Boxers For Men

In Titanic, William Murdoch, is portrayed shooting two innocent men to prevent them from boarding a lifeboat, and subsequently putting a bullet through his own brain out of guilt. Despite any evidence of this happening being dubious at best. In Cinderella Man depicts heavyweight boxer Max Baer as a brutish thug who brags about having killed two men in the ring. In reality, Baer is remembered as a nice guy with a lighthearted personality and was celebrated as an American hero for his defeat of Nazi Germany's champion Max Schmeling while wearing a Star of David on his trunks. Although one of his opponents did die in the ring with him, the opponent had the flu beforehand and the incident haunted Baer for the rest of his life, to the point where he regularly gave money to the opponent's family. submitted by /u/EmergencySpare7939 to r/TopCharacterTropes [link] [comments]

A few years ago, New York dermatologist Dr David A Colbert received an unexpected call from a Hollywood director. The director was shooting a film starring a high-profile actor who had plumped his face with so much filler it wouldn’t move. The director proceeded to berate Colbert, whose practice has treated famous faces such as Sienna Miller, Naomi Watts and Robin Wright, for stilting his star’s ability to emote. “He was kind of rude,” Colbert said. “He was like, ‘Hey, can you stop doing what you’re doing [to his face]?’” The director was mistaken: Colbert had never given dermal filler, or Botox, to the actor. “But I felt for him, because he wants his actors to look like people,” said Colbert, who did not disclose the identities of either. That director was fighting a losing battle. These days, the new “it” product among celebrities isn’t a $280 La Prairie concealer or $1000 Decorté moisturizer. It’s an entirely new face, with pillowy lips, stretched-out skin and a stationary forehead. For the rest of us, that means staring at faces on movie screens and streamers that look enhanced – and therefore restricted – by expensive cosmetic procedures. When the trailer for Christopher Nolan’s The Odyssey dropped, armchair critics griped that Anne Hathaway, who has denied cosmetic surgery rumors, could not move her forehead enough. They found it unbelievable that Penelope, Odysseus’s wife, would have access to that good a dermatologist in ancient Greece. In the Wicked franchise, Ariana Grande plays Glinda the Good Witch in the Land of Oz, where apparently beauty standards are just as rigid as the real world: Grande’s airbrushed lack of expression led one Dazed writer to ask: “Is Botox ruining cinema?” Ditto for Margot Robbie as Wuthering Heights’s Cathy, whose Barbie-smooth features inspired speculation of cosmetic surgery, which could inhibit the lusty facial contortions one might make during a bodice-ripping scene. Much of this nip-tuck speculation is mean-spirited. It reeks of misogyny, blaming women for unrealistic beauty standards that are widespread in film-making and muffling necessary discussions on ageing in the industry. Millie Bobby Brown, only 22 years old, said that audiences’ responses to her unchangeable expression during the Electric State press tour left her holed up and “depressed for three, four days”. The pitchforks have come for men, too. Barry Keoghan said that online abuse about the way he looks (fans have speculated on whether or not he got filler) has made him “shy away” from acting and public life, and Ryan Gosling’s ageless appearance on a recent episode of Jimmy Fallon had an uncanny valley vibe, or so some fans tweeted. But it is also true that some of the best acting comes from total abandon and a willingness to be ugly – whether that’s Lucille Ball chucking chocolate down her gullet in I Love Lucy, or Charlize Theron’s unflinchingly raw depiction of the poverty-stricken serial killer Aileen Wuornos in Monster. Apparent dermal fillers, Botox, lip augmentation and jawline contouring do not exactly allow for expressive, soul-stirring performances. “It’s almost become standard that the face doesn’t move as much as it used to,” Colbert said. That lack of movement presents an existential threat to the craft of acting. Beauty has always been a job requirement for being a star, but so has facial dexterity. Is all that filler going to make for worse performances? Actors have sculpted their faces for as long as the film industry has existed – and audiences have always voiced their opinions on the topic. Marsha Gordon, a historian and professor of film studies at North Carolina State University, cites a 1929 article in Motion Picture magazine titled The Flesh and Blood Racket. The piece named and shamed mostly men who had gone under the knife, such as the boxer Jack Dempsey, who fixed his battered nose in preparation for a screen career. The bullish actor Louis Wolheim, known for playing thugs, wanted a rhinoplasty to help transition into leading roles; studio executives at United Artists successfully served a restraining order to stop him from changing it. “The close-up was so crucial to moviemaking. I just imagine Marlene Dietrich, Greta Garbo or Clara Bow’s face filling the screen,” Gordon said. “It wasn’t just about conveying emotion. It was an opportunity for audiences to sit in the palace of a movie theater and see a beautiful face.” These women were not immune to face-sculpting rumors back in their day. Legend has it that Dietrich removed her molars to achieve her famously arch cheekbones, and MGM reportedly secretly sent Garbo to see a surgeon. Neither actor is remembered for hamming it up onscreen – both projected a subtle coolness – but they were celebrated for their signature features. Dietrich’s pencil-thin brows, for instance, or Garbo’s sunken, hooded eyelids. “Films have become less intimate in terms of framing a performer’s face,” Gordon continued. “As we shift away from a culture of movie theaters, from big screens to tiny screens, I wonder if that has something to do with this tolerance [for filler].” Dr Anthony Brissett, a Houston-based cosmetic surgeon and president of the American Academy of Facial Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery, points not to screen size but modern high-definition cameras, which reveal more than the naked eye. “There are things that actors and actresses will share with me that bother them” about their appearances, he said. “I have a hard time seeing it. Then I’ll watch them on television and yeah, sure enough, there it is. They’re under a high level of scrutiny and feeling this desire to look the same continuously.” Age used to be an actor’s enemy. During the Hollywood star system days, when studios controlled every aspect of actors’ lives, a fortysomething woman might quietly fade away, such as Dietrich did, or accept more character roles, which were often undignified (Bette Davis in Whatever Happened to Baby Jane? comes to mind). Now, female actors are no longer expected to disappear from the limelight after turning 30. A woman in her 40s can carry a film – but it helps her career to look as if she never aged. (It would also help her career if she never turned 60 either.) “I just sort of expect female actors somewhere between 30 and 60 are probably doing stuff, and they’re not going to move their foreheads,” Colbert said. Male actors do it too, but “it’s very competitive, especially for women.” Hollywood’s filler-mania mirrors national interest: an estimated 1.6 million Americans received facial procedures last year, with neurotoxins and fillers being the most popular. Then there is the sudden rise in GLP-1 drugs, such as Ozempic and Wegovy, which have slimmed down famous bodies and faces to the extent that fillers are required to correct for the gauntness. At the same time, forgoing these kinds of doctor’s appointments has become a show of dedication to one’s craft – an indication that the industry’s new beauty standards are not aligned with the work, or representative of how the regular people being portrayed in films look. Kate Hudson said that she quit Botox while filming her Oscar-nominated role in Song Sung Blue, since the film was set in the 1980s, before the procedure hit the market. Jennifer Lawrence told the New Yorker she gets Botox but draws the line at forehead filler, which shows more on camera. In casting, there are two types: bankable stars and actors who lack name recognition. Stars don’t audition for parts, actors do, and the stakes are higher for actors debating whether to get in on the cosmetic enhancement trend. “Visible plastic surgery is an immediate audition killer for almost every project I’ve worked on,” said Marie, a Los Angeles-based casting director who has worked on network TV shows and major film releases. (Marie is a pseudonym.) “Networks really hate plastic surgery unless it’s on someone who’s already famous, then they magically don’t notice it. The more famous you are, the more you can fuck with your face before it starts to hinder your chances of getting on in a movie.” Marie said that some younger, up-and-coming actors clearly have filler, which looks good in a selfie but prohibits them from embodying a role. “It’s really sad, a lot of younger actresses feel the need to be beautiful on Instagram, but then it makes them less realistic and accessible,” she said. “Being a model and an actress are two different things. I wouldn’t send someone [to a director] with visible plastic surgery, because they would look at us like we’re crazy and have bad taste.” Still, Marie said that cosmetic surgery or filler is never directly addressed in casting processes she has been involved with. “It’s completely unspoken,” she said. Zak Barnett, 50, is an acting coach in Hollywood. He does not have conversations about cosmetic enhancements while training actors on their artistic processes, but said his students talk to their agents about it, debating whether it will help them land jobs. Barnett believes that AI’s recent infiltration of Hollywood might help to reverse this trend. “The desire to be perfect will be taken over by AI projects and AI actors,” he said. “I think what audiences are going to want to see more and more is the truth, which is imperfections. If we get back to character-driven stories, then we won’t want anything to obstruct that authenticity.” It’s a nice thought. But Jessica M Goldstein, a journalist who has covered Hollywood aesthetics and culture, is not as hopeful. “Beauty standards under capitalism require there to always be something new to purchase,” she said. “There might be a superficial change – humanmade things become a badge of prestige or class, like how brands will talk about something being made in America. But that doesn’t mean that people are going to stop paying to have work done. It just means the nature of the work will change.” Goldstein predicts a shift toward more subtle enhancements. Fifteen or 20 years ago, actors started to get veneers en masse. Famous smiles all looked identical. These days, veneers are less standardized – though they’re still nice-looking, and very expensive. To some extent, this shift is already happening with faces. Brissett, the cosmetic surgeon, says patients are reporting “filler fatigue”, either opting to dissolve their filler or not re-up when it wears off (most fillers last up to a year). “It’s something they’ve outgrown,” he said. More people are turning to facelifts, Brissett said, which is the second most popular cosmetic surgery procedure in the US. The “deep-plane facelift” can cost up to $40,000 in major metropolitan areas such as New York or Los Angeles. It’s a newer, more natural-looking procedure intended to make someone look refreshed but not necessarily radically different. Crucially, it allows for facial movement. “Celebrities, public figures, and high-profile individuals are having it done quietly,” one surgeon told New York magazine last year. Jennifer Lawrence might shy away from filler, afraid of how it would impact her acting. But when asked if she had had a deep-plane, she eagerly responded: “Believe me, I’m gonna!” submitted by /u/ThrowawayGreenWitch to r/popculturechat [link] [comments]

I am writing this in severe discomfort after only one day of hiking. My butt cheeks, especially the lower end of them, rub together with every step, and the result is chafing, especially in the lower butt crack. After every hike I need to heal my skin and have pain showering, fear of bowel movements, and need to position myself in the weirdest ways just to pee. What to other people might sound like a laughing matter or a taboo (because, ya know, butt cheeks) is turning the aftermath of my favorite hobby into a nightmare. I have tried to find functional underwear that would have a layer of fabric between the butt cheeks to prevent that. I tried to look into this online but it seems the frequent internet discussions deal only with thigh chafing, which is not my problem, but almost noone talks about (lower) butt cheek chafing. I am at my wit’s end… I have tried every material, different models, and different sizes of panties, and nothing has helped. I wear breathable outdoor pants as well, so excess moisture trapped by them shouldn’t be the issue either. I have even drawn a picture to show how thongs, briefs, and boxers all fail to help with this. Boxers, which I saw recommended for men with a similar issue, only go over the butt, but do not stop the cheeks from rubbing against each other. Thongs and briefs both do partially cover the butt crack (briefs more so than thongs) but don’t provide a full barrier, so I still deal with the issue. Please help me with any idea you might have… I don’t want to give up hiking, but this issue is interfering with my ability to enjoy it. EDIT: Wow, this blew up. Happy that so many of you enjoyed my drawing! Thank you to everyone who commented with some kind words or helpful advice. I really appreciate you all. There were a few comments that more-or-less kindly told me to lose weight. I am close to underweight and would like to remind you that small butt cheeks still touch… sorry if you had too little butt interaction in your life to know that. To my fellow people of all sizes, your butt is amazing just the way it is! submitted by /u/1VeryGenericUser to r/hiking [link] [comments]

I am not The OOP, OOP is u/BrunetteThrow111 Me [20 F] with my boyfriend [20 M] of 2 years, his student is suddenly being too friendly TRIGGER WARNING: Sexual harassment and obsessive behavior Original Post Oct 16, 2015 Hi there reddit. Apologies for the throwaway, but I know that she browses reddit. As such, some names and ages are also modified a bit. Alright, so my boyfriend (Robin) is a tutor for our university. He's got many, many students, and I am perfectly comfortable with the amount of time he spends with them (no more than an hour per session and no more than three per day, since he wants to also devote time to both schooling and our relationship). One student in particular (Lucy, 18F) has been spending quite a bit of our time with our friend group recently, and once again, I am okay with that; the more the merrier, you know? Well, Lucy seemed nice enough at first; good sense of humor, witty, and in general a nice person. It wasn't until she had been in the group for two weeks that both myself and Robin started noticing some odd things: Anytime we sit together with our friends for a meal, Lucy always has to take a seat next to Robin. Always. She texts him constantly, asking him what he is doing and if he can come over to her place for some "extra tutoring." Robin is very, very firm about his one hour per student, three students per day rule. My boyfriend loves strawberry ramune. One day, he opened the door to his dorm and found a crate of it, all from her. We are pretty big fans of Attack on Titan, and we do wear shirts and the like a lot. One day, she shows up in full Scouting Legion attire, which costs hundreds of dollars. She claims she's a fan, but when I asked her opinion on a certain character, she got the character completely wrong. (For those who care/are wondering, I asked her opinion on Commander Erwin, but she launched into a long, full of wrong facts explanation on Pixis instead.) We are also big fans of Gravity Falls, and are therefore planning to dress as Dipper and Pacifica for Halloween. She's insisting on being part of the costume, as Wendy, who Dipper had a giant crush on throughout the show. We were talking about bearded ladies once. One of my friends cracked a joke about such people being perfect for myself and Robin, since we're both openly bisexual. Robin snorted and said "I prefer my women like I prefer my men: brunette and clean-shaven." while winking at me. Lucy started laughing and said, "And here I thought you preferred your women blonde!" she was the only one who laughed. I could go on and on about her odd behavior, but I think you guys get the gist of it. What's going on, reddit? She was not like this at all before, according to my boyfriend. In fact, she used to shy away from him whenever he reached over to take her paper to correct it. We are both very, very uncomfortable with her behavior, but have no idea as to how to approach it. Speaking with her is out of the question; she makes a big deal out of small things (something I learned when she took her computer to the university ITS, where I work) and we don't want to cause any scenes. Any advice? tl;dr: Boyfriend's student is behaving towards him in a very friendly way, to the point where we're both uncomfortable. We don't want to talk to her because we want to avoid anyone causing a scene. Any advice would be appreciated! RELEVANT COMMENTS acciointernet It sounds like you've already talked to him about it and he doesn't like her behavior either. If th ats true, he needs to be clear about how uncomfortable it makes him. This means: speaking to her about how she cannot give him any more gifts explaining she cannot join your costume because it is a couples costume and he wants it to be personal to the two of you possibly dropping her as a student and finding a replacement I understand this might be hard if you guys don't like confrontation but trust me when I say it is absolutely necessary. She is young and she probably doesn't realize how aggressive she's being, but you don't want to make the situation any more awkward than it will be by allowing her crush to grow. Nip it in the bud asap. OOP We will! Thank you for the input! He is going to speak with her during their session tonight (which, with luck, won't be cancelled!). We are both already prepared to tell her that we will not tolerate any more of this behavior... the only thing is, as I've stated in other comments, she can be quite the loud one. We don't want that sort of attention. Do you think there's any way we can speak with her to avoid that? LazyTits127 I doubt it if she's that type of person. Just tell folks she was coming on too strong with your SO and you were both uncomfortable, so this is the decision you guys decided. Sorry her feeling are hurt, but it's better to do something now, than later. It would just be stringing her along and you both don't want her one day get tired of waiting and she attacks him with her mouth during a session. I also had to laugh at the fact she bought an expensive outfit and you asked her a few questions. I feel kinda bad but hey, back off girl. ETA: make it clear it's a couples costume and tell her it's weird to be that character she wants to be. I don't know if you guys are direct with her or not, but that really helps when you tell the person straight up. It makes them feel awkward and rethink their choices OOP I've already texted quite a few of our friends regarding this, and a lot of them agreed that her behavior was odd. Some even pointed out a few things that I had missed! Honestly, I'm absolutely shocked that she went so far to attempt to win him over. Buy an expensive outfit indeed, it's one of those things that I truly wish I had the money for! I am not one of the girls that is into super designer clothes, but show me a lovely cosplay outfit? I'd be drooling over it in a heartbeat. We have a bit of a game plan mapped out for when she comes over tonight. Of course, all we can do now is wait and see and hope that she either ends this behavior around him or leaves us alone for good. [deleted] What were the other things? I'm glad your boyfriend shoots her advances down. It's honestly refreshing after reading all these awful threads. (I can't stop, its like novellas. Help) OOP Oh lord, I'm glad as well. For all the stories you read about terrible guys, I'm glad Robin at least isn't one of them. As for the other things... "Jokingly" asked him how big his dick was. When he asked her why, she answered with "Just so I know what I'm up against!" Baked our whole group a plate of cookies. Handed the first one to Robin. She ran out by the time she got to me (but she served herself first!) Robin once showed up in nice pants. Robin's butt looks good in nice pants. I eyed that booty and wolf-whistled at it because hot fucking damn. According to one of my friends, the moment I turned away from the booty, she made an attempt to smack it, but Robin took a step away at that instant (without realizing that she wanted dat booty). We, as a group, fucking love sushi. So most weekends, we go out and grab some. She tagged along and, participated in our usual practice of ordering a bunch of different kinds of sushi and sharing it all as a table. When hers arrived, she immediately attempted to feed Robin from her chopstick. He didn't take it. Her roll was fucking nasty anyways. Robin is a tall man, but he is also a very skinny man. I am a short woman, but I am also a slim woman. Since we are the skinniest in our group, sometimes, my buddy Josh (whom we refer to as Black Santa, because he is a big, friendly black man), likes to pick us up bridal style and carry us around. When Robin got picked up one time, he was passed between our group friends, all pretending to either carry him off or carry him over the threshold. She tried grabbing at him, but the first thing she did when she got him was grab for his butt, resulting in him freaking out and causing her to drop him. Our group loves Super Smash Brothers. When Robin and I play, we usually go as "partner" Smashers. (ie, when he's Ness, I'm Lucas, and when he's Link, I'm Zelda, stuff like that) Robin once picked (lol) Robin. I picked Lucina. Lucy also picked Lucina and made a comment about how Robin and Lucina could get married in Fire Emblem: Awakening. Robin and I knocked her out within the first three minutes of the game, then proceeded to toot the bridal march once we won. (It was a team match, two on each team) Lucy once asked Robin what made him like me so much. Robin jokingly says that it's because I give him a lock of my hair whenever he's about to take a test, so he has something to rub his face in when he's feeling stressed (I don't; I give him a fully-body massage after each test). When his next test rolls around, she walks up and hands him a chunk of her own hair. Honestly, that last one is what caused me to post the thing in the first place. I guess I was just too frazzled to include it, but... there you go. Update Oct 17, 2015 (Next Day) Hello Reddit. If you've not read my original post, you may read it here. original tl;dr: Boyfriend's (Robin) student (Lucy, 18F) has lately been coming onto him in ways that we find both odd and unwelcome. He resolved to speak to her during their next tutoring session, which happened last night. Last night, Lucy came for her tutoring session. At the time, I was helping Robin with his laundry, so when she knocked, only Robin went to go answer the door. I decided to stay behind in the room, continuing to fold his laundry, but listening in case I had to step in. Everything started out normal enough at first, with her putting her books down and trying to make small talk with him. Robin is a very polite man, so he answered her small-talk questions accordingly, but the moment they sat down (according to Robin, she actually scooted her chair closer to his, so much that their legs were nearly touching under the table!), Robin got to business. Reddit... what happens next is completely unreal. I don't even know if I had only dreamed of all of this or not, but... I truly do wish I could have made this up. Unfortunately, I'm not creative enough nor am I capable enough. I would never have thought that such a seemingly normal girl could turn out like this, but... I suppose there are unexpected ugly sides everywhere. Nevertheless, here is what happened: Robin immediately started out telling her that lately, he's noticed that she's been trying to insert herself into both his and my own hobbies for quite a while. He also noted that she seems to be spending quite a bit of money on him lately as well, noting the strawberry ramune crate and (I didn't even know about this one!) the Attack on Titan ring set. He said that while he is flattered and appreciates the gifts, he wants her to stop because it is not appropriate behavior between a tutor and his tutee. I think she may have tried to say something, because Robin said rather quickly after that, "And I'm sorry, but even from a friend, I can't accept gifts that... extravagant." She was quiet for a bit. I actually had to sneak-shuffle my way over to the doorway (staying out of sight, of course, since they would be able to see me from the table) to hear anything, but it sounded like Lucy started crying, or sniffling at the very least. Next thing I know, she's burst into tears, and rambling something that, afterwards, even Robin couldn't comprehend. By the time she was able to be comprehensible again, that's when shit got weird. She started blubbering about star signs. About how it was written in the stars that not only were they compatible, but they were destined to be together. She told him how she had read in her horoscope or fortune or something like that, that her true love would be her greatest teacher and she the wisest of his students. She also went on and on about how it was meant to be that they would meet for tutoring, then fall deeply and love and carry on a forbidden romance until he could, and I quote "Shed the shackles of [his] duty and false lover (???) so that [they] may walk forever amongst the stars." By now, both Robin and I were shocked speechless. While we perfectly respect those that truly believe in fate and the like, this was something that we simply couldn't get our heads around. I honestly wanted to walk out and say something, but kept quiet because then she started on another tirade. She started going on and on about how it was written in wherever she is getting this from that I was undeserving of Robin's love, and that I was only there because I wanted to lead Robin astray from the "true path of love." She also said that, once she fulfilled her duty of lifting "the veil" from Robin's eyes, they would travel the world and together raise three beautiful children, all with Robin's eyes and her hair. She would teach them how to be good, kind people, and he would pass on his wisdom. Together, she claimed, they would become king and queen of the world. Robin stopped her right after that and said that, veil or not, he's most certainly not going to leave me and that even if he did, he had no feelings for her beyond a student and maybe a friend. He also said that, on top of that, this was not about some destiny but about her behavior and his request that she stop it. He asked her to understand that the costume in question was a couples costume and thus, he wanted to make it special for just myself and him. He told her that, while he appreciated that another person shared the same interests as us, that she was going to far with them. Lucy immediately countered with, "If [my name] truly loved you, she would not be cheating on you right this moment! I saw her fucking three different guys on my way to your room!" Now, that got me pissed. Yes, okay, shit was already pretty nuts, but really? If you're going to lie about me cheating, at least have the courtesy to make me seem less stupid. Either way, I was so done at that point, and in a fit of anger, I took hold of one of the articles of clothing I was folding and marched the fuck out. The look on her face was priceless. Here she was, caught in a bold-faced lie, and there I was, waving Robin's boxers around going "She's right, Robin! I'm fucking leaving you! I'm sorry, but I'm more in love with your boxers!" Robin can't take it. He just starts cracking up and almost falls out of his chair. He may have been done for the count, but I wasn't done. I immediately marched up to Lucy and told her that, sorry not sorry, she is no longer welcome in our friend group. I told her that I did not like the way she was trying to steal my boyfriend, or the way she kept butting into the things that we planned to be "just us" sort of things. I also very emphatically told her that the both of us were not welcoming to people who would dare to spread lies about either of us. And the entire way through, she cried and cried and kept mumbling things like "fate" and "destiny" and all her mumbo jumbo. Eventually, Robin managed to compose himself enough to start talking again. He told her that he agreed with me, and that while he would have eventually forgiven her attempting to come between the relationship and acting inappropriately towards him, but he could never forgive someone attempting to lie to him about someone he loved dearly. So with that, he got up, gathered her stuff for her, and gestured to the door. But of course, Lucy had to go in for one more attempt. What does she do? She fucking pulls out her tits. She had come in wearing rather revealing clothing, which is actually quite normal for her, but apparently, she wasn't wearing a bra (and maybe no underwear at all!) underneath it. She just pulls down her collar and BAM! Tits. Robin immediately recoils and looks away, because while he's fine with seeing breasts (he's taking quite a few different anatomy classes!), he's just always been the sort of person that would rather just... not see bare boobies waving at him. And oh boy, is she waving those things around, practically screaming at him to look at them and understand that it is her she desires, not me, because her breasts are bigger and better and because they're destined to be together. During this whole time, I'm just... I'm speechless. I can't even comprehend what's going on anymore. Luckily, it just so happened that she was so loud that the RA knocked on the door, and I was at least functional enough to run and open it. She was too far gone to even notice that knock, so when our lovely RA looked in, all she saw was Robin yelling at her that it was inappropriate and to put them away, while she was yelling at him that one look at her and all of his desire for me would transfer to her. Once the RA managed to recover from... well, the shock of what the fuck was happening, she immediately stormed in (she's a tiny woman, but was raised by a father in the Marines. A very tough nut to crack!) and took control of the situation. She had come because residents were complaining about the noise in Robin's dorm, so she had to investigate. She sat us all down on the couch and had us tell our stories. Robin and I remained firm with our accounts, telling her about Lucy's behavior and what had happened this night. Lucy was crying and blubbering her little destiny spiel, trying to put lies in there about how I scratched her with my fingernails (bullshit just from looking at her and my nails: she had no scratches on her, and my nails are cut down and very blunt) and about how I seduced Robin and stole him from her and blah blah blah. The RA knew me personally enough to know that I was Robin's girlfriend and that I would never attack another person for no reason, so of course, Lucy's account is taken with a grain of salt. From that point on, it was only a matter of waiting for Campus Security to arrive so that Lucy could be taken away for disturbing the peace and indecent exposure. They wanted to take myself and Robin too, but my RA managed to convince them that Lucy was the only one yelling (which she was!) and that, if anything, we were the victims. We may get pulled in for further questioning, of course, and matter itself is still under investigation, so there is a chance that Robin and I may receive write-ups for this incident or something, but such a chance is low. I'll update again when I can, but for now, it's over. We're cutting her off from our friend group, Robin and I blocked her on all social media and her number, and if it becomes an absolute necessity, we're getting a restraining order. I know this story is wild and crazy and just unbelievable. I know that, if I had not witnessed this, I would never have believed myself. If you told me when I first posted my original post yesterday that I would bear witness to a crazy girl attempting to shove her tits in my boyfriend's face and screaming about how they were destined to be together, I would have asked what you've been smoking and if I could have some of that. But there you go... I'm not asking you to believe me. I'm just asking that, if you're capable of coming up with something like this, to send me whatever it is you have that lets you do that. Peace out, Reddit. See you in the next update! tl;dr: She was destined to wave her tits at him. FINAL COMMENTS Akavimceblack The boxers must be heartbroken. Seriously though....Lucy is right at the age when serious mental illnesses like schizophrenia begin to show. And she is clearly not mentally well. Not just kooky, she has a serious problem. OOP They'll live. Or, as Robin jokingly claimed, they'll burn so they won't steal me from him. As far as the schizophrenia goes... honestly, I didn't think it would be this nuts. I know there are different severities and that it shows differently on different people, but this is just shocking. I can send an email to the school administration to try to get her some help, if they're not doing so already; it's likely not my obligation to do so, but I really don't want to see her suffer, even after everything. 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I am NOT OOP. OOP is u/TrussedDown Originally posted to u/legaladvice My ex-wife’s boyfriend is abusing my kids, and the custody hearing isn’t until after I’m supposed to bring them back Thanks to u/aaryanhere for the suggestion Trigger Warnings: vivid descriptions of child abuse, deception and attempted fraud, gaslighting ---- Original Post: March 27, 2018 Michigan, USA. I just had the most horrific day of my life on Friday. I found out my ex-wife’s boyfriend has been beating our children (7 and 10). I split up from my wife about six months ago and she started seeing someone seriously about a month after that. Three or four weeks ago he unofficially moved in. I never liked him, but I never had reason to believe he was violent. My custody arrangement is such that I get the kids for a week then she gets the kids for a week, back and forth. I didn’t try to sue for full custody at any time because this is totally unprecedented and I’ve never known her to be an unfit parent. Raising the children had nothing to do with why we split up, and nothing related to anger, violence, or general carelessness. Friday night she dropped the kids off and, as usual, she barely made eye contact or spoke to me. (I tried to organize an amicable split for the kids’ sake, and it went well at first, then after the papers were signed and assets divided she wasn’t having it.) So usually the routine when she drops the kids off on Fridays (around 7:00 or whenever they finish dinner) is we watch the game or play some video games, get a jump start on weekend homework, and then head to bed. My younger son was really despondent when she dropped him off and my older was hyper and fidgety. Unlike both of them. Usually they’re perfectly well tempered. If anything my younger son is normally the fidgety one, he has. ADHD, and I’ve never seen him as still and affectless as that day. I asked if everything was ok and they said yes. So the boys head up to shower then go to their room to change and I come in to say goodnight and see my younger son’s back and chest are covered in bruises. I was half paying attention at first and only caught a glimpse, checking my email and catching it out of the corner of my eye. I asked him to take his shirt off and he panicked. Not like them at all. I was still helping this one in the bath until earlier in the year and they both would walk around in their boxers all day if we let them. So that raised a flag right away. To make a long story short he was covered in bruises on top. I had to step out of the room for a second because I didn’t want to break down in front of him. And his legs had prominent lacerations and welts. I asked him what happened and he kept telling me he fell. He was definitely coached because he hasn’t lied to me that blatantly since he was like four. I didn’t want to press him. My older son finally told me in private what happened. Younger son did poorly on some test and ex’s boyfriend whipped him with a belt. When he cried, the boyfriend just started wailing on him, because “men don’t cry.” I am shuddering even typing that last part, it is the exact opposite of everything I (and my ex!!) had been teaching them their whole lives. And the most traumatic part to both of them was not even the violence of the boyfriend but that my ex was sitting in the room and did nothing. Without going to into detail, because I would just get too upset, this was not an isolated incident. Just the first time he left noticeable marks. He’d been hitting both of them, the younger one much more frequently and aggressively than the older one, and told them if they said anything they’d never see their mother again because she would lose custody. And my ex backed him on this. I haven’t let on to my ex at all because I don’t want her to know before I can get to court and sue for full custody. I took photos of every injury. I am so livid. I don’t know if I’m more mad at him for attacking my children, my ex for not doing anything, or myself for not putting the pieces together sooner and doing a deeper dive into the man living with my kids. I contacted a lawyer that next morning but he said since the guy technically doesn’t live with them we might not be able to take custody from my ex (he kept his apartment, but according to the kids, he brought a bunch of boxes with clothes over three or four weeks ago and has stayed over every night since). He also said once my wife catches wind of my suit that she might just take out a restraining order on the guy and swear they’re broken up while still seeing him on the side once she keeps custody. Knowing that it isn’t certain I’ll win full custody, it’s taking all I have to not load them into a car, change our names, and never come back. Is there anything else I can do in the meantime? My lawyer says at the end of the week I’ll have no choice but to send them back to her house. Our court date isn’t until Wednesday of next week. They’ve barely slept the last two days. The younger one is afraid to sleep alone and keeps getting into bed with his brother, who is so guilt ridden he didn’t do anything to stop it or speak up sooner than he just gets into bed with me and cries all night. (They’re both in counseling starting two days from now.) I did not see this coming at all. My ex-wife was so against violence she wouldn’t even kill a spider in the kitchen and spend hours trapping it in a glass to release. She found out a teacher had yelled at one of our kids and had a meeting with the principal the same day. It has occurred to me this man is abusing her too and she’s under some sort of spell with him and needs help of her own. Once it effects my kids, I don’t care about her problems. Only they matter. There is no excuse that will justify her sitting and watching a grown man brutalize my seven year old. So, basically, What do I do when the end of the week comes and I’m supposed to give them back? I don’t want to be charged with kidnapping, however, I’m not bringing them back even if I’m mandated to. UPDATE: He’s up and we’re on our way to the hospital. I’m having both kids examined just to remain on the safe side. I called CPS and said I’m bringing the kids to the hospital and am scared to return them to their mothers care. Fingers crossed. UPDATE #2: My lawyer came to me before I could go to him and told me he worried he didn’t have the kind of experience for this case (he’s a neighbor who was doing this for almost no money out of the goodness of his heart) and connected me to a lawyer with experience in these cases and family court, who is also being very generous with her rates. In the meantime my ex-wife arrived out of nowhere to try and take the kids back. I saw her standing at our door pounding and shouting as I pulled back up from meeting with the lawyer. Luckily I hadn’t gone into the driveway yet and the kids were tuned into their iPads with headphones on so I just kept driving and when they realized we’d passed the house I just improvised and said “surprise! Ice cream!” i think they intuitively didn’t ask why we went to a parlor three towns over instead of our usual place. Therapy starts soon, thank God. CPS is heavily involved and five separate reports were made. Mine, my lawyer’s, the ER doctor, the police who were called to the ER, and their school counselor (at the advice of my new, far more aggressive, lawyer.) The reports are almost definitely what backed the judge into the corner of having to grant the hearing. I’m too nervous to sleep, and drove the boys around for six hours so they could sleep (the car always conks them right out.) Now the oldest is up reading in my bed and the youngest is curled up with me in his bed. He’s asleep but wakes up every time I try to go check on the older one. They seem calmer. Hoping for good news and thank you for all the good advice. I now see I really needed that new lawyer and filing the multiple reports and getting an exam was the best course of action. Relevant Comments Commenter 1: Go before a judge and try to get emergency custody until the hearing. OOP: My lawyer tried to do this and was denied. I just wrote after reading your comment to understand further why that happened, because it does seem crazy the more I think about it. essentially he said the judge didn’t deem the injuries severe enough to warrant an emergency hearing because he didn’t have to go to the hospital or require medical attention so it’s up for debate whether or not it will be classified as abuse and has to wait until our court date. He said the judge implied maybe the boyfriend is just very “old fashioned”. Either he didn’t look closely at the pictures or is abusive himself because my son had angry red welts that were still festering after nearly 24 hours and unhealed lacerations. Following up on this with the lawyer. Commenter 2: It may also be a good idea to take him to the hospital so a medical professional can take stock of his injuries, so you have definitive proof that the injuries are from before you have had the children. Is there ANY way your lawyer can go before a different judge? This one seems like he doesn't care at all. OOP: I don’t know but will ask. This is my first interaction with the court system beyond contesting a traffic ticket. A great idea to take him to the hospital though. The youngest is sleeping now, for the first time in a while, but I’ll bring him the moment he’s up.   Update #1: March 28, 2018 (next day) Editor's note: removed a part of the update as it is a rehash of the original post [Michigan, USA] Question 1: My lawyer is telling me to be prepared for my ex to say I abused the kids and coached them to lie. Is there anything I can do to get out in front of that? Question 2: I wouldn’t be surprised if the boyfriend has been abusing my ex wife. My lawyer said if this is the case she might use that as a defense for not stepping in when the kids were being beaten mercilessly by a grown adult man. If this surfaces does it help or hurt my efforts to keep the kids in my custody? ---- UPDATE: Thank you all for your excellent advice. My lawyer is aware that I’m posting on here and said it’s alright - especially since she recognizes she can’t make herself as available as she would if I were a regular client through her firm paying full freight. She’s been wonderful. The hearing was pushed back by a couple hours, but we can’t leave in case they can see us sooner so we’re waiting now. I’m exceptionally freaked out but my lawyer seems deeply confident it will be open and shut. (The case worker isn’t visiting the house until this afternoon but apparently she’s already visited my ex’s house and talked to the boyfriend and her conclusion from that was to recommend they stay with me.) The boys have had some interviews and exams with CPS that sound like they went as well as they could have and the things that didn’t go well will help me get them home and safe. After this process my next step is an order of no contact on the boyfriend or a restraining order if I can swing it. Will have to ask the lawyer. But she agrees we do need something official in place to keep him at bay. A buddy is installing a couple security cameras today. Thanks for those who recommended that. \— ANOTHER UPDATE: I have custody until the formal hearing is scheduled. I don’t have to bring them back. Their lawyer tried to say the younger one had fallen on cement and rolled down a step and that’s how it happened. When the boys were asked if younger fell and they had no clue what she was talking about (they tripped on some patio bricks but were barely scratched) their lawyer tried to switch it around and say I’d abused them and they were trying to do me a favor of keeping it out of court. The judge said “Counselor, are you out of your mind?” Which my lawyer says is a great sign moving forward. I don’t know where they found their lawyer but he was wearing sneakers. So now we wait for next Wednesday. I’m just relieved there isn’t the same clock on it now. Thank you again to everyone. The boys are back in school Monday and doing well. The older fell asleep tonight without issue for the first time since I got them. I’m hopeful. Relevant Comments Commenter 1: I know OP has spoken with school counselor, but Monday morning he has to speak with the counselor and principle in case mom shows up. I'm not sure if the school can prevent her from speaking to the kids or signing them out, but OP needs to be informed if she steps on school grounds. OOP: The school is aware - both for the boys’ well-being as they cope with everything that’s happened and also for security reasons. I called the principal and have been assured they’ll show her face at a meeting on Monday so everybody on campus will be aware of her. I had to send proof of full custody, etc. before it was finalized but by Monday it should be ok. Thanks for your concern and tips. Commenter 2: Question 1: That’s why you involved the police and CPS. They’re professionals, and are investigating. Most kids are not very good liars, so the professionals should be able to tell who’s lying and who isn’t (I know it doesn’t always work out that way). Just listen to your new lawyer, and make sure you don’t ‘advise’ or try to ‘help’ the kids with their statements. Leave it to the professionals. Did ex try to pick the kids up before the scheduled time, or was it the normal exchange time? I’m sure she’s been notified of the investigation. Make sure your new lawyer notifies CPS/police about her showing up at your house. Question 2: IDK, but whether she’s also being abused or not, she was definitely aware of the kids being assaulted and didn’t intervene, per your kid’s statements. That will not play out in her favor. Good luck, and keep being a good dad. OOP: Thank you. And, no, I was supposed to drop them off at the end of the week in the evening. She never comes here - I always drop them off there (partially because I like having the extra time of the drive with my kids and partially because I did want to keep an eye on how the new boyfriend interacted with my kids and the state of their house. Though we see what good that attempt was now, and lastly because the few times she picked them up here she’d come hours early and I felt awful when my visits were cut short.) Commenter 3: For Question 1: Don't tell the kids to say ANYTHING! You want to avoid any hint of coaching. If your kids want to talk about what happened, listen, but probably keep your answers pretty minimal, but empathetic. Like, "how do you feel about that?" or "I love you and I always will" or "would you like a hug?" I originally had "that sounds upsetting" on that list, but then you're telling the child they should be upset. Ask your case worker/lawyer/therapist how to support your kids without tainting their testimony. OOP: Good thought. I’ll run that question by the case worker and get more details from lawyer who had begun to touch on it. Commenter 4: In the event that you don't have time to stop your kids from going back to their mothers, you need to setup a plan on how they can contact you in the event something starts happening. Does your oldest have a phone? If so, I would suggest you get an Amazon Dash button and have him set it up at your ex's house under your account. This way if he gets his phone taken away, he still has a lifeline of sorts by pressing the button and ordering a product that would immediately notify you that something is up. OOP: That’s a really smart idea. Thank you.   Editor's note: OOP installed a final update into the same post with the first update Final Update: April 11, 2018 (same post, two weeks later) UPDATE April/11/18 Sorry for the long delay. It’s been a crazy few days, I’ve barely been checking my emails let alone Reddit (as wonderful as you all are!) Your support has been so critical in getting through this time. So - at first I did not win full custody. My ex wife and her bizarre lawyer fabricated evidence claiming I’d been fired from a previous job for violence, going so far as to forge a letter from a nonexistent boss and a whole hash of lies. (I am in IT. So I really don’t know what she could have dreamed up that would end in physical violence.) I was just so flustered and terrified at the initial ruling. My lawyer hadn’t seen the fake papers and was a complete shark, not allowing anyone to even leave the courtroom before she understood the reasoning behind the ruling. Once it came to light there was some sort of evidence she hadn’t seen she really dug in and at the end of the day I got full custody with my ex getting limited supervised visits (provided the boyfriend is nowhere in sight) and the chance to come back and get more visits if she can demonstrate the boyfriend is no longer living in the house or would ever be around the kids. The other good news is it seems like the only plus to icky sneakers lawyer is that he is helping her seek some counseling for whatever trauma she personally experienced. My lawyer is following up with seeing anyone responsible for misconduct, including the judge, is dealt with appropriately. I have the kids now. That’s all that matters. They’re still in school in her town (where I lived with her when we were married) and the end of the year is close but next year I’m going to move them to my district. It’s all on her now. All that matters is the boys are home. Editor's note: OOP did not leave any comments in this update here   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

The International Olympic Committee has banned Ukrainian skeleton racer Vladyslav Heraskevych from competing in the men's skeleton due to his helmet which featured Ukrainian athletes killed in the war with Russia. On his helmet were boxer Pavlo Ischenko, weightlifter Alina Perehudova, ice hockey player Oleksiy Loginov, actor and athlete Ivan Kononenko, shooter Oleksiy Habarov, diving athlete and coach Mykyta Kozubenko and dancer Daria Kurdel. The IOC warned Heraskevych about the helmet, but he refused to back down. In a statement, the IOC said: "Having been given one final opportunity, skeleton pilot Vladylsav Heraskevych from Ukraine will not be able to start his race at the Milano Cortina 2026 Olympic Winter Games this morning. "The International Olympic Committee (IOC) has therefore decided with regret to withdraw his accreditation for the Milano Cortina 2026 Games." Heraskevych had a simple response on X: "This is the price of our dignity." submitted by /u/JOE_Media to r/ukraine [link] [comments]

my new coworker is the guy who naked-manned me on a Zoom date Originally posted to Ask A Manager TRIGGER WARNING: Sexism, Indecent exposure Original Post June 6, 2023 Life has given me a cruel and hilarious plot twist and I’m at a loss of what to do or how to address it. Back in 2020, peak pandemic times, I was doing what many singles did and went on virtual dates with people through apps. One particularly memorable Zoom date was a guy who just randomly started taking his clothes off. Didn’t ask, no indication of why, just … started disrobing. He legit was naked-manning me (How I Met Your Mother clip to explain). At no point was the conversation flirty or sexual in nature — in fact, it wasn’t going well at all. We had made dinner in our respective kitchens on Zoom, and after eating I was drinking wine and he was making himself cocktails while we talked about our interests, family life, the typical early dating topics. Then suddenly, he just took off his shirt out of nowhere while I was talking about my family or friends. I stopped and said, “Uh, what’s going on here?” and he just shrugged and ignored the question, and said he was going to relocate. So I kept talking thinking it was weird, but whatever, people can be quirky or maybe his AC went out. He started walking back to his bedroom and next thing I know he literally dropped his basketball shorts on the camera and plopped down on his bed in his boxer briefs. I made a comment about it not being that kind of date and suggested clothing stay on, he didn’t acknowledge it and started talking about his family, so I pretty immediately after that noped out of there with a “it’s late, gotta go” for fear of my eyeballs being subjected to the full monty without any kind of warning, and never talked to him again. That is, until the first day of my new job. Two minutes before joining my first team introduction call, I looked at the org chart and saw that not only is he in my organization, he’s on my immediate team. I swiftly played dumb during the team call, and just pretended to have no idea who he is. He seemed to take the same approach for now. Sadly, I’ll have to work with him somewhat and he’s the most tenured on the team for questions and internal processes. My question to you is, how on earth would you handle this going forward? Do I tell anyone? Do I address it with him? Update Dec 21, 2023 (6 months later) The theme of this company for me has been “What is wrong with the men?” In terms of the Naked Manning Coworker, I took your advice and played ignorant. I ended up having lunch with him during my second week, in order to not make waves. At the time, my manager was really pushing the local team to meet up occasionally, so there was pressure to go to lunch or tell my manager why I didn’t want to. I opted to keep it to myself and go to the planned lunch. Aside from Naked Man standing far too close while we waited in line to order lunch, I was able to maintain a cool but professional attitude throughout the hour-long lunch. Thankfully, he didn’t say a word about knowing me in any capacity, though I got the sense he very much knew by some curious phrasing and comments he made. Now, you might be wondering, what is it with this theme? At the time, I didn’t have a good read on my manager or the team dynamics. Then, after a couple months, my manager made a series of comments that still leave me a bit stunned. Some of the comments: On a project call, I was quiet and not really contributing. Out of nowhere, my manager said to me, “You can’t think like you, Ms. Pride and Prejudice on your shelf. You need to consider our teapot making customers and what they would want.” (as a note, I’ve been a teapot marketer for 10+ years). I managed to get tickets to a VERY popular artist at the last minute and was super excited about the experience. It was truly once in a lifetime for me. He joined a call late as I was sharing the experience with my peer and promptly interjected with, “So it was just you and a stadium of teenage girls” and “we pay you too much if you can afford to go see VERY popular artist.” Ultimately, I ended up confronting the comments head on with him, stating they made me worry about whether I was respected or could trust him due to the nature of the comments. Naturally, he stated they were jokes and that he thought I knew they were jokes. During the resolution of this situation, he was quite flustered and really wanted to make it clear that I could trust him. In response, I let him know the reason I was evaluating whether he could be trusted by sharing the Naked Man story with him. After being rather stunned, he thanked me for sharing and said he would take that into consideration when assigning projects and travel for the team. True to his word, I didn’t have overlapping work or travel with the Naked Manning coworker and got to keep my distance aside from some team calls here and there. My manager has also been far more respectful since I confronted him. The Naked Manning coworker was recently impacted by layoffs, so I no longer have that particular situation hanging over my head. I feel a bit guilty about being relieved, but it definitely was a weight lifted knowing I had one less poorly behaved man to deal with daily at work. THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP's OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7 submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I’m currently looking for some durable and comfortable boxer briefs for my husband. He’s tried the Costco brand and he likes Hanes, but we’re having to replace them every 6 months or so because the waistband wears out and they get holes. He also hates when his underwear bunches/rides up. Thanks! submitted by /u/Irrelevant_Intel_ to r/BuyItForLife [link] [comments]

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/sluttygirl55 Thanks to a longtime lurker for suggesting this BoRU Overheard roommates [20-24M] talking about how "slutty" I [20F] dress. Trigger Warnings: misogyny, sexism Original Post: April 5, 2016 I live with 3 boys and 1 other girl. Up until this point we were all pretty friendly. Yesterday I overheard the 3 guys talking downstairs. I don't think they knew I was home. They were talking about how "slutty" I dress and laughing. One of them said I must be "so desperate to hook up with one of them" and they were making jokes about which one of them it is. I'm so upset. I generally wear shorts and a tank top around the house, just because they're comfortable. Sometimes when it's hot I'll wear crop tops. I don't purposely dress "sexy"-just picture your standard H&M or Forever 21 outfit. I've seen the guys walking around downstairs in boxers or with their shirts off! It wasn't a big deal to me so I just assumed we were all cool. Why is it okay for them to be in their underwear but not for me to wear my everyday clothes? Additionally, one of them has a girlfriend who dresses exactly the same, if not more revealing than me. Very low cut shirts, short shorts, etc. It's totally fine that she dresses this way, but I don't get why she's fine but I'm a "slut". And here's the kicker: I'm in a long-distance relationship with my GIRLFRIEND. Because I'm gay as fuck. What do I do? I don't feel like I'm in the wrong but I am so uncomfortable with the idea of being around them KNOWING that they're thinking about how much of a "slut" I am and how I'm desperately trying to sexually attract them. tl;dr: Roommates called called me a "slut" because of the way I dress, while both themselves and their girlfriend dress more revealingly. What do I do? Relevant Comments Commenter 1: I think next time you see one of them in boxers or shirtless you should say "Dude, you're dressing pretty slutty today. That's so funny, you must be so desperate to hook up with someone in this house. Who is it?" Then when they look at you like you grew two heads, laugh, inform them they're gross but you don't GAF because you wouldn't sleep with sniggering spineless morons even if you were into men. ... I'd let other people give actual good advice, but a lot of what's on offer so far seems to be along the lines of "boys will be boys" with a helpful side order of well maybe you do dress slutty. It's pretty sad that it's plum normal for men to objectify and demean women who are meant to be their friends. I wouldn't be friends with people who talked about me this way. ETA: Maybe I was a bit vitriolic in this post, but the situation ground my gears! OOP: Hahahaha oh my god that's hilarious! The look on their face would be PRICELESS. I just walk into the room, sigh, and go "Look dude, I know you're super desperate to sleep with me but it's not gonna happen so you can just stop dressing like a slut now." Yeah I guess I'm just a little sad because I kinda liked these guys. It hurt to hear from people who I thought were my friends. But whatever, if anything my girlfriend got a kick out of it ("they have no idea how wrong they are!"). : ) Commenter 2: I don't know if this applies to you at all but here goes. I've heard this about me too several times over the years (29F here) even if Ive show less skin than the girl next to me. I'm pretty voluptuous and quickly learned that what looks sporty or even classy on other girls seem to still come across as "slutty" or "dressing up sexy" when I wear it, shorts and tank tops def being on the list on what's been commented on. It's an unfortunate effect which I've had to come to terms with. The good news is these childish notions seem to disappear as you grow older. And the best way to counter those sort of remarks is to hold your head high and stay confident with a dont-give-a-shit attitude. It's a learned skill but it's damn great. OOP: I completely feel you. I have a lot of friends who have larger chests or who developed early, and I have nothing but sympathy for the shit these girls have to deal with. Aside from actual, literal back pain, they've told me how much trouble they've had buying clothes that don't look "sexy", and even when they're wearing very covered up clothing people will still manage to look at them in a sexual light. I'm about average-sized so this doesn't really apply to me but I appreciate the advice! It's really unfair the way society treats girls with larger chests-it's not as if they can help it! Commenter 3: They think you are hot. They are attracted to you and are embarrassed that they find you so distracting, and are using bravado to try to make themselves feel better about it. I'd call them out and tell them if you were a guy dressing that way they wouldn't care, and that it's them creating the issue, not you. OOP: Haha oh man, that first part made me laugh. : ) If only they could have voiced it as a compliment to me instead! You're probably right about the last bit. I agree, it's just that I'm kind of scared of saying that to their faces. Maybe I'll work up the courage.   Update: April 8, 2016 (three days later) Firstly, I just wanted to thank you guys for being so sweet in the last thread. I was so stressed out and you guys made me laugh. : ) First update was removed because I forgot a link, but I fixed it. Onto the update. Before I posted, I was basically set on hiding awkwardly in my room or maybe dressing more conservatively when I left my room. After I saw all your responses, I was filled with a feminist, body-positive rage. These boys were not going to get away with slut shaming me. Of the three guys, I'm closest with Tom (Boy 1/3), so I decided to talk to him individually. I heard him coming up the stairs and I just took a deep breath and walked out of my room, smiled, and asked if I could talk to him for a minute. He came into my room and we were just making small talk. I shut the door, summoned all of my assertiveness, and said, "So, I actually have something weird to talk to you about. I heard you guys talking about me the other day." I'd like to say that I threw down with this boy, that I told him that sexism is not cool or funny and I won't put up with it and demand that he apologize. But instead I, um. I cried. A lot. I straight up just broke down, I couldn't even speak. Tom look absolutely devastated. He immediately apologized, said I wasn't supposed to hear any of that, but I wasn't really paying attention because I was just trying to get a grip on myself. There's nothing more awkward than crying in front of someone when you're "not on that level" yet. Anyway, I asked him if that was really what he thought of me. He said no, and that they were just being dumb, and that when Sam (Boy 2/3) brought it up he was really surprised and knew it was wrong but he didn't call him out on it. He said he should have, and he knew he should have, but he didn't want to make a big deal about it because Sam and Bob (Boy 3/3) were just joking around, even though they were being mean. He said it was shitty of him not to call them out and that by not saying anything and acting like it was funny, he allowed it to happen. He said that he has no excuse and he's sorry. This checks out- from what I heard, it was mainly Sam and Bob saying the bad stuff. I said I knew they were just joking around but it made me feel horrible to be talked about that way, and that the sexism really slapped me in the face. He agreed and said it was horrible, and he also said something like "not that it's an excuse, but you're really pretty and I think thats why we were talking about you that way. none of us actually believed what we were saying but i think it was just wishful thinking and we were idiots about it." So for all you guys who suggested that they were attracted to me- BINGO. I laughed and told Tom that I had a girlfriend. He said that was totally cool, and then looked embarrassed and said they must have looked like complete idiots bragging about how much I wanted to sleep with them. I agreed. Tom asked if there was anything he could do to make up for it. I told him not to tell the other guys anything because I don't really want to talk about it anymore, but if they ever start talking about another person like that, even if it's not me, to speak up. He promised me he would and apologized about 9000000 more times and left. I heard him go into his room, and then immediately leave and go out the front door. I didn't think much of it and put my headphones in and played Trackmania for a while. Later that day I opened my door and there was a big cardboard box right outside my door. My first thought was that I'd ordered something from amazon and forgot about it, but it looked like a used box that someone had repurposed and taped shut. I dragged it into my room and opened it. Guys. It was a bouquet of flowers and a cake with the word "SORRY" written on it. If you're thinking that I cried for the second time in three hours, well . . . you're right. Anyway, I'm sorry I didn't throw down with them like so many of you wanted. Unfortunately I am but a tiny creampuff. I'm working a lot on being more assertive but in this scenario I handled it as best as I could. Confronting Tom about it was actually super scary, but I'm proud of myself for bringing it up at all. I accept Tom's apology. He seemed genuine, and this does seem like a one-off shitty behavior situation. He's usually a pretty stand-up guy. The other guys . . . I don't know. To be honest, I wasn't super sold on them to start with, so I feel like I'll just continue to not pursue a friendship with them. And I'll continue to dress however I want. : ) Lastly, serious thanks to all of you for your responses. I was hesitant to post this on reddit because reddit can sometimes be . . . not so nice about women's issues. But yall are cool. submitted by

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Boston Celtics superstar Jaylen Brown's dad -- former boxer Marselles Brown -- was arrested for attempted murder after allegedly stabbing a youth football coach in a dispute over a parking spot, TMZ Sports has learned. Las Vegas Metro Police is investigating a stabbing that went down at All American Park on Wednesday ... stating two men were in a verbal altercation over a parking space when the suspect stabbed the victim in the stomach. Officials say the suspect fled the scene ... but he was tracked down later and taken into custody. Brown has a court appearance scheduled for Thursday afternoon. The coach was rushed to a nearby hospital and required surgery. His condition is unknown. https://www.tmz.com/2025/08/21/jaylen-brown-dad-arrested-attempted-murder-parking-spot-dispute/ submitted by /u/Turbostrider27 to r/nba [link] [comments]

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/divorcedbbmama Originally posted to r/AmIOverreacting AIO for reporting someone to hinge and getting their profile deleted? Trigger Warnings: stalking/harassment, emotional manipulation, obsessive behavior Mood Spoilers: terrifying Original Post: July 22, 2025 https://www.reddit.com/gallery/1m6sf9d So I was trying to get back into the dating scene and matched with this dude. He seemed nice on the app and I gave him my number so we could set something up. Obviously as you can see in the messages, he was crazy. (At least, In my opinion???), so I started ignoring him. Not to mention my bio is littered with stuff saying I do tattoos (first pic and lady pic is my hinge profile) Here may be where I’m overreacting. I reported his account after it happened and it got taken down. I don’t feel like I really did anything wrong because I feel I saved some other girls from dealing with his craziness, but my friend thinks I should’ve just ignored him and not reported him. I feel like if hinge agrees that he was crazy, I’m not wrong. Asking Reddit just so I don’t feel crazy. Copy of the texts (Editor's note: gave a name for ease of readability) Transcript of text messages between OOP and "John" OOP is in blue bubbles, John is in black John: Hey, is this OOP? OOP: hiii! yes this is her :) i'm assuming this is [John] John: Awesome. Yeah, this is [redacted] glad to finally have a chance to get to know you better OOP: oh, you as well! glad we matched :) OOP: sorry if I don't text back fast, im at work currently so dont mind if it takes me a minute to respond John: Oh, all cool. I just got off work about an hour ago. John: What do you do for work again? John: I thought I saw in your profile something with art OOP: yeah! I’m a tattoo apprentice currently :) John: Oh, really? OOP: yeah haha, do you have any tattoos? John: No. I'm not a big fan of them. I thought you were more of like a receptionist at a tattoo studio or something OOP: in my profile u can clearly see I have a lot of tattoos haha, I have about 30 ish tats, but sorry if u felt mislead I guess? my profile has "tattoo apprentice" in the job category thing John: No, you look great, sorry didn't mean that in a way to insult you. I don't mind if you have tattoos, but is being a tattoo artist what you want your big girl job to be? OOP: yeah, I'm pursing a career in tattoos. why? John: Not my thing at all. OOP: then why swipe and get my number after seeing all my tattoos? I think I literally have pics on my profile of me in the tattoo studio John: Again, just thought you answered the phones or something. I mean you're absolutely beautiful, it's just that doesn't seem like a good career. I don't mean to offend you so don't take this the wrong way but almost all tattoo artists are pill poppers and have a bad past. Most have been to jail. I've met several tattoo artists and they've all been to jail for bad stuff OOP: bro are u trolling me or are you being fr John: No lol, it's just I don't want to marry someone like that you know? Like you're beautiful and we're funny and really nice on hinge and i'm sure you're great and i'd still like to get to know you of course, but maybe if we click after a few dates you could give up the tattoo thing? I mean you could still do something with art I won't stop you from doing that, but when or if we decide to have kids I don't want them around that kind of environment of drug dealers and jail thugs no offense OOP: so you want me to quit my apprenticeship that i've been working on getting for 3 years for you, a total stranger, and do what? like ??? do you see how insane you sound rn? OOP: ur fuckin crazy LMAO we just met and your talking about future kids and marriage and how you want me to quit my apprenticeship????? John: You're too pretty to be acting like this, i'm looking for my future wife (ASI stated in my hinge bio), why swipe if you're not even serious. Women these days and your feminist propaganda. No one even will want to get tattooed by a woman. You would genuinely make such a good housewife or a children's book illustrator and your wasting all your potential for what? OOP: I was looking for something serious too but ur genuinely insane John: Don't text me again until you start thinking logically about our relationship. John: Hello? John: Are you thinking logically about our future now? John: Come on, don't be like that. John: Listen i'm sorry if I was rude and sorry about the feminist stuff I said. You probably aren't even a feminist. Sometimes I get mad and just say stuff I don't mean. John: Can we start over? I can take us to dinner tonight or drinks, all on me. I can provide for you John: I can get you out of this lifestyle if that's what you need John: You okay? John: Getting worried I haven't gotten a response John: Morning. Want to come to breakfast with me? John: Did you seriously report my hinge account? John: I only matched with you and 3 other people. Now it's taken down for NO FUCKING REASON. John: My whole profile is gone because of you John: You're insane. I knew I couldn't save you from your lifestyle but I tried anyways. Goodbye End of Transcript Relevant Comments Commenter 1: Definitely report. But also don't give your number out so easily. OOP: We talked for almost 2 days before I gave him my number but after that I prob will just give people like my social media or something, I watch wayyyy too much true crime Commenter 1: 2 days and your career never came up??? That's wild lol OOP: I assumed he knew since it’s literally everywhere on my profile😭 I asked him his and he didn’t ask me so I assumed he knew Commenter 2: I like how he still let you choose between house-wife and children’s book illustrator. OOP: LMAO, I know right??? What great options for me to choose from. Commenter 3: I love it when people are so deliriously idiotic that it ventures into entertaining territory. You’ve got hella tattoos and your profile says “let me tattoo you” and he says “I thought you just answered the phones or something” truly iconic stupidity OOP: Like could I have been any clearer? Lol Commenter 4: “You’re too pretty to be acting like this” “You’d genuinely make such a good housewife or children’s book illustrator” What in the red pill misogynistic garbage is this twat on about?? Not overreacting at all, good for you for reporting this creep! OOP: Andrew tate has done insane damage to men in their 20’s OOP should had report John immediately OOP: I reported him after he told me to stop talking to him, his account didn’t get taken down until like two days later   Update: July 27, 2025 (five days later) So I made a post a few days ago about this guy that matched with me on hinge and then just was fuckin insane after we started talking. He basically was upset I was a tattoo artist even though my entire hinge profile had several parts on it about me being an artist. After I made the post, he texted me several times. I ignored his texts, so he went and FOUND my Facebook. I deadass don’t know how he did because I have my Facebook settings to where you can’t even find me in the search bar thingy and have all my friends private. After he texted me on Facebook, I blocked his number, messenger, and Facebook. Well today I get texts from him on INSTAGRAM telling me he’s gonna show up to my work!!! I didn’t have my tattoo studio listed anywhere and have never posted which studio I work at online. This scared me. I truly do not know how he figured it out, because even my tattoo page has none of it listed! (He didn’t text my tattoo instagram, he texted my main Instagram profile). I called my boss after this and asked why he let the receptionist give out when I was at work, apparently this dude pretended to be my COUSIN???? He somehow knew my cousins name (someone my boss has tattooed before), and acted like him and said he wanted to know what time I was in tomorrow so I could do a flash tattoo on him. The receptionist just told my boss like “hey, op’s cousin _____ wants to know when op will be here tomorrow for a small tattoo”, so my boss told him. I told my boss everything that happened and I’m not going in tomorrow just to be safe. My boss said he’s gonna be on the lookout, but since I won’t be there, everything should be fine. Maybe I’m being dramatic by not showing up, I don’t actually think he’d like kill me or something, but you never know. Anyways, here’s an update for y’all. You were right, this motherfucker was crazy Copy of the text messages Transcript of OOP and "John" via her Instagram and Facebook accounts Instagram Messages John: Are you ready to talk about our future yet? or are you gonna keep "running" and blocking me? John: I'll be at [OOP's work] at tomorrow. I called and the lady said you'd be there at like 3 for a tattoo (obviously I don't need a tattoo, so don't bring your supplies), is that the best time to pick you up for lunch? OOP: do not show up at my work. I will call the cops if I see you even drive around the premises. I am not interested and ive blocked you 3 times now. please just leave me alone. you're scaring me John: How am I scaring you??? i'm trying to be a nice fucking guy and take you to lunch. I know you got trauma from whatever liberals you dated in your past but i'm a provider. I can provide for you. You can forget about the silly tattoo stuff, and stop pretending to be so tough. You're the woman, act like it! Stop worrying about your "future career" and "tattoos", and start worrying about OUR future. Seriously! i'm not blaming you for being like this. I'm blaming you for not letting me FIX this. OOP: what the fuck are u even talking about. do not show up. this is your final warning. i'm not interested in whatever weird trad wife fantasy you got going in your head. i've never told you even anything about my past. I have no trauma from ex liberal boyfriends lol. like wtf are u talking about OOP: do not contact me again or i'm going to the cops. Facebook Messages John: Hey John: Do u remember me? John: It's [redacted] we matched on hinge but my account got deleted John: Did u still wanna grab dinner OOP: bro what??? I blocked you how did u even find my facebook? John: It's your name lol and we live in the same hometown, not that hard to John: Why did you block my number? You wouldn't respond here if you weren't interested. Lol John: So when can I pick you up? John: Again my offer still stands for the job OOP: ur seriously fucking insane OOP: like ur genuinely creeping me out now pls leave me alone John: How am I creeping you out when I just want to love you? John: Nothing im doing or saying is creepy, im confused why you think that. I think you're just being sensitive. All im trying to do is be fucking nice and buy you dinner John: I only matched with you and 3 other people. Now it's taken down for NO FUCKING REASON. John: My whole profile is gone because of you John: You're insane. I knew I couldn't save you from your lifestyle but I tried anyways. Goodbye John: Hey John: Can we talk? John: I think I was a bit too aggressive yesterday. Even if you were the one who reported me John: Let's just forget about this and talk over dinner. You're a beautiful girl n I know you seem perfect with everything but the tattoo idea John: Like if you really want to work and don't wanna do like kids books or something you can work at drive she with me and probably be a receptionist John: Hey love John: Are u free now End of transcript Relevant Comments Commenter 1: You are not being dramatic. This is an absolutely insane behavior. Call the cops, it will not stop there and he will escalate the situation. You ARE in the danger, don't wait for the worse! OOP: If he actually does show up at my job tomorrow (which god hoping he doesn’t), I will be calling the cops. I feel like if I did now it wouldn’t be enough evidence for them to do anything, but with him showing up to my job after I told him not to will be Commenter 2: This guy is super duper obsessive. Try and stay away from him because this is the kind of guy that is dangerous to be around. OOP: Oh trust me I am, I’m glad now that I reported him on hinge when I did and his account got deleted Commenter 3: Call the cops regardless. You are afraid to go to work, and the longer paper trail you have, the better for a protection order if need be. OOP: The crazy part is that I’ve literally never met this dude in person. Do you think they’ll take it seriously even though I’ve never met him? I mean he went from 0-100. My last post I made in here was like “omg haha, this dudes insane haha”, now it’s like “wtf???” Commenter 4: Holy hell. Take all the screen shots, history, everything... to the cops. Even if they're southern cops. Do it, immediately. This "I'm a fucking nice guy" lunatic needs to be stopped in his tracks. This is beyond dangerous. Please, don't wait, and don't accept the cops doing nothing about it. Guys like this murder women. OOP: I wasn’t aware until a little bit ago that you could bring the cops stuff like this for a paper trail, I will be doing that later today Commenter 5: This should have been reported to LE like, yesterday. This is stalking. Save ALL CONTACTS he’s made with you, your Hinge profile/report/their response, and take it all to the sherriff’s department immediately. He is a dangerous person and you have every right to be scared and SHOULD be scared and if they don’t take you seriously, find a DV lawyer who will. OOP: Fortunately, his hinge was banned. Unfortunately, when it got banned I lost all the messages on there. I do have screenshots of all the texts and stuff he sent afterwards! If I knew he’d be this fuckin weird I would’ve screenshoted the hinge messages before I reported him OOP needs to stay safe! OOP: I promise I’m safe! I went to the police and showed them the screenshots of everything. They said since nothing has happened like in person and we haven’t met, not much they can do. BUTTTTT if he does show up to my work tomorrow while I’m not there, I could get a restraining order! So either he fucks off, or I get a restraining order. Works for me lol. They said they’d patrol around my area, but it’s a little hard as I’m in the south and live in a very small town and on the outskirts of said town lol Does OOP have a dog? She needs to get security cameras OOP: I have a ring doorbell, a back door camera, and 6 cameras inside. Not to mention my beautiful guard dog, we’re safe tonight! I do have a big dog! I have a boxer mixed with husky. She’s loud as hell and doesn’t take kindly to stranger haha OOP needs to tell her family and friends so she can have a safe plan OOP: Trust, my family is notified! 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I am not The OOP, OOP is u/Public_Control3563 AITAH for telling my boyfriend I’ll break up with him if he doesn’t start wiping his butt? Originally posted to r/AITAH Thanks to u/queenlegolas & u/soayherder for suggesting this BoRU TRIGGER WARNING: Homophobia and disgusting personal hygiene, fecal matter MOOD SPOILER: disgust. All of the jibblies. What a terrible day to have eyes Original Post June 13, 2025 I (26F) have been dating my boyfriend (27M) for almost a year. We moved in together three months ago, and for the most part, things have been fine, he’s funny, smart, we have good chemistry, and we share similar goals for the future. That said, there’s been a problem. A really gross, ridiculous problem. When we first moved in, I noticed that he never had toilet paper rolls in “his” bathroom (we have a two-bathroom setup and tend to use separate ones most of the time). I figured maybe he used wipes or something else. But then I started noticing smells. Like, awful smells. Sometimes his laundry would stink in a very specific way. I thought maybe it was just bad hygiene in general, so I brought it up. He got really defensive and basically told me to “drop it.” Eventually, after too many suspiciously stained boxers and just a level of funk no grown man should be walking around with, I asked him point blank: “Do you wipe after you poop?” He shrugged and said, “Nah, wiping is kinda gay. Why would I touch my own ass?” I thought he was joking. I laughed. He didn’t. Turns out, he legitimately believes that wiping “makes you gay” and that “real men just let it fall out and go about their day.” I told him that’s not only stupid but also incredibly unhygienic and honestly, it’s making me feel physically sick to be near him sometimes. He said I was being judgmental and that I should “accept him for who he is.” I told him I draw the line at poop. I said if he didn’t start wiping and taking basic hygiene seriously, I’d have to reconsider the relationship. He’s now sulking and accusing me of being shallow, saying I’m “prioritizing societal expectations over true love.” He even texted me a link to a “men’s rights” subreddit post about “how wiping is emasculating.” Now I’m wondering, AITA for threatening to break up with my boyfriend over something as “small” as wiping? RELEVANT COMMENTS Odd_Obligation4747 NTA you should absolutely break up with him. Not only does he sounds homophobic and like those “macho” man but he’s a grown ass man with no hygiene and no proper excuse (like mental health) for it. Think about what would happen if you two were to have kids or something. You’d have a whole family not wiping their asses it’s disgusting OOP Exactly! That’s what really hit me, like, if this is how he is now, what happens down the line? I’m not trying to raise kids in a house where basic hygiene is optional because “it’s not manly.” It’s not just gross, it’s irresponsible. And yeah, the homophobia baked into it is a huge red flag too. I can’t build a future with someone who equates cleanliness with weakness. ~ Unlucky_Pass_5819 WTF that's gross as fuck.... Dump his ass girl! OOP Right?! I’ve been trying to wrap my head around how this is even real life. Like how are you almost 30 and still walking around with a dirty butt on purpose?? I’m definitely leaning toward dumping him, there’s no way I can keep pretending this is normal. Update June 24, 2025 Hey again. I wanted to give an update because, well, it happened. I broke up with him. And it was somehow even messier than I expected, no pun intended. I sat him down and told him I couldn’t do this anymore. I explained everything calmly: that it wasn’t just about wiping, but about respect, for me, for himself, and for any space we shared. That I was exhausted from living in constant secondhand filth. That I genuinely couldn’t picture a future with someone who refused to do the most basic thing to stay clean. He stared at me in silence for a few seconds, then laughed. Like, this weird fake laugh. Then he got super defensive and said, “Wow, so I guess you never actually cared about me. This is what ends us? Over wiping?” I told him it wasn’t just that, it was the fact that I asked him, repeatedly, to do something extremely reasonable, and he chose not to. Over and over. He folded his arms and said, “I’m not changing who I am just to make you comfortable.” I said, “I’m not asking you to change your personality. I’m asking you to not smell like shit.” That’s when it got dramatic. He stood up, threw his keys on the couch, and said, “You’re just like everyone else. Judgmental and shallow.” Then he packed a duffel bag like he was storming out of a movie, grabbing random stuff like a pair of mismatched socks, two deodorants (the irony), and a frozen burrito from the freezer. Before he left, he looked at me and said, “You’ll regret this. You’ll never find another guy like me.” And I just said, “That’s kind of the point.” He slammed the door so hard a picture fell off the wall. He’s texted me a few times since, mostly passive-aggressive stuff like “Hope your next guy wipes and lies to you about it” and “Real men don’t fold for toilet paper.” I haven’t responded. Since he left, I’ve deep cleaned the apartment, burned a candle, and done five loads of laundry. I cannot tell you how amazing it feels to sit on a couch and not wonder if it’s been in contact with poop. Anyway. Thank you all for the push I needed. You were right. I don’t need to fix someone who thinks basic hygiene is optional. I need someone who’s already a damn adult. FINAL COMMENTS Cute_Green2023 Girl, you dodged a bullet, not gonna lie. Nothing says “I love you” like basic hygiene. If he thinks finding a clean partner is impossible, he should probably check his own reflection first. Enjoy your sanitized couch! OOP Omg yes, thank you!! That part about the reflection? DEAD ON. He kept acting like I was the problem for not accepting him “as he is,” but like “as he is” smells like a locker room floor. I’m genuinely so happy to sit on my couch without wondering if there’s a ghost of poop past haunting the cushions. Sanitized and single has never felt so good! cicada_noises Why is he insisting “being a man covered in poop” is considered a personality trait that people need to accept? “I have poo on myself on purpose and it’s unfair people don’t accept me as I am!” OP why did you date him? He must have reeked from the beginning? OOP Lmao right?! At some point he really started acting like wiping was a core identity issue, like I was asking him to change something deep and sacred about himself. No dude, you’re not oppressed, you’re just dirty. And yeah, I honestly don’t know what I was thinking in the beginning. I guess the smell was kinda masked by cologne and short visits, and I wasn’t paying close enough attention. Once we moved in together, though? Ohhh it hit me like a truck full of spoiled meat. I just didn’t expect the problem to be this. THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP's OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7 submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

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I am not The OOP, OOP is u/throwra_manly I (42m) left my wife (42f) after she kept making comments about me not being manly enough and not sure I did the right thing? Originally posted to r/relationship_advice & r/offmychest Thanks to u/queenlegolas & u/Time_Excitement668 for suggesting this BoRU TRIGGER WARNING: verbal abuse, misandry, homophobia Original Post Dec 14, 2024 We’d been together since we were 18. She was my first everything where as she’d been with a few people before me. We have an 18 year old daughter together who is and amazing brilliant and kind person, I couldn’t have asked for a better kid. The last few years my wife has been making the odd comment about my manliness etc and I’ve just brushed it off but she’s really stepped it up the last year and I ended up leaving her about three months ago over it. I don’t want this to sound like a humble brag but I do think I’m quite “manly” while also just being a normal person. I’m tall, workout a few times a week, I can do any DIY around the house, I can fix cars, i used to be an amateur boxer and cage fighter and still do it as a hobby to keep fit. The things she said that aren’t manly about me are: I like to bake I like to cook I don’t drink, I don’t care if other people do it’s just not for me I like Taylor Swift, Charlie XCX, Arianna Grande, Sabrina Carpenter etc. my main choice in music will always be rap but having a teenager daughter these sort of artists get played and I like some of their songs so I listen to them. I don’t see that as a bad thing I have a powerful car and a motorbike but my preferred method of transport is a VW Up. It’s a small car with a little engine but if it’s just me and my gym bag or work bag I don’t see the problem plus I’m not one of them who feels like a car someone drives means anything. My ex wife disagreed and said I give off a certain vibe in it. I tend to walk away from arguments with strangers. She perceives any slight as personal insult. If you cut in front of her in traffic she’s leaning on the horn, don’t say thank you if you hold a door open, she’s screaming and shouting at you. I just prefer to let things slide. An example is someone was being obnoxious to me on a night out for no reason. He was in my face calling me all sorts of names and even pushed me a couple of times. I just smiled at him and walked away saying I hope he gets home safely. When we got home she said I embarrassed her in front of her friends by letting him talk to me like that. I said what’s the point of me knocking out a drunk kid who’s half my size. She said I’m a doormat for the world. There’s a few other things mainly connected to stuff me and my daughter have in common around stupid social media videos. She said it’s like living with two teenage girls In September I left her. I said I can’t be spoken to like this anymore and be belittled. It’s not fair. Even then she had a dig and said a real man would change. She’s changed her tune since and said she’s willing to go to therapy both individual and couples and try and sort out her issues. I don’t know if the cuts from things she’s said are too deep though? Since I’ve left I’ve felt more relaxed and happier. I don’t have to worry when I put a song on or want to bake a cake or cook something a bit different what would be said etc. At the same time though it’s scary as she’s all I’ve known and being alone and meeting new people scare the life out of me as I’ve never done that before. Everything is telling me I’m on the right path now but I have a niggling doubt in my head that all those words she spoke about me are true and I am an annoying person that will be alone forever. TLDR: I left my wife for constantly questioning my manliness and now I’m scared of the future. Edit: sorry to everyone I didn’t get a chance to reply to. Thank you all so much for all the love. I’m genuinely humbled. RELEVANT COMMENTS When asked what started this OOP I have no idea what triggered it. A few years ago the comments started but they’ve really ramped up the last year to 18 months. I did suspect an affair but I’m not sure. ContributionTricky65 There’s probably some underlying insecurity within herself that’s making her project this onto you. “Manliness” doesn’t really mean anything. She’s holding you to an arbitrary definition of what she thinks a man “should be”, but there’s really no answer to that. You don’t have to prove yourself. This is her issue, not yours. I think it’s pretty “manly” to bond with your daughter, pursue hobbies that make you happy, and listen to your needs. She needs to know that you felt a weight off your shoulders without her frequent judgements if you’re going to try and make it work. OOP I don’t know whether it’s some social media she’s consumed or what but seems to think all men should be beer swilling hot heads all the time. ~ Priapism911 Op, what she doesn't understand, it takes a man to be able to walk away and laugh off insults. It's pretty easy to fight. Don't take her back. I feel bad for your daughter, her lack of being raised by a good woman. I guess she was good at some point and just rotted away. Did she get any new friends that might have been whispering in her ear? Maybe seeing some dude whispering in her ear? OOP That’s exactly what I said. Without bigging myself up that guy who was causing me trouble would have been little effort for me to hurt but what’s the point. My ego and pride aren’t that shallow that I feel the need to prove myself against someone who poses no danger to me. It’s been the last 5-10 years and I don’t want to blame social media but it’s definitely been since she started consuming more Instagram and TikTok. ~ Mueryk You literally said you are happier and more relaxed alone than when you were with her. Okay, so say you end up alone. Still an improvement over what you had. Don’t stay with her for your kid or because it’s what’s familiar, only do it if you truly want to be there. And if you DO that, then set hard boundaries that aren’t negotiable and broadcast that prior to even trying counseling with her. Because she was belittling you and you deserve better than that. Maybe she can get there, but you and only you can decide if she is worth that effort and risk to you. OOP You are right. I know I’m on the right path and it feels better knowing others agree. When asked about marriage counseling When she mentioned couples counselling the first time she said “so someone else can help me make you the man I need” which I immediately called out. She’s now said it’s so she can work on her own problems with how she thinks men should be. Update March 30, 2025 Hi all. I received a lot of love on my first post and had a few people ask for an update so here we are over three months later. First and foremost I didn’t get back with her and the divorce is now in motion. Our daughter is very understanding says I seem lot happier and more relaxed. My ex wife kept asking me back until about a month ago she announced she’s seeing a 23 year old and when I felt relief rather than hurt or jealousy I fully realised I am over her. Not really much else to report. I’m still baking and cooking and boxing and cage fighting lol. I’ve got tickets to go see Sabrina carpenter with my daughter and we also got tickets to go see Kendrick Lamar so I still like my rap and my teen girl pop lol. I also want to say a big thank you to everyone who commented and messaged me after my last post. You were all so sweet and it was both humbling and gave me a massive big head lol. Thank you all TLDR: I’m good. RELEVANT COMMENTS Extension_Way3724 "My husband isn't manly enough because he drives a little car to his cage fighting matches, and listens to hyperpop while he fixes that little car with his bare hands, bloodied from the aforementioned cage fighting. Also I hate it when he makes me cakes" Brother I think your ex wife might be insane OOP Haha that is quite a good way of summing it up I guess. It is nice to drive my little car and listen to Espresso without being called “gay as fuck” although I might get a window sticker that says that lol. ~ kairain She's dating someone so young to try and make you jealous... That's... Pathetic. Enjoy the baking and cage fighting! cuttiepuffjunior It's also so gross. The guy she's dating is 5 years older than her daughter 🤢 OOP They also went to the same secondary school and he was in his last year there while she was in her first year. 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I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/luvthyf_ingneighbor Originally posted to r/EntitledKarens My Neighbor Demands I Marry His Son Trigger Warnings: homophobia, cancer, destruction of property Original Post: August 22, 2024 This is a weird one, and I don't reddit normally, so sorry. My GF told me to post here, lol Okay, so I "Zennia" F35, inherited my Pop's (my grandfather) house. Well, technically, me and mom did. Mom is a college professor and remarried to a technical writer/engineer who makes a ridiculous amount of money and a big Ole mansion of a house (to me) in the well-off part of town. So she said Pops house is mine. I was grateful and am still. This was about a year ago. I need to sort of set the stage here. Pop was a popular man. He helped everyone. The kids all called him Uncle or Pops, and his peers called him the Sultan of 2nd Street (never knew why they went with Sultan, other than illeration, since he was black lol). He donated and loaned and gave money to whomever needed it. He was a Vietnam War vet, and despite the stigma of it at the time and that of being a black man, he made something of himself as boxer and boxing instructor. He opened his own place and eventually opened more. When mom was small, he bought that house, and when mom got pregnant with me and my father flaked out, Pops became that father figure. My childhood bedroom is in this house (it's now my study) and so everyone here knows us. Pop passed, and I got the house. All caught up? Okay, so there is a neighbor to my immediate right, who we call Sugah Mama or Sugah. Everyone knew that she had it bad for Pops but see after he left Mama (my grandmother) or more likely . She left him, he chose the bachelor/Playa life. Yeah, he got around. It's still debatable if the woman who owns the house is on the 3rd, if her son is my uncle. Anyway, Sugah has a son "Miles" (M50-something) who also has a son “James”. James is my age, and we get on well. We used to be joined at the hip in grade school, and even though we glowed into different cliques in middle and high school, we were friendly. Sugah and some of the other older folks would joke about us. Soulmates. We even share a birthday with a strange coincidence, I will admit, but then they keep adding AT THE SAME HOSPITAL! well, yeah, because back then, there was only one good one nearby. Lol Now, to be clear, I am bisexual with a strong preference if my dating history has any sway for nonbinary people or women. No shame in my game. I can talk about the absolute bullshit of homophobia in the black community, but you're not here for that. So I meet my now GF "Dinah" who is also my age and she is absolutely a dream. She's smart and hot and sweet and thoughtful and kind and a million other things. I have to stop there, or this post will be all about how out of my league she is. I started having her around the house, and Mr. Miles was around and offered his and James' help in getting stuff from the truck into the house. At one point, James pulled me aside as he knew she was my GF and said I shouldn't mention it to his dad, but it was too late. Mile had asked her if the two of us were college buddies, and she replied that we're dating. Mr. Miles pulls me aside after and asks if it's true, and I said yes. Enter the homophobia and what would Pop think? Lol, I told him, Pop knew I was bi for years. I came out to him in high school, and he was a-okay with it. That shut him up for a bit, and we got me moved in. Well, now about a week ago, Mr. Miles came by. I WFM, but the fiscal year is coming about, and it's a busy time, so I made Mr. Miles had some tea and sat with him but made him aware I was calling this my lunch hour and couldn't entertain long as I was still working. He said "well I will cut to the chase then," and said so matter of factly, "you need to leave that woman." I laughed as my GF and I have been together now for over a year and are happy, so... no. why the hell would he even come here with this? He said Sugah is sick (which I knew. She sadly got uterine and breast cancer in March) and she needs to see her boys married. He said he prefers I marry James, but IT WOULD BE OKAY with him if I marry his older brothers Daniel (36) or Paul (37). I told him yeah no. I won't be marrying any of his sons. I said I already have a ring for Dinah and am planning to propose to and marry her. I said I know he doesn't agree with gay marriage, and he frankly doesn't have to. It's my life, and while I love and respect him like a real uncle, he will not tell me who to love or marry. He yelled at me and said some awful things, and I wanted to say I was a badass and stared him down like Gayle King did to R Kelly in the meme but...I cried. A lot. I just asked him to please leave. He did but ripped my pride flag from my pole at the door, calling me slur. I got a new one the next day, and it went missing, so my GF bought me a door cam and a new flag. Sure enough, he came that night and ripped that one down, too. I texted him the video and said I would not press charges if he stopped all this. He said to go ahead, "call the police on another black man," and if he's killed, it's on me and my "sins." It's night here and I was cuddled up to my boo after a movie date night and were playing Mass Effect (video game) - ASIDE but can you beleive this woman has never HEARD of this game!? - and there is knock at my door. It's Paul. He asks to speak with me outside, so I tell Dinah to keep playing, and I will be back. I don't see Paul often, so I thought something happened - maybe Sugah got worse or something happened to his dad. Paul explained that he was here to ask me out. He had flowers and a stuffed unicorn (I like unicorns don't read into it lol), and I, of course, told him ummmmm, I am in a relationship." He said he knew I had a GF but that wasn't a real relationship as a relationship is between a man and a woman and he knows I date men as I've dated a male mutual friend in my 20s. I just said my relationship is both real and none of his business and to leave. He then said he guessed I liked feminine men since my GF is trans - which OK bud she's not, but even if she was, HAVE YOU SEEN THIS HOTTIE. So I just laughed it off snd said he was jealous he couldn't pull a hottie like mine and said I have cameras with audio so if he can please fuck all the way off and not force me and my GF to call the cops, it would be appreciated. I told Dinah, who howled in laughter and paused the game to watch the doorcam footage, laughed more, and then told me to post here. So here we are. Sorry? You're welcome? Idk. Relevant Comments OOP needs to take extra precautions for herself and her partner OOP: My mom agrees with you. She's pushing for us to stay with her for a spell. Dad said he bought extra cameras and lights on Amazon and can sinatll them tonight. They are acting like a cross is burning on the lawn and my GF doesn't think they are overreacting at all. This is the South in the USA and GF is a retired Marine so...she's got her 2nd amendment right and the papers for it so I feel okay as long as she is with me... That said if she were hurt I would hate myself for not listening so we're in her care right now going to my parents and daddy is on his way to my house to put in the cameras and lights. Sadly I am used to folk telling me they can "fix" me somehow or that sleeping with a man will "fix" me etc. Mr. Miles ain't the first bigot but he damn well is the most dedicated. Mom talked with Sugah and Sugah is horrified and said she will put up a rainbow flag at her house and see if "that boy got the balls to rip it down from my damn house" Gotta love her.   Update #1: August 27, 2024 Howdy. Y'all might not remember but I'm that bi chick madly I'm love with my smokin brilliant GF and living beside my homophobic neighbor. Heres the post I'm updating - https://www.reddit.com/r/EntitledKarens/s/67P8SoK3Ao So a few days ago I shared about Mr. Miles losing his ever-loving mind about me having a GF and basically put his son up to come over, demean my relationship, and ask me out cuz that's suuuuuuuuuch a great plan /s For safety, given Mr. Miles losing all the sense the good lord gave him, GF and I stayed up at my folks and just got back yesterday evening. My dad double checked all the new lights and cameras and then walked over to "have a friendly chat" with Mr. Miles. Not sure what he said but it had to be good because Mr. Miles didn't even sit on his porch to smoke his nightly cigar. And if you knew that man the way I do you know that's not in character. I asked Daddy what he said to the poor man and he laughed and said "Oh, Baby, definitely nothing that would remind him of our good and mighty God or offering to send him to Him." Sooooooooo Sorry I digress. So I expected everything to be okay - because I'm stupid - and thus went back to life per usual. I ran my GF's bath, jumped her bones, and woke up to make her breakfast thinking my life is some kind of wonderful. Only to hear a knock at the door. Today is Monday. Everyone who works is off to work and everyone who doesn't knows I WFH on weekdays. Something didn't feel right so I woke my Love up and told her to get dressed just in case something was about to happen. I'm no warrior but I did have my bat and opened the door and made eye contact with a cop. We stare at each other. He looks down at my bat, then back to my face, then turns showing the cop behind him and looks at her. And I am here thinking well SHIT this is what I get for assuming this all would blow over. I will admit, I am not everyone's cup of tea so I use humor to compensate for being...well a weirdo lol don't know how else to put it. So I grin at the cops and ignore my heart racing and place the bat down and just say "Sorry I thought you were someone else. Coffee?" They...weren't amused and apparently didn't want coffee either. Who was I expecting and why a bat? I just said I wasn't sure, but we're two women alone in a house with someone at the door at the ass Crack of dawn so.... They asked for me by name and I confirmed I was who I was, even showed my ID. They asked me for my GF as they got a call. GF comes out and shows her ID. They ask to speak to us separately and I was getting upset. "Whats this about, sir?" The cop looked at me really annoyed, then looked at my GF and asked if she felt safe with me, to which she said she did. He said he needs to investigate a call. I ask what call. He says he's the one asking questions and all I could think was greeeeeat he's that type of cop. He tried to step inside but we were speaking through a screen door which I locked last night and it was then he actually asked if he could come in. I said no, sir. My GF said she will step out with him to answer any questions and she does and the female cop takes her a distance away and talk. The male cop opens the now unlocked door and peers in my house asking if he can have a look around. I ask again what all this is about. He asks me questions. All centering around why anyone might think I am holding my GF here against her will. I was like what do you mean against her will? He says her BF called and said I took her forcefully and kept her here overnight. To which I reply, what fucking BF? She's a lesbian and gay as the day is long. At this point GF and female cop come back and GF looks mad. She points at Sugah's house and asks if thats where the call came from and outline everything that's basically in my last post. GF then goes, "show them the videos", so I hand over my phone with the ring app pulled up with the footage of Mr. Miles yanking our pride flag down and using slurs. The cops were looking at one another and then back at Sugah/Mr. Miles' house. Mystery solved, I'm thinking. I'm not good in tense situations so I just Crack "Sure you don't want a coffee?" And GF whacked my arm. We did the whole song and dance, sending files, getting their cards, filing a complaint for the damage of my property on Mr. Miles' part, and then my GF said she wants to pressed harassment charges too. The male cop snorted "based on what?" And the female cop took over. She said without solid and consistent proof, they can't press charges of that nature. We ask about hate crimes and they said taking down a pride flag isn't a hate crime, it's destruction of property. Suddenly I can hear the guy cop saying "Sir, stay inside" and who else could it have been but dear old Mr. Miles - look at this old rooster up this early! Fuck. The old sour raisin is yelling for them to ask about me throwing around my GF last night. Cops aren't even listening to him, just telling him to go inside and he keeps repeating that i was brutilizing her last night (Which the creepy bits aside about him knowing anything about last night, I want to take as one HELLUVA compliment). The cops yell for him to go inside or he will be in cuffs. He does and the female cop turns to me and I just blurted "If 'throwing around' is what we're calling sex now..." And my GF gave me a look like shut 👏 the FUCK 👏 up so I did. (It did get a laugh from the lady cop though). They told us to stay inside and we did but you better believe we minded everything but our business at that point. We watched through my study window as they went and spoke to Mr. Miles. There was a back and forth and I heard the cop say "turn around" and Mr. Miles was saying like "why are you hassling me, man? I didn't do nothing." So the cop got louder and said "Either turn around and I take you in or you go back in the house, sir." Mr. Miles was saying this ain't right but he went inside. The cops stayed on the porch for a few minutes more. Then they departed. Happy Monday. Relevant Comments Commenter: Wow. If you can afford it, I suggest consulting an attorney. Give them all the info and evidence of things to date, so they’ll be ready to help if this escalates. for example if you end up needing a restraining order or want to pursue that harassment charge that the cops didn’t want to deal with.   Update #2: August 31, 2024 This is slowly just becoming my little hobby of sharing what Mr. Miles and his family have been doing. After the police incident it was pretty quiet this week. Dinah, my GF, and I also have just been living quietly in general hoping the storm passed over. I can be such a damn fool sometimes. I thought it was all going to be fine. We have cameras, lights, Dinah made a (rainbow - cuz of course) no trespassing sign. She got mini pride flags and staked them in the front garden. Did I mention she gardens? She's literally a dream girl. Mr. Miles sort of went back to normal. He smoked his nightly cigars, washed his car, all the usual shit. Enter the HOA. I live in a community that, how can I say this? It's not the hood, but it ain't fancy. Lots of the people here are people of color and generational owners meaning their grandparents or great grandparents bought the house way back in the day and the owners inherited it. Nobody minds their business, but we let each other be as far as how we use the lawns and shit like that. It's very much a "stay in yo lane" situation. Guy shows up at the door. I'm not home, but Dinah is so this is what she described happened but I admit I "Zennia'd" some details for that extra oomf - Dinah has coined that phrase as according to her I allegedly add a flair to retellings. She opens the door with the chain on and this pleasant looking man is smiling at her so she assumes he is a salesman. She just asks if our no soliciting sign is there and is about to close the door at that but he said he's not selling anything, he's an officer with the HOA. Dinah hears the word officer and is cussing in every tongue she knows internally and just asks what he wants. He hands her a notice. Apparently we are in some sort of violation. Dinah's no pushover so she's rather unimpressed at this point and he is trying to explain "we noticed some violations-" and she asks point blank if what he's about to say is in the papers he gave her. He says yes, and she looks it over again. Hmmm...our rainbow shit? A violation. Oh no it's 7. 7 violations all related to our rainbow shit. Now Dinah's got a main suspect in who is behind all this and she is laughing in this man's face. He says he really doesn't want to fine us since they prefer to laid back. But this is causing complaints. So I get home and she's out back painting...nothing off about that. She likes creative DIY stuff so I just let her know I'm home and there's a box. I assumed it was for her because she freaking LOVES Amazon. She comes in and shows me what she's working on. Rocks, signs, a set of garden pots you name it, she has rainbowed it and I just sigh and go "What did that man do now?" And she tells me about HOA. I was like "we have an HOA?" And she hands me the papers. I called the number and the voicemail prompt checks out that it is an HOA. I've been the owner of the house for over a year. So its news to me. But I'm also first-time homeowner and I've been wrong before. I had and have a million questions. Like dont we get billed for it or something if we're part of HOA housing?? Then I noted that all the issues they are threatening to fine are accompanied by grainy photos of said items and they are all our rainbow stuff. I realize that Dinah is two steps off scorched earth (it takes a lot to get her there but baby look OUT when she arrives at that destination) the sign being that she is about to rainbow the whole damn house. I asked her her intentions and she just shrugs and says "Oh I thought they didn't get the asthetic so I'm helping complete your vision" (HOW IS THIS MY FAULT NOW!???? lol) and I'm like oooooh sweet baby Jesus, I don't have the financials to say fuck you if they fine me to oblivion. We had something of a tiff about it (a tiff is a small little argument, but "argument" makes it sounds far more dire than it is) as she was camped in "F them especially" territory and I'm thinking of the possible consequences. I finally calm her down and she's starting to see my side of it. Guys, I fought the good fight, I really did, she was coming around, I was so close. So close to squashing this issue, calling it a night, play video games with my boo and go back to normal. BUT FUCKING NO because the goddamn box. The box wasn't addressed. It was just a box with a note that said it's a gift. They were flags. Not pride flags but like various sizes of the American flag. Dinah saw this and FLIPPED the fuck out. She's walking around the house cussing in more than one language. And I'm there in F my life mode knowing damn well we're a step closer to scorched earth. That was last night. She was still creating her DIY rainbow stuff when I went to bed. I'm not even going to try and sound like I want to attempt to think it's anyone else up to this bullsshittery for obvious reasons - gestures broadly - but also because Mr. Miles smoked his nightly cigar and I don't know what he said to Dinah, who happened to be out there (yeah right, Baby, since when do you even like sitting outside at night...ALONE) and she is swearing up and down he all but admitted it BUT EVEN IF HE HADN'T she checked our camera and Mr. Miles's son seems to be taking photos of our home from the sidewalk. So now we know at least Paul has something to do with this too. Dinah's not back from work yet, and I WFH so I'm basically just waiting for the other show to drop because now my GF has gone full gollum and God help anyone who tries to stop whatever it is she is thinking about doing. It's like trying to stick your foot out to stop a bullet train. Not gonna happen and damn painful. I'll update when the other shoe drops. PS: Our complaint to the police after my last update is still being "investigated" and not to be any sort of way but I don't expect much from it. Fingers crossed though. Pray for me y'all. PPS: Also sorry for all the cussing. This has put us both in a STATE and I have a pretty foul mouth. Edit: Just called my mom because she generally knows all lol she said that while she isn't 100% about the now as it's hard to recall so randomly while she's working, she knows for a fact there wasn't one when Pop owned the house. I'm going through the paperwork now because I can't let his go. Relevant Comments OOP should had the documents regarding this suspecting HOA OOP: I don't remember any mention of it, but also at the time I was not in the best state mentally for various reasons, including the death of my grandfather - which is why I inherited the house. I do remember a LOT of paperwork, that said. I will ask my mom if she recalls anything as she was there helping me. + I'll have to go through them. The phone number checked out because the voicemail prompt sounded legit, but the email is a generic one (think like yahoo or something). I can't even wrap my brain around how he would even be able to fake this, but after all the shit happening thus far, I am not far off believing it possible.   Update #3: September 1, 2024 This shit is going to make me into some gossip columnist or something because what I am about to share is fucking WILD. HOUSECLEANING FIRST since my last post had so much going on. The police, after many calls from my GF Dinah, have basically said that our case doesn't constitute harassment and there is no evidence of anything more (ummm video??) but only destruction of property. They said its largely a civil matter and thus should be handled I'm civil court rather than criminal. Best beleive Dinah is not about to let this go. As for the HOA. We. Dont. Have. One. And by "we," I mean my street. Miles lives on the corner house, so he's on a technically different street. We checked and double-checked, and Dinah helped me sort through some paperwork for good measure. Nope. My street never had one and never signed on for one. Dinah was DELIGHTED by this. I mean, that hot hellion put all her rainbow projects out and then started talking about rainbowing the HOUSE. Like, the whole damn house. She wants to make it a project and for all to call our queer pals together and rainbow paint the exterior, including the garage doors and driveway lol. I...said we should start small, and we agreed that she can paint our front and back porches first and she found cute lights to shine on the house that can project rainbows so we have to check with our other neighbors but I said if they are fine with it, fine, hun. And now ladies, gentlemen, nonbinary monarchs and all, I present to you, the fuckery. Mr. Miles saw me washing my Love's car for her. It was just a thing I wanted to do for her. Not a normal thing I do at all. But she's been stressed, so I was going for the "hot girl washing cars" thing in part to be cute and silly and was in swimwear. She was calling to me from the upstairs window, whistling and stuff. I laughed. My other neighbors laughed. Mr. Miles came out with a mug of whatever the fuck evil drinks (blood of the innocent? Puppy broth? Who knows. Maybe just shitty coffee) and was glaring at us, scoffing when she would come out on our porch with her tea to "enjoy the show" - let me be clear, we were not being lewd or anything. She was saying shit like "What are your rates? My car has never been so beautiful. I'll pay you double" it's cheesy shit couples around here say all the time. Maybe the worst thing she said that maybe was less for public consumption was admittably my favorite thing: "Hey good looking, what am I cookin? I WILL MAME IT HOT for you" implying she will make dinner. I don't know if I ever mentioned it, but Dinah is the BEST cook but generally doesn't take that on regularly, so her offering was heaven for me. Mr. Miles would ahem loudly, shake his head, do that indignant laugh older folks do, everything so we knew he disapproved and was in the audience. So we ignored him. And I definitely didn't defiantly stay out longer, flirting with my woman to piss him off...solely. Anyway, Mr. Miles was too much of a coward, so sent Paul again. I was done with the car and Dinah made me a cool cocktail (where we live outdoor shit in the summer is done nice and early before the sun gets too high, so it was hotter than Satan's ass out) and we sat near the fan enjoying just chatting. Mr. Miles had long gone inside anyway, and this is our home. Fuck him. We're going to enjoy it. Paul waved as he walked towards us and Dinah said her favorite curses under her breath. He made some small talk with us but Dinah was frosty with him, so I did most of the answers but even I was short. But this is the South, so politeness is a bitch. Hard to explain. He said he was concerned about our cameras because it looks like they cover the yards of others and there are kids here and "you know what that can look like". I will blame the cocktail but I was feeling like fucking with him, so I acting dumb. "What will it look like?" And he was all "you know what I mean" and I was like "nah what do you mean, Mr. Paul?" And that went on for a bit and he just stared at me and did a condescending chuckle and shook his head "well we'll see about what everyone thinks- just trying to be helpful given.." And he gestures at nothing in particular. I smile as sweet as pie and thank him for coming by but the cameras don't seem to bother anyone but I wil ask around. He told me to do that and walked off. We had been putting it off but this spurred Dinah to look into Mr. HOA. He's legit. An officer of the HOA on the street the other end of Mr. Miles's/Sugah's house. But Sugah has been in the hospital for surgery and won't be back for at least a few days. She has a daughter I keep tabs with who has been in town to help care for her. When I talked to my own mother, she sounded annoyed about the situation as a whole and ask if I would mind if she herself had a discussion with Miles. She grew up with him so I said that was up to her. She said "Great!" In that way that I knew she would be calling him. This morning, Daniel, the other son, caught me as I brought out the trashcans. I was surprised because he doesn't live there, so I don't often see him. Small talk blah blah blah, and then he gets close and says that he's sorry about the whole thing with his dad, but I should be warned that he got into quite mood after talking with my parents (I assume mom) and to tread lightly. I thanked him and went back in to tell Dinah. Dinah was in the nook (like a half room bay window situation where Pop used to smoke) and she had gift stuff out like gift bags and ribbon. I was trying to figure if I had forgotten a birthday or something and she just giggled and told me to come here. Rainbow flags. A lot of mini ones. Stuffed in a bright gift bag. I just looked at her like "Baby nooooooo" and she just shrugged saying she was the newbie here and wanted to be a good neihbor. To her credit there are more than one gift bags and she is dropping them off as I write to every house on the street but I know my GF. This is an F you too to Miles. She said to ask my internet friends (you and a Facebook group I've been sharing this with) for ideas of how to "spruce up the place" now that we know there are no HOA restrictions while she's out. So this is an update and also a plea, for the love of God please don't give her too many crazy ideas. Give us some fun ones - I am all for painting rocks and patios and shit, but I still gotta live here ya know? Anways, have a good long weekend if you're in the states. I still have a BBQ to plan. Edit: I just spoke to my mother video chat. Mom and Dinah have now sync'd energies. Help. Me. Mom said she talked to Daddy and they are wanting to pay for at least 2,000 USD to "spruce up the place" - Dinah is over the moon, has taken the device and is still talking with Mom now. God help us all lol   Update #4: September 7, 2024 Well the Mr. Miles saga continues so to pick up from my last post, the BBQ happened. It was fun. Had my parents and chosen family over (open invite to my community so some neighbors too) and Dinah's twin even came and by twin I mean they're not actually twins (image THAT much hotness doubled. Lawd.) But siblings born on the same day a few years apart. For this I will call him David (M30s...? Idk I never remember). David is also as gay as the day is long and has heard of all the shit Mr. Miles has been putting on. Actually ever single person at the BBQ knew. It was a topic I couldn't escape. Dinah was serving vodka mixed drinks and you can image what 3 queerdos can come up with after a few dranks. David loudly announced "PAINTING PARTYYYYYY" as Dinah went and found every bit of paint we own. Before I could even work through my vodka-indused brain fog, people were painting...EVERYTHING. the porch, my chairs, damn near every rock around my trees and all the raised garden beds. Now my backyard looks like a gay unicorn had projectile diaherea and shat rainbows. I like it. We played Lily Allen "Fuck You" and other gay ass songs, sang along, there are rainbow flags inside and outside my home at every window, in the garden, between my pumpkins (THEY PAINTED HALF MY PUMPKINS) - this is not a euphemism, both cars have those mini flags that stay when you close the window. It was insanity. Aaaaand the police arrived. They got a call about a disturbance from a neighbor and we all knew damn well which (my whole street of neighborswere literally right there except him). A quick aside here but it's not illegal to play loud music during thr day here. Just after like 8 or 9 or something. So no laws were being broken. The cops even admitted that. But they suggested we "just keep it down" - we thanked them, and didn't. It was a fun evening. My mom waited until everyone else left and she and Daddy were drinking my best wine, just LOVING this chaos, singing Dinah's praises, gushing over how she's designed the interior of this old house (she did really well I have to admit). It's updated in here and just brighter and fresher. There was a knock on the door and Mom got it. Mr. Miles stepped in with Paul and Daniel in tow. My southern-politeness brain shit the bed, so I audibly groaned at the sight of him. Dinah came back from the kitchen, saw him, crossed through the whole ass room and planted a kiss right on my lips as she handed me a fresh drink and sat right on my lap like a housewife. Mr. Miles asked for a drink. Dinah told him everything is out and in the kitchen basically to say "fuck you get your own" in Nice. His sons went to make him a drink and I politely asked what he needed. He said he wanted to have a take with me, alone. Mom said "And what do you need with my daughter, Miles?" And he said that that was between him and me. I said I was drunk and tired so it will have to wait until morning. He had his drink, made some passive aggressive comments, wished us a good evening, and said he will come by later. Mom walked him out. He did. The very next day. And sure enough I was alone. Sugah isn't doing well. She's not responding to treatment. They're planning for the worst. I was devestated to hear this. She's like our neighborhood mom. I've known her all my life - she's practically family. So I started to cry. He was being so nice to me, handing me a napkin, speaking to me softly, rubbing my back and telling me to let it all out. So I did. And then right when I was able to catch my breath and calm down he said he wanted to tell me in person. I told him that was appreciated and I was so sorry for his family. He said "I know. Thanks. Thats another reason I wanted us to chat like adults. I know that woman you live with doesn't like me much." And I laughed without meaning to. Not like him? She would piss on his grave and stomp the dirt down to the tune of "hit the road jack" should the chance arrive. And if she weren't fit for prison, she'd give herself that chance with her own bare hands. Mr. Miles is still being nice and says that he knows I am the reasonable one. And that we had our fun but this tantrum of ours needs to end. Sugah will be coming home to live out her time and he doesn't want her to see our "mess" of a yard. He said it would upset her and he knows I don't want to ever upset her. I will be honest, I was so in my feelings over the news that he almost sounded reasonable to me. Then he offered to have Paul come over snd "help me" make my home presentable again and my brain kicked back in. I stared at this man, who just used the worst possible news a child could share about a parent as a tactic, and the spirit of Dinah came upon me. I very coldly told him to leave, as I have decorating to do. I think he thought I meant to tear everything down, because he left without a fuss. I told Dinah the moment she got home. At this point, her patience was up. She stormed out of the house and for a moment I was like "oh God honey don't do it, I don't even know where the jail is." And she came back in with bags. She had been shopping apparently and THIS PART IS ENTIRELY YALLS FAULT. She found SO MANY items. INCLUDING colorful windchimes. She just held up a few things and asked me to help her unload the rest and I was like "REST!?" So we spent the whole night decorating the front porch. I will fucking marry this crazy ass woman lol This past Wednesday, Sugah got home. I rushed out to hug her and she hugged me back. It was one of those "mama" hugs that make you want to laugh and cry and let everything out. She held my hand tight and looked at our porch. Then she laughed and said "Damn girl, you really leaned in huh?" Then said something was missing. I asked her what and she said my flag. The big one I had in the front. I told her what Miles did to it and a storm went over her whole face. She got quiet and asked me to explain I said she should rest and it's a long story. She turned to tell her daughter (who drove her) to make some lemonade and that she was going to sit with me on my porch a while. So I told her everything basically in all my posts including Miles' recent visit. She kept her expression steely the whole time. She asked a lot of questions. Then asked me if she ever told me about her first love. I thought she meant Mr. Richard, Miles' late father, and she laughed. She told me a story about how when she was young, before Richard ever asked her out, there was a woman her age who always dressed in suits, which for the time was not considered okay or normal. People hated her but Sugah fell for her almost instantly. She said Dinah reminds her of her and that I seem really happy now that Dinah has moved in. Then she looked at me so serious and said "So are you?" And I went inside to show her the ring I had long bought and that I am going to marry that woman if she'll have me. She smiled and patted my cheek, kissed my hand and went home. Yesterday my Daddy called and said "Heya what's this about a wedding?" And I was like what? And he said that he's not supposed to be telling me this so don't tell Mom but she and Sugah had a long phone call and Sugah wanted to pay for my wedding. Not some of it. The whole damn thing. This is already long sorry, I swear I am skipping a lot here but I was obviously floored. There's paperwork involved and mom is working with Sugah on it and Daddy said "Well, I guess you gotta ask that woman to marry you." And I said I intended to. So I am writing this antsy as fuck, ring in pocket, dressed up, waiting for Dinah to come home from the salon so we can have date night. Mr. Miles is about to have a complete caniption. Wish me luck. Edit/update: Hey guys- so I'm sad to say she said no. It was a lot to- I'm fucking with you. She said yes! Y'all I am going to marry the most amazing, smart, strong, hilarious, crazy, loving, beautiful woman in this GODDAMN world and I cannot fucking stand to keep it to myself!!! We had such an incredible time. She came home and was already dressed, so we went out. It was my turn to plan date night, so I was at an advantage. I took her to a place that was like the restaurant pur first date was in (sadly, the original is no more) and we shared stories about that date (I was nervous and word vomited like an overfed baby - she found me charming), we then retraced a walk we had when I first told her I loved her. She had claimed up at it and skirted saying it back, but now she tells me every fucking day multiple times a day even when she's pissed at me. We then ended at our city aquarium - hey quick trivia, I was once a "professional mermiad" there. You read that right. Chloe eat your heart out) - where she "stalked me" just to ask if we are real (not just a fun summer fling) and to go steady. I took her to our favorite bar for karaoke, got down on my knee, and she stared at me and just went "shut the FUCK up are you proposing to me?" And before I even knew it, she pulled out a ring and we just laughed and kissed. We wanted to update you the good news. I'm up to sing "At Last" for karaoke so gotta be on my toes to serenade my fiance. Fuck me you guys I just said fiance. I have a fucking fiance. Me! With her! I'm so fucking dumb happy right now. Sorry. Rambling. Love you all so much. I love everything right now.   EDITOR'S NOTE: It has been brought to my attention regarding this BoRU not formatting correctly with the missing letters at each paragraph. I have cleared the possible issue with the moderators of the sub. Many of you might be dealing with glitches. I posted this from desktop and wasn't missing anything. My apologies to all. Thank you.   Latest Update here: BoRU #2   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

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So I’m honestly just not sure at this point. I once lent some white basketball shorts to my dad when he wasn’t doing so great financially, and was living with me at my apartment. When I finally got them back after literal weeks (he’s the opposite of a punctual person) there were… um… well 💩 stains on the back area of them. Thoroughly grossed out, trying to be understanding, I proceeded to wash them 4 times, ended up under my bed folded up, stains still there, just to be washed again every now and then because I’m kinda afraid to wear them. At first, I thought this is something that was an odd ‘my dad thing’, until I got my hands on my boyfriend’s white, Naruto boxer briefs. They’re absolutely adorable but I felt pretty awkward when putting them in the wash, only to notice there were skid marks in his underwear too. I also remember seeing them in various places like visiting my brother and accidentally noticing his underwear thrown over the side of the hamper, as well as some bedrooms of guy friends’ of my boyfriend’s, when I’d be invited to go hang with them. This honestly, and completely undisrespectfully, troubles me. Idk about EVERYONE, but every woman I know wipes that bum over and over again until the paper is as bright as, well, paper, even if it takes 25 sheets… and my mom agrees. None of us have had that problem in our underwear since we were 6 at the very latest. So, my question is, are you guys just spending your entire lives wiping your bootyhole incorrectly and no one ever correcting you? Did your mothers not teach you how to do it right, or are y’all just slowly forgetting over the years?…because I honestly can’t think of any logical reason that I know this many people with skid marks in nearly every pair of underwear, and they’re all men. It seems silly, but it’s a legitimate question I just can’t get out of my head 😂😂😂 EDIT: Sooooo um y’all I’m beyond absolutely beyond amazed at the FEW THOUSAND people I’ve got talking about bootyholes in the comments rn. I’ve never gotten this much feedback on any post anywhere, not just Reddit. Thank you verrr much for the feedback and help, each and every one of you have been helpful and kind. When I first posted this, I was doing my best to respond to every single new comment but it seems that may be impossible at this point as there’s a new comment quite literally every two seconds. Thank you for everyone’s suggestions and thoughts though ❤️ I needs to go have quite the interesting yet serious conversation with my boyfriend now😂😂😂 submitted by /u/Sakura_Petals_GL to r/TooAfraidToAsk [link] [comments]

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