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I bought one of these at a goodwill for $40 looking new in box. It has been pretty great so far. It's not tall enough for a full gallon of milk vertically, but it holds a decent amount. It's perfect for use as a trip cooler keeping snacks and drinks chilled. Maybe good enough for weekend camping if you're replenishing it as items are used up or if you're going alone.

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Background: I (27/F) have an 8 year old who started becoming a picky eater after having an anaphylactic reaction to pineapple (he’s previous favorite food). I genuinely think he’s just scared of going through that again, rightfully so! (He is aware of his allergies and always asks an adult to read a label if he is unsure and always has his epi with him) He started summer camp this past week and I have to pack him a lunch that not only is safe for his allergies but also for other kids (no tree nuts or peanuts) so his main safe lunch food pb&j is out. I’ve mostly just been doing a smorgasbord of snacks he likes, because he does not like lunch meat and there is no microwave. Recently my dad said that I was depriving my son of nutrition by not forcing him to eat things and it’s got me all worked up. I had a horrible relationship with food for my teen and early adult years, and I try my best to not force him to eat anything but instead encourage him to try things. His doctor has no worries about him height/weight wise or nutritionally, but I guess I’m just stuck on it. So am I overreacting? Or is this a decent lunch? Also willing to accept ideas for things I could include to up his protein! I know a lot of these foods don’t much Pictured: a lunch box with its contents: two homemade corn muffins, cherries/grapes/strawberries in a bowl, banana, apple, strawberry apple sauce, cherry jello, cucumbers/baby carrots, aldi brand panda cookies & nacho cheese Doritos Not pictured: string cheese stick, light blue Gatorade, water bottle and homemade brownie Edit 1: I pack a big lunch because my son loves to share and give away food. He eats a good breakfast (right now he will only eat frosted mini wheats or the Kodiak protein waffles). His camp counselors say he eats well and never gives them issue about food unless it’s to have them read a label. Dinner/supper is our biggest meal of the day and he always has access to fruits and veggies Edit 2: Many people have suggested jerkey and hard boiled eggs for protein, I’ll definitely be grabbing some. He also eats a good portion of meat every night at dinner usually chicken, steak or shrimp. Edit 3: I have ordered him a thermos and bento boxes with a thermos insert, thank you all for the suggestion! submitted by /u/Teatime-Cowboy-1776 to r/AIO [link] [comments]

I rue the day I gave in and gave my kids Roblox about 10 months ago when they BEGGED me because other kids in school play it. If I had a Time Machine, and had ONE chance to change something) that is the only thing I would go back and change My 8 and 9 year olds (now 9 and 10) have become little monsters I don’t recognize anymore. They won’t play with toys or barely talk to me except to demand snacks. Getting them off is a NIGHTMARE. Im talking holes in walls, tipped over furniture, pushing and shoving and screaming. I have tried limiting it, chauffeuring them around to camps and activities to get them away from it for as long as I can, but when they return home that’s all they want. I even have parental controls on and everything, still just as addictive. They don’t have any emotions on it. Just zombies. I am gathering all the strength I can to just delete it. I’m going to have to like soundproof my house and remove stuff they can destroy. Please wish me luck. I have to do it. Of course it sucks too my husband doesn’t mind cause it ‘keeps them quiet’ 😡 DO NOT ever give in!!!! *update- today was my first day of no Roblox. It may have been one of the hardest days in a LONG time but it was worth it!!!!!! submitted by /u/ComfortableBoard8359 to r/Mommit [link] [comments]

I am not The OOP, OOP is u/trowaway243121 My brother tried to pull a fast one on his wife and she did an uno reverse and I am laughing watching him scramble. Originally posted to r/TrueOffMyChest Thanks to u/soayherder for suggesting this BoRU BoRU 1 BoRU 2 TRIGGER WARNING: Neglect, weaponized incompetence Original Post Apr 9, 2026 My brother fake name Dick and his wife Ana have been having some serious marital problems which is 99% Dick's fault. Ana is a stay at home mom, goes to college online and has a side business with an MLM but whatever she has made some new friends and seems to be happier. Before they had kids Dick and Ana had a solid marriage. Ana told me after the kids came their marriage slowly went downhill and now its on life support. Ana does everything for the kids and Dick wants a medal for watching the kids for 30 minutes while Ana cooks dinner. He is more than capable of taking care of them but chooses to let Ana do everything if he can get away with it. The MLM Ana is involved with is having a big convention this week. We are locals but Ana decided to do a staycation and is staying at a hotel near the convention with her friends. This has been planned for months. Ana told Dick to take time off work and made it very clear she needed the break and this would be a really good opportunity to network. Over Christmas she asked him if he got approved for the time off and he said ya ya ya. I told her he is going to mess this up for you and she told me he better not. She called me in tears and Dick texted her that an emergency came up at work and he would not be able to take off. He had to put in long day on Tuesday and would be flying out on Wednesday. He was so sorry and would make it up to her. I thought she was going to have a breakdown she could barely talk. I told her to calm down and finish packing and pick her kids up from school. I said I would watch them until Dick got home. She did not want me in the middle. I told her fuck Dick and we've never been close and I did not give a damn how he reacted. I watched the kids until Dick strolled in at 10 pm and told him he was a selfish piece of shit on my way out the door. He blasted my phone and I put him on DND. I talked with Ana yesterday and he blasted her phone as well. She ended up telling him they could either get marriage counseling or see divorce lawyers his choice but he better stop calling her unless it was an emergency with the kids or she was calling to talk to them. He cooled his jets after being told that. He stopped by my house and I spoke to him through the ring camera and he asked ME what he was supposed to do with the kids. I asked him if he even bothered to request the time off from work and he would not answer me and said he had an important business trip. He said Ana won't give the contact info for their babysitters and asked me if I could watch the kids. I told him to get the fuck off my property with his bullshit. If he were any kind of parent he would already have the contact info for the babysitter. Ana prepped meals for the kids, organized all their clothes for the week and left a detailed itinerary of their schedule. What else does he need? Our parents and his in-laws won't return his calls. He is flying solo this week and had to cancel his alleged business trip. Ana says she will get to the bottom of that when she gets back home. I hope she has the best time with her friends. I hope Dick does not get a moment of peace. No one is buying his lies or coming to his rescue and I laugh when I think about it. Good luck bro. RELEVANT COMMENTS Original_Cranberry68 How old are the kids? In their fight the kids will be impacted - that dick will not feed them.. he needs to learn this but not with children getting messed up in between .. OOP The kids are 4 & 6. They will be fed and he is very capable of taking care of them and he will take good care of them. Ana is in close contact with them. The issue is he tried to sabotage her staycation because he is selfish. collectif-clothing I think he wasn't just trying to sabotage, it sounds like he had some side action planned as well. OOP I believe he is very capable of that. That is whole other can of worms Ana has chosen not to currently pursue. If he was planning some side action it won't be happening this week. ~ Intersection_Novel1997 I’d advise Ana to consult a divorce lawyer regardless. OOP I see this stunt being the final straw. ~ bandashee at least Ana knows she's got support and OP is an absolute BOSS for being an awesome bestie. I'd be getting their favorite snacks/candies every week for several months as a thank you for ass covering. Holy crap Dick is an incompetent....dick. I'm sorry, did he forget he's the DAD to these kids not just the sperm donor? OOP He thinks because he is the bread winner that means his work is done. Our dad is nothing like that. I told Ana to keep me posted and I will keep you guys posted. ~ LadyMacGuffin She'll get better behavior from him as an ex-husband. With the courts mandating his parental effort under pain of contempt. There's no way he requested that time off. And I would LOVE to see what a judge would do with that sort of bs during proceedings. OOP I don't believe for a second he requested time off. As crazy as it sounds he would probably be a more involved father if they got a divorce. Update Apr 13, 2026 (4 days later) I got a lot of messages for updates so I am going to leave it in the comments. I'm going to start with the good news first. Ana is going to divorce Dick. Thanks to a family member she was able to get an appointment with a lawyer this week. She comes very highly recommended. When Ana came home on Sunday night Dick was waiting with a suitcase and said it was his turn to take a vacation and he left!!! No arguing he just left. In his warped mind his silence is meant to punish Ana but he is just making her life easier. While he is gone she is going to be making copies of all the financial documents she can find. She hopes he really teaches her a lesson and stays gone. The house was a wreck. She moved all of Dick's crap from the master bedroom into his office. All his shit is laying on the floor. You can't even walk in there. There is not even room for a twin air mattress. The kids enjoyed their time with Dick. They were asking for him today and want to spend time with him. Ana called him and he did answer and spoke with the kids and told them he was on a business trip. She is going to file for joint custody. If he does not want 50% custody then he will have to turn it down on the record. She also found out last Tuesday when he was supposed to be watching the kids he was tagged in a picture at a bar playing pool. So much for working. He did not even untag himself which shows he really does not give a fuck. He doesn't love Ana or like her but he must hate her to act like that. I don't get it. He absolutely disgusts me. That is all I have to update. Update 2 Apr 24, 2026 (11 days after 1st update) I finally caught up with Ana. She decided not to go with the lawyer she consulted with originally. She found a new lawyer that was a better fit. He specializes in high conflict/asset divorces and has years of experience dealing with men that have Dick's need for control. There is a lot of behind the scenes information gathering that needs to be done before Dick is served. The lawyer said he needs 3-4 weeks. When it's real life the process is much longer. Ana was warned if they go into litigation the divorce can drag on for 1-2 years if she is lucky so to prepare herself. The lawyer emphasized to Ana not to tell him their marriage is over until the papers are filed with the court and a process server has been lined up. She is going to tell him she filed for divorce and have him served within minutes. I don't remember the legal term but there is an automatic order in place with the filing neither party will be able to make unilateral decisions regarding their marital assets which basically prevents Dick from pulling any shady shit. If he does then that is what her lawyer is there for. Her demeanor is different from when I last saw her. She is confident and had this I don't give a fuck attitude. Whatever love she used to have for Dick is well and truly dead. I see it. When she talked about him it was with the same contempt he has for her. She was talking about him like I do. After they get their temporary orders (she has no hope of them coming to a temp agreement) she said the only communication she will have with him is through lawyers and a parenting app. After strategizing with her lawyer and coming up with a plan she feels like she has her life back and some direction. I felt like I was talking to a stranger but I love this new confidence and determination she has. Dick was gone all week to god knows where. Ana did not contact him one time unless the kids wanted to speak with him. It was radio silence on her end. In the past she always kept in close touch and would pick his sorry ass up from the airport. Due to her distance Dick knew he was in trouble. There was no shock on his end when his office was trashed and Ana told him he would be sleeping there moving forward. He had the audacity to ask how long she was going to be angry. He is treating this like a temper tantrum she is throwing. She used his asinine question as a chance to inform him how things would be moving forward. Keeping her lawyers advice in mind she told him that its going to take her a long time to get past what he did and he needs to give her lots of space. I can picture that sob now thinking he is off the hook and better behave himself until they go back to normal. Ana said she wanted to throw up in her mouth saying that but she needed to lull him into a false sense of security. She also brought up his lack of involvement with the kids and told him moving forward he would be the primary caregiver every other weekend and he needed to pay attention to them in the evening without being prompted. I don't think he can see what is in front of him due to his arrogance. If my husband kicked me out of the bedroom and told me I was taking care of our kids by myself every other weekend I would know a divorce was coming. For the first time ever Dick has taken the kids to school every day this week without being asked so he is using his kids to try and get back in Ana's good graces. He has no idea what is coming his way. I wanted to address the MLM Ana is involved with. I really regret saying she was involved with one because it detracted from the real issues in her marriage and took on a life of its own. I first want to say Ana spends her fun money on the mlm. Dick would have lost his mind if she used "his" money. Her involvement in my personal opinion is based on the friendships she has made. I also think depression left her vulnerable to being entangled with them. I'm not going to tell her she is idiot for joining one. I tried to warn her but she told me she knew what she was doing. I'm hoping she no longer feels the need for those friendships after she is free of Dick if they are conditional like I suspect. Ana is laying low and Dick is behaving so I don't think there will be an update until he gets served. RELEVANT COMMENTS OOP I have gotten a lot of messages requesting an update. Dick has not been served yet. As I mentioned before it's going to take a while and the lawyer needs time. Dick is still as clueless as ever and still living in his office. Ana has stopped doing anything for Dick. When I say she does nothing for him I mean nothing. No hosting, no cooking, no laundry nothing. He is very upset and asked her what the point of her staying home is and said she needed to get a job. She laughed in his face and told him that wasn't happening and there was nothing he could do about it. Since he is use to Ana planning EVERYTHING he did nothing for our mom on Mothers Day. Ana spent it with her own family and Dick was not invited. He texted me on Mothers Day and asked what "we" were doing for mom. I told him "we" were doing nothing and I made my own plans with mom and he was not included. I told him to go to Costco and buy mom some fucking flowers and drop them off. I cannot stand him. Selfish bastard. NEW UPDATE Update My brother tried to pull a fast one June 24, 2026 (2 momths after 2nd update) I could not longer post on my original thread so I will update here. A lot has happened the past couple of weeks. Dick was served with papers and he actually took it well and did not act like he was blindsided. He claims he was planning to divorce Ana and had just secured a lawyer. Dick told Ana she has made his life a living hell and he would be happier living on the street. The part that is killing him is that she is treating him with indifference and he can no longer control her. She called him out for all his lies, deflection, and cheating when he said he would rather be homeless than spend one more day with her. Well he finally admitted to cheating with no remorse and even offered to answer any questions out of pure spite. She only had two questions and that was when he started cheating and how often did he fake business trips. He has been cheating “on and off” for 4 years so around the time their youngest was born. He faked business trips every chance he got. She told him that was all she wanted to know and he seemed disappointed she had no more questions. For the life of me I cannot figure out where his anger is rooted. This man did whatever the fuck he wanted when he wanted and basically lived two lives. Dick decided on his own to move out. Ana’s lawyer told her not to move out before a temporary custody agreement was in place. You have to assume Dicks lawyer gave the same advice but he is ignoring it?? Dick decided to be a petty bitch and took Ana’s espresso machine and blender with him. That’s all the household items he chose to take. He made a dramatic exit by leaving his wedding ring, house keys and clicker on the counter and telling her he will never step foot in their house again. She told him that was a promise he better keep and through his wedding ring in the trash right in front of him. Getting him out of that house was an act of divine intervention. She is beyond thrilled to have him gone. This past Father’s Day weekend he had the kids in the new place. He was supposed to return them Sunday evening and unilaterally decided he was keeping them longer. Ana told him to keep them until Friday evening and they could start 50/50 right away. With this extra free time she went on a camping trip and Dick had to scramble. He’s like a toddler trying to test his limits with his mother and then facing consequences. Dicks lawyer still needs to file his response. He asked Ana if she planned to go back to work. She asked him if he were in her position would he go back to work if he did not have to. Dick of course said he would go back to work. Lol. I hope Dick is mentally preparing himself to support two households. I think his lawyer educated him because he is now asking Ana what she plans to do versus telling her what she is going to do. Right now they are being civil. Hopefully their lawyers can negotiate a settlement. It will be easier since they are living apart. He is big mad at me and I am a traitor. Upset with our parents about their lack of support but has no problem asking them to babysit last minute. At least he has his toxic bros to validate his life decisions. If anything major happens I will update but everything is with the lawyers now. RELEVANT COMMENTS eightmarshmallows Does Ana actually want 50/50? Or is she just saying that to prove a point and to force him to admit he’s a shitty dad? OOP She wants to share 50/50 and filed for joint custody in the divorce papers. THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP's OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7 submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

This is a repost sub. I’m not the Original OP (OOP) OOP: u/trowaway243121 Published on: r/TrueOffMyChest Thanks to u/IcedWarlock for the rec! & u/helper_robot for letting me know about the new update Previous BORU: BORU-1 Story is: ONGOING Story timeline Main Post: April 09, 2026 Update 1 - comments: April 13, 2026 Update 2 - comments: April 25, 2026 --> NEW UPDATE Update 3 - comments: May 11, 2026 --> NEW UPDATE Update 4: June 24, 2026 --> NEW UPDATE Main Post April 09, 2026 My brother tried to pull a fast one on his wife and she did an uno reverse and I am laughing watching him scramble. My brother fake name Dick and his wife Ana have been having some serious marital problems which is 99% Dick's fault. Ana is a stay at home mom, goes to college online and has a side business with an MLM but whatever she has made some new friends and seems to be happier. Before they had kids Dick and Ana had a solid marriage. Ana told me after the kids came their marriage slowly went downhill and now its on life support. Ana does everything for the kids and Dick wants a medal for watching the kids for 30 minutes while Ana cooks dinner. He is more than capable of taking care of them but chooses to let Ana do everything if he can get away with it. The MLM Ana is involved with is having a big convention this week. We are locals but Ana decided to do a staycation and is staying at a hotel near the convention with her friends. This has been planned for months. Ana told Dick to take time off work and made it very clear she needed the break and this would be a really good opportunity to network. Over Christmas she asked him if he got approved for the time off and he said ya ya ya. I told her he is going to mess this up for you and she told me he better not. She called me in tears and Dick texted her that an emergency came up at work and he would not be able to take off. He had to put in long day on Tuesday and would be flying out on Wednesday. He was so sorry and would make it up to her. I thought she was going to have a breakdown she could barely talk. I told her to calm down and finish packing and pick her kids up from school. I said I would watch them until Dick got home. She did not want me in the middle. I told her fuck Dick and we've never been close and I did not give a damn how he reacted. I watched the kids until Dick strolled in at 10 pm and told him he was a selfish piece of shit on my way out the door. He blasted my phone and I put him on DND. I talked with Ana yesterday and he blasted her phone as well. She ended up telling him they could either get marriage counseling or see divorce lawyers his choice but he better stop calling her unless it was an emergency with the kids or she was calling to talk to them. He cooled his jets after being told that. He stopped by my house and I spoke to him through the ring camera and he asked ME what he was supposed to do with the kids. I asked him if he even bothered to request the time off from work and he would not answer me and said he had an important business trip. He said Ana won't give the contact info for their babysitters and asked me if I could watch the kids. I told him to get the fuck off my property with his bullshit. If he were any kind of parent he would already have the contact info for the babysitter. Ana prepped meals for the kids, organized all their clothes for the week and left a detailed itinerary of their schedule. What else does he need? Our parents and his in-laws won't return his calls. He is flying solo this week and had to cancel his alleged business trip. Ana says she will get to the bottom of that when she gets back home. I hope she has the best time with her friends. I hope Dick does not get a moment of peace. No one is buying his lies or coming to his rescue and I laugh when I think about it. Good luck bro.   COMMENTS jimmyrose47 Are you Dicks brother or sister? OOP I'm his sister. Original_Cranberry68 How old are the kids? In their fight the kids will be impacted - that dick will not feed them.. he needs to learn this but not with children getting messed up in between .. OOP The kids are 4 & 6. They will be fed and he is very capable of taking care of them and he will take good care of them. Ana is in close contact with them. The issue is he tried to sabotage her staycation because he is selfish. collectif-clothing I think he wasn't just trying to sabotage, it sounds like he had some side action planned as well. OOP I believe he is very capable of that. That is whole other can of worms Ana has chosen not to currently pursue. If he was planning some side action it won't be happening this week. wigglepie If it's a convention for networking then he's actively sabotaging her work. Does he even view her business with the MLM as work or does he see it as a "hobby"? Before the children, did Ana have a job/career or something that allowed her financial freedom? OOP He sees it as strictly as a hobby and is not supportive at all and openly tells her he is embarrassed she is involved with an MLM. None of us take her MLM seriously but we try to be supportive within reason. She gave up her job to be a SAHM. Interesting_Novel997 I’d advise Ana to consult a divorce lawyer regardless. OOP I see this stunt being the final straw. Fionaelaine4 Do you think he could be cheating? OOP Ana has suspected him of cheating in the past but could not find proof so she dropped it. I would not put anything past him. bandashee SAAAAME. at least Ana knows she's got support and OP is an absolute BOSS for being an awesome bestie. I'd be getting their favorite snacks/candies every week for several months as a thank you for ass covering. Holy crap Dick is an incompetent....dick. I'm sorry, did he forget he's the DAD to these kids not just the sperm donor? OOP He thinks because he is the bread winner that means his work is done. Our dad is nothing like that. I told Ana to keep me posted and I will keep you guys posted. VixenTraffic I hope Ana saved some money before she left. Dick is really going to screw her over for this. OOP There have been so many divorce comments that I googled the divorce laws for our state. They have no prenup, live in a community property state, and he earns a very high income. I think he better start being more helpful at home. Ughallthetime This is the situation where Ana would be better off single. What value does he add to this relationship? None. Men think we will stay in a marriage when we do not have to. I commend you for your handling of the situation with your brother. OOP Ana is working on finishing her degree. She has a lot of support. If he thinks he can trap her he is suffering from delusions. LadyMacGuffin She'll get better behavior from him as an ex-husband. With the courts mandating his parental effort under pain of contempt. There's no way he requested that time off. And I would LOVE to see what a judge would do with that low-rent behavior. OOP I don't believe for a second he requested time off. As crazy as it sounds he would probably be a more involved father if they got a divorce. Update 1 - after 4 days April 13, 2026 Comments: My brother tried to pull a fast one on his wife and she did an uno reverse and I am laughing watching him scramble. I got a lot of messages for updates so I am going to leave it in the comments. I'm going to start with the good news first. Ana is going to divorce Dick. Thanks to a family member she was able to get an appointment with a lawyer this week. She comes very highly recommended. When Ana came home on Sunday night Dick was waiting with a suitcase and said it was his turn to take a vacation and he left!!! No arguing he just left. In his warped mind his silence is meant to punish Ana but he is just making her life easier. While he is gone she is going to be making copies of all the financial documents she can find. She hopes he really teaches her a lesson and stays gone. The house was a wreck. She moved all of Dick's crap from the master bedroom into his office. All his shit is laying on the floor. You can't even walk in there. There is not even room for a twin air mattress. The kids enjoyed their time with Dick. They were asking for him today and want to spend time with him. Ana called him and he did answer and spoke with the kids and told them he was on a business trip. She is going to file for joint custody. If he does not want 50% custody then he will have to turn it down on the record. She also found out last Tuesday when he was supposed to be watching the kids he was tagged in a picture at a bar playing pool. So much for working. He did not even untag himself which shows he really does not give a fuck. He doesn't love Ana or like her but he must hate her to act like that. I don't get it. He absolutely disgusts me. That is all I have to update. NEW UPDATE Update 2 - after 16 days (after 12 days from last post) April 25, 2026 Comments: My brother tried to pull a fast one on his wife and she did an uno reverse and I am laughing watching him scramble.**: April 25, 2026) I finally caught up with Ana. She decided not to go with the lawyer she consulted with originally. She found a new lawyer that was a better fit. He specializes in high conflict/asset divorces and has years of experience dealing with men that have Dick's need for control. There is a lot of behind the scenes information gathering that needs to be done before Dick is served. The lawyer said he needs 3-4 weeks. When it's real life the process is much longer. Ana was warned if they go into litigation the divorce can drag on for 1-2 years if she is lucky so to prepare herself. The lawyer emphasized to Ana not to tell him their marriage is over until the papers are filed with the court and a process server has been lined up. She is going to tell him she filed for divorce and have him served within minutes. I don't remember the legal term but there is an automatic order in place with the filing neither party will be able to make unilateral decisions regarding their marital assets which basically prevents Dick from pulling any shady shit. If he does then that is what her lawyer is there for. Her demeanor is different from when I last saw her. She is confident and had this I don't give a fuck attitude. Whatever love she used to have for Dick is well and truly dead. I see it. When she talked about him it was with the same contempt he has for her. She was talking about him like I do. After they get their temporary orders (she has no hope of them coming to a temp agreement) she said the only communication she will have with him is through lawyers and a parenting app. After strategizing with her lawyer and coming up with a plan she feels like she has her life back and some direction. I felt like I was talking to a stranger but I love this new confidence and determination she has. Dick was gone all week to god knows where. Ana did not contact him one time unless the kids wanted to speak with him. It was radio silence on her end. In the past she always kept in close touch and would pick his sorry ass up from the airport. Due to her distance Dick knew he was in trouble. There was no shock on his end when his office was trashed and Ana told him he would be sleeping there moving forward. He had the audacity to ask how long she was going to be angry. He is treating this like a temper tantrum she is throwing. She used his asinine question as a chance to inform him how things would be moving forward. Keeping her lawyers advice in mind she told him that its going to take her a long time to get past what he did and he needs to give her lots of space. I can picture that sob now thinking he is off the hook and better behave himself until they go back to normal. Ana said she wanted to throw up in her mouth saying that but she needed to lull him into a false sense of security. She also brought up his lack of involvement with the kids and told him moving forward he would be the primary caregiver every other weekend and he needed to pay attention to them in the evening without being prompted. I don't think he can see what is in front of him due to his arrogance. If my husband kicked me out of the bedroom and told me I was taking care of our kids by myself every other weekend I would know a divorce was coming. For the first time ever Dick has taken the kids to school every day this week without being asked so he is using his kids to try and get back in Ana's good graces. He has no idea what is coming his way. I wanted to address the MLM Ana is involved with. I really regret saying she was involved with one because it detracted from the real issues in her marriage and took on a life of its own. I first want to say Ana spends her fun money on the mlm. Dick would have lost his mind if she used "his" money. Her involvement in my personal opinion is based on the friendships she has made. I also think depression left her vulnerable to being entangled with them. I'm not going to tell her she is idiot for joining one. I tried to warn her but she told me she knew what she was doing. I'm hoping she no longer feels the need for those friendships after she is free of Dick if they are conditional like I suspect. Ana is laying low and Dick is behaving so I don't think there will be an update until he gets served. NEW UPDATE Update 3 - after 1 month, 2 days (after 16 days from last post) May 11, 2026 Comments: My brother tried to pull a fast one on his wife and she did an uno reverse and I am laughing watching him scramble. I have gotten a lot of messages requesting an update. Dick has not been served yet. As I mentioned before it's going to take a while and the lawyer needs time. Dick is still as clueless as ever and still living in his office. Ana has stopped doing anything for Dick. When I say she does nothing for him I mean nothing. No hosting, no cooking, no laundry nothing. He is very upset and asked her what the point of her staying home is and said she needed to get a job. She laughed in his face and told him that wasn't happening and there was nothing he could do about it. Since he is use to Ana planning EVERYTHING he did nothing for our mom on Mothers Day. Ana spent it with her own family and Dick was not invited. He texted me on Mothers Day and asked what "we" were doing for mom. I told him "we" were doing nothing and I made my own plans with mom and he was not included. I told him to go to Costco and buy mom some fucking flowers and drop them off. I cannot stand him. Selfish bastard. NEW UPDATE Update 4 - after 2 months, 15 days (after 1 month, 13 days from last post) June 24, 2026 Comments: My brother tried to pull a fast one on his wife and she did an uno reverse and I am laughing watching him scramble. I could not longer post on my original thread so I will update here. A lot has happened the past couple of weeks. Dick was served with papers and he actually took it well and did not act like he was blindsided. He claims he was planning to divorce Ana and had just secured a lawyer. Dick told Ana she has made his life a living hell and he would be happier living on the street. The part that is killing him is that she is treating him with indifference and he can no longer control her. She called him out for all his lies, deflection, and cheating when he said he would rather be homeless than spend one more day with her. Well he finally admitted to cheating with no remorse and even offered to answer any questions out of pure spite. She only had two questions and that was when he started cheating and how often did he fake business trips. He has been cheating “on and off” for 4 years so around the time their youngest was born. He faked business trips every chance he got. She told him that was all she wanted to know and he seemed disappointed she had no more questions. For the life of me I cannot figure out where his anger is rooted. This man did whatever the fuck he wanted when he wanted and basically lived two lives. Dick decided on his own to move out. Ana’s lawyer told her not to move out before a temporary custody agreement was in place. You have to assume Dicks lawyer gave the same advice but he is ignoring it?? Dick decided to be a petty bitch and took Ana’s espresso machine and blender with him. That’s all the household items he chose to take. He made a dramatic exit by leaving his wedding ring, house keys and clicker on the counter and telling her he will never step foot in their house again. She told him that was a promise he better keep and through his wedding ring in the trash right in front of him. Getting him out of that house was an act of divine intervention. She is beyond thrilled to have him gone. This past Father’s Day weekend he had the kids in the new place. He was supposed to return them Sunday evening and unilaterally decided he was keeping them longer. Ana told him to keep them until Friday evening and they could start 50/50 right away. With this extra free time she went on a camping trip and Dick had to scramble. He’s like a toddler trying to test his limits with his mother and then facing consequences. Dicks lawyer still needs to file his response. He asked Ana if she planned to go back to work. She asked him if he were in her position would he go back to work if he did not have to. Dick of course said he would go back to work. Lol. I hope Dick is mentally preparing himself to support two households. I think his lawyer educated him because he is now asking Ana what she plans to do versus telling her what she is going to do. Right now they are being civil. Hopefully their lawyers can negotiate a settlement. It will be easier since they are living apart. He is big mad at me and I am a traitor. Upset with our parents about their lack of support but has no problem asking them to babysit last minute. At least he has his toxic bros to validate his life decisions. If anything major happens I will update but everything is with the lawyers now.   COMMENTS eightmarshmallows Does Ana actually want 50/50? Or is she just saying that to prove a point and to force him to admit he’s a shitty dad? OOP She wants to share 50/50 and filed for joint custody in the divorce papers.   This is a repost sub. I’m not the Original OP (OOP) Please remember to follow the subreddit rules, especially the ones about brigading. Let’s aim for a respectful and friendly discussion for everyone involved. submitted by /u/BigONerd to r/BORUpdates [link] [comments]

My husband and I (both mid 30’s) were invited to his friend’s house with our three month old son to swim. It was Father’s Day and his friend’s wife had gone camping with her son from a previous marriage so he was home with their four year old daughter and wanted some company. I’ve only met this friend twice in passing and never met his family but he’s been friends with my husband since childhood so I agreed to go. We had a nice time while we were there, everyone went in the pool and had some snacks. At one point I was breastfeeding my son in the shade alone and the little girl came over to ask what I was doing. I told her. She asked why my son couldn’t have popcorn or Rice Krispie squares. I told her. I explained that lots of other animals do the same thing, and said her dog probably drank milk from its mom until it was old enough to eat kibble. Then we chatted about Paw Patrol and Gabbys Dollhouse until we left. I didn’t think anything of it until last night, when I got a friend request from her mom. I accepted and ten minutes later she had sent me three voice notes rambling about my inappropriate behaviour at her house. To summarize she is upset that: I “exposed” myself around her husband discussed inappropriate topics with her daughter and introduced the word nipple into her vocabulary. shamed her as a mother for bottle feeding her children her teenage son saw me breastfeeding on their security camera video feed now her daughter is trying to breastfeed their 70lb golden retriever (I find this adorable but she is pissed) I don’t think I did anything wrong, neither does my husband but he suggests just responding with an apology to keep the peace. Part of me wants to just do it and put this to bed, but the other part of me doesn’t want to validate her interpretation of what happened because it’s not accurate. So AITAH for telling a four year old what a nipple is? submitted by /u/Technical-Duck-5311 to r/AITAH [link] [comments]

I (54f) was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes about 18 months ago. My GP sent me to a diabetes educator to learn what I can/can't eat in order to manage it safely. The appointment started off okay, until she mentioned the Healthy Food Pyramid. I told her I was familiar with it as I'd been a teacher and had taught it in class several times. Her response was "well now I'm the teacher and you just need to listen". I was kind of taken aback but thought maybe I'd misheard her, or she may have been having a bad day. I decided to continue and give her benefit of the doubt. The appointment continued and she asked me about my eating habits. Now I have to be honest. I'm about 100kg. I am overweight and I know that. However, I do not overeat. I usually have one meal a day, and I have a couple of snacks. Nothing big. But I drink. And that fills me. I drink juice or milk drinks. I was honest with the educator and started to explain my eating habits. I said "I don't eat a regular 3 meals a day..." and I was about to tell her what I do eat when she interrupted me and said "let me stop you there, you can't tell me that you don't eat because if that was the case you would look like you had come out of a concentration camp, and you obviously don't". I was stunned. I felt a range of emotions at once including anger, disbelief, judgement. I couldn't believe what I had just heard. I told her that I was not able to continue and got up and walked out. I received a phone call a couple of days later to make a follow-up appointment and I told the receptionist I wouldn't be returning. AIO or was that a totally inappropriate comment Edit: I do have an underactive thyroid but I blame eating habits in my 20s and a lifelong love of sugary drinks for my weight. Not a doctor - she's a dietician or nutritionist submitted by /u/PurpleSlash10 to r/AmIOverreacting [link] [comments]

https://lotr.fandom.com/wiki/Lembas In LotR, Lembas Bread is so nutritionally dense that "one small bite is enough to fill the stomach of a grown man", and it "keeps sweet for many many days, if they are unbroken and left in their leaf-wrappings". I am looking for a similar recipe, something that will not spoil for a long time at room temperature, and is dense in nutrition and calories. I want to pack this on hiking and camping trips instead of buying expensive dehydrated foods or doing a lot of cooking (rice&legumes etc). Ideally it would be a baked product to cut down on water weight (better than canned proteins, for example). So far, I have found the following recipes, but each have their own drawbacks: ANZAC Biscuit: not as calorie dense as the others Pemmican: expensive Hudson's Bay Bread / British Flapjacks: very high in refined sugar Bannock: not as high in protein Tararua Biscuits: can't find reliable nutritional information Further, some of these recipes include "exotic" ingredients like "golden syrup" or molasses. I live in a major western canadian city, and I'd prefer to use ingredients that I can easily pick up at a normal grocery store. I also would prefer ingredients that are cheap where I live. Of course I am capable of doing my own trial-and-error of the recipes I've found so far, but I thought I'd stop by here and see if anyone has any insights before I go fumbling around in the dark on my own. Any and all help is greatly appreciated! submitted by /u/quivverquivver to r/EatCheapAndHealthy [link] [comments]

This all started my I meet my bestfriend lets call her E in 2024. E's family aren't the most fortunate family in the aspects of money I've known this since I meet them. I first met E through a mutual friend and me and her clicked instantly we spent the whole summer we first met together going on 'adventures' having sleepovers and we also went camping. I love E she is my world and she really saved me when I was at my lowest as I like to think I did for her. Her family took me in when I had issues at home and have always offered me a place to stay. I usually brought me and E food for lunch and or tea and snacks everytime time i was there and refused to let her pay (also getting her mum chocolates every so often) One day when I was round they didn't have milk and her mum needed it to make something (her mum had always been kind to me and really helped me alot I see her as a mother figure and I have so much love for her) I offered to go buy milk for the shop but she said they couldn't afford it at that time, I said no worries and that I would pay. She was very thankful and I reassured her is was the least I could do considering all that they did and continue to do for me so me and E went to the shop and brought some milk for her, I really had no problem doing this considering I have a job that pays well, I don't buy alot of things apart from monthly hairdye and occasional body jewelry as I have quite a few piercings. we got back with the milk, I made her a cuppa and me and E went into her room to watch TV and chat, as you do. Anyway E ended up telling me that her and her mum do 'money hunts' round the house when they're tight for money, this entails checking under the sofa, checking sofa cushions, the laundry pile etc to find loose change. She laughed and told me some funny stories about these hunts and I laughed along with her. Thats when it began. I started hiding loose change (20ps, 50p, £1/2 coins) around the house and the occasional £5 note. Everytime I came to her house I left around £4 worth in change in spots where I knew they'd look, sometimes putting some in E's money box. They still dont know and I'm never going to tell them. I do this because I love them so much her and her family are so good to me and so kind to me and have genuinely just taken me in over the past two years, her and her parents have gone above and beyond for me and her brothers always kind and treats me as if I'm his sister too. I have kept this secret for 2 whole years and plan to for many many more. Update: I got a bit of backlash for 'wanting praise' I don't want this, this is why I chose to tell people that don't know who I am as if I wanted praise I wouod tell people I know irl. I also got told my post was 'chat gbt/AI' I don't use ai I don't agree with it it is so bad for the planet, my wording might not be the best as I am very dyslexic and borderline illiterate, I am relying on spell check but I don't understand how to write 'properly sentences' I do apologise for this. submitted by /u/Limp-Condition457 to r/confession [link] [comments]

Absolutely not a serious challenge. We were already buying most of the items here for other reasons. I did insist we grab potted meat instead of dogfood. submitted by /u/Clean_Medic to r/thelongdark [link] [comments]

I teach 7th grade ELA in a pretty "nice" suburban school, the kind where parents email about grades within 10 minutes and kids have Stanley cups and AirPods. Yesterday one of my quieter kids asked if he could stay after class. I figured it was missing work, but he just sat there twisting the strap on his backpack and finally said, "Ms, do you know anywhere thats open late? Like inside, not outside." I asked what he meant and he blurted out that him and his mom have been sleeping in her car for a few weeks. Not like camping, like rotating between Walmart, a church lot, and the back of a 24 hour laundromat. He said he showers in the locker room when he can and that he keeps his stuff in a trash bag because the trunk leaks. Then he looked at me like he regretted telling me and went, "please dont tell anyone, theyll take me away." My stomach just dropped. This kid has been doing our bell ringers, laughing at the dumb memes I put on slides, turning in his reading logs. I had no idea. So I did what we are told to do: called the counselor, filled out the form, emailed the admin. Within an hour I got pulled into the office and it was like I had done something wrong. "We appreciate you bringing concerns forward, but you need to follow protocol and avoid personal involvement." The AP said the district "handles these situations" and reminded me not to give the student food, money, rides, or "make promises." Meanwhile I can see the kid on the camera feed outside my room at dismissal, just sitting on the curb with his hood up. I asked if we had contacted the McKinney-Vento liaison yet and the AP literally sighed and said, "We don't know the full story, and we dont want to escalate with the family." Escalate. Like the situation isn't already escalated. I offered to bring extra snacks from home for my class pantry and was told that could be "perceived as favoritism" and "create liability." Cool. Liability. Great priority. I'm trying to keep my head down like they want, but I can't stop thinking about him sleeping in a freezing car while we argue about whether kids can redo a quiz. I keep replaying his face when he said "please dont tell." I feel trapped between doing the humane thing and getting myself written up for "crossing boundaries." If you've dealt with this, what did you do that actually helped? Because right now the adults in charge are acting like paperwork is the whole plan, and its making me feel kind of sick. submitted by /u/SilentVHSPlayer to r/Teachers [link] [comments]

Just got back from a two-night solo car camping trip with my 3-year-old son in the Pine Creek Gorge area (Tioga State Forest, PA), and wanted to share the experience for any parents considering something similar. We camped at Big Run South – Site 019 off Big Run Rd near Blackwell. It’s a primitive site in the PA State Park system, but beautifully maintained with a solid fire ring, a downed log for seating, and easy access to the creek just steps from camp. I arrived with everything organized in bins—cooking gear, sleeping, food, bike stuff—to make setup smooth and reduce stress. I use a Snow Peak Alpha Breeze tent (which I absolutely love), and paired it with an Exped LuxeMat Duo so my son and I could sleep on one massive mattress together. Slept like a rock both nights. I also brought a Dometic water jug and faucet system, which turned out to be a lifesaver for cooking, cleaning, and getting him ready for bed without hassle. I’ll be honest—keeping a 3-year-old safe and entertained while solo-parenting in the woods is no joke. I had to break out the tablet a few times so I could cook dinner or build a fire uninterrupted, but otherwise, he kept busy stacking rocks, splashing in the creek, and turning the hammock into a makeshift swing. Everything became a game. On Saturday, we packed up for a 23-mile out-and-back ride on the Pine Creek Rail Trail. I was on my Salsa Vaya Ti, pulling my son in a Burley Bee trailer loaded with snacks, water, and his favorite stuffed animal. We rode south from Blackwell to Tomb Flats—the trail has a gentle downhill grade in that direction, which helped conserve energy on the way out. Tomb Flats was the perfect turnaround point: shaded picnic area, scenic, and with shallow creek access for lunch and a swim. We cooled off, crushed some Uncrustables, then headed back north, stopping at Cedar Run General Store for ice cream. We made it back to the car around mid-afternoon, totally beat. I had planned to hit a swimming hole afterward but was wiped—thankfully our site had just enough creek access to let us cool off without leaving again. A Few Takeaways: Meals: Keep it stupid simple. Pre-mix everything. Bring more snacks than you think. Sleep: Invest in a real sleep setup. Sleep is half the battle. Gear: Bins saved me. One for cooking, one for sleeping, one for adventure stuff. Mentality: It’s not about perfection. It’s about creating space for them to explore while you try to hold it all together. Camping solo with a toddler isn’t for the faint of heart, but it’s doable—and incredibly rewarding. If you’re thinking about it, I’m happy to answer questions about gear, planning, or just surviving the first night. submitted by /u/avgenthusiast to r/camping [link] [comments]

OR, USA. Big ol’ oysters. submitted by /u/campfirebeer to r/camping [link] [comments]

I am not OP. That is u/Constant_Barnacle992 who posted to r/TrueOffMyChest TW: neglect Big thanks to u/LucyAriaRose for letting me know about the update Original Boru 2nd Boru New post will be marked with 🛑🛑🛑. Original Post April 22nd, 2024 TL;DR skip to the bottom. I (m43) try to do my best to provide for my wife (f38) and 2 kids (3,5) as well as my MIL and would like to think I am doing a decent job. Over the years, I worked to improve our family’s living situation, not only did I complete another bachelors and recently masters in a STEM related degree, I at the same time worked 2 full time jobs (while completing my 2nd bachelors) and put my wife through school as well. She completed a degree where she could make good money (~60-70k/yr) in a healthcare field that always has jobs available. But with the birth of our 2 kids, she has since “gave up” on her career to be a SAHM for the time being. At first it was a struggle while I was finishing up my masters. Once I completed it, after our youngest turned 3 my career took a jump up and we are now able to afford our single income household in a more feasible manner. We’re far from rich but do ok for a single income family of 4 (a little north of 150k base+ bonuses). The past year life was overwhelming per my wife, so even though I now work 75% from home, I budgeted to hire a daytime nanny to help her around the house with 1 child while the other is in school now My day starts everyday around 530-6am. I get the house ready for the day before the nanny comes at 8am, I get our oldest up and ready for school, breakfast made, and plan out my day, bring our oldest to drop off, and be home in time to let the nanny in. My most recent task at work has me grounded for the next 2 months meaning I am now 100% WFH, while this is nice, I am busy in meetings all day as my role manages teams on a global scale as I oversee projects from my industry. For the past 1 ½ months, I realized… my wife as much as she says her life is stressful at home… starts at 10am. I asked my MIL and nanny if this was always the case after a week or so of wfh, and they both responded more or less… sometimes earlier sometimes later. My wife literally wakes up and cooks and then scrolls through her phone or shops from home… which brings me to my gripe. I am glad I am able to provide her that sort of life since we both grew up lacking in means. I get the possibility of postpartum depression, the stress of having kids, the feeling of being unfulfilled, the fact that I probably am a shitty husband… but for what it’s worth… everything is taken care of and then some. I manage the houses finances (she claimed she was too busy to do so), pay all the household bills, I pay my own personal bills, I pay her bills, track and perform all the upkeep of our house appliances/cars/pets/etc., and I also “help” pay for my MIL’s medical bills and car note. …but apparently my life is on easy street compared to hers. I can't decompress to her because it seems like she always feels the need to 1 up me. I had a bad day… but she had it worse cause I’m lucky I got to go away and work… My feet hurt from walking all day during work travel, which is nothing compared to her standing and cooking with a child clinging to her. For the past 2 or so years… I’ve been told I ruined her life, her opportunities, etc… but when I reminded her of what she says, she denies and dodges accountability. My MIL has brought me aside and stated she’s noticed a change in both myself and my wife. I have a greater attachment to my kids and hell… I’ve hugged the dogs and talked to them more about my life than to my wife. I honestly feel like I am in emotional survival mode as I’m one step from moving up the career ladder and one step away from finding love and comfort from the bottom of a whiskey bottle. I’m sure I’ll be hearing from the manly men of reddit about how I’m simping… but I’m not a machine. I just want to know and feel that someone I prioritize aside from my kids appreciates and loves me for what I do… I’m sure I’ll hear from the stay at home moms of reddit… which is fine. I grew up in a single parent/mother household. It’s not easy… and honestly with the help of her mother and a nanny Mon-Fri, for one toddler while another child is at school… Can you honestly tell me she’s having the typical SAHM experience? Because neither my friends or colleagues who are single parents can say she is. I’m sure the masses of holier than thou redditors will consider this a poorly written fanfic, but it is what it is. TL;DR Long story short, It feels as if my wife has checked out of our marriage… we’re only roommates where she can still reap the marriage benefits. I’m not asking for her to throw herself at me all the time and let me do whatever I want… I really just want to be told I’m doing good and just offer me some form of emotional comfort as simple as a hug, but I guess as the man who ruined her life, I deserve it. *Thank you for the replies. To add more context: Never cheated. I do work in an industry that has a large female population, but I’m literally an open book with work, name colleagues and staff under me, she has access to my work agendas and correspondence if she really wanted to snoop, but on that note she still doesn’t know what exactly I do for a living at this time… We as whole family her parents and mine have tried to get her to go to therapy but she refuses or skirts around the issue. Aside from my coming from a single mother household perse, my biological dad was present in my life. She has had both parents in a reportedly monogamous marriage for over 40 years. I have tried to talk to her about everything and my own feelings but again… 1 upmanship tends to be the trend here. What I am getting out of the marriage was asked… now, aside from my 2 beautiful kids, I’ve been asking myself that same question. We have a near nonexistent sex life mainly since last year. I always figured maybe it’s part of depression or whatever she may be going through… maybe I’m just not attractive enough or just horrible in bed because of my health conditions… I’m not some super model husband but temptation and opportunity does knock and I can perform still but I never give in, because as cliche as it sounds I honestly do love my wife and want to only be with her. I’ll give credit where credit is due as I don’t want to sound biased: when I say she wakes up and cooks she cooks for everyone in the house. Myself, kids, MIL, and even nanny. Aside from breakfast she cooks all meals and snacks. I typically fast until lunch time and our oldest tends to eat a small simple breakfast incase they don’t like what school serves that morning. She does load both the kids and her laundry… but seldomly folds and puts them up. I typically do my own and the rest of my clothes I dry clean because they’re work clothes. She does keep track of our pantry and fridge? But after she makes the list I’m the one who goes out and buys everything if not delivered. She does clean our bathrooms and house 50% of the time, the other 50 is done by either MIL or myself or sometime nanny if she feels like being extra helpful. Prior to nanny, my MIL was the main help for my wife up until she had unexpected medical needs. So I opted to hire a nanny to help them both, more so when MIL is having treatments and recovering. UPDATE 06May2024. Not sure if anyone would read this, but thank you for those who have reached out and chit chatted. While I know I’ve kept my newfound friends here updated, I figured I just update my post and keep it short. I showed my wife my post the following weekend and she read it and all the comments. Long story short, argument, she left our house to stay with her sister, and I’ve been a “single parent” since. It’s sad to say, aside from the goodnights to our kids it’s all pretty much the same routine. Nothing much else to say other than thank you for all the kind words of encouragement. ***just need to add, this post got bigger than I expected from a venting post but I’ve responded to a few comments. Nonetheless, thank you for the comments and DMs… and more so for the offers to let me ruin your life ha. It’s been the highlight of my day/night as I sit here drinking with my dog while everyone else is asleep. It feels depressingly sad that I feel that I have to turn to random internet strangers for some sort of validation in my rant. My apologies in advance as I try to keep this as vague as possible. I ruined my wife’s life… again June 3rd, 2024 I just wanted to update those who have been kind enough to check up via DM and comments. Apologies in advance for the lengthy post. It’s a bit of irony and coincidence that I made a follow up from the update on 06May2024 I made on my original post during men’s mental health awareness month but I could really use another outlet outside of my therapist. My apologies if this isn’t the story book ending/destroying of a relationship people were hoping for… To save you a read. Wife left. Came back like nothing happened. She made it about her. Nothings changed. I’m continuing to be suffering mentally knowing nothing will change while trying to keep it together for our kids. Lots of take out. The day after she packed up and left, my wife attempted to come back and take the kids with her to her sister’s. Naturally I was against this and thankfully so was her whole family including said sister. Not only was it not fair to our kids for her to sweep them away into a home that’s not theirs but to put that financial and housing stress on the rest of her family since she doesn’t work and her sister and her family (husband and 3 kids) stays with their dad in the house they grew up in. After a little over a week of being away, I guess she cooled off so she just decided that it would be fine if she walked in the door with her bags as if she just came back from Target. She came into my office while I was working and angrily stared at me while I sat on a conference call meeting with my team and I couldn't just jump off as this is a busy time of the quarter for us. I guess that didn’t sit well with her because once I took off my headset and closed my laptop she started yelling at me about how much I really don’t care about her and her well being overall. At that moment I couldn't do anything more than look at her and just shake my head. Mother in law came in after hearing my wife yelling and pulled her away, telling her to not bother me, while our nanny kept our youngest away from it all on the other side of the house. That night after the kids were put to bed, I sat in my office by myself with a drink as I have been doing for the past nights and my wife came in. We talked. We argued. We cried. We drank. One thing led to another and we were in bed. I wish I could say that was our making up but the next sobering morning as we laid there, she went on about how hard it was for her the time she was gone. Literally… it was about her struggles staying at her family house in her old room with her dad and sister’s family. How lucky I am to be able to stay here and do this and that and buy this or do that and not stress as much as they did. How easy MY and everyone else's in our family lives are compared to hers even though we had similar upbringings… My mind and heart broke that morning. I’ve been spiraling down since then and this last week I made another attempt to reconcile and talk things out, but I was met with a shouting match while trying to express my current stress and anxieties with life and work in general: Wife: ”... well do you know how hard this is all for me? You’re supposed to help me be happy.” Me: “So when it comes to my happiness, stress, needs, and overall well being… fk me get over it right? ” Wife: “ We all have our own problems, you need to figure it out and get over them.” I don't know who the woman I am at home with is but that wasn’t the woman I married and vowed to spend my life with and raise our kids together. Since that conversation, I’ve been noticeably distant with her. I’ve been sleeping in my office or on the couch or with my kids in their bed after putting either one of them to sleep. Still doesn't change her starting her day at 10am… and sitting on her phone talking to her mom groups between cooking meals with the kids in both mother in law and nanny’s care. Nothing has changed and I doubt that anything will change. Sadly, I think even if we got a divorce, nothing would change or feel different anyway since during my wife’s leaving the days seemed like any other day except with a little more take out than usual. My main fear there isn’t that I wouldn’t just lose my wife, I’d lose my kids in the process. So I guess it’s sad to say the grand finale to my story with like alot of men and some women I’ve talked to here, I’ll just continue to smile and suffer in silence. *First off, thank you for all the comments and DMs.Some context and clarification since admittingly my post was emotionally charged since I typed it up after another argument. * Post birth, our kids pediatrician’s office gave my wife those PostPartum Depression screening forms and during the time of both she scored pretty high and was suggested to see a therapist. With our second child she scored significantly higher and we or I should say I made an effort to get her the help she needs. She refused, so entered mother-in-law and nanny for support… I know what people will say/think, but this is one of the reasons I am not 100% ready to just give up and file our life together away. Also, I know silently suffering in the near and long run of our kids' future will not add to a healthy atmosphere, but neither would a bitter and hate filled divorce. I know some have compared it to the ripping off a bandage, saying it’ll hurt at first but that pain goes away but I’d rather try to spare my kids thinking that their parents ended up hating each other because of them or something along those lines. I’ve told a few ppl I talk to in DM since my last post, a little more insight on my personal life, prior to my promotion I was a PM managing teams and budgets so out of habit I plan for a lot of “what ifs.”. That being said, I made a number of contingency plans if sadly things went south. So, yes I: Have talked to a lawyer, 3 actually. Know our rights and what each of us are entitled to. Have a draft settlement created and on hold until I feel I need to use it. I know what I want and am willing to offer more than what is fair for our kids' well being, but also have a plan if we end up going to court. It’s 100% on me that I’m suffering in silence, but I’m too stubborn to just give up so while I am venting, I don't expect anyone to “feel sorry for me”. I endure it to keep the norm our kids know, ensure my MIL’s treatments go uninterrupted, and of course the hope my wife would finally be open to give therapy a shot and climb together to a better place. Thank you all again. I ruined my wife’s life… so I ruined everyone else’s too July 1st, 2024 First and foremost TL;DR: I’m done. Wife said I don't do and am not shit in front of the therapist and family fathers day dinner. She got served. She mad. She is trying to act perfect and I’m just waiting while taking care of my family (kids, my mom, and MIL). Oh well, I’ll just ruin everyone else's life too in my family Secondly,to clear some confusion… I did NOT get 2 bachelors and a masters while working 2 jobs at the same time as some readers are assuming. Bachelors #1 graduated in the early 2000s. Bachelors #2 via online years (2 classes a semester) later while working 2 full time jobs (job #1 hospital 36/48 schedule job #2 big box store 32-40hrs spread out 7 days a week) to pay for both my and my wife's tuition because she decided to go back to school before we had kids… After graduating from Bachelor’s #2 and entering the industry I am in now, I was able to work 1 job and get my masters. So no I did not get 3 degrees at the same time or in that close succession… and I am surprised that I actually have to spell this out as someone working 2 jobs while going to school isn't that uncommon, or at least that’s what I thought? My wife chooses not to work. She DOES technically have a job. She just barely works it to the point we forget she has a job, as in she worked 1 day 4-5 months ago for 8 hours on a Tuesday kind of barely works. Her job and manager is really supportive (Flex PRN model) and gives her a list of days they need coverage and she can choose to pick up a shift or not. While she can work more and only does just enough to keep up her license, she complains to our family of her career being on hold for one reason or the other although she has the opportunity to work more if she opted to. All things considered she has an available supportive circle around her for either decision she falls on. Our family, her job, and I have made multiple offers and taken many steps to open that door for her to go back to work, i.e. Nanny, MIL moved in to help, I work from home, her crazy flex prn schedule, etc. etc… but here we are. I am and have been in therapy for myself already. Aside from what I deal with at home, my work can be very debilitating in regard to my mental health as well as physical at times. Since I can't find the support I need mentally and physically at home with my wife, I’ve opted to attend therapy rather than find comfort with someone outside of the home or at the bottom of a bottle. I’ve tried to express this to my wife and as mentioned in my previous post...she has a habit of 1 upping me… and here we are. My Inlaws are still married, given the circumstances in our home, my MIL moved in to help out my wife, while my SIL and her family moved back into their parent’s house due to their own reasons. SIL and her family can save money while getting back on their feet, and my wife and I benefit from MIL’s help and we can keep a closer eye on her while she undergoes bi monthly treatments . My wife by means of questionnaires is highly suspected to have PPD alongside with a history of symptomatic OCD, ADHD, amongst other ailments that over the years she refused to get evaluated for or refused to accept results given. I knew what I was getting into and I love and accepted my wife for these flaws as she did mine at the time… Spare me your “ i don't feel sorry for you” or pity. I am like every other man who fell in love and wanted to give my person the best of me and the world I can offer… but again, here we are. There’s a lot of manly men/redpill nation guys out there complaining and saying I’m “simping” over my wife. While I respect your own opinions and perspectives, I will outright say, if this situation was only affecting my life… I would’ve left a long time ago. As one redditor said in a past comment that stuck to me, “I am the kind of person that will take a bullet for his kids…” maybe it’s in a different context intended, but to protect my children from any harm physically or mentally… I’ll take the proverbial bullet if and as needed. I’d like to think other dad’s out there would respond to the duty to protect their children, and that’s why I endured as much as I have. For the time being I would rather my wife use me as an outlet for whatever her problems were vs. our kids. Thank you all for the comments and reaching out. I’ve met many strangers who have become great reddit pen pals and some who have been in the know of every step that has been progressing to this point. I am surprised at how far this has gone, from other subreddits, other platforms, and even YouTube. Love me, hate me, say it’s all fake, no matter where you stand thank you for all the constructive comments and DMs to check in. Our kids and myself are going to be alright moving forward. Now for the update. The end of an era. This will be shorter than some expected, as really there’s not much to say but just satiate the questions some of you may have had and give people the satisfaction of the “I told you so” moment on Reddit. After a hard push from our family via an “intervention,” my wife and I finally attempted to go to marriage counseling. I’m sure many of you can guess how well that went. Blame. Tears. Regrets. Gas lighting. With a side of I am the reason for her life being ruined and horrible. Again. Just this time in front of a licensed therapist instead of reddit or mom groups. In the end, everything the therapist suggested and noted went over her head and ignored as it was against the grain of her status quo. One thing I guess worth saying was the therapist asked if she could recall when she last truly felt happy. Her response was about 12 or so years ago. Please note, 12 years ago she was still in her 20’s. Childless. Living with her ex. A vastly different time and position in life. I know it’s petty of me but I guess if that’s when she was last happy, it wouldn’t be that far of a stretch for her to find that happiness again since her ex is in the same apartment, job, and place in life that he was 12 years ago. Which is fine, if that’s how you want to live life, I try not to judge but in my 40s with kids, going clubbing 3-4 days a week is not my jam anymore. And of course… I don't want my kids around a mom and company who drowns themselves in Whiteclaws. To add, I know some will ask, I know and can confirm she hasn’t physically cheated on me but can’t confirm if she did emotionally (if that’s the right term?). After said therapy session I checked all her phone record’s and didn’t see anything out of the ordinary, but I also didn’t bother to check apps like IG or Snapchat. I know I'm probably boring, but shout out to all the Costco dad’s who’s Sunday Funday includes making rounds with kids for samples. The following weekend was Father’s day, and this year as expected not that big of a celebration as it is for many dads out there. Our family got together to celebrate with a BBQ and just simple family time, and my wife treated it like any other day. Sleep in. Get up. Cook. Phone. Shop. Attempt to play with kids. Phone. During said family BBQ my wife said she felt ill, so she sat around most of the day while the rest of the family as a whole made the experience enjoyable. When everything was set up and the family all sat at the table, her parents and sister’s family, my mother, our kids, admittingly it was a great spread, nothing extravagant but just a great meal for everyone. I was conversing with my brother in law about both of our kids' school Father’s day activities and I assume my wife overheard when I mentioned that it was a little sad to see some kids sit alone without their fathers during the Breakfast with Dad event I attended. She blurted out with a laugh loud enough for the whole room to hear, “ It’s not like you do anything anyway, I could’ve gone instead…” At that moment I was red and at a loss for words sitting there processing what she said in my head, while the dining room went dead silent. My MIL broke the awkwardness and in response said,” Well… maybe if you feel that way, one of you should divorce the other.” My wife looked at my MIL confused that she would respond with that and laughed mockingly in my direction and with her hand pointing at me said, “ …as if another woman would want a man like him? Just look at you.” while the room sat silent. I was angry, heart broken, confused, and embarrassed all at the same time. In manly man fashion, I just nodded my head in silence, stood up, and picked up my keys and got in my truck and drove off to get a drink while trying to ignore the cries of the rest of the family and our kids telling me to stay. I don’t know what was said or done while I was out of the house the rest of Sunday, because I couldn't bring myself to check our house cameras, but when I returned early Monday morning, the house had a completely different feel. As usual, I woke up around 6, got the house and our oldest ready for school drop off. Checked emails. Checked messages, nothing out of the ordinary. As I was getting dressed to leave, my wife laid in our bed snoring lightly. All i could do was look at her and think of what we had… and now lost. I’ve decided. I’m done. I can't do this anymore. I texted my lawyer that morning to move forward with serving her. Fast forward to last week, she was served at our home (reminder to people I had no choice but to be there because I work from home). She had, I guess what you could call a mini meltdown and came into my office screaming how could I do this to her? Her mother intervened, and that was met with me supposedly turning her whole family against her. But I digress, I probably would’ve felt bad if it wasn’t immediately followed by the rest of her week acting as if she’s been this active and attentive wife and mother the past few years. Sure people can say she’s making an attempt.. but she’s made many “attempts” and historically we fall back to where we’ve been. For those curious, I am aiming for full or at least majority custody of our kids. I already and will continue to cover all the expenses for our kids, insurance, tuition (both of our kids are/will be attending private schools come fall), medical bills, etc. My MIL has given me the courage and strength that helped supplement my own mother’s support throughout this. Basically she is what I hoped the kind of mother/wife my wife would have been to our kids and me. Out of respect for my MIL as well as per my own mother’s shared wishes, I will continue to help oversee and contribute financial help if needed during her treatments. While some may feel I should cut their whole family off, I know the hardships pushed onto a family while dealing with cancer and have dealt with it first hand as a family member and care provider on both sides of the desk. All in all, I’m prepared to go to “war” if needed but I just want a clean no fuss divorce. My wife has no alimony coming, so sorry for the redditors and mommy gang facebook groups saying she needs to divorce me first and get that “sweet sweet alimony money.” 1. We live in a state that does not typically enforce alimony 2.she has a means of gainful employment immediately 3. To help curb any possible problems I will cover her insurance and bills until either divorce is finalized or when she gains full employment. So that’s that. I’m done and waiting for the steps to be taken for everything to be finalized. Sorry it wasn’t as exciting of a story with plot twist as some may have hoped for but that’s life. Not sure I’ll update this once it's all finalized, which probably won't be for a few more months depending if we go to “war” or not. 🛑🛑🛑. I ruined my wife’s life… and I don’t care anymore. Feb 19th, 2025 In respect to the subreddit, I guess I should get it off my chest that as much as I don’t want to care anymore, I still do to some degree. Thank you for all the comments, messages, and to the handful of people who have become reddit pen pals throughout my journey in this matter. It took some time for me to update as between adjusting to my new life and slowly cutting ties with the past and moving forward for our children, family, and work has been my priority. With that I wanted to provide an update for those who may have been curious. TL;DR Divorced finalized. She took the money and seemed to have spent dam near all of it. Kids are good. MIL is doing good. Promotion, salary increase, and new home to start new life in the new year for me. Overtime, taking household items from my house, and combining incomes with her bf to make 1/4 of what I make a month for her (Yes, shameless plug. Don’t judge me). I am moving on. I have no interest currently in romance and want to primarily focus on our kids. THE UPDATE Since my last update, I’ve been under the scrutiny of our social circles and labeled every typical “toxic man/husband” stereotype that Facebook, Tiktok, and Instagram has to offer. As much as I hate the saying I kind of understand the, “you know my name but not my story” posts now. With that said, these strangers or alienated family and friends can take their opinions and go fk themselves because in the end, if our kids are happy, healthy, and flourishing under my “toxic household,” what’s it to you? The more important updates: We’re divorced. I have majority custody, and even though my ex is now trying to be the present mother whenever her now busy schedule allows, it is too little too late. My MIL continues to be responding well to treatments and SIL has now taken over where my ex was supposed to be in helping oversee her care. Post divorce, I recently moved homes and jobs and accepted the next step forward career wise which my company has been kind enough to slowly transition me into the role as leadership understands what I am going through at home. Interestingly it’s amazing how “common” my story is amongst my colleagues and network, I am sad/happy(?) to say I am now one of the newer members of the fellowship of divorced Directors and Execs. As sad as it may sound, it is nice to know that many understand and are willing to offer a high degree of support, advice, assistance, and guidance as needed. The divorce itself was quick, but it still had it’s sad and angry moments and many of the people in my camp think my ex got away with robbery. But the fact that I was awarded majority custody and per agreement have our kids (almost) every day and know they’re safe under my roof is worth every cent. While I had no say or real cares how my ex moved forward with mediation as long as she agreed to terms, I think the biggest slap in the face to me was how she delegated her boyfriend as someone to “advise” her throughout this process, because “his opinion is more important than any lawyer who isn’t looking out for my best interest.” At this point, the holidays were around the corner, and I didn’t want this to disrupt the holidays for our kids and family. While I was prepared to go to court, my ex did not want to diminish her “payout” and I just wanted things over and done with. I’ll leave out the finer details of the terms, but in exchange for having majority custody and taking care of all expenses related to our children, I would give her that lump sum she was aiming for with no request of child support on my end. She kept all her tangible possessions i.e. car, bags, clothes, jewelry, I had to sell the home and split the profits from the sale and foot the bill on taxes, gave her almost all our joint bank accounts after legal fees and to top it off laughably she argued rights to alimony, which she’s not getting. As a PSA, don’t rely on your legal advice from Facebook groups. IN THE END REALITY SINKS IN I’d like to think overall I’m a simple man, all I wanted to do was get married, have a family, and provide. With that goal in mind, I somehow got into a position where my spouse was able to choose if she wanted to work or not and not worry about anything outside of our family. How it turned out like this, I can’t pinpoint. I’ll admit I am a bit oblivious of what I did, but maybe it’s my own fault as some ppl stated and I brought this onto myself. Post settlement, I ended up downsizing and closed on a smaller but spacious house for the 3 of us and our dog, with a separate generational suite in our backyard for my MIL to stay as she wished to stay involved in our kids care regardless of if I was married to her daughter or not. Honestly, I made sure that addition to the home was available for her because I hoped she would be able and open to help until the kids were a little bit older. For what it’s worth, it seems my ex found her happiness. Luxury trips in a short time frame she wanted, her bf and her moved to a bigger place to stay (luxury high rise studio but still no place for our kids to stay), her bf got his dream car, and a long list of expenses and shopping sprees that kind of benefited our kids if at all in any way sprinkled in her social media accounts. She’s rocking Cartier while our kids are sportin Carters. My ex came to visit our “cute little house” to visit our kids and MIL and complimented me on my choice of home and that I was able to keep up the status quo of our home without her. I’m sure many will see the irony in this. I’m not entirely sure her motive or if I’m just reading too deep into it, but she dropped lines about how stressful and expensive their living expenses (rent, utilities, cell/internet service, and insurance) are groceries are now and how surprised it cost to feed her, her bf, and whoever the hell else comes to their home. I’m not sure why but she initially was under the impression the generational suite was meant for her use when she has the time and wants to co-parent. She is even more tired and struggling with her schedule now because she works a total of 48hrs a week and forced to work overtime at times and her bf works but I didn’t dig or care about the details. But I do care that I think she thinks I don’t notice that she takes some of our usual household staples and items with her before she left. Mainly bottles of soap she always bought for our home, Sonicare replacement brush heads and other toiletries, a new unopened bottle of the Mountain Valley water from the fridge when she visits, and I may be reading too deep into something again but sometimes I find some of the Instax pics from the fridge missing. Usually its just of the kids or MIL and the kids, but a few were of the 4 of us in the past. Although her Whiteclaw fund takes precedence over their home’s Charmin 2 ply supply, I try to be as accommodating as possible so that she can still be involved with our kids, allowing her to drop by our home whenever (if ever) she can (still work primarily from home so I’m always here) and keeping her in the loop about their activities and such. It was nice to see she was able to make it to our youngest’s first Christmas school assembly, where our eldest’s had speaking parts in the play before work. Later that week, I brought our kids to bring her a plate of food on Christmas day at the hospital because she has holidays to work. I’d be lying if I said that didn’t hurt or that I didn’t feel uncomfortable with the stares and whispers from her co-workers while I waited for the kids to excitedly give her their presents and wish their mom a Merry Christmas. Even though she was trying to be welcoming, all I could do was say Merry Christmas and wave goodbye from the distance as we left. This past Christmas, with as many blessings I have to be thankful for, it all felt so hollow at the same time. During New Year eve, I embraced my inner Pinterest dad trying to make everything as festive and fun possible and copied ideas of doing a count down at 9PM for the kids with a balloon drop in our living room and popping some fireworks as soon as the sun set. On that note, I should mention that I re-discovered my love of cooking, something I did for years while a bachelor with my roommates and the stress of a 4- and 6-year-old insisting that they’re mini versions of Gorden Ramsey and can provide Michelin level sous chef services. With the kids tucked away and asleep, I rang in the new year with my dog and a drink. Scrolling on my phone with the sounds of fireworks popping in the distance, I saw that my ex was living her best life in her new life snap after snap after snap... So, I made a mental checklist for the end of 2024: - self-esteem – almost gone. - confidence – hanging by a thread. - ability to open and trust anyone outside of my current inner circle and dog – nonexistent. - Hatred towards my ex and her newfound life – surprisingly gone. All I could do is just laugh a little at the snap on my phone. She left me, she hurt me, but she did not destroy me. We’re now 2 different people with 2 different lives and I must move forward for the ones I owe it to. Other than the connection of our kids and some immediate family we have no more connections and I really have no interest in acting like I was in my 20’s in my 40’s and spending half my paycheck on liquor because its Tuesday and New Years Eve. Maybe I’m just boring, but I can and only want to focus on my kids and ensure that their lives and future is the best that I can provide. Ensure the people and projects I oversee stay afloat and going in this economy. And last, but not least, make sure both my mother and (ex-?) MIL are taken care of in the future moving forward. ADVICE FROM WHAT I LEARNED. To the men out there, if you’re in a similar situation, don’t give up hope. But keep in mind, actions, records, and overall proof speaks louder than your words. It’s an uphill battle, but no man has to fight it alone. Plan, Prepare, seek reputable counsel and advice, and in the end execute. As hard as it may be, stay focused and be as objective as possible in these times, and most importantly follow through with what you say and promise to your kids. To the women, stay off social media and comparing your life to others. Just kidding. The first piece of advice applies to anyone regardless of how you identify. I don’t think I’ll be updating anymore but I do plan to keep this alt just for my reddit pen pals so please feel free to say hi cause it’s nice to have new friends. I am not the original poster. 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I am NOT the Original Poster. That is u/CocoTub. He posted in r/self, r/relationship_advice and his own page. Thanks to my friend for letting me know about the update! Previous BORU here. (I had to remove comments to fit the word count) New Updates marked with ****\* Do NOT comment on Original posts. Latest Update is 7 days old. This is a VERY LONG post. Mood Spoiler: sad but things might be looking better Original Post: July 27, 2024 I m24 met a girl f22 in a community college class when I was 20, we came from very different backgrounds, I was middle class trying to find a cheaper way to go to college, she was living in almost poverty going to school because she was forced to by her parents who were threatening to kick her out. She dropped out about a year into her schooling while I continued and finished, during her first year we formed a relationship and she moved in to my apartment more or less. Her relationship with her parents is pretty much non-existent and she has little to no outside friends besides one or two women she knew from highschool (who are deadbeats in my opinion). I make around 80k a year so we live relatively comfortably, but there's still some strain on finances. I can't say exactly say when I started losing feelings, but the fact that she refuses to work, will not cook and wants to eat out everyday, does not want to go to school, and continuously wants to buy and spend money on clothes and other stuff just slowly started grating me more and more. I work in a female dominated workplace, and seeing, having conversations, and interacting with coworkers who have so much going for them, have fun hobbies, and aspirations makes it all the more worse when your girlfriend is chronically online and spends 7 hours a day scrolling through Instagram or TikTok reels and thinks having sex is all she needs to do on her end. Our relationship isn't bad, we have fights every now and then like a average couple, have an active sex life, but that's pretty much it. From her perspective if I broke up with her it would be out of nowhere, but I'm pretty much done, and know I could move on quickly and have nothing to be regretful about as shitty as it sounds. The problem comes in her having no job, no finances, almost no friends, and no family support unit. I'm not a monster, I don't want to make someone virtually homeless, but I don't want to be stuck with someone who has nothing going for them either. I don't know what to do. Edit: Thank you for all the advice in this post, I don't know if this sub allows updates but I'll talk to her tomorrow about this and start the process of working this out Update Post: July 28, 2024 (Next Day) For starters I want to thank everyone for all the advice I was given on the last thread as it helped me formulate how I would go about doing this. When I made that post I was having an extremely bad day and didn't expect it to blow up like it did, so I don't think I was able to give her a fair defense. Also I got dozens of messages, ranging from asking me to hand out her contact info so they could take her in as a live in sex girlfriend, to helpful advice telling me to start hiding anything valuable. When I had said that she had come from poverty, her father is a laborer while her mother also lives a similar lifestyle to how she lives now. Their home is maybe 1100sqft and in a terrible place in town, and given her father's past ultimatum, I don't think he will take her back as she hasn't been back home in years. YES, I have talked to her about this, since January maybe three times. Either by gently telling her it would be nice if she went out more to find a hobby at the very least to flat out saying she was wasting away on her phone and that she needs to get a job or go back to school. Each time she either changed the subject, makes it a joke, or follows through for a couple of days before going back to her usual self. She is a kind partner, who asks me about my day, always try's to make me laugh or lighten the mood when I get annoyed, and generally shows a lot of affection. Which makes me feel terrible when none of that works anymore, and I just see her as another person. Now for the confrontation. Last night when we were both getting ready for bed, I didn't take my clothes off and instead just stood there telling her we needed to talk. At first she was just smiling and jumping up and down on the bed with her knees thinking I wasn't as serious as I was, but eventually she was able to read the mood. I told her something wasn't feeling right anymore, that I've tried to make this work and be patient with her for the past few years, but I didn't know how much more time I was willing to spend waiting for her to get a job, go back to school, or just get a hobby if anything. I told her that it annoyed and gratted me that she just didn't seem to care about herself, and that I hated she had no goals or aspirations. This was probably the first time in a long time she was as attentive as she's ever been during this conversation, and agreed to whatever I was saying, even also giving suggestions on where she can apply, what courses were starting to interest her, and even said I could look over her as she submitted applications online to make sure she wasn't lying. In her head it seemed like I was still willing to make this work, and a part of me believed this would finally be the moment that she would change. So it made the next part even harder for me and for her. At her first I told her I didn't love her the same way, which slowly but eventually lead to me saying I didn't feel anything at all about this relationship and was jaded. I was tired and wanted a fresh start with someone who was more goal oriented, and wanted something more out of life. When she realized what I was getting at, she started to cry and asked why I didn't mention this sooner, and I said I've always asked her to cook, to go out with me to try something out, or to just go back to school, even when I offered to pay for her classes. ANYTHING. She said she understands that part, but was upset why I didn't say it was leading to me losing interest in her, because from her perspective it seemed as if I still loved her all the same. She started apologizing, saying she wasn't in the right mental state and saying nothing was motivating her, and she genuinely had no interest in any hobbies, the only thing she liked was spending time with me which is all she looked forward to in the day when I came home. None of this was really affecting my emotions besides making me feel uncomfortable, so I tried to continue by saying, I think her lifestyle would be better with another person, but she immediately cut me off and became more panicked. She started to apologize again for what she's done and said she would be a better girlfriend, that she would go with me tomorrow to wherever I wanted to go, and would look for courses in August that she could start doing. But she did not want to lose me since she had nothing else in life, and absolutely hated that I stopped loving her. There were so much tears and snot that I said we would have this conversation again when she calmed down, and we eventually did in an hour or so. She pleaded to give her two months to make a change and give her another chance, and promised and promised that she would change. Again she listed off all the places she would apply to and said she would be a better partner. I never wanted to make her homeless, so this seemed like a good settlement, even though I still had my doubts. I then reaffirmed that I wanted to see other people, but she seemed much more adamant on this issue than the aspirations issue that she would be able to fix this. She said just give her a month to try and make the relationship work, and asked me again and again on what she could do to make her love her again, and that she didn't want me to hate her. She said that this was the worst part of it all, in the only person that she had just being done. It seemed as if she was about to breakdown again, so I said ok we'll see how this relationship is in a month. In my mind, If I'm allowing her two months to get back on her feet, then by a month she would already be ready to move on. I also didn't want her to suffer a complete mental breakdown while I was still living her, so giving her a month to let her "fix" the relationship would give her enough time to accept things. I slept on the couch last night, and will probably continue doing so for a while, she came out at about 3am wanting to talk some more, but I said I was exhausted and we would do it tomorrow, she then slept on the floor beside me for the rest of the night apologizing again, when I told her to stop, she silently said ok and sobbed for a bit under her blanket. But that's everything that's happened, so far. This was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do, but I regret nothing and feel much better letting everything out. I don't know how this situation will be in two months, but I was firm that it was the deadline. This post will probably get buried so I probably won't do another update since I don't think anyone will care about this in a week or a month, but I will definitely private message those of you who have been helping me through this on how it turns out or those who just want to be updated. But yeah, thanks. Edit: for all of you who keep asking what my workplace is I'm a RN. Update Post 2: July 29, 2024 (Next Day) I feel like this will be an easier place to post since it's my page and I don't have to worry about over spamming with small or inconsequential updates anywhere else, as it's only for those wanting to read. I want everyone who has private messaged me to know I read them all, especially those of you who have gone through similar circumstances as me and have shared your stories. I've been doing some self reflecting and think I know how I want to go about this that will help with my lack of communication skills. I know I'm not a perfect person but I still stand by my decisions I made that night 100% through and through. I might post an update sooner in a week or so as the day after our fight im filled with a bit more hope than usual, don't know how long it will last but better make use of it. But again just wanted to post this for everyone sharing your stories with me privately as I can't message you all, as it's been helping me make decisions on what to do about this all immensely. Update Post 3: August 3, 2024 (1 week from OG post) This is a long post and no I'm not going to give a TLDR. Hey all it's been about a week since my last post and thought I'd give an update. A lot has happened, including the explosion of my first update thread. I have over 50+ DMs asking me for an update so instead of copy and pasting replies, I'll do another one. I find it easier to write then to speak in many situations so this has been a great way to help my decisions and clear my head. Writing everything down has helped tremendously and I will continue to do so until this is all over and I will nuke everything afterwards. After the night confrontation, we didn't really speak all to much at home, with it being dry and awkward for a day or two, but I have been told I'm a workaholic by nature so it was easy for me to stay at the hospital as a distraction, but in that time she did start to cook again. (We weren't in the mood to go out to eat together.) Eventually though, I sat down with her after she asked for a more thorough conversation on why I felt our relationship was failing, she promised not to cry or get upset but wanted me to to be 100% upfront so she had a better way of understanding, stating she wanted to try everything to fix this. I was really apprehensive about this and I can't really explain why, but given being together for four years I wanted to at least make an effort myself out of respect even though a large part of me was angry for even doing so as I feel I've never had the same from her. There have been many different camps in my last update, the main ones being kick her out immediately and leave her before it gets worse, try to find a way to fix our relationship, or end the relationship all together but continue living with someone who would probably become absolutely neurotic. (If I was going to let her stay for two months I would absolutely not be dealing with that.) I took consideration in all these main advice discussions and read through almost every reply. Even the most assumptive, bizzare and downright unhinged Redditor takes. More importantly, I took heavy influence of those who have shared with me their past stories which either led to them being stuck in loveless relationships for years or eventually being able to overcome their problems and have an even stronger connection. (Thank you again for your private messages I read through a lot of your lives.) Now for our conversation. She said she saw something on TikTok where couples put a phone on a table with a timer and wanted to do something similar, for each person to air what made them upset. I said that was dumb, if we were going to talk about our problems it would be better if there was no time limit. She eventually agreed and said I could go first, asking me first when was the time that I completely lost my love in her. As I said before, it was never one action, but a grating feeling that got worse and worse until it got to this point and I told her that, so she then asked when was the time I felt the most angry. I said it would take some time to think for me and she said that was fine. After a few minutes something came to mind. I couldn't formulate the right words at first but it eventually just started to come out. I told her the worst time was when I was first starting at my hospital. To keep it short the tempo was brutal, it was constant work with little to no downtime as I was constantly learning new things that school would had never taught me, while being expected to be able to handle it as a professional, it was without a doubt the most stressed I've ever been and I feel like other RNs can relate here. That year hardened the way I think now, that hard work does pay off, if you have the drive and the passion. I told her I think that was when I started losing feelings the fastest, seeing her at home doing absolutely nothing. Coming home to no food made, to her not working a job, to her not learning anything, completely stuck to the internet with nothing to show for it. I said it made me even more upset when I had given suggestions for jobs with pretty easy schedules, or to find a new interest in school that would pan out better than last time only to be rejected at my every attempt, I told her flat out that it disgusted me. She asked me why I didn't make this a bigger issue at the time, that I should have communicated this to her but I said there's somethings that shouldn't have to be said, I should[n't] have to remind her to wash her ass, eat, do something other than mindlessly scrolling on her phone for hours at a day, everyday. I also told her that after coming home from the hospital during more stressful days, the last thing I wanted was to spend my time begging my girlfriend to do something productive, so I held my tongue and settled as she was still nice and caring. I had no other reasons to end it, and so the resentment grew worse from then on. It was around here that I became more mean to my regret now, but I will still input it as I have everything else. I told her that when she dropped nursing, I was upset since I felt that she was more than capable of doing what I had done. But after spending more time in the relationship, and spending more time getting to know her, I knew that with the type of person she was there was no way she could have ever finished. Which is why I suggested easier and more laid back jobs, less demanding majors for school, shit even if she just cooked or found an interesting hobby at that point I would have appreciated it. Still, she chose to do nothing for years, it's just the type of person she was and why I felt done for her romantically over time. She asked me if I hated her, and I said I didn't know. I told her she was very loving and kind, but I hated how she handled her life to this point. That I felt no ill will towards her after airing everything out, but I also felt nothing else, I just felt done and ready to move on. Throughout this conversation we kept eye contact, and there were times it seems like she would break, but like she said she remained as calm as she could while I said what I had to say. I told her I was done and she could say her peace now, but she asked if we could continue the conversation later and locked herself in our room for the rest of the day. The next day we sat down again and finished the conversation. She told me that she thinks she's depressed, saying that she didn't feel sad before that night, just had no motivation of doing anything. I had a couple of messages telling me to ask her to get tested for ADHD, but when I started bringing it up she was very adamant that is not something she felt comfortable with. I knew she didn't like needles or going to the hospital in general, but her flat out refusing to get tested for disorders when I told her it was not at all like a regular hospital visit surprised me. She asked me if she was able to change in her behaviors, would I give her another chance. I said I didn't know, as I felt nothing right now and didn't know if her doing it would bring any feeling back. Especially since it took my breaking point to do so. She asked if there was any compromise, and I told her again, if in a month I felt like there was enough reason to stay together I would, but that there was no guarantee that my feelings would return. But I would match any effort she also put out. She was frustrated by my answer but I said that's how it would be. She gave me a piece of paper to look at that she was working on last night that had a list of hobbies and interests she wanted to look into, the two major ones being photography and cooking again. She told me that she was looking into these while also showing me her phone giving proof that she was putting in applications on Indeed and Glassdoor for some entry level positions that she might get hired in. I told her if she was able to show enough passion or interest in these hobbies that she showed, I would not care about her working, just anything to improve herself. But if she didn't do anything at all, then it would be best to look for a new job to help her if she moves out. I've also been asked in Private messages if I have any personal friends to talk to. There's two female coworkers I confide some information in given how many hours we work together at our hospital, and who I completely trust as in my opinion they are extremely grounded. They both said I would eventually get love bombed and this would all go back to how it once was, and that I needed to stand firm with moving on. They've very helpful friends who have even offered to let me stay over for a few nights giving the reason that I would fall for her manipulation if I continued being anywhere near her in their own words. But it didn't feel right since I'm still technically in a relationship, but I said I would consider it if the situation worsened. But again I find them grounded, so I always try to take their advice to heart. Despite numerous messages from you all privately or openly telling me that this will be a mistake, I want to make the attempt to give this one last try. Though I feel heavily closed and guarded and still feel indifferent with our current situation. But a lot of you have told me this can eventually change with enough work from both parties. I have also taken the advice of those saying to cut off sex (which was my intention from the start anyway) by continuing to sleep in the living room. But each day she has been sleeping on the floor right below me even when I tell her I'd rather be alone with my thoughts, telling me this is something she would not accept. But that's everything so far, next update will probably be at the month mark as there's nothing else I feel like I need to say for now, just waiting to see if things can get better now that we're working on this somewhat. New Updates *****Update Post 4: August 19, 2024 (16 days later, 3 weeks from OG post)****\* Title: First Week Hello, a lot has happened in the past two weeks, it's actually felt more like a month with how much has gone down. To those I have DMed with on Reddit about my situation, sorry I have not been replying, at some point a week ago my messages blew up again with another 100+, so I took a break and haven't logged in for awhile while I work on my situation. I won't be posting in subreddits anymore relating to my problems, and will instead chronicle everything that comes to mind here on my page, as I feel more comfortable just updating those who worry for me at this point. My girlfriend was very proactive last week, it was a manic influx of energy as she tried to get interested in many different things that she thought she could enjoy. I kept my promise in meeting her halfway and tried my best at helping her in whatever way I could. The only real interest that she's been mainly sticking with is photography. I've said before that she has a stockpile of clothes that she's had over the years, and she sold a few of them on depop in order to get enough money to get a Canon 250d camera that she says is good for starting out (she's looked a lot more into this than me). I strongly assume she stuck with this hobby as it gave her a chance to spend more time with me, as she continued asking me to go out into the city to take pictures and test out her camera, given that I had promised to match her energy and didn't want to be a hypocrite, I did so even when I came home from longer shifts at the hospital. There was a major change in her behavior however. While she usually was a very loving and affection partner, it had been turned up to its max during the first week. She asked me maybe 8 times a day how I was doing, if I was upset, what I wanted to do for the rest of the day etc, just trying to gauge my mood. When we went out, her PDA was also maxed, she wanted to kiss, hold hands, and spend the night out as long as possible, even when I said I had to go in early to work the next day. It's hard to describe in words what she was doing, I don't know if it was exactly love bombing, but with the energy she putting out, I was fully expecting a crash to come, and it did during the second week. (I'll talk about that in another post.) There was only so much I could handle before I needed a break, especially with how I was still feeling after everything that had happened prior. My friends at work are the only other people I have been engaging with and I've told them everything that has been happening. They warned me again that I was getting love bombed like they predicted and it would only get worse, they asked me what I would do if I was stuck with her longer than two months, and I said my lease would be ending soon so it was helping ease my mind, as I wouldn't mind moving if this all turned out for the worse, while still giving her enough time of a heads up. They stated their concerns that I was coming to work more tired that usual and it was getting noticeable, but I told them that I felt fine. During the weekend they had insisted that I go out with them to help my mood, stating that too much time at in my apartment was not good for my health in my current situation. I declined when first offered, but after being asked again the day of, I agreed and for most of the day I was with them having a really good time, in fact it helped to regain my mood considerably. Naturally my girlfriend was wondering where I had been the entire day, but I told her I had been with friends and even though she was disappointed we couldn't go out for the day, I promised her we would spend all day tommorow together. I get continued messages that I should immediately drop my friends and that they are manipulating me in my decisions, and think what you may, I know they are good people who look out for me. They played a large part in me quitting smoking this year, which although has made me more anxious at times, has helped with my health considerably. There's a different type of bond you form with people in our work environment and I trust my coworkers with my life for lack of a better term. Anyway that's most of what happened the first week, putting everything for the second week would triple this post and it's hard looking back on it as it happened so recently and I still feel heavily raw (large part of me posting this update to help as writing everything out has always been a therapy for me.) But yeah thanks for your messages, and I'll try to reply to those of you I promised to keep updated for more relevant details. Update Post 5: September 26, 2024 (5 weeks later, 2 months from OG post) This is a very long post just as forewarning. I've been holding back posting this for a while, as whenever I begin to write, I cannot continue without having to stop. But now that over a month have passed, I think now is the best time to reflect. There might be parts in this post that don't make to much sense chronologically, but given that I've been writing and taking breaks over multiple attempts, some past tense might be off as to where I began and left off. When I said the crash of emotions would come, I was right, it was ugly, loud, and could have been easily prevented in parts. When I posted my last update, I was not in the right mental state, so reflecting on the week before and writing helped to calm my nerves. I'm also a bit embarrassed to admit that I started to smoke a bit again, but it also helped tremendously in my mental which was getting close to crash as of recent and without the help of my friends I didn't have much else to turn to, this breakdown was something I could not tell them since I didn't want them stepping in. There had been a point where my girlfriend was in a not so well mood during one of our outings to the city. After returning home, she had said I was being dismissive, and if I felt angry or upset with her. Trying to be better with communicating, I said that I was getting uncomfortable with her constant need of affirmation and affection, as it was continually constant. Given that she was still sleeping in the living room at night, I was getting no time alone to myself at all while at home, and after so many outings, I was starting to get physically and emotionally drained. Truthfully I felt physically tired more than anything, and given what my my coworkers and my girlfriend say, it tends to show on my face more worse then it is. My girlfriend seemed to take this heavily, and didn't attempt to talk with me for the remainder of the day, along with the next, but was in a much more brooding mood during the second. Maybe it would have been better to apologize or communicate better during that point, as it might have been the point that a lot of this could have been avoided if I said something, but I instead took the time to nap and spend time alone, which I had rarely the chance to for over a week. Then came the third day. A lot happened over the course of this day, and a lot was said, and this was where the breaking point occurred which caused further problems throughout the following week. I will try to be as thorough as I can remembering everything that happened, from the start of the day to the end. When I had woken up, I had left without saying goodbye or speaking to my girlfriend as I was almost running late, normally I at least check on her to see what she's doing before I leave. (She had been sleeping in our room for the last few days since her mood dropped.) My mood was higher than usual during work, as I was rested, had my alone time, and was just genuinely having a nice time at the hospital which didn't happen too often. There were a few times when my coworkers would go out to eat after work, and for the past few weeks I had been declining, but on this given day I had joined them, which led to me arriving home around 9 or later, it was pretty late and I had a few drinks. This is where I begin to have trouble writing. And where I usually stop. Arriving home, I see my girlfriend siting down in the living room, looking at me directly as I walked in, not saying a word. It startled me, and I asked what she had been doing, as she wasn't on her phone nor was she watching TV, just sitting as if she was staring at a wall before I had entered. She asked me where I had been, and I said I was out with friends. She immediately asked were they my friends from work? My girlfriend is aware that I work alongside mostly women, and I have brought up my friends in the past before our relationship broke down to this point. I said yes, I was with them and we had gone out to eat. She asked me if I had been drinking as well, I don't know if it was noticeable or not or just a random question but I said that I had. There was a period of uncomfortable silence that felt a lot longer in memory. She eventually brought up my month deadline on wether my feelings would change, and she asked if they have. It took me a minute to reply as that question had taken me off guard and I said I appreciated her efforts in what she was doing, but I was still unsure of our future together and couldn't give her a direct answer. She told me again that during our outings together, that I was being dismissive, and that she felt I wasn't putting in the same effort to make this relationship work. I asked what she meant, as I was going out with her whenever she asked and matching her effort in finding hobbies whenever she thought of something she enjoyed, to me it just seemed like something she was just saying out of neediness. I think it was at this point she started to lose her composure, as her voice couldn't remain constant. She told me if I was aware that I wasn't smiling when we were outside, that I was quiet and rarely talked when we were spending time together. I told her she already knew how I felt, so for some of it, my mixed feelings shouldn't come as surprise. But I also explained again my lack of talking was just from being tired from work, but I don't think she believed me. She told me she's constantly overthinking how I feel now that she knows I've lost feelings, and doesn't know what she can do to make them come back. I told her again to just find a passion for something anything, to get out of bed and be active with anything in her life. She says it's been two weeks and she's been as active as she can possibly be, to the point that it was causing her mental stress, but my mood wasn't improving, and she's wondering if anything will actually change now that it's closer to a month. And then came the full breakdown. Through tears and a broken voice, she tells me how much she loves me, how much affection and love she has given me throughout this relationship, just for me to throw it away over something as stupid as my conditions, as if it was just an excuse to end things, if I ever really loved her at all while we were together. She goes on to say that even with how upset she is at me, and how hurt and betrayed she has felt by the one person she has, that she still loves me and wants to continue our relationship. She tells me there will be nothing for her if I leave, no one, no place, no future, her will to live will be gone and she won't know what to do with herself. Now there's a lot I could have said during this, but I don't think I can accurately convey just how hard she was breaking down emotionally during this exchange. There were points as to where she was almost screaming, completely bawling, and it all just made me freeze, as this was the first time I've ever witnessed her fall apart at this level. She goes on again to say there's no reason to live if this is the end, it won't matter what job she gets, another month will not be a enough, and she knows I still won't want to be with her, and that she will have nothing. After everything was said, she locked herself again in our room, and stayed there for a few more days, whenever I tried to knock to initiate conversation, she screamed for me to go away, and I did. A few days later, she had finally calmed down enough to where we could speak to each other, and she changed her attitude 180. She still was still upset, but extremely apologetic in what she did and said, telling me that a lot of it was just in the moment and she didn't meant it. The days that I was finally able to spend alone, without her or my friends gave me the mental to finally do what I should have a month ago. I told her as gently and as calmly as I could that it was over, that there was no chance that we could be together at this point and I no longer wanted to be in a relationship. I told her I would let her stay for an additional two months until she could find a job and help her get on her feet. I also said that if she was unable to do anything by that time, then I would be gone and moved out. She started to cry again, but in a much more defeated manner that almost made me break myself, but she agreed to the terms, and it was finally done. She was able to get a job at a supermarket about a week afterwards, but only part time at first as that was all they were offering. After our final confrontation, our speaking terms were more or less dead, whenever she was off work she would be in her room alone for the remainder of the day and night, I had stayed on the couch as at this point I was pretty much used to it and didn't really mind it. It feels really wrong and selfish to say but I felt extremely free and happy for a bit, I didn't inform my coworkers about my breakup when it happened, and just continued to vaguely say that we were working on it, but during that time I frequently started going out a lot more with them after work, as staying in our apartment felt more like a chore and depressing. I had hit a high that I had not felt in a long while, and then everything came crashing on me the following week. I had contracted Pneumonia, and was off work for about two weeks to recover. At first I thought I had caught a cold, but one day it hit like a brick and my lungs felt at 50% capacity, I couldn't take a deep breath without going into a fit of coughing and I constantly felt fatigued, even now as I write this update with my most of my symptoms gone I still have to use an inhaler to help myself breath at times. For most of the days that I had been sick I was sleeping, most days between 12-14 hours, and the time that I was awake I was lying down. When I told her what I had contracted and she saw how sick I was she offered to let me have the bedroom again but I refused and said that I was fine. Since she was working part time there was still a lot of time that she was spending at home, and for the first few days she left me alone. But towards the middle of the first week I was sick she started to occasionally check on me to see if I was ok and if I wanted anything to eat. Honestly I hated that me being sick forced us to interact, not because I was mad or anything, but because it felt incredibly weird and awkward, and that I had to depend on her now for a few things not even a week after we had broken up. I didn't feel well enough to get groceries like I normally did, and since she already worked at a supermarket she insisted that she buy food instead, and when I gave her my card she refused it and said she would buy it herself. For the most part I was snacking on fruit and cookies, but she said if I was going to get better that I eat actual meals, so she began to cook for me even when I said I didn't want anything. Even with this, we didn't eat together for the first week as she went back to her a room after checking on me. But during the start of the second week of me being home, she started to sit down with me while I was awake and talk with me. She told me about her day at work and her coworkers, and a bunch of other stuff, It felt like a lot of it were things she wanted to tell me earlier but couldn't because everything was still raw. But when she started to talk she didn't stop and honestly I enjoyed listening to her talk about her day because it felt different. It went from talking to us watching TV together during nights that I couldn't fall asleep to us just talking about our issues that we've been holding to ourselves for a while. It was extremely cathartic and there was no yelling or arguing, just listening, it felt a way that we hadn't talked in a long time, not since from before we got together years ago when were friends and classmates. Sometime during the second week I had hit a point where I felt extremely ill and I didn't want to talk or do anything, but I couldn't sleep either because I kept on coughing. She didn't go to work that day and stayed beside me for a long while, we didn't talk at all but she made sure I was still eating and drinking water. There's a lot than can be said on how those two weeks made me feel about my situation with her and everything that had happened, but I can't convey them in words much less writing, but I'll just say it was a lot of time to think. Since I've recovered, I had been trying to make a bigger effort to talk with her, but at the same time not trying to make it feel forced as it may have felt a month ago. Just random conversations about random things, about how her photos were going, how work was doing, if she liked her a boss, just whatever. She spent less time in her room and more time in the living room with me when I had gotten home just talking about her day and work, customers and coworkers, and in turn I told her about my day. Gradually within these weeks it feels as if the transition of being in relationship to being friends is a lot more apparent, and it feels better and more organic this way as it's become easier to communicate. Even still though, there's a barrier between us, something that formed from our final argument, and it's hard to describe exactly what it is, but it's there. The deadline that I had formed for me moving out is at the end of October, as that's when my lease ends, I'll post another update around that time, this post has turned a lot longer than i thought, but it's nice looking back on everything and seeing how our situation has been changing for the better. If you're still around reading this, thanks for the continued messages regarding my situation, sorry if I couldn't reply in the meantime. submitted by /u/LucyAriaRose to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

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Looking for some simple quick and easy things. Not a lot of work or cleanup. What’s your go to? submitted by /u/RatFink_0123 to r/camping [link] [comments]

This happened about 10ish years ago but I was a boy scout with a bunch of friends. Every time we would go camping we would always just bring a bunch of snacks and eat those instead of hotdogs or standard foods. Our troop master got mad at us for only eating snacks and demanded we bring our own food next time since he was wasting money on food we didn’t eat. So my friends and I being the evil kids we were all brought an assortment of foods such as chicken tenders, corn dogs, and pizza rolls. The troop master was visibly upset stating none of these were real camping foods but the part that sent him was the fact that one of the friends we didn’t tell about the plan pulled out a sauce pan and 2 packs of ramen noodles. From then on our troop master didn’t have any problems with us bringing snacks! submitted by /u/chedderman87 to r/MaliciousCompliance [link] [comments]

I have a pretty sensitive stomach and originally had packed some lenny & Larry complete cookies, breakfast essentials, liquid IV and the like for my trip based on what people pack here and on YouTube. I tested out a Lenny & Larry Complete Cookie yesterday around lunch and I’m still farting the next day! I tried out liquid IV and it sent me right to the toilet. I think it’s the sugar alcohol in it. I’m looking for real ingredient cold camping meals, snacks and electrolyte mix ideas please. So far I have Granola Tuna packets Spread the love PB Trail butter Honey Any other suggestions would be greatly appreciated! submitted by /u/fatguybike to r/backpacking [link] [comments]

Howdy cooks! What are your favourite (car) camping snacks? Easy stuff to eat on a sunny afternoon by the creek or around the campfire? I'll start with some of mine. a packet of dry onion soup mix mixed into a container of sour cream to dip ruffle chips in garlic coil, cheddar cheese and crackers a frozen shrimp ring with cocktail sauce antipasto dip and crackers submitted by /u/-wheresmybroom- to r/Cooking [link] [comments]

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