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AITAH for not tell my friend my shampoo had green hair dye in it?
I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/Friggie-Enthusiast Originally posted to r/AITAH AITAH for not tell my friend my shampoo had green hair dye in it? Original Post: February 22, 2026 I’m a guy with a bright green mohawk. I’ve had green hair for a while. I have to use a lot of hairspray to get it to stick up so I have to wash my hair almost every day. this makes the green fade pretty fast so I mix green hair dye with my shampoo and conditioner to make the color last longer. this is a common thing people with colored hair do. anyways, one of my friends stayed the night at my apartment after a show we went to because she missed her bus. in the morning she asked if she could shower. she obviously didn't have anything of hers because she hadn't planned to stay the night so I let her use my stuff. I showed her how to use my shower and told her to use my husband's shampoo and conditioner because "mine is for my green hair" and she said "okay" I gave her a towel, left, and she took a shower. when she came out I heard her gasp and scream and I asked her if she was okay. she started screaming that her hair was green and sure enough her blonde hair had green splotches all throughout. I asked her why she used my shampoo and conditioner when I told her it was for my green hair and she said she thought I meant it was a good, special shampoo and I just wanted to keep it for myself and that I should have specifically told her it had green dye in it. for context: the bottles are pink and opaque, but the caps are clear and are now stained green. the liquid inside is also green from the dye. I told her I thought it was obvious what I meant, but if she didn't fully understand me, she should've just respected my things enough to not to use them simply because I told her. she did not like that. now she won't talk to me and is telling all our other friends i’m an asshole for not telling her about the dye. maybe I could have been more specific but idk I don't think i’m the asshole here. AITAH? AITAH has no consensus bot, OOP received the majority of NTAs Relevant Comments Commenter 1: Did she not notice it was green when she poured it out into her hand??? OOP: yeah I was thinking the same thing, I would ask her but i’m still left on read Commenter 2: How do you keep it from dying your hands green? I have bright colored hair and the first few times I wash it after coloring, it turns my hands and shower a lovely (/s) pastel shade. OOP: I use lunar tides neon lime, it's really good at not staining your skin. I get that shit all on my face and scalp when I dye my hair and it's gone after one shower. Editor's note: after comments, OOP has posted two pictures to provide more context Picture of OOP's hair and conditioner descriptions of pictures First picture shows OOP taking a mirror selfie of his bright neon green mohawk. The sides of his head are shaved, leaving a strip of longer hair that from the front of his head to the back. The strip of hair has been styled upward and slightly forward as well. OOP also has a section of sideburn hair shown also in the same green color, matching the mohawk. OOP's face is blocked by his phone. Second picture shows OOP holding a hair conditioner bottle with a staining green colored cap, providing the fact that green dye has been used. OOP explained that the original color of the cap was clear prior to his use. end of the descriptions Update: March 31, 2026 (over one month later) UPDATE: AITAH for not telling my friend my shampoo had green hair dye in it? I know that everyone says this but man I did not expect my previous post to blow up so much. some people have been asking for an update, I’m sorry it took so long but I honestly forgot all about it until I saw a TikTok of some people on a podcast covering my story lol before I get into the update I’d like to clear a few things up. firstly, yes, I am a guy and yes, I have a husband. it's this new thing called "gay" if you haven't heard of it I suggest looking it up on google. secondly, a couple people were accusing me of this story being fake because I put hair dye in my shampoo AND conditioner when apparently you're only supposed to put it in your conditioner as putting hair dye in your shampoo doesn't do anything to maintain the color. I assure you this story is true, I’m just a fucking idiot who likes to waste hair dye apparently. I posted pictures of my mohawk and conditioner bottle to my profile, I hope that's sufficient evidence for you reddit skeptics. onto the update. exactly ONE of the commenters hit the nail right on the head with their prediction. a few days after the incident my friend texted me saying she was sorry for blowing up on me and that it was entirely her fault she messed up her hair and she just took it out on me because she was upset in the moment. she said I was right, she should have respected my things, and now we're cool. I know that must be really disappointing to you all, I got a lot of really harsh comments saying that she was a terrible friend and a terrible person and she must have mental disabilities and that she's too stupid to be allowed to live. you guys a fucking nuts lmao. i've been wronged in much worse ways, stealing a little shampoo is not the end of the world for me. a lot of you were curious as to how she didn't realize the shampoo and conditioner was green and I was too so I asked her. she said she did notice it was green but thought it was like that purple shampoo that doesn't actually turn your hair purple, it just makes it a nice blonde. this was her first time being blonde so I guess a green tinted shampoo was not beyond her imagination. the bottles also say something about color protection on them so I guess that makes sense. as for her hair, she tried using color remover to get the green out and that kinda worked but some spots were still a little minty green so now her hair is this lovely royal blue color which I, personally, think looks much better on her. thank you all for listening to my story and I implore some of you to be a little more forgiving in the future, stealing a little shampoo from your friends shower does not make you Satan. Relevant / Top Comments Commenter 1: Really happy to see this update. Though I'll admit that when I read your original post, my mind immediately went to the Overtone products, which I have used in the past when I had colored hair. Those say right on the packaging the color they deposit in your hair, so I was sitting there wondering if she hadn't read the package when she grabbed it. OOP: nah it wasn't a color depositing shampoo it was just regular color saving shampoo and I added a few tablespoons of my own dye in it Commenter 2: she messed up, got embarrassed, lashed out, then came back and owned it. that's honestly about as healthy as a dumb little friend drama like this can go DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]
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An Update 16 months later: Boyfriend’s sister now wants me to dye my hair to be a guest at her wedding
I am NOT the Original Poster. That is theimperishableroach. She posted in r/bridezillas Thanks to u/BakingGiraffeBakes for the rec! Do NOT comment on Original Posts. Latest update is 7 days old. Mood Spoiler: yikes on multiple bikes but OOP and boyfriend are fine Original Post: July 15, 2024 I apologize if this isn’t formatted the best, but I tried my best to break it up so it can be readable. :’) So to start this off, my boyfriend and I have been together for about a year now, and I’d say me and his family have been on decent terms. They are traditional, and I am alternative, but they accept their son’s decision, and are generally very polite with me. Issues began to arise, however, after his sister got engaged last fall. I had met her and interacted with her a few times at that point, and she had been generally nice to me. She told me that I was invited to the wedding, which I thought was very sweet, but little did I know what would entail. Her fiancé approached my boyfriend out of the blue, and asked him to be a groomsmen, to which he didn’t give much of an answer. My boyfriend expressed to me later that he wanted to attend as a guest, and really did not want to participate in the wedding itself. He has pretty bad anxiety, so that’s understandable, and he ended up declining the offer. His sister was immediately not taking no for an answer, and went as far as to send him the tux that he was “going to need” despite him declining the offer. What was even more shocking was that the tux was going to be hundreds of dollars, and she wanted him to purchase it, not rent it. He once again stood his ground, and she went to their parents and had them attempt to confront him. They immediately brought me up and began blaming me for his decision, despite me obviously having no say, and he defended me while once again giving a firm no. Things were quiet on that subject for awhile until a few weeks later when she informed him that she would not be able to provide a dinner plate for me. They are still planning the wedding, and at that point it was over 8 months away, so there is no reason why I could not be accommodated for considering that I was invited. She claimed that I was still invited, but that she just couldn’t accommodate an extra person. It was pretty obvious that I now wasn’t welcome, so I was debating even putting the date on my calendar to go, but now there is a new installment to this saga. She sent my boyfriend a message out of the blue, telling him that I will need to dye my hair, and that there is now a dress code for guests. Everyone in attendance is expected to wear certain colors (burnt orange or green) and I am supposed to dye my hair black. If you have ever dyed your hair, you know how hard black is to remove, so that request is insanely unreasonable. My hair is usually a dark red, and is rarely vibrant, but that’s beyond the point. I am not ruining my hair to accommodate to her guest rules, and the best that I could do is a wig, but I am honestly done at this point. My boyfriend respects my decision either way and has got my back no matter what, but I am still just in awe, because I have never experienced this. I feel like it’s 100% targeted, and I don’t know how this will affect my relationship with his family going forward. I just needed to talk about this, and I’m wondering if anyone else has had this happen. tl:dr- my boyfriend’s sister is seemingly angry at him for not wanting to be a groomsmen, so she is singling me out by not providing food for me, and asking that I dye my hair black. updates will be in the comments for now until I can better format them to be shorter and fit well into this post ! I can tag people in them if they get lost among the other comments ! Some of OOP's Comments: EtonRd: What on earth does it mean that you are still invited but they can’t give you dinner? You would sit at a table at the reception and everybody else would be served food and they wouldn’t serve you food? That’s insane. [...] OOP: Right? That was the most confusing part to me! I may have a trip that conflicts with her wedding anyway, so I can just casually miss it. I luckily have a very supportive partner who will defend me no matter what and doesn’t put up with his family’s bs so no matter what it should be fine. greenswizzlewooster: Sis is insane, and she hates you. Don't go to the wedding. There is no sane reason a guest wouldn't be served dinner like any other guest. And it's bad enough when brides presume to ask their attendents to dye their hair, but guests? She can go f herself. OOP: FR! I have heard of brides asking bridesmaids to dye their hair, which is already a big commitment, but guests? the dress code also threw me off so heavily bc why would she want everyone in attendance matching a certain aesthetic and not just bridesmaids/groomsmen? I hope people don’t show up because of it honestly. mammabearlovestea: First, she’s crazy. I hope you don’t end up going, these demands and changes are enough to give me whiplash and I’m not even going through this. The lack of a meal is so strange and it sounds like she keeps coming up with weird things to make you want to stay away. Second, with dark red hair and green clothes, I reckon you’d look stunning! So why on earth would you need to dye your hair? OOP: I’ll be going on a trip around the time of her wedding, so I’ll likely be off having the time of my life while she has her boring little wedding. I would’ve been down to wear green 100% bc I think it would look nice, but she just had to ruin it with the hair request. Imo she’s delivering her own karma by making people wear two very conflicting colors that only look good on their own, and I don’t even think she realizes it. jethrine: Oh, she realizes it all right. She wants to look good by comparison. OOP: apparently the aesthetic is supposed to be “fall colors” but I cannot see emerald green and burnt orange together fitting that vibe well. I would’ve chosen a mahogany color that closer matches the orange, and stuck to warm fall tones, but she either has no coordination skills or you’re exactly right. OOP adds: I have some extra things that I didn’t include here about how she’s treated her brother, so I might as well include them here. She did in fact just expect him to buy the tux, and told him that she wanted him to have it tailored to fit him EXACTLY so that it would look perfect. It was expected that he would buy it early as well, despite him currently saving money for his own place to live because his last living situation did not work out. This woman has also casually asked him for money for christmas (upwards of $500) which was supposedly to go toward the wedding, when her fiancé’s parents were already paying for most of it. He of course was shocked, and obviously can’t be handing out $500, so he got her some personal gifts that aligned with her interests. She seemed less than happy, despite her having only gotten him the same shirt she bought him 2 years in a row. Not joking. They grew up the exact same way (in a small and modest home with not much money) and she still chooses to overspend on lavish items like louis vuitton purses despite living in an apartment currently. Her fiancé was also in fact just a puppet for her to deliver her message to my bf, and wasn’t going to ask him to be best man. Boyfriend's parents: His mother is one of those little submissive trad wife types, so she doesn’t speak up much at all, but his father actually threatened his living situation (he is at home temporarily and is house hunting actively) if he didn’t comply, which he still did not. Seems to me like this is all one big petty bluff, and we have both outwardly called it. I’m considering sending her a personal message letting her know that I am offended at the request of dyeing my hair for her wedding and letting her know I won’t be attending unless I’m there as myself and being fed. To another commenter speculating if bf's anxiety is due to parents: Oh 100% it is. When I met him he was basically a servant for his family because no one had ever told him what a normal relationship a family should be. He’s told me that I saved him, because I’m the only person who he feels like he can talk to about his trauma, and I help him be a more strong person. He originally had trouble standing up to them, and now he sets very clear boundaries and lives a more carefree life. I think the turning point was our second date when his mom actually called and demand that he come home and pick her up to go somewhere. He told her to find another ride, and by the way she reacted, it was obvious that it wasn’t a common occurrence for her to hear a solid no. I won’t get into every issue she’s caused, but she’s a mess, and her husband does nothing but enable her insanity. GlutenFreeNoodleArms: buy the cheapest black wig you can and then pack yourself a whole picnic dinner! 😂 OOP: I have a black wig from a cosplay I did recently that’s been worn quite a bit and is now pretty raggedy so I may show up in that 💀 my goth ass with that wig is gonna be looking like a cheap spirit halloween animatronic OOP's hair: my hair is dyed red, not natural ! that’s why I’m especially concerned about trying to dye it a color that I don’t want to keep, bc it would be insanely damaging after all the bleaching that my hair has sustained :’) Update Comment: 1 hour later update: I have sent her a personal message detailing my boundaries and stating my requirements. This is what I said to her. Hi! I just wanted to shoot you a message and let you know that I heard from (bf’s name) about your request for me to dye my hair for your wedding, and I find that to be too big of a commitment for just being a guest at a wedding. If I don’t fit the intended aesthetic for your special day, then feel free to uninvite me. I was set to attend as his date, but I refuse to make an alteration to my hair that could leave it damaged and unable to be dyed back to my desired color. I would be happy to wear a green or burnt orange dress, and I can be formal, but asking guests to dye their hair is an unreasonable and frankly disrespectful request. As I said before, you may uninvite me if you please, because I am not honoring that request. Update Comment 2: 6 hour later UPDATE ABOUT THE MESSAGE I SENT: Of course, instead of responding, she brought her entire family into it. My boyfriend is absolutely livid that she spread my message around and is making a big deal about it, and isn’t speaking to her right now. His parents tried to get aggressive with him about it, and he told them that if they want to come to our wedding in the future, that they have to shave their eyebrows off and dye their hair green so they can see how it feels to be asked to alter their appearance like that. His sister is still being petty about it, so who knows what will happen going forward, but nonetheless I have been firm with my boundaries. She apparently sorted out the dinner plate situation, but just didn’t tell us for months, so I do in fact have food if I go, but I doubt that I will. Update Post: November 16, 2025 (16 months later) So over a year ago now, I made a post that got some attention, and then completely forgot about it. There was a popular demand for an update/resolution, so if anyone remembers this saga, here it is ! If you didn’t read the previous post or don’t want to, my bf’s sister expected me to dye my hair black and wear specific colors (burnt orange or green) to her wedding. She also attempted to exclude me by saying that she could not provide me a seat or food, after giving me an invitation and saying that she would love to have me. I attended the wedding, against what everyone advised, and I am SO glad that I was there to witness the absolute mess that it was. To properly start this off, I first need to talk about the rehearsal, which was also a mess. Everyone was disjointed and disorganized, the planner was yelling at people, someone stepped on a snake, and everyone kept forgetting what was rehearsed. It was a very hot day, and the rehearsal was outdoors, so everyone was sweaty and fed up. After the rehearsal, there was a dinner, where I apparently “embarrassed” everyone by pulling out a bottle of advil to give to my boyfriend because he had a migraine, and walked with him to the bathroom when he felt sick. Additionally, on the morning of the wedding, his parents sent a message (on his sister’s behalf) saying that my piercings weren’t going to be allowed either, which led to my boyfriend calling and confronting them. Despite all of this, I had now seen how bad the rehearsal was, so I had to be there for this wedding. I of course did not remove my piercings or dye my hair, I went as me, in a tight emerald green dress. When I arrived, I noticed multiple people with piercings and tattoos, as well as dyed hair. I immediately noticed that no one was wearing green or burnt orange, and the main wedding colors were beige and pink. As many people speculated, her improvised “rules” were definitely targeted toward me, possibly to try and make me look bad or embarrass me. Now onto the wedding. The speakers they used to play music sounded like they were waterlogged, and whoever was playing the music somehow paused it twice. Rather than having a flower girl, the groom had his grown male friend tossing flowers, and a guest nearly walked out because he threw flowers directly in his face. The groom walked out to X Gon’ Give it To Ya (very classy) while all of his buddies yelled and whistled. The bride’s grandma decided she didn’t want to walk out as rehearsed, and loudly argued with the event coordinator who was trying to lead her back over to where she was supposed to walk. Everyone was looking at each other, cracking jokes and whispering, and it might’ve been one of the least serious weddings I’ve ever attended. When it was time for photos, she asked me to get in the photo, only to purposely place me in the back. My boyfriend noticed this, and picked me up bridal style so I’d be in full view in every photo. They ended up giving everyone a plate to go up and get some food, and everyone was allowed one plate per person. I ended up waiting until the person serving the food switched out, and got two plates of food. The bride vanished for hours to take pictures, and everyone was left bored and waiting for cake. I had a great time partying with my boyfriend at the reception, and it turns out the bride was having fun partying too. We were watching back footage of the reception on the wedding photographer’s facebook page to try and find us dancing, and saw her in the background dancing on another guy. When I say on, I mean on, because her body was fully pressed against this random man. I went, I saw, I looked good, and I got to laugh at a failure of a wedding. That wraps up the saga ! Some of OOP's Comments: cashmerered: Are they still married? OOP: somehow, but my bf and I have always believed that he may swing the other way and that he married her for appearances. my bf showed up to their apartment one day to pick up something from his sister, and heard two hushed male voices, and footsteps running away before her husband cracked the door and asked what he needed. it’s comical how not into each other they seem, and how performative everything they do is. Granadafan: "someone stepped on a snake," Whoa whoa whoa, you can’t just gloss over this gem. Where did the snake come from, what was the reaction, was the snake ok? OOP: it was a fairly small snake that was just stunned, and someone picked it up and carried it away 😭 the chaos that ensued over such a harmless looking snake was hilarious though To another commenter: it wasn’t a baby snake, it was just a smaller sized snake ! there are a lot of small and harmless garden snakes where I live, and I pick them up all the time. they’re usually just scared and not trying to bite. lucyfussbudget1: Yeah, I am not scared of snakes, I find them rather fascinating. Nevertheless, this was a wedding? Or the reception? And someone just randomly steps on a snake and then the narrative just moves on? I have questions!!!! 🤷♀️ OOP: the rehearsal was where the snake got stepped on ! the bride wanted everyone to come to the venue to “rehearse” how they would walk and where they would stand or sit at the wedding. her wedding was outdoors, so everyone was walking through the grass, and that’s when someone screamed and we saw the snake. someone’s husband picked it up and carried it off 😭 Hope_Wally: Follow up questions how is their marriage going? How is your relationship with your bf (he sounds great especially in comparison to his sister)? How is your relationship with the sister now? OOP: seems to be going fine, but as I mentioned in another comment, I’m still not convinced that they are actually attracted to each other. my bf went to pick up a chair from his sister’s recently not knowing she was out, and when he knocked, he heard two frantic hushed male voices. we’ve been convinced for awhile that her husband swings the other way, and that definitely made it more likely in my mind. my bf and I’s relationship is great! at this point he has distanced himself from his family a lot due to this incident and many other events that have followed, such as them trying to force him into buying a property that he didn’t want, and locking him out of the house over it. they’ve always treated him like shit, so it’s not surprising, but we currently live together and are doing great ! I don’t see his sister much, and didn’t really like her in the first place, so pretty much the same as it’s always been. she’s the kind of person to try and live above her means and make her life look lavish while going into debt, and that’s a kind of person I can’t tolerate being around. there were also some extremely offensive messages that she sent to my boyfriend about me that caused him to cut off contact with her for months, so that was a nail in the coffin. submitted by /u/LucyAriaRose to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]
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