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I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/CuriousButNotJewish Originally posted to r/relationship_advice How do I [F28], a widow, tell my in-laws[M58][F59] about my new partner? I am very, VERY close to them (for all intents and purposes they treat me as their daughter, events, sleepovers, trips etc.) and I am afraid that this will destroy everything Thanks to u/withlovetara & u/soayherder for suggesting this BoRU Trigger Warnings: death of a spouse, mentions trauma Original Post: May 3, 2026 I married my soulmate, the love of my life and the light of my eyes 3.5 years ago. Unfortunately, he died shortly after our wedding due to an illness, in my arms and while holding his parents' hands. Suffice to say this was traumatic for everyone involved, everyone in his family tattooed his name on their wrist (I have a marriage tattoo, so not a name but a date tied to him, which is why I didn't do it), and the whole after-death, mourning, etc. period we bonded very deeply over his memory. For context (this is relevant), I am from country A. My late husband was from country B. I lived with him in country C, and since then I've moved and now live in country D. As my husband was dying, we both moved from C to B, so that burial and everything else would be easier. I then stayed with my in-laws for a while, moved back to C, sold the apartment I owned there shortly after and moved to D. I am thus now stranded, in a way, between my family (all in A) and my in laws family (all in B). I travel ~2 times a year to spend time with in-laws in B, maybe once a year to spend time with my own fam in A, and maybe once a year my entire blood family comes to D to spend time with me. It's an expensive and exhausting arrangement but it works in maintaining both bonds. It also means that when I am in B, I am now for all intents and purposes treated by in-laws, and the entire rest of my late husband's family, like I am their child: I live with them, travel with them around the country, eat with them, play video games together with my "siblings" in law, I am on the walls of their house in holiday photos and spend time with my late husband's cousins and now, these are basically my family too, my mom dad grandparents cousins etc. They're just as mom and dad as my own mom and dad are. And here comes the hard question: I'm in my late 20s. After my hubby died, I did date now and then, with eventually hoping for marriage and kids, but nothing seemed to work, fellow widows know what that's like. And then... I met this guy. And he has been, well, not like my late husband, but you know how sometimes you meet someone and they are YOUR person? And you just know? In a different way, this man is as much a soulmate now as my husband was. And he is very chill with me going to in-laws, mentioning a memory of something I did with my late husband on occasion, having a picture of him in my bedroom, etc. He is caring, loving, understanding and patient, everything a young widow could ask for... and things are moving fast. Which is the problem. Thus far, I never mentioned any relationships to my in-laws. They are aware, I am certain, that I do date, have sex, etc. but they don't ask, and I don't talk, about anything or anyone other than my late husband while in country B. I don't feel like that's respectful to change that, buuuuuut - well, I want to move in with this guy. And I want to stop saying I'm going on 'solo trips' when I'm actually going on trips with this guy. And I love him, a lot, and we are already talking marriage, and children. And I have to tell them that this man now exists in my life, and here I am, in my in-laws' toilet, writing this out at 2am to ask Reddit for advice. With 2 days left before I go back to country D and don't come back here to B until... God knows. Maybe Christmas? I have to tell them, and I want to do it in person while I am here, but I don't know how. I don't want it to seem ostentatious - there is pictures of me and late husband, together, hugging, on holidays, EVERYWHERE in the house, and announcing a new man in my life out of the blue might seem like I'm bragging or something. I'm not. I also don't want it to seem like I'm leaving them aside - I'm not. They are MY mom and dad in law, my gran gran and gram gram in law, my little brother and sister in law, and this will change nothing. Even after I get married. Even if I have children. They remain family to me and kin. But how do I even start this conversation? Because they won't ask. And I don't know how to mention it, in a way that we never speak about it again, in a way that respects and shows that my late husband is STILL my soulmate, still the light of my eyes - he's just not the only one, anymore. I'm scared out of my mind that this will make me lose them. Relevant Comments OOP responds to a comment about overthinking everything and how her late husband’s family might react to the new relationship OOP: Oh I know it's not betrayal. I am fully ok with this, I'm not feeling guilty over it or anything. Part of what made my soulmate well, my soulmate, is his emotional intelligence, his wisdom way beyond his years, his foresight and his empathy. He was dying and yet he took a few hours, sat me down, and made sure he understood and I understood what will happen once he dies. He told me in no uncertain terms that he wants me to date again. Like a petulant child, I told him I'll kill myself instead to not have to suffer a life without him - and I almost did. The lucidity that came after the suicide attempt made me realise he was right, and I don't carry any guilt in my heart, because in my head, it's a bit like polygamy if that makes sense? I still love my husband, deeply, profoundly and every second, but also, he is ok with this. He wanted me to find another good man (or woman). He wanted me to have children, if I wanted them. What do I have to be guilty for? He ain't mad at this, he's cheering me onwards and is probably proud of me for finding such a good catch. His parents are not as open minded. That's what I'm afraid of - their reaction, and the family's reaction as a whole. He comes from a very tightly knit family, and I really enjoy this, how close and personal everyone is with everyone. But they also might find it painful to picture me as OP, Woman Married to Unknown Man, as opposed to OP, Widow of our Dear Departed And Beloved Relative. The thing is, I am both. I will ALWAYS be both. I am wearing my wedding band proudly, continuously, and likely will keep it on a chain after I marry my current partner (and start wearing our wedding bands instead). Even now I have a promise ring of sorts on my middle finger, right next to my wedding band. For me these things are not a contradiction. I contain multitudes. I just don't know how to help my family of kinship also see this and not reject me. OOP on the reasons for wanting children with a partner OOP: Unfortunately, the line is tick tocking on my biological clock. I have a health condition that is degenerative - it might cause me to become infertile later in life. As you can imagine, in our day and age, this put off many men, who don't see why we shouldn't just wait till I'm 35+, but my late husband and I shared what we knew we always wanted out of life: at least two children (amongst other things). I'm only rushing because I'm afraid that if I don't have all the kids I want by 32-33, I may never have them :(. I wish women didn't have a biological clock, so I didn't have to do that. But life forces cruel choices on us. Had my late husband not died, we were considering starting children at 26 or so, so in a way (and I know this may sound silly) I feel a bit like I'm already "behind" on my planned timeline. House ownership? Check. Good job and being the breadwinner? Check. Finding a good partner to settle down and have kids with? Well, it was a check, and then life told me not only do I not get to have that check anymore, I have to keep staying alive and suffer through what's left. And I'm doing just that, I went to grief counselling, I made my peace with it, life sucks, so I'm just trying to make the best of a bad situation... but I know it's perhaps harder to understand for someone without a degenerative disease. Trust me, I wouldn't rush, if only I felt like I could afford to. (And before anyone asks, no, it's not inheritable.) OOP on if she has her relationships with her biological family as she only mentions much more about her in-laws than her own OOP: I don't, I'm much more close to my biological mom and my bio family over in-laws, but my father is an alcoholic and a bit of a gambling addict and growing up I have fought with him, shouted at him, and even physically assaulted him twice out of sheer anger (I definitely had anger issues as a teenager, and broke my dear mother's heart countless times over my inability to contain them). Now as an adult I have learned to love and appreciate him from a distance. I also love and have always loved children, and my parents are single children, so I have no cousins, and two of my four grandparents were dead by the time I married, so my grandparent exposure has been fantastic, but sadly limited. Comparatively, my late husband has 4 living grandparents (who are now great grandparents), 12 uncles and aunts, and... 18 cousins? I am close with around 9 of them. Of which some are children. And I love being here, playing with them, playing in general. It feels like family. It feels like what I want MY family to be when I have children. When I grew up we didn't really celebrate Christmas, we were too poor. When I grew up I had a chronic illness so everyone was constantly worried that the only child in the entire family will die if they don't take care of me, so we didn't travel much. When I grew up... people loved me, I was a very loved and wanted child, but I was also a difficult, angry, depressed child who felt the weight of the world on her shoulders and I know I didn't make my family's lives easy, the opposite. Which is why I moved to C by myself, took student loans, did a very good university on scholarships and debt, and am now making enough money to give my parents the life they never had growing up themselves (I send them money every month so they can do whatever they want and be happy with them). I feel like I'm allowed this small, vicarious, selfish luxury, to be in this family that's not my blood and pretend I belong. Play with the Legos I never had as a baby. Coo at all the toddlers I never played with, play football with the aunts and uncles I never had. It's not mom and dad's fault that they are who they are. They sacrificed everything to raise me. Sometimes they starved so that I never lacked anything. But at the same time, what do I have back in the home country to visit? Dying grandparents? Sad memories? I love my country, but I don't want to go back. I want mom and dad and my grandparents, as much as they can, to keep coming to country C to spend time with me. I want to make so much money that I can bring my mom and dad here to live with me permanently, even, once they retire and my grandparents die. I just don't see the point in visiting my country of origin, not because it's a bad country (I won't say what it is, but it is objectively an amazing country y'all have heard of), but because I have such a small family that I can just bring them all to me instead. We can go to cute cafes and buy stupid adult Legos and visit overpriced zoos and do all the silly stuff we haven't done before now. I'm killing myself working overtime with a chronic illness to make it happen. I don't think it means I'm more distant from my parents and grandparents of blood. It's just different. Commenter 2: Out of curiosity what are the timelines here? How long were you with your late husband and how long have you been with your current partner? What cultures and continents are we dealing with? My white Western anglophone POV might be out of line, you know? OOP: We're all Europeans, countries A B C D are a mix of Eastern, Southern and Western Europe. I was with my husband 4 years in total, this new guy I've dated for... we're coming up on 8 months? We're not getting married soon or anything, just talking about moving in together. OOP on the timeline of her dating, marriage, and her husband's passing OOP: I first came to country B to visit maybe 1.5 years before he died? We started to bond and do things together all of us already, for sure, but it definitely kicked up a notch after he died. I had a lot of cousins and aunts and uncles at my wedding I barely even knew the names of, but now I would trust them all with my life as if they were blood relatives. They also started visiting me in D after I bought my house there, so by definition after he died. He's been gone 3.5 years, we were married half a year, and we were both 24 at the time. New guy is 29. In-laws are from a very Catholic culture, I don't want to say the country specifically, but nobody in the family is religious. Does this help?   Editor's note: OOP updated into the original post Update: May 4, 2026 (same post, next day) EDIT: I DID IT I talked only to my mother in law, because I was a bit afraid to talk to them both, and I kept putting it off until literally the last second before we went to bed but, I did it. I told her that this guy is the first serious relationship I've had since hubby passed away, that it's quite a new thing (I was afraid to tell her it's been a long time - I can come clean about this small lie later on, if he becomes more than boyfriend) but that I've known him for a longer while because we're in the same friend group, and to my surprise, she asked me to tell her more about him! She cut me off at some point then and told me she is very happy for me, but she only wants one thing from me: to stay in touch with them, and to not push them aside, and to that I told her I had been freaking out the whole time while in country B about how to tell her, and she said it’s silly, even seemed to get a bit cross at me that I could ever be afraid to tell her because we are family, and I told her to me she is mom as much as my own mom is mom, so I was afraid to lose her and lose that, and anyway we hugged and she is very happy for me and we bonded over how we were both afraid that this moment would distance me from them, but I reassured her that literally nothing will change between us, and I am as much her daughter now as I will always be. So yeah: turns out, y'all were right, I freaked out over nothing much, and while I am uncertain as to when, or if, rest of family will find out, since she is the one I am closest with and she also knows her children and husband best, I trust that she'll mention it to them when she thinks that the time is right. At the same time I told my boyfriend, and he is very happy that it all went well, and congratulated me for it : D I did chicken out on telling her the full truth, how long we've been together, and stuff like that, as well as to have a full "we need to sit down" talk with father in law, but all in all, I think this is as ok as it will get, and I am reassured that even if he doesn't take it as well, mom (in law?) is in my corner and she is happy for me. Extra detail that entirely blew me away: the guys who said to mention to her that husband did tell me to remarry were more spot on the money than they thought. Turns out, not only did he have this conversation with me, he ALSO had this conversation with them, so she said she is ok with it especially because late hubby told her that this is what he wants. I do feel a bit uneasy at the thought of how this might have went had he not, but once again from beyond the grave and 3 years ago he protected his wife and made sure I am safe and accepted by his family, which. Guys. At 24, while dying. I cannot put into words how much I love this man. I would die for him to get even another hour of life. Until his last day he thought of me and loved me. How blessed are we that we get to have experienced a man such as him into our lives. I dunno how all of the guys who wanted an update will get it but uh... here you go? lol   Editor's note: below are two posts that are tangentially to the original and update posts WIBTAH to go ahead with buying a bunk bed despite my partner's hesitation?: May 17, 2026 (nearly two weeks later) Long story short, both my partner (30M) and I (28F) currently live in apartments with roommates. I have finally managed to save enough money and buy an apartment that I absolutely love, and since I wanted to move in with my partner eventually, this turned out to be a great moment for us to do so. We talked about it and, the conclusion we reached is that as I bought the apartment by myself, he will pay me half of the mortgage as rent after he moves in until (if) we get married. Anyway, one of the biggest reasons why I wanted to buy instead of continuing to rent is that I ADORE loft beds. They are my favourite beds in the world, I love the "living upstairs, couch beanbag with PS5 and projector and RGB lighting downstairs behind princess curtains" aesthetic, it's literally my dream. This is something I told my partner for a long time even before buying this apartment, that this is my dream bed, I want to buy one day, and it was a big motivator to buying (in our country almost all apartments for rent are furnished already so low chances to have a loft bed unless I buy the place instead of renting). Never has anything been said by him against this. I even showed him my Pinterest board with how I want it to look, 0 complaints. Now that the place is ready and I am starting to prepare for ordering furniture, ending my rent contract, and moving in, I am showing him again all of the inspo pics and he seems... less than thrilled? He asked a few times if I am sure this is the best choice for a bed, what if him or I fall off of the ladder at night, etc. I told him that the living room will also have a very comfortable guest bed AND a sofa with an extendable bed, so we don't have to sleep together if he doesn't like the bed, but he's all "hmm" and "maybe" and non-committal noises and it's a bit stressful tbh. Feels like he's raining on my parade. I even told him that there's no pressure with the move, I am fortunate enough to be able to pay the mortgage by myself if he isn't certain about moving together anymore, and he got a bit upset at me for implying we'd be giving up our shared dream of living together and sleeping together in the same bed just because he isn't sure about the loft bed idea. I don't know how to tell him this gently, but the loft bed isn't negotiable. It's absolutely happening. He knew about it for such a long time. At the same time, I asked my best friend (who is a man) what he thinks I should do and he said that I should be more open to compromise with this because compromise is the heart of a good relationship. But I don't want to compromise. I want my loft bed. WIBTAH to go ahead with buying it even though my partner isn't super thrilled with the idea? Sorry if my English is bad or the text sounds badly worded, English isn't my native language. Edit: I see some people are confused and think I am talking about those loft beds children have, I am talking about the double-bed sized loft beds that IKEA has for adults, specifically this one: https://www.ikea.com/us/en/p/stora-loft-bed-frame-black-80160867/ Edit 2: fair enough, I take people's points about the weight limit, I'll inquire with a carpenter to have a custom bed built in the same style, but with a sturdier frame. I hear your safety concerns. Edit 3: a kind redditor suggested a bed and the company just happens to deliver to where I live, so it looks like I'll be buying this beauty, with a very much 2-adults'-weight maximum weight to it: https://abc-meubles.com/fr/lit-mezzanine-bois/1452-1270341-lit-mezzanine-sylvia-escalier-cube.html#/67-couleur-brut_sans_vernis Cheers to all the other suspended (apparently bunk is not the word, loft bed is correct) bed owners out there pouring in their stories and helpful advice Tonight I have a date and guess what topic we'll discuss over some nice dinner - will update later! Edit 4: This sub won't let me post comments anymore cause y'all have downvoted my comments answering your questions so much that it fell under some threshold. So no updates or INFO answers anymore. Too bad. Also please stop mentioning "guest rooms". This is not the US. It is a 1 bedroom apartment in a European capital city where the average 2 bedroom apartment is at least 1 million EUR. It doesn't have the immense amount of space that American houses have. We all wish we had those houses. Those houses here, in bumfuck nowhere in the countryside, would be between 1 and 2 million EUR. Edit 5: we didn't break up. We talked about it, and I posted an update on it: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1tg76o0/update_wibtah_to_go_ahead_with_buying_a_bunk_bed/ To everyone cursing me out and wishing for the death of my relationship, sorry babes, it ain't happening. AITAH has no consensus bot, OOP received mixed reactions, splitting between NTAs and YTAs Editor's note: OOP made numerous responses in this post, the majority of her responses have been downvoted. I am listing significant details not covered Relevant Comments Commenter 1: .... all loft beds are literally under "kids' loft beds & bunk beds" category in Ikea. It's definitely 100% NOT for adults. There's only 1 double mattress loft bed in the states and They even say: "Please note that our loft bed frames are designed for one person at a time even if 2 or more persons total weight is less than 220lb per bed limit." You're mistaken OOP: We don't live in the states. In my country's IKEA website, bunk beds are not aged like they seem to be in the US. Commenter 2: What are your ceiling heights though? Are you going to be bumping your head all the time? OOP: If I remember correctly, they're a bit under 4 meters (editor's note: a bit over 13 feet). It's an old apartment and has blessedly freakishly tall ceilings. OOP on the cost of a place in her country OOP: In my country an apartment with more than 2 rooms is a million EUR (editor's note: $1,160,400.00 USD). I'm being realistic here. Already being able to own my place before I'm 30 is massively ahead of my generation. + Rent is generally higher than mortgage, because housing market sucks ass. 2. a 2 bedroom apartment is around a million EUR, because housing market sucks ass. 3. Being able to afford any real estate in this nightmare of a country is already huge, the average first time house buyer is over 40 years old. Buying my own place before 30 is immense in itself. Commenter 3: it’s your house, not his. if he wants an option on furnishing, he should be paying half the mortgage and half the price of the furnishings. OOP: Technically he's prying half of the mortgage amount per month, but I put my foot down and this will be in the form of a rent contract. It is my property and it will remain my property. OOP on who is paying for the bed OOP: And I'm paying for the bed lol. Like he ain't paying 50%, another commenter made me realise how stupid I am to consider someone else's vision for a bed when I'm buying the furniture, for an apartment I bought... OOP on the weight limit of the loft bed that might not hold her and her partner OOP: We both weigh, together, 130kg. If the bed breaks under us I'll file a customer complaint because wtf lol. Commenter 4: INFO: Do you like having sex with your partner? Do they make loft beds big enough for 2 people? Would you consider a loft that's more of a couch on top? I'm not gonna shit on you for your dream even if I don't get it but I'm just gonna tell you right now you are describing a single person's lifestyle not something that is practical for a couple. So decide which one you want more. OOP: The loft bed frame is 200x200, I've already had a ton of sex in this exact type of loft bed when I had a very short FWB stint in college with another girl who had this bed, trust me, it's 100% sturdy enough lol. Like you can do all kinds of bondage in it even because of how big the frame is and how many board nooks it has available - it makes for some INSANE shibari if your partner knows how to make it! The loft bed love I have is unrelated to this lol, I loved loft beds even before discovering their BDSM potential, but the adult, queen sized loft beds are definitely made with sex in mind, take my word on this ;) OOP on considering hers and her partner's heights OOP: We're both short people and the place has high ceilings, so we shouldn't have problems hitting our heads. Our sex life is, let's say, potentially adventurous: given that we both have housemates, we haven't had the chance to try lots of crazy stuff, but this apartment will be a bit of a chance to explore some kinks and fetishes we both have in common. The bunk bed will help with that also, since there are lots of posts and polls to wrap rope around on it ;) + We're both about the same height, 168-170cm, idk what that is in American units. (editor's note: approximately 5'5") Commenter 5: I mean if the bed is more important to you than the partner is, which it sounds like is the case, then I think that says a lot about your relationship. OOP: It's not about the bed itself, same as it wasn't about the Iranian yoghurt. This is something I communicated as a non-negotiable to him forever ago, it is a dream I actively sank tens of thousands of euros to achieve. The fact that he's only now, when we're 95% there, saying he doesn't like it or is a dealbreaker, feels to me like if I was dating some guy for 10 years with the clear understanding that we both want children, only for him to change his mind up and say he needs to think last moment. You know what I mean? This is a dream of mine he was aware of for pretty much years and only now when it's about to happen he reveals he doesn't like it. If he hated the concept why not tell me sooner? Like when I showed him my inspo Pinterest boards? OOP on the deed of the apartment OOP: I'm sorry, is his name on the deed to this house? Is he buying the furniture? Are we going 50/50 on it? No? Ah, well. Equals isn't just a vibe, equals is a thing counted in cold hard cash. + I have only my name on the deed, he will have a rental contract with no equity claim to my property if he does move in with me. Commenter 6: YTA. You want him to move in, but he doesn’t even get a say in any furniture and he's paying half of the bills. Then you told him the bed is non-negotiable and he can sleep elsewhere or LIVE elsewhere. If this is your dying hill and something to strain your relationship over you have growing to do. OOP: He's paying rent. I paid the down deposit, I pay and am responsible for this house. As far as I am concerned he can have the certainty and joy of us living together, but unless he coughs up some down deposit and we buy a property together, the same way my landlords certainly don't ask me how I want my rental apartment furnished, he also doesn't get a say. We are both adults and I won't be a doormat and let him act as if he bought this house. OOP on whose idea was to move in together OOP:He's the one who keeps pushing for us to move in together as a great opportunity. I won't lie, having to not pay half of the mortgage would be easier on my wallet, and he only works part time, so he could do household chores (he already said he'd want to cook for us and clean the place so that I don't have to hire cleaning help)... I'm ok with him moving in but if he doesn't I won't die.   [Update] WIBTAH to go ahead with buying a bunk bed despite my partner's hesitation?: May 17, 2026 (same day, hours later) Short update to all the lovers of loft beds (I have now learned it's called loft and not bunk) and all of those fervently calling me a thousand names and acting like I'm torturing my gem and babe of a partner by having him move in with me. We just had a date night. It was lovely, if a bit cold (why is it so cold so close to summer, anyway?), and with my mind heavy from all the commenters absolutely losing their shit at the concept of shorter-than-average adults sleeping in anything other than the most insanely massive beds known to man, I gently prodded the topic of the loft bed back into conversation. I put all my cards on table and was fully honest, told him that I am hurt that he seems to not have taken me seriously before, that I want to find a compromise that makes him happy as well, but at the same time, that this bed is very important to me and I am not sure where to go from here, but I want to discuss it seriously, because his dismissive attitude made me unsure about the future. To my surprise, he was himself surprised that I took his grumpiness about the bed so seriously. He said he's still not thrilled at the idea, that he was hoping I had reconsidered a bit in light of the negatives he raised, but that if that's what I really want, he'll be there for me for it. And then we got to planning. I won't bore the good folks with too many details; I showed him the French bed someone suggested from the last post (I linked it in the previous post), he liked that the stairs look way less slippery than the IKEA ladder, suggested we put some anti-slip surface carpets on them for extra safety and also that we bolt the contraption to the walls to reduce shaking during, ahem, adult activities, and then he asked me if I think we could fit a bed underneath that bed, and if I'd be ok with that. I said probably yes, but that it wouldn't be a massive bed. He said that's fine. So that's what's happening. The gaming console and beanbag combo will have to relocate somewhere else (the office, most likely - its existence seems to have confused a lot of people, just to help clarify, it's a 1 bedroom apartment with a small office room which is too small to be a bedroom by itself), the downstairs curtains don't really fit into the picture anymore, but we'll put a bed underneath the loft bed, so he can choose whether he wants to sleep in his bachelor-style pad under the stairs (Harry Potter jokes were had) or climb up with me in the upper area. He also said that he hopes I'll grow tired of the "heights" sooner rather than later, to which I jokingly said he'll have to ground me down a lot for that to happen (does this joke make sense in English? it's like when you direct electricity into the ground by reaching up to the sky with a metal antenna), and in response he gave me a tight hug and kiss. The world didn't explode. We didn't break up. We'll just have an even funkier bed situation than before: a double bed underneath the loft bed. It will probably look something like this (replace the table and single bed with a full bed underneath the loft bed): https://pin.it/4SG9BidJt But it's not that bad. We might even put the curtains on the upper side of the bed (the ceiling? a rail? not sure yet) to keep the whimsy aspect and then it might look like something like this: https://pin.it/16BNKDu2e We also, to the annoyance of that person complaining about who makes Pinterest boards anymore, agreed to make a shared pins board to be more in touch with this project and how we see it. Uh... the end? I know some people wanted an update once the bed came home, but realistically, that will be one month from now or so, I thought I'd give this small update until then. The drama my little princess whimsy bed truly was crazy so hopefully this calms some folks down. Editor's note: again, OOP made numerous responses in this post, the majority of her responses have been downvoted Some Comments Has OOP slept in a loft bed before? OOP: I did have it in one of the previous rentals I had, and an ex-girlfriend of mine also had it. It's very much a love it or hate it thing I'm starting to learn - some people absolutely despise them and some really like them, one thing is for certain though, they're not for houses with low ceilings. Saw someone say they had less than 1m between the bed and ceiling in their one as a child, which sounds like a casket with extra steps. Commenter 1: You should show him your other post and comments so he can see exactly how uncaring and dismissively you spoke about him. He has a right to know how you actually view him. It would probably be an eye opener for him. OOP: I think he's happier enough not seeing my angrier side. Some of the stuff people said there... phew. I have a temper, it's in my people's blood, we can light up from nothing, fiery blood. I did say some bullshit I didn't actually mean, when redditors call me entitled retarded a child a bitch a psychopath and every other name under the sun, of course it gets under my skin and makes me aggressive. But with him I'm feeling the kind of calm I've never felt before. As long as we find compromise and respect each other, there is no reason to become upset. He hasn't harmed before, ever, has never raised his voice or called me names. I have no reason for anger with my love. If anything, he seemed more happy that we'll get a cat than anything. And now we have to figure out how to make a cat staircase that's safe for it to climb up in bed and back... I still don't see the joy in it, but that's his lifelong dream, so everyone is moving forward with their plans it seems 😉 Commenter 2: He said he didn’t want the bed, but you are going to it anyhow. You aren’t a great partner. You are prioritizing a “fun idea” over his comfort. OOP: We made a compromise, that's how compromises work. I am happy, he is happy. A compromise did not mean tossing the bed out or breaking up with him or whatever people kept saying I should do.   THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP's OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7 submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I have my grandmother baby sister visiting next week. She’s in her 60s but very good shape and active. I kind of low key hate her. She’s always making comments about my weight and why I’m not married and a list of other negative things. I want to take her out to places where she’ll be the most uncomfortable and potentially won’t be visiting Houston for a long time. She’s voted a certain way and her husband wears a red hat. She’s very uncomfortable around minority groups. Where can I take her to make her visit miserable??? Update * I’m so grateful for everyone who contributed to the post. I never expected it to blow up so quickly. For those who are wondering about my situation I do live with my parents so my great aunt visiting wasn’t something that I wanted but my mom and her are very close and I can’t control who visits my parents. I did spend a majority of the time in my room when she was there. But we did end up doing some family activities together. I did get a lot of request to take my family to a drag show which I thought would be a hilarious suggestion but my parents are very hardcore Christian and they would never go for such a thing. So I did suggest it very enthusiastically but was shut down immediately by them. At first they knew I was joking but I kept trying to push it and they said that “that’s the kind of event the devil lives at” I mentioned to my great aunt that according to the bible we’re all the bride of Christ so technically her husband Phil ( who’s ironically her 2nd husband) should identify as the bride of Christ. Which it wouldn’t and shouldn’t be considered sinful for men to express themselves as feminine since we are all the “bride of Christ”. This pissed them off in a way that gives me joy. It was mainly my mom who was scolding me, But my great aunt kept telling me she would pray for me. I told her as long as she was willing to pray I would like to give her some more prayer requests and she agreed. I told her to pray for the Palestinian children in Gaza and she literally rolled her eyes at me. Saturday we ended up visiting the zoo. We went around 10:30 am and the parking was completely packed. I ended up circling the parking lot for at least 20 minutes with no success. All while my mom and aunt were back seat driving. I also did follow a person to their spot and sat in the lane and waited for them to put their three children in the car only to have another more aggressive driver overtake me and take my parking spot that I literally waited 5 minutes for. I thought it was so funny but my mom got absolutely livid. She wanted to get out of the car to confront them but told her to sit back down and shouting at these people wouldn’t be very Christ like. I ended up driving off and parked in a paid hospital parking lot across the street from the zoo. We had to walk a far distance to the entry of the zoo in the hot sun which I thought would piss my great aunt off but she didn’t actually complain about it and it was me who was a sweaty mess by the time we entered the zoo. For lunch I though it was the most appropriate to take them to Trill burger since it’s pretty close to the zoo and the idea of greasy burgers and fries served in a casual style atmosphere with rap music blasting was exactly what I was going for. Bonus points because when we parked our car there were literally 2 cars hot boxing just a few feet away from us and the strong odor of cannabis isn’t something my family enjoys. My aunt complained the whole time and at one point said something to the effect of “these people don’t even know how to spell THRILL burger”. It was such an interesting experience seeing some people dressed extremely well in suits and ties and others literally in their pajamas all in the same restaurant. I kept quietly singing along and nodding my head to the rhythm of the rap music that was playing in the background while my mom and great aunt kind of looked uncomfortable but continued chatting to themselves. Unfortunately they didn’t allow me to choose dinner and my mom explained to me “we’re trying to have a good time” and we ended up eating at Taste of Texas which is a little more their scene. The waitress actually took a photo of us and printed it out as a gift since it was my great aunts first time and they wrapped a red bandanna around her and her husband was given a cowboy hat to take a picture with. My family had a great time there. Sunday my family ended up going to church in the morning and I skipped out. But for a late dinner I kept telling them I was taking them to my favorite authentic BBQ spot. I took them straight to Chinatown and went to Gaos kabob which is still bbq but definitely not what they expected. For those who never been there it’s full of drunk Chinese people loudly singing Chinese love songs on a karaoke machine on a stage which is definitely not their scene. I ordered a bunch of pig feet and lamb skewers as well as spicy noodles. This definitely wasn’t what they were expecting and it didn’t seem like they ate much but they didn’t complain about it as much as trill burger. My mom kept saying we should have went to treebeards. Overall my great aunt actually kept an open mind about the places I took her and it was my mom who was the one who did the majority of the complaining. My great aunt told me she had a great time and is looking forward to me visiting her in Florida. I probably won’t be visiting anytime soon though. Thanks to everyone for the suggestions!!! I love Houston!! submitted by /u/billionsandbillionsa to r/houston [link] [comments]

I am NOT Original OP — OOP is u/Silent-Occasion-6870 posting in r/AITAH TRIGGER WARNING: gambling addiction and abuse ——————————————— [Original] May 4, 2026 | AITAH for not donating for a sick kid which led to others doing the same? My (39M) husband (35) has a big family and they are always in about each other's business and causing drama. I generally keep out of it and let him deal with them all. This time I was dragged into it and it has all blown up. He has a cousin who is married to a twat of a guy, they have an 8 yo boy. They are all about show and live outside there means, everything is on finance. Nice cars, luxury holidays etc. Through the family grapevine we have heard that they are in about 80k of debt. He has a job that pays about 100k a year. We have never got on. There have been the gay "jokes", nothing too bad but irritating. He also HATES the fact we both do extremely well for ourselves. Not to brag but we have access to 7 figures in savings and investments. The family knows but people on the outside have no idea. We live a quiet life, no flashy cars or insta posts about our holidays. Last year he came into a decent inheritance in the form of a 750k house, would not shut up about it. This is all relevant. Now to the issue, unfortunately their kid has become ill, extremely ill, not going to die but their life will definitely be more difficult. There is a treatment available that MIGHT help but it will cost around 250k. They came to us and asked if we would pay for it. We said we would need to discuss it and ultimately went back to them and said that this isn't something that we would do. This was not a fun phone call, he kicked off calling us every name under the sun. Our reasons will become clear soon. After this call they put us on blast in the family group chat and Facebook. We were getting calls and messages from people going in hard on us. This is when I messaged the chat and commented on their FB. I explained that if they could not afford it, we would have helped. They have a paid off 750k house. I pointed out that there is nothing stopping them from releasing some equity in the house and this would pay for the treatment and clear their debt. Their mortgage payments would be less than what they previously paid in rent. I also pointed out that they could cancel their 2 upcoming 10k holidays and down grade their cars. I said that I felt like we would be paying to maintain their lifestyle and as parents they should be doing everything they should to help said kid. Since this there has been more name calling and dramatics but most of the family have now pivoted to our POV this has led to some of them who previously promised money pulling out. We are all being called monsters for not helping a sick kid. I don't think we are but that is why we are here, AITAH? UPDATE: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1tcbg22/update_aitah_for_not_donating_for_a_sick_kid/ Relevant & Top Comments #1 OP: Apparently because we are rich and don't have kids we should cough up. They have also pointed out how we have helped other family members. We have paid for 3 of their University's and also bought 2 houses for ones who were genuinely struggling. #2 With people like that, if I did want to gift money for such a reason, I would ask for the bill amd pay it directly. If they refused, I would know something was up. OP: The whole thing is horrible. My husband's family do not have a lot of money. They were all trying to see what they could scrape together, if they were lucky it would have been 15/20k. This is what made me say no, they are supposed to be going on holidays totalling more than that this year and they were happy letting the rest of the family make pretty severe sacrifices. #3 I feel like it’s obvious but it’s your money, why do they expect you and your husband to “help their child” when they’ve shown who they are as a person against you two and the way they treat you. This isn’t even about “helping their child” it is essentially helping to maintain their lifestyle, as a parent it is their job to do whatever they can to be the first ones to help their child but instead they choose to ask others just because they don’t want to make sacrifices with their lavish lifestyle and maintain a facade. They should write a note to themselves, always treat others with kindness cause you never know when you’ll need their help, also that’s a basic human thing to do. As a side note I just want to say that you are what I aspire to be, a successful gay married couple that is able to help family, the ones that are actually in need. please teach me your ways hehe jk OP: Thank you but I feel a bit of a fraud being called successful. The money came from a payout that I got when I was 13 and my parents were killed, it was invested well. I didn't "earn" it. Me and my husband started a business doing something we love, it does well but 75% of our money comes off the back of the payout. This is why I like to do what I can for his family who need it. It kind of feels like dirty money and it makes it feel cleaner by doing what we can for them. #4 OP: The family have bailed, they won't be getting anything. The sad thing is that the kid is going to be messed up because of it. Not because of their illness but they have apparently told him that his family won't help when he is sick and they are going to "lose" their house because of it and I am the number one villain out of everyone. #5 Absolutely not! If they're comfortable living in a high debt lifestyle, the kid's treatment is roughly the price of a new car. If their kid isn't worth the price of a car when they already have equity waiting to be tapped. So since they essentially already have the money. It's not that hard to get an equity loan then, poof! Money! You're right in your assessment that they were looking for a way for this to not ripple their pond. Besides, any hospital will make payment arrangements in their billing department. That's what us poor folks do. So, it not like the answer was ever really going to be no for the kid. That's like a burning itch in my brain though.... Sitting on 750k and running around with their hand out like they're overextended and strapped for cash. Didn't everybody else know about the house too? Yet your knowledge of their assets was what they needed in order to "get it" Well, in a family that likes to be up in each other's business and spin drama, y'all better watch your back. Cause when all this is said & done with their kid being sick, they'll be aiming at you. You better shore up your lives, and make sure you've got nothing going on that they can get a fingernail under to expose. Expect them to come out petty. Unless they've already got something from years & years ago to throw at you cold. I mean, I hope they just go - and go away quietly. But from what you described about your family in general, I don't see that as an option. OP: This is going to sound bad but my husbands family are not well off and he was the first to go to university. There is a lot of issues in the family that comes with living close to poverty. My parents died when I was 13, it was 100% the fault of a large company and I got a substantial pay out. This was invested well and I have maintained that in adulthood. I met my husband at Uni and we started a small passion business that does well. There is nothing nefarious in how we came into our wealth so he has nothing on us. We regularly help his family out and we don't begrudge them at all, they might be annoying, but they have had hard lives due to generational trauma. We try and focus any money we give in helping the younger generation break that cycle. We pay a full time therapist just to work with his family, she has no other clients. We pay for further education and help out the ones that don't want to study start their own businesses. We have shares 2 landscape businesses, a hairdressers, a plumbers and a bakery. This is why he can't get his head round us not giving money for a sick child when we do these sort of things for the rest of the family. I was an only child and don't really have family of my own, his family are far from perfect but most of them have good hearts and have taken me in. That is why we overlook a lot of their behaviours and help where we can. They money will be no use to us when we are dead and we have more than enough to see us out with the lifestyle we live. ——————————————— [Update] May 14, 2026 | UPDATE: AITAH for not donating for a sick kid which led to others doing the same? Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1t2ztpo/aitah_for_not_donating_for_a_sick_kid_which_led/ It has been a crazy couple of weeks so I thought I would update you all. First off, a lot of you were right, there was a lot more going on than anyone knew. There was something off about the whole situation , but the one thing we knew is that the kid was sick. My husband saw a post on socials that his cousins husband was out of town for the weekend, we decided to reach out to the cousin and see if she would meet us for a coffee, she did and she invited us round to their house. I know a lot of you will say we were stupid to go round but my husband had been close to his cousin growing up and just wanted to see if there was something that could be figured out, I was against it but it was important to him. I didn't need to be there but I am going to be honest, I was there for the tea. Anyway things were off in the house, I don't know how to describe it but she seemed out of place in her own home, on edge. At first I thought it was because we there and the whole situation was awkward. After everyone was settled, we started talking and basically said that we stand by what we said but if we could help in other ways that worked for everyone, we would. She broke down and it all came out. It turns out the her husband has a gambling problem and the 80k was nowhere close to their debt. He had taken out 550k against the house as soon as he got it, this cleared what he owed on credit and to some less than savoury people. The problem is his gambling problem did not go away, surprise surprise, and it had crept back up again to the tune of about 100k, fucking crazy. As predicted by some of you, the out of pocket for the treatment was not 250k it was closer to 125k, he decided to double it and approach us to kill two birds with one stone. Clear the debt and pay for treatment. Before I go any further, we are now paying for the full treatment directly to hospital. Appointments are being made and hopefully the little guy will start it in the next few weeks. What we didn't predict and what nobody had any idea about was what else was going on in the household, I won't go into details because I would need to post trigger warning but I am sure you can figure it out. I have to say, I had said that his family can be troublesome but they rallied as soon as the flag went up. The cousin, the son and all of their personal belongings, documents etc were out of that house within two hours, there was not a trace of them left. I was impressed, all the family shit and dramas were forgotten. We moved both of them into our guest house and that is where they will be staying for the foreseeable future. Sunday night the shit hit the fan. He came home to an empty house, his stuff was still there. She had blocked him on everything so he started going round all of the family members kicking off, he was met with a wall of silence. Everyone denied all knowledge of anything and told him where to go. The only place he couldn't get to was ours, he couldn't get past security. We had given them all his details, told them the situation and said that under no circumstances was anyone to be let through to visit us without calling and confirming with us. He showed up and made a scene, but got nowhere, I think security enjoyed it, it is normally a pretty boring job. Next thing we knew, we had the police at our door. I think he had called in a welfare check as he guessed/ knew they were here. We explained the situation and that went nowhere for him. She is talking with our lawyer and they will be dealing with everything for her. The main thing is that they are both safe and her kid is getting the treatment that he needs. I know I shouldn't take any pleasure in this but I do, I hate the guy. He will lose everything, they have been missing their mortgage payments, the house will be gone soon. Divorce will be happening and there is apparently an excellent chance of full custody for her. He is spiralling, it would not surprised me if he messes up his job as well. So for now everything seems to be under control. I don't expect anymore updates unless he does something spectacular. Edit- There have been a lot of comments saying that he could be dangerous right now as he has nothing to loose. While you can never be 100% we are in a good position. He would need to get past 2 security checkpoints just to get to our front gate. There patrols that drive about 24/7. We have 5 dogs, admittedly 3 of them are useless but we have a Doberman and a German Shepard who spend most of their time outside, by choice. She has no desire to venture outside of this right now and if she does she will be with someone on high alert, just until the dust settles and we see how the land lies. The lawyers are doing their thing in regard to restraining orders etc but I don't think we will know what is happening until next week. Thank you for your concern but for now they are both totally safe. Relevant & Top Comments #1 honestly all of this also, Op is a MUCH better man than i am, cause even though HE said shouldnt take pleasure in this asshole getting what he deserves I certainly do lol #2 OP: That won't be a problem, money wise things should be close to balancing out. There will just be nothing left. We will be helping them get back on their feet, my husband was looking for therapists today for both of them. I expect them to be here for a couple of years, she has talked about some courses she can take. Even though it reeks of nepotism we will create a job for her so she can start building her confidence back up. Once she is ready of course. #3 OP: We are aware that this is a risk but I don't think she will. We are getting her into therapy. She is sleeping a lot just now, I think it is just the release from all off the stress. Materially she does not need to worry about anything. Family are all coming round, there is a really good atmosphere around her right now. I know that will fade when people go back to their owns live and I am sure the nights will be difficult for her. I think they have found someone who specialises in her situation who will hopefully help her. Also her kid is much happier, he is coming out of his shell. He is loving the pool and we bought him the new Switch 2 since he has been desperate for the Harry Potter game, I am letting my JK boycott slide this one time. It is a bit annoying I have made such a song and dance about getting rid of all my old HP stuff, the game looks really good. My husband can tell I am desperate to play it and finds it amusing that I won't. Might have to come down at 3am for a quick shot of it. ——————————————— THIS IS A REPOST SUB—I AM NOT OOP. DO NOT COMMENT ON THEIR POSTS submitted by /u/Altruistic_Virus8460 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

After breaking the mysterious “One Wish Willow” to win his crush’s heart, a hopeless romantic finds himself getting exactly what he asked for but soon discovers that some desires come at a dark, sinister price. Releasing May 15 Studio: Blumhouse Director: Curry Barker Cast: Michael Johnston, Inde Navarrette, Megan Lawless, Cooper Tomlinson Rotten Tomatoes: 97% Metacritic: 80 / 100 Some Reviews: The Daily Beast - Nick Schager This stellar thriller is a deliriously pointed cautionary tale about the perils of getting what you want, and an instant contender for classic midnight-movie status. Poking and prodding viewers in order to challenge their feelings about the “moral obligation” partners have to each other, Curry Barker's theatrical debut is the best kind of nightmare: relatable, knotty, amusing, and absolutely unhinged. RogerEbert - Brian Tallerico - 4 / 4 Curry Barker’s “Obsession” is consistently f-ed up, and I mean that as a compliment. I see so many horror movies that threaten to get weird and gnarly, only to pull their punches right when shit gets real. Barker pulls nothing, getting darker, creepier, and bloodier with each passing scene in this study of extreme dependence. Some of the performances are a bit clunky, but that almost makes it more charming, a reminder of how great it can be when a horror movie sneaks up out of nowhere and punches you in the face. I was unfamiliar with Barker’s previous work. I plan to seek it out now. With the right studio, this movie should break him big. Dread Central - Josh Korngut - 5 / 5 At its rotten core, the character of Nikki is what makes Obsession so relentlessly scary. Upon its eventual release, much attention will likely spotlight Barker’s penchant for shocking gore and next-level jump scares. But the film’s purest horror lives in its fleeting glimpses of Nikki’s existential torment and Bear’s unforgiving burdens of grief and regret. On the page, this might just look like A24 horror filtered through a Gen Z lens. But in practice, it’s something altogether new: a brutal, expert vision of the next generation of hardcore horror. And don’t kid yourself—you’re not ready. I sure wasn’t. AwardsWatch - Ryan McQuade - 'A' Obsession is a new modern horror masterpiece that makes Barker one of the latest voices in the genre to keep an eye on as he knocked it out of the park with this one, creating as interesting, engrossing, dark film that ranks up there with Zach Cregger’s Weapons as one of the best horror films of the decade so far. Johnston and Navarrette are brilliantly cast in this film, with Navarrette delivering the stunning performance that will rank as one of the best by year’s end, alongside the film’s impeccable sound work, expert editing by Barker, and killer score by Rock Burwell. Far Out Magazine - Liam Gaughan - 4.5 / 5 While it conjures pure dread and deeply uncomfortable conversations about consent, Obsession is also compulsively entertaining, with scenes or prolonged suspense that rank as minor masterpieces in their own right, and while not every much-hyped festival horror film can live up to expectations, this one is a burst of originality that feels sorely desired. The Mary Sue - Rachel Leishman - 4.5 / 5 I loved watching Obsession in a packed theater. The collective gasps, jumps, and nervous laughter created the kind of tension-filled atmosphere that reminds you why horror plays best in a theater. It’s rare for a film to hold an audience in that kind of shared tension from start to finish. Overall, Obsession turns a seemingly simple premise into a nerve-rattling exploration of love, control, and unintended consequences. It’s unsettling, unpredictable, and proof that sometimes the most terrifying thing isn’t the supernatural force behind a wish, but the human desire that made the wish in the first place. Slant Magazine - Marshall Shaffer - 3 / 4 What Obsession lacks in precision, it makes up for in irreverent playfulness. Barker remains resolute in pushing his maximalist sensibility ever further as the film proceeds, undaunted by seeming gaudy or gross as the gore begins to splash across the screen. Obsession’s big set-piece sequences are as chilling in their effect as they are confident in their execution. The Guardian - Benjamin Lee - 4 / 5 Like the Philippou Brothers, who also came from YouTube to make the horror hit 'Talk to Me', Barker has a passion for the visceral repulsion of head-smashing and in one particularly nasty scene, knows how to make the aftermath even harder to watch, and listen to, than the event itself. His shocks are brutally efficient but as a director of mostly shorts, he’s still yet to master pace. There’s something a little indulgent about the film’s 108-minute length, which in the last act adds bagginess to what could have been a tightier, punchier horror. Barker is no by means alone with this issue in the genre, though, and he’s got time to figure that out with super-producer Jason Blum signing Barker up this week. It’s the kind of dream ascent that any film-maker would wish for. Radio Times - Rosie Fletcher - 4 / 5 Obsession doesn't have a particularly surprising plot, but the way it's shot is innovative. Utilising his meagre resources to the max, Barker pulls off at least one impressive and gory jump scare that is sure to shock audiences. Sincere, fresh and darkly funny (Bear's call to the "One Wish Willow" helpline is hilarious), this is an impressive film from Barker that begs the question, "What could he accomplish if he had a proper budget?" Be careful what you wish for. Bloody Disgusting - Meagan Navarro - 4 / 5 Obsession takes you on a wild ride. While Monkey’s Paw scenarios often yield predictable outcomes, and this outcome is practically telegraphed from the start, Barker manages to surprise with the journey itself. And it’s one insane journey paved with blood-soaked violence and no shortage of nightmare fuel. Barker acknowledges other wish-fulfillment horror, like Wishmaster in a throwaway line, but puts his stamp on the niche subgenre with frightening flair. The Curb - Nadine Whitney - 4 / 5 Obsession is a vivid and unforgettable experience that reaches far deeper than it seems to at first. Curry Barker has made a horror movie that delves into the rot at the heart of some men and their expectations that because they want something they can have it and any cost – even if that something is a human being. Obsession leaves the audience with the bitter realisation that somewhere somebody is snapping a metaphorical One Wish Willow hoping that the girl of their dreams understands that really, they’re the nice guy. Who really is the deranged one? SciFi Now - Katherine McLaughlin - 4 / 5 Does love make monsters of us all? Does it rob us of our potential and focus? Barker appears to be asking multiple questions about young love and how it can push people to ugly and harmful places, and it’s all handled with queasy relish. It’s an impressive debut and a truly disturbing horror film. InSession Film - Joshua Mbonu - 'A-' Director/Writer Curry Barker helms Obsession with such effortless confidence, blending pitch-black humor with insanely cruel subject matter so effectively, but Obsession truly hums when its unrelenting dread sets a truly terrifying tone within every scene of escalation. Barker has such patience with the way shots are framed in the shadows and how a scare isn’t released until the highest point of tension that you’ll be holding your breath throughout the film’s entirety. All of that on top of a star-making performance from Inde Navarrette makes Obsession easily the year’s best horror movie thus far. SlashFilm - BJ Colangelo - 8.5 / 10 "Obsession" deserves to reach the acclaimed heights of "Weapons," and Navarrette commands the same level of attention as Amy Madigan, and I'm willing to use my One Wish Willow to make it happen — side effects be damned. FandomWire - Richard Valero - 8 / 10 Curry Barker’s Obsession is a twisted horror love affair with a star-making performance by Inde Navarrette. Barker’s creative horror mind is something we should all get used to seeing because this is just the beginning for him. If Obsession gets a wide release, it has all the makings of being a box office hit with a cult-type following. IGN - Matt Donato - 8 / 10 Obsession should and will put Barker on the map as a horror filmmaker you need to watch. Thanks to fantastic turns by Michael Johnston and Inde Navarrette, you'll be addicted to this sour Valentine's Day counterprogramming. The film plays on familiar romance and monkey's paw tropes, turning a wish against the wishee, but Barker's execution takes things to the next level. In the film's simplicity lay the chance to go for broke, putting all efforts into the lengths Nikki is willing to go for her beloved. With that focus and Barker's fearlessness, Obsession becomes one hell of a maximalist ride. Gizmodo - Germain Lussier At times during Obsession, I was laughing out loud. At other times, I was legitimately terrified. And there were plenty of moments along the way filled with shock and disgust. It has everything you could want in a horror movie...It's brilliant. BFI Sight & Sound - Virginie Sélavy Obsession is well crafted and enjoyable, and holds a troubling mirror to current male fears and desires. Despite the serious undercurrent, the film is satisfyingly comic. Skilfully blending genres, Obsession mixes intense outbursts of bloody violence with social awkwardness, laugh-out-loud humour with visceral horror. IndieWire - Christian Zilko - 'B+' In one of the best horror films of this year, director Cory Barker almost seems to be daring his audience to ask themselves how many “good guys” in the theater could be capable of a similar lapse in judgment under certain circumstances. Men and women will experience two very different types of fears when they consider the answer, but “Obsession” should keep everyone awake long after they get home from seeing it. Giant Freakin Robot - Chris Sawin - 3 / 5 Curry Barker has crafted something mostly special for an almost non-existent budget. The story is compelling, the acting is solid, and Obsession feels like a breath of fresh air in comparison to similar horror films. However, it’s disappointing that one shrill character trait nearly ruins the entire film. It’s because of this that Obsession will have to settle for being a well-made, well-written film dominated by one aggressively irritating character, which will hinder future rewatches much like Frank Darabont’s The Mist. submitted by /u/ChiefLeef22 to r/movies [link] [comments]

I am NOT OOP. OOP was u/Clear-Sun-9220 (account now deleted) Originally posted to r/amithejerk Was I a jerk for not sharing my location with my wife Thanks to u/DragonCat_04 for the suggestion! Trigger Warnings: emotional manipulation, accusations of infidelity, controlling behavior Original Post: May 6, 2025 Was I a jerk for not sharing my location with my wife Throw away account . Typing fast from my phone . I’ll answer any questions after my meeting . I (M, 41) have been with my wife (F,37) for 6 years. We have a 3 year old daughter. My wife decided to be a SAHM after our baby was born and didn’t go back to work after her maternity leave ended (we live in Canada). We divide the housework and childcare equally. I watch the baby 2 nights a week so she can go to the gym for a little mental health break. I asked her if I can have one night a week quiet time. She asked what is that? I said just pretend I’m not here! I’ll be in our room reading or listening to music for one hour only. She agreed. Every single time she came to our room either to talk or tell me that she was bored. When I reminded her about our deal she got upset and said I was making excuses to avoid spending time with her. Another time ,I told her then I would be going to the local coffee shop to read and just one hour of quiet time. My wife decided to do a surprise visit there. She said baby wanted to surprise her daddy. I smiled and said I just wanted a little quiet time. She sat down and talked so loud I had to say let’s just go home. This time I decided to go to the public library. My wife asked where I was going I told her I hadn’t decided yet but as per our deal it’s my night. She got upset because I was refusing to share where I was going. That one hour quiet time was heavenly. No one called my name and I came back home so happy . When I came home my wife was furious! She said she wanted to check my phone then asked if I was seeing or talking to anyone. I laughed. I said I was at the library you can ask the librarians if they saw me. She has been really cold to me and says I should have shared my location since she does ( well I know she goes to the gym). Was I a jerk for refusing to share where I was? I decided to stay longer at work in future and take advantage of quiet office since now my wife know about the library Editor's note: OOP made the same original post onto another subreddit. I am adding relevant comments from that sub for more context Relevant Comments Commenter 1: NTJ. Omggggg yes you should share your location with your wife for safety purposes but obviously you can’t if she abuses that information/access to interrupt your quiet time every time you get some! If you’re keeping the baby regularly so your wife can have uninterrupted time to herself, you also deserve some uninterrupted time to yourself. She has no leg to stand on accusing you of cheating. You tried to take that time in your home, but she made it impossible, so you had to go elsewhere. She has no right to be furious, these are the consequences of HER choices. OOP: One time I was lying in bed watching the re-run of an old sitcom on our bedroom tv. Just to decompress. She opened the door asking what I was watching . I said Seinfeld. Then she sat down and kept saying how boring and overrated this show was. Then went on saying how Jerry Seinfeld is a gross man . Then she said this show is not even funny. Then on and on. I told her I wasn’t watching for the show for educational purposes 😂 she said I could be watching a decent show together now, but you chose to watch this crap. I said we do that every night after we put the baby to bed. She said then why wasting your time watching this … I turned off tv .. Commenter 2: Does she get quiet time to go sit in coffee shop? If no, you are a jerk. Who has "excluded" time or is so controlling or selfish to be "oopsie you talked...redo!" All of that sounds very strange or asks someone who is a fulltime caregiver mom to work more hours as a single parent because you're off the clock? As a mom who worked & also was sahm, it is so much easier to work than sah...my quiet time was getting a parttime job as a hobby & running out the door to it when my husband got home at 6, perhaps suggest that to your wife that way you have your "quiet time" & she gets to spend time drinking coffee, being appreciated & talking to adults. Still in shock as to wtf is quiet time" You are perhaps missing that she needs adult human contact time & you are going to create huge problems in your marriage if you don't show her some empathy, appreciation, respect, and connection. OOP: I’m not sure. She never asked tbh. She asked for two nights a week gym night which I agreed Commenter 3: My question is why doesn’t your wife respect your quiet time and why doesn’t she trust you enough to not worry about your location? She doesn’t sound like she trusts you. The “surprise” visits and popping up in the room you’re trying to have some quiet time in. It’s as if she’s trying to catch you in the act. I’m a SAHM and my hubs works from home. We definitely have our own time to kick our feet up and we trust each other enough to not question why, when, and where. We’re really transparent with each other and great at communicating. OOP: I feel bad for her because she is alone with the baby so she must miss adult conversations. She keeps saying why do I even need quiet time? Makes no sense to her. I’m an introvert so definition of heaven for me is a quiet place Commenter 4: So you'll spend more time in the office so your wife will suspect you're having an affair even more. Either tell her you have nothing to hide and share where you are on some Life 360 app or make your boundaries clearer. OOP: I honestly don’t know what to do! If I share my location she will invite herself like the time she did at the coffee shop Commenter 4: Either she doesn't respect your 'me time' or she has severe trust issues from a past relationship? If you can't confront this tactfully and openly, you'll have to suck it up short-term until she realises herself that there's nothing suspect going on. If it isn't resolved, your resentment will fester and it'll come to a head. Good luck OOP: I was honestly shocked when she asked to check my phone. I just handed her my phone , say all yours. I have nothing to hide Commenter 5: Op, does she have people or friends she connects with? Or are you her “only person “? I ask this because maybe she has co/ dependency issues. While she can’t wait for you to get home and connect, she may be surprised that you find joy in that hour alone by yourself. Do you guys go on date nights or have 1:1 time? Maybe you both could try and carve time for just you two? So that she feels secure ? OOP: She has a few mom friends . They are all in a same mommy and me swim club. Her family live close by. I try to take her out as much as I can. We went to for a dinner and Minecraft movie like 2 weeks ago , does that count? Commenter 6: Unless you have given her a reason in the past to not trust you, you are not being a jerk. She sounds incredibly insecure. I couldn’t be in a relationship with someone that would be grilling me about my whereabouts. I think at-home parents can get this way if they don’t zoom out and put life in perspective. She controls everything about her and the kid’s day… she may have trouble adjusting to the part of life that she can’t control. Clingy/anxious sort of behavior. Would she be willing to check in a a therapist? Keep doing what you need to stay whole. Bending to be what keeps her comfortable isn’t going to help either of you. OOP: I only talk to people if I have to lol I’m an introvert so being by myself is my happiness lol no I have never ever given her not to trust me. Our daughter goes to daycare half day 3 days a week   Update #1: May 7, 2025 (next day) Quick update - not sharing the location with my wife I got so many dm asking if I talked to her ? And why I needed alone time ? Because It really makes a difference in my mental health status . I really don’t know what to do. She is now fully convinced I’m having an affair . In her conspiracy plot I need alone time because I resent her and I was alone with some AP that night. She refuses to even have a calm conversation with me. I told her I can have my quiet time at home if it puts her mind at ease only if she promises not to interrupt me. She made a snarky comment that what would my AP thinks. I just stopped trying to convince her . Things have been rocky. I have no plan of taking my quiet time anymore (at least until things get better). PS: example of how she interrupts my alone time at home … One time I was lying in bed watching the re-run of an old sitcom on our bedroom tv. Just to decompress. She opened the door asking what I was watching . I said Seinfeld. Then she sat down and kept saying how boring and overrated this show was. Then went on saying how Jerry Seinfeld is a gross man . Then she said this show is not even funny. Then on and on. I told her I wasn’t watching the show for educational purposes 😂 she said I could be watching a decent show together now but you chose to watch this crap. I said we do that every night after we put the baby to bed. She said then why wasting your time watching this … I just turned off tv.. I was done Relevant Comments Commenter 1: She sounds exhausting to be honest. Was she like this before the kid was born? Sounds like she misses being free to choose her time and day plans and resents that 1 hour you have to yourself. OOP: No but she was working full time back then. I used to go to my running club and she would go to the gym. I gave up on that since I’m trying to cut expenses ( now we are one income family ). In return I asked for quiet time Commenter 1: By this, it sounds like she needs to get a part-time job so she can socialize a bit. She's probably going nuts from the isolation to the house and kid. It might help her. OOP: Her old boss suggested that, but she said no! Commenter 2: You cut the running club due expenses? How expansive can that be? Certainly cheaper than the gym. OOP: Yes but she said she really needs the gym time because she hated her PP body and also being at home with the baby all day was mentally exhausting . She goes with her friend . I canceled my membership instead   Update #2: May 10, 2025 (three days later) Update 2 - not sharing my location with my wife My life has been a living hell. I checked her phone. There was nothing suspicious. She had a long conversation with her best friend about how she knows I’m cheating and that’s why I’m avoiding her and want alone time. She said she was frustrated because she couldn’t prove it but she just knew. Her best friend told her to trust her heart. I tried multiple times to sit her down and talk to her but it ended up her yelling at me and she is being more upset. She is very cold to me and avoids any conversations with me. Mentally, I’m a mess. I wanted to go for a long walk yesterday . I told her where I was going . She rolled her eyes and said more “alone times “? Or mistress misses you ? I decided not to go. I really don’t know how to prove myself . I gave up on any alone time . She doesn’t even talk to me so date nights are gone too. I ruined my marriage over one quiet alone reading time at the library . Added later : she doesn’t go to the gym anymore. I asked her why? She said “ why do you care? You were planning to bring your mistress home when I’m not home?”. Relevant Comments Commenter 1: I remember your previous post. All this “alone time” you want is a catalyst for her feelings. If you can’t handle having someone in your life then leave so she can be with someone who values her presence. OOP: I value her present, but I assumed I deserve one hour of quiet time Commenter 2: Her friend is filling her up with stories. Has that friend hated you by any chance? OOP: She doesn’t hate me as far as I’m aware. She got a divorce a few years ago and kept mentioning all these signs sound familiar and my wife should trust her heart Commenter 3: NTJ and dude....that's a whooooolllllleeee lot of insecurity right there wow. Won't go to the gym because you may have a woman over...Jfc. There was a study done you will have to look. That said most people who cheat do it while their spouse thinks they are working. Should you quit your job too? Cheaters will cheat no matter what. Nothing will stop that. Honestly though I think you should call this out and tell her she needs therapy for her insecurities or just move on. Someone this insecure and (let's face it, no alone time!) controlling. This is basically your life now. You gave in. I have a feeling she's the kind of person that won't think she's wrong though. Good luck with all...that. OOP: It is insane. I was thinking so neither of us have mental health breaks anymore because she is convinced I’m cheating on her? Now we are both home .. so much tension and she won’t even talk to me.. what’s happening ?! Commenter 4: Is this new behavior from her? Does she react these ways when you go to hang out with your friends? OOP: I haven’t gone out with my friends in a long time. Before having kids? She had no problem at all if I had gone out with my friends to see a hockey game or just have dinner. Commenter 5: It feels by her behaviour like she is very lonely, which is why she's constantly trying to start up conversations with you. That might be what's at the heart of this. OOP: Her boss offered her, her old job many times , even gave her the option to work part time . She said she doesn’t want to work anymore. I can’t force her either. I completely agree with you. She was much happier when she was working   Final Update: May 13, 2025 (three days later) Final update: not sharing my location with my wife I tried to make Mother’s Day special for her. I made a hand print homemade card with our kid for her. We (our kid and I but technically from our kid) made special breakfast for her. She said thanks to our kid and hugged her but things were the same between us. I was planning to BBQ for dinner. I realized I needed to replace the propane tank. I told her I was going to buy one. I was stupid enough to stop by at the local French bakery to buy special dessert for Mother’s Day. There was a line up but I thought it worth it since they have her favourite dessert and it would be a nice surprise for her. When I came home my wife lost it. She started screaming that I was out with my mistress that’s why it took so long. I showed her the dessert she grabbed it from my hand and threw it in the trash said it’s a cover for my affair. I told her how on earth I could possibly had met my hypothetical mistress and bought this in less than an hour. She told me she was done. She grabbed our kid and left. She has been staying at her parents. I tried contacting her but she doesn’t reply. I guess the next step is talking to an attorney about shared custody . Editor’s note: OOP did not leave any relevant comments here in this update   New Update: August 22, 2025 (over three months later) I spoke with an attorney like I mentioned before. For now, things are moving toward setting up a custody arrangement, and I’ll also have to pay alimony and child support since she has no source of income. She is staying at our place, but she does let me visit our kid, which I’m thankful for. She still says I broke the family by being selfish and not fighting for it. I feel guilty because I wish I could be with my kid all the time. Questioning myself that maybe I was selfish ?? It’s heartbreaking, but it seems like my wife has made up her mind. I’ve also started individual therapy, because I realized I can’t control her suspicions or rebuild trust by myself if she isn’t willing. What I can control is how I show up for my kid and how I handle this whole situation. For the record: I never cheated on her, and no, I’m not seeing anyone now. I honestly have no idea what’s going on with her at this point. I’m not sure if she is seeing anyone but that’s none of my business anyways . My focus is entirely on my kid and making sure she feels loved and supported Editor’s note: OOP did not leave any comments here in this update   Editor’s note: marking this inconclusive as OOP has deleted their account   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

Game Information Game Title: Pragmata Platforms: PlayStation 5 (Apr 17, 2026) Xbox Series X/S (Apr 17, 2026) PC (Apr 17, 2026) Nintendo Switch 2 (Apr 17, 2026) Trailers: Pragmata - Official 90-Second Overview Trailer PRAGMATA - Main Trailer Pragmata - Pre-Order Trailer | PS5 Games Publisher: Capcom Review Aggregator: OpenCritic - 87 average - 94% recommended - 79 reviews Critic Reviews AltChar - Semir Omerovic - 95 / 100 Pragmata is a triumph of incredible video game design that nails almost every aspect of what makes games such a fun and engaging experience. AnaitGames - Víctor Manuel Martínez García - Spanish - 9 / 10 A moving and surprising story about humanity and AI envelops this excellent action game, always interesting and expansive. Analog Stick Gaming - Jeff M Young - 9 / 10 Pragmata pleasantly surprised me, and if Capcom does intend to return to this in a few years, I’d love to see the hacking systems become even deeper and more personalized. Hugh and Diana are a wonderful pair, and each nearly steals the show from one another. Their journey to stop IDUS may play it a bit too safe, but the journey nonetheless had me over the moon. BaziCenter - Bahram Bigharaz - Persian - 8.5 / 10 Capcom’s newest franchise, Pragmata, is a bold gamble that largely pays off, thanks in no small part to the power of the RE Engine and the studio’s proven talent. Set in a cold, dark sci-fi world, the game clearly draws inspiration from Dead Space while still striving to carve out its own identity through a memorable story, epic boss encounters, and strong character relationships. If you’re looking for a high-quality sci-fi action-adventure with an engaging narrative and top-tier visuals, Pragmata is well worth your time and money. But Why Tho? - Abdul Saad - 8.5 / 10 Pragmata is a great sci-fi action adventure game that doesn’t demand much from its players and provides an entertaining experience throughout. COGconnected - Jaz Sagoo - 90 / 100 Quote not yet available Cerealkillerz - Stefan Meidl - German - 9 / 10 For me, this game is definitely a recommendation to buy. The gameplay is quick to learn, and the story leaves you wanting more. The player is constantly wondering what will happen next with Hugh and Diana. There’s also something to enjoy for collectors and outfit enthusiasts, as there are items to gather for Diana and various outfits to unlock. Generally, I’m not a fan of enemies respawning in areas. However, in this game it doesn’t bother me, as the number of enemies is quite manageable. I do have one small criticism regarding the standard weapon: after reloading, you have to wait a short moment for the weapon to “cool down” in order to use the full magazine effectively. Otherwise, you often fire only a single shot before being forced to reload again. This can be quite frustrating, especially in situations where the enemy only needs two or three more hits. Console Creatures - Bobby Pashalidis - 9 / 10 As far as I'm concerned, Capcom's developers hit a stride so few achieve. Pragmata clicks from beginning, delivering an incredible campaign with stellar mechanics, held together by Hugh and Diana's relationship. Console-Tribe - Marco Licandro - Italian - 89 / 100 Pragmata is a joy to play. Capcom hits the mark, delivering a video game in the purest sense of the term—one that offers both challenge and fun, driven by constant variety and a fluid narrative that carries the player throughout the entire adventure. Don’t miss it. Daily Mirror - Aaron Potter - 4 / 5 Hugh and Diana’s journey may admittedly rely heavily on sci-fi tropes and the broader story suffers and ends up feeling quite small stakes as a result, yet the pair’s relationship never failed to make me care about the wider universe it hints at. A good thing, too, as it’s one I hope we get to see more of in the not too distant future. DayOne - Jesse Norris - 9 / 10 PRAGMATA is a fantastic video game. Solid gunplay, excellent variety in its hacking, incredible visuals, and an enjoyable story work together to create what I hope is a new IP that we’ll see a lot more of in the future. Digital Spy - Joe Draper - 4 / 5 This charming action-adventure deserves to be a massive hit and you should take a chance on one of this year's best games. Digitally Downloaded - Matt Sainsbury - 5 / 5 Pragmata is Capcom at its best. As good as this company can be with its established franchises, it’s when it tries to do something different that we get the real gold. As far as “big budget” games go, Pragmata is the most different and thought-provoking game I’ve played since Death Stranding, and I love it almost as much as Kojima’s masterpiece. If only Capcom did this more often. Like they used to. Digitec Magazine - Rainer Etzweiler - German - 4 / 5 After hacking my first robot, I briefly wondered whether the concept could carry me all the way through. The game quickly puts that concern to rest. Pragmata strikes a confident balance between accessibility and challenge without ever losing its footing. The hacking system evolves alongside you, the combat stays fresh until the very end, and the hideout ensures progression never feels like a chore. As Hugh and Diana grow closer on screen, the thin story hardly matters. Capcom’s moon landing is a success. ElderPlayers - Mohammed Ahmed Alsharif - Arabic - 9 / 10 Pragmata is a stunning masterpiece, and its true soul is Daiana. A character designed with captivating beauty and details overflowing with life and innocence, making her the beating heart of the game and its unforgettable icon. This aesthetic beauty extends to the world's excellent world design, which, despite its clear linearity and the occasional disturbance in combat due to the crowded nature of the combat areas, it still offers an experience rare to see these days. Enternity.gr - Konstantinos Kalkanis - Greek - 8 / 10 "Pragmata" isn't the kind of title that makes waves, but it is a remarkable production that breathes new life into a genre that has been stagnant for years. Everyeye.it - Italian - 8.5 / 10 Quote not yet available Final Weapon - Noah Hunter - 4.5 / 5 Pragmata dreams big with inventive hacking-shooting gameplay, and Capcom has hit a home run. Hugh and Diana's journey across the moon is one to remember, with an excellent gameplay system that never fails to be exciting. While I wish Pragmata spent more time developing its central relationship, that shortcoming never comes close to dulling what is otherwise one of Capcom’s most inventive and exciting new releases in years. Forbes - Ollie Barder - 9 / 10 Overall, Pragmata is a very fresh take on a modern third-person shooter, with a unique combat setup that is equal parts tactics and brute force skill. It also looks wonderful throughout, and the interactions between Hugh, Diana, and Cabin are a lot of fun and genuinely sweet. It may be a bit too early to call, but thus far, this is easily my game of the year. Forever Classic Games - Danreb Victorio - 9.8 / 10 Enjoyable chaos is exactly what PRAGMATA is. Everything about this version of the world is terrifying, but I just loved being there, especially when it came to taking a breather at the shelter with Diana. I couldn’t stop thinking about how fun most aspects of this game were, so much so that I immediately jumped back in after rolling credits. GRYOnline.pl - Michał Grygorcewicz - Polish - 8.5 / 10 I enjoyed Pragmata very much. Its unique and satisfying combat system, solid execution of the other gameplay elements, and likeable main characters all combine to make this another hit from Capcom. It’s just a shame that the boss battles are rather disappointing. GameOnly - Michał Marasek - Polish - 7 / 10 Video Review - Quote not available GamePro - Eleen Reinke - German - 77 / 100 Quote not yet available GameRant - Dalton Cooper - 7 / 10 Capcom's new sci-fi game features thrilling action and exploration, but drops the ball with its story and characters. GameSpew - Richard Seagrave - 10 / 10 Capcom has taken a gamble with Pragmata, blending together multiple genres to create something that feels fresh and unique. At the heart of it is hacking-infused third-person shooter combat, which remains engaging and exciting throughout. And when paired with a story that tugs on the heartstrings, the result is something rather special. Ultimately, Pragmata is not only game of the year material, but also one of the most exciting new IPs in recent years. GameSpot - Steve Watts - 9 / 10 This all led to a thrilling conclusion that tested my skills, stirred my heart, and left me wanting more. Pragmata offers a robust post-game with plenty to do, but I hope that's not the last I see of Hugh and Diana. This combination of sharp combat mechanics, rich strategic depth, and lovely storytelling doesn't come along often. Pragmata shouldn't be missed. GameWatcher - Michael Murphy - 9.5 / 10 It goes without saying that Pragmata is a terrific game and one of 2026's must-play titles. It fires on all cylinders and doesn't let you go, even after the credits roll. The frenetic action, charming characters, and striking visuals help bolster a creativity rarely seen in AAA titles. While it can play it safe in the story and settings, it is one of Capcom's best games this decade and a sure-fire Game of the Year contender in my book. Gameblog - French - 8 / 10 After years of anticipation and numerous previews, we can finally confirm it: Pragmata is indeed the surprise we've been waiting for. With refreshing gameplay and a pair of highly endearing protagonists, Capcom's new franchise plunges us into the heart of a fabulous world that we enjoy roaming from start to finish, despite a few minor flaws here and there. And while these flaws may prevent the game from having as significant impact as we originally hoped for, it remains a resounding success for the studio, which continues to deliver new, original games that are a breath of fresh air. Gameliner - Simon Verbeke - Dutch - 4.5 / 5 I've got a lot of respect for Capcom and Pragmata: releasing a brand-new game that isn't tied to any existing universe is quite a gamble. Fortunately, that risk paid off for Pragmata. Gamer Guides - Echo Apsey - 79 / 100 Pragmata doesn’t feel like anything else in the AAA action game market. While it isn’t a home run, the majority of its parts are strong and memorable, marking another excellent release from Capcom in 2026. Gamers Heroes - Johnny Hurricane - 85 / 100 A moonshot six years in the making, Capcom's bold new IP PRAGMATA sends Hugh and Diana to new heights with a successful landing. Gamersky - 心灵奇兵 - Chinese - 8.6 / 10 As an experimental title, Pragmata won't be for everyone, but once it clicks with you, it delivers a superb and truly irreplaceable experience. Despite a lengthy development cycle, this game-spearheaded by Capcom's new generation of developers-successfully establishes a brand-new IP. It showcases the team's design prowess and unique vision for gameplay, distinctly setting it apart from Capcom's traditional offerings. It leaves me eagerly anticipating what this team will bring us next. GamingBolt - Shubhankar Parijat - 9 / 10 Pragmata combines a host of immaculately executed well-worn ideas with a handful of unique and fascinating ones of its own to deliver a thrilling, high-octane sci-fi shooter experience. Giant Bomb - Mike Minotti - 4.5 / 5 It’s rare we get a new IP from a big publisher like Capcom these days, especially one with production values like this. It’s a risk when you could just keep pumping out Resident Evil remakes and sequels while making guaranteed money. Well, this risk pays off. Glitched Africa - Marco Cocomello - 9 / 10 Pragmata is an enjoyable and exhilarating blockbuster action that delivers frantic combat encounters and an engaging story. It is exactly the “new” we have been asking for from Capcom. HCL.hr - Dominik Vadas - Unknown - 86 / 100 A charming and surprisingly emotional sci-fi adventure, Pragmata stands out with its unique hacking combat and strong character dynamics, even if its story plays it a bit safe. Its tense, multitasking combat loop keeps you constantly engaged, while the bond between its protagonists adds genuine heart. Though not without flaws, it’s a memorable experience that lingers long after the credits roll. IGN - Michael Higham - 8 / 10 Punchy shooting action and a creative hacking-puzzle gameplay mechanic make combat the true highlight of Pragmata. The story may seem like an afterthought, but its sci-fi drama gives enough to see it all the way through and experience this satisfying third-person shooter. IGN Spain - Mario Seijas - Spanish - 9 / 10 Pragmata goes all-in with a unique gameplay approach-and it pays off. At first, it's challenging to balance the two major systems it introduces, but over time, this hybrid combat system has really won me over. That, combined with the character portrayals and the story of its two protagonists, makes Pragmata one of the must-play games of the year so far. Just Play it - Ousadi Mohamed Seif Eddine - Arabic - 9 / 10 PRAGMATA delivered a moving artistic experience set on the surface of the moon, brought to life by artificial intelligence in a world filled with mystery and secrets that gradually unfold. This journey is shared by the duo “Diana” and “Hugh,” who experience it together in an adventure defined by an innovative gameplay style that blends hacking and shooting… in a way we’ve never seen before. KonsoliFIN - Tero Lepistö - Finnish - 4 / 5 Pragmata spices up the traditional shooter genre with unique hacking mechanics and displays some extremely cool visuals as icing on the cake. The end result works better than expected. LevelUp - Spanish - 9 / 10 PRAGMATA has the potential to be the new star franchise of Capcom; it has a frenetic style of combat, excellent level design, a lot of items to find, a deep variety of personalization and two protagonists that work perfectly together. It is a marvelous action and adventure game that always maintains itself interesting and exciting. Loot Level Chill - Mick Fraser - 9.5 / 10 Despite a few very minor complaints, Pragmata is one of Capcom's most interesting and enjoyable adventures to date. MeuPlayStation - Vinícus Paráboa - Portuguese - 85 / 100 Pragmata blends third-person shooting with a real-time hacking system that runs alongside combat, creating a solid and engaging gameplay loop. Enemy variety and boss fights stand out, while visuals are strong in Quality mode but less consistent in Performance. The story has an interesting premise but suffers from rushed pacing. In the end, the gameplay is the clear highlight. MondoXbox - Matteo Merlano - Italian - 8.5 / 10 Well-conceived and beautifully crafted, Pragmata is a remarkable and enjoyable game. It might lack that extra gear needed to enter the pantheon of masterpieces, but if the goal is to offer a solid and thrilling experience, it completely hits the mark. MonsterVine - James Carr - 5 / 5 I think Pragmata has the most engaging third-person shooting I've experienced in the last twenty years. The balancing act of hacking, dodging, and shooting, all while managing finite resources, creates a satisfying loop that builds in complexity throughout. Hugh and Diana have a tender and well-rendered relationship, one that isn't undercut by Hugh's insecurities or unnecessary conflict, but instead is elevated by its focus on what it means to show the world to someone experiencing the beauty of life for the first time. Nintendo Life - Ken Talbot - 9 / 10 With a strong relationship at its core, a striking sci-fi aesthetic, and an addictive puzzle combat loop, Pragmata is the full package. The adventures of Hugh and Diana stands as another excellent Switch 2 port from Capcom, and hopefully marks the beginning of a new blockbuster franchise. NintendoWorldReport - Willem Hilhorst - 9 / 10 While they have been going back to the well and redefining a lot of their long-running series, it makes sense that Pragmata stands on its own. It is a fresh idea honed to near perfection and I would love to see what else this team can do. Whether you're playing on Switch 2 or any other system, Pragmata is a great time. One More Game - Chris Garcia - 9 / 10 Pragmata aims for the moon and definitely sticks the landing, blending emotional storytelling with intuitive and technical gameplay, proving that the industry is still very much open to original ideas that can excel when executed to perfection. The bond between Hugh and Diana is the heart of the experience, turning what could have been a cold sci‑fi shooter into a touching story about humanity. Amazing is an understatement with Pragmata, and it is a definite must-play. While the “hack‑and‑shoot” loop and repetitive puzzle design may test some players’ patience, along with some minor nitpicks here and there, Pragmata succeeds in its main goal of delivering something different with AAA quality and polish, making it feel like it is laying the foundation for what the future of third-person shooters can expand into. Oyungezer Online - Çağdaş Erdem Nemlioğlu - Turkish - 8.5 / 10 With its eye-catching graphics and heartwarming story, Pragmata offers a truly delightful experience. The tension that the hacking mechanic brings to the combat, in particular, has a very unique feel to it... I’m really happy with where Capcom is at right now. PC Gamer - Justin Wagner - 87 / 100 Pragmata's confidence in its punchy shootouts and old-school cool pays off, and the two leads roved their way into my heart despite a predictable plot. PPE.pl - Wojciech Gruszczyk - Polish - 8.5 / 10 Emotional, intense, and fast-paced—these three words best describe my experience with Pragmata. The credits roll a few hours early, but ultimately, I was pleasantly surprised by the character relationships and the excellent combat system. Capcom has another great IP on its hands, but will it want to develop it further? A lot probably depends on sales. PSX Brasil - Ivan Nikolai Barkow Castilho - Portuguese - 85 / 100 Pragmata is a great Capcom game with a good story and unusual, yet very functional gameplay. The length is ideal in some ways, and there are many extras to enjoy. In the end, the only criticism is that the game as a whole becomes repetitive in combat after you get the hang of it. PlayStation Universe - Joe Richards - 9.5 / 10 Pragmata marks something truly special for Capcom; an experience that manages to marry action, conflict, and story into a cohesive whole that more than justifies the long wait for expectant fans. It juggles a variety of mechanics and miraculously blends them together. Every facet of this game is explored to its fullest, with still more room to grow. For all I can say in this review, Pragmata is very special. Prima Games - Ali Hashmi - 9 / 10 Pragmata is a confidently designed action game that elegantly blends shooting and hacking into a fast, reactive puzzle-style combat system that turns every encounter into something far more engaging than a standard firefight. You constantly shift between aiming, hacking, dodging, and repositioning, creating a seamless loop that never feels cumbersome or disconnected. Backed by two genuinely likeable leads in Hugh and Diana, whose relationship gives the experience its emotional core without unnecessary melodrama. Push Square - Stephen Tailby - 8 / 10 Pragmata knows its strengths and leans into those hard, and the result is a cracking action game that just feels brilliant to play. One could argue it could do with a little more variety throughout its campaign, but the game's unique hack-and-shoot combat is so fun and so satisfying to pull off that you won't mind doing it over and over again. A refreshingly straightforward structure and charming dual leads round things out, but it's the inventive and tactile action where it truly sings. RPGamer - Jordan McClain - 4.5 / 5 Pragmata is boosted significantly by its sublime, crisp visuals, delightfully unusual combat system, tight level design, oppressively lonely and sterile atmosphere, and an enjoyable dynamic between its two main characters, making for an outstanding experience. ReGame It - Mustafa Zayni - Arabic - 9 / 10 The duo of Hugh and Diana brought back many memories of games built around two characters, and it was presented excellently. it really impacted us and made it a very unique experience Region Free - Joonatan Itkonen - 5 / 5 An innovative and bold genre cocktail that is packed with incredible set pieces and gameplay-first joy, Pragmata is Capcom at its finest. República DG - Ruancarlo Silva - Portuguese - 9.4 / 10 Capcom has done it again! Pragmata is a masterclass in how to introduce a new IP and occasionally delivers highly innovative and addictive gameplay, accompanied by a great story filled with emotional moments. SECTOR.sk - tomass - Slovak - 8.5 / 10 A memorable and visually striking adventure filled with emotional twists and standout moments. While its unique style and pacing won't appeal to everyone, fans of story-driven experiences will find plenty to enjoy. A focused, narrative-heavy journey that rewards those willing to embrace its distinct approach. Saudi Gamer - Arabic - 8 / 10 Was the wait worth it? Mostly yes, as the aesthetics and mechanics are solid and refreshing enough. The game only falters towards the end, feeling rushed, while the story which was never strong, ends up even more cliched. SavePoint Gaming - Jake Su - 9 / 10 Pragmata is at its best when everything clicks together at once. The bond between Hugh and Diana gives the journey real emotional weight, while the hacking and shooting combat remains sharp, demanding, and constantly rewarding. With a strong variety in weapons, mods, and hacks, Capcom has delivered a sci-fi adventure that feels both heartfelt and thrilling from start to finish. Smash Jump - Chris Melnyk - 10 / 10 While at its center, it’s a third-person action game, it’s more than that. It’s a journey of bonding for two characters from opposite walks of life. Mostly, it’s just a fun game, something that can be replayed over and over again, while only getting better. SmashPad - 5 / 5 I think Pragmata is the crowning jewel of all their amassed talent and good decisions, ideas, and creativity so far in the 2020s. It's really that good. Stevivor - Matt Gosper - 9 / 10 I was really impressed with what Capcom has achieved with an all-new title, building a unique and vibrant world, even on the barren surface of the moon. TechRaptor - Luis Joshua Gutierrez - 9.5 / 10 Pragmata is an emotional journey that'll stay with you long after you've completed the game, all while making you appreciate the little things we may take for granted. The Beta Network - Anthony Culinas - 8 / 10 Being a rather odd sci-fi shooter, Pragmata thrives on its inventive tag-team combat, where hacking and gunplay collide in fast, chaotic and genuinely satisfying ways. While clunky backtracking, low difficulty and a predictable story hold it back, its unique mechanics and stylish action still make it well worth experiencing. The Nerd Stash - Julio La Pine - 9.5 / 10 Pragmata is a bold and beautiful experience that shows Capcom is just as great at making new entries to its franchises as it is at creating brand-new, exciting IPs. The Outerhaven Productions - Andrew Agress - 4 / 5 Pragmata blends the strategy of puzzle-solving and the thrill of shooting into a winning combination. It’s a simple gameplay loop set against a simple sci-fi story, but it gets a lot of thruster mileage out of its unique systems and two endearing main characters. TheSixthAxis - Steve C - 9 / 10 Pragmata is another stunning game from Capcom. The game world is beautifully conceived and the interplay between our lead character genuinely heartwarming, but it's the combat with its dynamic blend of shooting and hacking that is the main draw here and it makes other third person games feel pedestrian by comparison. ThreeTwoPlay - Michael Seifert - German - 4.5 / 5 With its perfectly thought-out gameplay-focused approach and unconventional combinations of ideas, Pragmata delivers a completely unique action experience which I'm glad can exist in the current AAA gaming space. While the combination of gun combat, hacking and dodging can be a bit intimidating at first and certainly isn't for everyone, it was done flawless for me and I had an incredibly good time with the game. The optional challenges provide additional motivation, the interactions between Hugh and Diana are always enjoyable and the game kept me completely entertained right up to the brilliantly staged finale. VGC - Jordan Middler - 4 / 5 Pragmata feels like a game from a simpler time. There's no live service fluff, no needless bloat, and no sense that Capcom is hopping on a trend. It's a rock solid action game that isn't great on length, but delivers little filler, fast combat, and some charming story moments. Video Chums - Mary Billington - 8.8 / 10 PRAGMATA is a visceral and rewarding action game set within an intriguing world that will make you want to keep coming back for more. 👧 Worth Playing - Adam Pavlacka - 9 / 10 When Capcom first announced Pragmata six years ago, they couldn't have known the game would be launching a week after the Artemis II mission set a new record for human space travel. Just as NASA's moonshot was a success, so is Capcom's latest game. If you want a polished experience that brings something new to the table, you can't go wrong with Pragmata. Xbox Achievements - Josh Wise - 70% The new game from Capcom, Pragmata, begins in freaky fashion. 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I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/throwra_bumprint Originally posted to r/WhatShouldIDo My (35f) friend slapped my bum on a night out leaving a handprint. My husband (30m) doesn’t believe it was her. How to convince him? Thanks to u/soayherder for suggesting this BoRU Triggers Warnings: body injuries, emotional abuse, destruction of property Original Post: March 9, 2026 Went out for a friends birthday on Friday night and had a few drinks. Early on in the night I tripped over (before I’d even had a drink) and I ended up on all fours and one of my friends ran and slapped my bum. We all laughed and the night carried on and I thought nothing more of it. When I got home around 1am my husband was still awake in bed. I undressed to get in to bed and that’s when he noticed I had a hand mark on my bum. He instantly jumped out of bed and started demanding to know what it was and who did it. I stuttered a bit because I couldn’t even remember then it dawned on me so I told him what happened, but he didn’t believe me. He asked for my phone and obviously found nothing too serious but just said I’d deleted everything to cover my tracks. I went to the bathroom to have a look in the mirror and there was a definite handprint on there. He followed me and we stood there arguing for over half an hour and every time I tried to leave as I was cold and naked he’d stop me and accuse me of trying to run away. He said this doesn’t sound like my friend at all, which is true as she’s a very timid quiet person. He also said the handprint is too big for a woman but my friend is tall, she’s around 6 foot and does have big hands. I even ended up ringing my friend to corroborate my story and she even offered to come round and prove the handprint is hers by putting her hand on the print. He said we’d made up the story between us all and used the tall friend as the culprit as she’d have the biggest handprint. I asked the group chat if any of them had a video, but they don’t. All weekend we’ve been having this discussion and he doesn’t believe me. The handprint has gone now but he can’t let it go and keeps constantly asking me. It’s 4:45am here and he woke me up at 4 to ask about it. How can I make him believe me? I don’t know what to do. TLDR: friend slapped my bum and left a handprint. Husband doesn’t believe me and thinks it’s a man. Some of Relevant Comments Downvoted Commenter: Sue her for sexual assault, and file a police report. Legitimize it. OOP: No chance Commenter 1: I know this isn't what you want to hear, but he either trusts you or he doesn't. You can't make him trust you. OOP: This is what I don’t get. I’ve never given him a reason not to. Commenter 1: Has he been cheated on before? I can see it striking a chord if that's the case. If not, it sounds like projection...or red pill shit on social media OOP: Not that I know of. I said to him yesterday he’s projecting. Commenter 2: Is this a new behaviour or has he always accused you of cheating? OOP: First time he’s ever accused me of Commenter 3: What you should do is ring the bar, explain the situation & ask for the CCTV footage. If they say yes, make a bet with him of something that’ll hurt. “If it’s my friend you x if it’s a man I y. Do you want to take the bet or do you believe me?” You need to find something he’ll regret that’ll make him think twice about pulling this kind of bullying shit again but give him the opportunity to stop on his own. Then go look at the footage & hold him to it. Knock him back into his place. OOP: It was outside walking down the road. I tripped over a drain cover. Commenter 4: Sounds like your husband has some issues to begin with. You're allowed to go out and have fun with friends, it seems odd he just didn't believe you AND thinks all of your friends are in on it. Is there a history of cheating here? OOP: Yeah it’s starting to feel like projection to me. No nothing at all. I’ve never so much as looked at another man. Commenter 5: Ok so logically the facts, you couldn’t remember it happening even though you were sober , it would have to really hard to leave a full handprint , through clothing to have it still there fully 5/6/7 hours later . Slap your own bare thigh and it’s gone in an hour or so … He’s got every right to question it and the right to not believe you because it honestly sounds sketchy . Generally to have a full handprint , not bruised ( as you said it went away ) would have to be hard on bare skin . Is this post to make the story believable ? OOP: No because he won’t see this post. I was wearing a thin dress and a thong (an outfit he chose out for me I might add) and I was on my hands and knees so the skin was tight and I’m on blood thinners, so I do mark and bruise easily. All facts he knew. Commenter 6: Your timid friend just put you on the path to a divorce which I think is really ironic. I think it's also possible that your husband has been harboring resentment for late night girls nights out for a while, and this was the final straw. I do also think that his behavior and reaction is over the top and abusive. OOP: I go out 3 or 4 times a year. He goes out every weekend.   Update #1: March 15, 2026 (six days later) UPDATE My (35f) friend slapped my bum on a night out leaving a handprint. My husband (30m) doesn’t believe she did it. How do I convince him. To start with I’ll clear a few things up from my last post. My husband chose my outfit for me that night and it was a very thin dress with a thong underneath so there was very little protection of my derrière. I was also on all fours laughing so my bum was sticking up and then I heard footsteps running towards me and got absolutely thunder clapped on my arse. The sound echoed around the housing estate, and you know a slap is good when both the slapper and the slappee are in agony. All night that cheek was warmer than the other. I’m also on blood thinners which means I mark and bruise very easily. Second thing is my stammering when I told him. Might be TMI but I was doing a strip tease for him while he was in bed and as I let my dress drop I stuck my bum out so it was right near him and he screamed at the top of his voice “what the fuck is that!?” And then jumped out of bed and got in my face making me fall on to the bed and screamed “who the fuck did that!?” It took me a couple of seconds to realise what he meant. If he asked normally I’d have said “Emily slapped my arse”. Also I wasn’t drunk like so many people said. I had three glasses of wine over 6 hours. All the men who said a married woman shouldn’t be out without her husband, and there was at least five of you, are gross. My husband goes out every weekend but I do it three times a year and I’m “for the streets”. People asked about our sex life. We used to have sex or I’d give him oral nearly every day but the last few months it’s dried up to once a week. I have brought this up with him as I need it more. Also the not so serious thing he found on my phone, which a lot of men took to mean I’d been messaging someone else, was a porn video I’d favourited because I like it. Right on to the update. It’s been over a week, he still doesn’t believe me and I’ve told him I want to split up with him. Emily offered to come round on the night and he said no. I’ve told him to speak to all my friends and he’s said no. When I said look at the rip in my dress from where i fell and my bloody knees he said that’s from me giving head. How aggressively does he think I dropped to my knees? He’s looked through my phone and found nothing. When I asked to look through his he said “no I’m not the one on trial here”. He’s woke me up three times in the night to berate me. He’s burnt all my going out clothes. He’s threatened to post photos and videos of me to show the world what a slag I am. He’s also grabbed me twice and pushed me on to the sofa once which I will be informing my brother about later when I see him for Mother’s Day. So all in all a shit week and I’ve told him to get the fuck out of my house and I’ll be divorcing him. He’s not worked for six months and has no savings and the house was mine before I met him and he’s never paid towards the mortgage or any repair or upkeep work so he’s getting fuck all. Relevant Comments Commenter 1: Can't work without trust. And he actively does NOT want to trust you. So... Bub-byyy! PS, I hope everything from here on out works out for you. OOP: That’s pretty much what ive said. I’ve never been treated as untrustworthy in any aspect of my life and I don’t like it Commenter 2: Girl get security cameras and for sure talk to your brother. If anyone shoved or laid hands on my family I wouldn’t even care about the jail time id face. OOP: I’ve already got them around my house and got dog watching cameras inside. Downvoted Commenter: I will never understand why women waste their time and life with men like this. He can't even afford to get upset. Make better choices OOP: He’s never acted like this before. This is the first time. Am I supposed to see in to the future? Commenter 3: He chose your outfit, he sent you out in the most provocative outfit he could. He's not been having sex with you as much as you'd like lately, and he jumps straight to you cheating. I reckon he's been cheating on you and wanted to set you up so he could claim you cheated on him. Then he can leave the relationship to be with his mistress. OOP: I think you’re right. Commenter 4: He's accusing you because he has something to hide for sure. He's messaging girls, watches OF, something. He's definitely thought about cheating. Good for you taking out the trash. OOP: I genuinely don’t care if he’s watching porn or subscribing to OF but there’s something going off if he won’t let me see his phone. Commenter 5: He refuses to accept the truth because it damages his ego. He is doubling down and refuses to be proven wrong. OOP: I said that’s why he won’t talk to my friends because he’s too proud to be wrong. Commenter 6: Sounds like he’s been cheating. Also weird that he hasn’t worked or put anything towards the house… no savings? Good riddance, the trash took itself out. What a bum. OOP: He was at uni when we met and since has floated around jobs and that’s it Commenter 7: good for you. You have to divorce him. How long were you married for? How did he take it? Imagine him having to explain why he's getting divorced--he threw a fit about the dumbest thing ever. OOP: Been together ten years married for four. He didn’t seem to care. Commenter 8: I bet your bottom dollar, he will walk away and (through divorce proceedings) you will end up having to pay him in lieu of equity for the house. OOP: I won’t pay him anything. It’s different here in England. The house predates him and any payments towards it have come from my bank account.   Update #2: April 1, 2026 (2.5 weeks later) UPDATE 2 my (35f) friend slapped my bum on a night out leaving a handprint. My husband (30f) doesn’t believe she did it. How to convince him? I’ve had a lot of messages from people asking for an update so here it is. It’s a pretty uneventful one as nothing has happened but I’ll try and clear things up. In my first update I mentioned kicking him out and he’s still out and I haven’t heard from him at all. My brother did go to see him and his brothers after Mother’s Day so maybe that’s why I haven’t heard from him. I did take some advice then and had new security cameras installed and lighting all around my house and changed every lock. I know it’s a bit paranoid but I’ve also screwed my letter box shut and got a postbox outside so he can’t pour anything nasty through there. I also change my company car every couple of days in case he’s put a tracker on it. I’m really overthinking it but just being sure. I also was a bit petty and posted a picture on my Instagram of me on all fours and Emily with her hand on my bum lol. I’m not sticking up for my ex here, but I do want to clear up the issue of him choosing my outfits. That’s always been my idea. I saw it on a film when I was younger and always thought it seemed sexy my partner choosing an outfit that they find me attractive in and it makes me excited to get home in it so he can see me in it again. I’ve also had a lot of messages from both men and women, sadly, insulting me for being out at that time and saying it’s embarrassing a woman of my age behaving in such a way. I’ve also had a few women message me and tell me that I’m a whore for doing a striptease for my husband and I’m degrading myself. No it’s not degrading to try and turn my husband on so he’ll bang me until the sun comes up. Women enjoy sex too. Anyway thank you everyone for caring it really means a lot ❤️. Relevant Comments Commenter 1: I hope you put in a police report about him pushing you around, destroying your clothes and threatening to post videos of you. You need it on record in case it escalates. OOP:It won’t escalate as I’m not with him anymore. Commenter 2: Has your man always been ok with you going out like that without him? I’m just curious OOP: Yeah never an issue before. In fact he’d encourage it. He goes out every weekend and it was never a problem on the odd occasion when I did. Commenter 3: What do you mean “your” house? You mean HIS house, that HE is payimg for? OOP: No MY house that I bought before I was with him and that he has never paid towards the mortgage or repairs on. How misogynistic that you assume because he’s the man he’s paying for it. He hasn’t worked for six months and when he did he earned minimum wage. Commenter 4: Take a vacation. Just leave for a while. Don't tell anyone who speaks to this man where you are going. Absolute silence will help cool the situation hopefully. Also install a camera outside that looks onto your front doors. This guy sounds like a real loser. Stay safe and don't let him a second of your time. If he has stuff at your place dump it at someone else's house and let that person say they have his stuff . Check your phone for tracking software to. Stay safe OOP: I’m already booked to go to Karakow next week anyway. OOP responds to multiple downvoted comments about Mother's Day isn't until May OOP: Not everywhere is America.   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

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Science teacher Ryland Grace (Ryan Gosling) wakes up on a spaceship light years from home with no recollection of who he is or how he got there. As his memory returns, he begins to uncover his mission: solve the riddle of the mysterious substance causing the sun to die out. He must call on his scientific knowledge and unorthodox ideas to save everything on Earth from extinction… but an unexpected friendship means he may not have to do it alone. Director: Phil Lord, Christopher Miller Cast: Ryan Gosling, Sandra Hüller, Ken Leung, James Ortiz, Milana Vayntrub Rotten Tomatoes: 96% Metacritic: 80 / 100 Some Reviews: Variety - Owen Glieberman There are clichés that critics go back to, and when I realize I’m guilty of overusing one (sometimes once can be too often), I’ll vow never to use it again. Here’s one I did that with: lauding something as “the movie we need right now.” That’s a phrase so cringe I’m ashamed I ever used it. The reason I bring this up is that “Project Hail Mary” is a cosmic adventure that feels diagrammed, if not programmed, to be The Movie We Need Right Now. It will likely be a hit, but the movie we need right now — or, really, anytime — is one whose drama extends beyond its ability to push our buttons...So forgive me if I say that it’s not a very good movie. There’s certainly an abstract commercial grandeur to it. I saw it on an IMAX screen (it will open on many of those), where it becomes the kind of bedazzling warm bath your eyeballs can sink right into. But here’s the rub. “Project Hail Mary” is way too long (two hours and 36 minutes), because there’s not much variation to it. It’s baggy and incredibly derivative of movies you’ve seen before — like “Interstellar,” from which it lifts the premise of a space voyage as the last chance for human survival (in this case, the sun and other stars are dying, which means that we’ve got to travel to the lone star that isn’t in order to figure out why). AwardsWatch - Trace Sauveur - 'A-' For their part, Lord and Miller are assured chaperones of all the disparate elements of design, both on Earth and in space. The pair know the kind of movie Project Hail Mary is meant to be — a pop blockbuster with an earnest approach, lovable characters, and formidable stakes — and pull it off with fluency, the work of directors who know their craft even at this expansive scale. They channel their giddy sense of spectacle in service of a story about the curious and enterprising human spirit, making it an encouraging watch in a contemporary political culture that dismisses scientific research. It may not be the next generational sci-fi classic, but Project Hail Mary will energize anyone desperate for studio blockbusters that revere something often lost in our biggest movies: the fundamental art of moviemaking. IndieWire - Kate Erbland - 'A-' To write more about the pleasures and pains of “Project Hail Mary” would be (yes, over 1,300 words in) a disservice to what’s most entertaining and satisfying about the film: watching it unfold, enjoying the process, accepting the mission, asking the big questions. That’s about as much as you can ask from any blockbuster film these days. Consequence - Liz Shannon Miller - 'A' It’s possible to get caught on a few nitpicks, plot-wise. But right now, with international relations in chaos, Project Hail Mary is a movie that believes it’s possible to save the world. It dares to hope. And that’s more beautiful than all the stars in the sky. The Bulwark - Sonny Bunch - 4 / 4 Any resistance I had to the picture crumbled when I realized it was, maybe, propped up by something quite foolish: I simply haven’t felt joy like this in the theater in years. Project Hail Mary is a feel-good, emotionally resonant, ultimately triumphant paean to the human spirit. This is why we go to the movies. Heck: it’s why we tell stories. I hope it’s as big a hit as it deserves to be. BBC - Nicholas Barber - 4 / 5 Still, maybe Lord and Miller knew what they were doing when they went for such a bright and breezy tone. They've crafted a sci-fi epic which is more than two-and-a-half hours long, and which is a one-man show for much of that time. They have filled it not with action, but with mind-stretching concepts, painstaking laboratory research and knotty technical puzzles. To do all that and keep things zippily entertaining throughout is an extraordinary achievement. Besides, as jaunty as it is, Project Hail Mary is radical in its own way. The fate of humanity, it suggests, might not rest on fighting, but on knowledge, intelligence, communication and collaboration. No wonder the film is already being tipped for next year's best picture Oscar. Independent - Clarisse Loughrey - 4 / 5 Project Hail Mary was clearly made to catapult a certain segment of the audience back to their childhoods – it carries the same fetishisation of late Sixties and Seventies sound and production design as recent fare in the Alien franchise. Grace’s spacesuit happens to be the same red as Dave Bowman’s in 2001: A Space Odyssey (1968). That said, cinema is in a precarious position right now. And, just maybe, Project Hail Mary will remind people why they ever fell in love with it in the first place. Sometimes to move forward, it helps to look back. Gizmodo - Germain Lussier Project Hail Mary rocks. It is pure joy. It’s hilarious, heartfelt, hugely moving, wildly exciting, and absolutely beautiful. We think it’ll go down not just as one of the best films of the year but maybe even, in time, as a potential sci-fi classic. And that’s if you already know what the story is and how it ends. Surely, it’s even better if you don’t. Esquire - Miranda Collinge For All Its Adorable Intentions, Ryan Gosling's Alien Buddy Movie Fails to Land. Gosling’s efforts in this movie are valiant, as they tend to be: he does comedy prat falls, trepidatious space walks, and delivers as best he can the not especially hilarious script, which is bogged down further by excessive exposition of pretend science and plot rationale. And he really wants us to feel – desperately feel – the way Grace does about his new friendship with a CGI creature who looks like the lovechild of Makka Pakka from In The Night Garden and a fidget spinner. (The fact that Rocky doesn’t have the soulful eyes of Hooch the French Mastiff or Clyde the Orangutan – or, in fact, any eyes at all – certainly doesn’t help.) I know I’ve made the point already, but really, I’m as shocked as anyone not to have been won over by this film. When it comes to Gosling, there is not an SNL monologue or a surprising-Eva-Mendes-on-her-birthday Jimmy Fallon appearance or a viral interview with a journalist stranded in the desert that I will not watch and be utterly charmed by. And yet, even with his magnetism set to hyperdrive, Gosling can’t make this wannabe-feel good film dazzle the way it wants to. It pains me – desperately pains me! – to say it, but in my eyes (sorry to rub it in, Rocky), Project Hail Mary is a well-intentioned miss. Cinemotic - Piers Marchant - 2 / 5 As with the previous adaptation of Weir’s work, it’s a film that gleefully presents basic scientific principles and logic clumsily sewn together with a story and outlook that feels very much like something an enterprisingly affable 15-year-old might come up with while daydreaming in Physics class. The film too often defaults to this sort of cringey geniality, a simplistic view of human emotional mechanics that renders the drama toothless. Like a warm-hearted kids’ Disney movie, you know full well things will turn out just fine for our heroes, and the galaxy they’re defending, because the film constantly telegraphs its cheerful intentions. It’s as if Lord and Miller (and Weir) are afraid of making the audience feel real anxiety or stress, so like a second-grade teacher explaining the concept of greenhouse gasses with their students, they work very hard to let all of us know everything will work out okay. It’s certainly not the worst quality in a film, but its lack of stress well belays its extended run time (156 mins), and makes for an unsatisfying experience: My parents saved the Cosmos and all I got was this lousy t-shirt. AV Club - Jacob Oller - 'B' Project Hail Mary isn’t all that concerned with the science in its fiction; like the inverse of its slacker-cool scientist lead, the film is actually a schlubby buddy comedy dressed up in the finest hard sci-fi regalia that Amazon MGM could afford. It’s a far less nuts-and-bolts affair than The Martian, and a more frustratingly structured one thanks to the amnesia, but it doubles down on the astronaut charm offensive, flooding its sweet space odyssey not with big questions, but small signs of growth. GamesRadar - Molly Edwards - 4 / 5 Stumbles aside, the film adeptly captures the sense of wonder and thrill of progress that goes hand in hand with space exploration, with Grace and Rocky as our heart-stealing guides. Project Hail Mary is ultimately the kind of big-budget, inventive, and just plain fun filmmaking that makes heading out to the theater worthwhile – and proves worth the expense. NextBestPicture - Daniel Howat - 9 / 10 "Project Hail Mary" feels, in many ways, like a miracle of a movie. It combines the technical awe of “Gravity,” the problem-solving exhilaration and humor of “The Martian,” and the sweeping emotion of “Interstellar” into one film with its own unique style and charm, crafting a new science-fiction space epic that celebrates the bravery in all of us, our capacity to do the right thing in the face of overwhelming odds, and our faith in science to lead us toward a better future, whether it’s on Earth or somewhere far beyond it. Ryan Gosling delivers one of his finest performances in years, commanding what is essentially a one-man show that will have you laughing one moment and crying the next. Daniel Pemberton’s score is immaculate as it reaches for the stars and finds that transcendent quality that lifts the film into a state of pure wonder. The shifting aspect ratios of Greig Fraser’s camerawork bring both intimacy and scale in equal measure. All of these elements and more come together under the assured, visionary direction of Phil Lord and Chris Miller, who have brought a beloved book to the big screen in a crowdpleasing cinematic experience many will feel, cherish, and not soon forget. The Guardian - Peter Bradshaw - 3 / 5 Perhaps refreshingly, the film doesn’t aim for the stunned awe and rapture of, say, Christopher Nolan’s Interstellar or even Jon Spaihts’ underrated Passengers, but it does have the classic sci-fi spacecraft tropes: the huge, mysterious architecture with its vertiginous tunnels in which legacy pop music is played to soothe the inhabitants. This is a Hail Mary pass that Gosling just about manages to catch. The Hollywood Reporter - David Rooney Lord and Miller have just the right lightness of touch combined with depth of feeling and technical control to bring this material to life, and the right love of vintage movie craft to make it a universe we can almost reach out and touch. What a pleasure to have them back in the director’s chair after too long away. RogerEbert - Robert Daniels - 2.5 / 4 It’s an enjoyable, yet overly familiar, excursion. By disavowing narrative and aesthetic boundaries, “Project Hail Mary” struggles to become boundless. The harder the film tries, the more one feels pulled along rather than effortlessly transported. Slant Magazine - Jake Cole - 2.5 / 4 The flashbacks badly hold the film back in the second act. In its mixture of lighthearted adventure and more thoughtful cosmic reflection, Project Hail Mary most resembles the original Star Trek films, especially the lighter The Voyage Home. The film shares with that series the indefatigable optimism of an earlier time when the genre reflected our broader hopes for the possibilities of science and the potential of humanity to not merely contact the other species of the universe but win their approval. submitted by /u/ChiefLeef22 to r/movies [link] [comments]

IMAGE CREDIT: https://www.scientificamerican.com/ Light trails from satellites in low-Earth orbit fill the sky in this composite long-exposure photograph, which was captured over a 30-minute period. Alan Dyer Musk Has Trashed the Night Sky. And He's Only Getting Started. If you live in a city you probably have no idea this is happening. Light pollution has already stolen the stars from most of the world's urban population. But out here on a farm in New Zealand, where the sky goes properly dark and the Milky Way sits overhead like something from another era, I have watched Elon Musk methodically wreck one of the last things on this planet that belonged to everyone. A few years ago, lying on a blanket in a paddock, you could spot the occasional satellite drifting across the sky. One, maybe two, in a clear hour. That was part of the experience. A quiet little reminder that humans had reached into space. Now I look up and the sky moves. Not metaphorically. There are so many satellites crossing the sky at any one time that the effect is genuinely unsettling, a slow restless mesh of moving light that never stops. As of March 2026, SpaceX had launched roughly 11,400 Starlink satellites, with around 9,900 in orbit and approximately 8,300 actively operational according to satellite tracking data compiled by astronomer Jonathan McDowell. Starlink now comprises 65 per cent of all active satellites on Earth. Sixty five per cent. That is one man's company occupying the sky. And the plan is to keep going. SpaceX already has FCC authorisation for up to 42,000 satellites. In February 2026, SpaceX filed an application with the FCC to deploy one million satellites in low Earth orbit, framed as a network of space based AI data centres. To put that number in context: before Starlink launched its first batch in 2019, there were around 2,000 satellites total in orbit across the entire history of the space age. One million would represent a factor of 70 increase on every satellite ever launched by every nation and company in human history. The scientific community has been shouting about this for years. The Vera C. Rubin Observatory in Chile, one of the most advanced astronomical instruments ever built, has modelled that satellite light pollution could reduce its ability to detect faint objects by 7.5 per cent and add roughly $22 million in costs to its survey programme. Researchers publishing in Astronomy and Astrophysics in 2025 confirmed that Starlink satellites are also leaking unintended radio frequency emissions that fall within protected astronomical frequency bands, actively corrupting data from radio telescopes. A NASA analysis published in December 2025 found that almost every image taken by future space observatories in low Earth orbit could be contaminated by satellite light trails. Musk initially said the brightness problem would not happen. Then he said it had been fixed. The satellites got darker coatings, then the sun visors were scrapped because they created too much atmospheric drag, and the second generation satellites ended up brighter at lower altitudes than the first generation had been. Dr Meredith Rawls, a research scientist at the University of Washington working with the Rubin Observatory, has been consistent: the problem can be mitigated somewhat but never fully eliminated. The FCC, the agency responsible for licensing all of this in the United States, has consistently applied a categorical exclusion to large satellite constellations under the National Environmental Policy Act, meaning Starlink has never been required to file an environmental impact statement. The FCC's reasoning, put in writing during a 2025 rule review, was that satellites are "extraterrestrial activities" with effects entirely outside US jurisdiction. The American Astronomical Society's light pollution working group COMPASSE pushed back immediately, pointing out that the effects are measurable on observatories on American soil and that burning satellites deposit aluminium oxides into the atmosphere at rates 646 per cent above natural levels. Starlink is not alone. Amazon's Project Kuiper has more than 3,200 satellites planned. China's Guowang, Qianfan and Honghu 3 projects each call for thousands more. The scientists who study this estimate that the commercial space sector will add more than 100,000 satellites to low Earth orbit by the end of this decade under current trajectories. The night sky has existed for the entire span of human history. Every culture on Earth has navigated by it, been humbled by it, built religions and calendars and stories around it. Indigenous communities across the Pacific, including in New Zealand, have carried sky knowledge through generations that is now being degraded by a privatised mesh of broadband hardware. No one voted on this. No government signed off on it as a trade worth making. The FCC handed out licences and the rockets kept flying. I have no doubt Starlink has genuinely improved internet access in places that had none, and that matters. But the framing of this as pure humanitarian infrastructure does not survive contact with an FCC filing to put a million satellites in orbit to power AI data centres. That is not connecting remote villages. That is something else entirely, and it is being done to a sky that does not belong to Elon Musk. The last genuinely dark skies on Earth are already scarce. What is being done to them is irreversible on any human timescale, and it is accelerating. When you finally get away from the city and lie on your back in the dark, you will understand what has been taken. Sources: Sentinel Mission Starlink Statistics | Scientific American | Astrobites / SpaceX FCC filing | Physics World / NASA analysis | Astronomy and Astrophysics 2025 | Wikipedia / Starlink submitted by /u/gaukmotors to r/MotorBuzz [link] [comments]

I am not The OOP, OOP is u/spe8 I'm (28/m) starting to fall for my (24/f) 'wife' and am unsure how to proceed. Thanks to u/BigONerd for finding this update BoRU 1 TRIGGER WARNING: Death of a spouse/mother in childbirth, mentions of past physical abuse, harassment, fears of stalking Original Post - recovered with rareddit May 29, 2013 This is all a very complicated and sad situation. About four years ago my wife and partner of 8 years passed away due to complications after the birth (very rare) of our second son. I was deployed at the time, and completely devastated. After flying home I felt that nothing would make me happy again. My sons are great (now 6 and 4), but overwhelming, so I asked a sister of one of my Marine buddies,Cass, to help out. She had been friends with my wife, but not great friends, and she agreed in exchange for a place to stay. At the time, Cass was only 20 years old and in quite a bit of debt in fault of her extremely abusive ex-boyfriend, who she had finally left about 3 months earlier. During the first few weeks of her helping out with the boys, she asked to borrow money to see a doctor due to shaking hands (no insurance). I happily obliged, she was an angel: doing all of the cooking and cleaning and keeping my young family together. It turned out that she had developed some sort of neurological disorder, probably brought on by repeated abuse. At the time it seemed simple: I had good insurance, she needed healthcare, I never thought I'd be able to move on from my wife, and she was afraid of intimacy. I agreed that I would marry her, but keep our platonic relationship. She promised not to burden me with her debt, and we had a prenuptial agreement and all. I know that this is 'fraud' of the government, hence the throwaway, but we were both so damaged and needed somebody, if not intimately. The past three years have been about as good as expected, if not better. Cass is great, better than great. She keeps the house spotless, had food ready every night when I get home, and has been working overnights as a baker and almost has her debt paid off. Her condition has improved greatly, also, due to the great medical care she was able to receive. With the boys, she is a saint. She tells them about their mother, shows them pictures, takes the places for fun, and even taught them how to read (of course the six year old just finished kindergarten, but my 4 year old is going to be the smartest kid in his class next year!). Sometimes the four year old calls her 'mommy' but she shhs him and reminds him that name is 'Cass' and that mommy is the angel whose picture is above the fireplace. Once her debt is fully paid off, the kids are in school, and she saves up a bit of money, she is going to go into a nursing program. Our relationship: still platonic, but very caring. I've cried on her shoulders more times than I can count, and she's done the same. One night I was very stressed out, and yelled at her about something pretty inconsequential (she had taken my sons to see Santa without me). She, of course, became quite frightened, but we worked it out and I even offered to pay for her to see a counselor (she didn't). That was two years ago, and we have had little fights ever since, but have been able to work through them. She seems to understand me whenever I'm hurt, upset, or angry, and is calming in a way that I can't explain... The problem, reddit, is that I think I might be falling for her. I've been noticing little things: her scent, her smile, her laugh. The way she smiles with her eyes when she sees me, how much my boys love her. Not to mention that she's gorgeous, hardworking, and one of the strongest people i've ever encountered. A few nights ago I almost kissed her after we had put the boys to bed, and her hugs goodbye have started lasting a little bit longer. The other day she was taking a nap in my bed (she was washing her sheets), and I wanted to join her. Not have sex with her, just lay with her and hold and kiss her I don't know what to do, or how to even bring this up. It's been four years since my wife died. I can only think of a quote from a Song of Fire and Ice books, in which a character says that 'When the sun has set, no candle can replace it.' meaning that since his true love has died, nobody could replace him. that's how I used to feel, but... there have been days where my thoughts have been occupied with Cass, and I haven't even thought about my wife. I feel bad about it, and I still miss her, but I never thought that I'd be able to 'move on.' I feel guilty and disloyal. At the same time, I want her. Not just sexually or physically, I want to be romantically intimate with her, not just as friends. I don't know how to bring it up. I don't want to scare her or make her uncomfortable. but this is becoming more difficult than I could have ever imagined. I was thinking about asking her to get dinner, just the two of us, and bringing it up. But whatif she refuses? How can I gauge her interest? If it means anything, the other day she was having a hard time with the boys (they were restless and being our of hand), so I brought her home some of her favorite flowers. She was extremely giddy and gave me another lasting hug and a quick kiss on the lips. I was taken aback, but she pranced around, finishing dinner and putting the flowers in a vase. WHAT DOES THIS MEAN? TL;DR: After my wife died, I married a good friend's sister for healthcare benefits, and now I feel as if I'm falling for her-- hard. What should I do? EDIT: Fuck it. It's been an hour on here and you've convinced me to tell her. I've called her favorite fancy restaurant and made a reservation. Her brother agreed to babysit, and let her/ me stay at his place tonight if she isn't into it/ feels uncomfortable. She paid off her debt this morning (apparently, just just texted me a picture of the check), and next week is our three year anniversary, so that is the prelude. i'm going to tell her at dessert. I'm nervous as shit. don't worry I'll update y'all (because so many have demanded it so!) Update 1 - I told my "wife" I loved her - rareddit May 30, 2013 EVERYTHING WENT AMAZING. JUST GOT HOME. LOVE REDDIT. :) will update tom. time to go make out with my wife :) TL;DR: SHE SAID SHE LIKED ME TOO UPDATE 2: I just spend the night snuggling and kissing my wife. Warning: This is kind of adorable and even I still don't believe it. rareddit May 30, 2013 Last night was hectic as shit at first. Our younger son had eaten, what he calls, a "a giant fuzzy spider" and Cass wanted tot take him to the hospital, even though he was fine. Her brother (we'll call him Joe), told her that he'd take care of it, and basically forced her out of the house to 'celebrate getting out of debt.' She really didn't seem like she wanted to go. At all. I became fucking nervous. So we got to the restaurant pretty early, but luckily they had a table. She ordered wine, which was odd, because she hasn't drank much since she broke up with her ex, but I figured it was a time to celebrate. We made small talk for a while, but it seemed forced, and I knew that I had to tell her soon. So, before the entrees even came I said that I had something to talk to her about. She didn't smile and told me that 'she knew, Joe told her.' and my goddamn heart almost stopped. That fucker. i hurridly told her that I was so sorry, I didn't want her to find out that way, I wanted to tell her myself. She shook her said, frowned, and said that it was okay, she just wanted me to be happy and that I deserved it. I told her that I didn't want to stress her out or make her uncomfortable, but I just needed to tell her, and see how she felt, and that it was completely up to her. She gave me a look and said that it actually was up to me, and just to do what made me happy. She said that she was probably going to move out after her program ended, and promised to stay out of the way until then. It was then that I realized something was a bit off, and asked wtf Joe had told her. She said that he told her I wanted to take her out to dinner to tell her that I had started developing feelings for a girl, and wanted to ask Cass if it would be okay if I asked this girl out. It was then I realized that Joe had set me up for the most climactic pick up line ever to exist. Our entrees came (I had shrimp and pesto gnocchi, and she had crab legs for you detail lovers), and I explained that, yes I had started developing feelings for a girl, I just didn't want it to mess up what we had. She said that it wouldn't mess anything up, she still loved the boys and would take care of them and the house. I continued to then explain that I wasn't going to ask the girl on a date, though, and she asked, incredulously, why not. Then I dropped my smoothest line I've ever dropped. "Because I'm already on a date with her." Right? Thanks Joe, because he must know about your planned movie and really wanted that line. She gave me this look that she gives my sons when they tell her things like 'I'm going to the mall by myself' or 'I have a girlfriend named Tammy.' Then she looked away, smiled and shook her head and asked 'really?' I nodded and told her that I cared about her more than anybody else alive (other than my sons), that I loved our family, and that I had fallen in love with her. She then took a drink of wine, rolled her eyes, and said 'about fucking time, Alex.' And I'll never forget what happened next. Maybe it was a faux pas, but I leaned across the table and kissed her... spilling her wine. But neither of us cared and we kissed for about a minute, before she told me to get off her before her crab legs got cold (this was joking, but not. you'd have to know her). After leaving the restaurant we got ice cream and sat around and kissed some more, before heading home. Joe was sitting on our couch watching one of those VH1 dating shows with a shit eating grin on his face, and Cass ran in, screaming at him that he ruined everything and that she was going to have to move in with mom now. We let him believe it for about 5 seconds before bursting into laughter. He shook my hand and told me that the boys were sleeping and left. I picked Cass up and kissed her and carried her to my room where we... welll.... Made out for like two hours and snuggled the shit out of each other. (She isn't ready for anything else, but emphasized yet. I'll give her all the time in the world). At one point the youngest son came in because of a nightmare, and brought his dog (a golden retriever puppy) and claimed that 'the doggy was scared' so we, of course, let him in. I woke up early to make everyone breakfast (and of course, deliver), and am about to go and kiss my wife goodbye, and ask my boss for the second part of the day off so that I can spend more time with her while the boys are at school, preschool. (I'm really sorry I haven't replied to everything... I was a little busy, but that you all for the support) TL;DR: Her brother is a little fucker, all went well in the end, we cuddled the shit out of each other all night. Update 3 - VERY quick Update: My wife and I are doing fine... - rareddit May 31, 2013 but I'm still unsure how to provide proof. I've lost the receipt for the restaurant and didn't pay with a card, and won't post pictures for obvious reasons (such as years of defrauding the government). But I will deliver and find a way. I promise, as a man of my word. Haven't I always delivered so far? And to those of you who are talking about a 'second wedding ceremony:' we just kissed for the first time two nights ago. Overly attached reddit? :) Finally, thank you to whoever gave me gold, I spent about $25 last night buying Joe beers. But next time, please use that money for real good. Take a vet to lunch, learn CPR, I don't know. But again, many thanks to you. I promise I'll update again in the future, but don't be angry if it isn't very often. I've been a little... busier than normal. Cheers. TL;DR: Everything is going great, will update sometimes, trying to figure out proof, thanks for the gold. Update4 -[m/28] Everything with my wife [f/24] that I married for insurance reason, then fell in love with, was going well... until last night. - rareddit June 25, 2013 TL;DR of the my life: my wife died four years ago when I was deployed, and I (alex, 28, male) ended up marrying the girl (Cass, 24, female) who was taking care of my children and keeping up with my house while I was grieving. I did this because she was having medical issues stemming from past domestic abuse and had no insurance. Apparently I can't post this as an update because of some rule... it's fine. I'd advise anybody to look through my past submissions (I don't think i can post them on here) if you are interested in what happened about a month ago. But apparently this is a different issue. Things were going very well except I started developing feelings for her. I was afraid of scaring her, or making her feel unsafe, but reddit convinced me to take the plunge. Now I'm happily dating my wife. Hey everybody! i hope your workday is going well. My day has been crazy. Everything has been going wonderfully lately, though. It was somewhat strange at first explaining it to our friends and family, but most of them had already caught on... including my sons, who act as if nothing has changed. I'm pretty sure the little fuckers knew the entire time. Anyways, last night I came home and Cass was out of it. dinner was burnt (which is no big deal, I can't really cook well or anything, but it's out of character), and she was drinking (lightly, only one or two glasses of wine). i asked her what was wrong, obviously I was concerned, and she told me that her ex-boyfriend (Shithead, 30, male) got parole last week. I was flabbergasted, since she should have been able to tesify at his parole hearing I believe. Apparently the crime that he was incarcerated for was unrelated to the abuse (which I had always assumed was the reason), but Cass had been (1) assured it would put him away for a decade at least and (2) had been far too afraid to testify against him or press charges. apparently he'd been arrested for this felony, and when he was being held, he asked her to post bail, but instead she asked my first wife for help moving out and moving on. I don't know what to do, I don't think that we have any legal ways to put him back into prison. She knows that she should have gone to the police and is guilt ridden and upset about it now. I know that she's going to be safe, because if he tries to even contact her, I'll take a legal recourse of action to make sure that he doesn't so much as touch her. I've taken off work today, but promised that even when I go back, I'll have my buddies stopping by throughout the day. But I don't know how to make her feel safe. I've contacted my lawyer about filing a restraining order, and he said it shouldn't be too hard, but she's a mess. I just don't know how to make her believe that she's I doubt this piece of shit will come around, but I know what I'm going to do if he tries. TL;DR: her ex got out of prison, we weren't notified, she's scared out of her mind. Update 5 - I (M/29) had fallen in love with my 'wife' (F/25) - rareddit Sept 3, 2014 Hey Reddit! I first of all would like to apologize for not keeping you guys updated--I've honestly just been pretty occupied with life lately and last night I had trouble sleeping. I was just browsing the internet when an article came up about reddit and I thought, I wonder how those nice people are doing. Then I signed in an realized that a lot of you really care about how my life is going with Cass. The answer is pretty well now. Things got tough for a while when her ex was released from prison last year, though. She was so afraid that he'd contact her...until he did. I remember that night like it was five minutes ago. Somebody rang our doorbell and the oldest son answered. He asked for Cass. She told the boys to go upstairs and gave me a look and I knew. But she didn't look scared. The bastard apologized and begged for forgiveness and asked for a second chance. She was so brave. I wanted to kill him but she told him no and asked him to leave. He did, and he tried to contact her a few more times before we got an order of protection against him. Last I heard he moved upstate to live with his dad, or something. Around this time her brother Joe also got into a really bad car accident and ended up having to move in with us for a while. He's a great guy and one of my best friends, so we didn't mind, but it was a stressful time. About seven (or eight?) months ago we finally, ahem. Consummated our marriage I guess you can say. The boys are doing great and are really happy. Cass got a pretty good job (although I think she's working too much overtime!) and loves it. We're expecting our first child in February and couldn't be more excited. You could say that life is pretty good. I'll be around for another few hours if you guys have any questions. TL;DR: Things were bad. Now they're pretty damn awesome. Final update - I (M/29) fell in love with my wife (f/25) It's a girl! - rareddit Apr 29, 2015 Technically she was born early March, but I didn't want to make the title "It WAS a girl." Sorry for not updating; it was a pretty rough pregnancy (and Cass has put her foot down about wanting more--I guess three is enough), but everything turned out great! Little Therese was 21" and 9 pounds at birth, and as bald as I am! She's way easier than the boys were, she hardly ever cries and is the most photogenic baby ever!! Our youngest son is completely smitten, and always tries to "help"--it's less cute than you think. Joe is also doing okay. His back is still bothering him but he's dating a girl who actually went to my high school (two years younger than me, though). He's pretty happy with her, and we're all very happy for him. Other than new fatherhood, not much to update! I'm home watching the baby today while Cass it out, so I should be around for a while! tl;dr: It's a girl! NEW UPDATE Update 7 Jan 27, 2025 (10 years later) I'm not sure what I need to link, but this was my last post way back when. hey guys. it's definitely been a minute.I ended up making another account a few years ago to follow things I am interested in. Don't get me wrong, everyone was nice enough but I kind of just wanted to start over with an account where nobody could easily find my life story ha. But I saw it go around every few years and always thought about updating, but there was either nothing huge to update anyone on or I just wanted to get away from it I guess. Like, there were times that it felt that my life was being overshadowed by this great love story that everyone thought was every moment of my life. Then they made a movie and no, I was not involved, I did not see it, and am not going to. I guess the happy updates are that we did end up having another baby. Unplanned but we love him so much. I had kind of put off getting a vasectomy but took care of that right away after that. Cass finished school and has a great job that she's moved up in quite a lot actually. I got out of the military and have been working a civilian job. The dog passed three years ago but they got another puppy a few months ago. Older boys are doing great in high school and in sports, they both made varsity their freshmen year and are so kind. Our younger two are also great, happy and healthy. I got a new job around COVID and love it. Her condition continued to improve and is not completely managed with therapy and medication. Bad updates I can start with the worst one which is that Cass' brother and my friend passed 4 years ago. He got into some trouble about a decade ago and never really got himself back together. We were both devastated. It felt like everything went gray in our lives and we were struggling to stay above water emotionally if that makes sense. I threw myself into work and a hobby of mine in my free time and she was severely depressed and actually quit her hobby to focus on working and the kids. We were basically just roommates raising kids together after a while. I don't know. Hindsight is 20/20 and I think we just didn't think about the other much because we were too focused on ourselves. I asked for a separation about 7 months ago and moved out. She was devastated and didn't agree with it at first, but eventually accepted it. I didn't cheat on her, but I definitely saw how other marriages with our friends were and how she barely asked me about my day or hobbies or anything anymore, everything we talked about was bills, kids, adult stuff. Not the fun things we had previously done even with kids. I was talking more to friends about things like my feelings and hobbies than I was to her. One of them was a woman, but it was just talking, nothing physical. Even in retrospect I don't think it even got to an emotional affair, but I also know I was more excited to talk to this woman at one point than Cass. I know all marriages have mountains and valleys but it felt like this valley was never going to end. I reasoned that we had a great almost 15 years and nobody could ever take that away from us, but we deserved to be happy. I have dated a little here and there but nobody serious. My two older boys stopped talking to me when we separated and didn't come over. She has tried encouraging them to, I know she has but they are stubborn. I think they blame me. She says she didn't tell them anything. I don't know. The younger ones were coming over every other weekend and whenever I asked them to. Around September, I realized that I had made a huge mistake, but unfortunately around this time I found out she had started seeing someone else. A woman who she used to work with. I felt like I had completely ruined my life and went into a dark spot. I was drinking a lot, both alone and at bars when I didn't have my kids. There were a few incidents where we fought, like, really fought. Sometimes she wouldn't let me talk to them, she'd say she knew I'd been drinking which hadn't been an issue when we were together so I got mad. Said some things that I now regret. I quit drinking around the holidays, like a week before Christmas which was hard with all the parties but I'm glad I did. I've started asking for more time with them and tried reaching out to my older two as well. Now my younger kids come over almost half the time and my 2nd oldest sometimes joins them. The oldest was nice to me when I came over for the holidays but doesn't answer my calls or texts. The kids and i are all in individual therapy. I'm not sure where we're going to go from here. I asked her if she wanted me to take the kids for Valentine's Day but she said she didn't have plans. She had ended things with her girlfriend a few weeks ago. I had kinda joked that we could hang out since we'd both be alone but I don't think she thought I was serious. I was and still am. I definitely can see things more clearly now that I've been sober for a month. Not like 100%, I know I wasn't a full blown alcoholic but I was certainly binge drinking which is just as bad. I'll have one or two beers when I'm with people now but no more and I never drink alone. There is no alcohol or anything at my apartment. The reason I don't know where we go from here is because she is so happy right now. I mean, she looks a lot happier and seems happier than she was when we were together. Even though she and her gf split she's happy. I don't know if I was holding her down. A few months ago, she told me she wasn't interested in divorcing or at least she wasn't going to file anything. She said she'd appreciate a heads up if I did file because she would work with me. I don't want to get divorced and I don't want to be separated and I don't want to be living in this stupid apartment anymore without my kids or my wife. I don't think this is such an easy fix that i can just take her out for dinner and tell her how I feel. I've thought about asking her to join a therapy session with me, or even to get couples counseling but every time I want to ask I don't. I guess I just couldn't handle her saying no. Now that she's single and I'm sober I think she'd be more likely to say yes but if she doesn't I'll be crushed. TL;DR: I'm sorry to be such a bummer. I don’t know where to go from here. Feb 21, 2025 I picked up my younger kids from our old house (her house?) the other day. My 2nd oldest decided to come with us so we chatted while he packed up. It’s usually pleasant and not awkward or anything. And it wasn’t until I asked if we could maybe meet up and chat soon. She was confused about why and asked if I was going to file for divorce. I asked if she wanted me to and she avoided the question. So I told her I didn’t plan on it. I don’t know if that made her happy or angry and she said she could meet me after her match on Friday since the kids.l would be in school and neither of us work Fridays. I asked if we could get lunch then and she was fine with that. I asked her what game? Apparently she plays squash now. On quick thing, Cass is not a late in life lesbian and that’s not why we split. A few years back before covid and everything fell apart she basically told me that she had thought a lot about, realized that she is bi and attracted to both men and women. I was worried she was going to ask me for a divorce but she said there were no action items, wasn’t interested in divorce, threesomes, or polyamory. Just kind of an FYI that she would no longer classify herself as straight. I asked some questions of course but accepted this and we really never spoke about it again. She didn’t have an affair with the coworker, they randomly reconnected months after our separation. They broke up bc her girlfriend expressed a lot of frustration and jealousy regarding how much time Cass spent with the kids. She never introduced her gf to the kids; although the older two know she had been dating someone. I’m not going to lie, the next few days I was pretty nervous. Like more than before. I think I hid it well but probably didn’t. My daughter said I was being weird but her older brother said that was because I was weird. I read my old posts a lot. I was way sappier back then. Something I should confess is that I used to read a lot of like you could call them smutty romance books. Before bed it was a nice way to turn my brain off. I mean turn it off I could read a book go to bed and the next morning have no idea what I had read about the night before. It helped me sleep and the stories didn’t matter that much I guess. I don’t do that anymore but I did cringe a bit at some of the things I had said. I was so sappy. But I was apparently all in on the very 2015 millennial cringe writing, bacon is epic iykyk. Don’t worry to the younger people reading this: one day you, too, will be cringe. And I thought about what I would say a lot obviously. I asked her where her game was and suggested a place near there and was pretty fucking anxious waiting for her. She was late and didn’t really apologize. We caught up a little and I actually think I was sweating because she kept asking what was wrong. I just figured I shouldn’t beat around the bush, even if we’re separated we loved each other so much and have four kids. So I asked her if she had thought about me moving back in. She actually seemed annoyed and asked if I was asking to move back in or just wondering if she’d thought about it. She’s normally not as aggressive about these things. It was strange so I just said I’ve been thinking for the past few months about it and think we made a mistake separating. I regret it, I miss her, I miss our family being together. So yeah I said, yeah I’m asking to come back and be a family again. And she said no. I didn’t really say anything for a minute or so. I guess I didn’t really think she’d say no. She had broken up with her girlfriend and said she wasn’t going to file for divorce. All things you all had pointed out were good signs. I got super clammy and sweaty and I guess just asked why. She said she liked her life now. She didn’t have to answer to anyone. The kids were older and more independent, if she wanted to meet a friend for dinner or go shopping she didn’t have to ask anyone to see if it was ok. She only had to do her own laundry now and since the kids have chores her house workload is much easier to maintain. She can watch what shows she wants and not have to worry about me wanting to play games or watch sports or something. She is planning a trip to Peru with a few of her friends and said she wouldn’t have even considered that if we were still together. She could be more selfish and have more of her time for her. Before you freak out she wasn’t saying that I didn’t do my part in our family. It was me not doing my part it was just that she didn’t have a person to worry about. She tried explaining it like if someone asked her to do something Friday and she knew she was free there was nobody she had to check with to make sure it’s ok she could just say yes. I told her I didn’t care if she did things with her friends but she said that wasn’t the point and said to drop it. I don’t know why I did this then but I asked if she was seeing someone else and she said not really, but that’s none of my business because she doesn’t bring anyone around the kids. Then asked if I was so I told her no. Because it is her business? We have four kids why wouldn’t it be? She said she knew I had been seeing people and I admitted I’d been some dates but nothing serious. She asked if I had planned the dates I went on, like looked for a spot and made reservations. She asked if I paid for them and if I had slept with any of them and I was honest. It didn’t feel like an interrogation but it also didn’t feel like I was talking to cass. She’s normally so warm and friendly and worried about other people but it was more like, she was curious. There were some more things. She’s still mad that I left and feels like I took the easy way out by moving out and leaving her with the house and the kids. Which was not fair to me, we had an entire discussion about it and agreed that would be best. She said that didn’t matter and that for months she was basically doing everything while I got to live like a single guy. I got mad, it wasn’t like I walked in one day and was like hey I’m outta here good luck with all this I’ll see the kids when I feel like it. But that’s how she sees it so I had no idea how to even respond to that. These are just what I remembered. I was not my top self at that lunch. I think I psyched myself out too much, or maybe was too positive and didn’t really consider her just outright rejecting me. She was a little cooler than she normally was. And she’s just different. I don’t know how to explain it. Like I guess I didn’t realize how far apart we had grown. At one point I asked her if she missed our family and she said we should stop talking about this in public, like she was embarrassed. So she left. We hugged. I told her I loved her and she said it back, but I feel like she looked like she felt sorry for me. She said we should do this again sometime. I didn’t have plans last night. I wish I had. I didn’t drink, though don’t worry. I thought about watching the movie you all say is based on my life but I forgot what it was called so I watched this one show Cass used to want me to watch with her but I never did because it looked boring but I actually liked it and I get why she likes it. I watched like the entire first season and texted her way too late that I watched it and loved it. She read it pretty late and eventually responded that she loved that for me and to let her know when I finished it so we could talk. I know I fucked it up. I should have just told her how much I missed her and loved her and would do anything to make it work. I just got nervous. Also I might be being dramatic but it just felt like there were two scepters I don’t know, haunting the conversation in her brother and our oldest son. I know she’s devastated about her brother. I know they were closer than we were just being friends but I’m the one who found him and she’s never validated my grief about him. Like yes I get it he was your brother but he was also my friend. It’s not a competition on who gets to be sadder. And my son thinks I had an affair even though we’ve both told him that’s not true. At least she’s said she told him and yes he’s in therapy but he’s just so angry. And again please before you start saying we should get therapy, I am in therapy and she is happy for me, but is not interested in therapy for herself or couples therapy. I’ve tried pushing it and it hasn’t gone well. So it’s a non starter. And I know there will be someone saying “I know you repeatedly have said that she’s not interested in therapy, but I think you two should try therapy” and while I agree with you, that does not help me. She’s had bad experiences with therapy including couples therapy and will not do it herself. I don’t know. I’m probably over sharing but idk how many people will read this here. If she wants to be alone there’s nothing I can do about that. If she wants to date other people I can’t help that. If she doesn’t want to be married anymore we could take a step back (well, forward from where we are now) and just casually date and I could be her boyfriend or just be friends or whatever. She can go to Peru and play squash and I’m not going to get in her way, if she’ll believe me. I just won’t do an open marriage but I think I know her well enough to know she wouldn’t either. I’m sad. Maybe we were just meant to grow up together but not grow old together. 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Every year, I go to the movie theater as much as possible. It's my favorite place in the world. I first started keeping track/scores/reviews/ticket stubs in 2015. Since then, I've seen 1,827 different movies in theaters: 5 in 2015, 9 in 2016, 146 in 2017, 162 in 2018, 192 in 2019, 44 in 2020, 86 in 2021, 270 in 2022, 325 in 2023, 298 in 2024, and 290 this year. For this ranking, I'm only counting movies I saw in theaters, nothing that I watched at home. I'm not counting re-watches. I don't have a specific scoring system, it's just a rating I give to the movie right after watching. I've included a few re-releases, short films, and TV series, as long as they were seen in a theater (and for the first time). This is all just for fun and not meant to be taken super seriously, I'm not a professional movie critic. I just like going to the movies. I attended 9 film festivals in 2025 for a total of 124 movies. 97 movies had cast and/or crew in attendance for Q&As. There were 26 World Premieres, 11 North American Premieres, 11 Canadian Premieres, 11 East Coast Premieres, 17 Southeast Premieres, 20 Florida/Georgia/Orlando/US/Tampa/South Florida/International Premieres: Toronto International Film Festival - 29 Movies in 7 Days SCAD Savannah Film Festival - 29 Movies in 8 Days Fantasia Film Festival - 18 Movies in 6 Days Florida Film Festival - 13 Movies in 5 Days Miami Film Festival - 11 Movies in 5 Days Popcorn Frights Film Festival - 11 Movies in 8 Days Gasparilla International Film Festival - 6 Movies in 3 Days Miami Jewish Film Festival - 5 Movies in 3 Days Rendez-Vous Cinema Quebec - 2 Movies in 2 Days There were 11 movies that I re-watched in theaters: One Battle After Another - x7 Hamnet - x3 Nouvelle Vague - x2 Sinners - x2 If I Had Legs I'd Kick You - x2 The Testament of Ann Lee - x2 Highest 2 Lowest - x2 The Life of Chuck - x2 Him - x2 Twinless - x2 Sentimental Value - x2 I have AMC's A-List, Regal's Unlimited, Cinemark's MovieClub, as well as memberships to the Fort Lauderdale, Miami, and Toronto film societies. I saw 290 movies in theaters in 2025. Here is my full ranking: The Testament of Ann Lee - 10/10 - It's a sprawling, intoxicating, and beautiful historical-epic with some of the best dance-sequence choreography I've ever seen on film. All of the performances are perfect, the songs/prayers are all memorable, the narration grabs you from the first second and never lets go, and it's got the most confident directing of the year. I wanted 5 more hours of Mother Ann's story. In a fair world, Amanda Seyfried is the runaway Best Actress Oscar winner. This'll go down as one of the best period-dramas of the 21st century. There's one or two masterpieces per year, Ann Lee a no-doubter for one of those spots. One Battle After Another - 10/10 - Green Acres, Beverly Hillbillies, and Hooterville Junction. Marty Supreme - 10/10 The Perfect Neighbor - 9/10 - I've not cried in a movie theater this much since Moonlight. It's the kind of movie that will make your blood boil and will make you melt to your seat by the end. The bodycam footage where the dad has to tell his two sons that their mother isn't coming home is something that will leave a scar on your heart forever. It's also very impressive on a technical level, the best documentary editing since Apollo 11 in 2019. I can't imagine all of the work that went into piecing this thing together. Sinners - 9/10 Brokeback Mountain (Re-Release) - 9/10 - I'm a bit late to the party here, this 20th anniversary theatrical-release was the first time I've seen this movie, and goddamn was it worth the wait. One of the most powerful love stories ever shot. It's the ultimate "what could've been" love story. Heath's performance is generational. I'm now a card-carrying member of the Brokeback Mountain Was Robbed for Best Picture by Crash Society™. Warfare - 9/10 - You can't talk about Warfare without first shouting out the insanely-great sound design. You could watch this movie with your eyes closed and still be impressed. An impossibly-tense war movie that makes 95 minutes feel like 10 minutes. It's really this generation's Black Hawk Down (huge compliment). It's a lot more grounded and believable though, with an outstanding ensemble cast. I love that nobody is a supersoldier in this, just guys in a bad spot in a bad point in time. It doesn't glorify but it also doesn't minimize. This movie will stand the test of time as one of the best war films of the decade. This thing was custom-built in a movie-lab just for me. Sorry, Baby - 9/10 - Eva Victor is 2025's major revelation. This movie is heartbreaking, hilarious, bittersweet, and soul-warming. It's probably the best Original Screenplay of the year too. This made me realize how much I really missed Lucas Hedges. So cool to see him pop up again. Bugonia - 9/10 - Yorgos doesn't miss. Hamnet- 9/10 - An all-time child-actor performance from Jacobi Jupe. This movie is equally soul-crushing and hopeful. Jessie Buckley's close-up when Hamnet dies is pound-for-pound the best single scene of the year. F1 - 9/10 - As far as fun-summer-blockbuster movies go, F1 is as good as it gets. It's this year's Top Gun: Maverick. Was it cliche? Yes. Was it predictable? Yes. Did I have a fucking blast for 2 hours? Also, yes. Keep pumping these out, Apple. The Phoenician Scheme - 9/10 - Asteroid City & The French Dispatch were slight missteps, but Wes Anderson is officially back. This movie overflows with heart & laughs. (with 10/10 production/set design as usual) Sacrifice - 9/10 - Anya Taylor-Joy was born to play an Icelandic eco-terrorist and Chris Evans was born to play the narcissitic, A-List actor in a rut suddenty thrust back into the limelight. Gorgeously shot, laugh-a-minute first act. I had a really great time with this one, it reminded me a lot of Don't Look Up. Very surprised everyone hates it. The Smashing Machine - 9/10 Magazine Dreams - 8/10 - Jonathan Majors comes in with maybe one of the most physically-demanding performances of all time. Without the real-life drama, this might've been an Oscar-winning role for him. Great movie. Highest 2 Lowest - 8/10 - If it wasn't for an extremely uneven first act and some classic weird Spike quirks in there, like insane transitions and some "how do you do, fellow kids?" moments , this would be one of the best movies of the year. It's still really really great, and the insane score kind of grows on you as it goes. Denzel is at the top of his game. My favorite Original Song of the year at the end. Train Dreams - 8/10 - It takes a while to grow on you. It might take an hour, it might take 5 days, but it'll eventually hit you like a....train (sorry). It's a beautiful slow burn about appreciating life's fleeting and rare moments of joy. The world keeps going on without you, and that's okay. It's extremely reflective and existential. Beautiful stuff. It did what A Ghost Story did for me a few years ago. Presence - 8/10 - Lucy Liu. No notes. It Was Just An Accident - 8/10 - A lot more humor than I expected. The most impressive longshot of the year with that interrogation scene near the end. Mariam Afshari deserves more attention. And holy fuck does that pin-drop ending hit. There's a few ways you can interpret the ending too which is really cool. The Threesome - 8/10 Nirvanna the Band the Show the Movie - 8/10 - If you like satirical comedies (like Borat), just do yourself a favor and check it out. You’ll laugh more in the first 30 minutes than in any movie of the past 5 years. I'm Still Here - 8/10 Black Bag - 8/10 Nouvelle Vague - 8/10 - A fun, sweet, breezy, delicate ode to the French New Wave. A movie for movie nerds. Zoey Deutch is a delight and Guillaume Marbeck is one of the year's breakout actors. Left-Handed Girl - 8/10 - A beautiful slice-of-life family drama that’s right up my alley. Wonderful performances from the 2 young leads (their first major roles) and possibly the catchiest theme track of the year. All fans of Sean Baker should check this one out. Nina Ye killed it at the Q&A. Splitsville - 8/10 - Hilarious, sharp, sexy. One of the better recent romantic-comedies (big emphasis on comedy). I laughed more during the first fight sequence than probably any other single scene this year. Advice for any shlubby screenwriters out there: co-writing a sharp, funny screenplay where your romantic interestes are 10/10s like Dakota and Adria is a good move. It Ends - 8/10 - Sometimes you're lucky enough to catch a great movie from a first-time director and you know they'll blow up soon. This is that movie for 2025. The Count of Monte Cristo - 8/10 - You don't get these types of epics much anymore. Really well made and crafted. It's the best Monte Cristo has ever looked on screen. Oh, Hi! - 8/10 Sacramento - 8/10 - Michael Cera, how I've missed you. Mission: Impossible – The Final Reckoning - 8/10 Is This Thing On? - 8/10 - Career-best stuff from Will Arnett. If only Laura Dern's character wasn't so poorly-written and shitty. Great, improv-like scenes in the comedy club. Wake Up Dead Man: A Knives Out Mystery 8/10 - Doesn't quite reach the peak of the first one, but it's a step up from the 2nd. It's a lot more personal and dark than the other 2, which I really liked, and it keeps the (sometimes-outdated) humor. Fucktoys - 8/10 - It's Anora on mushrooms. It's weird, it's gross, it's got a ton of sex and some violence. It's kind of a modern nasty fairy tale. It's everything you want. Would recommend. Annapurna Sriram is a major talent to watch out for. Urchin - 8/10 - Part Safdie, part Glazer, part Leigh. A really confident and impressive debut film from Harris Dickinson. Harry Dillane is magnetic. Eternity - 8/10 Predator: Badlands - 8/10 A Quiet Place w/ Live Commentary (Re-Release) - 8/10 - This was the first "live commentary" screening I've ever attended. It was with co-writers Scott Beck & Bryan Woods (who also co-directed Heretic), moderated by Josh Malerman (who wrote Bird Box). A very fun screening, very insightful and amusing. Think Mystery Science Theater 3000, but for an actually-good movie. Final Destination: Bloodlines - 8/10 Companion - 8/10 No Other Land - 8/10 - Incredible achievement in documentary filmmaking. almost unfurls like a narrative drama. The only documentary other than 20 Days In Mariupol that's made me want to look away. It's really impressive how angry it makes you but also weaves in beautiful little funny moments of humanity that bring you back down to earth. You would think that "pouring cement down village water wells" was a cartoonish movie-villain move that would never actually happen in real life, but nope, it happens. The Girl with the Needle - 8/10 - Sometimes you just need a Cristian Mungiu-like hit of depression. This filled that hole. 28 Years Later - 8/10 The Long Walk - 8/10 - Not shying away from the brutality/violence is this movie's biggest strength. David Jonsson and Cooper Hoffman are perfect together. It's a very unique post-apocalyptic film, a different feel from the usual YA slop. Mark Hamill is very goofy and bad though. Rough casting there. Sentimental Value - 8/10 - This was a lot better on 2nd watch. In her limited screentime, Inga Ibsdotter Lilleaas puts in the best supporting performance of the year. She is the heart & soul of this movie. Truly heartbreaking stuff when Renate reads her the monologue at the table. The History of Sound - 8/10 - Shoutout to this movie for introducing me to Silver Dagger, probably the greatest folk song ever. I've had different covers of it playing on repeat since the minute I left the theater. Paul Mescal was amazing in his rendition. Beautiful, Brokeback Mountain-like love story about what could've been and regrets. A House of Dynamite - 8/10 - It's only fair to score this by act: First Act: 10/10 - Movie-of-the-year potential. Thrilling and engaging. I wanted to cry everytime Rebecca Ferguson was on screen. Second Act: 8/10: The greatest TV pilot episode you've ever seen. Greta Lee keeps getting done dirty though. Third Act: 3/10 - What a fumble nooooooooo Kathryn noooooooo. My Mom Jayne - 8/10 Sirat - 8/10 - Sound design that will have your clothes shaking during the rave sequences and have you jump during the (extremely) unexpected death scene(s). A great (but extremely bleak) odyssey through the desert set against the backdrop of the world falling apart. Good shit. She Dances - 8/10 - Whenever Steve and Audrey Zahn are on-screen together, the scenes burst with authenticity and genuineness. The script is sweet, funny when it needs to be, and sometimes brings out a few tears. Really great little family-drama. Hamilton - 8/10 Bring Her Back - 8/10 - Danny and Michael Philippou should be thrown in fucking jail for that scene of the kid chewing on the knife. Sovereign - 8/10 Weapons - 8/10 Kill Bill: The Whole Bloody Affair - 8/10 - Confession: I had only seen bits and pieces of both Kill Bill movies prior to this. I had an abolute blast. The 2nd half doesn't quite live up to the first though. Avatar: Fire and Ash - 8/10 - Oona Chaplin awoke something in me. i'm now a Varangsexual. Mile End Kicks - 8/10 - Chandler Levack is Canada’s brightest up and coming filmmaker since Xavier Dolan. Pls keep her on your radar. Now she needs to make a movie without an annoyingly-unlikeable lead. Nuremberg - 8/10 - Your dad's pick for Best Picture. I had really low expectations, a 2.5-hour WW2 courtroom drama sounds like Oscar-bait 20 years too late, but a really tight script and perfect pacing kept me thoroughly engaged. It's also the best Russell Crowe performance since...Gladiator? Good stuff. I'm back on the WW2 movie train. Leo Woodall knocks it out of the pack with his monologue too. Out of nowhere. The Naked Gun - 8/10 Twinless - 8/10 Rebuilding - 8/10 - Lowkey family-drama set in the aftermath of a fire that destroys a man's family ranch. Josh O'Connor is outstanding as usual. Eric LaRue - 8/10 The Life of Chuck - 8/10 Frankenstein - 8/10 - It's undoubtedly technically impressive, probably deserves Oscar nominations in most tech categories. The cast and crew is stacked, and it's solid, but there's a major thing keeping it from being truly great/top 25 of the year: an interesting story. It's really good but classic GDT style-over-substance like Crimson Peak. Megadoc - 8/10 - Almost makes up for the actual movie. Almost. The Francis/Shia and Aubrey/Dustin dynamics were really fascinating to watch. Really great doc about the chaos of filmmaking. It's a shame Adam Driver and Nathalie Emmanuel didn't want to be filmed for it, but I can't say I blame them. Jay Kelly - 8/10 Springsteen: Deliver Me From Nowhere - 8/10 - Everyone else is wrong, this thing was good. Atlantic City forever. Rosemary's Baby (Re-Release) - 8/10 Hurry Up Tomorrow- 8/10 - Maybe throw me in jail for this but I thought this thing rocked? Part Vox Lux, part Misery, part Good Time. Jenna Ortega absolutely smashes it (wish the whole movie was from her POV tbh) and Keoghan/Abel are pretty solid as well. If you can look over the self indulgence (which is kinda the point) and a bad 5-minute sequence near the end, this is a banger. The score and camework alone make it watchable. Trey Edward Shults fan until the day I die. Together - 8/10 Americana - 8/10 - It does jump the shark a bit near the end when like 45 people die and it becomes a bit unbelievable, but it's a fun Tarantino-like crime story and Sidney Sweeney/Paul Walter Hauser are great together. It's Never Over, Jeff Buckley - 8/10 The Fantastic Four: First Steps - 7/10 The Damned - 7/10 - Claustrophobic period-pieces are my shit. An overlooked January-dump movie that deserves more praise. The Ballad of Wallis Island - 7/10 She Rides Shotgun - 7/10 Christy - 7/10 Roofman 7/10 - A perfectly-solid action-crime-comedy with a stellar Channing Tatum and Kirsten Dunst. This would've made $200M domestic 20 years ago. It doesn't have the usual emotional devastation that you'd expect from a Derek Cianfrance film, but that's fine. Thunderbolts - 7/10 - Like most people, I'm kinda "over" the Marvel formula, and in general this was a bit more of the same, but Pugh and Harbour commit really hard and keep it very engaging and just-different-enough. It's one of the better recent MCU efforts. I liked Julia Louis-Dreyfus in a Veep-adjacent role. Materialists - 7/10 Dead Man's Wire - 7/10 Rental Family - 7/10 Sisu: Road to Revenge - 7/10 - A nice improvement over the first one, rare for a sequel. Some really impressive kills. Mickey 17 - 7/10 Shin Godzilla (Re-Release) - 7/10 The School Duel - 7/10 Eephus - 7/10 - A local beer league baseball team plays their final game at the local park. Makes you feel nice and fuzzy and warm. Dangerous Animals - 7/10 - Some actors are born for a certain role. Jai Courtney is that actor in this movie. Ballerina - 7/10 Vermiglio - 7/10 Violent Ends - 7/10 Good Fortune - 7/10 - There are some glaring flaws (like Aziz's acting & delivery), but it does a lot of things very well and has a sweet enough ending to keep this pretty good. Keanu's character is a highlight and has a ton of great lines ("I used to be a celestial being and now I'm a chainsmoker", etc) Secret Mall Apartment - 7/10 Blue Moon - 7/10 - Ethan Hawke is outstanding and basically shows off and runs circles around everybody for 100 minutes, but chamber pieces just aren’t reaching “great” level for me recently. Wicked: For Good - 7/10 The Surfer - 7/10 Eleanor the Great - 7/10 - Pure boomer catnip. Your grandma's favorite movie of 2025. June Squibb is a national treasure. Protect her at all costs. Blue Heron - 7/10 - An Officer and a Spy - 7/10 - Polanski still has a bit of juice. Nobody is doing courtroom-dramas like the French recently. California Schemin' - 7/10 - It gets a bit repetitive but it's a solid directorial debut effort from James McAvoy. A Big Bold Beautiful Journey - 7/10 Villes Jacques-Carton - 7/10 - Quebec represent. (weak year for Quebec cinema I'll admit) Normal - 7/10 - If you like John Wick and John Wick-like clone films, you’ll like this. Lots of fun kills. Lots of blood. Good popcorn flick. Not breaking any new ground though. The Ballad of a Small Player - 7/10 - Macau is a sick setting for a film, and I really dug the first hour, a degenerate gambler just digging his own grave, and the score from Volker Bertelmann is a standout of the year, but it loses its way a bit when he dies (or maybe he doesn't? who knows). Also, more Fala Chen please. Jurassic World: Rebirth - 7/10 Superman - 7/10 - There's some funny lines, solid needledrops, and Rachel Brosnahan is great as usual, but it's not enough to make it really pop. Solid movie, another decent entry in the comic book movie category, but it doesn't reinvigorate my enthusiasm for the genre as a whole like I'd hoped it would. Tatami - 7/10 One of Them Days - 7/10 - Katt Williams being the highlight of a movie in the year of our lord 2025 was not on my bingo card. We need more crowd-pleasing comedies like this in theaters. The Seed of the Sacred Fig - 7/10 Fackham Hall - 7/10 - The Trainspotting poster bit was so good. Non-stop bits and easter eggs, a fun time. The Wizard of the Kremlin - 7/10 Caught Stealing - 7/10 - Zoë Kravitz is gone far too soon. I Love LA (TV Series) - 7/10 Fight or Flight - 7/10 - It sequel-baits a bit too hard and the tech-villains are way too cartoony, but some solid kills, great lines/editing, and Josh Hartnett fully committing to the alcoholic, down-on-his-luck assassin bit really keeps it entertaining enough. Jane Austen Wrecked My Life - 7/10 Sisters - 7/10 Parthenope - 7/10 - It's a gorgeous-looking movie, I could stare at Celeste Dalla Porta for 10 more hours, and I'm a big Paolo Sorrentino fan but this feels a bit more style-over-substance than his usual output. The Monkey - 7/10 The Luckiest Man in America - 7/10 - When an indie budget is stretched to the limit and puts out a good movie. Terrestrial - 7/10 Two Women - 7/10 Sharp Corner - 7/10 - I watched this dubbed in French so the performances definitely took a hit, but it was a pretty biting look at the pressures of the workplace and family leading to a man's downward spiral. Ben Foster is always solid (even when he's dubbed in French-Canadian). Sweetness - 7/10 Spinal Tap 2: The End Continues - 7/10 - I have still not seen the original, but this was good enough as a standalone. The final performance scene leaves a bit to be desired, but there's enough humorous dialogue to keep it chugging along ("in the daytime, ghosts are just rumors" is my personal favorite". Almost Popular - 7/10 My Dead Friend Zoe - 7/10 I Am Frankelda - 7/10 The Amateur - 7/10 - It's basically Bourne-lite, but they don't make these globe-trotting spy movies enough anymore. I enjoyed it. Torture-by-pollen was a wild move though. On Swift Horses - 7/10 Merrily We Roll Along - 7/10 - As far as theatrical pro-shots go, it's below Waitress & Hamilton. At first the constant cuts are a bit annoying/nauseating, but it works itself out. Radcliffe has one really amazing/impressive song number (during the TV interview), Groff is outstanding throughout. Was not a fan of Lindsay Mendez at all. I wanted a bit more emotionally from the whole thing. The theme song is amazing. Heart Eyes - 7/10 No Other Choice - 7/10 - good but kinda very long, innit? Freaky Tales - 7/10 The Wedding Banquet - 7/10 - Fun little rom-com brought down a bit by rough acting and awkward line/joke delivery from Bowen Yang and the Korean guy. Lily and Kelly carried them big time. Loved the “we have to de-gay the house!!!” bit. Great ending too. (never saw the original) Freakier Friday - 7/10 Rust - 7/10 The Ugly Stepsister - 7/10 Come Closer - 7/10 La Grazia 7/10 - Location scouts for Sorrentino movies need special recognition. The Accountant 2 - 7/10 - The story is a bit overcooked (the X-Men-like school for autistic super-hackers is a crazy turn for this movie to take) and it gets a bit too Sound of Freedom-y, but the Affleck/Bernthal scenes together keep it from falling apart completely. Rise (Short Film) - 7/10 Tornado - 6/10 Inheritance - 6/10 The Housemaid - 6/10 Anemone - 6/10 - [Sean Bean stares in amazement at DDL's performance] x10. There's a few good lines ("god doesn't need undies, cause he's not full of shit like you are", "the explosion was so loud you couldn't hear it"), two amazing DDL monologues, and it looks amazing, but feels kind of empty as a whole. Definitely something missing. Spider & Jessie - 6/10 Orwell: 2+2=5 - 6/10 - Some sequences are truly must-see pieces of documentary filmmaking (like the grilling of the ghoulish tech billionaire fucks and the January 6th bits) but then others are so truly scattered and shoehorned that it disconnects you from the message of the movie. 9/10 potential here if it could get out of its own way. Don't Let's Go to The Dogs Tonight - 6/10 Charlie Harper - 6/10 - A cute story about a highschool sweetheart couple (an aspiring chef and an underachieving alcoholic, classic) that’s shot really great and acted well (othet than the non-existent drunk acting from a supposed alcoholic) but ultimately burdened by a mountain of cliches. Song Sung Blue - 6/10 The Toxic Avenger 6/10 - A Troma film should have more nudity. Let's bring nudity back. Put me down for more nudity. Tron: Ares - 6/10 If I Had Legs I'd Kick You - 6/10 Anaconda - 6/10 - One day soon I'll be tired and over and the ironic, meta, big-studio-movie, but today is not one of those days. I had a decent time with this. A The Legend of Bagger Vance reference in 2025 deserves some respect. Death Does Not Exist - 6/10 40 Acres - 6/10 Locked - 6/10 Paddington in Peru - 6/10 Clown In A Cornfield - 6/10 Captain America: Brave New World - 6/10 - Adding this to the never-ending list of good-but-forgettable comic book movies. The genre is stale as hell. Wolf Man - 6/10 - Really liked the POV switches, sound design, and creature design, but the rest is by-the-numbers horror flick. Drop - 6/10 Blood for Dracula (Re-Release) - 6/10 Taylor Swift - The Official Release Party of a Showgirl - 6/10 - The lyric video stuff was whatever/boring/filler but I really liked the behind-the-scenes look at the making of the Ophelia music video. I could’ve watched an entire doc of Taylor directing that video. Great song too. And the closing song rocked too. Fanny - 6/10 Find Your Friends - 6/10 All Her Fault (TV Series) - 6/10 Fairyland - 6/10 A Nice Indian Boy - 6/10 Eddington - 6/10 - There's some interesting stuff in here, but overall kind of a mess. That's been Ari Aster's vibe recently. A Minecraft Movie - 6/10 To Kill A Wolf - 6/10 Keeper - 6/10 Waltzing with Brando - 6/10 - Billy Zane is super convincing as Marlon Brando. The rest is forgettable. Re-Animator (Re-Release) - 6/10 Opus - 6/10 - John Malkovich could not have been more horribly miscast. There's a good cult movie hidden in here somewhere, but Ayo by herself couldn't bring it out. Needed some more passes at rewrites. Grand Theft Hamlet - 6/10 Den of Thieves 2: Pantera - 6/10 Novocaine - 6/10 Barcelona (Re-Release) - 6/10 The Roses - 6/10 - This was a Dollar Tree Marriage Story. Very tonally-uneven. Kate McKinnon is distractingly-bad. Cumberbatch and Colman work well enough together to keep it watchable but it's kinda messy. IT: Welcome to Derry (TV Series) - 6/10 Modern Whore - 6/10 100 Nights of Hero - 6/10 Ick - 6/10 Algiers - 6/10 Everything's Going to Be Great - 6/10 - I really wish Bryan Cranston didn't die early on in the movie. His character and charisma really kept this afloat at first. It mostly fall flats after he's gone, except a few sweet moments. Weirdly over-religious vibes to the movie. Angel Studios was probably close to landing this one. Abraham's Boys - 6/10 I Know What You Did Last Summer - 6/10 - Worth seeing for the Nicole Kidman AMC intro reference alone. Death of a Unicorn - 6/10 Clorofilla - 6/10 I Don't Understand You - 6/10 On Becoming A Guinea Fowl - 6/10 - It's hard to think of a more recent ending that's so unsatisfying. It's good until that. Fuck those last 5 minutes. Allen Sunshine - 6/10 Night of the Demons (Re-Release) - 6/10 La Gloria - 6/10 The Legend of Ochi - 6/10 - It's a gorgeous movie and very Wes Anderson-coded, but too childish to make a real impact. If I'm honest, Helena Zengel should've just spoken German (with subtitles) instead of intelligible English. Cleaner - 6/10 Bonjour, Tristesse - Lily McInerny is outstanding, one of my picks for "breakout" performances of the year, and I'm a sucker for a sun-drenched Mediterranean setting, but Chloë Sevigny is just so bad and sinks the rest of the performances. Love Machine (Short Film) - 6/10 The Shrouds - 6/10 Mermaid - 6/10 - With 20-25 minutes shaved off, this could've been great. It captures some of the gross underbelly of Florida that not a lot of movies can (The Florida Project being the best example), but it's dragged down by bad performances and a plot that's too dragged out. I wanted it to end at least 5 times. Dog of God - 6/10 Trust - 6/10 Downton Abbey: The Grand Finale - 5/10 - It loses a lot of the charm of the first 2 films. Dead of Winter - 5/10 The Friend - 5/10 Him - 5/10 Somnium - 5/10 Hard Truths - 5/10 Borderline - 5.7 - Full disclosure: I saw this in a theater but left about halfway because I saw a big ass rat crawling through the aisle (2nd time I've ever seen one in a theater. Other time was in 2019 for The Best of Enemies). That's gonna be a no from me, dawg. Finished the rest at home. All that being said, Samara Weaving is good but she can only do so much to carry a weak story. Hunting Daze - 5/10 The Chronology of Water- 5/10 - A completely incomprehensible first-45-minutes (by design I guess?), but Imogen poots puts in one of the most daring & brave performances in a while. A huge huge swing by Kristen Stewart for a directorial debut. Sometimes it hits, sometimes it misses hard. www.rachelormont.com - 5/10 - This movie is fucking disgusting. I'm pretty sure real-life misdemeanors/felonies were actually committed during the filming (seriously). But it's just weird and funny enough (especially during the meta, audience-speaking portion) to keep you locked in. A wild ride that I wouldn't take again but that I'm happy to have taken off of the bucket list. Honey, Don't! - 5/10 - "My left or your left?", "We're facing the same way" is one of the year's best exchanges, and there's a few of those gems, but ultimately this is one of the most disjointed movies involving A-list talent I've ever seen (looking at you, Amsterdam). Too much going on, some really awful performances (Charlie Day, Aubrey Plaza, Chris Evans). Only Margaret Qualley showed up. She rocks. Swiped - 5/10 - We have The Social Network at home. Bone Lake - 5/10 Black Phone 2 - 5/10 - There should be a law capping Blumhouse horrors at 95 minutes. Big drop-off from the first one. Madelaine McGraw was fantastic though. The Woman in the Yard - 5/10 Seven Veils - 5/10 M3gan 2.0 - 5/10 - I've gotta admit that there's a lot of really solid & memorable one-liners in here, but this movie really needed an R-rating and 25 minutes less of runtime. Fuze - 5/10 Now You See Me Now You Don't - 5/10 The Running Man - 5/10 - Edgar no :( Ella McCay - 5/10 - There's some truly baffling stuff going on in this movie (30-year old Ema MacKey unconvincingly playing a 15-year old for a part of the movie being one of them), but I love James L. Brooks too much to give it a lower score. #EllaMcCayChallenge Sketch - 5/10 The Well - 5/10 Queens of the Dead - 5/10 Unmoored - 5/10 Last Breath - 5/10 Mr. Blake at Your Service! - 5/10 Hedda - 5/10 - Aside from the solid costume and set design (and a few moments when I was reminded of Babylon), this was a pretty nothing-movie with a confusing plot and extremely unlikeable characters. The Virgin of Quarry Lake - 5/10 - Visually striking but much too slow. Mr. Melvin - 5/10 Armand - 5/10 The Bearded Girl - 5//10 Karate Kid: Legends - 5/10 Test Screening - 5/10 Sounds of Glass (Short Film) - 5/10 Invention - 5/10 The Penguin Lessons - 5/10 Another Simple Favor - 4/10 - This might be the most overcooked script of the year. There's just so much going on, you can't keep track of any character motivations, and it just throws in twists for the sake of twists. The original was fine, this was not good. Good Boy - 4/10 Hacked: A Double Entendre of Rage Fueled Karma - 4/10 Hot Milk - 4/10 - There's something good hidden in here, but it's irritating as hell. The Room Next Door - 4/10 - All of the bad of Almadovar (clunky dialogue, overly-melodramatic, etc), with none of the good. Boring as well Sister Midnight - 4/10 The Devil’s Bride - 4/10 After the Hunt- 4/10 - ??????????????? Snow White - 4/10 - I think Rachel Zegler is great. Whenever she wasn't on screen, I didn't care. Disney live-action remakes have to start caring a lot more about what they're putting out there. The returns are diminishing big time. Of Dogs and Men - 4/10 Shelby Oaks - 4/10 Nobody 2 - 4/10 - I never want to see Sharon Stone in anything ever again. Take the Oscar nomination away. Wish You Were Here - 4//10 The Baltimorons - 4/10 Die My Love - 4/10 - Shoutout to John Prine. The Carpenter's Son - 4/10 Dust Bunny - 4/10 The Rule of Jenny Penn - 4/10 - Painfully repetitive. Enough lens-flare-induced-blindness to probably qualify for a class action lawsuit. Flight Risk - 4/10 Anniversary - 4/10 - About as subtle as brick to the temple. Jesus christ. Ash - 4/10 Reflection in a Dead Diamond - 4/10 - Zzz... Apostasy Blues - 4/10 The Christophers - 4/10 - A very rare Soderbergh L. Such a bore. Did not help that I couldn't understand a single word Ian McKellen was saying and that Michaela Coel was horribly miscast. The G - 4/10 Rosemead - 4/10 Teacher's Pet - 4/10 - Coming to a Tubi near you soon. Ex-Husbands - 4/10 The Unholy Trinity - 4/10 - Bland RedBox (RIP) fodder. Samuel L. Jackson surprisingly cares so that kept it from a rock-bottom score. Away with the Fairies (Short Film) - 4/10 Atom & Void (Short Film) - 4/10 Eastern Western - 3/10 Cujo (Re-Release) - 3/10 - Had not seen it before, and I can still tell you it hasn't aged well. Awful. High Rollers - 3/10 Auction - 3/10 - There aren't many things in life more pretentious than art-related French films. The Thing With Feathers - 3/10 - Man this was a rough watch. The Home - 3/10 Thank You, Places! - 3/10 - A valiant effort by a local theater group to shoot & produce a movie during the height of COVID but I could've seen anything else and been more entertained. One Big Happy Family - 3/10 Homebound - 3/10 Good American Family (TV Series) - 3/10 The Story of Three Sisters (Short Film) - 3/10 First Rites (Short Film) - 3/10 Love Hurts - 2/10 - If I had a gun with two bullets and I was in a room with Hitler, Bin Laden, and Love Hurts, I would shoot Love Hurts twice. Kiss of the Spider Woman - 2/10 - I really enjoyed the 12-minute sequence of Diego Luna graphically and aggressively shitting himself (3 feet away from a toilet for some reason by the way?) while the lead character wipes it all up, that was super cool and cinematic and necessary. This movie was hot ass, in more ways than one. Extremely overhyped out of Sundance, there's one every year. Deserved flop. One of the few times a year I walk out of a movie theater angry. Nobody Wants to Shoot a Woman - 2/10 - Amateur hour. The worst Goodfellas rip-off you've ever seen. If you told me this was originally a Youtube short from 2008, I would believe you. The Verdict - 1/10 - The filmmakers should honestly be ashamed for submitting and screening this unfinished soap-opera-masquerading-as-a-film. The festival progammers should be ashamed for programming it and charging people for it. I should be ashamed for staying the entire 100 minutes. Shame all around, really. Nobody wins here. It’s like if a group of blind preschoolers decided to remake Anatomy of a Fall. Five Nights at Freddy's 2 - 0/10 - I thought Netflix’s truly-apocalyptical purchase of Warner Bros was the worst thing to happen to theatrical moviegoing in a hundred years, but then I saw Five Nights at Freddy’s 2. 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I am NOT OP. Original post by u/TechnicalHousing97 AITAH for telling my wife that I will lose respect for her if she doesn't apologize? Originally posted in r/AITAH TRIGGER WARNING: Psychological child abuse Original Post: December 7th, 2025 My wife and I have three kids. Thursday my wife was helping our nine year old with her homework. She was supposed to fill in a chart with the times tables. That was a hectic day. Our four year old threw up, and I was trying to clean him up, and my wife was having trouble getting our nine year old to focus on what she was doing because she kept looking at me. Our nine year old hates math and is pretty bad at it, which annoys my wife who is usually fantastic at math. My wife asked our daughter was seven times seven was. Our daughter said she didn't know. My wife kept telling her to try to think of any answer. She kept saying she didn't know. My wife was getting frustrated. Our daughter finally guessed 37. My wife said "close, 47." Our thirteen year old then said "no mom, it's 49." My wife snapped at that point and told him to shut up and go upstairs. He went into the backyard instead. She took a deep breath and then went into our room. I finished with our four year old and then went outside. I tried to talk to him, but he didn't want to listen. He kept saying "but dad, seven times seven is 49." I told him his mom just got frustrated and didn't mean to yell at him. He kept insisting that seven times seven in 49 (which I am aware of), so I got nowhere. I went back inside to talk to my wife. She said she knew she shouldn't have yelled. She said she was frustrated because he was distracting her, and that's why she made the mistake. I pointed out that she made the mistake before he said anything. She started crying and asked why I was being so critical. I apologized and told her I loved her. We hugged it out, but then I asked her if she was going to go and apologize to our 13 year old. She said no, because he shouldn't have interrupted her. She said he was rude and needed to learn not to interrupt. I told her it's not okay to tell him to shut up. We went back and forth, and finally I said I won't be able to respect her as much if she doesn't apologize. That really hurt her. She said she needed space. She hasn't said a word to me or him since Thursday. I know that what I said is harsh, but I can't respect someone who won't apologize when they make a mistake. Am I the asshole? My sister says I am because I'm not being supportive and our 13yo is "a lot." Update: My wife got up before our alarm and started cleaning our bathroom. I started the laundry and made breakfast. She didn't say a word when she sat down to eat. She ate much faster than normal. She stood up, picked up our four year old and told our nine year old to get ready because they were going to the library. She didn't say anything to our thirteen year old. I told her we need to talk, and she shook her head. I followed her upstairs and insisted that we need to talk. She just kept shaking her head. She went into our four year old's room and locked the door. I went downstairs and told our thirteen and nine year old that we are going to the dog park. They both asked if Mom was okay, and I said yes and that she needed space. I grabbed some clothes for our nine year old from the laundry room, and she got changed in the downstairs bathroom. We are at the dog park, and my wife is refusing to answer my texts. I'm starting to think this isn't about math. Result: r/AITAH doesn't have a consensus bot, but most redditors agree that OOP is NTA and that his wife needs to apologize to her son for snapping at him. Relevant comments: Redditor 1: She hasn’t spoken to her son in three days and she was in the wrong? Ouch Redditor 2: How can she ever expect your son to learn how to apologize for making a mistake and hurting someone if she doesn't lead by example? Redditor 3 in response to Redditor 2: Maybe OP's wife is one of those people that literally never apologizes. It's always justification, and the blame game, and then "oh it doesn't matter". That's the vibe I'm getting. Redditor 3: NTA- and the silent treatment- especially to a child- can be a form of abuse. At a minimum she needs some help to sort out her feelings because she’s taking them out on her family. Redditor 4: Your wife made it a bigger deal than it needed to be. A quick, “hey buddy, sorry for snapping at you; I was frustrated and distracted, but thanks for helping with your sister.” would have gone a long way to smoothing over the situation. When our kids were younger my wife refused to ever apologize to them. She saw apologizing as a way of losing “authority”. Me, I always apologized when I lost my temper, raised, my voice, etc. It lead to a really strong relationship with my kids. My wife, seeing this evolution, recently started apologizing when she screws up with them, and it’s made a world of difference in their relationships. It doesn’t matter if your 13 year is “a lot”, he’s a person who deserves respect. Something his mom should show him. Also, you should point out to your sister you’re supporting the person who was treated incorrectly: your son. Update: December 8, 2025 Link to my original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1pg8ss5/aitah_for_telling_my_wife_that_i_will_lose/ TLDR for those who don't want to click: My wife and I were having a crazy week last week. Thursday she was helping our daughter with her math homework while frustrated and overwhelmed. She gave our daughter the wrong answer to a question. Our son corrected her. She screamed at him to shut up. Afterwards I wanted her to apologize. She refused, and I said that would make me respect her less. She gave both me and our son the silent treatment in response. Update: Yesterday (Sunday) my wife wanted to take the two younger children to the library. I tried to talk to her, but she locked herself in our four year old's room. I took our older two children to the dog park. She took our four year old to the library. At the dog park I talked to our 13 year old. I explained to him that a lot was going on right now and his mother was overwhelmed. I said that sometimes when a person is overwhelmed the next thing that happens, good, bad, or neutral, is the thing that pushes them over, and the source of that thing, good, bad or neutral is what they lash out at. I said his mom was wrong to lash out at him, but it wasn't his fault and she didn't really mean it. I said she was embarrassed, and that was why she was avoiding him. He said that wasn't fair, and we kept going back and forth. I was trying to help him understand he didn't do anything wrong and shouldn't feel bad, but all he could focus on was that he was being treated unfairly. I told him that it was unfair, but that his mom isn't perfect, and everyone makes mistakes. I said sometimes he is unfair, but we forgive him because we love him. I said forgiving his mom, even though she is wrong, would be a nice way to show his love for her, but that he doesn't have to. Again, he just said that the situation was unfair. Which it is. It really is. After the dog park I took our 13yo to a friend's house and our 9yo a friend of mine's house. I went home and made dinner. However, my wife went out for dinner with our 4yo, so she didn't get home until after I had put everything away. I told her that we had to talk now that the older kids aren't here, and that not talking wasn't an option anymore. She still ignored me, so I said that if she wouldn't engage with me, I would have to call our sisters and get them to come over to help me. She got very angry, but she finally engaged. She told me that she is drowning. She said work is exhausting, and every day when she gets home her patience is already below zero. She is scared and upset by our 4yo's stomach issues. She said he threw up again at dinner (she really shouldn't have taken him out to eat, because we are supposed to keep track of everything he eats before throwing up or not throwing up before the appointment today, which is impossible to do at a restaurant, but I didn't mention that). She said she can't take our 13yo's behavior anymore. I said he didn't do anything wrong Thursday. She said that when we were that age if we interrupted our parents to tell them they were wrong we would have been punished severely. She said we raised a spoiled entitled child. She said she can never get any peace and quiet in our own home that we worked hard to pay for because we have a spoiled teen that refuses to ever stop talking or making noise. I said we have been working on those behaviors and he has been improving, but she lashed out when he was trying to be helpful and that sends the wrong message. She told me that I am not supporting her. She said she needs things to change. She said we need to crack down and stop being so lenient. If he plays the recorder after we've told him he's done for the night, we need to take it. If he interrupts, he needs to go straight to his room. If he argues about curfew, he needs to lose privileges. I told her we need to take a step back. I said if she is overwhelmed she needs to take a break. I told her this heightened emotional state is a bad time to make huge household changes. I suggested like many commenters did that she get a hotel for a few days and decompress. She said she's not the problem (I didn't say she was) and he is. She said he was bad from the beginning. She said when our daughter didn't have all his issues she thought it was because she is a girl, but our 4yo is a boy and is also better behaved, so he is the problem. She also said I've always seen it and used to admit it but stopped to make her look crazy. For context I used to joke that our 13yo is a changeling because he likes to be outside so much, loves animals and loves playing on his recorder. I want to stress that this was a joke. The reason I stopped making this joke is because I noticed my wife didn't find it funny anymore. This was years ago anyway. I said all that, and she said no, that I saw even then that he is wrong but stopped acknowledging it to make her feel like the problem. She also said she has been seeing an online therapist (I had no idea). She said she didn't tell me because she was embarrassed. Her therapist told her that our son has dangerous tendencies and shows signs of being contemptuous towards women because he doesn't respect his mother. I had no idea how to respond to that. I said any therapist who would say something like that about a child they've never met shouldn't be licensed, and if it's an online therapist for all she knows they aren't. At the end of our conversation she agreed to go to the hotel only if she took our 4yo with her because she wanted to be the one to take him to his medical appointment. I didn't think that was a good idea at all. However she ended up just taking him and going. I picked up the kids and brought them home. They sense that something is wrong and were very subdued this morning getting ready for school. I talked to my boss when I came in and he is going to let me leave early to go to our 4yo's medical appointment. I am not sure what will happen there. I am hoping it will be good news and that will make us all feel less on edge. Relevant comments: Redditor 1: You've correctly flagged that the online therapist is a quack. My recommendation is to ask if you can join a session to evaluate them yourself, and also get their info so you can look them up. If the therapist brings up negative points about your kid, deconstruct those in front of your wife. Your wife needs real help. She's displaying extreme anger towards your son that is clearly deep rooted. She does need a break, so try and organize that for her and your son. Maybe have all the kids out of the house for a while once the four year old's gastro passes. And then reassess. Every parent goes through periods of depression, but the extreme nature is not healthy and can't continue. Your wife clearly doesn't have the coping skills to deal with this, and needs better tools. Good luck. Redditor 2 in response to Redditor 1 I'm kind of wondering if this online therapist is actually an AI program. That would explain why they would agree that her son is so "bad" even though he's just a kid doing normal kid stuff. Redditor 3 NTA. If your wife is locking herself in your child's room, screaming at the kids to shut up, is this malicious towards your teenage child, and refusing to talk, this is a much bigger issue. At a minimum counseling will be necessary. There may be some other mental health issues at play too. OP, be prepared to defend your teenage child when things REALLY hit the fan with the wife. That day is coming soon. Redditor 4 Your wife should not be left alone with your children right now. Your wife should not be left alone right now. Can you get any family to help you? Maybe there's someone who can help you get through to your wife? OOP's response to Redditor 4 That's a double-edged sword. The thing my wife is most sensitive to is public embarrassment. Once I cross the line of involving other people, she might not be able to forgive me. I spoke to my sister initially, and my sister actually sided with my wife. My wife doesn't know I spoke with her. If I call my sister to come over and my wife finds out and my sister still sides with her I'll have two people angry with me. As for her sister, that's a while other complicated situation... My sister's wife loves the kids, but involving her has the same pitfalls as involving my sister with the addition of my sister being angry at me for contacting her wife directly instead of her. OOP's response to a deleted comment: So here's my mindset: Our son is a normal teenager. There are no perfect 11/10 13 year olds out there. Sometimes he is really annoying. However, like all good parents, we have been working on reinforcing boundaries and setting expectations and it has been yielding results. The interrupting and arguing have gone down. Have they disappeared? No. But they have improved. However, if we yell at him when he isn't misbehaving, all of our efforts to set boundaries will go out the window, because he'll have seen he gets yelled at even when being good, so why not be bad? Let's say though, for the sake of argument, that I'm lying (I'm not, but let's say that). Let's say he's a terror. Yelling at him when he's trying to be helpful won't make that better. It will make it worse. Those are the behaviors we should be encouraging. I'm not a hypocrite. I have raised my voice with him in the past. We were driving, I was trying to focus on finding an exit and he kept wanting to talk about the domestication of horses. I really needed to find this exit. I told him to wait. He stopped for a second and then started again. So I yelled at him to be quiet until I found the exit. Once I found the exit I apologized for yelling. I'm just asking my wife to meet that same standard we've always had in place. We should be examples to our children. If we make mistakes we should apologize, even when they are being annoying. Otherwise, they will treat other people (including us) with the same disregard we treat them. Relevant post in another subreddit: Originally posted to r/medical_advice and r/neurodiversity Should I have my child reevaluated?: December 9th, 2025 When my 13 year old was in the first grade his teacher suggested we have him evaluated for autism, which was done through the school. The psychologist who evaluated him said that he did not have autism or any other neurological condition. She said that while he did have some traits associated with autism, he didn't meet the diagnostic criteria, and that none of the traits he exhibited interfered with his ability to function as necessary in his day to day life. Recently I made a post that mentioned my son and droves of commenters demanded he be reevaluated. They cited as evidence something called "justice sensitivity", his love for music, animals and the outdoors, his habit of interrupting and his habit of constantly talking. I mentioned that he had been evaluated and the psychologist had said he isn't autistic, but I was told sometimes teens are easier to diagnose. I don't think he is autistic, mainly because a specialist said he isn't, but I also have other reasons. He understands sarcasm perfectly well and has no trouble identifying emotions from facial expressions and tone. He has a lot of friends and is good at interacting with people, even strangers. He is not sensitive to stressful stimuli like loud noises or unpleasant textures. He is not obsessed with routine. The commenters are convinced my son is autistic, so I thought I would come to a subreddit more specific to that issue for a different take. The thing is, I don't want to have my son reevaluated. I think he would interpret that as me saying there is something wrong with him, which there isn't. He's a very normal teenage boy. If he was autistic I would want him diagnosed, but I really don't think he is. I appreciate any insight anyone is willing to share. Result: Most redditors were quick to luck up OOP's post history and recommended that his wife is the one who should be evaluated and that even if his son is on the spectrum, there is nothing "wrong" with him and that he just learns differently and has different needs Update in a different subreddit: Originally posted in r/ relationships, deleted by a mod and recovered via rareddit. How do I(38) convince my wife(39) not to quit her job?: December 10, 2025 I don't know if our relationship will make it if she goes through with this. Sunday night my wife went to stay at a hotel with our four year old to get a break after she lashed out at our 13 year old. She said work was draining all her patience and she was stressed about the kids. On Monday I retrieved our four year old from the doctor's and she stayed at the hotel alone Monday and Tuesday night. My wife just called me and said she was coming home today. She said she would pick the kids up from school and we could cancel their after school care and daycare because she quit her job. I begged her not to quit her job. She said after taking some time to decompress she realized her job was causing her too much stress and making her lash out at the kids. She said we will save money by not paying for childcare, and if we tighten the belt we can weather the loss of her income. I never signed up to be a sole provider. We always agreed we would be a dual income household. I don't want her taking care of the kids on her own after the way she lashed out at our teenager. We have three kids, and she has made questionable decisions regarding each this past week. I begged her to talk to her boss and work something out and not quit. She said it's her decision. I can't handle this. If I have to be the sole income provider while also being afraid that she's fighting with the kids while I'm at work, I will break. How do I convince her not to do this? TL;DR: My wife is struggling and quit her job. I need her to not quit her job. How do I work something out that will convince her to stay? Relevant Comments: OOP goes into detail about his wife's situation at work: Co-workers, clients and boss. Co-workers are being lazy and doing their jobs incorrectly while giving bad information to clients. Clients are relying on my wife even though she is not supposed to be communicating to clients. That is specifically someone else's job. That person has annoyed the clients to the extent they keep requesting to be transferred to my wife, which the person agrees to do, which interrupts my wife's work. When she complains to her boss he says they are all a team and asks her to be a team player. OOP also considers to contact his wife's boss: I'm thinking about calling her boss to explain my wife has been going through a rough mental health patch and asking him to work with us. Do you think that would help at all or just make things worse? Her position is fairly critical. He might be willing to go out on a limb to keep her. The consensus in the comments is that this would only make the situation worse. Another update in a different sub: Originally posted to r/offmychest My wife lied to me, and I don't know who she is anymore: December 11, 2025 I should probably stop posting online. It's, in all likelihood, an unhealthy coping mechanism. The thing is, this has become the only place I can speak freely. In my real life I have to be so careful with every word I say. I just need to say one more thing, to get this off my chest and then be done. It wasn't always like this. Most of this story is a romance. I met my wife in college. I liked her immediately. She was beautiful, of course. She was funny and smart, naturally. The thing that made me attracted to her, that made we want her, was that she was sharp. I have always loved sharpness in women. I was sharp myself back then. We sharpened each other. We were the couple that sat in the back of every room, with our noses turned up, judging everyone, whispering comments just loud enough to be heard and just cutting enough to hurt. We thought we were so smart and sophisticated. Our tastes were the most refined, and we didn't think anything was uglier than a rounded edge. When I first asked her out she told me we wouldn't work because her father wouldn't approve. I didn't care about her father. I cared about her. The more time we spent together the more I loved her. Her father's first words to me, even before hello, were that I wasn't good enough for his daughter. He refused to come to our wedding, but the day after he gave my wife 20k for a down payment because no daughter of his was going to be a renter. I never liked him, but I was amused by him. I thought of him as my wife and I's private joke. He was so ineffectual against our love. When he saw our first baby he said "he looks like his father" and I was such a puffed up peacock, high on my own virility. I was too proud of my strong seed, my overpowering genes, to see that for what it was, a condemnation. When I held my firstborn for the first time, the world felt different. I felt different. I felt silly and immature. I began to understand the utility of the rounded edge. I saw how unimportant my high-minded philosophy was. Babies don't care how clever you are. They eat, cry and poop, and they are the most important thing you'll ever do. I softened up. I began to understand my parents. I always adored my mother, while also look down on her. Her politics were boring, her philosophy uninspired, her religion sentimental. When I held my baby I understood my mother like I never had before. She was soft, not sharp, and that was what my child needed from me, a soft place to land, not a razor's edge. We managed to adjust to every change in our lives. We always found our equilibrium. About a year ago that slipped away. Our toddler was struggling with potty training, and he had the occasional bad bout of diarrhea. Our daughter began to dip below average at school. Our oldest became the worst thing a person can be, annoying. We, who had once prided ourselves in our cleverness, were being outsmarted by a pedantic twelve year old. "You didn't say I could only spent $20. You said I couldn't buy anything over $20. Each of these twenty things are $5," type nonsense. It was the grandparent's revenge, right? Oh, that's the kind of little asshole I used to be. I see why some people hated me. But he's a good kid. He doesn't steal, hit, curse or lie. He argued, he talked too much and he complained, but isn't that all a symptom of cleverness? He was too much like us. However he was also nothing like us, this child we created, but isn't that good? Don't we want our children to be individuals? Yes, the arguing and interrupting had to be curbed, but we worked on it. He improved. He started to mature. Life was a struggle, but he wasn't the struggle. This parenting thing is hard. My wife cracked. It happens. We've all been there. Our son corrected a mistake she made, and she was embarrassed. She screamed at him to shut up. I asked her to apologize, because he didn't deserve that. She shut down. She told me that she was overwhelmed. I get it. I'm overwhelmed too. I think I've been overwhelmed for a long time and just refused to acknowledge it. I told her to take a break. She took a break. My wife, who I have always trusted, lied to me. She said she quit her job. That was a lie. She did not quit. She was suspended, and she will likely be fired on Friday or possibly next week. She has been telling me all year that her coworkers are incompetent and she is the only one doing her job correctly. In actuality, she has been in a performance improvement plan for months. Why was she suspended? She was telling a coworker that he needed to finish something by the end of the month to keep them on track for a February third deadline. He interrupted her to tell her the deadline was March second. She screamed at him to shut up and not interrupt her. She did the same thing to her coworker she did to our son. The only difference is our household doesn't have an HR department. She lied to me. Is that what I should be hung up on? Probably not. Here's what's killing me. Here's what I can't say in real life, to anyone, so I'll tell you. I always thought she was sharp, and I loved that. I thought I was so sophisticated for recognizing her elegance and worth. I felt special for loving her. But maybe she isn't sharp. Maybe she's just thin-skinned and irritable. Yeah, she lied to me, but maybe I lied to myself first. Relevant comments OOP on how he found out the truth: I was shocked when I found out the truth. One of her coworkers is dating an acquaintance of mine and got my number that way just to call me because she was so worried. Everything my wife told me about work was a misrepresentation. My wife told me she was frequently being forced to talk to clients even though that isn't her job. It turns out everyone is supposed to talk to clients that have questions about their part of the project. The person my wife claimed was supposed to talk to clients is just the one that answers calls and directs them to the appropriate person. Sometimes that appropriate person is my wife. My wife was frequently lecturing the person who answered the phone and telling them to find the information in the project documents and talk to the clients instead of bothering my wife. That's why she was on a performance improve plan. A small update from OOP in the comments regarding how his wife is doing: She's actually at my sister's. When I found out she lied to me we had a huge fight. She left to go to my sister's while the kids were sleeping. I had a few too many beers and wrote the above crazy post. So yeah, the kids are with me and she's with my sister. My sister's wife texted me to give my wife space because she's not in a good place, which I find to be a huge understatement. And another small update from OOP regarding the therapist: It turns out my wife's therapist is a real therapist. I found out which therapist she is seeing. The therapist is online and based in a different city, but she is licensed in our state. She has mixed reviews. Some of her patients thinks she is great. Some think she is horrible. I found one review that said "she's crazier than me." But she is real. Redditor 1's response to OOP Then please report this therapist to the board immediately! Not only is what she said about your son extremely inappropriate and unethical but she's also acting against her license with that behavior. There are better providers, your wife has just found a horrible and dangerous one. OOP's response to Redditor 1 As many people pointed out, I don't have proof of anything she actually said, only what my wife said she said. OOP also talks about his wife's racial background and relationship with her family: I'm not mixed race. My wife is mixed race. And our kids are mixed race. Me, I'm the boring one. But my wife's dad was mad she didn't marry a person of his race, something he also didn't do, but that's okay because he's a man and can marry a woman who isn't his race, but if his daughters do it, that's bad. So since my wife's sister married a guy of their dad's race, she feels like she's better than my wife, even though their dad also hates her husband because he's super religious, and my wife's dad hates that. I see the iceberg. I'm just trying not to steer into a different, even bigger iceberg. OOP as response to another comment: My wife's sister doesn't like our kids because she's mad my wife married me and had mixed kids. She is insane for thinking this because she and my wife are also mixed but that's a different situation. OOP about what he did with his sun after this all went down: I did, after dinner when the younger kids were in bed. We went on a nighttime walk together (the thing we always tell him no, he can't do) and talked. I told him I shouldn't make excuses for his mom being mean to him. He asked when his mom was going to go back to normal. I told him I honestly don't know. I said she's struggling right now, but that it isn't his fault. He asked what she was struggling with, and I said stress. He said his mom was too cool to get stressed. I said anyone can get stressed, even cool people. He said he thought his mom just didn't like him anymore, because he's not cool like she is. I said he is cool and that I love him. I don't know if that helped at all, but I tried. Most recent update on r/Redditor_Updates due to r/AITAH's update limitation: Update: My wife finally apologized, but I already lost some of my respect for her.: December 16, 2025 I'm still getting notifications asking questions about certain things, so here's an update to clear everything up. TL;DR: Our 13yo corrected my wife when she got a math problem wrong. My wife screamed at him to shut up. I asked her to apologize, and she didn't talk to either of us for three days. At that point I demanded she talk to me, and we had a fight where she blamed our 13yo for everything. She took our four year old and went to stay at a hotel last Sunday night. I retrieved our four year old at his doctor's appointment the next day. She stayed at the hotel alone Monday & Tuesday night. Wednesday she told me she quit her job. She did not quit her job. A concerned coworker of hers reached out and revealed the truth. She was suspended for yelling at a coworker to shut up. She picked the kids up from school + daycare Wednesday. After they were asleep I confronted her. We fought, and she went to stay with my sister. With my sister's influence, she called her boss and managed to work out a compromise where she won't be fired and can have some mental health leave. She didn't see the kids all weekend, even when my sister picked them up Sunday to take them to a party. She is back home now. So here's where the update starts. Update: I had our 13yo evaluated by a child psychologist like so many redditors suggested. If you learn anything from my experience, learn not to take medical advice from reddit. Our son is not autistic and does not have ADD. The psychologist said the only thing he comes close to meeting the diagnostic criteria for is anxiety, but based on their discussion and the paperwork I filled out, she's confident those symptoms come from external stressors, not an anxiety disorder. My wife came home after work, and when our son arrived home from his friend's house, she did apologize to him. He forgave her, and they hugged it out, but it was an awkward interaction. Afterwards he want outside to play with his new harmonica. My daughter doesn't have a learning disability. I talked to her teacher. Her math skills are average for her age group according to the teacher. The teacher suggested that if she is struggling to do the math work at home it is because she feels pressured. I ended up telling her that she can do the work in whatever timeframe she wants, and she can have her brother check it for her, so neither her mother nor I will know if she made a mistake. She seems happy with this new arrangement. I think my wife and I were too critical in our eagerness to encourage her to work hard and do well, and I accept culpability for that. Our four year old is allergic to soy. Since I stopped feeding him anything with soy in it he hasn't vomited once. He will soon be reintroduced to soy in very small doses to acclimate him. He is doing much better, and this has relieved a huge source of stress. As for my wife, as I said, she apologized to our son. She said talking to my sister helped a lot. She told me the reason she has been so overwhelmed and she lashed out was the realization that we aren't going to have another kid and the three we have are it. She said she is worried that our kids are spoiled and soft. She said she wants our kids to bypass their peers, and she doesn't see that happening right now because they are too undisciplined and unmotivated. She said sone of her dad's parenting might be what they need. I told her I would never be okay with that, and that would be a deal breaker for me. I also told her I don't see how anxiety about the kids caused her to lash out at work. I said that I think she is frustrated by the fact that she can't control people. She said that's unfair, and I apologized but also said I think that an issue similar to what I said is the likely culprit. We agreed to a compromise where she tries to relax until she leaves for her trip with my sister. If she feels she is getting stressed out, she will leave for as long as needed. We will talk about parenting strategies again after she gets back. I have hired a lawyer and didn't tell her. If she again tries to insist that we go full authoritarian on the kids I will raise the possibility of divorce. I love my wife, but I owe it to my kids to put them first. THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP's OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7 submitted by /u/FlagpoleSitta87 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/HypocriteFamily6612 Originally posted to r/AITAH Previous BoRUs: #1 [New Update]: WIBTA for telling my family they can take my brother in in if they think family should help family? NEW UPDATE MARKED WITH ---- Trigger Warnings: manipulation, possible favoritism, stalking / harassment Mood Spoilers: schadenfreude Original Post: September 6, 2025 Not going into minutia. People hate it when I talk too much. Can’t be different written. Me: 37M. It’s me. Husband: 36M. Accountant. Love him to bits. Son: 13M. Student. Average kid who doesn’t like my brother. I’m Trying to learn anime for him. It’s an uphill battle. Brother: 32M. Not a member of the household. I want it to stay that way. Situation: My brother got kicked out of my would-be SIL’s house. Reason? You don’t talk shit to your buddies about a scary lawyer and expect her to never find out. The Ask: Family wants me to take him in since we have an extra bedroom. We usually use it for my parents when they visit. Plus our house is big. The Problem: You give Brother anything? You might as well say goodbye to it forever. Toys, clothes, money, you name it. You’re only seeing it again if you sneak into his room and take it. The Fear: The second he steps in, the only way he leaves is if I chase him out with the metal bat I found in the basement when I moved here. He doesn’t have a job. I don’t want another kid to take care of. One is quite enough, thank you very much. Also every conversation he has with my son becomes an intervention. We said no. He is not getting a foot in. The bigger problem: Family says we should help my brother because he’s family and family should help family. We are saying no still. They have not stopped. Question: WIBTAH for sending family messages of “You think family should help family? I think that’s a great idea, you should do it!” And only ever saying that when they try to bring it up? Edit: Holy Johnson this blew up. I talked to my husband and we wrote a modified version and sent that out on mass blast. Will update y’all in a week or possibly later with the outcome. AITAH has no consensus bot, OOP was NTA Relevant Comments Commenter 1: Dude’s burnt his bridges and now he gotta face the music. Fam's there for support. Stick to ya guns. You got a kid and a home to look after. If other family's so hellbent on helping, they can step tf up. Bet they'll turn a 180 real quick. Don't let em guilt trip ya, you clearly got your priorities straight. OOP: Think it’ll burn bridges for me too? Commenter 2: Do you care 🤔 OOP: Kind of. I still love my family as they were the village that raised me and my brother and sister. But I really don’t want to ruin my household’s way of life or let him in just for appeasement. Baseball bat is on standby. Commenter 3: NTA: you have zero obligation to mother people’s bad decisions. He’s a grown ass man and if he hasn’t learned to overcome adversity at his age, this is the perfect opportunity for a crash course. He cannot stay in your house. It would ruin whatever peace at home you have. The definition of “family” to the people you’ve posted about is co-dependent and unhealthy. OOP: It’s what I’m worried about too. I can’t live with someone who hates who my son. Protecting my peace from parasites comes first. Just worried I may set off a serious Drama-bomb. Commenter 4: Whoaaa hates your son? That's enough right there. OOP: Hearing you guys made me think about it more. Why else would my bro have these “conversations” trying to change who my son is if my bro actually loved his nephew? Commenter 5: You have an early teen child in the house. Your brother is NOT the sort of daily influence and example you want in your home. Protect him and keep saying nope. OOP: I can’t subject him to that. It would be exhausting if I had to have an intervention every single day. Commenter 6: No your not, why are you the first port of call and not anyone else? OOP: I have the biggest house. I think everyone is assuming I am the best fit. Commenter 6: Would he be desperate enough to break in? OOP: I sure hope not. I don’t think his bones would survive a very fit regular-exercising man with a metal baseball bat.   Update: September 13, 2025 (one week later) Update: WIBTA for telling family they can take my brother in in if they think family should help family? Edit: First part here - https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/2RaLXGOUjd Preliminary Address: Thank you for your time and advice Reddit. Your advice and care for my son has been so lovely. Be ye genuine, or be ye spectators awaiting the next chapter in an entertaining story, I appreciated it. Didn’t tell husband and son. The Statement: Husband helped me write this in a professional-ish way and contacted Joe’s Nighthawk Ex who is a lawyer. Nighthawk hasn’t officially taken a case, but we thought she would be able to help us write a serious-sounding letter by giving pointers and revising to add gravitas. For the sake of readability, I will give people fake names. I will use “Smith” for a fake family surname and “Joe” for my brother. Just for readability. Lower your pitchforks, for I am not going to subject all of you to the same letter we sent to our family group chat. But I will share the ending. “If anyone feels strongly that Joe needs a place, our door is not the one to knock on, but yours absolutely could be. We fully support anyone in the family opening their home to him and showing how family support is done. We love you all, but we’re not sacrificing our home’s stability to prove our loyalty. That is our final word on the matter With Love and Boundaries, OP and Family” If anyone wants the full letter, request it in the comments. I feel like I’m already pushing it with post length. The Aftereffects: The communications assault ceased after 2 days of us turning it against them. No one has threatened to burn bridges or exclude us from family events. They tried to use the “Bad Family” card, but we just played it back at them, accusing THEM of being bad family. I underestimated how much people can just spam it. The Secondary Incident: We may have dodged a big bullet. I really don’t like going on too long, but I don’t know how to make this shorter without making it blander than unseasoned, un-buttered rice. Before this, we talked to the police and thanks to my hubbie’s connections, they knew the situation in the event Joe broke in and tried to claim residency. We made it clear: Joe is not a resident in any capacity, and we don’t want him in the house unless we invite him. We are on a weekend trip to my in-laws’ place, who are very much just the loving aunties and grandmas. They are non-drama people and respect boundaries. Yesterday, I get a call from my parents, saying Joe got into trouble with the police. Fortunately he was not arrested, and he was not harmed. Apparently, he showed up to our house at night, and he tried to get us to let him in. But no one was around. But he tried harder. Neighbors called the cops because they didn’t know who it was, and thought we were being robbed. Cops showed up, and I don’t know everything, but my Mom told me that the cops told her that he tried to claim residency, but that was false and they knew, and then Joe told the cops he didn’t have a home. The cops told my parents that either they could pick up Joe, or they’d get a shelter and other services involved. Parents ended up having to drive to pick him up late at night, and now Joe is crashing on their couch. Other News: Joe’s ex, Nighthawk (as I called her before on my past post. Bite me, it works) and my Husband are still friends, and says she’s never taking Joe back to her ‘nest’. Joe might’ve lost a lover, but Son didn’t lose an aunt. Son is doing ok. It’s still an uphill battle to understand anime, but he likes the effort I put in. He said he was happy he didn’t have to live with Joe. I didn’t tell him about the concern you all showed for him, but I think that’s fine. Probably safer this way. Conclusion: Family now has to put their money where their mouth is. Joe is fine. Our asses are covered. We’re fine and safe. I’m sorry if this is too long. Tried to make it brief, but I couldn’t. TL;DR - We wrote a formal statement, sent it, covered our asses. After a brief but calm altercation with the police, Joe is now with our parents. Additional Information from OOP, sharing the letter they sent to the Smith Family OOP: I’ll share. “People of the Smith Family. For anyone who hasn’t heard it yet, Mr. Joe Smith asked us for a place to stay after a recent breakup with Ms. Nighthawk. Members of our household have talked it over, and we came to the conclusion that Joe Smith would not make for a suitable tenant in our household.” “We understand some people believe Family should help Family, and we do not completely deny this statement. However, help does not always mean to allowing people to move in for an undefined amount of time. Given past history (which everyone reading this knows about, let’s not pretend otherwise.), the Already Strained relationship between Joe and certain household members, this was already tenuous. We also have a statement from Ms. Nighthawk that Joe never was employed while living with her and their arrangement was financially parasitic in nature. Based on the current state of Mr. Joe Smith’s employment, we believe this will be no different for us. Hosting Mr. Joe Smith would not be healthy for anyone under our roof.” “If anyone feels strongly that Joe needs a place, our door is not the one to knock on, but yours absolutely could be. We fully support anyone in the family opening their home to him and showing how family support is done.” “We love you all, but we’re not sacrificing our home’s stability to prove our loyalty. That is our final word on the matter” Much Love, - OP and Family \—\— The impression we were trying to give off is “We’re so serious we’re talking like officials”. Relevant Comments Commenter 1: Great resolution, well done! Bet you love breathed a sigh of relief! OOP: Yes. We couldn’t have hoped for better. No punched faces, no legal fees. Commenter 2: Bravo for connecting with the police to head off your brothers bullshit claim that he lived there. OOP: Nighthawk’s advice. Came in handy Commenter 3: I have a few questions/issues here: 1) ⁠All he did was talk about a scary lawyer??? Why's that so horrible? 2) ⁠Bro is a male 32.... And ruins and or never returns anything given to him. OP sneaks in to Bro's room to retrieve anything when bro 32 isn't home. Have I got that right?? And they give male 32 toys still? Am missing s'thing.... 3) Why doesn't Bro 32 Male have a job and his own place to live. What's wrong with Bro that prevents him from working & and getting his own place ???? Even with questions, OP, You're NTAH. Ya fam is the AH for demanding you take on this 32 man-child. Stand firm. OOP: 1: The Nighthawk of a woman that my brother dated can be VERY TERRIFYING at times. And my Brother still thought it was a good idea to say insulting things behind her back to his friends. The Nighthawk found out, and it killed the respect she had for him. 2: I stopped giving bro anything after I snuck into his room when I was 14 to get back the gameboy I gave him to “borrow”. I found it with yogurt marks on the screen. NEVER. AGAIN. Ever since I stopped giving him things, I have not needed to steal anything back. 3: He has told me every excuse in the book. From not liking people to not liking the job itself. I think he’s lazy but who knows. But still, thanks anyway. OOP clarifies details on why Joe was kicked out by his ex and why he was breaking into OOP's house OOP: Joe was gossiping with his buddies and saying mean things about Nighthawk behind her back. I saw the texts from the screenshots. I won’t repeat but it was awful. Hence, that killed any trust Nighthawk had in Joe and their relationship. Though the second part about the break in? I don’t think Joe was trying to break in. My mom only told me so much, but apparently Joe’s phone had died, and I think Joe thought someone was home, and thought making enough noise would get attention. We’ll do a sweep of the outside when we get back though. Commenter 4: How did a bad-ass Nighthawk end up with your brother? OOP: I don’t know. Hearts are weird. Opposites attract? I have no idea. Love was love until it died for them. Commenter 5: I want to ask what you are having difficulties with about anime? What anime does your son like? Maybe you can ask him why he likes it ? Maybe you guys can look at videos about storytelling and art direction? OOP: He likes how imaginative it is I think as well as how it looks. I’ll admit, it looks really cool, but I can barely remember plot for shit. Commenter 6: I do find anime has plot while other cartoons might have been one offs. Perhaps you can read some summaries to see what the overall plot line is so you can place where you are in an episode. OOP: Don’t get me wrong, I’m amazed that there are people so creative out there! I probably couldn’t conceive half of these ideas if I didn’t do copious drugs, but I just feel myself unable to keep up sometimes! The closest thing I got to understanding an anime is Jojo’s Bizzare Adventure, and all I got of that was first two parts were people punching with the power of the sun, and after that it’s something about unique spirit things giving special powers. Son says he likes the fights in that because every battle is like a puzzle and when I asked him who the strongest was he said No one and that’s why it’s great. …I barely know shit about the characters and spirit things, so I am taking his word for it.   ----NEW UPDATE---- Update #2: October 18, 2025 (a bit over one month later) AITAH for rubbing it into my parents that their idea was stupid? I don’t think this is an update, but correct me if I’m wrong. Will cross post to the designated sub for it. For those who came late: My brother, Joe, killed all trust in his relationship with his ex, Nighthawk. He got kicked out. After a Cold War and what my neighbors thought might’ve been a break-in attempt, Joe is now living with my parents. Mildly Necessary recent events: Parents don’t like the fact Joe is financially parasitic and doesn’t help out. Parent’s Solution: Get Nighthawk to take him back! There’s a problem. Nighthawk has no respect for Joe. So they wanted to do a grand gesture to ‘Reignite the spark’. My involvement: I told my parents that this idea was awful, and they’d be lucky if Nighthawk didn’t summon the entire flock to hunt their butts down. My husband agreed because he wanted to make sure they knew what they were getting into. Even my son said it best, that it wasn’t a hallmark movie, and that it won’t work out. The problem: My parents did it anyway. I know because Nighthawk called me about my parents and Joe a “party ambush” in the parking lot of where she worked. I’m told she chewed out Joe and my parents. My son delivered this zinger when I talked about it: “I think I would’ve preferred an actual ambush if I was Aunt Nighthawk. Would’ve given me justification to use the brick I would’ve kept in my purse.” I have talked to son about violence, don’t worry. My parents also told me about the incident and how it failed. They called me cruel, saying I should’ve at least tried to help. I did something I regret. I remembered yelling at them about how stupid of an idea it was, that it was never going to work and it was self preservation that lead me to not be an accomplice. I also said they were unhappy with the graves they dug, they should’ve put down the shovel a long time ago. My mom started panicking over the phone and then I hung up. My guilt: I don’t like yelling at people. I don’t like hurting people. Would I whack someone with a metal bat to save my family? Yes. But this isn’t hitting someone with a metal bat. This is emotionally cutting someone. I need judgement. Relevant Comments: Commenter 1: Well, we parents sometimes need to yell at our children to get the point across. You have 3 children there - brother, mom and dad. And you yelled. Take off a few points for doing it in anger, but honestly, it sounds like you're at the end of your rope. NTA. But thank you for an entertaining post, OMG I had fun imagining this "parking lot party"! Were there balloons? Please tell me there were balloons. OOP: I remember Nighthawk mentioned that and a cake. Though she said it was cathartic taking her car keys to the balloons. Commenter 2: You did try to help; you told them it was a bad idea and your husband backed you up. They refused to listen to you, so it's 100% on them. Parents sometimes need to learn lessons, too. NTA in any way (except for possibly being too vague) :) OOP: Thanks. I was trying to keep it brief since I didn’t want to waste too much time. OOP's parents need to grow a spine and tell Joe to leave OOP: I wish my family wasn’t this stupid, but Nighthawk wasn’t the first person they tried to drop Joe on. They tried it with me first. They also tried my sister, but my sister had help from her landlady in shutting down that idea. I don’t think my parents knew the full story, how mean and insulting the stuff Joe said about Nighthawk was.   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

My last post on this project was 8 months ago if that gives you any idea how long this took as a weekend warrior! Overall really happy with the end result, but more importantly the wife is thrilled. Was my first project of this size. Definitely made some mistakes along the way and generally just figured a lot of things out as I went. But wood filler and caulk is my friend, and the dark paint is forgiving. Some things I learned: • Nothing in my house is straight, square, or level. • Should have used plywood over pine. The pine was a pain to work with due to warping/cupping. Will see how it holds up over time. • I shouldn’t have used latex paint for bookshelves, but live and learn. Giving the paint a couple more weeks to fully cure before stacking any books. • The darker the paint, the more coats needed for full coverage. Everything was sanded, primed, sanded again, painted, sanded again, painted again for a good finish. Still a few spots to touch up. A sprayer would have been better but basements don’t offer much ventilation. • Wish I would have done butcher block or something more substantial for the “countertop” as the 3/4” pine just looks diminutive by comparison. • Did some basic rechargeable motion-sensor LED bars in the cabinets, but LED strips are on the way for the shelving. That’s another project entirely but I’ve planned in advance and built in some lips to hide the LED strips and will require minimal drilling of holes to run the wiring. submitted by /u/marcusdiddle to r/BeginnerWoodWorking [link] [comments]

I'd like to make it at least cohesive because we don't want the property value to go down in case we need to move. I also would rather just throw in seeds than plant individual plants because it's such a big area but I'm open for other suggestions. I would like to know what kind of flower seeds can I actually throw around and still thrive in shade, and what kind of pathways would be the most economical and low maintenance? I'm not sure free woodchips would be great for pathways since it's sloped and if we get a lot of rain, it will just get washed out but I probably use for for the plant areas. Anyway, I don't even know where to start so I'm just here looking for suggestions and what to look out for when making shade gardens. Also, we have a good amount of deer population around if it matters. Thank you in advance! submitted by /u/Avocad0nut to r/NoLawns [link] [comments]

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Every year I try to go to the movies as much as possible. It’s my main hobby. I keep track of my thoughts/scores throughout the year, along with all of my ticket stubs. In theaters, I saw: 5 movies in 2015, 9 movies in 2016, 146 movies in 2017, 162 movies in 2018, 192 movies in 2019, 44 movies in 2020, 86 movies in 2021, 270 movies in 2022, 325 movies in 2023, and 298 movies this year. This doesn’t include rewatches, but those are pretty rare for me (7 this year). This is my 7th year doing this ranking on /r/movies. I have a subscription with AMC’s A-List, Regal’s Unlimited, and Cinemark’s MovieClub. I’m also a member of the Fort Lauderdale, Miami, and Toronto film societies. I attended 8 film festivals this year, for a total of 117 films. I attended 24 World Premieres, 11 North American Premieres, 7 US Premieres, 10 East Coast Premieres, 22 Southeast Premieres, 4 Canadian Premieres, and a few Florida/Georgia Premieres. 96 of my screenings had cast and/or crew present for Q&As/intros. I do these rankings and reviews/random thoughts for fun. It’s not meant to be taken super seriously. I just like movies, and I like ranking them. Red Rooms - 10/10 - The most gripping psychological-thriller since The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo. Extremely disturbing and unsettling at times, but also stylish and sleek. The courtroom scenes and vampire-movie-like score stick with you for a long time. Juliette Gariépy puts in the best performance of anyone this year. There's so much amazing stuff happening with French-Canadian cinema recently and this is another great addition. Best movie of the year. One of the best movies of the past decade. Dune: Part Two - 9/10 - Sci-fi doesn't get much better than this. I have the seemingly-unpopular opinion that the first movie is better than the second, but both are near-perfect. Everything that can be said about Dune 1/2 has pretty much already been said. Anora - 9/10 Civil War - 9/10 Nosferatu - 9/10 - Gothic horror is so back. Lily-Rose Depp does things in this movie physically that I've never seen before on the big screen. Extremely impressed with her performance (and with Hoult/Dafoe/Skarsgard/Corrin as well). A great ensemble surrounded with perfect set design, direction, and cinematography. Loved the scenes in the castle that almost appeared black-and-white. Robert Eggers has not missed for me so far, and this is my favorite of his. Challengers - 9/10 Sing Sing - 9/10 - Colman Domingo, give that man his Oscar [John Malkovich Rounders voice]. The Substance - 9/10 You Are Not Alone - 9/10 - Part La La Land, part Under the Skin, part Eternal Sunshine. A beautiful and hypnotic sci fi love story with a slight horror edge and with layers upon layers of metaphor. It has a lot of interesting things to say about mid-20s loneliness/thoughts of suicide/love/etc. Didi - 9/10 - I'm a sucker for coming-of-age dramas set in recent times. Give me more of this and mid90s-type movies pls. The Order - 8/10 We Live In Time - 8/10 - I went in expecting heartbreak (which I got), but I didn’t expect how funny/sharp it would be. Florence and Andrew have 10/10 chemistry. Only thing keeping it from a higher score is the goofy Super Bowl of Food or whatever scene near the end. The scene at the beginning in the parking garage might be one of the most heart wrenching and well-acted scenes of the entire year. Top-tier score as well. Love Lies Bleeding - 8/10 - I would watch a 2-hour movie montage of Katy O'Brian working out beneath a highway underpass. A violent & twisted mess of sweat/blood/sex/tears/ungodly bodily noises. A real wicked fun time. The Goldman Case - 8/10 - French courtroom dramas, so hot right now. An insanely smart and water-tight screenplay with engrossing performances. It reminded me a lot of Anatomy of a Fall then I realized the co-star (Arthur Harari) in this film is the co-writer of Anatomy. The Beast - 8/10 - A movie that's almost impossible to describe but I'll try: Dystopian-future-sci-fi, period-drama, modern-incel-breakin-thriller, all while staying completely original and beautiful. Extremely layered story and performances. Lea Seydoux and George MacKay are 2 of my favorite actors and they pulled this off with extreme precision and care. One of more harrowing final scenes of the year for sure. Conclave - 8/10 Saturday Night - 8/10 - Frenetic, engaging, and a really fun time. Flies by. I wanted more. So much energy. September 5 - 8/10 The Brutalist - 8/10 - I have some problems with the ending, feels like it undid a lot of what was experienced, but otherwise an impressive monster of a movie. Brody and Pearce are outstanding. Io Capitano - 8/10 Fremont - 8/10 - I love movies that flow like light poems, like Petite Maman or Journey to A Mother's Room. It was a very sweet and cozy. The psychiatry sessions in particular were hilarious, and the bit where the diners are reading their fortunes in the restaurants were perfect. One of my favorite lines of the year is when the old lady fortune cookie writer dies at her desk, and the boss says “she was getting too old to write about the future anyway”. The lead and Jeremy Allen White were only onscreen together but their chemistry was infectious Seagrass - 8/10 LaRoy, Texas - 8/10 - A hilariously-dark Coen Brothers throwback with wonderful performances from Steve Zahn and John Magaro (who I was lucky enough to meet prior to the screening). It's bloody and smart, and that's a rare combination. A Quiet Place: Day One - 8/10 The Last Showgirl - 8/10 - Apart from a few awkward line-deliveries and questionable dialogue in spots, this was a very lowkey, engaging drama with a career-best performances from Pamela Anderson and Dave Bautista. Very dreamy and light. Friendship - 8/10 - It's so fucking stupid. Absolutely no plot to speak of. There's no character development. It's barely even a movie. It's basically a 90-minute sketch. All that being said, it's so goddamn hilarious. Non-stop laughs. Most I've laughed since Red Rocket probably. It's a can't-miss for any Tim Robinson fan and a can't-miss for any fans of laughing. Kate Mara was the perfect foil character. The Wild Robot - 8/10 - Yes, I cried, what of it? Relay - 8/10 - A very solid, tight, throwback to the type of paranoid corporate-thrillers they don’t really make anymore. A super fun twist that I didn’t see coming at all, and a standout turn from Lily James. It slightly loses its way near the end. Good One - 8/10 - Familiar and lowkey, but with a dark edge that slowly reveals itself, and a superb breakout role from Lily Collias. Great debut film from director India Donaldson. A Complete Unknown - 8/10 - There's definitely a lack of plot but at the end of the day we all just want to see Bob Dylan's Greatest Hits performed by a generational talent in Timothee Chalamet and it definitely delivers in that aspect. Midwives - 8/10 - One of the more stressful movies I’ve seen in a while. My anxiety was through the roof, especially in the first half. It’s so realistic and graphic at times (and some of it has to be real, some birth scenes especially) that you almost get a sense that it’s a documentary. Totally nails the landing too, making you feel real anger/empathy about how Midwives are treated in France (and other places I assume). Hellbent On Boogie - 8/10 Alien: Romulus - 8/10 - Put Cailee Spaeny in anything and I'll watch it. Furiosa: A Mad Max Saga - 8/10 The Old Oak - 8/10 - British realism cinema at it's finest. Just another classic added to Ken Loach's resume. Longlegs - 8/10 Babygirl - 8/10 One Life - 8/10 - I'm not a huge movie-cryer but I was absolutely balling my eyes out near the "moment". You know it's coming and it's still hit. Impressive when a movie can do that. Last movie that hit me like that was probably Tori and Lokita, and before that Moonlight. This was up there in terms of tears. Did not really expect it going in. Devasting. Anthony Hopkins kills these types of roles, he has a way of showing bottled up regret/sadness that not many others can. The Ministry of Ungentlemanly Warfare - 8/10 - Over-the-top violent fun time. Totally ridiculous but it doesn't take itself seriously and that's what keeps it from veering into. Also, Eiza Gonzalez. That is all. Strange Darling - 8/10 Los Frikis - 8/10 Suncoast - 8/10 Drive-Away Dolls - 8/10 - I want more unapologetically horny movies like this. Loved all of Beanie Feldstein's bits and the slow, sleep-deprived descent into madness of the henchmen especially. Not too sure abou the weird-cheap transitions and trippy scenes though. "You're a day late and a penis short" and "Suki that's your wall dildo!" are two of the funniest lines of the year, within context. Give me more fast-paced 75-minute movies. In A Violent Nature - 8/10 -This made me feel physically nauseous several times, would strongly recommend. Some of the gnarliest kills I've ever seen on the big screen. A Real Pain - 8/10 Abigail- 8/10 - As a French-Canadian, big shoutout to Kevin Durand for his on-point Quebecois accent. Also, "Sammy, those are fucking onions" was one of the best/funniest line deliveries of the year. Really entertaining gory vampire flick. Dan Stevens is straight up having a fun time this year and I'm enjoying it every time. Melissa Barrera is now competing with with Mia Goth and Samara Weaving as top Scream Queens. Deadpool & Wolverine - 8/10 Bring Them Down - 8/10 - I love me a slow-burn family feud drama that slowly snowballs into something dark and sinister. Christopher Abbott is one of my favorite working actors today and he does incredible work here, especially with the accent/Irish/body language. Disclaimer: Not recommended to people sensitive to animal violence/cruelty. There's a lot of that. The Piano Lesson - 8/10 - As far as Denzel Washington-produced, August Wilson adaptations are concerned, this is way above Fences. Felt less like a straight-up filmed play. The supernatural element and amazing Danielle Deadwyler performance (give her an Oscar soon pls) make this more layered and interesting. Bonus: I was sitting with/near the cast/crew for this one, 5-10 feet away from Denzel/Danielle/John David/Malcolm/Corey Hawkins/Ray Fisher/Michael Potts. Amazing experience. Nickel Boys - 8/10 Fresh Kills - 8/10 - A really solid mob-drama told from the perspective of a mob boss' daughter, which I appreciated. It's rare you see this story from that angle. Emily Bader's scene with her dad near the end. Holy. Fucking. Shit. Between The Temples - 8/10 - Carol Kane was absolutely magnetic and a joy to watch in this, and Jason Schwartzman was her perfect endearing counter. Lovely movie, that makes you want to curl up into a ball and cringe to death near to end, in a good way. The most painful-to-watch family reunion/dinner since Shiva Baby. Problemista - 8/10 - I stand with Bank of America. Julio Torres is kind of a revelation in this. His facial expressions (and hilarious run-walk thing) are perfect. Absurd, funny, and sweet comedy with so much flair and uniqueness. Some fun little details that got good laughs out of me, like Tilda's character always having her phone light on. Chaotic in all of the right ways. Sisterhood - 8/10 Days of Happiness - 8/10 The Apprentice - 8/10 - It's not breaking any new ground but Sebastian Stan is a pleasure to watch transform into Trump as the movie goes on. Grimy and gross like the streets of New York in the 80s. Wil - 8/10 Naked Ambition: Bunny Yeager - 8/10 Soul - 8/10 - I didn't get to catch this during it's original run due to COVID so I'm glad it came back. My favorite Pixar movie in a little while. Femme - 8/10 I Saw the TV Glow - 8/10 Heretic - 7/10 - A fun horror with sharp dialogue and an incredibly-hammy Hugh Grant performance. Emilia Perez - 7/10 - Some amazing musical numbers, especially the opener and "El Mal", and Zoe Saldana has an amazing performance where she carries the entire thing (Gomez and Gascon are getting lots of praise but I didn’t see it), but it just felt like it never fully came together to reach full potential. Mountains - 7/10 - A very small and warm movie about the very big and cold issue of gentrification and the real estate crisis in South Florida. Monica Sorelle is a director to watch for sure. Skywalkers: A Love Story - 7/10 - Other than a few moments that seemed a bit scripted (mostly the relationship drama), this is the most thriller documentary since Free Solo. Ghostlight - 7/10 Shoshana - 7/10 - Israeli true-life spy-thriller, a bit Bond-like. There's a few kills in here that are insanely brutal and the explosions/gunshots catch you by surprise. It had me jump a few times. The Dead Don't Hurt - 7/10- Extremely slow, don't go in expecting an action-packed Western, but Viggo has a really good eye for beautiful backgrounds and settings. Vicky Krieps is top-tier as always. This movie doesn't work without her. I like slow Westerns. The Fall Guy - 7/10 Thelma - 7/10 Twisters - 7/10 -Natural disaster flicks just work for me. Getting to look at Daisy Edgar-Jones for 2 hours never hurts as well. Cuckoo - 7/10 - Insanely impressive and physical performance from Hunter Schafer. Cool visual style and flair, but ultimately dragged down by a total clusterfuck of a plot. I was confused throughout. Hilarious German accent from Dan Stevens Peak Season - 7/10 Kneecap - 7/10 - Some of the funniest one-liners of the year ("Look who it is, Bone Thugz and no harmony", "I feel like I discovered the Beatles, if the Beatles were shit."). The whole RRAD storyline kept it from greatness though, that was a bit too goofy for its own good. Wolfs - 7/10 - I went in wanting Pitt/Clooney banter and that's exactly what I got. Blink Twice - 7/10 My Old Ass - 7/10 Better Man - 7/10 Nightbitch - 7/10 - Your mom's favorite movie of 2024. The awful first trailer didn't do it justice, this was solid, it just doesn't get dark like you'd hope it would. Out of Darkness - 7/10 - Saw this during a Mystery Movie Monday and was pleasantly surprised. Pretty brutal, atmospheric, and violent. Some cool overhead shots and a nice score. One of the better Mystery Movies I've seen. We Grown Now - 7/10 The End We Start From - 7/10 Kinds of Kindness - 7/10 - Not the best Yorgos but deliciously-freaky and daring filmmaking nonetheless. Babes - 7/10 Fancy Dance - 7/10 MaXXXine - 7/10 - Definitely the weakest of the trilogy but still a solid slasher with a very interesting setting. Mia Goth has great moments like in the first two. Horizon: An American Saga Chapter 1 - 7/10 - I don't care, the montage at the end was sick. I really hope Costner gets to fund as many of these as he wants. Wicked - 7/10 - Pretty good, not great. Ariana Grande was the standout. There were only 2 songs that were really catchy though, wish there were more. Juror #2 - 7/10 Fly Me to the Moon - 7/10 The End - 7/10 - Gorgeously-shot, super well acted, beautiful set design and production, but way too long and had no reason to be a musical. The songs were all exactly the same and pointless and there much so much time in between that you would forget it was even a musical. George MacKay kills it. Being Maria - 7/10 Cabrini - 7/10 - Maybe a bit overlong but honestly not bad. Surprised it's from the same director as Sound of Freedom, it's quite a step up from that. Much larger and ambitious in scope, and the lead actress was really really great. It solidly panders to its intended audience but it’s well made enough that you can just gloss over the eye-rolling moments. In the Land of Saints and Sinners - 7/10 - The best Neeson action-flick in a while, so that's something. Kerry Condon as the big villain was awesome. Need more of her in stuff. Y2K - 7/10 - The single-funniest death scene of the year was the skateboard scene. Laughed so hard, made my night. Audience really dug this one too, good atmosphere. Fred Durst. The Queen of My Dreams - 7/10 - I was getting massive Deja Vu with The Persian Version last year. Extremely similar story and vibe, equally fun/honest/heartfelt. Speak No Evil - 7/10 Immaculate - 7/10 - Sydney Sweeney stepping out of her comfort zone and doing a nun-horror is cool. Long take near the end was sick. Gladiator II - 7/10 - Doesn't hold a candle to the original but it was still an entertaining sandals & swords story. Fred Hechinger is so awful in this though. Man, that took me out of it. Back to Black - 7/10 - This movie is conflicting. In a vacuum, ignoring Winehouse's actual story, it's a solid music-biopic carried by a powerhouse breakthrough performance from Marisa Abela and an amazing soundtrack (obviously). On the other hand, it's a disgusting whitewash by her estate to downplay her truly awful father. The fact that he had final approval over this movie, and will financially benefit from it, is just gross and hard to ignore. The 2015 documentary does a better job telling Amy's whole story in an emotional way, and that doc made my blood boil (and is one of my favorite docs ever). Coup! - 7/10 The Hypnosis - 7/10 The Last Stop in Yuma County - 7/10 Your Monster - 7/10 Blitz - 7/10 - The cartoonish villains and improbably scenarios the kid kept finding himself in took this down a notch for me. Could've been great, but it didn't quite get there. How much bad shit can happen to one kid in 24 hours? Find out with Blitz. On a technical level it had a lot going for it though. In the Summers - 7/10 Maria - 7/10 - Jolie kills it and it looked gorgeous but a really big step down from Jackie/Spencer for Pablo Larrain, a big 'style over substance' movie and weirdly disrespectful to Jackie Kennedy as well for some odd reason. Very weird structure. Lost Soulz - 7/10 The Girls Are Alright - 7/10 All We Imagine As Light - 7/10 - With all the hype I was expecting to be blown away. It was good but kind of a let down. Girls Will Be Girls - 7/10 Ezra - 7/10 Young Woman and the Sea - 7/10 - An inspiring sports-biopic with a very old-school and authentic feel. The Remember the Titans of swimming movies. It hits all of the cliches and it's super cheesy, but in all of the right ways. It just works. Daisy Ridley was great, and as far as swimming movies are concerned, it's definitely ahead of Nyad. Hundreds of Beavers - 7/10 - It's funny and original, I just wish it was a bit shorter. Some of the bits definitely outstay their welcome after a while. I really like the grassroots campaign they've built around this movie though, everything from the independent theatrical showings to the support of physical media. A great success story for indie film this year. The Idea of You - 7/10 Crossing - 7/10 Sleep - 7/10 Monkey Man - 7/10 - Solid action flick for the first and third acts, but dragged down by a super boring 2nd act (where it loses all of the momentum it built) and lots of sloppy/confusing editing, especially during chase sequences. Credit for the Terrence Malick-like flashback scenes with narration/sweeping music/shots of nature/etc, pretty cool to throw those into an action movie. The Color Purple - 7/10 The Damned - 7/10 - You're hanging out with the soldiers on the frontier of the American Civil War and almost nothing happens for the entire runtime except you learn about the characters and their thoughts on life/god/religion/etc. I enjoyed it. Mean Girls - 7/10 Driving Madelaine - 7/10 Late Night with the Devil - 7/10 Snack Shack - 7/10 - Aside from the needless death at the end that tries too hard to squeeze tears out of your eyeballs, I thought this was a fun, raunchy, summer-y throwback comedy. This would've been one of my favorites in middle school probably. Beetlejuice Beetlejuice - 7/10 Joker: Folie a Deux - 7/10 The Outrun - 7/10 - Less a compelling story and more a showcase on Saoirse Ronan's acting abilities. The camera basically doesn't move from her for a single second and she completely carries it. She's the best. Flow - 7/10 Black Box Diaries - 7/10 Queer - 7/10 The Return - 7/10 New Life - 7/10 - I really respect a movie that can pull off a wild genre-switch halfway through the movie. Went in fully blind so it was totally unexpected. Also impressive this tiny movie could license Bob Dylan’s Like A Rolling Stone (played a few times). Lisa Frankenstein - 7/10 - The ultimate "could've been truly great with a R rating" movie. Bob Marley: One Love - 7/10 - It does just enough to keep it out of the Super Generic Biopic Genre and any movie that can squeeze a few tears out of me gets an extra point. Sorry, that's just the rules. Kingdom of the Planet of the Apes - 7/10 1992- 7/10 - Other than Ray Liotta being written like a ridiculous cartoon villain and some eye-rolling dialogue issues, it actually was a pretty solid crime drama... and Tyrese Gibson was…good? (/r/brandnewsentence) French Girl - 7/10 The Peasants - 7/10 - Visually impressive and a sick score, but a schmaltzy/melodramatic story kinda kept it from the next level. The Monk and the Gun - 7/10 Bad Boys: Ride or Die - 6/10 Seven Blessings - 6/10 Knox Goes Away - 6/10 - Michael Keaton does his best and commits but the writing & performance of every single side character brings the whole thing down a bit. The cop/ex-wife/son characters are bumbling, distractingly-dumb goofballs that keep the plot from ever grounding to reality, but it ultimately gets dark and violent enough to stay pretty entertaining. The script really could've used some more cleaning up. Trap - 6/10 - Listen I have a lot (a lot) of problems with this movie but Kid Cudi randomly showing up for 5 minutes and randomly delivering insane lines like "“I specifically said i wanted honey suckle kombucha biiiiitchhhh” made the trip to the theater worth it. Small Things Like These - 6/10 Sometimes I Think About Dying - 6/10 Kidnapped - 6/10 Asphalt City - 6/10 - Standout performance from Tye Sheridan but this leaned a bit too much into misery porn for my liking. Every single day is the absolute worst day on the job. Extremely stress-inducing first hour. Mike Tyson being cast as the medic chief was certainly a choice...and it worked somehow? Eden - 6/10 - Had trouble getting past the awful accents and the sinking feeling that this was missed potential. I was at the World Premiere for this and someone in the audience had a medical emergency, they had to pause the screening and turn the lights on while the person was carried out on people's shoulders. Jude Law/Sydney Sweeney/Ana de Armas/Ron Howard were all there wondering what was going on. Kind of a crazy situation. Land of Bad - 6/10 Unstoppable - 6/10 Godzilla x Kong: The New Empire - 6/10 - Skull Island's bland and less impressive/memorable little brother. Thumbs up for Baby Kong and the Rio de Janeiro destruction sequence, thumbs down for the lame story and unlimited amounts of annoying human characters. Bad Shabbos - 6/10 Inside Out 2 - 6/10 Firebrand - 6/10 A Different Man - 6/10 - I didn't connect to this as much as most people did. Sebastian Stan is great as usual but the whole thing didn't do much for me. Love Me - 6/10 - 10/10 for the attempt, 4/10 for the execution. There's a really good movie hidden in here somewhere, but there needed to be some cuts made to the animated portions of the film for sure. Shell - 6/10 Housekeeping for Beginners - 6/10 Totem - 6/10 The Fire Inside - 6/10 Widow Clicquot - 6/10 - This starts off really really really slow but then finds its footing late and ends on a solid note. Career-best performance from Haley Bennett, she really carries this. Tuesday - 6/10 Piece by Piece - 6/10 The Cut - 6/10 - Standout turns from Orlando Bloom and Caitriona Balfe, brought down by some weird editing choices. The neon-green hallucinations were a wild choice. I sat next to Katy Perry for this movie, AMA. Memoir of a Snail - 6/10 The Romano Twins - 6/10 Mufasa: The Lion King - 6/10 Film Geek - 6/10 Self-Reliance - 6/10 - Pretty cute movie with a few laughs, but the ending lost its focus and felt rushed. The Andy Samberg bits were great. I wanted more from the relationship with Anna Kendrick's character, feels like there was more to explore there. "This an intervention." "For me?" "No, we're just all facing the wrong direction." Queen of the Ring - 6/10 Coup de Chance - 6/10 - It's nowhere near peak-Woody Allen but it's a passable return to form since Rifkin's Festival, Wonder Wheel, and A Rainy Day In New York (all 3 awful, with Rifkin's Festival being rock bottom for Allen's filmography). The one thing it was missing was humor. I can always trust an Allen film to at least have a few funny/witty lines (even the bad ones), but this was very cut and dry. Could've used a few more good lines. Sasquatch Sunset - 6/10 - I was excited for the premise and there's a few sweet/funny moments, but most of it ends up being mindless shitting/pissing/fucking. Credit for the unique idea and great views. Bird - 6/10 - One of the more disappointing films of the year. Even after the lukewarm reception at Cannes, I had super high hopes because I’m a huge Andrea Arnold fan, but the surrealism in this movie just didn’t work. It threw off the whole balance and wasn’t at all what I expected/wanted. Nikiya Adams and Barry Keoghan were both very solid, and the scene where the group sang Coldplay’s Yellow to the frog was amazing. Omni Loop- 6/10 Here - 6/10 - A valiant attempt but ultimately kind of a hot mess. A few good moments keep it watchable. Some real uncanny valley shit in there too though. Queen Rock Montreal - 6/10 Turning Red - 6/10 Scrambled - 6/10 The Book of Clarence - 6/10 - LaKeith Stanfield was great and committed as usual (although I don't like twin dual-roles), and James McAvoy and Cumberbatch chewing on scenery was fun, this movie had a lot of trouble figuring out what it wanted to be. I really wish it leaned more into the funny/satire and less into the serious Mel Gibson/Jim Caviezel-type biblical drama. Cool that a movie like this can be made/funded and released in theaters though. Booger - 6/10 Irena's Vow - 6/10 - Great story, extremely generic period drama. A Great Divide - 6/10 Riff Raff - 6/10 - A bit outdated and mean-spirited, this would've slapped in 2006, but Bill Murray and Pete Davidson as the incompetent mob assassins makes it worth a watch. Rosalie - 6/10 Skincare - 6/10 Yellow Bus - 6/10 Arcadian - 6/10 - It's fine and stretches its tiny budget so its absolute limit but it's basically a Dollar Store A Quiet Place. The monster design and animation was hilariously-bad though, like an Asylum knock-off movie. I'm also now convinced that Nic Cage is contractually obligated to have his face smothered in fake blood for any movie. Nutcrackers - 6/10 The Invisibles - 6/10 Riley -6/10 Rob Peace - 6/10 - A well-shot movie with great direction and performance from the supporting characters (Mary J Blige and Chiwetel Ejiofor) completely dragged down by an awful lead performance by Jay Will. Also the script was a bit silly, they were trying way too hard to make him 100% infallible. Christmas Eve in Miller's Point - 6/10 - I liked the hectic atmosphere of the crazy Christmas family party that we've all been at, and the very scratchy look of the camera. Rumours - 6/10 - I can appreciate what Maddin was going for, and there's some moments that work (mostly with Cate Blanchett and Charles Dance, they were awesome), but overall surreal-absurd-fantasy-comedy like this just doesn't work for me. Fallen Fruit - 6/10 Birthrite - 6/10 Crumb Catcher - 6/10 Anselm - 6/10 Scapegoat - 6/10 Seeds - 5/10 - There’s clearly heart and maybe a great movie in here somewhere, but it’s such a tonal mess that it’s hard to find anything to love. Sujo - 5/10 The Beekeeper - 5/10 - This is the Rebel Moon of Jason Bourne movies. A few cool kills and classic Statham one-liners keep it from being a total loss, but it's not very good. Unsung Hero - 5/10 Jeanne du Barry- 5/10 Treasure - 5/10 A Sacrifice - 5/10 The American Society of Magical Negroes - 5/10 - All over the place and it gave a constant feeling of "missed opportunity" (a la Book of Clarence). Justice Smith is straight-up not a convincing lead. An-Li Bogan was the standout, and I saw her end twist coming from a mile away so I got that going for me which is nice. La Syndicaliste - 5/10 Sonic the Hedgehog 3 - 5/10 The Watchers - 5/10 Borderlands - 5/10 - Went in expecting a 1/10, got a 5/10. Nice. Life is all about the little wins. Ghostbusters: Frozen Empire - 5/10 - Just give this franchise a permanent rest. It wasn't awful in any particular way, but it was totally soulless and heartless. It felt like nobody really gave a shit except Kumail Nanjiani. Safe, sanitized, studio slop. They couldn't even fully commit to the one interesting thing (the gay ghost love story). National Anthem - 5/10 The 4:30 Movie - 5/10 - Kevin Smith jerking himself off for 80 minutes. Would make a fun double-feature with Snack Shack though. Universal Language - 5/10 - This had a lot of hype of out Cannes and it's Canada's submission for the Oscars so I had a lot of hope, but it just didn't do much for me. Surreal-absurdism just isn't my cup of tea. The only real standout scene was the one with the Quebec democrat. A rare case of the Q&A being more interesting than the movie itself. Kraven the Hunter - 5/10 Time Still Turns the Pages - 5/10 Upgraded - 5/10 - Basically a Great Value The Devil Wears Prada. Good as rom-com-background-nois. Marissa Tomei is awful in this. One of the worst performances of the year. Sound of Hope: The Story of Possum Trot - 5/10 Out of Season - 5/10 Miller's Girl - 5/10 Latin for All - 5/10 Argylle - 5/10 - How a movie like The Creator can be made for $80M but something so awful-looking like this needs $200M blows my mind. I.S.S. - 5/10 - I love a good sandwich-making climax as much as the next guy, but what a painfully awkward ending. The first 25 minutes made me think something decent could be happening then it derails hard and never recovers. The worst thing to happen to the space program since Challenger. Get Away - 5/10 Brothers - 5/10 Life's a Bitch - 5/10 - France's (bad) answer to Yorgos Lanthimos. A dry, twisted, gross, weirdly-sexual, anthology film with a lot less nudity but a lot more dogs than Kinds of Kindness. Kinda loses its way comedically and becomes a chore after the first chapter. Azrael - 5/10 Monster Summer - 5/10 - Like a G-rated IT, with Mel Gibson for some reason (?) Kung Fu Panda 4 - 5/10 Garfield - 5/10 Villains, Inc - 5/10 - It had a certain cheap charm but an overwhelming sense of "SNL Digital Short sketch stretched way too thin". Excursion - 5/10 Sleeping Dogs - 5/10 Notice to Quit - 5/10 - The kid actor was really good but I'm just a bit over following an extremely unlikeable lead around doing shitty things to people. Reunion - 5/10 The Boy in the Woods - 5/10 Paradise - 5/10 Karaoke - 5/10 It Ends With Us - 5/10 Poolman - 4/10 - The ugly, boring, confused lovechild of Inherent Vice and Under the Silver Lake. Avenue of the Giants - 4/10 Arthur the King - 4/10 - Marky Mark has really devolved as an actor honestly, really tough performance from him here. It's like he's completely forgotten how to convincingly deliver lines. Right from the GoPro scenes at the beginning I knew it was gonna be a rough time. This movie is like 85% exposition. Janet Planet - 4/10 - Bookended by 2 great scenes, but filled with mostly pointless garbage. Dandelion - 4/10 By the Stream - 4/10 - I enjoy Hong Sangsoo movies in very small doses. This dose was just way too big. Venom: The Last Dance - 4/10 Red One - 4/10 Oh, Canada - 4/10 - Dreadfully confusing, and Jacob Elordi puts in one of the worst performances of the year, but at least that Phosphorescent soundtrack kept me engaged. Slingshot - 4/10 Adios Buenos Aires - 4/10 Humane - 4/10 Some Other Woman - 4/10 My Daughter, My Love - 4/10 Madame Web - 4/10 - Slop. IF - 4/10 - Not really for adults, not really for kids/teens. Who was this movie even for?... Freud's Last Session - 4/10 Werewolves - 4/10 - So much lens flare. I am now blind. Ramona at Midlife - 4/10 The Last Front - 4/10 My Penguin Friend - 4/10 Augure - 4/10 Which Brings Me To You - 4/10 - Looking back over this ranking, I'm gonna be honest and say I have no idea what this was. Don't remember. To producers out there: please stop making your movie titles random vague sentences. Mai - 4/10 Meanwhile on Earth - 4/10 Lizzie Lazarus - 4/10 Or Something - 4/10 The Way We Speak - 4/10 Cult Killer - 3/10 - Antonio Banderas shows up for like 5 minutes and then nopes the fuck out. Total paycheck movie. The Feeling that the Time for Doing Something Has Passed - 3/10 - There were some funny lines (especially the 9/11 dating profile bit) but this was so painfully dry and slow that I could never really connect. If desert-dry, awkward, deadpan delivery, with an absurd amount of BDSM-sex-stuff thrown in is your thing, you might find a few things to like. I could not. Never Let Go - 3/10 The Throwback - 3/10 The City - 3/10 Rats! - 3/10 - This would've worked well as an edgy Youtube short in 2012. The Best Christmas Pageant Ever - 3/10 He Went That Way - 3/10 - Half roadtrip comedy with a chimp, half brutal serial killer drama. Tonally all over the place. The kind of movie you'd expect Jacob Elordi to try to bury (a la Dicaprio with Don's Plum) and fire his agent over before it sees the light of way. Baffling decisions made by everyone here. Megalopolis - 2/10 - I went in expecting a mess but I was still not prepared for how bad this was. It’s Neil Breen with an unlimited budget. It felt like 6 hours. It looked so cheap and awful. A mix of Lifetime movie and a middle school play. I refuse to believe it’s bad on purpose for comedy. The only thing keeping this from a 1 is that Adam Driver/Coppola/Nathalie Emmanuel/Giancarlo Esposito were at my screening for Q&A (god bless their sweet little souls for having to seriously promote this hot mess). "What do you think of this boner I got right here?” is a line 85 year old Jon Voight actually says in a real movie in the year of our lord 2024. My therapist will hear about this. A Boy Who Dreamt of Electricity - 2/10 Isle of Hope - 2/10 - Sometimes I wonder why I do this to myself. Chosen Family - 1/10 - This was borderline unfinished and full-on embarrassing. The production value of a daytime soap opera mixed in with the sound editing of a local high school play. It's impressive how much filler (drone shots of surrounding neighborhood) can be squeezed into 84 minutes of movie. Sitting a few seats away from Heather Graham was a nice bonus (with Q&A), but it couldn't come close to making up for this disaster. Unranked (Re-Releases and/or TV Series): Dune (Re-Release) - 10/10 Interstellar (Re-Release) - 10/10 Ex Machina (Re-Release) - 9/10 The Shawshank Redemption (Re-Release) - 8/10 Bound (Re-Release) - 8/10 Mr. & Mrs. Smith Episodes 1 & 2 (TV Series) - 7/10 Possession (Re-Release) - 7/10 But I'm A Cheerleader (Re-Release) - 7/10 The Acolyte Episodes 1 & 2 (TV Series) - 6/10 Society (Re-Release) - 6/10 Black Christmas (Re-Release) - 6/10 Apples Never Fall Episode 1 (TV Series) - 6/10 Maniac Cop 2 (Re-Release- 6/10 The Room (Re-Release) - 5/10 Cruel Intentions Episode 1 (TV Series) - 5/10 La Maquina Episode 1 (TV Series) - 4/10 After Annecy (Short Film) - 3/10 Maniac (Re-Release) - 3/10 Mother (Re-Release) - 3/10 Stats: Multiple Viewings: Dune: Part Two (x2) Babes (x2) Deadpool & Wolverine (x2) Sing Sing (x2) Back to Black (x2) The Wild Robot (x2) Anora (x2) Theater Distribution by Venue/Chain: AMC - 96 Regal - 66 Silverspot - 18 Cinemark - 8 Landmark - 1 Other/Festival/Independent - 109 (Including: Arsht Center, Autonation IMAX, Cinema Paradiso, Classic Gateway, Coastal Creative, Coral Gables Art Cinema, Enzian Theater, Hard Rock Ballroom, Koubek Center, TIFF Lightbox, Lucas Theater, Miami Theater Center, Movies of Delray, O'Cinema South Beach, Princess of Wales, Roy Thomson Hall, Royal Alexandra, Savor Cinema, SCAD Museum, Scotiabank, Tampa Theater, Trustees Theater) Film Festivals Attended: Toronto International Film Festival - 30 Movies in 8 Days Savannah SCAD Film Festival - 20 Movies in 8 Days Miami Film Festival - 20 Movies and 1 TV Series in 10 Days Florida Film Festival - 19 Movies in 6 Days Miami Jewish Film Festival - 10 Movies in 7 Days Popcorn Frights Film Festival - 7 Movies in 4 Days Fort Lauderdale International Film Festival - 6 Movies in 4 Days Gasparilla International Film Fstival - 5 Movies in 2 Days Theater Visits by Month: https://i.imgur.com/sKQYFp9.png January: 32 February: 17 March: 27 April: 54 May: 18 June: 18 July: 12 August: 24 September: 38 October: 23 November: 22 December: 13 Theater Visits by Day of the Week: https://i.imgur.com/xC7pt1S.png Monday - 25 Tuesday - 23 Wednesday - 23 Thursday - 49 Friday - 64 Saturday - 67 Sunday - 47 Notable Missed Movies: https://i.imgur.com/iPhOD5s.png Cast/Crew/Filmmaker Q&As/Appearances: Part 1 - https://i.imgur.com/a6JsfR0.png Part 2 - https://i.imgur.com/YQIJZUl.png Part 3 - https://i.imgur.com/9cyEkKY.png Favorite Performances: https://i.imgur.com/Sfv5OZB.png Past Rankings: 2018 (162 Movies) 2019 (192 Movies) 2020 (44 Movies) 2021 (86 Movies) 2022 (270 Movies) 2023 (325 Movies) submitted by /u/BunyipPouch to r/movies [link] [comments]

Don't want this on my main account. I 29m was in a relationship with my STBX wife 28f for 8 years. Everthing was what i will describe as nearly perfect. Small argument here and there but nothing really significant or relationship altering. All of that stopped 13 month ago after she got pregnant. The child wasn't a surprise as we were trying for a baby. I seriously don't know what went wrong but around the 4 month mark my wife completely made a 180 switch from the kind, carring and sweet women she use to be to a total tyrant i know it's bad to speak of someone like that but that is the best way to describe it. I am completely honest when i say me breathing was an issue for her, waking me up at 2-3 in the morning because she wanted something specific and become verbally abusive when i refused to drive 40 minutes to get her an ice-cream she was craving. She went on a tyrade because she wanted chick fil A on a sunday and the place was close. Calling me a useless husband, everything under the sun, wasn't allowed to sleep in the same bed as her then being pissed at me in the morning for not sleeping in the same bed as her, cleaning the house because it's to loud then not cleaning the house, cooking something she doesn't want anymore but requested it earlier. I bared everything, every insults, all the verbal abuse. I never raised my voice towards her during this time. I begged her to get help, talk to a doctor, therapist, her mother anyone but she refused and that just made things worse because apparently i called her crazy for asking her to get help. I went with her to the doctor one time and when i brought up the mood swing the hell i was in for a whole week wasn't worth it. Talking to her mother as well, she tried to help but my wife will act overly sweet and she made it seem that i was the crazy one untill her mother left and it was back to hell for me, even the camara footage i have of her going off she made it seem out of context and i was made out to be the monster by everyone for not doing more or enough. she made it seem that everytime she got angry was in response to something i did. Me sleeping at 4am and she not being able to open a can of peaches was my fault earning me a can against the chest while sleeping. 4 month ago she gave birth, wasn't a easy birth but i was hopeful that things will somewhat return to normal but that is when the post partum depression kicked in. I again tried to help, i really did suggestions, research, talking to a therapon my own to find better ways to help her but everything i did just made things worse. I was against her with everything calling her a shit wife, bad mother even though those words never left my mouth. Everything blew up when she actively became physically violent. My last straw was when she smashed a coffee cup on my head when i walked out the room after an small argument because i took to long to bring her the cup of coffee. i was busy with our son changing his diaper. This was the first time in 8 years that i rised my voice at her and told her we are done, she can pack her shit and move the fuck out of the house. She went to her parents house, she wanted to take our son but i didn't allow that, when she said she will call the cops i pointed to the camara in the hall way and told her she is welcome to try as the camara caught it all. A week later i was served with divorce papers, i wanted to file but didn't have time with work and carring for our son. I was to busy. 3 weeks back after i got back from work my in laws were waiting for me, apparently her parents got her to see a therapist after they threatened to kick her out because she became as abusive to them as she was to me. They finally believe me and that i wasn't making things up. They gave me a letter from my wife before the left. The letter basically says the following without writting everything out. She is sorry for the way she treated me all those months, she doesn't know why she did it and has no excuse, after her parents threatened to kick her out and she saw a therapist and psychiatrist she is better now that she is on medication to help her. In the letter she says she stopped the divorce proceedings and want to give us another try. I haven't responded to her letter and told my lawyer to proceed with the divorce proceedings. I gave the letter to her as well as it contains alot of detail of what she did as well as her admitting to the verbal abuse, it's not just my words anymore especially for the things that happened in public the videos i have of it as well and the video of her breaking the coffee cup on my head with the hospital visit for the stitches and burn marks from the hot coffee. I am told I'm the asshole as she is getting the help she needs now and that i should forgive her and give her another chance, i should do it to keep our family together, if i truly love her, i will be able to forgive her for the things she did while not in her right mind. I am a monster because i have no idea what she went through. My things is why didn't she take the help i suggested, i did everything humanely possible to help her and she refused, she made me out to be this evil person and everything i didn't wasn't right, good enough, not enough, nothing. Even when i removed myself from the situation that was also wrong. I have more than enough evidence to get full custody of our son and a prenup that protects everything i have including the house. AITAH for refusing to continue in this relationship and preceding with the divorce. Edit to add. I see it already in the notification. i am going for full custody of my son. My lawyer says there is no sustainties but she can't see any reason a judge would not grant me full custody of my son. Just to add as well, my son is mine. Did go through my wife messages and everything just before she gave birth for this exact reason. No deleted messages i could find, weird expenses, out of context messages or anything like that. Test was done and he is mine. submitted by /u/ThrowRAevilhusband to r/AITAH [link] [comments]

Me and my wife were invited to my friends wedding, the wedding was going to have about 70 ppl, with mostly family. When we got there we were seated at a table with some other people. Nice people, and we mingled well and had a good time chatting. The wedding was also quite nice both my friend and his new wife were very happy. After the ceremony every table got two bottles of wine, bread/butter, and there also was an open bar, so we started to have a few drinks. Then the food came out, it looked really good, the food was setup for buffet. I was half buzzed and looking forward to getting some food in my belly. When it was time to eat every few tables at a time were going to get called which is fine, the first few tables that were called were understandably the family of both sides, then the rest were, the problem was that the family members (He's Inlaws) are larger people. Now I don't shame people for how much they eat, but I noticed the helpings of food they had while I was patiently waiting for us to be called, I also noticed that they went for seconds before all the tables were called and no one stopped them. I didn't say anything, though I thought that was rude, I just assumed that there was just alot of food. To my surprise by the time we were called there was nothing left, I asked if there was more coming out and apparently that already occurred. So We grabbed the little we could and went back to sit down and ate the scarps. We were all still pretty hungry, and a bit pissed off so we kinda bashed talked that the first few tables ate all the food. Someone mentioned that they could go for some pizza, and then I had the drunken idea of ordering some lol. So that is what we did, we all pitched in and ordered 4 large pizzas and some chicken wings from a local pizza joint close to the venue so it didn't take long to be delivered. I met the guy outside and brought the food to our table and we started to eat. Some of the other tables noticed and asked where the pizza came from, apparently some of the other tables close to ours didnt get any food either, so we shared with them. This caused some commotion because other people were looking for, and asking the wedding party if there was pizza available. I guess there were others that didn't get to eat either. We did share with anyone who asked us. My friend came to talk to me about why I ordered the food, his bride was not happy about it (it ruined the esthetics), so I told him that we didn't get to eat, and that the food ran out long before our table was called, and we were really hungry, He then asked why we didn't just step out and eat then come back, though annoyed about that, I respectively explained to him that we were all drinking on an empty stomach and that it probably wasn't the best idea to have drunk people walking around looking for food.I don't think he liked that, but went back to his bride who was glaring at us. Like what were we supposed to do, starve? This wasn't the end though. As we were finishing eating. One of the inlaws came to our table and he asked where the pizza came from. This is where I maybe the AH. There were two slices left, I knew he was eyeing them. I asked the other people at my table if they wanted one, everyone declined. This guy then said he'd have one, I then took the two slices I put them on my plate, and started to eat them, then looked at him and said something like, "No, you and everyone at your tables had way more then your fare share of the buffet, and ate all of it. This is the reason we ordered food in the first place. And now you have the nerve to ask us to share." He's face went red, and he returned to his table. There was alot discussion going on there, they were all looking back at us with daggers. The bride looked even more ticked off at us, she had a bit of an argument with my friend. He eventually came back to tell us we had to leave. I didn't mean to start any problems, so me and my wife called a cab and left. He called me a few days later, and we had a long talk. I explained my perspective, and he agreed that his inlaws were really rude for eating all the food and leaving most of the other guests with very little. Alot of people actually complained to him about it, everyone was drinking thinking that there would be food and they were disappointed. He was upset with his inlaws because he told them how many guests there would be and to order the food for that many people. He also saw how much they were taking but assumed they ordered enough, he was wrong. He brought this up with his wife, and she said that apparently because the inlaws paid for the alcohol and the food they felt entitled to eat what they wanted, she was really mad at them, and reamed them out for tainting her special day. He also said alot of the other non family guests started to leave soon after we left because they too were hungry. They still had fun celebrating but it did kinda put a downer on their special day. Out of 70 ppl about 30 left. I also found out that guy that came to our table was his FIL. FIL was really embarrassed by what I said to him, he felt pretty bad when he found out close to half the guests didn't get to eat anything and left early. So AITA? EDIT: My goodness I didn't think I was going to get this kind of response lol, so many comments. I went through a good chunk of the messages and thought that it would be easier to address the common ones here. The only reason I ordered the pizzas was because I was drinking. All I ate that day was a sandwich for lunch and some bread that was at the table, so I needed something more substantial in my stomach so I wouldn't get sick, so no I couldn't wait it out a few hours. I wasn't the only person drinking either because the open bar was booming. However I guess I could have held back on drinking a bit until the food came out. Those saying that I fat shammed the FIL. Im going to have to disagree, I didn't say anything to him about his body, I was only honest with him about why Ihad to order the food. I don't judge people based on looks, and accept everyone for who they are, as they are. You can't judge a book by its cover, so I judge people based on their actions. If you knew me, you would see that my friends group ranges from basic people to freaks and weirdos lol. In fact a good friend of mine nicked named Crusher is a big dude, absolutely hilarious, and super fun to hang out with. This is not an AI generated post lol. My intelligence may be limited, but there is nothing artificial about it. The buffet was at my friends request. He loves buffets and this was his added touch to the wedding. He also chose the dishes. I know that it is not common for weddings to do buffets, but thats what he wanted. Thanks everyone for your comments, I will continue to read them and update this thread accordingly. Hey guys!! I already have an update!!! First I never stated when the wedding happened, the wedding was last week on July 20. My friend just stopped by for a little bit. Apparently his wife was more upset then he initially said, but not at me, towards her family. He also said she wanted apologies for booting me. So FIL feels really bad and he is going to step up and try to fix the situation. He's going to throw an "After Wedding Shing Ding" lol his words. Everyone who was at the wedding will be invited, including me, my wife and some additional people, they are thinking there will be about 100 guests. FIL also promised that there will be an assortment of food, more then enough for everyone plus an army lol. He also wanted to personally let me know that there will be 50 large pizzas from the same joint I ordered from, that is his way of adding some humor to the situation, I think its pretty funny lol. He's also going to hire a DJ or a live band. Possibly have some fireworks and arrange other events like axe throwing, and a bonfire. This actually sounds like it going to a real fun time, the only difference is that this will be a BYOB event, whichbis no big deal. FIL is pulling in a favor from a friend of his who ownes a farm. The farm has two guest houses and the main house as well as plenty of space outside. About 50 people can be squeezed in between the 3 houses, so he is going to encourage people to bring RVs (I have one), campers and tents if they can. Nothing is officially yet, but they are looking to hold the shing ding around mid August. Sounds like this is going to be a blast!! I'll update you all you all when I can. I am super sorry for not updating sooner, I meant to sooner but. I'm going to be a dad!! So here's the update After the wedding fiasco, we got the invites from my friend’s FIL to the “After Wedding Shindig.” It took awhile so I honestly thought it was a joke at first, but my friend ( the groom) who dropped them off said it's happening, just took awhile to organize it. The invites mentioned food, drinks, activities, and a lot of pizza. I wasn’t sure what to expect, but my wife and I decided to go. It was in mid-September, and the weather was absolutely perfect with clear skies, warm sun, and a bit breezy. When we arrived, we saw the setup and was blown away! The event was on this massive farm owned by the friend of the FIL. There were RVs, campers, and tents scattered everywhere. It looked like some kind of mini music festival. The main house and two guest houses were open for people who didn’t want to camp, and the yard was filled with picnic tables, lawn games, and a huge bonfire pit. As soon as we parked, the FIL greeted us. He was wearing this ridiculously loud Hawaiian shirt and sunglasses, grinning like he’d won the lottery lol. He shook my hand and said, “I’m glad you’re here! There’s plenty of food this time!” I couldn’t help but laugh lol. The food setup was insane. There were long tables covered with BBQ, all kinds of sides, desserts, and front and center a pyramid of pizza boxes lol. I’m not kidding, it had to be at least 50 large pizzas from the same place I ordered from at the wedding. Each box had a sticker that said “Shindig Special” on it. Everyone was already joking about it. People started showing up in droves. Alot of people brought their own coolers full of beer since it was BYOB, and others even joined in the pizza theme, lol someone even wore a pizza print dress, another guy had a pizza shaped hat, and there were pizza cookies on one of the dessert tables, it was hilarious. The vibe was lighthearted and fun, and honestly, it was waaaay better atmosphere than at the wedding. There was so much going on, the axe throwing, cornhole, live music, and even some fireworks set up for later. The FIL was wandering around, handing out slices of pizza like it was his personal mission to make sure no one went hungry. My friend (the groom) found me and pulled me aside. He had a beer in one hand and slapped me on the back with the other. He thanked me and told me, If I hadn’t ordered that pizza we’d probably wouldn't be here right now. As the day went on, everyone seemed to be having a blast. The bride even gave a little speech. She thanked everyone for coming, then pointed at me and said, “And a special thanks to the guy who turned a wedding mishap into a Shindig we’ll never forget!” People laughed and clapped, and I felt a bit embarrassed but also kinda proud. The night ended with the lots of fireworks and everyone gathering around the bonfire, roasting marshmallows, and sausags. People were drinking, singing, and telling stories. It felt like a proper celebration, and I couldn’t help but think this is how the wedding should’ve been. FIL came up to me near the end of the night with a slice of pizza on a plate. He said, he wasn’t sure how to make up for the mess they made at the wedding, but thought this did the trick. I shook his and smiled, and said this party was a hit. All in all, the Shindig turned out to be one of the most memorable events I’ve ever been to. Everyone left full, happy, and with plenty of stories to tell. It’s funny how a simple thing like ordering pizza at the wedding turned into something this big. But hey, I guess that’s just how life goes sometimes. That's the update guys!! Just wanted to thank everyone for their comments, I actually never thought this post would blow up like this. On another note, baby's due in May, so I am pretty sure the night of the Shindig he/she was conceived.. wink, wink lol submitted by /u/Adorable_Distance_15 to r/AITAH [link] [comments]

Hey everyone, I'm new to gardening and I'm hoping you all might be able to help me! I'm planning to start window boxes soon, and I've learned that there is a "thriller, filler, spiller" strategy to create balance. I'm leaning towards a purple/green/white color palette, possibly with orange accents. I'll tell you what I'm thinking for each "level" of the design and if you have any suggestions, pointers, or warnings, I would really appreciate it! "Thrillers": Salvia "Violet Riot" OR Persian Shield (both are purple), or possibly Dracena Indivisa (green). "Fillers": a white variety of Caladium (like White Christmas or Florida Moonlight) and/or a green variety of Caladium (Caladium Aaron), Dusty Miller (silver), Baby Tears (green), Silver Mound (silvery-green) *Potential accent "fillers": Coleus Marrakesh or Campfire Coleus (both are orange) "Spillers": Creeping Jenny (bright green/chartreuse), Dichondria (Silver Beauty), Tradescantia Pallida (Purple Heart), Tradescantia Zebrina (Wandering Jew/Inch Plant-variegated purple and green) To be clear, these are all POTENTIAL plants to include, I know I wouldn't be able to include all of them! I'm hoping for a clean, classic, symmetrical look with varied textures. I'd like to have a taller "thriller" plant in the center and then middle-height plants surrounding the centerpiece, with the trailer plants along the front edge of the container. I struggled with visualizing the final balance of the container with these potential plants since I don't know how big everything will get. I'm concerned that as the plants fill in it will become overgrown and the balance will be thrown off. I'm also not really sure how many of the "filler" plants to include, for this same reason. And there were many nice-looking, sort of fade-into-the-background-type green foliage plants in pictures of window boxes I looked at for inspiration that I couldn't identify, so if you have other suggestions for fillers I'd love to hear them! There will be four of these boxes total, 2 feet long each, 2 on either side of the front door of my small house. It is a full sun location in zone 7a/b in the US. They will be above a small garden bed, which will most likely have hostas, creeping thyme and/or creeping jenny, black mondo grass, and some kind of white perennial and/or white foliage like the white coleus (I'm also open to suggestions for this project!). In general, I would like for the entire garden to be fairly low maintenance (I'm willing to water once or twice daily and weed/prune as needed) and to last as long as possible over the course of the season without having to change plants out. I'd also like for most plants to be perennial. What do you think? Any suggestions? Is there anything that stands out that I should know would be a bad idea before I start? submitted by /u/milliemynx to r/gardening [link] [comments]

Hello lovelies! I am looking to find great thriller, filler, spiller planter ideas for full shade arrangements. The balcony that we are working with gets at most 2 hours of sun a day. What would be some plants that would survive little to no direct sun and still be bountiful and pretty? Prefer perennials but annuals will work too. Thank you so much in advance submitted by /u/djimmis08 to r/garden [link] [comments]