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Source: https://www.bungie.net/7/en/News/Article/launch_learning_whatsnext THE SHORT VERSION (TL;DR) There’s a lot of words ahead, but here’s the gist of it: With the first season of Marathon we’ve created a strong core community. We're embarking on a multi-season journey built around growing from the seed of this strong community. We’re looking to solve some pain points for players: Making the game less grindy, more rewarding Making improvements to things like the UI/UX, matchmaking, end game meta, playing as solos/duos, etc. Smoothing out onboarding We’re also going to build out more of the core game: Adding new fun and mind-bending content: new and updated zones, Runner shells, new combatants, weapons, loot, and more Building systems to make progressing more interesting We want to build more survival experiences for different moods, like if you want to full sweat or lean back and chill. Exploring more pure PVP, PVE, and PVP-lite experiences Continue experimenting with experimental queues to learn more around these experiences Other highlights: We're bringing back Duos for Season 2 with a rotating Duos queue. We're testing some experiments in Season 2 around PVE and PVP-Lite modes. We’re expanding the max size of your Vault and increasing faction progression rates in Season 2. We’ll talk more about Season 2 content like Night Marsh, the new Cradle progression system, and the Runner shell Sentinel, the week of May 25. If this summary has your interest piqued, read on below for more info on these topics. THREE MONTHS LATER If this were a recording, this is where you'd hear me press play, the synth beats with the lulling hum of a playful but elusive baseline would collide with your eardrums and my voice would greet you with a warm and simple "Hello." So let's just imagine that's happening and get started... Nearly three months have passed since we've flung you across the stars and crash landed you onto the dangerous and mysterious lost colony on Tau Ceti IV. For the development team, myself, and all of the talented teams at Bungie and Sony that have been supporting us, it has been quite a wild ride. From launch to now, we've watched you tackle the challenges of Tau Ceti, learn to navigate its threats, discover new ways to engage with one another, and create infinite unique stories of survival. And through it all, we've been watching, listening, and trying new things in an effort to learn more about you all. As we come closer to the end of our first season and the subsequent start of Season 2, we wanted to take some time to reflect on the learnings of Season 1 and how that informs our thoughts about what we want to achieve as we build future seasons. So please come take a walk with us as we reflect a bit on Marathon. 2026_Marathon_Weaponless_Press_Kit_Large_005.jpg BEFORE Marathon’s roots go back to the original trilogy of the 90s, where you, as a lone security officer, defend a colony ship above the distant planet Tau Ceti IV. Your fight for survival begins a long journey of discovery in which you learn about ancient alien races, the dangers of AI evolution and "rampancy," and the complex nature of dimensional reality, among many other themes. As we moved towards bringing those ideas to life, we brought together a team to make a social survival experience, one built around a few core concepts and themes: Everything is potentially dangerous: Create an environment where everything is a hazard or threat. This includes fauna and flora indigenous to the planet, weather patterns, NPC enemies, and other players. Preparing is important: Feel high value in bringing and utilizing the right resources for the problems you encounter. Every run moves you forward: Ensure every run feels like it's pushing you forward, raising the floor on your possibilities. Bigger risk, bigger reward: Create an environment where you can take on more risk of death to gain better rewards. Use your judgment: Focus on open-ended decisions. Let players tackle challenges in open-ended ways. Fight, flee, and evade based on your judgment of the scenario. Create loose alliances, compete to gain resources for your own betterment, or wait out the battles and scavenge the field. Surviving matters: Prompt players to consider survival as the core win condition and ensure that living feels successful. Building on these concepts, we constructed the game around high-impact decisions, feeling the push and pull of making a game that felt too complex, confusing, and punishing versus one that felt learnable and punishing enough to keep survival as its central theme. We iterated with expanding groups of players, making shifts in our core gameplay and features as we got feedback through our tests. In the end, we landed on a game where we felt we had achieved a balance in which we were provoking players to learn, take risks, feel the glory of successfully surviving, and the tragedy of catastrophic failure, all in the pursuit of creating compelling stories of traversing the mysterious and dangerous environment on an alien planet. And then we put that game in a cannon and launched it out into the world beyond us... Rook_Cinematic_4.jpg WHAT WENT WELL Out of the gate, it was exciting to see the core community build around the tense survival experience we created. The sheer number of stories the community has shared of their moments running across the planet, battling the UESC, getting into heated fights with other Runners, and yes, sometimes dying to the errant tick nest or poison plant, were overwhelmingly inspiring. The love we've seen for the world we've created has been unimaginably exciting as well. Fanart, lore videos, video edits, and music shares have become a common staple of our internal chats. For all this and more, we are highly thankful for the community that has come to join us for this first season. You are the reason we do this, and our gratitude for all of you cannot be expressed enough. Throughout Season 1, we've also been building a lot of muscle to deliver a more responsive and iterative live game to match the pace at which players have been playing. We launched Cryo Archive, our first endgame map, and Ranked Mode. We launched our experimental queue, including experiments around Duos and Sponsored Kit queues. We've tackled a variety of balance patches and hotfixes as we've seen problems in the live game. We launched the mid-season C.A.R.R.I. initiative focused on playing with and against others in new ways. With each release, we've been learning and getting better at understanding the needs of our live game operations and upgrading where we've seen opportunities. But as many of you know, Season 1 has not been without some hiccups and challenges, so let's discuss these a bit. 2026_Marathon_Cryo_Unlock_Press_Kit_LARGE_08.jpg WHAT WE'VE LEARNED Where do we start? Developing a new game is always a challenge, and creating a live game in 2026 is no simple effort. There are millions of moving parts to a game, especially a player-driven and systems-dense game such as Marathon. Let's start at a high level with some themes we've observed around the Marathon game and community. Marathon is overwhelming to learn. Marathon for new players can be an overwhelming experience. After a short tutorial, you're often thrown into the fire to learn a lot of concepts, navigate a lot of screens, filter through a ton of loot, and build muscle memory with a lot of mechanics fairly quickly in a hostile environment where other players can bring you down and take your stuff. It's easy to hit a wall if you're not spending lots of time, don't have a consistent crew, or are not super skilled. Matches can feel like a death spiral for some players. You kit up, you go in, you die to a spawn rush, or someone gets the jump on you as you're looting. Faction progress can feel like a slog, and you struggle to get mats and credits out to upgrade. You rarely get out of that loop, and the endgame of Cryo can feel so far away as you inch your way forward in the precious hours you have to play every week. And doing it solo just makes it all harder... Still figuring out the balance mix of the endgame. Bubbles, ‘nade spam, and snipers can make it feel like every engagement at the endgame, with all the stuff everyone has accumulated, is chaotic, fast, and stressful in a bad way. Taking time to make important tactical decisions can feel like a luxury. Spawn rushing and lobby clearing are dominant strategies that pull the pacing too far and make matches too predictable. Matchmaking can be a blessing or a curse. Sometimes you don't want to sweat. Gripping your precious loot every moment as you creep your way to the exfil while spinning your head around like a chicken to make sure another Runner doesn't drop on top of you with a shotgun is a fun and intense experience. But after a few runs of that, sometimes you need to power down and just want to frag out or relax and play a different way. It's hard to find that chill moment in Marathon. As we’ve been learning these lessons, we’ve also been experimenting and observing some additional areas to help us explore avenues to improve Marathon: Sponsored Marsh / Perimeter are helpful to create a more chill environment to play, especially if you've just been stomped or want to focus on getting some quests done over duking it out for loot. A lot of people have been playing the Sponsored Kit queues, and we're excited to see how it helps the overall loop of economic gain and progression. Sponsored Kits can be a good way to up the floor over the season and help recovery. Escalating from lower-end kits to middle-end kits over the season can make it easier to get back into the fight, especially for players who play less. Our matchmaking systems need different dimensions. In Season 1, they were focused on making sure players with less experience and knowledge were being kept away from those with more. This resulted in some good, which is newer players being protected for longer, and some bad, which is some unfortunate small pooling happening in the later parts of the season. The result was a constant battle we fought between match quality and queue times. We need to be careful with how many queues we're running. Throughout the season we added more queues which inevitably split the population more and led to some increased queue times. As we go into future seasons, we want to be more judicious with how we handle the amount of queues better. We've been absorbing so much over this season thanks to feedback, research, and play data from you all. It makes our heads spin sometimes. We're dizzy with it. But learning is just the first step to improvement, so let's discuss what we're planning next. Runner_Shell_cinematic_Destroyer_3.png WHERE WE WANT TO GO When we were bringing Marathon out for players, our aspiration started with a simple statement: We want players to experience the thrill and danger of surviving on the edge of the explored universe. Our plan is to commit to that mission by both going deeper and expanding on that definition. To that end we have two main paths we're walking down starting with Season 2: A BETTER SEAT-GRIPPING EXPERIENCE WITH MORE MIND BENDING SCI-FI: First and foremost, we want to continue to evolve the challenging and tense experience that our players have come to love while leaning further into the wild world we've created. We want to build on it with new content and systems that challenge you in new ways to grow, collaborate, and compete with one another in your quest to thrive in Tau Ceti’s deadly environments. New zones, zone changes and variants, new shells, new weapons, new equipment, and loot galore. New systems that change how you progress in a season. New contracts that add to the journey of exploration and gaining favor with the factions. And changes to parts of the game that meaningfully help you reexamine what you already know. In Season 2 we'll be starting that journey with some things we'll be adding to the mix, including a new dimension of challenge with Night Marsh, a new defensive Runner shell Sentinel, new weapons and equipment, a revamp to how you acquire Runner shell stats to give you more options with the Cradle, and increased progression rates for faction and Runner levels. S2_KeyArt_16x9_4K.jpg Beyond Season 2, we're working on some interesting ideas that will help to escalate the game and bring new areas of Tau Ceti to life. As we develop this new content, we’re focusing on how we bring new and interesting challenges to the game for both veterans and newcomers alike. Just a note, these ideas are in development, and so in the interest of transparency, we're going to enumerate them below but they'll likely take better shape and change as we learn more over Season 2. A new zone that leans into more alien elements and mind warping debuffs. New enemies from Tau Ceti and beyond, big and small alike. New weapons that fill out the battery side of the arsenal. New ways to exfil that create interesting tradeoffs between how much loot you carry versus how safe they are. We’re also dedicating a strong effort to smoothing out the experience and solving issues we already see, as well as any new issues that arise, in a quick and responsive manner. This includes not only balance changes and improvements to the user experience, but also ensuring you can find good value in playing a little as well as playing a lot, and that you can better find the right challenges for your gear and skill level as you grow in the game. In Season 2, we’ll be adding a Duos rotating zone queue. In Season 2, we’ll be adding a new matchmaking system that helps players find better quality matches with more flex for higher-end players. In Season 2, we’ll be expanding the max size of your Vault. For Season 2 and beyond, we're working on a set of UX improvements to help make setting goals and getting into a match smoother. For Season 3 and beyond, we’re working on improving our onboarding experience to make it less overwhelming for new players. For Season 3 and beyond, we’ll be making changes to the contract system to improve how you interact with Priority and other contracts. MORE OPTIONS TO CHILL AND NEW SURVIVAL EXPERIENCES: The second theme is about how we want to evolve Marathon as a whole to be an experience where you can find more novel ways to play when you're stressed out from a nail-biting run and just need to cool off or have fun without the stress. Options where you can go full sweat or lean back and chill. This means new ways to play that accommodate different friend groups, moods, and time availability to allow you to experience the thrilling survival of Tau Ceti in the way that fits your needs. In Season 2, we will be experimenting with two modes, one at the beginning of the season and one towards the middle/latter half of the season. The experimental mode at the beginning of the season will focus more on PVE, but with a light touch of PVP. The second experimental mode will be a PVE-only mode that’s focused on crews being tasked with completing objectives together and making some progress across matches. We’ll continue to run experimental queues beyond these two offerings for Season 2 and beyond, testing the waters around other mechanics (such as perhaps a more purely PVP-focused mode) with the potential for these to become part of the core game loop or permanent new ways to play. Big things coming down the line! So with all this talk about the future, let's wrap this up with one last reflection on this year-long journey we're going to take together. Marathon_Launch_Cinematic_Selects_02.jpg NOW AND AFTER If this were a recording, this is where I'd pause the music and bring my hands together and stare thoughtfully off in the distance. I'd begin to say something, and then probably stop myself and take a few deep breaths before continuing. Today we're approaching the end of Season 1, but our eyes are on the road from here to beyond 2026 and into 2027 and our hands are working to pave that road as we speak. The journey ahead is one that will see the game expand in scope, depth, and breadth of what it has been for Season 1, all in the interest of bringing to life the vibrancy and passion that we have as a team for sharing our love of survival challenges with you all. To look more directly at our plans and goals for the next year: Season 2 is on the horizon and we'll be sowing the seeds for a lot of our future plans via new content such as Sentinel and Night Marsh, systems, and experiments around new play modes that may become permanent in the future. Season 3 we're planning to introduce a lot (and I mean a lot) of revisions to our early experience, including big updates to Perimeter, alongside a new Runner shell, and additional (no spoilers) content. Season 4 we're focusing on building more depth into the existing extraction loop. Season 5 we're looking at bringing the whole ecosystem of (PV(P)VE) play together and evolving our weird sci-fi world in new ways. For those of you who have joined us on this journey, we want to thank you. Your feedback, your endless support, and your passion have become the echoing chant that fuels us to conjure new ideas, create new solutions to problems, and have fun doing it. We're excited for you to join us as we grow this game around you and the community you've created. For those of you who may be on the fence about whether or not we're the right game for you: thank you as well. We're excited to welcome you when you're ready to take the dive so keep checking back in with us as we walk this journey and if you get the itch, we'll be more than happy to have you. Alright, this is where I hit the stop button. I've written a lot of words. Time to get back to work and turn words into releases. Thank you infinitely, --Joe. submitted by /u/DTG_Bot to r/Marathon [link] [comments]

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I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/Square_Phone_8468 Originally posted to r/AITAH AITAH for not being excited my sister is having a new baby when I still have custody of her first child? Trigger Warnings: emotional manipulation, alcoholism, child neglect / abandonment Original Post: April 4, 2026 Yes, I’m on a throwaway, I have people I know on my actual account, and I really don’t talk about this with friends, hence the 3rd party opinions. My sister Val is an alcoholic. Or was an alcoholic, idk the terminology. She has been on and off since she was 18. Her drinking made her a neglectful parent. I won’t go into it but it eventually social services stepped in and I ended up fostering my nephew Danny, who was 6 at the time. When we took custody, Val made almost no effort to see Danny. She missed scheduled visits, even in the brief periods she was clean after being sent to rehab. Danny grew very resentful and when she did stick to visits he would refuse to speak to her, which would drive her into another bender/spiral/relapse. After 2 years of fostering my husband and I were given full legal guardianship, which Val voluntarily gave us. Danny is now 11, and Val isn’t in his life which he says is what he wants. Val has been sober for 2 years, and only ever asks how Danny is when she speaks to me, she makes no effort to contact him. I have never really said much to her about it because Danny is a happy kid, and I think we’re good parents to him, and I don’t want Val to start contacting him out of obligation and end up hurting him. She’s basically just an uninvolved aunt to him. But earlier this week, Val announced on a family group call that she’s pregnant. And I couldn’t even fake being pleased. My stomach just dropped. She’s over there grinning, talking about a nursery while next door to me is the bedroom of the kid she discarded? It’s one thing to hold your hands up and say you’re not capable of being a mother, but to just decide you can’t be bothered to do the work of repairing the relationship with the child you already have so you just have a new one? I guess I didn’t look happy on the video because everyone asked what my issue was. I just said nothing, and not to worry because I’ll let the child she didn’t want know about the one that she did. Val got really upset and her boyfriend got mad at me and the call ended shortly after. My mum says I owe Val an apology. She asked if I thought she should take Danny back or if I resented having him. To be clear, I couldn’t love that boy more if he came out of me, and no I don’t think he should live with Val. My mum’s point is if I think things should stay the way they are then I shouldn’t begrudge Val for still wanting to be a mother to someone, and that considering there’s nothing she could do right in this situation, I should find it in my heart to be happy she’s healthy and finding happiness. My dad agrees with me that she’s making a bad decision having another child but mainly because he feels she’s not stable, not because of Danny. He says Danny is my son now and I shouldn’t see it as him being re-abandoned when he’s in the best place for him. I just feel like it’s so wrong of Val to try and start fresh like she doesn’t already have a child out there that she never even tried with. It seems like she just wants everything the easy way. I’m just so angry that she thinks she doesn’t have to take responsibility for the hurt she caused, she can just start the cycle again as if Danny was the first pancake. Am I really the AH for not seeing this as a positive thing? AITAH has no consensus bot, OOP was NTA Editor’s note: OOP made lots of comments that provided more details, I am listing common questions and responses Relevant Comments Commenter 1: NTA. I have a sister like her, who now has 3 kids to 3 different dads. None are involved, my mother basically raised the kids until she died. Once my mum died, sister spiraled and tried to move in with my dad. Is she stable now? I don’t understand your Mum’s point. Why would you take this as thinking your sister needed to take her kid back? My first thought would be worry you’d end up with a second child to take care of. OOP: She says she’s stable. Who really knows. I don’t see her much. To my knowledge she is sober, I’ve seen no markers of a relapse, so I’m taking her at her word. Emotionally stable? Idk if she’s ever been that. My mum’s point is that I don’t want her to take back the son she has, and I’m not happy she’s having a baby, so she’s like, do you think she just doesn’t deserve to be a mother and be punished the rest of her life. And I get what my mum means but at the same time, I just don’t know how Val sleeps at night, or expected that just because she gets to forget about her kid that I do too? Commenter 2: Your mum seems to forget that Danny has feelings too. I can only imagine how he's going to feel when he finds out that he was the practice run. OOP: I think she doesn’t understand the depth of what he’s gone through. Whenever she sees him, he’s in a great mood, when we talk about him I’m talking about his awards at school, etc. She has a bit of a rose coloured view of it all I think. She’s a very “all’s well that ends well” kind of person, not really a deep thinker. Commenter 3: How would you feel if she went into therapy and so did Danny so that they could build some kind of relationship, but not including her being his parent as you are CLEARLY now his parent? If she put in that kind of work, is that what you're looking for? It seems to me your problem is that she has put in absolutely no effort whatsoever with her first child. NTA. OOP: Danny doesn’t want a relationship with her, and we respect that. From our side the door is open if he ever does but Val has put in so little effort over the years it doesn’t seem like she’s interested, despite her randomly saying she is sometimes and not following through. You’ve nailed it though, I don’t know what I’m looking for. I would have been looking for her to be on freaking contraception. Because how tf do you already have a child that you ab*sed and think “oh well that one didn’t work out guess I’ll go again” OOP on if she is going to take in Danny's sibling for Val OOP: We’re not taking in another child. It’s a hard no. She’s on her own this time OOP on what she wants Val to do in order to make things right between her and Val? OOP: I want her to have been on birth control. I want her to have taken a good look at the mess she made and say to herself “I hate no right to make it worse”. So no, she can’t make this right with me. My mother is correct about that part. I don’t resent having Danny. But I resent that she washed her hands off him, and acts like he doesn’t mean anything to her now because he has a tainted image of her. This new baby is going to come into the world now knowing who she is and what she did, and that’s what she really wants. She doesn’t want to deal with what she did, she doesn’t want the kid who sees her as she is. And I hate that she thinks she can just start again. What does that say to Danny? “I broke you but now I want something not broken”. That’s not growth, in my book. OOP explains more about if Danny wants to connect with Val and his experiences OOP: It’s been difficult, because he was young back then. He’d cry when she called, run away from the phone. On the rare occasion she kept a visit he would hide behind me, so we stopped being there for visits, the social worker said he would sit with his back to her not speaking. The last couple of years he doesn’t like to talk about her at all. He just says she’s nobody and not important. We got told by his last therapist that we just had to accept that was where he was at right now and not expect that he perform big feelings that he might not consciously have at the moment. I don’t know how you regain the trust of a child when you’ve repeatedly proven they can’t trust you. I’m not one to give him any advice I wouldn’t even trust Val to water my plants. But no, she’s never asked. She’s respecting his space, I guess. Or maybe the fact that he doesn’t want to talk to her is the green light for her to pretend she’s the victim, idk. + She sends cards, no gifts, for holidays and birthdays. She used to call for birthdays but he started refusing to speak to her and she stopped trying. She doesn’t have his phone number, never gets in contact or asks. And he never asks about her. Commenter 5: No matter how much Danny is loved by you, he will always have the anguish of being abandoned and replaced. I say this because he knows his mother gave birth to him. And now the love that she was supposed to give to him, she's given to someone new. I think I would talk to him seriously. Let him know that this is not the case. And if you truly love him, I would adopt him so he has an actual mother. Not just a legal guardian, but a mother that he knows will never leave. That may help him cope. OOP: I know that’s true. And what makes it worse if that he remembers living with her. When we first got him, he would cry and cry for her. For someone who didn’t even bother to feed him most days. It was only after living with us for a while that he realised how abnormal that was, and got angry with her. He says he doesn’t remember anything good about her, I don’t know if that’s true. But he knows she didn’t care, and I’m sure that hurts him and probably will for his whole life. OOP on Val's background growing up OOP: My mum isn’t an idiot. She’s just a bleeding heart. She’s not Val’s bio mum, and Val went through a lot with her actual mother. My mum has always just been a bit of a light touch with her. Especially because my mum is one of those people whose greatest joy has always been being a mother, so she doesn’t like to admit some people just aren’t cut out for it. Commenter 5: NTA. You are protecting who your family is failing. Your sister needs psychological help clearly, and your mom might too. “Can’t blame her for wanting to be a mother to someone” just say you don’t like your grandchild holy fuck. Side point: The fact that people who get kids taken away/lost custody and do nothing to improve it or get them back are allowed to keep having more will never ever make sense to me. Edit because I’m actually so mad at your parents: your dad sucks too. Sorry. The child absolutely will see it as being abandoned again. Please go low contact with the family for the sake of Danny and get him a therapist now to help process the sibling situation OOP: My parents have been good parents to me, and they’re great grandparents to my children, I’m not going to cut them off. They love Danny and my daughter, and I think they did a good job with me. But yeah I don’t know what’s going to happen with Val’s child. I’m taking myself out of that equation, I’m not going through all that again. I paid for her rehab twice and yes she’s sober but on a personal level it seems like she’s learnt nothing. Commenter 6: Is your guardianship reversable? Because honestly with their reaction and your mother asking about it - you need to consult an attorney and tread softly with your sister and boyfriend. Unless you are getting funding that lets you support him - you may want to consider legal adoption depending on the laws where you live. Where is Danny's biological father? Do you know your sister's boyfriend well? Will he be able to care for the child if she spirals again? OOP: Only by a judge. And she’s not winning that case. We live a plane ride away, Danny is happy, thriving, in private school, and hasn’t spoken to Val in years. No judge is going to grant her custody, especially when she voluntarily signed him over. We’d keep her in court till the next kid was in university. Commenter 7: INFO: you mentioned that your sister is two years sober. How is she in other aspects of her life? Does she have a job? A stable relationship? OOP: She has a job, she has a boyfriend, the father of the new child. I don’t like the guy I think he’s an emotional vampire but he’s a teacher, so he’s gainfully employed.   Update: April 14, 2026 (10 days later) Update - AITAH for not being excited my sister is having a new baby when I still have custody of her first? Hi. I noticed a lot of people either DMd me asking for updates or put the “update me” thing in the comments, so I thought I would come and post one. I was really touched by people sharing their personal experiences in the comments as well, so I just wanted to respect that by providing closure on this? If you would consider this closure. Anyway, onto the update. First, my husband told Danny about the baby. They went out for a boys day on Saturday and they talked about it. I won’t share too much about it, but he took it pretty well all things considered. We do think we will book a few sessions with a therapist for him, but we want the dust to settle a little bit. Danny opens up easier when he’s had some time to himself to think about things first so we’re going to give a couple of weeks. But he’s doing well for now. Next, I spoke to my mum. A lot of people were quite harsh on her which I don’t think was deserved, but I did feel like we needed to have a conversation. My mother is the kindest and most forgiving person on the planet, and I love that about her. The same way I saw what Danny went through, she saw what Val went through with her birth mother. I look at Danny and see a scared little 6 year old. My mum looks at Val and sees a traumatized teenager. So she has a different perspective. She’s pretty “all’s well that ends well” in mindset, she always has been, she likes happy endings. In her mind this is one. But she understands that she came across really flippant about what Danny went through and she does feel bad about it in hindsight. She adores Danny so me laying it out for her all over again really affected her and she saw where I was coming from being upset. She did say she still hopes that Val is a better mother to her new baby, and at least we can both agree on that. Finally I spoke to Val. She apologised for not telling my beforehand but said she felt like she needed the support of having our parents there because she was nervous to tell me, and felt if we were all on the call it might feel a bit more like a normal, joyful occasion, but she said she knew she should have spoken to me separately. She said she will always regret the things she did while not sober and she doesn’t think Danny should ever forgive her, but she always wanted to be a mother, and she finally feels like she will be a good one now. I was listening to all this thinking I was just going to leave things where they were and stop reaching out. But then she basically said after everything, don’t I want her to be happy? And here’s where I have to admit to maybe being a bad person, but viscerally, I wanted to answer no. And I realised the answer is actually no, I don’t want Val to be happy. I want her to be sober, and healthy, and I guess to have moments of happiness. But when I think of her living a happy life, I know that isn’t what i would choose for her. I know that makes me a bad person, and I’m actually ok with that. People can judge Me I don’t care. Because they didn’t have to walk into some dingy government building and see a child with bones sticking out of his t-shirt, scared of every loud noise, and take him home and watch him hide cold fries under his mattress in case there wasn’t food to eat tomorrow. They didn’t have to teach a 6 year old the alphabet. They didn’t have to look at him crying for his mother and figure out how to tell him you don’t know where she is, thinking to yourself how sad it is she’s all he cares about when she’s somewhere not giving a crap what’s happening to him. The worst things Val ever did, she did to someone I love beyond measure, and it’s not for me to decide who deserves to be happy, but I can’t say I hope she is. Obviously I didn’t have all this clarity during the phone call, but I did have enough to be honest and say my family and I were not in a place where it would be possible to engage with her anymore. She didn’t take this well, and a lot of stuff she’s been hanging onto came up. Like how I should have tried harder to get Danny to talk to her, how she felt I wasn’t present enough when she had Danny, all stuff from years ago. She called me spitefully, and her boyfriend later sent me a message saying the same, but it had to be done. I don’t want to be in this toxic cycle of actively wishing someone doesn’t have the life they want and keeping them in my life just to stir this up every few weeks. It’s too much bad energy being put out there. I ended up blocking both Val and her bf. I let my parents know that we’ll have to do separate holidays and functions from now on, and they were very understanding. I’m happy to give Val priority on stuff with her dad’s side of the family and she can do the same with my mum’s and that’s that. My parents also promised not to give updates unless asked, to either side. I’m not really sure if I’d say this is a happy update. But I think the positive I can take from this is it’s made me very grateful for the family I have and I’m just going to focus on being the best mother and wife to them that I can be. Thank you again to everyone who commented, and if I’ve left anything out, feel free to let me know! Relevant Comments OOP clarifies the relationship between her and Val OOP: She’s my stepsister. Her dad is my stepdad, but I call him dad because he was the dad who raised me. Downvoted Commenter: She was adopted and was herself in similar situation as she created with Danny - OP's parents adopted her. OOP: They didn’t. My (step)dad is her biological father. She lived mostly with her mum, until she developed serious behavioural issues and it became clear that her mother was not a safe person to have custody and she came to live with us full time. Commenter 1: Is the BF an ex addict too? If so I figure there's an 80% chance that by the time this child is 6 years old, you'll have custody of it, too, if he's not, I'd put those odds at a mere 50/50. OOP: No, he’s not. He’s a crusader with a saviour complex. But he’s a high school teacher, no history of substance abuse as far as we know There’s a 0% chance of us taking custody, we’re not doing that. Commenter 2: Yeah and just don’t be surprised when you get the call later from cps because she reverted back to being a drunk when the stress of a new baby gets to much and they want you to take the second kid. OOP: Yeah we won’t be doing that, someone else will clean up her mess this time OOP responds to a downvoted commenter about keeping Danny from his baby brother OOP: Danny doesn’t want any contact with Val or her baby. He considers my daughter his sister and us his parents. If that ever changes then we will work out a plan but it’s not on the table at the moment. Downvoted Commenter: OP are you considering therapy for yourself? You admitted you don’t really want your sister to be happy, which would allude to me that you have some feelings to work though. It’s not normal to only want your sibling to have moments of happiness, instead of simply happy. Cutting off your sister is not going to heal the feelings you have about her. Having two separate holidays/family functions is not going to rebuild a relationship between her and Danny. I thought that was what you were most upset about? That your sister decided to have a baby instead of working on her relationship with her son, in your view. I don’t think you’re a bad person OP, but I do think you need therapy. OOP: I’m not sure how “not normal” it is when you know your sister is a child abuser. I don’t want to “fix” how I feel about her. I want her out of my life, and I want Danny to be happy and healthy and to not live every day with the effects of what she did, and I’ll do everything in my power to make that happen. If I feel like, even after having some distance from this situation, I’m still spending energy thinking about her, I’ll seek out some help. To let go of it, not because I think I owe her good wishes. Danny doesn’t want any contact with her, and we’re respecting that. If he does ever change his mind, I don’t know what we will do because she is ambivalent about contact with him apparently, but we will help him work through how he wants to approach it. But for now, he has no interest in a relationship with Val.   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]