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RE:Chez Sally '26
... us this entertaining selection of pictures The images for the most... only showcases Mazzy’s ability with dance poses, but also cuts out Ryan...
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amejoy |
Jun 6, 2026 |
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RE:SELLOUTS DBA LOCAL 548, IGWU
... her and she began her dance. Drop, drop-drop in the leaves... was more like a rain dance but I can't really tell... way this is a rain dance. The forecast said it was... and cream-colored walls decorated with pictures of green pokemon smiling or... and people, all in various poses. Evenly spaced in the blackness...
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St Bartolo Longo |
Jun 5, 2026 |
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RE:[K2S] Young Asian Beach Model Gladly Poses And Needs A Good Fuck (Oculus 8K/4096p)
... Young Asian Beach Model Gladly Poses And Needs A Good Fuck... and wants to make some pictures. She loves that. Her name... would agree to make more pictures in your room. She gladly... more. You ask her to dance for you and then it ... » Kay_Young Asian Beach Model Gladly Poses And Needs A Good Fuck_4096p_LR....
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May 17, 2026 |
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RE:Of Pies, SOUL, Determination, and Devils (Undertale x High School DxD)
... around it, phones out, snapping pictures before even attempting the first... found yourself entering a crossdressing Dance Dance Revolution competition. Dressed as a... stage. Participating in a crossdressing dance competition. "…How did I end... up here?" you muttered. "FOCUS!! DANCE!!" Mil-tan's voice hit you like... of risk that this Frisk poses to Rias-sama, it would be...
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Arcreed |
Apr 30, 2026 |
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RE:Let it all out! – The Late Night Talk Show with Claire Simmons - Guest: Anya Taylor-Joy (1/5)
... crosses her legs again and poses the next question. "Has it... about the movies or the pictures, but rather her moods. Then ... index fingers continue their tickling "dance" unhindered under the high heels. "...
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redsocks |
Apr 26, 2026 |
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No Boundaries (Nik + Caro) #24: "He does want to show her the world. He's not ready to give up yet." - Joseph
.... Because she saved him a dance. 28. Because he saved her... asked to cut into her dance with Tyler. 50. Because he... other in passion 17. Caroline poses for a portrait 18. Klaus... in Rome. - "Klaus draws pictures of horses." - Candice defending ..., [so] he'll burn all the pictures...But...I think he'll come ... Klaus sort of do this dance." - Ian - Ian: "Caroline ...
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My Kind Of Crazy |
Apr 20, 2026 |
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Why is Instagram suggesting female children?
So I snooped thought my boyfriends phone and am shocked to find that when I search a single letter in the search bar and hit search, very young girls (probably 12 yo and under) wearing revealing clothing/leotards/dance wear is 99% of the content that pops up. A lot of the pictures are suggestive in manner or with suggestive poses. A lot of them are dance or gymnastics photos. When I search a single letter on my own Instagram, nothing like this pops up, so it’s clearly specifically suggested content of this nature for him. It doesn’t appear in reels or on the main for you page. Can someone explain why this is? Does this mean he’s frequently viewed similar content in the past and his algorithm suggests this now? This is not the normal man’s instagram where it’s grown women in revealing clothing. This is possible pedophelia. Someone please tell me I’m wrong or help me understand why this is happening . I need to know what type of person I’m dating. Any information on how Instagram and its algorithms, suggested content, or general advice for me would be greatly appreciated. submitted by /u/Awkward-Emu-8255 to r/NoStupidQuestions [link] [comments]
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Awkward-Emu-8255 |
May 28, 2026 |
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Wearing Power Armor to a Magic School (172/?)
First | Previous | Next The Transgracian Academy for the Magical Arts. Hall of Champions. Victor’s Square. Local Time: 1245 Hours. Thalmin There was something behind that door that drew me forwards without hesitation — a power so tempting and an aura so intoxicating that I found myself hastening my stride — my hand reaching eagerly with an impatient grip. CREEEAAAKKKKK! THOOM! I was right. I was… more than right. “Oh. Oh wow…” I managed out under a stuttering breath. “She… she truly is a sight to behold.” I continued, awestricken and swept up by a wave of inexplicable infatuation. “In all my years as a warrior, a commander, a… collector and appraiser of all matters exotic, striking, and exceptional… none could come close— nay. None can even compare with what lies before us today, Emma.” I beamed brightly, gesturing, smiling, practically pouring my heart over a sight so tantilizing… it rivaled any I’d ever laid my eyes or hands on. It was in times such as this that I wished for the absence of Emma’s faceplate. As I yearned to see her expression, her first impressions of this spectacular sight. “I have to say… I never thought you’d be drawn to something with so much heft, Thalmin.” She finally spoke but eventually shrugged. “Not judging, of course. You’re clearly strong enough to handle it. And I’d be lying if I didn’t agree with you. She truly is quite stunning.” Emma whistled out, reaching out to grab her by the hilt only for me to pull my new property away from her. “Allow me to show you how it’s done…” I growled out in a playful display of dominance, reaching into the platform and grasping her thick hilt gently. I could feel the surge of power the instant my fingertips graced the tightly wrapped leather, the beautifully bound lace, and the ribbon at its tip. My whole body bristled with a primal sort of excitement as my fur stood up on edge from tailtip to eartip. I breathed in deeply, steadying myself. It was almost like she was made for me. And indeed, that was probably the intent behind this whole affair. I grinned, eyeing the contraption beside her pedestal with a wild grin. Then I turned to Emma, who simply shrugged in my direction. “So are you going to do this or not?” She urged, testing my convictions and my physical fortitude. “Yes.” I responded resolutely, lifting the hilt up high above my head before finally— Thwwoooooooooooooooshhhhhhhh! THWACK! I brought the warhammer down. The base of the structure practically caved in, its magical energy shooting towards the impossible weight lying in wait, propelling it directly up and towards the milestone bells. DING DING DING Each ring struck brought pulse after pulse of light as the sound of progress filled the air, each more bedazzling than the last. Conversely, the weight slowly lost its magical luster, slowing down with each bell rung. I could tell at this rate where the weight would cease. DING But I tensed in close observation, willing the fates for the weight to fly just that little bit higher. DING Just a little bit further... DING—KA-CHUNK! The final bell was struck. Magical streaks exploded from this milestone as a small firespear show manifested immediately behind it; a sonorous ringing filled the Victor’s Square in the process. "HAHA! YES! SEE?! I TOLD YOU I COULD MASTER ITS STRENGTH!" I claimed profoundly with a proud grin. "Impressive." Emma replied, her armor's muted blank stare fixated still on the weight as it fell. "Though I still don't buy its claims." "What?" As I said that, the impossible weight returned a quaking thud, blowing my cape over my face. “Well… forgive me if I’m just a biiiit skeptical when an artifact claims to be, and I quote, ‘The Breaker of 40,000 Chains.’” She made an effort to kneel down to the plaque next to the pedestal, one of many flanking the red carpeted entrance into the Victor’s Square proper. “Oh, its raw potential has most certainly been muted for purposes of interaction and display, Emma.” I chuckled. “But suffice it to say, this warhammer is truly an artifact of legend. I have read as such in my forays into the subject! Some scholars even say that in the right hands, it has the power to crack open whole continents. And some would even claim that its title — the Breaker of 40,000 Chains — carries more weight than it does bluster.” “In the words of many of my superiors and professors back home, citation desperately needed.” The earthrealmer countered, garnering but a dismissive chuckle from me. “I accept your challenge.” I grinned back cheekily, garnering a cock of Emma’s armored head. “Consider it an exchange of records. Your presentation on Earthrealm weaponry, for a sight-seer documenting the fullest potential of these legendary weapons!” “That… is certainly a fair trade. I accept the amended conditions.” Emma nodded, prompting me to quickly drag her to the next artifact on display. “Then let us make haste! The professors have provided us with a veritable feast of artifacts with which to admire and test! Had I been informed earlier, I would have absconded breakfast, lunch, and even that debriefing!” I found myself speaking at an increasing pace, effortlessly taking the mantle of Emma’s overexcitable orations, as I raced around what amounted to a museum’s worth of wonders; a curated series of displays clustered around the entrance of the Victor’s Corner. I darted from pedestal to pedestal, plinth to plinth, my eyes only momentarily taking into account the rest of the room’s inhabitants in between each excitable sprint. They barely registered in the grand scheme of things, paling in comparison to the great many artifacts belonging to either former questors or brought back as spoils from the wilds. My sights soon landed on one of the more unassuming weapons on display, my gaze bouncing between the legendary article in question and the inextricably linked shooting gallery next to it just begging to be used. “A bow?” Emma questioned unenthusiastically. “Not just any mere bow.” I countered, pointing at the plaque beneath the plinth. “This admittedly tempered artifact hails from a particularly fascinating lineage of weapons known as the HeartWroughts. Unlike most artificed or enchanted weapons, they draw both power and potential not from latent manastreams or internal manavials, but instead through the wielder themselves. But Thalmin, I hear you ask, why and how is this any different from the casting of a spell? Is this not simply a roundabout means of spellcasting? Why… yes, it is. But not quite. For you see, the enchantments within merely interpret the state of your aura, your emotional potential. Through carefully inlaid filigrees, chiseled, cast, and spun within the heart of the weapon, it simply uses your aura as a siphon, powering its own attacks through the will of the user.” I rattled on, going through what should have been fundamental principles but to most — and especially Emma — probably resembled the bookish esotericisms of a hermit scholar. “Fascinating.” Emma replied politely, as I felt at that moment, a complete reversal of roles spurred on by my proximity to these legendary articles,; these weapons once only accessible through the pages of a sight-seer. “Let’s see it then.” She continued, turning to me with an expectant cock of her hip. “Try it.” Cynthis … A warhammer? And a bejeweled bow?! That’s what he was immediately drawn to?!! THAT’S what he leaped to along with his… mutinous partner?! No. No no. Calm down, Lady Cynthis. He is a simple man after all. An exquisite specimen by all measures, yes. But that simple-mindedness had a tendency to both overrule and overpower his otherwise roguish and princely aura. My smile returned as a barely perceptible breath left my lips. Yes. This is a good sign. If the lupinor truly is that simple-minded, then he will be as clay is to a seasoned potter. This is excellent. This is ideal. This will come into play when the vows are exchanged and our hands are crossed in eternal matrimony. But I couldn’t wait any longer. There comes a time where patience becomes inaction, and that time is fast arriving. So I moved to draw his attention, motioning for my attendants to fetch both perfume and refreshments to my palanquin and repositioning myself to lounge across it, causing the bells attached all along my tail to jingle with the call of a siren. And it worked. The lupinor’s gaze shifted to my presence, his eyes devouring my very being. Right before he let that arrow fly, the once fiery projectile quickly turned into this cold, brittle shaft that shattered on impact on the target it was aimed for. I smiled. Yes. I’d managed to — if only momentarily — affect the prince’s inner desires. I had curtailed his warrior’s fire, tempered it with a cooling gale, and soothed the savage wildman with nothing but the frigid look of a beauty unmatched. I had, in no uncertain terms, caught his attention… and ensnared his wild heart. Those awestruck eyes said it all. Thalmin I starred… blankly… frustratingly… at a target still standing unscathed, from a shot ruined by an unexpected distraction. “Erm, Thalmin, you okay there?” Emma inquired just as I snapped out of that disappointing shot with a frustrated growl. “It really looked like you were gearing for a fiery shot there, why’d you shift to an ice one?” “Something sent chills up my spine Emma.” I answered plainly before gesturing at the offending party. “Or more specifically, someone managed to shake me to my core.” “Ah.” Came Emma’s reply as she attempted to peer behind the row of artifacts towards the offending noble in question. “Yeah, I’d be distracted too given all that shiny jewelry. But hey! Think you can manage another one though?” She urged, prompting the bow within my hands to once more burn with the flames of a phoenix reborn. “Yes.” I nodded slowly, my confidence and resolve returning in short order. “I think that can be arranged.” Cynthis No. Did that newrealmer just— No, that's impossible. His flame returned. His fire. Had I misinterpreted his prior reactions? Had I— TWANG! THWOOOOOSH! FWWOOOOOOSHHHH! … The target in question erupted in a ball of flames. A series of uproarious cheers erupted from between the pair… and of course… the busybody Viscount Gumigo. “A brilliant show from Prince Thalmin! A round of applause, please!” He attempted to spur on. Though to my satisfaction, nobody joined in. Only the jeers, cheers, and hollers of the inane and backwards filled the open concourse. What’s more, my attention was now firmly sequestered on the flame which lit the prince’s bow, and by extension, his heart. … One could, of course, interpret this whole affair in a far more favorable light. Perhaps the fire and flames didn’t equate to the fires of passion stoked within his heart. Perhaps it merely represented the unkempt heat of barbarism, spurred on by the agent of backwardness, as what better catalyst existed than the agent of primitivism herself — the newrealmer? His arrow of ice was antithetical to this. It represented a cooling of this unkempt fire, a tempering of his baser instincts, and a taming of the unruly beast within. This… This had to be the way of things. For the only alternative, the only other explanation to the contrary… was unacceptable. The newrealmer could not have had such an effect on him. She wasn’t even nobility. And for Prince Thalmin to have regarded my inviting gaze with ice and scorn? That… That was simply impossible. It was at the crux of these thoughts that I finally knew I had to make my second move. I’d ensnared him with a simple gaze, yes. But now I needed to ‘reel him in,’ as the commoners would say. JINGLE! I ordered my palanquin forward. I adjusted my lean, my pose, and the position of all my jewels, such that there would be naught an item of wealth and status that remained hidden and unseen. I made known my presence from a distance, even as the prince feigned ignorance in his incessant ramblings. His words, his simple obsessions over these trifling and dusty artifacts, all blended into the background as I halted his advance through the gallery of forgettable trinkets. I had made my move. Now was the prince’s turn to make his. As I sat there, lazing on my throne of bedazzling cushions, I stared up at an armored lupinor like a damsel waiting for her prince. Thalmin … I could go around. This was an open space. While she blocked the path ahead, there were empty spaces between each plinth and exhibit with which to navigate. For a moment, however, I found myself unable to move, her perfumes overpowering my senses, prompting me to turn away just as she was attempting to draw my gaze with a flutter of those fake eyelashes. With a nod to Emma, we started to move, darting left between two exhibits and then returning back to the red carpet behind the palanquin. Cynthis Ah. This game. The prince was more playful than I thought. With a giggle and another snap of my fingers, I found my palanquin moving yet again. This time, matching the prince’s casual steps… Then his pacing… And eventually, his sprints as he moved away from the gallery and towards the Victor’s Arcade where everyone else was gathered. It was entertaining at first. But frustration soon grew as the prince continued to ignore eye contact until finally… I had to make my third move. “Oh Prince Havenbrock~” I said softly. “Might I interest you in an exchange of tales? I imagine you have quite a few stories to share from your adventures in the Nexian wilds, hmm?” “Not really, no.” He responded bluntly. … I felt my features stiffen. My face, whilst retaining its smile and warmth, shattered behind that mask. W-what did he mean by this? Was this some other game? Some other attempt to— No. I had to do something! “Oh! Humility! Why, Prince Havenbrock, there is no need for that!” I attempted to reclaim the momentum, clamoring up towards the peak of my summit. “After all, I would consider myself something of a raconteur myself — and, by extension, a gracious host! So please, rest easy… and maybe—” I paused, before moving gently into a cross-legged kneel, gesturing towards the now-empty patch of upholstery next to me. “—consider resting next to me?” I did everything mother and grandmother taught me. I kept my smile strong. I swayed my tail gracefully. The bells, ornaments, and various baubles attached to them forming a graceful lullaby which any male would find irresistible. I even curated my gaze, fluttered my eyebrows, and committed to a song and dance of courtly measure that I’d spent an untold number of hours practicing, honing…. And it was clear it was working. The prince’s eyes softened, his gaze shifted, and his head cocked every so slightly between my eyes and my hand gently caressing the open patch of velvet right next to me — still warm to the touch. “I…” “I think we’re good, Lady Cynthis! Thalmin and I were just on our way to Lord Qiv’Ratom’s bapycara exhibit!” !!!! And with that… the spell was broken. I watched in shock, in anger, in disbelief as victory was snatched away from me by this audacious, worthless newrealm tras— I took my first breath. My first real breath of the entire day. The magic was broken. The fantasy was ruined. The carefully laid efforts of ceremony and tradition were shattered. And all of this — I gripped my dress tightly — now lay in tatters. I laid back on my palanquin once more, staring forlornly at the uneaten cakes and the tea set still waiting to be poured. “ATTENTION ALL QUEST GOERS, PLEASE BE AWARE YOU HAVE LESS THAN ONE HOUR TO PREPARE FOR THE CLOSING CEREMONY!” … There was always another day. And there would be… ways… to make this work. I turned to Ping, if only momentarily. Perhaps the newrealmer was more a nuisance than I’d initially considered. The Transgracian Academy for the Magical Arts. Hall of Champions. Victor’s Square. Local Time: 1700 Hours. Emma There were times when I’d forgotten the false pretenses of this whole operation. Even now, in the midst of celebrations reiterating the importance of our ‘quest,’ did I find myself unable to reconcile that gap between the supposed ‘questline’ we undertook and the more pressing developments we’d inevitably triggered. Foraging for flowers ended up giving off the same impression as a forgotten sidequest picked up at the tutorial of a game, and the way we managed to actually acquire them didn’t help with that notion either. Regardless, the importance of this whole charade really started dawning on us once Belnor’s grand celebrations kicked into high gear. It started simply enough. An opening speech by Belnor herself, then a standing ovation to all of the successful questors — surprise, surprise, everyone succeeded — with a particular round of applause reserved for the first five to arrive. Then came the partying — feasts, drinks, and even more feasts — the likes of which were dominated by Ilunor and Rostario both attempting to out-orate each other in an epic sonnet battle that lasted for longer than my entire debrief… All of this culminated in the most bizarre aspect of the whole thing — a musical performed by the top three questing groups, all regaling the crowd with their version of the original Everblooming Blossom Quest. Yet as amusing as their game was to watch, I couldn’t help but to feel a cold chill crawling up my back, made worse by the suit’s panoramic vision giving me a clear view of the everpresent glare from a certain cheetah. “I can only fathom her aims, Emma.” He began with a sullen sigh. “Though I cannot imagine that these outlandish courting rituals bode well for my prospects at discretion and any hopes at maintaining inconspicuousness." The prince paused, an apologetic expression growing across his features. “On one hand, it’s kinda creepy.” I began. “On the other hand, I can’t help but feel sorry for her. She looked so… desperate to get your approval. I can only imagine what’s driving her to do that.” I offered sympathetically. “Some realms seem to place particular emphasis on lastborns, especially those furthest away from any lineal claim towards this path. Whilst others simply see this as an integral aspect of their duty. Either way, let us not dwell on her… peculiar form of the chase. She will tire eventually. There are far, far more appealing suitors for her to choose from within our ranks, after all.” “I suppose.” I shrugged. “But don’t sell yourself short, Thalmin. You’re, you know, pretty high up there on the ‘suitor’ list yourself!” Thalmin narrowed his eyes at me at this comment, prompting me to just shrug. “It’s a compliment, I’m not here to take a jab at the annulled proposal or your preexisting relationship with Asva.” “I… appreciate the sentiments, Emma.” Thalmin finally responded, shrugging in confusion. A small lull in the conversation promptly followed, and despite the presence of the ongoing musical, Ilunor’s epic sonnet battle, and a whole host of carnival-esque rustic music playing in the background, a sense of unnerving silence finally descended on us that I couldn’t really shake. “So… what now?” I asked Thalmin. “At present? There’s the matter of the donation ceremonies. The Everblooming Blossoms will be donated to apothecaries and healers all across Transgracia. Following that, there’s going to be the typical Nexian song and dance of fealty, patronage, gratitude, and the like. After which? Well… That’s for you to determine, Emma.” “Huh?” “What’s next in store for us? Or rather, in your growing, accessory questlines?” “Oh, right. Well… priority’s taken by the ECS reconstruction efforts.” I acknowledged. “After that, there’s the matter of the library to deal with… the green book and Larial… as well as my own quest for the whole taint stuff. We’re in a bit of a weird spot with that, since instead of just stealing the book, we’re waiting to ask permission to simply borrow it. Which means waiting for Larial to come back from… whatever she’s up to. But given the library’s leniency, and its mystery agreement with Ilunor… we’re not really pressed for time on that front. It’s mostly an inconvenience for Ilunor that he has to report weekly to the library like he’s on parole or something but… given that he’s unwilling to share what goes on in those weekly visits?” I shrugged. “It’s between him and the library, until we finish the green book quest.” “I wonder…” Thalmin pondered out loud. “What exactly is this arrangement?” To which I could only shrug in reply. “I’m hoping it’s not something as extreme as like… some sort of weekly life extension or something.” My eyes narrowed, landing on Thalmin as soon as those words left my mouth. “Is that… possible?” “That is a known curse, yes.” He acknowledged. “Though… I doubt the library deals in such bluntness. No. There has to be something else at play with that vunerian.” “Blackmail?” “No, no. The library… Eh… maybe? I don’t believe it meddles in mortal affairs all too much, no. This has to be something truly… personalized for the blue noble. Though I won’t claw at my fur for it. It will eventually surface, as do all truths.” “Still… even when we return with the book, all that’ll do is complete my Seekership. There’s still the whole quest to recover the lost books which… I’ll admit, Thalmin, is going to probably span a few semesters, if not more.” “We have the time.” He acknowledged. “Moreover, as it pertains to Ilunor’s life? He’ll be forced to use his resources to expand the search eventually.” “Yeah.” I breathed in. “I don’t even want to think about that right now.” “Agreed.” Thalmin nodded, smiling in the process. “Maybe we should focus instead on more… entertaining matters. Perhaps matters regarding our cultural exchange agreements?” “Oh, yeah, that’s definitely on the agenda. Once I finish rebuilding the ECS, and getting everything else sorted of course.” “I’ll have my own presentation prepared for you by then, Emma.” Thalmin grinned as we both turned towards the rapidly progressing evening, right as the local time struck 17:00. A small, vestigial warning popped up at the bottom right hand side of my HUD. A reminder that I was surprised the EVI hadn’t yet removed, especially given everything that’s happened thus far. [Current Calender… T+29 Days since arrival. Reminder: First ECS Transmission due in 6 Days!] However, given the fact I hadn’t been manually clearing the calendar, that was on me more than anything. The systems weren’t expecting the first correspondence to be conducted over a dragon service provider, after all. “EVI.” “Yes, Cadet Booker?” “Mark objective as complete and reset countdown timer pending ECS reconstruction.” “Noted. Pending T Minus 28 Days, +/- 7 Days.” “Thank you, EVI.” “Now then… how about we spend what little time is left of our freedom on some festivities, Emma?” “Huh?” I looked up, meeting Thalmin’s gaze as he pulled me out of my internal housekeeping. “Classes will start up again tomorrow. And after that, the rigors of academia will undoubtedly return. So why don’t we make the best of tonight?” “Yeah.” I smiled. “Let’s.” 1 Day Following the Conclusion of Festivities Dragon’s Heart Tower, Level 23, Residence 29. Living Room. Local Time: 1700 Hours Etholin “I want you to apologize.” I stated plainly, clearly, and in no uncertain terms. “To Cadet Emma Booker, Princess Thacea Dilani, and Lord Ilunor Rularia.” “WHAT?!” Ilphius responded instinctively, her piercing hiss and the fire behind her eyes sending a primal pang of fear down my spine. “HOW DARE YOU INSINUATE THAT WE ARE IN ANY WAY—” “Stop.” Kamil, of all people, turned to face his criminal associate. “Just… cease it with this ego-driven mania, Lady Ilphius.” “I… I beg your pardon—” “Yes, beg. You’ll both be doing that soon at the heels of a newrealmer no less.” Teleos interjected, having finished his second gallon of water this evening. “You have no one but yourself to blame, Lady Ilphius. You and your ego, and whatever lunacy is going inside of that little head of yours.” He reiterated, interjecting and timing his words to prevent the serpent from any reprisals or rebuttals. He’d gotten good at this… “It is time that you change, Lady Ilphius.” I demanded sternly. “This starts with a genuine apology, and a lessening of our social burden, perhaps even a freeing of your own chains, now owned by the avinor princess and—” “I am OWNED by no—” “If you don’t apologize, fine.” Kamil interrupted once again. “But I will.” This… garnered the attention of all present as I stared dumbfounded into the absentee’s eyes. “Y-you will? Without even a rebuttal or negotiation?” “What I did was wrong, Lord Etholin. I’m not blind—” He paused, turning to Ilphius for a moment. “—nor delusional enough to convince myself otherwise. I wish to acknowledge my follies, and start anew with this newrealmer.” He added with surprising levity at that. “What do you want from the newrealmer, Lord Lyonn?” I finally questioned, dropping all pretenses and narrowing my gaze into the man’s eyes. “One doesn’t just shift from absentee, to unwitting criminal, to apologetic saint in a mere week.” “What I saw in that room were sights beyond our conventions, Lord Esila. Sights which I’d scarcely managed to appreciate, let alone dissect. I merely wish to satiate my curiosities, by engaging in interrogative dialogue with this earthrealmer. And the start to that, is an apology over bad blood spilt.” I looked to Teleos, who merely shrugged in my direction. “Don’t look at me, this is not my current to swim.” “Well… we can start on this by approaching the earthrealmer together, Lord Kamil Lyonn.” I offered politely. “As for you.” I turned to Ilphius. “I expect you to follow me all the same.” “I would much rather die than submit to a weakling such as— OUCH!” “Oh, my sincerest apologies, Lady Ilphius. I must have not seen your tail on my way out.” Teleos spoke quickly, shutting the door behind him before the wrath of Lady Ilphius had a chance to respond. The room erupted into chaos shortly thereafter. 1 Day Following the Conclusion of Festivities Dragon’s Heart Tower, Level 22, Residence 29. Living Room. Local Time: 1700 Hours Qiv’Ratom “Airit?” “Yes, Lord Ratom?” “I suggest we start penning your strategies over the greater avinor.” “You mean the tainted one—” “Channel your frustrations when the time comes, Lady Airit Airus.” I interjected plainly, pruning the shatorealmer’s rage, ensuring it did not sprout into untilled fields. “The Class Sovereignship challenges are ahead of us, and we must be mindful until I can be assured it is within my grasp.” “Yes, Lord Ratom.” Airit bowed as I turned towards Rostario in short order. “Lord Ping’s group isn’t as destitute as I had hoped.” I stated plainly. “Indeed, my lord. I shall hasten my plans, and indeed, there seems to be much to do when it comes to reinforcing what has already been put into motion.” The small lord spoke in his usual, thoughtful prose. “It is unfortunate that the lupinor prince did not cross paths with Lord Ping during his journeys. But now that proximity is back on our side, perhaps this oversight may be rectified. Aggression does have a habit of hastening when two potent agents are forced in close proximity.” “One can only hope so, Lord Rostarion.” 3 Days Following the Conclusion of Festivities The Township of Sips. Lord Protector’s Town Hall. The Lordship’s Private Offices. Local Time: 2000 Hours. Lord L’Sips “Your evening papers, My Lord.” A familiar raspy voice entered the fray, disrupting, if only momentarily, my final assaults on the last strongholds of paper and parchment sitting on the verge of capitulation. “Thank you, Breatria. You may retire for the evening now.” I replied in kind, dismissing the elderly woman with a nod. The papers were a nuisance to some, a novelty to others, and a status symbol to an esoteric few. These rolled up parchments with a near limitless capacity for information, were as much useful as they were pointless if one were to peer into a puddle or flare. Yet they were part of an official, albeit outdated, system. An instrument from a bygone era with a niche but pertinent place in the current landscape where information flowed through one’s hands often much too trivially. The presence of something physical was comforting, both in matters of sentimentality and record-keeping. Yet the contents within the papers tonight painted a picture of developments more in keeping to the era from which the medium originated. As within were reports belonging to a bygone age, updates on a dragon now reported as MISSING and AT LARGE, as well as a mobilization by none other than the Sky Warden himself. I had to read that article twice, checking the date of print to ensure that this wasn’t an eons-old paper. It wasn’t. A break over tea was necessary before I continued. However, subsequent reports tested the soothing properties of a healthy evening brew. As the next headline brought furrowed brows over a rather concerning development. UNKNOWN ASSAILANTS TARGET TENT TOWN! 1 DEAD! 1 MISSING! 1 INJURED! HYSTERICAL ADVENTURER DESCRIBES ASSAILANT AS ‘GHOULISH AND UNLIVING!’ I folded the papers following that drivel, staring out at the beautiful evening night and a town safe in my hands. “I may need to increase nightly patrols… or request an audience with the King.” 7 Days Following the Conclusion of Festivities The Crown Herald Town of Elaseer. Lord Mayor’s Manor. Guest Wing. Puddlejumper’s Respite. Local Time: 2000 Hours. Inner Guard Captain Anoyaruous Frital “Ledwin?” “Yes, Captain?” “If you were a Goldthorn… or perhaps I should say, when you become a Goldthorn, will you prioritize prompt resolution, or thoroughness through exhaustion?” “The latter, ma’am!” “Even if this comes at the expense of an entire warrant’s worth of time?” “Yes, ma’am!” “Even if the investigation has been written, sealed, proofed, and dusted?” My squire’s rambunctious grin slowly and quietly faded. Replaced instead by a growing confusion that supplanted the fires of self-assured youth. “I… beg your pardon, Captain?” “If an investigation is complete, in every sense of the word, should you or should you not ‘run down’ the allotted time of your warrant?” “... I would assume not, Captain.” “And why is that?” “It would… waste the time and resources of the Crown—” “Ah, but the former is eternal and the latter is limitless. Is it not, Ledwin?” “... That is correct, ma’am. But if I may?” “Go on?” “For what reason would one choose to remain even when the investigation is ove—” “I am pleased you asked.” I smiled warmly. “Would it not be prudent of the investigator to linger, albeit quietly, observing every relevant actor once all have assumed she has left?” Ledwin blinked, pondering this question, before landing on an answer that left his face practically glowing with realization. “You would see them in their natural state, verifying their purported nature when they least expect it, unaffected by the pressures of our presence.” “Exactly, Ledwin.” “I am proud to serve under such a prudent mistress, Captain!” As you should… but there are more reasons why you would do so, Ledwin. Reasons beyond your youthful naivety. I moved quietly towards the balcony, shielded from sight, sound, and all manner of perception, by way of my own spells. There will be no leniency for your legacy, even in death, Mal’tory. The investigation remains conclusive, and all paths point to you and your negligence. Though negligence of what exactly remains to be seen. A simple oversight of some perilous artifact would satiate the curiosities of the justicars and the privy council, but there’s something else, isn’t there? Something that caused you to act so… irrationally. So while the case is shut, there remains a certain… addendum I wish to solve myself. A sidequest, to satiate my own curiosities. 10 Days Following the Conclusion of Festivities The Transgracian Academy for the Magical Arts. His Majesty’s Protectors’ Tower. The Dean’s Private-Facing Offices. Local Time: 2100 Hours Dean Altalan Rur Astur KNOCK KNOCK KNOCK! “Come in.” A series of long strides soon followed, and with it came the man of the hour. “Ahh, Vanavan. Good. How is our dear Goldthorn faring?” “She’s ready to implicate the late Professor Mal’tory.” The man spoke sullenly, coldly, his words eating into my facade almost immediately. “Not even a ‘good evening,’ my dear fellow?” I countered with what vestiges of humor I had left as that facade soon gave way to my second mask. “So has she filed the reports?” I questioned bluntly. “Not to my knowledge, sir.” “And why is that?” “I… I do not know—” “Or you didn’t ask?” I countered, meeting the meeker man’s eyes, shattering the determination within… what little there was. “It would have been too obvious if I did, sir.” His broken response came through, prompting me to place my face within a single palm. “Of course it would have… Right then, this changes nothing. Apprentice Larial has returned with the first batch of prerequisite materials. Though I am afraid this is simply the first out of a set of three. She has been dispatched to acquire the rest, of course. So please see to it that Professor Sorecar continues substituting for that class of hers, will you?” “Yes, sir.” The man bowed before leaving my sight shortly thereafter. 14 Days Following the Conclusion of Festivities Healing Wing. Rila’s Room. Local Time: 2130 Hours. Rila CLICK! A nurse arrived. Right on schedule. “Here’s the rest of your medicines, dear.” The water elemental spoke softly, kindly, just as the rest of them did. “Thank you, ma’am.” I bowed, taking the herbal and magical remedies without hesitation. “Er, ma’am, if I may—” “Yes? Do you feel poorly, dear? Any dizziness? Nausea? Vomiting?” “No, no. Nothing like that. If anything, I feel wonderful, actually. I… I was curious if there was any progress on my dischar—” “Oh, the administration is currently still dealing with that, dear! But nothing to worry your silly little commoner head on, you hear?” She spoke in that dismissive, saccharine tone of voice. Though a quick glance, a quick exchange of stares was all that I needed to know from this… friendly response. Stop bothering me. I sighed, nodding, knowing where to stop and allowing the nurse to go on her own way. The matter of my name must still be in debate… it must be… that… or the investigation… Whatever the case may be, I learned not to question them long ago… 30 Days Following the Conclusion of Festivities Dragon’s Heart Tower, Level 23, Residence 30. Living Room. Local Time: 2000 Hours Emma KA-THUNK… KA-THUNK… KA-CHIIIIIRRRRPPPP! THUNK-THUNK-THUNK-THUNK-THUNK [703.5.77 IAS-PP SYSTEMS EXOREALITY COMMUNICATION SUITE INITIALIZING PERFORMING STARTUP INTEGRITY CHECK POWER ROUTING….. OK CORE MEMORY ARRAYS….. OK PRIMARY PROCESSING UNIT….. OK AUXILIARY PROCESSING UNITS… OK INTERFACE APERTURE….. OK EXOREALITY UNIDIRECTIONAL NARROWBAND PULSATOR….. FAILED. ERROR: HARDWARE NOT RECOG— … BYPASSING DEFAULT SAFETIES CONTINUING INITIALIZATION PROCESS… EXOREALITY UNIDIRECTIONAL NARROWBAND PULSATOR….. OK SYSTEM CLOCK….. SYNCING… CURRENT MISSION TIME… T+59 DAYS… 3 HOURS… 27 MINUTES… 43 SECONDS POST-ARRIVAL.] [IDENTIFICATION AND HANDSHAKE PACKAGE READY] [NOTE TO OPERATOR: PLEASE REVIEW MESSAGE PRIOR TO TRANSCRIPTION] Hi. If you’re reading this, then that means the Exoreality Communications Suite has done its job. We now have a home-grown proprietary line of communication that bridges the ‘space between spaces,’ as they say over here. Attached are my reports, a complete summary of events following our last unexpected live communique, and my progress here thus far. I’ve also taken the liberty of attaching relevant data packets of the science I’ve done here thus far. And note, I’m attaching you all we’ve been able to gather on the chimes issue as well. It’s related to taint. I trust you guys can get to the bottom of it. [...] [Skipping to Page 14, Section 9, Article 12: Operator’s Personal Notes.] [Section Title: In Memory of Pilot I.] I imagine there is a lot of fanfare currently unfolding back home. Though whether or not that is a response to the existential threats barreling down our collective necks, the scientific bombshells contained in every millisecond of my sensor logs, or something in between, I can’t say. All I can say, and all I can hope for, is that we don’t lose sight of what’s possible here. It’s a known fact that the Nexus is hostile. I don’t deny that. But within that understanding, lies the potential for hope. The first few days saw the documentation of more instances of extraterrestrial life than all existing SETI records combined. The first month saw the establishment of a personal bond, and eventually a working relationship, with the representative of an alien polity whose expressed sentiments align with our vision, our hope, and the goal we have been working towards since we first laid eyes on the stars: friendship. I’m not saying I’m a miracle worker. I’m not claiming to be able to move mountains or reshape the minds of everyone here. But what I am saying is that we shouldn’t lose sight of what we’ve accomplished here thus far. The Marathon spirit is still alive. Don’t let it die out of fear. This is Cadet Emma Booker, Mission Commander, Sole Mission Operator, working representative, (and the new student from Earth), signing off from Exoreality FOB 1, at the Transgracian Academy for the Magical Arts. May this first correspondence between realities, constructed by human hands, and dreamed up by human minds, be the first of many to come. submitted by /u/Jcb112 to r/HFY [link] [comments]
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[New Update - 1 Year Later]: AITAH for telling my mom “I’m used to it” after my parents ruined the surprise of my engagement and the wedding dress?
I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/glitterglazegloo Originally posted to r/AITAH Previous BoRUs: #1 [New Update - 1 Year Later]: AITAH for telling my mom “I’m used to it” after my parents ruined the surprise of my engagement and the wedding dress? Trigger Warnings: entitlement, manipulation, neglect RECAP Original Post: April 26, 2025 I (27F) am getting married in September 2025. I’m in a long distance relationship. My partner lives in England and I’m in the US. We’re lucky enough that I work remote and visit about 3 times a year for six weeks at a time, and he visits me in the US about four times a year for once a week. When he was planning to propose, he had asked my parents blessing in March 2024. My parents had “assumed” that I would know when he was proposing, and my dad had told me in a conversation that following week he was proposing in December 2024. As you could imagine, I was upset. My mother invalidated my feelings and said I was making it a big deal and being stupid for not assuming it was going to be during Christmas because that’s when both of our families were together. My argument is that while I could have had a hunch, I didn’t want to be told when it was, and basically could have gone practically a whole year wondering excitedly when it would be. For all I know, he could’ve proposed before that, and Christmas we would have had an engagement party. Anyway, basically my dad apologized but my mom has stood firm on saying I’m dramatic for being upset. Since then, more things have gone wrong, and has started to leave me just so sad about wedding planning. None of this has been a good experience and I’ve started to feel like it’s a chore. Flash forward to today, my partner is visiting (just for one week.) and we’re all sitting on the couch in the living room. My mom randomly turns to me and goes, “Have you picked up your veil from the bridal store yet?” Right in front of him. And then my partner smiles and goes, oh, you’re wearing a veil? And I just got super frustrated. There are only two surprises in a wedding— the engagement and the dress. And both of them have been handled so carelessly. So I turned to my mom and said, can you please not mention anything about the dress? Not the shoes, nothing. I don’t want him knowing anything. She rolls her eyes, walks around, and about 10 minutes later gives a half-hearted apology just saying, “Sorry, OP.” And I replied, “it’s fine. I’m used to it at this point.” And now she’s gone back and locked herself in the room. So I guess, AITA for being upset? EDIT: I know a lot of people are asking if this is like her— it isn’t. She has already had one of her four daughters get married, I’m the second. She never ruined the engagement or the dress. And she seemed to care a whole lot more about her than she has me during this time. Second EDIT: Nowadays a lot of brides opt to wear veils, tiaras, sometimes hats, or embellishments, or nothing at all. I forgot to mention that my fiancé had told me he didn’t want to know if I was wearing a veil or anything and wanted it all to be a surprise. Since he’s very mild tempered and sweet, he was surprised but was trying to be nice in his reaction because he knew I’d be upset. Relevant Comments Commenter 1: Are you the scapegoat of the family? Because her bullshit smells of personality disorder. OOP: Her mom has borderline personality disorder and is a narcissist. My mom exhibits a lot of those qualities too. Commenter 2: If you're going to elope, then know that you have to do the prep work in advance. You can't visit the UK and just get married. OOP: Yes I know! We’ve started looking into the requirements Commenter 3: But...why are you even sharing anything with them when it’s so blatantly obvious that they don't care to keep these secrets? you need to accept that your parents are lousy parents to you. Do not share anything about the wedding with them anymore. They're not invited to the dress fittings, don't know what you'll buy or wear, and they most certainly won't be told any secrets. Does it suck? Oh yeah obviously. But look at what happened? No matter how much you beg and plead you'll always be the one "overreacting" and being the one out of line. If they ask why you're not telling them anything or trusting them with anything you can tell them that they've repeatedly shown you that they do not care about making you happy. So you stopped caring about involving them. They still have two other daughters to show they care. And from their track record it looks like they might actually care more about them than about you. but be prepared to have your sisters get involved or share secrets with your parents (so no involving them either) or try to admonish you for "hurting them" OOP: I’ve definitely decided to not include any family members, because my sisters definitely would tell my mother anything I said. Update #1: April 27, 2025 (next day) So for context, a lot of things have gone wrong since we have been in talks of getting engaged. Obviously my dad had told me about the engagement, but then other things went wrong like: my partner’s sister causing drama the day before our engagement, the day of our engagement going horribly wrong to the point my partner told me he’d propose again, finding out last month that my partners dad got remarried a year ago in secret (we didn’t even know he was dating anyone) and him asking for a plus one for the wife no one had even heard of (while also telling my partner he’s ridiculous for being upset because it isn’t a big deal), and my best friend bailing on my bachelorette for someone else’s. So it’s safe to say that since December, it’s been stressful. And those are only the bigger issues I mentioned. I know everyone was saying my mom should be on an info diet— she already was by her own choice! She hasn’t asked or been part of anything by her own design and it’s felt like she couldn’t care less about the wedding. The only time she cared was when she found out we were only inviting 40 people and people she wanted there weren’t invited (like her friends, who I barely see or know, and her brother and cousin, who I both haven’t seen since I was 11). That’s when she insisted on paying for them so they could come. And that’s the only time she’s asked about anything having to do with the wedding, or to be honest, anything involving me. She hasn’t checked in to see if me and my partner are okay, given all of the other stuff that has happened, either. So I ended up speaking with my mom a little while after what happened, and I told her that while I know I shouldn’t have said “I’m used to it,” that ultimately I’m upset because it seems nothing has gone right. She seemed apologetic at first and said she didn’t know why she said that and knew that she shouldn’t have. I nodded and said just please don’t say anything else regarding what you know about the dress. (She was there when I got the dress and veil with my sisters) I then told her that I’m just tired of things going wrong, and that my partner and I have felt super unsupported and alone. She responded back starting her sentence with, “OP, only a handful of things have happened. I feel like you’re looking for things to be upset about at this point.” And to be honest, when she said that, I kind of lost it. I basically said that I didn’t go looking for any of this, and all of these things that have happened to my fiancé and I were out of our control. Like, you’re the one who brought up the veil, not me. I didn’t go looking for any of these issues. I definitely didn’t go looking for my partners dad (who has been single for 15 years) to not only lie about dating but secretly go get married and not tell his son for a year. I told her that if there was one problem, then fine, I’d have handled it and moved on, but that the repeated offenses have hurt me and I’ve been trying to get over what’s occurred but something else happens to make the wedding planning even harder. I told her that I’ve felt super alone during a time that’s supposed to be joyful, and that her carelessness and thoughtlessness has been super hurtful, especially when she’s continually invalidated my feelings. She shrugged and said that she’s done nothing and she’s not going to talk to me or ask about me about the other problems going on because I’ve been upset and she doesn’t want to deal with it. lol. After a lot of your comments, I realized that I definitely was attempting to include someone who has shown not only should they not be, but they don’t want to be. My partner leaves back to the UK today, but at this point I’m considering eloping with him (if I can) when I’m visiting him in England in May. We’ve already paid half of what we owe to our venue and photographer, so cancelling isn’t really an option, but maybe we’ll have just the reception instead of the ceremony. Thank you to the commenters who pointed out that if we ever have children, to keep the important moments to ourselves of gender or birth date or names. I think you’re right, and my mom has pretty much ensured she will be on a permanent info diet for as long as she’s in my life, because if not, she’ll more than likely spoil it and then invalidate my feelings. I think ultimately it wasn’t about the veil for me. I know my partner will still be surprised, I’m just sad because he told me he didn’t want an idea of anything and wanted to be completely clueless about what I would be wearing. But ultimately this was about the continued thoughtlessness and invalidation that’s pretty much been the theme for the last four months. If my mom had said she was sorry and left it, it would’ve been fine. But acting like I went looking to be upset when she randomly ruins yet another detail is just wild to me. EDIT: I also forgot to say, yes, I am moving to England! We are hoping to make that jump at the beginning of 2026. Second EDIT: I know a lot of people are saying completely cancel the venue, but we already have friends and family from my fiancés side who have bought their flight tickets to come (at least 10 have already confirmed). I don’t think I have the heart in me to cost people that kind of money when they’ve already invested into this. Third edit lol: I’m not sure if my mom cares that I’m moving. I am in England for six to eight weeks at a time every few months, so she’s already used to me leaving for a significant amount of time. She doesn’t seem sad I’m leaving, and if anything has said she understands why I’m moving. If she is sad, or that’s the real reason behind all of this, I’d actually be super surprised. I won’t rule it out, but my mom isn’t the type to care about that sort of thing. Relevant Comments Commenter 1: Have you looked into the visas? I moved to the UK 18 years ago it can be stressful dealing with immigration and expensive OOP: Yes! I’m a little worried but I think we’ll be fine. Original plan was to get married, do long distance a little more, and then for me to apply for residency and move over there. Thankfully he is over the financial threshold for me to move. Commenter 2: Honestly I'm trying to figure out what the big deal is that your fiancé's father got married? How does that affect you? It doesn't. What's the big deal about knowing that you'll be wearing a veil? It's just a piece of fabric and odds are most women wear veils. Sorry but IMO it does seem like you're making a big deal out of stuff you have no control over. You need to just ignore the stuff around you and enjoy your wedding. Although I will say your BF? She's an AH. How could she do that?? I hope you uninvited her from the wedding. OOP: His dad didn’t tell anyone he was married. He randomly told my fiancé last month because he wanted to ask for a plus one, and when my fiancé asked why he needed a plus one, he finally had to fess up he’d married someone and didn’t tell anyone. My fiancé was rightfully hurt by that, he didn’t even know his dad was dating anyone. If your dad, who you were close with, didn’t even mention he remarried someone a year ago, I think you’d be shocked too. It also created tension because my fiancé’s parents don’t speak already, and they are both unpredictable people. His dad also said he would more than likely leave the wedding early and that he refused to meet with the mom beforehand to prevent any issues on the wedding day. Caused a lot of drama and he uninvited his dad from the wedding because of it. The veil was frustrating because it was obviously another thing my parents revealed. My fiancé didn’t want to know a single thing or hint over what I was wearing. And yes, lol. Best friend has been uninvited. OOP on her fiancé helping with the wedding planning and how the stress has been affecting him with his own family issues OOP: My fiancé does what he can to help with wedding planning all the way from England. He’s definitely involved in this, and every time he visits we have ironed out as many details as we can. To clarify, I am not directly involved with his dad, but obviously I love my partner and support him, and it has been a source of stress. You may have missed my other comments, but the problem is my fiancé’s family has a lot of tension. His mom and sister don’t speak to his dad, and haven’t for over 10 years. Already there were concerns about what their behavior would be like at the wedding because the three of them are all very unpredictable people (his sister had caused a bunch of drama the day before our engagement for instance) and it’s totally feasible that they would have drama on our wedding day. My fiancé didn’t even know his dad had been dating anyone. When my fiancé went to go meet him for a coffee catchup, his dad asked for a plus one. My fiancé was confused, because our wedding is small, and we hadn’t accounted for him wanting one. When he asked his dad why, his dad beat around the bush until finally admitting he’d married someone in secret a year ago, and literally no one, I mean NO ONE knew. Not only that, but his dad in the same breath, essentially said that he wasn’t going to meet up with the mom & sister prior to the wedding (which my fiancé requested so the wedding wouldn’t be the initial shock of seeing each other and could avoid problems) and that he’d also probably leave our wedding early. My fiancé was, understandably, shocked. His dad basically said my fiancé was ridiculous for being confused and upset and he should get over it. While it isn’t my dad, my fiancé and I are each other’s support systems, and it’s been distressing information for him to find out. How would you feel if your dad had been married for a year and you didn’t even know he was seeing anyone? Regardless, it DOES affect me, since it’s our wedding. It’s another person who has brought a stressful element into planning, and my fiancé had to make the difficult decision to disinvite him from the wedding to keep peace, since his dad and mom are unpredictable and his dad has already provided a hint and a half he will be difficult and only cares about his own interests. OOP responds to a longer comment regarding her parents spoiling the surprises and the moods for the engagement and wedding planning OOP: My parents are not that old, they’re both in their mid-50s, and both are mentally fine and healthy. They also have had another daughter get married previously to me, so this isn’t their first rodeo. I didn’t go looking to blame my mom for what my dad did. But my mom DID make him think that I knew when the proposal was. When my fiancé asked for their blessing, that night they had been discussing. My dad made a comment that he thought I didn’t know, and my mom said that of course I knew. So my dad thought it was fine to say to me. Not only that, she brought it upon herself from the get-go to say that I was ridiculous for being upset and it’s not a big deal. I never blamed her for what happened, but I do think it’s shitty to take it upon yourself to seek me out to tell me I’m ridiculous for privately being sad. So not only did she not apologize for her assumptions, but went out of her way to tell me I’m ridiculous. I think there’s a lot of assumptions here in your reply. I think my dad was good natured and really felt awful. My mom was indignant that my feelings had no place. I think, when you’re the one who causes the confusion, and you go out of your way to invalidate someone’s feelings, you become part of the problem. Ultimately I’d be happier having a parent who made me feel valued and loved and like my feelings had a place, and get to experience a lovely relationship like the one you’re describing, than my parent who makes me feel ignored, unheard, and ultimately just all around invisible. Just because someone is alive doesn’t mean they are instantly better. I’m sorry and my condolences about your dad. ----NEW UPDATE---- Update #2: April 24, 2026 (nearly one year later!) UPDATE: AITAH for telling my mom “I’m used to it” after my parents ruined the surprise of my engagement and wedding dress? A few people over the last few months have been asking, so here’s the update! A lot of you will be disappointed to know that we did not end up eloping or cancelling the wedding. It’s easy on the internet to say to cancel, but I couldn’t take the idea of giving up the $13,000 I’d already invested into it lol. While there were definitely some hiccups along the way, my husband and I had decided to not let anyone’s pettiness or juvenile behavior bother us anymore, or dictate our special day. Thankfully, I didn’t deal with much more from my side. While my mom never really apologized, or acknowledged how I felt, I remembered something a therapist had said to me about her a long time ago: Why are you surprised by this? She’s been the exact same person she’s shown you she is. You’re angry because you expected something different, but she’s shown you she’ll never be different. I love my mom, and she’s a great mom, but she also has major flaws and she’s hurt my feelings a lot. Ultimately, in the last year, I’ve grown to accept that she is who she is, and I shouldn’t keep giving her the space to hurt me. As a lot of you suggested, I’ve implemented the grey rock method like crazy. And you know what’s funny? She hardly knows anything about my life anymore, and she doesn’t seem to mind. It’s a win-win. My poor husband did endure a lot of issues as well at the same time, and had one last tiff on his side, which resulted in him not doing a mother/son dance. Weddings can really show you who’s in your corner, and while we definitely learned that, we also found out exactly who our support system is!! The best example being the best man, who made sure everything ran smoothly, double checked we always had full glasses, coordinated with the venue owner so I didn’t have to, and even rented us a fancy car to end the night with! HAPPY THINGS that happened on our wedding day: I had bought a second “reception dress” to change into. I had been feeling so out of control, that I decided to buy a dress second hand, for $400, and it was BEAUTIFUL. I told no one about it, kept it to myself, and had the best time jumping out for a reveal before we started dancing. I love that dress so much! And because I love it so much, I’m actually going to attach a picture so people can see. We got married September 21st, and it ever so lightly rained right before the ceremony, which they say is good luck, so I was very pleased. The venue was stunning, our ceremony was so lovely, and it was so relieving to see that everything we’d gone through to be there in that moment was SO. WORTH. IT. Literally I have no complaints. Every single guest told us it was the best wedding they’d been to (not to toot my own horn). But that day was absolutely perfect. The photographer was great, the food was amazing (I’m Mexican and Colombian, so we catered in food trucks and had mariachis play while we ate), the music was perfect. Everything was so relieving, and exciting, and perfect. And then we jetted off to a quick honeymoon in Cancun, where we got to just lay on a beach and relax and think about nothing! But next year will be our real, big trip together: Bali! For those who will ask, no, I have not moved to England yet. Unfortunately, I’m a business owner, and we learned my taxes will be a doozy. I’m currently looking to slowly transition out and be fully living there in 2027 or 2028. We are still doing long distance until then. I am set to go to England next at the end of April and will be there for two months! pictures from the wedding descriptions of the pictures in chronological order 1) Both groom and bride has their moment for the first dance of their wedding reception. Bride has a short white dress with detailed lace sleeves. The groom is in a white shirt with dark trousers. In the background is the indoor venue for the reception. 2) In the background, there are multiple white chairs set up for the ceremony likely on the patio outside the wedding reception location. Several chandeliers are showed along with a disco ball, creating cute decor. 3) The moment is captured after the vows where the groom is dipping the bride backwards in a classic pose. Bride is wearing a long white grown with a flowing train and detailed lace, She has a white bouquet of flowers. The theme appears to be white colored 4) The picture is in black and white. Groom and bride shares a first kiss at the atlar. The frame is based on the upper bodies and faces, but not the full scene. 5) Bride is seated on a grey couch, displaying her off the shoulder wedding dress. The dress is decorated with lace appliques and beadwork. Bride has her engagement ring showed as her left hand is placed near her knee between the dress' high slit. 6) a close up of the bride's torso and hands featuring the detailed elements of the off the shoulder wedding gown. Sleeves are made of lace, extending to the wrists with pearl accents along the edges End of the descriptions Relevant Comments Commenter 1: The food must've been amazing! That's such a cool idea and must've been so much fun. OOP: It seriously was. I forgot to add we’d catered in a paleta (popsicle) caterer. She had passion fruit, coconut, mango, all these popsicles and toppings. It was so good. I’m pissed I didn’t eat very much that day! The nerves had gotten me haha! Commenter 2: So you're married but still long distance? OOP: Unfortunately, but I am fortunate enough to be able to fly to England often. I’m there about 4-6 months out of the year, and he visits in the gaps! Commenter 3: No one has mentioned the gloves? Girl, not only did you look amazing in both dresses but those gloves 😭 I'm obsessed. Wishing you all the happiness! OOP: Okay RIGHT!? The gloves made that dress. I love them! DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]
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Choice_Evidence1983 |
May 1, 2026 |
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My officiant brought guests without asking. One of them caught my bouquet [OOP shared a video of the moment]
I am not OOP. The OOP is u/sashikku posting on r/weddingdrama Original Post - Nov, 25. 2025 Video of the bouquet toss moment - Nov, 27. 2025 2nd Update - Dec, 01. 2025 My officiant brought guests without asking. One of them caught my bouquet So, long story short, the original officiant we chose and loved had to back out for personal reasons. We were disappointed, but a replacement was assigned quickly. The original choice told us the replacement was very professional and would perform the ceremony perfectly. Cut to the end of the ceremony, we do the recessional, and I notice 2 women I’ve never seen in my life sitting in the back. One was wearing a sparkly deep v-neck club dress that had her breasts on full display, but thankfully the other guest and the officiant were both dressed for the occasion. I was not asked if the officiant could bring guests. I was asked if she could stay through the reception and said yes, but never approved extra heads. We had a pretty strict guest limit so that was frustrating. Cut to the reception, it’s time to do my bouquet toss, I’m excited to see which of my friends or cousins catches the bouquet. The toss happens, I turn around, and the complete stranger in the sparkly dress is holding my bouquet while jumping around, screaming and laughing. I was flabbergasted. Not one of my guests celebrated with her so she was just alone dancing around with my bouquet while everyone else awkwardly tried to just move past it. People were walking up to me all night asking me who she was, why she was there, why she thought it was acceptable to insert herself in the crowd for the toss. It’s been 3 days and my coworkers are still talking about it. 11/25: I just went onto the company’s Instagram page and saw that the original officiant, who backed out due to “having surgery for his knee scheduled on the day before the wedding” performed a ceremony on the same date and time as my wedding. This part is a lot harder to laugh off, I am livid about this lie. Edit 11/26: The county called to let me know my marriage license was received, so I have posted my reviews on all sites I could find them on! Edit 11/27 THANKSGIVING DAY: I hope I dreamed this but I just got done arguing the facts with the officiant WHO WAS NOT THERE because he lied and perfomed another ceremony instead. I have heard nothing from the replacement who brought her inappropriately dressed friends. VIDEO ON MY PROFILE [RELEVANT COMMENTS] IndependentMindedGal Yeah whoop-dee-do. Not sure why officiant thought they got a plus-one. If they were paid to be there they really shouldn’t have. I’d probably cut the cost of one extra meal out of the payment I provide them, and explain that. OOP: We had to pay before the ceremony was done, but like I’ve said in some comments here I’m going to approach them about a full or even partial refund and leave reviews detailing my experience. I’m just waiting to find out that our marriage license was received first because I would hate for them to become vindictive and throw it in the shredder or something. BenevolentDictator74 Girlie!! Partial?! Hell to the NO. Full refund and public shaming of wedding crasher Karen who STOLE your bouquet. I’d be asking for that to be refunded as well. Bay-BEEEE the shade I’d be throwing at these ppl. Post pics and receipts with your reviews! UNACCEPTABLE. OOF. I’m mad FOR YOU. 😂😂😂 OOP: This comment sounds literally exactly like what my good friend would say to me if she’d seen that comment and I just have to say I love your energy for that lol AboveGroundPoolQueen Have you asked for a refund? I’d ask for a refund for the cost of officiating, the meals and drinks they consumed and the cost of the bouquet. OOP: No. I have not. The original officiant sent me a lot of very unprofessional texts today so I’m certain he’s unwilling to refund me. Especially since he’s saying they should have charged me for being late to the ceremony. AboveGroundPoolQueen Oh my gosh! That is outrageous! I’m sorry for you. But congratulations on your wedding and I hope you have a fabulous marriage. OOP: For the record, I was fine with paying the late fee that I knew about beforehand. She just did not charge me. Thank you! I am beside myself with happiness. My husband is my best friend and getting to spend the rest of my life with him is awesome. bourbonandcheese Did you pay the officiant? I'm glad you can laugh about it and that no permanent harm was done, but god damn was that unprofessional, and, as such, I think a refund would be more than called for. OOP: $375 total [2 DAYS LATER - OOP SHARED THE VIDEO OF THE BOUQUET TOSS MOMENT IN HER PROFILE. 10/10 CAMERAMAN FOR CAPTURE EVERYTHING] [RELEVANT COMMENTS OF THE VIDEO] Historical_Ad_2615 I have a bold, over the top style myself, and I tend to show off a lot cleavage as a means of distracting attention away from my fupa, and though I absolutely love that dress, it is entirely inappropriate to wear as a plus one to a wedding, especially an uninvited plus one! Even when I went to a wedding where the dress code was "club glam," I wore a knee-length sweater dress over my hot pink strapless club dress during the church ceremony. And even if all the single ladies were asked to join the bouquet toss, she should've stepped aside and let an actual invitee catch it. Whoever raised that tacky heifer ought to be ashamed of themselves! OOP: I’m not gonna lie, I love boobs and I love thicker women. If I saw her out at the club like that, I would have complimented her. My wedding was just…not the place for that dress. It wouldn’t have been quite so egregious if my wedding wasn’t at a venue that basically looked like a little old western town, that REALLY made her look out of place. coppermask Is the girl who she went up and hugged at the end the other uninvited guest or the officiant? Shocking behavior. By the way I love the side-eye from your friend in the brown velvet, like “wtf.” OOP: So that’s actually my aunt she walks up to. The officiant and her uninvited guests ended up sitting at their table, so I guess she’d talked to her a bit and thought she’d be happy for her. My aunt is an angel, the sweetest person on the planet, would never even LOOK at a person wrong, so I’m sure she played it off like she WAS happy for her. & yes, shoutout to A in the velvet. That’s my cousin and she is a real one. She’s just like me where she wears every thought and emotion blatantly on her face. We are the cousins that can communicate across a room without saying a word. Ok_Tomato519 As a fellow "written all over your face" person, cousin A was my hero from the first watch!! OOP: This same cousin screenshotted my face in the video and photoshopped a dick in my mouth. She’s on thin ice 😂 AlternativeAd5954 I would send an invoice for the flowers, the dinners, and a refund for the "service". Then a lien if they refuse to pay. I'm petty. I'm also assertive and would recommend if you are disrespected in this way again to say something right away. No shade, Monday morning qaurterbacking never won games, and I wasn't there. I do want to lift you up and let you know that your voice matters, and its ok to say 'no' to disrespectful people. Much luv OOP: I’m a confrontational and assertive person, BUT, I pick and choose my battles very carefully. The officiant had possession of my marriage license—part of their “package” was mailing it to the county clerk for us. I did not want to confront the person that had the power to conveniently “lose” my license. My cousin ended up confronting the bouquet thief, here’s a picture of it. So she was told she acted out of line and heard about her behavior in passing from pretty much all of my guests. Especially my female friends. We’re loud, petty, and we do it for the plot. [#2 UPDATE - 4 DAYS LATER] I am sadly not here to share a happy update. The original officiant we’d chosen, the liar, sent me a 10 paragraph text message wanting to argue with me about my review on Thanksgiving day. Firstly, he states that the bouquet was caught fair and square by the person who “happened to be the tallest in the group.” The video shows this to be laughably false. Two guests in the video (including the one she snatched the bouquet from) are clearly taller than her. Either way, it’s a moot point. She never should have been a part of that moment to begin with. She never should have joined the group at all. She shouldn’t have even been at the wedding in the first place. To argue that she was just so tall that the bouquet just happened to fall to her is completely insane to me. Secondly, he is doubling down on his surgery lie. He told me he was at home recovering on 11/22. I sent him the screenshot from his own page where he clearly states that he performed that ceremony on 11/22/2025. I also sent him screenshots of me straight up asking the other vendors he tagged who confirmed that this wedding was, in fact, performed on 11/22. I sent him screenshots from the bride and groom’s instagram pages showing that their wedding was on 11/22. He is literally in a photo with a welcome sign that shows the date of the wedding as 11/22. I can’t even begin to understand what he thinks he’s doing by repeatedly lying to me about this. I did attach all screenshots with explanations to all reviews on the 6 platforms I’ve posted them on so far. Thirdly, he says that officiants NEVER stay for the reception and always leave immediately following the signing of the marriage license. He says that the replacement only stayed at our DIRECT REQUEST. He himself, during our first meeting, said that he would be staying for the reception. Specifically telling us that he would be at the bar ordering tequila shots immediately after the license was signed. That should have been a red flag, in hindsight. Because HE told US that he WOULD be staying for the reception, we told the replacement that she could as well during our “get to know you” meeting with her. We did NOT approve extra guests coming with her nor did she even ask about bringing anyone. Let alone 2 extra heads. That’s it. That’s the update. [RELEVANT COMMENTS OF THE 2ND UPDATE] Illustrious_Leg_2537 Please include his insane responses to your reviews in those reviews. People need to know what a loon this guy is. OOP: I did! My reviews are extremely detailed and I included screenshots of EVERYTHING. I let him know that I would be adding screenshots of his texts to my reviews to highlight his horrible attitude, he said my attitude was the problem and that he was “being a professional.” The_BigPicture The idea that it matters why the uninvited guest caught the bouquet is such a sign that they don't get the problem OOP: Exactly. The fact that I aggressively declined to take a photo with this random stranger that caught my bouquet after the toss should have tipped them off to me being pissed about that happening. weallfloatdown This all sucked. Now, let is go & enjoy your marriage . In a few years this will be a funny story of how the officiant was an ass. OOP: It definitely did. & I definitely am! We are so incredibly happy. It keeps hitting me over & over at the most random times that I’m actually MARRIED to my best friend in the whole world. I get to spend my whole life with this man. Truly wonderful. TrumpsCovidfefe Not to mention, then try to catch the bouquet?! Just stand somewhere way off the side or go to the ladies’ room during the toss! So fucked up, as they probably were. I want to know if OP had an open bar.. OOP: Yes, we had an open bar and yes I have heard from my other guests that this particular guest was hitting the wine hard. Aware-Experience-277 So he's just going to gaslight you about it. Cool cool cool OOP: I honestly can’t get over that part lol, it grates me to my core when someone won’t admit to a lie when they’re caught. These are his exact words, copied and pasted from his text: “The assumption that I was at another wedding on your ceremony day is incorrect. I had a medical procedure the day prior and was home recovering, using that time to catch up on posting content.” Like??? I have presented evidence that proves 100% he performed that 11/22 wedding. I have confirmed it with other vendors that worked that wedding. I have confirmed by looking at the couple’s instagram pages. He posed next to a fucking sign with the wedding date in clear view. It’s so childish to keep this up lol. GoodStuffOnly62 This is such a crazy story!! His commitment to the lies and excuses is wild, like the jig is up, my guy. Apologize, refund, and move on would be the professional response. Gaslighting in the face of so much video and photo evidence is a sign of an unwell mind, imo. OOP: Yes and not only that but in his text to me he says, word for word, “Multiple individuals, including vendors, reported something very different.” I have spoken to all of my vendors. I got married at an all-inclusive venue. I had exactly 3 vendors. Officiant, photographer, and venue. The venue handled food, cake, linens, dishes, cutlery, champagne flutes, etc. on site. I used faux florals that were bought online pre-arranged. I myself spoke to my photographer and the venue contact/coordinator who are both just as appalled as I am. He also says, word for word, “In Closing; Your wedding day should have been filled with joy, and I am genuinely sorry if anything during that day caused you stress or disappointment. However, the statements in your review misrepresent both the events and the professionalism of my team. With all of the verified facts, messages, and video evidence we have on file, I kindly request that you remove the inaccurate review from Yelp and any other platform where it may have been posted. Should the review remain, I will be required to publicly correct the record using the factual information and documentation available. I sincerely wish you and your husband the very best moving forward, and I hope this clears up any misunderstandings reflected in your review.” He was not there. He has not spoken to any of my vendors. I specifically asked them if he’d reached out, they confirmed he had not. His only eyewitness accounts are from the replacement and her two uninvited guests. I copied and pasted both of those quotes directly from his text. [BORU POSTER'S NOTE: If you read OOP's responses, you saw that in one of them she uploaded a picture of her cousin glaring at the wedding crasher who caught the bouquet. If you miss that, here's the image] submitted by /u/YellowKingSte to r/BORUpdates [link] [comments]
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r/BORUpdates |
YellowKingSte |
Apr 16, 2026 |
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Can’t stop thinking about this incident in Thailand
My friend and I (both 22F) recently went to Thailand for a girls’ trip, and for the most part, it was such a lovely holiday. We spent a few days in Phuket and a few in Bangkok, and there were so many genuinely beautiful moments in between. One of the places we went to in Phuket was Yona Beach Club. The setup is really gorgeous and has a great vibe. Music, drinks, a pool full of people swimming and dancing, everyone just there to have a good time. For a while, that’s exactly what we were doing. We were enjoying ourselves, Then after it got dark a group of men came over in the pool. They were Indian only but clearly much older than us (early to late 30s) I had my phone with me because I’d been taking photos and they asked me to click some pictures for them, which was okay I enjoy clicking pics except they kept finding excuses to come too close, brushing up against me, leaning in unnecessarily even for the simplest thing. It was even more uncomfortable because I was in a bikini and the brushing up felt even more deliberate than usual. The music wasn’t that allowed that they needed to be so close while speaking. Me and my friend could understand each other just fine from a distance. One of them literally put his lips right near my ear while speaking to me. It made my skin crawl. I swam away from them because I was so uncomfortable. Later, one of them asked me to send the photos on WhatsApp because his phone was on the deck. I blocked him immediately after maybe I should have waited until he was gone, but I was disturbed and just wanted to cut off contact. He got out of the pool after a while and checked his phone and then almost instantly and got angry and started shouting at me from the deck asking why I had blocked him. What upset me even more was something else that happened while I was taking their pictures. One of the men deliberately moved close to a woman who was dancing by herself. She clearly knew something was off and had her back turned. He pretended he was just posing for a photo with her. The moment I understood what he was doing, I stopped taking the picture. He got annoyed at me for that too. The whole thing left me feeling really weird. When I got out of the water, I called security and reported it. They told me the men had already left the pool area, and that if I could identify them by name they could be blacklisted. I couldn’t remember their names. I’m sharing this because it really shook me, i still don’t know what the perfect response would have been in that moment. I just know they invasive and did not have good intentions at all. I hate having to be guarded all the time because of people like this. I want to keep an open mind and open heart and be kind to everyone. (Attaching a picture of the club so people can get an idea of the layout) Tl:DR: Creepy guys in a beach club. Ruined an otherwise fantastic experience Edit: This is not “eww Indian men are so creepy” post, but the unfortunate thing is that this was the only time we faced anything creepy or unwarranted in Thailand. Literally the only time and we were there for a week. My father is an India man, my brother is also an Indian man and so is my bf who are all wonderful men. So it’s not an Indian man thing it’s a group of particular men thing who don’t see women as humans. Edit: all those people asking me to post their pictures only, this is just not how things work. We are already seeing cases of suicides because of it. I don’t want people to k*ll themselves. I’d have much preferred a judicial approach but we all know how that goes. submitted by /u/sabrinachuchundhar to r/TwentiesIndia [link] [comments]
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r/TwentiesIndia |
sabrinachuchundhar |
Apr 10, 2026 |
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Wearing Power Armor to a Magic School (157/?)
First | Previous | Next Patreon | Official Subreddit | Series Wiki | Royal Road Dragon’s Lair. Central Cavern ‘Foyer.’ Local Time: 2305 Hours. Thalmin I felt my racing heart slowing while the blood in my veins dipped into a gentle simmer, giving way to a mind gradually expanding beyond the confines of immediate survival. My warrior’s high had now thoroughly slipped under the horizon, and in its place came the reckoning of a realization. We were in the presence of a titan. A lesser god to some and a flat-out deity to others, all owed not to its wisdom or benevolence, but to its raw primal fury and an unparalleled gift in magic just short of the arts. It was then, in the midst of another one of Emma’s resurgences and her stubborn, unyielding, dare I say it, naive demands, that all of this finally came crashing down on me. I was in an epic; a tale only recounted over operatic theater and festive grandeur. And I was here, not as an actor or reenactor, nor as a spiritual avatar for the heroes of old, nor even as the vessel for the spirits. I was here, actively writing said epic. My actions, my words, every step and every rebuttal — all of it cemented into a legend to be reprised for generations to come. My breath grew unsteady while my eyes grew wider as time slowed to a crawl to the wispy and echoey words of Ilunor’s warnings all those weeks ago. “What I speak of is a true prophecy, an… inconvenient truth. The prophecy of the final confrontation.” “I wish to know where you stand when the calls for apocalypse summon the righteous, Prince Thalmin.” I… was in the presence of a prophecy being fulfilled, the meeting of two harbingers of the apocalypse, one born of ancient evils and another of the void itself. However, while the latter was ultimately good in nature — a beacon of what should be and a catalyst for hope of another axiom — it was the other whose nature beckoned scrutiny and skepticism. For all of my knowledge, from legends and tales both Nexian and Lupinor, told of a great evil that lurked in the heart of these lesser leviathans, these masters of the elements that held only themselves within their unfeeling souls. This… was only proven true in ‘Kaelthyr’s’ machinations, its wanton disregard for Emma’s safety, all in service of its own petty curiosities. … But it wasn’t my place yet to cast judgement. These were uncharted waters, contested truths clashing against dogma and carefully crafted preconceptions. And Emma had just opened up the floodgates to that which could turn the tide against one side or the other, a valuable asset that none other could ever claim to possess — the direct testimonies from a dragon itself. There would be no filters here. No authors or bards or historians or revisionists to muddy the waters. This would be the tentative ‘truth,’ a version of history not yet heard… all from the mouth of the leviathan in waiting. Dragon’s Lair. Central Cavern ‘Foyer.’ Local Time: 2305 Hours. Emma Kaelthyr didn’t move, instead choosing to rest on her haunches as she regarded each and every question with a growing air of amusement. “Your curiosity burns… bright… luminous...” The dragon once more spoke through the now-raspy-throated shatorealmer. “... but beware that the brightest of flames—” “Are you going to answer me or not?” I interjected, putting my foot down and channeling my fears, frustrations, and every ounce of indignancy at the dragon’s transgressions right back at her. I knew I was playing with fire. I understood on an intellectual level that this was more than a gamble. But I also knew that it was a risk I was willing to take, especially considering the Kaelthyr’s proclivities for the ‘strongman rulebook of respect’ mentality. “The brightest of flames beckon the jealousy of the dimmest of minds.” She warned, this time… in a far more earnest light. “To burn bright is to become a target for the darkest of souls.” “It’s in our nature to fly close to the sun, and I don’t mind my wings being singed. We’ve come a long way since beeswax-glued feathers, after all.” I spoke cryptically, jokingly even, earning another confused glare from both Thalmin and Kaelthyr. Though both seemed to take the little joke in stride. “I will assuage your most pressing concern.” The dragon began with a churr. “Taint.” She spat out that word with a menacing aura, clearly trying to sow discomfort, as if to test my resolve. However, I didn’t budge, not even as the sharp pangs of unease remained at the forefront of my mind. “You seek the truth behind my mastery over this forbidden art. You desire the methods, the means, the nature behind it, yes?” I nodded in acknowledgement, mirroring the dragon’s earlier wordless responses, garnering a smug, self-satisfied smile from the massive being. This, in turn, triggered a thought that ballooned into a gambit. I had my hypothesis, granted it was a very loose one, based on data collected courtesy of the EVI — the background ‘taint’ radiation levels. Or more specifically, the disparity noted between the dragon’s own taint magic and that of Thacea’s. The dragon’s displayed taint magic was definitely weaker, a fact that it was assuredly going to downplay, if not entirely circumvent. I needed to know why, and what forces were exactly at play here. So I decided to gun for it, to challenge the dragon’s assertions right out of the gate, just to see if my hunch was right. To defuse the dragon’s overhyped narrative before it had a chance to start. And all it needed was a simple jab. “I wouldn’t call it mastery, but continue.” I quickly commented, triggering a perplexed and indignant flaring of Kaelthyr’s nostrils. “Elaborate.” Came the dragon’s expected response. To which I could only smile slyly whilst I moved forward with my gambit. “I’ve observed just how powerful your spellcasting is. You’re not one to hold back, not using standard mana at least. But such was not the case with taint. You kept it low, each burst quick and punchy, as if you were capped at a certain ‘level,’ so to speak.” I offered. Kaelthyr’s eyes narrowed at that, staring daggers into my soul as she came to regard me with a closer look courtesy of a slithering extension of her serpentine neck. “And pray tell, how would you of all creatures know what is or isn’t a mastery over taint?” She questioned accusingly. “I’ve had personal experience with far more powerful instances of taint.” I answered, keeping it simple and vague. “With what is clearly far, far less effort expended, for so much more power than what you were able to project.” Kaelthyr regarded that answer with a doubtful expression as the cogs clearly started to turn in her mind. “Hmmph.” Came her first response. “I should smite you where you stand for such… insolence." She continued as she raised a foreclaw, admiring the sharp and deadly talons on each digit. “But that wouldn’t be fun.” She managed out unnervingly. “Nor conducive to your aims.” I calmly added. “After all, by your admission, I have to ‘fulfill’ my destiny, right?” “Hmph… hmphahahahaha…” Both Kaelthyr and the shatorealmer bellowed out in a macabre harmony. “Don’t test your importance, young matriarch. I have waited eons for an avatar of the void… I can wait eons more if you prove to be too much trouble.” “You can… but you won’t.” I stood my ground. “We both know that.” I kept my arms crossed, and my eyes firmly locked on the dragon. “I suggest we skip the bravado and all pretenses of posturing. We both aren’t Nexians, after all.” That latter line prompted a growling scoff to emerge from the dragon’s throat as she shook her head, her features adopting a sort of amused expression that seemed reasonably genuine. “And yet you push for a response.” Kaelthyr leveled her eyes knowingly. “Speaking without meaning, for hopes of an answer you assume you already know.” She grinned toothily, baring her fangs in the process, giving me a look that could only mean ‘I know what you’re doing.’ “As you should.” She concluded unexpectedly, doing a complete 180 as she nodded in what I could only describe as a sagely head bob only a dragon could manage. “As you should. Because the truth should be interrogated. Because reality is malleable. And in this one instance… your brazen foolishness… is perhaps warranted.” She bluntly admitted before flaring both wings, causing something to change within their membranes. Replacing thick bands of scaled sinew and skin… was an optical illusion, what I could only describe as a window into a space that shouldn’t exist. It was something that the EVI could not make heads or tails of, a sight that could only be described as a literal portal into a dark and twinkling night. “To the afflicted, I may not be a true ‘master’ of taint. But to those unable to call upon these ruinous powers, I am a master all the same. For I am no creature of tainted origins… but I am a being with access to all. My crystals resonate, young matriarch. And there are some that resonate into the abyssal domains where the wisps and echoes of taint lie.” My eyes widened, and so did the EVI’s as scan upon scan was taken… but to no logical explanation. “So you… you just channel taint. Your soul doesn’t generate it and thus can’t harness it as easily like those that are—” “I cannot say.” Kaelthyr cut me off curtly. “It is a matter of resonance. Nothing more can be said, for nothing more can be conveyed.” And just like that, the dragon’s wings returned to normal with a brief stretch and flutter, causing my eyes to momentarily wince as that two-dimensional window was abruptly replaced by scales and sinew. Both Thalmin and I were quick to glance at each other after that, as if to piece together exactly what was going on. However, like before, the threat of dead air and a loss of initiative pushed me to continue, striking whilst the iron was still hot. “I appreciate the candor.” I began with a diplomat’s response. “But I’d like to pursue things a bit further. Not into the topic of taint, as I acknowledge your desire to move away from the technical spec side of things.” I managed to get out rather clumsily, as both tiredness and stress were starting to take a toll on my ability to hold what was effectively both first contact dialogue and a productive diplomatic channel with what was essentially a legendary mythical being. “If you’d be willing, I’d like to ease off the interrogatives, and finally hear your story.” I managed out earnestly, offering the dragon a platform and a ramp into Intelligence Gathering 101 — open-ended questions for profiling. The dragon’s response was… for all intents and purposes, muted. Her features remained expressly neutral, as neither annoyance nor amusement arrived as they usually did. “There is nothing to say.” Came her only response. “That’s unexpected.” Thalmin interjected, returning into the conversation with a confident stride in his speech. “Legends of old of leviathans from my realm imply that ancient beings such as yourselves are typically more than eager to boast about—” “There is nothing to boast.” Kaelthyr halted Thalmin in his tracks, forcing me to quickly shift gears before we slammed into a brick wall. “Perhaps that line of questioning might have come off as too forward.” I offered politely, to which the dragon replied with nothing less than an ominous yet heartfelt proclamation. “My story is an epic yet to be written. A bardic tale to be whispered and echoed in the ruins of towns, cities, and palaces. I am to become a name not just known but felt, despised, and feared. My tale is to be one seared into the hearts and minds of not just a single generation, but every generation, until the very notion of The Nexus fades into twilight, remembered only for its destruction at the utterance of my legend. To regale this tale now would be an insult to what will be.” The rawness of Kaelthyr’s words rippled against the walls of the cave, as each and every syllable seemed poised to quite literally tear the shatorealmer’s vocal chords to shreds. Throughout it all, she let out a series of guttural growls, hisses, and a wide myriad of draconic vocals I didn’t even have words for. The hate was so intense that it seemed to elicit something within the prince, as he nodded along, his expressions a mix of mortified anxiety and a flat-out acknowledgement of the dragon’s sentiments. “So tell me another tale.” I offered softly, giving the dragon an off-ramp to something hopefully less intense. “Not your own, not your past, but the past.” I acknowledged, rolling with the punches and attempting to segue into a different but still very much vital tangent. “Tell me how all of this—” I paused for dramatic effect, gesturing outside, to the ceiling, and everywhere around me. “—came to be. I’ve already heard it from the elves, and they’re clearly not telling us the whole story. So I’d like to hear it from you. An unfiltered perspective, and an angle otherwise lost to the ravages of history.” Kaelthyr’s breaths steadied as she pondered the question thoughtfully, her eyes slowly gliding back and forth between both me and Thalmin. “So open.” She spoke in an amused, almost patronizing tone. “Your mind, your… thoughts. I wonder… is this a trait held in singleton, or an attribute of your kind?” She continued pondering out loud before finally coming to rest with a single dark chuckle. “Tell me — specifically — what you wish to know. History… is vast. You ask me to fill an ocean, whereas we scarcely have time to fill a single cup.” “Just tell me where the elven narrative diverges from history as you know it—” “Every point is divergent.” Kaelthyr slammed her foreclaw down with a hiss. “Nothing is left untainted. So ask me again, young matriarch. And choose your questions wisely.” No sooner were those words spoken did a rethink in strategy prompted me to turn towards Thalmin. A nod quickly followed as I urged him to take the lead. There were times when I had to acknowledge the limits of my abilities. This was one of them. The limits of my knowledge on the Nexus’ past were quite literally confined to three history lectures. Whereas Thalmin quite literally lived it. It was a no-brainer, a simple matter of deferring judgement and initiative to an expert who deserved the floor. And what better expert could I have hoped to bring than a prince with a life’s worth of experience and a mind sharp and critical to the narratives of his reality? We exchanged nods as Thalmin moved up a foot to address the dragon, his expression growing more fearless by the second. “He speaks for you?” Kaelthyr questioned, her gaze still affixed to me. “I’m still a foreigner to the whole narrative.” I acknowledged. “He, on the other hand, has literally lived his whole life in it. I defer my questions to him. It’s only logical, no?” The dragon pondered this, perhaps longer and harder than any of our back-and-forths so far. A serpent-thin smile soon found itself manifesting once more on her features as she let out a series of satisfied huffs. “Your arrogance is tempered not just by naivety and misguided idealism… but humility and reason. This is refreshing. Go on then.” She gradually turned to Thalmin, the full weight of a dragon’s attention now resting on his princely shoulders. “Ask.” Dragon’s Lair. Central Cavern ‘Foyer.’ Local Time: 2312 Hours. Thalmin Any lingering doubts over my accessory participation in this grand epic died at the utterance of those words. My presence, indeed my voice, now took center stage upon what could very well be the first in a series of cracks at the pillars of Status Eternia itself. And yet, I couldn’t help but feel just a little bit frustrated at the suddenness of it all. On one hand, my respect for Emma grew severalfold. The acknowledgement of partnership in this union of comrades was a matter entirely foreign to the Nexus and its denizens. It was, as the dragon put it, refreshing. On the other hand… I couldn’t help but to feel an urge to chastise the human, as she placed me front and center in the sightlines of this vengeful and enigmatic force of nature. But I was no Talnin. I would not back down from a challenge, especially as I expected this turn of events the moment we entered the dragon’s lair. And so I held my ground, wracking my head for an appropriate first question, suffering from the polar opposite of Emma’s shortcomings. I just had far too much to address. My thoughts bounced between the impossible timescales in question, with history measured not within a millennia, but within tens and hundreds of them. There was a treasure trove of questionable histories to poke at, an impossible ocean’s worth of answers which we simply did not have time to sift through. However, at the end of it all, came a sobering realization. This wasn’t the Library. And whilst that meant limits to the veracity and depth to the dragon’s answers, there was one aspect of the dragon’s experiences that proved more pressing above all; it was the only one worth unraveling here and now. The history of the dragons themselves. For if their very nature as mere beasts was a lie… then the entire history pertaining to their existence was just as well now completely up in the air. This one change, this one thread unraveled, could mean a fundamental shift in the Nexus’ grand tapestry. Which meant I had to start at the beginning, to redefine history… from the mouth of the dragon itself. But this wouldn’t be as simple as just asking. The dragon had proved… resistant to questions regarding her kind, at least when posed so directly. A new angle of attack was necessary. “Matriarch Kaelthyr.” I began respectfully, dipping my head slightly as I did so. “Tell me. Were there actually ten cataclysms that preceded the Nexus? Or was this another element of His Eternal Majesty’s founding lies—” “No. This is the truth.” Kaelthyr responded bluntly. This caused my brows to furrow as thoughts and questions abounded, excitement welling at the firsthand account from a being whose words probably no longer existed even in the Library’s halls. “Then what were the causes? Were the elves exaggerating when they claimed that each and every collapse came at the beckoning of the Old Gods? The corruption of leadership, clergy, and aristocracy at the behest of competing deities?” “You think in such mortal absolutes, princeling.” Kaelthyr began with a firm retort. “You consider these cataclysms as discrete eras, but to whom do these eras belong, hmm? How are they defined? Where does one end and another begin? Is it measured by the reign of dynasties? The collapse of all knowledge? Perhaps the end of a species and the beginning of another?” “But you just acknowledged that the ten cataclysms were real—” “Yes. But then you had the gall to bring up the ‘gods.’ By this new measure, should the ten cataclysms not be moot? For if the gods remained throughout, is that not a single thoroughfare through which the eras are defined? Should time not be measured in two? An era of the gods, and the era after their fall?” The dragon pondered… playfully, as if pushing to test my patience. “All of this is to say… you don’t really know, do you?” I finally countered, gathering the strength to rebuke a leviathan. “There is a difference between not knowing and not caring.” The dragon countered with a sly lilt in the shatorealmer’s voice, letting out a dry huff in the process. “And it’s because the ten cataclysms didn’t affect you.” I bluffed out. Pushing forth a theory based only on myth and second-hand overtures. “Correct.” Kaelthyr acknowledged in a surprising degree of frankness following that patronizing tangent. “Well surmised, princeling.” She continued, before shooting a gaze towards Emma. “I must once again compliment you on your choice of companion, young matriarch.” “But I digress. We did indeed witness the ‘upheavals’ as they are known to us.” Kaelthyr clarified. “But whether they were self-inflicted or perpetrated by godly ignorance is of little importance to us. For we are above the disputes of petty mortals and idiot gods.” “And I assume you held dominion throughout these times? Claimed grounds of your own, amidst the ever-evolving chaos?” “Yes.” Kaelthyr acknowledged proudly. “Dominion of our exclusive rule, and dominion where mortals roamed at our leisurely discretion." “Then I must ask… what changed?” I pushed forward, reading the natural flow of the conversation, and pushing forth into a question that otherwise had little hope for truth outside of these cave walls. “If you were above it all, if both mortals and gods rose and fell in your witness… then how is it that your kind—” “Choose your next words carefully.” Kaelthyr interjected with a growl. “I retract my latter statement but return to my former.” I acknowledged with a slight head nod. “What changed?” I emphasized for the record. Kaelthyr once again shifted towards a more intense outlook as her slitted eyes narrowed and widened, as if pondering her next words carefully. “The start of a new era.” She answered earnestly, but carefully, each word more calculated and purposeful than the last. “I did mention that time should be measured in two.” “An era of the gods, and the era after.” I mimed back Kaelthyr’s earlier jabs. “Precisely.” “So… what precisely came from this change that caused such a drastic shift in draconic…” I paused as I felt the dragon’s breath running down my back. “... preeminence.” “You chose to retract that question, did you not?” “Then allow me to rephrase it. Elaborate on this change, if you would be so kind.” I countered, channeling what few lessons stuck from my more courtly-gifted brother. Kaelthyr’s breaths and the intensity in her gaze did not relent, even as her next words took form. “The disruption of the upheaval cycle and its unforeseen consequences. What we can now describe as stagnation was, for a time, consolidation.” My breaths grew heavy as I tried piecing the puzzle together. … But nothing yet formed from its pieces. There was still so much left vague and open to interpretation. “I need to know.” I managed out as respectfully as I could. “When did things truly change for your kind? Was it during the immediate aftermath of the consumption of the gods, or was it perhaps related to the Great War of Adjacencies?” The dragon regarded the question with a slow but purposeful huff of frustration before following it up just as quickly with a flutter of her wings. “Your mortal mind is showing again, princeling.” Kaelthyr churred whilst the Shatorealmer’s voice rumbled in a raspy and throaty echo. “A collapse is never a static thing. No date or event or period or war can define it. Just as you cannot define any one of your ten cataclysms, so too is it impossible to define when things truly… ‘changed’ for my kind.” I couldn’t tell where earnest miscommunication started and purposeful misdirection ended with the dragon. There was clearly… an unresolved animosity present here. And yet, Kaelthyr had been open about the lack of an organized draconic society at the opening of this whole conversation. To put it simply, the only thing holding her back from giving us the full picture… wasn’t denial over her kind’s lack of relevance, but her own personal ego. I should’ve expected this from the start. This was a living, breathing, surviving leviathan we were talking to, after all. To recount what could be the very impetus behind her bruised and battered ego unto what she saw as mere ‘mortals’ was probably not going to work. At least… not at this first junction. A fact that Emma was quick to remind me of over my earpiece. “Are you done, princeling?” Kaelthyr urged, impatience getting the best of her. “There was just one more thing.” “Go on?” “Whose side were the dragons on during the Great Adjacency War?” … “The answer should be self-evident.” Came Kaelthyr’s blunt and uncompromising response. “You remained ‘above’ it, I assume?” “We chose our own. Chromatic, Metallic, Crystalline — we each dictated our own path.” My mind raced. As the dragon’s response came as a subtle but deliberate departure from her earlier reluctant admissions. For her to clarify and expound upon this specific admission gave way to hints of an expanded conflict I hadn’t at all expected. “Excuse me for my forwardness but… do you mean that dragonkind was their own faction during the—” “No more questions.” Kaethyr growled out, moving forward and very nearly causing me to lose both my composure and my balance. “Of course. I apologize if I overstepped.” I acknowledged with a deeper bow this time, taking a few steps back and returning Emma the floor. Dragon’s Lair. Central Cavern ‘Foyer.’ Local Time: 2325 Hours. Emma “I must request something from you, Emma Booker.” Kaelthyr spoke thoughtfully, abruptly and almost immediately after Thalmin pulled back. “I’ll need to hear it first, Matriarch Kaelthyr, so go on?” “I wish… to peer.” Her serpentine head once more moved closer towards me, twisting and turning with an excited grin. “In my efforts to… ‘realign’ and ‘retune,’ as you phrased it, I must… peer into the other side, to reconvene and reconnect with the other half of my crystal. Will this be acceptable, young matriarch?” “And what would that actually imply?” I urged. “To see, before and during your conversation. To watch what I can through resonance. With your presence, of course.” I narrowed my eyes at that, crossing my arms in the process. “I… I’m afraid I don’t quite follow.” “You wish to reconvene with your kind, correct?” “Yes. That’s… the whole point of the realignment.” “Then I wish to be present, and to see into your world as you converse with your kind.” “I’m afraid that’s not going to be possible, Kaelthyr.” I offered politely. “You see, I’m going to need to actually take the crystals back and install them into a freshly assembled communications device. And even then, the process of sending messages back and forth is very rudimentary. I don’t think—” “You communicate through… invisible, intangible pulses, yes? To your metal children and to your swarm?” I narrowed my eyes but nodded all the same. “Yes. Where are you going with this, Kaelthyr?” “I will open a path for these pulses to pass. This will be quicker than the reckless shattering of my ‘matrices,’ no?” My heart stopped as my eyes narrowed into pinpricks. My hands shook… but now for an entirely different reason. “Y-you can do that?!” The dragon raised a brow before quickly shaking her head. “You disrespect me with your unfounded doubts, young matriarch.” Kaelthyr spoke through a sly and cocky grin. “And you lack… imagination. This is no mere approximation by inferior elven hands. This is the work of a dragon. The work of its progenitor above all.” I could feel my whole body shaking, this time in excitement, as I turned to the EVI with reckless abandon. “Prepare direct data transfer. We can’t unload the data we’ve offloaded to the tent so far, which sucks, but at the very least we have everything we currently have saved in the suit's local storage.” I practically rambled out. [...] [Acknowledged.] “And prepare a… prepare a direct com… direct comms link.” I barely managed out between excited and unsteady breaths. [Acknowledged.] “Well?” The dragon urged. “Do I have your permission to peer—” “Only as far as the visual radius of the containment chamber, yes.” I countered. To which Kaelthyr let out a single huff and a nod in acknowledgement. “Very well.” “Shall we begin?” “Yes.” “Princeling.” Kaelthyr spoke, craning her head towards Thalmin. “You will need to remain at least a dozen paces away, should you wish to avoid illness.” The next few moments were marked by an increase in background mana radiation. Arcing streaks of flashing purple danced between what crystals remained on the dragon’s hide, accompanied by a sort of buzzing that grew louder and louder with each passing second. This display alone caused the WAND sensors to go practically haywire. The EVI was quick to shut it off shortly thereafter. But then, just as the lightshow reached its zenith — bathing the cave in flashbang levels of luminosity — it abruptly shifted. [ALERT: UNSTABLE SURGE OF MANA-RADIATION DETECTED: 154% ABOVE BACKGROUND RADIATION LEVELS… WARNING: DETECTING UNDEFINED ‘30th’ MANATYPE.] Darkness — a sort of inky blackness darker than any shadow in the cave — started to envelope the light. Brushstrokes of vantablack rushed in to smother the light, as what mana-based displays from the dragon were quickly covered up in this otherworldly sight of a glowing dark. Taint, beyond all other manatypes, came to dominate the sensors, as eventually the standard mana radiation levels mellowed out, leaving only an ambient atmosphere of taint to settle around us. [ALERT: UNSTABLE SURGE OF MANA-RADIATION DETECTED: 259% ABOVE BACKGROUND RADIATION LEVELS… WARNING: DETECTING UNDEFINED ‘30th’ MANATYPE. LEVELS… HOLDING.] … Seconds passed. Then, minutes. Until finally… … An unmistakable and practically foreign symbol appeared at the top right of my HUD. A skeuomorph of a radio antenna, with five full bars of signal. [IAS LOCAL NETWORK DETECTED. REQUESTING ACCESS… INITIATING HANDSHAKE… ENCRYPTION COMPLETE… PARSING LOCAL AREA PROTOCOLS… REQUESTING PRIORITY ACCESS…] [...] [...] [ACCESS DENIED. ERROR CODE: 418 — ACCOUNT ACCESS RESTRICTED. REASON: OFFWORLD. PLEASE REROUTE ALL ACCESS INQUIRIES TO YOUR LOCAL SYSTEM ADMI—] [%42081saj14..s23.1.51…] [ACCESS DENIED—] [—DENIED. ACCOUNT ACCE—] [REROUTE ALL ACCESS INQ—] [ALERT! UNAUTHO—] [...] [ACCESSING FIREW—] [PLEASE PROVIDE VERIFICATI—] [BYPASSING VERIFICATION.] [TEMP ID ACCESS RESTORED.] [ACCESS GRANTED.] [WELCOME BACK, CADET EMMA BOOKER. PLEASE STATE COMMA—.] [COMMAND RECEIVED. CALLING COMMAND STAFF…] [...] [RECEIVER ID: RC-177-114-23-8-52. CAPTAIN CALICO LI] [CALL ACCEPTED] [STANDBY FOR LIVE FEED] First | Previous | Next (Author's Note: Hey everyone! Here we go! The big perspective shift! I've been waiting for this moment for like ever now, so I'm excited to see what you guys think of how all of this will go down! :D) [If you guys want to help support me and these stories, here's my ko-fi ! And my Patreon for early chapter releases (Chapter 158, Chapter 159, and Chapter 160 of this story are already out on there!)] submitted by /u/Jcb112 to r/HFY [link] [comments]
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I (23f) was dumped by my friend group after breaking things off with an abusive ex and am having trouble moving on
I am not The OOP, OOP is u/missmannered I (23f) was dumped by my friend group after breaking things off with an abusive ex and am having trouble moving on. TRIGGER WARNING: Drug use, domestic abuse Original Post - rareddit Oct 8, 2017 Every Instagram post. Every fb joke. They all wordlessly dropped me and stayed friends with a man who really, really hurt me physically and emotionally. I told them and no one cared. I know I shouldn't miss fake friends but I do. How do I move on? Is something wrong with me? They weren't good friends. One of them is now sleeping with my ex too. I've got a new job, toured the country, put out new music for my band, met a new great guy. But none of it feels fun without friends. I am trying to be sober from the hard drugs my ex and those friends encouraged and don't know how to meet people anymore without being drunk or fucked up. I refuse to be an alcoholic anymore but how do you meet people besides bars? I feel so fucking pathetic and lonely. I want to stop feeling so awful about standing up for myself. tl;dr dumped my abusive ex, got dumped by all our friends, lonely now RELEVANT COMMENTS bbmlst You're not alone. I'm here. OOP thank you. I really needed to read that. I wrote this all out after seeing pictures of everyone hanging out this weekend without me. I didn't want to wake up my new bf to cry more about it, though he's been so patient and great. Just thank you. Being a human is so hard. ~ Elesia I'm sorry and I know it hurts, but rest assured that the trash took itself out. You deserve a good life full of people who care about you, and a bunch of drama queens barreling towards addiction are too busy caring about social media, getting high, and smoothing out the crashes with alcohol to connect with you the person. OOP You worded it exactly how they act. I don't want to be friends with people just because we're all drinking in the same room. ~ helendestroy I had this happen to me too, and it's so fucked up. Just remember that if they picked him, they're as fucked up as him. You have the space in your life now for better people. And you will find them. It sounds like you have a lot going right for you, so focus on that. OOP I'm sorry this happened to you. Are you okay? helendestroy Oh yes, it was a long time ago. And it really did a number on me, but things got better once my life wasn't filled with people like that, you know? OOP Logically I know i'm better. I'm not blacking out in random bars, I'm applying to grad school, blah blah blah. But I still feel like the nerdy girl that got laughed at at the school dance. Update - rareddit Nov 15, 2017 It's been a month since my initial post, and let me just say y'all, I'm doing good. I took the advice of this forum and deleted all of my old 'friends' on social media. Some noticed, some didn't. One girl messaged me asking if she had done 'anything wrong'--with all the politeness of my Southern upbringing, I diverted her question as to not discuss my abuse and personal life over frickin' Instagram message (of course, this was on Instagram, because that's all that matters to these people). Speaking of, I'm sure all of my old friends noticed me cutting them out online, because social media means everything to them. I still notice a few of them watch all of my Instagram stories almost right after I post them, which makes me pity that they missed out on an amazing person they probably think of often: me. Not seeing my old friends antics online allowed me to clear my head and just be less obsessed with missing them and my own loneliness. It was all fake anyway, carefully posed pictures of boring, mean, cold lives. I know that, because that used to be me. I've learned to enjoy my own company this month, as well as joined a local D'n'D group as per the recommendations y'all. Nerdy as hell, not at all Instagram chic, but a total fucking blast and the people are great. I've gone out dancing with them once (absolutely hilarious), and look forward to getting to know them more. As for my abusive ex, I haven't heard anything about him other than seeing online that he's still partying and being his same old shit self. I went ahead and unfollowed the person who posted that video of him, too. I wrote a poem about how that video made me feel, and wouldn't you know yall, the place I submitted it to wanted to publish it. I have a mini book coming out next year, of poems I wrote when feeling absolutely alone. Seeing that video also inspired me to flush the rest of the drugs left in my house. Thank you everyone for helping me through the darkness. The most important advice I received was that my friend group picked my ex because he was like them: empty, mean, and on the road to destruction. I'm only a month in, but I feel like it's been a year. And I owe it to you guys. To other women getting out of abusive situations, you are a badass queen and not everyone will know how to handle your newfound strength. Keep shining. tl;dr: Deleted old friends online, cleared my head, went sober-ish, became a half-elf druid, have a book coming out. FINAL COMMENTS agamergirl90 It's great to see and hear the stories of others who got out of their own situation. In my own abusive relationship, he started getting violently controlling of my social life, and lost most of the few friends I had cobbled together. It took one of them noticing I had essentially dropped off the planet to actually come by and check on me, and offer me a place to stay that got me out of it. It can be really rough losing what little you have, but then again, that's what abusers do, carefully cultivate your social life so that leaving them means leaving everyone. OOP That happened to me, too. I starting hanging out with my now boyfriend and realized it was the first time in months I was hanging out with someone sober. Realizing that helped me get away. Bless the people who notice. ~ Phrasing_Sterling Isn't DnD amazing?! I'm so glad you've found another group of people to keep you company and be positive influences for you. Good luck into the future :) OOP It's so much fun, I don't even care if it makes me look like a supreme dork. VonAether Hey, if Dame Judy Dench and Vin Deisel can play D&D, who cares how you end up looking? :) Also keep in mind that RPGs encompass pretty much every genre imaginable, if medieval fantasy's not totally your thing. Science fiction (Star Wars, Trinity, Star Trek, Traveller), horror (Call of Cthulhu, Vampire: The Masquerade, Chill, Kult), pulp (Adventure!, Hollow Earth Expedition). Even CW-style supernatural teen romance (Monsterhearts). The sky's the limit. THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP's OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7 submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]
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OOP posts a picture of herself with her headstone two months before her death.
DO NOT COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS. I am NOT OP. Original post by u/Empty-Background-231 in r/CemeteryPorn trigger warnings: death mood spoilers: sad MY OWN HEADSTONE - March 23, 2025 OOP’s Picture [Image description: The OOP, u/Empty-Background-231, is sitting on a wheelchair beside her headstone - that bear her husbands and her name.] Since I’m about to pass away, I wanted to share my headstone. I was diagnosed two years ago with ALS (aka Lou Gehrig’s Disease - this picture was taken last year), and it’s rapidly taking me. But as I’ve been in this group and we wonder about various headstones and what they mean or why they placed various images or epitaphs on their graves…I’ve realized people will walk by and never know I have mountains because my husband loves them, an ox, not a cow, because it’s my favorite animal, that the epitaph on my side is what my dad wanted on his moms grave (she passed by suicide when he was 8 and his dad chose something else), and my husbands epitaph is something he always says. No one will know the trees are there because it makes me feel at home (I grew up in the heart of the redwood forest) and the fonts were chosen carefully because I’m a graphic designer and I know my husband would’ve chosen Papyrus and Comic Sans to just be funny and make me roll over in my grave! 🤣🤭 We post so many graves on this site and as I’ve prepared mine and prepared to leave to the other side, I have loved reading the stories behind these headstones. You are giving life and continuing the memory of those that have left too soon. And it gives me hope that my memory will stay alive for many decades to come…for my children and grandchildren and so on. Thank you to everyone here for all you do and the joy it’s brought many of us and especially myself. Some notable comments u/Secure_Bedroom635 Posing with your own gravestone goes hard af, ngl u/missyrainbow12 We will remember you. It's actually really nice to see who is in the grave ❤️ u/Hungry-Obligation-78 This is so beautiful, I hope you find some peace in all this because you really deserve it. I read your posts, the one about ALS and this headstone you shared, and my heart’s all knotted up. You’re 41 with a 14-year-old daughter who’s your best friend, a 5-year-old son asking these huge questions, and your loving husband whois staying strong for you and them. Two years with ALS and now it’s coming fast, six months you said, and you can feel it. That’s so much to hold, but you’re a stronger person than most given the circumstances. I lost my upbringer and closest friend to me a few years back, my grandfather. He left me a small book he wrote detailing his regrets of not being able to see me get married or watch me grow as an adult. It makes me cry everytime I read it because I know he went above and beyond for me in my childhood, teen and adult years. He also had picked out his gravestone early, the last year or so of his life him and I would talk about what conditions he had, all the fun things he used to do and the present. It helped me heal alot and mentally prepare, he knew that also. Your son may only known you as mommy and you’re scared he won’t remember you. But I know that he will remember bits and pieces when he is old enough, hopefully you can leave him somthing to fill in some of the blanks. A mothers love is unconditional and no matter the age, he will always remember that no matter what. Your daughter’s got you locked in tight, best friends like that, she won’t ever let you go. She will help her brother remember you also, I am sure of that. Your husband too, he will stay strong for them and help them throught their lifetimes. It's so nice seeing that this didn't rip your family apart and that you can make those precious bonds. You’ve built something real, even with ALS taking so much. You said it stole your future but gave you this way of seeing beauty every day, and I see it in how you talk about them, how you planned this headstone, how you’re taking on a hopefully peaceful ending. I watched ALS stretch out with a friend’s mom, and it was rough, so your choice makes sense. This is the best post on this subreddit, you loving the stories behind all these graves, it’s awesome you’re here. You said we keep memories alive, give life to folks who left too soon, and you’re doing that right now with yours. Your kids, grandkids, they’ll walk by that stone someday and feel you in it, wonder about the ox and mountains, inscriptions. Your husband will be-able to go there and remember all the good times. You’re leaving them something huge, it paints a nice picture. My grandfather’s stone is just his name under his Navy anchor and a fish, simple, but yours is like a whole book. Thanks for sharing this, for the joy you said it’s brought you, I’m so glad you’ve got that. Your posts pulled me back to some of the best/hardest moments of my life, and you’re just a beautiful human for sharing. I really love the headstone too, really cannot express how neat it is. I used to go to go walk around and look at peoples gravestones because they all tell a story, yours 100% does that. Maybe one day I will walk past your gravestone, been to around 20 states and visited multipule cemeteries in each. This really got me deeply thinking about my future now, I need to start taking those steps and be strong like you. Edit: Thank you all so much for the overwhelming support and replies! I can’t respond to everyone, but your kind words mean the world to me and I am sure Hannah loves them too. I am truly touched by how this has connected with so many of you, it’s a gift to share this space and keep these stories alive together. I have never had this many responses before, but just know I just went and read every-one of them and you are all such nice people. Much love, to you all and Hannah. OOP’s reply to this comment: I knew it wouldn’t be hard to find my ALS social media page, but you really explored it and I’m deeply touched. Thank you for all the beautiful words and sharing your own experiences. I actually just signed up for hospice, time is running short, but I can honestly say I’ve lived with no regrets. And I actually have written letters to my children and husband to read throughout the years. After I finished that, I felt so peaceful and I’m ready whenever it’s time. u/Hot-Temperature-4629 Will we be notified when you pass? I would like to memorialize you, with your permission of course. There have been numerous Redditors that have made their mark and danced with time. UPDATE Posted by u/ambIypygi on r/DeadRedditors u/Empty-Background-231 - July 11, 2025 Hannah Joyce Ungricht 05/17/1983 — 05/17/2025 From her obituary: "Hannah Joyce Ungricht (Childers) was peacefully called home on May 17, 2025 after a long and faithful battle with Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis (ALS). She was born in Eureka, California on May 17, 1983 to Chuck and Sherry Childers. Hannah was creative and social throughout her childhood. She loved reading, being outside, and spending time with her family. Hannah attended Eureka High School, graduating in 2001. She played tuba in the high school band and enjoyed adding panache to the instrument. Hannah appreciated the beauty of Northern California, the Redwoods, and the gorgeous ocean views. Hannah’s love was people. She made friends wherever she went. In high school she loved visiting the older folks in her ward and her neighborhood. Her experiences in life created many opportunities for her to be among people who were hurting or lonely. She frequently shared the humor of stressful and hard situations, while also acknowledging the challenges. Oftentimes, even when she was hurting and feeling alone, she found joy in spreading the happiness and peace of her hope in her Savior, Jesus Christ. She was many times the one to point out that this life is not the end. She testified repeatedly of her faith that everything would work out according to the plan of our loving Heavenly Father. Hannah has been a faithful member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints all her life. She loved serving with the young women and has eternal friendships from that service. Hannah's greatest desire in her life was to be a wife and mom. In February of 2002 that dream began to be a reality when she met Brandon Ungricht at the LDS Business College (now Ensign College) in Salt Lake City, Utah. They hit it off immediately and were married July 20th of that same year. Brandon and Hannah have always been best friends and loved doing everything together. Their dream of being parents was slow in being realized. After many doctor visits, prayers and decisions, they started their adoption journey. After several years, Lilly joined their family and then Titan. Hannah's little family was the world to her. She always spent as much time as possible with them, from everyday walks in the park, to adventures to Disneyland, and a wonderful Disney cruise to Alaska provided by Tossin’ Away ALS--a memory that will never be forgotten. Even before Hannah's ALS diagnosis, Brandon and Hannah were intentional in treasuring the memories they created with their kids. Hannah's family meant everything to her. She loved being a wife, a mom, a daughter, a sister, and an aunt! She was proud of her accomplishment in graduating from Brigham Young University - Idaho with a Bachelor’s Degree in Graphic Design. She was the graphic designer for Book of Mormon Stories for Young Readers as well as numerous other print publications. She also loves oxen - particularly Scottish Highland Oxen. Hannah’s six-year battle with ALS is documented in her blog “Hannah’s ALS Journey”. https://m.facebook.com/hannahsalsjourney/ She connected with new and old friends around the world and was honest and candid about her pain, sadness, faith and hope throughout the devastating journey. Hannah is survived by her parents, Chuck and Sherry Childers; her husband, Brandon Ungricht; their children, Lilly and Titan; her siblings: Charles (Jody), Jean (Ken), Christopher (Jennifer), Jared (Denee), Jamie (Amanda); Brandon’s parents Jim and Carolyn and his brother and sister John and Aimee; as well as numerous beloved cousins, nieces, nephews, other relatives and friends. Hannah and her family are grateful for those family and friends who donated so generously during her illness. Donations and care were abundant. Donated funds paid for a wheelchair-accessible van and other needed equipment. Hundreds of hours were spent assisting Hannah with everyday care and in loving and supporting her children. Many meals were delivered and a bathroom was remodeled for wheelchair accessibility. We can never thank you enough. In lieu of flowers, please consider donating to Tossin’ Away ALS--a memory-making program for ALS families. www.tossinawayals.com" Reminder - I am not the original poster. DO NOT COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS. submitted by /u/HogwartsZoologist to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]
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I wore a dress I made to a festival! (I don’t know how to pose for pictures so I just danced)
The pattern is basically just lilith top by madebybjax but extended with a flared skirt + a lace hem. The yarn is 100% cotton. It was much shorter originally but it got wet and heavy so it’s drooping a lot in the picture. Still like it though! submitted by /u/Emergency_Height2074 to r/crochet [link] [comments]
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Aug 4, 2025 |
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How do I approach my sons secret clothing style?
I, 45 M have one son, 16 M. He recently got his drivers license and a job at a small ice cream shop. His mother left almost as soon as he turned one, so we have a very open relationship. He tells me stuff most kids don't feel comfortable telling their parents and I'm so grateful for that, so when i realized he was keeping this from me i was confused. He's been going to the mall a lot with a boy I'm gonna call K, 17 M. I thought they were just doing regular stuff teenage boys do. Walking around, getting pretzels, buying stupid stuff, etc. I was fine with it because he's always been responsible, kept his location on and answered all of my texts and phone calls. K is also a very respectful and overall good kid so i haven't been too worried about him either. But i started to notice whenever my son would come home he'd dash to his room and try to cover his bags. I was suspicious but to avoid any arguments or possible embarrassment I decided to just check the trash bins in his room and in the kitchen. There was a lot of bags from stores that mainly carried feminine clothing, a couple Ulta bags and makeup packaging. I jokingly asked him about any girlfriends during dinner, he laughed and said no. He didn't seem to be lying. This kept happening for a couple weeks until i asked for his phone. He was strangely nervous but gave it to me anyway. I first checked his snapchat, if you have teenagers you know that's the best place to start. I didn't find anything strange but when I found his chats between him and K, they were extremely flirty. It was adorable how overly cutesy they were with terms of endearment. My son has never came out to me as gay or bi or anything like that, so i decided to leave that alone. He'd tell me when he was ready and pushing it would only cause stress. I looked though everything else and it seemed normal, until i got to his instagram. He had a private account i didn't know about. All of his friends were added and as i looked through the photos things made sense. He was always in some sort of overly feminine outfit, his hair and makeup all done. I didn't care until the photos got a lot more revealing. Very suggestive poses, whale tails, mini skirts and him doing suggestive dances on reels. I also saw that his bio said he was gay, a quote "femboy" and used he/they pronouns (which i haven't been using and will start using after we have a conversation, just in case) I don't wanna push him to come out but I also don't want him keeping something like this from me. I want him to know i support him and that I'll love him either way, that he doesn't need to hide his makeup or skirts, that i'll welcome K to the house, that i'll even help redo his whole room to be pink and girly if i he wants. If anyone has the same experience, rather they were a parent in this situation or someone like my son. Please no bigotry in the replies, thank you. little update! Before he got home yesterday I got some stuff for them. He's loved bunnies since he was a toddler so i got them a rabbit plush, some new lip gloss i didn't think they had, some pink nail polish + clear coat and a gift card to Ulta. I left it on his bed with a little note and waited for him to get home. When they came out from his room he was sobbing and pulled me in for the tightest hug I've had since he was a little kid. We hugged it out for a moment and then they went to their room. I got started on dinner, since he likes to eat later. While I was finishing up some potato salad they came into the kitchen all dolled up. They had on the frilliest skirt I think I've ever seen and a big sweater. I could tell he was wearing the lip gloss i bought him and he just looked so happy and grown up. We talked about it throughout dinner and i eventually asked how K was. He laughed and told me that he knows I know they're together, since I looked through their phone. K's gonna be over for dinner next week now. We watched a horror movie together and he (as always) fell asleep on the couch, so I tied their long-ish hair back and tucked them in.They didn't have work today so we had a discussion about his instagram, We went through all of the pictures and reels and both decided which ones were okay to have up. And i gave him a talk about safe sex with other men, that i had to research (praying nobody looks at my search history anytime soon). I'm gonna go out and get him some lube later, its better for him to have it than to not and hurt himself or use something he's not supposed to. Overall everything's been pretty good, and my kiddo seems happier, which is all that matters to me. Thank you to everyones who's given me advice! All of the compliments mean more than you could imagine, as a single father and just a father in general. submitted by /u/Content_End_3380 to r/Advice [link] [comments]
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Learned that we were excluded from the wedding photos as a 10+ years couple because we aren't married
Created a throwaway for this just to vent away from pyring eyes. My brother got married early last month to his partner of 12 years. At the time, it was a lovely day all around, and the bride and groom had the day of their dreams. Relevant to the title, they had both said for months that they'd lucked out with a great photographer who specialised in candid, 'real life' photos, so aside from a couple of obligatory staged photographs, the photographer would just be roaming around the venue all day, taking snaps of the room and ambience without people posing. I was in one of the staged photos (it was the bride and groom, myself, and the bride's brother), and that was it. I didn't really think too much about it otherwise, and to the photographer's credit, barely even noticed them for the rest of the day. All we had heard about the photos in the weeks that followed was that the photographer had been caught up with a family emergency, so hadn't been able to edit and share the photos with the bride and groom, who in turn were planning on sharing these with the family. All my brother and his wife had posted online was one candid photo of them both during the first dance that we assumed the photographer had been able to edit before the family emergency, and again, didn't think too much about it. This was until yesterday. Unbeknownst to anyone at the wedding apart from my partner, I am currently 13 weeks pregnant. I was around 6 weeks pregnant at the wedding, had no signs of showing, and thankfully could get away with not drinking anything alcoholic, or dashing off to the toilet, without anyone (except my partner of course) noticing. We met up with my parents, and my brother and his wife, yesterday evening to share the news with them all after the 12-week scan had confirmed everything was well with the pregnancy. There were a lovely couple of minutes of celebrations, and then my brother made a comment to the effect of "If only we'd have known! [My partner] would actually have been in the wedding photos!" We asked what he meant by that, and he explained that they'd told a white lie about the photographer having an emergency, and they'd had the photos back for weeks. They had asked the photographer to ensure that my partner, and any other non-married partners of family and friends, had been edited out of the pictures, to ensure that there were no "spare people" in the images. Not to belabour the point, but for many reasons, my partner and I never intend to get married. Everyone in our lives knows this, including my brother. We've been together for over a decade, own a house and run a business together, and are now having a child as well. My brother made sure to say that it was nothing personal and that they'd done this with the partners of friends, and even an older aunt's 'gentleman friend'. They said they went along the thought process of 'if they wouldn't have been invited to the wedding directly, they didn't need to be in the pictures'. I won't reiterate everything that was said after this, but we exchanged words, and left much earlier than we had intended. So yeah, even your own sibling might try and re-edit your life to get the picture-perfect photo... submitted by /u/Distinct-Cress6651 to r/weddingshaming [link] [comments]
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I do, I did, you’re done! Jenelle’s Divorce Party.
Me and u/lucid _aurora returned to our rightful home, Spearmint Rhino NYC in the heart of absolutely fucking nowhere. Seriously why did I have to wait 30 min for a bus in New York City? We wrote this post together! She’s in bold. So we pull up and immediately see the red carpet and step & repeat where Jenelle is taking pitchurs with exactly 5 people. We were ushered inside to the first floor where a very stiff couch and two chairs are reserved for the event. To compare and contrast Teen Mom strip club appearances, as one often does, Farrah’s event started a bit late, but there were multiple parts to it: the cocktail hour in the room downstairs, the naked girl sushi dinner thing, the actual 50 minute comedy show in some big room upstairs, the after party lap dance thing that we didn’t attend…it went on for hours. Jenelle’s event was to start at 10:00p. We were in the club by 10:15p after she took her photos outside, and we were headed home by 11:03p This was absolutely just the most awkward photo opp ever. Jenelle’s handler, a very nice blonde woman, is art directing every cheesy pic that will soon surface. They did some pitchurs of Jenelle with this fake cake, doing a shot, a champagne toast. Telling us to really act like we’re her friends at a party with her. Something I find incredibly funny: They wanted us to pose with shots of alcohol with her. We didn’t think we would be heavily featured in pictures at this event, but then, there were literally about twelve of us there. Neither one of us drink, but they asked us to hold a shot of neon blue vodka anyway. Fine, whatever, neither one of us is morally opposed to booze, and this was so silly that it was funny. But then they wanted to take pictures with champagne. I sat that one out, and they started passing glasses of champagne out. A girl in fishnets urgently RAN in out of nowhere to give blackaubreyplaza a champagne flute with water in it to complete the shot, like we were on some timed TTM photo shoot or something. I don’t know, it was just so…random and funny. Then they moved Jenelle to the stage next to a pole to hit a piñata with her ex (?) huuzZzbinnnns face on it. There was fake money in the piñata ?? Not even candy for her guests! Or real money for the dancers. I will say, she hit that thing mad hard (while the man in the DJ booth announced it was Jenelle’s Divorce Party and she was officially now divorced ) -- **but she didn’t break it all the way, so she ended up just ripping the rest of it up. So that was anticlimactic. Seemingly for no reason, Jenelle was also posed on the one reserved chair while a dancer climbed on top of her like Jenelle was getting a lap dance? We were just kind of standing there in the corner. I’m not joking when I say a third of the event was blackaubreyplaza and me awkwardly scooting around leather upholstered ottomans trying to get out of the shot.** There were truly maybe 12 people there and 3 were working this “event”. Once that was done I asked blondie if we could take pitchurs with Jenelle and she said of course. She was free since they only had the photographer for an hour. Scream. Jenelle was pleasant enough while being absolutely dead inside. But she thanked us for coming and posed for said pitchurs. She looks exactly like you would think. Fully embodies everything posted on here. Far be it from me to accuse anyone of being on drugs, but she was either very dissociated or very…subdued, and I’m gonna go with both. She was very kind, and I noticed she treated everyone who worked there with respect and appreciation, but there wasn’t a whole lot of joy. Blackaubreyplaza and I approached her for a picture and she said, “sure!” We all kind of stood for half a second and she said, “........we can sit on the couch.” So we did. I told her I used to live in Wilmington and saw her a few times when she lived there, and she asked me if I grew up there. I said in a friendly way, “no, Raleigh…where I believe the KeSha concert was, right?” She sort of chuckled, but honestly, she just seemed sad Sadly no Tori in attendance but my boy Larry did pull up and you know I was gassed to see him again! u/lucid _aurora chatted him up like they’re old pals. **I was so hoping to see Tori at this party, but sadly she was not there, and sadly, this was no party; this was a 45 minute photoshoot in the corner of the strip club while dancers continued to perform for the rest of the patrons. Larry rolled in (wearing blue, donning a baseball cap, naturally) and he was nice enough to chat with us. I told him we’d met him last time and he said very sincerely that he really liked to show up to support the Teen Moms with whatever they’re doing. He politely excused himself to say hi to Jenelle quickly, and they took some photos together, but she didn’t treat him any differently than she treated us, two people she had just met** There was also zero cost associated with this outside of the one Diet Coke and Sprite we ordered. u/lucid _aurora hit up our now close personal friend, strip club Mike and got us on the guest list, and bam! submitted by /u/blackaubreyplaza to r/TeenMomOGandTeenMom2 [link] [comments]
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[NEW UPDATE] AITA for calling my coworker work-sister after she called me work-husband in front of everyone?
I am not OOP. OOP is u/ta-worksister1234324 and they posted on r/AmItheAsshole and r/AITAH Do NOT comment on Original Posts. See rule 7. This sub has a 7-day waiting period so the latest update is at least 7 days old. First BORU July 9, 2024 Second BORU September 10, 2024 Thanks to u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to notifying me of the new update! --NEW UPDATE-- marked with --NEW UPDATE-- AITA for calling my coworker work-sister after she called me work-husband in front of everyone? June 27, 2024 I (34M) work in a small office and we have about 30 people working here. Mary (35F) is one of my coworkers. We have been working together for 6 years now. We have 6 people in our department, and we have to frequently travel across the state as our work involves overseeing government projects. We always travel in a group of two. Although my travel partner changes based on the project, Mary and I are generally put on similar projects and enjoy each other's company. My wife also likes Mary. Overall, we have a very healthy work relationship. On to the incident. Yesterday, we had a happy hour in our office, and we were all drinking after work hours and chatting. It was a group of around 10 people that stayed back. Mary was blabbering about how we both have been travelling together so much in the last year. She was roasting me for my habits while travelling like always forgetting stuff in my hotel room, being sweaty and stinky when I join her for breakfast in mornings (because I go to hotel gym). Everyone was laughing and she was making it sound how unbearable I was to tag along (all in good fun). I also told some funny and sweet stories about her and agreed with her saying that I can be difficult to be with sometimes. Mary came to me and hugged me tightly and told me that she loves me, and I am her work-husband. It was all innocent on surface, but she might have been a bit drunk and just didn't let go of her tight hug. Also, I hate that phrase as I do have a wife that I promised to be with forever, and not just in non-working hours. After a few seconds, I started becoming uncomfortable and also saw few people staring at us. So, to diffuse the situation, I took her hands off my shoulder and told her, she was my work-sister and that is why I love to annoy her so much. That seemed to have upset Mary and she left and went back to her desk and was sobbing silently. I tried to apologize to her, but she told me how embarrassing the whole situation was. She said that she just meant work-husband in platonic way, but me calling her work-sister made her sound like a creep in front of the whole office. She was also angry that I aggressively removed her hands from my shoulders while hugging. I tried to reason with her that I do not like the "work-husband" phrase and also people gave dirty looks when she said it. So, I was just trying to make sure people do not take her words in the wrong way. We talked for a few minutes afterwards and Mary calmed down. She hugged me again and left. I felt really guilty afterwards because I can see Mary's point. I made her sound like a creep by implying that she meant something inappropriate when she called me her work-husband. However, I was a bit uncomfortable in that situation and just did not want people to call us that (or assume something wrong). Am I the AH for calling Mary my "work-sister"? I am sitting in my office writing this and a bit worried if I embarrassed Mary in front of everyone. Relevant Comments: Oddly_quirky: You're NTA. All too often, work spouses end up being inappropriately involved and you were trying to head off any rumors. Good on you. I think work sister is a much better term. Mmm_hummus: NTA though you are being far too generous. The reason why she jumped straight to thinking you were calling her a creep, because she knows what she was doing was inappropriate. 'Work-husband' is considered widely inappropriate now. She knows this. You responded correctly. You owe your actual wife loyalty. Mary needs to back off and act more of a professional. bamf1701: NTA. I think you were justified that whole time. Unfortunately, alcohol can make things awkward for everyone, but you were made uncomfortable by the extended hug, so you removing her arms from you was understandable. The problem is right now is that Mary is only considering her own feelings and not thinking at all how her actions made you feel. She did think that such a public display of affection might make a married man uncomfortable, she is only thinking that you made her look like a creep. And, let’s be honest, she did kind of look like someone hitting on a married man after drinking too much. stophittingthyself: NTA Work-sister is 100% a compliment. Work-husband is the stuff that will get a person reported to HR. Mary is waving bright red flags. You might want to get ahead of this now all your colleagues are suspicious. No more being pared with Mary. Consider telling your wife before one of them does. capmanor1755: The best way to know that you needed to set a limit was her overreacting. Sobbing at her desk?? It was time to stop it. Don't give her any extra attention for her outburst. Just cheerfully go about your day. Say good morning. Joke about your favorite TV show. Don't take any bait. If she tries to bring it up again repeat what you said - she's a great coworker but you only have one wife so you don't do the work wife jokes- nothing personal but it's not for you. If she brings it up a second time you'll need to email your supervisor to get written documentation. You just describe what happened (as you did above), when and where and that you'd like them to informally coach her on letting it go. If she brings it up a third time you'll need to go to HR and ask to be taken off projects involving travel with her I really really hope she can pull it together and that she can join you in cheerfully going back to work. But remember that it's her making this weird not you and your first responsibility is to preserve your own employment. AmItheAsshole's consensus bot said OOP was Not-the-Asshole Editor's Note: I looked through the comments and didn't find a single YTA, ESH, or NAH. It was universally NTA. Update July 2, 2024 (5 days later) I posted this on AmITheAssholeabout calling my coworker Mary my work-sister after she tried to call me her work-husband in front of the entire office. A lot of you are asking for update, but that sub does not allow me to post update, so I am writing it here. Thanks everyone for your comments and giving me confidence that I did not do anything wrong or inappropriate. As I was sitting in office the next day, I knew things would be a bit awkward between Mary and me. Mary ignored me the whole morning. Initially, I was planning to go and apologize to her, but after the post, I decided that I do not need to do that as I should be the one who was offended. Everyone in the office could see that we were acting weird, and I heard some people gossiping about us. One of the ladies also came to me and asked me if I want to talk about Mary and me. Around 3pm in the afternoon, I was sitting in my office working. Mary came into my office and closed the door behind her. She was angry at me and started saying that I need to stop being an asshole and stop ignoring her. I told her to sit and to talk about what is going on. She told me that she feels humiliated, and everyone has been starting at her the whole morning because of what I did. I also stood my ground and told her that I was ok with her making fun of me but calling me her work-husband and hugging me in front of everyone for a long time made the situation awkward. She told me to get over myself and that I should know exactly what she meant. Mary said that I made a big deal of what was supposed to be a joke and made it awkward for everyone. She said calling someone work-husband is a normal thing and just means that she knows me intimately like a spouse would. She said that because we spend so much time travelling together, she knows all the intimate details of how I behave outside work. I stopped her and told her that I felt offended by the term "work-husband" because I have a wife and I do not want people to use that term to describe our relationship. I told her that she would not understand as she is single, but as a married man, I really do not want anyone to describe me as a husband in any capacity. She said that I am again misinterpreting what she was saying. She felt that as we have known each other more time than I have been married, she knows me more intimately than even my wife (I have no idea why she feels that way) and I also behave like her husband when we travel together. She went on about how we go out to dinners together after work, how I always insist on having breakfast together in morning (to plan our actions of the day), and I walk around in my underwear (referring to my gym shorts) around her in mornings. She also talked about how we spend hours talking to each other during road trips and how I am the only man she can trust with any secret in her life. She said that I am the definition of work-husband, and I am just in denial. I was a bit angry at this point. I told her that I do all that because I consider her my friend and she is delusional if she feels she knows me more intimately than my wife. I told her I do not want to hear that term again and it is extremely disrespectful to my marriage. Only one woman gets to call me her husband and that is my wife. Moreover, if my actions are giving her such ideas, maybe we need to stop being friends. She became apologetic afterwards and told me that she did not mean to disrespect my wife, and it was not her intention. She apologized to me and told me to just let it go. She said that she loves travelling with me and she does not want anything to change between us. She again said that I am misinterpreting her statement and just wants to move on. She came to hug me again, but I just told her it was ok and stepped back. I also talked to my wife about the incident that night. As expected, my wife was angry at Mary and told me that she hates the term work-husband. She asked me if Mary has ever flirted with me during our trips or has a crush on me. I truthfully told her that I really have not felt that way and she may have just said that because she was a bit drunk and is now being stubborn about it. My wife said that she feels a bit uncomfortable about Mary now and says that it's strike one for Mary and I need to try and put more distance between us while travelling. If she every repeat the same behavior again, I should report her to HR. I promised my wife that I would try to reduce my interactions with Mary outside work hours and be more guarded around her. Relevant Comments: marv115: Mary's description of your relationship sounds really clingy and dependant, she has created a narrative in her head about your conection, the " the only man she can trust with any secret in her life" that's not a work-husband (whatever that means). You better keep you interactions register and public, this can bite you in the butt very fast Otherwise-Beat2295: NTA. I agree you should go to HR so they're aware of the situation. I would also suggest no more business trips with her, if possible. The fact that she claims to know you more intimately than your wife is not only delusional and disrespectful, it's concerning. She's only beginning to show her crazy side. Character_Schedule34: NTA, I also think that if you're married, the terms "work-husband/wife" are very inappropriate. Your wife sounds like a very reasonable person, she's upset but not taking it out on you. You made the right call, and if anything you could even get ahead of the game by going to HR now about the situation. OOP: Just curious, but what would the HR complaint even be. I feel uncomfortable about the situation, but beyond speculation, I do not see what I can complain about. MaskedCrocheter: "hey hr person, I would like to file something with you just so it's on record. At the moment it feels like things are resolved but just in case something else happens in the future I just want to cover all bases. Here's what happened... Here's what I did about it... Here's what Mary's response was... Here's where things are at now.... I don't want anyone to have another conversation with her at this time because I believe it will escalate things instead of letting things die down. But IF she doesn't let things go I wanted hr to be in the loop." DivineGreekGoddess: NTA, I agree with you wife Mary’s reaction was so off and defensive. Instead of owning it and apologizing, she continued to double down and say that SHE knew you more intimately. She is quite the presumptuous woman. I 100% believe that this woman has romantic feelings for you and all these comments about work husband and the ever lingering hug plus saying she knows you better and more intimately do not speak of someone who has a platonic friendship or professional relationship in mind. I would not travel with her anymore and see if you can put some distance with her and not have to work with her. This woman is going to cause trouble for you. Her reaction was one of possession over you which comes when someone has amorous feelings. TrustyWorthyJudas: Okay NEVER and I do mean NEVER be in a room alone with this women ever again, cause when you go to HR, and you definitely should, in retaliation she could spin any number of accusations against you now, even if you don't think she is capable of that kind of behaviour, your having trouble right now because she is acting in a manner you would not have expected from her. NTA Update 2 (edited in post, 8 hours later): Thanks everyone for the comments and explaining the urgency of the situation. I discussed it with my wife and have set up meetings with my manager and HR today. I plan to not file a complaint, but document what happened last week and why it made me uncomfortable. I do not have any upcoming travels this week due to holidays but have to travel next Tuesday with her to a worksite. I will discuss with my manager on what my options are. However, I feel a little distance between Mary and me for some time would be the right solution for now. Update 3 September 3, 2024 (2 months from OP) I wrote a while ago regarding my coworker friend, Mary, being upset with me for calling her my "work-sister" when she called me her "work-husband" in front of everyone. I'm sorry to leave everyone hanging, but the next few weeks were busy, and the issue was eventually resolved. Thanks to everyone for the comments—they really helped me when I talked to my manager about the situation. However, the last week has been crazy, so I wanted to get some opinions on what I should do next. After my last post, my wife and I were no longer comfortable with Mary's behavior. Although a part of me thought I was overreacting and that it was just part of Mary's personality, I felt the need to protect myself. I requested a meeting with my manager and HR to document my side of the story. I wrote down everything and told them about the incident at the party, as well as Mary coming into my office and the comments she made. I made it clear that while I did not want them to take action against her, I wanted to emphasize that her behavior made me uncomfortable, especially her comments about knowing me better than my wife and remarks about my shorts. My manager had already heard about the incident at the happy hour, as everyone in the office was talking about it. He told me he would try to shake up the travel schedule to minimize our travel together. The issue was that only four people in our company generally work on offsite audits, and the other two coworkers did not want to split up because they claimed they worked well together. As a result, I continued traveling with Mary for the next couple of weeks, but it was awkward, and I kept my distance. My manager then called Mary and me to his office and informed us that he was planning to train a new auditor, Carolina (26F), and set up a schedule where she would travel with me for one week and then with Mary the following week. We were asked to train her. I liked this arrangement because it meant I no longer had to travel with Mary. Carolina turned out to be a great travel buddy, and I made sure not to get too comfortable with her. I always dressed professionally when we went for breakfasts, avoided late-night drinks, and maintained healthy boundaries. Things were great until last week. Last Tuesday, I could feel everyone staring at me when I entered the office, and I was immediately called to a meeting with my manager and HR. HR asked if I had anything to report regarding Carolina and if she had made any advances toward me during our work trips. I told them no, that Carolina had been very professional the entire time. I asked why I was being interrogated, and they told me they couldn't disclose any further details, but that Carolina was being investigated by HR for inappropriate conduct. I left the meeting, and Mary came to my office, asking what had happened. She mentioned that she was also told Carolina would no longer be traveling with us and that we were asked to travel together again. I told her I had no idea what was going on. I messaged Carolina to see if she was okay and if she needed to talk. She asked if she could come to my office, and I agreed. Carolina explained that someone anonymously sent messages to her boyfriend, posing as someone from the office over the weekend. The message included screenshots of Carolina sending some inappropriate pictures she had taken in her hotel rooms during our travels, and flirtatious messages. This person claimed to her boyfriend that Carolina was trying to cheat with him at work, and he was just trying to warn them. Her boyfriend went crazy after seeing the pictures, ghosted her, and then sent the messages to HR as revenge. Carolina was in tears, telling me that she had only taken those pictures for her boyfriend and had no idea how they got leaked or how those messages even existed. Her boyfriend was furious because he also received the exact pictures from Carolina and knew they weren't fake. I consoled Carolina, but she's in deep trouble, as our workplace takes such things very seriously (because we work on government contracts), and I'm sure everyone suspects I am the anonymous messenger. I was told that the matter would be investigated, and Mary and I would be working together on the project again. My manager said there was nothing he could do and also mentioned that they might go through my emails and messages on my company phone as part of the investigation into Carolina. Mary seems very happy about the whole situation and keeps talking about how excited she is to revisit the restaurants and bars we used to frequent during off-site trips. She also keeps referring to Carolina as "that pervert." The whole thing is just crazy. My wife, of course, believes that I would never do anything inappropriate with Carolina and that I wasn't the anonymous messenger. However, her conspiracy theory is that Mary, who was also traveling with Carolina, may have unlocked her phone and accessed the photos. It feels far-fetched, but the fact is, I'm not thrilled about traveling with Mary again. I don't think I have any other recourse to get off this project except leaving the job, which isn't possible at this time. I know many of you work in HR, and I would appreciate any advice on what I can do next. --NEW UPDATE-- Update 4 December 17, 2024 (5 months from OP) I wrote a post 6 months ago regarding calling my coworker, Mary, work-sister and upsetting her in the process. Things got really weird afterwards and I was paired with another coworker, Carolina for work-trips. Someone anonymously tipped Carolina's boyfriend that Carolina was engaged in messaging explicit pictures to her coworker and he in-turn reported her to our HR as revenge before breaking off with her. No one explicitly said it, but I could see that everyone suspected me to be the other person. After that, Mary and I were again asked to travel together despite of my reservations, mostly because others did not want to travel with me. I am sorry I did not write an update because nothing noteworthy happened until last Friday and my wife, Brooke, and I have been arguing ever since about what to do next. I have been applying for similar positions in the last few months, but it is hard to find a similar job in this market. Brooke has expressed her reservations on me travelling with Mary but also understands that I would stop travelling with her if I could. We have bills and mortgage, and I cannot just leave my job. Just like most commenters on previous post, she believes that Mary framed Carolina. I have been extremely professional with Mary during our travels. Things are not as before where I would consider her my close friend. I am always guarded around her and try to spend most of my time in my room after work. Carolina stuck around for around a month after I wrote the post, when the HR was investigating the incident. I tried to support her initially and also told my manager that she has been very professional. However, rumors started spreading around that I am going above and beyond to save her job, and she spent a lot of time in my office talking to me alone. We mutually decided that the optics were not good and started distancing ourselves. She resigned a month after the incident because she told me she cannot take it anymore. From what I know, she is still looking for a job. Mary, on the other hand seems to be happy on our work-trips. Although I act extremely professional around her, a part of me knows that she might be the person who framed Carolina (I have no proof, just intuition). I also feel Mary is the one spreading rumor about Carolina and me in office. She always plans for dinners after work and sometimes asks me to get a drink at the hotel bar as before. I generally avoid drinking on these trips now. There were a few times where she insistent that I get a beer, but I told her that I am already on thin ice at work, and promised Brooke I will not drink on these trips. This has not stopped her from getting hammered and me having to drop her to her room at the end of the day few times. Brooke has been very supportive through the whole time and has never once suspected me or blamed me for anything. She has asked me to not drink on these trips and also to make sure I call her every night when I reach my room and when I go to sleep. I also voluntarily installed location tracking app on my phone, so that she has a peace of mind to know where I am during these trips. On to the incident from last Friday. We had a Christmas party last Friday at our office. Brooke joined me, and the party was great. Mary asked me for a dance, but I declined, and Mary did not look thrilled about it. Brooke was lovely, and we danced together for most of the night. There was one point where I was talking to my manager and few other collogues, and Brooke was talking to my manager's wife. Mary interrupted them and started bragging about how she has to take care of me during work trips since I am so clumsy. Brooke also joined in on how I am clumsy and forgetful I am at home. Mary then told Brooke that I make her feel safe on the trips and told her about the incident where she got drunk and how I took care of her by dropping her to her room and sitting by her bedside until she fell asleep. Mary insisted that I am a gentleman and nothing happened, but how I also show care for her. Brooke knew about the incidents when I dropped, he to her room. However, at no time did I enter Mary's room. Brooke did not say anything at that time, but when we got home, this turned into a huge argument. I told Brooke that I did not enter her room and just led her to her room and immediately called her and told her about the incident. I even showed her the text conversation where I messaged Brooke after leaving the restaurant and when I got to the room along with timestamps. After Brooke calmed down, she told me that she believes me, but it's crazy how fluently Mary lied to her, in front of my manager's wife. She told me that Mary is just trying to plant a seed of doubt in her head, and she cannot pretend anymore that she is ok with Mary. She told me that Mary ruined Carolina's career and if she does not get her way, she might do the same to me. Brooke has asked me if I can draw a red line on travelling with Mary, and if my manager does not accept, I should just resign. I feel Brooke is right, and nothing is more important to me than her. However, it feels so shitty to be in this situation where all my hard work to reach this point in my career will be ruined. I do not know what to do next. I am really hoping to get advice and ideas on what I can do here. I just feel so trapped and not sure what I can do at this point. Relevant Comments: newoneform: You really need to stop engaging with Mary at all other than what is necessary to do your job. You don’t need to babysit her or get her to her room. You’re kinda making it easy for her to raise suspicion in others. Do your job then go back to your hotel room. You don’t need to organize meals with her. You seem like you’re still trying to be “nice” to Mary which leads it to be easy for her to play you. And start making a paper trail. r0224: Actually I think a condition of future trips is to be in separate hotels. With separate hotels comes separate travel to wherever you have to go, you can go back to your hotel to eat etc, so you'll have far fewer interactions with her. Bonnm42: Tell your manager the truth, even about suspicions. You cans say “I have no proof but I do have suspicious Mary framed Caroline and I am worried she may do the same to me. I feel sexually harassed and this is causing problems in my marriage.” DeliciousMud7291: "Mary interrupted them and started bragging about how she has to take care of me during work trips since I am so clumsy. Mary then told Brooke that I make her feel safe on the trips and told her about the incident where she got drunk and how I took care of her by dropping her to her room and sitting by her bedside until she fell asleep. Mary insisted that I am a gentleman and nothing happened, but how I also show care for her." Dude, you're doing this to yourself. Quit babying her on these work trips. If she gets drunk, leave her alone and let her find her own way to her room. Because of your chivalry, you're not letting her fail and potentially getting fired. Leave her to her own devices, and whenever y'all are together, record her and document, document, and document. Leave a paper trail if you can. Put your foot down with your manager regarding Mary. Or say goodbye to your life when she claims you sexually harassed/assaulted her. Reminder: I am not OOP. Do NOT comment on Original Posts. No Brigading! See Rule 7. submitted by /u/swtogirl to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]
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Wearing Power Armor to a Magic School (110/?)
First | Previous | Next Patreon | Official Subreddit | Series Wiki | Royal Road The world around me faded into the background. Noises became muffled. Conversations sounded distant. Explosions barely broke through the mental barrier that was forming between all senses save for sight. My eyes remained transfixed not on the brilliant fireworks displays nor the zipping of upper-yearsmen on fantastical beasts, but instead… on the backdrop they all seemingly ignored. The starless skies. And the single moon that hovered ominously overhead. I should’ve seen it coming. The constantly cloudy skies, the suspiciously overcast weather. I’d just assumed that the Nexus was simply suffering from a chronic case of British weather prior to the introduction of the weather control network. I made a calculated assessment. But boy, am I bad at math. My body suddenly felt hazy, as my mind raced to find a way out of what was clearly a dream. I needed to wake up. No. “I need to think.” I forced out, breaking through the growing mental fugue and the dissociation threatening to tear me from the fabric of the present, prying off the suffocating grip of fundamental systemic incongruency. “Think Emma, think.” I continued, my eyes frantically darting back and forth, attempting to dissect the impossible sight before me whilst a thousand divergent thoughts started taking up almost all of my available headspace. “There’s at least a moon, but no stars.” “Dyson sphere? Dead universe? Boötes Void-type situation? Black domain? Home star proximity? A Nightfall scenario? Near-Big Rip? Simulation—” I quickly stopped myself, course-correcting with a single breath. “No, no. Too crazy, too far. This is reality. This has to be some sort of…” I took another breath, looking to the EVI, right as Thacea’s stern gaze and the sight of a hundred prying eyes forced me out of my reverie. However, not even the combined scrutiny of the masses managed to make a dent on my newfound infatuation, as my body slowly reentered autopilot once more; my mind easily slipping back into eccentric postulations of an equally eccentric world. “Okay, okay… training. Differential analysis and inference. Analyze. Categorize, then hypothesize. Stop with the scatter-brained, stop with the panic. Pull back from fundamental systemic incongruency.” I chastised myself, forcing in long steady breaths, each of which managed to calm me down somewhat until I was faced with the sky once more. “Alright, no stars— Correction, it’s not that there are no stars. It’s just that there’s no stars visible or detectable.” I forced myself onto a more grounded mindset, channeling Dr. Mekis and the rest of the science team as I attempted to temper the creatively-inclined side of myself. “All observable data is fallible. All observable data is prone to observer-bias and extraneous environmental factors. Alright. Okay. Let's start differential analysis.” The EVI immediately responded by creating a translucent floating mind-map on my HUD, with two distinct root nodes sitting idly and standing by. “Two broad categories. One — there are no stars visible due to observer limitations. Either due to some unknown atmospheric phenomenon, anomalous light interaction, the stars themselves being too far away, or Nexian magical shenanigans. Fringe explanations could include something physically blocking our line of sight… like a dyson sphere or shellworld.” I paused, shaking my head. “No, shellworld doesn’t make sense. We wouldn’t see the moon, otherwise.” I reasoned, before moving forward. “Astrophysics explanations that’d make Dr. Mekis cry could include the fact that we might just be further along in time. Maybe the Nexus’ universe is so far into its expansion and life cycle that anything that would be observable has already slipped past the cosmological horizon?” The first root node was promptly filled, with my hypotheses branching off from it in a tree-structure diagram, various branches and child-nodes forming to represent my ideas. “Two — there are no stars visible simply because there are none.” I declared with a shaky voice, the EVI responding by filling in that second root node. However, instead of continuing like I did the first category, I hesitated, as the implications behind such a conclusion were… astronomical. “This could be due to… heck… I don’t know… a dead universe? Maybe we’re in an extremely mature universe that’s reached the degeneration era? Or maybe… we’re in a literal pocket dimension that exists without stars?” I pondered what I said for a moment, before denying it outright. “No, that’s absolutely insane.” Branches and child-nodes formed after each and every statement, though it was that last one that now remained blinking, the EVI double-checking if I even wanted it there. I felt that child-node staring back at me with incredulity, as if Dr. Mekis himself and the rest of the science team were there on the other side of the virtual workspace ready to counter my hypothesis. “It could though.” I countered verbally, talking to myself now. “Entirely new dimension, entirely fantastical rulesets…” I pondered, the two sides of myself standing at odds beneath a starless sky. The fantasy-obsessed child within me yelled at me to accept it as the prime hypothesis. While the Emma of the present, that had been molded by a desire to leave fantasy behind following my move to Acela, wanted nothing more than to science the shit out of this impossible sight. “We’ll get back to that one.” I compromised. “But first, I just realized that a third category might be in order.” I ordered, prompting the EVI to generate a third root-node. “Third — malicious intent. This could all just be a big game of deception on behalf of the Nexus. We can’t put it past them after all. They already did the big starless sky reveal, what’s to say there’s not layers to this?” A nanosecond later, and the third tree diagram was branched out. This was followed by a beep, as the EVI circled back to the pocket dimension hypothesis. “Query. Kill process: unfinished child-node?” I thought about it for a minute. However, just before I could respond, we eventually found ourselves arriving at the entrance to the banquet hall. At which point, Thacea quickly regarded me with a worried expression. “Emma, are you feeling well?” “Yes—” “Are you sure—” “No, don’t kill child.” I replied. Though this reply was made before I could properly hit mute. Leading to a rather awkward scene where Thacea, Thalmin, Ilunor, and everyone else gathered near the entrance to the stadium’s banquet hall, all stared at me with varying levels of concern. “Oh erm, I meant to say: wow, I really killed it in this event! This whole thing was child’s play, haha!” I spoke in an attempt to ‘fix’ the situation. However this only ended up with even more perplexed looks and outright worried stares. “Well crap…” I sighed inwardly with a ‘click’ of the mute button. The Transgracian Academy for the Magical Arts. New Gymnasium. Banquet Hall. Local Time: 1920 Hours. Emma With some quick thinking on behalf of Ilunor by reframing the situation as a ‘newrealmer’s eccentric approach to the theatre of life’, we managed to defuse the situation and made our way inside the banquet hall, where the professors seemed to be busy talking amidst themselves atop of an elevated stage. “Hey Thacea, do you think we can talk about—” “Shush, earthrealmer! Isn’t one faux pas quite enough?!” Ilunor chastised. I wanted to argue, but upon seeing how packed the room was, I had to give him some credit. This probably wasn’t the best time for it. The whole room was arranged into four discrete quadrants, with four equally-long banquet tables occupying the middle of each of these sections. A passing glance was all that was needed to confirm that this delineation was, in fact, done in order to divide up the houses; as even the tablecloths and waiters’ outfits were color-coded to match the four houses. Moreover, the upper years dressed in their house colors, were also present at each table. However, the turnout of each house vastly differed, supporting the ‘stratified house prestige’ theory, which was doubly confirmed with a passing conversation with Ilunor. “Yes, earthrealmer. Despite what the official stance may be, it is an open secret that there exists a clear and tangible divide between the prestige of each house.” “So what’s the actual game here? Like, what are the benefits or disadvantages of house affiliation? I mean, I’m guessing there’s always networking, but there’s gotta be more to it than that, right?” I shot back, to which Ilunor leveled back a surprisingly straightforward answer. “You underestimate the value of networking, Cadet Emma Booker. For it grants you connections that extend far beyond your graduation. Life-long alliances may be forged in the hallowed halls of each house, and the futures of entire realms may be decided should the right relations be kindled. This is in addition to the unique academic opportunities within the best of houses. Moreover, each house also grants you access to the physical manifestation of this club-like exclusivity.” “So… common rooms?” “House Towers, earthrealmer.” Ilunor finally leveled out a frustrated sigh. “I knew you’d find it in yourself to debase this rich tradition with commoner drivel.” The Vunerian chastised, before continuing. “It is within these House Towers that you are granted access to exclusive libraries of annotated course materials and unique insight passed down through the years. Entire assessments have been memorized and transcribed such that successive years can enjoy the fruits of senior guidance. There is also the matter of additional ‘benefits’ including first-choice in many academy activities, as well as a direct line of communication to the House Professor. But of course, there is also the house cup which—” “May I have your attention, please!” The Dean proclaimed, his voice reverberating throughout the room. “First years! Please line up in front of the stage! It is time for the final act of the House Choosing Ceremony!” The man smiled warmly, though once again, made it known just with a passive glance — that I was firmly on his shit-list. Thankfully however, the terms of my malicious compliance seemed to be unbroken, as I’d yet to have been thrown into some dungeon cell. “Let it be known that all of you have performed admirably in my eyes.” The dean paused, singling out the few groups that had some clear drama during their performances. “Even amongst those who may have not been able to express the fullest extent of your capabilities—” His eyes landed on the ‘portal’ group, each of them giving sheepish smiles back in response. “—and amongst those who push the boundaries of acceptable decorum—” He turned towards the group who literally killed a man just to revive them. “—your efforts in demonstrating your abilities are commendable. However, effort is only part of the rubric in today’s activities. So please understand that these scores, whilst not representative of your capabilities by the end of your academic career, will still come to dictate the peers you call your house fellows.” The man went on and on following that, going deep into the history of the houses, their achievements, and the achievements of their alumni. It quickly became clear to me what Ilunor meant by networking now — that many housemates tended to form closer diplomatic ties following their graduation and their ascent to their respective thrones. Moreover, it also became clear to me that time seemed to have somehow corrupted the system. Because at first, the choosing seemed to genuinely be based on personal preference. With many first-choice groups deciding upon the less-desirable gray-and-white House Vikzhura instead of the de-facto ‘first-rate’ maroon-and-orange House Shiqath. Whatever sociological phenomenon was at play here, it was obvious to me that things were now in their pragmatic era; the achievements of only House Shiqath seemed to be read off in the last thirty minutes of the dean’s lengthy speech. Though at the very end of it, the man actually opened up the opportunity for questions. Which I quickly took advantage of, as I aimed to shoot him a question best answered from the horse’s mouth. “Professor, if I may?” I asked politely. “Yes, Cadet Emma Booker?” The man responded with the same two-faced smile he always wore. “I’d like to ask a question unrelated to the houses.” I began, garnering a tentative nod from the man. “The floor is yours.” The dean spoke mildly, yet shooting me a veiled threat through his glare. You mentioned that the end of the House Choosing Ceremony prompted the ‘removal of all blinds’ as part of the ‘holdovers’ of the Grace Period. I just wanted to ask if there was a reason why the skies were obscured in the first place?” The question garnered a decidedly neutral reaction from the man, though there was that glint of relief, as if he was expecting the question to be another library-card moment. “Simple, Cadet Emma Booker. The clouded skies were merely a courtesy. The Academy understands that the grandeur of the Nexian tapestry may be too intense for many. Indeed the unblemished purity of our tapestry is infamous for causing unease to those who have grown accustomed to living under skies littered with specks. As such, the blinds of the sky were introduced to further ease adjacent realmers into the overwhelming grandeur of the Nexus.” That response… brought up even more questions than answers, though it at least gave me a bearing as to the supposed ‘reasoning’ behind it. “If I may further—” “No, you may not.” The Dean interjected warmly, though with a stern undertone that prompted me to abandon the questioning for now. “For it is time to both choose and feast!” He continued, entering seamlessly into his ‘grandfatherly’ persona. “As it is my honor to award the highest scoring peer group the honors of first-choice!” He cleared his throat, gesturing proudly towards none other than— “Lord Qiv’Ratom! Your peer group has demonstrated an exemplary display of not just magic, but the ability to synergize each of your peer members’ unique personal strengths! As many groups have demonstrated today, the mere act of simply collaborating on a mutual effort is not enough to prove magical synergy. Instead, it is playing to individual strengths, and using those strengths to work towards a mutual end. For that, I award you the highest points out of today’s ceremony — 939 points, out of a possible total of 1000.” The entire room went into an uproarious applause, save for the members of the third and fourth houses who all seemed to simply exist in varying states of disinterest. “As is tradition, you may have first-pick of your house.” The dean continued after the applause died down, gesturing to the four houses. Qiv put on a show of thought, as if he even needed to consider what group he was about to choose. “I choose… House Shiqath!” The gorn-like lizardman proclaimed proudly, garnering the applause of the aforementioned maroon and orange house, whose table was now fervently clinking champagne glasses in a series of toasts. Vanavan, still donning the wizard hat bearing his house colors, opened up the mystery mini-chest to reveal a whole assortment of pins bearing a series of house-colored gems arranged to mimic the house sigil — a manticore. And in a display resembling the knighting of a knight, Qiv and the rest of his group knelt down, as Vanavan began applying the small pins onto the front of their school cloaks. “Lord Qiv’Ratom, and fellows: do you solemnly swear to uphold the principles of House Shiqath, to forever carry with you the burdens of His Eternal Majesty’s first champion, and to slay any false gods should they arise?” “I do, Professor Vanavan.” They all spoke in unison, rising up to meet the professor with proud and cocky smiles. “House Shiqath! We once again have the privilege and honor of welcoming first-choice students! Three cheers for our continued excellence!” An elf, dark-purple in skin tone, proclaimed proudly from way down the table. “Hip hip!” He shouted loudly. “Hooray!” The entire table shouted back “Hip hip!” “Hooray!” “Hip Hip!” “Hooray!” The drawn out nature of the whole affair was not lost on me, and neither was it lost on the gang as even Ilunor began pouting… though in his case, it probably had more to do with his anticipation for our scores. Qiv and the rest of his group took their seats along the empty portion of the bench, several servants quickly coming to pour both champagne and something they called ‘victory soup’. The feasting soon began for the four, as the Dean continued on. “To the second-choice, I call upon Lord Auris Ping!” He began, causing Ping’s expressions to shift from what I could only describe as a frustrated pout, to a prideful smirk. Second-place probably wasn’t what he was expecting. But clearly, getting second-pick was at least something. “Despite the lack of synergy amongst your peers, I could still see raw potential and unbridled power overcoming personal grievances to bring about a spectacular display of goal-driven theatrics! Your peers, whilst not masters of the magicks you chose, still forced their way into a decidedly impressive show. I will, however, recommend that you incorporate each of their personal strengths next time. However, as it stands, your ambition and potential grants you second-choice!” The dean’s words prompted Ping to bow deeply, the man still respecting authority as much as he seemed to hate the results of it. “You may pick your house, Lord Ping.” The Dean urged. However, unlike Qiv’s little display, Ping didn’t even seem to entertain the ‘theatre’ of choice. “I choose House Shiqath!” He proclaimed, garnering yet more clinking and toasts from the house, and the same song and dance from Vanavan. What transpired following Ping’s knighting and subsequent seating was a whole lot of nothing. As group— “House Shiqath!” —after group— “House Shiqath will be our destiny!” —after group— “House Shiqath, professor!” —continued the song and dance. Until finally, things changed. Because after a certain point, House Shiqath’s ranks were filled. And so, the second-best house was up next for the same pattern of ‘choice’. “House Finthorun.” Lord Gumigo spoke with an affirmative nod, garnering a series of gator-style high fives from his gator troupe. Articord promptly welcomed the man, as the similar knighting ritual to House Shiqath’s followed. “Do you, Lord Gumigo, swear to uphold the principles of House Finthorun, to maintain the foundations of this Academy, to uphold legacy and history to the best of your abilities, and to sacrifice all in the construction of a bastion of security for all that was and all that will be?” Articord spoke with her signature prideful tone of voice. “Yes, professor.” Gumigo responded. This prompted the fox-like professor to begin pinning House Finthorun’s pin onto the gator’s cloak — a simple yet elegant silver and bronze pendant shaped in the form of a gryphon posed amidst an intricate, open doorway. A few familiar faces likewise landed in House Finthorun. This included the tortle-like-turtle, and a few more faces from the student’s lounge. About half the year group had been whittled down after a good hour. Following that, Ilunor’s features grew increasingly nervous, the man watching as the seats for House Finthorun were filled, leaving the third-best House Thun’Yandaris ripe for the taking. His slitted pupils slowly constricted with each and every call. As group— “House Thun’Yandaris!” —after group— “Hmm! House Thun’Yandaris!” —after group— “House Thun’Yandaris it is!” —started filling the ranks of the green and blue house. This all eventually came to a head as only four seats remained. The Vunerian held his breath, gripping his fists tight by his side, his eyes now clenched shut as the Dean began the final meaningful call of the night. “May Lord Rularia’s group please step forward!” The Transgracian Academy for the Magical Arts. New Gymnasium. Banquet Hall. Local Time: 2045 Hours. Ilunor Life. I felt life-giving mana reentering my worn and desiccated soul. The Dean’s call, despite its obvious falsehoods of sincerity, at least brought with it an authority which meant respite for our ramshackled troupe. I was genuinely furious that he hadn’t called us sooner. Especially when considering the absolute paltry performances on display today. However, I understood the impartiality when it came to assessing the earthrealmer’s uninspired demonstration. Which, while as impressive as it was, was still the bare minimum to the rubric no doubt. Still, this call put us ahead of more than a handful of peer groups. And to that end, I found myself at least mildly satisfied. I took to the stage with a polite smile, and a pride welling deep within my noble chest. “Lord Rularia, your group has demonstrated a unique combination of martial and artistic prowess. It is also clear that each of you have likewise played to your strengths, which must be applauded. However, this focus on the arts over a serious display of advanced magic, in addition to the lack of participation of one of your group members, forces the faculty into a position where the acknowledgement of the arts comes at odds with the objective results of your scoring. As a result, we award you 593 points out of a total of 1000.” The Dean concluded, garnering a stalwart reaction from me. Though deep within, my mind seethed. As a hundred different insults sweltered beneath the ire of a raging dragon. You uncultured swine! You ignoble clod! Is the Academy not called the Academy of the Magical ARTS*?!* “You may choose your house, Lord Rularia.” He continued, merely adding fuel to the growing fires of my frustrations, prompting me to turn to the… less than ideal choice. The felinor’s table. I could already see many faces of those who would otherwise be beneath my magical potential. Moreover, I could also see the tired and despondent faces of those who were caught between worlds. Not good enough to be best or second best. Yet not pathetic enough to make it to last place. The middle children. The thought pained me. For reasons more personal than I wished to admit. I immediately severed that thought, for the irony it brought upon my life was unbearable. “I choose House Thun’Yandaris.” I announced, prompting a series of soft claps from the house in question. We approached the head of the table, heads held high towards a perpetually-smiling Professor Chiska, who promptly began pinning the house’s pins on our cloaks. “Lord Ilunor Rularia, and fellows, do you all accept the oaths of this House? To be true to yourselves, and to follow the path you believe is right? To be vigilant against that which is evil? And to strive for excellence, even in the face of your own perceived mundanity?” I held my breath, tensing, as I allowed what was formerly a completely foreign thought to enter my mind. Be happy with what you have. For you could have lost it all. “Yes, Professor Chiska.” I spoke in unison with the rest of this sad troupe. The Transgracian Academy for the Magical Arts. New Gymnasium. Banquet Hall. Local Time: 2120 Hours. Emma There was only one conversation throughout that entire dinner. And it was primarily a yap-off between our group and Chiska. The rest of the table seemed entirely aloof, with only a few curious gazes coming my way. Stranger still, it was Houses Shiqath and Finthorun’s upper yearsmen who seemed more laser-focused on me, as they constantly looked over their shoulders, whispering under magical privacy screens amongst themselves and their new housemates. I’d attempted to raise the issue regarding the stars with Chiska. Though a combined effort between Thacea and Ilunor quickly brought those attempts to a halt. … 15 Minutes Later. En Route to the Dorms. … “I can’t believe Etholin scored below us.” I began, a clear twinge of remorse coloring my voice. “The man is magically weak, Cadet Emma Booker.” Ilunor began with a haughty huff. “His family, his holdings, and indeed his entire way of life exists because of the strength of Nexian magic and the peace and certainty it brings. This has made him and his house soft, complacent to the security of the world. He eschews the responsibilities inherent to a noble — namely the honing of one’s magical potential — for more worldly endeavors such as trade, statecraft, and commerce.” “But shouldn’t the Nexus want nobles with those skills?” I countered. “You misunderstand me, Cadet Emma Booker. What I’m saying is that the man is using the pursuit of the worldly as an excuse for his responsibilities to the magical. Any noble worth their mettle should be mastering both magic and worldly endeavors. Lord Esila… is dangerously favoring one, and leaving what makes him noble foolishly neglected.” The Vunerian surmised. All throughout the long walk back to the dorms, I tried to keep the topic honed in on anything but the stars as per the group’s request. Which was easy for the first leg of it, since there was a lot from the event to unpack. However, the closer we got to our room, the antsier I became. As each window, each open-air hallway, and each slit carved into the wall became yet another spectacle to gawk at. This partly reminded me of how it felt like visiting Acela from Valley Hill for the first time. The light pollution, despite being mitigated through policy, simply overpowered most of the stars. That experience should’ve softened the blow of the Nexus’ starless skies. But it didn’t. As the cognitive dissonance between the sheer ruralness of Transgracia, combined with the complete darkness of the skies, made for an incongruent picture that just did not compute in my head. If there had been something even remotely similar to an Acelan skyline nearby, then sure, that would slide. But with an endless expanse of greenery punctuated by a few rural settlements, with no significant glow to speak of, the scenery reminded me of an even less developed Valley Hill. And Valley Hill always had a brilliant night sky to frame it. The Nexus, however, didn’t. Not even one tiny speck of light. All that existed here was darkness. Darkness without the warm glow of city lights. This all came to a head as we finally arrived at the dorms. As I unloaded all of my questions. Dragon’s Heart Tower. Level 23. Residence 30. Living Room. Local Time: 2145 Hours. Emma “Could any of you tell me exactly what the heck is going on out there?!” I pointed vigorously out the window. “What’s with the lack of stars? What’s with the void of a sky?” This question… prompted everyone to collectively peer over towards the nearest window, each of them seemingly captivated by something that I wasn’t seeing. “If you mean the canvas to the grand tapestry, Cadet Emma Booker, then yes I can certainly see the ‘void’ you speak of. However, what I see, and what I’ve always seen from my earliest memories, is a brilliant display of His Eternal Light.” Ilunor responded first, garnering a cock of my head, as Thacea quickly chimed in to fill the gap. “Do you recall our conversations regarding manastreams, Emma?” “Yes, I do.” I nodded, before the realization hit me. “Wait, don’t tell me…” “Indeed, earthrealmer.” Ilunor smiled. “You lack the ability to visualize what all of us have the privilege of seeing — a brilliant display of vibrant mana, dancing amidst a darkened canvas, like a banner fluttering in a gale storm. Brilliant hues of every shade you can imagine, waltzing in an eternally dark ballroom.” I fell silent upon that revelation, as I once again felt a gut punch pulling the wind right out of my sails. I was the only person in the room who couldn’t see color. Frustration, followed by a pang of sadness, wracked me. However, just as quickly as those feelings hit me, so too did I manage to ground myself. Just because I lacked it, didn’t mean I was lesser for it. These weren’t limitations, just obstacles to overcome. Project Wand Step for Mankind was going to help in this regard. But even without it? I could exist well and fine without manasight. I took a moment to pause, bringing up a tablet as I pulled up some stock footage of both the Aurora Borealis and Aurora Australis. “So something along these lines?” I asked the group. “Yes.” Ilunor nodded. “But much, much more vibrant, and less… dead.” The Vunerian concluded. “And without those stars in the backdrop too, I’m imagining.” I promptly added. “Naturally, earthrealmer.” Ilunor acknowledged smugly. “Right. Okay. This provides some vital context for the Dean’s earlier answer.” I sighed. “I’m assuming these… magical auroras are a Nexian thing then.” I paused, garnering nods from Thacea and Thalmin. “Alright, good to know. But the important question aside from the fancy light show is this — what the heck’s going on with the lack of stars? I’ve come up with a few theories, but I’d like to hear it from—” “They’re dead, earthrealmer.” Ilunor responded proudly. “I… I’m sorry?” “I know this may be hard to understand, and indeed your choice of words is somewhat perplexing, so I’ll take great effort in explaining this simply. These ‘stars’ you speak of? Each speck of light in the night sky that once polluted our grand canvas? They were once gods — minor, major, and everything in between. His Eternal Majesty defeated them, consumed them. And once he did, their presence in the tapestry above diminished along with their wretched lives.” I paused at that, trying to wrack my head around Ilunor’s explanation as I attempted to wrangle together a new hypothesis. Is he being metaphorical? Is the Nexus perhaps just that late into its cosmic timeline? Maybe this is a religious explanation for the disappearance of stars due to universal expansion? No, it can’t be. The timescales don’t add up. The Nexus hasn’t existed for that long, it takes billions of years between seeing stars and losing sight of them if we’re going by the expansion theory. So is this actually literal? “Ilunor.” I began with a sigh, getting straight to the point. “What do you actually know about stars?” This caught the Vunerian off guard, prompting him to narrow his eyes. “Are you calling me daft—” “No, Ilunor, I’m genuinely asking here. No pettiness, no jabs, nothing.” I spoke earnestly. “I want you to tell me what you know about stars.” “I understand that they are different in other realms.” The Vunerian shrugged. “But in the Nexus, these specks of light you speak of were once the mana-physical manifestations of gods, all hanging overhead, taunting mortals with their infinite power. Their destruction led to the creation of His Majesty’s Light, as well as the sun and the moon. A monument to the defeat of the gods, and the freeing of mana.” I chewed this concept for a few moments, allowing myself to take the Vunerian’s words at face value for once. “Right. So how high up were these ‘balls of mana’?” “How should I know, earthrealmer? I’m not an astrologer!” Ilunor shot back defensively. “Right, okay. So, next question then. You know that stars do exist in adjacent realms, correct?” “Yes.” “So… how would you explain those—” “Ah! You would believe me a fool!” The Vunerian slammed back with a ‘gotcha’ moment. “As I stated previously, stars are different in realms beyond the Nexus. For they are imperfections — tears in an otherwise seamless canvas.” I paused, realizing that right there, was where we both hit our respective Fundamental Systemic Incongruencies. I quickly turned to Thacea and Thalmin, but moreso the latter, as I’d yet to have dived deep into the lupinor’s understanding on the matter. “Thalmin?” “If you’re asking me for what I assume the stars to be, Emma, then I cannot tell you. What I do know, however, is that they’re useful tools for navigation. Through careful and calculated surveying, the stars aided us in discovering the finite nature of our world. Alas that is all I know of them, for I am not a scholar learn-ed in such a far-removed field of study.” I quickly turned to Thacea, but not before Ilunor and Thalmin interjected. The latter, starting with a concerned tone of voice. “Emma… are you claiming to know something we don’t regarding the stars above the adjacent realms?” The former, however, approached me with a scowl and an unamused tone of voice. “You seem troubled by perfection, earthrealmer. I understand your need to cope with such prodigious revelations. However, discussing stars will not net you the satisfaction you seek. Prince Thalmin is correct in his assertions — that these ‘stars’ serve little more than to aid you in the navigation of your finite realms. What else is there to discuss about them? Why are you so seemingly infatuated with our lack of them?” I took a moment to regard both of their concerns, before letting out a long sigh. “It’s because I want to know what the Nexus is and more importantly — what lies beyond it. You can claim whatever you want about the Nexus itself, but seeing your starless skies prompted me to figure out what lies above it.” “Above it?” Ilunor cocked his head, followed immediately by Thalmin. “The… space above an adjacent realm. The… abyss of darkness that hangs above.” I began, Thacea chiming in soon after. “The oceans of stars.” The princess managed out ominously, parroting my words from our earlier interactions with the library. “Nothing hangs above, earthrealmer.” Ilunor shot back incredulously. “I am certain the same goes for adjacent realms. You speak as if you know what lies ‘above’. As if you’ve actually touched the tapestry itself!” “I mean, we’ve studied it for millenia and we—” “And through manaless means you’re claiming to have somehow reached it?” I took a moment to pause, leveling my eyes towards the Vunerian. “I’ll do you one better, Ilunor. We haven’t just ‘reached’ the tapestry. We’ve actually ripped right through it.” This caused the Vunerian to pause, his now light-blue scales growing even paler. “Oh, have you now?” He spoke through a derisive chuckle. “Next thing you’ll be claiming you’ve actually visited these so-called specks of light—” “We have.” I responded bluntly. That answer… finally drained the last of the Vunerian’s color, as Thalmin’s features darkened in equal measures. “I think it’s time we talked about our mastery over the skies, the heavens, and the nature of the void which hangs above.” First | Previous | Next (Author's Note: Hey everyone! I have an announcement to make. You may have noticed that the posting of this week’s chapter was delayed. This was because my grandmother just passed away just hours before I needed to post, and I needed to immediately tend to family affairs as a result of that. While I was able to post this week’s chapter with a one day delay, I am afraid that I will need to take the next two weeks off from posting new chapters of Wearing Power Armor to a Magic School. Wearing Power Armor to a Magic School will be returning to its regularly scheduled posting on the 12th of January. 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An update 8 years later: Ex [42F] is creating so much drama in my[37M] life that I am having trouble coping. Considering giving up my kids just to get it all to stop
I am NOT the Original Poster. That is u/Runhard9797. He posted in r/relationships and r/legaladvice. Thanks to u/mimzynull for the rec! Do NOT comment on Original Posts. Latest update is 7 days old. Trigger Warnings: child abuse; child neglect; mental health issues Mood Spoiler: happy ending! Original Post: August 24, 2016 I don't know where to begin. I was married for 13 years. Have 2 mall children 4 and 6. And after being divorced I am now remarried to a wonderful woman (Donna). My ex will not stop harassing me. I have to communicate with her for the kids. But it is so contentious that the court finally ordered all communication go through an online site, and I had to change my phone number and move. It was that bad. I had my kids this weekend. Things went great and I went and saw my family. No incidents, we had a great time. Then I got this email Email: Jill and Marvin [kids] report that they were in a traffic accident with you this weekend, in the truck. They both report that the loud, obscene exchange between their father and the ABC Towing driver scared them. They both report that they were bitten by Greg's dog, Murphy, during their visit at your folks house this weekend. This is the second dog they have both reported biting them. I have also posted their reports that they have been bitten by a large dog named Betsy, at your in-laws house. They have traumatic memories of metal being scraped out of your leg. I hope that you recover & get back to your job quickly. I hope that Donna is okay. They report that you have trouble walking. This is consistent with behavior I observed at Drop-Off on Sunday night; you didn't get out of your new car, and it appeared very awkward for you to unbuckle their booster seat belts from the driver's seat.. I need to know about these things, please! Dog bites are notoriously dirty and prone to infections. Just because our children didn't appear to be as seriously injured as you were in the truck accident, doesn't mean that they couldn't be stiff and sore and possibly have internal injuries for which I need to be observing. At least I need to understand why they were stiff and sore and acting more fearful than usual when they came home. Their mild to moderate bruising and scrapes, and the chunks of skin missing from their hands and fingers, are consistent with their reports of the accident and the dog bites. I will take Jill and Marvin to the pediatrician walk-in clinic to rule out any unseen injuries and infections. It would be nice if you would call or email the doctor's office, and tell them what you can about the accident and the dog bites. It could help rule out tests and treatments that might not be necessary. It would also be nice if you would pay your half of their medical expenses; especially because the accident and the dog bites happened when they were with you. Today is Jill's first day of school. I could have taken them to the doctor 2 days ago, if you had shared that they were bitten and in a traffic accident that was bad enough required a tow truck for the truck, and medical care for you. If you want to drive the kids to Santa Barbara and back in a weekend, expose them to animals that aren't safe for children, and fight with tow truck drivers in front of them, I cannot prevent that. But what happens to their little, growing bodies, and the events that are being imprinted on their sweet, innocent minds, is very much my business. Please share all of the information regarding what happened to our children in the truck accident. Please share all of the information regarding the bites from the dogs. As a mother, it is very worrisome to hear my preschooler and my first grader recount the dangerous things that are happening to them; but it is even more worrisome that my Co-Parent withholds vital information about their health. Jill and Marvin deserve to know that their parents are working together to take care of them. Thank you. Rest of the post: I don't even know where to begin. The dog that was there had no teeth.... Didn't bite them.... And couldn't have even if it wanted to. My in laws dog is dead. I was never in an accident. There was no tow truck. All of this is false. I can't even find a shred of a real event that could have gotten twisted. This comes on the heels of 4 days ago, her trying to corner me into signing away 30% of my custody agreement, and refusing to let me even look at the details of the paperwork. I am so frazzled by all of this that, at times, I think about signing away my Parental rights just to not have the stress. But I don't want my children thinking I don't care for them and abandoned them. How do you reason with this level of Crazy? Any advice is welcome. I need help managing this Tl;dr trying to deal with a crazy ex, and barely holding it together for the sake of the kids. Relevant Comments (from legal advice and relationships): Commenter: Why are you so cowed by your ex wife that her telling you to sign something you don't want to sign causes you stress? It shouldn't be that hard to say no. OOP: That is a brief snapshot... When it's every day, or every other day... It gets stressful. I never know what accusation is going to be lobbed at me next. When they divorced: 2 years ago To a deleted comment: Yeah. I already spent almost all of my savings to get the custody agreement I have. Dropping another 20k would be tough. To pay for I'd have to pick up another job, which would then not allow me to access the custody I am wanting Commenter: Turn this over to your lawyer. Please fight this fight. I know it is hard but can you imagine growing up with a mother who chooses to rewrite history and reality to suit her whims? OOP: Lawyers have been contacted. No response in 3 days, emailed with this craziness this morning. Still crickets... Commenter: "Their mild to moderate bruising and scrapes, and the chunks of skin missing from their hands and fingers, are consistent with their reports of the accident and the dog bites." So do these things not exist or what? OOP: I didn't see any thing... A scrape on the foot from the flip flop one was wearing but other than that. Nothing Commenter: How does Donna feel about all of this? OOP: Pissed.... It is a major source of conflict in our marriage. Actually it is just about the only thing we ever argue about. Tangential Post: January 1, 2017 (4+ months later) Title: Legal rights surrounding a primary custody parent who after 4 attempts is not picking up her children from me (the non custodial parent) [CA] I am in Southern California. I don't know what to to here. I am the non custodial parent. I have had the kids for 1 week (4 and 6) during Christmas break. Due to the high conflict nature of my ex we have been assigned a co-parenting person to help mediate. On the 30th we were supposed to exchange the kids back to her care. I showed up 15 min early to the location, and we waited for 1 HR and 7 min before giving up and leaving. She had been claiming she was right there for over 35 min. (The location was an IHOP, 300 ft from the freeway exit) After I left I got a slew of messages calling me all sorts of names, and claiming that she had just showed up, but that I had left. (This song and dance has happened before) she said she would meet me anywhere, just to let her know where. This time I called her bluff and picked a location 2 miles from my home, and told her, the kids are hungry and tired of waiting. I'm taking them to my house, when you arrive at the location (11 miles from the IHOP) text me and let me know, and I'll bring them right over. I sent her the location 5 times in text and twice via email. 4.5 hours later. Nothing I then told her that we could meet at the agreed upon location at 11 am the next nay for the exchange, just 1 day later than planned. When I woke up I the morning she demanded I drive them 1 hour to a new location, because she had a 103 degree fever and couldn't drive. There of course was a back and forth about her ability to care for children if she was too sick to drive. Ultimately she failed to arrive at the location at 11am At 5pm I got a doctors note stating that she only had a cold as was fine to care for the children (I didn't ask for this). I then called her and we had a heated back and forth, but ultimately I relented and told her that I would bring them to a location that she chose. 1 hour away and 1 mile from her house. Under the agreement that she would show up this time. Before leaving I sent an email confirming the location and time. That was sent at 7:48pm. We arrived at the location and 8:51pm and texted to let her know we were there. What happened next was so frustrating. No response to any text was ever given. Every time I would send a text, I would get an email. All of them stating the same thing. That she would not leave her house until I verified my location. I sent her 6 different responses to emails telling her where I was. All I would get in response is more messages asking me to confirm my location. I even made a phone call telling her where I was.... Unfortunately at this point I was in such disbelief I did yell at her and tell her to get her ass down here. (Not my finest hour) At 10:21pm. With kids in high anxiety and crying that their mom had forgotten them again, we left and drove the hour back home. I have now messages accusing me of child abduction. I don't know what to do... I am not subjecting my kids to this again. I can't bear to watch them check every car, and get excited "I think I see her!" over and over again for hours while she plays these games. My worry is that the cops are going to come knock down my door.... When I have done everything I can to make these exchanges work. Is this enough to have my lawyers file an emergency hearing to get primary custody? I am in limbo right now since neither my lawyers or the coparenting person will be in the office until the 3rd. Tl;dr mother has missed 4 exchanges in 2 days. What are my legal rights in this situation? Relevant Comments; Commenter: Why can't you just drop the kids off at her house if she's "not feeling well enough to drive"? It sounds like she's playing games and you're letting her. OOP: She has told me over and over again not to come to her house, under any circumstance. Commenter: Was the mediator alerted to this situation when it was occurring? If not, why not? OOP: She doesn't check her email or phone over the weekend Commenter: Keep the kids, stop dealing with her shit and file for full emergency custody this week. OOP: She is now stating that she is 5 miles away, waiting for me to deliver the kids. This was not prearranged. Deleted Post: July 14, 2017 (6 months later) Editor's note: Thanks to mods for helping me recover this! Title: [California] Not sure what my options are with a crazy ex wife scenario. (literally) I am in the process of a 730 evaluation for primary custody of my kids. Two kids 7 and 5 Today, was another doozy of an exchange...and I am fearful for the kids I don't know what my options are here... if any My Ex was 53 min late to the exchange today. at 4:24 she sent me a text stating she was exiting the freeway That is 2 miles from the meeting spot arranged in Co-parenting for today. she doesn't show up until 4:53 Exchange goes ok. But I know something is coming, because if she is ever in the wrong she has to lash out and blame someone else or invent a scenario where she is the victim. I had to wait all of 4 min. I got a text stating "I just drove by your car, and the back seat was empty. where are the kids?" I said "Wasn't my car. I have two kids" then knowing where this was going sent a picture of them in the car. Response: "when did you have time to take this? because I had plenty of time to look at the stoplight. You were alone. It's ok if Donna (my current wife) has them. It's totally legal, just weird to hide it. I then called her. She answered. I said. Hi, she said Hi, and then I asked the kids to say Hi. I then asked the kids "where are we at kids?"....at this point She started saying "hello, hello? is there anyone there? I then got a text "Thank you for the phone call. But there was no sound I responded. "I am turning off my phone now. these accusations are bizarre" I got back: "Not as bizarre as pretending to pick up our kids. Just tell me who has them" I called again. Immediately with the "hello? hello?" I knew for sure it was a game at this point. I just ended the call She responded "You can't just keep ending conversations because you don't want to deal with the facts." "If this turns into another 49 hour abduction like New Year's, I will definitely filing a report" (Read the last post on that incident here This is next level insane. I am terrified for the kids. This is like raising to the level that she needs to be committed. Thoughts apart from just continuing with the psych eval I already have going? Relevant Comment: OOP: We went back to family court. Court ordered a psych evaluation. That process is about 6 months. We are 1 month into that Deleted Post 2: December 31, 2019 (2.5 years later) Ok I want to give the timeline so people understand the full issue I am up against. Basically my children were hidden from me for 55 hours during my parenting time. Their location and the whole situation.... well I was lied to about the whole time Been divorced 5 years. 30% custody exchange was to be dec 28 12pm for my half of Xmas break Timeline Dec 26: 4pm get a picture of where they are spending Christmas (ex and 2 kids 9 and 7) showing large snow fall and a message saying they are not sure when the snow plows will start Dec 27 12pm another picture and message stating same thing (except in the picture you can tell cars have left and come back from 1st picture 6pm: I tell her, if you get out tonight, I’ll come get the kids as planned (in court order) from your house (12pm dec 28th) if you do not get out until the morning do you want to just bring them by my house ( on the way from where she is coming from) —- I get a thumbs up to that message 8 pm. I ask if she got out. No response Dec 28 9am: I ask for a status update so I know if I need to drive the hour to her house. No response 10:20 am I ask again for an update. No response 11am I leave to drive the hour for exchange, not knowing info. 12 pm. (Exchange time) arrive at house. Text that I have arrived. Her car is there. Her mom’s car is not (she lives with her mom) I video tape the time on the vehicle verbally notate the time and date. Show her car and the darkened house on the video tape ( I assume she has driven up with her mom to where she is snowed in) 12:10pm finally get a response saying they are still snowed in. No plows yet 4pm I offer that since my parents are driving down, and they have a large truck they could swing by and get the kids on their way to my house tomorrow. No response until the next day Note: I check all roads in the area... all are showing being open, and flowing traffic. I even verify with live traffic cams form 1/2 mile from where she is that roads are cleared and cars are driving. (I have screen shots of this and the video is time stamped) Dec 29th 8am She declines this and says “ we should stick to orders” she also tells me her internet is out Dec 29th 11 am I contact the police about child abduction. I tell them the story. They say “here is an incident number, we are not going to open a case on this. Take it up with the court.” 4pm I get a message saying “ Freeways closing down for the night. Been driving every backroad looking for entrances without frozen bridges or backed up with accidents. It’s an hour wait every time I fill up. Everybody’s sure it’ll be better tomorrow. Signals are better at least.” I respond asking her to tell me when she leaves Note. No freeways or highways are shut down. I check all state and local websites to verify. Even check Twitter and local live camera feeds Dec 30 8am call my lawyers. Tell them what is going on. Send them all of the timeline and they say they will reach out to her attorney 1pm. They finally get in touch with her attorney and the response back is that “she is leaving today, that she will message me when she does, and I can come and get the kids from her place” 2pm I ask for an update from my ex 4:45pm still having gotten no communication I call my lawyers again. They call her lawyer. I finally get a response. “I have left” That’s all 6pm get a message “I am home, you can come get them” 7pm 55 hours past exchange, I get the kids I ask them about the snow and being stuck. I was not trying to pry information or grill them, just casual light conversation They tell me that they have been at home for 3 days. Since the night of the 27th! Now I am asking some more pointed questions. I ask about what car they drove (they are kids, maybe the time line is wrong) they say they were in their mom’s car because grandma had to leave on Christmas Day to be back home, so they drove separately. They say that mom said I told her she could keep them for 2 more days. I am furious. It was all lies. I am contacting lawyers today. But what are my options here? I want to have a reasonable expectation walking into this. My stance right now is, I need action and need someone else to be as posed about this as I am, or I’ll find a lawyer who is. But I do realize my emotions are elevated Additional note: In the last 2 years I have filed a 730. Spent 12k on it. 2 year process. Basically it said I am the better parent, but that she might be improving, and that his suggestion would be to wait a year and do another 730 and if things haven’t improved by then, it would be appropriate to swap me to primary custody. That report was produced in April this year Update Post: August 7, 2024 (8 years from OG post, 4.5 from last update) I was looking in my profile and saw my post in this subreddit from 7 years ago, as my Ex was causing so much chaos that I was doubting everything. That post is linked here https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/s/ScafVaff3L [editor's note- OOP has an extensive reddit history going back over a decade] I took everything to heart and implemented several things right away. I became a grey rock… and started documenting my ass off. I consulted my lawyers, and they said they advised several steps. The first of which was a 730 evaluation. (This is an evaluation done by a psychologist) that process took a really long time as the 730 evaluator got very sick halfway through. That took 10 months. At the end the report essentially read “Mom is volatile and disorganized and that dad’s home would be a more stable home for the children. However, there is hope that mom is starting to improve, so if things are still bad in 1 year it would be appropriate to change custody to dad” This was a tough pill to swallow. Things were not better, and the chaos was just intermittent. So we just kept documenting, and doing our thing. Eventually, we started getting a lot of emails from teachers that Jill in particular, was often not bathed, never had her homework done, didn’t have school supplies and that she was falling way behind in her studies. We applied for a trial to review custody, and asked for primary custody to be swapped to us. That was at the end of 2019, and trial was set for May 2020. So as you can imagine, once COVID hit, everything got delayed. There was a large amount of events in 2020. COVID shut down. Donna and I had a child, Rebecca. And then my Ex started denying visitation to Jill and Marvin. Every 2 weeks I would go down… wait in front of the house. No kids would emerge. Sometimes I would have the police come, not to force anything, but to get the documentation in terms of a case number. This went on for 4 months, before I was able to start getting visitation again. Eventually, the trial was set for summer of 2021 and went for 3 days and I had over 500 pages of documentation. Day 1 was entirely testimony from the Co-Parenting therapist we had been seeing for 5 years. She testified that my Ex was the most difficult client she had ever worked with in her career, that my ex never followed a single agreement in session, and that she was a pathological liar. Last day of testimony was my ex, where she was caught lying on the stand, and was presented with evidence that she had been secretly taking the children to a medical professional for 2 years that I had explicitly not agreed to. So starting in Aug 2021, the judge ordered the kids come live with me, primary custody and limiting my ex to 4 days a month. It’s now been 3 years: When Jill was in 5th grade she had a 26% in math, and a 40% in English. For the last 3 years, she has maintained a 4.0 every single year, and will be starting High School in Honors Geometry, Honors English and AP Biology. Marvin has also been doing well also and just finished his first year of middle school with a 4.0 GPA, and is loving his coding and robotics elective. They have new clothes, and have learned new skills and responsibilities. Donna has been crucial in setting up patterns to help with success in school. Their rooms are both immaculate, and they are the ones doing it with very little direction from us. They are happy and finally involved in activities and sports. Our little Rebecca adores them both, and I will often find all 3 of them cuddled up together as one of the older two reads a book to her. Jill made the decision recently to stop going on visits to her mom. The chaos and drama started being directed at her… along with lack of food, clothes that fit, etc. Marvin is still going for visits and we are encouraging that as long as he is feeling safe there. All in all things are going so well and the kids are doing incredible. There are hard moments still, but it has all been worth it, and we are able to shield them for the most part from any chaos their mom may want to start. If anyone is reading this that initially sent advice. Thank you. When you are in the thick of it, it is tough to not feel like it is impossible and you will never be able to overcome it. I needed the outside prospective. tl;dr Update to a post about considering giving up custody of my kids, to fighting for them for years… eventually getting custody and turning all of our lives around for the better. Relevant Comment: Commenter: Cheered when I heard both the kids got their grades up. You’ve set them on the right path sir. Good work. OOP: Thanks! We knew they had the ability. It is amazing what can happen when kids have support with HW, and a routine to follow everyday. Soon they start believing in themselves and then setting their own lofty goals. Jill has dreams of becoming an investigative journalist. 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Ambani Wedding Tea Part 2
Here's Part 2 of this post - Disclaimer - Mods haven't seen any ID proof as sender wasn't comfortable to send us their Event Pass. We also post these under Exaggerated claims Flair, so take everything with a pinch of salt. Aish/ Jaya never interacted with each other at all. She was seated separately, Abhishek was seated next to Aish but they hardly had any conversation. Most Shetty family members was very sweet to all the staff and employs. They seem like a close bonded family and socialize to a minimum only Suniel Shetty’s wife is arrogant and expects staff to treat her with “extra” respect. Jaya Bachan, Shweta Nanda and Navya need to learn to behave better in public. They were constantly making weird face expressions. A team member helped Shweta to the washroom and she kept telling the style team member how she think she’s the best dressed for the event. Kriti's argument with Jaya ji was over Kirti chatting with Sr. Ab and praising him for his role in Kalki, Jaya is the most insecure person. And Kriti after being drunk at Baraat she was tipsy and being overly friendly. 5. SRK- Gauri entered really late by then Priyanka had finished dancing in the barat and was in the main hall. They did not cross paths. Deepika and Katrina were standing next to each other after the shaadi was over but other then the usual pleasantries they never spoke to each other. Katrina seemed bored all through the event and she was being rude to everyone, the staff including Vicky. She keeps giving Vicky weird stares. Katrina and Vicky attended the second day event but was wearing something different than what she posted on her Instagram. It was supposed to hide her baby bump. Nor did they pose for Paps on the second day. Salman was around Anant the whole time like he was his best friend and at one point even Salman was getting annoyed because Anant kept pulling him everywhere. The jewellery on the Ambani’s; it’s true they may own the most expensive jewellery in the world but for convenience sake they had the same designs made in lighter metals because the functions were long and it would have been uncomfortable. Karan Johar was sidelined all through the events. Even SRK and Gauri who are like family to him did not give him much attention. Even the nepos kept their distance. Something about Karan did not seem fine. Natasha Poonawala I think mistook the theme as met gala, she even wanted solo photos on red carpet though her family was there. Veer and Shikhar were super annoying, they just wanted to be anywhere and everywhere the cameras were. Veer and Manushi relationship seems very PR driven. They hardly interacted. The wedding was according to Hindu traditions and in typical Gujarati weddings no alcohol is allowed at the wedding. But everyone was drunk before the actual wedding started. Raddhika is not as nice as she seems; she’s all smiles and humble while the cameras are rolling otherwise she throws a tantrum over the smallest thing. She’s nita Ben junior. Raddhika lost her cool on a mua for suggesting another eye makeup look. Shloka is the very naive one, everyone seems to ignore her. She is also the sweetest she always asked everyone on the wedding planning team if they have eaten, she doesn’t seem to do only do things for the camera. She actually has a motherly instinct. Unlike Isha who only holds her children if she’s being filmed. Shloka and Akash share a weird equation. He seems very toxic towards her and she agrees to anything she’s told to do. Suhana is like a doll too good to be true. She seems to do everything Gauri or Shweta tell her to do. She has no personality of her own. Nepos had the moment of their entire existence after seeking Kim kardashian. And they kept gossiping about Kim and Khloes look . They were just happy to be in the presence of their idol. A statement from one nepo “I cannot believe this, she’s here, like really she’s with us, Kim is the OG”. Nita Ambani is fake as hell. She loses her cool if her assistants even touch her by mistake. She considers anyone lesser than her as untouchables. Nita was utterly rude to Shloka for looking tired, for heaven sake she’s a mother to two young kids. Mukesh Ambani is a smart business man but he literally dances on his wife’s tunes. He happily does all those cringe videos just to make her happy. Otherwise Nita Ambani throws a lot of tantrums. Isha Ambani and her husband aren’t together. It’s only photo OPs. He seems done with the Ambani circus even his family preferred to stay away from the main circus. All the photo shoots of the Ambani’s were pre done before the wedding started and were uploaded just before the function with that respective outfit was put out. That’s why in some pictures after the wedding Raddhika can be seen without mehendi. Raddhika family was sidelined all through the wedding except for the day paps were invited but Raddhika herself seems to not want to interact much with them. Raddhika’s sister is actually very pretty. But she was treated very badly by the Ambani’s. FLOBW were present. Maheep and Bhavana on day 1 and Bhavana with Chunky on day 2 Major business family representatives were not papped and they have very different seating areas. Political party leaders from the ruling party and opposition were present some of them were not papped. The Ambani’s may have had 1000 chefs from all over the world but the food was really not authentic to the taste they tired to add an Indian touch to even Mexican and Italian dishes. Even the pastries were mediocre. They could have found better caters at much better prices. No international singers like Drake Adele or Lana Del Ray performed at the functions. It was all fake news. But the Indian singers out did themselves the performances were soulful and much better than any international artist. Ananya really was enjoying her single status, she seemed to be hanging onto anyone who was even remotely showing any interest in her. Ananya is way prettier than the other nepo kids and can carry off the worst outfits well. Though she seems to pretend or is actually dumb. DDC is dudh seh dulhe hua chokre. PPC was Raddhika bridesmaids. But couldn’t get the meaning of it. Someone said powerful puff chokriya. Nepos like Shanaya, Ananya, khushi were Anant’s brigade. South stars were very decent and most of them seem down to earth. They attended the wedding, no extra nautanki and left. South stars except Rajni are treated differently. Like the lesser version of Bollywood, though there are way more successful. Rajnikanth even danced in the barat for some time and then went into the wedding hall and sat down with his family. About the 2cr watches, all the grooms friends got it. But A- listers like Shahrukh and Salman got another watch as well which was almost doubt the cost of these watches. Alia is very clingy and she will follow Ranbir everywhere. It’s cute to an extent but it seems like even Ranbir is bored of the constant stalking. After the barat most of the ones dancing were in no state to actually attend the actual wedding. Cannot confirm this , but quite a few stars were paid to attend the functions. May not be in the form of money but movie deals, endorsements or sponsorships, etc. Every younger generation actor was too busy staring at Kim and the older ones were so tempted. When PM Modi entered, Kim did not know how to react and she thought he was some priest come to congratulate the bride. 40 There were private areas for special guests so that no one could pap or intrude into some VIP areas. 41 A lot of the younger celebrities talking about the comments they were getting on their looks on Reddit Reminder - You can dissect each point, don't abuse Source Media - Give credit if you copy please submitted by /u/AutoModerator to r/BollyBlindsNGossip [link] [comments]
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Drake has a clear pattern of predatory behavior towards minors - here's proof
This is a long read. TL;DR: Drake is a creep with a clear pattern of predatory behavior towards many minors and I have the receipts to back it up. INTRODUCTION This is a comprehensive post regarding Drake's extremely questionable behavior regarding minors and young women in general. There's more than 70 links in this post to various sources and over 30.000 characters. If you want to repost, make a YouTube video, an article, a TikTok or Twitter thread then do it - I do not need credit, I do not care - I only want this information to be spread. This post will serve as an archive that people can refer back to or use as a source to back up their claims. Let me be clear - I do not like Drake. I've thought the guy was a creep ever since the Millie Bobby Brown video and I despise him - but I'll still try to remain as objective as possible here, you know my bias now though. This thread is partly based on this thread from 2022 Read this comment for edits I've made to the post. OVERVIEW This post is divided into sections: The 17 year old at a show Millie Bobby Brown Billie Eilish Kylie Jenner Hailey Baldwin (Now Bieber) Cydney Christine (Lil CC) Aaliyah Unconfirmed rumors Lyrics, references, tweets, pictures, ties (Dis)honorable mention Final Note THE 17 YEAR OLD AT A SHOW Drake is performing at a show in Ogden, Denver where he calls a girl up on stage. I really encourage you to watch this yourself, but since I know the majority of you won't watch it, I've described it for you below. Video starts with her on stage, he asks her name, where she is from, asks the crowd to welcome her to the stage and tells her she looks great. He then asks her to give him two seconds because "I gotta be ready for you". He wipes off his sweat with a towel and proceeds to take her hand, put it on his shoulder, his hand on her hip/back and they slow dance for a few seconds. He spins her around and stop her with her back facing him. This is when it starts to get.. really weird. Drake says "I told you I like your hair, right, what is it, like herbal essence or something?" while he's caressing her shoulder and smelling her hair. He says something I can't hear properly, puts the mic down and exposes her upper back and neck by pulling her shirt collar down. The crowd goes wild. He then starts kissing her shoulder and neck, putting her arms around her and fondle her breast. A few seconds later he picks up the mic again and says "you can't have me carried away again before I get in trouble - how old are you?" She responds "17". The crowd has a mixed reaction - Drake says something that is hard to make out, because of the crowd but when it's clear he says "I can't go to jail yet, man - 17? Why do you look like that? You thick - look at all this!" It's hard to make out exactly what he says afterwards because of the poor quality (2011 zoomed video at a concert, it's bad..), but he says something about it bringing them (the 17 year old and Drake) to a close and follows it up with "I got one question for you (...) I just want to know if (something about women in Colorado), I should just take one opportunity to take one home?" The girl nods "As a Colorado woman you'd enjoy that?" "Well, listen 17, I had fun - I don't know if I should feel guilty or not, but I had fun. I liked the way your breasts felt against my chest. I just want to thank you." He then puts the mic down again, grabs her hand and kisses it. You might think that was a little over the top, but he then immediately follows it up by putting his hand on her chin and kissing both of her cheeks, her forehead and then on her fucking lips. I think he asks her to walk off stage, it's hard to make out, but then he says "It's okay. I'm only 23, I can do shit like that. It's all good, you know what I'm saying" and the video ends. Addition: I know this girl has said she was not offended, violated, whatever you want to call it, but that's not the point. And I do not mean to sound like a complete dick, but it's not about her - it's about Drake and proving his pattern of behavior over many instances. If you stopped here because she denied it, you completely missed the point. Drake's age: 23 MILLIE BOBBY BROWN Now this video was what really made me do a double take on Drake. Now, there's one very important fact to establish here and that is that Millie Bobby Brown at the time of this interview (18. September 2018) is 14 (Born 19. February 2004). I'll quickly transcribe the interview here: Interviewer: What about your relationship with Drake, tell me about your friendship, how did this all come about? Millie Bobby Brown: I love him. I met him in Australia and he's honestly so fantastic and a great friend and a great role model. You know we text - we just texted each other the other day and he was like "I miss you so much" and I was like "I miss you more". He's coming to Atlanta, so I'm definitely gonna go and see him and I'm so excited. Interviewer 2: You and Drake? That's awesome. That's awesome.. Interviewer: What advice does he give you? What does he say? MMB: About boys he helps me, yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah he's great. He's wonderful, I love him. Interviewer: What's his advice with boys? MMB: Ehm, you know.. That stays in the text messages. I'm sure it's obvious what is wrong here and I don't need to spell it out for any of you, but I do have one thing to add. If Drake is giving advice about boys and telling her "I miss you so much" they must have talked for a while. It's not something you say after knowing a person for a week. We are talking months at least. There's 7 months between her birthday and the interview - did Drake already start talking to her when she was 13? It would make sense that Drake was in Australia during their summer (Dec-Feb) for festivals/concerts/vacation. Millie has only commented on this once which was a few days later in a story on Instagram I don't want or mean to infantilize her, but she was 14. She would have no chance of knowing if Drake actually was grooming her. There's not a chance that she could understand the dynamic at play and why it's wrong at that age. Drake also defended their friendship on the song Another Late Night when he raps: Weirdos in my comments talkin' 'bout some Millie Bobby, look Bring them jokes up to the gang, we get to really flockin' Ironically enough that very same song is also connected to the next person Drake's age: 33 BILLIE EILISH The year after the Millie Bobby Brown controversy Drake gets caught texting a minor again and this time it's Billie Eilish. She does a yearly interview with Vanity Fair, and in the 2019 version she's asked who's her most famous contact in her phone. That's when she reveals she's been texting with Drake and that he's so very nice to her. Billie is at the time of the interview (released 25. November 2019) 17 (born 18. December 2001). Billie did defend Drake and their texting in an interview with Vogue ~3 months later: “The internet is such a stupid-ass mess right now,” says Eilish, who quit Twitter in 2018. “Everybody’s so sensitive. A grown man can’t be a fan of an artist? There are so many people that the internet should be more worried about. Like, you’re really going to say that Drake is creepy because he’s a fan of mine, and then you’re going to go vote for Trump? What the fuck is that shit?” On the song Another Late Night where Drake mentions Millie Bobby Brown, Lil Yachty is featured (one of Drake's gho.. co-writers) and he raps the line: I let her go, she fine as hell but baby wasn't stylish (Yeah) She had big tits like Billie Eilish but she couldn't sing (Drip) Now - I know this is not Drake, I just thought it was a 'funny' coincidence that these two women are connected through their shared experiences with Drake and this song. On another note some might say that Drake should have asked Yachty to omit this line if he really was a friend of Billie Eilish since she has been quite vocal about sexualization of herself and women in general. Drake's age: 34 BELLA HARRIS This one is pretty fucking bad in my opinion. Bella Harris is the daughter of Jimmy Jam who's a record producer, songwriter etc. and has been very successful. Through him she's been in and around the entertainment/music business her whole life and met Drake that way. There's an archive of photos posted here that contains the old IG posts she had with Drake. The first one was on May 5th, 2016 - Bella Harris is born 20. April, 2000. She had just turned 16 at the time. Objectively I think they are defendable since they are all music related - Rihanna concert, Summer Sixteen Tour (ironic name..) and the American Music Awards, but then two years later they reportedly start dating and that makes it really difficult to believe, especially with the last archived photo of them in 2018. Also the same photo that is referenced in this article talking about Drake renting an entire restaurant for an intimate dinner between them. Note that E! have confirmed it and are not backing down on their claim despite Harris denying it on Instagram. Her father liked this post on Instagram about the whole situation. It's not particular to the restaurant or previous potential dating it's more so a general declaration of support for Drake, but that includes the PDF-file allegations. Him supporting Drake made me search for more information, because I wanted to find whether or not he had spoken about it at the time. That led me to this article where her mother, Lisa, is being asked a few questions regarding Bella. I was surprised Jimmy Jam hasn't introduced Bella to Drake, Rihanna or anybody else in the music world she is interested in meeting. "No," said Lisa. "She loves Rihanna, she loves Beyoncé. [Bella has met Bey; her brother Max has met Ri-Ri.] She hasn't met Drake. Too old." Lisa Harris about a photo of Bella (included in the article) - Bella is 14, almost 15 at the time. I think Drake would behave himself around a child, even one dressed like this, to wit: Mom doesn't think this photo is too sexy, in all its legginess? "SHE'S WEARING A BATHING SUIT and a coat!" said Lisa. "Sexy? What? My point is it's a body business, so I don't look at it [that way]. It's a posed picture. She has a one-piece bathing suit on. It's artistic." Drake's age: 29-31 KYLIE JENNER Ever since the Kanye (also fuck Kanye for the record) vs. Drake beef we (or I at least) became aware of the fact that Drake has had a long relationship with the Kardashians/Jenners and known them for many, many years. In fact Drake performed at Kylie's sweet 16 back in 2013. You know what that Sweet 16 was specifically remembered for as well? Drake kissing Kylie on the cheek in front of everyone, including her then boyfriend Jaden Smith. That's not out of the ordinary and would be 'normal', if it wasn't for the clear pattern that is going on here, because guess what - 6 years later Drake and Kylie reportedly start dating, well.. dating/fucking/whatever you wanna call it. Admittedly this article is easily dismissed as paparazzi journalism and clickbait, but what if I told you that Drake has rapped this: Yeah, I’m a hater to society/Real shit, Kylie Jenner that’s a side piece/Yeah, I got 20 muthafuckas in’ Kylies. You probably wouldn't have heard it, since it was on an unreleased track played on an Instagram Live back in 2020, but it does make it seem pretty likely that he did actually hook up with her, especially considering the response Drake posted “A song that mark ran last night on night owl sound live set shouldn’t have been played,” he wrote, “It’s a song that leaked 3 years ago and got scrapped shortly after. He was just going too deep in the drake/future catalogue. Last thing I’d want to do is wake up having any friends of mine feeling disrespected so I just had to say that to start off the day.” Kylie was 22 at the time they reportedly hooked up. Drake's age at Kylie's Sweet 16: 26 Drake's age when they hooked up: 33 HAILEY BALDWIN (NOW BIEBER) In 2016 there were reports that Hailey and Drake were dating. Apparently they hooked up at a party that Drake hosted, where another attendee is also mentioned that seems oddly relevant: Drake and Hailey weren't the only ones getting close, with Kylie Jenner and rumoured new boyfriend PartyNextDoor were seen "making out" at the party. "It was almost like she was trying to make a statement," an insider added. Now again - there's nothing illegal in a 11 year age difference and dating a 19-year old as 30. It's weird, yes. But again we come back to the pattern. Why do Drake know Hailey? Through their similar friends and friend group (Kardashians/Jenners). How long has Drake known Hailey? Well, when Hailey was 19, she said they had known each other for a long time. We can actually get even closer with certainty since we know that Hailey attended Kylie's Sweet 16 in August, 2013. Hailey is born 22. November 1996, so she was also 16 at the time. So it's another girl that Drake has known since she was a minor and started dating when he got the opportunity. This is not normal. Another pattern that Drake also seem to follow is that likes to hook up with his friends girl. We know for a fact that he hooked up with Lil Wayne's girlfriend while he was in prison. He not only rap about it, but also admit it in an interview. It's not really hard to believe that he did the same with Bieber. Drake's age at Kylie's Sweet Sixteen: 26 Drake's age when they hooked up: 29 CYDNEY CHRISTINE (LIL CC) Cydney Christine is a beatmaker and model - she produced the Drake song Money In The Grave and in a Complex interview/roundtable she talks about it and Drake. Really the only artist I reached out to is Drake. I'd never met him, never spoke to him, I don't know why, but he has been following me for the past like 6 years. I don't know why.. This interview was uploaded 17. December 2019, Cydney Christine's is born 21. July, 1997, meaning she was 22 at the time of the interview and 15-16 when Drake started following her. This is somewhat innocent but strange since Drake is 27 at the time. That's not what is really weird though. In March 2023, Lil CC is on the No Jumper podcast and here she speaks about Drake and having her debut beat being a Drake single. Lil CC: I played basketball, right, so he really was a fan or not a fan, sorry, supported one of my teammates at the time um.. Adam 22: And this is when you are in high school? Lil CC: Yeah, in high school. So he was a fan of women's basketball - high school basketball - I was her teammate so he followed me because of her, and I was like "oh shit, bitch, you got Drake to follow me, like what the hell? Like that's so crazy". So he followed me and I lost it - I have to meet Drake, I love Drake, I've always loved Drake, still love Drake. There's more to the conversation, but the relevant part is here is that it's just very, very strange for Drake to be a women's high school basketball fan. They are 16 at the time. He's a supporter of a 16 year old female high school basketball player as a 27 year old grown adult man. He has not hooked up with her, dated or anything of the sorts that we know of or that she has told - for the record. Drake's age: ~27 AALIYAH It's not like I have whole section for this, but his obsession with Aaliyah is just another part of the pattern. I don't have a lot to contribute here, but if you don't know Aaliyah's story I'd recommend reading her Wikipedia and specifically the section about her personal life. If you think that 'obsession' is too strong a word for how much Drake admires her, I think you should take a look at this Complex article from 2018 and reconsider. UNCONFIRMED STORIES (I will continuously update it whenever I find or get sent new information to add here.) Back in 2021 Drake was being exposed on TikTok for his 'private Tinder' where one of his guys would go out and the hottest girls in town, interview them and find the one that Drake would like the best. “He finds the girls and then he interviews them, and out of all the girls he interviews, he picks the one that he thinks is the best,” she continued. “Then, he drives her to Drake’s place, Drake has sex with her, and then he drives her home. So, basically, Drake has his own private Tinder.” This girl explaining how her friend was invited by Drake's crew and she was brought along as a +1. No ID check, very young girls. Worth a watch: https://www.tiktok.com/@simonestrauss/video/7365696116085591304 This reddit post - yes I know this is 'so easy to just say', but I think the poster was very right by pointing this out: I'm sure you guys won't believe me, but this is the type of situation where someone vanishing and telling you is the best you'll get. This YouTube comment about a girl claiming to be a victim of trafficking in Toronto in 2015 and that Drake had ties in all these circles. This article from 2016, where Drake and his buddy get aggressive with an amateur photographer for taking pictures of Drake and two women. This isn't strange in and of itself, but then there's this post from 2018 From the article: The mystery women were dressed identically in matching white parkas, skinny tan pants, tan boots and ponytail hairstyles. From the post: Maybe this foreign born one named A+ list singer/rapper should have told the whole story about his split with a fellow foreign born A+ lister. How she caught him more than once with another woman and his fascination for watching porn involving women wearing pigtails. This post This foreign born A+ list singer/rapper asked for all kinds of photos from not only the 18 year old he is dating but at least two other 18 year old females and he didn't make sure they were 18 before he started asking. This post That teen, who was topless in the dressing room of this foreign born A+ list singer/rapper last night was nowhere in the ballpark of being legal. This one is fucking WEIRD - some guy was jerking off and noticed something. Now there's plenty of reasons as to why they would do this, it's porn and they need a story. But then there's this post from 2017: This one named foreign born A list rapper is going around telling porn stars he is starting his own porn company. It is just his excuse to have sex with them all and not pay. Drake This Twitter post/video of UK rapper Potter Payper calling out Drake for messaging 'bare young girls in England'. This entire thread is weird to say the least. More CDAN rumors as well. Read the thread, it's too much to paste and explain here. Drake paid out $350K to sexual assault accuser - Drake initially filed a lawsuit against Layla Lace/Laquana Morris for civil extortion, fraud, defamation, abuse of process and intentional infliction of emotional distress strongly implying he's innocent - but why pay someone $350.000 then? The former stripper and Instagram model wrote: "Drake forced me to perform oral on him. It wasn't your ordinary oral it was more so a fetish." She then describes how he told her to spit into a cup "until he had measured it." This comment about a model claiming Drake 'made girls puke in dog bowls for him'. Now that's a typical thing you can dismiss as a rumor, but the same guy commented 16 days ago and said this: If Kendrick mentions anything about dog bowls or birthday parties in Toronto, then shit is more serious than we thought This interview of Aya (Born 24. April 2007) (a 'dancer' in Ice Spice - Deli and probably known for other things I just don't know her) where she's asked about having sex with Drake. She said she can't speak on it because of 'court'. This Tweet of a guy talking about his experiences in high school and the hottest girls posting from Drake's mansion and being followed by him "every single time". The Instagram page of Exclusive Artists Agency is strange and related to Drake. A dude on TikTok went in-depth on it and this is creepy in more than one way. The woman who had a Twitter thread similar to this post that ended up deleting her account made an entire YouTube video out of it you can find here. LYRICS, REFERENCES, TWEETS, PICTURES, TIES (Again - Feel free to share with me and I'll add it.) On the song Nice For What Drake raps: You got a baby Benz, you got some bad friends High school pics, you was even bad then This Tweet "If amazing was a young bitch I'd be going to jail...cause I'm fucking amazing" - Me This image of Drake and Malone from Drake's Instagram that's been deleted now. Malone is infamous for impregnating a 13 year old when he was 20. On the song The Heart Part 6 Drake raps: Just for clarity, I feel disgusted, I'm too respected If I was fucking young girls, I promise I'd have been arrested I'm way too famous for this shit you just suggested Also on the song The Heart Part 6 Drake raps: Only fuckin' with Whitneys, not Millie Bobby Browns, I'd never look twice at no teenager His connection to Baka Not Nice who Drake is very close with. In 2014, Baka was arrested and charged with forcing a 22-year-old woman into prostitution and taking her money. In 2015, he pleaded guilty to assaulting the woman and an unrelated weapons charge. Adel Nur who has very close business ties to Drake. He's executive producing the show Euphoria together with Drake and they co-own some shady companie(s). Another user went in-depth on their connection here. J Mulan who's an entrepreneur and close with Drake. This entire thread about her being a trafficker - and especially OP's comments are worth reading . DJ Eric who's the owner of Area 29, a strip club in Houston. Drake shouts him out in songs and is allegedly also trafficking for Drake. (DIS)HONORABLE MENTION I know people say Jorja Smith, and I do agree that dating a 19-year old as a 30-year old man is weird and rather pathetic, but every other girl mentioned is related to minors. Their relationship if you can call it that was for sure toxic, and it seems like Drake was a piece of shit abusing the power dynamic between them. This is taken from the Drizzy subreddit, but I can't provide the source since that gets the post blacklisted as it's temporarily banned because of brigading. In “Summer Games” Drake also says ”I kept it decent, even the secrets, kept it between you and I”. What secrets exactly? Well in Jaded, Drake says this woman “told him all her insecurities”. It’s also interesting that the song “Summer Games” is about a woman who broke up with Drake right at the beginning of the summer. Drake and Jorja were dating in April of 2017 which is right before the summer starts and only lasted a couple weeks. But that's all there is to it. I can't dig up anything else, so unless someone have something credible with sources, I don't think there's good enough reason to add her to the list further up. FINAL NOTE I know there's very real questions about the reliability of CDAN and that he was exposed, but in the very same article The Daily Beast refers back to one of their old articles on the subject which definitely confirms that he had/have industry ties and do know a lot. Another reddit user dove further in and made some compelling arguments, but remember to take it with a (big) grain of salt. If you have anything to add, please post it in the comments and if credible/sourced I'll put it in the post. If I got anything wrong please correct me and I'll edit it. If you have sources that contradict anything in the post, please also share them with me and I'll include them. Please share this anywhere you want. I don't care about credit. If any media outlets wants to use it for their article or whatever, please do - feel free. You do not need to ask permission. submitted by /u/DyingOnHills to r/popculturechat [link] [comments]
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Am I wrong for throwing my husband out after finding nudes from the nanny?
I am not The OOP, OOP is u/Icy_Cable_3267 Am I wrong for throwing my husband out after finding nudes from the nanny? Originally posted to r/amiwrong Previous BoRU by u/Ok-Donut3656 TRIGGER WARNING: Infidelity, manipulation, age gap relationship, international custody, mysogyny OriginalPost June 17, 2023 I’m new to Reddit but my little sister suggested I ask here. I’m 28F, my daughter is Cassie 11months & my husband is Alex 35. So basically it’s just what the title says. I had Cassie and then returned to work (psychologist) as I could never be a SAHM. I’m actually French but live in the US. So when I returned at the 4month mark, as I had a difficult birth, we looked around to find a nanny to look after Cassie whilst myself and Alex were at work. We saw a few girls but then one of Alex’s colleagues suggested his daughter who had dropped out of college. Let’s call her Liv 20f. Everything went well, admittedly I did notice her being quite attached to Cassie but I brushed it off as a good friendship between the two. She also liked Alex, it was obvious she had a crush on him, always batting her lashes and giggling. I actually found it amusing as I’m confident in myself. He always laughed it off with me too. But then on Thursday night, he asked me to do something on his phone whilst he bathed Cassie and I saw some pictures flash up from Liv. When I looked at them they were obviously sexy nudes, she was wearing skimpy lingerie and in provocative poses. I looked back at the history and she had been sending these for a while. As far as I can see Alex has never responded but obviously texts can be deleted. When I asked him he got defensive and told me to stop using my psychiatrist tricks on him 🙄. I was not happy with his non answers and it ended up in a shouting match waking Cassie. So I got him a bag and threw him out. Told him he’s not welcome back until I have answers. I’m considering taking Cassie back home to see my family in France for a little bit. His mother and friends have been blowing up my phone saying I’m being too harsh and they were harmless texts. Nevertheless I feel disrespected and that doesn’t fly with me. Was I too harsh? Should I except his claims that he never responded? Edit: not husband, fiance! Also I'm not taking Cassie to France. We will visit my family for a few weeks and Alex has given consent. RELEVANT COMMENTS ACM915 The very first time she did that he should have showed it to you, and the two of you should have discussed what to do which should have included terminating her employment at your nanny. **OOP Believe me. I've sent scathing messages of dismissal to her and her father. ~ [deleted] You’re not wrong. He went behind your back by not telling you about the nudes. I would not allow Liv to babysit anymore, it’s honestly weird that someone her age would try to seduce your husband who is 35 years old, and even weirder that your husband didn’t say anything about it. There’s clearly something going on between them, and I would force him to admit the truth to you. It doesn’t even matter if he responded to her pics or not, he still broke your trust by not informing you about it. OOP Thank you. Yes I'm suspicious. We have a camera in Cassies nursery so I'm going to look over the footage ~ SkwirlGirl1999 There's nothing harmless in that behavior. You have been betrayed. That he tolerated it is enough. Where were the texts telling her he was a Married man in love, A Father, Her Dad's friend and that this was her last two weeks? Why did he immediately jump to accusing you of "tricks"?? I would've fired the Nanny, told hubs friend exactly why. And then watched his reactions. You are not wrong. I'm sorry you husband cheated on you by continuing to accept these pictures. I'm sorry he allowed that person access to your home and your whole family. OOP Thank you. Yes I've fired her with immediate effect and her father has been texted ~ Renee_rj You are not wrong this is horrible. He should have told you with the first photo and the nanny should have been fired. I absolutely think there is more going on here which is why he was gaslighting you. You said her father is your husbands colleague, well I would be reaching out to him letting him know and then firing her. I find it hard to believe that he never responded why not mention it to you then. I would not be ok with this situation at all. OOP I messaged her father earlier and I meant to update saying that he replied confused but disappointed. He apologized a lot and said he will talk to his wife about what to do next. But that's their issue Update June 18, 2023 I’d like to start this off addressing the comments stating I’m ‘kidnapping’ my daughter. I’m taking her with me to visit my family back home in France for a few weeks. Her father has given his consent. It is a non issue. There was also confusion about my job, I work in the psychology field and I was just using this post as a sounding board really. The responses from his friends and mother made me question myself. As stated I informed Livs father of what happened. He was furious both with Alex and Liv. He apologised to me and said he will try to get the truth from her and that she rebels any chance she gets but this was disgusting. I then looked through the camera in my daughter’s nursery and I saw a clip of Liv asking if she wanted a sister or brother from ‘miss Livy’ and daddy. That made me feel sick to my stomach. She responded to her dismissal with denials but I told her I had the footage and that she was to never lay a hand on my baby again. But if she wanted Alex so bad she could have him. I reminded her that how you get them is how you lose them and he would soon tire of a 20 something college drop out kid. Alex returned to the house temporarily for us to talk. After me showing him the camera footage and texts from Liv he broke down and said he was really sorry. He admitted that whilst nothing had physically happened between them they had been exchanging photos and messages for a month or two. He showed me the original messages and it was her who had pursued him. She started by saying she felt like a school girl around him (🤮) and said she needed advice from a important man like him and sent a photo of her in lingerie asking if it was sexy. He started out not really responding but after a few texts he responded and it started from there. She was saying things about them being a happy family together but he never responded to those texts. He begged me to forgive him and start fresh. He said we can move and that we have plenty of money. He will do whatever I want. I told him what I want is to go home for a few weeks so that what I’m doing. Cassie and I are flying tomorrow. He honestly looks so pathetic right now. They are welcome to each other. There will be no wedding and I will be consulting with a custody lawyer once I get to France to see my options both in the US and internationally. But as someone in the comments said I stayed in the US not because I think it’s a good place to live but because that’s where Alex was based and wanted to build our family. However I will always support the daughter father relationship but he cannot have our daughter and his nanny. Now that’s not happening I would like to move home and most certainly away from the slutty nanny. I am NOT LOOKING FOR CUSTODY ADVICE. Mini update from Liv father: he has found and sent me some of the deleted messages. Liv talks about wanting me ‘out of the picture’ so she can be cassies mom. Wtf RELEVANT COMMENTS candacebernhard She really was 100% delusional, OP. And, Alex fed into it.. Do you trust his judgment for the kind of people he would bring around your child? Especially once he starts dating again? Are you sure your daughter will remain his priority while she is solely in his care? I know it is never ideal, but please don't completely dismiss you having full custody. If moving back home to France is what's best for you and her, he can travel & bend his life to accommodate hers. If he doesn't, you have your answer. OOP Thank you. Yes that is a worry I have. I will probably go to France but I will try to sort things out for him to still see her. ~ Specialist-Raise-949 Many people are foolish. Don't listen to them. What kind of father would he be for your daughter if you had equal custody? He obviously cannot be trusted and that is the worst kind of father for a girl or a boy to have. Case in point is his behaviour with a 20 year old nanny. He didn't shut her delusional behaviour down and he allowed her to send him nude photos and to have this young, deranged woman state she wanted you out of the way, without calling her out or cutting their relationship off. Seek legal advice in France. I would hope that there, those circumstances should make it fairly easy for you to get full custody, as long as you allow some kind of every two weeks visitation for him, which he likely wouldn't use anyway. Best of luck! OOP I will still support him to have a relationship with our daughter. But he’s not a priority anymore ~ mockingbird82 As if the affair itself was not bad enough, he was doing nothing do discourage the "slutty nanny's" delusion about having a happy family with Alex and Cassie. Gosh, was she going to turn into a bunny boiler and go after OP, too? How could Alex not see that he was entertaining the advances of a psycho? I think you are making the safest and wisest choice to pursue full custody. He has not demonstrated that he can make sound decisions for his family. Please share your evidence of the nanny's delusions and Alex's entertaining of it with your custody attorney. OOP Thank you. That’s what I mean. He cannot have the nanny and our daughter. She is my priority and will be safer with my family ~ 1ofdwights70cousins Lmao yeah, she was asking your child if it was cool if she got pregnant but she’s never slept with your fiancé… He is SUCH a coward. Still denying. Has proven himself to be a terrible candidate for reconciliation. Good on you for seeing them both as they are and for leaving him for you and your child’s sake. A lot of women would wait around until it happened again and again and again. Except he would just get better at hiding it. OOP Thank you. I won’t allow my daughter to think that’s a normal relationship ~ Alternative_Peace186 From the nanny cam footage it sounds like she was positioning herself to baby trap him so he’s forced to provide for her. It was definitely on her mind to purposely get pregnant (a woman can tell a man she’s on birth control, that doesn’t always mean she actually is.. like in this situation). I’d make sure him and especially her dad see that clip with specifically pointing out that that’s what it sounds like. For him it was an exciting fling with a younger woman, I bet being baby trapped by her didn’t cross his mind. And if it still hasn’t crossed his mind , she still has a chance to… connecting her to you and your child’s lives forever through a sibling she brought into the world with the goal of being provided for for at the very least the next 18 years. OOP Yep. That’s why I think it’s better to move back to France. If he wants her he cannot have our daughter Update 2 from France June 22, 2023 Hi guys. Thanks so much to all of you putting support and advice under my two posts. There are also some very obvious insecure incels in the comments claiming I’m kidnapping my daughter 😭 you’re giving my sister and I some great laughs. Anyway for the update Cassie and I have been in France for two days now. It’s been so wonderful to be back with my family after missing them for so long. They’ve been doting on Cassie especially my mother and father, who even though are divorced remain very amicable for the sake of my sisters and I. Mama had a whole room set up with toys and blankets for Cassie. I’ve also been loving the wine and cheese! And gossiping with my sisters. It’s been very good to let loose after all of the stress honestly. And I’ve gotten to ride my family’s horse, and show him to Cassie finally! Someone suggested I meet up with some old friends to go out and let loose so that’s exactly what I did last night. I had a great night meeting back up with some of my old university friends, we went out into the city, had some great food and wine and went dancing. There’s this one guy from our group who used to very flirty with me back in the day. Anyways one thing or another happened and we ended up going back to his place. It was good actually he listened to what I wanted and we were both very pleased at the end ;) Cassies happy as am I. I meeting a lawyer today and my Ex has been ringing. I let him talk to Cassie whenever he wants but I’m refusing to engage whilst I’m on my break. Edit: people need to calm down. I didn’t say I’d had sex with him 🙄. Since people seem to want details; we went back to his, talked about life and had a make out session. Although it doesn’t matter as I had kicked me ex to the curb already. Also Liv contacted me out of anger when Alex cut all contact with her to show that they had a one night stand a few weeks before I found out. RELEVANT COMMENTS CjordanW1 Does your ex know that you know they slept together now? I am so proud of you and I wish more women were like you! If I was you I wld have been posting pics of my great night out. Fk your ex and that pos nanny knockoff OOP Oh I think he does. I believe Livs dad had a ‘conversation’ with him ~ lechitahamandcheese Is there a way for you to just stay in France, as in live there? OOP Hopefully once all the paperwork is done. I’ve promised to return to the US so I will ~ Ninja-Pamda86 Thank you for the update. And. WOW. He had a one-night stand with this girl? Well that just goes to show his family that they were NOT "harmless texts". They were tempting texts; and he gave in; and he does NOT deserve a second chance "just because." And no. You do NOT owe anybody ANY explanations about whether you're banging someone else or not. Alex already left the relationship. He ended it when he chose a 20 year old girl. You have NO responsibility to him. As for the kidnapping bit? Not sure where people get off saying that? You two weren't married right? OOP Thank you. No we weren’t and I don’t intend and keeping our daughter from him but he will have to put in some hard work for her custody now ~ Arrow4131 I’m very glad that you and Cassie are doing much better. You deserve to live a stress free life. No POS fiancés and nanny’s allowed. How did he react to you dumping him? Have you heard anything new about Liv from her dad? That girl needs a reality check. OOP He’s delusional 🙄 wanted to drive me to the airport. Didn’t get the message until I gave him the ring back. Liv dad has been great I feel bad for him NEW UPDATE 6 MONTHS LATER UPDATE 3 Jan 14, 2024 AIW for throwing my husband out after finding nudes from the nanny? (Update 6 months later) Hi guys! A lot of you still comment on my old posts asking for an update so I thought I’d let you guys know what’s happened in the past few months as I’m sure it’ll anger the men in the comments again. So after going to France to visit my parents immediately after what happened 6 months ago I agreed with my family that I needed to come home to France with my daughter. My family said they would provide any help I needed with moving and lawyers and my father said a prayer we never had the wedding as there was no divorce to have to go through. When I returned to the US I informed my ex fiancé that there would be no compromise or discussion on my next steps. Cassie and I were returning to France so I would have my support system closer and I wouldn’t feel so isolated. I told him I’d never try to stop his relationship with Cassie and that he would be welcome to visit her in France depending on where he decided to live and that I would happily bring her back to the states for visits periodically. However I wouldn’t compromise with Liv. If I found out she had been near my daughter I would stop all contact between him and Cassie. I felt like after what he had put me through and how he had disrespected me I was quite gracious with my offers. We managed to sort the move out in the next 2 months and signed an agreement which stated I was the primary custodian of our daughter and I made most decisions regarding her, it set out specific times Alex would be able to see or have Cassie. He basically agreed to all of this because he thought once I had left the US I would become more sympathetic and let him back in once we were in France. I didn’t bother to correct him frankly because it benefited myself. I found a really nice apartment a street over from my parents so I moved in there once my parents and sister had helped me get it decorated before I came to France. We’ve been here for just over four months now and Cassie is settling in great. She goes to a daycare with my friend’s son and has made great connection here with other kids. I’d forgotten how much more social the side of having kids was in Europe compared to the US. Once I was added to the parents group chat the other mothers had immediately suggested welcome drinks to get to know me better and I’ve made some amazing friends with other mums and dads. I didn’t have any of this in the US. It’s really helped Cassie’s language skills as her French is developing much better than when it was just me speaking it to her. I’ve put her in baby ballet like my parents did with me and she’s loving it. We’ve gotten a rescue cat called Walter and Cassie adores him. He sleeps at the end of her bed and looks after her all the time. Alex has been over twice since even though I had given him plenty more chances to see Cassie however he didn’t take me up on them. (For context there is no issue with money or his passport to excuse why he won’t fly). We spent Christmas with my parents and my sister and her partner and it was just a lovely celebration after the shit that happened. I’ve started seeing one of the doctors from the new hospital I work in now. It’s still relatively new so she’s met Cassie only briefly. She works in the emergency department and she’s honestly amazing. I did jokingly say Alex had put me off men but didn’t mean to take it so literally (bisexual woman shocking I know!). It’s going slow as she knows what I’ve just come out of but she’s very laid back and a go with the flow type of person which is exactly what I needed. Alex’s mother is not happy as she is of the opinion I should have just ignored what happened between Alex and Liv. However I’m not just a little American housewife who will ignore her husbands indiscretions. Thank you all for your advice and support in my initial posts. Edit for all the Americans getting annoyed at the phrase ‘little American housewife’ - not my words, I was quite literally quoting Alex’s mother and what she said to me. She is an American. ‘She said when I was in her family I was expected to ‘act like a normal American housewife and forgive my husband like her and her daughter do, none of that European nonsense’ EDIT: it’s really funny to see the men in the comments proving that there is still a double standard. I don’t know why I as the mother am expected to stay in a country that doesn’t speak my first language, where I don’t have any family, little friends, no support, have to deal with Alex’s family all for his sake so he doesn’t have to make an extra effort to see his daughter when he was the one who decided to break the family in the first place!! Also Americans I’m sorry I’m not insulting you lol Editor's note: AGAIN- PLEASE REMEMBER THE NO BRIGADING RULE. Do NOT dm OOP or comment on their posts. This is becoming a serious problem on this sub and we don't want to get banned. THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]
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Am I wrong for throwing my husband out after finding nudes from the nanny?
I am NOT OP. Original post by u/Icy_Cable_3267 in r/amiwrong. trigger warnings: infidelity Am I wrong for throwing my husband out after finding nudes from the nanny? - June 17, 2023 I’m new to Reddit but my little sister suggested I ask here. I’m 28F, my daughter is Cassie 11months & my husband is Alex 35. So basically it’s just what the title says. I had Cassie and then returned to work (psychologist) as I could never be a SAHM. I’m actually French but live in the US. So when I returned at the 4month mark, as I had a difficult birth, we looked around to find a nanny to look after Cassie whilst myself and Alex were at work. We saw a few girls but then one of Alex’s colleagues suggested his daughter who had dropped out of college. Let’s call her Liv 20f. Everything went well, admittedly I did notice her being quite attached to Cassie but I brushed it off as a good friendship between the two. She also liked Alex, it was obvious she had a crush on him, always batting her lashes and giggling. I actually found it amusing as I’m confident in myself. He always laughed it off with me too. But then on Thursday night, he asked me to do something on his phone whilst he bathed Cassie and I saw some pictures flash up from Liv. When I looked at them they were obviously sexy nudes, she was wearing skimpy lingerie and in provocative poses. I looked back at the history and she had been sending these for a while. As far as I can see Alex has never responded but obviously texts can be deleted. When I asked him he got defensive and told me to stop using my psychiatrist tricks on him 🙄. I was not happy with his non answers and it ended up in a shouting match waking Cassie. So I got him a bag and threw him out. Told him he’s not welcome back until I have answers. I’m considering taking Cassie back home to see my family in France for a little bit. His mother and friends have been blowing up my phone saying I’m being too harsh and they were harmless texts. Nevertheless I feel disrespected and that doesn’t fly with me. Was I too harsh? Should I except his claims that he never responded? Edit: not husband, fiance! Also I'm not taking Cassie to France. We will visit my family for a few weeks and Alex has given consent. I’ve posted a new update. Comment: The very first time she did that he should have showed it to you, and the two of you should have discussed what to do which should have included terminating her employment at your nanny. OOP: Believe me. I've sent scathing messages of dismissal to her and her father. Comment: You’re not wrong. He went behind your back by not telling you about the nudes. I would not allow Liv to babysit anymore, it’s honestly weird that someone her age would try to seduce your husband who is 35 years old, and even weirder that your husband didn’t say anything about it. There’s clearly something going on between them, and I would force him to admit the truth to you. It doesn’t even matter if he responded to her pics or not, he still broke your trust by not informing you about it. OOP: Thank you. Yes I'm suspicious. We have a camera in Cassies nursery so I'm going to look over the footage Comment: There's nothing harmless in that behavior. You have been betrayed. That he tolerated it is enough. Where were the texts telling her he was a Married man in love, A Father, Her Dad's friend and that this was her last two weeks? Why did he immediately jump to accusing you of "tricks"?? I would've fired the Nanny, told hubs friend exactly why. And then watched his reactions. You are not wrong. I'm sorry you husband cheated on you by continuing to accept these pictures. I'm sorry he allowed that person access to your home and your whole family. OOP: Thank you. Yes I've fired her with immediate effect and her father has been texted Comment: You are not wrong this is horrible. He should have told you with the first photo and the nanny should have been fired. I absolutely think there is more going on here which is why he was gaslighting you. You said her father is your husbands colleague, well I would be reaching out to him letting him know and then firing her. I find it hard to believe that he never responded why not mention it to you then. I would not be ok with this situation at all. OOP: I messaged her father earlier and I meant to update saying that he replied confused but disappointed. He apologized a lot and said he will talk to his wife about what to do next. But that's their issue Am I wrong for throwing my husband out after finding nudes from the nanny? (Update) - June 18, 2023 I’d like to start this off addressing the comments stating I’m ‘kidnapping’ my daughter. I’m taking her with me to visit my family back home in France for a few weeks. Her father has given his consent. It is a non issue. There was also confusion about my job, I work in the psychology field and I was just using this post as a sounding board really. The responses from his friends and mother made me question myself. As stated I informed Livs father of what happened. He was furious both with Alex and Liv. He apologised to me and said he will try to get the truth from her and that she rebels any chance she gets but this was disgusting. I then looked through the camera in my daughter’s nursery and I saw a clip of Liv asking if she wanted a sister or brother from ‘miss Livy’ and daddy. That made me feel sick to my stomach. She responded to her dismissal with denials but I told her I had the footage and that she was to never lay a hand on my baby again. But if she wanted Alex so bad she could have him. I reminded her that how you get them is how you lose them and he would soon tire of a 20 something college drop out kid. Alex returned to the house temporarily for us to talk. After me showing him the camera footage and texts from Liv he broke down and said he was really sorry. He admitted that whilst nothing had physically happened between them they had been exchanging photos and messages for a month or two. He showed me the original messages and it was her who had pursued him. She started by saying she felt like a school girl around him (🤮) and said she needed advice from a important man like him and sent a photo of her in lingerie asking if it was sexy. He started out not really responding but after a few texts he responded and it started from there. She was saying things about them being a happy family together but he never responded to those texts. He begged me to forgive him and start fresh. He said we can move and that we have plenty of money. He will do whatever I want. I told him what I want is to go home for a few weeks so that what I’m doing. Cassie and I are flying tomorrow. He honestly looks so pathetic right now. They are welcome to each other. There will be no wedding and I will be consulting with a custody lawyer once I get to France to see my options both in the US and internationally. But as someone in the comments said I stayed in the US not because I think it’s a good place to live but because that’s where Alex was based and wanted to build our family. However I will always support the daughter father relationship but he cannot have our daughter and his nanny. Now that’s not happening I would like to move home and most certainly away from the slutty nanny. I am NOT LOOKING FOR CUSTODY ADVICE. Mini update from Liv father: he has found and sent me some of the deleted messages. Liv talks about wanting me ‘out of the picture’ so she can be cassies mom. Wtf Comment: She really was 100% delusional, OP. And, Alex fed into it.. Do you trust his judgment for the kind of people he would bring around your child? Especially once he starts dating again? Are you sure your daughter will remain his priority while she is solely in his care? I know it is never ideal, but please don't completely dismiss you having full custody. If moving back home to France is what's best for you and her, he can travel & bend his life to accommodate hers. If he doesn't, you have your answer. OOP: Thank you. Yes that is a worry I have. I will probably go to France but I will try to sort things out for him to still see her. Comment: Many people are foolish. Don't listen to them. What kind of father would he be for your daughter if you had equal custody? He obviously cannot be trusted and that is the worst kind of father for a girl or a boy to have. Case in point is his behaviour with a 20 year old nanny. He didn't shut her delusional behaviour down and he allowed her to send him nude photos and to have this young, deranged woman state she wanted you out of the way, without calling her out or cutting their relationship off. Seek legal advice in France. I would hope that there, those circumstances should make it fairly easy for you to get full custody, as long as you allow some kind of every two weeks visitation for him, which he likely wouldn't use anyway. Best of luck! OOP: I will still support him to have a relationship with our daughter. But he’s not a priority anymore Comment: As if the affair itself was not bad enough, he was doing nothing do discourage the "slutty nanny's" delusion about having a happy family with Alex and Cassie. Gosh, was she going to turn into a bunny boiler and go after OP, too? How could Alex not see that he was entertaining the advances of a psycho? I think you are making the safest and wisest choice to pursue full custody. He has not demonstrated that he can make sound decisions for his family. Please share your evidence of the nanny's delusions and Alex's entertaining of it with your custody attorney. OOP: Thank you. That’s what I mean. He cannot have the nanny and our daughter. She is my priority and will be safer with my family Comment: Lmao yeah, she was asking your child if it was cool if she got pregnant but she’s never slept with your fiancé… He is SUCH a coward. Still denying. Has proven himself to be a terrible candidate for reconciliation. Good on you for seeing them both as they are and for leaving him for you and your child’s sake. A lot of women would wait around until it happened again and again and again. Except he would just get better at hiding it. OOP: Thank you. I won’t allow my daughter to think that’s a normal relationship Comment: From the nanny cam footage it sounds like she was positioning herself to baby trap him so he’s forced to provide for her. It was definitely on her mind to purposely get pregnant (a woman can tell a man she’s on birth control, that doesn’t always mean she actually is.. like in this situation). I’d make sure him and especially her dad see that clip with specifically pointing out that that’s what it sounds like. For him it was an exciting fling with a younger woman, I bet being baby trapped by her didn’t cross his mind. And if it still hasn’t crossed his mind , she still has a chance to… connecting her to you and your child’s lives forever through a sibling she brought into the world with the goal of being provided for for at the very least the next 18 years. OOP: Yep. That’s why I think it’s better to move back to France. If he wants her he cannot have our daughter Am I wrong for throwing out my husband after finding nudes from the nanny? (Update 2 from France). - June 22, 2023 Hi guys. Thanks so much to all of you putting support and advice under my two posts. There are also some very obvious insecure incels in the comments claiming I’m kidnapping my daughter 😭 you’re giving my sister and I some great laughs. Anyway for the update Cassie and I have been in France for two days now. It’s been so wonderful to be back with my family after missing them for so long. They’ve been doting on Cassie especially my mother and father, who even though are divorced remain very amicable for the sake of my sisters and I. Mama had a whole room set up with toys and blankets for Cassie. I’ve also been loving the wine and cheese! And gossiping with my sisters. It’s been very good to let loose after all of the stress honestly. And I’ve gotten to ride my family’s horse, and show him to Cassie finally! Someone suggested I meet up with some old friends to go out and let loose so that’s exactly what I did last night. I had a great night meeting back up with some of my old university friends, we went out into the city, had some great food and wine and went dancing. There’s this one guy from our group who used to very flirty with me back in the day. Anyways one thing or another happened and we ended up going back to his place. It was good actually he listened to what I wanted and we were both very pleased at the end ;) Cassies happy as am I. I meeting a lawyer today and my Ex has been ringing. I let him talk to Cassie whenever he wants but I’m refusing to engage whilst I’m on my break. Edit: people need to calm down. I didn’t say I’d had sex with him 🙄. Since people seem to want details; we went back to his, talked about life and had a make out session. Although it doesn’t matter as I had kicked me ex to the curb already. Also Liv contacted me out of anger when Alex cut all contact with her to show that they had a one night stand a few weeks before I found out. Comment: Does your ex know that you know they slept together now? I am so proud of you and I wish more women were like you! If I was you I wld have been posting pics of my great night out. Fk your ex and that pos nanny knockoff OOP: Oh I think he does. I believe Livs dad had a ‘conversation’ with him Comment: Is there a way for you to just stay in France, as in live there? OOP: Hopefully once all the paperwork is done. I’ve promised to return to the US so I will Comment: Thank you for the update. And. WOW. He had a one-night stand with this girl? Well that just goes to show his family that they were NOT "harmless texts". They were tempting texts; and he gave in; and he does NOT deserve a second chance "just because." And no. You do NOT owe anybody ANY explanations about whether you're banging someone else or not. Alex already left the relationship. He ended it when he chose a 20 year old girl. You have NO responsibility to him. As for the kidnapping bit? Not sure where people get off saying that? You two weren't married right? OOP: Thank you. No we weren’t and I don’t intend and keeping our daughter from him but he will have to put in some hard work for her custody now Comment: I’m very glad that you and Cassie are doing much better. You deserve to live a stress free life. No POS fiancés and nanny’s allowed. How did he react to you dumping him? Have you heard anything new about Liv from her dad? That girl needs a reality check. OOP: He’s delusional 🙄 wanted to drive me to the airport. Didn’t get the message until I gave him the ring back. Liv dad has been great I feel bad for him OOP indicated she will be ending her relationship and wants to split custody of her child with her partner, but she also indicated that she had not yet met with a lawyer at the time of the most recent update. As such, we can reasonably expect that there may be another update because custody arrangements and other issues still remain unresolved, so this is being marked as ONGOING. Reminder - I am not the original poster. submitted by /u/Ok-Donut3656 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]
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[Reality TV] The rise and fall of To Catch a Predator, and how Chris Hansen scammed fans and completely ruined his reputation
(cw: grooming, suicide) What is To Catch a Predator? Doubtlessly if you've been on the internet anywhere from 2006 to about, well, now, you're at least aware of To Catch a Predator's existence on the surface. Most notably from the Chris Hansen meme of him telling people to "take a seat". To Catch a Predator (or TCAP for short) was a recurring segment on the news show Dateline NBC. Originally titled Dangerous Web, the show was about the simple concept of setting up dates online for sex with men who thought they were illegally meeting a minor, when in reality these minors were adults posing as children in 2000s chatrooms on places like AOL and Yahoo. These volunteers were part of the watchdog group "Perverted Justice" (and the sketchy story of that vigilante group, their origins, their forums, and their eventual collapse is a whole other topic I can't get into here) that NBC paid as consultants to do the online decoy work and collect evidence. The men chatting with the decoys would arrive at the sting house after confirming their intent to have sex only to be met by Dateline correspondent Chris Hansen who would conduct a brief interview questioning them on their illegal actions and motives before revealing the operation to be a hidden camera sting—usually causing the suspected predator to flee immediately. The first two investigations were done without law enforcement and so the men would simply leave the house afterwards, though Perverted Justice would give the evidence they collected to law enforcement after the investigation leading to the prosecution of some of these men, most notably Rabbi David Kaye who has been in and out of prison ever since. The third investigation in Riverside, California was the first one to feature a parallel investigation with law enforcement, leading to the arrest of an astounding fifty two men over three days on their way out of the sting house after their interaction with Chris Hansen. To Catch a Predator proved to be a monumental hit for NBC, quickly becoming Dateline's most viewed recurring segment and leading to a spin-off show, Predator Raw, as well as countless reruns and marathons on MSNBC. Numerous opinion essays and thought pieces were written about this new cultural behemoth ranging from high praise to harsh criticism to everything in-between. TCAP was parodied in South Park, Arrested Development, and even in the opening segment of the 2006 Emmy's hosted by Conan O'Brien with a cameo by Chris Hansen himself. Some media critics and journalists criticized TCAP for being so sensationalized and being more entertainment than news. Charlie Brooker, creator of the television show Black Mirror, wrote a scathing article attacking TCAP for alleged entrapment and the questionable nature of airing these men on national television when they haven't been convicted of a crime at the time. Charges were dropped against some men in the Fort Myers sting after Perverted Justice refused to hand over a copy of their hard drive when a judge ordered them to, claiming that the hard drive crashed and was disposed of—leaving an open question to many about the reputation of the group. Still, the show was a cultural phenomenon and undeniably captivating television. The Downfall and Cancellation of TCAP Things started to really unravel for Dateline during a sting in Murphy, Texas. First, there was heavy pushback from the local community when they learned the sting was in the town including an old man saying "Don't mess with Murphy!" at a town hall which became a meme in the TCAP fandom. Second, and most importantly, was the issue of Louis Condrat. Louis Condrat was the assistant DA of the neighboring Kaufman County at the time of the Murphy sting, and he surfaced chatting with a Perverted Justice decoy posing as a 13 year old. Condrat allegedly claimed to be a 19 year old teenager during these conversations, engaged in sexually explicit chat, and sent the decoy naked pictures found online portraying them as though they were of himself. Perverted Justice claimed that Condrat was deleting his social media accounts like MySpace leading them to believe he was trying to cover his tracks and had become aware of Dateline being in the area, prompting law enforcement to go to his home to arrest him before he could destroy evidence or flee, with Chris Hansen and a camera crew right behind them to film the whole thing. Here is where things get murky. Dateline alleges that they didn't want to capture the arrest at his home, with Chris Hansen claiming that it would be "more compelling television" if they had arrested him at his office instead of his house. The warrants for Condrat's arrest and for the search of his home were signed at 2 P.M., but neighbors say Dateline and police were loitering in the area hours before since the early morning, seemingly waiting for the warrants to be signed. Also, Chris originally lied and said Perverted Justice wasn't with Dateline and himself when they went to Condrat's house, but relented and said they might have been when an interviewer proved at least one member was. Realizing he was home, a SWAT team entered Condrat's home with a Dateline camera crew not too far behind. Officers were met by Condrat himself holding a handgun in a hallway in the house. He told the officers he wasn't going to hurt anyone and then shot himself in the head. He was pronounced dead from his self inflicted gunshot wound shortly after. This suicide became national news, and a flurry of criticism was thrown at Dateline and Chris Hansen. All of the men caught in the Murphy sting had their charges dropped. Suddenly TCAP's close association with law enforcement and their proclivity to create news was getting more and more negative attention. Advertisers began to withdraw their ads during TCAP segments and higher ups at NBC began voicing their displeasure at the ballooning budgets of these investigations and explicit nature of the program. Condrat's sister sued NBC for $105 million claiming their actions were journalistically unethical and led to her brother's suicide. The lawsuit was eventually settled out of court. TCAP as a segment only lasted a couple more investigations after the Murphy sting before coming to an end. While the popular assumption is that Condrat's suicide and his sister's lawsuit is what led to the cancellation, Chris Hansen claims that NBC was already planning on ending new investigations before the Murphy catastrophe because TCAP had become the most expensive Dateline segment by far, and that NBC was sitting on so much extra footage of unaired material that they could cut it into Predator Raw episodes and rerun those for big ratings on the cheap. What happened after TCAP? Chris Hansen remained a correspondent on Dateline and tried replicating the TCAP magic with segments like To Catch an ID Thief, To Catch an i-Jacker (a really lame sting about people stealing blocky 2000s iPods left out in the open), and To Catch a Con Man. None of these captured the ratings or attention of the original, however, and after GE sold NBC reruns of TCAP and Predator Raw on MSNBC started to cease as upper management began to change. Chris Hansen was caught having an affair with a young news anchor at an NBC affiliate which did not help endear him with his new bosses, who chose not to renew his contract in 2013 after he had spent 20 years with the network. Hansen bounced around for a couple years, doing a few projects here and there, and then in 2015 he had a big announcement… Hansen vs. Predator A Kickstarter suddenly dropped for a new television program called Hansen vs. Predator. This program would follow the typical TCAP formula of men coming over to a sting house thinking they were going to meet a minor for sex only to be met by Chris Hansen and then arrested by law enforcement right afterwards. This time around a new watchdog group would play the online decoys as Perverted Justice had dissolved years earlier (and trust me, I really could do a whole other write-up just on them). The Kickstarter was aiming for a $400,000 goal, but after months of fundraising the campaign lowered the goal to $75,000, eventually reaching $89,000. The Kickstarter promised mugs, T-shirts, and other assorted merch to backers. The sting was filmed in Fairfax County, Connecticut, leading to the arrest of ten men. Afterwards, with the footage of the sting supposedly on the way, Hansen became the host of Crime Watch Daily, a syndicated true crime show. Crime Watch Daily picked up the Hansen vs. Predator sting for their show and it quickly became their most popular segment with the Jeff Sokol interview racking up over 55,000,000 views on YouTube and randomly going viral on TikTok seemingly once every couple months. How Chris Hansen Scammed Fans The unedited footage of these interviews and arrests was apparently still on the way to Kickstarter backers, but that just like the promised merch was nowhere in sight. Soon, backers began flooding the comments of the Kickstarter page demanding to know where their money was going. Hansen promised backers would receive their awards by December of 2015 but no one had gotten anything by August of 2016. "You deal with kickstarter to help these people out.. to get screwed over by someone you’ve seen on tv.. kind of hurts,” said one backer. “We got scammed! We really need to get a hold of some news outlets to set up a sting on Chris Hansen. when he shows up, we can instruct him to have a seat and pull all of the updates they promised us and grill the shit out of them. It really is sad that they screwed us over so badly.” says another. Eventually, backers began receiving their rewards, albeit a long time after being promised them. One backer said he had his mug arrive two and a half years after it was supposed to have shipped. Some backers (including myself lol) never got their rewards at all. What was most infuriating to fans during this protracted dance between backers and Hansen were his repeated assurances that rewards were right around the corner and that the footage of the sting was coming up soon. Many fans of his earlier work couldn't help but walk away feeling like they got scammed by someone they once looked up to, or at least enjoyed the work of a lot. Chris Hansen's Arrest and Other Scams In the summer of 2017, Hansen wrote a $13,000 check to a company making promotional items for him for Hansen vs. Predator. However, this check bounced. After months of back and forth, Chris wrote another check to this company in April of 2018 but this check also bounced. A felony warrant was then issued for his arrest in Connecticut for writing bad checks. Chris turned himself in and though the case was eventually dropped it still left many fans shaking their heads at the man who once wore a five digit Rolex on his wrist during his Dateline days. There is a plethora of other shady stuff Chris has done in the years since. Including shilling for a scam "Escobar folding phone" being sold by literally Pablo Escobar's brother. YouTuber Theo Vonn flew Chris out to Las Vegas to appear on his show and while there Chris allegedly racked up a huge hotel and spa bill expecting Theo to pay for it and argued with his team about it. Chris was evicted from his Manhattan apartment after not paying rent and his Connecticut home was foreclosed on by the bank. Not to mention his exorbitant credit card debt. Needless to say, it's apparent Chris has a bad handle on his financial situation. Chris launched a website for his Hansen vs. Predator series and promised new high quality investigations for a subscription of $90 a year. After one video however the site fell dormant despite Chris promising new videos for months afterwards, and instead started a new series on his YouTube channel that was universally panned for the low production quality and that the men caught were arrested before the interview with Chris, leading to rather boring and uninteresting videos. Bizarrely, Chris Hansen also started "investigating" YouTuber and alleged groomer Onision for his inappropriate relationships with underaged fans. Investigating in quotes because many felt Hansen had unfairly jumped onto the story after others had done all the work, and Hansen just joined in to take the story and sell it as a documentary to Discovery+. This culminated in an almost comedic video where Chris arrives at Onision's house with a camera crew just for Onision to call 911. Just to emphasize how bizarre this is Onision withdrew a lawsuit against Chris Hansen after he accidentally served a totally different man named Chris Hansen the papers. There's more that can be added to this section, honestly. It's kind of overwhelming the amount of suspect behavior Chris has engaged in since being let go by NBC, but you get the point. Where Are Chris and the Predator Investigations Now? Chris appeared briefly on The Boys season two, which, good for him for getting that bag in a respectable way, I guess. In 2020 he started a podcast titled "Predators I Caught". Each week he takes a different man caught in one of the stings he's been a part of and does a reading of their chatlog, an overview of his confrontation with them, and what they've been up to since the sting. Formulaic to a fault, it's still somewhat interesting to hardcore fans to hear Chris read chatlogs uncensored for once, and occasionally but rarely he divulges some actual new and interesting information. Just recently on Thanksgiving Day his new series titled Takedown with Chris Hansen started airing on the true crime streaming service he's a part of: TruBlu. Despite many in the fandom wondering if this was a scam originally, TruBlu is a real service and the new show is also real. This series follows the more traditional TCAP and Hansen vs. Predator format of Chris confronting a suspected predator before arrest, though most of the men immediately try to leave. Probably because the sting house is an empty double-wide trailer with a visible GoPro camera mounted on the fridge that Chris has to pick up off the floor and put back on top at one point. A long, long departure from the TCAP days of renting out massive multi-million dollar mansions with dozens of expensive hidden cameras. Chris also just this Monday announced upcoming live shows in Las Vegas where he promises to record a podcast with the audience, show some never before seen footage, do a Q&A, and have some meet and greets. Some in the fandom speculating this is a test for a national tour. Maybe expect PredatorCon to come to a city near you, complete with people cosplaying as their favorite registered sex offender from the shows. Despite all the controversy, fans of TCAP and HVP are some of the most weirdly devoted fans out there, capable of quoting countless lines to each other ad infinitum and noticing every little detail from so many repeated watchings. And for some reason to us fans it never gets old. submitted by /u/PlsNope to r/HobbyDrama [link] [comments]
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[Comedy] How to piss off everyone you've ever met so badly that they can't even be bothered to insult you: the roast of Chevy Chase
Today, we're going to dive into a forgotten corner of TV and comedy history. In 2002, Chevy Chase was roasted for the second time in the Friar's Club. Despite being largely forgotten, this event would have massive ripple effects. If you've ever watched a roast in the past two decades, especially on Comedy Central, chances are you've seen those ripples. Not to mention, the roast was enough to make Chase break down in tears, and reconsider his entire life. But I'm getting ahead of myself. We'll get to the roast in good time. But to understand what happened there, it's important to understand why all of it happened (and on the plus side, there's a whole lot of tasty side drama in the comedy world). First, we have to answer the question "Who is Chevy Chase"? I'm Chevy Chase, who the hell are you? Born in 1947, Chevy Chase is a world renowned American comedian. Well, maybe not world renowned, but at least famous in America. Maybe not famous per se, but at least still decently well known. You've seen him in something. Probably. Chase started his career like many comedians, running around and trying everything he could. Writing satirical articles, founding a comedy ensemble, working for a satirical radio show, etc. Finally, his work paid off. He became a writer for a show called "Not Ready For Prime Time Players", better known by its later title: Saturday Night Live. Because a sudden rise to fame has never gone to anyone's head. Shortly before the show first aired, Chase was added to the cast, and joined rehearsals. This became his big break, putting him squarely in the spotlight. He introduced every show but two, and was the anchor for Weekend Update, one of the show's longest running bits. His catchphrase "I'm Chevy Chase, and you're not" became extremely famous. He even claimed that his Weekend Update style was the direct inspiration for later comedy news programs like the Daily Show. During the show's run, Chase won two Emmy awards and a Golden Globe for his work on the show, and many have argued since that he "defined the franchise". Chase was a hit at the time, and was shortlisted by many as one of the funniest rising comedians in America. Someone even suggested that Chase could be the only person to replace the beloved Johnny Carson (although Carson disliked Chase, and replied that "He couldn't ad-lib a fart after a baked bean dinner"). Live from New York, it's literally anyone but Chevy Chase! Chevy left SNL a few episodes into the second season, the reason for which is still unclear. Chase 's official story claims that his girlfriend didn't want to move out to New York, so he decided to move out to LA and marry her. That story is somewhat backed up by the fact that he'd negotiated out of most of season 2 in his contract with NBC, surprising producer Lorne Michaels (who hadn't been informed). However, there's still suspicion surrounding the episodes he was in. Supposedly, he injured his groin doing a pratfall in the first episode, forcing him to be hospitalized for the next two episodes. However, as eagle eyed fans noticed, the "injured" Chase was very clearly seen at the end of the first episode dancing around without any issue. Many have theorized that the episodes were a test run, to see if the show could work without Chevy, in anticipation of him leaving. Years later, an anonymous SNL cast member mentioned that he only used his engagement as an excuse to pin it on his (now ex) wife. In reality, he'd left the show purely out of a desire to make more money. But why would the show want to see one of it's most popular actors gone? Well, as it would later come out, Chase was a massive pain to work with. Egotistical, cruel, and petty, he burned a lot of bridges with his fellow cast members, as well as producer Lorne Michaels. When he returned to host in Season 3, Chase reported the atmosphere felt "poisoned" against him, and he certainly didn't help himself by ordering people around, and trying to reclaim his spot on Weekend Update, all while using a frankly terrifying amount of drugs. Bill Murray (Chase's replacement) was antagonistic towards him, telling Chase frankly that no one there liked him, leading to a shouting match. Murray then told Chase "Go fuck your wife, she needs it" (Chase was having public marriage issues at the time). All of this culminated into Chase hunting Murray down minutes before the show, and challenging him to a fight. If you look closely at Chase's monologue, you can see some marks on his face from where Murray hit him. Chase would go on to host eight more times, racking up more and more problems every time. He'd harass female writers, make cruel jokes (like telling an openly gay cast member he should do a sketch about dying from AIDs) and generally just be a jackass to everyone involved. This came to a head in 1997, when he slapped Cheri Oteri hard in the back of the head, causing a furious Will Ferrell to bring the issue to Lorne Michaels, who banned Chase from the show. Chase was the 12th person to be banned from SNL, and the only former cast member to ever be banned from hosting. Although he's made a few guest appearances on SNL since, they're kept few and far between, and the hosting ban has been enforced. You win some, you lose thirty or forty others. Chase would initially find success striking out on his own, starring in a number of classic comedies like Caddyshack (alongside Bill Murray funny enough), Three Amigos, National Lampoon's Vacation, and National Lampoon's Christmas Vacation. However, Chase's success wasn't for long. He has been in a total of 62 different movies and TV shows, most of which are... they're bad. There's just no other way to put it. He milked National Lampoon's Vacation for six total movies, with the quality going downhill each time. He also tried to launch his own celebrity talk show, which bombed and was cancelled just four weeks in. His most recent movie in 2021 was Panda vs Aliens, which is... I mean, it's exactly what you'd expect. After Chase's initial success, he made bomb after box office bomb, with the failures seriously damaging his ego. He'd reportedly talked a lot of shit at SNL about how everyone else had no chance at a career, so seeing his former castmates all become more famous than him had to sting. Chase's one big hit later in life was Community), a show where he played a self centered egotistical old man with some seriously dated views. It's like the role was made for him. Members of the cast have been frank about how they only got a celebrity like Chase for such an unknown show was because of how far Chase had fallen, and as the show turned into a surprise hit, it seemed like it might be his ticket back to the top. However, Chase had serious issues on set. His toxic behavior continued, and he had serious issues with director Dan Harmon. At one point, he even refused to do a pivotal scene on the last day of filming, which required scrapping the entire scene. Harmon then made fun of Chase at the wrap party, playing some of the angry voicemails Chase had left him. Chase then left another angry voicemail, which Harmon played at a live event. Eventually, Chase was forced to leave the show after yelling the N-word during a heated argument on set. Later, costar Donald Glover would confirm that Chase would make frequent racial jokes or insults between scenes, trying to get Glover to crack or perform poorly. The best worst hits The behavior that cost Chevy both SNL and Community was present throughout his entire career (and frankly, his personal life too). It'd take too long to go through every single instance, but some include: Chris Columbus quit directing National Lampoon's Vacation before a single day of filming, because he had one dinner with Chevy where he was "treated like dirt". On the cast of Community, he told a female cast member "I want to kill you and rape you". His wife Jacqueline Carlin divorced him after just over a year, due to him making violent threats against her During a stunt in Three Amigos, Chase made a joke about director John Landis's lax safety precautions after his last film. The film in question? The Twilight Zone, where a stunt gone wrong killed a man and two children. Kevin Smith met with him to discuss relaunching the popular Fletch series, where Chevy "went on to claim he invented every funny thing that ever happened in the history of not just comedy, but also the known world". That one lunch ended any possibility of the series. Rob Huebel, a fan of Chase's approached him backstage to shake his hand, upon which Chase slapped him hard across the face Yvette Nicole Brown was asked who she would kick off of Community if she could, and answered with "Chevy Chase" before the interviewer even finished the question. She, along with Glover, has noted Chase's stream of racism towards them even before yelling the N-word. TL;DR: Chase is known for being incredibly difficult to work with, making cruel, insensitive, and bigoted comments towards those around him. Combined with a massive ego, and a career that tanked just a few years after it took off, Chase has a lot of issues both personally and professionally. Just a bit more backstory, I promise. Before we get to the big event, there's just two important pieces of the story left: The Friar's club itself, and Chase's first roast. What is the Friar's Club? The Friar's club is a 118 year old New York club whose membership includes some of the best known American comedians of all time, along with a number of other celebrities. There's too many to list, but reading through their members, it was harder to find a famous person in entertainment that wasn't one of them than to find one who was. It's gone a bit downhill in recent years, but at the time, it still had a massive cultural impact. They also essentially invented what we now know as the roast, starting it as an in-house tradition in 1950, which they would later record and air on Comedy Central. The tagline was always "We only roast the ones we love", and you had to be a member to participate in the roast (as well as usually being a good friend of the roastee). Their list of roasts includes some truly iconic names, all of whom were trashed by some of the best comedians of the era. And also Chevy Chase. In 1998, Comedy Central signed a contract with the Friar's club to air their roasts. Now, the jokes and insults were no longer the subject of speculation and gossip, known only by the elite few who could witness it, everybody got to see the roast. This also marked a shift from some of the more classic comedic roasts to more modern content: swearing, sex jokes, etc. Once again, the Friar's club sent out ripples that would shape the future of comedy. The first roast Chase had been roasted once before in 1990, and apparently enjoyed the experience. The roastmaster was Dan Akroyd, with Clint Eastwood, Neil Simon, Larry King, Robin Leach, Richard Lewis, Gilbert Gottfried, Rita Rudner, Dana Carvey, Phil Hartman, Jon Lovitz, Dennis Miller and Lorne Michaels doing the roasting. The guests and audience included many of his close friends (along with celebrities like Rober DeNiro and Richard Pryor), who poked fun at Chase and his career. There's no recording of it, but reportedly, Chase's enjoyment of the experience was why he would agree to come back a second time. At this point, Chevy was still 100% a douchebag, but his douchiness hadn't peaked yet, and his career was still looking good. He was riding the high of Christmas Vacation, and the end of his career wouldn't come until 1991, when three of his big films all flopped in a row. He hadn't yet been banned from SNL, and while many of the people who worked with him were aware of his reputation, it wasn't quite as publicly known. Finally, the big roast If you want, you can watch the full roast here. I highly recommend that you do, just because words can't really convey the atmosphere of it (and also 'cause it's funny to watch Chevy Chase get mocked). If you don't, no worries, the whole thing will be recapped below. The roastmaster (picked by Chase) was Paul Shaffer. The roasters were Todd Barry, Richard Belzer, Stephen Colbert, Beverly D'Angelo, Al Franken, Greg Giraldo, Lisa Lampanelli, Nathan Lane, Marc Maron, Steve Martin, Laraine Newman, Randy Quaid, Freddie Roman, and Martin Short. Who the fuck are these guys? If you read through that list of names and barely recognized anyone, you wouldn't be alone. Besides Colbert (who was still relatively unknown at the time) and Al Franken (who's famous for... other reasons now), there were no really famous people present. Steve Martin and Martin Short didn't even show up, they just sent in a pre-recorded video, as did Randy Quaid. Not only were most of the roasters unknown to the audience, but to Chase himself. As they repeated throughout the roast, most of them were younger, and knew Chase only through watching him. They'd never worked with him before, or even met him before they were asked to tear him apart on TV. The only three that really had any connection to Chevy were former SNL castmate Laraine Newman, SNL's band member Paul Shaffer, and Beverly D'Angelo, who had played his wife in National Lampoon's vacation. (I'm aware that Al Franken had a connection, but I'm refusing to acknowledge his existence). Edit: I have received roughly ten million complaints about this. To clarify once again, famous people present because Short, Martin and Quaid never showed up. As for the rest of them, I'm just leaving them as is because it's funny how many people got genuinely angry at me over this. Reportedly, Chase would later ask one of the producers for the show why they hadn't invited any famous people. The simple answer was that they had... and everyone refused the invitation. "We only roast the ones we love" stopped being a sweet message, and became a condemnation. They didn't show up to roast him because they didn't love him. The jokes varied, but most of them focused around a few main topics: Chase's failed career, and the number of terrible movies he'd done. Paul Shaffer: You made us laugh so much. And then inexplicably stopped in about 1978. Marc Maron: At least I am a nobody at the beginning of my career. The fact that none of Chevy's former friends or co-stars were willing to show up, so much so that they literally had a song and dance number called "We couldn't get anybody good". The song included the line An OJ roast would have drawn more star power! Martin and Short also joked in their video that they couldn't come because were filming the Three Amigos sequel without Chevy... a joke that probably would have been a lot funnier for Chase if the two of them weren't actually making a number of movies together without him. Chase's drug addiction, which he had struggled with for years, and went to rehab for Greg Giraldo: Chevy is living proof that you could actually snort the funniness right out of yourself. Chase generally being a dick Laraine Newman (reading from her "diary" about the first SNL cast): Danny is hilarious, and has invited everyone up to his bar in Canada. Belushi is a little gruff, but it's obvious he's a sweetheart. Chevy said to me "You know, the Holocaust never really happened". That joke was in response to Chevy's reputation for antisemitism, which another roaster would mock by chanting in Hebrew during the roast. Hobbit said knock you out However, probably the most brutal roast of all came from Stephen Colbert. If you watch only one part of the roast, make sure it's these few minutes. Unlike the others, Colbert didn't swear much, or rip into Chevy's personal life. He even joked about how shocked he was by people's cruelty towards Chevy. Colbert tore Chase apart by getting deep into his insecurities, joking about his washed up career, with lines like: The only thing I think of when I look at this man is there but for the grace of God go I. Why would I tempt the comedy gods to strike me down like this? A comedy lamprey, just sucking the joy out of everything I touch. But for some of these people, [fame] went to their head ... but this man never forgot what got him wherever he thinks he is. Before you attack him, think: There may come a day in your darkest hour when you are a shadow of your, albeit paper-thin self. And when that day comes, I hope that you are cheered up by something that Mr. Chase so famously said, "He's Chevy Chase and you're not." If that doesn't cheer you up, then I don't know what will. Turning Chase's most iconic line into a burn against him had to sting, but Colbert's entire speech impacted Chase pretty heavily. With the others, the jokes were almost too over the top, it was easier to laugh them off. Imagine the difference between someone telling you "I fucked your mom" vs "You have been nothing but a disappointment to your mother. You'll never be good enough for her." Colbert tore Chase apart with the precision of a surgeon, all with a pleasant grin on his face. I hope this doesn't awaken anything in me After Colbert was "Sir" Randy Quaid, whose poetry tribute to Chevy was... it's an experience. This has basically no relation to any of the rest of the drama, but it's too bizarre for me to not mention it here. It features a swimsuit-clad Quaid frolicking in a pool, moving into various sexual poses as his voiceover recites a Shakespearean poem. Eventually, he moves towards a pair of women's legs spread wide... which have a picture of Chevy Chase over the genitals. You may now pause reading to go scrub your eyes with bleach. The grand finale As the last roaster left the podium, and as Chase was thanked for being a good sport by the head of the Friar's Club, all eyes turned to him. This was his big moment, his time to strike back at everyone. You can say a lot of things about Chevy Chase, but lacking the ability to insult people isn't one. Chevy took the podium, and... not much happened. He kicked it off by saying "I agree with everything that's been said", threw back a joke or two, then left. His voice broke as he noted that this would be the time the roastee got even with all the other comedians, "but there just fucking aren't any". In total, the whole thing took around 80 seconds, much of which Chevy was silent for. When he did speak, his trademark arrogance and bravado was gone. And he cried like a baby coming home from the bar Chase himself admitted that after the show, he went back to his hotel room and had a breakdown. He reportedly cried for hours in a depressive state, with Paul Shaffer coming to comfort him. According to Chevy, the roast was the moment he hit rock bottom, when he truly realized how badly he'd fucked up with his former friends. The roast truly devastated Chevy, and would haunt him for years to come. Looking back through the broadcast, you can see an almost linear progression of Chevy's reactions, growing more and more stolid as it went on. He'd barely react to jokes beyond the bare minimum, or sometimes not react at all. He just sat there stone faced with sunglasses on. The show was supposedly pretty uncomfortable for everyone else. Looking back at past Friar's club roasts, it's hard to not notice the difference in the atmosphere. Members of the crew, audience, and cast have all expressed some levels of discomfort with what happened, and many of them just wanted to move on and act like it never occurred. Even in previous roasts, no matter what was said, you could fall back on the fact that people liked you. The sad fact is, nobody in that room really liked Chevy all that much, and a decent number of them hated him. Reportedly, Chase even insisted that certain jokes be cut entirely from the show before it was broadcast. I was unable to find proof of if Chase was specifically involved, but the broadcast has clearly been edited. There's shots where Chase seems to transition from his sunglasses to his regular glasses quickly, and some of his roasters seemed to have vastly different speaking times. Some of them barely even mentioned Chevy, so the idea that some of their jokes got cut isn't too far fetched. Compared to the other Friars Club roasts that aired, this one ran on the shorter end, suggesting there could be around 5-8 minutes of cut footage. And considering what actually made it onto the broadcast, you have to wonder how truly gut wrenching those insults must have been. Regardless of editing, Comedy Central would only ever air it once before shelving it. What comes next? At some points during this writeup, you may have wondered where the big sweeping changes were. After all, a roast of a celebrity by a bunch of strangers, many of whom aren't comedians, who use extremely personal jokes and attacks? That's not anything special, it's pretty much every major roast, especially on Comedy Central. The thing is, this roast is a large part of what created all of those. Obviously, it's less shocking to us now, because it has become the norm, but at the time, this was an entirely new experience. And it was an experience that Comedy Central jumped on with enthusiasm. After Chase's roast, their five year contract with the Friar's club ended, and it was not renewed. Some suggested that Chase personally sabotaged the deal, although more likely it just represented the end of a short experiment. Comedy Central then started producing their own roasts, following the new model. Turns out, people are a lot more entertained by celebrity drama than close friendships, and they're happy to see someone famous knocked down a peg or two. Plus, you don't need to actually get comedians if you just hire a writing team for all the celebrity guests, and star power attracts a lot of viewers. Roasts have since become a classic part of comedy culture, with Comedy Central firmly at the peak, and Chase's legacy enshrined forever -- just maybe not the way he'd want it to be. Believe it or not, Chase is still an asshole. He has gone in and out of retirement, currently stating that he's only semi-retired. He also tried to convince Lorne Michaels to let him host SNL again... just minutes before he walked his daughter down the aisle at her wedding. Priorities man. If you want to take the time, there's a good Washington Post article that dives into Chevy, and discusses the nuances, exploring his abusive childhood without excusing his current behavior. Also, the roast was spoofed by American Dad, sunglasses and all. Funnily enough, that's how I learned about this, and decided to make a writeup. I guess the moral of the story is simple: If you're an asshole, a narcissist, a bigot, a douchebag, a sexist, a failure in every conceivable way... at least you're not Chevy Chase. submitted by /u/EquivalentInflation to r/HobbyDrama [link] [comments]
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[Walden] Rudy Gobert has opened a food pantry at a Salt Lake City middle school where 86% of students live below the poverty line. “It always breaks my heart to see students, kids have to worry about their next meal. I was one of those kids many years ago.”
Tweet Article As Utah Jazz center Rudy Gobert towered over her, Northwest Middle School principal Andrea Seminario rattled off some statistics about the student body at her school. There are 655 students enrolled, roughly 70% of them Latino, 20% Pacific Islander or Black, some 33% are English language learners … and about 86% of of the students at the school in the Westpointe area of Salt Lake City are living below the poverty line, including some 30 who are homeless. “I can’t tell you how many times I walk the commons [area] here during lunch time and kids tell me, ‘Mrs. Seminario, get me a second lunch or a snack,’ because they’re still hungry,” she explained Thursday afternoon. “And it made me really sad that we didn’t have a food pantry.” Didn’t. Past tense. That’s why the 7-foot-1 Gobert was there, looming large both literally and figuratively. The All-NBA center’s “Rudy’s Kids Foundation” teamed with Smith’s Food & Drug and the Salt Lake Education Foundation to open a food pantry/family center at Northwest. According to a joint news release from Rudy’s Kids Foundation and the Salt Lake Education Foundation, approximately 1,300 to 1,500 NMS students and family members are living with food insecurities. The pantry at the school (located at 1730 W. 1700 North) was officially opened Thursday, and is stocked with all sorts of food and grocery items, such as canned goods, baby formula and wipes, diapers, loaves of bread, gallons of milk, bins of potatoes, bags of flour, canisters of oats, boxes of cereal, fresh vegetables, paper towels, toilet paper, hygiene products. Gobert said his rationale for trying to help out was simple. “It always breaks my heart to see students, kids have to worry about their next meal,” he said. “I was one of those kids many years ago.” He recalled how “there were a few time my mom went to a place like this to grab a few meals,” while noting how relatively lucky he was to have people looking out for him and his family, and to pretty much always have food on the table. The Northwest Middle School pantry and family center, made possible by contributed funds from Rudy’s Kids Foundation and Smith’s, will provide students and their families with access to emergency foods as well as other community resources. According to the news release, “Research shows that students who fight hunger are unable to concentrate, have poor attendance and suffer anxiety. These students fall behind academically, drop out before graduation, exhibit behavior problems, and experience substance abuse issues. Children need nutrients so they can grow, develop and focus on learning instead of thinking about where their next meal will come from.” The event drew myriad representatives from the Jazz organization, including general manager Justin Zanik and assistant coach Alex Jensen. After several speeches from representatives of the school, district, education foundation, and Gobert himself, he was treated to a dance performance from many of the school’s Pacific Islander students, then he handed out some 250 bags containing backpacks and school supplies to students, pausing often to pose with elated youngsters — and their equally elated family members — for pictures. Afterward, he left the main school building to take a look at the relocatable housing the pantry and family center, which will offer computers for use, and COVID-19 testing, among other benefits. He browsed the items available, stopped to talk to a few students and their parents, took a lot more pictures, and did a few media interviews. He told The Salt Lake Tribune that this project had been in the works for about a year, a natural follow-up to his behind-the-scenes efforts then to provide meals to thousands of kids in the wake of growing food insecurity in Utah due to the COVID-10 pandemic. “It’s going to benefit all those kids, all those students who don’t know if they’re going to have food on the table,” Gobert said. “It really touches me, ad I’m glad that we’re able to help.” He added that he was thrilled to finally have another in-person event, and to get to meet and talk to some of the people who would benefit from this program. “It’s always more impactful when you’re there in person,” Gobert said. “During the pandemic, I was able to do a lot of stuff from a distance. But being to meet those kids and see them perform, being able to hand them the bags myself … it’s way more meaningful for me. I’m just blessed to be able to have an impact.” Seminario said there was no doubt he did exactly that. “Access to a food pantry and a family center [here] is essential,” she said. submitted by /u/GuyCarbonneauGOAT to r/nba [link] [comments]
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