Bedroom Furniture

so my partner has been wracking their brain for like three weeks trying to remember this specific term. it's for that piece of furniture that sits at the end of the bed where people used to store blankets and sheets and stuff. you know, one of those vintage words that our grandparents probably used all the time but nobody really says anymore. we've been googling different combinations but keep striking out. it's driving us both crazy because it's right on the tip of our tongue. i'm pretty sure it was common terminology back in the 40s and 50s but has kind of faded out of everyday conversation. if anyone has any ideas i'd really appreciate it! this mystery word has been haunting our house for way too long now. submitted by /u/BirdLittle1911 to r/words [link] [comments]

I share a two bedroom apartment with my roommate, Matt. We are both 27. We have lived together for almost two years and it has been mostly fine. Rent is $2,450, not including utilities, and we split everything 50/50. Matt started dating Jenna about eight months ago. I like Jenna as a person. She is polite, she is not messy in the kitchen, and she has never been rude to me. At first she would come over maybe two nights a week. Normal relationship stuff. I had no issue with it. Around January, that changed. Jenna started staying over more because her own apartment has three roommates and, according to her, one of them works nights and comes home loud. I felt bad for her. I said I did not mind her being around as long as it did not feel like a third roommate situation. It now feels like a third roommate situation. The weird part is that she is not technically sleeping here every night, which is the argument Matt keeps using. She probably sleeps here three or four nights a week. But she is here almost every weekday from around 8:30 AM to 5 PM because she works from home and says our apartment is quieter than hers. At first she just used the couch with her laptop. Then she brought over a monitor. Then a keyboard. Then a rolling office chair that now lives in the corner of our living room. Then a little plastic drawer thing with chargers, notebooks, snacks, and random paperwork. She also takes work calls from the living room, which means I basically have to pretend the living room does not exist during the day. I work a hybrid schedule, so I am home two days a week. On those days I cannot really use the living room. If I make lunch, I feel like I have to be quiet because she is on calls. If I want to watch TV during my break, I cannot. If I have a friend over after work, her office setup is still sitting there unless I ask her to move it. The breaking point was last week. I came home early because I had a migraine and wanted to lie down on the couch since my room gets a lot of afternoon sun and was too hot. Jenna was on a Zoom meeting in the living room. I quietly grabbed water and started heading to the couch, and she muted herself and whispered, can you not be in the background? I honestly just stared at her because it is my couch in my apartment. I went to my room instead and waited until Matt got home. I told him this arrangement was not working for me anymore. I said Jenna either needs to stop using the living room as her office, or she needs to contribute to rent and utilities like someone who uses the apartment every weekday. Matt got defensive immediately. He said she does not live here and that I am being weird about his girlfriend existing in our shared space. I said existing is different from storing office furniture here and using the living room more than I do. He said she buys paper towels sometimes and brought us a Costco pack of coffee last month, so it is not like she contributes nothing. I told him paper towels are not rent. I suggested that if she is going to keep working here five days a week, she should pay $400 a month toward the apartment, and we can lower what Matt and I each pay a bit. I did not even think that was crazy considering she is using the space for 40 hours a week. Matt said that was insane because she already pays rent at her own place. I said then she should work at her own place. This turned into a bigger fight. Jenna cried and said she feels like I never liked her and that I am punishing her for having a bad living situation. Matt said I am making money off his relationship. I told them I am not trying to profit. I am trying to not pay half the rent for an apartment where I have to ask permission to use the living room. Now Matt is barely speaking to me. Jenna has not been over for two days, which honestly has been peaceful, but Matt says I made her feel unwelcome and embarrassed. A couple of mutual friends said I am right about the living room but asking for money makes me sound greedy. One friend said I should have just asked her to move the desk setup and not brought rent into it. I can see that maybe I jumped too quickly to money because I was frustrated. But I also think once someone has a chair, monitor, drawer, snacks, and a work schedule in your apartment, it is not just visiting anymore. So, WIBTA if I told my roommate that his girlfriend either needs to pay toward rent or stop working from our living room? submitted by /u/TallWaveSniper to r/WIBTA_AITA [link] [comments]

I am not The OOP, OOP is u/stinkyfurniture Brother's friend wanted a place to store 'a couple of wardrobes and a bed' while he moved back with his parents until the covid crisis is over. My house is now packed full with urine-stinky furniture. What can I legally do with it? Country NSW Australia. Originally posted to r/legaladvice TRIGGER WARNING: exploitation, things covered in shit, possible hoarding MOOD SPOILER: Disgusting (you can smell this post) BoRU 1 Posted by u/bestupdator Original Post June 21, 2021 I get on OK with my brother, and his friend hadn't shown any hint of being an idiot over the last 15 years so I went along with this. I'll call my brother's friend Doug. My brother phoned me a while back and asked if I could do a favour for Doug and he put doug on, and doug told me he's gotta move back in with his parents because he lacks work like all of us, and needs a place to store 'a couple of wardrobes full of clothes, and a bed' for about six months until things open up again. My brother told doug I had a spare room with not much in it (which is true), and I was happy to help so I said sure, bring it over. The spare room is more than big enough for a couple of wardrobes and a bed. Through miscommunications and a shift change at work I couldn't be there when doug moved out of his old place and put his stuff in the spare room, so I dropped my spare key to my brother and he supervised doug. on Friday afternoon I came back home to a house packed full of what looks like every possession doug has ever owned packed into every room of my house, and almost all of it is urine stained and covered in mouse droppings. "A couple of wardrobes full of clothes and a bed" has turned into two wardrobes full of mouse droppings clothes and boxes, a dozen garbage bags of more clothes, six chairs and a kitchen table, a bedside table, a dozen boxes of books, two bookcases, boxes of kitchen implements, half a dozen wall hangings and paintings, a house door covered in stickers, a credenza, a single bed and a double bed (both of them REEK of urine and bloke), four small chests of drawers, three kitchen cupboards, a pair of card tables, and two refrigerators with food in the freezers and plugged into my power, and more bags of bedclothes, electronics, just about everything to fill a regular small house. Everything in the house stinks and I can't do this. I don't mean it just has a scent to it, it stinks badly. I can taste the stink in my mouth even when I'm out of the house. With the heater on now it's winter it's nauseating. I phoned doug and told him he has to come and get this all out, and he can't. He's already 600km away on his parents property and has no money left. I told him I'm going to dump the lot of it if he doesn't come get it, and he told me I'd made a binding verbal agreement with him and if I damaged anything of his he'd come down on me like a tonne of bricks with legal action. ten minutes after getting off the phone with him, his dad phoned and made more threats the same. I can't reach any of the shelving in my spare room, I can't use half my couch or my art desk, I can only JUST reach my own clothing in my bedroom drawers and I can only use one chair in my kitchen. I've contacted my brother and a stupid shrugging noise and said he thought that's what I agreed on. What am I legally allowed to do with all this? I agreed to a couple of wardrobes and a bed. I did NOT agree to a house full of stuff. I want to at least get the worst of it out of the house immediately but it's been raining and we have a week more rain forecast. I can't afford to put it in storage, I'm slowly draining my savings the last few months as work has been cut back due to covid. I don't have a garage or shed, I have no undercover place to put any of this. Best I could do was borrow a tarp and wrap up the worst wardrobes and clingwrapped the beds but that's only a minor help as it all smells bad. I did a house plan drawing, sorry it's rubbish. on the left is my normal house, TV is the lounge, S spare room D desk room B bedroom and K kitchen. on the right is the same with all of doug's stuff added in red. https://imgur.com/a/I0eXuDz RELEVANT COMMENTS b30kay Before you do anything make sure to take pictures. OOP Thanks for that, good suggestion. Doing it right now. ~ glitzycupcake Not a lawyer, but I’d wager that anyone with this much disgusting shit probably doesn’t have the $$ or funds to sue. I’d just dump it if I was you. OOP Good point. I'm sitting here in this guy's filth in one of the few places I still can and I'm tempted to do that right now. I have a couple of mates who already offered to help. glitzycupcake I mean, does the guy seem like he’s got the ability to back up his claims? OOP The more I think about it the more I'd say no. His parents do own a large property way north of here. They'd be the ones who can afford it. Edit: ok this has gone beyond legal advice and beyond a joke I think, I just went around taking photos and doug has a dried up used cat litter tray in the bottom of his wardrobe underneath clothing, the bags of clothing have mouse nests in them, and there are cockroaches. I've phoned friends, we're dumping it on the front lawn tonight (it's 1130pm here) and I'm texting doug's parents with the photos and if they want any of it they'll come get it. I'll deal with the consequences of that later, my sanity and sanitation is worth more. UPDATE Brother's friend wanted a place to store 'a couple of wardrobes and a bed' while he moved back with his parents until the covid crisis is over. My house was packed with stinky furniture and it's all OK now. NSW Australia June 24, 2021 (3 days later) It's all solved. On Monday morning I sent photos of everything disgusting I could and of doug's furniture on the lawn to doug and his dad telling them it's beyond foul and I wouldn't be keeping any of it inside my house, and I'll dump it this week if they don't come get it. Twenty minutes later I got a call from doug's mother. She asked if it was so bad could I send her some evidence, like photos. I told her I'd already sent them to her son and his dad. She yelled out in the background to one of them "She says she DID send photos" then she got off the phone. Half an hour later she called me back and said they'd be down to pick up doug's stuff, and apologised. She asked if his books were OK. Apart from the mouse gnawing and droppings, yes. I'm not a barbarian, they were outside but under the eaves. This morning they turned up from 600km away. doug and his dad wanted to begin packing in their pantech but doug's mum wasn't having any of that. They dumped 90% of it at the tip and came back & took just a few things home. Even the food in the freezers was off. His mum apologised and offered to make me good with cash, but she's already solved enough and I declined. She left it open ended and said if I needed anything fixed to call her. I know I didn't follow legal advice, but this was the equivalent of someone asking you to hold onto a small keychain sized box for half a year, but instead they sneakily cover you in fifty kilos of feces you're not allowed to wash off until you get a lawyer and fill out all the right paperwork and wait a month. I just couldn't do it. I got lucky. I've had words with my brother and changed the locks to my place too. He'd opened up and let doug and doug's mates in, then left the key behind with him. He didn't know how bad it was either. My brother is an idiot and doug is a 32 year old baby and hopefully I'm a little wiser. THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP's OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7 submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

Ok so I was looking for a relaxing and soothing vibe for this bedroom but after the furniture was assembled I realized it's actually impersonal and sterile and it was so obvious with these colors being so similar, I should have seen it right away but yeah... I messed up I simply don't have the budget right now to change it so what kind of decorations can I add to give it some character? I'm definitely going for a huge painting and a big rug at its feet (picture 5 position) but what kind of style / combo would you recommend? submitted by /u/inostrale to r/HomeDecorating [link] [comments]

I am not The OOP, OOP is u/moneyfight My [26F] boyfriend [28M] of 4 years is independently wealthy, but wants to split all of our expenses evenly. TRIGGER WARNING: exploitation, classism Original Post July 5, 2016 My boyfriend and I first met 5 years ago while we were both in school. He comes from a fairly wealthy family who paid for his entire education, both undergrad and graduate school, and have basically funded his entire life. Up until 3 years ago, I didn't know any of this. I, on the other hand, come from a solidly middle class family and have been supporting myself fully since I graduated. Before that my parents helped me out, but I also worked to put myself through college. When we first started dating, my boyfriend and I more or less split everything evenly. Barring a few circumstances, we always bought our own dinner, movie tickets, chipped in for gas on road trips, etc. He never once mentioned his or his family's money. After a year of dating, I met his parents and figured it all out. At the time I was a bit miffed that our date nights were still eating frozen pizza on the couch of my crappy apartment, but I loved him, not his money, so I went with it. I also justified it by it being his money and he can do what he wants with it, and also, at the time I figured his parents were just his meal ticket until he was out of school and then he would be more independent. We live together now. I've learned that is not the case. While he does work, his parents have no intention of ever cutting him off, and he has enough inheritance/whatever money to keep him afloat even if they did. I work, too, but make significantly less than him. And I definitely don't have a rich grandparent somewhere leaving me half the world. This leads us to our problem. My boyfriend has always lived a fairly modest life. He buys nice clothes and nice things for himself, but that's about it. We live in an apartment that we can afford to split 50/50. We have furniture that we can afford to split 50/50. All of this is not a problem, I guess. I do think relationships should be equal. But then there's the other stuff. His sister got married the end of May in Maine, about a 6 hour flight from where we live. Obviously he expected me to go, but I was responsible for all of my ticket and half the hotel/food/car rental. This was a serious strain on my finances. When we moved in together, he brought along his dog. Now, I love this animal and love having him in our apartment. But my boyfriend now considers it "our" dog now and expects me to pay for half his food and other expenses. If he didn't already have this dog, I would've held off on getting a dog of our own for another year or two, until I was a little more stable financially. And then there's things like groceries. My boyfriend will often complain about how we can't afford nicer groceries from Whole Foods or other specialty stores, because I'm paying half and my half just won't cover it. I've mentioned that he can pay for what he wants, but he just says that we need to split it and he knows I can't afford it. Which at least isn't hypocritical, I guess. He has also mentioned recently wanting to move to a nicer apartment in a nicer part of town. He has even toured a few places and leaves print outs on top of my lunch for work. While I could technically afford it, using that high of a percentage of my income for rent makes my head hurt. It goes against every fiber of my being. I've told him if he was willing to split it a bit more like 60/40 instead of 50/50 I would be willing, but he refuses. I understand where he is coming from. I don't want to be a gold digging girlfriend that asks for thousands to be spent on her. But it kind of annoys me that we're living a poor, recent graduate lifestyle when we could be living so much more nicely with no real added expense to him. Is this unreasonable? It also worries me for the future. I want to marry and have a family with this guy. Is he going to deny our kids a private school education because I can't afford half, when he could pay it five times over? Are we going to take them to lesser doctors because I can't afford half the insurance, when he could pay the entire visit out of pocket? I'm not saying we need to live lavishly, I just wish everything didn't have to be 50/50 when we're not financially equal. I just don't know if I'm being unreasonable. He seems to think that the wealth of a family should match the lowest common denominator. TL;DR: Wealthy boyfriend makes more than enough for us to live a nicer lifestyle, but chooses to split everything 50/50, leading us to live a life below what I believe our means allow. RELEVANT COMMENTS ginjjer To be honest, those actions make me think that he doesn't see this as his entire future. I get it. I wouldn't want to be seen as a gold digger, either. But wage disparity exists in lots of relationships, and sometimes one party is going to carry more of the financial weight. That's life and love. Also. I think the wedding thing really bothered me. I mean, if you want me to travel with you, why wouldn't you offer to help with the expense? Otherwise, I'll be at home and see you when you get back. I just can't imagine straining myself financially for someone who clearly is THAT concerned about money and how much they have and keeping it all to themselves. :( OOP Normally I would be inclined to agree with you, but he does want to get married. If things went his way we would be married by the end of this year. For my own reasons I never wanted to get married before 30, but I've been willing to compromise for him because I really do love him. We will probably be married within the next two years. The wedding thing did bug me, but I also kind of understand it. His sister and I get along very well and I consider her a good friend. I wouldn't want to miss out on her wedding. It's not like I was just his plus one at a random wedding. But I do wish he had helped me out a little, especially since paying for my ticket or even just paying for all of the rental car would've helped me out a lot and not even made a dent in his pocket. volupe_hermoine What's he going to do when you're married? Still insist you pay for half of everything? Or will you merge finances? OOP He wants to merge finances. We have a pretty strict budget right now, and it gets split 50/50 from our own money. When we get married he says that we will have a joint account that goes towards what we split now. Little, personal expenses (like haircuts, trips out with friends, etc) would be paid for from our own separate accounts. I just don't really see that happening given how strict he is now. If he wants to do something and I can't afford it, we don't do it. Which I get. I think that's reasonable. But I also think we've been together for four years...I'm not his pal bumming money for a cigarette. I'm his live-in girlfriend, and most of what I buy he benefits from, too, anyway. [deleted] That sounds like he'll have an endless supply of fun money and you'll have nothing. Marital expenses should be proportional in most cases. If you're living together, I think that would apply as well. OOP Our situation isn't quite as dire as that. I think a lot of this post made it sound like I'm dirt poor, when that isn't the case. But I've only been working for four years. We live in a rather expensive city. I do well for my age, but I'm definitely still very conscious of my spending habits, and I'm trying to build up my savings before I get to the age where I'm wanting to buy a house or start a family. I'm 26...I don't know too many 26 year olds who can afford fancy wine from fancy stores or fly across country and stay in nice hotels on short notice. At least not if they're smart about their money. I do agree they expenses should be proportional. I just don't know how to get him to see that. ~ Marzy-d How does he justify making you pay for his dog? Do you get half ownership of the dog? Visitation when you guys break up? Not cool. OOP When he moved in I kind of "assumed" equal ownership of the dog. We care for it equally, it's not like he's taking sole care of it. Whoever is up first feeds him, whoever is home first walks him, etc. So it kind of makes sense that we would both pay, but at the same time I agree with you. While I don't see us breaking up, it could happen, and the dog would definitely go with him. And there I am having spent thousands of dollars of the course of a few years for an animal I don't even have. We have a set budget, that gets split 50/50 for household things. The dog just got lumped in there. Marzy-d Well, unlump it. He needs to pay for his own dog. He is either incredibly naive about money, or he feels it is OK to take advantage of you. I would suggest that he probably eats more than half of the food he makes you pay half for as well. It fine to make sure that both people pull their weight financially. But he is causing you to spend extra money for him, even though he has far more money than you. Have you asked him why he thinks its ok to be selfish like this? OOP I don't really think of it as him being selfish, I guess. I was raised in a household where money was completely pooled, so I guess I'm just having a hard time adjusting. And I realize that we're not married. But we have been in a relationship for over 4 years and live together. I wouldn't ask him to spend a dime more if we were still just casually dating or living apart, or even if we lived together but had only been dating for a year or so. He is actually pretty smart about money, which I like about him. But it's not like he's totally frugal. He just bought himself a really nice watch "just because." Hell, even the gifts he buys me are always around the price point of what I could afford half of, even though I don't pay. And I feel absolutely awful for even mentioning that, because I truly do appreciate everything he has ever gotten me. But it's also kind of hurtful to seem him buy his sisters and family these really nice, luxury items, and then I get the same sub-$100 gifts he gets his friends. They're always thoughtful, which I appreciate, but at the same time...come on. I do agree that I need to stop paying for the dog. I just also have a sort of hard time actually saying that, because I do enjoy and benefit from the dog just as much as he does. I do love dogs and grew up with them, I'd want one again one day. I just didn't want one right now. ~ RaspberryBliss Tell him if he doesn't want to pay the difference between what you can afford and what he wants to have, then he needs to quit complaining about what you can afford. That's not a fair or nice thing to do to your partner. OOP He should be home from work within the next hour and I will be discussing everything with him then. I'm going to propose that we rework out original budget so that the percentage of income is even, rather than just split the cost of everything equally. OOP added this as a response to a comment He's 100% an "our money" person, and has said he wants to have a joint account to cover major expenses from after marriage. Small personal expenses would be covered independently, but even that would be out of ease (not having to check with the other spouse before getting a $50 haircut or buying a new pair of shoes, for example.) Otherwise what's his is mine and vice versa. I guess I just think it's a little unreasonable to wait two years to get married to start doing that at all. I'm not saying we should pool our finances right now, but if he wants fancy meat from a specialty butcher for dinner one night, why doesn't he buy it? Yeah, I'll eat half of it, but we're both benefiting from it. If he wants to live in a nicer place, I don't think it's unreasonable that he picks up the difference. If I'm working late, I don't think it's crazy to ask him to go pick up shampoo/toothpaste/whatever and not ask me to pay him the $4 back. I would be happy to do the same for him. Update July 6, 2016 (Next Day) Original post here A couple people had asked for an update after I talked to my boyfriend today, so here goes: It's been a long afternoon. He got home early this afternoon (he had a dentist appointment and just came home after) and I had my "presentation" ready for him. He listened to everything I had to say about not thinking things were fair, how his wants were starting to cause a financial strain on me, how I wished we could work out some sort of new system. The conversation didn't last long. I laid it all out, he listened without saying a word. As soon as I was done he said he would not budge on the 50/50 split, that that is the way it will be until after we're married and it is not something he was willing to compromise on. I told him that if that was the case I did not know if I would be able to continue the relationship. He said that if that was the way I felt then that was the way it was going to be, because he wasn't budging. He did say we could get married very soon if it was that big of a deal to me, but at that point I was pretty much over it. I'm not going to marry someone before I'm ready just for financial security. So he left to take his dog for a walk, I packed up some of my things, and had a coworker with a truck come and help me load some stuff up. When I was ready to go my (ex)boyfriend handed me a check. Apparently during all of this he had figured out how much he "owed" me. Our apartment lease is up at the end of August, and we had prepaid. He had written out the check for my half, as well as what he estimated was left of the groceries that I would not be consuming and what he figured I had spent on dog expenses over the course of our relationship. Yeah. So I guess he was fair to the very end. I've told him I'll be back on Friday to get the rest of my things. For now I'm staying with a good friend who has an extra bedroom, and I'm hoping I can find a new apartment soon. So things definitely didn't go the way I planned. I'm not happy about it, but I guess I'm glad I figured out now instead of a year from now when I'm shopping for a wedding dress. Thanks to everyone for the advice. TL;DR: Boyfriend didn't want to budge. We broke up. I'm now single and hunting for my own apartment within my own price range. RELEVANT COMMENTS Fisgig I bet you anything that since this guy was old enough to realize the importance of money, he was drilled with lessons from his parents that you should never, under any circumstances, support someone financially until marriage. The 50/50 split was probably something he was taught as a way of protecting himself and his assets and he followed it to the letter. Unfortunately, like a lot of people from money, he did not realize the financial impact on you of raising your standard of living. This is where he needed to budge a little bit. OOP I think you are right. As horrible as all of this seems, he really isn't a bad guy. I wouldn't have stayed with him for nearly 5 years if he was. But his ideas about how money and relationships work are totally different than mine, and I can't compromise on everything. I'm not happy that it ended this way, but what's done is done. ~ cfdagola I will say this one thing despite the bad outcome. Of all the men in the world who go absolutely psycho and "work harder" and start stalking people or who generally just can't accept that their SO is leaving them and have mental break downs and all the things in between. this guy stroked a check like a business man handed it to her and went about his day. I mean that is both strange and rare. but it's so rare that you gotta wonder if there's some hidden issues. I could see Bruce Wayne doing this. But he's also Batman who has heavy mental and emotional issues. Like others have said bullet dodged on this one. OOP He wouldn't have been the man I fell in love with if he went crazy and tried to win me back. That's not the kind of relationship we had. Which isn't to say I don't think the check thing was totally bizarre, I do...but I think that was just his little way of saying "fuck you." Like when a kid is told to eat slower and then takes an hour to finish dinner or something. OOP to a deleted commenter Thanks to u/Competitive-Bed-91 for finding this comment He wanted things I couldn't afford. Which is fine. But I told he could pay a bit more and have those things, or 50/50 and live on my terms and what I can afford. He didn't want to budge. And then continued to complain or push for more expensive things. For instance, he knows what type of meat I can afford. We split groceries 50/50. And then he would come home with expensive cuts and ask for my half. That's not okay. He wanted a very pricy apartment. I said it wasn't going to work with my budget. He would continue to leave flyers for very expensive places on my lunch or in the hallway where I would see it. If he wants those things, then yeah, I don't think a 50/50 split is fair if it means he just gets to keep his money and I'm struggling to make ends meet. THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP's OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7 submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I don't mean he wants to be equal about absolutely everything, but these things stand out. So I (f25) have a large walk in closet in the master bedroom. I've already made plenty of room for my bf (m25). I showed him, but he is expecting to have half of the closet empty for his stuff. I have gotten rid of enough things so about 1/4 of the closet is empty for him. I know for a fact that all of his clothes/shoes will only take up about half of that so 1/8th of the closet. I would also be understanding if he needs more space later on and would get rid of more of my things as needed, but he hates shopping and has enough room to double his wardrobe so it doesn't seem necessary to get rid of more things right now. This is also just about clothes storage because there is plenty of storage around the rest of his house for his other things. The second main thing we got into was the spare rooms. I have two spare rooms in my house. One is currently my office/craft room which is the larger of the too. The other room was my old roommates room which was smaller. I totally understand him wanting a spare room for himself. So we originally were going to turn the smaller room into his room. But then he thought we would need a guest bed so we've been looking into getting on that looks like a cabinet and can be opened and pulled down as needed so it doesn't take up too much space. Though it will still take up a wall. My bf wanted the cabinet pull down bed in my room because its bigger. I did not because I don't really like the idea of having people in my office and I wouldn't want it to basically unusable to me when we do have houseguests. Also I don't really need a guest room. All my friends and family live nearby. It would be my bfs family that would be staying with us. So to me it makes more sense that they're in his room. So I suggested we switch the rooms so at least the cabinet bed will still be in the bigger room and not take up too much of his personal space. He wasn't a big fan of that idea because sometimes he will play games late at night which he thinks will be annoying if/ when we have guests. So then he started talking about us also getting an air mattress for my room so we can take turns with guests so we are equally inconvenienced by them since I do also stay up late sometimes to do stuff. I did end up standing firm on my room being my private place and we moved on from that, but this weekend I was working on packing stuff up in my office in preparation of moving the furniture over. While I was doing that I measure my furniture and the other room and was excited to find a configuration that will fit everything. It will be tighter, but all my furniture will fit fine and I think it will look very nice. Aside from a large trunk. There is a wide hallway outside the door and it fits right at the end there though. The furniture I'm moving into the smaller room are three book cases, two adjustable standing desks, and a cabinet. They're all very nice and matching. I'll also add that I have two desks because one is set up for my computer, the other is more for craft work. Both I use regularly. So I was telling my bf how it would all fit, but he told me he thought we would be splitting the furniture up since he doesn't really have any furniture for his room. His current desk is actually just a fold out card table and he's afraid it will look trashy to his family staying in there. So he thinks it would be fair for him to get one of the desks, at least one bookcase, and either the trunk or the cabinet. I don't know maybe I'm being selfish, but this is all rubbing me the wrong way. I just don't want to give up those things because it would mean giving up more of my stuff or just letting it sit on the floor in my room Losing the other desk would also suck because I often leave whatever craft I'm working on on my 2nd desk, but I wouldn't be able to do that with just one and it would be a pain to shuffle things around, but he says I could use the card table as my second desk, but its not as sturdy and its not adjustable so I can stand when I want to. Plus its just that this stuff is my stuff. So now with all these things I'm kind of not wanting him to move in at all anymore and I feel like I almost want to rethink this relationship because it feels like I've just seen the future where he's going to nitpick over everything being equal between us forever. I feel like I'm in a hard place though because he his landlord already found a new tenant for his room and he's supposed to be out of there by the end of the month. Also I should add that neither of us really makes a lot or has much spare money to spend on getting him new and nicer furniture for his room. I may sound like I have more money, but pretty much all the stuff in the house are things my parents gifted me or paid for. They used to support me a lot and gave me an allowance, but not since I got my first real job after college. The house itself is also theirs. They said it will be mine fully one day, but for right now I pay them rent. submitted by /u/OkJello353 to r/AmIOverreacting [link] [comments]