Crockpot Meals

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My friend just had a baby and I wanted to bring her a meal she can throw in her crockpot or the oven. Please share your favorite meals you prepped or received after giving birth. She has two other kids under the age of 6 so bonus if it’s kid friendly.

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So I've been making this meal for years and I'm making it today for dinner and I thought I would share. I save the heels of bread loaves by freezing them, and whenever I get a lot of them I use them to make French Toast Casserole. I just shove the heels of the bread into my crock pot, I don't bother tearing them apart or breaking them up, I just shove them in until they fill all the space and fold pieces if necessary. When the crock pot is full of Frozen bread ends, I mix 6 to 9 eggs with some milk and sugar and pour the mixture over top all of the bread. The goal is to get as much of the mixture to soak into the bread as possible but you don't have to be perfect because the mixture will expand into the rest of the bread as it Cooks. I top the whole thing with more sugar and apple pie spice and squish the lid on before putting it on low for 3 to 4 hours. When it's done, I mix it, which breaks up the bread and makes the texture better, and then I serve the whole thing with maple syrup or chocolate syrup on top. It's perfect to make ahead for breakfast or brunch but also makes a great breakfast for dinner. It's also really affordable because you're using parts of the bread loaf that most people don't use, making it great for people who are trying to reduce food waste or lighten their grocery bill. The only thing that most people would need to buy for it would be the milk and eggs. It's also really easily customizable with whatever you have at home already. If you have white sugar, use white sugar. If you have brown sugar, use brown sugar. If you don't have apple pie spice you could use cinnamon or pumpkin pie spice or whatever you think tastes good on French toast. You can add vanilla or vanilla extract if you have it, just mix it into the egg and milk. You can add fruit like berries or raisins if you want. You can add chocolate chips or m&ms. You could even add bacon bits if you want it to be more Savory rather than sweet. ( I usually make bacon on the side to go with it). I usually make it whenever I'm getting low on groceries and need to get more because usually milk and eggs are some of the last things that I have in my fridge besides the frozen bread in the freezer. It makes a lot and it's very filling. I only have a small crock pot (about eight quarts) but a crock pot full of this stuff can easily feed my family of four while still having enough for leftovers. Imo it's something that literally everyone should know how to make. It's literally so easy to just save the pieces from the end of your bread loaf that you usually throw away and put them in the freezer. And whenever you have enough you can make it into a whole meal. submitted by /u/SkepticalPagan to r/strugglemeals [link] [comments]

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I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/Expert-Sample6563 Originally posted to r/AITAH AITAH for telling my wife that her shitty attitude was the reason her brother doesn’t speak to her anymore. Editor's note: added paragraph breaks and changed letters to names for ease of readability Trigger Warnings: racism, emotional manipulation, depression, obsessive behavior, stalking, accusations of abuse ---- Original Post: February 11, 2026 First of this is a throw-away account as I don't want my wife to find out I posted this. So this goes all the way back to last Christmas, when my (29M) wife (29F) and I first met my brother-in-law's (28M) girlfriend (23F). Now, just for general background knowledge, my wife has 5 siblings and out of all she has always been the closest to "Peter" meaning he would come over to our house at least 2x a week. He has a spare set of keys to our place in case of an emergency, and we even had an emergency key to his apartment. Everything was fine until last October, when we noticed that "Peter" stopped coming over. At first, I didn’t really care that much but then my wife said that he hardly even replied to her texts, which was concerning since "Peter" has a history of depression and sometimes withdraws from everyone when he hits a dark place. So one night after my wife got his voice mail 4 times and after my in law's confirmed that they too did not hear back from him, out of concern we drove to his apartment and used the emergency key. Usually, when "Peter" gets like this, his apartment looks a mess but to our surprise, when we walked inside, his place was spotless and smelled like a bath and bodyworks store. When my wife realized that he wasn't home she took the opportunity to snoop and that's when she found silk sheets, high end women's clothing, skincare, new appliances and meal preps in the fridge and realized that "Peter" had a girlfriend. As soon as we got home, my wife sent him a message telling him that we stopped by, and she even asked why didn’t he tell us he was seeing someone. Eventually "Peter" called back and apologized for being so distant and explained to my wife that he had been dating this girl "Sheila" for a while and the reason he didn’t tell us was because my wife is often too pushy and he didn't want her to be upset that he was dating someone she didn't put him on to (my wife has tried to set him up with her friends several times in the past). He also told us not to worry if he doesn’t stop by as much anymore and that he would introduce us to her when he felt ready. After that, we hardly ever heard from him until December when he told us that he was bringing his girlfriend "Sheila" to meet the family the day after Christmas. Honestly, I was happy for him. Yes, I missed hanging out but I was happy that the dude was living his own life. My wife, however, was furious saying that "Sheila" was probably the one making "Peter" distance himself from the family and that she made him buy all those expensive items we had seen at his place. When the day after Christmas came everyone gathered at my in-law's house to meet “Sheila” and everyone including myself were a bit surprised. “Sheila” was nowhere near his usual type. As my sister-in-law said she “gave off black cat energy” lol. I honestly thought that she was pretty nice, friendly to everyone, helped in the kitchen, cracked a few jokes and “Peter” seemed happy he was telling everyone about how he has been eating less processed junk and now craves cleaner meals and how “Sheila” takes him on her runs. Throughout it all however my wife looked noticeably annoyed and when I tried to speak to her she just brushed me off by saying that “Sheila” was trying to change “Peter” into someone he was not but despite everything she held her tongue. That night while my wife and I were having drinks with all her siblings the conversation steered towards everyone making a few jokes about “Peter’s” new lifestyle and how he must be whipped for his new girlfriend and how surprised they were that his type changed so much. It was all lighthearted until my wife offered “Peter” a second beer and he declined saying that he tries to drink less now because “Sheila” hates the smell of it. That led to my sister-in-law cracking a joke saying something along the lines of he better refuse the beer or else he wouldn’t get lucky that night. At that point I think “Peter” just had enough of the jokes and drank another beer just to quiet the others down. By 1am “Peter” had gotten pretty tipsy - 2 beers had turned into 5 and then he took the bait of the others jokes by revealing that “Sheila” actually wants to wait a while before they do anything together and immediately after he said that my wife told him “with the amount of sh*t you bought because of her you should be cracking that by now”- now if she had just left it there maybe he wouldn’t have gotten angry but she followed up with her being surprised because “Sheila” looks as if she gives it up pretty easily. . After that shit went down and “Peter” hasn’t spoken to my wife since December. No matter how many times I have tried to reason with her and tell her that all she needs to do is apologize she won’t hear it. She keeps insisting that she was the only one who cared enough to tell him the truth. Now she has been trying to turn her parents against “Peter’s” relationship by telling them that how “Sheila” posts designer bags and shoes on her Instagram and that she bets “Peter” is the one paying for it all. Last night I tried to tell her to stop saying things like that and that she should be happy for her brother but that escalated into an argument where she made a shitty remark about how I apparently don’t know what an older sibling looking out for their younger sibling looks like because my parents were too busy cheating on one another to make me a brother or sister. At that point after hearing that I couldn’t help myself and I told her that her nasty ass attitude was the reason “Peter” cut her off which made her cry AITAH for finally reaching the end of the rope and telling my wife the ugly truth? AITAH has no consensus bot, OOP received the majority of NTAs Editor's note: OOP did not leave any relevant comments in this original post Top Comments Commenter 1: So she called the woman a good digger, promiscuous tramp, and a controlling abuser. Gotcha. And she thinks she’s in the right. Got it. And now Peter won’t talk to her anymore because she was - checks notes - wrong, mean and incredibly gratuitously nasty about his girlfriend. All this because he doesn’t live like a slovenly bachelor, doesn’t drink as much, likes to eat healthier because he feels better when he does, and has taken up occasional running when he’s up for it. Your wife is a gaping asshole. She deserves this radio silence and a right up to the gates come to Jesus moment from Peter. But to answer your question, no you’re nta, she needed to hear it, she sounds like a honey badger in a fight she started “you wouldn’t know what happy family ties are because parents your parents were too busy cheating on each other”?!? Seriously? What are her good qualities my man? And how often do you have to remind yourself of them? Commenter 2: NTA. Your wife sounds pretty judgmental and controlling. She apparently likes to find a scab and rip it off. Not a good character trait. She needs to get it under control. Commenter 3: NTA Absolutely NTA. I'm wondering about your in-laws' family dynamic, teasing a family member with a history of depression because he's living a happier, healthier life? Pressuring him into binge drinking? Who does that to a person they love? Hell, who does that to anyone? Another thought is that your wife seems to not have any respect for boundaries; she doesn't seem to show much respect for her sibling, her sibling's partner, or you for that matter; she seems unaware of the effect her behaviour has on others; and she doesn't sound very nice. If you have or are thinking of having children with her in the future, you are getting a glimpse of how she's going to treat them and their future partners, ie, this is why your son/daughter is going to cut you both off in 30-someodd years and why you won't meet your grandchildren. I'm not saying this to be mean, I'm saying this because unless something huge changes, if you have kids with someone who acts like this those kids are going to bail when she blasts their partners and you'll lose them. If you don't plan on having kids then this is a much smaller problem. You might want to look into couple's counselling with the ultimate goal being helping her unravel why she acts this way and correcting it. She might never get her brother back, but it hopefully some good will come of it.   Small Update: February 12, 2026 (next day) Editor's note: OOP installed the same small update into the original post Small Update -12/02/2026: Hey everyone, I honestly didn’t expect to get this much feedback under my post but I just want to give a heartfelt thanks to everyone who offered advice. Now this isn’t an official update, but this is how things have progressed up until this point. After waking up this morning, reading your comments and doing some quiet assessment of the entire situation I decided to reach out to “Peter” not on behalf of my wife not to make excuses for her behavior, but to genuinely check in and make sure that he was truly doing okay and to let him know that despite it all if he ever wanted to talk I am here. It took a bit of convincing, but I will be meeting with him tomorrow during my lunch break. Moving onto how things are currently between my wife and I. Since that argument she has been very frosty despite the fact that I have tried to apologize to her all day long. Before she left for work, I told her that I was sorry for the way I phrased my words and that I would like it if we could sit down, think about the situation rationally, and look at each other's perspectives to gain a better understanding. I told her that I really didn’t want Valentine’s Day to come with us still at odds with one another. That however just led to another argument apparently to her it seems as if I am playing devil’s advocate for “Sheila”. I tried to explain to her that I am just being honest in my opinion based on that one meeting. I don't think that “Sheila” is a gold digger or even trying to change who “Peter” truly is. I told my wife that “Peter” is just doing what a lot of guys do when they find someone they truly connect to, they make changes to better themselves for the person they care about. But I guess I was just lighting the match for the fire as my wife responded by saying that apparently, I am only giving a good assessment because I find “Sheila” attractive. I reassured my wife that she is the only woman I find attractive but by that point she just scoffed and left for work. This evening after she got back home from work, she said that she had a late lunch with her friends and wasn’t in the mood for dinner. When I tried to bring up our earlier discussion she told me that she now knows that I would never take her side or trust her instincts. After that she said that she couldn’t believe I don’t see why she is so concerned for “Peter” and went to bed. So yeah that’s the way things are for now. Most likely I will update after I catch up with “Peter” tomorrow. Once again thank you to everyone for your insight Editor's note: OOP did not leave any relevant comments in this small update Top Comments Commenter 1: I’d be very concerned about what your wife said to you. Either her trust in you is gone, or she’s willing to say that to you in the heat of the moment. To hurt you, to convince you that you’re wrong? I can’t think of a reason that isn’t concerning. It’s a problem that she’s so fixated on this. It’s a problem that she can’t accept you having a different opinion. It’s a problem that she treats another person like she treats her brother’s girlfriend without some strong justification. It’s a problem how she treats you. It’s a problem that she is avoiding any resolution. Commenter 2: Honestly your wife sounds nasty. Is she always this degrading of other women? It's showing huge insecurity, which is wild cause this is her brother??   Update #2: February 17, 2026 (five days later from the first update) Update: AITAH for telling my wife that her shitty attitude was the reason her brother doesn’t speak to her anymore. Hey guys it’s been a while. Honestly, I wish I had a happier update to give, but it seems like every time I try to take one step forward, I just end up taking three back. My lunch with “Peter” went great, actually. There was no fuss or stress. At first we talked about work, the family, and then we gradually shifted the conversation to how things lay with him and my wife. “Peter” said that my wife was way out of line in suggesting that his girlfriend was a gold digger and if she and the rest of their siblings had let him get a proper sentence out during their conversation during the holiday period, he would have set them straight and told them that “Sheila” has her own money and buys basically whatever she wants. Apparently, he said that “Sheila” even owns a small business back in her home country and earns a decent living for herself here. He admitted that, yes, he buys her gifts, as all boyfriends do for their girlfriends, but those gifts aren’t the reason she is with him. “Peter” said that he and “Sheila” truly enjoy one another's company. He said that, yeah, he went out and bought new stuff like an air fryer for his apartment, but that was because he genuinely wanted those items. He said that “Sheila” has been teaching him how to cook simple stuff in the crockpot he bought, so that he won’t turn to DoorDash when she isn’t there to make meals. I learned that “Sheila” has her own appliances in her apartment. What came as a surprise to me, though, was the fact that “Peter” told me he asked “Sheila” to move in with him, but she declined his offer. He said that her reason was that she doesn’t believe in living together before marriage, and she also thinks that it is way too soon, and she doesn’t want him to feel suffocated. It’s shocking because they have been dating for like 9 months (I think?) and to me personally, that seems too soon to ask, but hey, to each their own, they are both adults. Out of care and because I read a few comments suggesting that “Sheila” could possibly be manipulating “Peter” by withholding sex, I casually mentioned to him that if he ever wants to talk about anything, be it ribs or relationship trouble, I am here. I also just kind of told him that it was good that he and she were waiting a bit and getting to know one another on a serious level before doing anything together. “Peter” said that they wanted to wait because apparently “Sheila” doesn’t have much experience in that department, and after hearing that, I just wrote off the entire conversation because, honestly, as long as he isn’t in trouble or being manipulated, I am good; they could wait for 5 years as long as they are happy. Out of care, I also asked “Peter” if “Sheila” has made changes as well since their relationship began, and he said that her diet has changed a bit now because of him. He said that once every 2 or 3 weeks (I think?) He takes her to one of his favorite take out places, and they get his old go to order. He said that she watches videos and stuff about fish because she knows he has an interest in fish tanks etc. During the course of the conversation I learnt that before “Peter” blocked my wife she would send him unhinged messages just raging about how wrong “Sheila” was for him and how she was “driving him away from the family so he can be isolated” (He laughed after I read that message because he said that “Sheila” has actually been trying to ensure that “Peter” feels like he has a support system outside of her. He said that she cooked a whole spread for him and his friends so they could watch during the Super Bowl. She even left after cooking, even though they insisted she stay and watch with them, just so he could spend some time alone with his friends). The messages didn’t stop at that, my wife had even told him that “Sheila” was probably just using “Peter” for citizenship and that she wanted to escape her “third world country home” (Peter said that was the message that solidified his decision to block my wife. All of her messages were completely unfounded, he said that “Sheila” has been a citizen for a few years now and that she actually has a pretty good house back in her home country). Peter said that Sheila has actually been more open to forgiving my wife than him, that she is very family oriented and hates the idea that others think she is trying to isolate him. Moving on to the current status of my marriage. My wife has no idea that I met with “Peter” on Friday. I would have told her but when I got home that evening she was in a pissy mood because apparently one of her friends said something insensitive. Dinner Friday night was a little less charged I tried to stay clear from talking about “Peter” or “Sheila” but the messages she sent “Peter” about his girlfriend’s home country still lingered in my mind because yes I know my wife can be negative at times and downright mean when her temper flies but the way how she phrased her sentences was downright disgusting like some sort of MAGA asshole (It struck a particular nerve because my own mother married left her home country and married for citizenship. My wife is aware of this fact, and she is also aware that I respect all the choices my mother made as it took extreme bravery to come to the US with nothing in your name but some savings). Saturday came around, and that was when shit hit the fucking wall. We weren’t the best, but things were somewhat calm when my wife decided to rant about the entire situation with “Peter” again. I tried my very best to shut it down by saying that yes, I know it still bothers her, and I want to try and see how she can try and rebuild her relationship with her brother, but not on Valentines day. For a minute or two, she was quiet. I thought that she agreed and that she wanted us to have a nice day, but turns out the only reason she was quiet was because she was looking at “Sheila’s” Instagram. I tried to shift her attention away. I asked if she was excited to see where I was taking her. I asked if she wanted to get dessert at the restaurant or at home. She just brushed me off until I finally had enough and told her to stop being weird and that most people don’t spend hours obsessing over their brother’s girlfriend. She shot back by saying I don’t care about her or her family and that I am apparently “allowing” her brother to get taken advantage of just because a pretty woman happens to be doing it. I took a breath, and I told her calmly that I do care about “Peter,” but I trust him and his ability to think for himself, and that there is a simple way for her to quell her worries; all she has to do is apologize to her brother and ask for the chance to get to know his partner. She said that she doesn’t need to get to know “Sheila” because she apparently knows girls like “Sheila” who survive off of and I quote “nuts and shitty low carb food”. I just gave up and told her that she would drive herself mad. We did go out for Valentine’s, but the vibe just was not there. This evening when she gets home I am going to ask her to attend couples counseling with me, or if she prefers, individual therapy, because this is becoming too much. I hope that my next update is better. Thanks for all the advice again. Editor's note: Update #2's body text was also installed onto another sub due to the original sub's update rules Relevant Comments Commenter 1: I read / commented on your first post. And now with this update I will reiterate… Why are you with someone who sounds so awful? Your wife is a bitter, shallow and likely racist AH. Divorce the wife and befriend the bil and his gf. They sound like much better company to keep. OOP: Hey I know that this sounds like a pretty shitty excuse, but my wife and I have been together since we were 22. We got married when we were 25. She has carried me through some dark times, especially the death of my parents. From the get-go I knew that she had a pretty close relationship with her siblings, but I didn't envision this. Back when we fell in love she wasn't so angry, her words weren't so bitter, she generally wasn't such a hateful person. Sure she and "Peter" have always been close, but I have never genuinely seen her act this way towards one of his girlfriends before and I am just dumbfounded. I guess the main thing keeping me here is the hope that she returns to the fun loving easy going person she used to be Commenter 2: Has your wife always been racist or is this a new thing? NTA. OOP: I swear this has to be a new thing. We have been together for 5+ years and during all that time, I have never heard her make a single racially charged remark. Sure in the past she made shitty comments about my family but nothing racist. Is OOP's family the same race as Sheila? OOP: No my family is primarily Hispanic, but Sheila is Punjabi   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

Hi guys! As stated, looking for super easy and minimal ingredient crockpot meals. I am a terrible cooker and hardly home so truly looking for as easy as they get! I’ll share my favorite too :) Buffalo chicken, I put it on Hawaiian rolls or just eat it as dip with Wilde protein chips 3 chicken breasts 1 block of Philadelphia cream cheese 2 tbsp ranch seasoning 1 cup Frank’s buffalo High for 2 hours perfectly shreds the chicken and done! submitted by /u/Own_Spray_5961 to r/slowcooking [link] [comments]

I just saw a post on another platform and the author was saying that it’s not just that men expect women to plan and cook every meal, they also lay claim to all of the food. They eat without care for any of the other people in the house, put empty containers back in the fridge, and when women ask specifically for food to be saved, they leave a few bites, just to let you know they ate their fill. At first I thought this was crazy, but now I realize how present it’s been in my relationship. One of our first big fights was over the fact that he ate a whole box of granola bars that I’d planned to eat as part of my lunch during the week. And he kept saying that I was making a big deal out of nothing and I could just buy more. I didn’t have the knowledge at the time, but it’s clear he was gaslighting me. And now, even as our relationship is ending, he’s still doing it. Last night I made food in the crockpot. Today he calls me at 5 and asks what’s for dinner, and I say leftovers. Then he says that he ate it all, and he’s going to the store, so what do I want to cook for dinner. I told him to figure it out because I already did my part when I made enough for leftovers. When he got home, I said I’d already eaten cereal, so he’s pouting and clanging around in the kitchen making eggs. This has been a constant issue in our relationship. Just a total disregard, not just for the other person, but for the work that goes into cooking. Like I can just pull new dinner plans out of my ass at 5pm. Like it’s my job to just keep making food and not getting any of it. I just can’t imagine eating all of the leftovers without checking with the other person. submitted by /u/mb83 to r/TwoXChromosomes [link] [comments]

About 30 meals here. A combination of ground chicken, baked sweet potato’s, green beans, baked chicken breast, green lentils, black beans, chickpeas, and brown rice. Not pictured: 80 protein balls (dessert) 8 servings of spaghetti Bolognese, 1 crockpot of chili, and 8 servings of beef tacos for my daughter. It took me all day and I had a blast. It feels so good knowing my family will be eating well while I’m gone! Thanks for viewing! submitted by /u/Which_Boot2646 to r/MealPrepSunday [link] [comments]

Hi all, I need some help figuring out some EASY crockpot meals to cook for my mom that she can replicate. Like no additional dishes or very minimal. I’ve tried making things in the past (and showing her how I made it) that I thought were simple. I’ve tried giving her meal plans. I’ve tried simplifying everything down, but she just won’t do it. Needs to be low fat (no-gallbladder friendly) and ideally higher in protein. Also open to high protein low fat desserts. Thank you! Sincerely, A very frustrated adult child of a petulant senior submitted by /u/rainybitcoin to r/EatCheapAndHealthy [link] [comments]

I don't consider myself to be a particularly picky eater. Human, sure. There are foods that I don't like. I'll even admit that outside of shrimp and crab, seafood is a no go for me. I've never been able to stomach fish. No, they way you make it isn't going to be an exception. Yes, that type of fish you claim doesn't taste fishy absolutely does. I also have fairly delicate American sensibilities when it comes to organ meat, but I can be talked into trying it. My (27f) boyfriend (31m) disagrees with me. To hear him describe my food habits, you'd think I was a dino nugget and mac n cheese girlie because of two things. The first is that I don't cook super spicy food at home (the operative word being cook. I like spicy food). The second being that I won't order sushi when it's his turn to pick where we eat out. He wants to be able to order a bunch of different rolls and share. All of this has come up twice this week somehow. On Wednesday I made a simple pasta dish that pissed him off for some reason. It was just penne with jarred marinara and mushrooms I sauteed in butter and garlic before going in the sauce. It was served with roasted asparagus and store bought garlic knots on the side. It wasn't the most exciting meal. It was also the middle of the week, and I just wanted to eat. Queue the grumbling and the pulling out multiple bottles of hot sauce from his collection. Cool, douse it in Dr. Donkey's Atomic Ass Ripper Psycho Sauce if you want to. Don't sit and bitch about it the entire meal, please. Which he did. Yesterday is what really pissed me off. He wanted to go out for sushi. Normally I'm okay with that because most places have things I'll eat like tempura, miso soup, some kind of noodle dish, etc. Except he found a new place that's supposed to be great with a very streamlined menu that's almost entirely sushi. I like miso soup, but it's not dinner. I could order a non-fish roll, but I don't love the taste of nori, and I just wasn't in the mood to pay for the pleasure of eating something I don't enjoy. This started a huge argument about how picky I am. Seeing as how my counter offer for where to go was either Indian or kbbq, I just don't see. Ironically, I think he's pickier than I am. He won't eat anything made in a crockpot because of the texture. Absolutely no soup. He doesn't like most fruits unless we're talking about strawberry milkshakes. He acts like me eating olives is a war crime, and don't you dare suggest something with cabbage, kale, bell peppers, or any type of bean in it. And all of that is fine with me even if I'd love to be able to throw shit together in the crockpot before work for dinner. Am I off base here? I know seafood is a wide category that does limit things. I could have sucked it up and forced down a tempura roll. I can try to cook spicer at home to appease him a couple nights a week because as I said, I like spicy food. It's just frustrating to be accused of being so picky when I feel like I'm not. AITA? submitted by /u/Quirky_Section_5768 to r/AmItheAsshole [link] [comments]

I am still NOT the Original Poster. That is Empty_Researcher_348. She posted in r/TrueOffMyChest, r/legaladvice and her own page. Previous BORU here. New updates to the sub marked with ****\*. Thanks to u/Dazzling_Past1141 who commented on the OG BORU to remind me to check for updates! Do NOT comment on Original Posts. This is a fairly long post. Trigger Warning: std; infidelity; harassment; stalking; vandalism; Mood Spoiler: sad and frustrating; OOP will be ok Original Post: October 23, 2023 (deleted by mods of TOMC, preserved on OOP's page) My husband has ruined both our lives by asking me to double up his lunch serving for work. I’m on a throw away because I still haven’t fully decided on divorce but I’m 95% sure on it. Me f26 and My husband m25 and I have been married for almost two years and have a 6month old baby. I work part time only to supplement our income and to pay for the legal process of getting him documented. We are very fortunate that it seems it may be an easy process of maybe 2 years max for his residency but now I’m going to cancel everything and ask for a divorce. My routine used to be I wake up 1.5hours before him in the morning and make him lunch and pack everything for him for work and have his breakfast coffee and clothes ready for him to wake up, eat get dressed and head out with in 30mins. He used to be satisfied with what I packed him of freshly made chicken in either honey buffalo, lemon pepper and salad or some sort of chicken wraps ect. Pure healthy food. I did this because I wanted to make his life easier and show him I cared and love him and I’ve done this since we first moved in together more then 3 years ago. Well recently I’ve had to start including dinner leftovers because he started asking for more food that he was still hungry afterwords, which I thought it was odd because no matter if I work or not he always comes homes to prepared food so even if he wasn’t full he would be okay. But I explained it off with maybe he’s bulking or something. So I started including what I normally take to work which has caused me to either go without lunch and having to wait til after work or be late for work because I have to wait till the food is ready and take some because I’m breastfeeding and can’t miss eating every time(I’ll leave food going such as in a crockpot or low heat depending how long after I leave he gets home) Well last week when I was packing his lunch I found a unrecognized second fork in his lunchbox and was thrown off so I asked and he said he found it in the kitchen of his work and brought it home. (Odd why didn’t he just leave it?) I had noticed small changes in him that I gaslighted myself into I’m being insecure because I just had a baby but this made the pit of my stomach churn. So a few days later I decided to go to his work during lunch to “surprise him” with dessert 🍮 and for him to see the baby. Well that was when I found out why he wanted more food. His coworker he told me no longer worked there, who I’d caught him talking too friendly to and I told him it bothered me and I had him remove from everything and block on whatsapp not only still worked there but was eating the lunch I freshly prepared for HIM and he was eating the leftovers. I didn’t cause a scene instead took pictures and added to my folder of everything he’s done before from simple hearting other girls stories after telling me he didn’t to naked pictures of a coworker from a previous job he got fired from because of her. I drove home crying to packed my things when I got home I took the bassinet and anything I’d need for the baby and my essentials and went to my sisters and BILs and told them everything and even showed him our conversations from WhatsApp where he told me she no longer worked there. I normally text him through the day so he started texting me and calling me to see if I was okay and what was for dinner? He was almost off is everything okay? And then he got to the house a hour earlier than usual (which also has me question if he’s been lying about what time he gets off too) and saw mine and the babies things gone. And my letter that he had 7 days to leave my house (my mom gave it to me when I was 20) and that he can communicate with my mother to see the baby when I’m at work or whenever he wants to see her just let her know and I’ll drop off the baby with her. I for the time being don’t want anything to do with him. And I left the printed fotos of them eating lunch laughing together under the letter. Later that night when I decided I no longer wanted anything to do with him I informed the lawyer (we had a group WhatsApp chat with me him, the lawyer, paralegal and my BIL (our cosponser)) that I no longer was going to need his services. And then messaged the lawyer privately to ask if I could maybe move our contract and the money I’ve paid so far over to his divorce and family practice. He said unfortunately no there’s some clause or something that if we decide to no longer pursue the case we lose the money we’ve invested and also that his immigration practice is a partnership with different people then his family one. But he will just leave our case open till we get a response for our next appointment from the government and if we haven’t worked things out by then, then he will cancel everything. Well this cause him to go insane because now if he doesn’t get papers he has to choose between his daughter and parents. To either risk never seeing his parents and family again or never seeing his daughter again if he goes over there. He’s begging me to the point I blocked him on everything, he’s came to my BIL house and been told to leave or we are calling police then he later came back drunk with his buddies who then were all scared off by my BIL and his shotgun. I feel so lost, broken and depressed. I also have security at work to make sure he doesn’t show up at my office. My sister tells me to leave him but not to divorce so he can never get with anyone else and get papers but I can’t do that to him. Ive gone back home (only to check on the house and see if he’s gone im still staying with my sister) and surprisingly there’s no damage to anything and his things (only) are gone. So at least I feel a little relief in that. I’m not looking for advice I know I’m not going back, there is no longer any trust, my mental health wouldn’t be safe in that relationship, and I know I can’t have my daughter grow up with that kind of relationship being an example. I just needed to put this out there in order for it to solidify in my brain and to be able to reflect that this is now a pattern and he’s gone beyond disrespecting me by now also making me make HER food. I’ve been budgeting trying to make things last, sometimes eating less then I want to or skipping meals if possible (if a meal was heavier of carbs I’d skip since I should have enough for my milk supply) all to be able to pay bills, lawyer his gym membership and supplements. I lose out on rest and sleep because I ensure laundry and the house is kept spotless while the baby sleeps. I’ve basically gone from an independent educated career woman to a 1950s house wife with a job and school, all because I blindly fell for this man. When I say I feel stupid that’s an understatement. Anyhow TLDR: my husband had me (his breastfeeding wife) skipping meals and going out of my way to make him an extra lunch for his side chick at work. And now I have the house cars and he’s lost his nuclear family and ability to get a green card to be able to stay in the states and/or see his family in Mexico ever again. Edit: My phone seems to post it without paragraphs no matter what I do but I promise i tried to format it even though I was an emotional mess. This time I double spaced the paragraphs to see if that helps idk if it’s my phone or what. Some things I want to clarify I’ve been seeing in the comments. No my sister isn’t pushing me to stay in a relationship with him, she’s telling me not to divorce him so that he can’t just go find another woman to marry and use for the green card. No im not taking anything from him that wasn’t mine before we got married. Before me he lived in a house with 7other men sharing a bedroom with a bunk bed, and he drove a 2000 Buick he had to unplug from the battery in order to use it again. That car got scrapped after the electrical when out. The car he is using is my car I got in high school that got me through high school part time /seasonal jobs and community college. Also my mom isn’t dead, she gave me my childhood home because I was going to college and it’s 10minute commute from the college. She gave it to me because I’m the last of the kids all my brothers and sisters are at least 10 years older and aside from my sister who’s helping me, they all live in different states. He left home with a motorcycle his customizing, his gaming systems, clothes and the guest bedroom tv which was the only tv that was not mounted. Also I’m not keeping his daughter from him. I just personally don’t want to see him because I know he will try to give me a ton of excuses and try to make me “understand” him. He can speak to my sister or mom and they will supervise him to see his daughter whenever he wants to. There is no battle in that. I don’t think he’s a bad father but I just don’t think my relationship with him is the example I want to give my daughter. Yes, I am Mexican too, my dad came to the states and then later brought my mom and 2 brothers 2 sisters. Took a decade to see each other again which is why I’m so apart from my siblings and the only one born here. Relevant Comments: Their relationship I’ve been told by my sister to inform everyone that this was my first actual long term relationship. She says that may give people a clue as too why I was so naive. It was also very early in the relationship and we weren’t living together yet. I met him when I was traveling around to local jobs where it was known immigrants worked to post and inform them of local resources to help them with medical insurance, free clinics and ESL programs for children and adults. I was working for a seasonal daycare program for agriculture workers. How are you going without food if you both work and own your own home? He makes below minimum wage due to undocumentation, I work part time minimum wage because I can’t be away from the baby due to breastfeeding. He also sends money to provide for his parents and younger siblings Why did putting more food in his lunch cause budgeting issues? Yes, I was budgeting in order to be able to save money for the lawyer expenses but now that I look back it was basically him paying bills and pocketing the left over for gym and supplements plus tools/paints and whatever while my paycheck was going to groceries, his family in Mexico and diapers. And yes, I feel really stupid, naive and blind What would get you more child support- him getting a green card and permanent job here or not? Basically when should you divorce? This may be the numbness in me talking at the moment but I don’t need his money he can contribute by buying her diapers clothes and whatever necessities. Now that I’m not catering to him I can leave my part time paper pushing job and find a good daycare for my daughter go back to teaching. I might also just sell my second car and lower my car payment. Full time job and one less person in my home also means lower utilities since it’s less utilities being used at home. No mortgage, no stupid expenses on random gym crap/ $40 membership, just protein creatines and supplements was at least $150 a month not to mention whatever he was doing to that junk motorcycle. My sister and mom have talked me through finances and my BIL said I could honestly keep my part time job get on government benefits and spend more time with my daughter but I think mentally I need to go back to teaching, and feel the independence of being self reliant again. Food stamps feels like it’s just one thing he will throw in my face. Idk if I’m trying to hold on to what little bit of pride I have left or it’s just the anger I have inside that I wanna show him and his chick I am better without him. To another commenter: If I continue with the process I’ll be legally and financially responsible for him for years to come. Supervised visits is due to him never being more the. 3 hours (aka one bottle fed) alone with the baby. Also the fear of him taking my child to another country now that he’s loss everything here and he may just decide to go to Mexico a place where he can’t come back unless he risks his life again, is very real." The other woman: Idk she doesn’t have anything to offer she doesn’t have a legal status either because she overstayed her visa to my understanding from a coworker of his I went to school with. According to her that woman is younger, no legal status or education, no English and she’s already gotten in trouble for being inappropriate in the work place before and if there is proof that they are being inappropriate that will be a strike against him and firing against her. Apparently she likes to call herself “one of the guys” because she’s a woman who works in a male dominated job and degrades women making jokes with the men. Update Post: November 9, 2023 (almost 3 weeks later) Sorry it’s been a while since I updated anyone, I’ve been busy sorting out my life and this was supposed to be a throwaway so I didn’t expect it to blow the way it did much less anyone to actually want updates. -I guess I’ll start with the most asked question which was if I left him? Yes, I also got a full check up and I indeed had an infection I was lucky I could treat and be good without any further issues. This also confirmed his unfaithfulness because as I mentioned I had a baby not long ago and during the whole pregnancy they checked me for everything and they had done a full panel when I was 3months postpartum because I got a UTI and my doctor wanted to ensure it was only that. -Did I talk to him to get his side of the story? Yes, when I went to tell him about the infection I allowed him to speak his mind about everything I only asked him for the truth as there wasn’t anything else for him to ruin, it was completely over at this point. And here’s a basic tldr: • He never meant to hurt me, he loves his daughter and me •he enjoyed the attention it was something new and exciting •it took his mind off the stress of bills, kid, my “emotional” state and the general routine his life •life had gotten boring and she entertained him (I’m sorry that your wife organized your previously chaotic life) That’s about what I believed to be true out of the couple of hours of begging, excuses, gaslighting, and even blaming. The rest was: •The infection is a common one that happens because of cow 💩 everywhere and because he goes out and pees outside without washing his hands or something 🙄 •She doesn’t like men she was just one of the guys (cmon really??) •I only gave her lunch that day! It was just the one time that she forgot her lunch and she asked me because she saw I had two lunches 🙄 •He would never stand so low to break his family why would I make such assumptions (oh so you knew what you were doing) Once I showed him my MyChart with my results and explained how it’s not a normal infection like ecoli that you can get because of poop and it was an actual transmissible infection. I also explained that I hadn’t slept with anyone since we met! And how my doctor explained that if I would have had any kind of transmissible diseases I would have known during my pregnancy because not only is it common practice to test for all risks but my high risk pregnancy and preterm labor she tested for all kinds of things to see if she could find the cause of issues and afterword to find the cause of preterm labor. He admitted it shortly after that he listened to me and saw my drs note (I’ll add I have the best obgyn and she was amazing in listening to me and allowing me to cry and gave me not only support during that moment with even having a nurse take my daughter out for me to cry but also printed me information and ensured me that a simple medicine will make it all go away and I should not see any more issues) Anyhow He’s staying at the dairy at some trailer the owner let him borrow and for those who thought she would take him in turns out she’s engaged and she is about to start her wedding and do a adjustment of status (get her papers) Anyways I’m back to living on my own, my baby is doing great, I have another office job lined up for January, and I have a few universities I’ve applied to, I’m currently going to community college online but if I get into a uni I think I’ll move out of this town, my grandma said she would move with me to help me. Some days are long like today it’s late at night and I can’t sleep because I miss him. But I’ve been entertaining myself getting rid of stuff in my home to start a new slate and organize everything. I won’t lie and say I’m doing great. On my days off I don’t get out of bed. My house is clean but my bedroom has my laundry basket over full and I brought out the guest blankets and pillows to use. People at work have noticed a slowed pace in my work and I was offered time off but I denied it. Although now that somehow the rumor of what happened has reach my job I may take it. Thank you for all the support everyone. Although I had a few people call me names and talk badly to me in my messages, I appreciate the other people who commented nice things and showed me support. ………………………. Edit for update: Woke up to husbands call, he apologized again. I’m Still not budging, but he told me he was talking to some guys at work about free clinics or where they go when their sick and turns out that same woman has been sleeping with a few from there. Idk if around the same time but one of them told my husband where to get treated for free because he got it from her too. In his apology which sounded more sincere this time but I believe it’s worse because it’s only after he realized he wasn’t special to her just another one of the guys she slept with. But I say sincere because he didn’t have many excuses instead he seemed to hold himself accountable by saying he had won the lottery and messed up. He begged for a second chance because he doesn’t know what came over him. He says he hates coming home to an empty trailer he misses seeing his daughter the moment after work. What choked me up was when he said he used to feel more exhausted when he used to come home to us because the baby would be excited to see him and would cry to be held by him, and during the week I would often leave the same easy meals made for him so he could eat while I left to work and he started to feel tired of it. It was a boring routine of same foods during the week. Coming home and having to watch the baby so I could go to work. That solidified to me that I don’t ever want to find another relationship much less go back to him. The routine I worked hard to put my family together, was a chore to him. I literally dealt with a fussy tired child til he got home so she would mostly sleep and he would only need a single bottle for her but even that was too hard. He said he would give up the world just to be back into his routine because now he comes home to an empty trailer where it’s just a bed and a fold out table. He hasn’t eaten his diet because he doesn’t have time to prep. He started spending money on lunch because he doesn’t have food made for him. He says he misses the baby so much that he now cries when he goes home. I told him idk what to tell him about that, but if wanted to see the baby when I go to work he can go see her at my moms who now’s babysits for me. Knowing my mom she makes food and she would never deny him food so he can go over there and eat and be with the baby after work. But I had to go I couldn’t talked anymore. When I tell yall I’ve never cried so hard in my life, it’s an understatement. It doesn’t help it’s raining today. I think I’m calling into work today and tomorrow talking to my boss about taking those days. …….. Edit: November 10 (Same Post) I was logging off for a while but I figured I’d update everyone to let you know she found my home and started harassing me now. I guess somehow her fiancée found out and she thinks it was because of me. I feel like things are just going from bad to worse. I had to leave my car in my moms garage and borrow my nephews car which my neighbor let me park in her driveway because she threatened to ruin my car like “I ruined her relationship”, which isn’t just hypothetical but also ironic. Relevant Comments: What have you decided regarding legal aspects of this (ie green card)? I don’t want to make any legal decisions at the moment. I’m barely getting through leaving him, I don’t want to also put on too being responsible for my daughter to lose her dad. Because of his stupidity" Someone cautions her to not overly listen to reddit here, because this is a decision with huge ramifications. She should just do what feels right for her and her child: I feel like there’s no way out without severe damage. I feel like I’m in that bridge game from squid games except all tiles break at any decision just some have lesser consequences than the others. I currently don’t want to make ANY decisions because I feel safe in limbo atm because even though my logical reasoning understands if he gets deported it’s going to be from his decision my emotional reasoning feels responsible for it. I don’t want him back the betrayal and his dishonesty has broken any trust I could ever have and I don’t think it would be good for my mental health to continue a relationship like that. I grew up seeing my mom always asking and wondering if my step was cheating or not to the point my mom neglected us because she was so busy ensuring her husband wasn’t cheating. It turned a once loving caring involved mother into a toxic person who would take her daughters out at 3 am to go to shady neighborhoods to see if her husbands car was outside someone’s house. I don’t want that for myself or daughter. I saw cheating ruin my mother without her ever being unfaithful, I seen it destroy my sisters first engagement , I have seen my brothers bleed from aggressive cheating women who attack them for wanting to take their kids from toxic environments with drugs and other men. Cheating is something I don’t want ANY involvement in and I’ve seen what it does to people. But I also have that responsibility that I want my daughter to have her dad. So in the meantime I am having that distance because I KNOW what is better for her and I am trying my best to stick to the logical conclusion not the emotional one. No matter how much I miss him, but I tell myself I don’t miss this person talking to me. I miss the person who made me feel safe, loved and cared for. And even then I’m starting to look back and realize a lot of it was me in a delusional state thinking that him hugging me when I asked, me going to him for kisses, me cuddling to him, was all love. I felt safe with him not because he made me feel safe but because I thought i was. But looking back it’s embarrassing to say I was the one who did a lot of the instigating of affection. Maybe some of the people who messaged me saying I was I was psycho were on to something. I’m starting to feel like maybe I was in some delusional state and he was just using me." Legal Advice Post: November 10, 2023 (Same day as the edit in update post) Title: What do I need to file a restraining order in Texas? My husband cheated on me and the woman who he cheated with is now harassing me. Ig she was engaged and was about to go from a visa to residency because of her fiancée but somehow he found out about her relationship with my husband. She believes it was me but I don’t know who her partner is/was or who told him yet since like 4pm today she’s done the following: •punctured a hole in one of my tires •wrote on my front bay window “home wrecker” • keeps calling me from different numbers and now I’m starting to receive spam text messages after I blocked all of her numbers and stopped answering random numbers •threaten “I’ll ruin your car like you ruined my relationship ####” This is all since this afternoon. I called the police but by the time they showed up she was gone. And they said I had no prove of what’s she doing so unless they find her doing it or I have prove their hands are tied. My mom and step dad said they will put up cameras in my home and my mom is keeping my car at her home. They want me to stay with them too but I don’t want to leave my home incase she tries something against it. The most I was able to get is a police officer patrolling the area. Meaning they will be close by and randomly pass by. I’m not sure what to do, I don’t even know who her partner is and I’m already dealing with leaving my husband and now she’s harassing me? Any advice before it gets worse? *****New to this sub Comments****\* Commenter: Your situation is very similar to mine which started 15 years ago. I made the decision to stay to make sure he got his green card and stayed with his son in turn, I received so much abuse from him. He is a narcissist and he subjected me to all kinds of abuse. I stayed because of my son and finally decided to leave. I was waking him for 15 years and once I left he stopped contact with our child, so all the abuse I endured it was pointless. OOP: He was never abusive in any physical way but looking back I believe him to be very manipulative and immature. I don’t want to waste anymore time if it was possible I would go back and refuse to ever give him the time of day. It’s been the worst month of my life and going back or if I’d stay I can’t see it would have ever gotten better. I’ve loss so much hair from stress my milk supply has plummeted to the point I think I may need to supplement formula soon, my mom tells me to just switch to formula because all my stress is going to go to the baby. But we’ve had such a bad formula shortage I don’t want to. I don’t think my situation would have been any better if I would have stayed because I don’t think he would have changed his behavior just hid it better. My trust issues (which I had already prior to this whole mess) would have driven me into the same stress so I’m just give god thanks for him opening my eyes and not putting me in a worse situation. I’m sorry your ex was just as horrible and you feel all your suffering was pointless. I believe it tells how important your son was for you and how selfless you are. Update Comment: November 18, 2023 (8 days later, almost 1 month from OG post) Thank you. My baby and I are. Doing better. She’s doing okay atm but unfortunately I’ve started to show some physical symptoms of the extreme stress I’ve been going through. As of Wednesday I haven’t had anymore issues with the woman as my step dad put cameras up and the moment one of the cameras alerted me they captured movement I got on the phone with police. I’m not sure what she was planning but she spent enough time under my kitchen window and my laundry window that the police showed up and got her for trespassing now with my video evidence I’ve sent it to the guy who was originally our immigration lawyer who said he will be doing a immigration report on her and use my original picture of her “working” and my video evidence of her trespassing and idk what else to prove she’s not only in the country while her visa isn’t active but also working and doing illegal things. Idk what she wanted but if she would have left me alone I would not have done anything. I didn’t report to her fiancée or do anything against her. Everything naturally happened and now in order to protect myself I’ve had the lawyer report her for me. Update Comment: December 12, 2023 (about 1 month later, shy of 2 from OG post) TLDR: I’m okay, ex is still a ex, ex is still sleeping with others, harassment is less severe but now more people. Ex is either stupider than I thought or manipulating women to harass me. And the girl, my ex and all other illegal workers were fired but to my knowledge not deported. Now more detail is below ⬇️ We’re okay, I’ve been numb to the whispers and just waiting for the office closing days for holiday vacation to start so I can go to Mexico for a while til our office reopens mid January. I’ve made friends with my areas police officer so he comes by and sweeps the area often and even has had his wife come stay with me and help me with my daughter and help me stay safe. I quit posting because the post actually blew up enough to where she found out about it I guess I wasn’t vague enough. I guess her husband uses Reddit and after he found out about her cheating and drama he put two and two together and reached out to me and I was able to confirm it was him by phone and met in person to talk. [editor's note- this post did get a lot of traction on several different subs and was posted several places outside of reddit, including facebook, youtube, pinterest and tiktok. To me it's actually quite plausible someone found it] Turned out he actually reported her overstay but I guess somehow she didn’t get deported but she along with a few others including my ex were all fired from their job because of his report. According to him she won’t be able to ever renew her visa again because she came as a tourist which means she can’t work. He apologized for her craziness and offered to help me but I turned him down because his involvement might actually make it worse. My ex started sleeping around and I guess doesn’t learn his lesson. I don’t care anymore though I’ve come to peace he’s not the person I married. I’m so disgusted by him now that I don’t even like him kissing on my daughter. He does come to see her when my mom watches her more now that he got fired and is job haunting. I ask my mom that he leaves before I pick up because he will start crying the moment he sees me and tries to hug me. Police have been useless aside the friendly officer and his wife. It’s not just that girl now, it’s like 3 girls who are her friends plus a few others who have slept with my ex who harass me because he tells them he loves me and wants me back which I don’t know if he’s stupid or is manipulating them to attack me for him. Either way I’ve deactivated all of my social medias and the ones I do use are all private or with a different name so I can just use but I just don’t post. Sorry it’s long and boring. OOP adds: Also one of the people who was sending me hate messages saying I’m a psychopath I deserved the cheating and talking a lot of crap to me was her, her ex confirmed her account. Mini Comment Update: February 4, 2024 (1.5 months later, 3.5 from OG post) Shes finally stopped but I think it’s because she doesn’t know anything of where I live work or do. “Suspiciously “ when I quit informing my ex she also quit finding me. I only meet my ex in public now. Final Update Comment: February 6, 2024 (2 days later) Honestly I’m trying to focus on healing now. After everything I’m disgusted to think back of a time I slaved for him. I look at him and it’s just not the same. I used to see his green eyes and love his long lashes, now I notice his pimple scares and bad skin. I used to be excited for him to be home and try to think of something special to surprise him when he got home or what would get him to smile, now I just wonder how many time he was screwing around while I was fixing him something special or preparing everything for him to come home to a warm clean welcoming home. I never thought I would dread to have to see him or have anxiety when he’s near. I just focusing on myself now. submitted by /u/LucyAriaRose to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/CatlessBoyMom Originally posted to r/pettyrevenge Just desserts. Thanks to u/studying-fangirl for suggesting this BoRU Trigger Warnings: entitlement Original Post: December 1, 2024 For over 20 years I have hosted holidays at my place. My sister and her family moved out of state, but are close enough to come back for each holiday. Sounds great right? Well, not so much. Sister and her family always go to her in-laws place for the big meal, and since her MIL is not a great cook they just pick at the food then invade my place for "leftovers" aka the entire meal afterwards. Now you're probably thinking what's the big deal, right? Well the big deal is that it's gotten to the point my recipe for mashed potatoes starts with a 10 pound bag of potatoes, the turkey barely fits in the oven, the sides take up the entire counter, and I use an entire quart of cream for just desserts. It's a huge undertaking and not only does sister not contribute financially, she never even has the decency to let me know whether they are coming or when. This year I texted the family that my kids were going to make the meal for just us and if anyone wanted to join us afterwards I'd have dessert and only dessert to share. As usual I got a text from everyone else but nothing from sister. Rather than trying to chase her down, I "assumed" she had gotten the message and went on with my plans. The times comes and the kids put on a lovely meal. We eat and enjoy ourselves then pack up the leftovers. A few family showed up over the next hour and we chatted happily. Then it happens. The cars pulling into the driveway. Sister's family has arrived. They invade in usual style going round giving quick hugs before heading for the kitchen. It took less than 30 seconds before she's out (trying to be polite since there are still others there) to ask where the food is. Me: aren't the pies on the counter? The bread pudding is in the crockpot, the sauce is on the stove. Her: yes, but where's the food? At this point the others are starting to catch on to what's up, and trading glances. Me: I told everyone that we were only doing dessert. Did you not get the message? Her: you know we can't actually eat at MILs house. We were counting on eating here before we drive back. Me: well I think there should be fast food open somewhere between here and your place. Her adult kids were trickling out of the kitchen at this point looking around as if a turkey dinner is going to magically appear out of thin air and everyone else is practically holding their breath waiting to see what happens. She spewed some not nice comments about how they were probably not going to find anything open and it was my fault they were going hungry, told "the kids" to grab something to eat in the cars and stomped out. I don't know who lost their composure first, but I think it was my uncle who cracked and started laughing. Once we calmed back down the rest of us had quite the nice evening enjoying just desserts.   Just Desserts Christmas Update: December 26, 2024 (25 days later) The thanksgiving Just Desserts post is here if you want it https://www.reddit.com/r/pettyrevenge/comments/1h4l7iz/just_desserts/ My kids got word from their cousins that there was quite the blowup from my sister on their way home. Bad enough that all the kids ended up in one car so they didn't have to listen to her. I am of course devastated (ok not really) by her reaction. My text for the Christmas desserts drop in read something like this: It was so great seeing all of you that dropped in for desserts on thanksgiving. If you couldn't make it know that you were missed. It worked out so well that we would like to invite all of you to drop by for desserts on Christmas Day as well. We will start at 2:00pm on Christmas Day, drop in as you can. Everyone is invited for caroling and cocoa on Christmas Eve as well. We will be leaving at 6:00pm and it should only be about 2 hours. If you are going to attend either or both, please let me know which and how many people to plan for by the 15th. Love you all! Most of the families texted back right away. I didn't get a text from sister. (Shocking I know) What I did get was a phone call on the 19th AND one on the 23rd to let me know that "it isn't worth the extra drive time for desserts." Keep in mind the extra drive time is 15 minutes or so each way. Obviously this was an attempt to wrangle a meal invite. I'm quite proud of myself for just saying that I was going to miss her family and hoped they had a Merry Christmas anyway. (Both times) This summer I had spent a fair amount of time thinking that I wanted to make myself a throw blanket like the one I was making for sister for Christmas. After the call on the 19th, I took that lovely blanket out of the gifts and replaced it with a "book" of holiday recipes. Since I was feeling extra petty instead of making a nice book (laminated and illustrated pages, properly bound) I printed out the pages on plain paper and stapled them together. I mailed it Christmas Eve so she should be getting it in the mail in a few days. Her adult kids on the other hand had decided that dealing with their mom was a pain and they would be coming by for desserts without telling her. It was a rather nice surprise to get that text on the 14th. On Christmas Day they even managed to get their teen brother into the car before she noticed as they were leaving. Funny thing, they all got their regular Christmas presents from under the tree when they arrived. They also got an abundance of texts from their mother having an absolute fit that they had come to my house. The funniest one was her telling them that she and their father were driving home without them. As if THAT was somehow a punishment. (Insert eye roll of everyone present here) If you're wondering what recipes I chose to include in the cookbook, it's 25 pages of just desserts. Honestly I couldn't resist. Edit to add: The kids were absolutely hysterical as they took turns reading out the angry texts they were receiving. Update: It's the new year (January 3) and I still haven't heard a word (directly) from my sister. I got a text from my niece wanting to know where I purchased the hair accessories I gave her for Christmas. Evidently sister wants to buy some. It's been over a decade since I actually bought a Christmas gift for anyone other than my children. EVERY SINGLE ONE has been hand made, but I guess she never noticed. (Insert screaming here) Lucky for me (unlucky for her) the stones I used this year and last were all of that kind I had, so even if I wanted to I couldn't be suckered into making her a set. Not that I will be willing to make her anything at all for a very long time the ungrateful wench.   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I am NOT the Original Poster. That is u/Empty_Researcher_348. She posted in r/TrueOffMyChest and r/legaladvice Trigger Warning: std; infidelity; harassment; Mood Spoiler: sad and frustrating Original Post: October 23, 2023 (deleted by mods of TOMC, preserved on OOP's page) My husband has ruined both our lives by asking me to double up his lunch serving for work. My husband has ruined both our lives by asking me to double up his lunch serving for work. I’m on a throw away because I still haven’t fully decided on divorce but I’m 95% sure on it. Me f26 and My husband m25 and I have been married for almost two years and have a 6month old baby. I work part time only to supplement our income and to pay for the legal process of getting him documented. We are very fortunate that it seems it may be an easy process of maybe 2 years max for his residency but now I’m going to cancel everything and ask for a divorce. My routine used to be I wake up 1.5hours before him in the morning and make him lunch and pack everything for him for work and have his breakfast coffee and clothes ready for him to wake up, eat get dressed and head out with in 30mins. He used to be satisfied with what I packed him of freshly made chicken in either honey buffalo, lemon pepper and salad or some sort of chicken wraps ect. Pure healthy food. I did this because I wanted to make his life easier and show him I cared and love him and I’ve done this since we first moved in together more then 3 years ago. Well recently I’ve had to start including dinner leftovers because he started asking for more food that he was still hungry afterwords, which I thought it was odd because no matter if I work or not he always comes homes to prepared food so even if he wasn’t full he would be okay. But I explained it off with maybe he’s bulking or something. So I started including what I normally take to work which has caused me to either go without lunch and having to wait til after work or be late for work because I have to wait till the food is ready and take some because I’m breastfeeding and can’t miss eating every time(I’ll leave food going such as in a crockpot or low heat depending how long after I leave he gets home) Well last week when I was packing his lunch I found a unrecognized second fork in his lunchbox and was thrown off so I asked and he said he found it in the kitchen of his work and brought it home. (Odd why didn’t he just leave it?) I had noticed small changes in him that I gaslighted myself into I’m being insecure because I just had a baby but this made the pit of my stomach churn. So a few days later I decided to go to his work during lunch to “surprise him” with dessert 🍮 and for him to see the baby. Well that was when I found out why he wanted more food. His coworker he told me no longer worked there, who I’d caught him talking too friendly to and I told him it bothered me and I had him remove from everything and block on whatsapp not only still worked there but was eating the lunch I freshly prepared for HIM and he was eating the leftovers. I didn’t cause a scene instead took pictures and added to my folder of everything he’s done before from simple hearting other girls stories after telling me he didn’t to naked pictures of a coworker from a previous job he got fired from because of her. I drove home crying to packed my things when I got home I took the bassinet and anything I’d need for the baby and my essentials and went to my sisters and BILs and told them everything and even showed him our conversations from WhatsApp where he told me she no longer worked there. I normally text him through the day so he started texting me and calling me to see if I was okay and what was for dinner? He was almost off is everything okay? And then he got to the house a hour earlier than usual (which also has me question if he’s been lying about what time he gets off too) and saw mine and the babies things gone. And my letter that he had 7 days to leave my house (my mom gave it to me when I was 20) and that he can communicate with my mother to see the baby when I’m at work or whenever he wants to see her just let her know and I’ll drop off the baby with her. I for the time being don’t want anything to do with him. And I left the printed fotos of them eating lunch laughing together under the letter. Later that night when I decided I no longer wanted anything to do with him I informed the lawyer (we had a group WhatsApp chat with me him, the lawyer, paralegal and my BIL (our cosponser)) that I no longer was going to need his services. And then messaged the lawyer privately to ask if I could maybe move our contract and the money I’ve paid so far over to his divorce and family practice. He said unfortunately no there’s some clause or something that if we decide to no longer pursue the case we lose the money we’ve invested and also that his immigration practice is a partnership with different people then his family one. But he will just leave our case open till we get a response for our next appointment from the government and if we haven’t worked things out by then, then he will cancel everything. Well this cause him to go insane because now if he doesn’t get papers he has to choose between his daughter and parents. To either risk never seeing his parents and family again or never seeing his daughter again if he goes over there. He’s begging me to the point I blocked him on everything, he’s came to my BIL house and been told to leave or we are calling police then he later came back drunk with his buddies who then were all scared off by my BIL and his shotgun. I feel so lost, broken and depressed. I also have security at work to make sure he doesn’t show up at my office. My sister tells me to leave him but not to divorce so he can never get with anyone else and get papers but I can’t do that to him. Ive gone back home (only to check on the house and see if he’s gone im still staying with my sister) and surprisingly there’s no damage to anything and his things (only) are gone. So at least I feel a little relief in that. I’m not looking for advice I know I’m not going back, there is no longer any trust, my mental health wouldn’t be safe in that relationship, and I know I can’t have my daughter grow up with that kind of relationship being an example. I just needed to put this out there in order for it to solidify in my brain and to be able to reflect that this is now a pattern and he’s gone beyond disrespecting me by now also making me make HER food. I’ve been budgeting trying to make things last, sometimes eating less then I want to or skipping meals if possible (if a meal was heavier of carbs I’d skip since I should have enough for my milk supply) all to be able to pay bills, lawyer his gym membership and supplements. I lose out on rest and sleep because I ensure laundry and the house is kept spotless while the baby sleeps. I’ve basically gone from an independent educated career woman to a 1950s house wife with a job and school, all because I blindly fell for this man. When I say I feel stupid that’s an understatement. Anyhow TLDR: my husband had me (his breastfeeding wife) skipping meals and going out of my way to make him an extra lunch for his side chick at work. And now I have the house cars and he’s lost his nuclear family and ability to get a green card to be able to stay in the states and/or see his family in Mexico ever again. Edit: My phone seems to post it without paragraphs no matter what I do but I promise i tried to format it even though I was an emotional mess. This time I double spaced the paragraphs to see if that helps idk if it’s my phone or what. Some things I want to clarify I’ve been seeing in the comments. No my sister isn’t pushing me to stay in a relationship with him, she’s telling me not to divorce him so that he can’t just go find another woman to marry and use for the green card. No im not taking anything from him that wasn’t mine before we got married. Before me he lived in a house with 7other men sharing a bedroom with a bunk bed, and he drove a 2000 Buick he had to unplug from the battery in order to use it again. That car got scrapped after the electrical when out. The car he is using is my car I got in high school that got me through high school part time /seasonal jobs and community college. Also my mom isn’t dead, she gave me my childhood home because I was going to college and it’s 10minute commute from the college. She gave it to me because I’m the last of the kids all my brothers and sisters are at least 10 years older and aside from my sister who’s helping me, they all live in different states. He left home with a motorcycle his customizing, his gaming systems, clothes and the guest bedroom tv which was the only tv that was not mounted. Also I’m not keeping his daughter from him. I just personally don’t want to see him because I know he will try to give me a ton of excuses and try to make me “understand” him. He can speak to my sister or mom and they will supervise him to see his daughter whenever he wants to. There is no battle in that. I don’t think he’s a bad father but I just don’t think my relationship with him is the example I want to give my daughter. Yes, I am Mexican too, my dad came to the states and then later brought my mom and 2 brothers 2 sisters. Took a decade to see each other again which is why I’m so apart from my siblings and the only one born here. Relevant Comments: "I’ve been told by my sister to inform everyone that this was my first actual long term relationship. She says that may give people a clue as too why I was so naive. It was also very early in the relationship and we weren’t living together yet. I met him when I was traveling around to local jobs where it was known immigrants worked to post and inform them of local resources to help them with medical insurance, free clinics and ESL programs for children and adults. I was working for a seasonal daycare program for agriculture workers." How are you going without food if you both work and own your own home? "He makes below minimum wage due to undocumentation, I work part time minimum wage because I can’t be away from the baby due to breastfeeding. He also sends money to provide for his parents and younger siblings" Why did putting more food in his lunch cause budgeting issues? "Yes, I was budgeting in order to be able to save money for the lawyer expenses but now that I look back it was basically him paying bills and pocketing the left over for gym and supplements plus tools/paints and whatever while my paycheck was going to groceries, his family in Mexico and diapers. And yes, I feel really stupid, naive and blind" What would get you more child support- him getting a green card and permanent job here or not? Basically when should you divorce? "This may be the numbness in me talking at the moment but I don’t need his money he can contribute by buying her diapers clothes and whatever necessities. Now that I’m not catering to him I can leave my part time paper pushing job and find a good daycare for my daughter go back to teaching. I might also just sell my second car and lower my car payment. Full time job and one less person in my home also means lower utilities since it’s less utilities being used at home. No mortgage, no stupid expenses on random gym crap/ $40 membership, just protein creatines and supplements was at least $150 a month not to mention whatever he was doing to that junk motorcycle. My sister and mom have talked me through finances and my BIL said I could honestly keep my part time job get on government benefits and spend more time with my daughter but I think mentally I need to go back to teaching, and feel the independence of being self reliant again. Food stamps feels like it’s just one thing he will throw in my face. Idk if I’m trying to hold on to what little bit of pride I have left or it’s just the anger I have inside that I wanna show him and his chick I am better without him." "If I continue with the process I’ll be legally and financially responsible for him for years to come. Supervised visits is due to him never being more the. 3 hours (aka one bottle fed) alone with the baby. Also the fear of him taking my child to another country now that he’s loss everything here and he may just decide to go to Mexico a place where he can’t come back unless he risks his life again, is very real." The other woman: "Idk she doesn’t have anything to offer she doesn’t have a legal status either because she overstayed her visa to my understanding from a coworker of his I went to school with. According to her that woman is younger, no legal status or education, no English and she’s already gotten in trouble for being inappropriate in the work place before and if there is proof that they are being inappropriate that will be a strike against him and firing against her. Apparently she likes to call herself “one of the guys” because she’s a woman who works in a male dominated job and degrades women making jokes with the men." Update Post: November 9, 2023 (almost 3 weeks later) Sorry it’s been a while since I updated anyone, I’ve been busy sorting out my life and this was supposed to be a throwaway so I didn’t expect it to blow the way it did much less anyone to actually want updates. -I guess I’ll start with the most asked question which was if I left him? Yes, I also got a full check up and I indeed had an infection I was lucky I could treat and be good without any further issues. This also confirmed his unfaithfulness because as I mentioned I had a baby not long ago and during the whole pregnancy they checked me for everything and they had done a full panel when I was 3months postpartum because I got a UTI and my doctor wanted to ensure it was only that. -Did I talk to him to get his side of the story? Yes, when I went to tell him about the infection I allowed him to speak his mind about everything I only asked him for the truth as there wasn’t anything else for him to ruin, it was completely over at this point. And here’s a basic tldr: • He never meant to hurt me, he loves his daughter and me •he enjoyed the attention it was something new and exciting •it took his mind off the stress of bills, kid, my “emotional” state and the general routine his life •life had gotten boring and she entertained him (I’m sorry that your wife organized your previously chaotic life) That’s about what I believed to be true out of the couple of hours of begging, excuses, gaslighting, and even blaming. The rest was: •The infection is a common one that happens because of cow 💩 everywhere and because he goes out and pees outside without washing his hands or something 🙄 •She doesn’t like men she was just one of the guys (cmon really??) •I only gave her lunch that day! It was just the one time that she forgot her lunch and she asked me because she saw I had two lunches 🙄 •He would never stand so low to break his family why would I make such assumptions (oh so you knew what you were doing) Once I showed him my MyChart with my results and explained how it’s not a normal infection like ecoli that you can get because of poop and it was an actual transmissible infection. I also explained that I hadn’t slept with anyone since we met! And how my doctor explained that if I would have had any kind of transmissible diseases I would have known during my pregnancy because not only is it common practice to test for all risks but my high risk pregnancy and preterm labor she tested for all kinds of things to see if she could find the cause of issues and afterword to find the cause of preterm labor. He admitted it shortly after that he listened to me and saw my drs note (I’ll add I have the best obgyn and she was amazing in listening to me and allowing me to cry and gave me not only support during that moment with even having a nurse take my daughter out for me to cry but also printed me information and ensured me that a simple medicine will make it all go away and I should not see any more issues) Anyhow He’s staying at the dairy at some trailer the owner let him borrow and for those who thought she would take him in turns out she’s engaged and she is about to start her wedding and do a adjustment of status (get her papers) Anyways I’m back to living on my own, my baby is doing great, I have another office job lined up for January, and I have a few universities I’ve applied to, I’m currently going to community college online but if I get into a uni I think I’ll move out of this town, my grandma said she would move with me to help me. Some days are long like today it’s late at night and I can’t sleep because I miss him. But I’ve been entertaining myself getting rid of stuff in my home to start a new slate and organize everything. I won’t lie and say I’m doing great. On my days off I don’t get out of bed. My house is clean but my bedroom has my laundry basket over full and I brought out the guest blankets and pillows to use. People at work have noticed a slowed pace in my work and I was offered time off but I denied it. Although now that somehow the rumor of what happened has reach my job I may take it. Thank you for all the support everyone. Although I had a few people call me names and talk badly to me in my messages, I appreciate the other people who commented nice things and showed me support. ………………………. Edit for update: Woke up to husbands call, he apologized again. I’m Still not budging, but he told me he was talking to some guys at work about free clinics or where they go when their sick and turns out that same woman has been sleeping with a few from there. Idk if around the same time but one of them told my husband where to get treated for free because he got it from her too. In his apology which sounded more sincere this time but I believe it’s worse because it’s only after he realized he wasn’t special to her just another one of the guys she slept with. But I say sincere because he didn’t have many excuses instead he seemed to hold himself accountable by saying he had won the lottery and messed up. He begged for a second chance because he doesn’t know what came over him. He says he hates coming home to an empty trailer he misses seeing his daughter the moment after work. What choked me up was when he said he used to feel more exhausted when he used to come home to us because the baby would be excited to see him and would cry to be held by him, and during the week I would often leave the same easy meals made for him so he could eat while I left to work and he started to feel tired of it. It was a boring routine of same foods during the week. Coming home and having to watch the baby so I could go to work. That solidified to me that I don’t ever want to find another relationship much less go back to him. The routine I worked hard to put my family together, was a chore to him. I literally dealt with a fussy tired child til he got home so she would mostly sleep and he would only need a single bottle for her but even that was too hard. He said he would give up the world just to be back into his routine because now he comes home to an empty trailer where it’s just a bed and a fold out table. He hasn’t eaten his diet because he doesn’t have time to prep. He started spending money on lunch because he doesn’t have food made for him. He says he misses the baby so much that he now cries when he goes home. I told him idk what to tell him about that, but if wanted to see the baby when I go to work he can go see her at my moms who now’s babysits for me. Knowing my mom she makes food and she would never deny him food so he can go over there and eat and be with the baby after work. But I had to go I couldn’t talked anymore. When I tell yall I’ve never cried so hard in my life, it’s an understatement. It doesn’t help it’s raining today. I think I’m calling into work today and tomorrow talking to my boss about taking those days. …….. Edit: November 10 (Same Post) I was logging off for a while but I figured I’d update everyone to let you know she found my home and started harassing me now. I guess somehow her fiancée found out and she thinks it was because of me. I feel like things are just going from bad to worse. I had to leave my car in my moms garage and borrow my nephews car which my neighbor let me park in her driveway because she threatened to ruin my car like “I ruined her relationship”, which isn’t just hypothetical but also ironic. Relevant Comments: What have you decided regarding legal aspects of this (ie green card)? "I don’t want to make any legal decisions at the moment. I’m barely getting through leaving him, I don’t want to also put on too being responsible for my daughter to lose her dad. Because of his stupidity" Someone cautions her to not overly listen to reddit here, because this is a decision with huge ramifications. She should just do what feels right for her and her child: "I feel like there’s no way out without severe damage. I feel like I’m in that bridge game from squid games except all tiles break at any decision just some have lesser consequences than the others. I currently don’t want to make ANY decisions because I feel safe in limbo atm because even though my logical reasoning understands if he gets deported it’s going to be from his decision my emotional reasoning feels responsible for it. I don’t want him back the betrayal and his dishonesty has broken any trust I could ever have and I don’t think it would be good for my mental health to continue a relationship like that. I grew up seeing my mom always asking and wondering if my step was cheating or not to the point my mom neglected us because she was so busy ensuring her husband wasn’t cheating. It turned a once loving caring involved mother into a toxic person who would take her daughters out at 3 am to go to shady neighborhoods to see if her husbands car was outside someone’s house. I don’t want that for myself or daughter. I saw cheating ruin my mother without her ever being unfaithful, I seen it destroy my sisters first engagement , I have seen my brothers bleed from aggressive cheating women who attack them for wanting to take their kids from toxic environments with drugs and other men. Cheating is something I don’t want ANY involvement in and I’ve seen what it does to people. But I also have that responsibility that I want my daughter to have her dad. So in the meantime I am having that distance because I KNOW what is better for her and I am trying my best to stick to the logical conclusion not the emotional one. No matter how much I miss him, but I tell myself I don’t miss this person talking to me. I miss the person who made me feel safe, loved and cared for. And even then I’m starting to look back and realize a lot of it was me in a delusional state thinking that him hugging me when I asked, me going to him for kisses, me cuddling to him, was all love. I felt safe with him not because he made me feel safe but because I thought i was. But looking back it’s embarrassing to say I was the one who did a lot of the instigating of affection. Maybe some of the people who messaged me saying I was I was psycho were on to something. I’m starting to feel like maybe I was in some delusional state and he was just using me." Legal Advice Post: November 10, 2023 (Same day as the edit in update post) My husband cheated on me and the woman who he cheated with is now harassing me. Ig she was engaged and was about to go from a visa to residency because of her fiancée but somehow he found out about her relationship with my husband. She believes it was me but I don’t know who her partner is/was or who told him yet since like 4pm today she’s done the following: •punctured a hole in one of my tires •wrote on my front bay window “home wrecker” • keeps calling me from different numbers and now I’m starting to receive spam text messages after I blocked all of her numbers and stopped answering random numbers •threaten “I’ll ruin your car like you ruined my relationship ####” This is all since this afternoon. I called the police but by the time they showed up she was gone. And they said I had no prove of what’s she doing so unless they find her doing it or I have prove their hands are tied. My mom and step dad said they will put up cameras in my home and my mom is keeping my car at her home. They want me to stay with them too but I don’t want to leave my home incase she tries something against it. The most I was able to get is a police officer patrolling the area. Meaning they will be close by and randomly pass by. I’m not sure what to do, I don’t even know who her partner is and I’m already dealing with leaving my husband and now she’s harassing me? Any advice before it gets worse? ****Final BORU Posted almost a year later here submitted by /u/LucyAriaRose to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I am NOT OP. Original post by u/wine_n_mrbean in r/slowcooking I asked OOP for her permission to post this. These posts include pictures so be sure to click on the links to see them! ________________________________________________ ORIGINAL POST- Feb 27, 2023 - I'm worried about this. Details in comments. The post is a picture of a pot roast and potatoes in a slow cooker. OOP provides more details in the comments: My husband decided he wanted to do a pot roast “his way” in the crockpot. He put a whole unseasoned roast with who knows how many potatoes and filled it with water. Put it on high. And says it needs 24 HOURS. It is not seasoned or seared or anything. Just potatoes, water, and meat. What am I going to come home to from work tomorrow? Edit 1 (post is 1 hr old, pot roast on hour 3): I’ve just received breaking news from my husband. There is one single OXO beef cube in the water. This is an 8L crock pot. Lord have mercy on that one little bullion cube. The pot has a layer of white foam on top. RELEVANT COMMENTS OOP notes they are an American living in the UK, hence the Pop-Tarts in the background ---what is his reasoning? This is the way he’s always made it and it’s his favorite. ---you know what, then? Ok. As long as your enjoyment isn't mandatory and he won't be offended if you fix yourself something you like, then he should be allowed [t]o make a roast the (absolutely bizarre) way he likes every now and then He will want me to try it. But he will not insist I eat a full meal or anything. The last time I made chili (to bring to a dinner party), I asked him to taste it and he said it was vile (too spicy)…. But he still tried it. So I will do the same. I will try it. ---What a waste of perfectly good meat. Does he not understand seasoning or does he genuinely like bland food? I’ve gone into it more in depth on other replies. But he believes that excess seasoning isn’t necessary and the “flavor of the meat” should stand alone. ---Maybe your husband is trying to convince you that he should never be the one to cook again. By the looks of it, he's making a compelling argument for it. He has cooked for me before! Usually it’s kinda bland but still edible. This one is next level. ---No, you can't! If you fix this in any slightest way and put a positive spin on this train wreck, he's going to break his arm patting his own back, and HE'LL WANT TO COOK IT AGAIN!! It must be a disaster the first time around, for the greater good of all mankind. I will not be altering his recipe in any way ________________________________________________ FIRST UPDATE POST- Feb 28 2023 - Update on my husband's 24hr pot roast (note that it has been removed by the moderators but can still be accessed in OOP's profile) The post is a picture of the pot roast and potatoes, taken by OOP the next morning. OOP comments: This photo was taken at 8am. Pot roast was 14 hours old. RELEVANT COMMENTS ---Why isn’t it simmering? There’s no bubbles that it’s even on. Husband made the executive decision (after 7-ish hours) to turn it down to low. It was simmering at some point. ---And this is why the internet was invented! I’m fully invested in seeing how this turns out now. I’m actually excited to go home and check on this science experiment. I’m a bit worried he may realize the error of his ways and toss it before I get home from work. ---Where did the potatoes go? I think they’re in heaven now. But I assume they’re at the bottom. I didn’t stir it up. ________________________________________________ FINAL UPDATE - Feb 28 2023 (about 8 hours later) - I survived my husband’s 24 hr pot roast. AMA. The post is a picture of the final product. This is the 24 hr mark. Carrots were added by him aprox 4 hours ago). Not boiling as lid was off for a few min. OOP comments: It’s now been 24 hours. Here are the results: Husband: has proclaimed this pot roast to be delicious. He has come back for seconds. Me: I ate a bite of all of it. The meat tastes obviously very bland and is stringy and hard to chew. The potatoes are vile and I couldn’t swallow the bite I took. The carrots were just carrot flavored mush. 0/10 do not recommend. Additional info: apparently the “24 hr” is how long it takes to cook. This is going to be sitting on ‘warm’ until it’s all gone. I will not be consuming any more of it. It’s only going to get worse. RELEVANT COMMENTS ---Nooooo this is the worst news and not what I expected. Is he being stubborn rather than letting you be right?? lol No he’s not usually like that. LOL The fact he went back for seconds means he’s being sincere. If he doesn’t like something, he’ll eat it anyway, but won’t go back for more. ---What was his reaction when you ate little to none of it? Do you explain that you disliked it? I just said I’m sorry, but I just didn’t like it. He said ok and asked if I wanted him to make me something else. He is a very kind man. ---Please share the recipe! Meat, potatoes (peeled and cut into chunks), one beef bullion cube, water. Put meat and potatoes in slow cooker. Fill to max with water. Drop in the bullion. Put the lid on. Turn crock pot on high. Walk away and ask the food gods forgiveness ________________________________________________ Reminder - I am not the original poster. submitted by /u/emcrossley to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

Heyo! I need super simple dump n' forget recipes. I'm pregnant, on bed rest, and I can't really cook right now. My SO handles the cooking currently and we want to plan out meals better- if he can meal prep the night before and I can shuffle into the kitchen and dump the prep into the crockpot and turn it on, it would make our life so much easier. Any suggestions? Favorite recipes for this? Edit: Thank you all so much for the suggestions, recipes, and well wishes!!!! We're definitely adding so many of these to our rotation and I'm so excited to try new things! Old ones, too- thank you to everyone that reminded me of the meatballs made with jelly and bbq! I used to devour those at family events and I definitely can't wait to chow down on those again 🤤 submitted by /u/SheikahBun to r/slowcooking [link] [comments]

You can get a bag of broccoli, or broccoli/cauliflower/carrots, or other options for $1 at Walmart near me (12 oz bags). Similar price or slightly better at Lidl. You could spend a little more for organic if you want. Throw that thing in the microwave, heat up some protein, and pair it with some rice if you want. Be sure you add some seasoning once it’s cooked! Below are a couple meal combo ideas that I like. Broccoli + chicken sausage cut up and sautéed + white rice Broccoli/cauliflower/carrots + Sam’s Club chicken nuggets in the air fryer EDITED TO ADD: Obviously YES fresh vegetables usually taste better than frozen, but the point is that when you’re really exhausted and don’t feel like cooking something time consuming, this is a easy, healthy, and acceptable-tasting alternative to blowing money on takeout. FWIW I don’t have any issue with how frozen vegetables taste. PLUS fresh vegetables go bad if you don’t use them in time. Frozen is way more flexible if your meal schedule isn’t always predictable. And obviously YES a single 10-12 oz bag isn’t as cheap as a larger quantity of vegetables, but the point is that when you’re really exhausted, you probably don’t want to portion out vegetables from a larger amount. This is a easy and still pretty inexpensive option — and again, WAY cheaper than takeout that you ordered because a whole home cooked meal sounds exhausting. submitted by /u/bouquet-of-moira to r/EatCheapAndHealthy [link] [comments]

I really like crockpot meals because they are super easy, particularly potatoes and carrots. However, usually people cook a meat with them. I am not a vegetarian, but I would like to eat less meat. Most vegetarian meals from a crockpot that I see are to just add stock and beans. submitted by /u/datassdope to r/EatCheapAndHealthy [link] [comments]

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