Cruise Outfits

..., and had little storage.   Our cruise fare for a sheltered balcony... and back so we have outfits for day and night for...

... cancelled that leg of the cruise and are putting back in ... adding her kepi to some outfits. To her credit, the girl ...

...)  • Ginza: department stores, boutiques, light outfits/accessories.  • Tokyo Station / Marunouchi: easy... kawaguichiko  • In Hakone:   ○ Lake Ashi cruise (Fuji view if clear).   ○ Hakone... tickets available to train and cruise)  Recommended Day 9 Arashiyama Loop...

Hi All!    Does anyone know what the themed nights are on a 4-day cruise on Mariner of the Seas out of Galveston in July…if not July now?  I’d love to start shopping for outfits so I’m not spending a ton of money all at once.   Thanks!

Yas Googles ‘over 60s cruise outfits for sitting at Captain’s table’ before deciding what to wear

... started to put together outfits for our cruise and even went to..., hope Sandi is enjoying her cruise and getting some sleep.

... bring 12-14 different outfits for a 7 day cruise either. Just not... fine on our last Alaskan cruise with RCCL, but I am...

... his namesake. "And the bunny outfits, brother?" Jon asked a smirk... Jon. "They were infiltrating a cruise ship!" Lady Aris recalled in ...

... seeing super-casual (and occasionally trashy) outfits on even premium lines — especially... own, of course — we all cruise to our own beat! — but...

... was comfortably managed by the cruise line and we were even... likely go through a few outfits per day (and at least... voyage, I learned that the cruise line is quite interested in ...

... placeholder for our upcoming Fly Cruise out of Barcelona, visiting Greece... whittling down the number of outfits and prepping for the chore...

... with their cool Voidhunter trailer outfits from before launch nowhere in... in bullets and a literal cruise missile like dealing nearly no...

... I look purty for my cruise. 💅💇🏻‍♀️   I ... totally unpack from my recent cruise, I just need to switch ... may need to pack more outfits. Good thing summer clothes are ...

... of character opportunities throughout the cruise, so don't rush to get... will come out with different outfits, like the elegant night for...

... there are a lot of outfits available. There are are also... make custom Build A Bear outfits.   We can't really pump Poohby's... make all of his existing cruise couture too small.    The design... lot of teddy bear cheerleader outfits, the skirts are not tartan...

... or Fells Point hotels offer cruise shuttles (its mainly limited to... just outside of town through outfits like Trinity). But it is... Uber/Lyft ride over there-- cruise pier is very close to... said: I have a Carnival cruise booked for next spring and...

... long line to ride Jungle Cruise. When we got in line... because we saw some great outfits. We were all hungry and...

love the outfits! really missed that!   We joined the "NEVER cruise from MIAMI" ranks...

... it on LOCK.. Watching you cruise through the airport, sat on... all wearing your new character outfits…it was perfect. But on...

... the stateroom. Someone on our cruise was going to make a... used one of her Cosplay outfits from SupaNova/Comiccon and dressed...

Outfits in order from day 1, last 2 outfits are from the same day (yesterday) 🥰🫶🏾 submitted by /u/Grand_Attention_101 to r/fits [link] [comments]

Hey everyone! We’re going on our first cruise with Virgin Voyages and had a quick question for those who’ve sailed with them before. We’ve done a lot of other cruises, including some more adult, lifestyle-type ones, so we’re pretty comfortable dressing up and having fun with themes. Just trying to get a feel for the vibe here. How far do people usually go with theme outfits? Are sexy looks pretty common? For example, would lingerie-style outfits fit in for things like Scarlet Night or the PJ Party, or is that pushing it too far? Not looking to make anyone uncomfortable, just want to land in that fun, playful zone that fits the crowd. Appreciate any insight from those who’ve experienced it! submitted by /u/FlirtyVoyagers to r/VirginVoyages [link] [comments]

I’m 22F, heading out on a family cruise next week and torn about clothes. I could use some unbiased opinions. family context: My grandparents are Guyanese Indian, which brings some conservative/traditional elements into the mix. My parents (US-born) are generally pretty open-minded and laid-back. But my uncle is joining this time. He’s way more traditional and has made comments before about women “not respecting themselves” in shorter outfits. Last year, it was just immediate family on the cruise. My younger sisters and I wore crop tops, short shorts, bikinis, etc. It was liberating. I made friends, flirted, felt confident. As someone with a bit of social anxiety who’s usually introverted/reclusive, cruises flip that: knowing I’ll never see these people again lets me be outgoing and carefree. It’s literally my one week a year to feel good in my body and connect with strangers. I was so excited for round 2. However, this year my mom is demanding I dress more modestly. She told me that last year my Dad actually wasn’t thrilled ab how we dressed but stayed quiet about it. Now, with my conservative uncle coming along, we definitely need to cover up. My mom looks up to her brother (my uncle) and wants his respect. I get it for my underage sisters, but I’m 22, a full adult, and I feel like I should be free to choose my own outfits. That being said, my parents are paying for my cruise ticket as my birthday gift, so I feel some pressure to respect her request. AITA if I stand my ground and wear what I want anyway? Or should I go along because they’re paying and to keep the peace? Update: I’ve decided to purchase a cover up to wear around my family/uncle then wear what I want elsewhere. We will see how the cruise goes. submitted by /u/Sea-Order-30 to r/AITAH [link] [comments]

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I recently went to a ‘cruising’ themed event - and decided to go full 1930s! Blouse is Pictorial Review 8572 c. 1937 For modifications: - I added approx 4 inches width - Full bust adjustment - Lowered the bust dart - Dropped the neckline and enlarged slightly - increased the height of the armhole as it was very tight. - regular button holes (for the scarf) instead of bound. Blouse fabric is cotton poplin, I think I’d go slightly heavier for the next one. Trousers are New York 519 also late 1930s. Fabric is linen suiting from Spotlight. Both the patterns are available online on Etsy. Absolutely ❤️❤️❤️ this shirt pattern, I’m going to make another in a plain colour for work - finally I have a use for all those scarves! submitted by /u/tikiknitter to r/sewing [link] [comments]

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I am NOT the Original Poster. That is Fxlearner. He posted in r/EntitledPeople. Do NOT comment on Original Posts. Latest update is 7 days old so has not been posted here before. Trigger Warning: child neglect; child abandonment; Mood Spoiler: sad but there is some hope [Editor's note: keep in mind that dates are in my time zone and not OOP's. OOP is in Australia and I'm in EDT currently, so some of the math between posts might seem weird] Original Post: June 9, 2025 I won't make this post long, happened a few hours ago. Me and my girlfriend do not have kids, so we have extra "free time" as we always get told by my cousin, who has 4 kids, all minors. She had been joking around lately and saying we should take care of the children (all of them) as she has booked a cruise with her new boyfriend. We didn't pay any attention to it as it sounded absurd and just laughed along with her. we both have an extra day off as it was a long weekend, and heard some knocking on the door at 7 am in the morning. We knew it wouldn't be the post man as they don't arrive that early and weren't expecting any visitors. I go down to check who it is and see my cousin's 4 kids standing out there in the cold, mother nowhere in sight. I open the door and bring them in because it's freezing outside and they had no jackets on, then asked where the mother is. They said she told us that you would take care of us while she is on her cruise, so we took the bus and came to your house. I couldn't believe my eyes and ears, I kept thinking wtf? So I called her immediately and her phone was off. Called her new boyfriend and his phone went to voicemail. I asked the kids to explain exactly what their mum has told them. They said in these words " she said since you don't have any responsibilities and have free time you said you will look after us while she's gone". What do I do? I called my aunt and she said the same thing, that my cousin has told her I agreed to take care of the kids. She didn't even have the courtesy to drop them off and made them catch the bus on a cold winter day. Thinking of calling child services at this point. Some of OOP's Comments: Commenter: Your aunt must know what cruise they are taking. Have her contact the ship & let your cousin know that her kids are going into the foster system. OOP: Yea this is the best route I think. If she at least dropped them off herself and asked nicely maybe just maybe we would have considered it. But it's freezing right now in Australia and she made them catch the bus. This is not cool at all. Commenter: I would never do it, I refuse to be backed into a corner. Also who pays for a cruise with a boyfriend but not childcare? OOP: Aunt paid for the entire cruise. They are "doing it tough" with 4 kids so they couldn't pay their own way. Apparently my aunt was paying for child care so she abandoned them to me. I will update soon. Commenter: Am I understanding this right: your aunt actually agreed to take care of the kids, and her solution was to dump them off with you? OOP: She lied to my aunt and said just pay for the cruise and I will be taking care of the children. That's why when I called my aunt she was baffled that I said I never agreed to such a situation. Update Comment: 1 hour later Cops have arrived at my door with DOCS. I did not call them. Will update shortly. Update Post 1: June 10, 2025 (Next Day) Alright, here’s what actually went down a few hours after my cousin’s kids showed up at our place. We were still trying to figure out what to do - gave them food, put the heater on, got them settled. Still no word from their mum or her boyfriend, both phones going straight to voicemail. Then around 10:30am, I get a call from a private number, it’s the police. They ask if I’ve got four kids at my house. I said yes and explained the situation. Turns out the bus driver who dropped them off is the one who called it in. Apparently, on the ride over, the kids told him they were going to “stay with family” and gave him our address. He thought it was odd that four young kids were travelling alone in the cold with no bags or jackets, so after dropping them off, he reported it for a welfare check just to be safe. A short while later, both police and child protection show up at my door. They were honestly great, calm but clearly taking it seriously. I told them everything. Showed them the texts where my cousin had “joked” about us watching the kids (nothing confirming anything), explained how we had no warning, and that they just showed up saying we’d agreed. The kids said their mum told them we had plenty of free time and would be happy to take them. Then about an hour and half after that, police tell me they’ve gone to the cruise terminal and found her on the ship. This ship was in circular quay in the city, not too far from my place and was scheduled to leave at 3:30 pm. She had already boarded. Ready to sail off with her new boyfriend. They pulled her off and told her she had to come immediately no argument. She showed up at our house looking completely unbothered, full cruise outfit, sunglasses on her head, lanyard around her neck. Didn’t even look at the kids, just walked in and said, “Did you seriously get the police involved?” I told her she left four kids with no warning, no gear, and no contact info. She starts going off about how I “embarrassed” her and “ruined her holiday.” Then my aunt calls (her mum), yelling at me, saying I’d “gone too far” and that she paid for the cruise as a “treat” for her daughter, and I’d “wasted her money.” No concern at all about what actually happened. Meanwhile, child protection was taking a statement from me and telling my cousin this was a serious neglect issue and would be investigated. She didn’t seem to care. Grabbed the kids, didn’t say thank you, didn’t apologise, just left like I was the one in the wrong. I tried to call my aunt and her a while after that to explain that I was not the one who called the police and child services but they wouldn't believe me and both have blocked my number. Some of OOP's Comments: Commenter: Sydney? At least you were home to bring the kids in. OOP: Yes mate, bloody cold in the morning too.. Commenter: Did they not have clothes, just turned up emptyhanded? I'm in New Zealand and the last few days it's been literally freezing. OOP: t shirts and pants... no jacket. Commenter: Good going bus driver. Sounds like the kids were familiar enough with the bus system that this is not their first time. How many other times have they been left to fend for themselves and in what circumstances. Definitely needs investigating. OOP: I didn't know she lets them catch the bus like this. No supervision, it was bound to be found out and I'm glad it happened sooner rather than later. Top Commenter: Bus driver is a good egg ! OOP: Apparently he knows much more than I do, as they have been boarding the bus frequently especially in the school holidays alone. Commenter: I'm just asking out of curiosity, how old more or less are the kids? I'm just surprised that the bus driver even noticed or cared. Was it a long distance bus? Where I'm from it's pretty common for kids to be riding a bus alone, and in my city they even ride for free as long as they have school ID (even in high school) OOP: About 15 minutes by bus. Much quicker by car since it doesn't stop everywhere. She didn't want to drop them off as she knew we wouldn't actually agree to the situation so made them catch the bus. Oldest child is 12, youngest 5. Commenter: How did the cops get your phone number if a random bus driver reported it? OOP: He got my address and phone number from the kids, apparently he knows them well as they frequently used the bus during school holidays alone. OOP adds: I will be posting on social media to all family members and relatives the true story of events. As they are trying to make it seem like I called the cops straight away as soon as they arrived at my house. I already got a few calls from family berating me about this. Update Post 2: June 11, 2025 (Next Day, 2 days from OG post) Didn’t think I’d be writing another update, but this situation just keeps escalating. A couple of days after my cousin came to pick up the kids (after being dragged off the cruise ship), FACS got back in touch and asked a few follow-up questions. During the conversation, they mentioned they had contacted the kids’ biological father and informed him of what had happened. I didn’t even know he was still around. From what I remembered, he’d moved out to regional NSW years ago I think somewhere near Wagga. Apparently, he’s been paying child support and trying to stay in touch, but my cousin made it almost impossible. Would ignore his calls, block him, cancel visits,that sort of thing. Well, when he found out what she did,leaving the kids to catch a bus alone in winter and dumping them on our doorstep, he was furious. Drove straight to Sydney that same night. He came to our house the next morning. Genuinely nice guy - clearly shaken but calm. He said he just wanted to hear everything from someone who was there. We sat down and talked for a while. He asked how the kids were, if they said anything, and what exactly happened. You could tell he really cared. Then he told me straight up: he’s going to apply for full custody. He said he’s been documenting everything for years, the cancelled visits, the excuses, the strange behaviour when the kids did come back to him and this was the final straw. Leaving them like that without even a message? He said he wouldn’t let them grow up thinking that was normal. I told him I fully supported him. Those kids deserve stability. He thanked us for not turning them away and for taking care of them when no one else did. Then he left to speak with a solicitor. Now, onto something I didn’t expect and honestly still can't believe: Our car was vandalised last night. All four tyres slashed. Nothing else touched, just the tyres. We noticed it this morning when my girlfriend went to head out. No note, no witnesses. Unfortunately, we don’t have cameras installed, but we’ve asked neighbours if they have any footage from overnight. Can’t say for sure who did it, but given the timing… I’ve got a few guesses. Especially since a family member called us yesterday blaming us for "turning the family against" my cousin. No proof yet, but we’ve reported it to the police just in case. Honestly, we’re exhausted. We didn’t ask for any of this, just tried to do the right thing when four kids showed up freezing on our doorstep. The entire family is believing her version of the story. I'm thinking of compiling a Facebook post with all the information to prove what happened, as things are getting serious now. Some of OOP's Comments: Top Commenter: Call the cops and file a report. Let them know what happened. It won’t do anything but help in the custody battle OOP: I'm thinking it's the boyfriend, he looks a bit rough around the edges and I've overheard once from her that he has a criminal history. Commenter: I would wait to post anything on Facebook until dad wins his custody case. Where are the kids now? OOP: With her as far as I know still, but the FACS are building a case from what I gathered off the phone call, I'm pretty sure the dad will get custody. To another commenter: Yea I might hold off posting anything just for the dads sake, he's going through hell right now, I can't imagine being in his shoes. Commenter: I’m shocked the cops let her take the kids home and didn’t take them into custody while looking into it all OOP: I get the feeling they like to build a bulletproof case before going all in, to seal the deal. Commenter: Why on earth would anyone believe her? there are 4 kids that can at least verify the "we showed up on the bus without coats or bags." OOP: It's more my aunt's issue, she will side with her no matter what, as she has children. I am despised usually by her as I don't have kids and seen as "irresponsible" and as having way too much time on my hands. Even if she knows the truth she will side with her. Update Post 3: June 13, 2025 (2 days later, 4 from OG post) So, things escalated again, and fast. Last night, around 7:30pm, we got a knock on the door. My girlfriend opened it and just froze. Standing there was my cousin’s eldest, 11 years old, alone, in the dark, holding a small school bag. No jacket. No phone. Just said, “Mum told me to come stay here for a bit.” We were stunned. Asked where the other siblings were. He said, “They’re with her boyfriend. I didn’t want to stay there anymore.” When we asked why she’d let him leave, he said: “She told me to leave if I didn’t like it there. So I did.” We brought him inside straight away, gave him something warm to eat, and called the police. They showed up quickly, along with FACS. Because of the previous incident with the cruise, they treated this seriously right away. The boy told them things no child should have to say. Said his mum had been yelling all day, locked in her room, and no one was looking after them. Said he remembered how calm it felt at our place and just wanted to come back. Shortly after, FACS and police went to the house. We were later told the other children were removed and my cousin was brought in for questioning. There’s now an active investigation into neglect and abandonment. I don’t know if it was guilt, pressure from FACS, or just everything catching up with her, but apparently she’d been spiralling since the cruise incident. Then this morning, my aunt (my cousin’s mum) showed up at our door,absolutely furious. She started screaming at us, saying I’d “destroyed the family,” “turned the kids against their mother,” and was “I stole her kids from her.” She even yelled, “That cruise was the first time she was happy in years, and you ruined it because you don’t like kids!” We shut the door and reported it. Police advised us to keep a record and said we can apply for an AVO if it happens again. Later that afternoon, I got a call from the biological father’s lawyer. He’s officially pursuing full custody and asked if I’d be willing to provide a character reference and a statement about what happened , what the kids said, how they were when they arrived, and how we were involved. I agreed without hesitation. I didn’t ask to be in the middle of this, but if it helps those kids get to a better place, I’m in. The thing that really stuck with us? Just before FACS left with the eldest boy, he gave my girlfriend a hug and said: “You’re the only people who made me feel normal.” That hit hard. We’re emotionally stepping back now, but will continue to cooperate where needed. We’ve learned the hard way that doing the right thing doesn’t always come easy but we don’t regret opening that door. If anything major happens, I’ll post again. For now, we’re just trying to breathe. [editor's note: I'm aware that in a previous comment OOP said oldest was 12. Sometimes posters fudge ages a bit for the sake of anonymity, or maybe the kid is almost 12 or just turned 12 and OOP forgot. I misspoke the other day and said my sister was 27 when she's 26. It happens. Figured I'd write a note here that yes I saw the discrepancy before I got 100 comments calling it out lol] Some of OOP's Comments: Commenter: Those poor kids OOP: Were doing the best we can, our conscience is clear and hoping to keep it this way. I pray the father does get complete custody. Commenter: Please keep us updated!!! It may get messy so please remember that you are doing this for those children, they deserve love, stability and a reliable parent. Will you keep in touch with them? I hope so. OOP: Yea I feel it's an obligation to keep in touch now, definitely. I'm not one to call the police for minor things or have children taken away, but this is beyond outrageous and cruel. One more comment from OOP: Thank you, I can relate to you as I myself have spent some time in foster care, not as long as you but I understand how it feels. Hoping for a good outcome for everyone involved. submitted by /u/LucyAriaRose to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

Alright, here’s what actually went down a few hours after my cousin’s kids showed up at our place. We were still trying to figure out what to do - gave them food, put the heater on, got them settled. Still no word from their mum or her boyfriend, both phones going straight to voicemail. Then around 10:30am, I get a call from a private number, it’s the police. They ask if I’ve got four kids at my house. I said yes and explained the situation. Turns out the bus driver who dropped them off is the one who called it in. Apparently, on the ride over, the kids told him they were going to “stay with family” and gave him our address. He thought it was odd that four young kids were travelling alone in the cold with no bags or jackets, so after dropping them off, he reported it for a welfare check just to be safe. A short while later, both police and child protection show up at my door. They were honestly great, calm but clearly taking it seriously. I told them everything. Showed them the texts where my cousin had “joked” about us watching the kids (nothing confirming anything), explained how we had no warning, and that they just showed up saying we’d agreed. The kids said their mum told them we had plenty of free time and would be happy to take them. Then about an hour and half after that, police tell me they’ve gone to the cruise terminal and found her on the ship. This ship was in circular quay in the city, not too far from my place and was scheduled to leave at 3:30 pm. She had already boarded. Ready to sail off with her new boyfriend. They pulled her off and told her she had to come immediately no argument. She showed up at our house looking completely unbothered, full cruise outfit, sunglasses on her head, lanyard around her neck. Didn’t even look at the kids, just walked in and said, “Did you seriously get the police involved?” I told her she left four kids with no warning, no gear, and no contact info. She starts going off about how I “embarrassed” her and “ruined her holiday.” Then my aunt calls (her mum), yelling at me, saying I’d “gone too far” and that she paid for the cruise as a “treat” for her daughter, and I’d “wasted her money.” No concern at all about what actually happened. Meanwhile, child protection was taking a statement from me and telling my cousin this was a serious neglect issue and would be investigated. She didn’t seem to care. Grabbed the kids, didn’t say thank you, didn’t apologise, just left like I was the one in the wrong. I tried to call my aunt and her a while after that to explain that I was not the one who called the police and child services but they wouldn't believe me and both have blocked my number. submitted by /u/Fxlearner to r/EntitledPeople [link] [comments]

I’m not really a fan of cruises just not my kind of atmosphere, I don’t like loud music and I don’t drink (as evidenced by the Shirley temple I’m holding in the one photo) I do like ships and nautical stuff it does fascinate me, especially ocean liners the glory day of travel and such but, cruise ships are different. HOWEVER, I did make the go of it by using my historical clothing and I tried to take the cruise as if it were a transatlantic voyage in the 1920’s so I promenaded after dinner listened to the few entertainers who played piano music and generally did things one would associate with the ocean liners rather than a cruise. One positive (especially given I didn’t get to spend nearly as much time in Halifax as I was promised) was literally everyone crew, other passengers, tour guides in ports of call, etc thought my style was awesome so… not all bad. Anyways, clothing wise I stuck to my flannel work shirts with my tweed waistcoat and my sack coat with a pair of trousers and either my bowler hat (honestly I stuck with the bowler most of the trip it’s very handy) or my flat cap but, I did bring my frock coat and my back waistcoat and trousers plus my homburg hat for the more upscale dinners we had. I also got to take my carpet bag out for the first time (learned that it’s handy only if you don’t bring two full suits worth of clothing with spare shirts) but, it held my stuff. My personal favorite picture here is the one of me in the cupola of a caboose on the Maine narrow gauge railroad in Portland. submitted by /u/History_buff_actor to r/VintageFashion [link] [comments]

We are going on a virgins cruise in March of next year. I’m not a fashion girl, so i usually just wear leggings and a tshirt 99% of the time. But this time I’d like to find some nice outfits to wear on the cruise, not really sure wear to start though. Any advice on where to shop or what to wear? Especially for some events on the cruise itself and the outside excursions. I’m a mid size girl around 5’7. submitted by /u/dirtydollar5 to r/VirginVoyages [link] [comments]

I am not The OOP, OOP is u/Helpful-Minimum8496 I found tickets for a cruise that my bf got me. This gift has cemented for me that this relationship is over. PREVIOUS BoRU Originally posted to r/TrueOffMyChest TRIGGER WARNING: controlling behavior, emotional abuse/manipulation MOOD SPOILER: OOP is not nearly afraid enough Original Post Oct 16, 2023 I need to let this out without getting pushback from family and friends who think his gift is romantic so im using a throwaway. My birthday is coming up in a few months and 3 days ago, i found out what my birthday present was which are tickets to a cruise. His sister spilled the news thinking I would be excited and im not. We live together and I found the gift and know it's for me. I sound so ungrateful but I'm not. This gift just proves to me that things will never change. The first thing is this gift isn't for me. I do not like cruises because I get really bad sea sickness and nothing I do helps. I also told him what I wanted to do for my birthday which was go to a Renfaire festival on my birthday. I have already taken the week off from work for it in preparation to go this fair. I have purchased tickets and am saving month to month so that I have spending money without it affecting finances at home. Why would he book tickets the same time as the time I took off to go to this festival. Also this cruise wasn't cheap at all so it's bascially wasted money because im not going. I'm so annoyed. I have told him time and time again that I dont feel like he listens to me, that I feel like he just gets me things by thinking about what's best for him or what he would like. It's not only gifts. He makes decisions based on what he thinks is best and i just cant deal with it anymore. I love him but I'm so done and before anyone says I didn't talk to him or to talk to him about this, I have repeatedly. This has been a recurring conversation in our 2.5 year relationship. The next thing to do is talk this out and end things. Edit: I appreciate the comments and concern about cheating but I know the gift is for me because it was in really nice packaging that said "Happy Birthday (my name)" and the bag had like cruise ship related items and possible excursions. The effort he went to, it made me sad because that means he could have put in a little effort about the things i like. If he had even just gotten me a ticket for the Renfaire festival or accessories from online or even a piece of an outfit that had to do with Renfaire, it would have made my entire month. It would have meant that he listened and got me something that interested me. I'm talking to him tonight, and I'm not even annoyed anymore. I feel nothing about this. Update Oct 19, 2023 The day I wrote my post is the day I ended things with my ex. When he came home, I bascially said I found the tickets for the cruise and I asked him who they were for. He said they were for me for my birthday and i ruined the suprise. I asked him why did he get me tickets for a cruise when he knew that I get sea sick and also when he knew that I have been preparing for a Renfaire Festival for a couple of months. He said that he always liked cruises when he went on them and he thought that I could push through it with patches or some other remedy because it was a really expensive cruise. He continued talking but tbh, I spaced out because I realized just how much this man didn't care about me. He brought cruise tickets completely disregarding what I had planned, how I would feel, and what i wanted to do all because he liked them. Like fuck my birthday, fuck what I want, fuck how sick i get. He likes cruises so we should do that. I think he realized I wasn't speaking or excited because he asked me what was wrong and I broke up with him. He was shocked and angry and he asked why. This isn't the exact wording but I said something like, "It's because I have realized how much you really don't care about me and that you're always willing to put your wants over mine everytime it suits you, even on my birthday." He started to argue and wanted to talk about it but I was just numb and went to bed on the couch. After 2 hours of trying to speak to me, he left me alone. I woke up the next day and got ready for work. I oddly felt fine and he wanted to talk but I just said I'm done and if he wanted to talk about the apartment or what we would do about the lease or anything regarding the end of the relationship, I'm ok with that. I told him I'm not changing my mind about this and for me, this relationship is done and I just want to split amicably. While I was at work that day, I had free time and I wrote down every instance I could remember just in the last 6 months of him choosing his wants/needs over mine. It was nearly three pages front to back and I didnt even realize how much I let go off because he didn't want to do it. When I went home and he tried to talk again, I gave him the list and I explained what it was. He left me alone the rest of the second night. He's still not accepting the breakup. He wants to do couples therapy now or even go on a break because he realizes how much he has done but NOPE, I'm not doing it. I'm not trying to be mean or harsh to him but I don't want to give him false hope. I also feel weirdly ok but also numb at the same time. What I have to deal with now is breaking the lease which he isn't willing to do because he thinks we can move past this. So im going to talk to the leasing office and see my options. At least I have my birthday to look forward to as I deal with a relationship ending and having to find a new place to live. NEW UPDATE Update 2 - I'm still living with my ex who got me a cruise for my bday Nov 6, 2023 So I don't even know what to say about the past 2 weeks since I last posted. I had hoped to do a real quick update saying I was good, out of the lease, found a place but I can't say that. First, the leasing office offered me a way out of the place and it's really expensive. We have 4 months left and there is no way I could afford to break this lease, find a new place, move, put down a deposit and everything else that comes along with moving. If my ex and i break the lease together it is significantly cheaper but he has refused so I have no choice but to live with him. I have a few places in mind and im eligible so I will just deal with this for now. I moved all of my things to a storage unit and put all my important documents into a safe location elsewhere. I have to get furniture for my new place since it was his place I moved into but other than that, I already have everything else you would need. When it comes to my ex, I don't even know how to describe what is happening. It honestly feels like these last 17 days have been happening to someone else. He wont let me out of the lease because he thinks we can fix this. First, he tried to gaslight me because he said the things on the list didn't happen. Asshole, where do you think I got an accurate recollection of what you did and the dates- text messages. When I told him that the texts showed him either confirming what I said, doing the opposite and then apologizing, his face dropped. You can lie all you want but i literally have evidence to back up my memory. Then this brilliant idiot decided you know what, I'm going to look at the list and pick things I did wrong and do them right. So he started picking things he had done wrong and then doing it right without any input from me. You know, it's the biggest mindfuck to realize that he could have done this right from the start. None of these were mistakes. He knew exactly what he was doing and didn't care about what I wanted or needed if he thought his idea was better. I had people message me asking what was on the list and you know what, when i find the time, i will rewrite the whole list with screenshots. I will give a few examples now. One was when I asked him to pick up an orchid for me since I would be working late all week. Orchids were my grandmother's favorite flower and she died a couple of years ago. Sometimes I really miss her so I get some of her favorite flowers and having them around really helps my mood. He decided to pick up roses and I remember seeing the roses and saying why did you get me roses when I asked for an orchid and him saying that he thought these were better and prettier. Another example was when he took my car to a different mechanic because he thought the one I had used for 5 years was trying to scam me when he literally was going to patch up two tires that happened to get a nail. Did he even meet my mechanic? No he didnt. He just decided to take my car somewhere else. I took my car to my mechanic who charged me 20 dollars to fix my two tires and he's literally my friend. The last was when i was invited to a party that had an ex friend invited who had tried to SA another friend of mine. I told my bf you can go but I'm not going out of solidarity with my friend if that guy is going to be there. He promised that he had heard from the planner that the guy had said no to coming. He lied and my friend and I were shocked to see the guy there. I almost lost my friendship with my friend because my ex thought that we shouldn't miss out on a party because he could prevent the guy from approaching us. My ex would do things like this all the time and each time I would be livid because he promised to do something for me and then would veto my decision to go for what he felt was best before discussing it with me. I take full responsibility for enabling this behavior but I honestly thought at the time that I was compromising and he fully took advantage of that. At the time i thought wow, yea he's not doing what I wanted but he still doing these things and it's misguided but he's trying. I did go to my close friends and sister to vent and I would hear, "oh but at least he still got you flowers", "I can't remember the last time I got roses", "He was looking out for you. Some mechanics are leeches", "he was trying to be a protector when he lied about the party". I realize now that these responses made me feel bad and help me accept the behavior because when I vented to my friends and sister, I got feedback that made it seem like i was ungrateful and that he was a bf who made mistakes but at least he tried. I also didn't realize the sheer amount of bullshit I put up with. Writing it down and seeing the list get longer and longer when you have barely scratched the surface- you're like how did I get here? How did I let so many things slide? Where the fuck did my backbone go? I will say the backbone is back and im not tolerating any of this. Anytime my ex tries to talk to me about things not regarding the lease, i tell him to push through it. Your feelings are hurt- push through it, you still love me- push through it, you're in pain- push through it, you did something nice for me but I'm ignoring it- push through it, you paid for couples counseling and i didnt show up- PUSH THROUGH IT. I don't give a shit. He keeps asking why I'm fine and honestly i think a part of me checked out a long time ago, grieved this relationship and that part was waiting for the rest of me to catch up and I have. As for my friends and family, I have told them the relationship is done and that's my decision and that it's none of their business. When a few of them tried to make me feel bad about the cruise and how they wish someone would do that for them, I told them that their husbands/boyfriends not even doing the bare minimum for them doesn't mean that I should accept my ex's shitty behavior. I told them that maybe they should concentrate on why their SO do nothing for them instead of trying to get me to accept things I don't want or need just because my ex happened to "try". Not going to lie, that response took me a couple of hours to articulate and some of them aren't talking to me now but oh well. So that's my life currently. I'm living in the guest room and my ex is still trying. Hes very annoyed and hurt but thats not my problem. He is bascially holding me hostage so i dont care about his feelings. I have made it clear we are roommates. I don't cook, clean, or do anything for him. Honestly I barely speak to him and I ignore his calls and texts when not at home. If he won't let me out of the lease, i will treat him like a stranger. I will not harm him or destroy any of his things but I'm going to actively ignore his entire existence for the next four months. Either he deals with this or he lets me out of the lease. Other than that, I'm doing really good and working on myself and maintaining boundaries and not letting people take advantage anymore. THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I am not The OOP, OOP is u/Helpful-Minimum8496 I found tickets for a cruise that my bf got me. This gift has cemented for me that this relationship is over. Originally posted to r/TrueOffMyChest TRIGGER WARNING: controlling behavior, emotional abuse/manipulation Original Post Oct 16, 2023 I need to let this out without getting pushback from family and friends who think his gift is romantic so im using a throwaway. My birthday is coming up in a few months and 3 days ago, i found out what my birthday present was which are tickets to a cruise. His sister spilled the news thinking I would be excited and im not. We live together and I found the gift and know it's for me. I sound so ungrateful but I'm not. This gift just proves to me that things will never change. The first thing is this gift isn't for me. I do not like cruises because I get really bad sea sickness and nothing I do helps. I also told him what I wanted to do for my birthday which was go to a Renfaire festival on my birthday. I have already taken the week off from work for it in preparation to go this fair. I have purchased tickets and am saving month to month so that I have spending money without it affecting finances at home. Why would he book tickets the same time as the time I took off to go to this festival. Also this cruise wasn't cheap at all so it's bascially wasted money because im not going. I'm so annoyed. I have told him time and time again that I dont feel like he listens to me, that I feel like he just gets me things by thinking about what's best for him or what he would like. It's not only gifts. He makes decisions based on what he thinks is best and i just cant deal with it anymore. I love him but I'm so done and before anyone says I didn't talk to him or to talk to him about this, I have repeatedly. This has been a recurring conversation in our 2.5 year relationship. The next thing to do is talk this out and end things. Edit: I appreciate the comments and concern about cheating but I know the gift is for me because it was in really nice packaging that said "Happy Birthday (my name)" and the bag had like cruise ship related items and possible excursions. The effort he went to, it made me sad because that means he could have put in a little effort about the things i like. If he had even just gotten me a ticket for the Renfaire festival or accessories from online or even a piece of an outfit that had to do with Renfaire, it would have made my entire month. It would have meant that he listened and got me something that interested me. I'm talking to him tonight, and I'm not even annoyed anymore. I feel nothing about this. Update Oct 19, 2023 The day I wrote my post is the day I ended things with my ex. When he came home, I bascially said I found the tickets for the cruise and I asked him who they were for. He said they were for me for my birthday and i ruined the suprise. I asked him why did he get me tickets for a cruise when he knew that I get sea sick and also when he knew that I have been preparing for a Renfaire Festival for a couple of months. He said that he always liked cruises when he went on them and he thought that I could push through it with patches or some other remedy because it was a really expensive cruise. He continued talking but tbh, I spaced out because I realized just how much this man didn't care about me. He brought cruise tickets completely disregarding what I had planned, how I would feel, and what i wanted to do all because he liked them. Like fuck my birthday, fuck what I want, fuck how sick i get. He likes cruises so we should do that. I think he realized I wasn't speaking or excited because he asked me what was wrong and I broke up with him. He was shocked and angry and he asked why. This isn't the exact wording but I said something like, "It's because I have realized how much you really don't care about me and that you're always willing to put your wants over mine everytime it suits you, even on my birthday." He started to argue and wanted to talk about it but I was just numb and went to bed on the couch. After 2 hours of trying to speak to me, he left me alone. I woke up the next day and got ready for work. I oddly felt fine and he wanted to talk but I just said I'm done and if he wanted to talk about the apartment or what we would do about the lease or anything regarding the end of the relationship, I'm ok with that. I told him I'm not changing my mind about this and for me, this relationship is done and I just want to split amicably. While I was at work that day, I had free time and I wrote down every instance I could remember just in the last 6 months of him choosing his wants/needs over mine. It was nearly three pages front to back and I didnt even realize how much I let go off because he didn't want to do it. When I went home and he tried to talk again, I gave him the list and I explained what it was. He left me alone the rest of the second night. He's still not accepting the breakup. He wants to do couples therapy now or even go on a break because he realizes how much he has done but NOPE, I'm not doing it. I'm not trying to be mean or harsh to him but I don't want to give him false hope. I also feel weirdly ok but also numb at the same time. What I have to deal with now is breaking the lease which he isn't willing to do because he thinks we can move past this. So im going to talk to the leasing office and see my options. At least I have my birthday to look forward to as I deal with a relationship ending and having to find a new place to live. THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

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