Purple Background

1girl, solo, empty eyes, smile, closed mouth, long hair, hair spread out, umbrakinesis, black hole, wind, black background, purple halo, hands up

... light, soft shadows, dark background, simple background, classical portrait, painterly, muted... face focus, simple background, warm toned background, beige background, 1.5::soft ...flowers, blooming flowers, pink roses, purple flowers, blue flowers, wildflowers, ... cards, confetti, feathers, dark background, 1.5::golden candlelight::, ...branches, 1.5::wisteria::, purple flowers hanging, open meadow, grass...

... of what looked like a purple long necked dragon. "Anaxa! Please... to get you this... weird purple long-neck rhino plush you custom ... rest and fade into the background. If we fail, then we ...

... her now in full. Voluminous purple hair left wild falling past... as fire burned in the background. "Ah, hello, Legend, and... assorted ... seemed to fade into the background, as if it had never ...

... her now in full. Voluminous purple hair left wild falling past... as fire burned in the background. "Ah, hello, Legend, and... assorted ... seemed to fade into the background, as if it had never ...

..., censorship indicator, error patch, purple dress, purple cloth, colored clothing, leather, latex... pot, food inside pot, plain background. 샘플링 Euler

, solo, 1.3::cyborg assassin::, emotionless, pale skin, long straight purple hair, high collar, black latex bodysuit, torn clothes, metal corset, bare shoulders, 1.5::bladed cybernetic legs, bladed legs::, 1.4::dieselpunk prosthetics::, rusty joints, exhaust pipes, holding metal wires, sitting, razor floss, 1.2::blood on wires::, perched on gargoyle, rainy night, steampunk city background

... violent explosion of stone and purple light, sending shards of rock... throbbed with a deep, eerie purple light, like a second heart... walls trembled. Cracks spread. The purple glow seeped through the stone .... Distant. But there in the background. Cy pointed at it immediately. "...

The logo on the purple background still annoys me. Make a special use case for a white logo and place it on the black backdrop. Would look so much cleaner/premier.

... mic to help filter out background noise. The hardware itself has... colors: black, white, gold, and purple. As for durability, an IP57 ...

Vector Illustration #13 Cosmic Cheers: Purple Fluid A clean layout featuring ... centered on a uniform light purple background. The top half is completely...

... pink, snow-white, light blue, pale purple, and other vivid hues that... and static-laced explosions in the background. "We lost communication with their ...

... glamorous pink, purple, blue, and cyan concert lighting, LED stage background, and... placement, face too small, cluttered background, random extra text 제미...

... an interesting coincidence today. The background image used in Dynadot’s website ... feature a very distinct neon-pink/purple cosmic vortex with a silhouette... design, I have a strong background in marketing, brand promotion, and...

... kW inverter, so with a background load of 500 W, and.... Grid import is highlighted in purple, positive values. impact of solar ...

... long enough to become a background feature. There was nothing interesting... a feline head and faintly purple skin. Three-fingered hands and digitigrade... feet, a corded purple tail, and a tube connecting...

... long enough to become a background feature. There was nothing interesting... a feline head and faintly purple skin. Three-fingered hands and digitigrade... feet, a corded purple tail, and a tube connecting...

... lit the night. Two immense purple eyes gazed down upon Mara... made everything other than the purple eyes in the sky seem... followed the southern pole of purple light down into herself, lulled ... distant-ancestor shieldmaidens crying in the background. Anja's red hair was a ...

... glamorous green, purple, blue, and cyan concert lighting, LED stage background, and... placement, tace too small, cluttered background, random extra text

... were programs running in the background, a constant rush of information, ... spam account email in the background, not letting it show up ..., waiting. A set of dark purple robes hung there, the material ...

... with white flowers in the background, all of which continued on ...; the color was dark red purple and the nose offered intense ... color was a youthful red purple and the nose was first ...

... playing old songs in the background. It felt good to sit, ... beautiful, deep orange fading into purple and then dark blue. Damn! ...

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EP8 LEAKS Take it with a grain of salt. It doesn’t sounds as bad as the previous episodes. The guy who posted them deleted the video and then deleted the account lol. EPISODE 8: “Supposed leaks from a member of the VFX team working on The Boys Season 5 finale. Take this with a grain of salt obviously, but the guy apparently worked on several environment destruction shots + White House sequences”. According to him, Episode 8 is basically where the budget went The episode starts with The Boys grieving Frenchie’s death (scene from the trailer) and trying to come up with a final plan to stop Homelander once and for all. They also have a backup plan in case Soldier Boy shows up, because they still think he’s unfrozen and will probably side with Homelander now. Then there’s apparently a massive press conference at the White House where Homelander and Ashley publicly announce that he’s basically the new “god” of America on live national television. Homelander says that Starlighters and all “unfaithful” people will be purged and only true believers deserve to remain in the country. The reporters are obviously horrified and shocked. Homelander starts listening to their heartbeats and realizes none of them actually believe what he’s saying. This is supposedly where he completely snaps for the first time in the episode. The leaker said this is apparently the scene Anthony Starr and the cast were talking about when they said Homelander does “the worst thing he’s ever done.” As they foreshadowed when angel stilwell showed up. Homelander massacres everyone in the room live on TV. According to the leak, he skins people alive and even kills a pregnant reporter in an extremely graphic way (ripping babies out of their moms womb) After that, even a lot of Homelander supporters become terrified of him instead of worshipping him. Some civilians try standing up to him but get lasered instantly, similar to the scene he imagined back in Season 2. The U.S. military gets involved and tries to stop him, but this is apparently one of the biggest VFX sequences in the entire show. The leaker said “a huge part of the season’s budget” went into these scenes because Homelander basically destroys everything they throw at him. While all this is happening, The Boys are hiding in a warehouse testing Kimiko’s new powers. they successfully replicated soldier boys powers but just kinda weaker. Ryan is apparently hiding in New Zealand at this point. He sees everything happening in America through social media and decides to fly back to the US to help stop Homelander. Homelander then goes to NYC and starts causing complete chaos. He also purges Vought Tower. Meanwhile Stan Edgar manages to escape custody by manipulating the guards. Starlight goes to the Gen V kids and brings them with her for the final battle. There’s also supposedly a scene where Homelander gathers loyal supes at the White House and orders them to help “purge” America from non-believers. Some stronger supers like the purple laser guy from gen v and some weaker and stupid ones with shit powers. One detail the leaker mentioned is that Oh Father becomes genuinely horrified by Homelander’s actions because nobody will support the church anymore if he keeps openly massacring civilians. He tells Homelander this will destroy their profits and influence. Homelander asks him if he’s loyal or if he’s going to betray him like everyone else. Before he can answer properly, Homelander rips him in half. Ashley witnesses this and runs away because she realizes she’s probably next. Homelander later goes to The Boys HQ looking for them, but only Terror is there. Terror apparently pisses on Homelander’s boots, reminding him of Butcher, so Homelander lasers the dog in half. The Boys eventually return to the HQ to grab the virus before heading to Washington and find Terror dead. According to the leak, this completely breaks Butcher mentally and he goes full berserk mode, deciding he wants every supe dead no matter what after “softening a bit” in early episodes. The leaker specifically mentioned the scene is “both disgusting and genuinely sad” and that viewers will apparently “feel Butcher’s rage through the screen.” Ryan arrives shortly after, sees what happened to Terror, and fully sides with The Boys. The Boys, Ryan, and the Gen V characters eventually make their way into the White House while fighting through Homelander loyalist supes. Hughie carries the virus. Everyone saw the video of what the deep did and they turn on their backs on him. Starlight kills the deep. The final fight happens inside the Oval Office. According to the leak, Ryan, Butcher, Starlight, Marie, Kimiko, and the others all fight Homelander together, but he’s powered up by V1 and he overpowers all of them. Eventually Marie uses her blood powers together with Butcher’s tentacles while Ryan restrains one arm and Starlight blinds him long enough for Hughie to infect him with the virus. The virus weakens Homelander temporarily, similar to what happened with Soldier Boy earlier in the series. Kimiko then charges up and releases a massive blast that hits everyone inside the Oval Office. After the explosion, Homelander is supposedly depowered and terrified for the first time in the show. Almost everyone is unconscious except Butcher and Homelander. Homelander cries. The leak says the final fight is literally just the two of them beating each other as normal humans. Butcher eventually overpowers and whoops him and kills Homelander with a crowbar. After everyone wakes up, Ryan and Marie are apparently the only supes left with powers. More supes arrive at the Oval Office after Homelander dies, but Ryan lasers them before they can attack. (Redacted) The ending montage is apparently quieter and more emotional. Butcher escapes and lives alone peacefully in Hawaii. The Boys visit him sometimes, and Ryan occasionally visits too. Hughie and Starlight move to Mexico. MM reunites with his family. Vought completely collapses and Vought Tower is destroyed, but Stan Edgar still has enough connections to quietly rebuild influence in the background. Ashley finally leaves everything behind and escapes to France, which apparently references what A-Train told her back in Season 4. Kimiko and Ryan become closer after everything that happened. And apparently there is a post credits scene with soldier boy but he doesn’t have enough info about it submitted by /u/Goodsamaritan8900 to r/LeaksAndRumors [link] [comments]

On Friday, April 24, Swift’s company filed three trademark applications. Two relate to sound trademarks covering her voice: one is “Hey, it’s Taylor Swift,” and the other is “Hey, it’s Taylor.” The third trademark is a visual trademark covering “a photograph of Taylor Swift holding a pink guitar, with a black strap and wearing a multi-colored iridescent bodysuit with silver boots. She is standing on a pink stage in front of a multi-colored microphone with purple lights in the background.” The filings, made on behalf on Swift’s TAS Rights Management, were spotted by intellectual-property attorney Josh Gerben of Gerben IP. According to Gerben, her trademark applications reflect growing concern in the entertainment community about potential danger of AI to steal artists’ ability to control their voice and likeness without their consent. submitted by /u/cmaia1503 to r/Fauxmoi [link] [comments]

I think this is the Tail of Hell but I cant prove it and Jockington is involved in some way. submitted by /u/Connect-Ad4659 to r/Deltarune [link] [comments]

I am not the OOP. The OOP is u/Training_Wind1789 posting in r/AITAH Concluded as per OOP 1 update - Medium Original - 25th February 2026 Update - 27th February 2026 ​ AITAH for refusing to watch my daughter when we meet my husbands friend? ​ I created this account to post here as my husband knows my user. Sorry if the title doesn’t make any sense. So, to start this of, I (26f) and my husband (27m) have a toddler (2f). I don’t know how everyone else has it, but our toddler creates so much chaos wherever she is. She is so curious, she explored everything all the time, loves to rearrange stuff and she runs wherever she needs to go. Basically, she is like what I’ve seen most two year olds be like. At home, it’s fine. Of course I try to keep her in check. But we have of course childproofed our entire home. The problem here is that one of my husbands friend and his girlfriend live just five minutes away from us. My husband and I get invited there almost every weekend, whether it’s for food or just coffee. They are lovely people, but their house is filled with stuff, it’s messy and overall the opposite of our home. No problem, they don’t have children and they like to have stuff around. The problem is that every weekend, I spend three hours running after her, comforting her when she trips, making sure she doesn’t break stuff or put things in her mouth. It’s honestly tiring, and the fact that my husband just sits at the table and chat while I run around like crazy for so long irritates me. When we got invited over two weekends ago, I told him I wouldn’t tag along. I explained my reasons and he told me that I was overreacting and that it’s a normal part of parenting. I told him that either way, I wasn’t coming. If he wanted our daughter to tag along, he could bring her. So he did, and he came back after just an hour and was in a bad mood the rest of the day. I asked him how it went and he asked me if I felt happy with myself. This last weekend, we got invited over once again. I asked him if he wanted to look after her himself or do 50/50 with me. He didn’t respond and went there himself. He’s been off with me the whole week, making passive aggressive remarks about my ”insane need to always be right”, and yeah, other stuff. I’m starting to feel like maybe I went overboard, because I know he has a much harder time keeping her in check than I have, and even I have it hard. AITAH for refusing to go there if that means I have to watch her the whole time? Then coming to us isn’t an option, I don’t know why because before his girlfriend moved in he was here just as much as we were at his place, but after she moved in he has declined every invite to come here. Edit/small update? We’ve talked pretty short about it this morning and it turns out he got pretty embarrassed at his friends house. We will probably talk more about it, but yeah he pretty much realized the difference in how much we both put in. Don’t know if I will make an update post, if people want it and if something changes or anything I will probably. If not, thanks for all the comments! I’ve tried to read both the top comments and the ones who got downvoted, and I think both were pretty helpful for what points I will bring up! ​ Comments ​ Armadillo_of_doom "I didn't NEED to be right, I WAS right, and you had just ignored it. Our kid is a lot, and you are perfectly happy dropping the entire responsibility onto my shoulders. So we aren't doing that anymore. Your friends can come here if you want." GlitterDoomsday Right? Way to deflect... you learn a lot about a person by how they react to being wrong and OPs husband has zero grace and humility. Simply saying "You're right babe, lil one is a tornado" would not kill him but alas. freedone23 I'd be salty too if I realized I'd been coasting while my partner did all the chasing, it is wild how fast that changes your perspective. the_greengrace I know he has a much harder time keeping her in check That's because he hasn't tried. He has no practice. He hasn't developed the skills and instincts you have- because he hasn't tried. He has chosen to "let you" be the default parent. Whether that's inside your hone or just outside of it (I have a guess) that was his choice. Don't let him weaponize his incompetence. This is very that. Stand your ground. Don't let him turn this around on you. Yes, you should be supportive and encourage him to spend more time with your kid, just the two of him. Recognize his efforts (if he makes them) and try to be positive. You know how hard it was for you to learn, some amount of compassion and cheerleading is called for. Unless he continues to act like a child, get defensive, and act like this is at all about your "need to be right." It is absolutely not. It is about your need to be fair...ly treated as a partner. ​ **Judgement - NTA*\* ​ Update - 2 days later ​ Hi everyone who will see this update! I will start this of by saying that I’m very grateful for all the responses my post got, I tried responding to people and read all the comments, but I honestly got overwhelmed with all the attention it got, but still incredibly happy that so many wanted to help/give their opinion! So, for the update, I added this in the edit I made on the original post, but the short answer I got was that he was embarrassed. His friend had made a few comments about how different me and my husband take care of her and how much more my husband struggles with her. I’m sorry if this update makes no sense, we talked about very much later yesterday and we both brought up so many points, so I will share those down here, again I’m sorry. 1, I brought up his lack of understanding for the work I put in to be a good mother, also brought up that he always criticize my parenting but never tries to parent himself. He argued that I had taken the lead in parenting, forcing him to be a background character. This stems from the fact that he wanted to gentle parent to what I saw as an extreme. He wanted us to forbid the usage of the word ”no”, other ways of telling her ”don’t” or discipline in any way. I refused this, I’m not strict or anything, but for gods sake, I need to be able to tell my child to stop doing stuff, especially when that can cause her harm. Still, he felt like I had pushed him out of the way, which I didn’t. He still parents her like that when they are alone, I just refuse to parent her that way. 2, He himself brought up that the way he has behaved during these last weeks was not appropriate and he told me he was very sorry for that. He told me he had thought it all over, but he also still felt like I played a big part in how he has felt and acted. 3, I brought up how whenever we go somewhere, our daughter becomes my sole responsibility and he just gives up on being a parent. To this point, I also brought up that before we had our daughter, he hated the idea of becoming the kind off dad he saw his family members be when he was little, but he had turned out to be just like that. He denied that and told me that he wasn’t like that, because when our daughter shows him things or talks to him, he interacts with her when we are out. I told him that is the bare minimum. He disagreed and wanted me to drop that. 4, He backtracked from what he told me yesterday morning. From going from that he felt embarrassed to that I had gone out of my way to try and embarrass him on purpose apparently. This is not true and I explained my reasons to him. He still felt like I had refused to come with him just to make him look like a bad father infront of his friend. We talked so much more, but I feel like that was the most important stuff. So in conclusion, he still feels like I am wrong, he is right. I can’t say anything to change his mind, he refuses marriage counseling or to take action to any of my points... I don’t really know what to do from here, I feel disappointed and frustrated with the whole situation. This will probably be the only update I make to this because I don’t think this situation will improve in any way unfortunately. Thanks again to all of you, even if the situation didn’t improve I still feel a whole lot more confident in myself and where I stand. ​ Comments ​ BulbasaurRanch “He still felt like I had refused to come with him just to make him look like a bad father infront of his friend.” He had the opportunity to showcase he is a fit father. If he’s embarrassed, that’s because he was embarrassing. His friend thinks he’s a bad father, because, well he very well might be. That’s on him, and only him. Larry-Man He made himself look like a bad father because he is. PurplePufferPea I LOVE that his reason for not being a present parent is because OP wouldn't sign on to his plan of never saying "NO" to the child. So basically, his idea of parenting was NOT parenting in the first place... ​ I am not the OOP. Please do not harass the OOP. Please remember the No Brigading Rule and to be civil in the comments submitted by /u/SharkEva to r/BORUpdates [link] [comments]

UUI's plat could always be a God Ki hint submitted by /u/JohnDragonball to r/DragonballLegends [link] [comments]

My favourite is probably Rarity. If there wasn't already a purple pony in the mane cast, I'd have loved for this to be her canon design. My least favourite is either Spike or Fluttershy. For spike, the purple horns clash with the rest of his colours, and Fluttershy looks so much more basic, like the many pink-and-yellow background ponies What do you think? submitted by /u/Diligent_Campaign449 to r/mylittlepony [link] [comments]

Hey everyone. I tried to do an update on my post but I don’t know how to do that so I’ll just tag this in my post for those who are interested. I wanted to clear up a few questions that I have seen in the comments; I’ve tried to read them all but more and more keep popping up and I haven’t had the time to keep up. First off, multiple people asked me who has passed away. My adopted mother’s parents both passed away about 4 years ago when my son was 1 year old. Second, my son is 5 years old, my daughter is 6 months. Third, the aunt that my family is NC with is not my uncles wife. She is his and my mom’s adopted sister. She did some crazy things at the funeral and tried to contest the will to get a bigger share of the accents and was very mad when she lost in court and is still trying to threaten legal action even tho there is nothing left to dispute. (Lmk if y’all what this tea bc it’s HOT haha.) Fourth, I will not be posting a picture of my body in the dress. Multiple people have asked to see me in it to “get an idea” but I really don’t feel comfortable with that. Even if I blur out my background and face, I do not want to read gross/rude comments about what my body or be body shamed again. Multiple said they didn’t think I looked good because I am so short, but I did wear heels and with that, it made me about 5’4. The dress did touch the ground, I got a medium. And yes my cousin also wore heels so she was still taller than me. And for the people who are going to say, “yOu WoRe HeeLS aFtEr HaViNg a BaBy?” Yes I did, I have wore heels for many years and even throughout my pregnancy so it was really no big deal. Fifth, I don’t know why people are so concerned about my hair color. I only added that in for the vision with the dress. I have naturally plain brown hair. I have been getting a blonde balayage since I was 15 and only this last month have I put purple in it for Halloween coming up. Multiple people are saying that it’s fake, but it’s hair dye… I can dye my hair any color.. Sixth, people have been asking why do I even post this if I’m just going to go NC with her anyways. I just wanted to advise on how to move forward. I only have 1 uncle and aunt on my mom’s side that we talk to. This is her only blood family and if I do go Nc with my cousin it would make things very awkward for my mom and she doesn’t deserve that. She adopted my brother and I when we were little and has been an excellent mom to us. And I can’t expect my uncle to uninvited one of his daughters from holidays because her and I aren’t talking. Seventh, there was nothing at all said about not wearing “red”. The burgundy color was approved on her color list on the invitation link and other people wore that color too. No one had said anything about this color being off limits or having some alternate meaning. I just followed the instructions. Eighth, people also have a problem with the way I described myself saying I must be a man. I am not lol. But I can see why that has come up a few times, I was detailed with our body description but not enough with actual sizes. I did that on purpose but I already posted in one of the comments that I am currently a 40 DD. My bio dad’s family carries this gene and every woman in his family is under 5‘3 with a larger chest and butt. That’s just how we are built. But keep in mind I’m also breast feeding, so when I’m not I’m usually a 34 DD to a 36DD just depending on the brand of bra and where I go. If I go to VS, I size up. If I go to Walmart I size down. And the dress I chose was specifically chosen so I could just side one side down to have easier access to feed my daughter. I wore a strapless bra with my milk pad inserts and another strapless bra over it to try and make the circle rings less noticeable. Some of you have had great ideas on what to post on Facebook to be petty about it. I had a few good laughs at those. I honestly don’t even know why she mentioned Facebook since I’m not friends with any of her extended family on there. The only people who would even see my post would be her, her parents, along with my dads and husband’s side of the family. I don’t know how I’m supposed to “clear” anything up since I’m not friends with anyone else on there that attended her wedding. She might have tried to share it to her page or something, but I’ve decided that’s not happening. Ok so on to the update: it’s been almost a week since the wedding and 2 days since my post. Not much has happened but I do have some screen shots from her messages. I have not replied back to my cousin. I did in the beginning but just stopped replying and currently blocked her. This whole thing was very strange. I feel bad for my mom because she is stuck in the middle of this. I have told her that I will not be attending any more family functions if my cousin is going to be there and that I was very sorry but didn’t want my kids to be around her. My mom understood but is still upset that my holidays will now be spent with my dad’s side of the family or my husband’s. They rarely got to see her brother since he lived so far away and holidays were the only time she got to really see him. I have told her she can go without me and we can still do a make up holiday the day before or after at my grandparents house on my dad’s side and she seems to have accepted this. submitted by /u/just-curiou1 to r/CharlotteDobreYouTube [link] [comments]

https://preview.redd.it/z4v58no725sf1.jpg?width=1178&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=26a351e353accde3761adae94945ddefc5ef75d1 What is Pokémon Heart & Soul?​ Pokémon Heart & Soul brings the classic Johto Region and its iconic story to the world of modern GBA decomp hacking. Built on the Modern Emerald decomp, this project offers a fresh take on the GSC/HGSS experience, blending key aspects of the Gen 2 and Gen 4 games, while incorporating many modern QoL features, as well as some familiar Gen 3 mechanics. Not only is Heart & Soul (HnS) a first-of-its-kind, fully completed, playtested, and largely faithful GSC remake / HGSS demake, it's also completely open source, and is intended to be a base for a new generation of Johto rom hacks. - https://preview.redd.it/17oyvtozekrf1.png?width=720&format=png&auto=webp&s=ee48b044faceb64e7b4e10d2881f9b0ae88fc665 https://preview.redd.it/jk458tk0fkrf1.png?width=3600&format=png&auto=webp&s=2ce8dd8ab97295e2e8c40c21df5538f64c5f6f94 Developer's Note: ​ Development for this project was primarily (95%) a solo-effort that consumed almost all of my free time for the last year. I am not a professional programmer or artist, but I did my best to make the game that I wanted to play. If you'd like to improve, expand upon, or make your own version of HnS, feel free to take advantage of the open source! Please direct any questions to the (Heart & Soul Discord). Also, the github link in the downloads section of this post is the ONLY place you will EVER find an official download of this project, and our devs do NOT accept donations. I hope you enjoy! About the game: ​ Features Generation 1-3 Pokémon, plus their later gen evolutions (excluding the Regis and Jirachi) Full Johto story and Kanto postgame from HGSS, including the Kimono Girls and Eusine Following Pokémon Overworld background Pokémon allow you to easily see the notable encounters on each route Overworld background Pokémon in cities, towns, or areas with no encounters are just for the vibes Day/Night System with variable encounters Dynamic overworld palettes HGSS Music Highly varied trainer teams and encounters, based on Crystal Legacy HMs do not need to be taught to a Pokémon in order for it to be used Apricons replaced with berries, Kurt will use them to make unique Pokéballs Timekeeping does not track days of the week, Everything is progression based 16 Gym leader rematches Two Safari Zones Unique surfing Pokémon sprites Customizable shiny rate Physical/special split is toggleable Fairy type is toggleable AutoRun and FastSurf are toggleable Quick run from wild battles using button combination Ball prompts for quick catching ... and much more! https://i.redd.it/u567h3l4fkrf1.gif https://i.redd.it/yqx2zc15fkrf1.gif Setting Expectations Heart & Soul was designed as a traditional Pokémon experience, akin to the main-series games. It is not a difficulty hack, and does not have built-in features for non-traditional playstyles. Do not expect to see features like infinite rare candies, or built-in randomization or nuzlocking rules. Heart & Soul stands on the shoulders of giants. I am not an artist, so much of the art and some of the code for this project was drawn from open source assets. I did my best to credit all sources below and in the game credits, but if you find any that I missed, please let me know in the Heart & Soul Discord. Heart & Soul has been rigorously playtested, (shoutout to the playtesters) but there still may be some small bugs. If you find any, please report them to the Heart & Soul Discord. There are a few GSC/HGSS features that were too complex or time consuming for me to implement in this project. See differences section below. Differences from GSC/HGSS Radio is a standalone Key Item with limited functionality instead of a menu in the Pokégear Trainers will not offer their phone numbers, no way to rematch them Greatly improved level curve Apricorns replaced with berries, berry ball catch boost is based on Type Strength boulder-in-hole puzzles replaced with Emerald Mach Bike puzzles No itemfinder and no hidden items - Only 50 TMs (The ones from emerald) Swarms are replaced with a 5% Hoenn encounter on each route in Kanto Mom does not take your money No unique Kanto battle music trainers or gym leaders, only Johto Ruins of alph back room requirements are slightly altered No pokéathalon dome No battle frontier Yes battle tower (ported straight from emerald, and not extensively tested so be careful) No trades in Kanto - https://preview.redd.it/dc1iwxzbfkrf1.png?width=3600&format=png&auto=webp&s=84aaee6d4a4857a10ccc3978353bdf744c1ac5b9 https://preview.redd.it/3maqiyzbfkrf1.png?width=720&format=png&auto=webp&s=36b1b4b5269edb49c0328d7f1c16d92a934d6c1a How to Play:​ Download Download the .ups patch file in the (Releases) Section. pokemonHnS_v1.0.ups (to be patched onto a Pokemon - Emerald Version (U) ROM) Patching your ROM Use (Rom Patcher JS) to patch the files. You will need to provide your own legally obtained copy of Pokemon - Emerald Version (U).gba Upload the Pokemon - Emerald Version (U).gba file to the "ROM file" section Upload the HnS patch file to the "Patch file" section Look for a green checkmark and hit apply patch. This will automatically download your new Heart & Soul.gba ROM for you to play! Recommended Emulators (MyBoy IS OUTDATED AND WILL NOT WORK) For PC/Mac: mGBA For Android: pizzaboy, Lemuroid, Retroarch w/ mGBA core. For IOS: Delta, Retroarch w/ mGBA core, Ignited. For Linux Handheld Devices: Retroarch w/ mGBA core. Support Documentation For further assistance, join the Heart & Soul Discord! Future Plans I plan to take a step back from this project once the initial wave of inevitable post-release bugs are fixed. Over the course of the playtest, the dev team has grown from 1 to 6, and an effort to port the whole project to pokeemerald expansion is underway. Credits:​ Lead Developer / Game Director Lil Dill Developers TixoRebel, InfiniteBacon42, Exclsior, Phantonomy, DaniRainbow Playtesters MearaTheDigger, Kingofrocks, Ferropexola, Scarred-Healer13, ShigyNinja, Liquid Justice, aktatertot, Faintful, piobrando, Shortino, Chronotakular, NoVa x CerberuS, Czarwardy, TeggyDave, HenryChess, Inner Rhymes, Astralaria, GPie, BillyNaing, Penkachu, Emma M, Casper, Marzi, leob0505, Sayu, RavePossum, Brick, KinoKuma, BlackBelt Jiraiya Open Source Assets Used: Engine & Codebase pokeemerald - pret, Modern Emerald — Resetes12, pokeemerald-expansion Art — Sprites Crystal Dust — Sierraffinity, AveonTrainer, PurpleZaffre, BatimaTheBat Art — Tilesets Crystal Advance — Kertra, Ekat99, TheDeadHeroAlistair, Johto Redrawn Team Maps / Map References Crystal Advance — Kertra, Fire Gold — blackfragrant, SkidMarc25 Gameplay Crystal Legacy — TSP (TheSmithPlays) Special Systems / Visuals Surfing Pokémon overworlds - slawter666, wally-217 submitted by /u/Desperate-Low784 to r/PokemonROMhacks [link] [comments]

I am NOT OOP. OOP is u/ThrowRANoRespectWife Originally posted to r/AITAH AITAH for asking my wife to choose our family over hers? Trigger Warnings: emotional abuse and manipulation, job loss, mentions of abuse, body injury, seizures, fears of infidelity, mentions infidelity AITAH for asking my wife to choose our family over hers?: August 29, 2025 AITAH for asking my wife to choose our family over hers? I posted on here a bit ago about a situation when I sort of forced my way into a zoo trip my wife had planned with the kids, my parents, and my in-laws (see my previous post.)A lot of people thought I was the AH for doing that, even though that wasn’t the point of the post. But now, I’ve found myself in a similar situation and tried doing the opposite and it doesn’t seem to be working out any better. So, my wife has already told me that I am the AH in this situation, even if she didn’t use those exact words. And I know nothing Reddit has to say about it would change her mind (especially since I won’t/can’t tell her that I’m even posting about it) but I’m starting to question my own judgement a bit here, so maybe you all can set me straight. My wife and I are in the middle of a really rough patch in our marriage. We separated for six months and even when we ended the separation, the issues that caused it weren’t fixed. Long story short: I lost my job when she was pregnant, she asked me to move out, when I moved back in I was sleeping in the basement for quite a while, she’s refused any sort of physical contact, and we’ve just started marriage counseling (second session was last night.) And in MC, I’ve come to learn that her family more or less hates me. Or, at the very least, doesn’t trust me. Like not at all. During our MC session last night, our therapist said that it was important for us to start spending more time together, both as a family (two kids) and as a couple. My wife was resistant to the idea of ‘date nights’ so the counselor reframed it as ‘exposure therapy’. Basically, she said that neither of us will ever get past the barriers that have built up in our relationship if we continue to essentially live separate lives. My wife seemed to understand that and was fairly receptive to the idea, at least while we were in the counselor’s office. Which brings us to this weekend. In America, it’s a holiday weekend and our family has a long-standing tradition of spending the three-day weekend at my in-law’s camp on a lake. My SIL and her family come and most of my wife’s extended family pops in at least for an afternoon/evening or two, even if they don’t spend the night. Some of her and my SIL’s friends from high school usually drop by for a catch up, too and I know my wife has been trying to reconnect with friends in an effort to find an identity outside of just being a mom and a wife. But, given our current marital strife, the knowledge that my MIL has actively and repeatedly tried to convince my wife that we should not be together (which I’ve known about for barely a week), my new and growing worry that my mistakes are now a black cloud hanging over my relationships with all of my wife’s family and friends, and that due to space constraints, we’d not only have to share a room but also a bed, it seemed to me like heading to camp should be a no-go. My wife didn’t agree. In fact, fifteen minutes after we got home from our MC session last night, she started packing up for the weekend. But she was only packing for her and the kids. She didn’t come right out and say it, but it was pretty obvious (even to usually oblivious me) that the plan was for my family to go to the lake without me even though we’d just been told a little more than an hour before that we needed to spend time together. I tried pointing that out in as calm and as non-confrontational a way as I could, using the ‘I feel’ statements that our therapist suggested. I said to my wife: “I feel like this weekend is a really good opportunity for us to spend time together as a family and I really feel like if three-fourths of us go to camp, that isn’t just living separate lives but making a point of living separate lives.” At first, she thought I was trying to be included in the trip and go with her and the kids, much like I forced my way into the zoo trip. I quickly explained that no, that was one hundred percent not what I wanted (without even mentioning that being around my MIL for an entire weekend would have required my entire bottle of Xanax) and what I was hoping for was that she and the kids could stay home with me. There’s a whole bunch of picnic and BBQ and block party events going on in and around our neighborhood and I thought we could go to some of those and spend time as a family. In my head, starting off by doing something as a whole family instead of just as a couple would build in a buffer for her, would give me a chance to show that I can be a real partner in parenting, and would let her see me in what I know is my best light: as a dad. That was what I thought in my head but, apparently, my head and my wife’s head were not on the same page as she said no to that idea by saying: “I want to spend the weekend with my family.” One thing our therapist stressed repeatedly was that to have any chance at productive conversations, we both need to avoid any kind of escalation in our communication, which was probably because things escalated more than once during our latest session. So, I took a deep breath and did not point out that spending the weekend with me and the kids would be spending it with her family. And despite what many many many Redditors have said I should do, I didn’t lay out any ultimatums or ask her to cut back on contact with her family or suggest that she was planning some kind of lakeside hookup with some guy my MIL might better approve of. But this is when I might have been the AH (or definitely was, according to my wife). I tried sticking to the ‘I feel’ idea and told her that I felt like if she took the kids and went to camp without me, especially if she went less than a day after our counselor said we needed more time together, that she was making a choice and that choice was clearly not us. So, in her mind, for all intents and purposes: I gave her an ultimatum. Do you think she took that well and we were able to have a calm and productive and healthy conversation about it and maybe even come to some sort of compromise? Do you think I’d be posting this at almost midnight on the Friday of a holiday weekend because my blood pressure is through the roof and I can’t sleep if she did? She told me, in no uncertain terms, that I was an AH for laying that all on her, reminded me that it was my choices that got us here in the first place, stopped packing, and after making sure both kids were asleep, she went into our bedroom (which has been only her bedroom for the last year), shut the door and locked it. And now I have no idea if I’m going to wake up to my wife and kids waiting to hang out with me and spend the next three days together or if they’ll be on the road to camp before the sun is even up. I do know that she thinks I am absolutely the AH. And I kinda think she might be right. AITAH for telling my wife she was choosing her family over her family with me and the kids? AITAH has no consensus bot, OOP was NTA Relevant Comments OOP responds to a comment on his wife not understanding that her kids are also his as well. She shouldn't be separating her kids from their dad. OOP: I'll admit it - I was thinking a lot of this on Friday night after I posted. Spent most of the night getting increasingly pissed off which was sort of the opposite of what the counselor said I should be doing. I was ready for a fight. And then my wife actually came to me and offered a compromise and while I was still a bit angry, I did my best to see it as an olive branch and chose to take it instead of breaking it. We'll see where things go from here. Commenter: I’m very curious how much you helped with parenting, home maintenance and financial support to the kids during the separation. And why you haven’t agreed to your wife cutting back her hours like she desperately needs to? OOP: Until I got an actual job and not just PT work to keep some money coming in, she was the primary financial support. But when I got my current job, I was able to get back to contributing what I had before and, eventually, even more than I had. The entire time I wasn't living at home, every penny I made that I didn't have to spend on food or gas was put directly into our joint account and available for her to use for the house and the kids. I parented as much as possible, including picking my son up in the mornings and evenings. I took him to doctor's appointments and went to every baby-related appointment with my wife. I don't think she wanted me at all of them at first, but she's since told me that it reassured her that no matter the outcome for our marriage, I would still be fully present as a father. And not to be defensive or an AH, but I have to ask: why do you think she desperately needs to cut back her hours? But I'm the one working three jobs and cutting back on her hours would make that more of a permanent thing, rather than a get us back on stable ground thing. Just wondering why you think that's a desperate need.   Update #1: September 5, 2025 (one week later) Update: AITAH for asking my wife to choose our family over hers? I got a comment yesterday wondering if my silence was a positive or negative sign (it was a sign of a crazy week at work) so I thought I should take the chance to post an update today since I have a bit of time. You can see the specific incident I’m updating in my previous post and there’s a bunch of posts on my history from the sub I originally started posting on, if you want more background/context or reasons to question whether I have a spine. I mentioned in a comment reply to my last post that my wife actually woke me up early the morning after I had basically given her an ultimatum to choose between our family and her family. She wanted to talk before she and the kids left for my in-law’s camp. TBH, I was expecting it to be the ‘I’m not coming back’ or ‘we should get lawyers’ talk, but it wasn’t. To my surprise, my wife (I called her ‘Carrie’ on the other sub, so I will do so here, too) actually apologized. She said the comment about wanting to spend the weekend with “her family” had been out of line and intended to hurt me. She was pissed, annoyed at me because she knew I was kinda right about what I was saying, and she lashed out. It’s not the first time that’s happened so her explanation didn’t shock me that much. But she also said that she understood where I was coming from. If we want to fix things - and we’ve both said we do - then lashing out like that needs to stop and we do need to spend time together as a family. And she completely got why choosing to spend the entire weekend with her family, whose dislike for me had just become public knowledge, instead of being with me might have been upsetting for me. For a moment, I thought she was going to invite me to camp with her and I’m not gonna lie, I was panicking. I was worried that right after I’d more or less demanded she spend time with me, I was going to have to refuse an invitation to do exactly that. But there was no chance I was going to willingly spend three days with my MIL or SIL, particularly not after our last counseling session. Carrie didn’t invite me. Instead, she offered a compromise: she and the kids would go to camp Saturday and stay until midday Sunday, then come home and spend the rest of the weekend with me. There were some family members of hers who live out in California who would be there on Saturday and she doesn’t get to see them very often, so… That actually felt really fair to me and like Carrie was putting in an honest effort to try and meet me halfway, so I agreed. They left for camp that morning and came back on Sunday, as planned, and we had a really nice day and a half together. There was a block party kind of thing on Monday and we took the kids to that and I made sure to handle baby duty with our daughter as much as possible, to give Carrie a break. She seemed pretty appreciative of that and got to spend some time with a few of our neighbors that she’s struck up friendships with and introduced me to some of them who I hadn’t met yet. It was… nice. It felt normal, I guess. But as the day wore on and it got to be time to head back home, I started getting anxious. The kids were wiped and would clearly be heading straight to bed, which would leave me and Carrie alone for more than the hour or so we’d had on Sunday night. If we followed the counselor’s advice, we should spend that time together. I was under no illusion that spending time was going to result in any sort of spousal relations or anything like that, but there would have to be talking and I was concerned about what topic of conversation wouldn’t lead us to some sort of trouble. And it felt like maybe I was right when the first thing Carrie said was that she wanted to talk about the possibility of her having those “girls’ nights” with her mom and sister. We’d essentially punted on that topic during our last counseling session. Other things had come up that had escalated tensions and the therapist said we probably weren’t in the best place to make a good decision about any of it at that moment. But since she’d spent a day and a half with my MIL and SIL, I guess I shouldn’t have been surprised it came back up. I was surprised that she offered another compromise: she didn’t have to cut her work hours down to part-time, she’d just have to adjust hours on other days so she could leave early on the girls’ nights days and come in late the following day. Apparently, she’d already cleared that with work and could start doing it whenever she wanted, even as soon as this week. She hadn’t been at work since our last session so it was obvious that she’d gotten all this “clearance” before we had even talked about it with the therapist. On the one hand, I could see how it was a compromise and seemed pretty fair, which was good. On the other hand, I felt sort of misled (not sure that’s the right word.) Like she had made the compromise about the weekend to soften me up for the possibility of agreeing to girls’ nights. I’ll say that that might be me being paranoid or overly suspicious and that’s probably a direct result of how many “she’s planning to cheat or already is” comments I’ve gotten here. But just because you’re paranoid, that doesn’t mean they’re not out to get you, right? I did my best to ignore the paranoia but also get to what was starting to worry me. I asked her flat out why having a weekly girls’ night with her mom and sister (something she’d never done before) was so important to her now, especially since both MIL and SIL are very actively against our marriage. I said I didn’t want to cut her off from them or prevent her from having some fun and an escape, but the idea of her spending an entire night out drinking and in situations where there’s a pretty high likelihood of venting/complaining about relationships with two people who might be inclined to encourage her worst instincts when it came to our relationship made me really anxious. I didn’t suggest that she might be using it as an opportunity to cheat; I didn’t even let on that the thought that she might find someone else had crossed my mind (or the minds of a lot of anonymous Redditors.) I stayed as far away from any of that as possible and tried to keep the conversation focused on my worries about her spending that much time with my MIL and SIL. Carrie said she understood. She said that was a reasonable concern, especially given all that she’d shared in our sessions about her mom’s feelings toward me. And she said that, normally, she’d probably give in and stay home and spend that time with me and the kids. But, she said: “My sister needs me, right now. Her husband left her.” Apparently, BIL left SIL the day after the family’s annual 4th of July party (my in-laws have way too many holiday get togethers) and my SIL is not taking it well. And when SIL doesn’t take something well, my MIL takes it worse and since BIL was the golden boy, the perfect son-in-law, the one I was always unfavorably compared to, there’s a lot of upset and anger and sadness and Carrie feels like she needs to spend time with her family to support her sister. She wants to help SIL navigate suddenly being a single parent and help her figure out if she can find a way to reconcile with BIL, and basically act like SIL’s conscience and keep her from making any bad choices while there’s still the possibility of saving her marriage. Bad choices like hooking up with some random dude at a bar during one of their girls’ nights. Which, as I found out last night in counseling, is exactly the reason BIL left her. She cheated on him. So, my wife is asking me to be OK with her spending nights out with her mother (who hates me) and her sister (who’s a cheater and hates me) and not feel any kind of way about all that. And even if I do, it doesn’t really matter as SIL needs her and Carrie’s already made it “all good” with work and in doing that she was “compromising” on what she really wanted and had asked for and that’s a good thing and a sign of progress for our own reconciliation and both Carrie and our therapist think if I can just see it in those terms, I’ll realize that there’s nothing to be worried or upset about. Which is how I got here. Writing an update to Reddit while my daughter is napping in her crib next to me and my wife is on her way to her mother’s house for girls’ night which got moved to Friday night thanks to the holiday, so she doesn’t even have to worry about work tomorrow. And I am just fine with that. Really. I’m totally, one hundred percent fine with it. I even told Carrie that on her way out the door. Go ahead, Reddit. Tell me I’m an idiot. An idiot trying to cling to any small steps in the right direction for his family, but still an idiot. I may update later on the other sub about the last two MC sessions because they were both a lot but this post was already a freaking novel. And I’m still processing everything I’ve heard from Carrie and the therapist. I’m slow when it comes to stuff like that. Let me know if anyone cares to hear about it, after you get done yelling at me in the comments. tl;dr: Wife and I compromised over holiday weekend plans. We spent time together as a family and it was good. She still wants girls' nights because her sister's husband just left her after she cheated on him during a night out. Relevant Comments OOP responds to a comment regarding his family background making him like he's the second best. And likely that his wife and her family is doing the same to him OOP: So, I spent most of the weekend offline trying to be present with my kids and my wife when she got back home. But I was also processing this comment. And I'll be honest: I didn't want to hear what you were saying and I didn't want to think about any of it potentially being true. And I really didn't want to consider the idea that the person who thinks the least of me is actually me. I might not have wanted to do all that or think about all that, but I did. It kind of ate at me and I did a much better job of hiding that than I did hiding my feelings at the job I lost (so, I've learned something) but when I was alone at night, I really couldn't hide it. I have no idea what I'm going to do next or what I want to do, but I do understand that what I've been doing is not sustainable or healthy. I have an appointment with my old individual therapist this week. I texted her last night, hoping for a response today but she replied almost immediately, She's squeezing me in for an emergency session. I got the feeling from what she said that she might have been expecting this to happen sooner or later. So, even though I didn't want to hear it and it hurt a lot, thank you for the comment. It gave me a push I didn't want to admit that I needed. Commenter: Man, when you have been starved for so long, even the tiniest crumbs feel like a feast. That's all this is. OOP: You have no idea. My son gave me a hug yesterday and then dragged my wife into it and it was the first physical contact in forever. Between that and her compromising on the weekend, I felt like it was an emotional Thanksgiving buffet.   Update #2: September 11, 2025 (six days later) Update 2: AITAH for asking my wife to choose between her family and ours Previous posts in my history. Can't get linking to work on mobile. Not the update I had planned for. I thought I was going to post about the revelations in marriage counseling and more about my own therapy session. And instead, I'm writing this while sitting in an uncomfortable pleather chair in the family lounge of our local children's hospital, where I've been for about the last twenty-four hours. Long story short - my son fell down the stairs in our house. At minimum, he broke his arm. I say at minimum because they've been evaluating him for head trauma and there are questions as to what caused the fall. We have very specific rules for the stairs with him. No socks or footie pj's. Always hold the railing. Go very slowly. And if mom or dad are there and not holding his sister, hold one of their hands. He was good on the first three. We even installed a second railing below the first one, at a more age appropriate height. He had a grip on it. But I was the only one home and was carrying his sister down the stairs, so he didn't take my hand. I don't know what happened, exactly. I've described it like twenty times to the doctors and to my wife. But it's still not entirely clear. He was down three steps and his foot was out to go down one more and then he just stopped. And then dropped. It was about six more steps to the bottom and I chased but couldn't get there and I think it was when he hit the landing that his arm broke. But he didn't even cry out. I called 9-1-1 and then my wife but had to leave her a voicemail and how the fuck do you leave that message without sounding like it's the end of the damn world? I don't even remember what I said. But then the ambulance was there and off we went to the hospital and here we've been since. My wife met us there a couple hours later which was after they'd given my son some children's painkillers and something to calm him down a bit (they told/explained them all to me but I don't remember fuck all except him crying) so at least she didn't have to see the worst of it. My in-laws and parents have both come by and my daughter is with my parents now. There was no drama like at the zoo as apparently we're all able to be adults when the kid is hurting. And no, before someone asks: my wife wasn't at girls’ night. She had a massive work event for all the offices in our region that was being held two hours away. She got back as quickly as she could. No one, including my wife or her mom or the doctors, has blamed me for what happened. The guilt is eating me alive, though. I should have been quicker. I should have been in front of him and not behind him. Hell, the only reason I'm even writing this is because my wife is in with him and she told me to take a break because she saw how bad it was getting for me. Like it or not, she still knows me pretty well. And I guess I just needed to see it in writing, on the screen, to see if it might make any more sense. It doesn't. I expect we're going to be here a while longer. I haven't slept since Wednesday night. I might crash in this awful chair and try to shut off my brain. Or I might respond to the msgs in my inbox that I haven't gotten to. With my family not here and Ellie off on her final family camping trip of the season, y'all are about the only people I've got to talk to when I take a mental health break. I'll update when I can. Hopefully, it will be less busted arms and head trauma and more SIL cheated and it's all BIL's fault. tl;dr: son fell down the stairs. Broken arm and maybe head trauma. Family all came to the hospital. No drama ensued. I'm feeling guilty as hell. EDIT: We're being released today. He's in good spirits and excited to have everyone sign his cast. And he's already bonked me in the head with it twice. Thank you everyone for all the supportive msgs! Relevant Comments OOP should check in with the doctors about getting EKG for his son about the possible seizures OOP: My very basic WebMD search while I was waiting in the hospital led me to the same conclusion and, as it turns out, the actual doctors think so, too. We'll be seeing a neurologist soon, though we did meet with a neuro attending in the hospital who was less than helpful. + It was a seizure. I believe the term is an 'absence seizure'. He's had three more of them since the stairs. It isn't clear yet if this is a permanent thing or something he is going to outgrow. So far, he hasn't had them in any kind of dangerous situation since that first one. Commenter 2: Accidents happen unfortunately. You can't blame yourself. You have rules to make sure he stays safe. (Maybe add parents walk in front if he's walking alone.) But there is only so much you can do. Things will happen outside of your control. There was no way you could have got him carrying his sister in your arms and being higher up than him. Try to redirect your guilt. Two more things, the first being I agree with the other comment that suggested this sounds like he could have had a seizure given what you described. Please ask for a consult with a neurologist and explain what happened. Second, be prepared for a CPS visit. It's standard procedure. They will come visit and make sure the home is safe then close the case and be on their way. Don't freak out. Just make sure things at home are in order. Please update us again later on. OOP: A social worker (not sure if she was connected to CPS) spoke with us in the hospital. She did say that it was just routine and that my son's injuries were consistent with a fall and not some sort of abuse. She spoke with my wife and I together and separately and I obviously can't know for sure what Carrie said during their individual conversation, I do know that in the joint discussion she made it very clear that she did not think I had done anything and that it could have just as easily happened when she was watching him. Commenter 3: Good luck to you all. Kids heal from broken bones and head injuries. I've dealt with both, and I'm purple square raccoon. Seriously, you did exactly what you are supposed to do. You called the emergency line. You called your wife. You took care of your children. Call out of your jobs and try and get some rest. OOP: My son is already the toughest kid I know. He's handled this way better than either of his parents. And I actually took a full leave of absence from job #3. It's only for a few weeks but I felt like I had to. I told my wife I was doing it and it wasn't up for negotiation. Turns out that I didn't have to be so firm about it as she was already planning to ask me to do it. We'll see what happens in a few weeks but for now, I have more time to spend with both my kids. OOP did the right thing, by calling the proper authorities and then calling his wife about their son's situation OOP: Calling my wife and leaving the msg was stressful but she told me that the way I stayed calm really helped her not lose it. And she actually said that I handled the whole thing better than she would have. I'm holding onto that when my intrusive thoughts get too loud.   Latest Update here: BoRU #2   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

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To make an already long story as short as possible, some background. I am a manager for a North American railroad, and a lot of our work involves different crafts of employees. Different crafts have different unions and different work rules. The managers of the other crafts and I work together well to get done what we need to get done, especially when some of the work needs to get done at night. The track guys can have a crew assigned to nights, while the signal guys can't. Even better, the signal guys who work overnight have to be let go after 12 hours, and if it's now their regular shift because they came in last night, they get paid the rest of the day to go home and sleep. Track guys have all three shifts, but we only have a day shift and an evening shift, but no night shift, because the big hats don't want to hire enough people to do it. Now, the company has decided that paying guys to go home 2 hours early on a Thursday, come in and work overtime all night at 10pm, and go home at 10am, getting another 4 hours pay to go home and sleep is the ending of all that is good and pure in the universe, and will eventually lead to the collapse of capitalism, the nation, and indeed the universe itself. So they decide that the second shift guys have to stay 4 extra hours, and the first shift guys have to come in 4 hours early. I point out that: 1) I can't force employees to work overtime unless it's an emergency, and the union isn't likely to agree that "we want to do this at night so we don't affect traffic" is an emergency. 2) Not all employees are qualified on the same things. 3) Since they took half of my trucks away 5 years ago (because savings!!) I don't have enough vehicles for an entire second crew to show up at 2am and relieve the guys working in the field so they can go home. The guys currently working will have to stop work, pack up the tools, drive back to the office, let the (smaller) relief crew load up, drive back out to the work site, do the starting paperwork and briefings, and begin the work. And most importantly: 4) That while we aren't there, the track guys can't work, because we have to keep taking things off of the rail so the track guys can do their work, and then put them back when the guys are done so we can run the trains in the morning. All of it falls on deaf ears, because the freckle-faced college kid (who opens every conversation with "I have an MBA, dammit") who has somehow gotten to a position where he's in charge of the estimates wants to complain about those 24 hours a night. So, after having gone on the meeting record for all of it, I get out of the kids way. I decide that if my boss isn't going to have my back, I'm not going to stop this inevitable disaster. After all, I have only been doing this for 27 years, but he graduated with a 3.6 GPA from UTEP, so he must know better. So, the first night, the job grinds to a halt like clockwork at 1am, the second crew shows up at about 4:15, and they get to work. The track folks pack it in, because by the time anything gets dismantled, there won't be enough time to get anything done and put it all back together to start moving trains by 7. Second night, the shift change was a little smoother, so they got out there at 3:45. Managed to get a little work done before packing up. Third and fourth night it rained REALLY hard, so the drive back to the shop and out to the jobsite took extra time. No work done after the new crew showed up at 4:30. Bright and early Monday morning we show up at our morning meeting to find that the track guys got about 30% of the work done that they'd planned for the week, and at this pace would finish a 6-week job more than 15 weeks behind, and over budget by more than 300% Mr. MBA proceeds to launch into his carefully-rehearsed speech about Key Metrics, Percent Spent vs Percent Complete, and all sorts of other nonsense. Then he decides to start in on me. Since I obviously conspired and colluded with my employees to "egregiously erode progress" for an entire week. I held up the meeting minutes from the previous week, told him in no uncertain terms that he had asked, in fact demanded that we have a full shift change in the middle of the track department's work. I looked across the table at him, and asked him if he wanted to revise that position. Completely unwilling to let this lowly engineer tell him what to do, he said no, and I was supposed to somehow magically make the shift change FASTER. Next 3 weeks were the same story. They've now been out there for a month, and have managed to accomplish just shy of a week and a half of work. Mr. MBA shows up on the site one night, just in time to watch my night guys walk off, watch the track guys shut down the machines and gather outside to smoke, hang out, and generally carouse, because they know they now have 3 hours to screw off, and be paid for it. My guys had called me when Mr. MBA showed up, so I get out of bed and get to the jobsite just in time to see this guy in his shiny fresh-from-the-package safety gear screaming at the top of his lungs to the guys to get back in their equipment and "get the back to work!" They all refuse because they all know that they can't work without us there. Not that they care all that much about our equipment, but because they know Mr. MBA has been throwing a little too much weight around, and nothing makes union employees stick together better or faster than putting the screws to a manager who really needs it. I walk up during a profanity-laced tirade, and cut right in and say "Well, Mr. MBA, I'm sure you're not suggesting that these qualified employees violate Rule XXX, which clearly states that they shall not, under any circumstances, run that equipment through a switch that the signal department hasn't checked, would you? That would be a serious violation, and could get him a 30-day suspension without pay. And if you were to suggest that he do that, you wouldn't have a union card in your pocket, and he would have 30 witnesses that saw you give him that directive. So you wouldn't be suggesting that, would you?" He turned three shades of purple, stomped back to his little white company sedan, and drove away. He held on to his asinine mid-shift shift change for another 2 weeks until he couldn't hide the massive production delays from his boss anymore, and suddenly he wasn't in charge of the estimates anymore. The total cost of his little venture? Just over $940,000 over the course of 6 weeks. But, he did manage to save $700 a night on those off hours that he didn't have to pay for. EDIT: Without doubt, the best part of this post is that I'm up to 11 different railroads being mentioned between the posts and the DMs of guys swearing that this has to be their railroad. submitted by /u/Billiam201 to r/MaliciousCompliance [link] [comments]

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I wasn't expecting this type of images from chatgpt. My prompt was: A painting of a Black woman sitting on a bench in a park during summer at sunset. The woman has lifelike, photorealistic facial features and wears contemporary clothes. She appears happy, and her hair is tied in a knot. The park setting and background are painted with expressive, textured, and visible brushstrokes in the style of Impressionism. The warm hues of the setting sun cast a golden glow over the scene, with long, distinct shadows adding depth. The sky blends rich oranges, pinks, and purples, enhancing the serene atmosphere. The overall effect is as if a real woman entered an Impressionist painting. It also ignored the requirements about the hair. Initially, I just wrote "a woman" and he generated a white woman with the hair tied, then I said: "she is Black". submitted by /u/marco_altieri to r/ChatGPT [link] [comments]

Every year I try to go to the movies as much as possible. It’s my main hobby. I keep track of my thoughts/scores throughout the year, along with all of my ticket stubs. In theaters, I saw: 5 movies in 2015, 9 movies in 2016, 146 movies in 2017, 162 movies in 2018, 192 movies in 2019, 44 movies in 2020, 86 movies in 2021, 270 movies in 2022, 325 movies in 2023, and 298 movies this year. This doesn’t include rewatches, but those are pretty rare for me (7 this year). This is my 7th year doing this ranking on /r/movies. I have a subscription with AMC’s A-List, Regal’s Unlimited, and Cinemark’s MovieClub. I’m also a member of the Fort Lauderdale, Miami, and Toronto film societies. I attended 8 film festivals this year, for a total of 117 films. I attended 24 World Premieres, 11 North American Premieres, 7 US Premieres, 10 East Coast Premieres, 22 Southeast Premieres, 4 Canadian Premieres, and a few Florida/Georgia Premieres. 96 of my screenings had cast and/or crew present for Q&As/intros. I do these rankings and reviews/random thoughts for fun. It’s not meant to be taken super seriously. I just like movies, and I like ranking them. Red Rooms - 10/10 - The most gripping psychological-thriller since The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo. Extremely disturbing and unsettling at times, but also stylish and sleek. The courtroom scenes and vampire-movie-like score stick with you for a long time. Juliette Gariépy puts in the best performance of anyone this year. There's so much amazing stuff happening with French-Canadian cinema recently and this is another great addition. Best movie of the year. One of the best movies of the past decade. Dune: Part Two - 9/10 - Sci-fi doesn't get much better than this. I have the seemingly-unpopular opinion that the first movie is better than the second, but both are near-perfect. Everything that can be said about Dune 1/2 has pretty much already been said. Anora - 9/10 Civil War - 9/10 Nosferatu - 9/10 - Gothic horror is so back. Lily-Rose Depp does things in this movie physically that I've never seen before on the big screen. Extremely impressed with her performance (and with Hoult/Dafoe/Skarsgard/Corrin as well). A great ensemble surrounded with perfect set design, direction, and cinematography. Loved the scenes in the castle that almost appeared black-and-white. Robert Eggers has not missed for me so far, and this is my favorite of his. Challengers - 9/10 Sing Sing - 9/10 - Colman Domingo, give that man his Oscar [John Malkovich Rounders voice]. The Substance - 9/10 You Are Not Alone - 9/10 - Part La La Land, part Under the Skin, part Eternal Sunshine. A beautiful and hypnotic sci fi love story with a slight horror edge and with layers upon layers of metaphor. It has a lot of interesting things to say about mid-20s loneliness/thoughts of suicide/love/etc. Didi - 9/10 - I'm a sucker for coming-of-age dramas set in recent times. Give me more of this and mid90s-type movies pls. The Order - 8/10 We Live In Time - 8/10 - I went in expecting heartbreak (which I got), but I didn’t expect how funny/sharp it would be. Florence and Andrew have 10/10 chemistry. Only thing keeping it from a higher score is the goofy Super Bowl of Food or whatever scene near the end. The scene at the beginning in the parking garage might be one of the most heart wrenching and well-acted scenes of the entire year. Top-tier score as well. Love Lies Bleeding - 8/10 - I would watch a 2-hour movie montage of Katy O'Brian working out beneath a highway underpass. A violent & twisted mess of sweat/blood/sex/tears/ungodly bodily noises. A real wicked fun time. The Goldman Case - 8/10 - French courtroom dramas, so hot right now. An insanely smart and water-tight screenplay with engrossing performances. It reminded me a lot of Anatomy of a Fall then I realized the co-star (Arthur Harari) in this film is the co-writer of Anatomy. The Beast - 8/10 - A movie that's almost impossible to describe but I'll try: Dystopian-future-sci-fi, period-drama, modern-incel-breakin-thriller, all while staying completely original and beautiful. Extremely layered story and performances. Lea Seydoux and George MacKay are 2 of my favorite actors and they pulled this off with extreme precision and care. One of more harrowing final scenes of the year for sure. Conclave - 8/10 Saturday Night - 8/10 - Frenetic, engaging, and a really fun time. Flies by. I wanted more. So much energy. September 5 - 8/10 The Brutalist - 8/10 - I have some problems with the ending, feels like it undid a lot of what was experienced, but otherwise an impressive monster of a movie. Brody and Pearce are outstanding. Io Capitano - 8/10 Fremont - 8/10 - I love movies that flow like light poems, like Petite Maman or Journey to A Mother's Room. It was a very sweet and cozy. The psychiatry sessions in particular were hilarious, and the bit where the diners are reading their fortunes in the restaurants were perfect. One of my favorite lines of the year is when the old lady fortune cookie writer dies at her desk, and the boss says “she was getting too old to write about the future anyway”. The lead and Jeremy Allen White were only onscreen together but their chemistry was infectious Seagrass - 8/10 LaRoy, Texas - 8/10 - A hilariously-dark Coen Brothers throwback with wonderful performances from Steve Zahn and John Magaro (who I was lucky enough to meet prior to the screening). It's bloody and smart, and that's a rare combination. A Quiet Place: Day One - 8/10 The Last Showgirl - 8/10 - Apart from a few awkward line-deliveries and questionable dialogue in spots, this was a very lowkey, engaging drama with a career-best performances from Pamela Anderson and Dave Bautista. Very dreamy and light. Friendship - 8/10 - It's so fucking stupid. Absolutely no plot to speak of. There's no character development. It's barely even a movie. It's basically a 90-minute sketch. All that being said, it's so goddamn hilarious. Non-stop laughs. Most I've laughed since Red Rocket probably. It's a can't-miss for any Tim Robinson fan and a can't-miss for any fans of laughing. Kate Mara was the perfect foil character. The Wild Robot - 8/10 - Yes, I cried, what of it? Relay - 8/10 - A very solid, tight, throwback to the type of paranoid corporate-thrillers they don’t really make anymore. A super fun twist that I didn’t see coming at all, and a standout turn from Lily James. It slightly loses its way near the end. Good One - 8/10 - Familiar and lowkey, but with a dark edge that slowly reveals itself, and a superb breakout role from Lily Collias. Great debut film from director India Donaldson. A Complete Unknown - 8/10 - There's definitely a lack of plot but at the end of the day we all just want to see Bob Dylan's Greatest Hits performed by a generational talent in Timothee Chalamet and it definitely delivers in that aspect. Midwives - 8/10 - One of the more stressful movies I’ve seen in a while. My anxiety was through the roof, especially in the first half. It’s so realistic and graphic at times (and some of it has to be real, some birth scenes especially) that you almost get a sense that it’s a documentary. Totally nails the landing too, making you feel real anger/empathy about how Midwives are treated in France (and other places I assume). Hellbent On Boogie - 8/10 Alien: Romulus - 8/10 - Put Cailee Spaeny in anything and I'll watch it. Furiosa: A Mad Max Saga - 8/10 The Old Oak - 8/10 - British realism cinema at it's finest. Just another classic added to Ken Loach's resume. Longlegs - 8/10 Babygirl - 8/10 One Life - 8/10 - I'm not a huge movie-cryer but I was absolutely balling my eyes out near the "moment". You know it's coming and it's still hit. Impressive when a movie can do that. Last movie that hit me like that was probably Tori and Lokita, and before that Moonlight. This was up there in terms of tears. Did not really expect it going in. Devasting. Anthony Hopkins kills these types of roles, he has a way of showing bottled up regret/sadness that not many others can. The Ministry of Ungentlemanly Warfare - 8/10 - Over-the-top violent fun time. Totally ridiculous but it doesn't take itself seriously and that's what keeps it from veering into. Also, Eiza Gonzalez. That is all. Strange Darling - 8/10 Los Frikis - 8/10 Suncoast - 8/10 Drive-Away Dolls - 8/10 - I want more unapologetically horny movies like this. Loved all of Beanie Feldstein's bits and the slow, sleep-deprived descent into madness of the henchmen especially. Not too sure abou the weird-cheap transitions and trippy scenes though. "You're a day late and a penis short" and "Suki that's your wall dildo!" are two of the funniest lines of the year, within context. Give me more fast-paced 75-minute movies. In A Violent Nature - 8/10 -This made me feel physically nauseous several times, would strongly recommend. Some of the gnarliest kills I've ever seen on the big screen. A Real Pain - 8/10 Abigail- 8/10 - As a French-Canadian, big shoutout to Kevin Durand for his on-point Quebecois accent. Also, "Sammy, those are fucking onions" was one of the best/funniest line deliveries of the year. Really entertaining gory vampire flick. Dan Stevens is straight up having a fun time this year and I'm enjoying it every time. Melissa Barrera is now competing with with Mia Goth and Samara Weaving as top Scream Queens. Deadpool & Wolverine - 8/10 Bring Them Down - 8/10 - I love me a slow-burn family feud drama that slowly snowballs into something dark and sinister. Christopher Abbott is one of my favorite working actors today and he does incredible work here, especially with the accent/Irish/body language. Disclaimer: Not recommended to people sensitive to animal violence/cruelty. There's a lot of that. The Piano Lesson - 8/10 - As far as Denzel Washington-produced, August Wilson adaptations are concerned, this is way above Fences. Felt less like a straight-up filmed play. The supernatural element and amazing Danielle Deadwyler performance (give her an Oscar soon pls) make this more layered and interesting. Bonus: I was sitting with/near the cast/crew for this one, 5-10 feet away from Denzel/Danielle/John David/Malcolm/Corey Hawkins/Ray Fisher/Michael Potts. Amazing experience. Nickel Boys - 8/10 Fresh Kills - 8/10 - A really solid mob-drama told from the perspective of a mob boss' daughter, which I appreciated. It's rare you see this story from that angle. Emily Bader's scene with her dad near the end. Holy. Fucking. Shit. Between The Temples - 8/10 - Carol Kane was absolutely magnetic and a joy to watch in this, and Jason Schwartzman was her perfect endearing counter. Lovely movie, that makes you want to curl up into a ball and cringe to death near to end, in a good way. The most painful-to-watch family reunion/dinner since Shiva Baby. Problemista - 8/10 - I stand with Bank of America. Julio Torres is kind of a revelation in this. His facial expressions (and hilarious run-walk thing) are perfect. Absurd, funny, and sweet comedy with so much flair and uniqueness. Some fun little details that got good laughs out of me, like Tilda's character always having her phone light on. Chaotic in all of the right ways. Sisterhood - 8/10 Days of Happiness - 8/10 The Apprentice - 8/10 - It's not breaking any new ground but Sebastian Stan is a pleasure to watch transform into Trump as the movie goes on. Grimy and gross like the streets of New York in the 80s. Wil - 8/10 Naked Ambition: Bunny Yeager - 8/10 Soul - 8/10 - I didn't get to catch this during it's original run due to COVID so I'm glad it came back. My favorite Pixar movie in a little while. Femme - 8/10 I Saw the TV Glow - 8/10 Heretic - 7/10 - A fun horror with sharp dialogue and an incredibly-hammy Hugh Grant performance. Emilia Perez - 7/10 - Some amazing musical numbers, especially the opener and "El Mal", and Zoe Saldana has an amazing performance where she carries the entire thing (Gomez and Gascon are getting lots of praise but I didn’t see it), but it just felt like it never fully came together to reach full potential. Mountains - 7/10 - A very small and warm movie about the very big and cold issue of gentrification and the real estate crisis in South Florida. Monica Sorelle is a director to watch for sure. Skywalkers: A Love Story - 7/10 - Other than a few moments that seemed a bit scripted (mostly the relationship drama), this is the most thriller documentary since Free Solo. Ghostlight - 7/10 Shoshana - 7/10 - Israeli true-life spy-thriller, a bit Bond-like. There's a few kills in here that are insanely brutal and the explosions/gunshots catch you by surprise. It had me jump a few times. The Dead Don't Hurt - 7/10- Extremely slow, don't go in expecting an action-packed Western, but Viggo has a really good eye for beautiful backgrounds and settings. Vicky Krieps is top-tier as always. This movie doesn't work without her. I like slow Westerns. The Fall Guy - 7/10 Thelma - 7/10 Twisters - 7/10 -Natural disaster flicks just work for me. Getting to look at Daisy Edgar-Jones for 2 hours never hurts as well. Cuckoo - 7/10 - Insanely impressive and physical performance from Hunter Schafer. Cool visual style and flair, but ultimately dragged down by a total clusterfuck of a plot. I was confused throughout. Hilarious German accent from Dan Stevens Peak Season - 7/10 Kneecap - 7/10 - Some of the funniest one-liners of the year ("Look who it is, Bone Thugz and no harmony", "I feel like I discovered the Beatles, if the Beatles were shit."). The whole RRAD storyline kept it from greatness though, that was a bit too goofy for its own good. Wolfs - 7/10 - I went in wanting Pitt/Clooney banter and that's exactly what I got. Blink Twice - 7/10 My Old Ass - 7/10 Better Man - 7/10 Nightbitch - 7/10 - Your mom's favorite movie of 2024. The awful first trailer didn't do it justice, this was solid, it just doesn't get dark like you'd hope it would. Out of Darkness - 7/10 - Saw this during a Mystery Movie Monday and was pleasantly surprised. Pretty brutal, atmospheric, and violent. Some cool overhead shots and a nice score. One of the better Mystery Movies I've seen. We Grown Now - 7/10 The End We Start From - 7/10 Kinds of Kindness - 7/10 - Not the best Yorgos but deliciously-freaky and daring filmmaking nonetheless. Babes - 7/10 Fancy Dance - 7/10 MaXXXine - 7/10 - Definitely the weakest of the trilogy but still a solid slasher with a very interesting setting. Mia Goth has great moments like in the first two. Horizon: An American Saga Chapter 1 - 7/10 - I don't care, the montage at the end was sick. I really hope Costner gets to fund as many of these as he wants. Wicked - 7/10 - Pretty good, not great. Ariana Grande was the standout. There were only 2 songs that were really catchy though, wish there were more. Juror #2 - 7/10 Fly Me to the Moon - 7/10 The End - 7/10 - Gorgeously-shot, super well acted, beautiful set design and production, but way too long and had no reason to be a musical. The songs were all exactly the same and pointless and there much so much time in between that you would forget it was even a musical. George MacKay kills it. Being Maria - 7/10 Cabrini - 7/10 - Maybe a bit overlong but honestly not bad. Surprised it's from the same director as Sound of Freedom, it's quite a step up from that. Much larger and ambitious in scope, and the lead actress was really really great. It solidly panders to its intended audience but it’s well made enough that you can just gloss over the eye-rolling moments. In the Land of Saints and Sinners - 7/10 - The best Neeson action-flick in a while, so that's something. Kerry Condon as the big villain was awesome. Need more of her in stuff. Y2K - 7/10 - The single-funniest death scene of the year was the skateboard scene. Laughed so hard, made my night. Audience really dug this one too, good atmosphere. Fred Durst. The Queen of My Dreams - 7/10 - I was getting massive Deja Vu with The Persian Version last year. Extremely similar story and vibe, equally fun/honest/heartfelt. Speak No Evil - 7/10 Immaculate - 7/10 - Sydney Sweeney stepping out of her comfort zone and doing a nun-horror is cool. Long take near the end was sick. Gladiator II - 7/10 - Doesn't hold a candle to the original but it was still an entertaining sandals & swords story. Fred Hechinger is so awful in this though. Man, that took me out of it. Back to Black - 7/10 - This movie is conflicting. In a vacuum, ignoring Winehouse's actual story, it's a solid music-biopic carried by a powerhouse breakthrough performance from Marisa Abela and an amazing soundtrack (obviously). On the other hand, it's a disgusting whitewash by her estate to downplay her truly awful father. The fact that he had final approval over this movie, and will financially benefit from it, is just gross and hard to ignore. The 2015 documentary does a better job telling Amy's whole story in an emotional way, and that doc made my blood boil (and is one of my favorite docs ever). Coup! - 7/10 The Hypnosis - 7/10 The Last Stop in Yuma County - 7/10 Your Monster - 7/10 Blitz - 7/10 - The cartoonish villains and improbably scenarios the kid kept finding himself in took this down a notch for me. Could've been great, but it didn't quite get there. How much bad shit can happen to one kid in 24 hours? Find out with Blitz. On a technical level it had a lot going for it though. In the Summers - 7/10 Maria - 7/10 - Jolie kills it and it looked gorgeous but a really big step down from Jackie/Spencer for Pablo Larrain, a big 'style over substance' movie and weirdly disrespectful to Jackie Kennedy as well for some odd reason. Very weird structure. Lost Soulz - 7/10 The Girls Are Alright - 7/10 All We Imagine As Light - 7/10 - With all the hype I was expecting to be blown away. It was good but kind of a let down. Girls Will Be Girls - 7/10 Ezra - 7/10 Young Woman and the Sea - 7/10 - An inspiring sports-biopic with a very old-school and authentic feel. The Remember the Titans of swimming movies. It hits all of the cliches and it's super cheesy, but in all of the right ways. It just works. Daisy Ridley was great, and as far as swimming movies are concerned, it's definitely ahead of Nyad. Hundreds of Beavers - 7/10 - It's funny and original, I just wish it was a bit shorter. Some of the bits definitely outstay their welcome after a while. I really like the grassroots campaign they've built around this movie though, everything from the independent theatrical showings to the support of physical media. A great success story for indie film this year. The Idea of You - 7/10 Crossing - 7/10 Sleep - 7/10 Monkey Man - 7/10 - Solid action flick for the first and third acts, but dragged down by a super boring 2nd act (where it loses all of the momentum it built) and lots of sloppy/confusing editing, especially during chase sequences. Credit for the Terrence Malick-like flashback scenes with narration/sweeping music/shots of nature/etc, pretty cool to throw those into an action movie. The Color Purple - 7/10 The Damned - 7/10 - You're hanging out with the soldiers on the frontier of the American Civil War and almost nothing happens for the entire runtime except you learn about the characters and their thoughts on life/god/religion/etc. I enjoyed it. Mean Girls - 7/10 Driving Madelaine - 7/10 Late Night with the Devil - 7/10 Snack Shack - 7/10 - Aside from the needless death at the end that tries too hard to squeeze tears out of your eyeballs, I thought this was a fun, raunchy, summer-y throwback comedy. This would've been one of my favorites in middle school probably. Beetlejuice Beetlejuice - 7/10 Joker: Folie a Deux - 7/10 The Outrun - 7/10 - Less a compelling story and more a showcase on Saoirse Ronan's acting abilities. The camera basically doesn't move from her for a single second and she completely carries it. She's the best. Flow - 7/10 Black Box Diaries - 7/10 Queer - 7/10 The Return - 7/10 New Life - 7/10 - I really respect a movie that can pull off a wild genre-switch halfway through the movie. Went in fully blind so it was totally unexpected. Also impressive this tiny movie could license Bob Dylan’s Like A Rolling Stone (played a few times). Lisa Frankenstein - 7/10 - The ultimate "could've been truly great with a R rating" movie. Bob Marley: One Love - 7/10 - It does just enough to keep it out of the Super Generic Biopic Genre and any movie that can squeeze a few tears out of me gets an extra point. Sorry, that's just the rules. Kingdom of the Planet of the Apes - 7/10 1992- 7/10 - Other than Ray Liotta being written like a ridiculous cartoon villain and some eye-rolling dialogue issues, it actually was a pretty solid crime drama... and Tyrese Gibson was…good? (/r/brandnewsentence) French Girl - 7/10 The Peasants - 7/10 - Visually impressive and a sick score, but a schmaltzy/melodramatic story kinda kept it from the next level. The Monk and the Gun - 7/10 Bad Boys: Ride or Die - 6/10 Seven Blessings - 6/10 Knox Goes Away - 6/10 - Michael Keaton does his best and commits but the writing & performance of every single side character brings the whole thing down a bit. The cop/ex-wife/son characters are bumbling, distractingly-dumb goofballs that keep the plot from ever grounding to reality, but it ultimately gets dark and violent enough to stay pretty entertaining. The script really could've used some more cleaning up. Trap - 6/10 - Listen I have a lot (a lot) of problems with this movie but Kid Cudi randomly showing up for 5 minutes and randomly delivering insane lines like "“I specifically said i wanted honey suckle kombucha biiiiitchhhh” made the trip to the theater worth it. Small Things Like These - 6/10 Sometimes I Think About Dying - 6/10 Kidnapped - 6/10 Asphalt City - 6/10 - Standout performance from Tye Sheridan but this leaned a bit too much into misery porn for my liking. Every single day is the absolute worst day on the job. Extremely stress-inducing first hour. Mike Tyson being cast as the medic chief was certainly a choice...and it worked somehow? Eden - 6/10 - Had trouble getting past the awful accents and the sinking feeling that this was missed potential. I was at the World Premiere for this and someone in the audience had a medical emergency, they had to pause the screening and turn the lights on while the person was carried out on people's shoulders. Jude Law/Sydney Sweeney/Ana de Armas/Ron Howard were all there wondering what was going on. Kind of a crazy situation. Land of Bad - 6/10 Unstoppable - 6/10 Godzilla x Kong: The New Empire - 6/10 - Skull Island's bland and less impressive/memorable little brother. Thumbs up for Baby Kong and the Rio de Janeiro destruction sequence, thumbs down for the lame story and unlimited amounts of annoying human characters. Bad Shabbos - 6/10 Inside Out 2 - 6/10 Firebrand - 6/10 A Different Man - 6/10 - I didn't connect to this as much as most people did. Sebastian Stan is great as usual but the whole thing didn't do much for me. Love Me - 6/10 - 10/10 for the attempt, 4/10 for the execution. There's a really good movie hidden in here somewhere, but there needed to be some cuts made to the animated portions of the film for sure. Shell - 6/10 Housekeeping for Beginners - 6/10 Totem - 6/10 The Fire Inside - 6/10 Widow Clicquot - 6/10 - This starts off really really really slow but then finds its footing late and ends on a solid note. Career-best performance from Haley Bennett, she really carries this. Tuesday - 6/10 Piece by Piece - 6/10 The Cut - 6/10 - Standout turns from Orlando Bloom and Caitriona Balfe, brought down by some weird editing choices. The neon-green hallucinations were a wild choice. I sat next to Katy Perry for this movie, AMA. Memoir of a Snail - 6/10 The Romano Twins - 6/10 Mufasa: The Lion King - 6/10 Film Geek - 6/10 Self-Reliance - 6/10 - Pretty cute movie with a few laughs, but the ending lost its focus and felt rushed. The Andy Samberg bits were great. I wanted more from the relationship with Anna Kendrick's character, feels like there was more to explore there. "This an intervention." "For me?" "No, we're just all facing the wrong direction." Queen of the Ring - 6/10 Coup de Chance - 6/10 - It's nowhere near peak-Woody Allen but it's a passable return to form since Rifkin's Festival, Wonder Wheel, and A Rainy Day In New York (all 3 awful, with Rifkin's Festival being rock bottom for Allen's filmography). The one thing it was missing was humor. I can always trust an Allen film to at least have a few funny/witty lines (even the bad ones), but this was very cut and dry. Could've used a few more good lines. Sasquatch Sunset - 6/10 - I was excited for the premise and there's a few sweet/funny moments, but most of it ends up being mindless shitting/pissing/fucking. Credit for the unique idea and great views. Bird - 6/10 - One of the more disappointing films of the year. Even after the lukewarm reception at Cannes, I had super high hopes because I’m a huge Andrea Arnold fan, but the surrealism in this movie just didn’t work. It threw off the whole balance and wasn’t at all what I expected/wanted. Nikiya Adams and Barry Keoghan were both very solid, and the scene where the group sang Coldplay’s Yellow to the frog was amazing. Omni Loop- 6/10 Here - 6/10 - A valiant attempt but ultimately kind of a hot mess. A few good moments keep it watchable. Some real uncanny valley shit in there too though. Queen Rock Montreal - 6/10 Turning Red - 6/10 Scrambled - 6/10 The Book of Clarence - 6/10 - LaKeith Stanfield was great and committed as usual (although I don't like twin dual-roles), and James McAvoy and Cumberbatch chewing on scenery was fun, this movie had a lot of trouble figuring out what it wanted to be. I really wish it leaned more into the funny/satire and less into the serious Mel Gibson/Jim Caviezel-type biblical drama. Cool that a movie like this can be made/funded and released in theaters though. Booger - 6/10 Irena's Vow - 6/10 - Great story, extremely generic period drama. A Great Divide - 6/10 Riff Raff - 6/10 - A bit outdated and mean-spirited, this would've slapped in 2006, but Bill Murray and Pete Davidson as the incompetent mob assassins makes it worth a watch. Rosalie - 6/10 Skincare - 6/10 Yellow Bus - 6/10 Arcadian - 6/10 - It's fine and stretches its tiny budget so its absolute limit but it's basically a Dollar Store A Quiet Place. The monster design and animation was hilariously-bad though, like an Asylum knock-off movie. I'm also now convinced that Nic Cage is contractually obligated to have his face smothered in fake blood for any movie. Nutcrackers - 6/10 The Invisibles - 6/10 Riley -6/10 Rob Peace - 6/10 - A well-shot movie with great direction and performance from the supporting characters (Mary J Blige and Chiwetel Ejiofor) completely dragged down by an awful lead performance by Jay Will. Also the script was a bit silly, they were trying way too hard to make him 100% infallible. Christmas Eve in Miller's Point - 6/10 - I liked the hectic atmosphere of the crazy Christmas family party that we've all been at, and the very scratchy look of the camera. Rumours - 6/10 - I can appreciate what Maddin was going for, and there's some moments that work (mostly with Cate Blanchett and Charles Dance, they were awesome), but overall surreal-absurd-fantasy-comedy like this just doesn't work for me. Fallen Fruit - 6/10 Birthrite - 6/10 Crumb Catcher - 6/10 Anselm - 6/10 Scapegoat - 6/10 Seeds - 5/10 - There’s clearly heart and maybe a great movie in here somewhere, but it’s such a tonal mess that it’s hard to find anything to love. Sujo - 5/10 The Beekeeper - 5/10 - This is the Rebel Moon of Jason Bourne movies. A few cool kills and classic Statham one-liners keep it from being a total loss, but it's not very good. Unsung Hero - 5/10 Jeanne du Barry- 5/10 Treasure - 5/10 A Sacrifice - 5/10 The American Society of Magical Negroes - 5/10 - All over the place and it gave a constant feeling of "missed opportunity" (a la Book of Clarence). Justice Smith is straight-up not a convincing lead. An-Li Bogan was the standout, and I saw her end twist coming from a mile away so I got that going for me which is nice. La Syndicaliste - 5/10 Sonic the Hedgehog 3 - 5/10 The Watchers - 5/10 Borderlands - 5/10 - Went in expecting a 1/10, got a 5/10. Nice. Life is all about the little wins. Ghostbusters: Frozen Empire - 5/10 - Just give this franchise a permanent rest. It wasn't awful in any particular way, but it was totally soulless and heartless. It felt like nobody really gave a shit except Kumail Nanjiani. Safe, sanitized, studio slop. They couldn't even fully commit to the one interesting thing (the gay ghost love story). National Anthem - 5/10 The 4:30 Movie - 5/10 - Kevin Smith jerking himself off for 80 minutes. Would make a fun double-feature with Snack Shack though. Universal Language - 5/10 - This had a lot of hype of out Cannes and it's Canada's submission for the Oscars so I had a lot of hope, but it just didn't do much for me. Surreal-absurdism just isn't my cup of tea. The only real standout scene was the one with the Quebec democrat. A rare case of the Q&A being more interesting than the movie itself. Kraven the Hunter - 5/10 Time Still Turns the Pages - 5/10 Upgraded - 5/10 - Basically a Great Value The Devil Wears Prada. Good as rom-com-background-nois. Marissa Tomei is awful in this. One of the worst performances of the year. Sound of Hope: The Story of Possum Trot - 5/10 Out of Season - 5/10 Miller's Girl - 5/10 Latin for All - 5/10 Argylle - 5/10 - How a movie like The Creator can be made for $80M but something so awful-looking like this needs $200M blows my mind. I.S.S. - 5/10 - I love a good sandwich-making climax as much as the next guy, but what a painfully awkward ending. The first 25 minutes made me think something decent could be happening then it derails hard and never recovers. The worst thing to happen to the space program since Challenger. Get Away - 5/10 Brothers - 5/10 Life's a Bitch - 5/10 - France's (bad) answer to Yorgos Lanthimos. A dry, twisted, gross, weirdly-sexual, anthology film with a lot less nudity but a lot more dogs than Kinds of Kindness. Kinda loses its way comedically and becomes a chore after the first chapter. Azrael - 5/10 Monster Summer - 5/10 - Like a G-rated IT, with Mel Gibson for some reason (?) Kung Fu Panda 4 - 5/10 Garfield - 5/10 Villains, Inc - 5/10 - It had a certain cheap charm but an overwhelming sense of "SNL Digital Short sketch stretched way too thin". Excursion - 5/10 Sleeping Dogs - 5/10 Notice to Quit - 5/10 - The kid actor was really good but I'm just a bit over following an extremely unlikeable lead around doing shitty things to people. Reunion - 5/10 The Boy in the Woods - 5/10 Paradise - 5/10 Karaoke - 5/10 It Ends With Us - 5/10 Poolman - 4/10 - The ugly, boring, confused lovechild of Inherent Vice and Under the Silver Lake. Avenue of the Giants - 4/10 Arthur the King - 4/10 - Marky Mark has really devolved as an actor honestly, really tough performance from him here. It's like he's completely forgotten how to convincingly deliver lines. Right from the GoPro scenes at the beginning I knew it was gonna be a rough time. This movie is like 85% exposition. Janet Planet - 4/10 - Bookended by 2 great scenes, but filled with mostly pointless garbage. Dandelion - 4/10 By the Stream - 4/10 - I enjoy Hong Sangsoo movies in very small doses. This dose was just way too big. Venom: The Last Dance - 4/10 Red One - 4/10 Oh, Canada - 4/10 - Dreadfully confusing, and Jacob Elordi puts in one of the worst performances of the year, but at least that Phosphorescent soundtrack kept me engaged. Slingshot - 4/10 Adios Buenos Aires - 4/10 Humane - 4/10 Some Other Woman - 4/10 My Daughter, My Love - 4/10 Madame Web - 4/10 - Slop. IF - 4/10 - Not really for adults, not really for kids/teens. Who was this movie even for?... Freud's Last Session - 4/10 Werewolves - 4/10 - So much lens flare. I am now blind. Ramona at Midlife - 4/10 The Last Front - 4/10 My Penguin Friend - 4/10 Augure - 4/10 Which Brings Me To You - 4/10 - Looking back over this ranking, I'm gonna be honest and say I have no idea what this was. Don't remember. To producers out there: please stop making your movie titles random vague sentences. Mai - 4/10 Meanwhile on Earth - 4/10 Lizzie Lazarus - 4/10 Or Something - 4/10 The Way We Speak - 4/10 Cult Killer - 3/10 - Antonio Banderas shows up for like 5 minutes and then nopes the fuck out. Total paycheck movie. The Feeling that the Time for Doing Something Has Passed - 3/10 - There were some funny lines (especially the 9/11 dating profile bit) but this was so painfully dry and slow that I could never really connect. If desert-dry, awkward, deadpan delivery, with an absurd amount of BDSM-sex-stuff thrown in is your thing, you might find a few things to like. I could not. Never Let Go - 3/10 The Throwback - 3/10 The City - 3/10 Rats! - 3/10 - This would've worked well as an edgy Youtube short in 2012. The Best Christmas Pageant Ever - 3/10 He Went That Way - 3/10 - Half roadtrip comedy with a chimp, half brutal serial killer drama. Tonally all over the place. The kind of movie you'd expect Jacob Elordi to try to bury (a la Dicaprio with Don's Plum) and fire his agent over before it sees the light of way. Baffling decisions made by everyone here. Megalopolis - 2/10 - I went in expecting a mess but I was still not prepared for how bad this was. It’s Neil Breen with an unlimited budget. It felt like 6 hours. It looked so cheap and awful. A mix of Lifetime movie and a middle school play. I refuse to believe it’s bad on purpose for comedy. The only thing keeping this from a 1 is that Adam Driver/Coppola/Nathalie Emmanuel/Giancarlo Esposito were at my screening for Q&A (god bless their sweet little souls for having to seriously promote this hot mess). "What do you think of this boner I got right here?” is a line 85 year old Jon Voight actually says in a real movie in the year of our lord 2024. My therapist will hear about this. A Boy Who Dreamt of Electricity - 2/10 Isle of Hope - 2/10 - Sometimes I wonder why I do this to myself. Chosen Family - 1/10 - This was borderline unfinished and full-on embarrassing. The production value of a daytime soap opera mixed in with the sound editing of a local high school play. It's impressive how much filler (drone shots of surrounding neighborhood) can be squeezed into 84 minutes of movie. Sitting a few seats away from Heather Graham was a nice bonus (with Q&A), but it couldn't come close to making up for this disaster. Unranked (Re-Releases and/or TV Series): Dune (Re-Release) - 10/10 Interstellar (Re-Release) - 10/10 Ex Machina (Re-Release) - 9/10 The Shawshank Redemption (Re-Release) - 8/10 Bound (Re-Release) - 8/10 Mr. & Mrs. Smith Episodes 1 & 2 (TV Series) - 7/10 Possession (Re-Release) - 7/10 But I'm A Cheerleader (Re-Release) - 7/10 The Acolyte Episodes 1 & 2 (TV Series) - 6/10 Society (Re-Release) - 6/10 Black Christmas (Re-Release) - 6/10 Apples Never Fall Episode 1 (TV Series) - 6/10 Maniac Cop 2 (Re-Release- 6/10 The Room (Re-Release) - 5/10 Cruel Intentions Episode 1 (TV Series) - 5/10 La Maquina Episode 1 (TV Series) - 4/10 After Annecy (Short Film) - 3/10 Maniac (Re-Release) - 3/10 Mother (Re-Release) - 3/10 Stats: Multiple Viewings: Dune: Part Two (x2) Babes (x2) Deadpool & Wolverine (x2) Sing Sing (x2) Back to Black (x2) The Wild Robot (x2) Anora (x2) Theater Distribution by Venue/Chain: AMC - 96 Regal - 66 Silverspot - 18 Cinemark - 8 Landmark - 1 Other/Festival/Independent - 109 (Including: Arsht Center, Autonation IMAX, Cinema Paradiso, Classic Gateway, Coastal Creative, Coral Gables Art Cinema, Enzian Theater, Hard Rock Ballroom, Koubek Center, TIFF Lightbox, Lucas Theater, Miami Theater Center, Movies of Delray, O'Cinema South Beach, Princess of Wales, Roy Thomson Hall, Royal Alexandra, Savor Cinema, SCAD Museum, Scotiabank, Tampa Theater, Trustees Theater) Film Festivals Attended: Toronto International Film Festival - 30 Movies in 8 Days Savannah SCAD Film Festival - 20 Movies in 8 Days Miami Film Festival - 20 Movies and 1 TV Series in 10 Days Florida Film Festival - 19 Movies in 6 Days Miami Jewish Film Festival - 10 Movies in 7 Days Popcorn Frights Film Festival - 7 Movies in 4 Days Fort Lauderdale International Film Festival - 6 Movies in 4 Days Gasparilla International Film Fstival - 5 Movies in 2 Days Theater Visits by Month: https://i.imgur.com/sKQYFp9.png January: 32 February: 17 March: 27 April: 54 May: 18 June: 18 July: 12 August: 24 September: 38 October: 23 November: 22 December: 13 Theater Visits by Day of the Week: https://i.imgur.com/xC7pt1S.png Monday - 25 Tuesday - 23 Wednesday - 23 Thursday - 49 Friday - 64 Saturday - 67 Sunday - 47 Notable Missed Movies: https://i.imgur.com/iPhOD5s.png Cast/Crew/Filmmaker Q&As/Appearances: Part 1 - https://i.imgur.com/a6JsfR0.png Part 2 - https://i.imgur.com/YQIJZUl.png Part 3 - https://i.imgur.com/9cyEkKY.png Favorite Performances: https://i.imgur.com/Sfv5OZB.png Past Rankings: 2018 (162 Movies) 2019 (192 Movies) 2020 (44 Movies) 2021 (86 Movies) 2022 (270 Movies) 2023 (325 Movies) submitted by /u/BunyipPouch to r/movies [link] [comments]

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/ThrowRA_PurpleBanana Originally posted to New Update Posted to r/Mommit My Husband's (36M) Affair Daughter (5F) Was Dropped Off At Our House Two Weeks Ago and Its Causing Issues in Our Marriage. Is There Anyway to Salvage This? Previous BORU: Link Trigger Warnings: pregnancy complications, death of a loved one, emotional affair, manipulation, infidelity, neglect, misogyny, divorce Original Post: March 18, 2024 My (34F) life is falling apart and it's all thanks to my husband. We had a perfect life, both of us worked in the jobs we loved, we have a beautiful daughter (10F) and a healthy son (5M). When I was pregnant with our son we both almost died due to complications. So before the birth and even afterwards I didn't want to have sex, why would I? I almost died and my body was in pain for months afterwards even with strong medication. I thought my husband understood because he never pushed me for sex or even asked. I thought it was because he understood my pain, but apparently he was just getting it from somewhere else. A few months ago we were visited by Child Protective Services, I was terrified at first frantically thinking of what we did wrong with our children to cause a visit. But no, as it turns out some woman I've never met before died in a car accident leaving behind a daughter, and my husband's name was on the girl's birth certificate and he was named in the woman's will as the father. I thought it was a mistake at first, until my husband told me the truth. As it turns out while I was suffering my pregnancy and the after effects of almost dying, my husband would go to a woman he knew at work and get it off with her. He said this as if he did me a favor. Well as the CPS worker explained to us, my husband is her closest living relative that can care for her. The woman's family apparently wanted nothing to do with the poor little girl. When she asked us if we wanted to take her in I said yes. Yes I know this might be the true cause of all my issues, but my husband pawned that poor girl off to live with her single mother for five years, he doesn't get to pawn her away when she needs help. She's his responsibility, and now is ours. I told him I'll help take care of the necessary visits for wellness checks and help with whatever CPS wants us to do. All he had to do was explain everything to our children. The fact I'm saying this tells you what he did. Yes, nothing. We had to clean out a room and buy new furniture and even looked for some toys, our children go to a private school so I picked up some more work hours in order to be able to afford her tuition, I was the one who had to tell our extended families the big change because he didn't want to do so. I did almost all the heavy lifting. So color me shocked when his daughter finally joins our family two weeks ago and the first words out of our children's mouths was "who's that?" Yes, I was the one who had to tell our children's school, extended families, family doctors, and my workplace about my husband's affair and subsequent addition to our family. But he couldn't tell our children being he was "too ashamed" to face them. So guess who was the one who had to explain that they have a sister now as I'm trying to settle the poor girl into her new home and room? And shocker, our children didn't take the news well as it was happening right in front of them. My daughter was screaming while crying causing my son and the little girl to cry. A situation that could have been avoided if my husband just did the one thing I asked of him and explained everything to them much sooner. It's been two weeks of her living with us and the situation hasn't improved. My husband has not picked up the slack that comes with having a new addition to the family so we're struggling right now to make ends meet, I feel embarrassed bringing all three children around for appointments and groceries because the little girl is very much obviously not mine and I can tell people are judging our family, my daughter is much moodier and less happy and refuses to even acknowledge our newest addition to the family, our son doesn't really understand what is going on and it's causing even him to lash out. And I don't even know how to help the poor little girl because I know that if I feel like my life is falling apart, she must feel even worst. I suggested family therapy, therapy for our children, even just marriage therapy so we can hopefully move past this and work together as a unit for all the children. He's refused everything, saying that he knows he'll be lectured by everyone when all he was doing was trying to help me. I just don't know how to fix this, please help me. I don't want to divorce him because I just know that will make it worst for the kids, but that's the only option my family is telling me. Meanwhile his family is begging me to make this work and to just... look past it. Thank you, I hear you all loud and clear. Will be looking into therapy for me and the children and hopefully a good divorce lawyer. But first I need to get some answers because some of you are raising some good points. Relevant Comments OOP on if she was sure her husband wasn’t cheating now I know this is pathetic to say, but I really did think he was amazing before all of this. When I gave birth to our daughter he stepped up to the plate by caring for her and doing housework. He was an attentive father to both of our children before all of this, I was able to tell him I need to take a break and he would just... step to it and care for them and make sure I could relax. I don't know why he committed such an affair and then try to excuse himself, and I don't know why he's decided to not care about our children as much as he used to be. I guess I just keep hoping if we all go to therapy and find the root of the issue we can fix it and go back to how our relationship used to be. Now reading all these comments that are sounding just like my family I guess I was just being naive. OOP on leaving the child to her father as the girl is not OOP’s responsibility. OOP was told to leave her husband I have to disagree with this comment. As much as I hate my husband's actions, I do not hate her enough to just abandon her in such a terrible time for her. I agreed to take her into our home so she is indeed my responsibility as much as my husband's. And I didn't say this at first because I didn't know if it was important, but she and my son have gotten really close in such a short amount of time I would feel heartbroken separating the two. Update: April 25, 2024 I'm sorry, you all were right. It was a lie. When all of you were pointing out how the kids responses to youngest arriving didn't make sense, it made me realize how correct that is. They came home to a room all made up and I made passing comments to them asking about how excited they were for youngest's arrival. They should have known about her. At this point I decided to just ask my eldest daughter directly because she was still so upset about it and I think subconsciously knew I wasn't going to get the truth from husband. So I went to her room while she was lying in bed and I asked her. I told her that I asked her father to explain to the two of them what was going to happen, they saw her new room, I talked about her to them so I don't understand my eldest's reaction. So yes, it turns out husband didn't tell them and then me the truth. A surprise to no one I am figuring out. The story he told the kids was that youngest was a daughter of one of OUR friends, and we felt so bad we had to take her in. Nothing about her being their half-sister or him having a daughter with another woman. Well when she came home that day and the kids asked who she was - the pictures we were able to share of youngest she had braids in and wore much different clothing then when she arrived - it was my response to them that ruined his little lie. "This is (youngest's name), your half-sister, remember?" Our son was too young to really get what it meant, but our daughter did. That's why she freaked out that day, not because of the new addition to the family but because what the new addition meant. I apologized for causing her to freak out that day, for not sitting both her and her brother down for a real discussion over how they feel and to make sure their father did what he was supposed to do, and apologized for only talking to her now after she had a much deserved reaction to it all. My daughter accepted the apology, and I asked her if that was why she was distant from the youngest. She told me that's part of it, and because word got out at her school about what the newest addition to our family going to the school meant so now she's getting teased and picked on for having a father who cheated. It broke my heart realizing just how badly I messed up. By continuing to beg the spineless man they called a father to help them and then allowing myself to get shut down, I was essentially allowing all the kids' needs to be ignored. I told daughter I'll sign her and her brother and sister up for therapy. Of course the pathetic man tried to plead with me not to when I mentioned signing the kids up, but I told him to give it up already. All three children's lives have changed, and it will help them adjust with a professional to speak to. He's been grumbling and whining about it, but I don't care anymore. And this might cause many to be upset with me, but I'm in the process with husband to have him transfer custody of youngest to me. I've grown to care for her, and as some comments in my last post have pointed out once I do divorce him and leave with our kids I don't doubt he'll treat her awfully or neglect her. He's been right on board and it took some convincing but his parents finally agreed to be witnesses. I got all the paperwork set up and scheduled an appointment with an attorney to help with anything else. Once that happens I'll try to get everything I need in order to have a smoother divorce and then subsequent move to be closer to my family. Thank you to everyone for giving me a good slap in the face and help me realize that the children and I deserve better and I was being so gullible into thinking a man who cheats on his dying pregnant wife is deserving of any respect. NEW UPDATE: October 16th Posted to r/Mommit How do you tell your children you're going to divorce their father? I have three children, an 11 year old daughter, and two 6 year olds, a son and daughter. Just recently after months of court hearings, home visits, background checks, and interviews with a judge and a social service worker I've been granted custody of my 6 year old daughter with her biological father (my husband) giving up parental rights to me. Right now I'm looking into how a divorce will go and what I need to get any affairs in order to make the process as smooth as possible for everyone involved. The reason for the divorce is because of how he behaved when his adultery came into light. As you can see from the ages, he cheated on me with a coworker of his while I was dealing with a highly complicated pregnancy and birth. I was the one who had to get everything in order, meanwhile it seemed like he did everything he could to make the process of a new addition to our family as difficult as possible. He lied to our children, refused to take all three children to therapy, and when I did take them he whined and complained, refused to take on extra workload to help our budget stabilize after a new addition, refused to even acknowledge the children were struggling, and even refused to take all three children out and about because he didn't want "people to judge" but it was perfectly fine for me to go through it. Basically, it felt like I was the only one trying to repair our family and have us move forward while he made damn sure we were stuck and hurting because he refused to acknowledge that he messed up. Divorce is the only option for me at this point. I just want to know, how can I explain this to my children? I've seen how refusing to actually explain to children can hurt them, hell I was the one picking up the pieces from last time thanks to him. I just don't want there to be any more lashing out or fighting. I'm terrified for my eldest in particular, she was the one most hurt by all these changes and I know she'll understand why. The last thing I want is for her to blame her siblings or herself. I've yet to tell anyone else my plans for divorce because I don't want it getting back to him or the kids before I'm ready. And if there is no way to make the impact easier, how can it make sure it's less damaging for them? OOP has only replied to one comment. The commenter questioned parts of OOP's story, more specifically why she stayed and helped take care of his affair child, and confused on the custody of said affair child and the biological children. Okay, let me try to help I'm sorry for the confusion. I discovered her existence about a year ago because her biological mother died in a car accident. It's a little confusing here and he still won't give me the why of this but he was on her birth certificate as the father so social services did the usual of home visits and background checks to place her with us because I refused to allow him to turn his back on her and have her struggle in the foster care system. I'm a nurse in the pediatric trauma center. I have been there as emotional support for children when they've been told about a parents passing in accidents or we had to make the tough call to CPS for abuse cases. I do not wish for anyone to witness when a child realizes that they're an orphan or being taken away from their parents. It's why I pushed for us to take her in. People on Reddit have told me that I'm too much of a saint for taking her in and that's why they don't believe me, but if you ever had to rub the back of a 4 year old having her first panic attack because she was told her parents didn't survive I hope you understand why I refused to ignore a 5 year old who this time I could save from the system. After the fallout that was primarily caused by my husband (and truth be told I also have some blame for it as well) I decided to divorce him. I asked him to transfer her custody to me because I knew after the divorce there's a high chance they would keep her with him and he wouldn't be a good father to her. I didn't want to risk the chance of that. I know that if I was the one to have custody of her I won't have to worry about that in the divorce. And it's only the 6 year old daughter he transferred custody over to, he still is a recognized father to our biological children. And thank you for the suggestion of age appropriate dialogue for our children. I do have some training on that because of my work, so I could try to rework it to make sense for divorce. And probably bump up therapy for the children. submitted by /u/RGLozWriter to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

Here I am, writing this long tale in my honeymoon, but it does feel cathartic to finally type it out, and my husband is more excited about this than the resort drinks, lol Anyway, this is a throwaway because I don't have a reddit account and my husband, the reddit fanatic, said he doesn't want this associated with his main. As to why the reddit guy isn't the one writing this, it's because he said "since it's my family, I should be the one with the honor of posting the story", but he is looking over my shoulder to help out. I'm not a lawyer so I don't know if this works but: I do not give permission for this to be reposted anywhere else So, I think first it's necessary to give some background, to explain how this behavior reached this level, and why our responses were as they were. It's a long read, I apologize. So, ever since I could remember, my parents loved my sister more. I don't mean in subtle ways either. If my sister accused me of something, they'd believe it and punish me. If I accused her, they wouldn't believe. Even if there was undeniable proof, they'd still give her a lesser punishment and try to find a way to scold me in tandem. My birthday cake had to be a flavor she wanted. Hers did not, and my parents always denied knowing I didn't like that type of cake. They always bought her a bit more than for me. We went to where she wanted, even if it was an event that should be about me. My sister grew up spoiled and didn't like me, just used me as a punching back. But at first she mostly ignored me. But then it got really bad when we were young teens. I'm not sure what the cause and effect are, but she found herself with no friends and her behavior got worse. Did her friends move, did they ditch her because she was mean? I don't know, because we were never close and my parents loved to boast about her achievements but never ever mentioned any issues (whereas with me, they loved to bring out any flaws of mine constantly as 'teasing' material). I only knew she had none because we went to the same school and I noticed her no longer walking around with people. Anyway, she had no friends. I did. I used to be decently popular. My sister realized that and suddenly I stopped being the occasional punching bag to a hated person she needed to take down at all times. She started accusing me of more stuff. She accused my friends of more stuff. My parents stopped allowing me to hang out with anyone, the excuses ranging from "they're not good people according to your sister" to "why are you trying to leave us, why cant you be like your sister and enjoy family time?". What saved me from complete isolation was extended family. Most of my family lived in the same hometown, and I got along with my cousins despite some age difference. At one gathering, they invited me over to something (I don't remember what), and I sadly replied I'm not allowed to go anywhere. When asked why, my kid self with no filter replied that it was because I wasn't allowed to have friends since my sister didn't have any. Well, that reached the adults. Who apparently tore my parents apart. Later I was scolded for lying and grounded (as if I had anywhere to go) for a month. But after that they allowed me some leeway, so it was worth it. And my sister changed schools. I guess the humiliation of extended family knowing her social status was bad and she demanded to be changed. And my parents immediately obliged, even though it cost them more since the school was further away. But she made friends on the new school. However, she never went back to the previous status quo of mostly ignoring me. I guess having felt the power of how badly she could screw with me, and anger that I told family she had no friends, she never let me go. My life was still bad. Her friends would come over and bully me and my parents called it light teasing. I never called friends over because my parents were awful hosts to them, or my sister would accuse them of taking stuff and they'd believe it. I did become close to my cousins though, since my parents never dared do any of that to family. And then I got my first boyfriend. I didn't want to bring him home at all, but my parents insisted. Well, at one point we were separated and he came to find me to tell me my sister was flirting with him. By which he meant, she came over with skimpy clothing, batting her eyelashes really badly and started telling him how bad I was and how good she was. He was irked and ran off to find me. Of course, my sister told my parents a different tale: that my bf had instead tried to flirt with her, but she naturally refused since how could she do that to me. Guess who my parents believed. Now, my bf wasn't perfect but... I immediately believed him. For a mean reason. But remember that back then I was a teen and suffering from the unfair bad treatment. I was very resentful and moody and now hated my sister as much as she hated me. With that disclaimer out of the way... let's talk about looks. I hadn't mentioned them yet because they weren't relevant. My parents were/are overweight. And since they liked showing love via food (giving you more food, buying treats etc), my sister was/is also overweight, whereas I was/am not (in fact I've always been kind of skinny because punishment often included no treats or snacks). OBVIOUSLY, weight isn't what matters, personality is. But my sister even then was already rude and spoiled, even her flirting attempts were bad because she never learned to work for anything since she could demand and my parents would deliver. Added to that the fact that she didn't look like some sexy model... even my self conscious teen self didn't believe my bf would try and cheat on me with her. Anyway, my parents prohibited me from dating such a horrible boy. I did try to keep going in secret but it was hard and the relationship ended. I did get another, but again my sister accused him of flirting with her when he refused her advances. Again my parents believed her. I tried pointing out how this happened again, but they decided that meant I was incapable of making good choices and kept picking bad boyfriends. The relationship couldn't handle the romeo juliet situation, and fizzled out again. I would eventually get called a slut in highschool, as I was fine with making out with boys and such but refused to have relationships. Thankfully it never got back to my sister or parents. My sister did bring one boyfriend home during all this time. He was paraded with pride, and my parents spent every second telling me how good he was, and why couldn't I be like my sister and find myself someone like that. Until he stopped showing up, and suddenly he was conniving bastard that tricked my sister. Oh well. And the unequal treatment continued at this time. She had more spending money, her curfews were much better than mine, she was free to go anywhere at anytime while I couldn't. If I pointed it out, my parents would say it's because she's older. But when I reached that age, I still didn't have the same treatment she had, and when pointed out, they'd deny they ever said that or claim it was because I couldn't be trusted like she was (using my sister's accusations against my bf and friends as proof of my bad judgment). Time goes by, and it's time for my sister to graduate. She was accepted into a college. Not a very well regarded one, and she had no scholarship or anything. Again, because only her achievements were told to me, I don't know which colleges she even tried for, so I can't say how badly she was rejected. I do know her grades were bad in school though, because whenever she got a B we would celebrate (I would usually get good grades but my parents refused to celebrate, claiming since I always got those, what was there to celebrate?). My parents, naturally, made a lot of fanfare and told her they'd pay for everything. I was relieved she'd be going away. Not that it made my life any easier. She'd always come home every other weekend and somehow stuff kept missing from her room or some other issue she'd think of to make my life miserable. My curfews were still strict, etc. Eventually, my mom came to talk to me about my impending graduation (I'm only a year younger than my sister). She told me since they were paying for my sister's college, they had no money to pay for mine. So it would be "better" for me to start working immediately after graduation and waiting until my sister finished uni to see if they could afford something for me. Oh, and if I decided to stay at home, I'd have to pay for all my stuff, part of the bills, and rent. I pointed out I could get student loans. Mom said yes... except no. That is, because they were so caring towards me, and I had such bad judgement, they would decide if a college was worth my getting in debt or not. I'm not sure how they'd stop me from getting loans, but I didn't ask. Scholarships weren't mentioned. They had no idea what my grades were anymore, and never believed in my capabilities. Anyway, I didn't bat an eyelid. I simply said okay. My mom clearly didn't expect that and kept pushing. Maybe she hoped I'd throw a tantrum so they'd have an excuse to not ever pay for my college. But I said nothing except I understood their position, thanked them for caring and that was that. My dad later tried the same but I also refused to be emotional. You see, after a whole lifetime of their terrible parenting, I NEVER had any expectations towards my education. I knew they would find an excuse to not pay for mine and make my life miserable. I never believed they would eventually pay it if I worked and waited for my sister to graduate. I had been preparing for college for a long time. I could barely go out, my friendships were slim, so I had a lot of time to study. And study I did, because I saw college as my only chance to be free. Well, the time came and I worked my ass off and got a scholarship. Not to anywhere like Ivy league or anything like law or medical school. But it was a good enough course, in a decent college, with a full scholarship. Knowing my sister would hate it and try to stop me via parents, I put my achievement in social media at the same time I told them. Even forced myself to thank them in the post. Now they couldn't forbid me from going, as they'd have to explain to family why not. Initially they were even a little proud and boasting about it. And then I guess my sister got to them, and they changed gears and even asked me if I was sure I wanted to go. They let slip my sister wasn't doing well in college, and since she was smarter and had better judgement than me, I'd suffer worse. I obviously stuck to my guns. They weren't happy but couldn't do anything. College was my savior. I started being happy. I still contacted my parents and visited on holidays and such, but since they refused to pay for anything, I could excuse not going a lot due to money. During this time, I avoided introducing any man to them. And my sister stopped going to college (I know she didn't graduate because, again, they'd have made a fanfare about it), moved back home (paying no bills or rent but "it's different" my parents said) and started working at the same company as my mom, obviously thanks to my mom pulling strings. This was all sold to me as a source of pride. Oh well. Almost there I promise! I met my husband around this time. You know those people that say that "if I was in X situation, I'd have done something"? My husband is the type that really does. I'm the person that is meek and a doormat in any situation and then can't sleep at night wishing I had done something, had thought of something witty to say etc. I'm the person that can't help but cry when I'm angry. My husband is the guy that claps back immediately. He loves drama, in that he loves to resolve it. He's the guy that if he doesn't immediately reply to a slight, you better start worrying because he won't forgive and forget, he's just stewing something worse for revenge. He's the one that wanted me to post here. And wanted to post on a nuclear revenge board too, but decided what we did wasn't nuclear. People were baffled I got together with him. But just because I was incapable (thanks to my upbringing probably) of acting like him, it didn't mean I didn't like it. I love that my husband does what I can't. And he treats people well as long as they do the same to him. When we discussed marriage, we decided we didn't care much about the ceremony due to our budget, as we'd rather spend on a dream trip to Europe for our honeymoon. As for where to do it, since his family was spread out and mine was still mostly concentrated in my hometown, we decided to do it there. We weren't living too far off either, so we could take some long trips during the weekends to manage stuff. Plus there was some work flexibility, so we could say in my hometown for a bit too if needed. We sent out the engagement announcement and the save the date for a few months later. Well, at this point my parents naturally demanded they meet my man. I wanted to grow a spine and refuse, but was having a hard time. The distance had made me think maybe my parents weren't so bad. Well, my husband looked like I cancelled Christmas when I told him I would at least ensure they were never alone with him. See, he had been getting ready for this. He even bought a high quality recorder he could hide in a pocket to record it all. He was stoked, thinking of all the ways he could refuse my sister's advances, insult her, and then spread the recording of her attempts to my family. So, off he went alone and excited to meet them. And came back later euphoric. "Babe! Babe! You won't believe the awful shit they wanted! Babe! We can fuck them over so bad, there's so many possibilities!" I was confused, and wanted to hear the recording but he, smartly, told me it was better to listen to him first or else I'd misunderstand him. Well... he went there, and instead of the flirting, my parents and my sister sat him down. After some grumbling about not being okay with him, my judgement etc, they proclaimed they were willing to pay for my wedding... on one condition. My sister would walk down the isle on my wedding first. In a wedding dress. Their excuses were that it wasn't okay for a younger sister to marry first, so it was only fair if my sister had at least the experience of it. On my venue. With pictures being taken, and the dress, and she'd have a cake later too etc. My husband will now type his part: hey! vengeaful husband here, hell hath no fury like a prorevenge/instantkarma/nuclearrevenge lurker when his beloved is scorned! That said, as much as my wife (teehee, she's my wife now!!) paints me as this quick witted dude, I admit my neurons all but shortcircuited when those folks legit suggested that shit like some sort of great fucking gift. Even Troy would rather take in the horse a second time, methinks. Alas, after my brain rebooted, I did have a whole ass catalog of insults about to spew out, but something in my soul whispered in my ear like the devil: string these fucks along. So I said I needed to think, see how my wife (back then fiance) would react, and then ran out of there before I could give away my nefarious plans. Back to me, the wife: So, my husband sincerely recounted how my parents wanted even my wedding to be about my sister, with a grin on his face. And had the recording to prove it. I was shocked. The distance had softened how bad they treated me. And I thought even they wouldn't go so far. Thankfully, my husband insisting on the angle of revenge helped me not go to a bad headspace. We had a blast thinking up ways to screw them over this. From ridiculously outlandish to what we thought was feasible. We then called his much more level headed brother when we decided on a plan. It involved having two venue addresses, giving them the wrong one etc. Well, level headed brother scolded us for it. While he acknowledged he would never be able to convince us from retaliation, he at least showed us something like that would be hard to pull off. Some of our other ideas were also at danger of getting sued. So we eventually settled for the most benign plan: Act like we agreed, but then hire security and don't let her in. Obviously, if that was all, it wouldn't be prorevenge. The rest is all mostly my husband, by he wants me to do the honors so here goes. Just important to mention, everything he did was previously discussed with me, and were our mutual ideas: He went back to my parents. Said he probed and thought I wouldn't be down with it. However, he didn't see the issue and, not wanting family to fall apart, would be down to helping them do it. He pointed out I don't like conflict, so if I was surprised with it, I might not throw a tantrum in front of all the people. On the other hand, marriage IS a big thing, so who knew if I'd lash out. Thus he suggested a compromise: they'd help pay for stuff. This way, I would feel even more pressure to not say anything, as not only would we be public (well, with our families there), but I'd be grateful to the help they gave and that'd mollify me. He said my parents looked surprised, by my grown sister starting skipping with joy. Literally so, like a kid. So it was accepted. IMPORTANT: my husband also claimed that due to some bad judgement in boyfriends in the past (These words were all my idea and I'm so so proud of using their words against then lol), I was distrustful and controlling and liked to check his phone and stuff to ensure he wasn't cheating on me. As such, it was imperative that NOTHING of this plan was ever put in any writing. For any discussion pertaining to my sister walking down the aisle before me, he'd go over to their house to talk. And so began the months of deception. Where my parents and sister thought they were tricking me, and my husband and I were milking them. How? Well, rather than pay for the wedding than lay low, of course my parents wanted input in everything. Some stuff that meant a lot to me (the songs and color palette), my husband would convince them to let it go to "keep me in line". But since we never really cared for the ceremony to begin with, everything else was game... or so they thought. What we did was thus: we'd go, say, to check the drink and menu options. We'd then accept the lowest or second lowest priced option. My husband would then "secretly" take my sister there to also try it out, then sigh and say it's a pity we don't want to abuse my parents goodwill so we wouldn't get the best options. Cue my sister demanding my parents pay for the best. My parents would then tell me not to worry and they'd pay for the most expensive. Same was done with photographer. Flowers: My husband handed my sister a bouquet of the flowers we wanted, then sadly expressed how I wanted some other, tasteless flowers. Cue my parents telling me they wanted us to go with said flowers and they'd pay for it. Wedding dress: we hit a minor snag here. My parents wanted me to use a hideous dress. Okay, not outright hideous, but it wasn't my stile and wouldn't look that good on me. We had planned on saying yes then simply not using it, but my mom sent me a message about it, so there'd be proof I said okay. We had to go with me refusing in text, and standing my ground. My husband went over there and said he'd "see what he could do". My sister suggested ruining my desired dress so I'd be forced to wear the other one. He pretended to agree. During all this time, they really kept communications outside any text. We made sure that'd happen by, when my sister tried messaging my husband, have me reply to hear. This solidified the "I'm controlling and neurotic" claims my husband was making. So they believed it and never risked anything in writing. (And maybe some people might not like the thought of their partner going around and talking badly about them to family. But I'm such a doormat that the thought of being painting as this controlling and dangerous bitch is extremely funny to me, and I egged him on to do it. I guess I have a warped sense of humor lol) Oh, and my sister did try to flirt with him, but he acted conflicted. Also, to really sell that he was with them, my husband would pretend to tell them things without my knowledge. But he never told them we hired security. It was really funny. My husband and I, who had sincerely considered a courthouse wedding to focus cost on our honeymoon, having this extravagant, expensive wedding, and barely spending a dime. We called it "backpay for emotional damages" from my parents, lol I think my husband (okay, he just confirmed I'm right lol) was enjoying the whole tricking them more than planning our wedding lol I didn't think it was possible to witness a guy beaming at the thought of wasting his whole Saturday doing a car trip to discuss wedding details with his in laws, but here we are. Soon the day came. The plan my parents/sister/husband had come up with was: wait until everyone was seated. Since the bride always comes out late, they'd have my sister arrive at that precise time (to avoid me seeing her and trying to stop it), and walk down the isle. By the time I heard what happened, it'd be too late to do anything. As for my dress: we saved some of the leftover fabric from my dress alterations, and my husband took that to my parents place (sister still lives with them even now), and showed them as proof he'd ruined the dress. Than said he had to go back to me as I was raging and he needed to calm me down, he'd see them at the wedding. We made sure to keep our actual security hidden at first. As the guests and my parents arrived, all they could see was a woman with a list of names to check. Only after my parents arrived and sat down did we bring out security. A guy that looked like a bodyguard. We told him to not allow anyone my sister in, and even agreed on paying a handsome tip if he didn't reveal we told him that. Soon the time arrived. My parents got a text my sister was less than 5minutes away, so my dad went and told people to start. My bridesmaids had been told to follow his lead beforehand, so they obeyed without checking with me. After they all went down and took their places, my dad stood up at the entrance, as if waiting for me. During this, a friend not in the wedding party texted me to get ready. This because if my husband or bridesmaids etc took out a phone and started texting, people might notice. This friend was in on the plan. She's my husband's friend, as willing to help stir drama as he is and didn't care about being a bridesmaid or anything. Well, as soon as my dad took his position, the bridal song started playing, the doors open and... I come in. My dad looked aghast at me being there. He tried glancing behind me, but you can't see the venue entrance from where we were, so he couldn't see what happened to my sister. And then his phone rang, I saw the caller ID and it was her. He just... left me there with a mumbled "something came up". There were gasps and confusion all around. The friend in on it, loudly asked what happened. I lied and in a teary voice said he told me "it wasn't supposed to be me there". (It's not what he said, but my husband and I agreed that if he dared leave me, I should say that to make him look the worst possible. As for the tears, I wish I could say it was just my stellar acting, but no. Despite everything, a part of me didn't think he'd go as far as abandon me there. That the sister thing wasn't true but an elaborate joke. I don't know. I was hurt, still am, so I was sincerely trying not to cry) The friend then loudly went "What did he mean by it shouldn't be you???" so that as many people as possible could hear and spread it, then went "I Will go and check!" and ran off. We decided to do this to make her create hell with the security and stop my dad from coming back and stopping the ceremony or something. At some point my mom also left. At this point, my husband's dad quickly ran over and took my arm. He'd been forewarned he might need to. Watching him run desperately to me helped me smile. I walked down the isle to whispers as people discussed what happened. Some apparently left to check too. When I reached my husband though, all was well. He made me feel better joking my sad face was so real I deserved an Oscar, and don't worry, he'd rake them over the coals for what they did lol We got married without a hitch. My parents didn't come back. I did notice a lot of people leaving then coming back during the party, but no one dared tell me what was happening. Someone did come and whisper in my husband's ear and he went out. He came back after a while, with a thunderous expression, but whispered in my ear he needed to go hide somewhere before he broke character and started smiling lol Well, what happened is... it worked! The following is the summed account from friends, family, the security guy and my husband, that I received afterwards: My sister did arrive in a wedding dress. The security refused to let her in. Per our agreement, he claimed she must be in the wrong venue because there was already a bride. And yes, we tipped him really well as promised. My dad went there and tried threatening him with police, claiming he never heard of him, so he couldn't be working there. The security agreed to the police, since he was hired by us and doing his job. My dad realized by then it'd be too late and tried to demand he let my sister in. At this point the friend came over started shouting and insulting my sister and asking what was going on. Basically stalling. My mom soon came and eventually other people. At this point the wedding plan was bust. All my parents could do now is damage control as everyone that learned about it was aghast they'd try and pull it and screaming and berating them. The three naturally said it wasn't a secret, and threw my husband under the bus. At this point my husband was summoned. When he came over he put on his best look of confusion and denied, denied, denied. To quote him: gaslight, gatekeep, girlboss lol. He denied having ever agreed to something so ridiculous. When they insisted he did, he demanded proof and of course, they couldn't produce any. All text exchanges they could produce were about normal wedding decisions. My sister was scream crying and apparently sat on the floor kicking her legs like a kid. My dad looked like he'd beat my husband, but security and other people held him back. Of course, they said they had no proof because my husband told them not to text. My husband laughed and said "wow, how convenient huh?" then again repeated why would he EVER agree to something so fucked up. Tore them a new one about being awful parents, then said he wasn't going to let their stupid plans and lying get in the way of his wedding and went back to me. No one believed them. The venue had cameras but they refused to show me the recording as that was only for security purposes. But some people filmed parts of it. Watching my parents and sister get ripped apart by any and everyone that came out to check the drama was delicious. After years and years of being accused of stuff and not believed, to watch them have a taste was one of the best wedding gifts. My mother was crying, my dad kept changing from purple to white, my sister was still on the floor crying and screaming. They kept insisting on that my husband was in on it. But people kept asking why would my husband agree, why was there no proof, why did they want my sister to do this to my wedding? And they had no good answer to any of it Eventually they were told to leave and had no choice but to do so. My dad apparently had to drag my sister up as she refused to leave the ground. Again, people said nothing to me all night. I guess they wanted to spare me. And maybe it's because I was the bride and not just a guest for once, but it did feel like everyone was making extra effort to be nice, positive and excited about everything. My husband says "all the expensive shit they were eating drinking certainly helps" lol. We had a blast. My husband maintained the forced angry face for only a short while before breaking out in smiles again. After that we went to the hotel to catch some sleep before going to our honeymoon. (Speaking of which, my parents did try to pay for our plane tickets, but we thought that was risky as they could try and cancel them or something so we refused) Of course, since that whole thing the three have tried to contact me. I've refused calls, because my husband insisted on keeping a papertrail. I smart thing, because my sister did eventually message me. I won't repeat it as it was very unhinged and didn't make much sense, but the important part was that she blamed me for her humiliation, called my husband a two faced snake that fooled them for months (he wants to print and put that on our wall lol) and hoped (but was also certain it'd happen) that I'd get cheated on by him. She did also suggest he was cheating on me with her, actually. My husband took my phone, screenshot the call logs, screenshot my sister's message, screenshot some messages of my parents demanding I pick up the phone... and sent it all to my family group chat. And sent screenshots of messages to him, where they called him names and threatened him (but he kept up the "you're delusional, I never agreed to anything" shtick, and even threatened to sue them for defamation and harassment). He wrote a message in said group chat begging my family for help, as I was now being harassed by them constantly. He begged family to help stop them from trying to ruin my honeymoon now that they had failed to ruin my wedding. Then finished neatly with a request that they don't share our locations, to avoid my parents sending my sister over and then claiming he had somehow agreed to pretend to fuck her in our honeymoon suite. LOL. My family assured him they'd take care of it. And indeed, since then we've had silence. My husband is a little disappointed my sister didn't disobey, so he could tattle again while tearing her a new asshole. We'll see if it'll last. All in all, while I obviously would preferred to have a normal loving family at my wedding, at least for once in my life they not only failed to ruin something meaningful to me, but I got them back. *** Extra info: Do I know why they treat me like this? I've been asked this question a lot so I assume you all will think the same. I have wondered this all my life, and I still don't know. I tried asking when I was young, but they denied any difference and scolded me for acting spoiled, so I quit trying. I've thought of some many possibilities, but based on my observations I think it's this: I was unplanned. They took a while to have my sister, so she was not only wanted but also like a miracle child after so long. However, given our age difference is quite small... I think they didn't expected to have a kid so soon or easily, and didn't use adequate protection way too soon after my sister's birth. And maybe didn't notice my mom was pregnant until too late. So they were saddled with an unplanned baby while still dealing with a newborn. And they're not that well off, so having the extra expense likely didn't help. So they resented me. But that's my conjecture. Regardless, I've accepted the answer won't truly matter: what they did to me was unwarranted no matter what. ​ Did they really think this would work? My husband and I talked, and we have the theory that they never wanted to do this at all. We think my sister threw a tantrum over me getting married first when she barely gets dates, and they gave my husband that outlandish proposition. As in, they didn't want to pay for my wedding and didn't think we'd accept or that it'd even look good for them to do it. But by suggesting it and being refused, they could look like the good guys to my sister while having an excuse to not give me a dime. But then my husband accepted it, and they couldn't backtrack, or else risk my sister turning on them. ​ ​ (edited to fix some typos) SUMMARY because it did get too long: bad parents want to have my sister walk down the aisle at my wedding first, in wedding dress and all. My husband pretends to go along with it, and uses this as an excuse to get my parents to pay for the most expensive stuff possible for my wedding (which they only did because they thought it would be for my sister's sake). When the day comes though, we hired security that didn't let her in. When family called out my parents, they said my husband was in on it. But my husband denied it. There was no evidence, so no one believed them. 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