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Guys while going to office today, I saw a lot of school girls. And it reminded me of my school days. Till 6th or 7th standard uniform was skirt and shirt. But then from next year majority schools adopted salwar suit as uniforms. And let me tell you in my school it was ugly af. It couldn't be worse. There were rules like we have to put oil in our heads and make 2 braids, no makeup of any kind. And were even taunted/scolded as girls if we were seen laughing or just being friends with boys. And it made me think, I get it it's for precaution or whatever. But why are such rules only imposed on girls. Boys were never taunted or shamed for being friends with girls. Nor were they made to change their uniforms "for precaution". I get what was the point of it . But isn't it indirectly justifying that women's clothes are the reason for misconduct/harassment. submitted by /u/Rinuuu to r/TwoXIndia [link] [comments]

This is a repost sub. I’m not the Original OP (OOP) OOP: u/ShatskyRise Published on: r/relationships Story is: CONCLUDED Story timeline Main Post: October 19, 2015 Update: October 26, 2015 Final Update: October 30, 2015 Main Post October 19, 2015 My nephew [14/M] asked me [30/F] about his true origins, but his mother made us all swear we would tell her fabricated lies about him A quick background explanation : "Jack" is my boyfriend 14 years old nephew. I consider him to be my nephew because I've known him since the day he was born, even thought I am not married to his uncle (very common in my part of the world, so no comments on this please!) His mother was in her mid-thirtiestwenties when she desperately wanted a kid, so she either tricked (or paid, her story is a bit unclear on that part) a coworker of her into fathering a kid. Jack really loves me because I am the "cool aunt" and often confides in me, especially since hitting his teenage years. What we know about Jack's biological father : he used to be a coworker/acquaintance (we're unsure) of my sister-in-law, he's Black, he was married with kids, and he may have been deported back to his home country (or willingly returned there, that part is also unclear). Also, my sister-in-law is adamant he didn't know he fathered her child, and she never told anybody who it was. The fabricated lies about Jack origin : her mother fabricated a whole web of lie about Jack conception, because I guess she's ashamed of how he was conceived (personal interpretation). She asked the few of use who know the real story to propagate those lies, mainly that Jack was conceived during a trip to Italy, with an unknown Italian man she met on the beach and they had a night of unbridled passion...She said that having a fictional Italian father would explain is "curly hair" and dark skin. Never mind that she got pregnant a whole 2 months after her trip to Italy. Also, Jack look, well, Black. He's got very pronounced Black facial features and hair, as well as a very dark skin (his mother is the whitest of white). Despite this, his mother is having him believe he's the product of two Caucasians persons and described him as looking "Mediterranean" Recently, at a family reunion, Jake asked me if he could speak privately about some important matters he was too afraid to ask his mom (or his uncle, because he feared he may tattle to his mother). So under the guise of going for a ice cream run, I took him for a drive. He told me that other kids at his school were calling him a "nigger" (there's not a lot of black people around here, we're in the middle of nowhere in a very rural and white area...) and were laughing at him when he told them he's half-Italian. He said he know he looks like a black person, and he's pretty sure his father was black. He also told me he doesn't mind being half-black, nor does he care about knowing his father. He said he's tired of the uneven buzz cut his mom gave him ever since he was a kid because she was unable to style his hair and would like to experiment with other hairstyles, like those he see on Black people on TV. He also told me he likes Hip-Hop but his mother doesn't want him to listen to it because she doesn't want him to "catch" mannerism associated with rappers. Instead, she has him listening to classic rock and 90's alternative (basically her preferred style of music). He also said they've learned about slavery in school, and he'd like to know more about the history of "his" people. What I've heard when talking with him was a teenage boy who wants to belong somewhere but haven't found that place because he look different. All his life he's been told he's someone he isn't, being made fun of and rejected for pretending to be this person he isn't. He's afraid of looking for the truth since he fears his mother reaction, he fears she might hate him if he say he's black because then he'd be something she tried to avoid all his life. I didn't told him his story, I said that we would try to help him, but didn't make him any promises. I did gave him a memory stick with my favorite hip-hop and reggae album and and huge pair of headphone (which he wears 24/4 now, they are "fashionable"). I talked about what Jake told me with my boyfriend. We both agree his sister is ridiculous, and he had a lengthy conversation about it with her. She flatly told him that Jake is not Black, he's half-Italian, End.Of.Story she doesn't want to hear another peep about it or she'll forbade us from talking with him (I don't care, he's got snapchat, instagram, facebook, twitter and so do I, she's barely able to send an email). The grandparents don't want to get involved, they said they will side with their daughter since she knows what's best for her son. I have talked about the situation with my supervisor at work, we have a nice relationship beyond work, and she's from Africa as well as her husband. She said if I wanted, I could take my nephew with me for a day and meet with her and her husband and their kids. Her husband offered to give him a crash course "black hair for men 101" and talk with him about important "black man things" that my boyfriend might have not know, such as ingrown facial hair .Their twins are the same age as Jake, and like the same things so he could make friends beyond his school. My boyfriend agree it's an excellent idea, but we're reluctant to break his sister clear orders. We feel this could backfire and that Jake himself would be punished for our actions. I feel like I should tell him the truth about his origins, and take on the offer to meet my supervisor family so he could get some positive role model he can relate to. TL;DR : teenage nephew discovered (!) by himself that he's half-black, his mother still saying he's Italian and doesn't want him to experiment with his culture and heritage. Edit : typo in the age my SIL got pregnant. She was in her twenties, not thirties...   COMMENTS heretoprocrastinate Yeah I think the kids is only going to figure it out more and more. I really don't have any advice since this is way out of my league. I wish the best for him, and good luck to you guys. OOP Yeah, he told me he was always a bit suspicious of his purportedly "Italian" origin. He said that even thought he's at peace with who he his, he's afraid his mother will never love him for what he's really is. It really broke my hearth hearing that. JancariusSeiryujinn Why did the sister not just say "It was a black guy in Italy?" in the beginning? Like, that would have closed up pretty much all the holes in the story. OOP I think her problem is with the "black" part... Mostly the stereotypes associated with black persons, and (IMHO) most importantly, the stereotype associated with fat white woman and black guys. I strongly believe she doesn't want to be that "fat white woman who got impregnated by a black guy who disappear from his child life"... even though she willingly took the steps to be impregnated by a black guy and willingly do things that would prevent the father to know he fathered a child. She once said, and I quote : "I want a baby without having to endure the jerk needed to make one". She's also a fervent reader of Harlequin type books. I'm pretty sure she constructed a whole romantic story in her head and she's using her kid as a real life prop to indulge in that fantasy. pancake_ice Could you tell him that since no one knows his biological father's family history, he could be black and to embrace that culture if it feels right? OOP I didn't explicitly told him his father was black because the kid is not stupid and know pretty well what he look like. I did however told him that if something look like a duck and quack like a duck and act like a duck, then it's probably a duck winkwink* To a long comment I am not close at all to her. My boyfriend his really close to his sister, but each time he tried to talk to her about it, she either hang up or leave the room. If he push the matter, she gets angry, yells at him then complain to her parents, who in turn call my boyfriend to remind him how bad of a brother he is for tormenting his sister and that as a mother, she's the only one who know what's best for her son. I believe the grandparents are happy to shove their heads in the sand regarding this subject, since it's mean they can continue to tell the "romantic" story of their half-italian grandson instead of the "dirty" story of a mixed-race grandson conceive in deceit or in exchange or money... I think there's a strong racist undertone to the whole story. iggybiggyblack Can you help him meet these black role models without explicitly telling him his story? I think that connection is more valuable than a confirmation of a truth he already knows. OOP I plan on introducing him to my supervisor family. I think I'll tell him his story when he's 18, this way it's gonna be pretty hard for his mother to forbid any contacts with him. I think I'll leave out the part about his mother tricking/paying his bio dad (I'm not even sure myself, and it's not a nice thing to know, especially since he seem to have accepted his bio dad will never be in his life). Update - after a week October 26, 2015 UPDATE : My nephew [14/M] asked me [30/F] about his true origins, but his mother made us all swear we would tell her fabricated lies about him After a discussion with my boyfriend, we agreed to invite his nephew for the weekend, set him straight about his origins and have it meet my supervisor family. Boyfriend called his sister last week, and told her we'd take Jake for a weekend in the city (this happen often so she wasn't suspicious). So last Friday, I pick up Jake from school and we drive back home. We talked about music (he loved what I gave him on the memory card), school, girls, etc. During dinner, my boyfriend told him we had a discussion about what he said to me during the family reunion. He said we had a long thought about it, weighted the pro and the cons, and decided we would tell him the truth about his origin, or at least, what we knew. Basically, we told him that yes, his dad was black so that makes him half-black and no, he wasn't conceived in Italy because her mom got pregnant 2 months after her trip. We said we were telling him despite his mom direct order, because we feel it's not ok to be lied about his origins. I told him about my supervisor's family, and their offer. He said he wanted to meet them, so on Saturday morning we drove to the mall and meet them there. It was an instant hit with the twins, and after a couple hours, they acted like they've been friend forever. We all had lunch together then drove them to the park near my supervisor house. They played soccer all afternoon with the twin's friends and neighbors. Around dinner time, we received a call from Jake asking if it was ok if he stayed for dinner with the twins (with their parents blessing of course) then later he called to see if it was ok for him to spend the night. Then on Sunday morning, they all went to a community brunch. The twins had hockey practice so my supervisor husband, Henry, drove him back to our place. They had a "manly" discussion on their way about personal topics (grooming, not knowing who their father is, what it means to be mixed-race, etc.) We didn't pry about what Henry told him, but Jake told us that Henry told him a lot of things that putted him at ease with himself and that for the first time in his life, he felt like he could simply be himself. My supervisor later called me to tell that Jake is a very polite and well-mannered young man, and he's welcome anytime he wants in their house. Before we drove Jake back home, we told him it was his choice about telling his mom or not. Whatever he did , we would stand behind his choice and are ready to accept the consequence. We said to contact us by any necessary mean if he needs us and we'll be there. He decided to come clean to his mom. He told her we told him the truth about is origins, that he spent the weekend with his new friends. He told her he was tired of being laughed at for pretending to be someone he isn't, and that it's not because he knew he was half-black and likes hip-hop that he would turn into some kind of gangster or whatever she feared. He told her he would start growing his hair because he want's an afro, whether she likes it or not. Obviously, his mom blew a fuse and we received a very angry call from her. She said we were undermining her parental authority, she threatened to cut contact with us, my boyfriend tried to calm her but she then threatened to call the police (!). He got fed up and told her to call back when she was calmer. She did called the police, and kudo to the officer who called us back. He just wanted to confirm that his sister wanted us both arrested and thrown in jail for telling our nephew about his bio dad race, When we confirmed, he said he'd have a talk with her about the purpose of the police force and what making frivolous calls entails. He asked about the well-being of our nephew and told us he's gonna pay them a little visit just to make sure everything's ok with him (he's got a file with CPS from a couple of years ago because we made a complaint about his mom, so I guess they're being extra cautious). We call Jake to keep him up to date. He said his mom got very angry at him, so he ran next door to his grandparents house. He explain the situation to them, and they wanted to talk to my boyfriend about it. They had a quick discussions about it and they both agreed that Jake mother was ridiculous about the whole situation. They've apologized to Jake about lying to him for all those years and that they should have never let his mother do this. They also called their daughter and basically put her in timeout. Jake will spend the week with them so she can think about what she did and the consequence of her actions. They will also talk with the police officer to assure him that Jake is safe at their house and that they are keeping their daughter in check. tl;dr: Told Jake the truth about his origins. Mom blew a fuse. Grandparents agreed we were right and put mom in adult time out. EDIT : I initially forgot to tell, but when I wrote the original post, I was entirely sure that Reddit would tell me to mind my own business. I was very ambivalent about doing nothing or going against his mother direct orders. Then people started commenting on how bad it was for a kid to not know his origin, how bad it was too be lied too and discovering the truth later one. I also received some PM from people telling me their stories as a mixed-race kid. It's only then I realized how important the questions of race and origin are. It's something I couldn't have even imagined with my background (I know both my parents and all of my grandparents, I know stories about my ancestors. I have never doubted from where I came from.) Hearing from people who went through the same things as Jake really helped us make what we believe was the best decision for him.   COMMENTS captaincuttlehooroar I feel very badly for your nephew. I wish you guys had spoken to the grandparents ahead of time and tried to get someone in the family to convince your boyfriend's sister to tell the boy the truth before someone else did. I'm not sure if an ultimatum like that would have worked on her, but one of the the worst possible outcomes is someone other than his morther telling him, and then telling him that his mom has not only been lying to him his whole life, but that she is also forcing everyone this young man loves and trusts to lie to him too. I have no sympathy for the boy's mother whatsoever but I can't help feeling there was a more sensitive solution to this than the one you chose. If you exhausted those options and attempted to resolve this another way, then I apologize for being so harsh. OOP We tried talking to the mom to no avail. We tried talking to the grandparents to help them reason their daughter but they said they would stick by their daughter. They only changed their minds when Jake himself told them and explained to them how bad he felt because he knew his mom was lying to him. Jake was absolutely sure of his origins, he just wanted confirmation from someone he trusted. rj20876 I hate to see family overstepping parental authority. My gma does it constantly with my daughters but fuck did it need to happen here. She was being absolutely ridiculous. OOP It's during time like this we regret not pushing forward to get parental authority over Jake when he was still a toddler. The grandparents stepped in to keep an eye on their daughter but we feel it might not have been enough sometime. SoMuchMoreEagle Did she pick him because she figured he wouldn't be a part of her son's life, either because he would go home or because he was black? Or did she get pregnant on accident? Or is she just nuts? OOP She definitely didn't got pregnant on accident. She had two miscarriage before Jake, and from what she told us, it was from the same guy. I think she picked him up because he was willing to have sex with her. I don't think he know he fathered a child with her. SoMuchMoreEagle I'm so glad it worked out. Hopefully his mom will come around. Too bad she couldn't have been the one to tell him, but for some reason, she was living in some kind of blissful denial world and didn't see that her son was being hurt by her lie. Why didn't she just go to a sperm bank? Also, big kudos to your supervisor and her husband. They really stepped up. Being 14 is hard enough when you aren't being called names and have friends who look like you. OOP Artificial insemination cost a fortune. She's unemployed (and according to her previous work records, probably unemployable unless she could be placed in those insertion programs for the mentally challenged). wookiee42 Wait, she's mentally challenged? Or are you just joking around? OOP She was never properly diagnosed, but it's not too far fetch of an assumption to make. She cannot drive. I saw her trying to learn in a empty parking lot and you could just see the task was too complex for her to fully grasp. She tried at least 6 time to get her apprentice permit, but she never passed the theoretical exam. She never got her high school diploma. When she was 18, they sent her to adult school and her assessment test showed that her general knowledge level was around grade 6. Her reading and writing knowledge were lower than that. She struggle with basic additions and subtractions. She was able to get an equivalent diploma after 5 tries, she was nearly 30 at the time. As for work, she never held a job for more than 3 month, and 3 month being an exceptional high. She worked at all the minimum wage place around here. Fast food places, big box stores, house cleaning... she was fired from all her jobs (10+) for gross incompetency. So yeah, I really believe she's somewhat mentally challenged. However, she never had the help she needed because her parents refused to act and enabled her like crazy so she wouldn't feel "different". east_end he's got a file with CPS from a couple of years ago because we made a complaint about his mom What happened here? OOP When Jake was 4, she got fired from another job. She was beyond on rent, utilities have been cut off for at least a month so she was keeping a toddler in an unheated basement appartment late in autumn. She was feeding him exclusivly on junk food and diet soda. She lived in another town and we only found out when her landlord called my boyfriend to tell him he had served her an eviction notice (he was on the lease as an emergency contact). We found out she would often leave him unattended to go shopping or see movies... He was 4yo !!! We called her parents but they didn't believe us. I was 19 at the time. My boyfriend was 20. We didnt know what to do so we called CPS. There was a family meeting with a social worker and it was agreed that she would move near her parents and they would act a legal coguardians (or somerhing like this). CPS made a couple of follow up visits and everything was ok so they "closed" the file. orangekitti Between this and the last post (where they disagreed with telling Jake because "his mother knows best") maybe your boyfriend's parents need to learn which sibling to give the benefit of the doubt to. They need to stop coddling her just because she's a mother and can do no wrong. She clearly has a lot to learn about putting her kid first. OOP There's an 8 years age gap between my boyfriend and his sister. Their parents always considered him the troublemaker because he was an hyperactive child who didn't do well in school. She is the older sister, therefore she's right. MIL continue to believe her daughter can do no wrong, bu FIL got a head on his shoulder more than his wife. Final Update - after 11 days (after 4 from last post) October 30, 2015 [FINAL UPDATE] : UPDATE : My nephew [14/M] asked me [30/F] about his true origins, but his mother made us all swear we would tell her fabricated lies about him Just some quicks update about Jake's situation. I don't think I'll post more after this because IMO the situation is pretty much resolved. About the call his mom made to the police : the police offier who called us payed her a visit. He then called us back to let us know that they obviously won't pursue with her complaint agaist us. Jake called us to ask if he could come again for the weekend. During our discussion, he said his mom talked to him and told him that yes his bio dad was black. He said she had a kind of "are-you-happy-you-ruined-everything-now" kind of attitude about it. She's lifted the ban on hip hop music and black hairstyles, but very seriously told him it's gonna be our fault if he become a gangster... Oh well, I guess we can live with this. On more serious matters, my boyfriend talked with his dad this week. They're gonna have Jake and his mom move in with them. Their house is literally next door, plenty big, and paid for. Plus they'll be able to keep an eye on them. FIl hinted that the move was sparked by the fact that Jake mom was having trouble paying rent and her bills again (and her dubious decision to call the police over such trivial matters). My boyfriend took the opportunity to say that it was maybe time they have a serious family discussion about his sister mental capacities and he expressed his concerns about what will happen when her parents won't be there anymore. FIL is starting to see the light, he said he's gonna take an appointement with an attorney to see what can be done, but he expect MIL to throw a shit storm over it. Finally, the biggest shock would be that we've learned that they are the legal guardians of Jake, ever since we made that call to CPS 10ish years ago. They never bothered telling us this little fact. So Jake lived with his mom but it was his grandparents who had legal authority over him. Again, it show how they tried to "protect" her again and again from the consequence of her own actions. We offered to have Jake over for the weekends and holidays if he wants. They were reluctant a bit, but they agreed on the condition that we have to pick him up on Friday after school and drive him back for Sunday evening. (1h ride each way). Also he's starting high school next year, we're gonna offer his mom and grandparents (and him, obviously) to have him for the whole school year so he could attend high school in the city, near our place. Jake has always showned an interest for learning a trade and this school offer a program where high school students can try different trades and then transfer their credit when they graduate. I'm gonna leave soon to pick him up for another weekend in the city. So thanks everyone for the kind comments and words of encouragement ! TL;DR : Mom comes clean, they gonna move in with grandparents, we have Jake over for the weekends and Holidays and are considering asking them to have him move with us next school year. Edit : forgot the TL;DR and grammar   This is a repost sub. 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I just want to rant on an account not associated with my hobbies, sorry. I'm 34m, my wife is 35, my daughters are 9 year old twins. Twins kind of run in my wife's family, even though she herself is not one. From what I know she was very jealous of her cousins that are twins when she was growing up, so she's been very intense about it ever since she got pregnant. When going to her 8 week appointment, she kept talking about how she hoped the baby was two babies. I thought it was funny but not weird. When we found out they indeed were twins, my wife was so happy and so excited, and of course I was happy to be having kids too. The problems started with the baby planning. When decorating the nurseries, she decided that they should instead be in the same room. This makes sense for new-borns, for convenience, but she always said she wanted them to share rooms forever. This seemed very silly to me since we have a 6 bedroom house. She threw us a gender reveal, and got her family to organize us a baby shower. Both parties were themed around the fact that the girls were twins; Gifts were required to be matching, all the games and activities were about things in sets of 2. This is around when my family started thinking she was being weird but I disagreed with them. We had a bit of an argument before the baby shower, because she wanted to give the girls what to me were overly matching names. Her favorites were Eva and Ava. in the end she agreed that having them be only 1 letter off was silly, and we ended up with matching, but not overly obvious names. When my girls were born, my wife would dress them up the same every day no matter what. When one of the girls dirtied her clothes, she'd change them both, even if that meant waking one of them up. She would get mad at me if I dressed them differently. Shed get upset if they did not both want to be fed at the same time. This is when I started noticing how weird she was being about the twin thing. (I'm going to be using those fake names from now on.) When they started going to kinder she bought them all matching coats, new shoes, backpacks and lunch boxes. But she would also get upset if any of them got swapped (she made sure to name-label anything). One time she complained to the teacher about sending "Ana" in "Betty's" coat the previous day. Ana has always been the quieter, more calm one of the two. Now that they are older, she likes to stay home and read. She watches tv with her mom. Betty on the other hand is a lot more energetic. She likes to play outside and build things, she likes to play videogames with me, or go stay with her aunty, my sister, who is a hiker and mountain biker. She loves sports class and tennis, and last year started doing swim too. This is the origin of all our problems. My wife doesnt like that Betty is not as feminine and calm as her and Ana. When Betty started not wanting to get her hair done every morning, they had such a massive fight the house was tense for a week. My wife likes to send the girls to school in the same or matching hair-styles, and would get upset when Betty would return home with her hair in a ponytail or messed up from sports. They go to private school, and Betty recently also asked me if she could start wearing the boy's uniform (pants) instead of the skirt. I said I could buy them for her if that made her more comfortable. When I brought this up to my wife, she got extremely mad, and went to stay with her sister “for a week” even though she returned the next day. She never apologized but took back her threat of getting rid of the pants. I have been very upset since this happened and have been trying to take more time out of my day to talk to Betty and make sure she doesnt feel upset with her mom. Our biggest fight was tonight, and why im sleeping in our guest room. While i was finishing dinner and the girls we setting the table, my wife stood at the door of the kitchen and told us all that Betty would not be allowed to do swim anymore. I got upset because she said this without talking to me first, and Betty was upset because all her friends are in Swim. For context here, you have to know we are from immigrant families, and our home country/elders are, to be completely honest, quite racist and colorist. My wife proceeded to explain to Betty that swim makes her spend too much time outside, that she had gotten too tan, didn't match her sister anymore, and that our family back home would make fun of her about it if we went to visit this summer. I got extremely upset at my wife and told her she cant tell our girls things like that, and that it is extremely hurtful and irresponsible. Ana went and sat at the table and Betty locked herself in the bathroom. The argument kept going, and I brought up how ridiculous she was being about "matching". That its extremely dumb for the girls to still share a bedroom when we have a perfectly usable open one, and that what she said was very obviously racist. She said she wasnt but I decided this was not worth it and went to try comfort Betty. I ended up having a long conversation with both girls where they agreed they wanted separate rooms, and apologized for arguing in front of them. Ana also told me she hates wearing matching hairstyles because their mom is "aggressive" with the brush. I apologized to her too. After cleaning up the kitchen, I realized my wife locked me out of our bedroom, and she won't even acknowledge me when I knock. She also seems to have taken the keys from the utility closet with her, because I cant find them. I'm extremely frustrated. I put the girls to bed and said we'll move some of the furniture tomorrow. I called my sister and we talked but now I'm just more upset. I feel like I failed as a parent. They are 9, I should have noticed sooner. I'm seriously considering divorce. But I'm worried how the girls will get treated if we end up with 50/50 custody. submitted by /u/fun-rey-92 to r/offmychest [link] [comments]

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/ThrowRARoder Originally posted to r/relationship_advice Years ago I (38M) had a one week fling with my gf's (29F) sister (35F) and she doesn't know about it. Will everything blow up if I tell her? ---- Original Post: March 4, 2026 Sorry about mistakes in English in advance guys I've started dating my gf last December and I really like her and I love her. Last weekend I was invited to a barbeque on her parents’ house and met the whole family, and amongst them her sister. When I saw pictures of them both together on Instagram I didn't recognize her because she's changed her hairstyle completely and dresses very differently, but once I met her in person I identified her. In 2012 I won a prize at work consisting in a whole week of vacation in a touristic place and I met her in the hotel and we connected extremely well on a physical and intimate level and had a great vibe the whole week. Basically going to the beach, going out at nights and having sex for six days. We kept contact for a time through Facebook but later on she deleted her profile and we just stopped interacting completely maybe in 2014? or so. When my gf was introducing us I almost froze for a moment, and I could see in her eyes that she also noticed and stuttered a bit but we both acted like we never met before the whole day. I could see her glancing at me at times and I also have absolutely no doubt its her: same name, same voice, same smile, same tattoo. Must I tell my girlfriend about this? I mean, if I was her, I think I would have wanted to know something like this because it's not like a lonely kiss when we were in high school. But I also think it might hurt her to know and it may also hurt her and that's what I fear the most. I've talked to my best friend about it and he says I should never tell her but I should also talk about it to her sister. Relevant Comments Commenter 1: Talk to her, don’t talk to her sister. Chances are the sister already told her. You want to make sure she trusts you if she finds out through her sister and not you, then she’ll have reason to doubt you. Obviously it might cause some insecurities, but it was so long ago, I think if you say it right, do it in the right way it shouldn’t be an issue OOP: I understand. And should I say it in a casual way, like "oh btw the other day I thought your sister was familiar to me and I remembered later on that I met her once in 2012 during a vacation, etc"? Or maybe like "listen, you need to know something that happened" and detailed way? I'm terrible at this Commenter 2: Do not go to her sister. Absolutely not. You tell her directly. Like you said, it was 14 years ago. Open with that. “Hi, we need to talk… blah blah blah ok so I recognized your sister. 14 years ago, we had a bit of a fling. Just for a week. We stayed in contact until 2014 and I haven’t heard or thought of her since until seeing her when I met her family. It was a really long time ago, but I wanted to tell you so as to be honest and not hold something from you” Your friend is an idiot. You have to tell her. Otherwise you are a LIAR. And for all you know, her sister could have already told her and now she’s just waiting for you to do the same. Do NOT under ANY circumstances reach out to her sister. That would be the worst thing you could possibly do. I have three sisters myself and a brother. If I were in her sisters shoes, I would a million percent tell my siblings RIGHT away and if their boyfriend reached out to have a secret convo with me on the topic? Oh my sibling is getting TOLD and I would tell them not to trust this man who tried to work things out behind their back. You and her sister aren’t close friends. You don’t know each other. It would be so weird and inappropriate and gross to reach out to her. Please do not do that. Tell her. Tel her right away unless you want to get dumped or divorced. Because NO HEALTHY AND LONG LASTING relationship is built on lying or withholding information pertaining to sleeping with their sibling lol OOP: Okay I completely understand. Thank you. It's just that it's going to be a difficult conversation to have and I fear it might hurt her, but I guess I have to do it + Well it's decided and I'm gonna tell her today later on when we have lunch together. I'm stupidly nervous like I've done something wrong Commenter 3: No, you didn't do anything wrong, it is just bad luck. Don't go into detail about how many times you did it or how amazing it was. Just give her the facts and tell her you felt she needed to know, since you love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her. It isn't a minor issue, she will feel weird for some time, so just don't invalidate her feelings. OOP: Thank you Yeah, I will try to jus state it and that I want to be honest about it and that I will be there by her side whatever the emotions that come out of this are. I just hope I'm not losing her because of one stupid week 14 years ago. Im already on my way there so wish me luck   Update: March 4, 2026 (same day, seven hours later) Years ago I (38M) had a one week fling with my gf's (29F) sister (35F) and she doesn't know about it. Will everything blow up if I tell her? UPDATE Today I had lunch with my girlfriend and gathered the courage to tell her about me and her sister back in the day. I feared that, as some people wisely pointed out, maybe her sister had already told her "Hey, I've met that guy years ago and had something with him, he didn't tell you about it?" but turns out her sister didn't tell her anything. I tried to just state what happened back in 2012 in the most factual and brief way possible, and that even if she has a couple pictures with her sister on Instagram I didn’t recognize her before meeting her in person the other day and she thank God she believed me. But also I could see how it was progressively affecting her and she ended up crying about the fact that it even happened, and it completely broke my heart and made me feel extremely guilty. I know I'm doing the right thing not hiding stuff, of course I understand that, but I'm devastated still over the fact that I'm hurting her so much. Well she was embarrassed to be crying and wanted to leave the place, so I paid, picked up coffee to go and we walked to the harbour and sat there to keep talking in a more solitary place. She started asking a lot of questions about very specific things like how many times, how it was, if I enjoyed it, if I felt something fer her after that week, how many times had we messaged each other, if sex was better with her, and many more things that took me by surprise because I thought that maybe she would want to know the less possible. And I know I did wrong but I lied and told her I don't really remember that much about those days and that a few days don't really mean anything in my life, that I don't feel and never felt anything for her sister (this is the ABSOLUTE TRUTH) and that it was just a vacation thing that lasted for those days, etc. She seemed worried about emotional attachment and I have none, and I'm certain her sister will tell her the same. Idk I felt like a moron and like I hurt her even if unintentionally. Like anything that I could say and do would be a mistake Turns out that, to make things worst, the last two years they aren't having a great relationship since her sister divorced and moved back to their parents house and my gf feels like her sister is manipulating their father against her. So now this kinda hit like a terrible blow and she says her sister possibly expected me to not tell her, so she could keep the info to throw it at her at some point during a fight or anything. I don’t really know her sister, so I don’t know, but sounds like a very resentful and complicated person to deal with at least at the moment. It's just so unfair overall, and again, I don’t want to make this about me, but I feel like a villain. She said she will eventually talk to her sister but not today because she’s too upset, and I think it might be a good decision. As I was typing this at the office I talked to her again on the phone and she is going to stay in my apartment tonight and I'm glad she accepted, so I'm gonna leave the office early and prepare some nice food for her and try to talk a bit more. Any advice is absolutely welcome and thank you sincerely to the people that guided me here Relevant Comments Commenter 1: Continue with your relationship. Make her feel loved. Cook for her. Care more about the present than the past. If she asks too much tell her you told her the truth because you are an honest person but that it is in your past. Talk to her about the future. Make plans. Travel somewhere new for you both. The sister is not a part of your relationship. Good luck. You did the right thing. OOP: Thanks mate, that's exactly the plan and the conclusion I reached while I was at the office earlier. If it turns out that she can deal with it and we can remain together after this, I'm gonna make her happy OOP responds to a thread regarding not answering any more questions that his GF has because he did the responsible thing and should allow to give her time to get over the details he told her OOP: Yeah, I will see how she is feeling tonight and will try to talk about how I feel about our relationship and our possible future, and how happy she has been making me, which will be all true and I hope she sees my honesty and understands our future can be much bigger than something so small and remote. Maybe she can't, of course, I would be so happy if she tries Commenter 2: This is definitely a difficult situation, and might well end your relationship which is only a few months old anyway. But the ending would NOT be because you did anything wrong back then or now. It would be related to the relationship between the sisters. As others say, you definitely need to consider it closed on your end and not go into details - because nothing positive will come out of it. If it is something she can't let go - it WILL end your relationship. OOP: Yes, and it's understandable. I just hope we can manage to surf the wave and leave it behind. OOP responds to a downvoted comment about his GF's questions being strange on what took place years ago OOP: I don't think it's that strange, especially when you just found out. She has insecurities and I have insecurities too, I understand the sudden questions specially when she is just finding out, even if it took me a bit by surprise Is OOP saying that he lied about the sister being better or lied about not remembering the details? And was there great vibes between him and the sister at the time? OOP: I told her I don't remember details and that it's all so in the past for me that it's a foggy memory. But I do remember a lot, so it's a lie. I'm not going to tell her all that even if she breaks up with me over this. And no, her sister isn't better than her in absolutely anything + Yes, back then we had a great physical connection and had a great vibe in terms of partying snd being on a vacation. But that was it. There was not enough common ground to try to start building anything in "real life" that's why it all faded away after that And yes, I was basically a kid back then and I've grown and changed A LOT since then, I promise you Commenter 3: Do they not look alike? It is also her sister's fault not telling her once she saw u? OOP: They don't really look that much alike, no. And also, now her sister has a completely different hairstyle compared to what she looked like back then and dresses very differently so no, I didn't recognize her in pictures Does OOP still have any interest in the sister? What about her interest for him? OOP: I have absolutely no interest in her sister at all, and I believe it's the same for her   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]