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I feel awful even writing this because I genuinely love my friend. She’s an amazing person in SO many ways, but being a bridesmaid in her wedding has completely burnt me out. It’s an Indian wedding with 5 events over one week, plus another event in a different city the following weekend. We need different outfits for every event, and for the second weekend we also have to drive to another city and pay for a hotel. None of this has ever really felt optional. For context, besides me and a few others, most of the bridesmaids aren't Indian, though generally know how Indian weddings work, but this is still way beyond anything we’ve personally experienced before. I grew up somewhat removed from the culture, so the sheer amount of events, expectations, and coordination has honestly been overwhelming. There was also a destination bachelorette trip (which I missed because of work), plus a bridal shower. At this point, costs are getting close to $1500 for me personally, and that’s not even including the bach. What’s making this harder is that nobody else in our friend group has had weddings remotely like this. Every wedding we’ve been part of before has basically been a one-day event and maybe cost us ~$500 max as bridesmaids between the wedding and bach. None of us are particularly flashy or frivolous people, so this level of spending and production honestly feels really excessive. The time commitment is honestly what’s getting to me the most. We’ve had to take almost an entire week off work for the wedding events, plus another day for travel the following weekend. Originally, she told us she’d be getting us one outfit from India and would cover our hair and makeup. She actually ended up getting us THREE outfits, which was generous and much appreciated, but then later told us she wouldn’t be paying for hair/makeup anymore and that alterations were our responsibility. Alterations alone ended up being close to $300. It's not the decision itself that was frustrating, but the fact that we weren't consulted on it, when it was directly effecting our finances. Not to mention the quality of outfits wasn't great - my outfit for the wedding day arrived with massive tea stains on the back! Now, less than 3 weeks before the wedding, she’s asked all the bridesmaids to write a speech together, and she also wants us to get ANOTHER outfit for the Choora (bangle) ceremony because she wants us to change outfits for photos after that day's first event, even though the Choora ceremony itself lasts less than an hour. She’ll be changing too, and wants us to change for aesthetics and pictures to be different from earlier that day. On top of that, less than 2 weeks before everything starts, she’s suddenly escalating these wedding games involving the groom/groomsmen into a much bigger production than originally discussed. We had already talked about this months ago, but now she wants signs made for the bridesmaids to hold up, supplies bought, and us spending the weekend before the wedding helping make decorations that’ll literally be used for a few minutes and then thrown out. The thing is, we are doing everything. None of us are refusing. We all love her and want her to be happy. But I honestly feel like there’s been very little consideration for how financially, emotionally, and physically draining all of this has been for the bridal party. She keeps thanking us, which I know is genuine, but appreciation only goes so far when the expectations keep growing and changing last minute. At a certain point it stops feeling like a meaningful celebration and starts feeling like a checklist of things she’s seen online that she wants recreated for aesthetic photos. I already know I’m going to need a long break socially after this wedding is over. We will keep doing our best to manage what's being asked of us, and maybe try to find some middle-ground these last few weeks. We are also all supporting each other the best we can. But I really just needed to put these feelings somewhere and vent! submitted by /u/DIY_amateur_237 to r/bridesmaids [link] [comments]

I saw a TikTok recently claiming that in Regency/Victorian times married women basically “did nothing” and only spinsters were the ones who accomplished anything and it’s been living in my head rent free ever since. And like… I get where that idea comes from. Women’s lives WERE heavily restricted back then. Marriage could limit property rights, autonomy, education, all of that. It was not some feminist paradise and I’m not pretending it was. But I feel like the internet keeps flattening history into this super black and white narrative where married woman = useless domestic NPC spinster = intellectual rebel and that’s just… not historically accurate. There were plenty of married women in the Regency and Victorian eras who did genuinely important things while also being wives and mothers. For example: - Ada Lovelace was married, had three children, and still wrote what’s considered the first computer algorithm in the 1840s (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ada\_Lovelace) - Mary Somerville was married and became one of the most respected scientists and science writers of the 19th century (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mary\_Somerville) - Mary Shelley was married to Percy Shelley and wrote Frankenstein, which is literally one of the most influential novels ever (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mary\_Shelley) - Harriet Beecher Stowe was married with children and wrote Uncle Tom’s Cabin, which had massive cultural and political impact (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Harriet\_Beecher\_Stowe) And that’s just the famous ones. A lot of married women ran estates, managed finances, hosted salons, did philanthropy, wrote anonymously, or influenced politics and culture socially. Marriage didn’t automatically mean they sat around doing nothing — sometimes it actually gave them social protection and access to networks they wouldn’t have had otherwise. At the same time, I think people also romanticize “spinsters” way too much online like they were automatically freer and thriving. Yes, some unmarried women had more intellectual freedom and fewer domestic expectations, and some absolutely used that space to write, teach, or pursue scholarship. But there were real downsides too that people gloss over. If your father or brothers were poor or died, you basically had no safety net. Being unmarried could mean serious financial insecurity. A lot of women had to rely on relatives, become governesses, or take very limited and socially acceptable jobs. And the social stigma was very real. Being called a “spinster” wasn’t quirky independence in that time period, it could mean social isolation and economic vulnerability depending on your class. So it wasn’t really: married = trapped spinster = liberated It was more like: married = constrained but sometimes socially protected unmarried = potentially freer but often economically precarious Same thing with how people talk about mistresses in historical contexts. Yes, there were obviously moral issues and power imbalances and exploitation in many cases. But it also wasn’t always framed the exact same way we frame it now. There were complicated social dynamics tied to class, survival, reputation, and patronage that don’t fit neatly into modern internet takes. This is partly a history rant and partly a vent because TikTok history discourse is starting to feel very aesthetic > accurate lately. Women in the past absolutely faced systemic limitations. That part is real. But they were not a monolith of helpless wives doing nothing, and spinsters were not universally empowered intellectual outliers either. They were navigating a restrictive system in messy, strategic, and very human ways depending on marriage, class, money, and family situation. History just feels way more grey than social media makes it sound. submitted by /u/RegionInfamous8981 to r/BridgertonNetflix [link] [comments]

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I'm aware this is very similar to the "idiots missing the point of the story and cheer for the clearly bad guy" trope (especially the third example clearly fits both), but still think this is worth exploring. American History X / Neonazis This already shows the difference to the trope I explained above, since some people didn't fall in love with the character, but mainly the aesthetic of the neonazi scene as depicted in the movie. On one hand, they are depicted as violent, murderous assholes and the protagonist's brother ruins his entire family's life because of his actions. On the other hand, the scene looks stylish and "manly" that, to this day, inspires a lot of real world neonazis. The Godfather / The Mafia Similarly to the previous example, the movies don't spare us of the negative aspects of the mafia and the way it ruins the lives of everyone involved. Still, the mob is painted in such an honorful and upper-class way that convinced real people that this is a life to pursue. Wall Street / Yuppie culture and predatory capitalism Similar thing, different topic: Gordon Gecko is supposed to be an unsympathetic asshole that, in the end, has to pay for his actions. His catchphrase "greed is good" became the motto of an entire generation of yuppies though, with Gecko himself becoming their mentor figure. A few decades later, "The Wolf of Wall Street" took the same role for the new generation of finance bros. Treasure Island / Pirates Modern pirate stories wouldn't be the same, maybe wouldn't even exist, if it wasn't for Treasure Island. Most pirates in the story are dead by the end, after suffering under a clearly mad captain, and still Robert Louis Stevenson's story painted pirates as a bunch of comrades living free while hunting for treasure chests in beautiful, tropical islands instead of the murderous, criminal bunch they were in reality. The Sorrows of Young Werther / Suicide This work of famous classical German novelist Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe ends with the suicide of the protagonist after being rejected by the love of his life. Goethe tried to depict him as an idiot and yet still inspired a bunch of youths who found themselves in similar situations to kill themselves. This phenomenon is even called the "Werther effect" nowadays. When confronted about indirectly being responsible for numerous deaths, Goethe defended his work and instead insulted the people committing suicide as "narrow-minded spirits, [...] fools and good-for-nothings". submitted by /u/McWaffeleisen to r/TopCharacterTropes [link] [comments]

I want to start off by saying that I don't care about the discussion of whether or not Deadbeat is good music or not. It's subjective. Through this in-depth analysis, i hope to find a common ground. In that we can at least agree that the underlying expression and presence of Kevin Parker has changed. Deadbeat seems to be the reflection of Kevins fear of not being good enough, a common theme throughout Tame Impala, except fatherhood now adds a dimension. Whereas in the past Kevin has turned to meditative and esoteric ways of combating his existential demons, Deadbeat is an attempt at glorifying hedonistic practices (Bush doofs!) and bowing to the accusatory part of the mind. I can respect this experiment of disarming his self-critic by fulfilling it's prophecy, but it hardly seems to have been a fulfilling resolution musically, nor personally. https://preview.redd.it/zvis34b2n81g1.png?width=900&format=png&auto=webp&s=b26a49e732bb63dbea21c230eabe793186caf970 For the record; The missing guitars discussion is a complete rhetorical fallacy! The implication of Kevins music has clearly changed, and this is felt regardless of what medium he chooses to communicate through. The Deadbeat skeptic is often reduced into this synth hating archetype, when it is in fact the lyrics, arrangement, and underlying shift to hedonistic motivations that earlier fans can't recognize. Part of the fun of being a Tame fan is that we can anticipate innovation and experimentation with new territories. So it’s not about genre, and us wanting him to do the same thing. What i will argue, is that Kevins values seems to have been, if not disregarded, reprioritized; resulting in a divide between especially newer fans, and older fans. I hope this will spark a meaningful discussion in the fanbase! What resonated in his earlier work https://preview.redd.it/v6qmle3e981g1.png?width=1544&format=png&auto=webp&s=d016b09878916a71ed5c0af3daf48dfe0e6a4317 Revisiting Kevins earlier music, promotion and general aesthetic, Kevin was channeling a kind of psychonaut quest for self discovery and mind expansion through his music. The demeanor was quiet, and at the same time chaotic. Promotion for currents and Lonerism highlighted the intense trance-like work, aswell as Kevins DIY approach to his craft. As opposed to Deadbeat, these albums didn't need to be heavily stylized (and admittedly weren't financeable). There was no big budget music videos, algorithmic tailwind, performative-ness, or Kevin starring as a poster boy. The success instead came from the music, and arguably because Kevin presented himself in an un-theatrical way. In the unglamorous and intimate, a spiritual presence was allowed to exist. The story being told was real. That authentic, esoteric and contemplative example, was a standard in most of Kevins work, that echoes less vividly nowadays, - which i’ll outline further down. He has stated that he rejects therapy, and uses music instead, so it’s fair to say that he was facing his troubled and traumatized mind very intensely. - and also somewhat self-destructively: “renting the Wave House, getting loaded on gin and weed, and working until he hit oblivion” (GQ 2025). This era must’ve been hard, and lonely. I’m not trying to celebrate the manic nature of it all. - But life is hard. Life can be manic. In a world where everything is numbers, nihilism, materialism and self-staging, the western demand for authenticity/relatability and spiritual inspiration is higher than ever. What i am celebrating is Kevins personal and artistic presence in this era, and the promotional emphasis, on the reflection between the mundane recordings of Kevin, and the solacing compositions that he was generating. Kevin seemed to be largely holistic. Currents and The Slow Rush are the best examples of this, with the titles and themes being reminiscent of Heraclitus' philosophy: "There is nothing permanent except change" or "No man ever steps in the same river twice” The commercial shift Kevin as Brand ambassador for Celine's Seoul store opening Now, 10-15 years later, Kevin is surrounded by material wealth and Californian temptations. He has all the money he needs. Access to which ever audio equipment; processing he wants. He has sold the rights to his music. He’s syncing Hollywood; The Minions and Barbie. Has all the funding in the world, ready to be eaten up by creative agencies seeking to curate and advertise his existence to as many people as possible. Luxury brands like Celine, Versace, and APC etc. (not to mention his own brand: Telepathic instruments) are standing in line to be associated with his influence. - And he has been persuaded to sell this influence. To argue that the new direction is as independent and focused as that of the former would be denial, in my opinion. - (Check out this video of you're interested in the problematics of branded culture) Kevin is aware of the dangers of commercialization, because he has justified it in the past: The blackberry commercial (2013) featuring Elephant bankrolled the equipment used for Currents. The return was reinvested in furthering the artistic endeavors of the Tame Impala project. Nowadays, Kevin seems to have lost interest in the introverted exploration of the project, and is more resemblant of a business man with a sequencer hobby, surrounded by bureaucracy cheering him on as he walks the catwalk. Even Kevin, seemed taken aback by the desperate and superficial reception Zayn Lowe has to give him in the recent Apple Music interview. It isn’t a secret either that Mark Ronson - a DJ and hit producer (Also not really known for making self-actualizational music) has been a prominent figure in Kevins transition to the mainstream. Now Kevin flirts with the KPOP industry... known for it's exploitative nature, both of artists and consumers, not to mention it's profit-driven nature. I think in part the shift and speculative Ronson inspiration is because Kevin is exhausted by enveloping himself in his trauma. He has gravitated towards commercial music making, and collaborative work, because it’s lighter than constantly having to face his pain alone with a guitar. “(…) while making this record, he got so stoned during one of his creative benders that he spiraled into an existential panic. Nearing 40, he knew the pattern wasn’t sustainable forever” (GQ 2025 The resulting music The music reflects this in my opinion, by being shallow. The songs have less of the contemplative unfolding structure and seem more desperate to be hits (as with a Dua Lipa song) with watered down repeated sections. Although some lyrics have substance, they don’t have the same existential questions, nor resolutions of former works. An internal conflict crops up here and there, suggesting fears of inadequacy and losing his loved ones - but the story is constantly suppressed by his defaulting to cliche romantic hooks and catchphrases. The best example of this is Dracula, which features catchy production, but lacks lyrical weight and progressive structure. Kevin is still an amazing songwriter, but the performances seem uninspired, stories are unfocused, and when they’re not, the production is compromised with anticlimactic ‘drops’. Largely i feel that the epiphanies and emotional breakthroughs of especially currents have been distracted by a surface level approach, which happens to be suitable for commerciality - “Something that he’s always wanted to prove to himself is that he can write a great pop song,” (His wife, GQ 2025). It seems this obsession, though a driving force earlier, is now guiding him away from introspection, and instead guiding him into conformity. Kevin was someone that defined what authentic pop could sound and look like, but now he is conforming to the industry. Some of the songs are fun and catchy! But that’s hardly innovation. As pitchfork said it: “(…) is there really a reason for you to reach for this over one of the countless deep house producers out there who can actually pull this style off with finesse?” The forced promotion https://preview.redd.it/fu5dtag0r81g1.png?width=1640&format=png&auto=webp&s=daec35b7d069e46a343fafd54dddfe5b21191855 The media appearances and promotion are also guilty of being, although fun and cinematic, forced and superficial. I say forced because of instagram reels, especially one where Kevin is supposed to be hyping his vinyls, when in reality he seems like a disappointed kid on Christmas eve. Whereas earlier promotion celebrated Kevins immediate surroundings and studio work, the new videos dress Kevin up; He’s on a bike with Y2K sunglasses, leading a hippie army with his boogie walk, and impersonating his former aesthetic: Appearing in someone else’s old school music studio (Clairo producer Leon Michels’ Diamond Mine), and sitting in a staged circle of sequencers in a cave. With a beer and cigarette in hand, Kevin seems to be embracing short term desires, and flirting with hedonism. The cinematography, set design etc. is super pretty and it must be fun to produce, but what story is really being told here? The whole dance music & Timbaland thematic wouldn’t be so boring if the 2000s aesthetic wasn’t the number one thing being perpetuated on TikTok. You might be tempted to excuse this: "Oh well that's the game nowadays" - but Kevin submitting to the infrastructure of big tech like this; forcing these appearances in short format videos, styling himself with Balenciaga sunglasses and abandoning the celebration of his own compositional space and mundane life, is a loss of potential. He is an artist that defines modern music and is revered among the worlds leading music enjoyers and creators, all from being himself. He might not realize it, but i strongly believe that he holds authority to push back against the largely critiqued algorithms that are devastating our generation. “I felt like my music has always been immersive and expansive, but I’ve never been comfortable being the face of it. I hide among the music. I finally decided it’s the right time to do that.” (Dork, 2025) Kevin has always wanted to be less self-judgmental, and I applaud that wish. But I speculate that he has, as Pitchfork also stated, desperately embraced hedonism, and is overcompensating from his past. He always craved more confidence (take his idolization of Kanye as exhibit A) - yet in recent interviews, like Zane Lowe, and instagram stories, he comes off as defensive, rationalizing the act of deeming himself a deadbeat father a triumph, when it just feels like he is cornered by his self-critic and exhaustion. In his quest for being the face of his music, he undermines himself yet again. Kevin may not be a performance master in the same way Michael Jackson was. But he doesn't need to. Because he is arguably one of the best pop composers alive. What's holding him back from being content with that? Maybe Kevin doesn't need to conform to the conventional standards of what a pop artist is. Maybe he has actually been expanding what those expectations could be from the get go - While casting shame on himself for it. - The best example of this is when Kevin hid the fact that he was just one guy ;). While Kevin gets to play Elvis in a fancy music video, the label and bureaucrats are clinking champagne because they get to monetize his emotional apprehension. It's easier to sell homogeneous feel-good-halloween music, but it comes at the cost of relatability, and the timelessness of an independent project like Currents. https://preview.redd.it/lgwkj17ls81g1.png?width=2424&format=png&auto=webp&s=87fbc336afb1c2b63363056fc50920457a7a815a Conclusion Kevin doesn’t have time to create introspective mind altering music to the same standard as his previous works, because he is spread thin on running a multimillion dollar business in California, being a poster boy, being LA’s favorite producer/DJ and raising two kids at the same time! After being a lonely one man project, he has turned his focus outwards to extroversion, and is seeking acknowledgement through conforming to his industry peers and trends of today. His spark is still there - it's just buried it under an unwillingness to go to the same lengths of his past, and layers of trend-chasing. It seems that as a result, the Tame Impala project has evolved to a more capitalist, hedonistic and conformative one than that of his earlier hippie fantasyland. The question is if the music is reflecting a liberation from an intrinsic sadness and trauma in his old approach, or an apprehension/denial/distraction of said feelings. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------- I tried to view this from different angles, and i took a lot of my analysis from the very personal GQ interview. Still though, i'm sure i'm barely scratching the surface of what is happening in the Kevin Parker sphere, and i am undoubtedly biased by my own human desires and identity. I realize Kevin is also just a human, and that it's unfair to expect him to constantly be an innovative visionary. I just wish we could have more nuance in our discussion than: "It sucks i want the guitars back" or "He's the most amazing artist ever and if you don't agree it's because you want him to stay the same". TL:DR Tame impala has shifted from introspective, and in turn, relatable art, to (not definitively) glamourous and commercial art. I theorize that Kevin is tired of the isolating and trauma confrontative nature of his work, and therefore experiments more and more with homogeneous pop writing, because it's not as exhausting. At the same time, his battle with his inner self-critic is making him overcompensate; He wants to liberate himself from his old fear of the limelight, but the result inadvertently compromises his artistic integrity and monetizes his previously independent image to brands and profit-driven bureaucracy. The ending result is a respectable experiment, but simply falls short of the universal, self-actualizative and innovative nature of his previous work. submitted by /u/Normal_Lie_700 to r/TameImpala [link] [comments]

Just writing this kasi sobrang naiinis ako promise. So I have a friend na ininvite kami ng bf ko sa kasal nila. Tagaytay wedding. Nagulat ako kasi alam ko medyo may problem sila sa finances last time we met. Sabi ko tagaytay? Bongga naman na afford na nila. Ofc happy happy ako sa kanya and her hubby. The wedding was going to be in tagaytay ( i don't want to say the place kasi bka matrace kung sino siya ) and 4pm-9:30pm ang schedule. WALANG NAKALAGAY NA HINDI SILA MAGPAPAKAIN NG DINNER. So fast forward dun sa wedding. Bumyahe kami ng bf ko mula SJDM to Tagaytay. We ate muna bago magbyahe. Pero ayaw namin malate kaya 12:30pm umalis na kmi ng haus. Pagpunta namin sa ceremony venue, mganda naman ang ceremony. ganda ng friend ko pati ng set up. Maganda setup promise. And then, yun na nga. Pagpunta namin sa RECEPTION, dun na ako nagulat. WALANG TABLES mga sis. LAHAT ng chairs naka harap tapos may stage. Mala graduation or school program ang atake. Maganda ang stage, may mga flowers and everything. Nagulat kami. tinanong namin ang mga organizer nasan ang food. Tinuro sa may likuran ang maliit na table na may mga cheese, crackers tapos yung pica pica na chips. Gurl yun na daw ang food. meron din pla water and coffee sa likod na pwede ka magtimpla. AGAIN WALANG NAKALAGAY NA HINDI SILA MAGPAPAKAIN NG DINNER. ang bilis naubos ng pica pica station. Like nagdagsaan ang mga tao. wala pang 20 mins ubos na. ganun kabilis. Pagdating ng 6:20pm nagugutom na ako. I am diabetic so need ko tlga kumain. Nanginginig na ako. normally i bring sandwiches with me para if ever magutom ako pero my goodness why would i bring sandwiches sa isang wedding?! so 6:45pm umalis kami ng bf ko to look for food. ( bawal daw magpagrab sa loob ng venue sbi ng organizer kasi maruruin daw ang aesthetic WTF ) kumain kami ng bf ko sa mcdo. todo lafang kami grabe gutomers na kami hahahaha. bali ung chix fillet with extra rice and large drink ang tinira namin with chicken nuggets pa. naka TUXEDO pa kami parehas ng bf ko nyan ah. tapos we decided not to go back na. tinamad na kami bumalik. tutal nakita naman na namin sila sa ceremony. edi ok na. so the following day... nagpost si bridal sa FB. apparently MARAMING umalis na sa wedding. hindi tinapos. more than 60% daw ang umalis. sabi daw maraming nag eat and run sa kasal niya. OMG SIS WALA KANG PAGKAIN SA WEDDING MO TAPOS EAT AND RUN PA KAMI?! MY GOODNESS. nag comment tlga ako sa post niya sabi ko "sis sorry kasi gutom na kami ng bf ko. wala kasing dinner eh so lumabas na kami to look for food" Tapos nag pm ba naman sakin ang husband niya sabi is ang rude daw na sabihin na walang dinner. eh TOTOO naman na walang dinner ang kasal niyo. di ko nlng rineplyan. bahala kayo dyan. Your wedding your rules, YES. Pero sana huwag naman magalit if umaalis ang bisita kasi nagugutom na. submitted by /u/AsianDivine001 to r/WeddingsPhilippines [link] [comments]

For context, this knight was referred to me by a very good client of mine who finances quite a large chunk of my life by sending me referrals such as this. I do not wish to anger my patron, but nor do I wish to compromise the efficacy of my enhancement by making modifications to it for aesthetics. How do I deal with this knight? He doesn't seem one to shy away from the details of such matters (he's got a good brain) but isn't enlightened enough to disregard "looking pretty" for the sake of a more powerful enchantment. 🙏🏼Your suggestions would be most welcome. submitted by /u/H_G_Bells to r/wizardposting [link] [comments]

I am NOT the Original Poster. That is u/znxncb. She posted in r/AmItheAsshole and r/AITAH. Thanks to u/BakingGiraffeBakes for the rec! Do NOT comment on Original Posts. Latest update is 7 days old. This has not been posted to this sub before. This is very much ongoing. Mood Spoiler: confusing and frustrating Original Post: September 12, 2024 My (27F) fiancé (29M) proposed to me a few weeks ago. It caught me completely by surprise, but we’ve been together for 3 years and things have been going great. So I was really excited and said yes! I really liked the ring when I first saw it and my friends and family all think it is stunning. It’s an oval cut with “diamonds” across the band. I asked where he got it and he wouldn’t tell me where, but that he got a great deal on it. I didn’t think anything of it until yesterday we were in bed and I was asked him if it was diamond or moissanite mainly out of curiosity. I don’t have a preference btw. He said he didn’t know and would have to look it up. When I glanced over at his phone, he was in the Temu app. I asked him if he got it from there and he didn’t respond. So I asked again and he responded with something like “does it matter?” and left the room and ended up sleeping on the couch. I spent all night so confused. Today decided to download the app and look up my ring and I found one that looks identical. I found the exact ring and it listed at $38. I am mad. He makes good money (200K/yr) and I feel like he could’ve shelled out some money for a ring better than one on Temu. AITA for telling him I don’t want it? OOP's Comments: OOP's thoughts: Ok I’m not mad that the diamonds are not real. But I worry about the quality of the ring because I imagined my engagement ring to at least be sturdy. It’s fine for now, but I have a hard time believing it’ll last longer than a year if it’s $38 on Temu! Commenter: NTA bc that thing might turn your finger green. He’s lucky you don’t have a sensitivity to fake metals like some do. He makes good money but bought a $38 ring. Is he cheap with other things where this discount shopping isn’t a new thing for him and he’s just an all around penny pincher? My first thought was, did he not spend the money bc he doesn’t want/expect this to last? OOP: Yeah let me provide some more context: Really he’s never been overly frugal, I’m probably more frugal than he is. Neither of us are huge spenders but we each make enough to not have to strictly budget or anything. We have our own accounts and split rent equally. I know he has at least 100k across his savings/investment accounts. We go out for drinks a few times a week and will go to concerts together and whatnot frequently. We travel a few times a year and stay in basic accommodations. Ugh. Like our DoorDash the other night was $40. My ring costs less than Doordashing dinner Commenter: You are NTA but what we all really want to know is whether or not you would still marry him if he replaces the ring. OOP: The responses to this have made me even more confused. People saying it could be a loyalty test, that he doesn’t want me to be able to sell it if we divorce, or that he doesn’t plan to be with me for long. I have a pit in my stomach. I haven’t considered breaking things off but that was before I wrote this here. I was thinking maybe he was just not thinking or rushed getting the ring, or maybe he genuinely thought he was getting a great deal on a high quality ring. I’m not sure at this point. I plan to confront him when he gets back from work in a couple hours. 🫠 The ring itself: The response to this is just absolutely insane, sorry I’m having a hard time keeping up with responses. A few of y’all want to see the ring so here it is if you want to look it up. I’m still waiting for him to get home. Seller: LVZ GEM “1ct Moissanite Ring Women’s Wedding Band Suitable For Banquet Party Official Occasion Holiday Valentine’s Day Proposal Engagement Wedding Gift Anniversary Gift Birthday Gift With Certificate” I guess it technically is Moissanite? OOP's post was removed before a verdict was rendered, but top comments were NTA Update Post: September 12, 2024 (6 hours later) After reading responses from my first post on the AITA subreddit (it got taken down) I was freaking out a bit. He came home while I was FaceTiming a friend about this. I hung up with her and then talked to him for an hour or so. He apologized for sleeping on the couch and that he needed time to think. He doesn’t see eye to eye with me on my concerns about the ring and says he did research and that it was highly rated. He says if the ring breaks he will replace it (but didn’t say it’d be higher quality). I have people messaging me that the ring could be harmful to my health and that Temu has horrible standards for their jewelry and labor issues so now I really don’t want to wear it. He left and went to his brother’s house. Usually I’d go with him but things are just tense. AITA for telling him I still don’t want it? Some of OOP's comments: Commenter: Kind of tough, because had you not found out it was from Temu, would you be upset? OOP: Tbh. If I hadn’t found out it was from Temu I probably wouldn’t be upset. But when it inevitably breaks or tarnishes the truth would come out. Now that I know it has completely changed how I feel about the ring even if it aesthetically doesn’t look to bad. Commenter: Did this come as a shock or is he normally cheap and thoughtless? OOP: He’s not normally cheap or thoughtless. He’s genuinely a great guy which is making this harder to navigate. he started making me feel really guilty and materialistic today when we talked about this and I can see his point of view but I’m just confused. It feels like Temu is the bottom of the barrel. I’d be happy with a cheap decent quality ring from Etsy or anywhere else. I don’t really care about the price itself it’s more about the quality and feeling like he doesn’t really value me the way I thought he did. OOP addresses several commenters asking if he thinks she is a gold digger- this was her most comprehensive response: I want to clear up these gold digger rumors bc this isn’t only about the cost of the ring. I only mention these things for context not bc I feel he owes me something in return. When I met him, I was making just over 100k and he was working part time and doing an internship bringing in significantly less than me. He totaled his car early on in our relationship and I happily drove him to his work every morning on the way to my work when he didn’t have a car. When his mom got sick and went on hospice, I immediately canceled all of my travel plans and holiday plans with my family and sat with him visiting her every day for months. I helped with funeral arrangements. I helped plan his brother’s wedding. I even loaned him money for a new car once he started his new job (he did pay me back btw). He moved in with me recently and most everything in the home is mine that I paid for prior to the relationship (furniture, etc). I have paid for so many plane tickets for our travels, concert tickets, etc. that I’ve never asked him to pay back and never will. That’s what a relationship is. I genuinely care for him. He has done similar gestures for me and is more than willing to spend money on dates. Believe it or not I’m not this greedy woman sitting here excited to get his money. I have my own. Have they ever been ring shopping: We never went ring shopping. The proposal was a surprise to me. We’d casually discussed getting married in the future for the past year or so but he never asked my taste in rings so I was kinda thinking that’d happen before the engagement. I actually like the style of the ring but now that I know it’s from Temu I can’t look at it the same way. Mini Update Comment: 4 hours later I’m literally just sitting here refreshing your comments trying to figure out what to do next. He texted to let me know he plans at staying at his brother’s for the weekend and is taking Friday off. It’s not crazy abnormal since he’s been watching football over there, but I feel like he’s avoiding me now. I’m trying not to be pushy about the situation and I’ll give him some space but ugh. now I’m just in my head about all of it and regretting my initial reaction. It’s just a dumb ring and maybe I’ve read into it too much. The only other time we’ve had an argument like this it was resolved within a couple hours so I’m not used to this behavior from him Update 2 (Same Post): September 13, 2024 (Next Day) Update: He came home this morning while I was in a WFH meeting. These comments made my head spin all night. I got like 3 hours of sleep so I admit I may be in the wrong for bringing up his finances but I did. Re: the gold digger rumors, when we met I was making more than him and often paying for his things, his high paying job is a recent development. I have my own money and don’t need his. I asked him what was going on, if there was anything he needed to tell me, if he was “testing me” by doing this… Well that really set him off. “What kind of person do you think I am? You think I’m a cheapskate? A liar? You obviously think really poorly of me”… but STILL he never gave me a reason. So I asked why he was deflecting every question to victimize himself and to avoid my questions. He tried to leave AGAIN. So I tried deescalating and told him I see where he’s coming from but I need to know if he still loves me. He was immediately apologetic and still wants to get married. He said I can just pick my ring out and buy it with my own money. He said he’s sick of talking about this and it’s “water under the bridge” now. He’s acting like his normal self again since this convo. I hear him out there skipping around and humming to himself all happily and it’s actually pissing me off. Maybe I’m being dramatic, but I don’t think I can handle a marriage with someone like this. submitted by /u/LucyAriaRose to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

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As some of you may know, many members of our (small but mighty) team at Urvin are from this community - many of our investors too. Some have been here since inception, and others have joined us along the way, but everyone has echoed the same desire: to build a place that marries professional-quality data with social communities, leveling the playing field for the individual investor… without the big subscription price of commercial services. And while I’m extremely proud of the quality of the data we provide, today I’m here to talk to you about communities. To be more specific, Verified Shareholder Communities (VSC). We soft-launched the full site publicly on May 1st; and along with it, the VSC. We wanted to build a platform that provides the checks-and-balances that a thriving community needs, while creating unprecedented value for individual investors. From community governance to access restriction, there’s a very delicate balance for how to run ticker-focused communities with determination, fostering collaboration while not alienating any legitimate investors/members. Reddit’s “positions or GTFO” isn’t the easiest notion to refine. But you have to build a verification system to ensure you’re not talking to a sea of bots. So, we’ve been in Beta developing the VSC and general community framework. We’ve floated the idea to different issuers interested in a more direct relationship with their shareholders like our recent webinar with the Shareholder Services Association, and the product has proven even more intriguing (and beautiful!) than the original vision. Aside from the recurring praise of the design aesthetic, issuers are repeatedly impressed with the groundbreaking VSC we’ve developed. And now, we want U to take it to the next level with us. To give a quick overview; Verified Shareholder Communities are made possible via connected portfolios. You can connect your broker account via our partners (currently SnapTrade and Mesh - we’re working on adding others right now) to your Urvin account which unlocks VSCs for your connected stocks. It’s easy, free, secure, and supports most major brokerages. So you gain access to a personalized experience on the site even beyond communities. This allows us to verify that you’re (i) an actual person and (ii) that you hold a set of stocks while also allowing you to remain anonymous, but verified, in the community. If you want to read more about their security, you can do so on Mesh’s and SnapTrade’s websites. That brings up a few frequently asked questions; So, doesn’t this reveal the share count? For non-DRS holdings, yes. We also support IRAs and retirement accounts, which cannot, generally speaking, DRS, (aside from forming an LLC. I believe there are some great guides here on how to do that.) So we can provide a share count for every issuer with connected accounts outside of DRS. Theoretically speaking, this would expose an oversold float, should that exist. And you wouldn’t even need DRS numbers, (although it’s awesome when companies like Gamestop report them). You don’t need to have every share linked - just more than what exists. What about DRS/Computershare? The moment that Computershare can support it, we will add it! Unfortunately, they simply don't support any tech solution for this at this time. That is certainly a feature we hope to add in the future. EDIT1: One of you already sent me a screenshot showing that at least one broker supports connectivity to CS - this is shocking! Please let me know if your broker supports it as well - if it's possible (we had been assured it wasn't) we'll figure out how to do it! We also have self-reported portfolios. So you can still reflect your DRS holdings on Urvin via this feature, but self-reported portfolios do not grant access to verified shareholder communities, for obvious reasons. Do I have to connect a portfolio when I create an account on Urvin? No! Portfolio connection is only required for access to a VSC. While we encourage connection for a more personalized experience across the site, you can engage in non-verified communities freely and access our data with just a verified email address. There’s no cost. Can you see details of my portfolio when I connect? We cannot see any of your authentication information or credentials - all of that is managed securely by our partners. On the Urvin side, we can see the positions that you hold - and the resulting VSC membership. This information is shared privately via the 3rd party connections with SnapTrade/Mesh, and your broker. That data is encrypted in-flight and at-rest, and only accessible by our employees on a need-to-know basis. Membership is fully automated when you connect your brokerage account. So the system will automatically add you to any related ticker communities you hold in the connected account. You have the opportunity at any time to opt out of VSC community membership - and can rejoin at any time, as long as the associated holdings are in your connected account. Are Verified Shareholder Communities directly tied to the issuer? At this stage, not as a whole. We do have some issuers on site that are leaning into the vision and taking the reins of their communities, providing a direct line to their shareholders. These are Official VSCs, and will be highlighted as such. The ultimate goal is to have a mix of official and unofficial/peer-to-peer verified communities. What happens if I sell the securities from my connected portfolio, am I still a member of the VSC? No. The system cross-references your holdings and VSC membership regularly and your access will be automatically revoked from the associated VSC upon sale. Does this cost me money? NO! Right now we do not monetize the site, and our plan is to keep most current features free, as well adding to it over time with more and more premium data sets and advanced tools. Our long-term monetization plan is via issuers and by disrupting Broadridge - we really don’t like how they stand between companies and shareholders in virtually every way, and we think we’ve built a much much better way to connect the companies and investors. We’ve also partnered with Proxymity to help facilitate proxy voting across issuers. Streamlining that process helps keep investors engaged directly with their issuers on the topics that matter most. This community has seen the power retail holds when campaigning for proxy voting. And Urvin has the tools to harness that power and participate in a meaningful way. And of course, we’re powering all of this with professional-quality data unlike anywhere else. Here’s a sneak peek: Light Mode ​ Dark Mode ​ Insider Activity and Institutional Holdings GME Verified Shareholder Community I’m sure you will have more great questions, and I’m happy to answer them! I truly think we’ve built something that will help this community expand their toolkits, thus increasing their power and presence as an individual investor. The community here helped inspire this product, and it’s time for us to finally open our doors and show you what we've built. Thank you all for being a part of this journey with us. It’s only the beginning! We will see you at urvin.finance 💪 submitted by /u/dlauer to r/Superstonk [link] [comments]

My fiancé (34M) and I (31F) got engaged in Nov 2023. We were planning a Dec 2024 wedding, but we’ve learned that I need a nose job for medical & aesthetic reasons, so we’ve postponed the wedding until after due to finances. My mom (65F) is mad about the whole thing & how it will be perceived by relatives. BACKSTORY When I was 9, I fell off my bike & broke my nose. Sadly, my mom didn’t believe that it was broken. She said I was “over-exaggerating” the pain. She refused to take me to the doctor. It hurt so much, I cried daily for weeks. Note: she was a SAHM & we live in Canada, so taking me to a doctor wouldn’t have cost money or time off work. Since then, I’ve had issues with breathing and awful sinus pain- occasionally to the point of vomiting. Flying is torture. Random weather changes are torture. I spend 16-23 days a year in bed immobilized by pain/pressure in my left sinuses. Also, my nose never looked the same after. In middle school, kids said l look like Gollum and I’m still a little self conscious about it. In 2021, I decided that I can’t live like this anymore and started working with my doctor to figure out the root cause of my sinus issues. The Canadian healthcare system moves slowly. A couple weeks ago, I got MRI results back and they established that: (1) My nose was broken in childhood (2) It didn’t heal properly because it had no medical intervention (3) I need surgery for my nose/sinuses to work, so I can live/breathe like a normal person. Since they’re doing surgery on my nose anyway, I decided I want my nose’s aesthetic fixed at the same time. They will make my nose look like it would’ve naturally. Canadian healthcare will pay for the “medical” part of surgery. It won’t pay for the cosmetic part. Nose jobs are expensive. We decided to postpone the wedding so we can pay for my nj ASAP instead. I can’t wait to breathe properly, and to have a “normal” nose. Last week, I told my mom about the postponement and she flipped. She says relatives are planning their whole year around my wedding, and this is a really unfair to do this to them over “vanity”. I told her that I can’t afford a nj and a wedding in the same year. & that it was unfair to me that she refused to take me to a doctor back in the day. & that if she really wants the wedding this year, she could pay for my nj so I don’t have to. We haven’t spoken since. Tbh, since it was confirmed by a doctor that I did break my nose as a kid, I’ve had simmering anger/hurt towards my mom. I’ve lived with awful pain for decades, and now need surgery for something that could’ve been avoided if she had just believed me & been a parent… but maybe telling her to pay for the nj was unfair/too petty. AITA? tl;dr - broke my nose in childhood. Mom refused to take me to doctor. improper healing caused pain & suffering into adulthood. now I’m paying for corrective cosmetic surgery instead of a wedding and Mom’s mad about it. maybe I’m too vain submitted by /u/wynawtt to r/AmItheAsshole [link] [comments]

Hi! I'm a 22yr old FTM who at the time of this story was just out of a relationship. I started seeing this guy, 24 male (who we will call Frank for the story). We went to a bar and we clicked very well. He would then hang out at my place almost 3 times a week where things were amazing. About a month into our friendship/relationship we were thinking about getting serious. Frank constantly love bombed me, messaged me every day about how much he loved me, and etc. He even came over one day with a gift for me that was in a unique designed glittery gift bag that had crystals, a hoodie, little necklaces charms, and baked goods from a store in the mall. we officially started dating and it was great for a week. Frank sent me a long text message saying "oh I love you so much" and how he would love me forever. Going to bed I thought nothing of it, just happy someone loved me and expressed it. The next morning I wake up to another paragraph text, thinking it was another love message. I was wrong. He started off the text with "I don't love you" and wrote about how he was sleeping with his Ex and me at the same time and that he didn't love her and lied about loving me. I was devastated. Normally I wouldn't have cared that much but after being love bombed for a month by Frank it stung. Immediately after reading this text I got suspicious. Some backstory, for the duration of talking to him, he talked HORRIBLE about his ex whom Frank still lived with) Saying that she was abusive, trashy, etc. So hearing him say he was sleeping with her stung a lot but also set off some red flags. I go to work that day upset but I was getting over it quickly. Until Frank's ex messaged me on Instagram (whom we will call Stacy) Stacy told me how he was love bombing her and begging for her back and that she wanted to make sure me and him weren't a thing. Out of respect I told Stacy what he had said to me, considering she was brought up in the text anyways, and I sent her screenshots of Every Single Time he trash talked her. And I'm talking at least 50 screenshots of paragraphs of him trash talking her (he was trying to get sympathy from me for him to come over and stay the night) Stacy apologized for his actions and decided to not date him. Eventually me and her grew to become good friends and I realized Frank had lied about everything. Stacy was the sweetest most timid person I've ever met... Now remember the gift he had given me? I ended up rearranging my room and finding the bag with everything Frank gave me. Looking at the items something seemed off so I texted Stacy. I asked her if she happened to be missing anything. Any crystals or hoodies? (She had a hippy aesthetic so her owning crystals was a given) Stacy texts me back that she was infact missing three crystals and she described the ones that Frank had gifted me exactly. The hoodie? Also hers. The charms? HERS. The only thing he didn't steal from her to gift me were the baked goods. From his job. Stacy and Frank both worked at the mall in our city. And I decided to stop by and return everything he had stolen and given to me. He was off that day but I was told when she got home and he saw the gaudy bag he put everything in he knew we met up and knew what he did. He apparently started crying and begging for her to forgive him on his knees which I found hilarious. Fast forward a week later, Stacy tells me he went back to doing the same thing with other girls. Apparently he had done this 5 other times to different girls. (Getting into full committed relationships and cheating) Angry, I remembered something Frank had told me about how he would steal baked goods to bring home and that if his boss found out he'd be pissed. So I naturally called the store he worked at, told him everything he was doing at work, along with his cheating and two-timing, and all other secrets he told me about what her do at work that could get him fired. Since then I never see him at the bakery and when I ask about him they pretend he never existed. Even my new best friend Stacy said he moved out since he couldn't afford rent. So where he is now is a mystery. update: Hi everyone! Thanks for the comments I didn't think this would get people's attention. I wanted to answer some questions as I've realized commenting on every comment isn't super productive or good for my health. Where is he now?: last I heard he was moving back in with his mom. So anyone concerned with me "ruining his life", he's fine... Even if he decided to not move in with his parents, I'm sure he would have used pity points to move into another girl's house. I was more focused on him no longer mooching off Stacy. As he wasn't contributing, using her car, and especially using said car to drive his multiple dates around to bars... Are you and Stacy going to get together?: I laughed reading a few of your joke comments about us getting together. Honestly I don't see it happening. She's sweet and definitely my type but we don't communicate often anymore. We have been trying to find time to go on hangout dates though. Is this a true story? Yes. 100% It is written sloppily as I'm not that great at laying down things in a good timeline. But I did my best. But essentially it was me matching with him, hanging out for 2-3 weeks, us dating for a week officially, and then the out of nowhere text. I will say, he did text me this message after we slept together for the first time a day previous. So I think he just did all that for someone to sleep with before moving onto the next person. And someone asked if Stacy didn't just see the gifts before hand and then texted me through his phone, hard to explain but she didn't do all that. He had a stealing tendency and I would honestly rather believe Stacy than Frank any day. And finally, Why was him living with his ex not a red flag? It never came off as a red flag to me because I understand not being able to live on my own due to finances. She now has a new roommate but he had insisted over and over that he was trying to move out. Most people I know are in a situation where if they broke up with their partners they wouldn't be able to leave the shared living space easily without months of saving up. I acknowledged his claims to be trying to move. But I never thought he would be sleeping with the person he was accusing of harrassing him while we were together. submitted by /u/CarnivorousEcho to r/pettyrevenge [link] [comments]

I am not The OOP, OOP is u/Emu_Fast. I have received permission from OOP to share his family's story to BORU. Reminder - Do not comment on linked posts! My wife and I were sold a lemon, the sellers concealed evidence of migratory bats that came back in the summer and completely ruined our lives Originally posted to r/RealEstate TRIGGER WARNING Illness caused by Bat Infestation Original Post July 24, 2023 My wife and I live in Washington state. We are young parents (born last Nov) and were very desperate to buy a home and get setup to raise our child. The place we were living in had a half acre but was a trailer, so small and full of problems. Most of the houses in our area are above 800K for a postage stamp lot where you can lean out your window and touch your neighbors house, so we looked outside our area. I have a fully remote job, so we picked a spot close to our favorite state park in North Puget Sound. The home we bought for ~870K, 20% down. It is a huge Victorian mansion on top of a hill with a big turret and a view of the water. The inspection showed a LOT of projects, but nothing we couldn't handle over the course of a decade or more. Once my wife returns to work, it would be possible to burn down the equity and finance improvements. Possibly refi to a lower rate if the Fed ever comes down again (but not betting on it). One thing in the report was "evidence of rodents" in the attic. We have dealt with rats and mice before by setting traps and thought very little of the problem. My mom talked about having squirrels in her attic that they had to shut out. Not a big deal. So, despite some hesitation about the repairs and fixes that might lie ahead, we bought the place. We closed on April 1st and moved in by mid-month. It was amazing, the location is incredible. We have guests in May, no problems. Then, towards the end of the month, we get a bat in our room at night. I quickly catch it in a bucket and get it out through the window while wife and baby get out. (I learn later I should have kept it.) We think, we are close to the woods, this is just what happens sometimes if the window is open a crack. Then, we have a guest staying in the bedroom in the furnished attic. They hear scrawling in the walls. We start hearing it while we are up there (where we put the TV and a futon - its a carpeted living room type space up there). So we stake out the house, and we see a hoard of bats fly out from a tiny tiny gap in the corner of our attic window dormer. We immediately call as many pest companies as we can and reach out to our insurance agent. I have work travel and come back. We have friends come to visit. We all get incredibly incredibly sick. Probably not associated to the bats, but histoplasmosis isn't impossible. At first we are very concerned about the bats, but we think this might be addressable. Then it started getting even crazier. Early July, after a week of being super ill, the first bat company comes. They review the house, tell us its one of the worst infestations they've ever seen. There are likely thousands of bats. Which means chances are high that a few of them do carry rabies. Also that much fecal matter will definitely become a human health hazard even if its above the drywall, because it will fester, mold, get wet and drip through. The next day, another bat gets into the kitchen in the middle of the day while we are cooking. I catch it with my fishing net and squash it. The bat pest person told us to take it to the health department, so I did, but it ended up being too far gone to tell if it had rabies. Live bats are required. My wife is too concerned to keep staying there. She packs up baby and goes to live at my sisters. Our original house we had intended to either rent or sell to a developer, but everything happens in slow motion with a baby under 1. Now we had to relocate back into it. I stay up in the house to deal with contractors and the health department. I'm still extremely sick, cough and sore throat. My wife and baby start their rabies exposure series per the health department. We are set to max out our insurance coverage costs. Even with coverage, we will end up paying $14,000+ in medical expenses. So we start talking with the neighbors. Some of them even stake out the house with me while I take video of thousands of bats flying out. The health department comes to try and capture a live one. They can't get to one though, none are loose inside the house, they are stuck behind drywall and plyboard panels and enmeshed into the insulation. I open up all the crawlspace doors and seal the attic shut, then I come out and there are 6 in the attic. I catch one and bring it to the health department. Now, here we are, evacuated, living on 1/4 of our personal goods, back to our trailer. During this time, we've been coordinating with lawyers, insurance, pest control, various contractors. The assessment is as such: We bought the house from an estate. In WA State, an estate does not need to disclose anything wrong about the house, it is buyer beware. (no form 17) However, from neighbors and facebook digging, we know that the estate had a son-in-law who stayed at the house nearly 2 years working on the home to make it more sellable and auctioning off antiques. There are panels and flimsy boards, and lights in weird places in the crawlspace above the attic. We also noticed fly larva coming out of the boards that the inspector missed. Likely this was work done by the seller. The inspection report identifies the pests as rodents but only as a problem in one area. Now the entire attic and all the storage crawl areas have insulation and bat poop. The gutters and roof seams are completely coated in insulation and poop. Insurance denied our claim, they say the problem is pre-existing because of the evidence of pests in inspection, despite the severity and scale of the problem now. Other neighbors confirmed that the original couple that lived there knew about the bats and showed them how many there were, like 10 years ago. Lawyers we've talked to say its very unlikely we would win a case. The sellers knew all their legal loopholes (son-in-law was a house flipper) - they may have hidden the problem but that isn't illegal, even though it led to very hazardous conditions for our infant. If we lose the case, we owe tens of thousands in legal fees. The cost to fix is exceedingly high. $20-40k just to get the bats out, possibly reroofing the entire house (likely above $60k - its a complex roof.) Then redoing all the interior insulation and flooring in the attic (more than $20k). Possibly with enough haggling and putting in some labor myself, I could get costs close to $60K, but that may be wishful thinking. HELOC loans, home equity loans, and equity agreements, all seem to be inaccessible, we are just too improperly leveraged, we've only made a handful of payments so far. Maybe we could cover part of repairs, but likely not all of them. So - now I put you in our shoes: 1) Risky lawsuit against the sellers and the seller's realtor. 2) Risky lawsuit against insurance 3) Risky concoction of overleveraging (HELOC/HEA) to pay for repairs 4) Strategic default, we loose $200K immediately and locked out of real estate for years 5) Try to convince a few insane investors to pay off our equity, take out business loans to fix, remodel, and turn the place into a BNB (very unlikely and also risky) 6) Cash out my 401K, sell a kidney, get a 2nd job, or enlist in the military 7) Sell our smaller property (maybe can get $450K for it) and rent somewhere while we fix the new place, but then we lose our last vestige of security I say this all in the context of not wanting to live in that home any more. We love the neighborhood, but feel that the place is going to be a complete and absolute money pit. With enough love, attention and improvement, and changes to the Fed's rates, we could probably sell for $1.1M or higher if it was proven bat free, repainted, and some other aesthetic work was done. But it would take $150-200k to get there, so it would virtually be a wash. With the market teetering in a million stupid directions, and the scale of severity of this problem, we are losing our minds. At least we have good Halloween costumes picked out this year....   NEW UPDATE Aug 9, 2023 Same bat time, same bat channel - update from the bat mansion of financial horror Okay - folks are asking for an update from the last post: https://www.reddit.com/r/RealEstate/comments/158go29/my_wife_and_i_were_sold_a_lemon_the_sellers/ ​ Where to start.... Life is a whirlwind sometimes. Nothing is easy about this whole situation, we don't have any deus-ex-machina solutions falling into our lap. We're just chugging along, still trying to piece together any semblance of a plan while struggling to keep our sanity. It's a lot of small steps, one at a time, and a LOT of stress… And 12 ER visits to get all of our rabies shots… The expertise of some of you redditors was astounding. Not a ton of help on figuring out our method to finance this, and I'll also point out $450k on our old place is a stretch. We'd be lucky to get above $360k without a lot of work. There's also a lot of family resistance to selling, as my mother owned it and lived in it after her divorce, and it's her fallback plan if her current spouse dies. Loooong story there too… Also, holy cow - you snoops were able to doxx us pretty easy based on "Victorian, North Puget Sound." But because of that, we even got an inspection report from an earlier prospective buyer. You redditors also brought up some very interesting conversations and advice from RE Investors, biologists, pest control, and general contractors. Great starting points, but still a lot to look into. I DID reach out to the University (I actually used to work in the college of the environment) - there was a professor at the Burke Museum in chiropterology - but she could only really refer me to the Dept Fish and Wildlife (DFW). Luckily, DFW does have some ways they can help, not financially. They can help us get permitting and design for bat houses that can be put up in the state park. Our other neighbors are supportive of this too because it would take bat pressure away from their houses too. There's a lot more that's happened - so here's abbreviated list: Grandma (my MIL) is an attorney, and did a TON of research, and then we paid $3K to have more experienced real estate attorneys confirm that we "had a bats chance in hell" Talking to the bank - in theory we could take out a combination of loans - personal line of credit, home improvement loan, and a HELOC, for as much as $110K for a monthly of $1500. If wife goes back to work and daycare isn't impossible, this is feasible but still challenging on top of a $4900/mo mortgage. $110K might only cover 2/3 the work too. We are asking the bank for a "Pause" to be able to rack up more in savings so we might get some of the work started soon. This doesn't cover costs but it gives us runway to maybe start some of the remediation services. Our roofing friends are checking out the property with us next weekend - they think, as they did before - it will be a VERY expensive job in just materials - but want to confirm. The Health Department issued an imminent health hazard for the house, its unfit for habitation until we remediate. Kind of scary seeing the red warnings on all the doors. Pest Control company gave us a writeup, it was not thorough and I remain unimpressed, unsure how it can help us talk with the bank. All of our Rabies shots are done. Not fun. Sitting in the ER collectively 12 times. Maxed out limit of medical expense at $14K… And blood tests for histoplasmosis. Our stress levels hit a critical point - my wife's mental state has hit periods of complete rock bottom. We are seeking counseling to get through this. Article in the local news - and upcoming radio interviews including local NPR. Also - if anyone out there has experience with USDA Loans, I'd love to hear from you. I don't fully qualify but the property does and I'm curious about waivers based on these stupidly high interest rates. Also, if anyone out there has successfully taken out business loans for a BnB through the SBA that doesn't compete or piss off the first-position residential lender… That would be very helpful to hear about. The toughest thing we are dealing with though is anger and depression. Luckily, we also have an amazing little dude (our baby) who keeps us smiling no matter how bleak things get. I'm also finding it hard to be 100% committed to work, and struggling to keep ahead of the opinions and office politics that my position has to contend with for success. My boss is very understanding but I can tell that this has definitely set me a back a bit in a few ways. We are also pursuing a few other creative ventures to raise funds but I don't want to break subreddit rules so I'm leaving them off this update. If anyone is a good book editor or interior designer with art skills, please reach out! The world is indeed comic, but the joke is on mankind... (I feel like I'm falling into a Lovecraftian madness) Cheers all   THIS IS A REPOST SUB: I AM NOT THE OOP Notes from the Editor: The “Article in the local news” mentioned by OOP can be found here: https://www.whidbeynewstimes.com/news/family-of-three-finds-1000-bats-in-their-new-home/ A link to the interview with “local NPR” here: https://www.kuow.org/stories/home-buyers-got-a-deal-and-pests-they-can-t-get-rid-of?fbclid=IwAR1tCOu1dJk5HXQi9YlmFO_EBHH4roZHzkW5FYHQqaCSWPJWhx3Of499sL0 OOP's Indiegogo campaign can be found here if you'd like to contribute: https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/bat-breakfast-save-our-home-build-a-community#/ This is an ongoing story and I will be posting updates as the situation develops. I have received permission from OOP to share his story here, as (in his own words) "Any call for action on getting creative types to help tell the story, or legal folks in WA state to help draft new policy would be great too" submitted by /u/King_of_Anything to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

My wife and I live in Washington state. We are young parents (born last Nov) and were very desperate to buy a home and get setup to raise our child. The place we were living in had a half acre but was a trailer, so small and full of problems. Most of the houses in our area are above 800K for a postage stamp lot where you can lean out your window and touch your neighbors house, so we looked outside our area. I have a fully remote job, so we picked a spot close to our favorite state park in North Puget Sound. The home we bought for ~870K, 20% down. It is a huge Victorian mansion on top of a hill with a big turret and a view of the water. The inspection showed a LOT of projects, but nothing we couldn't handle over the course of a decade or more. Once my wife returns to work, it would be possible to burn down the equity and finance improvements. Possibly refi to a lower rate if the Fed ever comes down again (but not betting on it). One thing in the report was "evidence of rodents" in the attic. We have dealt with rats and mice before by setting traps and thought very little of the problem. My mom talked about having squirrels in her attic that they had to shut out. Not a big deal. So, despite some hesitation about the repairs and fixes that might lie ahead, we bought the place. We closed on April 1st and moved in by mid-month. It was amazing, the location is incredible. We have guests in May, no problems. Then, towards the end of the month, we get a bat in our room at night. I quickly catch it in a bucket and get it out through the window while wife and baby get out. (I learn later I should have kept it.) We think, we are close to the woods, this is just what happens sometimes if the window is open a crack. Then, we have a guest staying in the bedroom in the furnished attic. They hear scrawling in the walls. We start hearing it while we are up there (where we put the TV and a futon - its a carpeted living room type space up there). So we stake out the house, and we see a hoard of bats fly out from a tiny tiny gap in the corner of our attic window dormer. We immediately call as many pest companies as we can and reach out to our insurance agent. I have work travel and come back. We have friends come to visit. We all get incredibly incredibly sick. Probably not associated to the bats, but histoplasmosis isn't impossible. At first we are very concerned about the bats, but we think this might be addressable. Then it started getting even crazier. Early July, after a week of being super ill, the first bat company comes. They review the house, tell us its one of the worst infestations they've ever seen. There are likely thousands of bats. Which means chances are high that a few of them do carry rabies. Also that much fecal matter will definitely become a human health hazard even if its above the drywall, because it will fester, mold, get wet and drip through. The next day, another bat gets into the kitchen in the middle of the day while we are cooking. I catch it with my fishing net and squash it. The bat pest person told us to take it to the health department, so I did, but it ended up being too far gone to tell if it had rabies. Live bats are required. My wife is too concerned to keep staying there. She packs up baby and goes to live at my sisters. Our original house we had intended to either rent or sell to a developer, but everything happens in slow motion with a baby under 1. Now we had to relocate back into it. I stay up in the house to deal with contractors and the health department. I'm still extremely sick, cough and sore throat. My wife and baby start their rabies exposure series per the health department. We are set to max out our insurance coverage costs. Even with coverage, we will end up paying $14,000+ in medical expenses. So we start talking with the neighbors. Some of them even stake out the house with me while I take video of thousands of bats flying out. The health department comes to try and capture a live one. They can't get to one though, none are loose inside the house, they are stuck behind drywall and plyboard panels and enmeshed into the insulation. I open up all the crawlspace doors and seal the attic shut, then I come out and there are 6 in the attic. I catch one and bring it to the health department. Now, here we are, evacuated, living on 1/4 of our personal goods, back to our trailer. During this time, we've been coordinating with lawyers, insurance, pest control, various contractors. The assessment is as such: We bought the house from an estate. In WA State, an estate does not need to disclose anything wrong about the house, it is buyer beware. (no form 17) However, from neighbors and facebook digging, we know that the estate had a son-in-law who stayed at the house nearly 2 years working on the home to make it more sellable and auctioning off antiques. There are panels and flimsy boards, and lights in weird places in the crawlspace above the attic. We also noticed fly larva coming out of the boards that the inspector missed. Likely this was work done by the seller. The inspection report identifies the pests as rodents but only as a problem in one area. Now the entire attic and all the storage crawl areas have insulation and bat poop. The gutters and roof seams are completely coated in insulation and poop. Insurance denied our claim, they say the problem is pre-existing because of the evidence of pests in inspection, despite the severity and scale of the problem now. Other neighbors confirmed that the original couple that lived there knew about the bats and showed them how many there were, like 10 years ago. Lawyers we've talked to say its very unlikely we would win a case. The sellers knew all their legal loopholes (son-in-law was a house flipper) - they may have hidden the problem but that isn't illegal, even though it led to very hazardous conditions for our infant. If we lose the case, we owe tens of thousands in legal fees. The cost to fix is exceedingly high. $20-40k just to get the bats out, possibly reroofing the entire house (likely above $60k - its a complex roof.) Then redoing all the interior insulation and flooring in the attic (more than $20k). Possibly with enough haggling and putting in some labor myself, I could get costs close to $60K, but that may be wishful thinking. HELOC loans, home equity loans, and equity agreements, all seem to be inaccessible, we are just too improperly leveraged, we've only made a handful of payments so far. Maybe we could cover part of repairs, but likely not all of them. So - now I put you in our shoes: ​ Risky lawsuit against the sellers and the seller's realtor. 2) Risky lawsuit against insurance 3) Risky concoction of overleveraging (HELOC/HEA) to pay for repairs 4) Strategic default, we loose $200K immediately and locked out of real estate for years 5) Try to convince a few insane investors to pay off our equity, take out business loans to fix, remodel, and turn the place into a BNB (very unlikely and also risky) 6) Cash out my 401K, sell a kidney, get a 2nd job, or enlist in the military 7) Sell our smaller property (maybe can get $450K for it) and rent somewhere while we fix the new place, but then we lose our last vestige of security I say this all in the context of not wanting to live in that home any more. We love the neighborhood, but feel that the place is going to be a complete and absolute money pit. With enough love, attention and improvement, and changes to the Fed's rates, we could probably sell for $1.1M or higher if it was proven bat free, repainted, and some other aesthetic work was done. But it would take $150-200k to get there, so it would virtually be a wash. With the market teetering in a million stupid directions, and the scale of severity of this problem, we are losing our minds. At least we have good Halloween costumes picked out this year.... UPDATE 1 (23/8/9): https://www.reddit.com/r/RealEstate/comments/15msie9/same_bat_time_same_bat_channel_update_from_the/ UPDATE 2 https://www.reddit.com/r/RealEstate/comments/1775yei/whats_spookier_than_a_house_full_of_bats_9/ ​ submitted by /u/Emu_Fast to r/RealEstate [link] [comments]

I (42M) am a registered nurse. My wife ( 41F) and I have a daughter who turned 8 today and we decided to throw a party for her. Despite me working full time at a hospital and part time at an aesthetics clinic, our finances are such that we are always late on the mortgage because of our other expenses. Mainly because my wife has a career as an equestrian and her expenses for that career set up back around $38,000 a year. Add that to our house in a gated community close to the stables where they keep my wife's horse and our student loans, shopping, golf, etc we are always behind on our mortgage. So I was shocked to find out that the day after we were denied for a very small loan, as well as a credit card that caters to people with bad credits that my wife paid an extra $550 for a better party photographer. We could not get the deposit for the other one back. In the days leading up to the party, I was losing sleep over our finances. Pulling doubles has become my norm but I'm usually off Saturdays. However, I have a reputation as being the one who will pick up any shift on short notice, so much so that my coworkers resent me because management asks why they cannot be like me. So a coworker got sick last minute and I was told Friday night that they needed somebody for all of Saturday. Offering a 12 hour shift. I knew my daughter's party was today but I knew I would have spent the whole party sweating about the fact that we cannot pay our mortgage. So I decided to pick up that shift. When my wife found out I was going to work at 7AM and not going to be home until evening, she was furious and accused me of being a bad father. She has not talked to me since. AITA for trying to pay bills? submitted by /u/ThrowawayDueSho to r/AmItheAsshole [link] [comments]

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I am not The OOP, OOP is u/Weddingdressthrow11 My husband's friend made me uncomfortable at our wedding Originally posted to r/TrueOffMyChest Original Post March 13, 2023 Last weekend, my husband (27M) and I (30F) got married. It was a great wedding, and I had a great time leading up to it. There's been only one thing that's left a sour taste in my mouth. Growing up, I always wanted a big princess wedding. I know some people see those as tacky and immature, but it was always my dream. As part of this, the theme for our wedding was "ballroom," and I told everyone to wear the nicest things they owned and told the women in particular to try to "outshine" me. I even went as far as telling the married women to wear their wedding dresses. I didn't care about being outdressed. Instead, all I wanted was to fulfill the aesthetic in my head that I had for the wedding, which included everyone else looking nothing less than extravagant. (And no, before people ask, I don't regret my decision. It was really special to see my mom, aunts, and bridesmaids, all in their own dresses on my big day. It kind of felt like they were passing the torch onto me and I really enjoyed the experience.) Now on to my husband's friend. My husband has this friend I'll call "Kate" (27F). Kate is my husband's childhood friend and first love. My husband comes from a small town, and the majority of his friends he's known since adolescence. In their senior year of high school, Kate and my husband got engaged (which is kinda normal where they're from) but called off the wedding and never went through with it. It was mutual. They felt they were growing up too fast and wanted to slow down. The calling off the wedding was the end of the relationship, but they stayed friends. I knew this information prior to getting with my husband and never had a problem or felt jealous because I'm friends with a few exes myself. In fact, two of them were invited to our wedding. One was my bridesmaid (I'm bisexual) and the other was invited as a guest along with his current girlfriend. I've never had a problem with Kate being my husband's ex but I have had a problem with Kate as a person as she's kind of bitchy and gossips like she's still in highschool. A few examples of this are just a month into our relationship she confessed to my husband she still had some lingering feelings to which he responded they had already tried that and it didn't work, if she brought it up again he would to cut her off out of respect for me. I wasn't that mad at the time, because I understood they had a long history and my relationship with him was just starting out, and she owed it to herself to see if there was anything still there before it was too late. However after she was turned down her attitude towards me changed to fake nice and started calling me things like cougar, or asking me how I expected to make a relationship work as I want to be an anesthesiologist which would require long hours, or telling my husband's whole friend group how she doesn't like my "loud" personality, and when I confronted her about all of those things she would say "oh it was just a joke" or "you're so loud I felt like you would just go off". There's more shit but if I typed it all, I would never get to the point. Kate has her own husband I'll call Jarold. Kate and Jarold both make average in terms of finances as they are both teachers. Kate kindergarten and Jarold seniors. They got married last year. On a teachers salary Kate wasn't able to afford the most luxurious wedding dress out there, but I always had the impression she was happy with it. Kate does have another wedding dress from when she was going to marry my husband that her dad payed for (who has unfortunately passed now) which in terms of fanciness is a bit nicer, but obviously she didn't wear that dress to her own wedding. I was expecting Kate to wear the wedding dress she wore to her own wedding to our wedding. But when I looked and saw her she had the wedding dress she was supposed to wear when she was getting married to my husband. When I saw her I immediately went "wtf" but decided to just drop it because I didn't want a conflict on our wedding day. My husband, however, was also confused on why she wore that one and asked her about it without me even having to tell him I was uncomfortable. She responded "well your wife wanted such a big princess wedding I thought I'd wear this one because it follows the theme more, don't tell me she's upset about it, she's the one who said come in you're nicest clothes and this is my nicest dress" I feel like I'm not allowed to be upset even though I am, and I know this is my fault, but the whole thing has really left a bad taste in my mouth. I would've never been okay with her wearing that one if I'd known she was going to, and I feel like she should've asked. I keep telling myself it's not that big of a deal, and during the daytime, when I'm distracted, I don't even think about it. But I've always been a night owl, and it makes me shitty every time I think about it before I fall asleep. So now I'm here complaining on reddit like a loser. I feel pathetic. OOP ON WHY HER HUSBAND IS STILL FRIENDS WITH HER Most of the stuff she did was at the beginning of our relationship (we've been together 5 years), which did leave to my husband having a talk with her about not being friends anymore. She said she was sorry she offended me and didn't realize I didn't have "their" (referring to his friend group) sense of humor. He said that maybe the things she says just aren't funny. And once she said that, it only reinforced his decision to cut her off because he said, "Even now you can't just say sorry." It's always I'm sorry, but..." which shows you aren't sincere. It was really awkward because she was friends with all his friends and we still saw her around but he would just hold my hand and ignore her. That lasted about a year until she got with "jarold" and she finally gave a sincere (or atleast what I thought was sincere) apology and said that she realized after getting with jarold who "is the love of her life" how upset she would've been if our roles were reversed and asked for another chance of us all being friends. Despite my better judgement, I agreed, and while the comments aren't so directly rude anymore, sometimes her tone towards me sounds like she thinks I'm dumb or I feel like there's a double meaning to her words. Ive noticed shes kind of a bitch to all their friends tho and they've just accepted it as a part of her personality. I've been feeling like I'm going crazy for a while because she hasn't said anything directly rude, but after reading these comments, I'm going to have a conversation with my husband about it tomorrow. OOP ON HER HUSBAND'S EX KEEPING THE DRESS I did ask her that when I saw it the first time. She said she kept it because it was the last really nice thing her dad bought her before he passed. She was 19 when he died. OOP ON HOW SHE KNEW IT WAS THE OLD WEDDING DRESS I've answered this twice in other comments. But basically I saw the highschool one in her closet once, we were invited to her wedding last year and I remember what her dress looked like not to mention we took a shit ton of photos, and three when my husband confronted her even if I hadn't realized it on my own I would realized it then. Update March 14, 2023 Hello guys, here's the update. So I talked to my husband about it this morning, and when I brought it up, he immediately let out a sigh of relief. He said, "I didn't know how to bring it up because you didn't seem bothered, but when I saw her in that dress, I thought it was very weird she wore that one." He went on to say that he even considered asking her to leave because he thought it was rude but because I had no reaction to the dress he thought I either didn't care or didn't recognize it but either way if I wasn't bothered he didn't want to disturb my peace of mind by kicking her out. We discussed and he's going to have a talk with her, not just about the dress, but her treatment of me in general and explain that going forward she will not be a friend in our lives. After this talk, I've decided to let it go and focus on my new marriage. This was a small thing, and now, after I've talked it out with my husband, I feel kind of silly I let it bother me this much. Im at peace she will no longer be in our lives and that's enough for me. Someone said you gave her the chance to wear the dress her dad got her and gave her a gift. That was kind of a "huh" moment for me because no matter what her intentions were, that is true, and I'm glad she got to have that moment. End of update the rest of this is just answering questions and explaining what the wedding looked like. A common asked question is how did we even know what the dress looked like. I said it a few times in comments, but I've seen it a couple of times before in her closet. Usually, when my husband's friend group hangs out, the guys all get ready at one of their places, and the girls get ready at one of our places. Then we all meet up to wherever we're going, whether that's a pub crawl, or a concert, or music festival, etc. Kate hosts pretty regularly, and It's during those times I've seen it in her closet while she looks for something to wear. And when she got married to Jarold she put her other wedding dress right next to the high school one. As for my husband, I asked him about that today, and he said when they broke up, Kate asked if he wanted to see the dress since there was no point in hiding it anymore and he said yes. And then when they told their friends the news the friends also wanted to see the dress so she put it on for them too. On to pictures, I'm not going to post any, but I will explain how it looked for those of you who wanted to know. So firstly lots of people showed up in wedding dresses and that was absolutely beautiful. One thing my friends from college did was do a fifties Marilyn Monroe type glam, and it was killer. One of the staff was able to find a red carpet and we took a bunch of black and white photos of them. I had about five girls wear their Quince dresses, which was GORGEOUS 😍 . Finally, some parents dressed their little girls up in actual princess costumes, which I thought was really cute. The guys also dressed really well too. One guy did a sequin tux. Quite a few went for a Rockstar type suit. My husband's best man went for this really gorgeous red velvet tux. And my dress was this really shimmery really poofy ballgown type dress with a flower design on the veil that I got custom made for me and then I had it designed where I could actually unattach the poofy part of the dress (for the reception) and then by doing that it turned into this long sleek white shimmery dress with a leg slit. RELEVANT COMMENTS ON WHAT THE DRESS LOOKED LIKE The one she wore was a champagne colered lacy (not necessarily sexy or anything but it had it a lot of lace) V neck dress with a collar??? (I'm not really sure how to explain it) with a track that had roses stitched into the design that were champagne colored like her dress. I don't know if I did a good job explaining, but it's very pretty in person. I am not The OOP submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

Last weekend, my husband (27M) and I (30F) got married. It was a great wedding, and I had a great time leading up to it. There's been only one thing that's left a sour taste in my mouth. Growing up, I always wanted a big princess wedding. I know some people see those as tacky and immature, but it was always my dream. As part of this, the theme for our wedding was "ballroom," and I told everyone to wear the nicest things they owned and told the women in particular to try to "outshine" me. I even went as far as telling the married women to wear their wedding dresses. I didn't care about being outdressed. Instead, all I wanted was to fulfill the aesthetic in my head that I had for the wedding, which included everyone else looking nothing less than extravagant. (And no, before people ask, I don't regret my decision. It was really special to see my mom, aunts, and bridesmaids, all in their own dresses on my big day. It kind of felt like they were passing the torch onto me and I really enjoyed the experience.) Now on to my husband's friend. My husband has this friend I'll call "Kate" (27F). Kate is my husband's childhood friend and first love. My husband comes from a small town, and the majority of his friends he's known since adolescence. In their senior year of high school, Kate and my husband got engaged (which is kinda normal where they're from) but called off the wedding and never went through with it. It was mutual. They felt they were growing up too fast and wanted to slow down. The calling off the wedding was the end of the relationship, but they stayed friends. I knew this information prior to getting with my husband and never had a problem or felt jealous because I'm friends with a few exes myself. In fact, two of them were invited to our wedding. One was my bridesmaid (I'm bisexual) and the other was invited as a guest along with his current girlfriend. I've never had a problem with Kate being my husband's ex but I have had a problem with Kate as a person as she's kind of bitchy and gossips like she's still in highschool. A few examples of this are just a month into our relationship she confessed to my husband she still had some lingering feelings to which he responded they had already tried that and it didn't work, if she brought it up again he would to cut her off out of respect for me. I wasn't that mad at the time, because I understood they had a long history and my relationship with him was just starting out, and she owed it to herself to see if there was anything still there before it was too late. However after she was turned down her attitude towards me changed to fake nice and started calling me things like cougar, or asking me how I expected to make a relationship work as I want to be an anesthesiologist which would require long hours, or telling my husband's whole friend group how she doesn't like my "loud" personality, and when I confronted her about all of those things she would say "oh it was just a joke" or "you're so loud I felt like you would just go off". There's more shit but if I typed it all, I would never get to the point. Kate has her own husband I'll call Jarold. Kate and Jarold both make average in terms of finances as they are both teachers. Kate kindergarten and Jarold seniors. They got married last year. On a teachers salary Kate wasn't able to afford the most luxurious wedding dress out there, but I always had the impression she was happy with it. Kate does have another wedding dress from when she was going to marry my husband that her dad payed for (who has unfortunately passed now) which in terms of fanciness is a bit nicer, but obviously she didn't wear that dress to her own wedding. I was expecting Kate to wear the wedding dress she wore to her own wedding to our wedding. But when I looked and saw her she had the wedding dress she was supposed to wear when she was getting married to my husband. When I saw her I immediately went "wtf" but decided to just drop it because I didn't want a conflict on our wedding day. My husband, however, was also confused on why she wore that one and asked her about it without me even having to tell him I was uncomfortable. She responded "well your wife wanted such a big princess wedding I thought I'd wear this one because it follows the theme more, don't tell me she's upset about it, she's the one who said come in you're nicest clothes and this is my nicest dress" I feel like I'm not allowed to be upset even though I am, and I know this is my fault, but the whole thing has really left a bad taste in my mouth. I would've never been okay with her wearing that one if I'd known she was going to, and I feel like she should've asked. I keep telling myself it's not that big of a deal, and during the daytime, when I'm distracted, I don't even think about it. But I've always been a night owl, and it makes me shitty every time I think about it before I fall asleep. So now I'm here complaining on reddit like a loser. I feel pathetic. I don't know how to link an update, but for anyone who wants it, it's on my page. submitted by /u/Weddingdressthrow11 to r/TrueOffMyChest [link] [comments]

Every year since 2015, I've been going to the movie theater as much as possible, keeping track of every movie I see (along with ticket stubs, scores, some thoughts, etc). I went 5 times in 2015, 9 times in 2016, 146 times in 2017, 165 times in 2018, 193 times in 2019, 45 times in 2020, 86 times in 2021, and 273 times in 2022. I rarely go watch a movie more than once, but it happens a few times a year. I try to go 3-5 times per week, depending on what's coming out. I have 25 or so theaters within 15 miles so I get a solid selection every week, everything from big blockbusters to obscure, one-theater-only international releases. I'm not big into horror so many notable ones will be missing from my ranking (Halloween Ends, Smile, Orphan: First Kill, Terrifier 2, Prey for the Devil, Jeepers Creepers Reborn, etc). With A-list, festival memberships/passes, reward points, matinee screenings, Discount Tuesdays, etc, I'd guess it probably averages out to only about $6-$8 or so per movie. I go alone most of the time. I set a goal in January 2020 to go see 200 different movies in theaters that year (after doing 192 in 2019), but had to abandon that in mid-March (after 44 movies) and didn't go again for the next 13 months because of COVID, then slowly started going back in late-March 2021. This year was a bit like making up for lost time in 2020/2021. After ever only having been to 1 ever before, I also went to 5 film festivals this year: Savannah Film Festival (15 movies in 3 days), Miami Film Festival (16 movies in 7 days), Outshine Film Festival (6 movies in 5 days), Fort Lauderdale International Film Festival (11 movies in 6 days), and the Gems Miami Film Festival (5 movies in 2 days). For most of the festival screenings, members of the cast/crew were present for the movie and Q&As. Some highlights were Ron Howard after Thirteen Lives, Eddie Redmayne after The Good Nurse, Kerry Condon after The Banshees of Inisherin, Dean-Fleischer Camp after Marcel the Shell with Shoes On, Jeremy Pope after The Inspection, Eric Appel after Weird: The Al Yankovic Story, Jared Harris after The Ghost of Richard Harris, and Michael Ward after Empire of Light. I try to stay away from reviews/trailers/etc as much as possible before watching something, to go in as blindly as possible. My ranking/thoughts/scores are for fun, I am not a professional (or good) reviewer and this isn't meant to be taken super seriously. It's basically just an enjoyment ranking, based on a score I give to a movie right after watching it. It's not really meant to put movies against each other, and I don't have any sort of checklist/requirements/guideline for scores. I just like going to the movies and keeping score for fun. The Worst Person in the World - 10/10 - I haven't been this blown away by a duo of lead performances since Marriage Story. I love the way it was structured like a book, with important chapters of her life. Anyone that is struggling (or has struggled) getting their life together in their 20s will be able to form a strong bond with this movie. It's full of heartwarming and relatable and beautiful moments but always casting a strong existential shadow. On a technical level, it's one of the best directed and edited movies of the year. The surreal (and dream/trip) scenes could feel out of place in most other movies, but they're woven in perfectly here. Absolutely perfect bittersweet ending and Waters of March was a great match to go with it. Catchy and stuck in my head for a while. The kind of movie that just makes you melt into your seat as the credits roll. My favorite movie of the year. Aftersun - 9/10 Petite Maman - 9/10 Babylon - 9/10 - Voodoo Mama is the best original song of the year. Margot Robbie puts in the best performance of the year (with an amazing scene-stealing performance from PJ Byrne in the few minutes he's in it). 'For the love of Cinema' is basically its own genre now (especially this year with Empire of Light, The Fablemans, Last Film Show, etc) but this is the cream of the crop. Starts off at 120 MPH, doesn't let off the gas for an hour, then it slows down a bit (maybe too much...), only for it to take another batshit crazy turn. An amazing final scene. Damien Chazelle does not miss. The scene where Margot Robbie, Olivia Hamilton, and PJ Byrne try to make a scene work with the new sound coordinator is the most I've laughed in a while. Top Gun: Maverick - 9/10 - The best action blockbuster in a while. I can't add anything that already hasn't been said a million times before. All Quiet On the Western Front - 9/10 - Up there with Paths of Glory, Come and See, The Bridge with being one of the best anti-war movies of all time. It has some of the best production design for a war movie I've ever seen, really impressive stuff for a non-Hollywood production. Very brutal, very grounded. Licorice Pizza - 9/10 CODA - 9/10 - The movie equivalent of a hot bowl of soup on a cold day. Soul-warming stuff. Reading the premise, you'd expect something really cheesy/tearjerky, but this gets around that and earns a bunch of real tears. Close - 9/10 - The bus scene was the single-most emotionally-impactful scene of the year. Heartbreaking tale of childhood innocence and the consequences of societal pressures. The Banshees of Inisherin - 9/10 Triangle of Sadness - 9/10 A Chiara - 9/10 - A really unique and great mob movie. It doesn't concentrate so much on the mobsters, but the effect a criminal-empire has on the family of the boss. You're put in the shoes of the daughther of a mobster, and seeing her navigate and come to acceptance with her dad's situation made for a really thrilling movie. Marcel the Shell with Shoes On - 9/10 - You haven't lived until you're sitting a full theater of people laugh-crying about a tiny shell. I saw this in July, couldn't stop thinking about it, and went to see it again in October with the director (Dean Fleischer Camp) in attendance. Arsenault and Sons - 9/10 - This was a reallllly good crime-thriller. It's about a French Canadian family that owns a regular small-town garage but are also involved in illegal off-season hunting and meat distribution. A close-knit spider web of crime that quickly unravels and crumbles. It reminded me a lot of Animal Kingdom. Great score that helps build tension throughout, amazing acting all round, with a great payoff at the end. The best French-Canadian movie since the Cannes double-premiere of You're Sleeping Nicole and Mommy in 2014. Weird: The Al Yankovic Story - 9/10 -Seeing this in a huge, sold out, 1200-seat theater with a completely raucus and wild late-night crowd full of Weird Al fans was honestly the most fun experience I’ve ever had at the movies. Something I'd pay a lot to experience again. Hilarious, perfectly-outrageous, but with a good amount of heart thrown in. Score is maybe inflated a bit based on how many drinks I had beforehand. Happy that Roku financed it in the first place, but still a bummer this won’t get a theatrical release. I feel like it was strongly elevated by that. Stars at Noon - 9/10 - My only complaint is that it wrapped up so quickly. I wanted another hour. Claire Denis' best movie since 35 Shots of Rum. If someone asked me to suggest a movie that's flown completely under the radar this year, it'd be this one. It's full of great performances, geopolitical spy/thriller intrigue, and mystery. The Whale - 9/10 - Brendan Fraser is rightfully getting a lot of praise for this performance, but the whole cast deserves it. Hong Chau and Sadie Sink put in two of the best supporting performances of the year. Aronofsky's recent stuff might get too bogged down by religious allegory but this worked on many more levels. Novembre - 9/10 - A mix of Sicario and Zero Dark Thirty. An air-tight, real-life, crime-thriller that doesn't waste a single second and keeps your heart pounding throughout (especially that one raid scene near the end, holy shit). Holy Spider - 9/10 The Ghost of Richard Harris - 9/10 - The best documentary of the year. A sweet and honest tribute by 3 sons for their legendary, complicated father. It doesn't shy away from the tough topics, and the interviews feel deeply-personal, more than most documentaries. It covers his faults and his greatness evenly, perfectly balanced. The Jim Sheridan segment is probably my all-time favorite documentary interview, totally honest and revalatory. Red Rocket - 8/10 - Pound-for-pound the funniest movie of the year and the best comedy since Don't Look Up. Avatar: The Way of Water - 8/10 EO - 8/10 - On one hand, it made me lose all hope in humanity. On the other hand, it fully restored it. A delicate balance, and a beautiful little puzzle of a movie, and maybe the best overall score of the year. The Good Boss - 8/10 The Batman - 8/10 The Unbearable Weight of Massive Talent - 8/10 Ramona - 8/10 - Lourdes González is completely mesmerizing in this. One of my favorite performances of the year. A sweet, breezy, and quirky comedy-drama. The color/melodrama of Almodovar, the walk-and-talk romance of Linklater, and the aesthetic of Noah Baumbach, but a beautifully-personal and cute story that makes it stand on its own. Gagarine - 8/10 - A beautiful and sad story of childhood imagination and loss. It's an extremely unique take on the coming-of-age/first love/early friendship genre. Super sweet. Lyna Khoudri is going to be huge, I think. Came out of nowhere and blew me away. George Washington is one of my favorite movies ever, and this reminded me a lot of that. There was something really comforting and innocent about it. Olga - 8/10 - Jaw-dropping performance for a first-time actress. Maybe the best debut performance in a while. Intertwined real-life footage doesn't work most of the time, but it was perfect in this movie. Amazing sound design, lightning (in the gyms especially), and use of non-actors. Imaginative transitions. Some sports movies can make 'big competition climax' seem corny and fake, but this was the opposite, it was a perfectly shot climax, like an Olympics documentary or something. The current situation in Ukraine adds a whole new parallel/layer to this already-amazing movie. Thirteen Lives - 8/10 - Formulaic but very effective. A bit too long, but still a great rescue/survival movie. If this doesn’t win the Sound Design and/or Production Design Oscar, then I don’t know why those awards exist. Emily the Criminal - 8/10 Bodies Bodies Bodies - 8/10 En Corps - 8/10 - Beautifully choreographed and uplifting movie. Knives Out: Glass Onion - 8/10 X - 8/10 Everything Everywhere All At Once - 8/10 Tar - 8/10 - I really wish this cut the last 10 minutes. For me, the perfect end point would have been when she's watching the old Leonard Bernstein VHS tape at her childhood home, but Cate Blanchett carries this to greatness. Puss in Boots: The Last Wish - 8/10 - Animated movies aren't really my thing, but this was a really fun and cute movie. A Hero - 8/10 Crimes of the Future - 8/10 Drunken Birds - 8/10 Doctor Strange: Multiverse of Madness - 8/10 Spider-Man: No Way Home - 8/10 - A really fun time. Official Competition - 8/10 - A biting, meta, and sharp satirical-comedy set in the world of filmmaking. Maybe Penélope Cruz's best-ever performance. Italian Studies - 8/10 Happening - 8/10 The Northman - 8/10 Huda's Salon - 8/10 - This came out of nowhere. A lot more brutal and graphic than I thought it would be. Elvis - 8/10 - Tom Hanks was miscast (it should've been Bill Camp),but I get that you need a big name in this. The first few minutes suck, but a fun ride after that. Nightmare Alley - 8/10 Cha Cha Real Smooth - 8/10 - Sweet, lighthearted, unique, and refreshing rom-com. I need one of these once in a while. The Menu - 8/10 Alcarras - 8/10 - I love a movie that just blindly throws you head-first into a complicated, layered, and relatable family drama. There's a rich built-in history that you can slowly piece together. The grandpa was amazing. All of the children felt like their own pillars to the story. A stern-but-loving dad clumsily trying to keep it together against a changing tide. Really great stuff. Devotion - 8/10 Honk for Jesus. Save Your Soul - 8/10 - One of these days, Sterling K. Brown is going to get the recognition he deserves with a big award nomination (like he should've gotten for Waves a few years ago). This was really solid religious satire. It's like a behind-the-scenes version of The Eyes of Tammy Faye. The Phantom of the Open - 8/10 - Liked this a lot more than I expected. "If life is tea, she's my sugar" is one of my favorite lines of the year. It does feel like Mark Rylance is always playing the same character though. Black Panther: Wakanda Forever - 8/10 Fire of Love - 8/10 Paris, 13th District - 8/10 Brighton 4th - 8/10 Montana Story - 8/10 - Both comforting and unsettling. A really low-key family drama that sticks with you. Haley Lu Richardson is easily one of my favorite actresses, she's great in this. The Fablemans - 8/10 Drive My Car - 8/10 Lost Illusions - 8/10 - A sprawling epic of early-1800s French publishing (as boring as that sound, it's really not, it's completely captivating and flies by) and a great story of ethics vs profits. I love that Xavier Dolan just randomly shows up in things. The Lost King - 8/10 - Surprisingly sweet story about finding the body of King Richard III. Some of the comedy with the ex-husband character doesn’t land and feels really dated, but overall a solid modern biopic. I liked that they made King Richard a ghost-like character that followed her around, it might have been too generic of a biopic if they didn’t do something like that. Corsage - 8/10 Blonde - 8/10 The Inspection - 8/10 She Said - 8/10 - The Five Devils - 8/10 - That karaoke scene though. You Can Live Forever - 8/10 - This reminded me a lot of 2018's Disobedience (starring Rachel McAdams and Rachel Weisz), it's a story of forbidden lesbian love story set in a small-knit, religion-controlled community, led by 2 great lead performances. Really good drama with an amazing soundtrack. Plus, I'm a sucker for any Quebec-based films so this gets extra points. One Fine Morning - 8/10 - It’s hard to explain but there's always a comforting warmth to Mia Hansen Love’s movies, and this was no exception. Heartbreaking and beautiful performance from Lea Seydoux. Side note: Ending movies with a freeze frame is really corny and it never works, its a trend that should have stayed in the 80s or whereever. Matilda: The Musical - 8/10 Sam Now - 8/10 - Very thoughtful documentary filmed over 25 years. 500+ hours of footage cut down to a journey of 86 minutes, about 2 half-brothers looking for the mother that abandoned them without explanation. Nope - 7/10 The Gray Man - 7/10 - Totally ridiculous, totally stupid, totally enjoyable. As far as Netflix's globe-trotting bloated action movies go (Red Notice, Six Underground), this is by far the best. I know that's not a high bar, but this had that '90s blank check action movie' vibe that just felt right. Hustle - 7/10 - A movie with this many non-actors will usually get distracting, but this pulled it off. A really solid sports-drama-comedy. The Woman King - 7/10 Parallel Mothers - 7/10 - Well-built and well-acted like every Almodovar movie, but like All About My Mother and a few others, the melodrama chokes out the story and doesn't leave much room for any growth to the story. Penelope Cruz killed it as usual. Dollar Store Javier Bardem was pretty good too (it really did feel like Bardem wasn't available for the shoot so they got his doppelganger to replace him last-minute.) Dog - 7/10 The Tender Bar - 7/10 - Ben Affleck just straight up stole the show. He was made for this supporting role and he'd get my vote at the Oscars. One of the sweeter (although a bit over-sentimental) movies of the year. You can just tell it was a book first. Mixed in with a great soundtrack, brought down a bit by Tye Sheridan. Bullet Train - 7/10 Barbarian - 7/10 Plaza Catedral - 7/10 Hit the Road - 7/10 The Forgiven - 7/10 - It felt like a fully-loaded play with a million interesting characters. Great dialogue. Thor: Love and Thunder - 7/10 See How They Run - 7/10 - If the universe was fair, we'd have a 10-film series of Sam Rockwell and Saiorse Ronan solving crimes together. It takes a usual whoddunit movie, then flips it, then flips it, then flips it again. Pearl - 7/10 Bones and All - 7/10 - I wanted to love this a lot more. Michae Stuhlbarg is wasted and I'm so tired of Mark Rylance playing the same exact character every movie. I get that he's widely-regarded as one of the greatest theater actors of his generation, but I find him very one-dimensional in film. This was a good movie, but I think it could've been a lot better. Hold Me Tight - 7/10 - An amazing performance from Vicky Krieps, but it gets a bit too jumbled/confusing for me to give it a higher score. It felt like a puzzle missing a few pieces. Maybe that's the point. I don't know. The 2 intertwining realities kind of blend it together. 2nd Chance - 7/10 Three Thousand Years of Longing - 7/10 - George Miller swings for the fences, sometimes it lands, sometimes it crashes. This lands, and then crashes. Coupez! - 7/10 - I went in thinking this was just a remake of the Japanese One Cut of the Dead, but was pleasantly surprised that it went another layer deep. If you want a horror-meta-comedy, this is it. God's Country - 7/10 Maigret - 7/10 - Decent, predictable, and mostly-forgettable crime procedural set in 1950s France, but does enough to keep you interested in the murder-mystery. You can figure it out pretty early on though. Wild Men - 7/10 DC League of Superpets - 7/10 The Box - 7/10 Compartment Number 6 - 7/10 Ambulance - 7/10 - I know I'm supposed to hate this, but I just can't. I could list a million reasons why it sucks: The constant tonal changes (from a little girl literally being impaled by a fence to a few wise-ass jokes a minute later), so much product placement I felt like I was watching the Super Bowl, the sun being blasted into my eyeballs every 5 seconds (we get it Michael Bay, the sun exists), a super-weird marriage counseling scene, the awkward camera angles, etc. All that being said, it was just a whole lot of fun. To Leslie - 7/10 - Crippling alcoholism is a common theme at the movies this year. Andrea Risenborough and Marc Maron are awesome in this, but it's mostly something you've already seen before. Moonage Daydream - 7/10 - Was worth watching in IMAX (not often this can be said for a doc), but not my favorite documentary of the year. Memory of a Free Festival has been stuck on my playlist since watching this movie. A Love Song - 7/10 Confess, Fletch - 7/10 - Jon Hamm awkwardly and confidently finds himself in the middle of an intercontinental murder-mystery. It's as fun as it sounds. Watch it. Vengeance - 7/10 Nostalgia - 7/10 Amalgama - 7/10 Wet Sand - 7/10 Argentina, 1985 - 6/10 - The tone was kind of weird, I went in expecting a fully-serious trial-drama (about post-dictatorship Argentina and the trial of the military leaders that ordered thousands of murders), but it ended up being played for a lot of laughs. Still a pretty good legal-drama though. Clerks III - 7/10 Navalny - 7/10 Sundown - 7/10 - Lowkey, vague, slow, sun-drenched chiller that sticks with you. Jockey - 7/10 - The Duke - 7/10 That Kind of Summer - 7/10 - Not many movies are this honest and open about sexual experiences. 18 1/2 - 7/10 - Take a weird ass turn near the end but I enjoyed the bizzaro-alternate-history angle. Watergate told from a fictional personal point of view. Watcher - 7/10 - Maika Monroe in a psychological-thriller, what more needs to be said? Last Film Show - 7/10 Everything Went Fine - 7/10 Scream - 7/10 Cyrano - 7/10 - Impressive set pieces & choreography and an amazing sound track ("Wherever I Fall" is a song I find myself going back to a lot, same with "Someone to Say"), but a like most of Joe Wright's work, it ends up a bit on the wrong side of bland. The great long-shot battle scene reminded of a lot of what he did during the famous beach beach in Atonement. Bonus points for the full-on commitment from Peter Dinklage, Kelvin Harrison Jr, and Haley Bennett, you really felt it on screen. Pre-2020 I could see this movie having been a huge crowd-pleasing hit, like The Greatest Showman. Kind of a bummer it flopped so hard. Violent Night - 7/10 Spoiler Alert - 7/10 Ali & Ava - 7/10 The Territory - 7/10 The Lost Daughter - 7/10 Lunana: A Yak in the Classroom - 7/10 The Daughter - 7/10 Soul of a Beast - 7/10 Vortex - 6/10 - Technically impressive, and Alex Lutz had a really amazing supporting performance, but there's only so much double-perspective aimless wandering I can take, and it turns out 2 hours and 29 minutes is past my limit. Dario Argento's terrible French was really distracting too, he was really struggling to get lines out, and not in the natural way you'd expect/want. If you're in the mood to have your heart and soul crushed by the horrors of old age and the degenerative brain diseases that await many of us, I'd highly suggest *The Father or Amour over this movie. Hardcore Gaspar Noe fans will like it though, he has a unique way of getting under your skin, and he definitely digs here. I liked the maze-like/claustrophobic/cramped feel of the apartment though, that really elevated the whole thing. The shower scene and the gas scene really hit, liked those a lot.* Pinocchio - 6/10 Beast - 6/10 Decision to Leave - 6/10 - Muddled, confusing, weird tonal changes, but it did look great. The most disappointing movie of the year for me, especially considering The Handmaiden is one of my all-time favorites. Neither a good romantic story nor a crime-drama. It's kind of just stuck in between. White Noise - 6/10 - 9/10 first half, 3/10 second half. The train derailment in the movie kind of happened at the same time as the derailment of the movie itself. Neat. Emergency - 6/10 The Bob's Burgers Movie - 6/10 Uncharted - 6/10 The Quiet Girl - 6/10 - I had really high expectations for this going in. It was one of the year's biggest indie hits in the UK & Ireland and it was a festival darling all across the globe. I thought it ended up being....just fine? It's a pretty generic story, an unwanted/overlooked child gets sent away to distant relatives in the country and they bond over shared trauma/sadness. It was well-shot and well-acted, but I was mostly left disappointed. Saint Omer - 6/10 Armageddon Time - 6/10 - Anne Hathaway and Anthony Hopkins made this worth watching. Everything else, not so much. The 355 - 6/10 - An okay, generic, time-wasting action-thriller, with every plot twist you'd expect and a few good one-liners and world-travelling set-pieces (think *Triple Frontier, or a Jason Statham/Liam Neeson vehicle with better cinematography). Brian and Charles - 6/10 - An extremely British Lars and the Real Girl. A Taste of Hunger - 6/10 Lightyear - 6/10 Jackass Forever - 6/10 Death on the Nile - 6/10 - The fun thing about a murder-mystery is that deaths carry a lot of weight. Killing off half of the characters really destroys that weight and removes any sort of investment I had in the movie. A fun script and good acting kept this afloat. Moonfall - 6/10 - Watching Armageddon, The Core, and The Day After Tomorrow 500x times each as a kid will always keep a soft-spot in my heart for movies like this. The Outfit - 6/10 The Greatest Beer Run Ever - 6/10 Empire of Light - 6/10 - It looked gorgeous and sounded amazing, but overall feels like a huge wasted opportunity. There's an amazing movie in there somewhere, as a tribute to cinema and theaters while following the cast of misfits keeping a theater alive on the south English coast, but it gets buried by a terribly-boring (and kinda creepy) main relationship, an overly-hammy performance by Olivia Colman, and way too many side-stories. The Drop - 6/10 - Painfully, absurdly, and wonderfully awkward but at the end of the day, it's a bit too stretched thin. Like an SNL sketch that goes on too long. Ride Above - 6/10 - It relies too much on being emotionally-manipulative (quadriplegic girl teams up with autistic farmhand to train horses at a failing family ranch, I mean, come on), but the racing scenes and acting keep this interesting enough. The Estate - 6/10 Dual - 6/10 - Riley Stearns's previous movie, The Art of Self Defense, was one of my favorite dark-comedies of recent years. I liked the premise, and I liked the alcoholism parralel, but I couldn't get past the terrible casting of the two leads (Karen Gillan/Aaron Paul). The Bad Guys - 6/10 Downton Abbey: A New Age - 6/10 - I've never seen a single episode of the show, but I've seen both movies. It didn't quite have the cozy feeling of the first one, but it was still charming and overly-extravagant enough to be enjoyable. Points lost for many cliché plotlines. The Good House - 6/10 On the Come Up - 6/10 - Very clunky in the middle and about 30 minutes too long, but the rap battle scenes make this a worthy watch, especially the last one. Eiffel - 6/10 Confessions of a Hitman - 6/10 - My dream movie or television project is a big-budgeted, sprawling retelling of the Quebec Biker War, but I guess this will do for now. Catherine Called Birdy - 6/10 Immersion - 6/10 Emancipation - 6/10 - If it wasn't for the worst color-grading I've ever seen in a major motion picture, the worst accent work of 2022, and a ridiculous hand-to-hand alligator vs Will Smith battle, this would've been pretty good. Three Minutes: A Lengthening - 6/10 - It's an interesting choice, making a full-length documentary movie from a 3-minute clip of a pre-WW2 town, but I think it was stretched too thin. Fantastic Beasts: The Secrets of Dumbledore - 6/10 All of the Old Knives - 6/10 - Not great, but I liked the 'old-school-and-overcomplicated-spy-movies-they-dont-make-anymore' vibe this had going on. It really is a throwback to 1990s camp. My Name Is Sara - 6/10 Master - 6/10 Don't Worry, Darling - 6/10 Men - 6/10 - I absolutely loved Ex Machina. I absolutely hated Annihilation. This is somewhere in the middle. Alex Garland has been very 'style over substance' for me in his past 2 features. Jessie Buckley was great as always though. Where the Crawdads Sing - 6/10 Till - 6/10 - In a vacuum, Danielle Deadwyler's courtroom scene is probably the most well-acted and captivating single moment I've seen on the big screen this year, and it deservedly should get her an Oscar nomination, but the movie as a whole wasn't as great as it should have been. Call Jane - 6/10 Luck - 6/10 Corner Office - 6/10 - In some moments, it's a really funny/relatable satire of workplace dynamics and the total absurdity of office culture, but most of the time, it's just too dry and slow to work. Really close to greatness though. I do love the variety of Jon Hamm's projects recently though. Nocebo - 6/10 Nanny - 6/10 Christmas Bloody Christmas - 6/10 - The first 70 minutes were good and the 2 mains had great/fun chemistry, getting drunk and discussing movies/music while people get brutally murdered around them. Then the last 15 minutes really dragged, really stretching for runtime there. Loved the physical media references throughout (Vinegar Syndrome, Severin, etc.). Firebird - 6/10 Moon Man - 6/10 Amsterdam - 5/10 - Kind of a mess, but Christian Bale makes it watchable. John David Washington on the other hand puts in one of the worst performances of the year. Bardo, False Chronicle of a Handful of Truths - 5/10 - Some of the best editing and set design of the year. The rest did not work. Sin La Habana - 5/10 Jurassic World Dominion - 5/10 - If Top Gun: Maverick is the perfect blockbuster, this is the blandest blockbuster. Too many characters you don't care about, too many stupid decisions, too many side-plots. It's passable but I'll never watch it again. Let this franchise rest for a while. American Dreamer - 5/10 - Peter Dinklage and slapstick comedy can only carry this so far. You Won't Be Alone - 5/10 - If Terrence Malick directed a folk-horror. Sounds amazing, but didn't do anything for me. Minions: Rise of Gru - 5/10 Benediction - 5/10 Fall - 5/10 Belle - 5/10 Mr Malcolm's List - 5/10 Spirited - 5/10 Passing - 5/10 - It was slow, but fine, until the ending blows the whole thing up. God that was bad. That should have stayed in the novel, it didn't translate to the screen at all. Strawberry Mansion - 5/10 Mrs Harris Goes to Paris - 5/10 Arlette - 5/10 - Basically a French Canadian Veep, but not nearly as biting or funny, except for a few moments. I can appreciate the fact that a movie mocking the government is partially funded by the government, especially in a movie about supporting culture and the arts, but the ending mostly deflates that goodwill. Memories of My Father - 5/10 - The most dragged-out, melodramatic death scene you've ever seen in your life. Plan A - 5/10 So Damn Easy Going - 5/10 Ticket to Paradise - 5/10 - Super-safe, super-sanitized, super-predictable, but I am happy that movies like this are still getting made and are bringing people to the theaters. I also wish more movies did blooper reels during the credits like this did, that's always fun. The Automat - 5/10 - If it hadn't turned into a glorified Starbucks ad in the middle, this might've been pretty good. Maixabel - 5/10 Estacion Catorce - 5/10 The Tale of King Crab - 5/10 The Lost City - 5/10 - Tracy Buttstuff. Sonic 2 - 5/10 The Contractor - 5/10 - 15 years ago, this would have been a huge, $150M-budgeted, franchise-starting, summer blockbuster starring Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt. Now, it's a lifeless and confusing action movie pretending to have political intrigue. I'm surprised it didn't also co-star John Travolta. Mothering Sunday - 5/10 - If you like naked people walking around aimlessly, this is the movie for you. Bros - 5/10 The Cow Who Sang A Song Into the Future - 5/10 - It bites off more than it can chew. It tries to tackle so many issues at once but can't Apples - 5/10 Breaking - 5/10 - John Boyega doing his best 'Denzel Washington in John Q' impression. Some scenes are so over-acted (especially with the bank manager), that they become accidentally-funny. Les Tricheurs - 5/10 Black Adam - 5/10 Loving Highsmith - 5/10 Lyle, Lyle, Crocodile - 5/10 - If only this could have lived up to the wonderful & lively opening dance/singing sequence between Javier Bardem and Lyle. It all goes downhill from there. Honestly, take out the stupid family (terrible casting all-around there, especially the kid) and cliché bad-neighbor, and increase the Bardem/Lyle scenes by 300%, and you've got something great. Utama - 5/10 - I get it. A family's way of life is dying and a stubborn, aging patriarch is bringing dragging them down with it. It's got great, sprawling landscape shots and feels very grounded, but I was just so bored. Father Stu - 5/10 Strange World - 5/10 Ahed's Knee - 5/10 - I feel like I don't know enough about middle-eastern geopolitical issues for this to work for me, much like the director's previous movie (Synonyms). Memory - 5/10 - As far as "im too old for this shit' Liam Neeson action movies this year go, this is miles ahead of Blacklight (see: bottom of this), but that's not a high bar. Unidentified Objects - 5/10 The Good Nurse - 4/10 - Drab, generic crime story that lacks any tension or suspense. Chastain was good, Redmayne was terrible. The Eternal Daughter - 4/10 - Watching a Joanna Hogg movie is like accidentally and awkwardly walking into someone else's therapy session, or it's like the feeling of waking up and instantly forgetting an insanely-vivid dream. It's uncomfortable. Frank and Penelope - 4/10 - Could be good if you're in the mood for a pulpy, cheap, late-night, Tarantino-ripoff crime movie, but it wasn't for me. Flee - 4/10 A Journal for Jordan - 4/10 You Resemble Me - 4/10 - Watch November instead. American Underdog - 4/10 - Could've been alright with more football and less sentimental-cheesy romance/religious stuff. Infinite Storm - 4/10 - I'm really burnt-out on survival-dramas. I had trouble staying awake during this one. Morbius - 4/10 Attachment - 4/10 Salvatore: The Shoemaker of Dreams - 4/10 - Once in a while, really talented people get together for a bunch of fast money and make an extended commercial that's not worthy of their talent. The Silent Twins - 4/10 Summering - 4/10 Jane - 4/10 My Donkey, My Lover, and I - 4/10 - Totally corny and painfully unfunny. Watch Wild instead, if you're in the mood for a 'middle aged woman goes hiking to discover herself' movie. Cool donkey though, points for that. Wine moms probably love this movie. Aline - 4/10 Wildhood - 4/10 - There is not a single original bone in this body. The acting was atrocious. Waiting for Bojangles - 4/10 Paws of Fury - 4/10 - The story behind the production of this movie is far more interesting than anything the movie itself offers. Delia's Gone - 4/10 - I thought Diane Keaton in Mack & Rita would run away with the honor, but Marissa Tomei in this movie easily puts in one of the worst performances I've ever seen on the big screen. It was like a bad parody of Matthew McConaughey in True Detective. Stephan James is picking really bad projects post-Beale Street. Jane by Charlotte - 4/10 - If a lame Mother's Day card was made into a movie. The anti-Ghost of Richard Harris. Awkward and clunky. Studio 666 - 4/10 I Am Here - 4/10 Detectives vs Sleuths - 4/10 - One of the most convoluted, nonsensical crime movies I've ever seen (I've seen The Snowman and nothing is ever topping that). A total mess from start to finish. Could not keep track of any character or motivation or "case number". The Invitation - 3/10 - I remember watching this in 2019 when it was named Ready or Not and didn't suck. I've never seen a vampire movie so afraid of an R rating. Laugh-out-loud stupid ending that should have been cut. My Policeman - 3/10 - Boring. Really came close to falling asleep a few times. Extremely sedated romantic-drama. I'd rather there was no "future" version of the characters, just the originals. Maybe that would've made it better. Leonor Will Never Die - 3/10 - Too meta. Too quirky. I felt like I was on the outside of an inside joke the whole time. Last Flight Home - 3/10 - There's something overly-sanitized, overly-edited, fake, control-heavy, and gross about this documentary. Just didn't feel right. At its core, its the story of a dysfunctional family milking their father's assisted suicide for their own needs. A sad, lonely man watching politics on TV in his final days, reminiscing about the good old days and reaching for death, while his family films it. Rifkin's Festival - 3/10 - Wallace Shawn was so awful in this. Woody Allen has some classics, but this is rock-bottom. Marry Me - 3/10 The King's Daughter - 3/10 - I don't think anybody else saw this in theaters. I remember Pierce Brosnan's hair, that's it. Both Sides of the Blade - 3/10 - I'm a huge fan of Claire Denis, but some of her more recent movies have left me more irritated than anything else. If you want to watch 2 hours of an annoying couple just bicker at each other for no reason, I guess you might enjoy this. I hated all 3 main characters. I didn't care about what happened at all. Worst love triangle ever. The Rose Maker - 3/10 Mack & Rita - 3/10 - "She's so old every second counts" was the only redeeming line or memorable moment. It felt like a movie that was supposed to come out 20 years ago. Freaky Friday, but creepy. Firestarter - 3/10 Easter Sunday - 3/10 - Awkward, unfunny, cheap-looking. Medieval - 2/10 - Some of the all-time funniest/awful line-dubbing by Michael Caine in this. Maybe the worst-edited movie I've ever seen. The story is impossible to follow. Hatching - 2/10 Three Headed Beast - 2/10 - What should have been an experimental 10-minute short is stretched out to an extremely thin and taxing 85 minutes. A boring relationship-drama about extremely unlikeable and annoying characters. Matrix Resurrections - 2/10 The Railway Children Return - 2/10 - From the poster you'd think this was just a cheesy, bland, forgettable British period drama. It turns out you'd be right. Enys Men - 2/10 - Every folk horror cliché messily jumbled together into a bundle of total nonsense along with purposefully out of synch audio and bad visuals. 90 minutes of pure cinematic torture. Please Baby Please - 2/10 - I wonder how they got Demi Moore to be in this. I feel like that's an interesting story. Simple Passion - 2/10 - The "French people having lots of sex" genre hits rock bottom here. It's like if a Lifetime movie accidentally got approved for an NC-17 rating. Like Me - 1/10 - A boring & annoying & explicit soap opera masquerading as a full-length feature film. Blacklight - 1/10 - Possibly the worst "action" film I've ever watched. This was "post-2000 Steven Seagal Action Movie" bad. Embarrassing for all involved. Other statistics: 17 triple-headers, 4 quadruple-headers, and 4 quintuple-headers. The most in a one-week span was 20 movies from Oct 21 to Oct 28. Movies I went to see more than once: The Worst Person in the World x2, Marcel the Shell With Shoes On x2, Elvis x2. Movie Theater Visits by Month: https://i.imgur.com/xIKqMNc.png Favorite Performances: https://i.imgur.com/Z0ih75e.png Past Rankings: 2018 (162 Movies) 2019 (192 Movies) 2020 (44 Movies) 2021 (86 Movies) In the next few weeks, I am planning to go see I Wanna Dance With Somebody, Living, No Bears, Women Talking, Alice Darling, M3gan, A Man Called Otto, Plane, The Son, House Party, and Broker. submitted by /u/BunyipPouch to r/movies [link] [comments]

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TLDR: GameStop is gearing up to launch their own NFT marketplace to disrupt the $150 billion gaming industry. At the same time, a series of coincidences are causing some investors to excitedly speculate about a Wu Tang Album NFT dividend -- any NFT dividend, even if not WuTang, would force short sellers to close their positions because short sellers are responsible for paying dividends on shares they are short on, but if they cannot deliver it because it's a unique NFT, they have no choice other than to close their positions. Let's first explore what we know about GameStop launching their own NFT marketplace. Facts: Announced at EDCON 2021, Loopring, a layer-2 scaling protocol on Ethereum for decentralized exchanges, is working with an un-named "premium owner" to launch a NFT marketplace. "Some people ask me a question whether Loopring will launch our own marketplace. The answer is no. We don’t have a plan to launch our own NFT marketplace, but we are working with a premium owner to make sure they can launch their marketplace successfully and very soon, probably in Q4 and with a lot of other stuff," said Daniel Wang, CEO of Loopring. Loopring is currently in Q4, and Q4 ends on Dec. 31. Source here. On Oct. 26, GameStop posts 8 new remote job listings looking for Director of Product Marketing for NFT Platform, a Sr. Software Engineer for NFT platform, and a Product Owner - Head of Web3 Gaming. The job descriptions talk about how "in this future, games are the places to go, and play is driven by the things you bring. Future creators won't just build games but also the components, characters, and equipment. Blockchains will power the commerce underneath." Web3, as defined by GMEDD.com, is "Web3, in the context of Ethereum, refers to decentralized apps that run on the blockchain. These are apps that allow anyone to participate without monetizing their personal data." In other words, your personal data will not be harvested for big tech's profits like it currently is. You will own your data and you can sell it if you want. Source here. https://preview.redd.it/hm3kzr4jf5w71.png?width=2298&format=png&auto=webp&s=454032a62a561e4ba621d2c1656e2e647db7b079 On Oct. 27, Loopring developer W.Tang briefly published code on a public GitHub repository, and the code includes multiple references of GameStop, such as "gameStopMeta.properties.collectionGrouping" under the Github commit titled "NFT Feature." This leak, which you can speculate on if it was accidental or intentional, essentially confirms GameStop is the "premium owner" Loopring is working with. Source here. GameStop's new Florida call center, which will hire 500 support employees, will be operational by the end of this year, and the subdomain support.nft.gamestop.com was created on Oct. 22, 2021. The timing of the domain and the opening of the large call center suggests they anticipate lots of user needing assistance with their new NFT offerings once it launches. Source here. Why the NFT marketplace matters: GameStop has not made a public press release regarding their NFT marketplace yet, but once the project launches, GameStop will essentially be ushering in a new age of gaming, where cutting edge blockchain technology returns the power back to the players, the creators, and the collectors. GameStop, with a current $13.27B marketcap, could be argued as severely undervalued because they are bringing this technology to the masses, and will continue innovating and disrupting the growing gaming industry. Power to the players. Power to the creators. Power to the collectors. This is the slogan of GameStop's nft.gamestop.com website / stealth department, which was discovered back in May 2021. Now, for fun, put on your tin-foil hat and let's explore the exciting theory on why GameStop could be preparing to give a dividend to direct-registered stock holders in the form of fractional NFT ownership of the legendary Wu Tang Clan album 'Once Upon A Time In Shaolin' Speculation: This theory first gained a lot of attention during the weekend of Oct. 23-24, but the original theory was posted by u/silver7una on Oct, 16. In his theory, u/silver7una gives the context on how a mysterious entity has purchased the legendary album "Once Upon A Time In Shaolin" in July from the Federal government, after the feds had seized the album from Martin Shkreli due to securities fraud. There is only one physical copy of this album, and it cannot be commercialized until the year 2103. A week later, we'd find out who the mysterious entity is and that the mysterious entity that purchased this album also made it into a NFT at the same time. But going back to the original theory, the broker who facilitated the sale between the mysterious entity and the federal government was Peter Scoolidge, who said in July, that the buyer would "identify themselves in the future, I'd say in the next 30-60 days." u/silver7una noticed that exactly 30 after the sale date of the album, Ryan Cohen tweeted, "Time for Pillow fights and 60s music" followed by a musical notes emoji. ​ Could these be song lyrics from the Wu Tang's one of a kind-album? Then, exactly 30 days after that tweet, or 60 days after the sale of the album, Ryan Cohen tweeted, "Talk is cheap, it takes money to buy whiskey." ​ Could these be song lyrics from the Wu Tang's one of a kind-album? ​ At this point, u/silver7una speculated GameStop purchased the album and that's why Ryan Cohen could be tweeting lyrics from the album that only a select few have heard. This trend and theory led apes to predict that Ryan Cohen would tweet on Oct. 26, exactly 90 days after the sale of the album. Lo and behold, Ryan Cohen tweeted a painting of "David vs. Goliath," and a reverse image search reveals the painting is from a Medium blog called Beating Big Tech which has the following mission: "Creating an action plan for Digital Freedom, to take back our data, protect our children, our privacy, our freedom, and our way of life." ​ https://preview.redd.it/o9s1nv1r85w71.png?width=1080&format=png&auto=webp&s=0fd456a614c4fbb9d9ac21168dbff3f9a95fd67c In attempt to understand what the 30 - 60 - 90 day tweets mean, u/rimigo42 noticed that 10 days after the latest tweet will result in the pillow fights tweet being 70 days old, the whiskey tweet being 40 days old, and the sumo wrestling tweet being 10 days old. On this subreddit, there is a tangent tin-foil theory regarding the significance of the numbers 741, which first gained significance after we noticed Ryan Cohen tweeted at exactly 7:41pm twice. Note: thanks to u/SimpsonsReferencer, we also now know that the section of the bible where "David Beats Goliath" is Samuel 1(7:41). credit to u/rimigo42 Anyways, 10 days from now is Nov. 5th, and on Nov. 5th one year ago, the legendary Roaring Kitty / DeepFuckingValue made 3 tweets regarding the GME squeeze, so u/New-Consideration420 is speculating in this post there will be an announcement regarding the NFT marketplace on Nov. 5th, because why not? Roaring Kitty could be a time traveler for all we know. ​ Is Roaring Kitty a cat, or a time traveler? ​ If you're still following the Wu-Tang theory, it's about to get EVEN MORE interesting now. On October 20, it was revealed that a Decentralized Autonomous Organization (DAO) named PleasrDAO purchased the album. They were able to purchase it with the help of Cream Finance (in this case, cream stands for Crypto Rules Everything Around Me, a reference to the original song C.R.E.A.M. , Cash Rules Everything Around Me, by Wu Tang Clan.) Cream Finance retweeted on Oct. 20 an older tweet from July 16: "In partnership with PleaseDAO, we're pleased to announce that the first DAO-to-DAO loan using Iron Bank. A $3.5m loan has been provided and is backed by a basket of historical foundation NFTs." https://preview.redd.it/9ne0o8ojb5w71.png?width=1206&format=png&auto=webp&s=6f0987c634efb2f49994b9437511f67a435c3504 Notice how Cream Finance chooses the ice cream cone emoji as their twitter handle. Then, notice how PleasrDAO, which partnered with Cream Finance, has the frog emoji along with the ice cream cone on their twitter banner. https://preview.redd.it/ap9jqqogc5w71.png?width=1086&format=png&auto=webp&s=5aa32e7435392f49eec584bfe427f989a6ca677d Cohencidentally, Ryan Cohen also tweeted a frog emoji along with a picture of a McDonald's ice cream cone on Feb. 24, the day when GME's stock price rose from the dead in After Hours trading and reached a high of around $180 in AH. Thanks to interviews with PleasrDAO and various congratulatory tweets for PleasrDAO, we know that the purchase of the deal took MONTHS, with the Chief Pleasr Officer, Jamis, spending over 6 months on it alone, so if Ryan Cohen is part of PleasrDAO then he would know about this deal even in February. ​ https://preview.redd.it/8w3z33isc5w71.png?width=1086&format=png&auto=webp&s=743682133933c3983501a519e811c18a5e2501cb Now, for perhaps the craziest part: Out of the 74 members of PleasrDAO, one member is anonymous. This member appears in a photo PleasrDAO took when they bought the album, but the member is wearing a hood covering their face: ​ I can't find at the moment who made this photo edit on superstonk, if you find it let me know so I can give credit to them. Reddit users then noticed that the hoodie is distinctive and looks extremely similar to the Hoodie Ryan Cohen wore in a previous tweet. So perhaps Ryan Cohen really is a member of PleasrDAO? So now there is a possible direct connection among PleasrDAO, Ryan Cohen, and GameStop. PleasrDAO in an interview with the NYTimes expressed interest in coming up with creative ways to share this album with more people while still honoring Wu Tang Clan's original wishes. Could they be thinking of sharing it through a dividend? People with an extremely sharp eye also noticed that Ryan Cohen's tweet on Oct. 10 had a strange reflection / glare on Ryan Cohen's shorts and on the GameStop store sign, which means the photo was taken through glass. Why would they take the photo through a glass? Notice the way Ryan Cohen is posing, very seriously unlike other tweets, with a diamond goatee, with the 7 video games, 4 controllers, and 1 console in the background. People speculate this looks like an album cover art that is inside a plastic album container. The extremely subtle detail of the photo being taken through glass to give that album cover aesthetic convinces me that this could be a clue. Note: some smart apes are pointing out that the reflection on RC's shorts could just be an inverse reflection of the store lights in the back. This allegedly happens as it’s a quirk of phone cameras when they’re pointed at a certain angle towards bright lights. ​ https://preview.redd.it/h147pbjzd5w71.png?width=1092&format=png&auto=webp&s=500af7d875cb7c9a1c14e55ef233c96c11884ab7 ​ meme created by u/mozerfuckerJones Then, do you remember the name of the Loopring developer who leaked code on Github? It was W. Tang -- WU TANG! I personally don't think the leak is accidental given how secretive the CEO of Loopring was trying to be, so I think it could be possible they chose a developer with a first name initial of W and last name of Tang to leak this and cause some buzz before the actual announcement. Finally, remember the nft.gamestop.com website from May? pplpleasr, one of the NFT-artists of PleasrDAO, did a recent Bloomberg video interview, and at minute 2 of the video, the GameStop NFT website shows up on the screen for many seconds, even though they weren't talking about GameStop at all! How could this be accidental? Youtube link ​ https://preview.redd.it/utasjeoeq5w71.png?width=1486&format=png&auto=webp&s=ee20e84a40c667a30d5d01826b42566ce6a5f22f This artist pplpleasr also created a beautifully animated Apes Together Strong NFT: to me, this suggests they are aware of the GameStop situation. ​ Apes Together Strong Also, Ryan Kagy, the NFT community lead and education manager at GameStop, tweeted the ice cream and frog emoji along with a Youtube link to C.R.E.A.M by Wu Tang Clan, but he later tweeted he was just flirting and would love for this theory to be true but he only knows as much as we do. ​ https://preview.redd.it/tlowgdw0u5w71.png?width=1088&format=png&auto=webp&s=d771e5ca6c19106fae31ba678e1e45a93a0881dc Why this tin-foil theory matters: First of all, it's ridiculously fun. Secondly, although the Wu Tang NFT album dividend is not necessary for the mother of all short squeezes, on the chance that GameStop does give fractionalized ownership of the album as a dividend, only direct registered stock holders are 100% guaranteed to receive it. This is because there are likely hundreds of millions of synthetic shares out there, and ComputerShare, the official transfer agent of GameStop, would be responsible for handing it out, so only direct registered holders would guarantee to receive it. Direct Registering Stock (DRS) means actually owning the shares in YOUR name, not the broker's or bank's or Cede & Co's (DTC) name. On ComputerShare's FAQ, it says "A dividend would only be paid in NFT form if the issuer decided that this is the format they would like to user." https://preview.redd.it/j2ou35rpg5w71.png?width=2384&format=png&auto=webp&s=f5858b84b44951e03d53ab934fbae0047fcc51b1 Legal precedent has already been set with another company called Overstock winning their court case regarding their decision to issue tokens as a dividend to force their shorts to close their positions. Overstock used ComputerShare to issue the tokens which caused shorts to close their positions because shorts couldn't deliver the tokens to the stockholders. And now ComputerShare is saying a NFT dividend is possible if the issuer wanted to do that. Thus, even if GameStop doesn't make the Wu Tang album the NFT dividend, they could still give a different NFT dividend, which should be a strong incentive for people who are considering direct registering their shares to do it, because personally I'd love to own any NFT GME decides to issue, and GME is the most likely company to even issue a NFT dividend. In the US, to direct register your shares you just have to call your broker and let them know you want to direct register them to Computershare. Fidelity is the fastest broker who can DRS your shares. Also, whenever there is a dividend for a stock, anyone who is short that stock is responsible for paying that dividend. Cash is fungible, meaning if the dividend is cash, short sellers can simply pay it up. But because NFT's are unique and limited, short sellers can't get their hands on it to deliver it. So the only option is to close their positions. If they don't make the Wu Tang album a NFT dividend, some people are speculating they could just offer the Wu Tang Album NFT on their NFT marketplace, to entice new users onto the platform. It would be great marketing! DRS is the way, let me know if you think I should add anything to this post. Note: this type of post is probably not the best post to share with friends who are completely un-initiated / unfamiliar about the GameStop situation. But another summary here could be a better introduction because it has way less speculation: https://www.reddit.com/r/Superstonk/comments/qb1p4d/connecting_the_dots_of_10_months_of_acquired/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3 submitted by /u/pupcolorado to r/Superstonk [link] [comments]

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