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For those of you with semi straight pipes the brush cleaner works ok, but those didn’t work for me so I had to look for something different because of the sharp bends in mine. I bought this and it works well! One tip though, wear a dust mask and goggles, because this thing really ejects the lint. Run the dryer on “no heat” to help blow everything out. Compressed air vent cleaner

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Super cute do Carol, I second the notion of blow drying your hair upside down for a bit and then using a big round brush for the bangs with blow dryer first on warm and then change to cool to set the bangs.

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@Catpuccin0, yeah when I actually take the time to style it I use a blow dryer that has a brush attachment that sort of straightens it as it goes

My large brush blow dryer made it to my room in my checked luggage.  Thank goodness as after two days of travel I was in sad shape. 

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My OES, Narya, is 5 months old and my first dog I brush her every night, in part to prepare us both for the increased demand when her grown-up coat comes in. Drying her after a bath is already a lengthy process with my own hair dryer and I know I'm going to need an industrial strength one. What do you recommend? I'm hoping not to break the bank but mostly want to be able to dry her in a reasonable amount of time. submitted by /u/mischief_pirate to r/OldEnglishSheepdog [link] [comments]

Both are hardly used. Doesn’t work on my thick hair. Both are for 1k each plus a freebie included for every purchase. submitted by /u/the_jewel_of_denial to r/ThriftIndia [link] [comments]

So I finally dove into the world of blowout brushes this year, and can't see myself ever going back. I love the ease of which I can dry my medium-length, fine hair and get a salon-finished look. However...not many brands offer a smaller barrel, so I went with the Drybar 1.5" Halfshot. Problem: it's pretty damn hot. Drybar refuses to tell customers what the heat setting is, and I've noticed that on both of my brushes, the bristles start to melt and warp after about a year of use. This great article explains why 122-150°F is the ideal temperature for blow dying. So here's what my research of major brands has come up with as of April 2026. Please chime in with your experience and knowledge! Only brushes for blow-dry (damp hair) listed. Amika Blowout Babe: $100 Barrel diameter: 1.5" Heat temp: 356° Amika Blow Dry Brush 2.0: $100 Barrel diameter: 3" (?) Heat temp: 115°-230° Babyliss Pro Nano: $70 Barrel diameter: 1.25" Heat temp: 450°-465° Babyliss Pro Nano Titanium Compact Barrel diameter: 2" Heat temp: three settings, 450°F max Babyliss Pro Nano Titanium Oval Barrel diameter: 2.5" Heat temp: three settings, 450°F max BondiBoost Blowout Brush: $85 Barrel diameter: 2", 2.95" Heat temp: 275°-450° CHI LAVA Airwave: $220 Barrel diameter: 2-3" Heat temp: not available, two settings CHI 3-in-1 Round Blowout Brush: $135 Barrel diameter: 1", 1.25", 1.5" Heat temp: not available, three settings (up to 410°) Drybar -Shot: $155 Barrel diameter options: 1.5" (half shot), 2.25" (full shot), 2.4" (double shot) Heat temp: WILL NOT DISCLOSE, three settings Dyson Airwrap I.D.: $650 Barrel diameter: 2" Heat temp: up to 302° Dyson Shark Glossi: $180 Barrel diameter: unknown (specs say 3.1" with bristles) Heat temp: 120°-180° Shark HT202 SmoothStyle: $130 Barrel diameter: 3.3" Heat temp: 100°-120° ghd Duet: $430 (bad reviews) Barrel diamter: not listed Heat temp: 365°F Hot Tools 24K Gold One-Step Blowout And Volumizer: $85 Barrel diameter: 2.8" Heat temp: not available, three settings Hot Tools Black Gold One-Step Detachable: $65 Barrel diameter: 2.4" / 2.8" Heat temp: up to 430° L'ange 2-In-1: $99 Barrel diameter options: 1.7", 2.4", 2.6", 2.7" Heat temp: 180°-225° Moroccanoil 4-In-1: $140 Barrel diameter: 3" Heat temp: not available, three settings Revlon Salon One-Step Hair Dryer and Volumizer: $50 Barrel diameter: 2.5" Heat temp: 171°-274°+ T3 Airebrush: $150 Barrel diameter: 2.5" round Heat temp: 212° submitted by /u/starlightskater to r/Haircare [link] [comments]

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I got this soft blowout look at a salon (volume + soft curls at the ends). I have naturally straight hair, so it doesn’t hold styling for long. What tool should I buy under ₹4k to recreate something similar at home? Options I’m considering: – Blow dryer + round brush – Blow dryer brush (hot air brush) + velcro – Straightener for curls I want something beginner-friendly that gives volume and lasts longer. Also please suggest good BRANDS available in India within this budget. Any tips/products for making it last longer would help too! submitted by /u/Queasy_Cow3901 to r/IndianBeautyTalks [link] [comments]

Hello, Beautiful Viners. I've been in Vine Voice for a year and a half now, got promoted to Gold as soon as I was eligible, and I've maintained an "excellent" review rating, along with a consistently high number of "helpful" clicks. Overall it's been a great experience and I'm so fortunate and grateful. I can no longer work due to chronic health issues, but as someone who's always had a strong work ethic, I take my role in Vine seriously, and I definitely go above and beyond with my reviews. We all have our theories, and continue to speculate about how to work the algorithms for our RFY lists. I truly believe a lot of it has to do with the overall quality of our reviews, as I've gotten so many high ticket items, even recently during these past few months of car parts and remote controls. Majority of what I have gotten during my time in Vine are beauty items, a lot of high end and name brand skincare sets, too. My first year I acquired a lot of furniture and other houseware items, but beauty has always been the majority of my items reviewed. But the one item I've not gotten yet, and my reason for posting is I've been on a year long intensive hair therapy treatment plan. Due to my health issues I lost a lot of my hair, and what I did have left was in terrible shape. But I'm finally seeing results and my hair is looking better. It's actually growing now, and my hair therapist has recommended I upgrade to a better hair dryer blow dry brush combo. Since I don't work, I'm on a fixed income, and I am trying to algorithm my way to getting a brand name hair dryer brush combo, or at least a better quality hair dryer. My question is this - do these ever show up anymore? Are they few and far between? I'm trying to gage my chances of getting one in my RFY rather than spending an upwards of $300+ that isn't in the budget. I feel like I've been able to "work the algorithms" in my favor for literally everything else on my wish list these past 18 months. But I have never seen evidence of anyone ever getting a high quality or brand name hair dryer tool that I'm currently looking for. Do these actually exist in Vine? Because if there's absolutely no chance ever then I've got to figure out a plan. But if they do exist in the wild, I'm willing to be patient and wait for my chance because I do believe it might just be a matter of time. Sorry if my post is weird. I know it's a little out there. But if you all saw my hair one year ago and then saw it today I'm sure you'd understand why I'm so desperate to find the high quality items I need yet can't afford. submitted by /u/AnAccidentalPoet to r/BeautyViners [link] [comments]

So I’ve been on a hair journey. I recently chopped it off because I had so many split ends. I had been trying the Abbey Young method and not really getting the results I wanted… she recommends so many heavy products and clarifying shampoos which left my strands dry, damaged, and weighed down. I live in Colorado and our humidity is basically zero and our water is very hard. Second pic is to show how tiny my ponytail is… I truly have fine hair, I can’t even use elastics because they slip out! I decided to go back to the drawing board and figure out what combos worked for MY hair, which is fine, pin straight, never been dyed, etc. It finally feels bouncy, shiny, and well taken care of! Routine: Before bed: Shu Uemura Hair Oil Daily Shampoo: Living Proof Restore Clarifying Shampoo: L’Oreal Metal Detox Conditioner: Olaplex #5 Leave in: Aveda Damage Remedy Tools: Dyson Blow Dryer w/ a basic round brush submitted by /u/maya_says to r/finehair [link] [comments]

I have mixed texture curly/wavy fine hair. I also have bangs I normally blow dry. I’m really struggling with blow drying my hair and want to make it easier. Currently I use a round brush and blow dryer and it’s so much work to get it the way I like it and usually it just doesn’t turn out quite right. I am debating between a thermal brush vs a blow dryer brush to blow out/style my hair and bangs. I am looking for recommendations for something okay for beginners that ideally is minimally damaging. In the photo are a few from Sephora that I am considering. I’m also open to recommendations not from Sephora, I just want something decent quality and not crazy expensive like a Dyson. Also please don’t recommend the revlon air brush because I had that before and really didn’t like it. Thanks! submitted by /u/Free-Tradition-1187 to r/beauty [link] [comments]

I cannot believe I just had this conversation with my daughter. She told her mother she wanted a new hair dryer and Mom said no, so she was unhappy. I came downstairs and asked what was going on. Wife fills me in. Me: "What's wrong with the one you have?" Daughter: "It sucks." Me: "No, it blows. It's a hair dryer." Wife proceeds to laugh while daughter eye rolls hard. Wife and her argue more, we discuss her doing chores to earn money to pay for it, but of course this isn't acceptable to daughter. Wife points out the existing dryer works fine - hot air comes out, multiple settings, etc. This leads to: Me: "So why do you need a new one?" Daughter: "Because it sucks!" Me: "No, it blows! We just went over this!" Cue wife nearly spilling her glass of wine from laughter and daughter sulking off upstairs. EDIT: Lots of comments. The existing hair dryer is from a well-known brand. It is clean and functional. She wants a brush-type multi-styler instead of a traditional style hair dryer. Her complaint that it takes too long is because she runs it on the warm setting. If she wants a new one, she'll have to earn it. Bank of Mom and Dad is closed. THANK YOU FOR YOUR ATTENTION TO THIS MATTER! submitted by /u/dr_rex to r/funny [link] [comments]

I’m a complete beginner, so I want something that’s easy to learn and simple to style my hair with. Any recommendations would be really helpful! 🥺✨ submitted by /u/Maelina_gloww to r/IndianBeautyTalks [link] [comments]

These are few options I managed to gather..my hair type is wavy submitted by /u/Euphoric_Play_6378 to r/IndianBeautyTalks [link] [comments]

There is a huge saturation of blow dry brushes on the market and it’s completely overwhelming to decide which to get. For reference these are my wants My hair is thin and long so minimal tugging and breakage would be great like smooth bristles Healthy for my hair (as healthy as heat gets) just did a big chop and want to keep it as healthy as possible will use heat protectant but still My hair is wavy so can actually get it straight like around the roots too Am able to create bouncy curls with it. I don’t want it to be too big to where I can only flip the ends and just make it straight Can dry my hair. Obviously will blow dry regularly first but it should still do a good job of blow drying to some extent. Which of the above should I get? If you have other suggestions not included I’m completely open to that as well!!! submitted by /u/Maximum_Plant4286 to r/Sephora [link] [comments]

Great deal on this brush I have been using it for a year now and I love it! submitted by /u/DumpYoAss to r/IndianBeautyDeals [link] [comments]

How has my hair gone from that to this in 8 months??? I HAVEN’T EVEN GOTTEN A TRIM? I use the revlon blow dryer brush to blow dry my hair after I wash it. Is that ripping out my hair? I didn’t notice how much shorter it has gotten until now. I’m in tears. I never know what to do with my hair because I’m adopted and my town is predominantly white. Like I have to drive 2 hours to get my hair braided. I never grew up knowing how to do my hair and my (white) parents relaxed it when I was younger so it waseasier to manage” (for them). I grew up getting crochet braids 😕. So I just blow dry it and put it in two buns when I don’t have braids in because that’s all I’ve ever known. Is the Revlon brush ripping my hair out when I blow dry it? Please help me. How can I fix this? Do I just need to face it and chop it all off? submitted by /u/revolnotsniw to r/BlackHair [link] [comments]

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I could never give myself a blow out, way too much hair and couldn't get the hang of using a brush and blow dryer at the same time - I would always rough dry and use a curling iron after. Got a cheap Conair brush blow dryer for free from a friend and it's a game changer. Also the hair is now long enough to warrant protective braid while sleeping. Mostly to protect me from my boyfriend lying on it and yanking on my hair lol submitted by /u/Dry_Complaint6528 to r/longhair [link] [comments]

Or what things do you do that helps with minimal everyday effort and you still look put together, clean, and stress free?? One of the BIGGEST things for me has been my hair treatment. It's expensive but it speeds up my daily routines. I do a Japanese straight hair treatment once every year and my hair remains straight. I don't have to worry about hairstyles or using blow dryers, straighteners because I can wakeup in the morning and my hair is already sleek, shiny and straight. I always shower before bed. Rarely will I do it in the morning but because im lazy and slow at everything I do 😂 i try to get more things done the night before so I dont have to do it in the morning. All I want is to wake up brush my teeth and put my clothes and deodorant on. For Skin care I do simple quick stuff like cleansing, serum, and my moisturizer. I don't eat breakfast but I'll make an herbal tea. I like having this done in 30 min. Edit: because so many people are asking me about the hair treatment ill explain here. This treatment is offered in Asian salons particularly Korean and Japanese. The treatment is PERMANENT not like the Brazilian one. Which means the part of your hair that received the treatment will always stay pin straight BUT as your natural hair continues to grow from your scalp, depending on your type of hair, you will eventually have half pin straight hair and the other half will be your normal hair so keep that in mind. I have straight almost wavy hair but i do this treatment because i always had frizzy hair problems.The cost of this treatment depends on your hair length. So for me its been between 200-400 dollars. When my hair was shoulder length i paid around 200 (i live in the east coast US). The treatment can take 3-4 hours to complete depending on length. Your hairstylist will tell you how to care for you hair after the treatment. I hope i answered all your questions. submitted by /u/reila_09 to r/selfcare [link] [comments]

So I ordered Alan Truman blow brush from TIRA, expecting a small parcel. What shows up? A box the size of my existential crisis. Opened it with the excitement of unboxing a mystery, only to find my petite hair tool sitting awkwardly in the corner of this massive cardboard mansion like it’s in time-out. Anyone else getting their online orders in unnecessarily dramatic boxes? Is this a new form of packaging flex? submitted by /u/ShoppingRepulsive21 to r/indianbeautyhauls [link] [comments]

Learning how to properly blow dry my hair with a round brush and a concentrator nozzle has transformed my hair. I bought a nice Babyliss Pro Portafino blow dryer from Ulta with a 20% off coupon and watched a couple videos on YouTube by @MoriahSeabrook and OMG my hair looks amazing, shiny and I actually have volume. It looks as good as or better than when I leave the salon. I can finally stop washing my hair everyday because it lasts atleast 2 days depending on how sweaty I get at the gym. I also really can’t stand buildup on my scalp so I usually wash every other day anyways. I have a very oily scalp, slightly wavy in front/straight everywhere else, couple inches below shoulders length, fine medium density hair. Prior to learning how to blow dry my hair I had to wash everyday, my hair always looked dull and frizzy and I could see my temples way more. PRODUCTS Shampoo/conditioner: Redken acidic bonding shampoo and conditioner (LOVE). Pantene volume shampoo and dove intensive care conditioner. Leave in: Redken acidic bonding or it’s a 10. Styling: Catwalk Root Boost Spray for Lift and Texture, Kenra platinum thickening mousse and sometimes Olaplex No.7 Bonding Hair Oil on the ends all before I blow dry. Color wow dream coat (love this one too) twice a week. Blow dryer and brush: Babyliss pro portafino and Olivia Garden Ceramic+Ion Speed XL Round Thermal Brush- 2 inch. Hairspray: Elnett Extra Strong Unscented Hairspray Dry shampoo: klorane oat milk. I spray it directly on my oily spots at night BEFORE my hair gets oily. I hope this helps someone because I’m 38 and I just learned how to do this lol. EDIT: using a blow dryer with a concentration nozzle and a separate round brush really helps with frizz and shine. A lot of people recommend hot blow dryer brushes for volume and they do work for that but those blow all my little hairs up and out so I look like a frizz ball. I feel like you get both with the concentration nozzle method. submitted by /u/I_have_to_go_numba_3 to r/finehair [link] [comments]

It used to take me 3 hours to blow dry and make my hair manageable. Just blow dried my hair with this hair dryer wand brush thing for the first time and I actually look like a presentable human and it took like 20 minutes. Makeup and hair is hard for a lot of us so that’s my recommendation of the day. I always beat myself up for looking like a 12 year old boy bc this shit is just too hard and takes too long so I’m pretty happy with this purchase. In other news I’m super burnt out but I just finished my degree, truly never thought the day would come. You’ve got this ladies! submitted by /u/herzache to r/adhdwomen [link] [comments]

I am NOT the Original Poster. That is u/HouseBunnyis_rated. She posted in r/amiwrong. I added some paragraph breaks for readability. Thanks to u/Direct-Caterpillar77 for the rec! Please read trigger warnings. Also, latest update is 7 days old, per the rules of this sub. Trigger Warnings: child abuse; child sexual abuse; grooming Mood Spoiler: fucked up but things seem to be moving in the right direction Original Post: March 4, 2024 I’m married with two young children. We live in a very nice area in America. Private neighborhood, almost no crime, leave your door unlocked type of situation. My daughter is 7 almost 8 and has a few neighborhood friends. We live at the top of the hill and her friends are at the bottom. I’ll often let my daughter walk to her friends house alone, with me standing in our front yard watching until she either goes inside or starts back home if their not home. It’s five houses down, so not far far but enough that she can’t hear me unless I scream. It was raining yesterday and she asked to go see if her friend was home. I said yes. I watched her slowly walk down, knock and then start heading back. She’s three houses down at our neighbors driveway when she looks over and starts speaking. Then she walks down the driveway and out of sight. Honestly, in the moment I thought nothing of it. I know these neighbors, they have two adorable golden retrievers they walk often and that love the young girls in the neighborhood. A little annoyed, I pop back in to check on my 3 year old inside before going back out and waiting. Well, 3 minutes turns into 5 and my mom instincts are starting to tingle. I go inside and wake up my husband to watch my son and race out into the rain. It’s been maybe 10 minutes since I had eyes on my kid and that’s not something I’m comfortable with. I get down there, work boots, no umbrella and jacket and knock at the door. No one is outside. No dogs barking. It’s dark inside. Im starting to panic. Then the husband comes to the door. He’s so casual and then seems to sense I’m freaked out because he laughs it off and explains that one of the neighborhood girls was helping him give his dog a bath when my child happened by and they all went into the garbage to dry him off. He said he was just about to send the girls home since they were finishing up. I follow him in and yep, there is a wet dog and two laughing little girls. He seemed fine, but his wife wasn’t home and the house was quiet and I just got this feeling like dangerous was close and idk, I just sort of rushed the girls out of his house. I don’t even know if I said goodbye or was rude. I scolded daughter for running off without telling me but she was confused because her friend was there too. This other little girl is only 6 and her parents often allow her to run around to neighbors homes. I have no idea how long she was there or if her parents knew. We walked her home, where her older sister met us and brushed me off when I told her she was with the neighbor, alone. Saying “we wondered where she went.” I was so shaken up that I was physically shaking, my teeth chattering. Idk why but I have this terrible feeling in my stomach that something nefarious is going on with this man. I want to text the neighbors who daughter was there just to see but my husband thinks it’s overstepping. He wonders if I’m being judgmental. Grown men can babysit young girls. Still, the entire thing felt off to me. His surprised and odd behavior when he saw me at his door was almost like I had interrupted him. It sent my hackles up in a way I cannot explain. My husband says my past is clouding things and making me see shadows in sunlight. I was groomed as a child by a family member so he thinks I’m hyper aware and over reacting. So, am I wrong to raise the alarm about this behavior? Or is it innocent? Who washes a dog in the rain? And alone with little girls? It’s weird, right? Am I crazy here? Relevant Comments: You've done nothing wrong, but dog owners do wash their dogs in the rain because of the mud: I guess the rain and mud makes sense. I was worried I was overreacting. I just find it so wildly inappropriate. He has no kids or his own. He’s not even close to me or my husband. I guess I need to drop it. My husband is annoyed I told my daughter she is never to go in strangers homes even if she knows another girl there. Come ask me first. My husband likes the “old school” way of leaving doors u locked and trusting others. He’s all “it takes a village” whenever I bring it up. He’s 100% against me bringing it up to the other neighbors. I guess I’m wondering if I’d be wrong to do that? Can you do a search for him having a record? He has no record. My sister checked on a website. You're not wrong to feel the way you do, but don't ruin his life without proof: I have no intention of ruining anyone’s life. I wouldn’t confront him. I want to reach out to our neighbors that have a young girl that was also in his house. She runs very free and is welcome in everyone’s homes best I can tell. My husband says this is the way they were raised and that I shouldn’t even bring it up to the mom. I just want them to know what I saw but I am obviously not from here and already struggle with some issues of not fitting in. I also don’t want to make more people dislike me for misstepping and implying he did something wrong. OOP responds to some comments: Commenter: Creepy AF. Why wasn’t the garage open? You’re not wrong here. What kind of man invites 2 little girls into his home like that? I’m kind of at a loss here because it’s absurd that anyone would think that’s okay. OOP: This was my reaction. It’s so inappropriate to me. The door was shut. It was eerily quiet and he was alone with two small children. Idk if this is cultural but in my culture adult men do not take in young girls. Commenter: I think your daughter needs to understand that when you say you are going to someone’s house if they are not home you come home and tell your mom if you want to go somewhere else. The fact that this adult male had two small young girls in his house without a parent there or even wondering why they are wandering around the neighborhood in the rain is extremely odd. I can’t imagine my husband, my brothers and my dad or anybody not trying to find out why these two children are wandering around the neighborhood n the pouring rain. Instead, they are bathing the dog? I can only imagine the scenario and it is not good. OOP: I may be leaving some stuff out. My husband is also upset that I explained to our young daughter why I don’t want her alone with strange adults. I didn’t go into detail but I told her that sometimes adults don’t treat children right and that she needs to learn to notice when she’s in a place and her father and I are not, whether we think it’s safe or not. She knows safe touch etc, so i explained it’s like that. She said she felt safe and fine with our neighbor and I told her that it wasn’t him exactly, but just people in general. My husband is angry at me for I’m tainting her youth and exposing her to these ideas but as a child I knew this and more. Commenter: How do you not know this neighbor? Are you new to the neighborhood? It's like he's a complete stranger to you? We live in a "it takes a village" neighborhood. It's fantastic. I never have to worry because we're always keeping an eye out for each other. Run that background check, then make an effort to know ALL of the neighbors between your house and your daughter's friend's house. OOP: There are 40 homes in our neighborhood. The ones with children are numbering 7. We know each other very well. Others we know well-ish. It’s been 4 years here now. It’s a great place to live!!! I’ve never gotten odd feelings from people but this neighbor has no kids and keeps to themselves. The wife is more social and I know better. The husband doesn’t talk much and I don’t know well but he always takes an interest in the kids, so I see him with the dogs and hear him talk about how much they love this one girl. Commenter: The way I see it is what adult male would be comfortable with two young girls alone in his house? Just for self preservation alone. Not implying your child but any kid could say anything happened and he's automatically guilty until proven innocent and even then everyone will still doubt him. If he wasn't afraid of what might have been said or implied he's either very stupid, naive or should be suspect of something. OOP: His reaction and nervous laughing and keeping saying that he was “just” sending them out told me he felt very very nervous. It’s another thing that raised my hackles. He was defensive Commenter: Have you asked your daughter if they only dried the dog? What did they talk about? Etc OOP: I did not want to make her feel my worry. I waited until bedtime when we discuss our day. She said he opened the garage for them and they went inside and dried the dog while he got the blow dryer. She said he took a picture of them to send to his wife and then they kept towel drying her until the doorbell rang and I got her. I asked about the blow dryer and she said she didn’t see it. I asked about the picture and she said it was the two girls with the dog smiling. (Editor's note- emphasis mine since it comes up in the next update) Commenter: Perhaps your husband is not looking at this correctly. Why would having first hand experience with a potentially dangerous situation mean that your instincts about a similar situation should be ignored? If you had been in a car accident without wearing a seatbelt, wouldn't you then be the voice of experience when telling people that not wearing a seatbelt is dangerous? When it comes to crimes of sexual abuse, why is it that a survivor's knowledge of how predators operate is seen as overreacting or irrational? This neighbor must be very foolish indeed if he doesn't consider that his actions might set off alarm bells, and that is the best case scenario. OOP: I received this message immediately after yours If you were molested as a kid you probably can't accurately judge this situation. Believe it or not, a lot of people including my husband believe survivors can impose their past trauma on innocent behaviors. I’m trying to navigate these competing ideas and find my own truth within this situation. I’m tending to believe my experience is giving me good insight and that I am not over reacting but I’m also not deaf enough to ignore my husband or others concerns. If that is makes sense. Just wanted to include this interaction for some levity: Commenter: In the northeast? What's that? Kamchatka?Or have you been ultra ignorant and assumed the world is the US? OOP: This made me laugh very loud since I am not from america. My husband calls this the northeast. It is a state named Pennsylvania in the northeast part of this country. They refer to their areas like this I think a lot. Update (Same Post): March 6, 2024 (2 days later) Anyone interested in how I handled this can read below: My actions so far have not been extreme. I saw his wife walking the dogs later that afternoon after posting and approached her. I told her how nice it was that my child wanted to help her husband bathe the dogs. Then I asked his name (just to show her how little I know him) She agreed with his nice it was and laughed. I asked about the picture and she said she got it and said “I know right. I told * how strange it was but there they were. They so sweet.” It got a little awkward and then I just made some small talk and left. The encounter was odd too me and I didn’t like it. I feel like her husband knew he needed to save face and sent the picture he took after he realized he needed to in case I approached his wife about it. She said it was strange. Not me. She got awkward. I text my neighbor who allows her daughter to go there often and just let her know that my child saw hers with this neighbor and then they went inside without my permission or knowledge and that while I am sure nothing nefarious is occurring (I most certainly am NOT sure) that I’m not comfortable with my child following hers into homes she isn’t welcome. I made it seem innocent while still informing her mother where and how I found her. I am not bringing this up overly with my daughter. She does not need to be worried but I intend on reinforcing our safety boundaries etc. My husband put little fight up when I told him what I was doing. I took a lot of your words and reasoning to get my point across so thank you Reddit. You’ve been so kind and helped me navigate my fears. Also thank you, Mia, for teaching me how to use Reddit and respond to people. Update Post: March 26, 2024 (20 days later) This is my update to say TRUST YOUR GUT!!! After the interaction with our neighbor I decided to tell the parents of the little girl that apparently wanders there often that i found them in the garage alone with him. I’m from India while my neighbors are all white. My husband is white and my daughter is mixed. This isn’t too important I think but for how sometimes the neighbors don’t seem as close to me. I’m a little like the odd duck in the neighborhood but I still decided to make a little noise. I told them how l found her and my daughter alone in the house and that I am going to start being more careful and not allowing mine to go anywhere without first asking, which included following around their daughter. She responded nicely and said she would talk with her daughter. I also talked with the neighbors wife and she knew about the picture and mentioned it being odd but waved it off. Things were fine until this week when our neighbor with the little girl called my husband to tell him that she self reported abuse from the neighbor. It’s all very early in the process but it appears my instincts were spot on. I haven’t seen or heard anything else and I doubt I’ll update except for this one to say… sometimes it’s right to trust our instincts. I had a bad feeling and I’m glad I spoke up. I’ll never know if that is what saved this baby or if she had that courage all along and saved herself. Maybe both. Poor angel. I am disgusted and heartbroken. We plan on calling a counselor and making it a fun trip with lunch at my daughters favorite place in the city. We will talk with a therapist to see if she’s been victimized but luckily this appears to be the only time she’s been alone with him and it was minutes before I arrived. I still can’t believe I have to do this. Who would touch a beautiful child this way??? This man is a monster if it’s true. He appeared so normal and kind. I’m so heartbroken that this deviance exists in this world and can only ask God for answers when I meet him. That’s the sad update. Sorry everyone. Relevant Comments: What did your husband say? He told me “you were right. Guess we should trust you from now on”. He’s distraught too. It’s so worrying to know how close we were to our daughter being harmed. Clarification on the picture: They said he told them he wanted to send his wife a picture of them bathing the dog. They got down next to the dog together and he took the picture. My daughter didn’t think it was weird. When I never saw wife I asked her about if she got it and she seemed to think it was strange but said yes. Final comment exchange: Commenter: I remember your post. I’m so sorry there’s been a negative outcome. I hope your daughter is safe and that the neighborhood treats this as it should be. Some people equate “nice neighborhood” with no crime and while there might not be financial or break in crimes, there is always child sex abuse crimes. Every neighborhood, with every background, race, creed, etc. will have this type of abuse and crime. That type of crime is sadly insidious. OOP: Yes. I must say I found my husband and many others dismissal odd. A reminder to not comment on Original Posts. See rule number 7. submitted by /u/LucyAriaRose to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

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