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So yehh, I’ve had a sports injury that led to me gaining some weight and loss of muscle. This has been a major insecurity of me and currently only wearing baggy clothes. So today I went to a baby shower wearing an all white suit somewhat form fitting. I went with my MIL to pick up my fiancé his grandma and her two sisters (90y +) that I’ve met once. So when the one sister came to sit down in the backseat with me she said ‘you are a lot fatter than I thought.’ Where the grandma of my fiance said: ‘you can’t say that’ the mean aunt then proceeded to double down and said no look at those legs they are huge.’ Then doubled doubled down by touching my leg and compare it to a tree log. I took it in silence as we drove to the venue. On site I ran to the bathroom had an panic attack bc I was to scared to leave the bathroom stall as I felt so fat and ugly that I missed the mom to be’s entrance and then I was to self conscious to enter the room. Went back to the bathroom only to find out I started my period while trying for a baby - remember the color of my outfit ? Yehhh al white and no pads/tampons. Went a head to cancel our trip to Marbella next week because I don’t want to be in a bikini. Got home after 7hours. Put on a baggy fit only to realize I forgot to do groceries. So sad girl dinner of an tangerine and a multivitamin gummy Edit: Added a picture of the fit of today because I really loved the suit before the car ride. Edit 2: I just really really love the love woman can give other woman and I’m so sad a lot of us are so hard on ourselves 🧚🏽‍♀️♥️ thank you all for the kind words and confidence boost to help me eat again! submitted by /u/Peachandbooze to r/GirlDinnerDiaries [link] [comments]

I am not The OOP, OOP is u/BrunetteThrow111 Me [20 F] with my boyfriend [20 M] of 2 years, his student is suddenly being too friendly TRIGGER WARNING: Sexual harassment and obsessive behavior Original Post Oct 16, 2015 Hi there reddit. Apologies for the throwaway, but I know that she browses reddit. As such, some names and ages are also modified a bit. Alright, so my boyfriend (Robin) is a tutor for our university. He's got many, many students, and I am perfectly comfortable with the amount of time he spends with them (no more than an hour per session and no more than three per day, since he wants to also devote time to both schooling and our relationship). One student in particular (Lucy, 18F) has been spending quite a bit of our time with our friend group recently, and once again, I am okay with that; the more the merrier, you know? Well, Lucy seemed nice enough at first; good sense of humor, witty, and in general a nice person. It wasn't until she had been in the group for two weeks that both myself and Robin started noticing some odd things: Anytime we sit together with our friends for a meal, Lucy always has to take a seat next to Robin. Always. She texts him constantly, asking him what he is doing and if he can come over to her place for some "extra tutoring." Robin is very, very firm about his one hour per student, three students per day rule. My boyfriend loves strawberry ramune. One day, he opened the door to his dorm and found a crate of it, all from her. We are pretty big fans of Attack on Titan, and we do wear shirts and the like a lot. One day, she shows up in full Scouting Legion attire, which costs hundreds of dollars. She claims she's a fan, but when I asked her opinion on a certain character, she got the character completely wrong. (For those who care/are wondering, I asked her opinion on Commander Erwin, but she launched into a long, full of wrong facts explanation on Pixis instead.) We are also big fans of Gravity Falls, and are therefore planning to dress as Dipper and Pacifica for Halloween. She's insisting on being part of the costume, as Wendy, who Dipper had a giant crush on throughout the show. We were talking about bearded ladies once. One of my friends cracked a joke about such people being perfect for myself and Robin, since we're both openly bisexual. Robin snorted and said "I prefer my women like I prefer my men: brunette and clean-shaven." while winking at me. Lucy started laughing and said, "And here I thought you preferred your women blonde!" she was the only one who laughed. I could go on and on about her odd behavior, but I think you guys get the gist of it. What's going on, reddit? She was not like this at all before, according to my boyfriend. In fact, she used to shy away from him whenever he reached over to take her paper to correct it. We are both very, very uncomfortable with her behavior, but have no idea as to how to approach it. Speaking with her is out of the question; she makes a big deal out of small things (something I learned when she took her computer to the university ITS, where I work) and we don't want to cause any scenes. Any advice? tl;dr: Boyfriend's student is behaving towards him in a very friendly way, to the point where we're both uncomfortable. We don't want to talk to her because we want to avoid anyone causing a scene. Any advice would be appreciated! RELEVANT COMMENTS acciointernet It sounds like you've already talked to him about it and he doesn't like her behavior either. If th ats true, he needs to be clear about how uncomfortable it makes him. This means: speaking to her about how she cannot give him any more gifts explaining she cannot join your costume because it is a couples costume and he wants it to be personal to the two of you possibly dropping her as a student and finding a replacement I understand this might be hard if you guys don't like confrontation but trust me when I say it is absolutely necessary. She is young and she probably doesn't realize how aggressive she's being, but you don't want to make the situation any more awkward than it will be by allowing her crush to grow. Nip it in the bud asap. OOP We will! Thank you for the input! He is going to speak with her during their session tonight (which, with luck, won't be cancelled!). We are both already prepared to tell her that we will not tolerate any more of this behavior... the only thing is, as I've stated in other comments, she can be quite the loud one. We don't want that sort of attention. Do you think there's any way we can speak with her to avoid that? LazyTits127 I doubt it if she's that type of person. Just tell folks she was coming on too strong with your SO and you were both uncomfortable, so this is the decision you guys decided. Sorry her feeling are hurt, but it's better to do something now, than later. It would just be stringing her along and you both don't want her one day get tired of waiting and she attacks him with her mouth during a session. I also had to laugh at the fact she bought an expensive outfit and you asked her a few questions. I feel kinda bad but hey, back off girl. ETA: make it clear it's a couples costume and tell her it's weird to be that character she wants to be. I don't know if you guys are direct with her or not, but that really helps when you tell the person straight up. It makes them feel awkward and rethink their choices OOP I've already texted quite a few of our friends regarding this, and a lot of them agreed that her behavior was odd. Some even pointed out a few things that I had missed! Honestly, I'm absolutely shocked that she went so far to attempt to win him over. Buy an expensive outfit indeed, it's one of those things that I truly wish I had the money for! I am not one of the girls that is into super designer clothes, but show me a lovely cosplay outfit? I'd be drooling over it in a heartbeat. We have a bit of a game plan mapped out for when she comes over tonight. Of course, all we can do now is wait and see and hope that she either ends this behavior around him or leaves us alone for good. [deleted] What were the other things? I'm glad your boyfriend shoots her advances down. It's honestly refreshing after reading all these awful threads. (I can't stop, its like novellas. Help) OOP Oh lord, I'm glad as well. For all the stories you read about terrible guys, I'm glad Robin at least isn't one of them. As for the other things... "Jokingly" asked him how big his dick was. When he asked her why, she answered with "Just so I know what I'm up against!" Baked our whole group a plate of cookies. Handed the first one to Robin. She ran out by the time she got to me (but she served herself first!) Robin once showed up in nice pants. Robin's butt looks good in nice pants. I eyed that booty and wolf-whistled at it because hot fucking damn. According to one of my friends, the moment I turned away from the booty, she made an attempt to smack it, but Robin took a step away at that instant (without realizing that she wanted dat booty). We, as a group, fucking love sushi. So most weekends, we go out and grab some. She tagged along and, participated in our usual practice of ordering a bunch of different kinds of sushi and sharing it all as a table. When hers arrived, she immediately attempted to feed Robin from her chopstick. He didn't take it. Her roll was fucking nasty anyways. Robin is a tall man, but he is also a very skinny man. I am a short woman, but I am also a slim woman. Since we are the skinniest in our group, sometimes, my buddy Josh (whom we refer to as Black Santa, because he is a big, friendly black man), likes to pick us up bridal style and carry us around. When Robin got picked up one time, he was passed between our group friends, all pretending to either carry him off or carry him over the threshold. She tried grabbing at him, but the first thing she did when she got him was grab for his butt, resulting in him freaking out and causing her to drop him. Our group loves Super Smash Brothers. When Robin and I play, we usually go as "partner" Smashers. (ie, when he's Ness, I'm Lucas, and when he's Link, I'm Zelda, stuff like that) Robin once picked (lol) Robin. I picked Lucina. Lucy also picked Lucina and made a comment about how Robin and Lucina could get married in Fire Emblem: Awakening. Robin and I knocked her out within the first three minutes of the game, then proceeded to toot the bridal march once we won. (It was a team match, two on each team) Lucy once asked Robin what made him like me so much. Robin jokingly says that it's because I give him a lock of my hair whenever he's about to take a test, so he has something to rub his face in when he's feeling stressed (I don't; I give him a fully-body massage after each test). When his next test rolls around, she walks up and hands him a chunk of her own hair. Honestly, that last one is what caused me to post the thing in the first place. I guess I was just too frazzled to include it, but... there you go. Update Oct 17, 2015 (Next Day) Hello Reddit. If you've not read my original post, you may read it here. original tl;dr: Boyfriend's (Robin) student (Lucy, 18F) has lately been coming onto him in ways that we find both odd and unwelcome. He resolved to speak to her during their next tutoring session, which happened last night. Last night, Lucy came for her tutoring session. At the time, I was helping Robin with his laundry, so when she knocked, only Robin went to go answer the door. I decided to stay behind in the room, continuing to fold his laundry, but listening in case I had to step in. Everything started out normal enough at first, with her putting her books down and trying to make small talk with him. Robin is a very polite man, so he answered her small-talk questions accordingly, but the moment they sat down (according to Robin, she actually scooted her chair closer to his, so much that their legs were nearly touching under the table!), Robin got to business. Reddit... what happens next is completely unreal. I don't even know if I had only dreamed of all of this or not, but... I truly do wish I could have made this up. Unfortunately, I'm not creative enough nor am I capable enough. I would never have thought that such a seemingly normal girl could turn out like this, but... I suppose there are unexpected ugly sides everywhere. Nevertheless, here is what happened: Robin immediately started out telling her that lately, he's noticed that she's been trying to insert herself into both his and my own hobbies for quite a while. He also noted that she seems to be spending quite a bit of money on him lately as well, noting the strawberry ramune crate and (I didn't even know about this one!) the Attack on Titan ring set. He said that while he is flattered and appreciates the gifts, he wants her to stop because it is not appropriate behavior between a tutor and his tutee. I think she may have tried to say something, because Robin said rather quickly after that, "And I'm sorry, but even from a friend, I can't accept gifts that... extravagant." She was quiet for a bit. I actually had to sneak-shuffle my way over to the doorway (staying out of sight, of course, since they would be able to see me from the table) to hear anything, but it sounded like Lucy started crying, or sniffling at the very least. Next thing I know, she's burst into tears, and rambling something that, afterwards, even Robin couldn't comprehend. By the time she was able to be comprehensible again, that's when shit got weird. She started blubbering about star signs. About how it was written in the stars that not only were they compatible, but they were destined to be together. She told him how she had read in her horoscope or fortune or something like that, that her true love would be her greatest teacher and she the wisest of his students. She also went on and on about how it was meant to be that they would meet for tutoring, then fall deeply and love and carry on a forbidden romance until he could, and I quote "Shed the shackles of [his] duty and false lover (???) so that [they] may walk forever amongst the stars." By now, both Robin and I were shocked speechless. While we perfectly respect those that truly believe in fate and the like, this was something that we simply couldn't get our heads around. I honestly wanted to walk out and say something, but kept quiet because then she started on another tirade. She started going on and on about how it was written in wherever she is getting this from that I was undeserving of Robin's love, and that I was only there because I wanted to lead Robin astray from the "true path of love." She also said that, once she fulfilled her duty of lifting "the veil" from Robin's eyes, they would travel the world and together raise three beautiful children, all with Robin's eyes and her hair. She would teach them how to be good, kind people, and he would pass on his wisdom. Together, she claimed, they would become king and queen of the world. Robin stopped her right after that and said that, veil or not, he's most certainly not going to leave me and that even if he did, he had no feelings for her beyond a student and maybe a friend. He also said that, on top of that, this was not about some destiny but about her behavior and his request that she stop it. He asked her to understand that the costume in question was a couples costume and thus, he wanted to make it special for just myself and him. He told her that, while he appreciated that another person shared the same interests as us, that she was going to far with them. Lucy immediately countered with, "If [my name] truly loved you, she would not be cheating on you right this moment! I saw her fucking three different guys on my way to your room!" Now, that got me pissed. Yes, okay, shit was already pretty nuts, but really? If you're going to lie about me cheating, at least have the courtesy to make me seem less stupid. Either way, I was so done at that point, and in a fit of anger, I took hold of one of the articles of clothing I was folding and marched the fuck out. The look on her face was priceless. Here she was, caught in a bold-faced lie, and there I was, waving Robin's boxers around going "She's right, Robin! I'm fucking leaving you! I'm sorry, but I'm more in love with your boxers!" Robin can't take it. He just starts cracking up and almost falls out of his chair. He may have been done for the count, but I wasn't done. I immediately marched up to Lucy and told her that, sorry not sorry, she is no longer welcome in our friend group. I told her that I did not like the way she was trying to steal my boyfriend, or the way she kept butting into the things that we planned to be "just us" sort of things. I also very emphatically told her that the both of us were not welcoming to people who would dare to spread lies about either of us. And the entire way through, she cried and cried and kept mumbling things like "fate" and "destiny" and all her mumbo jumbo. Eventually, Robin managed to compose himself enough to start talking again. He told her that he agreed with me, and that while he would have eventually forgiven her attempting to come between the relationship and acting inappropriately towards him, but he could never forgive someone attempting to lie to him about someone he loved dearly. So with that, he got up, gathered her stuff for her, and gestured to the door. But of course, Lucy had to go in for one more attempt. What does she do? She fucking pulls out her tits. She had come in wearing rather revealing clothing, which is actually quite normal for her, but apparently, she wasn't wearing a bra (and maybe no underwear at all!) underneath it. She just pulls down her collar and BAM! Tits. Robin immediately recoils and looks away, because while he's fine with seeing breasts (he's taking quite a few different anatomy classes!), he's just always been the sort of person that would rather just... not see bare boobies waving at him. And oh boy, is she waving those things around, practically screaming at him to look at them and understand that it is her she desires, not me, because her breasts are bigger and better and because they're destined to be together. During this whole time, I'm just... I'm speechless. I can't even comprehend what's going on anymore. Luckily, it just so happened that she was so loud that the RA knocked on the door, and I was at least functional enough to run and open it. She was too far gone to even notice that knock, so when our lovely RA looked in, all she saw was Robin yelling at her that it was inappropriate and to put them away, while she was yelling at him that one look at her and all of his desire for me would transfer to her. Once the RA managed to recover from... well, the shock of what the fuck was happening, she immediately stormed in (she's a tiny woman, but was raised by a father in the Marines. A very tough nut to crack!) and took control of the situation. She had come because residents were complaining about the noise in Robin's dorm, so she had to investigate. She sat us all down on the couch and had us tell our stories. Robin and I remained firm with our accounts, telling her about Lucy's behavior and what had happened this night. Lucy was crying and blubbering her little destiny spiel, trying to put lies in there about how I scratched her with my fingernails (bullshit just from looking at her and my nails: she had no scratches on her, and my nails are cut down and very blunt) and about how I seduced Robin and stole him from her and blah blah blah. The RA knew me personally enough to know that I was Robin's girlfriend and that I would never attack another person for no reason, so of course, Lucy's account is taken with a grain of salt. From that point on, it was only a matter of waiting for Campus Security to arrive so that Lucy could be taken away for disturbing the peace and indecent exposure. They wanted to take myself and Robin too, but my RA managed to convince them that Lucy was the only one yelling (which she was!) and that, if anything, we were the victims. We may get pulled in for further questioning, of course, and matter itself is still under investigation, so there is a chance that Robin and I may receive write-ups for this incident or something, but such a chance is low. I'll update again when I can, but for now, it's over. We're cutting her off from our friend group, Robin and I blocked her on all social media and her number, and if it becomes an absolute necessity, we're getting a restraining order. I know this story is wild and crazy and just unbelievable. I know that, if I had not witnessed this, I would never have believed myself. If you told me when I first posted my original post yesterday that I would bear witness to a crazy girl attempting to shove her tits in my boyfriend's face and screaming about how they were destined to be together, I would have asked what you've been smoking and if I could have some of that. But there you go... I'm not asking you to believe me. I'm just asking that, if you're capable of coming up with something like this, to send me whatever it is you have that lets you do that. Peace out, Reddit. See you in the next update! tl;dr: She was destined to wave her tits at him. FINAL COMMENTS Akavimceblack The boxers must be heartbroken. Seriously though....Lucy is right at the age when serious mental illnesses like schizophrenia begin to show. And she is clearly not mentally well. Not just kooky, she has a serious problem. OOP They'll live. Or, as Robin jokingly claimed, they'll burn so they won't steal me from him. As far as the schizophrenia goes... honestly, I didn't think it would be this nuts. I know there are different severities and that it shows differently on different people, but this is just shocking. I can send an email to the school administration to try to get her some help, if they're not doing so already; it's likely not my obligation to do so, but I really don't want to see her suffer, even after everything. 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I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/footballfriends1 Originally posted to r/relationship_advice My husband (33M) wants me (33F) to dress more revealing Trigger Warnings: internalized misogyny and body image issues Original Post: February 27, 2026 Husband and I have been together 15 years and throughout our relationship I have been a conservatively dressed frumpier woman. My clothes look good on me but it's a lot of looser fits, high necklines, sweaters, etc. I am also the mom of a toddler. Recently my husband and I went shopping with my younger sisters, who are in their mid 20s and are skinny and single. They bought stuff that suited their lifestyle. Short skirts, low necks, flashy, etc. It all looked great on them. My husband kept encouraging me to try on that kind of stuff and I politely declined. Later he told me that he would love it if I showed more skin, at least at home if not out and about. We live in the Midwest and I am cold about 9 months of the year, so I am always completely covered and wrapped in a blanket to boot. I laughed this off thinking he was just being silly. But he was very serious. We don't have the greatest sex life, being together so long and having a toddler, but it's not terrible and I do take off my clothes at that time, just not every day. I told him that scandalous clothes simply don't fit my lifestyle, but he keeps insisting I try it. I am a larger woman and the clothes he admires simply would not work for me. I'm wondering if I should just ignore his request or have another talk with him? Compromise somehow? What's the best way forward? *Tl;Dr husband wants middle aged wife to dress more revealing. Wife is uncomfortable* Editor's note: please note that many of OOP's responses were downvoted, but they provide more details Relevant Comments Commenter 1: That's really, really sad. Perhaps you need to reevaluate some things and invest in mental health support. OOP: I like my life. It's just tiring, and being tired makes me feel middle aged. It's not deeper than that. Commenter 2: Of course it’s deeper than that. No 33 year-old describes themselves as middle aged. Your husband sees a problem and is trying to get his young, sexy wife back. OOP: This is the thing. I have always dressed and looked this way. He's never had a "young, sexy wife". he's had a more elegant, casual, conservatively dressed wife. Commenter 3: you called yourself frumpy and always wrapped in a blanket, that’s not elegantly casual. OOP: lol, I guess my work/leaving the house attire is different from home attire. I'm cold! I have to stay warm in the house! It's either blankets, sweat suits, or a very thick robe. Commenter 4: Are you leaving the house often? Is your LO in day care or are you mostly at home taking care of them? OOP: We both work. I have hobbies that involve me leaving the house as well. Commenter 5: Do you and your husband go on date nights where you dress up? You don't need to dress in a way that's antithetical to your style or comfort, but it sounds like he may be expressing some desire for less frumpy middle-aged bundle mode and a bit more wife mode. How would he characterize your sex life? "Not great but not terrible" isn't exactly a ringing endorsement in the first place, but I suspect he might lean more towards terrible than great in his own estimation. Being parents of a toddler is hard, and that's why it's extra important to make sure you're nurturing the relationship as well, not just the parent side of things. That includes intimacy. Sounds like you two need to have an honest talk about your "not great" sex life and how to work on feeling more physically connected. And yeah, that might occasionally mean turning up the thermostat a bit and putting away the sweats. OOP: Dress up dates, not often, but when we go I have nice modest clothing that I wear. Our sex life is not great. His sex drive is lower than mine. I've gotten used to it Commenter 6: I think self-describing yourself as a "conservatively dressed frumpier woman" makes your husband's request sound a lot more reasonable to me. Leave the toddler out of it. You've been together for 15 years and only a had a toddler for maybe three years. That's roughly 12 years of being frumpy. No wonder your sex life suffers. Your husband wants you to be sexier, but you've basically given up. Certainly there is some middle ground between what you consider "scandalous" and "frumpy." There has to be a way that you can show off a little for your husband and still feel comfortable. OOP: I feel that he knows how I dress. It's been consistent for years. Why change now, especially now that I'm running around a toddler and am definitely older. I want to appease him but showing skin isn't practical in the winter, and tight outfits show off the postpartum body in ways I don't like. I don't know how to honor his request and feel comfortable OOP needs to get therapy to deal with her unresolved issues that she has OOP: I have been to therapy and have focused a lot on decentering my looks and the pressure to be sexy. Embracing the things I do like about myself and leaving behind what I don't. Commenter 7: 33 isn’t middle aged! Why not buy some sexy lingerie for his eyes only instead and be proactive about wearing it to bed and initiating? OOP: He doesn't like lingerie, it puts pressure on him and feels like trying too hard. He wants "casually sexy clothing". Commenter 7: Well do you like lingerie? Could that be your compromise? At least a sexy bra or something you could start by wearing under your clothes. Personally I won’t be interested in sex if I don’t feel sexy. I understand you don’t want to wear different clothes but tbh I don’t see the harm in trying something that could potentially help you feel better about yourself or feel more sexy and maybe help your sex life. And if you try it and don’t like then oh well at least you tried. I might be wrong but your post reads as if you don’t have a lot of self-confidence. The sexiest thing a woman can wear is confidence! Also I don’t think anyone would consider 33 Middle Aged that’s just madness. OOP: I don't personally like lingerie. I have a hard to find bra size so my three bras are aggressively practical. I feel pretty good about myself in the clothes I wear! I love clothes and thrive in looser fitting, colorful yet conservative wear.   Update: March 30, 2026 (one month later) Update: my husband (33M) wants me (33F) to dress more revealing I posted a little while ago about this dilemma. My husband wants me to start showing cleavage and leg while we're around the house. I have always dressed conservatively and now that I have a toddler, this feels even more impractical. So, a few days after posting, I humored him by taking him shopping. I asked him to pick out stuff that he wanted me to wear, and agreed to try them on in the dressing room. He picked out all the expected stuff. Lace camis, deep necklines. Even a few pairs of shorts and one of those ridiculous bloomer things. I tried them all on and then showed him how difficult each one would be. This top while bending to pick up toys. These shorts while changing diapers. How everything rides up and slips and would require constant adjustment. After a while of this, he backed off. Apologized. Agreed he would not ask for any of that again. Unfortunately, it appears he might have developed some kind of Madonna complex. We have not had sex since that day. He does not find my current persona sexually appealing anymore. He's dissatisfied with us having sex with the lights off, even though that's how we've always done it. So we're at a bit of a stalemate now. Is there a way we can reach a compromise that allows me to be comfortable and him to have some level of arousal? Or do we stick to the status quo? Editor's note: OOP made lots of responses, I am listing top common questions and responses Relevant Comments Commenter 1: Why not try to find a special outfit for “occasions”? I saw in your other post you keep saying you’re middle aged at 33… I’m 40 and refuse to use those words. Are you feeling ok? OOP: I am a tired mom. I've felt middle aged for a while. I feel ok but I also take antidepressants and have for many years Commenter 2: How much mental load does your husband take on? OOP: The majority. He's a great parent Commenter 3: You did not “humor” him. That implies giving things a genuine shot in good faith. It seems that your intention was to school him and show why what he wants is wrong, and to make him feel your pain. It seems to me that instead of fixating on sexy clothing as a proxy issue, you two should seek couples counseling with the aim of generally improving your sex life and communication around sex. Is this something each of you is open to? OOP: You're right. I was hurt and acted out of anger. I felt like he was asking for something so impractical and selfish that my feelings were hurt OOP on her physical shape OOP: I am a larger woman with a lot of lumps and bumps, lol. I prefer conservative items that cover my body. Commenter 4: Question - do you like your body? Do you find your body attractive and sexy aside from your husband's desire? Do you see your body as more than what it did - bear a child? Your personal style is one thing, but you seem to describe your body in a negative way and highlight what you perceive as flaws. I think this is especially common for women after pregnancy. If you don't like your body it doesn't really matter what you wear. You'll never feel comfortable because it's not about the clothes, it's about your self-image. I could be wrong, but it seems like the other things are symptoms of a much deeper root. I'd try working on that while talking with your husband. My guess is it never really occurred to him and so his request has triggered a subconscious or unspoken insecurity. OOP: I do not. I have never liked my body. Therapy has helped me see my body as a tool rather than an aesthetic thing. I focus on what it can do rather than what it looks like. I cover what displeases me and focus on what I like. I have always dressed and acted this way, even pre motherhood Commenter 5: Reading this post and then your comments about your own body is making me wonder if this is a you issue instead. You seem to be very adverse to showing off your body. Were you like this before the baby, or has pregnancy ruined your self-image? Either way, recommend some soul searching. Clearly, your husband loves you (even if his attempts to show it are misguided). You need to love you, too. OOP: I have always been this way Commenter 6: I’m curious how he dresses and if it’s appealing to you. Because most of the guys who requested I wear specific items of clothing did not dress to a standard I found appealing. OOP: He wears what he likes. I've never been invested in his looks or clothing OOP on her family OOP We both work outside the home. He is a fantastic parent and partner. Our child is around 18 months.   ----NEW UPDATE---- DISCLAIMER: OOP HAS UPDATED AFTER THE BoRU WAS POSTED SO PER RULES UPDATE IS INCLUDED I (33F) am trying to improve my intimate life with my husband (33M) and am struggling?: April 7, 2026 (one week later) I can't officially update per subreddit rules but I posted here a bit over a week ago about my husband wanting me to wear shorts/tanks/etc around the house and me disliking my body and wanting to cover up as much as possible. Well, my husband saw the posts and we talked about it. I have made inquiries about finding a new therapist and so that is in the works. We planned to try intimacy with a lamp on so he could see me a little. My husband was very loving and encouraging. He agreed to put the request for new wardrobe on hold while I pull myself together. And then stuff got worse. I am a hobbyist writer attempting to get a novel published (I write every day from 4 to 7 AM, it is the thing I love most in life). After two failed novels my agent officially dropped me. Now I don't just feel middle aged. I feel old and dried up and so defeated. All I have ever wanted to do is be a writer and now I'm even further than ever before. It's like, I'm not beautiful or successful or smart but I can write...now I don't even have that. So yeah. At an absolute low point. My question is, how can I take care of my marriage and my family and myself in this state? I feel like I can't lean on him because he's going through his own stuff and I don't really have anyone else to turn to either. I've kind of lost all my friends these past few years, mostly due to jealousy about everyone else's successes. My own fault. It's all my own fault.   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]