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I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/Virgo514 Originally posted to r/AmItheAsshole Previous BORUs #1 by LucyAriaRose #2 by u/insafian #3 by LucyAriaRose #4 by u/insafian Status: Concluded Trigger Warning: Emotional Neglect Mood Spoiler: optimistic Original (AITA for telling my husband he works for himself not for our family) - Jan 19th 2024 My husband and I have known each other for 6 years and been married for almost 3 years now. We have a one year old, and we're expecting another baby. Our marriage has been full of emotional highs, we love each other and let the other know regularly. My husband has a 9 - 5 job after which he is also a tutor. He had started this back when we were in college, and it was never an issue, he always had enough time. Even in the years leading up to the marriage and the first year of our marriage, this was never a big issue. However, in the last year or so it's become a big issue, and it's getting worse. He keeps on adding more classes to his schedule. Until last month we had a red line that no classes on Sunday, he would devote that entire time to us. But last month he even added a class on Sunday on the excuse that exams are starting. It started to feel like me and my son weren't a priority to him anymore. Some days he comes home at 11. On other days he's doing it online but that's not much better because he still can't give us any time. Last Sunday, I finally spoke out and told him he was neglecting his family. He was offended and told me that he doesn't enjoy having to work so hard but he's doing it for our family. This is where I told him that no, I think he does enjoy it, it gives him an excuse to not spend time with us, and that he was doing this for himself not for us. As things currently stand, our collective income is more than enough, there really was no need for him to add more classes on top of his existing ones, he's doing it for himself at this point. He's literally busy Monday - Saturday and now he's trying to cross the red line we established for Sunday. We've been on bad terms since this fight. He keeps saying he can't believe that I said he works for himself not for us. AITA here? Relevant Comments: Comment 1 ( downvoted): It’s going to be hard and you’re going to have to grit your teeth through it, but if he is working all the time to support his family. Love the man and cherish the little time you get with him. He’s grinding to support yall. Would you rather you spend all the time in the world together and living in squalor or on the streets? Please support him while he supports his family. Hell have you told him you’re proud of him working so hard? OP: I have a 9 -5 job too, and like I said our collective income covers our expenses and then some. If that weren't the case ofcourse I wouldn't be angry, I would understand. But given the situation, the fact that he took away the one day we get together just because "it's exam season" really got to me. I also want to make clear I absolutely appreciate how he provides for us to give us a great standard of living. And I've told him this many times. But now it feels like he's adding more work to disengage. Comment 2: Info: Did he grow up lower income? His father may have worked himself to the bone to keep them above water. So it may be all he knows. OP: No, both his parents are doctors. That was certainly not the case. Comment 3: INFO: I see where you’re coming from but I gotta ask - you sound like you feel secure about your financial situation. But does he? You’re expecting another kid. You have a 1-year old with another on the way. I don’t know where you’re based, but certain regions are more expensive than others for families to live in. Based on just that information alone, there could be plenty of thought put behind whether or not you guys have the financial stability for the future. You clearly think so, but does your husband? Have you ever had that conversation with him, fruitfully, honestly, about the objective truth of your financial stability AND his and your thoughts on it? OP: Yes, we had that discussion before. We talked about how since we're already comfortable, there shouldn't be any need to have a class on Sunday. In fact at the time, I also thought he should cut down on his existing classes but relented on the Sunday agreement. I didn't think the numbers were important, but a lot of comments (not you) seem to doubt my judgement that we're stable. I'm an accountant who makes $70k/year. My husband is a software engineer who makes around over $100k. And based on how many students he teaches and how many classes he has, he makes over $100k from that. Our household income covers our expenses. I'm an accountant, this is kind of my bread and butter. Update 1 - Jan 20th 2024 Thank you for the feedback in the last post. The comments said that me asking him to adhere to the boundaries we established was reasonable. Some comments also suggested that I should not have implied that he works just to get away, so I was a little apologetic as well. After he came back I decided to talk to him about this. The conversation was a bit of a trainwreck. I brought up the fact that our income far exceeds ur current and projected expenses. That me and our son were missing him, and needed him to spend more time with us, and I made sure to stress that I appreciated all that he did. It just seemed like we were on completely different wavelengths. He said he kept on taking more lessons and students because he wanted us to have a good standard of living, have better vacations, better schools, a second house. I was dumbfounded. I never knew he felt that way. I stressed our current standard of living was great, we make enough money, and that if he thinks that way there's no end in sight. What if he decided we should also have a third house or something? Right now I needed him with me. At this point, I kind of lost control and started crying. I didn't mean to, it wasn't something I wanted to do to pressure him or anything, just the fact that we were at an impasse was wrecking me. I told him I'd been feeling unhappy, that I kept compromising and he reneged on it. After some more crying and consoling, my husband agreed that Sunday should have remained off-limits. He gently asked me to give him a pass for one more Sunday, because his students exams end next week, and he would make Sunday untouchable the following semester onwards. He also promised to try to resize his classes in order to be able to come back home for dinner even if it's late dinner. He asked for time to do all this. I've given it to him and I know he loves us enough to do what he promised. Thanks for the feedback to the original post. Relevant Comments Comment 1: You need to tell him that he needs to get right with his family and you right now. Or he might be living in that third house alone. Play him "Cat's in the Cradle" as background music. OP: I would like the changes to happen immediately but I want those changes to be permanent. If he does something at a snap right now but has to go back that would suck. So I'm just giving him the time to make those sustainable changes. I'm getting our Sunday back after the next one which is progress. At least we're back to the red line. He said he'd already booked a lot of classes for the next semester, so he just asked for time to discuss and rearrange them since he can't just say no to his students after agreeing. He was earnest, I believe I made it known to him the toll its been taking on me, and he will make the necessary changes. Comment 2: OP. You did a good job and took an important first step. I think it would be unrealistic for him to do a complete 180 after this conversation, and this is a necessary stepping stone. I’m usually very negative about relationships, but it disheartened me to see all the top comments being so negative when you took the time to update us and you didn’t need to. I hope things continue to improve for you OP: Thank you. I had thought I did good, and then found out a lot of people here disagreed, so I started doubting how I did. I appreciate what everyone is saying, but he's a loving husband, friend, and father, it's just this one issue that's just gotten out of hand, I cant think of packing my bags. I believe he was neglecting us, but during the conversation realized he didn't know the extent to which it was affecting us. The classes issue has been getting bigger and bigger over time, so I realize fixing it will require some time, I'm just going to make sure I see him do it. Comment 3: Have you guys considered hiring a maid/nanny to help with household duties? If your making enough money it could be worth the investment to reduce your burden OP: Ya, that came up in the conversation and I'm looking into it. My job is wfh two days of the week so that helps, and my mom lives close by which is super helpful too. Most days I manage the household and child rearing without any issues. Like it's not like I plan to give him a list of errands to run on the days he's in the house, but him just being physically present is something I'm missing now, and he's promised to remedy it as well he can. Comment 4: The biggest problem I see is that his self-worth is being validated by his students and classes - more than by his own family. He likes how teaching makes him feel, and he doesn't get the same validation from being just a husband and father. So, he will continue to prefer working as much as he can. And it's a double whammy because he justifies the extra work is for his family, so he feels doubly validated for doing "good" things. OP: Your comment stayed with me for some reason, and I kept coming back to it. I asked him yesterday if he enjoyed teaching Physics and Math for hours on end, that he works so long how does he not start hating it. (I didn't bring up the topic of reduced hours or Sunday because we already have an agreement on that for now). He said he does like it. After some more inconspicuous needling he told me he enjoys the fact that so many people trust that he can make them understand stuff and better their grades/future. I didn't go further into it. But your comment really helped give me some insight. Thank you so much. Update 2 - March 11th 2025 Around a year ago I had been having issues with my husband regarding his tutoring schedule and had come here to know if I was in the wrong. A few people had asked me to let them know if things improve or continue to deteriorate. We're in a better place now. We've been blessed with a daughter now too. He has become better at handling his workload and tutors primarily online now. I know I had said at the time that that's not much better but it really is. Sundays have become sacrosanct again(with very rare exceptions that he asks my approval for in advance), and Wednesdays are free now too. He does more group tutoring now and so gets done by 8 30 most days too. He also got a new day job which is entirely wfh, which has made things much better because he isn't so burnt out anymore. In the weeks following up to my daughters arrival, he'd been by my side(especially since she arrived during the summer when school is out).I also took some advice from here and hired help to ease the burden which has worked out really well. I've also learned to embrace the fact that his tutoring gives him joy which maybe his software development job doesn't. He seems to be proud when his students get into good universities, and that it results in even more students. He still claims to do it for purely financial reasons but I know that can't be completely true, because our financial needs really do not require it. So it must be something he enjoys. So I've become more understanding on that front too. I have had to put my foot down a few times though especially in the initial days following our conversation to make sure he understands that I was serious about needing his presence more. I had also confided in his older sister about this issue (which he was NOT happy about at the time and was probably an accidental AH move on my end) but it helped. They had an argument, she straight up told him he was either going to end up working his way into an early grave at the age of 30 or ending up divorced, which helped. Full disclosure the only time we ever really argue is still about this when I'll want him to be free but he won't be. But it's rare and overall we've come up with a good balance that seems to be working for us. Thank you. Relevant Comments Comment 1: This is so sad. Imagine having to go through all of this to force your spouse to spend time with you and your kid. It's sad that your idea of "better" is still him barely being around except for one full day a week. At the end of the day, if the choice was up to him, he would rather spend time tutoring than with you and his own child. That's because he's not doing it for money like he said. He doing it so he doesn't have to be around you guys. It's so sad that you've accepted it. Comment 2: It sounds as if the situation is still sort of a "work in progress," but is getting more positive for both of you and resentment isn't growing on either side. That's good, and congratulations on your daughter. New post by OP (AITA for telling my husband I'll go on vacation with the kids and my best friend if he's too busy with work) - November 5th 2025 My husband and I have been married for over 4 years. Our son is 3 and our daughter is 16 months old. My husband has a busy schedule, due to both his day job and his business after that and on Saturdays (and sometimes if I'm ok with it, Sundays). We had planned to go to Spain at the end of December for a couple of weeks. Like we've bought tickets, booked a hotel, talked about how we'll spend our two weeks there. Last weekend he asked if we could postpone our trip to the end of June. Like a literal six months after we're supposed to go. I said no, it was so unfair that he was pulling this at the last minute. He asked me to understand that his business required him to suddenly change his plans, that it was important, that hed been looking forward to this down time as much as I had. To provide more context this isnt the first time this has been an issue. His business hours had been an issue over the past 2 to 3 years. He'd made changes and organized his hours better and his job had become wfh too, so we had struck a balance that I could be ok with. But his business hours again started infringing on our family time, and he'd been promoted to a managerial role at his day job so he was now going in to work on some days too. I told him I'd been looking forward to this for so long, counting days till our vacation. I told him I'll be going regardless whether he wants to come or not, and if he doesnt want to come we can get a refund and my best friend can go in his place. Admittedly I was just lashing out I have no idea of the logistics of it. Yesterday I asked him again what his plan was. He tried to show me messages from his clients to show how busy he was during that period, I told him I don't care. He gave me his word. According to him I'm being unreasonable. I wanted to know AITA here. Also, I dont even know if its logistically feasible and I dont want it to come to it, but would I be the AH if I actually went on vacation and took my best friend along? Relevant Comments Comment 1: INFO: what’s the financial situation? Does he need to be working a second job, and does he really need to please this client this much? OP: Our financial situation is well in the green. Tending to These clients during those two weeks won't make or break us. Comment 2: He needs to either set the boundary with his clients that he won’t be available those 2 weeks, or do the work remotely from Spain. His business is tutoring students, if he lets them know now, he can plan what’s he’s tutoring them on to get them ready for exams before he goes away. Definitely hold your ground on this. From your previous posts he has a real issue with over-working and not prioritising family. It’s like he feels like he’s failing if he relaxes - and that’s not good for his health long-term, or his marriage. OP: Thanks. I agree and maybe thats the compromise I can go with. That he can do it online from there. Its not ideal, I'm not wild about him doing his classes while we're on vacation but at least we'll be together. I'll think about it. Also, I just realized my profile was available for people to see my previous posts. It sounds wrong but I was trying to keep the business vague rather than mention that its his tutoring business because when that gets mentioned, everyone becomes a lot more sympathetic about the work. But its not a charity he's running, its his business. Comment 3: The tutoring thing makes him look worse, honestly. He could easily have told his students he's not going to be available those weeks months ago. And that's even before I peaked your profile and saw you were the one who posted previously about what a workaholic your husband is. If you do delay the vacation, you know he's just going to cancel again, right? He's addicted to working and this is never going to end. OP: I'm surprised and honestly relieved that his business being tutoring isn't clouding people's judgement. It definitely does irl. If I ever in passing talk about how busy he is, everyone, including my own mom lol, is like yeah it sucks but also look at how many students future he's securing. At this point I just honestly want to reply with what about our kids. My kids get his undivided attention less than other people's kids. I know it sounds horrible lol Comment 4: Knowing what the business is actually makes me more sympathetic about you. It’s not like he’s a contractor and that maybe something unexpected happened and X project got delayed and suddenly he needs the time. If he’s tutoring students, then LITERALLY HE CHOOSES HOW TO FILL HIS AGENDA. A responsible father/husband would block his agenda for those vacation days, make plans with the students, and would be very clear with his boundaries. Unfortunately, your family is not a priority for him, and doesn’t know how (or doesn’t want to) make you guys a priority. And besides that, Spain in June is full summer, and the heat is reaaaaaally strong. December yes, it’s winter, but depending where you’re going, it would be a better weather. Finally, I would bet ANYTHING that if you agreed, you would be having this same conversation in May. NTA, go on that trip OP and have a great time with your kids. OP: Exactly, I know Spain is going to be so hot in the summer, thats why I don't want to delay it. We had planned on being outside and going places and walking in the heat with out kids doesn't sound like fun. He knows he has to make us a priority and he'd been trying to juggle it well, and doing well with it too. But his classes just get more filled up every semester. I handle the finances so I can see it. I've made the case to him that he should just cap it now but that doesn't go anywhere. And then his new role at his software job also messed up the balance we had. Comment 5: Girl, girl. I remember your previous posts now! You are so NTA. Your husband is pulling this crap again?? He literally sets his own schedule. He scheduled these students KNOWING you already had a vacation planned. What is the deal? He’s not the most important tutor in the world. These kids can find another tutor if he’s full. If this was totally unexpected or he was like the only doctor in the world who could perform a lifesaving surgery during that week I would feel a little more sympathy. But he’s literally doing this to himself. And he’s doing it to you. I’m so mad for you. When is he going to start prioritizing his family?? I mean seriously if you go to Spain by yourself is that really all that different from the life you’re living right now when he’s working all the time?! OP: I'm going to bring up the idea of him doing his classes while in Spain (with boundaries). Its not ideal but it should work. I've been really looking forward to this family vacation, so this way we'll get to have that. Comment 6: That may be a fix for now but boundaries don’t work when your husband continues to blow thru through them and faces no consequences. If you divorced right now and your husband had 50/50 custody we would see his kids more. Is this really how you want to continue living? If you’re fine with how things are right now then that’s fine. But it doesn’t seem like you are happy. Because this keeps coming up again and again. And he continues to not listen to you and then he complains about problems that he created. This vacation is now an issue between the two of you because he knowingly scheduled people during the vacation time. He had complete control over this situation and scheduled students anyway. He can’t say no to his students. But he has no problem saying no to you and making you comprise and clean up his mess again and again and again. Are you really okay with that? OP: No, I'm not. I would like him to dedicate more of his time to us. And he did make things better but things got out of hand again. Hes a good and loving husband and father otherwise, its just this one issue, and it is what it is ig. But pulling the rug out at the last minute is unacceptable and thats why I dont think I should postpone the vacation. I'm going to push for him doing it online from there, I think that'll be a good compromise. Comment 7: INFO Does he provide all of the income for the household? How old is his business? Did he breakdown the difficulties he would be facing with you in pursuing a new business when you married or when he started it? Is he eventually hoping to turn his business into his full time profession? What is the goal in it? I ask these questions because it really does determine if he is a AH or not. My business is less then three years old and often a new business can require a lot of work. Like A LOT. Vacations changing is like one of the most common changes a business owner needs to face. I spoke with my husband before pursuing. Did he speak with you? OP: No, I also work. I'm an accountant and I have wfh half the week so like on a 2-3 basis. Our income distribution is roughly 75 - 25. His business is about 7-8 years old now. He started it in college. And the workload wasnt a problem until a few years ago. I have suggested he make the business his sole work, especially since we'd be comfortable without his day job too. His reasoning has been that because his business hours kind of don't align with a 9-5, he wouldn't be making use of those hours anyway although I have told him that him doing nothing would be the goal. Comment 8 (downvoted): Dont make threats or it will harm your marraige. Not enough info here. Do you.work? Are you a trophy wife? Do you provide any financial support to household or does his business pay the bills. As a man he is doing his best to make the business a success and maintain a clientel to give you the life you and he think your family deserves. Support him. We do not know if your best freind is guy or girl as that matters. If my wife did what you suggested you would do and it was a man the next conversation we would be having is about divorce and custody arraingments. OP: Yes I work. And I'm proud of what he's accomplished. But I also want him to be creating these memories with me and our kids. If I thought him forgoing the clients for those two weeks would be critically harmful I wouldn't push him. But we've long passed the point of being fine financially. And I just feel these other aspects of our family life need more attention. My best friend is a girl. She's been my best friend since we were in school. Update 4 - November 9th 2025 Hi, thanks a lot for the feedback on my first post. I had decided to suggest he do his tutoring classes online while we were in Spain as a compromise and thats what I was planning on doing. My husband caught a cold on Thursday though and had been really down and out the last couple of days. He had taken these two days off work (from his day job). Despite my insistence that he rest, he tried to do his tutoring class as scheduled but literally couldn't get through it and canceled those as well. I didn't want to have the conversation while he was this sick so I postponed it. It was great (maybe not the best choice of words as a wife talking about my husband getting sick lol) to kind of just have him do nothing for these two days. He spent time with me and the kids, a few of his friends and some mutual friends of ours also came to our place to see him because they rarely see him outside of important occasions. Last night I brought up the vacation again. He agreed without too much resistance. He said he'll move around some classes or take them in advance but either way he'll be with us for the vacation. I thanked him and also told him he needs to take it easy its clearly affecting his health. He was like him being sick isn't because of the work its because of the change in weather. I did bring up that we had had an agreement earlier and that he'd kept to it for a while and we'd really struck a good balance but things are back to the way they were prior to that. He said he always asked me before filling up Sundays, and that is true tbf, its just, there's only so many times I can say no. He also mentioned how two people he knows have recently been laid off, that times are bad economically. I told him I don't see why that has to affect him, we're doing well financially, we have more than enough savings, our careers are good, he has a business that has been growing every year, we're secure where we are. He said he was too sick to talk about this, and that right now our kids are young, they need less of him, that his classes are important because students and parents come to him after having heard of him, and that its important for them to get into good universities. I told him our son is old enough that he now wants to spend time with him, and that I can compromise on my needs and wants but not our kids'. He got the point I was trying to make and said that he'll make the necessary changes. I'm glad our vacation is back on track! I'd really been looking forward to this as a family. Also, I'm glad I told him how he'd been reneging on the balance we'd established earlier and he'll be going back to it. He did do it last time so I'm confident he'll do it again, we both just have to work to make sure we keep it in place. Thanks a lot. Comment 1: Glad the vacation is happening (supposedly) but he’s full of crap. He’s made his priorities clear. Young kids need their parents more! Comment 2: As soon as you mentioned Sundays I remembered your older posts. I'm glad that the vacation is back on, but honestly your husband needs some sort of Cats in the Cradle, three ghosts visiting him wake up call. He really only stayed with your previous deal for a short amount of time. I wish I knew some way to get through to him, but I think that's going to be very hard. I'm sorry, I don't think he is going to get better with his time management and it will always be on you to nag him. If he really doesn't get better, I think in the futre you should just book any vacation you want and if he comes or not that's on him. He needs his eyes opened Enjoy your vacation and I hope you have great family memories! OP: He did get better with it a while back when I had seriously brought it up with him. This was when I was pregnant with my daughter. He just slipped back lately, and the new role in his day job also messed with the balance a bit. I think this vacation will be a good reset. Update 5 - January 8th 2026 Hi, a few people were kind enough to keep me in their thoughts and wanted to know how our vacation went (if it did at all).So my husband did keep to his word and we had a really good time in Spain (and Portugal too), and he didn't do any classes while we were there. So lately he'd been frequently running fevers and not been well.I'd brought up that his workload was catching up to him, he denied it, we ended up going to our family doctor. His blood pressure had come out 150/110 She asked us questions and also asked him if his day-to-day involved stress and he said no. I was actually stunned when he said that. I unloaded and told her exactly what his schedule looks like. She made it clear that with his family's history of high blood pressure and his workload he was shaving years off his life, and messing up his immunity too.That was my breaking point. I told him I loved him to bits, if anything happened to him I'd be devastated, crazy with grief but I would summon the strength to live. But I will not let him deprive our kids of their father by working himself to death. That I had given him enough chances and he was taking advantage of my love for him by reneging on our established boundaries, if I had to disrupt his late night classes myself I would. He told me to give him time, we had an argument because I was having deja vu of previous conversations. I gave him a week to do what he needed to.He managed to make some really meaningful changes. It was stuff I'd been suggesting for so long but he'd been resisting and not listening to me, I think he thought if he combined into larger groups than he already had, he'd receive some pushback. Well not a single student left nor any parent complained after he did it. He's since managed to have Wednesdays and Sundays completely free, Mondays, Fridays and Saturdays are reasonable, only Tuesdays and Thursdays are bad. We had a great vacation, he was fully present, and it was the kind of vacation that I had wanted, one where we could decompress. When we were flying back I asked him if he'd had fun, he kind of laughed and said that he's not our kids that I had to check up on him. I told him its not that, I was really happy with the way he'd kept to our established boundaries and I know its a change for him. And that we were both going to make sure we keep those boundaries intact. I know its just a step in the right direction but I am hopeful we can maintain this. I'm also going to be more forceful about this. I don't care if people around us think I'm holding him back or if these boundaries mean some kids don't get the help from him they need, I will not sacrifice my kids happiness for them. Thanks a lot for all the help and advice. Relevant Comments Comment 1: I'm glad the vacation was great (and actually happened)! Sucks his health is actually in trouble and we can hope this is the wakeup call he needs but god, you had to mom him and tell the doctor his likely cause of stress. That's not a good look for him. Is he like actively parenting your kids or is he just the family friend/grandparent who pops in to "help" you. Could he take care of the kids if you got in an accident and knows what they like/dislike as well as any allergies or would you need to call in external help to take care of them for him? When is he planning on cutting back so he can spend time with them does he even have a time frame or is it just a nebulous promise? Like I'm glad he's making changes...again, but his schedule isn't fair to you or the kids. His lack of time lines or concrete goals means he'll always have some excuse. And idk if anyone ever said but be firm on not getting a second house. What's even the point of one if he almost bailed on a simple vacation? It's something you'll have to maintain on top of everything else be it hiring cleaners/yard work or renting it or both, and it'll just be another excuse to work longer and keep pushing back the date he'll step up and actually father his children. OP: Since he's changed his schedule and consolidated classes he has been more involved. He plays basketball with our son now in the backyard (we'd had an adjustable hoop put in which is now finally being used) , he is spending time with our daughter too. The new changes have helped. We have a nanny that comes in and a cleaner too so that helps with the chores. I deliberately don't give him like chores or errands tbh because he's still adjusting, even when he asks if there are any. Really all I want him to do is be in the living room with us, go out with us, and just be present with us which he's doing a lot more of now. Comment 2: I think you need to establish a rule that he's no longer even allowed to ask if he can tutor on Sundays. It's not fair to be making you the bad guy who has to say no, and if he was serious about this, he wouldn't be asking in the first place. OP: If he asks I will say no now. But thats a good point about even the question being off limits. I'll think about that! Comment 3: I'm happy that you got your vacation! Hopefully your husband gets more tests done to narrow down his health issue. The part where you have to veto his "extra work" makes me narrow my eyes a bit. He's making you the bad guy instead of holding himself accountable. OP: At this point honestly I'm ok with being the bad guy. I won't let him do what he was doing. I won't let him deprive my kids of their father by working himself to a grave. If it seems like I'm becoming overbearing or "mothering" him, I'm ok with being seen that way now. Comment 4: Sorry if this is rude.... but are you not at the same point as a year ago? Nothing really changed. Like..at all its the same update as before. He'll go back to the same stuff, and then you'll be back here. And then you'll update again that you finally found a workaround! And he's free on Wednesday and Sunday!! Then you'll ne back again saying he broke his word again...rinse and repeat. Again, I'm sorry if this is rude. But nothing is gonna change. He's just going to wait to do the same bs. I'm saying this as this man's daughter. My dad worked like that for most of my life and is trying now to build a relationship with me. I love him, but it's weird. You are being naive. You have to be strong, or that's gonna be your life. Forever. Really. It does not get better if you don't grow a spine. OP: I won't let us go back. Not when going back is affecting his health and by extension our kids. When I said I would disrupt his late night classes, I really meant it at the time. Update 6 [Final Update] - May 19th 2026 Hi! I thought I'd give an update. It was actually because this weekend my mom was over and had remarked that I look a lot less stressed and that we seem to be all doing much better. I felt pretty happy about that, if a third person can see some improvement we must be doing something right! I'd been a lot firmer with my husband since his health scare. I'd told him that I'd had two kids with him with the knowledge that they'll have their father and there was no way I was going to let them be deprived of one. He too has been taking organization of his hours more seriously. I've helped him in handling his schedule and sometimes dealing with students/parents. He almost exclusively does group classes now, I've set it up so his classes end at 7 30 pm on weekdays, and sundays are totally free. Once or twice every couple of weeks there'll be a late weekday but they're sometimes required according to him (he says since its group classes he keeps pace with the school thats going the fastest which means he sometimes has to do an extra class with those students who were behind in school compared to his). Its fine though, its not that often. He was more reluctant to let me handle some of his communication with parents and students. Honestly, I don't mean to be disrespectful, but some parents can be extremely entitled, like they keep insisting on extra attention or 1-1 classes, act like just offering to pay more will get them whatever. My husband and I talked about it, I told him hardly anyone would leave, if theyre coming off of reputation they won't, and not a single one has. Based on the doctor's instructions we've been diligently tracking his BP. Its still worrisome, especially with his family history. Its better like 140/85 most recently, so its still worrisome but I'm hoping these changes, less stress, better sleep schedule helps. Because he's free after at latest 7 30, and all of sunday, he's spending a lot more time with me and our kids. I'm really glad we were able to get to a better place while my daughter is still an infant. I do feel very guilty and feel like I failed our son a bit because he didn't get that time when he was her age, but he's getting it now and I hope that can continue and not change now. Like I think I've said this before too, I don't need to give him chores around the house, all that is fine, really all I needed was him to be present for us like a normal family and I think we've done a good job in that regard of late. Thank you to everyone who helped, some comments stung last time, but maybe I needed that to stop letting things slide so thanks. Relevant Comments Comment 1: Parents can be truly entitled, and they don't stop (I work with college students)! Glad he's doing better, though 140/85 isn't fantastic, it's still an improvement and a win for you both. It really sounds as though your entire family is on the right track--hope it stays that way! 💖 DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/insafian to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I’m a teacher and I’m seeing more and more of my students wearing shorts and tank tops that show their multitude of self harm scars (and before anyone says anything, yes I’ve done everything I’m supposed to do in these situations). What’s unusual to me is that when I was in the early 2000s (and a self harmer myself) kids would actively try to cover these scars up. Long sleeves, pants, even in 90+ degree weather. We didn’t want anyone to know. And we’d make excuses for the scars if someone saw them. But some of my students have their arms and thighs literally covered in red marks and scars while wearing the standard teen summer outfit of a tank top and shorts. I’m not saying that they should cover up or be ashamed, I’m more wondering about the shift in thought process and/or teen culture that has led to not covering them. submitted by /u/Thisisnotforyou11 to r/NoStupidQuestions [link] [comments]

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/Vast_Result_8543 Originally posted to r/Waiting_To_Wed Waiting to Wed: 9 Years Trigger Warnings: mental health struggles, emotional neglect ---- Original Post: April 16, 2026 OG: I’d (29f) been with my partner (30m) for 9 years, and from jump I said I wanted to get married and have kids. He told me he did too. To say I love this man is an understatement. I put him on such a high pedestal, which was probably always a part of the problem in our relationship. We moved multiple times for my career, and I always assumed it was coming. However, it never did. We had many conversations about it, and he told me he didn’t know why he didn’t want to get married. I waited. I just waited. At one point he had a ring from his family and I was so excited. I’d run around the house when he wasn’t home wearing it. Loving the idea that FINALLY it was happening. That was a year ago. This became such a painful topic for me that I didn’t even want to get married anymore bc I didn’t want a shut up ring. And I felt like such a cliche: the girl that is badgering her bf to marry her. I ended it yesterday. I’m devastated but I know this is right. I know that another nine years would pass and I’d still be waiting. Reflecting on this, I’m not mad at him. Maybe I should be, but I’m not. What I am recognizing is I have zero self confidence. Like none. And THAT is what I am feeling most. Just this emptiness because I put myself on an island. I figured, I must be a piece of shit, because the man I loved didn’t want me. I know that is not the truth but it’s what I am actively trying to heal from. I know this will take time, and I’m devastated. How did you build back up your self esteem and self worth in the beginning? Update 4/17/26: I am with my folks now, and my mom and I read through everyone's comments last night. She actually printed them out for me and tucked them into my backpack. I hope you all know that this has been such a lifeline, and I am so very grateful. Tomorrow, my AMAZING parents are driving 10 hours with me to pick up some of my stuff, and my dogs and I will be living with them over the summer. I'm excited to fully dive into my work and imagine a new future. VERY weirdly, yesterday I was driving, and "Silver Springs" by Fleetwood Mac came on, and whilst I was working at a coffee shop, it played TWICE. TWICE. I know it was probably Sirius XM doing what it does, but I took it as a sign. Relevant Comments Commenter 1: It’s time to put yourself on a pedestal. Commenter 2: Yep 28-29 is when your life actually starts, and it’s the perfect time for a rebrand. I decided to get my shit together at 25, now I’m 28 and I’m the happiest and healthiest I’ve ever been. I can’t wait for my 30’s to see how I’ll continue to grow. Now that OP has ditched the dead weight she can lock in and find a serious person. Rooting for you OP!! OOP: Thank you! It ebbs and flows but I think more than anything, I am excited for the next chapter. I am a PhD student so I will FULLY be able to focus on that without waiting for someone to come home, or like me. Commenter 3: Good for you for taking control of your life. You should have left the first time he told you he didn't want to get married. Do not let him back in. He had a decade to make you his wife and chose not to, so anything he says now is meaningless. Invest in individual counseling to help you figure out how to move forward and recognize healthy relationships. Commenter 4: Therapy definitely helped me unpack and make my life different after ending my 8 year wait. It crushed that the last 5 we were engaged but he kept moving the goal posts OOP: I was always so quiet about this with my therapist because I was embarrassed. When I finally told her what was going on, she said, "I am going to take off my therapist hat for a second and tell you clearly, you deserve better." With the amazing support of my friends and family, I am starting to believe that. submitted by

I'll try to make a long story short. We're a couple in our early 30s and our daughter is 4. She's a great kid but we've also tried really hard to parent her a specific way which means no screen time (on most days), normalizing spending tons of time outside, and reading, and on hobbies. She has gone on hikes and camping trips with us and that took a lot of effort, we hyped up hiking as a household and she actually does really well on trips. She's a kid, so we go through tears and meltdowns but she's genuinely able to participate. We decided that this summer we want to go on an international trip to a destination that's known for outdoors activities. I was telling about this vacation to my friend who has a 6 year old and my friend immediately got excited about how great the plans were. Then she immediately started talking about how great it were if she came along with her family! I told her it's just a family thing for us and we already have most of our planning done so we can't accommodate her. She told me that we could still cancel our lodging and go together, then when I said no she said it won't be a problem and they can book their own. I firmly don't want to go with her and her family. Her 6 year old is not used to hikes and spending time outdoors, it'll be a really hard trip for him. My friend tends to ask our group to adjust activities to something kid-centric if she can't find a babysitter. Which is fine when it's something local but it doesn't align with how I want to travel because I already know her kid won't do well with the activities we have chosen. Selfishly, her kid also gets a lot more screen time and a lot more leeway/gets what he wants after tantrums, which makes our lives harder after a prolonged period of our kids hanging out. I gently told her we want to do things that probably wouldn't be very fun for her kid and she said she's sure he will do great but we can adjust if needed. At that point I told her I'm not adjusting anything, it's our trip, it's a big expense and my husband and I want to do what we have already planned. If she chooses to go at the same time she can do whatever she wants but we will not be seeing her there unless it's exactly what we had already planned or otherwise aligns with our family needs. She's mad that I don't want to make this into a great experience for the kids and that I am saying no to creating great memories together because she remembers very fondly a trip her family took with some family friends when she was a child and wants to give the same thing to her own. AITA? Edited to add: I am so overwhelmed by all of the responses. Thank you - I have such a hard time saying no and genuinely felt like shit about the whole interaction. This is a woman who has been part of my life for the better part of 2 decades and she's a kind person and her son is a sweet kid so it was making me feel awful to say no again and again. But indeed I would never have asked someone a second time much less a third and that thought was helpful for me to reframe. I texted her a little peace offering that we can try to go on a weekend getaway to a hotel with a water park in our area sometime if she would like and I think that is a decent enough compromise, it'll be much more suitable for both kids together with ample room to separate the kids or do other activities if needed. submitted by /u/Specific_Fox_66 to r/AmItheAsshole [link] [comments]

I am NOT Original OP — OOP is u/ssophiiee posting in r/Parenting ——————————————— [Original | May 22nd, 2024] How to help tell my son he’s going to repeat second grade This wasn’t an easy decision. And he’s super sensitive. But he’s a year behind and end of year testing puts his ELA level at 1st grade 4th month. He’s very aware of his struggles, has expressed embarrassment that he’s always behind in class, is aware other kids are taking level 3-4 AR level tests, and that he’s often unsure on how to do class work while others breeze through. He’s also on the younger end of his class - just turned 8 a few weeks ago. He’s in speech, reading intervention, resource, has an IEP (Editor's note: Individualized Education Program), and we are working on ADHD diagnosis and potential medication options. But he really just needs a year to catch up. I’m not looking for reasons we shouldn’t retain him. Yes, I’m aware of the research. We’ve thought of things like he will be the biggest kid in the class, he will be older than most kids, he will be the best in sports, and the work will be a bit easier because he’s already familiar. But I know it’s going to break his heart when we tell him. Looking for any suggestions. ETA - again, I’m not looking for reasons we should not retain him or opinions on retention. His confidence is already super low, sending him to third grade with a current ELA level of grade 1.4 is not going to help. Relevant & Top Comments Commenter 1: Is it possible for you to switch schools? I’ve seen a lot of kids repeat over the last couple of years and the ones who go to different schools seems to fare best. OOP: We considered that, and it’s still an option. But we are leaning more towards keeping at his current school. His current school is the highest rated (by quite a bit) in the area. His teacher is amazing. Literally the best teacher I’ve ever met. She was a special education teacher for 10 years before moving to general ed three years ago. She texts me regularly and even came to his birthday party a few weeks ago. She def has a special relationship with him and she’s the first person he told that he feels sad when he sees that he’s so far behind. She took it upon herself to modify his work before we got his IEP officially switched over to Nevada. She’s just an amazing person. The school also has an amazing speech therapist and resource teacher. We’d risk losing that by switching schools. When we tell him, I think we will give him the option of switching schools. But I suspect he will want to stay because of his teacher and because he has a lot of friends currently in first grade. Commenter 2: We held a child back and it helped him immensely. We also changed schools at the same time. We made him part of the decision. He couldn’t veto being held back, but he helped pick the new school. If a new school is an option, I would at least check it out. If it’s not, I wouldn’t worry too much about it, but prepare him for being teased by old classmates and help him come up with some comebacks for when it happens. ——————————————— [Update | October 2nd, 2024 | ~4 Months Later] Update on my son repeating second grade I posted a few months ago looking for advice on how to tell my son he was going to repeat 2nd grade. I got so many supportive comments and DM’s. So I’d like to give an update.. I didn’t have to “tell him”, because he asked to stay with his 2nd grade teacher!! My husband and I decided we’d let him finish the school year, then tell him a few days after the last day of school. Well, on the last day of school, during breakfast, I said, “dude! Last day of 2nd grade! How are you feeling about being a 3rd grader?” He responded with, “I don’t know. I’m kind of nervous about 3rd grade because I know they read much harder books. I wish I could stay with Mrs. S next year. But I know I can’t.” I replied with, “well, that might actually might be possible! Staying with Mrs. S is something daddy and I were talking about. But we wanted to talk to you first.” We talked about it every night for the next three nights and he remained adamant he wanted to stay in 2nd. We even tried to talk him out of it. We talked about the possible cons of it - that kids might be mean about it or just ask questions about why he’s in 2nd again. We’ve used the summer to prepare and practice responses. He’s now a month into the school year and is just radiating confidence. Every day he comes home with positive recaps of the day - finishing his work before other kids, completing AR tests, his teacher asking him to help other students, and all sorts of new friends. It was the best decision we’ve ever made. I tried to post this about a month ago with the link to my initial post, but the post was denied and I got a 30 day ban for the link. So if you’d like to reference my initial post, just search my un in the group. Thank you so much to everyone who contributed with advice and support. Relevant & Top Comments Commenter 1: This is so wonderful! As someone who has worked with struggling students, it makes me so happy to read this positive outcome. I hope this experience helps your child to love school and keep his confidence. Commenter 2: This is so precious. When my oldest moved out of kindergarten, a kid in her class was held back. The lore that continues in her peer group to this day (2nd grade) — because they still see him in mixed grade activities — is that he was SO good at kindergarten that he got to choose if he wanted to go to first grade and he decided not to. ——————————————— THIS IS A REPOST SUB—I AM NOT OOP. DO NOT COMMENT ON THEIR POSTS submitted by /u/PureAdorableness to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I am a startup founder and I have a 6-year-old, and honestly I’m really scared of summer vacations. From next week, schools are closing for around 2 to 2.5 months, and I’m not able to figure out how to keep my son engaged while I work 8–10 hours a day. We are a no-screens household, so that’s not an option for me. I’m not stressed in general, but this is something I just can’t seem to find clarity on. I don’t want him to feel bored, and at the same time I can’t constantly manage his day because of work. I just don’t know how to approach this. Would really appreciate if other parents—especially working parents can share what worked for them. submitted by /u/Mountain-Cobbler-651 to r/workingmoms [link] [comments]