to be going well until she went to the bathroom. When she came back, her demeanor had changed completely (I recently learned she had overheard some women in the bathroom commenting on how "cute" I was). Her overt hostility towards me working out has increased dramatically. The thing that is making me leave is that there is a fridge in the garage where I store my pre-made meals. I will make meals for two weeks, store/freeze them there, defrost, and then warm them up for meal time. I had just done two weeks' worth of meals, and she threw out the meals. I told her I was disgusted and done. This happened about six weeks ago. She has since come to me and tried to offer an explanation. Except that her explanation has made it worse. She is jealous because she used to get all this attention from other men, while I got no attention from other women and now, I get attention from other women and she gets no attention from other men. I asked her why she would even want attention from other men, and she could not explain it beyond, "it makes her feel good." I asked her how she would feel if I told her that I workout because I wanted attention from other women? She said she would assume I was cheating. She said she is willing to do counseling now. She had repeatedly tried to initiate sex and I have blocked those advances. AITA because I want to leave? submitted by /u/PictureDry6904 to r/AITAH [link] [comments]

Hoping to inspire you all with what's possible with a full commitment to body weight exercise: https://imgur.com/a/ckpjCdu This Wednesday marked eight years that I've done at least 250 pushups every day—2,922 consecutive days! Over this time I've put on significant mass and stayed incredibly lean, all without having to go to the gym. I've averaged 366 per day over my streak for a total of over 1 million and counting since I last took a day off. I've also done at least 250 air squats every day for 1,683 consecutive days (this December will be five years!) and this year I've upped my daily count to 500. Here's a pic of the results I've been getting from 500 squats: https://imgur.com/a/vJgCM5G Pullups used to be a big part of my routine as well—I did thousands of them back in the earlier years of my pushup streak—but I haven't done them consistently in several years as my current apartment doesn't have a suitable doorframe. And while my pushups keep my core tight, I also sprinkle in 250 situps here and there (with greater frequency in the summer). Beyond the consistency, the key is pushing yourself hard on each set. If you push to failure (or close to it), the results can be as hypertrophic as heavy lifting, all with the added benefit of increasing muscular definition. Obviously it's impossible to go that hard every single time, but it's important to at least try—especially on days where you're not feeling it, and your inner voice is telling you mid-set that you've done enough. The exercise in mental toughness to push past that point and do a couple more reps is almost more valuable than the physical benefits. I also vary my approach every day: alternating between flat and decline position with my feet at different levels (from a few inches elevated, all the way up to putting them on my kitchen counter to target my shoulders. Here's video of that from the day I surpassed 1 million pushups!) and between wide and narrow hand positioning. Feel free to ask me any questions! Addendum 1: Since so many people are asking me about my back (pic from last month), I feel compelled to disclose that I do (very) occasionally do pull-downs at the gym to make up for my lack of a home pullup bar. But I built this physique 90%+ on body weight exercises—in fact, I didn't go to a gym once between 2016 and 2022, and only go once in a while now because my company covers my cost of membership. When I do go—usually just 3 or 4 times a month—it's typically only to do abs using their decline benches and sometimes to do the aforementioned pulldowns, or some occasional heavy leg lifting, because it's fun to do. But I haven't done any upper body lifting at all since the spring. Addendum 2: For those asking how long it took to start seeing results, here are two pics from the mid-2000s to illustrate the progress I saw when I first got serious about transforming my body with pushups (doing a lot and pushing to failure almost daily, but long before I committed to any kind of streak): https://imgur.com/a/9Zo6l9T Pic 1: Before pushups Pic 2: Maybe 3-4 weeks after first getting serious with pushups It's not much, but the gains became apparent really quickly for me—especially in my arms and shoulders. Start small, find what works for you, and if you want results, then commit to it. But you have to really want it. To quote a character from a John Irving book: You have to get obsessed and stay obsessed! Addendum 3: I wanted to clarify a change I made to Addendum 1, in which I originally hyperbolically stated that my physique was 100% from body weight exercises. I changed it to 90%+ to reflect the contributions of my occasional gym workouts since 2022. But I'll stress that these really have been minimal—maybe a little bit more size in my deltoids, but not much more. Here's a pic of me from early 2021, when I hadn't been to a gym in five years and was only doing pushups and pullups, and recently started my streak of daily squats: https://imgur.com/a/yMnzwKU Regardless of the percent, body weight is the foundation of my exercise philosophy, and my commitment to it has completely transformed my body. And if you're serious about it, it can transform yours as well. I appreciate all your comments, and I'll do my best to get back to your questions around my work today! submitted by /u/martin_dc16gte to r/bodyweightfitness [link] [comments]

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/iamplayingfavorites Originally posted to r/AmItheAsshole AITA for shutting someone down when they tried to talk to me at the gym? Trigger Warnings: harassment, invasion of privacy Original Post: June 23, 2025 So, for context, I (F32) don’t talk to anyone at my gym outside of saying hi and bye to the people who work there, and having polite etiquette when asking someone if they’re using something/saying thank you when they’re done. This is partially for efficiency, but mostly because I go to the gym stoned AF and I’m in my zone and I don’t want to talk to anyone. Last week, after my work out, I walked over to the food carts by my gym to pick up tacos. While I was there, some guy (M40+) stopped me and said he went to the same gym. I had never noticed him before but he like insisted on walking with me and was talking to me. I was kind of annoyed — just because you see me on the street with my headphones out doesn’t mean it’s an invitation to talk to me. I made small talk and tried to be polite. Got out as quick as I could. So the other day, when I’m at the gym foam rolling out with my headphones in, this guy just beelines to me while I’m trying to avoid eye contact, and squats down next to me to say hi and give me a fist bump. I give him a quick heads up acknowledge him but ignore the fist bump. Avoid eye contact the rest of the time I’m there. And then today, this guy comes into the gym and sees me. I immediately avoid eye contact and he doesn’t come up to me, so I think he gets the picture. But then, when I’m doing leg lifts, he comes over and tries to give me a fist bump. So I take out my headphone and I say “Look man, I don’t want to do this. I’m here to work out, I’m not here to make friends. I don’t want to talk to you, okay.” And he starts to say “I was just saying hi.” And I respond with “Yeah, I get it. Please don’t.” And put my headphone back in and kept working out. I realize anyone who saw this probably thought I was a giant AH. But, I don’t think someone’s need for connection overrides my need to have a good workout. So, AITAH? Verdict: Not the Asshole Relevant Comments Commenter 1: NTA, sounds like your usual type who thinks gyms are a place to pick people up and not in fact a place to work out. I do find it weird that you go to the gym stoned though, kind of like going to the pub first for a few beers. Downvoted Commenter: Yeah using gym equipment, especially weights, when you're on drugs seems crazy dangerous. OOP: I literally started going to the gym 15 years ago because I started getting stoned and listening to music. It’s my happy place and helps me focus on my breathing. But, yeah, I’ve gotten that reaction to it a lot! Commenter 2:NTA. Coming from a father, I hope my daughter has the boundaries you do when she’s grown. You don’t owe anyone your attention. You rock though! OOP: Coming from someone who lost their father young, this comment means the world to me. Happy belated Father’s Day! Commenter 3: Sometimes I think a gym should have wrist bands: one for those who want to socialize, another for those that want no interaction. Take the guess work out of who wants to be chatty? OOP: Love this idea, honestly! Downvoted Commenter: How do you feel about yourself? Probably not great, right? :/ OOP: Actually I feel great about setting boundaries. I finished my work out on a great note   UPDATE #1: (On the same post, same day, hours later For people saying this would have been different if he was an attractive guy. I stumble and get awkward no matter who it is if the conversation needs to go beyond more than a single question and response. Men, women, children. This isn’t a “want it” or “don’t want it” situation as much as it’s a “I’m not in a headspace where I can have human conversation.” For people saying this is the same type of person who wonders why guys don’t ask them out: I keep a little post it note in my gym bag that says “Hi, my name is (name). I think you’re cute, but I want to respect your gym time. Text me if you want to get coffee sometime.” I’ve never given it to anyone, but it’s there if I ever feel like I need it. Anyway, I’m at work. Hope everyone has a great day!   Final Update posted June 24, 2025/Same Post FINAL UPDATE: Wow. While I figured posting this might be a little divisive, I didn’t expect it to blow up like this. I went to the gym today and had one of the best workouts I’ve had in a long time — partly because I was fueled by the overwhelming support I received from people who understood the importance of asserting boundaries. So thank you to everyone who saw where I was coming from. For anyone who still thinks I’m the AH — I can live with that. But before I go, I want to share something that happened to me a couple of months ago. Maybe it’ll give you something to chew on. I was at the same gym, in the middle of isolated bicep curls. End of the rep, second-to-last set to failure. I was slowing the movement, fully concentrated, eyes closed. When I opened them — a stranger’s face was three inches from mine. Startled, I set the weight down and looked over to see a plump, middle-aged man in a baseball cap. I took out one of my headphones, still in shock, and all I could say was, “What the f***?!” He then grabbed my arms and forced them back onto the machine’s handles, saying “One more!” I pulled away and snapped, “Who the f*** do you think you are?” His face fell as he muttered, “I was just admiring your work.” I told him, “I’m in the middle of a f*ing set.” He got defensive, saying, “Actually, I wanted to use that.” I replied, “You can use it when I’m not in the middle of a set.” He rolled his eyes and walked off. I was left shaking. As I started to put my headphone back in, another man approached and waved. I took it back out, and he said, “You really shouldn’t have to put up with that.” I smiled and said thanks. He walked away. I got back to my set. Additional Comment from OOP responding to a comment about men invading her personal space OOP: I responded to someone’s message, and I think my response still fits your comment pretty well: Hi there. You sending your response here is fine. I haven’t responded to any others, but I can tell you took the time to put your position into words, and I want to honor that. To preface this, I’d like to say I am also a manager and have worked customer service my whole life. I have also navigated difficult (and sometimes scary) interactions between my employees/coworkers and customers. For multiple reasons, not least of all protecting the company from legal threats, deescalation and reporting that behavior is always the best route when we’re at work. First and foremost, I’d like to say that I would never expect a stranger to risk being stabbed or shot by standing up for someone else. The way these incidents play out are hugely influenced by set and setting, and I don’t think there’s a one size fits all solution on what someone should do. That being said, my situation took place in a gym: a public place that requires a membership, where people are generally dressed down, and weapons are prohibited. Your statement “My life isn’t worth making you feel like society is healing, or that those people are getting the justice they deserve.” is absolutely fair in a blanket statement — especially if that situation took place on the street or in an alley at night. But, in a gym where those possible dangers are drastically reduced, it feels like you’re both defending your inaction while hyperbolizing what I’m asking for. When I envision what I wish someone would have done, it’s not marching up and telling the dude off until he walks away from me. I just wish someone within that 6 foot radius would have taken out a headphone and said “Dude, WTF?” instead of staring at us watching it happen. I didn’t need a knight in shining armor, just a little backup so it’s not 1 v 1. It’s sad, but men like the one who put his hands on me generally back off the second they see another man involved. I’m not asking you to prove to me that society is healing or someone is getting justice. I’m just asking you to be a bro and back me up as I defend myself. I’m out here standing up for myself and trying to be the change I want to see in the world. Not to prove that society is healing, but just because I know it’s the right thing to do. The gym is my space just as much as it is anyone else who pays for it, and I’m not going to be scared or intimidated out of my happy place. I understand that you feel you’ve done your part, and since I don’t know you at all, I really am not one to say either way. But, just based on what you’ve said in your message, I would like to recommend something to you. There’s a comedian named Daniel Sloss who has a special on Max called “X”. It’s hilarious and it’s something I wish I could convince every man to watch. Every person, male and female, that I have shown it to have loved it. If you get the opportunity, I highly recommend. Cheers and have a great day, man! ⸻ Now here’s what I’ll say: Baseball Cap Guy was way more out of line than the guy who approached me at the food carts — even by the third time, when I finally snapped at him. I reported that incident to the gym manager. They took it seriously, walked through the whole event with me, and I gave the best description I could. I haven’t seen that man since. Whether he was banned or just stopped showing up, I don’t know. As for the guy from the food carts — he hasn’t approached me again. We’ve been in the same space at the gym a couple times, but I’m very good at pretending people don’t exist during workouts. I appreciate that he respected my boundaries. I see no reason to report him. ⸻ But here’s what I want to leave you with: The man who approached me right after that first incident — the one who said I shouldn’t have to put up with it — Why did he say that to me, instead of to him? Why is it easier to comfort a woman in distress than it is to call out the man who caused it? I do think he meant well. I appreciated it in the moment. But I still have to ask: When given the choice between verbally comforting a woman and actually intervening — Why do so many men choose comfort over protection? Why is it harder to confront predatory behavior than it is to empathize with its aftermath? That’s all I have to say. This will be my final update.   Editor’s note: marking this concluded per OOP as there would be no further updates   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

So, for context, I (F32) don’t talk to anyone at my gym outside of saying hi and bye to the people who work there, and having polite etiquette when asking someone if they’re using something/saying thank you when they’re done. This is partially for efficiency, but mostly because I go to the gym stoned AF and I’m in my zone and I don’t want to talk to anyone. Last week, after my work out, I walked over to the food carts by my gym to pick up tacos. While I was there, some guy (M40+) stopped me and said he went to the same gym. I had never noticed him before but he like insisted on walking with me and was talking to me. I was kind of annoyed — just because you see me on the street with my headphones out doesn’t mean it’s an invitation to talk to me. I made small talk and tried to be polite. Got out as quick as I could. So the other day, when I’m at the gym foam rolling out with my headphones in, this guy just beelines to me while I’m trying to avoid eye contact, and squats down next to me to say hi and give me a fist bump. I give him a quick heads up acknowledge him but ignore the fist bump. Avoid eye contact the rest of the time I’m there. And then today, this guy comes into the gym and sees me. I immediately avoid eye contact and he doesn’t come up to me, so I think he gets the picture. But then, when I’m doing leg lifts, he comes over and tries to give me a fist bump. So I take out my headphone and I say “Look man, I don’t want to do this. I’m here to work out, I’m not here to make friends. I don’t want to talk to you, okay.” And he starts to say “I was just saying hi.” And I respond with “Yeah, I get it. Please don’t.” And put my headphone back in and kept working out. I realize anyone who saw this probably thought I was a giant AH. But, I don’t think someone’s need for connection overrides my need to have a good workout. So, AITAH? UPDATE: For people saying this would have been different if he was an attractive guy. I stumble and get awkward no matter who it is if the conversation needs to go beyond more than a single question and response. Men, women, children. This isn’t a “want it” or “don’t want it” situation as much as it’s a “I’m not in a headspace where I can have human conversation.” For people saying this is the same type of person who wonders why guys don’t ask them out: I keep a little post it note in my gym bag that says “Hi, my name is (name). I think you’re cute, but I want to respect your gym time. Text me if you want to get coffee sometime.” I’ve never given it to anyone, but it’s there if I ever feel like I need it. Anyway, I’m at work. Hope everyone has a great day! FINAL UPDATE: Wow. While I figured posting this might be a little divisive, I didn’t expect it to blow up like this. I went to the gym today and had one of the best workouts I’ve had in a long time — partly because I was fueled by the overwhelming support I received from people who understood the importance of asserting boundaries. So thank you to everyone who saw where I was coming from. For anyone who still thinks I’m the AH — I can live with that. But before I go, I want to share something that happened to me a couple of months ago. Maybe it’ll give you something to chew on. I was at the same gym, in the middle of isolated bicep curls. End of the rep, second-to-last set to failure. I was slowing the movement, fully concentrated, eyes closed. When I opened them — a stranger’s face was three inches from mine. Startled, I set the weight down and looked over to see a plump, middle-aged man in a baseball cap. I took out one of my headphones, still in shock, and all I could say was, “What the f***?!” He then grabbed my arms and forced them back onto the machine’s handles, saying “One more!” I pulled away and snapped, “Who the f*** do you think you are?” His face fell as he muttered, “I was just admiring your work.” I told him, “I’m in the middle of a f*ing set.” He got defensive, saying, “Actually, I wanted to use that.” I replied, “You can use it when I’m not in the middle of a set.” He rolled his eyes and walked off. I was left shaking. As I started to put my headphone back in, another man approached and waved. I took it back out, and he said, “You really shouldn’t have to put up with that.” I smiled and said thanks. He walked away. I got back to my set. ⸻ Now here’s what I’ll say: Baseball Cap Guy was way more out of line than the guy who approached me at the food carts — even by the third time, when I finally snapped at him. I reported that incident to the gym manager. They took it seriously, walked through the whole event with me, and I gave the best description I could. I haven’t seen that man since. Whether he was banned or just stopped showing up, I don’t know. As for the guy from the food carts — he hasn’t approached me again. We’ve been in the same space at the gym a couple times, but I’m very good at pretending people don’t exist during workouts. I appreciate that he respected my boundaries. I see no reason to report him. ⸻ But here’s what I want to leave you with: The man who approached me right after that first incident — the one who said I shouldn’t have to put up with it — Why did he say that to me, instead of to him? Why is it easier to comfort a woman in distress than it is to call out the man who caused it? I do think he meant well. I appreciated it in the moment. But I still have to ask: When given the choice between verbally comforting a woman and actually intervening — Why do so many men choose comfort over protection? Why is it harder to confront predatory behavior than it is to empathize with its aftermath? That’s all I have to say. This will be my final update. submitted by /u/iamplayingfavorites to r/AmItheAsshole [link] [comments]

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/TrainingDistance4448 Originally posted to r/AITAH AITAH for telling a woman at the gym that she's embarrassing herself? Thanks to u/queenlegolas for suggesting this BoRU Trigger Warnings: emotional manipulation, obsessive behavior, stalking, racism, falsifying accusations Mood Spoilers: scary and frustrating Original Post: June 2, 2025 I go to the gym a lot. About sixish months ago I noticed a woman I'll call Andrea. That's not her name, but it will be for the rest of this post. I don't know if Andrea started going to the gym six months ago or if that's just when I noticed her. Full disclosure, I spoke to her first, but I had no way of knowing what the result would be. A lot of the machines at this gym have little entertainment systems attached to them that can access local channels. I got on a treadmill and realized the TV on the treadmill wasn't working. Andrea was walking past and I said "hey, do you know if there's an issue with the cable? This TV isn't working, but I don't know if it's just this one or all of them." She said the same thing happened to her on a different machine. I thanked her. That was the whole interaction. A week later she asked me for some electrolyte powder for her water. I said I didn't have any. She was cool with that and asked me how long I'd been coming to the gym and what I did for work. I answered and returned her questions. She said she was new to the area and worked in private security. We had a few more chill conversations after that. Six weeks ago she asked me out. For reasons I won't get into here, I wasn't interested. I declined. She said not to worry about things being awkward at the gym if we don't work out. I said that wasn't the issue, just not looking to date right now. She kept talking to me, and at first I kept talking to her, but I started to think something might be wrong, and I started avoiding her. Two weeks ago she walked up to me while I was on a machine with only one way to properly dismount that involved stepping into whete she was standing. She asked if I was avoiding her. I said I was and apologized. I said I just don't want to date right now. She said I don't have to avoid her to not date her. I said okay. I kept avoiding her though. Tonight while I was working out she confronted me again about avoiding her. I had a bad day and told her to leave me alone. She asked why I'm being such a prick, and I said because I wanted her to leave me alone. I then said that she was embarrassing herself and needs to stop. She put her foot on top of the weights, and I thought she was going to press down on them, so I let go of the bar very quickly, causing the weights to slam and make a loud noise. Several people looked over. She said "now who's embarrassing himself?" and walked away. Did I go to far by saying that? Do I owe her an apology? Update: I went in early this morning for a run and told the front desk staff about Andrea putting her foot on the weights. They said they would talk to her. Then, after work, I went in again for a regular workout. I was working on my legs when she walked up to my machine. The first thing she did was apologize about the weights. I don't know if someone talked to her or if that was of her own initiative. I accepted her apology and apologized for saying she was embarrassing herself. She said she forgave me, but if I wanted to really make it up to her I could buy her a drink and she would buy me one too to make up for the weights. I said maybe we should buy our own drinks (meaning separately at different places and times) and she misunderstood me and asked when and where. I told her I meant that I didn't want to go out with her. She said this wouldn't be a date but a reset for our friendship. I said I didn't want to be friends. She said I was being a douche and asked what my problem is. I said the weight incident made me uncomfortable, and I would rather us just give each other space. She then asked me if my problem with her is that she's Hispanic. I was so taken aback. I didn't even know she was until she said that. I said no, that she just makes me uncomfortable. She wanted me to explain what about her made me uncomfortable, and I tried to do so, but she argued with every point I made. I got frustrated and told her to just stay away from me. She said fine and that I have a lot of maturing to do. Then she walked away. I'm hoping that's the end of it. Relevant Comments OOP on why he doesn't want to get in a relationship OOP: She's just not my type. Even if she was, I don't want to get into a relationship right now. My last relationship lasted three years, and I need to remember how to be single before I hop right back into another relationship. Commenter 1: "Something might be wrong" what do you mean? OOP: I don't know how to explain it. I almost felt like she was having a completely different conversation with me than I was having with her. She seemed inappropriately enthusiastic. That's the best way I can think to say it. Downvoted Commenter: Dude, she just moved into the area, probably lonely and doesn't know anyone I'm guessing, did she ask you out on like a friend hang out type deal or was it a proper date? OOP: It was a date. She asked me if I wanted to get a drink with her sometime, and when I declined she said I don't need to worry about things being awkward at the gym if we "don't work out" romantically, and I had to decline a second time. Commenter 2: Good for you on taking a breather. NTA by the way. She either has severe mental health issues or hasn't been socialized properly. No "normal" person would ever put you in that position. I make every excuse I can when I'm not interested in someone, but when someone can't take a hint you do eventually have to disregard their feelings. I mean, think about it. She disregarded yours. OOP: That is a good way to think about it. I hadn't considered that part. Thank you. Commenter 3: I wouldn't go to the police RN because you've only just told her to leave you alone. But if gym management doesn't stop it then yeah I would go to the police. Harassment is harassment. If you were a girl and she was a guy who worked in security who also put their foot on your equipment people would be really concerned- rightly so. OOP: That's kind of a different situation. I have at least sixty pounds on her. It's not like she can follow me to my car and beat me up one night. What she did was dangerous and creepy, but what could she really do that's worse? Maybe drop a weight on my toe, but I can't think of anything else. It's not like she knows where I live.   Update: June 8, 2025 (six days later) Summary of previous post (skip this paragraph if you read that post): A woman at my gym, Andrea (fake name) asked me out after some normal not at all romantic interactions. I turned her down and shortly after I stated getting a weird vibe from her and started avoiding her. She confronted me about avoiding her twice, and the second time I said she was embarrassing herself, after which she put her foot on the weight stack of the machine I was using, causing me to let go of the bar really quickly and slam the weights. I initially thought I was the asshole for my rude comment, and most posters said I actually under reacted and should talk to gym management, which I did, after which Andrea confronted me again and asked me out again. I turned her down, we argued briefly and she said I needed to grow up. Actual Update: Andrea is banned from the gym! I was running on the treadmill and watching TV. She came up to talk to me, and I ignored her, staring at the TV. She raised her voice and I continued to ignore her. She reached out and pulled the safety tab out of the treadmill (the one you connect to your wrist so the treadmill stops if you fall), causing the treadmill to come to a sudden stop. I tripped and fell onto the controls and TV, scratching my chin on the top of the screen. I went to the front desk with Andrea following me. I told them what she did. She kept trying to interrupt me and talk over me, but the woman at the front desk told her to be quiet and wait her turn. I told her Andrea pulled out the safety tab while I was running and injured me. The woman at the front desk then asked Andrea what happened. Andrea said I was "staring into the middle distance" like I was in some kind of "fuage state" and she thought I was having a medical episode so she pulled the tab. The woman at the front desk asked for her membership card. Andrea didn't want to give it to her, but the woman at the front desk said if she didn't she would ban her. Andrea gave her the card and the woman at the front desk said to leave and she was suspended for a month. Andrea objected and got into an argument with the woman at the front desk that escalated into Andrea calling the woman an N word B word. So she was banned permanently. I hesitate to call that a happy ending because the poor gym employee had to put up with racial harassment, but I won't deny getting to watch her cut up Andrea's membership card felt good. Relevant Comments Commenter 1: Still NTA. Andrea proved herself to be crazy, with a side of racist. OOP: And the irony is that SHE accused ME of being racist for not wanting to date her. Commenter 2: I’m guessing she doesn’t get told No very often. I’m glad it had a safe ending OOP: Thank you. I am too. Now that it's all over I'm starting to process it. The whole thing was so crazy. My heart rate is up higher than it ever gets when I run, which is nuts. Commenter 3: Hmm. If you see her again and she acts creepy it’s worthy of reporting to police. Just pay attention to your surroundings in case she stalks you OOP: She's banned from the gym, so I doubt I'll see her again. She doesn't know where I work or live. OOP on his race and Andrea's race OOP: She said she's Hispanic. I'm not going to tell you what race I am. Downvoted Commenter: Seriously, this is honestly your response. If so, you aren’t actually into women. You may not know it yet, but you aren’t. It’s a completely normal question for a person to ask is this crazed psycho who is trying to date you is Hot or not. Every straight male is thinking the exact same thing. OOP: I date women. I recently left a three year relationship with a woman, and she could tell you that I definitely like women. I just don't think women are defined solely by their appearance. I'll give you an example. I have this friend I grew up with. She is objectively very beautiful. Many men (and women) have told her so. While I can see that she is beautiful, the first thing I think when I see her is "that's my friend that I love dearly" not "that's an attractive woman that's probably good at sex." I have never been attracted to her because we treat each other like siblings. Conversely, in this situation, even if Andrea was my type (which she isn't) and I was looking to get into another relationship (which I'm not right now) it still wouldn't matter because her behavior towards me was so off-putting. She could look like Allyson Hannigan (an actress I think is particularly attractive) and it wouldn't matter because I don't date women that put people in physical danger when they're upset. Commenter 4: INFO: Are you okay from the injury? NTA, but just be careful. I’ve had jarring injuries while running from having to unexpectedly stop on a dime, and, while it felt okay at the time, it caused a stability-related injury next workout. OOP: I'm okay. It's just a scratch.   Update: Andrea the gym nut: June 12, 2025 (four days later) Sorry for the incomprehensible post. I posted this last night when I was drunk. I'll rewrite it to explain what happened. Last night I went to a bar near my apartment to meet up with some friends. The three of us were drinking and having a good time when Andrea walked up. I never saw her enter the bar. I only noticed her when she was in front of us. She greeted me and said it was good to see me and leaned in to try to kiss me. I pushed her away from me and she fell, but one of my friends caught her. She started yelling and asking what the fuck is wrong with me. I told her to stay away from me and not come any closer. She asked if I was embarrassed of her and didn't want my friends to see her. I said this is the third time you've tried to assault me and I want you to stay away from me. At that point the bouncer showed up to ask what was going on. Andrea said I pushed her. I tried to explain that she tried to kiss me and is stalking me, but I was drunk and not doing a great job. My friends also tried to explain that I was innocent, but they were also drunk. Security kicked me out of the bar. My friends walked me home. I am definitely going to try to get a restraining order. This has gone way too far. Top Comments Commenter 1: she is literally stalking you and it's going to just get worse. if she tries to follow you again PLEASE call the police. ask your gym for video footage of andrea purposely sabotaging your workouts, purposely trying to injure you and following you around. this situation is insane and escalating from following you around the gym to full on intruding into your personal life. does she have any of your social media? if so, definitely block her, as clearly she's starting to learn your patterns and outside hobbies. be safe!! Commenter 2: Might be a stretch but you should inform your workplace that you have a woman harassing you in retaliation for being rejected and banned from the gym after she escalated to violent and dangerous behaviour. If she found you in a bar (assuming it wasn’t a coincidence) then she can find out where you work and try to sabotage your job and reputation. And go to the police. Commenter 3: Now that it’s gone beyond the gym, you need to start the process of getting a restraining order. She’s unhinged as fuck, you need to get the law on your side. Go back to the bar on a different night and ask for the manager. Explain the situation and the context - make sure to mention that you’re in the process of taking out a restraining order against her for stalking and harassment. Try and clear your name, you were with friends and a woman walked in and immediately created a scene - but YOU were kicked out?? Nah I’d be fighting that, that’s some bullshit.   Latest Update here: BoRU #2   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I go to the gym a lot. About sixish months ago I noticed a woman I'll call Andrea. That's not her name, but it will be for the rest of this post. I don't know if Andrea started going to the gym six months ago or if that's just when I noticed her. Full disclosure, I spoke to her first, but I had no way of knowing what the result would be. A lot of the machines at this gym have little entertainment systems attached to them that can access local channels. I got on a treadmill and realized the TV on the treadmill wasn't working. Andrea was walking past and I said "hey, do you know if there's an issue with the cable? This TV isn't working, but I don't know if it's just this one or all of them." She said the same thing happened to her on a different machine. I thanked her. That was the whole interaction. A week later she asked me for some electrolyte powder for her water. I said I didn't have any. She was cool with that and asked me how long I'd been coming to the gym and what I did for work. I answered and returned her questions. She said she was new to the area and worked in private security. We had a few more chill conversations after that. Six weeks ago she asked me out. For reasons I won't get into here, I wasn't interested. I declined. She said not to worry about things being awkward at the gym if we don't work out. I said that wasn't the issue, just not looking to date right now. She kept talking to me, and at first I kept talking to her, but I started to think something might be wrong, and I started avoiding her. Two weeks ago she walked up to me while I was on a machine with only one way to properly dismount that involved stepping into whete she was standing. She asked if I was avoiding her. I said I was and apologized. I said I just don't want to date right now. She said I don't have to avoid her to not date her. I said okay. I kept avoiding her though. Tonight while I was working out she confronted me again about avoiding her. I had a bad day and told her to leave me alone. She asked why I'm being such a prick, and I said because I wanted her to leave me alone. I then said that she was embarrassing herself and needs to stop. She put her foot on top of the weights, and I thought she was going to press down on them, so I let go of the bar very quickly, causing the weights to slam and make a loud noise. Several people looked over. She said "now who's embarrassing himself?" and walked away. Did I go to far by saying that? Do I owe her an apology? Update: I went in early this morning for a run and told the front desk staff about Andrea putting her foot on the weights. They said they would talk to her. Then, after work, I went in again for a regular workout. I was working on my legs when she walked up to my machine. The first thing she did was apologize about the weights. I don't know if someone talked to her or if that was of her own initiative. I accepted her apology and apologized for saying she was embarrassing herself. She said she forgave me, but if I wanted to really make it up to her I could buy her a drink and she would buy me one too to make up for the weights. I said maybe we should buy our own drinks (meaning separately at different places and times) and she misunderstood me and asked when and where. I told her I meant that I didn't want to go out with her. She said this wouldn't be a date but a reset for our friendship. I said I didn't want to be friends. She said I was being a douche and asked what my problem is. I said the weight incident made me uncomfortable, and I would rather us just give each other space. She then asked me if my problem with her is that she's Hispanic. I was so taken aback. I didn't even know she was until she said that. I said no, that she just makes me uncomfortable. She wanted me to explain what about her made me uncomfortable, and I tried to do so, but she argued with every point I made. I got frustrated and told her to just stay away from me. She said fine and that I have a lot of maturing to do. Then she walked away. I'm hoping that's the end of it. submitted by /u/TrainingDistance4448 to r/AITAH [link] [comments]

I'm 35M and I have been going to the gym for 15 years, so I take weight training quite seriously. I've always considered the gym as a semi social place. You go there to workout, but it's good manners to be friendly with other users, maybe say hello to the regulars and ask them about their day but just something very casual, like a 5 second interaction. So when people say "don't approach women st the gym" I never understood it, since the gym is a bit of a social place, I always thought that talking to girls at the gym is no big deal. However, I've never approached or dated a woman from my gym. Today I learnt why people on reddit say "don't approach girls at the gym". I was going to start my workout by doing leg press and there was 25-30 years old woman doing leg extensions close to me. Then a bald man in his 50s asked her if they could take turns using the machine, the woman said of course. I knew this bald guy because he is kind of a semi regular and usually he is very dry with people and does not talk to anyone, he is like serious and aggressive. Then the bald man started flirting with the girl, he tried to teach her how to do the exercise (when she clesrly knew what she was doing), he told her about himself and complimented her and at last he asked for her instagram. I was close to them all the time and it was CRINGE. A 50 years old bald guy flirting with a 25 years old woman. The woman was nice to him but I think she was intimidated maybe. Later on the same woman was approached by other older guy that kinda flirted a bit with her but he was much more discrete. To be honest, now I understand when women say they dont want to be approached lol. However at the same time it's a shame because due to a few douchebags, regular guys that are cool (like me) cannot talk to women in a friendly way at the gym cause they are defensive (its a logical outcome),. Just wanted to share it with other redditors! submitted by /u/LegendZane to r/dating_advice [link] [comments]

Hey guys. This post is to everyone who ever struggled/struggle with weight-loss and to all the people who have been supporting me so far and probably wondered what happened to me, why I stopped posting in the past months. I used to be a skinny-normal weight girl as a teen. I came from a very toxic environment, with an abusive and narcissistic father who used to mentally&emotionally abuse me all the time. Even when I was skinny, I’d get called fat-cow-ugly by him, non-stop. I didn’t realize back then the impact those things would have on me later. At 21 I finally moved out from that place and I spent 1 year working as a freelancer and drawing non-stop, until I got my first and actual job as an illustrator at a publishing house. That year was decisive for me and my future - first, I improved art so much by drawing non-stop, every day and this got me my dream job later. Second, I destroyed my body, health and even the little social-skill I had until that moment. I never, and when I say it, believe me..never went out. I wouldn’t see the light of the day for weeks or even months. I never talked to anyone, besides my family and my best friend. I refused to go out with all my artists friends that I had back then, until I pushed them away and they stopped texting me. Even tho I was drawing so much, this was not enough to keep the bad thoughts and control the emotions. I found peace and safety in food, and food became my coping mechanism. I’d eat when I was sad, happy or bored. I’d eat my life and pain away so I can keep the thoughts off. When I wasn’t eating, my mind was lost in dark thoughts that I could barely manage it, until a point when I wanted to stop everything and tried to end my life. A year later I got my dream job, and for a moment I had hope: I can lose weight and get back to ‘normal’ because now I have a routine, a schedule (9-6) and it’s gonna be easier to stop eating. But I was wrong. Getting a 9-6 job only made me starve myself all day long until I’d get back home and start eating a lot. Last year in August I was eventually forced by my mom to do some blood tests and more investigations and I found out my heath was equally to a 60yo person’s health. This + the fact that I could never wear anything besides black jeans, black tshirts, I never went out, I had no friends, I had huge social anxiety, I could never talk to anyone without shaking or even crying, the fact that I could never do the ‘normal’ things people do -like crossing my legs when sitting or finding clothes in local shops- was the decisive moment for me. So in a random day of Tuesday I decided to stop everything and after a long research, I managed to make myself a diet and a workout plan and stick to it. I’d get my protein in, water and my daily 10k steps. During weekends I’d do 20k+ steps a day. I became obsessed, more obsessed than I ever was with art. I found peace in going to gym, doing pilates or working out alone at home. I found peace in meal prep and walking like crazy, no matter the weather, haha. After these months, I can finally say that every pain, all the trauma, all the crying nights and everything was worth for me to get to this point… because if I never had to get to experience those 3 dark years, I’d have probably still eat like s*it, I’d still be lazy, even as a normal-weight person. I took my health for granted for many years and I regret it. I regret all the damage I have done to my body, but now I can only hope to continue with this healthy-lifestyle and maybe with a little luck, also, I’ll live a healthy life for more years. This post is dedicated to everyone who struggle with weight loss. You are not alone! I know it’s cliche, but if I could..you can to. Find that motivation, that drive and fix on it. Go crazy, become obsessed. The beginning is very hard, but eventually it will become a routine and you won’t even feel it. And trust me….it’s all worth. submitted by /u/marycomiics to r/BeAmazed [link] [comments]

Hey, I’m new here and have been lurking last couple weeks. I just turned 48 in September and have been going to my local Planet Fitness for the last 3 years now and joined on my birthday in in ‘21. I went from over 500lbs down to 376 then got sick right before my 48th birthday and 3 year gym anniversary and now been diagnosed as a Type II Diabetic. Dropped down to 327 before being admitted to the hospital and was back up to 350 by the time I was released, but have gone back up to 400 since then, likely due to the medication. Still working to get more fat off and had my second leg day and 4th arms and shoulders only last night since getting back in the gym on the 1st of October. I have pics from 4 years ago in October of 2020 as well as pics of me last night as I came in from work and next to the leg press machine after my 3rd and final set at 822lbs, plus what I had done for my workout last night. submitted by /u/BJoe1976 to r/GYM [link] [comments]

So I am a big guy. I workout daily. I go to three gyms regularly. I wear and have worn what we lovingly call ranger panties. They are short shorts. Think magnum pi. I usually get attention for this, but it’s usually just old men that roll their eyes. Occasionally women stare. Nothing out of control. I’ve been doing it for years. Well recently a woman joined my gym that seems obsessed with my legs. She will walk over everytime she sees me. Well her husband came with her the other day. He proceeded to have a mental breakdown over his wife talking to me. He came over and asked if I thought my shorts were appropriate. I responded by asking him not to objectfy me for being beutiful. Which made him very mad. Staff got involved and asked me to cover up for a little while. I said sure. So the next day I came in smaller shorts but with a long sleeve shirt. He was with her and lost his mind. When staff came again to talk to me. I said I had been working out like this here for years. I’ve also seen women wear a hell of a lot less. So I would not be changing anytime soon. Which they just shrugged at. So Reddit Aita? Update if you want to see my legs, they are now my profile pic. I keep getting questions about where to get my shorts and I like https://www.valhallawear.net/shorts/ submitted by /u/bothonpele to r/AmItheAsshole [link] [comments]

I started going to the gym about a week ago. The main trainer over there told me to make a plan focusing on a body part every day and so I did. On my first leg day, the main trainer wasn't there and there was another trainer. I asked him to check my form and he told me that it's too early to start leg workouts and it will pain like hell. Also that I won't be able to walk back home because of the pain. That scared me enough that I didn't go through with it and did some mixed upper workouts and some squats. After a brief break because of a fever, I'll be going back the day after tomorrow. Leg day is the first in my plan. Should I go through with it or is it too soon to start lower body workouts? submitted by /u/CoolJoey99 to r/Fitness [link] [comments]

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