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RSD is described as an intense emotional reaction to rejection, criticism, and insults. it doesn't matter if you were actually rejected, or if it only felt like you were rejected. RSD is often associated with ADHD, but many people with ADHD don't experience RSD, and people without ADHD can experience RSD also. when people with RSD are rejected by someone, they often analyze that "failure", trying to understand why that other person avoided them. for them, it feels like trying to gain some kind of control in a world that is largely out of their control. I've attached a picture that describes some commonly experienced symptoms of RSD. 🥲 submitted by /u/twinkhon_gwyndolin to r/NEET [link] [comments]

Hi guys! I was diagnosed last year and suffered with RSD my whole life. I am overly melancholic and emotional. Sometimes it even stops me from doing tasks and I am caught in my thoughts of regret, shame or guilt for a whole day. It sucks. I pick up people's moods and tones really quick, and assume everyone hates me. I always question if I did anything wrong and I am overly anxious about everything. I wonder if ADHD medications help with RSD slightly? And which ones did? I managed to live unmedicated and graduated from top universities three times with honors. But now I feel drained from all these emotions. I go to psychotherapist and we practice being in a present, but it doesn't help much with emotional regulation. Will be happy to read your stories. submitted by /u/NoAd7793 to r/ADHD [link] [comments]

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I’ve noticed that rejection hits me way harder than it seems to hit other people, and I think ADHD has a lot to do with it. It’s like my brain instantly blows it up into this huge thing, replaying every detail over and over until I feel like crap. Even small stuff, like someone not replying to a text or passing on an idea I shared, can leave me spiraling for hours. I feel like my self-worth is tied to every “no” or ignored message, and it’s exhausting. I’ve read a bit about rejection sensitive dysphoria and it makes sense our brains are basically wired to feel every social “fail” like it’s a catastrophe. It’s not just feeling sad, it’s like my nervous system goes into overdrive and I can’t shut it off. I know logically that not every rejection is personal, but feeling it physically is brutal. Does anyone else with ADHD feel like a single rejection can mess with your whole day or even week? submitted by /u/Fragrant_Elevator571 to r/ADHD [link] [comments]

I am NOT the Original Poster. That is throwawayaitah101525. He posted in r/AITAH Thanks to u/SmartQuokka for the rec! Do NOT comment on Original Posts. Latest update is 7 days old. Mood Spoiler: frustrating for OOP but a happy ending Original Post: October 15, 2025 I know sometimes it might seem like the answer is obvious, but I am honestly asking for the truth because I am getting so much pressure from my family that it is becoming unbearable now. I (M30) am newly engaged. My fiancée (F30) and I have been together for two years and we both feel ready for the next step. We don't want a big wedding. We both come from huge families and we don't want to deal with the costs and the headache of planning a huge event. Our plan is to go to city hall and sign the required papers. We would invite my parents, my sister, my brother-in-law, my fiancée's father, sister, brother-in-law and brother, as well as two of my friends (since they were the ones who set my me and my fiancée up when we were in the armed forces). After city hall we would all go out for dinner. We don't want any other wedding stuff or any kind of reception. When my older sister got married three years ago I ended up being thankful I was stationed in another country and wasn't at home (I was in the Air Force at the time). She had a huge, expensive wedding, and then took an expensive trip to the United States for her honeymoon. This is normal in our family but watching the wedding on a live stream was enough for me. I was getting a headache when I was hearing about the planning second hand. My fiancée and don't want that stress. I thought my family would have a problem with us not a having big wedding or only inviting my parents, sister and brother-in-law. But my sister got upset because she wanted to be my fiancée's maid of honour. We aren't even having a maid of honour/best man or wedding party at all. Even if we were, my fiancée would want her own sister to be maid of honour, not my sister. My sister also thought she would get a special role in the wedding as 'sister of the groom' which isn't a thing as far as I know. She wants to have a moment where she walks down the aisle alone before my wife does. I've never seen anything like that at wedding I've ever gone to. Only the bride or one half of the couple (and sometimes the father) walks down the aisle. For full disclosure, my sister has ADHD and with that she also has something called rejection sensitive dysphoria. She takes rejection really personally and even though my parents sent her to therapy before she still takes it hard when she thinks someone has rejected her, even if they haven't really done that. I told her my fiancée and I aren't having wedding parties or a wedding where other people have a special role or moment. She feels rejected and now my parents, my brother-in-law and other people in my family are pressuring me to change my mind. AITAH for telling my sister and everyone else that I don't care if she feels rejected and won't change a thing about the wedding? It gets annoying to have everything revolve around my sister's feelings all the damn time. I don't think it's wrong for me and my fiancée to want our wedding day to be about us. (Instead of giving my sister the role of maid of honour/groom's sister and letting her be the center of attention like she wants). My parents and my brother-in-law are the worst offenders and I ended up telling them (and everyone else who pressured me) that I'm done talking about this and to never bring it up again. AITAH for this? I just want to have my wedding the way my fiancée and I want it. But my family has never gotten so upset at me about anything else before so I wonder if I overstepped. Edited to add: To whoever is sending me Reddit cares messages, I am fine and don't need that. Top Comments Alternative_Owl_3710: NTA and i would tell your parents, Sister and BIL that if they mention it again then NONE of them will be attending the small occasion your have planned. You'll just elope and have some random witnesses. That should shut them up Kappybook916: The two who set them up could be their witnesses. OP’s side of the family needs to FUCKING chill. It’s not his job to manage his sisters mental illness. TheRoadkillRapunzel: Jesus. RSD is something you have to work on, not something that means everyone has to give into you to prove that they “really care about you.” I have ADHD. I sometimes get RSD. It sucks. It’s hard. It also doesn’t mean I get to demand to get my way all the time. NTA. You need to be firm with your sister. It seems like no one else is willing to. Aminar14: Right. Imagine entering the dating world and saying "You can't reject me, I have RSD." I've got ADHD. It's hard sometimes. But it's my problem and I feel bad when it affects anyone else. But I don't get mad at them because I feel bad. That's my problem. Editor's note: Including this comment because I found it helpful Fresh_Passion1184: I have RSD. your sister is trying to weaponise hers. There is no wedding party so there's no MoH. There is no wedding party so there is no Sister of the Groom. It's not about her. It's that simple. If she remains upset she needs to work that out in therapy. Update Post: November 2, 2025 (2.5 weeks later) We got married. We had the wedding we wanted. On Friday afternoon we went to city hall, signed the paperwork and had a very quick ceremony. We invited my wife's dad, her sister and brother-in-law, her brother and his fiancée, and my best friend and his wife. (My best friend and his wife were the ones who introduced me to my wife, back when my friend, my wife and I were serving in the armed forces). That evening everyone went out to a nearby restaurant for dinner. Everyone took some photos so we can remember the day but things were very relaxed. We all wore clothes we already had and we kept everything low key. My wife and I spent Saturday together and we both have to work today. We decided not to invite my sister, brother-in-law and parents because of how they were acting. The last straw was them trying to say my father-in-law was on their side and wanted us to have a big wedding. He never said that. I actually think he was a tiny bit relieved because my wife's sister got married this year and her brother is getting married next year. My father-in-law doesn't try to control the weddings of his kids. He helps out with errands if he's needed but he doesn't try to control or change things. I think he was relieved my wife and I didn't have a big wedding, but he would never say that out loud or comment on his kids having a big or small wedding. My sister and everyone else are upset but I honestly don't care. I don't think it is unreasonable for a couple to have the wedding they want, or to have all the attention on them when it's their wedding day. I can't believe my parents and my brother-in-law are entertaining her ideas on this. If we did have wedding parties my wife would want her own sister as the maid of honour, not my sister. I don't know where my sister got the idea she would get to walk down the aisle alone with flowers before my wife did, or have a special role as "sister of the groom". I don't know why her, my parents and my brother-in-law think they get to control my wedding. My wife and I are adults, we don't live with any of them and we have jobs/our own money. I put my foot down that my wife and I had the wedding we wanted, and we will not be having any other wedding related stuff. We are done. My wife and I are estatic about being married and that's all I care about. I appreciated all the support in my last post. Edit: I have been told it is common in America, the UK, and other places for the wedding party to walk down the aisle. I hadn't heard of it because as I explained in my post that isn't done here. Also even if it was, my sister wouldn't have been part of the wedding party. My wife would have chosen her own sister and her friends and I would have chosen my friends. It would have looked very strange for my sister to walk down the aisle alone before my wife did. Some of OOP's Comments: (all comments upvoted) Logical-Broccoli-331: Congratulations! I'm quite curious how your family reacted though OOP: They are upset, but honestly I don't care how they feel. To several comments asking what will happen if sis or wife has children or if sis has trouble conceiving but wife doesn't- how would sister react to that: OOP: My wife and I won't be having children. (Nothing to do with my sister, but we don't want to be parents). I understand the point you are making though. ChaosCron1: ETA Ultimately, it's your prerogative to have your wedding how you want it and nobody else should make it about themselves. However, man, you must really not like your family. "I'm annoyed that my family is being pushy about a big wedding so I'm just going to cut them out entirely." OOP: It's exhausting to have everything be about my sister all the time. I've been dealing with it for 15 years and I'm tired of it. My sister would not stop complaining. My parents tried to control my wedding and tell my wife and I what we were allowed and not allowed to do. My wife and I are both adults and we don't live with my parents or get money from them. I don't think it is unreasonable for a couple to have the wedding they want, or to want to be the center of attention on their wedding day. My sister gets what she wants every other day. If all that makes me an asshole, so be it. Top Comment: HelpfulName: My husband has Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria... I don't think your sister's issues in respect to your wedding were related to RSD because that's not really how it works. I think your sister may well have RSD, but she's also got a bad case of Main Character Syndrome and needs to be center stage at all times, even when things are not about her. In other words she's just a self-absorbed asshole at times, completely separate to her mental health conditions. I'm glad you two had the wedding you wanted! Congratulations. sexishardandstuff: Right, it cannot possibly help her RSD that the things she asks for are extreme, and that’s your parent’s fault. It was their job to help her learn to deal with rejection in a healthy way, and now she doesn’t know the difference between appropriate and inappropriate requests. The world outside of her family is not going to her kindly when she makes those demands. They set her up for failure. submitted by /u/LucyAriaRose to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I am not the OOP. The OOP is u/throwawayaitah101525 posting in r/AITAH Concluded as per OOP 1 update - Medium Original - 15th October 2025 Update - 2nd November 2025 AITAH for saying I don't care about my sister's rejection sensitive dysphoria, and will be having my wedding the way I want it? I know sometimes it might seem like the answer is obvious, but I am honestly asking for the truth because I am getting so much pressure from my family that it is becoming unbearable now. I (M30) am newly engaged. My fiancée (F30) and I have been together for two years and we both feel ready for the next step. We don't want a big wedding. We both come from huge families and we don't want to deal with the costs and the headache of planning a huge event. Our plan is to go to city hall and sign the required papers. We would invite my parents, my sister, my brother-in-law, my fiancée's father, sister, brother-in-law and brother, as well as two of my friends (since they were the ones who set my me and my fiancée up when we were in the armed forces). After city hall we would all go out for dinner. We don't want any other wedding stuff or any kind of reception. When my older sister got married three years ago I ended up being thankful I was stationed in another country and wasn't at home (I was in the Air Force at the time). She had a huge, expensive wedding, and then took an expensive trip to the United States for her honeymoon. This is normal in our family but watching the wedding on a live stream was enough for me. I was getting a headache when I was hearing about the planning second hand. My fiancée and don't want that stress. I thought my family would have a problem with us not a having big wedding or only inviting my parents, sister and brother-in-law. But my sister got upset because she wanted to be my fiancée's maid of honour. We aren't even having a maid of honour/best man or wedding party at all. Even if we were, my fiancée would want her own sister to be maid of honour, not my sister. My sister also thought she would get a special role in the wedding as 'sister of the groom' which isn't a thing as far as I know. She wants to have a moment where she walks down the aisle alone before my wife does. I've never seen anything like that at wedding I've ever gone to. Only the bride or one half of the couple (and sometimes the father) walks down the aisle. For full disclosure, my sister has ADHD and with that she also has something called rejection sensitive dysphoria. She takes rejection really personally and even though my parents sent her to therapy before she still takes it hard when she thinks someone has rejected her, even if they haven't really done that. I told her my fiancée and I aren't having wedding parties or a wedding where other people have a special role or moment. She feels rejected and now my parents, my brother-in-law and other people in my family are pressuring me to change my mind. AITAH for telling my sister and everyone else that I don't care if she feels rejected and won't change a thing about the wedding? It gets annoying to have everything revolve around my sister's feelings all the damn time. I don't think it's wrong for me and my fiancée to want our wedding day to be about us. (Instead of giving my sister the role of maid of honour/groom's sister and letting her be the center of attention like she wants). My parents and my brother-in-law are the worst offenders and I ended up telling them (and everyone else who pressured me) that I'm done talking about this and to never bring it up again. AITAH for this? I just want to have my wedding the way my fiancée and I want it. But my family has never gotten so upset at me about anything else before so I wonder if I overstepped. Edited to add: To whoever is sending me Reddit cares messages, I am fine and don't need that. Comments Alternative_Owl_3710 NTA and i would tell your parents, Sister and BIL that if they mention it again then NONE of them will be attending the small occasion your have planned. You'll just elope and have some random witnesses. That should shut them up Kappybook916 The two who set them up could be their witnesses. OP’s side of the family needs to FUCKING chill. It’s not his job to manage his sisters mental illness. Keetcha ADHD is not mental illness. She is neurodivergent. However, she has to learn how to manage her feelings. Her parents and family should get her appropriate support to that end. OP should have the wedding they want. JustKindaHappenedxx This isn’t even about her ADHD or RSD. This is about her being entitled and self absorbed. She is used to getting her way to avoid upsetting her and now she has turned into someone who wants to make everything about themself. That’s not her ADHD, that’s her ego. I’m guessing she didn’t make OP’s fiance her maid of honor, so funny that she expects it for herself. OP, have the (non) wedding that you want. It’s about you and your fiance, not your sister, your parents, or anyone else. Everyone is either welcome to join in your plans for your marriage, or they are welcome to stay home. And let them know the conversation is over. The next time someone brings it up, tell them it’s not up for discussion. Then leave/send them home/hang up the phone. Every. Single. Time. Also, don’t be surprised when your sister shows up in a bridesmaid dress. TheRoadkillRapunzel Jesus. RSD is something you have to work on, not something that means everyone has to give into you to prove that they “really care about you.” I have ADHD. I sometimes get RSD. It sucks. It’s hard. It also doesn’t mean I get to demand to get my way all the time. NTA. You need to be firm with your sister. It seems like no one else is willing to. **Judgement - NTA*\* Update - 2 weeks later We got married. We had the wedding we wanted. On Friday afternoon we went to city hall, signed the paperwork and had a very quick ceremony. We invited my wife's dad, her sister and brother-in-law, her brother and his fiancée, and my best friend and his wife. (My best friend and his wife were the ones who introduced me to my wife, back when my friend, my wife and I were serving in the armed forces). That evening everyone went out to a nearby restaurant for dinner. Everyone took some photos so we can remember the day but things were very relaxed. We all wore clothes we already had and we kept everything low key. My wife and I spent Saturday together and we both have to work today. We decided not to invite my sister, brother-in-law and parents because of how they were acting. The last straw was them trying to say my father-in-law was on their side and wanted us to have a big wedding. He never said that. I actually think he was a tiny bit relieved because my wife's sister got married this year and her brother is getting married next year. My father-in-law doesn't try to control the weddings of his kids. He helps out with errands if he's needed but he doesn't try to control or change things. I think he was relieved my wife and I didn't have a big wedding, but he would never say that out loud or comment on his kids having a big or small wedding. My sister and everyone else are upset but I honestly don't care. I don't think it is unreasonable for a couple to have the wedding they want, or to have all the attention on them when it's their wedding day. I can't believe my parents and my brother-in-law are entertaining her ideas on this. If we did have wedding parties my wife would want her own sister as the maid of honour, not my sister. I don't know where my sister got the idea she would get to walk down the aisle alone with flowers before my wife did, or have a special role as "sister of the groom". I don't know why her, my parents and my brother-in-law think they get to control my wedding. My wife and I are adults, we don't live with any of them and we have jobs/our own money. I put my foot down that my wife and I had the wedding we wanted, and we will not be having any other wedding related stuff. We are done. My wife and I are estatic about being married and that's all I care about. I appreciated all the support in my last post. Edit: I have been told it is common in America, the UK, and other places for the wedding party to walk down the aisle. I hadn't heard of it because as I explained in my post that isn't done here. Also even if it was, my sister wouldn't have been part of the wedding party. My wife would have chosen her own sister and her friends and I would have chosen my friends. It would have looked very strange for my sister to walk down the aisle alone before my wife did. Comments HelpfulName My husband has Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria... I don't think your sister's issues in respect to your wedding were related to RSD because that's not really how it works. I think your sister may well have RSD, but she's also got a bad case of Main Character Syndrome and needs to be center stage at all times, even when things are not about her. In other words she's just a self-absorbed asshole at times, completely separate to her mental health conditions. I'm glad you two had the wedding you wanted! Congratulations. sexishardandstuff Right, it cannot possibly help her RSD that the things she asks for are extreme, and that’s your parent’s fault. It was their job to help her learn to deal with rejection in a healthy way, and now she doesn’t know the difference between appropriate and inappropriate requests. The world outside of her family is not going to her kindly when she makes those demands. They set her up for failure. Beneficial-Way-8742 I think it's kinda obvious: despite getting you sister therapy, your parents have been undermining that therapy for years by caving to your sister. They should have gotten guidance via therapy as well for raising their child. Instead, I'm betting they used any excuse to spoil her, and I have to say this behavior sounds more narcissistic to me. She didn't have a problem with rejection; she actually tried to create a scenario to make herself the center of attention. These are very distinctly different behaviors I am not the OOP. Please do not harass the OOP. Please remember the No Brigading Rule and to be civil in the comments submitted by /u/SharkEva to r/BORUpdates [link] [comments]

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We got married. We had the wedding we wanted. On Friday afternoon we went to city hall, signed the paperwork and had a very quick ceremony. We invited my wife's dad, her sister and brother-in-law, her brother and his fiancée, and my best friend and his wife. (My best friend and his wife were the ones who introduced me to my wife, back when my friend, my wife and I were serving in the armed forces). That evening everyone went out to a nearby restaurant for dinner. Everyone took some photos so we can remember the day but things were very relaxed. We all wore clothes we already had and we kept everything low key. My wife and I spent Saturday together and we both have to work today. We decided not to invite my sister, brother-in-law and parents because of how they were acting. The last straw was them trying to say my father-in-law was on their side and wanted us to have a big wedding. He never said that. I actually think he was a tiny bit relieved because my wife's sister got married this year and her brother is getting married next year. My father-in-law doesn't try to control the weddings of his kids. He helps out with errands if he's needed but he doesn't try to control or change things. I think he was relieved my wife and I didn't have a big wedding, but he would never say that out loud or comment on his kids having a big or small wedding. My sister and everyone else are upset but I honestly don't care. I don't think it is unreasonable for a couple to have the wedding they want, or to have all the attention on them when it's their wedding day. I can't believe my parents and my brother-in-law are entertaining her ideas on this. If we did have wedding parties my wife would want her own sister as the maid of honour, not my sister. I don't know where my sister got the idea she would get to walk down the aisle alone with flowers before my wife did, or have a special role as "sister of the groom". I don't know why her, my parents and my brother-in-law think they get to control my wedding. My wife and I are adults, we don't live with any of them and we have jobs/our own money. I put my foot down that my wife and I had the wedding we wanted, and we will not be having any other wedding related stuff. We are done. My wife and I are estatic about being married and that's all I care about. I appreciated all the support in my last post. Edit: I have been told it is common in America, the UK, and other places for the wedding party to walk down the aisle. I hadn't heard of it because as I explained in my post that isn't done here. Also even if it was, my sister wouldn't have been part of the wedding party. My wife would have chosen her own sister and her friends and I would have chosen my friends. It would have looked very strange for my sister to walk down the aisle alone before my wife did. submitted by /u/throwawayaitah101525 to r/AITAH [link] [comments]

I have posted an update to this post. I know sometimes it might seem like the answer is obvious, but I am honestly asking for the truth because I am getting so much pressure from my family that it is becoming unbearable now. I (M30) am newly engaged. My fiancée (F30) and I have been together for two years and we both feel ready for the next step. We don't want a big wedding. We both come from huge families and we don't want to deal with the costs and the headache of planning a huge event. Our plan is to go to city hall and sign the required papers. We would invite my parents, my sister, my brother-in-law, my fiancée's father, sister, brother-in-law and brother, as well as two of my friends (since they were the ones who set my me and my fiancée up when we were in the armed forces). After city hall we would all go out for dinner. We don't want any other wedding stuff or any kind of reception. When my older sister got married three years ago I ended up being thankful I was stationed in another country and wasn't at home (I was in the Air Force at the time). She had a huge, expensive wedding, and then took an expensive trip to the United States for her honeymoon. This is normal in our family but watching the wedding on a live stream was enough for me. I was getting a headache when I was hearing about the planning second hand. My fiancée and don't want that stress. I thought my family would have a problem with us not a having big wedding or only inviting my parents, sister and brother-in-law. But my sister got upset because she wanted to be my fiancée's maid of honour. We aren't even having a maid of honour/best man or wedding party at all. Even if we were, my fiancée would want her own sister to be maid of honour, not my sister. My sister also thought she would get a special role in the wedding as 'sister of the groom' which isn't a thing as far as I know. She wants to have a moment where she walks down the aisle alone before my wife does. I've never seen anything like that at wedding I've ever gone to. Only the bride or one half of the couple (and sometimes the father) walks down the aisle. For full disclosure, my sister has ADHD and with that she also has something called rejection sensitive dysphoria. She takes rejection really personally and even though my parents sent her to therapy before she still takes it hard when she thinks someone has rejected her, even if they haven't really done that. I told her my fiancée and I aren't having wedding parties or a wedding where other people have a special role or moment. She feels rejected and now my parents, my brother-in-law and other people in my family are pressuring me to change my mind. AITAH for telling my sister and everyone else that I don't care if she feels rejected and won't change a thing about the wedding? It gets annoying to have everything revolve around my sister's feelings all the damn time. I don't think it's wrong for me and my fiancée to want our wedding day to be about us. (Instead of giving my sister the role of maid of honour/groom's sister and letting her be the center of attention like she wants). My parents and my brother-in-law are the worst offenders and I ended up telling them (and everyone else who pressured me) that I'm done talking about this and to never bring it up again. AITAH for this? I just want to have my wedding the way my fiancée and I want it. But my family has never gotten so upset at me about anything else before so I wonder if I overstepped. Edited to add: To whoever is sending me Reddit cares messages, I am fine and don't need that. submitted by /u/throwawayaitah101525 to r/AITAH [link] [comments]

TL;DR I created a system for expectations and possible rejection by getting out ahead of it and always giving myself multiple outcomes and options. This is a form of re-parenting. So, first, a brief story on my misdiagnosis of borderline personality disorder. I think many of us who are late diagnosed were seen as "hysterical" and given borerline or bipolar or other manic diagnoses. I leaned into the diagnosis and like a good little autistic, learned EVERYTHING I could about bpd, Marsha Linehan, DBT, I watched Back From The Ledge like 30 times, read Stop Walking on Eggshells. I was determined to be The Most Healed borderline that ever walked this earth. So, one day I booked a studio session to record some music. I had this whole outfit planned, brought a camera, brought my guitar. It was a whole haul that I brought with me. I show up, and I didn't have a guitar pic. My friend whose studio it was, mostly just had rappers in, so he didn't have picks laying around. I had to run and get one. By the time I got to my car, I was SOBBING. I was...for lack of a better word, hysterical. I called my (now ex) and said, "What is wrong with me?? This isn't even about abandonment!!!" He was sweet, he calmed me down, bless his otherwise abusive, cold heart. That was the beginning of a six month avalanche of "wait...i'm not borderline...i'm autistic." I realized I have always been the one to break up with people, actually. And that, I was previously WITH borderlines in the past, being their emotional regulator! And my "hysteria" are meltdowns, mostly over surprises, expectations unraveling, or being let down or feeling rejected. But I also realized, why the RSD happens for me: because in the moment, the layers of emotional and sensory synthesis take too long for me to be able to improvise and be spontaneous. So I end up in a freeze state, and also emotional overwhelm with knowing I need to pivot, but unable to because processing is still happening. So, I created a handy-dandy system in my mind. I had to get used to it, but now it's second nature to me. I still need use this almost five years after my autism diagnosis, without thinking. It keeps me balanced, meltdown free, and in control. Here's an example: Just now I got asked out Friday night. I said yes, and we picked a time and a place. I noticed without effort that my mind said "and I'll have an outfit planned and if she cancels, I'll go out by myself!" So in my mind I visualize myself getting ready either way, and having a fun night either way. As the weekend approaches, I have something to look forward to, no matter what. I will decide on secondary, and tertiary places to go alone as a backup plan. BONUS: these could be the "second spot" on the date. AND if Friday comes, my date cancels, and I feel too tired to do anything, I will watch a movie, order in, do an 18 step skincare routine, make tiktoks, and hang out with my cat. I do this for everything in my life. I am a big fan of Wu wei (無為) which is a foundational Taoist concept translating to "non-action" or "effortless action," meaning to act in harmony with the natural flow of life, or the Tao. It is not about being passive or doing nothing, but rather about acting without unnecessary force, ego, or anxiety. Wu wei involves being present, patient, and flexible, allowing events to unfold naturally, like water finding its way through a problem. My backup plan system allows me to be flexible with pre-planned options, and it honors my unique slower (in this area), processing and emotional synthesis in my body and mind. If you want to read something, I suggest The Tao Te Ching by Laozi or if you want something more current, Your Erroneous Zones by Wayne Dyer. Another extremely helpful resource for my life has been my favorite ADHD youtuber, Aaron Doughty, who "hacked" (leaned into) his wiring using many different principles, here is a great video you could watch if you are interested. Love you all, you're all beautiful and amazing. submitted by /u/shinebrightlike to r/AuDHDWomen [link] [comments]

I'm probably autistic but don't experience RSD. I want to hear what it feels like during and after. Specifically, I'm interested in what it feels like to lash out at others and what kind of processing your brain does after that. Although I know not all people with RSD are lashing out at people. Hopefully my question is clear. Edit: Thank you for sharing your experiences. I think a couple people in my family have this. submitted by /u/Ok-Regular9684 to r/autism [link] [comments]

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Firstly I should clarify that I'm not 100% convinced that RSD isn't just a perfectly natural trauma response to an excess of actual rejection in one's formative years. But also I (late diagnosed ADHD-C) have noticed that some social triggers can make me spiral. One I never talk about, but often wonder about, is when someone I'm close to speaks to me in a tone I know they only use on strangers, or people they need to be polite to. It's hard to explain, but... you know how with a partner or a friend you grew up with, you immediately know the "voice" they use with strangers, someone else's parents, an angry neighbour. I've been in a few situations where I've met up with an ex , or old friend I haven't seen for a while, and they've spoken to me like that. And I've just found it so sad. Not because I've wanted to get back with them (often it's been someone I've broken up with myself). But for some reason I just find this renewed formality in their voice so jarring and saddening. Worse still is finding yourself spoken to in what you recognise as their "talking to a crazy person" voice. That's happened a couple of times, and it's sort of destroyed me. It's hard to really pick apart why. In both cases it's felt more like a piece of my past has been destroyed (rather than being about our relationship in the present tense). Once or twice partners have started using their "polite" tone with me while I've still been in the relationship, and that's been my first clue that we're on the outs. ANYWAY. All of this is to say that I'm now married, with kids, and a small group of close friends (and a wider group of friendly acquaintances). But I'm exceptionally sensitive to the "stranger voice" thing. And if I feel like my spouse is using it, or one of my close friends, I can spiral really badly. (Privately, this is. I don't get mad; I get small and low self-esteemy) And I'm beginning to realise that's a major RSD trigger for me. I'm starting to be able to see the signs, ride out the emotion, and wait and see what happens. Apologies for the length of this -- I've never tried to communicate this issue outside of my own noggin. But can anyone relate? (Edited for clarity) submitted by /u/whydidicomeupstairs to r/adhdwomen [link] [comments]

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Start noticing the 'rejections' other people receive. In social situations put your rejection sensitivity eyes on, and pretend your other people. How would you interpret that look Brian just gave Janet, as if you were Janet? What thoughts would that have triggered for you? What assumptions would you have drawn? Keep watching, putting yourself in others shoes. Then come into your body, and see it from a more objective POV. Notice the thoughts you would have had - e.g. Brian hates me - challenge it - from an outsiders perspective, do you think that's true? Does Brian hate Janet? Notice how common those expressions/glances/mood shifts are. And how they don't always mean something bigger, just a moment of friction or misinterpreted cue. Feel in your body the difference in how you feel about the interactions. Do you still want to run and hide? Keep practicing this over and over again in social situations. Looking for the facial expressions you hate glanced your way directed at other people. It's so refreshing to normalize triggers. It doesn't feel as devastating or alienating when it happens to me anymore. I can accept it more easily as apart of life. Not everyone is going to like me, and that's okay. But I've been coming to understand I'm alot more liked than my rejection sensitivity has allowed me to see. And that feels pretty great 🥹 submitted by /u/MissMangoPirate to r/adhdwomen [link] [comments]

Medical student interested in Psychiatry and familiar with enough people with ADHD (patients or otherwise) I visit the subreddits relating to it out of curiosity. Some time ago I heard of the term Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria and just accepted it was a part of ADHD. It's a popular enough term one of the ADHD related subreddits has it as a flair to vent about related concerns. Recently (to my surprise) I have heard it's not at all a validated construct, and on reflection it seems that a large proportion of people endorsing this as a symptom seem to get a lot of their ADHD information from certain segments of the Internet (e.g. TikTok). They also seem to fit a lot BPD criteria but are often reluctant to accept that diagnosis often with accusations of misdiagnosis and medical gaslighting. I suppose my questions would be: Is RSD at all a valid construct, and if it's not is there any sound science underlying this e.g. does ADHD make your emotions harder to control? Would a lot of the people who endorse RSD simply have BPD / some other pathology and either be unaware of this or unwilling to accept it? submitted by /u/ChroniclesOfMyLife to r/Psychiatry [link] [comments]

So, it's my birthday. I'm alone in my house. Hardly anyone has texted me or called aside from my mum and my aunt. My group of friends make massive deals out of everyone else's birthdays. There's themed parties, huge numbers showing up. But today, no one gave a shit. No one's called me. No one's said anything. I planned something over the weekend (something small) and I honestly want to cancel it. I can't tell if this is my RSD or what. I don't really go out to clubs and bars but I make the effort to see people at more controlled house parties when I can (I have really bad autism and social fears and they know this) and it's like, my birthday is the one day of the year where I feel the most forgotten. I'm sitting here in tears honestly writing it out because it's making it feel more real...anyone else feel this way? EDIT: Thank you everyone to shared their experiences on this topic - I’m always really shy on wanting to express my feelings to hype my birthday up to people so I think that’s honestly half the problem. The other half is struggling hard, and I mean HARD to be able to organise a party due to how badly I struggle and suffer with adhd. So year after year this feeling just festers and todays it’s popped after 28 years. I have great friends, don’t get me wrong, we’re all busy but I can’t help but relive trauma from my childhood when I was forgotten and picked last or made fun of. I’m just an extremely sensitive being. So I’m sitting here crying that the internet actually came together to wish me a happy birthday and didn’t belittle me for feeling this way even tho I logically think it was ridiculous of me to break down today. I’ve struggled with my ADHD autism and every other condition my whole life without help and was abandoned by my dad and had to get diagnosed in my late 20s and start to learn how to heal myself and it hasn’t been easy, my AuDHD makes things so hard for me but looking at how this community came together to support me has made me very happy. It doesn’t make me feel alone. I really appreciate this. Thank you. I’ve had a very emotional day but it’s my birthday, and I’ll do what I want. 🎂🎉🎈 submitted by /u/axuuureixxd to r/ADHD [link] [comments]

Like literally sometimes nauseous. I've cried over this. It's just internet strangers, usually idiot internet strangers, disagreeing with some random opinion I have. Why do I care so much? I don't know why I make myself sick over this. Like, I understand that rejection sensitive dysphoria is a real thing that actually does affect people, but doesn't this seem like an overreaction? Is there a way to turn this off? And it's not just with downvotes. It's if anybody in my life expresses the slightest disapproval of anything I'm doing, even if I'm misinterpreting it and they're not actually disapproving at all, I literally get sick. I cry at the drop of a hat over absolutely nothing and I'm really tired of it. Is there a way to actually handle this? Please help! Edit: sometimes it is so bad I literally experience flu symptoms: hot and cold, shakes, sweaty, etc, on top of the nausea and crying. This is mostly when a family member is very upset with me though. I know that those are probably panic attacks and I feel them in my body more than most people but just wanted to share that these are also responses people can have. Edit again: TO BE CLEAR, downvoting was an example. I mostly have RSD from other things. Thank you for your advice regarding downvotes, how do I handle my family being mad at me, or my friend not understanding me, etc? submitted by /u/shoshilyawkward to r/ADHD [link] [comments]

Why YSK: People with ADHD are more prone to extreme emotions. This is the result of poor executive function (a set of mental tools required to complete tasks). Many people are misdiagnosed with other mood disorders when in fact they have ADHD. This can lead to many years of incorrect treatment plans and/or worsening symptoms. https://youtu.be/jM3azhiOy5E Edit: This post is not meant to diagnose or provide professional advice for treatment. Please talk to your doctor/therapist if you feel you may have ADHD (which, yes, can be diagnosed in adulthood). Please keep in mind that I used the phrasing "prone to" because it is not clear if this is a causal relationship between ADHD and mood regulation. Some people theorize people with ADHD are rejected more in childhood and become especially defensive over time. Sometimes comorbidity is the culprit. It's okay for us to discuss this. Thank you so much for the awards and comments