Outfit Ideas Men

... so busy dealing with Satan's men going over their finances, phone... the figure in a frumpy outfit; a bright and colourful sweater... you haven't the foggiest of ideas on how to actually reach... was true! Fuck, Lucifer's slumpy outfit was just another way of ...

... view. The rest of her outfit clung to her stick-thin figure.... They turned an otherwise hilarious outfit into the most ominous thing..., the cheap kind that working men could crash at for a... into knees and ankles, toppling men like dry timber. If any... was one of my better ideas. Not that I could have...

... mind were simply telling the men in front of her about... careless child to drive whatever ideas they might have of her... by the quality of his outfit than anything else, even the... coming with me and my men, joining the Ravensdlekh, the party ... not been mistaken about the men because what did he mean ...

... Lavere. Yet the Faceless Men had known the man beneath...lived—save for the Faceless Men, who had just proven ...was not the only printing outfit in town. The Braavosi had...it. There were so many ideas to copy from Elsewhere. Pamphlets...feet high and closed. "All men must die," Tavian intoned. .... He reckoned the Faceless Men were the paramilitary arm of... judgment. You, my good men, became a threat to me...

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... place. There's a collection of men in matching yellow hats and ... here. Don't get any bright ideas about running out either." He... size of either of the men. The woman holding the door ... red upper portion of his outfit. A contrasting yellow and black ... stick with me I've got ideas. Thanks beyond thanks to the ...

... on herself. I have some ideas on how to help her... was how local girls pursued men. I needed to be more... saleswomen had recommended. In that outfit, I wouldn't even be able ...

... wore. Nilou wore her dancer outfit: a headdress with gold and... to her skills and creative ideas she has made the most... a group of twelve masked men emerging from hiding places along... two from behind with two men dressed in yellow and white...

...in my life. Is his outfit reminding me of something? ... attention, though. Got any ideas for that?" Biggs looks meaningfully...by the surrealness of three men standing in the ruins .... It's three very broken men who stumble out of the... were basically just half-baked ideas to get food after ...even a few people, mostly men, hovering around the bar ...glares from some of the men standing around. Sorry boys, too...

... in a black and white outfit with orange stripes who reeked... me in uncomfortable clothes." "The outfit did look quite dashing on ...?! You invaded my home, your men butchered my family and friends, .... But I gave up such ideas long ago. I couldn't muster...

... hair and a rather sophisticated outfit, at least compared to the... put down more than three men from the 203rd. Compared to.... I've already got so many ideas..." Ah, a creative type, Tanya...

... taking bets that are bad ideas is the whole reason you... you if it’s different for men, but women have about a... to give our monarch this outfit, which is so obviously royal ...

... oppai just as much as men, so they aren't just men's... happily married? They might get ideas!" And now Issei was fired... her face. Even the priestess-based outfit she wore was similar, if...

... was wearing her normal jogging outfit, the comfortable one she used... want me to send you ideas?" Her mind was already racing... that particular brand of unhelpfulness men seemed to perfect. The corner... she babbled on with more ideas—something about incorporating colour-changing charms...

... I helped found the bloody outfit." Zaeed continued quietly. "Me and... Blue Suns were a mixed outfit of largely humans, turians, and.... Eclipse was a more sophisticated outfit composed largely of asari and... swatted. Sent a few more men, they died too. Pretty soon... now. Have you got any ideas?" "If I had a turian...

... did Cara have any real ideas what she could do for... for one of the shadiest men in the world. There was... also give herself a new outfit or as implied a new... hard when the only real men she spent time with were... Emo were not exactly prototypical men, now that she thought about...

My college graduation ceremony is coming up soon and I still don’t know what to wear 😭 My school doesn’t have an official dress code, but typically girls wear white dresses and guys wear a white button up w/ a tie and slacks. I don’t feel comfortable wearing a dress, and I want to wear something more exciting and heat-friendly than the button up and slacks. I was thinking about wearing some sort of short-sleeved blouse/formal top with pants or maybe a long skirt, but I also want to branch out of my usual formal attire and try something new and fun :) I’m here in search of suggestions that might work. I’m interested in any outfits that are more gender non-confirming: not too fem but not as boring as what men usually wear. submitted by /u/MysteriousEvent3694 to r/QueerWomenOfColor [link] [comments]

I made an app called VibeFitAI. The idea is simple: instead of just giving random outfit suggestions, it helps you understand what your style is actually saying. A lot of guys don’t necessarily dress badly — their outfits just send the wrong signal. Too safe, too random, too basic, or not aligned with their personality. VibeFitAI starts with a short style test and then helps you discover the type of outfits that fit your character, lifestyle, and vibe. For example, someone might look better in a clean/minimal style, while someone else fits a more bold, classic, relaxed, or mysterious look. The goal is not to copy outfits from Pinterest, but to build a style direction that actually feels like you. I’m still improving it and would love feedback from people who care about men’s style. Would you use something like this to find your style direction? submitted by /u/bodybuildercan to r/RelentlessMen [link] [comments]

First, a quick tl;dr All content for games from Snowbreak's area must be screened with regulators ahead of time. Snowbreak showed regulators one thing, then gave players a DIY file mod so that they saw another. Snowbreak devs revealed that they knew the decensor existed and asked streamers to use it. Regulators butchered the game because it was circumventing the system. --- I'm sure you've all heard the news. Depending on how you feel about it, I'm either happy for you or sorry it happened. Just like when Snowbreak first shut down, some people are claiming that similar incidents will soon befall other games. I am here to assure you that is not going to happen. Snowbreak's demise is because the developers chose to play a very dangerous game. No one else is foolish enough to risk it. 1. Content Regulation in China Whenever a gacha game creates a patch, they must first submit the content for review. This isn't always an exhaustive review, but the sampled materials must be representative. The exact rules on what passes are intentionally vague with the idea being that if you draw a line, everyone will run up to it right away. If the line is blurry, games will self-regulate while worrying about crossing the line. Review is also context dependent. Characters in swimsuits can show more skin; male nipples are fine while female nipples are not. A bit of risque material is less likely to be flagged than if everything is risque. Once the material is approved, it cannot be changed without another review. If you release material that differs from what you submitted for review, you instantly lose your game license and your game is pulled from all distribution. To get it back again, you must pass review with the same people that took it away. And they hate you now. You do not, under any circumstances, modify content after the review unless you're a complete idiot. Snowbreak did not suffer this fate. While they did shut their servers down, government records show that their game license was never pulled. This was due to a rather slick plan on their part. 2. Snowbreak's Devs Slick Plan After several censorship incidents where their content passed review but was later censored after a closer look (which suggests they did not provide representative samples AND/OR the regulators were pissed), Snowbreak's devs began sending censored outfits for review. They weren't so foolish as to then ship uncensored outfits directly. Instead, they took a page from old-school gachas and 'discreetly' spread a method to easily uncensor the game among their playerbase. An official Snowbreak employee giving the decensor to a content creator after a censorship wave This is why Snowbreak's censored outfits are incredibly half-assed. The devs did not care to make them palatable because they did not expect anyone to actually see them except for the regulators. This wasn't a good bet, but more on that later. The end result is that they were technically compliant with the law and, since players had to technically modify the game to see the uncensored outfits, they had a thin legal defense if the decensor were ever exposed. 3. The Decensor is Obviously Exposed Since the censored outfits are extremely ugly, Snowbreak employees routinely told sponsored streamers how to decensor the game and even instructed them on how to do it. Example from Stix The game's producer and the marketing director (two people) also routinely posted decensored content on their social media. The game's trailers usually slipped in a few seconds where players could pause to get an uncensored screenshot as well. This was a very open secret. The trick was blasted all over the place by design because the devs knew that no one was interested in playing the game in a censored state--or at least not enough people to keep it afloat. However, because the regulators do not actually play games, they did not notice. Or perhaps Seasun's parent company, Kingsoft, was able to get them some leniency. While the direct studio (LHM) that made the game is small, it is part of Seasun which brags about being the oldest video game company in China and publishes JX3 online--a 20 year old MMO with strong Chinese cultural influence that is still going strong and makes up most of their revenue. Kingsoft is chaired by Lei Jun, one of the richest men in China and one with a sterling reputation as an all-around do-gooder. As long as Snowbreak remained a niche game and didn't cause a national controversy, it was likely better to overlook a little overeager gooning than to smear the reputation of Lei Jun, Kingsoft, or Seasun. 4. Snowbreak Causes a National Controversy The developers and a vocal minority of fans of the game have been obnoxious from the start. Suffice to say that they have made enemies all over the gacha space in China and without. Not all attacks against them are warranted, but what matters is that there are legitimately legions of folks who would love to see them humbled. This is in no small part because they brag about their gooner content and accuse other companies of just being cowards and refusing to give players what they want. The devs declared their work an 18+ game (they didn't get a designation from the government; they just self-declared) and advertised that it was 18+. The players laughed at all the major players for not daring to show as much ass as Seasun. The marketing director posts cringe after a censorship hit Both the developers and the players were, to be nice, insufferable in this regard. They demanded that Snowbreak be seen as THE gooner game. The only game willing to give men what they really wanted--balloon boobs as far as the eye could see. Then they collaborated with the National Post Office. If you have two brain cells to rub together, consider donating one to these developers because they somehow did not see what the inevitable outcome of this would be. Now, other spicy games have collaborated with the National Post Office without incident. This is because they made the collab content completely sterile. From the Love and Producer collab, often mistaken as Love and Deepspace by Snowbros Snowbreak went a different route. They had the good sense to censor their censored outfits even more so that nothing explicit was showing, but these were still bridal-esque outfits with characters in sensual poses. At the very least, it could be seen as a promotion of polygamy (the game's MC had just married his 8th wife). Snowbreak's Collab Offerings The material itself would not have been an issue alone, but combined with the game's fiercely defended reputation as an 18+ adult game for horny men and the army of people eager to strike back at it that vastly outnumbered the players and the fact that it was a collaboration with a government entity, it blew up on social media. This resulted in a news channel showing footage of a random streamer playing the game...with the decensor enabled. The Blurring Makes it Worse TBH Now, even if the shown footage matched what was sent for review, the game still would have received a knock on the head from the Iron Fist of censorship. If the regulators approve something and then the public gets upset about it, the regulators do not take your side. They censor you even harder for embarrassing them. However, since the footage did not match what was sent for review, an inquiry began immediately. Soon, a visual novel style blowjob scene in the main story of that patch suspiciously stopped working. A day later, the game announced indeterminate maintenance and went radio silent. The developers social media accounts and the official Bilibili channel, which all contained decensored content sprinkled in, went private and never returned (except for some pre-launch videos on Bilibili). If only the devs could have known... 5.) The Devs Should Have Known Before releasing Snowbreak, Seasun made a couple of games in the Girl Cafe Gun series. They ripped those characters off for Snowbreak to a hilarious degree though they, thankfully, boosted most of them above the age of consent this time. Like Snowbreak, GCG was forced to shut down for rectification and included a decensor method when it reopened. However, it never really caught on and the game was eventually abandoned with most of the staff being moved to work on Snowbreak instead. The game stopped receiving updates and eventually EoS'd around the month where Snowbreak was initially supposed to launch based on files datamined in the first client--November 2023. Found in Client on Actual Launch of 7/20 Seasun actually has a long history of games where they promise to release the spiciest content and skirt the regulators in some fashion. Players are drawn in by the honeypot and when Seasun inevitably gets caught and is forced to censor the game, they simply move on to the next project. Snowbreak is by far their most ambitious game and one where there was some initial push to do something more sustainable, but they quickly reset to their default shenanigans. This is why, I suspect, the regulators took them back behind the barn and made them shoot their own game in the knees repeatedly. It wasn't about protecting the children or societal contagion--it was about punishing a company that can't seem to stop pulling this same trick. Not only did they have to censor nearly everything in the game, they had to censor things that were already censored and even things they were forced to censor already in the past. After this, they were forced to disable their decensor mechanism. Players who spent absurd amounts of money to support the one developer they thought had their best interest in mind suddenly had to play the version of the game that actually passed review. Since Seasun spent the years after their gooner turn dialing up the goon without much in the way of core gameplay improvements, this wasn't a particularly attractive idea. Once again, Seasun got players money and then cried that they couldn't possibly do anything about the government forcing them to take away the goods they promised to deliver. It's working a little better than usual. While most people have walked away, many are buying the narrative that Seasun really loves them and is doing the best they can. Nevermind that they couldn't be bothered to even add texture to the censored outfits despite over two months of downtime. Only the costume that is currently on sale got a censored version that isn't just untextured plastic. 6. What Does This Mean for Other Games In a word: Nothing. Snowbreak was hit with extreme censorship due to a series of foolish decisions by the developer. They were uniquely vulnerable due to their decensor regulation circumvention and only got slammed because the decensor was discovered by regulators. Basically no other modern gacha is using a decensor for precisely this reason--it's impossible to keep one under wraps in the social media age and especially when people constantly stream your game. It's just a matter of time until the blowback comes and it will always be more trouble than it's worth as the regulators can force you to censor more than other games if they hate you. And they will hate you. Some players have pointed out the practice of mass reporting games. However, games are only vulnerable to that if they do something dumb like circumvent regulation. Otherwise, all of the content in the game has been seen by and approved by the very people you're reporting the game to. They're going to ignore the report unless it somehow becomes too embarrassing not to. Other gacha games with competent PR teams and that didn't build their brand on controversy and picking fights know how to avoid these sorts of situations for precisely this reason. 7. What Does This Mean for Snowbreak Contrary to fan's hopes, they're probably not going to release another decensor trick. They are being watched like a hawk and that's never, ever going to stop being the case. The regulators they embarrassed are likely itching to kick them in the balls again ASAP and may have only approved the current version to show everyone that they made an example of these guys. At the same time, they're unlikely to ignore the current PAK mod to decensor the game. Doing so could be used as evidence that they are, once again, circumventing regulation. Also, that PAK mod works because they have always created models with a switch to change between the version they show regulators and the version they show players. If they keep doing that, the Iron Fist will return to knock out all their teeth. Players will have to just mod in entire models like with the costumes made before the switch that are not decensored with the base PAK mod. As we see with the new character, they did finally hire someone who can make costumes that can pass regulation and don't look like complete trash, but it's too little, too late. They essentially have to give up making money on all content except that one skin if they just try to tough it out. However, this is the most likely outcome because it is the only one that doesn't involve another trip behind the barn. The most recent patch launched with no PV, no character preview and not even character cards on the rerun banner notices. The devs knew what was coming and chose not to say anything to players. Since the patch went live, there has been no official communication. They aren't even talking to their Discord mods despite all the trouble they went through to install CN users to police the Global Discord some time ago. The usually chatty Producer and Marketing Director both remain silent with all posts hidden. The devs know the gig is up and they know that at the end of the day, they still have all the money while the players can only cope until the inevitable EoS. submitted by /u/ShirtlessCommie to r/gachagaming [link] [comments]

I wanted to originally do an outfit like this but I’m too bulky for it and built like a square I’m not small by any means I go to the gym and what not but I don’t got the lean build to pull the desired look off. Can I get recommendations on what styles or brands would be good for a square bulky goth guy? Please and thank you submitted by /u/InvestmentMission440 to r/GothFashion [link] [comments]

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/throwra_bumprint Originally posted to r/WhatShouldIDo My (35f) friend slapped my bum on a night out leaving a handprint. My husband (30m) doesn’t believe it was her. How to convince him? Thanks to u/soayherder for suggesting this BoRU Triggers Warnings: body injuries, emotional abuse, destruction of property Original Post: March 9, 2026 Went out for a friends birthday on Friday night and had a few drinks. Early on in the night I tripped over (before I’d even had a drink) and I ended up on all fours and one of my friends ran and slapped my bum. We all laughed and the night carried on and I thought nothing more of it. When I got home around 1am my husband was still awake in bed. I undressed to get in to bed and that’s when he noticed I had a hand mark on my bum. He instantly jumped out of bed and started demanding to know what it was and who did it. I stuttered a bit because I couldn’t even remember then it dawned on me so I told him what happened, but he didn’t believe me. He asked for my phone and obviously found nothing too serious but just said I’d deleted everything to cover my tracks. I went to the bathroom to have a look in the mirror and there was a definite handprint on there. He followed me and we stood there arguing for over half an hour and every time I tried to leave as I was cold and naked he’d stop me and accuse me of trying to run away. He said this doesn’t sound like my friend at all, which is true as she’s a very timid quiet person. He also said the handprint is too big for a woman but my friend is tall, she’s around 6 foot and does have big hands. I even ended up ringing my friend to corroborate my story and she even offered to come round and prove the handprint is hers by putting her hand on the print. He said we’d made up the story between us all and used the tall friend as the culprit as she’d have the biggest handprint. I asked the group chat if any of them had a video, but they don’t. All weekend we’ve been having this discussion and he doesn’t believe me. The handprint has gone now but he can’t let it go and keeps constantly asking me. It’s 4:45am here and he woke me up at 4 to ask about it. How can I make him believe me? I don’t know what to do. TLDR: friend slapped my bum and left a handprint. Husband doesn’t believe me and thinks it’s a man. Some of Relevant Comments Downvoted Commenter: Sue her for sexual assault, and file a police report. Legitimize it. OOP: No chance Commenter 1: I know this isn't what you want to hear, but he either trusts you or he doesn't. You can't make him trust you. OOP: This is what I don’t get. I’ve never given him a reason not to. Commenter 1: Has he been cheated on before? I can see it striking a chord if that's the case. If not, it sounds like projection...or red pill shit on social media OOP: Not that I know of. I said to him yesterday he’s projecting. Commenter 2: Is this a new behaviour or has he always accused you of cheating? OOP: First time he’s ever accused me of Commenter 3: What you should do is ring the bar, explain the situation & ask for the CCTV footage. If they say yes, make a bet with him of something that’ll hurt. “If it’s my friend you x if it’s a man I y. Do you want to take the bet or do you believe me?” You need to find something he’ll regret that’ll make him think twice about pulling this kind of bullying shit again but give him the opportunity to stop on his own. Then go look at the footage & hold him to it. Knock him back into his place. OOP: It was outside walking down the road. I tripped over a drain cover. Commenter 4: Sounds like your husband has some issues to begin with. You're allowed to go out and have fun with friends, it seems odd he just didn't believe you AND thinks all of your friends are in on it. Is there a history of cheating here? OOP: Yeah it’s starting to feel like projection to me. No nothing at all. I’ve never so much as looked at another man. Commenter 5: Ok so logically the facts, you couldn’t remember it happening even though you were sober , it would have to really hard to leave a full handprint , through clothing to have it still there fully 5/6/7 hours later . Slap your own bare thigh and it’s gone in an hour or so … He’s got every right to question it and the right to not believe you because it honestly sounds sketchy . Generally to have a full handprint , not bruised ( as you said it went away ) would have to be hard on bare skin . Is this post to make the story believable ? OOP: No because he won’t see this post. I was wearing a thin dress and a thong (an outfit he chose out for me I might add) and I was on my hands and knees so the skin was tight and I’m on blood thinners, so I do mark and bruise easily. All facts he knew. Commenter 6: Your timid friend just put you on the path to a divorce which I think is really ironic. I think it's also possible that your husband has been harboring resentment for late night girls nights out for a while, and this was the final straw. I do also think that his behavior and reaction is over the top and abusive. OOP: I go out 3 or 4 times a year. He goes out every weekend.   Update #1: March 15, 2026 (six days later) UPDATE My (35f) friend slapped my bum on a night out leaving a handprint. My husband (30m) doesn’t believe she did it. How do I convince him. To start with I’ll clear a few things up from my last post. My husband chose my outfit for me that night and it was a very thin dress with a thong underneath so there was very little protection of my derrière. I was also on all fours laughing so my bum was sticking up and then I heard footsteps running towards me and got absolutely thunder clapped on my arse. The sound echoed around the housing estate, and you know a slap is good when both the slapper and the slappee are in agony. All night that cheek was warmer than the other. I’m also on blood thinners which means I mark and bruise very easily. Second thing is my stammering when I told him. Might be TMI but I was doing a strip tease for him while he was in bed and as I let my dress drop I stuck my bum out so it was right near him and he screamed at the top of his voice “what the fuck is that!?” And then jumped out of bed and got in my face making me fall on to the bed and screamed “who the fuck did that!?” It took me a couple of seconds to realise what he meant. If he asked normally I’d have said “Emily slapped my arse”. Also I wasn’t drunk like so many people said. I had three glasses of wine over 6 hours. All the men who said a married woman shouldn’t be out without her husband, and there was at least five of you, are gross. My husband goes out every weekend but I do it three times a year and I’m “for the streets”. People asked about our sex life. We used to have sex or I’d give him oral nearly every day but the last few months it’s dried up to once a week. I have brought this up with him as I need it more. Also the not so serious thing he found on my phone, which a lot of men took to mean I’d been messaging someone else, was a porn video I’d favourited because I like it. Right on to the update. It’s been over a week, he still doesn’t believe me and I’ve told him I want to split up with him. Emily offered to come round on the night and he said no. I’ve told him to speak to all my friends and he’s said no. When I said look at the rip in my dress from where i fell and my bloody knees he said that’s from me giving head. How aggressively does he think I dropped to my knees? He’s looked through my phone and found nothing. When I asked to look through his he said “no I’m not the one on trial here”. He’s woke me up three times in the night to berate me. He’s burnt all my going out clothes. He’s threatened to post photos and videos of me to show the world what a slag I am. He’s also grabbed me twice and pushed me on to the sofa once which I will be informing my brother about later when I see him for Mother’s Day. So all in all a shit week and I’ve told him to get the fuck out of my house and I’ll be divorcing him. He’s not worked for six months and has no savings and the house was mine before I met him and he’s never paid towards the mortgage or any repair or upkeep work so he’s getting fuck all. Relevant Comments Commenter 1: Can't work without trust. And he actively does NOT want to trust you. So... Bub-byyy! PS, I hope everything from here on out works out for you. OOP: That’s pretty much what ive said. I’ve never been treated as untrustworthy in any aspect of my life and I don’t like it Commenter 2: Girl get security cameras and for sure talk to your brother. If anyone shoved or laid hands on my family I wouldn’t even care about the jail time id face. OOP: I’ve already got them around my house and got dog watching cameras inside. Downvoted Commenter: I will never understand why women waste their time and life with men like this. He can't even afford to get upset. Make better choices OOP: He’s never acted like this before. This is the first time. Am I supposed to see in to the future? Commenter 3: He chose your outfit, he sent you out in the most provocative outfit he could. He's not been having sex with you as much as you'd like lately, and he jumps straight to you cheating. I reckon he's been cheating on you and wanted to set you up so he could claim you cheated on him. Then he can leave the relationship to be with his mistress. OOP: I think you’re right. Commenter 4: He's accusing you because he has something to hide for sure. He's messaging girls, watches OF, something. He's definitely thought about cheating. Good for you taking out the trash. OOP: I genuinely don’t care if he’s watching porn or subscribing to OF but there’s something going off if he won’t let me see his phone. Commenter 5: He refuses to accept the truth because it damages his ego. He is doubling down and refuses to be proven wrong. OOP: I said that’s why he won’t talk to my friends because he’s too proud to be wrong. Commenter 6: Sounds like he’s been cheating. Also weird that he hasn’t worked or put anything towards the house… no savings? Good riddance, the trash took itself out. What a bum. OOP: He was at uni when we met and since has floated around jobs and that’s it Commenter 7: good for you. You have to divorce him. How long were you married for? How did he take it? Imagine him having to explain why he's getting divorced--he threw a fit about the dumbest thing ever. OOP: Been together ten years married for four. He didn’t seem to care. Commenter 8: I bet your bottom dollar, he will walk away and (through divorce proceedings) you will end up having to pay him in lieu of equity for the house. OOP: I won’t pay him anything. It’s different here in England. The house predates him and any payments towards it have come from my bank account.   Update #2: April 1, 2026 (2.5 weeks later) UPDATE 2 my (35f) friend slapped my bum on a night out leaving a handprint. My husband (30f) doesn’t believe she did it. How to convince him? I’ve had a lot of messages from people asking for an update so here it is. It’s a pretty uneventful one as nothing has happened but I’ll try and clear things up. In my first update I mentioned kicking him out and he’s still out and I haven’t heard from him at all. My brother did go to see him and his brothers after Mother’s Day so maybe that’s why I haven’t heard from him. I did take some advice then and had new security cameras installed and lighting all around my house and changed every lock. I know it’s a bit paranoid but I’ve also screwed my letter box shut and got a postbox outside so he can’t pour anything nasty through there. I also change my company car every couple of days in case he’s put a tracker on it. I’m really overthinking it but just being sure. I also was a bit petty and posted a picture on my Instagram of me on all fours and Emily with her hand on my bum lol. I’m not sticking up for my ex here, but I do want to clear up the issue of him choosing my outfits. That’s always been my idea. I saw it on a film when I was younger and always thought it seemed sexy my partner choosing an outfit that they find me attractive in and it makes me excited to get home in it so he can see me in it again. I’ve also had a lot of messages from both men and women, sadly, insulting me for being out at that time and saying it’s embarrassing a woman of my age behaving in such a way. I’ve also had a few women message me and tell me that I’m a whore for doing a striptease for my husband and I’m degrading myself. No it’s not degrading to try and turn my husband on so he’ll bang me until the sun comes up. Women enjoy sex too. Anyway thank you everyone for caring it really means a lot ❤️. Relevant Comments Commenter 1: I hope you put in a police report about him pushing you around, destroying your clothes and threatening to post videos of you. You need it on record in case it escalates. OOP:It won’t escalate as I’m not with him anymore. Commenter 2: Has your man always been ok with you going out like that without him? I’m just curious OOP: Yeah never an issue before. In fact he’d encourage it. He goes out every weekend and it was never a problem on the odd occasion when I did. Commenter 3: What do you mean “your” house? You mean HIS house, that HE is payimg for? OOP: No MY house that I bought before I was with him and that he has never paid towards the mortgage or repairs on. How misogynistic that you assume because he’s the man he’s paying for it. He hasn’t worked for six months and when he did he earned minimum wage. Commenter 4: Take a vacation. Just leave for a while. Don't tell anyone who speaks to this man where you are going. Absolute silence will help cool the situation hopefully. Also install a camera outside that looks onto your front doors. This guy sounds like a real loser. Stay safe and don't let him a second of your time. If he has stuff at your place dump it at someone else's house and let that person say they have his stuff . Check your phone for tracking software to. Stay safe OOP: I’m already booked to go to Karakow next week anyway. OOP responds to multiple downvoted comments about Mother's Day isn't until May OOP: Not everywhere is America.   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I read this article this morning, about how looksmaxxing funnels young teenage boys down a misogynistic rabbit hole as it is related to incel culture. Highly recommend reading just for the internet slang alone! Personally, the article probably focuses more on exactly how looksmaxxing works rather than the misogynistic aspect. But, while reading I got kinda angry. Girls and women are socialised to "lookmaxx" from early teenagehood as well. I started shaving my legs when I was twelve. Twelve! And started wearing make up shortly after. Ensured I wore the most flattering outfits so my arms don't look fat at thirteen. Died my hair fashionable colours. Stopped eating for days so I could look like Paris Hilton or Nicole Richie. Singed the shit out of my curly hair because I always looked like the "before" photo with curly hair and glasses of those early 2000s movies. You get the idea. There is a multi-billion dollar industry that relies on the insecurity of women, why isn't that studied? And why is that socially acceptable? And why doesn't this turn into whole movements of misandry, like the looksmaxxing does? Of course I know the answer, which is entitlement of access to a female body. But it is giving the whole "male loneliness epidemic" when, in fact, it is men who do this to mostly impress other men. If they would actually listen to women, none of this would be a thing. Show me one woman who seriously takes part in these incel/looksmaxxing communities. Anyways, that's my rant. submitted by /u/Morticia_Black to r/TwoXChromosomes [link] [comments]

I am not OOP. The OOP for this post is u/throwraowlcheesecake. His posts were made to r/OpenChristian, a community that while smaller than r/Christianity, prides itself on being more progressive and LGBTQ friendly with rules that don't allow anyone to speak negatively about them Important Context: Larry Nassar was a Team USA Women's National Gymnastics Team doctor from 1996-2014, where he used his position to exploit and sexually assault hundreds of young athletes as part of the largest sexual abuse scandal in sports history. Nassar was arrested and charged with sexually assaulting at least 265 young women and girls over a 22-year period under the guise of medical treatment. His victims included numerous Olympic gymnasts, with some as young as six-years-old OOP also added that the church was a Non-Denominational church Trigger Warning: pedophilia, victim blaming minors Mood Spoiler: unfortunate Original Post: (February 11th, 2026) I haven't lived with my parents since starting college, and I currently live by myself while working two jobs. I live a little over an hour away, but I come home for the holidays and other occasions, along with the Super Bowl this past Sunday. My parents are very religious, and I have a younger brother who's twelve. I always sleep over whenever I visit, and the only rule is that I must attend church (if staying on a Sunday) because mom doesn't want anyone home when they're not there, and that extended to friends and family since I was young. I was surprised when it extended to me since I grew up in their home, but I'm glad to no longer be forced to attend church every week. My dad always held a Super Bowl party since I was young, and I came up on Saturday to help set up as usual. This situation happened as a result of attending church on Super Bowl Sunday Despite our pastor taking a moment to give his thoughts on the big game before the sermon, the situation came from something else he vented about, and that was the Winter Olympics. Ironically, it wasn't about any of the athletes who made political statements (which was surprising given his history with sharing political opinions). It was about something he and his wife discussed and felt led to share. Long story short, they advised their kids to change the channel if figure skating came on any of the broadcasts, and their reasons were harmful in my opinion. He said that some of the female outfits were "revealing" and not good to watch because it can lead to lust. He also went on about how "the world" finds ways to "normalize telling girls to dress inappropriately". He even said the Summer Olympics did the same thing with the uniforms that the female gymnasts wore... going as far as to call it "normalized p*rn" because their parents would "never allow them to wear a skirt that shows as much" as the uniform outside of the sport setting He also said the uniforms "allowed creeps to watch with lustful intentions and not be questioned" because it was normalized, and he didn't like that possibility when one of his kids used to do gymnastics. He did, however, mention a rule change in recent years that allowed girls to wear shorts over their uniforms during competitions; something he supported and would've required his daughter to wear full-time if she still played. He also said it was unfortunate that the rule change and the female German Olympic team's full-body gymnastics uniforms happened after Larry Nassar's case because "no one wanted to point out the inappropriate uniforms" that he was "forced to be around" because there was an "agenda" to punish him. He also said that many girls were "playing the victim" because society "allowed them to". He even said Nassar "maybe wouldn't have done what he did" if not for the uniforms he was forced to be around, and I personally thought that that shifted blame onto the uniforms instead of his actions. His overarching point, aside from advising parents to consider turning the channel, was to be aware of how the world tries to push their kids to dress inappropriately by normalizing figure skating and gymnastics attire, and I disagreed with much of his message My parents and I discussed it on the drive home, and I mentioned how I thought it was harmful to send that message. My parents disagreed from a purity perspective because they taught purity to us when we turned twelve. I think it's harmful because purity should be a personal choice instead of something instilled by your parents when you're just hitting puberty. I also disagree with how the pastor sexualized both sports and absolved Nassar by blaming the outfits, but they didn't have an issue with it. Heck, a few of the pastor's points received applause (including from my parents), and the whole thing ruined my mood. My mom also plans to inform one of our cousins' parents (whose daughter does gymnastics) about the rule change in case she doesn't know. And while that's fine on its own, I disagree with her motives behind it The message shouldn't be that girls are responsible for the actions of those who sexualize them. They should wear shorts because they want to, not because they think they're doing something wrong by wearing appropriate clothing for the sport. I also felt the pastor was telling on himself and projecting onto the congregation, but my parents didn't see it that way. I helped them clean up for their guests when we returned, but left before the game as some guests began to filter in. My parents were disappointed and said it would've been better if I hadn't come at all, even though I'd helped set up. I'm more concerned with the message they told my brother and how Mom plans to relay it to my cousin. Needless to say, I'll never attend that church again, and I only did whenever I visited, like once a year. Does anyone have any experience with correcting a message from a parent that might be harmful to a younger sibling? Update Post: (February 13th, 2026) My father called me for the first time since we spoke on Sunday at their home, and he had the same tone as his text. He said it was disrespectful of me to leave early when they let me sleep over despite helping them set up. He also said he didn't appreciate having to tell guests why I left early, and he said he made up some excuse. I reiterated my disgust for the sermon and how they supported it. And in hindsight, I should've walked out and waited in the foyer. Granted, I couldn’t drive home because we carpooled, but I'm disappointed that I didn't. However, since the church encourages viewers to share their videos in the descriptions of their YouTube sermons and on social media, I decided to vent my frustration that way using malicious compliance. I left a review of the church that explained why I'll never attend again. I also mentioned how the pastor defended Larry Nassar and left a link to the sermon, along with a timestamp to when his rant began. The link will prove the truth of my review. And if they delete the video, it'll only make it louder (when the link leads to a page that says 'deleted video'). I also made an Instagram story about my disgust for the sermon and left a link to the YouTube sermon there too, and many of my friends have also told me their similar disgust I've lost almost all of my respect for my parents, but that's nothing new unfortunately. I was debating cutting them off when I was in high school, but figured that going to college would provide space that'd help prevent that. I was wrong, but I shouldn't have been surprised. Them finding no issue with the pastor's rant is par for the course of how they still support a certain someone with strong ties to a certain list, and much of my teen years were annoying because of their obsession with that figure. They also loved it when our pastor got political in the past, and that's not what church should be. I return for one sermon simply because of my parents' home rule, and he spins the Winter Olympics into a rant defending Larry Nassar. It's always some new demographic every week with these people, and Sunday was a reminder of why I don't miss church As a result of me not apologizing, Dad said I'm not allowed to come to next year's party, and that's totally fine with me. The other unfortunate part is that Mom talked to my cousin's mom about the sermon, and she agreed with much of it and said her daughter would be required to wear shorts over her uniform going forward because she was unaware that she could. Again, nothing wrong with deciding to wear them. But the message shouldn't be that women are responsible for creeps like my pastor who admitted to being unable to appreciate a sport because his mind is fixated on sex. I don't get why certain Christians like my parents are hyperfixated on it like with purity. My cousin's parents are also Christians, and they agreed with turning the channel from figure skating too. They'll probably do the same with gymnastics in two years, and my church (along with others I've researched) have had females wear t-shirts over their bathing suits at church gatherings with a pool, and I've attended parties with that rule since I was little. That doesn’t stop them from going to the beach where others aren't wearing t-shirts over their bathing suits, but you could go down the hypocrisy rabbit hole forever, and I'm ready to go low-contact. I won't be attending Christmas or Thanksgiving or any other gatherings they have. Granted, it sucks for my younger brother, but I need to worry about my own mental health first ________________ (Comments) (davegammelgard): "What's actually happening is that the pastor is normalizing adult men being creeps and lusting after young girls. This is the way purity culture has worked for hundreds of years - girls are expected to be pure because men can't control themselves. It's not just true in Christianity, but also in Islam, and other cultures. This attitude is harmful to everyone because it reinforces that idea that "boys will be boys" and won't be held accountable, while girls are held responsible for what men do to them. They're "asking for it" if they dress a certain way or behave a certain way. Men need to be taught self control and responsibility. That's the real answer" (Chaoticallyorganized) replied: "This is exactly what it is. No normal man watches figure skating or gymnastics with sexual thoughts towards underage girls. This pastor is unquestionably a disgusting human being and not safe to be around" (exretailer_29): "If you read different sources on Larry Nassar he was sexually molesting all age females from 6-20. So it wasn't all about what some females wore. It was about power and Control and some deep seated evil that drove Larry Nassar. How can a "6-8" year old dress in an inappropriate manner? The onus was always on Larry Nassar. A female could be fully covered up and if someone has evil intentions it doesn't matter what outfit is being worn. It doesn't have to be just Larry Nassar it can be anyone who perceives the victim as being someone they can overpower or take advantage of. Many religious authorities do project their own misguided sexual feelings and I think that is a defence mechanism on their part. The pastor is wrong and I think your parents are too!" submitted by /u/MadisonBrave to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

Original: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/MzifYDGS2h So I spoke to my wife the night after my original post. I said she needs to leave her personal trainer, Quit that gym, and we need to start going to couples counselling. She wasn’t happy and started arguing saying it’s only a crush and it’ll pass and she’s making good progress and then started to frame it as me not caring about her health. Once she realised I wasn’t budging she started trying to bargain with me and saying what if she stopped seeing the personal trainer could she still go to the gym and if she started having sex with me again we don’t need couples counselling. I lost my temper at this point I admit and shouted “enough! I want to know everything! Tell me everything you’ve done! I want to read your messages with him! I want to see these outfits you are wearing! I need to know everything now!” She said fine and stormed off upstairs. She came back down wearing an outfit that was a bit much to be fair for the gym in a cold country but I didn’t say anything and asked to see her phone. She said she deleted the messages. When I asked why she was honest and said she sent him a topless selfie on Christmas Day while I was downstairs cooking the dinner for her bloody family! She then said that while she’s confessing she also kissed another man on a night out in the first year of our relationship. I already knew this because her friend who fancied me at the time told me about it. I asked her why him and not me. What’s he got that I haven’t. She said nothing and it was more about the situation than him. She said she’s starting to feel regret and like she missed out on her youth. She had a boyfriend from school to her early 20s, was single for a year and then met me. She said she’s started to regret not having more fun and she’s starting to enjoy attention from other men more and more especially younger men. When she was telling me originally she said a couple of times “I’m not planning on doing anything it’s just a fantasy, unless you want me to do something” with a nervous laughter and at the time it felt a bit like she wanted to do something but was trying to frame it as my idea but I never really clicked properly. I asked her if when she told me she was expecting me to give her permission and she said she genuinely thought because I don’t get jealous I’d be ok with it I still feel like I wasn’t being given everything though. The outfit and the kiss confession felt like distractions and something was missing. Even telling me about all this in the first place felt a bit like ah was trying to get her story in before someone else told me. I said I’m going for a drive and then went to the gym to speak to her personal trainer. I approached him and said I’m not here for trouble I understand my wife has been harassing you. He wasn’t happy being approached this way which I get but he asked me who my wife was and when I told him he said he knew something like this was going to happen. He told me that he hadn’t trained her since Christmas as he let her go after she had been sending pictures (plural not just the one she told me about). He said since then she had kept messaging but he ignored her. He let me read the messages and she had sent 12 pictures over a three month period. One was fully naked and when he told her not to send them she said she was just showing her progress. The worst part though was she was messaging him stuff like “we’ve had another argument could really do with a session to burn off some anger” and “he’s out drinking with his friends again ignoring me, I’m so lonely” neither of which are true and then she told him mid December that she had kicked me out and we were divorcing! With the Christmas Day picture she even said “first Christmas alone” and just last week she messaged him saying I was already seeing someone else! I thanked him and asked him to send me them and went home. When I got home she was already gone and just wrote me a note saying sorry. She’s at her friend’s house and we’ve been texting a bit the last couple of days and have a marriage counsellor booked for next week but I think it’s done. I’m not even that bothered about the pictures or the flirting or the outfit. The lying about me and our marital status. I don’t drink and we hadn’t argued in years. I’m downstairs entertaining her family while she’s sending nudes (she’s never sent me one) and telling him she’s alone. I’m working all this weekend to try and keep my mind busy. Sorry if I don’t reply quick enough and thank you to everyone who took the time to read and reply to my last post. TLDR: it was a lot worse than she originally let on. Edit: thank you for all the replies I really do appreciate it. There’s been so many I can’t keep up! Thank you to the people who have DMd me as well I really appreciate it. I’ve decided to not bother with marriage counselling and just start divorce proceedings this week. Life really can turn upside in a week. I never thought I’d be single again but here we are. submitted by /u/throwra_wifept to r/relationship_advice [link] [comments]

pictures added because everyone else has pictures on their posts and i also wanted to show general usual fashion i wear i guess. i havent had enough time to prepare for a gay bar i was trying to appeal to men my whole life. i got top surgery so i cant wear anything that shows off my chest bc it probably wont fit well. first and last pic are clothes i usually wear and middle pic is like. body type ish. i guess. i dont take many selfies sorry. please save me im like a trembling chihuahua submitted by /u/richiesskulls to r/lesbianfashionadvice [link] [comments]

We have an admin bank of 5 secretaries. They congregating and talking. I ear-hustled the convo. One lady was going to a party, needed a fresh outfit, hair and nails done and quipped - gonna get this $300 from my BF. Another girl, was heading out on a girls trip and repeated, she was hitting her man up for the cash (snap snap). Now, I have been married a long time. When dating my wife, she NEVER asked me for CASH. Well, her car broke down and I helped with the repairs. We did take trips together, and she brought money along. No woman I ever dated before my wife asked me for CASH. Is this idea of - hitting my man up for CASH, new? Do working women actually do this? Do men willy-nilly give women CASH for nonsensical BS? School me on this. submitted by /u/WaveFast to r/AskMenAdvice [link] [comments]

So I’ve been thinking about something that really bugs me in Indian cinema lately. It feels like the “modern, progressive woman” on screen is basically defined by… how short her clothes are. Like the shorter the hemline, the more liberated she apparently is. And yes, this sells. And yes, it’s depressingly predictable at this point. And before someone jumps in — no, this isn’t a rant against women wearing whatever they want. Wear what you want. Show skin, don’t show skin, that’s your call. My problem isn’t with women. It’s with how movies are selling this fake idea of empowerment. Because in real life, we all know that even if a woman is fully covered, people still stare. Still judge. Still behave like she exists for inspection. So when movies show this female lead in tiny outfits and absolutely no one in the universe reacts, stares, moral-polices, or says anything — like everything is totally normal — I just sit there thinking… what fantasy world is this? And not the feminist fantasy. The male fantasy. Because look closer: this “empowered” woman is only celebrated in the movie as long as she is pleasing to the male gaze. She looks a certain way (very specific body type, ironically), dresses a certain way, and her liberation is only “valid” if eventually it fits into a storyline where the male lead is impressed, attracted, and basically “approves” of her. And then everyone claps. End credits. Meanwhile in the real world? A woman even slightly deviating from what men are comfortable with gets: • stares • judgement • labels • sometimes complete social punishment And unless she has money, social capital, family backing, whatever — good luck surviving that backlash. Cinema conveniently skips this part like it doesn’t exist. So yeah, we keep getting this on-screen feminism that feels like a costume. A performance. As long as your rebellion is aesthetic, sexy, and still revolves around how men perceive you — congratulations, you’re a “strong female character.” But try being a woman who’s independent in a way that isn’t catering to male fantasies in real life. See how fast the applause dies. Honestly, it’s just weird watching movies pretend society is suddenly progressive only when the woman fits a very curated, male-approved version of liberation. Like girlboss, but make it palatable for the hero. Real empowerment doesn’t come with a styling guide. It’s not based on how desirable you look while doing it. And it definitely doesn’t come with a “but men should like it too” condition. Anyway, that’s my rant. I just wish cinema stopped confusing “male-friendly feminism” with actual feminism. Because women deserve better than liberation that only works as long as it’s sexy. submitted by /u/akamikasa to r/BollyBlindsNGossip [link] [comments]

Okay, so this might sound like a small issue, but it’s been a huge deal for me, and I’m really torn on whether I overreacted. I (27F) have been with my fiancé (30M) for 3 years. Things were mostly great at first, but lately, we’ve been having some problems around the way he controls what I wear. Here’s the situation: My fiancé has this rule where he refuses to let me wear anything that shows too much skin. We’ve had multiple conversations about this, but they always go the same way: him telling me it’s “disrespectful” and me trying to explain why it’s a problem for me. I’ve tried to be patient, but the whole thing has been getting under my skin more and more. To give you a better idea, I’m not talking about anything extreme. I don’t go around in bikinis or anything like that. I’m talking about dresses that are a little shorter (like just above the knee) or tops that show a tiny bit of cleavage. I’ve always been confident in how I dress, and I love wearing things that make me feel good about myself. But he keeps saying that it’s inappropriate and that he doesn’t want other men looking at me. At first, I thought maybe I was just overreacting. But then he started saying things like, “You don’t see me out there trying to get attention from other women, so why should you be showing off for other guys?” It started to feel less like a preference and more like an issue of control. One time, he even told me that if I really loved him, I’d respect his wishes and stop wearing certain clothes because it made him “uncomfortable.” I tried to compromise and wear more “modest” outfits, but even then, it wasn’t enough. It wasn’t just about the clothes anymore; it was about him telling me what I should and shouldn’t wear based on his insecurity. I started feeling like I was walking on eggshells, constantly worrying about whether he would approve of what I put on. The breaking point came last week. We were getting ready to go out for a dinner date, and I picked out a dress I really liked. It was simple but had a slightly low neckline—nothing too revealing, just enough to make me feel cute and confident. When I showed him, he immediately said, “Are you seriously wearing that? I’m not okay with you going out looking like that. It’s disrespectful.” I asked him, “Why is it disrespectful? I’m not doing anything wrong. It’s just a dress.” He replied, “It’s not about what you think is okay. It’s about what I think is okay, and I don’t want other guys looking at you that way.” That was the moment everything clicked for me. I realized that this wasn’t about respect, trust, or love. It was about control. It wasn’t just the clothes—it was how he wanted to dictate my choices, how he was more concerned with how other men viewed me than trusting me to make decisions for myself. So, I ended things. I told him that I couldn’t be with someone who didn’t respect my autonomy or trust me to make my own choices. I told him that I needed someone who would support my self-expression, not try to suppress it out of insecurity. Now I’m second-guessing myself. Maybe I made a rash decision, but at the same time, I don’t think I should have to shrink myself to make someone else feel secure. AITA for ending things over this? submitted by /u/Significant_Ratio639 to r/CharlotteDobreYouTube [link] [comments]

I am not OOP. OOP is u/suitupwoman Mood spoiler: sad Original post was made on AITA on November 10, 2019: AITA for wanting to wear a suit for my wedding? For my high school graduation, I received a tailored suit. Before then, I had been a chronic t-shirt and jeans kind of girl, having one ugly black dress to wear for weddings/funerals/parties/bar mitzvas/general events. I hated it, hated making an effort to dress up, and even now, I still really don't like skirts or dresses at all. But I absolutely fell in love with the way I looked in a suit. I wore that suit like it was a second skin. Since then, I have been a little obsessed with "men's fashion". I have at least a dozen suits, of various models, fabrics and colours: All of them are bespoke, meaning that they were made from scratch and personally fitted, which is admittedly rather expensive, but I use them frequently, both for work and socially, and take very good care of them. None of them are what you would call a women's pantsuit, as I'm not very fond of the cut; but simply regular suits tailored to my figure. My fiance, of about 5 years, normally doesn't comment much on my style: There used to be some arguments in the beginning, where he would buy me skirts or earrings as gifts (I don't even have pierced ears), but eventually he accepted the fact that I'd have more use of a good pair of cufflinks or a ring or just pretty much anything else. We have booked the venue for our wedding on a date a little over a year from now, and we've been throwing around some wedding ideas here and there. Yesterday, I asked him if he had any ideas about what kind of suit he wanted: He doesn't really care about fashion and normally let's me dress him, but I wanted to know if I should book my regular tailor for both of us or not, so that we could perhaps go get fitted together. Make a day of it, you know. My fiance was very shocked that I wasn't going to get a wedding dress. I was very shocked that he thought I would, since I haven't worn a dress in at least 10 years. We've been arguing since last night, and neither of us have really calmed down yet. He is furious that I wouldn't even wear a dress for a single day for our wedding, and claims that our wedding would look ridiculous if I had a suit. As if he "was marrying a lesbian in denial" and that all he wanted was "a wedding with a beautiful bride". I told him that he should wear the dress, so that I didn't "have to a have a wedding with an ugly groom." We tried to talk it out earlier today, but we were still too mad to get anywhere, so we've decided to not bring it up right now. But I know he hasn't changed his opinion, and obviously neither have I. I have always wanted to wear a suit for my wedding, and even if it's just for a day, I would still have a bunch of photos and memories, probably even the dress, so I wouldn't just forget that I couldn't have the wedding I wanted. AITA? Relevant comment (which was also the highest upvoted): I don't think you should marry someone who hates your choice of fashion. INFO: Why hasn't this come up sooner? OOP's response: ...I'm pretty sure it has? I used to send him a lot of wedding pictures, including women getting married in suits, but since, well, they were all lesbian weddings, I guess he thought it was more of a "Aren't weddings nice?" kind of thing, rather than a "This image applies to me, even though I intend to marry you, a man." Maybe he didn't think I was serious until I started talking about booking a suit-fitting. Another comment from OOP: It's not like I spoke in rebuses: I would send him an email labelled something like "Wedding venue ideas", with a dozen pictures of venues, or an email called "Ideas for wedding outfits", with a bunch of suits. Men in suits, women in suits. No dresses. Not even incidentally: I cropped them out. Just suits. OOP attempted to post an update the next day, on November 11th, 2019, but this was removed. However, their original post was subsequently edited to add: UPDATE: I decided on suggesting that I wear a dress for a while during the wedding, before changing to a suit, so we had a talk after dinner. Long story short: He hates my suits. Hates them. I think I kind of knew already that he didn't like them, or at least he's never complimented me, but he absolutely hates them. Hates that I don't have any feminine clothing, hates that I never pierced my ears, hates that I don't wear makeup very often and that I don't really shave my legs regularly and that I don't have any nice bras and that none of my hobbies are very feminine. Hates that I only look like a woman when I'm naked. We didn't raise our voices, we didn't shout. I just listened as he calmly told me how much of me that he hates. The fact that I didn't want a dress for our wedding was just the last nail in the coffin, and it proved that I would never get any better. submitted by /u/autistichalsin to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I see a lot of guys ask what to wear. And I don’t think I got the best outfits but I have fun with them and always get compliments on them so I thought I would share. It’s nothing crazy but it’s just to show guys that you don’t have to think of anything to crazy. A graphic tee will do especially if you match something else with it or just wear all black or white. Accessories are always a good way to add a lil something to the outfit. Also I never care for comfort you can tell by the timbs and fur pimp coat all black outfit I had on at EDC LV during opening ceremony 😂. Hope this helps get some ideas. submitted by /u/MollyPesoOffthetesla to r/aves [link] [comments]

I am NOT the Original Poster. That is u/Ok_Collection2180. He posted in r/AmItheAsshole Do NOT comment on Original Posts. Latest update is 7 days old. Mood Spoiler: ok for OOP Meme Spoiler: well that escalated quickly. I mean, that really got out of hand fast. Original Post: September 2, 2024 Before I begin English is not my first language, so apologies for typos, bad grammar and punctuation. I’m also on mobile and using a throwaway just in case. So last Friday night my (24m) friend (we’ll call him Peter) celebrated his 28th birthday. His coworker (that is what he refers to her as) “April” offered to organize and host the party. The dress code was as she put it “Your gothic best” - Peter loves anything morbid and macabre so it would fit his taste perfectly. Now I prioritize comfort over looks, which leaves me dressing mostly in scrubs at work or sweats and hoodies when I’m out and about. Hence April decided to remind me multiple times in increasingly condescending tone to “follow the dress code”. So I did just that. I wore a black velvet trouser and waistcoat set with a white 18th century men’s shirt (a “pirate” shirt if you will). All of these items I made completely myself: from drafting the patterns to sewing the shirt completely by hand and adding an embroidery moth across the back of the waistcoat. Now, to the party itself. I ended up arriving later than most people due to being held up at work longer than expected. I warned both Peter and April about it: Peter said it was no problem at all, but I better show up and April left me on read. So I arrived 40 minutes late greeted April, congratulated Peter and gave him his gift. Moctails were drank and pleasantries were exchanged. Over the course of the night I got a lot of compliments on my outfit and my craft skills were a topic of conversation several times over the evening - it also didn’t really help that when someone asked me where I got the suit or shirt from Peter would loudly tell then all about how I made everything myself. I remember being spun around a couple of times so people could look/ touch the embroidery in the back. Everyone had a good time, or so I thought. Over the weekend April and her friends ended up bombarding my phone and any social media that they could find with absolutely nasty messages. How I was an attention seeker, how desperate I came across, how I absolutely ruined the party April had been planing for weeks, how dare I steal attention away and overshadow Peter and April. You get the idea. I feel like I’m going a bit insane - overshadowing anybody was never my intention (especially my friend at his own party) and I don’t think that I did. But all of these comments are making me rethink my choices. So am I the asshole here? I really need some outside perspective. Relevant Comments: Peter is behind this: I doubt that it’s the case. Know the guy for 10+ years and he never had a problem with people “overshadowing” him. He is not insecure and if he’s got a problem with someone’s actions he’ll say it. He wouldn’t send his coworker’s girlfriends to harass a person on his behalf. Commenter: NTA. April has a thing for Peter, and sees you as a threat. She's going to find ways to criticize you and tear you down no matter what you do. OOP: I guess it also didn’t help that Peter kept his hand on my back for most of the evening and when he got absolutely wasted put his face in my hair. Commenter: So maybe it's not just April's imagination that you are a threat to her attempts to connect with Peter. OOP: I think the biggest threat is Peter being aro/ace and the way April behaves, not me Commenter: Could he possibly be demiromantic? Because Peter’s behavior that you’re describing present as a little bit more than platonic. Keeping his arm around you, smelling your hair… those are often actions (though not exclusively ofc) exhibited by people towards a paramour (or crush) of some degree. And yes April is the problem. OOP: According to him, he is aro/ace. And he wasn’t smelling my hair more like rubbing his face on the top of my head. He says it’s because he like how my hair feels (he plays with my hair often enough and when he gets a little too drunk he face plants into it - though he did it mostly back when we were in uni). Knowing him it could just be a texture thing The others liking the outfit: At some point I ended up with like 4 very drunk people rubbing the moth’s body ( I made it from faux fur) and by extension my back with their fingers. Was a weird experience to say the least The outfit: I had help when it came to drafting the suit from someone who actually knows what they are doing lol. The shirt was made from a bunch of squares so no problems there. The embroidery is all split stitches and faux fur for the body of the moth. I really made it sound to be much more impressive than it is. OOP is voted NTA Update (Same Post): September 3, 2024 (Next Day) Update: This morning showed Peter the post and all of the messages from April and co. Never heard him be this angry. Said he’ll “deal with them”. Turns out April is a pathological liar and had been telling everyone in the office that Peter and her are in a relationship, but are keeping it low key. She also was taking pictures of him every time she walked by his office and showing them to her friends as “proof”. So her friends thought that I was trying to steal her man. They aren’t even coworkers- she just greets clients at the front desk at the firm Peter work at. Peter ripped her a new one, their boss (April’s uncle) ripped her a new one, the coworker she lied to ripped her a new one. April ended up throwing a tantrum, police were called. The results: April is currently on a 48hour hold. Peter is moving to work from home full time. I got apologies for April’s uncle, mom and a few friends and coworkers. submitted by /u/LucyAriaRose to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

Ngl this level of rit dye is so new to me but painting her hair to get this look rlllyyyy made me feel like a mini stylist ✨🥳 inspired by rogue from X-men, was gonna stay white until I got a tiny bit of dye on the white section so I made it pink up top instead and ended up loving it!! Trust the process and do what you can with what you got!:) last slide is how they came submitted by /u/bongwaterbukkake to r/RainbowHigh [link] [comments]

When I was younger, I used to think it was unfair that women's formal wear had more variety and colour than the boring, stuffy, monochrome suits that men have to wear. But it wasn't as though I really wanted to wear a dress, and even since getting into RR, I've not been that big into crossdressing (for myself, anyway, but women in tuxes do things for me). I'm not big on the word 'slutty', given its connotations, but it's a shorthand way of getting what I'm asking for across - what outfits for men that don't involve crossdressing look good whilst showing off a bit of skin? I'm not yet confident enough to try it out, but I want to have some ideas in mind... Also, for RR men, what clothing do you like on women? As well as tuxes and waistcoats, I have a weakness for flannel shirts and overalls. submitted by /u/PoorMetonym to r/RoleReversal [link] [comments]

anyone know where to get rave fits like these vests?? or something similar in that same category submitted by /u/jayduhokage to r/aves [link] [comments]

I am not OOP. OOP is u/Imaginary_Guide8273 on r/AITAH AITAH for not wanting to change my clothes for a 4th time thus ruining our date night? August 4, 2023 So, my husband (37M - let's call him Mark) and I (34F) have been having a rough few years. We got married in the fall of 2019 after being together for 5 years before then, and of course a few months after that the pandemic hit. I had the misfortune of getting a pretty bad case of Covid near the beginning of the pandemic (was hospitalized for two weeks) which turned into long Covid. I wasn't completely disabled but dealt with a lot of the typical symptoms - extreme fatigue, brain fog, reduced immune system generally resulting in several bad infections, etc. I didn't lose my job but did have to take intermittent FMLA which meant a lot of time without pay, and we racked up $20K in debt between the medical bills not covered by insurance and loss of some of my income. Although I tried to be mindful of my eating, I also gained 45 pounds thanks to being on antidepressants, several rounds of steroid medication, and not being able to exercise. Through all this, Mark was incredibly loving and supportive - he never said a bad word about my weight, lack of energy, or inability to contribute financially at the same level as before. Finally, last summer I started to feel a lot better, and most of the long Covid symptoms subsided. I was able to return to work full-time, and had energy to work out again. In the past year, we have paid off all our debt and rebuilt our emergency fund, and I have lost 35 of the 45 pounds I gained (my doctor says this is a good place for me to end up, I was borderline underweight before and am now on the slimmer side of a normal/healthy weight). Mark and I hadn't been having many date nights since we got married between the pandemic, my illness, and then for the past year working to get our finances in order. However, to celebrate my birthday, we decided to have dinner at an upscale bistro and then go see the Barbie movie (he actually suggested the movie). This was last Saturday - my actual birthday wasn't for a few more days but we wanted to go on the weekend. I was excited to dress up as - most of my clothes had gotten baggy and drab during my illness and weight gain but I was finally feeling comfortable in my own skin again. I decided to go full Barbiecore - pink sleeveless dress (fitted at the top and then flared out) and pink kitten heels with a matching bag. (The money for the outfit came from a birthday check from my mom - she insisted that I spend it on "something fun.") When I put on the outfit, I felt really pretty for the first time in a long time...unfortunately and surprisingly, Mark reacted badly to it. He said I looked "slutty" and "attention-seeking" and essentially accused me of trying to get the attention of other men and that I should cover up more. I protested because...first of all...we were going to a restaurant (table for 2) and a movie theater...when exactly was I going to be interacting socially with other men?! Also, the outfit was quite dramatic and striking but it wasn't revealing...sleeveless dresses are pretty normal date night wear for a hot summer day, and it wasn't low-cut (neckline was at the collarbone), and was on the longer side (calf-length). But I didn't want to argue so I put on a black knit cardigan over the dress. Nope, still no dice for Mark, he said it was still attention-seeking. At this point, I really wanted to get going and not miss our reservation, so I gave up on the dress and changed into fitted jeans and a pastel pink tunic top (not fitted). Nope, said Mark, I still looked like I was trying to attract other men. So I threw on a hoodie over the top but then he said I looked sloppy. I was really exasperated by this point and asked if he just wanted to come to my closet to pick an outfit that was acceptable, and he started yelling that I was too stupid to even understand that I was disrespecting him and that I didn't know how to dress myself. Then he said he was going for a drive and going to the movie without me (the tickets were on his phone). He came home after midnight, said he didn't want to talk and that he was going to sleep in the guest room. He has barely spoken to me since. My actual birthday was a couple days ago and he didn't even acknowledge it. I begged him to please talk to me and tell me what was really going on but he said he was still too angry. So, AITAH for not trying to change my clothes yet again before our date for my birthday? I still don't know what he was really upset about or what sort of outfit would have been acceptable. And no, he's never once tried to make rules about what I could wear or commented at all on my clothes except to tell me that I looked nice or that he liked certain colors on me. This really came out of nowhere as far as I can tell. And again he selected the Barbie movie and planned the date so it's not like I was strong-arming him into plans he didn't want. Comment: If my wife asks me ‘does this look ok?’, it’d have to be awful for me to say no. I can’t imagine telling her she looked slutty! She would figure out I thought that because I’d be grinning and making stupid, suggestive jokes! I’d tell him you will wear what you like and if he doesn’t like it, that’s a him problem. Comment: Something deeper is going on. Time to have a serious discussion about where you guys are in this relationship. No matter how much my wife were fighting… it would be a truce on a birthday. Comment: He created a situation where it would be impossible for you to have left the house with him, stormed out to go see the Barbie movie 'alone', and didn't come home until after midnight and slept in the guest room. He's cheating and seeing you looking fire that evening probably triggered some realizations that he can't continue to have his cake and eat it too. Update: Husband demanded I change clothes multiple times for our date night, then stormed out when I refused after the third time August 12, 2023 (Husband was going to take me to dinner and to see the Barbie movie a couple weeks ago, but demanded I change my Barbiecore pink but otherwise modest dress, went through several more iterations of changes that were still not acceptable and then he stormed out, and after that didn't speak to me for close to a week, saying he was too angry to talk about what I did wrong) As for the update - I did end up going to my mom's place for the weekend last weekend and had a nice girls' weekend with my mom and sister. We did see the movie on Saturday (got to wear my original planned outfit - yay!!!), and then got brunch and had a fun salon outing on Sunday. Late afternoon Sunday I texted Mark (my husband) to say I was coming home in a couple hours, and that I hoped he would be ready to talk then - that I would gladly hear him out regarding anything that had been upsetting him, but I really couldn't take the silent treatment anymore as it had been over a week by then. He just texted back "Ok." We did talk after I got home, and...boy, it was a doozy. It turns out Mark has had building resentment for years, since I first got sick with Covid nearly 3 1/2 years ago now. Not so much in the first few months, but when it was clear my illness had turned into long Covid and an ongoing disability, he started to feel very put-upon due to my not being able to generate as much income, not being able to do my share of the housework and cooking, etc. He put up a good front because he knew it wouldn't be fair to take it out on me, especially when he could see I was doing my best to get better and to do what I could on my better days, but ultimately he got very burned out. And then after a year or so...started seeking outlets, as in other women. He said at first it was just basically anonymous online sexting because the pandemic was still raging, but by early last year he had formed an online emotional connection with someone in the area, whom he eventually met in person for a physical affair, someone he is in love with now and still seeing. He said he has been trying to figure out what to do, especially as I have been getting better over the past year, lost most of the weight I gained, got back to fulfilling all my responsibilities at work and home, etc., but when I walked out in my Barbiecore dress, expecting to have a romantic birthday date, he just...couldn't do it. He couldn't go out and pretend to love me and be celebratory when he wanted to be with someone else. So he picked a fight, one I couldn't win. And then yes, when he walked out he did take his AP to dinner and the movie instead. The thing is...I do understand him seeking some kind of an outlet. I was sick for years, and between physical ailments and brain fog I wasn't able to participate consistently in the marriage on any level, not as an equal partner. We'd only been married a few months when I got sick so it's not even like we had a lot of shared history to fall back on. I'm sure he must have felt exhausted, stressed, and lonely, especially as it wasn't certain I would be able to recover at all. I asked if he would consider marriage counseling and recommitting to our marriage, but he said sadly that his "heart had moved on." He did say he was so sorry, that he never meant to fall in love with someone else and was just trying to be less lonely, and that I didn't deserve this, that I especially didn't deserve the way he treated me a couple weeks ago. So, I guess divorce it is. I don't expect it will be very dramatic, we've been talking a lot over the past week (no more silent treatment) to figure out how to divide stuff and to try to make things cordial. In the end, I don't even think he is an AH. Maybe for the way he acted surrounding my birthday, but overall I think he is just a human being who eventually broke down from stress and loneliness. I do wish him well and am also grateful that at least I am healthy again for whatever life has next in store for me. Comment: Your husband is an asshole and has no idea what marriage is actually about. I suffered a major injury 6 months after my wedding that required several surgeries and a long recovery. My husband had to do everything because I couldn’t even walk and was on heavy pain medication for almost a year. I mean, he had to help me shower, help me with personal care, things you do not expect to have to do as as newlyweds. I would cry and apologize to him and he would tell me I was ridiculous and this was the “in sickness or in health” part of our marriage and this was what he signed up for. We had kids after a long period of infertility and I eventually developed chronic conditions that leave me in pain, with brain fog, severe fatigue, and a lot of anxiety and depression. I even broke down at one point and told him this wasn’t fair to him, that he should be able to be with someone that wasn’t broken forever (I even threw out that I wouldn’t hold it against him if he wanted to take on a mistress even though it would absolutely kill me). That man sat me down and told me that this is what marriage is. We take care of each other at our worst and at our best. We’re partners and friends and he would choose me and our life with all of its ups and downs a million times if it meant he could be with me. That is what marriage is. Your husband gave up when shit got hard and I’m sorry but LIFE is hard. When you get married, it should be to the person you want to do the good and the bad with. Do not give your husband a pass because life got hard for a while. ETA: First, thank you for the awards. I really didn’t expect this to get this crazy and the notifications are a little overwhelming. I’ve seen several comments that my marriage seems unbalanced and in one case, that I’m a “taker” and my husband will probably off himself when he can’t meet my standards. First, please consider being kind to people you don’t know because you have no idea what they have going on. Kindness costs you nothing. Second, this was literally two paragraphs about specific topics I thought the OP needed to hear so she didn’t excuse the way her husband treated her. I’ve been married for almost 20 years and it would take pages and pages for me to go through all the things my husband and I have dealt with over the years. I am functional and an active parent and partner in our home. He worked, I took care of our kids including a special needs child and took care of the house, cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. Of course we argue and disagree, but we made a pact when we got married to never go to bed angry and we sit down and hash shit out. When he lost his beloved grandma within weeks of me miscarrying our first child, I asked him what he needed from me and gave him everything he asked for. When he lost his mom to COVID and couldn’t be with her when she passed, I took over everything because I could see him falling apart at the idea of having to tell everyone and arrange everything. I build him up every time he struggles with imposter syndrome with his job because the man is brilliant and has no idea. Our marriage isn’t a scorecard that we keep tally of who’s doing more. I showed my husband this post and he actually agreed with the person that said a husband doing what he has is setting the bar low because to him, that’s just what marriage is. I’m his to take care of and he’s mine. OOP: Thank you for sharing your story...I am so sorry to hear about your injury and chronic health conditions. But it sounds like you have a magnificent man there. I hope there is someone out there who can love me that much And you're right, anyone who doesn't isn't worthy of being my spouse. The fact that he took HIS MISTRESS ON YOUR DATE would send me over the edge. what a complete and total lack of respect- not even counting all the rest he did, including cheating while you were ill. SMDH I am so sorry OP. I agree with introverted_panda. I suffered a series of health issues over the last 9 years and my husband never once looked to other women because I was sick or disable to the point of being able to do nothing. (Post concussion syndrome, cancer twice, chemo, heart attack) I hope you can find the love you deserve. Another Comment: So in sickness and in health truly meant fucking nothing to him? Vows meant nothing? You got Covid and it fucked you up for a while and he decided best thing to do was to cheat. What a fucking prick. What would he have done if you got cancer? Or some other illness? Is he only happy to stick around with someone if they are 100% healthy all the time? Thank god you never had kids. I’m sorry you’re going through this but fuck that guy. OOP: Yeah, I do see that now that he was not a good person to share my life with. It would have been far worse to share decades together only to have him cheat/leave if I got cancer or just declined due to age. It hurts a lot right now but I do think I dodged a bullet. And as I said above I'm grateful that I'm physically healthy now, plus we paid off all our debt and built up savings over the past year so I'm starting out my single life in a pretty good place all things considered. He took his AP to movie and dinner that you should have been the one going on, after he picked a fight with you and made you feel bad about yourself. Sorry but he has no redeeming qualities. Oh boohoo, he was lonely, while you were checks notes fighting for your life. Your ex ain’t shit. *Editor's Note: is hard to tell if OOP will post again, but the story doesn't seem like it's over, so I marked it ongoing. Let me know if you think differently. Reminder: I am not OOP. Do not go to the original posts and comment on them. submitted by /u/swtogirl to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

A lot of men in cottagecore would tend to dress in vintage dress shirts, which can be a light or dark color. Also occasionally wearing various hats as well as neckties or bow ties (especially those bow ties). Sometimes they wear fedoras or straw hats, sometimes they don’t wear hats at all. A lot of times they’ll wear either brown or black dress shoes and a pair of khakis or slacks. Sometimes they even wear skorts. And many more things too! There’s a lot more out there cottagecore for men than many people realize! submitted by /u/cameron_adkins to r/cottagecore [link] [comments]

Hello! I (M22) am going to my first rave this weekend. I know I’ll enjoy myself but my problem is what to wear. I am EXTREMELY self-conscious so I need something to wear that won’t bother me all night but also looks nice. Half of the “what to wear to a rave” videos include someone who is skinny saying to wear things I couldn’t be comfortable wearing in a million years or someone saying to just go shirtless and that is NOT happening. Any help would be appreciated :) submitted by /u/Yesinfactiamanidiot to r/aves [link] [comments]

My wife, “Mina,” enjoys dressing up. Her style is very feminine and she’s always dolled up - even to go shopping. She’s always glowing and is very confident in her appearance. She looks good and she knows it. My sister, “Betty,” believes in traditional ideas of masculinity and femininity. Women are meant to stay home with the children while the men are meant to provide for the household. We talk when we have to, but I try to avoid her. Each time we see Betty, she’ll manage to slip a comment about my wife’s outfit. She’ll either comment on how “ladylike” it is, or how “slutty,” it looks. Mina always rolls her eyes and laughs it off. I don’t think the comments bother her, but I try to tell Betty to mind her own business. Betty invited us for dinner to celebrate her pregnancy. On the invitation, she stated that the dress-code was formal. She didn’t mention a certain colour or style of clothing, only that you had to dress formally. Mina wore this dark green suit that fit her very wel. I’m 100% certain that it fit the dress code. It was formal - nothing revealing or outlandish - and I thought she looked good. When Betty opened the door, I could see the look of disgust on her face when she saw Mina. The first thing she asked was her, (very condescendingly) “Are you really wearing that?” Mina only smiled and replied, “Yes.” Throughout the night, I could tell Betty was talking about Mina to my family. I could see her point and laugh, or whisper something in someone’s ear, or make a face anytime Mina walked by. At one point, Betty “joked” about Mina wearing the “pants” in the marriage, leaving me to wear all the “pink, frilly dresses.” (Mina is too “masculine,” leaving me to be the “wife” in the relationship.) As distasteful as those jokes were, Mina asked me to not make a big deal. After we had all eaten, Betty stood up to make a toast. At first, her speech started off well. It was sweet. However, near the end, Betty decided to throw passive-aggressive comments towards Mina. I’m sure I don’t remember all of it, but she essentially said, “It’s going to be hard raising my daughter in a world where women want to act and dress like men.” (all while making direct eye contact with Mina) “The devil often hides in the people that are closest to us and if you can spot him, don’t let him in your house.” During that entire section of her speech, her eyes never left Mina. Before the end of the speech, Mina stood up from the table and left and I followed her. I got a bunch of texts from my BIL, scolding me for leaving in the middle of my sister’s speech. Betty called me, calling me rude for leaving while she was speaking and not “controlling my hot-headed wife.” When I heard this, I laughed and hung up the phone. That led to more texts. When I told Mina she laughed, but suggested I apologise - but in an effort to make this whole thing blow over. EDIT: Forgot to add, reposted because I went over the word count the first time. submitted by /u/mywifeinasuit to r/AmItheAsshole [link] [comments]