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Source: https://www.bungie.net/7/en/News/Article/launch_learning_whatsnext THE SHORT VERSION (TL;DR) There’s a lot of words ahead, but here’s the gist of it: With the first season of Marathon we’ve created a strong core community. We're embarking on a multi-season journey built around growing from the seed of this strong community. We’re looking to solve some pain points for players: Making the game less grindy, more rewarding Making improvements to things like the UI/UX, matchmaking, end game meta, playing as solos/duos, etc. Smoothing out onboarding We’re also going to build out more of the core game: Adding new fun and mind-bending content: new and updated zones, Runner shells, new combatants, weapons, loot, and more Building systems to make progressing more interesting We want to build more survival experiences for different moods, like if you want to full sweat or lean back and chill. Exploring more pure PVP, PVE, and PVP-lite experiences Continue experimenting with experimental queues to learn more around these experiences Other highlights: We're bringing back Duos for Season 2 with a rotating Duos queue. We're testing some experiments in Season 2 around PVE and PVP-Lite modes. We’re expanding the max size of your Vault and increasing faction progression rates in Season 2. We’ll talk more about Season 2 content like Night Marsh, the new Cradle progression system, and the Runner shell Sentinel, the week of May 25. If this summary has your interest piqued, read on below for more info on these topics. THREE MONTHS LATER If this were a recording, this is where you'd hear me press play, the synth beats with the lulling hum of a playful but elusive baseline would collide with your eardrums and my voice would greet you with a warm and simple "Hello." So let's just imagine that's happening and get started... Nearly three months have passed since we've flung you across the stars and crash landed you onto the dangerous and mysterious lost colony on Tau Ceti IV. For the development team, myself, and all of the talented teams at Bungie and Sony that have been supporting us, it has been quite a wild ride. From launch to now, we've watched you tackle the challenges of Tau Ceti, learn to navigate its threats, discover new ways to engage with one another, and create infinite unique stories of survival. And through it all, we've been watching, listening, and trying new things in an effort to learn more about you all. As we come closer to the end of our first season and the subsequent start of Season 2, we wanted to take some time to reflect on the learnings of Season 1 and how that informs our thoughts about what we want to achieve as we build future seasons. So please come take a walk with us as we reflect a bit on Marathon. 2026_Marathon_Weaponless_Press_Kit_Large_005.jpg BEFORE Marathon’s roots go back to the original trilogy of the 90s, where you, as a lone security officer, defend a colony ship above the distant planet Tau Ceti IV. Your fight for survival begins a long journey of discovery in which you learn about ancient alien races, the dangers of AI evolution and "rampancy," and the complex nature of dimensional reality, among many other themes. As we moved towards bringing those ideas to life, we brought together a team to make a social survival experience, one built around a few core concepts and themes: Everything is potentially dangerous: Create an environment where everything is a hazard or threat. This includes fauna and flora indigenous to the planet, weather patterns, NPC enemies, and other players. Preparing is important: Feel high value in bringing and utilizing the right resources for the problems you encounter. Every run moves you forward: Ensure every run feels like it's pushing you forward, raising the floor on your possibilities. Bigger risk, bigger reward: Create an environment where you can take on more risk of death to gain better rewards. Use your judgment: Focus on open-ended decisions. Let players tackle challenges in open-ended ways. Fight, flee, and evade based on your judgment of the scenario. Create loose alliances, compete to gain resources for your own betterment, or wait out the battles and scavenge the field. Surviving matters: Prompt players to consider survival as the core win condition and ensure that living feels successful. Building on these concepts, we constructed the game around high-impact decisions, feeling the push and pull of making a game that felt too complex, confusing, and punishing versus one that felt learnable and punishing enough to keep survival as its central theme. We iterated with expanding groups of players, making shifts in our core gameplay and features as we got feedback through our tests. In the end, we landed on a game where we felt we had achieved a balance in which we were provoking players to learn, take risks, feel the glory of successfully surviving, and the tragedy of catastrophic failure, all in the pursuit of creating compelling stories of traversing the mysterious and dangerous environment on an alien planet. And then we put that game in a cannon and launched it out into the world beyond us... Rook_Cinematic_4.jpg WHAT WENT WELL Out of the gate, it was exciting to see the core community build around the tense survival experience we created. The sheer number of stories the community has shared of their moments running across the planet, battling the UESC, getting into heated fights with other Runners, and yes, sometimes dying to the errant tick nest or poison plant, were overwhelmingly inspiring. The love we've seen for the world we've created has been unimaginably exciting as well. Fanart, lore videos, video edits, and music shares have become a common staple of our internal chats. For all this and more, we are highly thankful for the community that has come to join us for this first season. You are the reason we do this, and our gratitude for all of you cannot be expressed enough. Throughout Season 1, we've also been building a lot of muscle to deliver a more responsive and iterative live game to match the pace at which players have been playing. We launched Cryo Archive, our first endgame map, and Ranked Mode. We launched our experimental queue, including experiments around Duos and Sponsored Kit queues. We've tackled a variety of balance patches and hotfixes as we've seen problems in the live game. We launched the mid-season C.A.R.R.I. initiative focused on playing with and against others in new ways. With each release, we've been learning and getting better at understanding the needs of our live game operations and upgrading where we've seen opportunities. But as many of you know, Season 1 has not been without some hiccups and challenges, so let's discuss these a bit. 2026_Marathon_Cryo_Unlock_Press_Kit_LARGE_08.jpg WHAT WE'VE LEARNED Where do we start? Developing a new game is always a challenge, and creating a live game in 2026 is no simple effort. There are millions of moving parts to a game, especially a player-driven and systems-dense game such as Marathon. Let's start at a high level with some themes we've observed around the Marathon game and community. Marathon is overwhelming to learn. Marathon for new players can be an overwhelming experience. After a short tutorial, you're often thrown into the fire to learn a lot of concepts, navigate a lot of screens, filter through a ton of loot, and build muscle memory with a lot of mechanics fairly quickly in a hostile environment where other players can bring you down and take your stuff. It's easy to hit a wall if you're not spending lots of time, don't have a consistent crew, or are not super skilled. Matches can feel like a death spiral for some players. You kit up, you go in, you die to a spawn rush, or someone gets the jump on you as you're looting. Faction progress can feel like a slog, and you struggle to get mats and credits out to upgrade. You rarely get out of that loop, and the endgame of Cryo can feel so far away as you inch your way forward in the precious hours you have to play every week. And doing it solo just makes it all harder... Still figuring out the balance mix of the endgame. Bubbles, ‘nade spam, and snipers can make it feel like every engagement at the endgame, with all the stuff everyone has accumulated, is chaotic, fast, and stressful in a bad way. Taking time to make important tactical decisions can feel like a luxury. Spawn rushing and lobby clearing are dominant strategies that pull the pacing too far and make matches too predictable. Matchmaking can be a blessing or a curse. Sometimes you don't want to sweat. Gripping your precious loot every moment as you creep your way to the exfil while spinning your head around like a chicken to make sure another Runner doesn't drop on top of you with a shotgun is a fun and intense experience. But after a few runs of that, sometimes you need to power down and just want to frag out or relax and play a different way. It's hard to find that chill moment in Marathon. As we’ve been learning these lessons, we’ve also been experimenting and observing some additional areas to help us explore avenues to improve Marathon: Sponsored Marsh / Perimeter are helpful to create a more chill environment to play, especially if you've just been stomped or want to focus on getting some quests done over duking it out for loot. A lot of people have been playing the Sponsored Kit queues, and we're excited to see how it helps the overall loop of economic gain and progression. Sponsored Kits can be a good way to up the floor over the season and help recovery. Escalating from lower-end kits to middle-end kits over the season can make it easier to get back into the fight, especially for players who play less. Our matchmaking systems need different dimensions. In Season 1, they were focused on making sure players with less experience and knowledge were being kept away from those with more. This resulted in some good, which is newer players being protected for longer, and some bad, which is some unfortunate small pooling happening in the later parts of the season. The result was a constant battle we fought between match quality and queue times. We need to be careful with how many queues we're running. Throughout the season we added more queues which inevitably split the population more and led to some increased queue times. As we go into future seasons, we want to be more judicious with how we handle the amount of queues better. We've been absorbing so much over this season thanks to feedback, research, and play data from you all. It makes our heads spin sometimes. We're dizzy with it. But learning is just the first step to improvement, so let's discuss what we're planning next. Runner_Shell_cinematic_Destroyer_3.png WHERE WE WANT TO GO When we were bringing Marathon out for players, our aspiration started with a simple statement: We want players to experience the thrill and danger of surviving on the edge of the explored universe. Our plan is to commit to that mission by both going deeper and expanding on that definition. To that end we have two main paths we're walking down starting with Season 2: A BETTER SEAT-GRIPPING EXPERIENCE WITH MORE MIND BENDING SCI-FI: First and foremost, we want to continue to evolve the challenging and tense experience that our players have come to love while leaning further into the wild world we've created. We want to build on it with new content and systems that challenge you in new ways to grow, collaborate, and compete with one another in your quest to thrive in Tau Ceti’s deadly environments. New zones, zone changes and variants, new shells, new weapons, new equipment, and loot galore. New systems that change how you progress in a season. New contracts that add to the journey of exploration and gaining favor with the factions. And changes to parts of the game that meaningfully help you reexamine what you already know. In Season 2 we'll be starting that journey with some things we'll be adding to the mix, including a new dimension of challenge with Night Marsh, a new defensive Runner shell Sentinel, new weapons and equipment, a revamp to how you acquire Runner shell stats to give you more options with the Cradle, and increased progression rates for faction and Runner levels. S2_KeyArt_16x9_4K.jpg Beyond Season 2, we're working on some interesting ideas that will help to escalate the game and bring new areas of Tau Ceti to life. As we develop this new content, we’re focusing on how we bring new and interesting challenges to the game for both veterans and newcomers alike. Just a note, these ideas are in development, and so in the interest of transparency, we're going to enumerate them below but they'll likely take better shape and change as we learn more over Season 2. A new zone that leans into more alien elements and mind warping debuffs. New enemies from Tau Ceti and beyond, big and small alike. New weapons that fill out the battery side of the arsenal. New ways to exfil that create interesting tradeoffs between how much loot you carry versus how safe they are. We’re also dedicating a strong effort to smoothing out the experience and solving issues we already see, as well as any new issues that arise, in a quick and responsive manner. This includes not only balance changes and improvements to the user experience, but also ensuring you can find good value in playing a little as well as playing a lot, and that you can better find the right challenges for your gear and skill level as you grow in the game. In Season 2, we’ll be adding a Duos rotating zone queue. In Season 2, we’ll be adding a new matchmaking system that helps players find better quality matches with more flex for higher-end players. In Season 2, we’ll be expanding the max size of your Vault. For Season 2 and beyond, we're working on a set of UX improvements to help make setting goals and getting into a match smoother. For Season 3 and beyond, we’re working on improving our onboarding experience to make it less overwhelming for new players. For Season 3 and beyond, we’ll be making changes to the contract system to improve how you interact with Priority and other contracts. MORE OPTIONS TO CHILL AND NEW SURVIVAL EXPERIENCES: The second theme is about how we want to evolve Marathon as a whole to be an experience where you can find more novel ways to play when you're stressed out from a nail-biting run and just need to cool off or have fun without the stress. Options where you can go full sweat or lean back and chill. This means new ways to play that accommodate different friend groups, moods, and time availability to allow you to experience the thrilling survival of Tau Ceti in the way that fits your needs. In Season 2, we will be experimenting with two modes, one at the beginning of the season and one towards the middle/latter half of the season. The experimental mode at the beginning of the season will focus more on PVE, but with a light touch of PVP. The second experimental mode will be a PVE-only mode that’s focused on crews being tasked with completing objectives together and making some progress across matches. We’ll continue to run experimental queues beyond these two offerings for Season 2 and beyond, testing the waters around other mechanics (such as perhaps a more purely PVP-focused mode) with the potential for these to become part of the core game loop or permanent new ways to play. Big things coming down the line! So with all this talk about the future, let's wrap this up with one last reflection on this year-long journey we're going to take together. Marathon_Launch_Cinematic_Selects_02.jpg NOW AND AFTER If this were a recording, this is where I'd pause the music and bring my hands together and stare thoughtfully off in the distance. I'd begin to say something, and then probably stop myself and take a few deep breaths before continuing. Today we're approaching the end of Season 1, but our eyes are on the road from here to beyond 2026 and into 2027 and our hands are working to pave that road as we speak. The journey ahead is one that will see the game expand in scope, depth, and breadth of what it has been for Season 1, all in the interest of bringing to life the vibrancy and passion that we have as a team for sharing our love of survival challenges with you all. To look more directly at our plans and goals for the next year: Season 2 is on the horizon and we'll be sowing the seeds for a lot of our future plans via new content such as Sentinel and Night Marsh, systems, and experiments around new play modes that may become permanent in the future. Season 3 we're planning to introduce a lot (and I mean a lot) of revisions to our early experience, including big updates to Perimeter, alongside a new Runner shell, and additional (no spoilers) content. Season 4 we're focusing on building more depth into the existing extraction loop. Season 5 we're looking at bringing the whole ecosystem of (PV(P)VE) play together and evolving our weird sci-fi world in new ways. For those of you who have joined us on this journey, we want to thank you. Your feedback, your endless support, and your passion have become the echoing chant that fuels us to conjure new ideas, create new solutions to problems, and have fun doing it. We're excited for you to join us as we grow this game around you and the community you've created. For those of you who may be on the fence about whether or not we're the right game for you: thank you as well. We're excited to welcome you when you're ready to take the dive so keep checking back in with us as we walk this journey and if you get the itch, we'll be more than happy to have you. Alright, this is where I hit the stop button. I've written a lot of words. Time to get back to work and turn words into releases. Thank you infinitely, --Joe. submitted by /u/DTG_Bot to r/Marathon [link] [comments]

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I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/Square_Phone_8468 Originally posted to r/AITAH AITAH for not being excited my sister is having a new baby when I still have custody of her first child? Trigger Warnings: emotional manipulation, alcoholism, child neglect / abandonment Original Post: April 4, 2026 Yes, I’m on a throwaway, I have people I know on my actual account, and I really don’t talk about this with friends, hence the 3rd party opinions. My sister Val is an alcoholic. Or was an alcoholic, idk the terminology. She has been on and off since she was 18. Her drinking made her a neglectful parent. I won’t go into it but it eventually social services stepped in and I ended up fostering my nephew Danny, who was 6 at the time. When we took custody, Val made almost no effort to see Danny. She missed scheduled visits, even in the brief periods she was clean after being sent to rehab. Danny grew very resentful and when she did stick to visits he would refuse to speak to her, which would drive her into another bender/spiral/relapse. After 2 years of fostering my husband and I were given full legal guardianship, which Val voluntarily gave us. Danny is now 11, and Val isn’t in his life which he says is what he wants. Val has been sober for 2 years, and only ever asks how Danny is when she speaks to me, she makes no effort to contact him. I have never really said much to her about it because Danny is a happy kid, and I think we’re good parents to him, and I don’t want Val to start contacting him out of obligation and end up hurting him. She’s basically just an uninvolved aunt to him. But earlier this week, Val announced on a family group call that she’s pregnant. And I couldn’t even fake being pleased. My stomach just dropped. She’s over there grinning, talking about a nursery while next door to me is the bedroom of the kid she discarded? It’s one thing to hold your hands up and say you’re not capable of being a mother, but to just decide you can’t be bothered to do the work of repairing the relationship with the child you already have so you just have a new one? I guess I didn’t look happy on the video because everyone asked what my issue was. I just said nothing, and not to worry because I’ll let the child she didn’t want know about the one that she did. Val got really upset and her boyfriend got mad at me and the call ended shortly after. My mum says I owe Val an apology. She asked if I thought she should take Danny back or if I resented having him. To be clear, I couldn’t love that boy more if he came out of me, and no I don’t think he should live with Val. My mum’s point is if I think things should stay the way they are then I shouldn’t begrudge Val for still wanting to be a mother to someone, and that considering there’s nothing she could do right in this situation, I should find it in my heart to be happy she’s healthy and finding happiness. My dad agrees with me that she’s making a bad decision having another child but mainly because he feels she’s not stable, not because of Danny. He says Danny is my son now and I shouldn’t see it as him being re-abandoned when he’s in the best place for him. I just feel like it’s so wrong of Val to try and start fresh like she doesn’t already have a child out there that she never even tried with. It seems like she just wants everything the easy way. I’m just so angry that she thinks she doesn’t have to take responsibility for the hurt she caused, she can just start the cycle again as if Danny was the first pancake. Am I really the AH for not seeing this as a positive thing? AITAH has no consensus bot, OOP was NTA Editor’s note: OOP made lots of comments that provided more details, I am listing common questions and responses Relevant Comments Commenter 1: NTA. I have a sister like her, who now has 3 kids to 3 different dads. None are involved, my mother basically raised the kids until she died. Once my mum died, sister spiraled and tried to move in with my dad. Is she stable now? I don’t understand your Mum’s point. Why would you take this as thinking your sister needed to take her kid back? My first thought would be worry you’d end up with a second child to take care of. OOP: She says she’s stable. Who really knows. I don’t see her much. To my knowledge she is sober, I’ve seen no markers of a relapse, so I’m taking her at her word. Emotionally stable? Idk if she’s ever been that. My mum’s point is that I don’t want her to take back the son she has, and I’m not happy she’s having a baby, so she’s like, do you think she just doesn’t deserve to be a mother and be punished the rest of her life. And I get what my mum means but at the same time, I just don’t know how Val sleeps at night, or expected that just because she gets to forget about her kid that I do too? Commenter 2: Your mum seems to forget that Danny has feelings too. I can only imagine how he's going to feel when he finds out that he was the practice run. OOP: I think she doesn’t understand the depth of what he’s gone through. Whenever she sees him, he’s in a great mood, when we talk about him I’m talking about his awards at school, etc. She has a bit of a rose coloured view of it all I think. She’s a very “all’s well that ends well” kind of person, not really a deep thinker. Commenter 3: How would you feel if she went into therapy and so did Danny so that they could build some kind of relationship, but not including her being his parent as you are CLEARLY now his parent? If she put in that kind of work, is that what you're looking for? It seems to me your problem is that she has put in absolutely no effort whatsoever with her first child. NTA. OOP: Danny doesn’t want a relationship with her, and we respect that. From our side the door is open if he ever does but Val has put in so little effort over the years it doesn’t seem like she’s interested, despite her randomly saying she is sometimes and not following through. You’ve nailed it though, I don’t know what I’m looking for. I would have been looking for her to be on freaking contraception. Because how tf do you already have a child that you ab*sed and think “oh well that one didn’t work out guess I’ll go again” OOP on if she is going to take in Danny's sibling for Val OOP: We’re not taking in another child. It’s a hard no. She’s on her own this time OOP on what she wants Val to do in order to make things right between her and Val? OOP: I want her to have been on birth control. I want her to have taken a good look at the mess she made and say to herself “I hate no right to make it worse”. So no, she can’t make this right with me. My mother is correct about that part. I don’t resent having Danny. But I resent that she washed her hands off him, and acts like he doesn’t mean anything to her now because he has a tainted image of her. This new baby is going to come into the world now knowing who she is and what she did, and that’s what she really wants. She doesn’t want to deal with what she did, she doesn’t want the kid who sees her as she is. And I hate that she thinks she can just start again. What does that say to Danny? “I broke you but now I want something not broken”. That’s not growth, in my book. OOP explains more about if Danny wants to connect with Val and his experiences OOP: It’s been difficult, because he was young back then. He’d cry when she called, run away from the phone. On the rare occasion she kept a visit he would hide behind me, so we stopped being there for visits, the social worker said he would sit with his back to her not speaking. The last couple of years he doesn’t like to talk about her at all. He just says she’s nobody and not important. We got told by his last therapist that we just had to accept that was where he was at right now and not expect that he perform big feelings that he might not consciously have at the moment. I don’t know how you regain the trust of a child when you’ve repeatedly proven they can’t trust you. I’m not one to give him any advice I wouldn’t even trust Val to water my plants. But no, she’s never asked. She’s respecting his space, I guess. Or maybe the fact that he doesn’t want to talk to her is the green light for her to pretend she’s the victim, idk. + She sends cards, no gifts, for holidays and birthdays. She used to call for birthdays but he started refusing to speak to her and she stopped trying. She doesn’t have his phone number, never gets in contact or asks. And he never asks about her. Commenter 5: No matter how much Danny is loved by you, he will always have the anguish of being abandoned and replaced. I say this because he knows his mother gave birth to him. And now the love that she was supposed to give to him, she's given to someone new. I think I would talk to him seriously. Let him know that this is not the case. And if you truly love him, I would adopt him so he has an actual mother. Not just a legal guardian, but a mother that he knows will never leave. That may help him cope. OOP: I know that’s true. And what makes it worse if that he remembers living with her. When we first got him, he would cry and cry for her. For someone who didn’t even bother to feed him most days. It was only after living with us for a while that he realised how abnormal that was, and got angry with her. He says he doesn’t remember anything good about her, I don’t know if that’s true. But he knows she didn’t care, and I’m sure that hurts him and probably will for his whole life. OOP on Val's background growing up OOP: My mum isn’t an idiot. She’s just a bleeding heart. She’s not Val’s bio mum, and Val went through a lot with her actual mother. My mum has always just been a bit of a light touch with her. Especially because my mum is one of those people whose greatest joy has always been being a mother, so she doesn’t like to admit some people just aren’t cut out for it. Commenter 5: NTA. You are protecting who your family is failing. Your sister needs psychological help clearly, and your mom might too. “Can’t blame her for wanting to be a mother to someone” just say you don’t like your grandchild holy fuck. Side point: The fact that people who get kids taken away/lost custody and do nothing to improve it or get them back are allowed to keep having more will never ever make sense to me. Edit because I’m actually so mad at your parents: your dad sucks too. Sorry. The child absolutely will see it as being abandoned again. Please go low contact with the family for the sake of Danny and get him a therapist now to help process the sibling situation OOP: My parents have been good parents to me, and they’re great grandparents to my children, I’m not going to cut them off. They love Danny and my daughter, and I think they did a good job with me. But yeah I don’t know what’s going to happen with Val’s child. I’m taking myself out of that equation, I’m not going through all that again. I paid for her rehab twice and yes she’s sober but on a personal level it seems like she’s learnt nothing. Commenter 6: Is your guardianship reversable? Because honestly with their reaction and your mother asking about it - you need to consult an attorney and tread softly with your sister and boyfriend. Unless you are getting funding that lets you support him - you may want to consider legal adoption depending on the laws where you live. Where is Danny's biological father? Do you know your sister's boyfriend well? Will he be able to care for the child if she spirals again? OOP: Only by a judge. And she’s not winning that case. We live a plane ride away, Danny is happy, thriving, in private school, and hasn’t spoken to Val in years. No judge is going to grant her custody, especially when she voluntarily signed him over. We’d keep her in court till the next kid was in university. Commenter 7: INFO: you mentioned that your sister is two years sober. How is she in other aspects of her life? Does she have a job? A stable relationship? OOP: She has a job, she has a boyfriend, the father of the new child. I don’t like the guy I think he’s an emotional vampire but he’s a teacher, so he’s gainfully employed.   Update: April 14, 2026 (10 days later) Update - AITAH for not being excited my sister is having a new baby when I still have custody of her first? Hi. I noticed a lot of people either DMd me asking for updates or put the “update me” thing in the comments, so I thought I would come and post one. I was really touched by people sharing their personal experiences in the comments as well, so I just wanted to respect that by providing closure on this? If you would consider this closure. Anyway, onto the update. First, my husband told Danny about the baby. They went out for a boys day on Saturday and they talked about it. I won’t share too much about it, but he took it pretty well all things considered. We do think we will book a few sessions with a therapist for him, but we want the dust to settle a little bit. Danny opens up easier when he’s had some time to himself to think about things first so we’re going to give a couple of weeks. But he’s doing well for now. Next, I spoke to my mum. A lot of people were quite harsh on her which I don’t think was deserved, but I did feel like we needed to have a conversation. My mother is the kindest and most forgiving person on the planet, and I love that about her. The same way I saw what Danny went through, she saw what Val went through with her birth mother. I look at Danny and see a scared little 6 year old. My mum looks at Val and sees a traumatized teenager. So she has a different perspective. She’s pretty “all’s well that ends well” in mindset, she always has been, she likes happy endings. In her mind this is one. But she understands that she came across really flippant about what Danny went through and she does feel bad about it in hindsight. She adores Danny so me laying it out for her all over again really affected her and she saw where I was coming from being upset. She did say she still hopes that Val is a better mother to her new baby, and at least we can both agree on that. Finally I spoke to Val. She apologised for not telling my beforehand but said she felt like she needed the support of having our parents there because she was nervous to tell me, and felt if we were all on the call it might feel a bit more like a normal, joyful occasion, but she said she knew she should have spoken to me separately. She said she will always regret the things she did while not sober and she doesn’t think Danny should ever forgive her, but she always wanted to be a mother, and she finally feels like she will be a good one now. I was listening to all this thinking I was just going to leave things where they were and stop reaching out. But then she basically said after everything, don’t I want her to be happy? And here’s where I have to admit to maybe being a bad person, but viscerally, I wanted to answer no. And I realised the answer is actually no, I don’t want Val to be happy. I want her to be sober, and healthy, and I guess to have moments of happiness. But when I think of her living a happy life, I know that isn’t what i would choose for her. I know that makes me a bad person, and I’m actually ok with that. People can judge Me I don’t care. Because they didn’t have to walk into some dingy government building and see a child with bones sticking out of his t-shirt, scared of every loud noise, and take him home and watch him hide cold fries under his mattress in case there wasn’t food to eat tomorrow. They didn’t have to teach a 6 year old the alphabet. They didn’t have to look at him crying for his mother and figure out how to tell him you don’t know where she is, thinking to yourself how sad it is she’s all he cares about when she’s somewhere not giving a crap what’s happening to him. The worst things Val ever did, she did to someone I love beyond measure, and it’s not for me to decide who deserves to be happy, but I can’t say I hope she is. Obviously I didn’t have all this clarity during the phone call, but I did have enough to be honest and say my family and I were not in a place where it would be possible to engage with her anymore. She didn’t take this well, and a lot of stuff she’s been hanging onto came up. Like how I should have tried harder to get Danny to talk to her, how she felt I wasn’t present enough when she had Danny, all stuff from years ago. She called me spitefully, and her boyfriend later sent me a message saying the same, but it had to be done. I don’t want to be in this toxic cycle of actively wishing someone doesn’t have the life they want and keeping them in my life just to stir this up every few weeks. It’s too much bad energy being put out there. I ended up blocking both Val and her bf. I let my parents know that we’ll have to do separate holidays and functions from now on, and they were very understanding. I’m happy to give Val priority on stuff with her dad’s side of the family and she can do the same with my mum’s and that’s that. My parents also promised not to give updates unless asked, to either side. I’m not really sure if I’d say this is a happy update. But I think the positive I can take from this is it’s made me very grateful for the family I have and I’m just going to focus on being the best mother and wife to them that I can be. Thank you again to everyone who commented, and if I’ve left anything out, feel free to let me know! Relevant Comments OOP clarifies the relationship between her and Val OOP: She’s my stepsister. Her dad is my stepdad, but I call him dad because he was the dad who raised me. Downvoted Commenter: She was adopted and was herself in similar situation as she created with Danny - OP's parents adopted her. OOP: They didn’t. My (step)dad is her biological father. She lived mostly with her mum, until she developed serious behavioural issues and it became clear that her mother was not a safe person to have custody and she came to live with us full time. Commenter 1: Is the BF an ex addict too? If so I figure there's an 80% chance that by the time this child is 6 years old, you'll have custody of it, too, if he's not, I'd put those odds at a mere 50/50. OOP: No, he’s not. He’s a crusader with a saviour complex. But he’s a high school teacher, no history of substance abuse as far as we know There’s a 0% chance of us taking custody, we’re not doing that. Commenter 2: Yeah and just don’t be surprised when you get the call later from cps because she reverted back to being a drunk when the stress of a new baby gets to much and they want you to take the second kid. OOP: Yeah we won’t be doing that, someone else will clean up her mess this time OOP responds to a downvoted commenter about keeping Danny from his baby brother OOP: Danny doesn’t want any contact with Val or her baby. He considers my daughter his sister and us his parents. If that ever changes then we will work out a plan but it’s not on the table at the moment. Downvoted Commenter: OP are you considering therapy for yourself? You admitted you don’t really want your sister to be happy, which would allude to me that you have some feelings to work though. It’s not normal to only want your sibling to have moments of happiness, instead of simply happy. Cutting off your sister is not going to heal the feelings you have about her. Having two separate holidays/family functions is not going to rebuild a relationship between her and Danny. I thought that was what you were most upset about? That your sister decided to have a baby instead of working on her relationship with her son, in your view. I don’t think you’re a bad person OP, but I do think you need therapy. OOP: I’m not sure how “not normal” it is when you know your sister is a child abuser. I don’t want to “fix” how I feel about her. I want her out of my life, and I want Danny to be happy and healthy and to not live every day with the effects of what she did, and I’ll do everything in my power to make that happen. If I feel like, even after having some distance from this situation, I’m still spending energy thinking about her, I’ll seek out some help. To let go of it, not because I think I owe her good wishes. Danny doesn’t want any contact with her, and we’re respecting that. If he does ever change his mind, I don’t know what we will do because she is ambivalent about contact with him apparently, but we will help him work through how he wants to approach it. But for now, he has no interest in a relationship with Val.   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I am not The OOP, OOP is u/ThrowRA-2576517 An anonymous person messaged me (F27) saying that my boyfriend (M29) of 3 years was arrested… can you help me know what I should do next? Originally posted to r/relationship_advice Thanks to u/soayherder for suggesting this BoRU TRIGGER WARNING: Accusations of child sexual abuse Original Post Apr 10, 2026 I have been with Jason for just over 3 years and I have never had any concerns or any obvious red flags about his behavior. He has always been very respectful to me throughout all our relationship. We moved in together about 8 months ago and our relationship has been solid. I barely ever use Facebook, so never really got around to changing my relationship status on there. But 3 weeks ago I just randomly decided to do it and tag Jason. All the public comments on that post were normal things you expect from family and friends etc. even though everyone I know closely already is aware we’re in a relationship. Didn’t think anything of it and moved on with my life. Last Sunday however, I opened back up my Facebook and I noticed I had a message request from the day after I posted the relationship update. I opened it and the name of the account wasn’t a name I recognized, but it was a male name. They had sent me a long message, saying they saw my post and thought that I should know about Jason’s past. They said they knew Jason, and said that 7 years ago Jason was arrested for serious crimes, that I’m not sure I even feel comfortable saying on here. But they were very, very serious claims. They said in the message that they “thought I should know”. In my country, arrests are not public information unless the person admits guilt or is found guilty. And I found nothing when I searched his name. I messaged them back and asked them who they were, how they knew Jason and how I knew if what they were saying was true. They replied saying they knew Jason from years ago when Jason was arrested, the user said he wasn’t giving his real name and that I didn’t need to believe him. He said ask Jason about it. I messaged back and he has read some of them but then went offline and didn’t answer anything after that. Obviously reading it all made me very anxious and I didn’t know what to do and I had no idea if I should even believe what this person is saying. I didn’t say anything to Jason that day but it was really eating at me and Jason noticed that I was being off with him. So I asked him to talk and I said that I had got a weird message from someone claiming things about him. He looked confused, he asked what they said. And so I told him what the account said. His face went red all over, and he looked genuinely panicked. He said it wasn’t true, but he looked very panicked. He said again “that’s not true” he got up grabbed his keys and left. I texted him after he left and said I was sorry, that I wasn’t accusing him of anything (because I really wasn’t) I was just telling him about the weird message I received. He said he understood, but he was hurt that I was even repeat those things about him and he decided to stay at his mom’s house for the night. He hasn’t come back since. I am unsure if I acted wrongly here. I genuinely was not accusing him of what the message said, but I also feel like I had to tell him about it? I couldn’t have kept it a secret? This has been our first “fight” that lasted multiple days. I’ve been texting him every morning saying I hope he has a good day and he heart reacts to them but hasn’t responded. I’m unsure if I acted wrongly here. RELEVANT COMMENTS passingavery It sounds like the accusation is true, judging by his reaction. But as you said, arrested and not charged. So he was a prime suspect, but they couldn’t nail him for it. So he could be innocent. So it comes down to: what was he arrested for? Aggravated assault? Murder? … Sexual assault? You need to have a conversation with him about this. If he won’t open up, then you need to consider: why? Maybe he was innocent and wants to move past it. Maybe he was guilty and got away with it. If he refuses to talk about it and keeps denying it, are you okay with that? Or maybe he’ll be so flustered about this that he’ll leave and this matter will be settled for you… in a way. Ultimately, it comes down to: can you live with not knowing? And can you live with whatever he tells you, if he decides to open up about it? OOP What the person claimed was that they had been arrested for… I’m not sure if it’s even allowed to be said on Reddit. It was a crime against children passingavery Ooh, that’s... I’m so sorry. You’re in a very terrible position. I think you definitely need to have this conversation with him, just to hear his side of it. It sounds like they never found the true culprit/the case was unsolved/there wasn’t enough proof. If he is innocent, then this is just a case of an angry party trying to destroy his life because there was no resolution. I would also recommend not leaving your Facebook open to the public. Tweak your settings to friends only. I also don’t know what country you are from: what is your legal system like? OOP We have a good legal system I would say. My country is not corrupt you can’t pay your way out of charges or anything ~ passingavery How do you feel, based on what you know about him? Have you seen him around children? Do any comments or actions, in hindsight, stand out to you? I hope he agrees to open up to you. Because silence would be more damning. If you’re willing to give him the benefit of the doubt, definitely take the time to listen to his viewpoint and then you can decide whether or not to believe him. If he refuses to open up, then you have another decision to make: to accept his silence and continue the relationship, or to accept his silence and leave. OOP Firstly, I want to thank you for being so kind with me. I have genuinely felt in a haze the past few days. I’ve had no concerns about him, no serious red flags or things like that. I never had concerns about his behavior around anyone. But I just feel at a loss now. I was worried that I was wrong for even saying what the message said to him. But now I don’t think so. Update Apr 11, 2026 (Next Day) Original post is on my account, but a TLDR is an anonymous person messaged me saying that my boyfriend (Jason) was arrested in his early twenties for, well it’s difficult for me to say, but the message claimed Jason had been arrested for a crime against children. This is going to be long, I’m sorry but I just need to get this out. Firstly, thank you everyone for your advice and for helping me realize. After I had read all the comments, I messaged him saying he needs to talk to me, he needs to tell me the whole truth, and because of his reaction he needs to convince me of whatever he says. And he needs to do it by the end of today or the relationship is finished. He messaged back this morning and said he was coming over to talk. I do want to say though, he has never acted this way before. He has always been very communicative, and able to express himself and his emotions without placing blame or anger. If you get what I mean. He’s been in therapy since he was a child so I suppose it comes from that, so the way he acted when I told him about the message was very unusual and shocked me honestly. So he came over and we spoke. He told me that this is difficult for him to speak about and I said I appreciated that but he needs to be honest with me now or we can’t continue our relationship. He told me what the message said was true, but it wasn’t how it sounded. I’m going to tell you exactly what he said because I’m honestly still at a loss and feel so confused and overwhelmed. He explained his side of the story, he brought me a file with documents inside. He said that’s all the evidence he has to explain what happened, he went through them with me explaining as he was going through. His story was that he was hired by a family as a sort of live-in babysitter. He would stay in the house looking after the children during school breaks and weekends while his main job was a teacher. He says that he realized in hindsight that their oldest son (“max” who was 14) had some sort of crush on him. Jason said that with retrospect he should have realized sooner and done something to protect himself, but he said he didn’t realize until it was too late. I asked Jason to explain what he meant because that didn’t make sense to me. He said he has worked for the family for almost 5 years, and so he had seen the 3 children grow up. That the parents treated him very much like a part of the family. Then he said in the last year, Max started acting strangely around Jason. For example, he said when Max got a phone the parents asked Jason to add him as a contact, so for example if Max wanted to go out with friends while Jason was babysitting. Jason agreed. It was ok for a while, then Max started sending him a lot of messages, and like calling Jason midweek “just to talk”. Jason said he thought it was weird, but wasn’t sure how to communicate that so he just stopped responding to Max completely while outside of the role as the babysitter. He told me a lot more detail but I don’t want to share everything here. But it led up to one day while Jason was babysitting Max apparently made a pass at him and then Jason said he realized that Max had some sort of weird crush on him. Jason said he told him that this behavior wasn’t appropriate and that he was going to have to speak to the parents. Max apparently went crazy and locked himself in his bedroom. Jason said he immediately called the parents and said they needed to come home. He said he explained everything that happened and said it probably wasn’t a good idea for him to continue working with Max. He said at the time they all agreed and Jason went home. Two days later the police knocked on the door and arrested him. Jason says that Max claimed he had basically been grooming him and his little brother for years and Max claimed that Jason had… well I’m sure you know what I mean. Jason said the investigation lasted 6 months, but the only time he actually spent in jail was when he was waiting for his lawyer to arrive when he was first arrested. He said he knew he was innocent so he complied with the police as much as he could. But he said it was the worst time of his life. Jason said because of it, his girlfriend broke up with him, he lost both his jobs as the babysitter (obviously) but also because he was arrested and under investigation he lost his job as a teacher also. He said that time of his life was hell and he never wanted to revisit it. When he said he was cleared of charges, he just wanted to forget about it and move on with his life. I asked why he didn’t tell me any of this before, he said that’s not something people understand when you explain. He said he was sorry for how he acted but he was just shocked and so confused about who even would know this. After he explained everything, I took some time just reading through all the documents he had. They were supporting what he was saying. I said if I could talk to his friends about this or something someone else so I can see what they understand. He said no, which shocked me a bit. He said none of his friends know about this and he wants to keep it that way. He said I could talk to his parents or his sisters about it but not his friends. We spoke a bit longer and I said I would prefer if he stayed at his mom’s house until I had processed everything. He said that was a good idea, we decided to meet up tomorrow to talk again. But I’m so confused and I feel like I don’t know what to do. I don’t know if this is the update you were expecting, but I’m genuinely at a loss and I don’t know what to do anymore. RELEVANT COMMENTS Old_Girl60 Op, if the document supports the story AND you’ve never seen any red flags, why are you doubting him? And he was cleared of all charges. OOP The documents support that he’s at least been consistent with his story from the beginning but they also show that Max was consistent with his as well. And the fact that both boys were interviewed and claimed Jason had done stuff to them it’s making it difficult for me I’m unsure. It wasn’t dropped because he was proved “innocent” it says there was not enough evidence to proceed. He says that’s the best he could have hoped for but it’s just all so much to have to deal with ~ PrettyExpression4u Wow! How old is the other boy? What was his story for the brother? This post hits close to home. I don’t believe the story he told you. My gut is telling me he’s hiding something. Ask him to go to the police station with you so they can give you a report of the evidence they did find. OOP Other boy was 9. But it also says that the 9Yo retracted what he said about Jason and claimed he had been told by Max to say it because they were angry at Jason. And when the youngest son was questioned he had no knowledge and made no allegation. So it makes it so confusing and hard to follow Update 2 Apr 12, 2026 (1 day after 1st update) Not going to be a long update but well idk, he broke up with me. So I don’t know what it means now and I wish I had never even seen the message. I texted him later last night after we spoke. I said I was having a hard time digesting everything. He said he understands and told me to take as much time as I needed. He said this was difficult for him to talk about, how it was ‘the worst time of his life’, but he said ask him whatever questions I wanted and he would answer to the best of his understanding. But he said to be mindful because the topic was painful for him (in retrospect does show he’s trying to guilt me into not asking him questions about it?) I said I was just having doubts about him because of everything now it is going to make me struggle to see him the same way moving forward. I said I wanted to move on but he’s going to have to build my trust back and I said honestly it’s going to be in the back of my mind whenever I see him around children now. I told him I’m sorry but I’m just saying the truth but I wanted to work with him and build our relationship back up. But he’s going to have to work hard to prove to me that he really is innocent if he wants our relationship to last. He just replied with “oh” I asked him what that means. He said he doesn’t really think that’s fair on him. “I did nothing wrong.” I just replied well if that’s true you’ll have no issue proving it. He didn’t tell me this for our whole 3 year relationship, of course I’ve lost trust in him. He left me on read for about 2 hours which is childish. He sends me back this big message about how ‘he did everything right’ and yet this allegation is still ‘ruining his life’ and how it ‘wasn’t fair’. He went on to say a lot of stuff, he went on this big rant saying he has given me everything to show what he’s saying is true, he said he complied with the police with everything they asked, he said they found nothing because he was innocent. Again, he said it ruined his life, he goes on this big story about how he lost his first teaching job, how he had to work from rock bottom while also having this allegation on his background check for the rest of his life, he said all this stuff that wasn’t relevant about how he has to spend his whole life convincing people that what they read on paper isn’t what it seems, that he isn’t some monster and that people will still look at him with suspicion in their eyes. He said people read it on paper and then they don’t care what you say, you’re guilty. He said he didn’t want me to know about that because he didn’t want me looking at him differently. He didn’t want another person who looks at him like a criminal when “I DID NOTHING WRONG” all in caps like this. He then sends a follow up saying he thought he had finally moved on, found a job that trusts him, found a girlfriend he loves, but he’s realized he’s never going to have that. He’s never going to have a life where he can just be normal so he said ‘what’s the point’ He said he won’t live in relationships where his girlfriend is second guessing everything he does. In my eyes that message is a break up message. So I asked him if he was breaking up with me. He just replied that he’s not going to spend his life trying to prove to someone that he is innocent of a crime he ‘never committed’. He said he’s “done it with the police I’m not doing it with you 7 years later.” And that he’s not living like that for the rest of his life either. He said “I love you but no I am not living like that. You accept me or I’m not doing it, I will give you time, I will give you space, I will answer any questions you have. But if you’re telling me you are never going to see me the same way again. If you tell me you’re not going to trust me ever again, that you’re going to look at me, for the rest of my life and see those allegations then. Yeah. I guess. I’m not living like that.” He then asked that I don’t tell anyone about what I know, he said it will only ruin his life more if more people know, he said that therapy would be a good place where I could ‘confidentially be open about this’ which seems a bit controlling to me now. In my eyes that’s not him working with me to prove himself, so I said I guess we’re broken up then. He’s deleted all his social media and he isn’t responding to any of my messages anymore which is so childish. I can’t believe he’s acting this way to me. He’s never been like this before. I spoke to my best friend about everything and she told me she thinks I’m the one who ruined the relationship and now I’m just so sad. Did I ruin this with him? I’m not going to be posting anymore. Edit: I get it everyone you can stop berating me. I’m the bad guy here of course as always I’m the one in the wrong. I’ve texted Jason to tell him I’m sorry, I’ve tried calling him and he’s not responding to anything. So are you happy now? THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP's OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7 submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/PigletResponsible991 Originally posted to r/AmIOverreacting AIO Girlfriend (38F) keeps a "Log Book" of our conversations and I think I’m losing my (34M) ability to remember things correctly Thanks to u/falcngrl, u/soayherder, & u/Arifault for suggesting this BoRU Trigger Warnings: gaslighting, obsessive behavior Original Post: April 4, 2026 I don’t really know how to start this. I’m a pretty logical guy i think - but as of late i honestly feel like I’m glitching. My girlfriend is pretty great, and our relationship has been really good these past 3 years. But we have these "alignment meetings" every Sunday that she INSISTS on. She says it’s for "healthy communication." But here’s the weird part if I bring up something she said she’ll pull out a notebook - or like a spreadsheet on her laptop - and show me her notes. They're so specific too. For example she'll say something like: "Actually, at 6:15 PM on Tuesday, you agreed to come with me to the party at Caitlyn's and Ryan's (her coworkers). Here is the transcript of what you said." The thing is... I don't remember saying ANY of that. i don't even like her coworkers they bore me into a coma and make me want to drink pints of vodka. I could of sworn I said I couldn't go because i had work stuff to catch up on but that she should absolutely still go and have a great time. But she has it written down. She's even had little audio snippets she’s recorded "for context." When i tell her that I feel like I'm being interrogated, she gets really really nice and says something like, "I'm just worried about your memory, babe. You've been under so much stress with your work - I’m just trying to keep us on the same page. And I love you." Also, last thing, I found a folder on her computer yesterday labeled "Language Calibration." Which is strange... but what’s really messing with me is its full of notes and descriptions of how I respond to certain words - AND it looked like she categorized my moods based on my text syntax. I feel like I’m living in a lab. Am I being paranoid? I feel like I’m losing my mind and i keep going back and forth in my head between "I’m just being paranoid" and "no, this is actually really weird." Relevant Comments Commenter 1: This sounds like she is seeing how far she can gaslight you. I don’t like it. Does anyone else think you have memory problems? Like at work etc.? OOP: that’s the thing. It’s literally only in these specific conversations with her. It’s exhausting feeling like Im going to have to record every word i say just to prove I'm not crazy. Commenter 2: *Hey honey. We need to talk. I notice you're using notes to record the substance of our conversations, and I also saw the "language calibration" folder on the computer. This stuff makes me feel like I'm at work, permanently being called into meetings by HR. I don't want to live like that. Do you think you can give up your notes & computer folders? If you really need that to feel safe, then I feel we may not be suited for each other.* Aaaaaaaaand... see how the conversation develops. OOP: She actually works in HR. This is all making way more sense now... But these type of convos with her end with me feeling crazy or somehow the convo get steered somewhere completely different that mid way through I’m not even sure how we got there. Commenter 3: If this is even real, and I doubt it: Outside of the audio recordings, she could type literally anything and assert that OP said it or did it. “Actually according to my notes, at 2:44pm on Saturday, November 12, you did agree to let me peg you and you pinky swore and we also did a spit handshake so you can’t back out. Now then. Where’s my riding crop?” OOP: it’s always subtle things that she tells me i got wrong or agreed to or that I've said. Nobody forgets a spit handshake pinking sworn pegging agreement even if that shit took place in 2016 and you were blackout. Commenter 4: Ohh man. Reading this really creeped me out. I got such an eerie feeling thinking about it. It sounds like she is trying to trick you into making yourself sound or feel crazy, and trying to make you believe or think you said things you didn't really say to get her way. It's definitely manipulation and gaslighting at the very least. I would have a conversation with her about this and if she can't understand how weird it is to do this to her partner and stop this behavior, I'd consider breaking it off. Does anyone else in your life notice your memory being off or you not remembering certain things? If not I would definitely consider leaving her. She sounds mentally unstable to be honest. I couldn't handle this. Hoping you find a way out or a way to put a stop to this kind of manipulation tactic. OOP: Nobody has really ever mentioned anything about my memory before. I mean sure i forget things on occasion, but its little stuff that doesnt impact my life (where i left my keys and stuff like that). What im having trouble with is that she's so kind to me literally all the time. Literally all the time. Thats what has me doing the back and forth i guess in my head Commenter 5: Sounds like she was previously in an emotionally abusive relationship, where she felt it was necessary to record interactions with her partner meticulously. If she never worked through it, she may actually end up taking on some behaviours of the offender from her past, as a way to reclaim control. I don’t think she means to be malicious, but things that are not malicious can still be harmful or detrimental. Being hyper vigilant about “communication” and then over analyzing can actually take away from what is trying to be communicated. It actually sounds like you’re not feeling like communication with her is very clear, based on her actions. OOP: She doesnt talk about her last relationships really - Theres only really two shes ever mentioned both were nearly 10 years long. How do i ask if she was maybe in an abusive relationship? Any suggestions on how to approach that topic? Commenter 6: can’t you keep your own records of conversations and corroborate? but I agree. she’s gaslighting you in an incredibly comprehensive manner. I’d say run. OOP: Yeah i thought about that - its hard because sometimes it wont happen for three weeks... then other times it back to back weeks. It would be interesting if i let on that i was also taking notes (even if i wasnt really) and see if it stopped   Update: April 5, 2026 (next day) UPDATE: Hey everyone... just wanted to post a quick update and say thanks for all the input. Honestly it seriously opened my eyes to how messed up things actually were... And thanks for not completely roasting me and calling me a dumbass even if you were all definitely thinking it lol. Reading through the comments really was a shock at first. I brought it up to her yesterday and asked about the logbook and the notes... she didn't get mad. Actually she didn’t really show any emotion whatsoever on her face at first. It was weird it was almost like she wasn't sure how to feel about it and just looked at me. Then she basically said that what she did was for my benefit and because she wanted to be the "perfect girlfriend." Which okay maybe that’s what it was but just taken waaay too far. But im also very laid back and really couldn't care less about perfect and I’ve mentioned that and she KNOWS that and i brought that up. Then, she said she just has anxiety and wanted to make sure she "said the right things" so we wouldn't fight. And I thought about that too - but it didn't add up. I've literally never gotten angry or fought with anyone let alone her since we've been together. Its just not who I am. I don't really get angry - I’m generally unphased by most things. I told her I needed some space and I thought it would be best if I moved out for the time being and that i was going to grab some stuff after we were done talking and then I'd arrange to get the rest in the very near future when i could. NO EMOTION from her whatsoever. It was the strangest thing I have ever experienced. That’s when I realized I wasn’t in a normal relationship anymore. She was like 'if thats what you want to do when someone is here just trying to be supportive and help you become the best version of yourself.' I cant really describe it, you had to be there all i know is the whole thing was REALLY off. I feel kinda stupid for letting it drag on this long but mostly Im just relieved to be out of there and able to just think. I really appreciate the reality check you all gave me and Im so grateful for the time you took to comment and share your thoughts... Am I overreacting? Relevant / Top Comments Commenter 1: INFO - has she always been this deadpan? Or is this robotic nature a new thing? OOP: No, def a new thing. Never saw anything even remotely close to this with her before. Commenter 2: Does she have Asperger's or autism or something? This sounds very not neurotypical. OOP: Not that I'm aware of - I've been in my head just trying to find other things that maybe i missed that would help make sense of everything. Commenter 3: She's a sociopath who needs notes to fake emotions. Commenter 4: You hit the nail on the head fr. A regular person would have some sort of emotion after finding out. But she knew she was busted and was basically meh about it OOP: That’s what it felt like - 100% just "meh" about the whole thing. Commenter 5: Sounded to me like she was trying to use neuro linguistic programming (NLP) to train/control you.   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I am NOT the Original Poster. That is u/SeverelyFantasic. They posted in r/HandwritingAnalysis Thank you to u/BakingGiraffeBakes for the rec! Do NOT comment on Original Posts. Trigger Warning: ableism; brain injury Mood Spoiler: frustrating but things are going in a positive direction Original Post: March 24, 2026 Note: I don’t always write in pink, this was just what I was reading whilst making a power point but I took a picture of this because I don’t trust myself to deliberately write something for people to look at my handwriting. If you can read swedish and see spelling mistakes, be quiet no you didn’t, I’m dyslexic. Lol. Btw I’m in the equivalent of college. Image: Genuinely beautiful handwriting. Some of OOP's Comments: Kyattogaaru: Thats like the most normal handwriting ever. Fuck the teacher, youre in uni/college, as long as its legible, youre not in primary for teacher to dock points for handwriting what xD OOP: Right?? She says children need to beable to read my handwriting since that’s what I’m studying so I had to post here like am I being gaslit? the_walking_oxymoron: Your handwriting is so nice! Since I don't know Swedish I can't for certain say that your word spacing is good. The very last word, is that one or two? Is it kreatirautueckling or kreatira utueckling? Is that an L in between the second k and i? Also in the first paragraph, is it proplembshingsformaga or proplem bshings formaga? But honestly this is very nitpicky, I was searching for something wrong. Taking off points for that would be absurd. Also sorry I really didn't feel like figuring out how to type out the umlaut on a keyboard. OOP: It’s supposed to be two, it says “kreativa utveckling” and means “creative development”, I was worried I’d have to go down to the next row bc I don’t like having it like that. (This was an assignment to pick a kids story and basically explain how it benifits children in different aspects) The other says ”problemlösningsförmåga” which means like someones ability to resolve conflict. (What a mouthful). The only thing I can imagine she is upset is that I write my t’s like crosses or that I don’t go high enough with letters like h, k, b, d etc. tbf that’s been a bit of an issue since I was a kid areyouthrough: I think you need to ask her to point out specific things she thinks you should change (I won’t say “improve”, because your writing is perfectly legible and thus functional.) Perhaps she could provide you with an exemplar. If she’s docking points, she needs to tell you what full points look like. OOP: She just gives me non answers like “how can you not see” and just goes on The ink color: Again, this is my manuscript to read whilst doing a powerpoint. I’m the only one reading this To another commenter: Yeah, I usally write in black ink on tests and stuff. With Gen AI being such an issue we don’t really take tests online anymore. The only times I write in colour is in my own notebook for PowerPoint manuscripts or class notes otherwise I can’t remember what I write Update Post: March 25, 2026 (Next Day) Short recap: I’m in the equivalent of college (I think) and am studying to teach children in grade 7 - 9 and my teacher kept marking down my work because of “bad/sloppy penmanship” and just giving non answers when I asked. To all the ppl agreeing that they genuinely could not see the issue, tbh neither could I so I went to the department head and asked her bc my teacher just would not give me an answer why is was so doodoo. She talked to the teacher and turned out that there wasn’t actually anything wrong, my teacher was just very adamant in her belief that bc I have a neurological disability there was I was somehow not fit to teach children and that she was just trying to make me fail her class or smtn : / I heard from the other ppl she was targeting that she was apparently also telling all our other teachers how we were probably cheating on our assignments using ChatGPT and that they should be suspicious of us (I assume because ig disabled people can’t get above a C…) Yeah, so she’s supended pending investigation. I was apparently not the only disabled student she was doing this to. The dean gave us an apology and said she was mortified that this happened. I didn’t get exact details what happened or what shesais but that was the gist of what she said. So yeah, she was literally just a hag 👍 Some of OOP's Comments: Towomato: Oh god, I’m so sorry. You should probably get the dean to have everyone’s assignments regraded, either that or an automatic pass. Hope you don’t have to run into another person like her any time soon. OOP: That will probably be after the investigation concludes. There is no doubt she did it bc she literally admitted to it but the investigation is more for how widespread the discrimination was since she does teach more classes than mine There are spelling and grammar issues in your post (editor's note- fuck this person but I liked OOP's response) Well, to be fair english is not my mother tongue, I don’t even live in any english speaking country, not even close. I am not studying to be an English teacher either. furdick: I wonder who hurt her. I think it’s a lot more common than people think for teachers to be have neurological disorders. OOP: She probably wouldn’t even have known if I hadn’t told her. I’m open and not ashamed of it. I would rsther someone know before to offer explainaition then later and it sound as an excuse Puisto-Alkemisti: Yey for fellow nordics here. I do speak swedish and your writing is completely readable. Actually looks quite similar to my own handwriting. Giving false point reductions just because you are neurodivergent sucks, I am they are investigating the teacher. I bet you will actually be amazing teacher precisely BECAUSE you can understand the students even better if they have challenges. OOP: Not that you could’ve known but I don’t have a neurodevelopmental disorder like adhd or autism (I suspect I do, it runs in the family but hasn’t been enough of an issue to get diagnosed), I actually have an aquired brain injury from when I was a kid bc my sister had just discovered how fun a hammer was and wacked the nail pulling side into the back of my head : ) Got some visual agnosia (ontop of me already being red/greeen colourblind), motion blindness and some issues with my working memory or what I call “everything between now and five minures ago memory” 👍 And if you wonder how I know I was writing in pink, it’s bc I have my pen’s labeled with the colour : P The teacher: Yeah it’s a “suspension pending investigation” but the investigation is more of the extent of the problem rather than if she did or did not do it because she admitted it with her whole chest. She is getting fired but you still need more proof than a confession to fire ppl here with the union and stuff Other teachers: Yeah all my other teachers have been great and really accomodating, that’s why I was so confused why only she had an issue. I haven’t had my disability all my life, only since I was about 10 when my little sister discovered she could hold a hammer (not her fault, she was three) so I lowk forget that abelism can be a thing sincei lived a “normal” life before Editor's note: This isn't enough for an update, but OOP added this in a comment on March 29: Yeah, from what i heard, so far we’re up to about 10 people that she had a justice boner about. We’re not a big college and she didn’t teach that may classes, I have an invisible disability, having brain damage that I got as a kid, to npd’s, wheelchair users, hearing impaired ppl but funnily enough not visually impaired people :/ Editor's note 2: Marked as concluded because the teacher will be fired and OOP figured out why their handwriting was being 'docked points.' OOP commented on this post! People were speculating that the teacher probably wouldn't face consequences: She actually got arrested 👍 PashaWithHat: I just made the 😃😍 faces in real life at my phone. Arrested?! OOP: Yes, it’s been a bit over a week and since the head teacher and principal got her suspended with 24, evrything went relitivily fast. We’re not that big of a college, discrimination of any kind is illegal so after the intenal investigation was underway, the police was contacted an the school is doing the investigation along side the police now. So she could get one year jail and I think pay 8000kr in damages but idk if that’s per person or in general. OOP adds: Discrimination, you can get jailtime or a big fine submitted by /u/LucyAriaRose to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

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[[Tooth and Nail]] . Everyone knows about [[Craterhoof Behemoth]] + [[Avenger of Zendikar]] or [[Kiki-Jiki, Mirror Breaker]] + [[Pestermite]] . But are other combinations that are now out there or that people may not be aware of? They could be game warping like [[Elesh Norn, Grand Cenobite]] + [[Kudo, King Among Bears]], or are there any toolbox style combinations? For example, one I've started using is [[Githzerai Monk]] + [[Sunblast Angel]]. submitted by /u/MandatoryMahi to r/EDH [link] [comments]

I fully believe without question that Islam represents the greatest long-term ideological threat to liberalism in the West. Before I dive into this I want to explain my positioning first. I no longer share the Islamic faith and am a registered Democrat within the US. I’m sure that many people are going to accuse me of being a Mossad agent, a bot, or someone else in an attempt to discredit me and my view. Please note that I do not support Israel in the slightest. I think it would be fair to lay the groundwork first of what some left-wing Progressive values are: •Full legal and social equality for LGBTQ+ people •gender egalitarianism •democratic governance without religious law overriding civil rights •free speech I believe Islam is the greatest threat and abuser to all of them. There are 10 Muslim-majority countries where being gay is punishable by death and 64 countries (the majority being Muslim-majority) where same-sex acts are criminalized. In Saudi Arabia, people that engage in sodomy are decapitated. In Iran, homosexual men are hanged. In Syria and Iraq, it is common practice to push homosexuals off buildings to their deaths. In Yemen, you are thrown in jail for a minimum of 3 years if they find out you are gay. Etc. As much as we point the finger towards Republicans on this issue, there is a clear night and day difference to how American Republicans treats the LGBT+ community compared to Muslim nations yet for some reason I see more Democrats supporting and defending the Islamic faith than I see them defending their Republican neighbors. (Whoever you find doing the deed of Lut's people homosexuality, then kill the doer and the one who allows it to be done to him (both partners).) Tafsirs [11:82] Islam is without a doubt the greatest abuser of egalitarianism on the planet and the ultimate abuser of women. The Quran actively encourages husbands to physically hit their wives if they disobey. In Muslim-majority countries, women are punished for not wearing their hijabs out in public. Depending on the region or country, they are permitted to be imprisoned for 15 years, murdered, flogged, and raped. The Quran also treats women as if they’re trophies or objects to be used for one’s own self satisfaction. Muslims are encouraged to capture females in war to be used as sexual slaves. The fact that the reward for martyrs is 72 virgins should tell you all you need to know about the lustful indulgence and objectification of women the Quran encourages. Women in most Muslim countries are denied basic rights such as education, self-expression, and the freedom to choose who they want to marry. (But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them.) Surat An-Nisa [4:34] One of the central goals of Islam is to overpopulate the Earth and spread globally so that they can one day establish the “Caliphate.” This would unify all of the countries of the world and force them to live under Shariah law. Look at how Muslims treat non-believers in countries where they operate as an Islamic state. They’re literally massacring them in Nigeria by the thousands right now. You might not want to state an opinion in this matter or get involved but one day it will affect the next generations. And these generations will be forced to live in fear and with less rights. I fail to understand why the Democratic party seems so willing to defend Islam when its goal is to eventually destroy many of the values that are non-negotiables among those of us on the left. I don’t think the American right-wing of politics is the greatest threat to western democracy. Just look at what is happening in Europe. Rapes, muggings, and crime in all sectors are rising significantly with the widespread immigration of Islam to a non-Muslim country. People aren’t even allowed to speak out against it because they’ll be thrown in jail for hate speech. I don’t think the majority of people on the left know what it is they’re defending. The Iranian government had literally been sending bots to sites like Reddit in an attempt to manipulate people on the American left to defend Islam and Iran despite them representing the opposite of everything we stand for. I am completely open to being proven wrong on this subject. I am sure that many of you will bring up other worldview perspectives that you feel are incompatible with American left-wing values but I’d like to stay on topic with Islam. Also, please don’t blatantly label me Islamaphobic. I was Muslim once and I find it to be a lazy way of trying to discredit someone or an argument. I don’t think any viewpoint should be free from critique including mine. Maybe there’s something I am completely missing and that somehow Islam and western liberalism are compatible. But as someone who was and is both, I struggle to find how. Please share with me your perspective! I am completely open to changing my view if your points are strong enough! submitted by /u/WildCreatureQuest to r/changemyview [link] [comments]

DO NOT COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS. I am NOT OP. Original post by u/ThrowAway_chosen in r/TrueOffMyChest with updates posted on their profile. My dad is furious that my mom slept with other people in an open marriage he wanted. - March 20, 2022. My parents got married when they were super young. My dad knocked up my mom, and their parents married them off. My grandfather was able to set up some business for my dad in a big city, and they moved here soon after my birth. My mom grew up in a conservative southern town where she was taught to be a submissive wife. And even after moving to the big city, she didn't spend much time socializing. She had no friends and never went out. My dad was only there to provide for us. He was always away on business, and he wasn't there as a husband for my mom or as a father to me. My dad made a lot of money, so we never lacked anything. Growing up, I became my mom's best friend. We would talk about everything. I pushed her to make friends and to find hobbies. After years of pushing, she started going to a nearby park and made her first friend, a gym trainer. Encouraged by her friend and me, she decided to join the gym. She met a few more people there and started having some semblance of a social life, but she still continued to tell me everything. I think my dad's new secretary gave him the idea, but he asked my mom for an "open marriage" almost a year ago. He told her he wasn't happy in their marriage and that she wasn't providing him with everything he wanted. My mom, who is a "christian wife", was mortified and told me about the proposal in tears. I suggested she get a divorce, but she said she didn't believe in it and she wouldn't be the one to end their marriage. As my dad pushed, I knew exactly where this would end up if my mom agreed. Her friend and I convinced her. My mom was hesitant at first, but she agreed with the condition that they would be completely transparent with each other. My dad was a middle aged (41) man with a belly and my mom (39) was an athletic woman who worked out regularly. I'm a 22 yo woman btw. I don't know how my dad was so blind or what he thought would happen. I helped create online dating profiles for my mom almost six months ago. After getting an insane number of matches, choosing from them and chatting with them for months, my mom started hooking up with a few people. Getting all this attention has provided a massive boost to her confidence and she seems better. My dad hooked up with his secretary almost immediately. He's had very little luck with other ladies. With their transparency thing, my mom tells him about all her hook ups. A few weeks ago, my dad screamed at my mom for some minor thing. Usually, my mom would've apologised but with her new confidence, she didn't back down. It's been constant fights the last few weeks. My dad keeps starting fights by making snide remarks about my mom's clothing or appearance. He almost even called my mom a whore but stopped himself. I think "open marriage" finally sunk in. My mom told me he tried to have a conversation about stopping their "open marriage" but she immediately shot it down. I think they'll split up. My dad was never there for either of us but the thought of my parents splitting up still feels weird. I don't feel bad for my dad but I wish he put effort into his family. I'm happy for my mom though. Update #1 - April 20, 2022. A few days after my previous post, my dad left our home and had a divorce served to mom in a week. My grandparents didn't know about any of this, but my dad told them when he served the divorce. He also implied to them that my mom was cheating on him. Both sets of grandparents came to our home and started berating my mom. I kept screenshots of all my parents' communications, and my mom showed them to them and it got way worse after that. Grandparents started fighting each other blaming each other's children for causing all this. A few days after this, my mom's old "church friends" came to our home. Back when my mom used to go to church, they used to look down on her for being from a small town. My mom has always been a very caring and non-judgemental person, so she disagreed with their bigotry and they began excluding her from their activities. After she met her gym friends, my mom stopped going to church entirely. These "church friends" started calling my mom a slut and she kicked them out. My mom is on a cut right now, so she has very defined abs and arms. So along with all the normal stuff getting thrown at her, my grandparents accused her of having a "man body" and she also had a lot of random transphobia thrown at her. Her trainer friend has been a great support through all this. She contacted the attorney she used for her divorce and my mom is spending a lot of time at her house. Turns out, the business my dad is running is owned by mom. It was set up by my mom's dad in her name, so it belongs to her. I did not know this until now and assumed that my dad owned it. The whole situation is a huge mess right now. Dad is living in some hotel and my grandparents left yesterday after a week of fighting and trying to force my parents back together. I know there's a lot more divorce drama to come but I hope it calms down for now. Update #2 - May 13, 2022. A lot of shit has happened since my last update. Firstly, I wanted to thank all the well-wishers on my previous posts. Writing these posts has helped me process the stuff that's happening, so I'm making another one. My mom's attorney, the one recommended by my mom's gym friend Lisa, has been a great help. She walked my mom through what's going to happen and reassured her. She started looking through the company stuff in preparation for the divorce proceedings and we found a lot of shocking stuff. I don't know why I was surprised by this, but my dad was having affairs for a long time. He used company resources to book flights and resorts at holiday destinations. There were receipts for many trips with multiple women, spanning the last 10 years. Because he was always absent from our lives, my mom didn't suspect anything. It didn't seem like he made any effort to hide these. He also used the company email to talk to his secretary about the affair stuff. Turns out, they were fucking months before my dad asked my mom for an open relationship. This is what we gathered from their emails - after months of their affair, the secretary didn't want to remain a mistress. So, she started pestering my dad to get a divorce. But they wanted my mom to initiate it so that he could get a massive chunk of the company. The secretary came up with the idea of asking my mom for the open relationship. They hoped that my mom would be horrified and ask for a divorce. They were caught off guard when my mom agreed. My dad got jealous when my mom started having sex. After initiating the divorce, he deleted all his emails and told his secretary to do it too. Unfortunately for him, they were still stored the company email server. I haven't seen my dad in over a month. All of his communication has been through his attorney. He apparently wants half the company. My mom's attorneys are still looking for more evidence, but they told us that they don't expect him to get much with the evidence they have. Lisa has been supporting my mom through the whole ordeal. She also got a divorce because her husband cheated on her, so she's been helping my mom a lot. NEW UPDATE - March 10, 2026. Hey guys. I was clearing out some saved passwords on my laptop today and stumbled back onto this throwaway account. Re-reading my old posts from 2022 was a wild trip. It honestly feels like a lifetime ago. I know it's been four years, but since the dust has completely settled and there were also a lot of messages asking for an update, I figured I'd finally post a real update for anyone who remembers this mess. The divorce dragged on for a bit because my dad fought tooth and nail for half the business. But like we found out back then, my grandpa set the whole thing up in my mom's name. Once his lawyers realized that going to trial meant a judge would see exactly how much company money he blew on his 10-years of affairs and the other criminal headaches that might come with it, he folded. He took a sizeable "make him go away" payout to sign the papers and was officially booted from the company. My mom kept everything. She didn't want the stress of running it day-to-day, so she made herself Chairman. She hired a real CEO and management team to do the heavy lifting, so now she just oversees the big picture and collects the profits. With all her free time, she actually went into business with her trainer friend, Lisa. They opened a boutique gym together a couple of years ago. Lisa runs the fitness side, and my mom handles the business end. She’s 43 now, still absolutely shredded, and living her best life. She's also casually dating a guy who is also divorced. They've been seeing each other for a few months, taking trips, and just having fun with zero pressure. She is so completely different from the quiet, submissive woman she was when I was growing up. As for my dad... well, he married the secretary. Turns out when you aren't using your wife's company to fund luxury vacations, life is a lot less glamorous. They live a pretty downsized, average life now. I'm 26 now and I'm very low-contact with him. We get lunch maybe twice a year, and it's always stiff and awkward. He still tries to make bitter, passive-aggressive digs about my mom, but I just ignore it or change the subject. Looking back, my dad's genius plan to ask for an open marriage so he could run off with his secretary and steal my mom's company was the best thing that ever happened to us. It totally backfired on him, and it gave my mom the push she needed to realize she didn't need him. Thanks to everyone who rooted for her four years ago! Reminder - I am not the original poster. DO NOT COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS. submitted by /u/KarpGrinder to r/BORUpdates [link] [comments]

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I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/throwra_friendtest Originally posted to r/WhatShouldIDo My (35m) friend (36m) loyalty tested my wife (40f) without my knowledge. She failed. I feel done with them both. What to do? Editor's note: made small edits for ease of readability Trigger Warnings: misogyny, mentions of drug use and assault, infidelity ---- Original Post: January 29, 2026 Been with my wife ten years, married for six. I thought we were really happy. She’s got a kid from a previous relationship, dad not in the picture, I have taken on the role. We both work, me full time her part time, we live a good life, holiday abroad every few months, no real financial worries, both in pretty good shape and plenty of love affection and sex between us. I thought we’d be together forever. On to my friend. His wife left him in horrific circumstances last year. He came home one day to find her gone with their two year old. She’s left him do a drug dealer she met on Instagram who ended up assaulting them both and it’s a massive legal issue that’s destroyed him. Since then he’s become very anti women despite having a great family full of women. He’s constantly telling us all how all women are the same etc. Well last week he sent me a load of screenshots, must’ve been over 100 of them. Going back to November last year and finishing on January 15th. He got another phone and started messaging my wife pretending to be a man from a couple of hours away who got the wrong number. Within a week he was getting nudes from her, sexting etc., by Christmas she was telling him she was telling him she loves him and the final one was a photo of her walking in to a hotel to meet “him” and then angry messages from her asking where he was. I went round to his house and was distraught. He told me he’d done this to another six friends of ours. Only my wife failed. He had the phone with him and as I was there she messaged him asking where he’d gone and saying how much she misses him. He shown me that she’d been sending stuff like that the past week with no response. I left there without really saying anything and went home and once me and wife were alone I confronted her with the evidence I have. She started crying and saying she doesn’t know why she did it and it just started off as a bit of fun at work and then she got carried away. She said she feels like she loves us both and doesn’t want to lose me. I didn’t know what to do so just left and went to a hotel. I’m still here now and unsure of what my next step should be. I want to cut them both off but I will miss my step daughter so much and my friends are saying I can’t be mad at my friend as he did me a favour. TLDR: friend catfished my wife and she fell for it. Relevant Comments Commenter 1: Well that’s a shit thing that your friend did but it’s more concerning that your wife fell for it. She was going to sleep with this stranger. And to top it off she is the only one that fell for it out of the other wives. I will leave it at that. I would love to be a fly on the wall when she finds out your friend catfished her. OOP: I think I could get past it if it was just texting but I can’t get past the going to meet him. Commenter 2: Divorce the cheating wife. And drop the woman hating friend before dating again, or he’ll do this to you over and over. .> OOP: I think this is the only way I can move on. Commenter 3: Did she know this friend previous to this taking place? OOP: Yeah they’ve met each other hundreds of times. OOP clarifies on if his wife met this friend pretending to be a "stranger" at the hotel OOP: They didn’t meet at the hotel. She went there and he took photos of her from his car Were there other people involved with catfishing OOP's wife? Or just this friend? OOP: He acted alone. OOP on his stepdaughter and if he is going to stay in touch with her OOP: She’s 15. I’ll fight tooth and nail to stay in contact with her. + I’m going to meet my stepdaughter this weekend and ask her if we can still maintain a relationship. I miss her so much. I miss getting up and watching stupid cartoons together that her mum doesn’t get, I miss us talking about random memes, I miss us shadow fighting, I miss us baking and cooking together, I just miss her so much I can’t stop crying. I don’t miss my wife at all. How did this friend get all wives' numbers including OOP's wife? OOP: From a group chat we were all in for a wedding party Commenter 4: I just can’t stop thinking about the level of effort your friend went through to do this. He got another phone, this whole scheme, for months, to try to get NUDES of his friends wives, manipulate her, like how sick? As for your wife, I think a divorce is justified. Trust is broken. Unfortunately this will hurt your stepdaughter .. you can maintain a relationship with her but who knows what her mother will tell her about the reason for divorce. You will likely lose her too. I’m so sorry. 😢 your friend is garbage and I would cut him off first OOP: He stole a man’s pictures of Twitter as well to pretend to be him. I’m hoping my stepdaughter will still want to see me. OOP on the relationship between his wife and his stepdaughter's biological father and how OOP ended up being the dad instead OOP: They were on again off again and then when she got pregnant he moved down to London never to be seen again. His mum still sees my stepdaughter but he’s never seen her or spoke to her.   Update: February 1, 2026 (three days later) UPDATE my (35m) friend (36m) loyalty tested my wife (40f) without my knowledge. She failed. I feel done with them both. What to do? I want to thank everyone who commented on my last post. There was so many I couldn’t reply to them all. I’ll address a couple of things from my first post. A lot of people said my wife did nothing wrong. She went to a hotel to meet another man for sex. There are photos of her at the hotel waiting. She messaged saying she was there and “I purposely haven’t had sex with him (meaning me) for ages so when I get my hands on you I’ll be ripping your clothes off and my own” then messages of her asking where he is and even a week later when he stopped replying saying she misses him and pictures of herself saying how much she still wants him. A few people said my friend wasn’t catfishing her and he was sending photos of himself and she knew. My friend is white and dumpy. The pictures were of a black adult film star stolen from his Twitter. Now on to the update. First and most importantly I met my step daughter yesterday. We met at a park and when we saw each other we both started crying and just hugged for five minutes. Every memory of her from when I first met her went through my head and I didn’t want to let her go for fear of never hugging her again. We sat on a park bench and the first thing she asked is what happened. She’s 15 and I didn’t see a reason to lie. I said her mum got catfished and she fell for it and has been having an online affair for a few months and told another man she loved him. I left out the nudes and hotel bit. My step daughter said her mum had told her that all she had done was message an old friend and I got jealous but she said she knew I wasn’t like that and her aunt (wife’s sister) had told her that her mum had cheated and I had done nothing wrong. I told her I have 100s of screenshots but I won’t show them her. She begged to see one so she could know. I tried to find a non sexual one and showed her one where her mum said “I love you more after ten weeks than I do him after ten years”. My stepdaughter was as horrified as I was and just said “oh my god”. After that we sat and talked for a couple of hours about everything. She said she still wants me as a part of her life and when I get my own place she’ll be over all the time. She said I’m still her dad and always will be even after I told her I plan to divorce her mum. She said her aunty and her grandma both encouraged her to stay in touch with me because she told them she was scared I didn’t want her anymore. I said nothing could be further from the truth. I gave her a lift back home and we’ve been texting non stop since sending stupid videos to each other and she said her grandma said we can use her kitchen to bake together again so we are doing that later today. As for my wife and my friend. I’ve told my wife I want a divorce which caused a barrage of texts and phone calls I ignored. I’ve told my friend I want low contact with him but I did ask why he didn’t stop once he go nudes and he said “because you don’t get jealous and I thought you’d probably just find it funny” which is probably true. If she told me a wrong number was texting I probably would say flirt with it for a laugh lol. I do get peoples point though when they say I shouldn’t be mad at him because if it wasn’t him it would have been someone else but he did target her insecurities. He knew she was insecure about her height and said “first time I finally meet an Amazonian woman at a bar and we have a good time she gives me a false number” and he knows she struggles with having an athletic build and he mentioned his ideal woman would be tall and strong built and how he doesn’t get the trend for short women with big boobs and bums. But at the same time she’s a fucking detective for the police force and should have recognised she was being played. Sorry it’s not an exciting update. Relevant Comments Commenter 1: I read all your comments and you never said in detail What did your wife said when you told her how your friend catfished her. What was her reaction? Anything besides just crying? Was there disbelief or comments? Has she continued to try to contact you? OOP: She started having a kind of panic attack and calling herself stupid. Then she said it doesn’t count then and I told her it bloody did. She had tried to contact me loads of times every day. Commenter 2: Question. Never heard of being a part-time (you mentioned she doesn’t work full-time in previous post) Detective in the police force. Is that a thing in your country? OOP: Yeah she mainly does desk work now. She does three full days a week. She’s in anti corruption now so investigates other officers. Commenter 2: Well that is just embarrassing. Good lord. If her stupidity gets out in her work place she won’t have a shred of credibility. Already a boys club. My friend was a Detective. She ended up quitting because her full time hours with massive overtime on cases meant she hardly saw her kids. Think seeing too many murdered little ones also was a factor after becoming a mum. She could compartmentalise to a point before. OOP: Yeah to be fair to her she’s some horrendous stuff and a few years ago got injured in a car crash at work and has been part time and office bound since. She’s physically ok and has said to me she used it as an excuse/reason to take a step back until her 25 years is up. Commenter 3: I mean.. your friend originally acted from a place of hate and pain, with the intent of 'proving' to you and your other friends that all women suck. Im glad your daughter, her aunt and her grandma proved otherwise. I’m really sorry at how things played out, the hurt its caused you, and the way its shaken your life up. Im also glad your daughter, the aunt and grandmother all have your back and supporting you preserving your relationship with your daughter. Also I’m glad you showed her one of the texts. OOP: I had to show her one and I try to treat her as an adult. It was just hard to find a screenshot that wasn’t explicit as she didn’t need to see that. Commenter 4: Thank you for loving that little girl the best way you can! It is not her fault. My heart hurts for her. And you. OOP: It’s not hard to love her she’s incredible. My life is better with her in it. Commenter 5: Well I'm glad at the very least your daughter and in-laws are on your side on this one. SIL not lying to her niece is an example of a woman with integrity. MIL offering her kitchen so you can spend time together baking is an example of a maternal figure who cares about her granddaughter above all. OP, get your divorce and use your village to keep being in your daughter's life. Your friend and STBX wife are POS insecurities or not. But you're young and still able to start over someday while keeping the most important people in your life around. Overall your future seems brighter now than on D-day. Keep moving soldier. OOP: Thank you 🙏. Her family have been terrific with me to be honest.   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

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I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/OnlineShopping2026 Originally posted to r/AITAH AITA for insisting my daughter wear an outfit she doesn’t want to wear to a wedding? Original Post: January 6, 2026 I’m looking for some help on a situation with my kids. We’re attending my brother’s wedding at the end of the month. My younger daughter (7) is a flower girl. The bride, who is my brother’s fiancée, took us to a local shop she liked so we could pick out the flower girl dress. My older daughter (12) is not in the wedding party, she’s too old to be a flower girl, but she still needed something appropriate to wear as a guest. She’s very tall (almost 6’!) for her age, which makes shopping in person challenging. We went to several stores and tried on a number of outfits, but nothing fit her right or was age appropriate or was something she liked. So I ordered her dress online from a store called Lulu’s. When it arrived, it fit her well and was in a color she liked. At the time. it felt like the best option. my oldest is upset because her sister got her dress in-person with the bride involved and got to go out to lunch afterward, while her dress was bought online. She says it isn’t fair and has said she refuses to wear it, even though there’s nothing actually wrong with the dress itself. I explained that we did try to find something in stores and that this was the option that worked, but she still feels hurt. I’m not sure whether I should insist she wear it or try to find another solution this close to the wedding. AITA for expecting her to wear the outfit anyway? AITAH has no consensus bot, OOP received mixed reactions, splitting between NTAs and YTAs Relevant Comments Commenter 1: Just take her out to buy accessories and for lunch. How is this something you need to ask the internet? YTA OOP: She shot that suggestion down and said it wasn’t the same. Commenter 2: And neither is their role in the wedding or height. They aren’t going to be the same because they are different situations. At 12 this is something they should be learning. Commenter 3: I think you need to be more direct. Her little sister doesn’t get a choice in her dress. She has a role in the wedding ceremony, and the bride picks out what she wears. Your oldest got to pick out her own dress (emphasis that she gets full control over her dress and her sister doesn’t). Then take out your oldest for a special day of wedding accessory shopping and getting nails done. A lot of this is just standard sibling rivalry OOP: My daughter said she didn’t pick out the dress either. She was against getting it online and said that what I picked was ugly. She said there’s no point in her being in the wedding so she should stay home or stay at her dad’s. And the dress OOP bought for her daughter OOP: This is the dress I bought: https://www.lulus.com/products/romantic-destiny-light-pink-square-neck-trumpet-maxi-dress/2384051.html?src=lulus&ref=search_rr I thought it would cute on her, but she didn’t agree. My daughter sent me this. Is the color going to be a problem?: January 9, 2026 (three days later) Picture of the dress description on the picture of the dress OOP's daughter sent to her Showing a sleeveless, knee-length dress which is a light champagne or pale gold color with a shiny, textured fabric catching the light, giving it a subtly metallic look. It has a V-shaped neckline and a fitted bodice with a defined waist seam. Below the waist, the skirt flares out and features the overlapping, asymmetrical panels, creating a layered, flowy silhouette. end of the description My 12-year-old daughter and a friend went to a thrift store yesterday and found this dress. She says it’s a whitish-gold color, if that makes sense. She wants to wear this to her uncle’s wedding (dress code is formal). But will the color be a problem? I think it may be. But what do you think? Edit: I’m not going to share the photos, but I asked her if she tried it on. She did, and most of you were correct. It was too short. I told her we can talk about this when we got home, but long story short, I had to tell her that the skirt was going to be too short for the dress code. I suggested returning the one I bought for her and to try and find a new dress. she didn’t take it well. Unfortunately, a lot of brick and mortar stores in our area closed. Our mall shut down last year. Most stores don’t stock her size. Someone brought up a dressmaker or tailor, but those closed down as well. Our options are limited. Relevant Comments Commenter 1: On one hand, she’s 12 so no one will think she’s trying to upstage the bride. On the other hand, this is an opportunity to teach her what is appropriate for the occasion and this lovely dress is not it. OOP: The problem is that she hates the dress I bought for her to wear (it’s a long story) but shut down when I tried to take her shopping or find a dress online she’d like. Commenter 2: My friend, we saw the other post. I know she shut you down for shopping for a dress, but has she shut you down for making a fun day, just the two of you? At this point, the dress is whatever, but this experience is going to stick with her as an experience where she was excluded and wasn’t heard, and you’re still focusing on the dress. Offer to take her out for lunch, to buy some special accessories, and steer her toward a dress section at the same store. No pressure, just fun. As for her height, it’s easier to take things in than make things long, and you could find something with ruching on the back. If you still have time to order online, azazie makes lovely juniors dresses, too! You could pitch it to her as something cute, especially if she has any school dances coming up. OOP: She didn’t want to do another shopping trip and broke down crying when I mentioned it. Commenter 3: Based on your previous post, it 100% sounds like the problem your daughter has isn’t with the dress itself but with the experience of getting the dress. Your 12 year old is jealous of the experience your 7 year old got when finding the flower girl dress. I’m sorry but this dress just isn’t appropriate: it’s going to be too short in the front for someone her height, it’s the wrong color, the length of the dress doesn’t fit the dress code, etc. Why not order a few dresses online and make her “buying experience” fun/special as well? You can order a few appropriate dresses online, when they arrive you can invite your brother’s fiancé over and let your 12 year old invite a friend or two over. She can try on and “model” the dresses for you all before deciding which dress is “the one”. You could make it like a “say yes to the dress” type of experience. You could have little snacks and sparking grape juice to toast after she picks her dress etc. This could make an online shopping experience special. Then return the dresses she doesn’t choose. OOP: I actually suggested we buy some dresses online and try them on but she shut down on that comment. She didn’t want to do that and that it wasn’t the same. Commenter 3: I saw you suggested buying some online and she shut it down but she may be more open to it if you made it a bigger deal, not just ordering dresses but making it an experience. OOP: That’s actually what I suggested. I suggested we invite her friends over and she can show off to them and they can help her decide. She didn’t want to do that either. At this point, I’m think I’m going to send her to her dad’s that weekend. Commenter 4: Order online. Azazie, Amazon, Shein (I know the problems with Shein. They're all great for trendy beautiful dresses. OOP: My daughter will kill someone if she finds out the dress came from Amazon.   My SIL is banning football at her wedding this weekend. She’s marrying into a family of Broncos diehards.: January 23, 2026 (two weeks later) My brother is getting married this Sunday. At the time they picked the date, they knew it would on the same day as the final games before the Super Bowl. What they didn’t expect was the Broncos playing. SIL, the bride, is not into football. She thinks it’s boring, which I understand. Football isn’t for everyone. Unfortunately, my brother and I come from a family of diehard Broncos fans. My SIL sent out an email on Monday letting everyone know that they will not be showing the game on Sunday. I get where she is coming from. But I also know that Sunday is going to be a disaster. Nothing in this life is certain except death, taxes, and my dad, his brothers, several other relatives, and even my own daughter determined to find a way to watch the Broncos play. I hate to say this, but I’m entering this weekend knowing it’s going to end badly. edit: I asked my brother to clarify the “no phones” policy. He said that phones are banned during the ceremony (understandable). But that his fiancée doesn’t want people glued to their phones during the reception either. She’s also made it clear they’re not showing the game at the reception. Relevant Comments Commenter 1: this makes me question your whole family, who the fuck gets married during football season? OOP: I’m not the one who set the date. Ask my SIL. To be fair though, my brother doesn’t like sports either. Commenter 2: And your brother is marrying her anyway? OOP: I’m afraid so. Commenter 3: Dude come on. Just be present at the wedding and watch the game on a delay. I watched the final four at my brother’s wedding, and danced and ate and visited with all my friends and family. Don’t be glued to your phone OOP: Tell that to my dad and my daughter. They would rather skip the wedding rather than miss the game. To be fair, both of them dislike the bride.   Update: January 24, 2026 (next day) Hey everyone. I wanted to post an update on a post I made because a lot has happened since my original post, and I did take the comments to heart (even the ones that were hard to read). First, many of you were right: this was never just about the dress. After the post, we tried to do what a lot of commenters suggested and planned a makeup shopping day just for my older daughter. I thought framing it as her special day would help. Unfortunately, it didn’t go well. She’s been getting into very girly, frilly styles lately and loves pop artists like Sabrina Carpenter. That’s the aesthetic she wants. The problem is that those styles just don’t work well on her body right now, and every time something didn’t fit or looked wrong, it felt like confirmation of everything she already hates about being tall. She ended up having a full meltdown in one of the stores. What finally came out was that she hates how everything that fits her makes her look “grown up,” when she doesn’t feel grown up at all. She hates the comments she gets about her height, how mature she looks, how people assume she’s into makeup, skincare, boys, etc. She isn’t. She still likes cartoons, dolls, and kid stuff, and she hates how people tell her that she’s “too old” for those things just because of how she looks. The breaking point that day was actually at a thrift store, where she found a dress she loved on the rack and was so excited about it… and then it just didn’t work on her body at all. That’s when she completely lost it. There’s also a lot of jealousy and hurt around her sister. Her younger sister is getting positive attention for being cute and little and a flower girl, while my older daughter feels like all the attention she gets is negative or uncomfortable. My daughter admitted she didn‘t even want to go to the wedding anymore. Not just because of the dress, but because she already feels like she doesn’t belong. Then we found out that the bride decided they wouldn’t be showing a big football game during the reception. My daughter and a few other family members were really looking forward to that as a way to get through the night, and losing that made her feel even more like there was no point in going. So here’s what we decided. I’m not making her to go to the wedding. I sent back the dress for a refund. My daughter is going to spend the day at a friend’s house instead. Her parents are going to be showing the game, and my daughter is actually excited about that. I pulled my oldest out of school on Friday and we did a special shopping trip, but for a new football jersey she can wear on Sunday, as well as some new books and lunch at a restaurant she likes. I also apologized to her. For not realizing how deep this went, for pushing solutions instead of listening, and for underestimating how painful this whole thing is for her. I know some people will think skipping a family wedding is the wrong call. Maybe it is. But this feels like the best option for us. Thank you to everyone who shared their own experiences—especially from the tall girls who said this stuff sticks with you. That really changed how I looked at the situation. Top Comments Commenter 1: Honestly this sounds like really good parenting. You listened, changed course, prioritized her actual feelings over “but family events!” and found something that made her feel seen instead of shoved into a role she hates right now. The tall girl stuff is brutal at that age and it absolutely sticks, so the fact that you’re validating it instead of telling her to “get over it” is huge. Skipping one wedding is nothing compared to your kid remembering that her mom had her back when she was miserable. Commenter 2: I agree. You did good OP. She’s 12 and I remember how I hated puberty or onset of it all. No doubt she’s also getting creepy male attention a well or feeling those vibes. It’s a horrible time and even women around you also start behaving like periods are great and that you should be into make up / ‘turning into a woman’ 🤮🤮🤮 etc. it’s horrible and awkward and not fun . who knows maybe she will in years to come but no one has been meeting her at her right now and you turned this around to do it. I think letting her be with her friends instead of the wedding is a good call. She’d be bored shitless and uncomfortable. What might be a solution is maybe she might want to learn to sew? That way she can make her own clothing. Maybe it’s something you could both do together as a special activity if she’s open to it. Because it’s a good skill and also you can thrift stuff but repurpose clothing too instead of completely from scratch.   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

Okay Guys. Reddit is onto us. I was wondering how long it was going to take, tbh. This has happened to me before with Reddit. They target specific users whose content is becoming too popular or controversial and what would arguably "circumvent" what they believe is the spirit by which this shit is acquired. I had this happen with Dataset 8's accidental release. I know how to deal with this, so let's keep going. Here's what's going to happen. The "main body" post is going to be a timestamp log only of what we're all working on, how far we're along, etc. I'm going to move the content from the previous post that was nuked over to this one. To avoid Reddit nuking this ENTIRE THREAD AGAIN, however, any and all links to magnets will be in the comments. It will be up to the community to shove them up to the front and keep them visible. I will re-post every magnet link I have below. That way, they can only nuke a comment--not the entire post thread. I'm going to start moving everything now. Fuck them, We Keep Going. AS OF RIGHT NOW, THESE OFFICIAL LINKS ARE DEAD, BUT I WILL KEEP THEM AVAILABLE JUST IN CASE: DataSet 9 is around ~180GB DataSet 10 is around ~78.6GB ************************************************************************************************************** EDIT 5:50PM EST: Let's start by getting an accounting of who has what and how much. It seems like Dataset 10 is the one everyone is stalling on the most--probably because it seems to have the worst shit. Post how far you are along, whether or not you're still actively downloading or whether or not your download has stalled, and then we'll figure out who should seed what they have and help them do that, if necessary. Let's Work Together, Everyone. I will keep editing this main body to coordinate our efforts. ***Edit 6:03PM: Original Post Thread by u/harshspider has been restored. I guess being told to get their shit together actually did something! Feel free to resume over on the OP, or if you feel more comfortable, continue here. I'm aiming to make this a more organized version of u/harshspider 's OP, so that we can get some real coordination done. Here is what I have been able to confirm definitively: DATASET 10 ZIP DOWNLOAD IS DEAD FOR NOW. I've tried, several times, with aria2 to restart the DL and it's being killed on the server end. So for now, we need to figure out who has the largest compilation of Dataset 10 and establish a mirror or magnet link. Everyone, however much of 10 you have, comment. ***Edit 6:34PM EST: DATASET 9 DOWNLOAD IS DEAD FOR NOW. Can confirm server-side cutoff on files as well. So, let's begin compiling what we have. Redditors, POST what you have for 9 & 10. If anyone needs help stabilizing their downloads to access as many files as they can of what they have BEFORE EXTRACTING THEM FROM THE ZIP FILE, MSG me and I would be happy to walk you though how to preserve the contents of these files from further corruption. I'm stabilizing my own contents of 10 right now to mirror. Some ppl are still reporting active downloads for 10, so it seems like these files are being modified in real time. ***EDIT 9:29PM: Hey everyone, sorry fam emergency smfh bc of course. u/solrahl was AWESOME ENOUGH to get the FULL DATASET 10 AND POST IT, so let's all thank them, shall we? Now let's work on 9! Great Job Everyone!! Let's keep going! WE NOW NEED DATASET 9. DATASET 10 HAS BEEN POSTED ABOVE. TO EVERYONE WHO HAS BEEN WORKING TO DOWNLOAD THIS: GREAT JOB EVERYONE! YOU ALL HAVE DONE AMAZING WORK! IT'S BEEN AN EPIC FIGHT--BUT IT'S NOT OVER. NOW LET'S GO GET DATASET 9. ***EDIT 10:18PM EST: u/nicolas17 was kind enough to post a magnet to what they have of Dataset 9. IT IS INCOMPLETE AT ~47GB, but for now it is the best we have. According to them, we're looking for anyone who can get the rest of the archive starting at offset 48995762176 but it seems like that is the point where everyone is failing. Post in the comments any progress! ***EDIT 10:56PM EST: DATASET 9 DOWNLOAD NOW ONLY LINKS TO A .view FILE VIA THE DOJ WEBSITE. They have actively created a queue and removed every file from the .zip Dataset 9 to kill the complete bulk download. If you're not halted immediately by the wait via the queue, you'll be redirected to download A .ZIP file of "Dataset 9" that contains literally nothing. This means that, as of right now, the only and primary source of the entire tranche of files from DataSet 9 IS INIDIVIDUAL FILES VIA THE DOJ WEBSITE ITSELF. We've already received reports all day of files mentioning "Trump" disappearing from both the 9th and 10th archives. ***EDIT 1:12AM EST: MAGNET LINK FOR DATASET 10, COURTESY u/solrahl ADDED ***EDIT 1:29AM EST: WTF? NEW DATASET ADDED ON DOJ WEBSITE--DATASET 12. ***EDIT 2:05AM EST: u/CapableStaircase was kind enough to compile a complete URL list for DataSet9. Obviously, it's a truly enormous list. The point is, it can be used for bulk download. The (possibly, maybe) complete url list can be found here: DATASET 9 URL LIST ***Edit 3:09AM EST: Un-fucking-Real. So right as u/CapableStaircase posted a mirror link to 101GB of Dataset9, their account was banned. ***EDIT 11:46AM ESST: GM EVERYONE! I wanted to append a quick tag to let everyone know this post is still actively being updated. Personally I'm still chugging away at scraping individual files off the website for DataSet9. I'm gonna begin running through the comments to grab status updates now and answer chat requests, but importantly IF YOU THINK YOU HAVE SOMETHING IMPORTANT TO TELL ME RELEVANT TO OUR EFFORTS THAT I AM NOT AWARE OF OR HAS BEEN INCLUDED IN THIS POST MAIN BODY, PLEASE MSG ME AND LET ME KNOW. Frankly, the comment threads are AMAZING, but have gotten a little long as people have branched off to coordinate and work together (which FR guys--I am so fucking proud of all of you!! SO FUCKING PROUD!!!!!), so if you see that I've missed something vital and haven't updated this post body within the hour with it MSG ME AND LET ME KNOW, OK? ***EDIT 12:23PM EST: UGH, so it seems like the 101GB Dataset9 magnet is stuck in metadata for most people, heartbreakingly. I suspect this is because the person who originally created and seeded the file thought that more people would have been able to download and seed it themselves before they crashed out after their account was banned--leaving us no way to contact them to let them know what the issue is. I will leave the magnet link up, however, in case that person comes back online from whatever TF hell they've been sent to by Reddit randomly banning them for god-knows-what (Reddit's done it to me a million times, let me tell you, so I can only imagine), but that makes it much more important than ever that we keep at this. I am currently downloading from the same list of files they were, right now, still, and have been for hours. IT IS AN INCOMPLETE LIST, but it should reveal the same rough file size, 101GB, as they had and AS SOON AS THAT IS DONE I WILL SEED IT MYSELF. I thought something like this might happen fr, so as soon as they published that list, I was on it downloading in parallel. I'm currently on the "ETFA1976xx"'s and I have everything prior to that. So let's do it like this: Anyone working from that same file list, we know it's incomplete but it's something. We don't wanna focus on it TOO hard because we know it's incomplete, so let's identify anyone who has been able to get a verified complete file list of DataSet9. Crucially, IF YOU ARE THAT PERSON, MSG ME so that we can get it up on IA for others to download, and so I can link it here in the main body thread. I think we pretty much all understand that we're going to be doing this by scraping the damn website at this point unless they restore the full & complete Dataset9.zip, which for now seems unlikely and even if they do, we know it won't contain everything. I KNOW IT HAS BEEN A STUPID LONG NIGHT, EVERYONE, SO LET'S GET THIS SHIT DONE. ********************************************************************************************************\* This was all I could personally grab from my own previous posting before refreshing like a dumbass to find it nuked. So I'll continue the log from here. ***EDIT 5:19PM EST 1/31: POST WAS NUKED BY REDDIT. Re-Establishing a clean thread so we can continue. Posting Mass Links In the Comments Below! u/CapableStaircase has been a fucking champ because his account was banned AGAIN as an alt, but he was awesome enough to provide me an IA link to the torrent zip file. It Seems like Reddit is specifically targeting any efforts to acquire the bulk Dataset 9. So this is the point where EVERYONE needs to start being really, really careful about what they say, what they post, and how they post it. Reddit 100% will short-term ban your account and you won't even know why. But it all seems to focus around Dataset 9. So we keep going. Fuck Em. ***EDIT 6:32PM EST: u/Kindly_District9380 has been super awesome and is working on creating an archive reddit that will be invite-only for what we have so far of the DataSets 9-12. They are in the process of setting it up now, and we'll start sending out invites once it's done. We've all been working so hard on this, and I am so proud of everyone in this community for all the hard work and effort they've been putting in to get as much of this consolidated and preserved as possible. Having experienced this before myself, what it more than likely means is that our subreddit began attracting too much attention, specifically from the DOJ. They probably got hit with a C&D to immediately remove or ban any content related to directly accessing Dataset 9 in bulk; unfortunately once they target you and clock your IP, that's it, they just keep targeting you. I honestly can't tell you how many short-term bans I've suffered related to these files over time, or this Regime in general. Now that they've targeted our content for removal via a blanket content policy, it puts me at rick of no longer being able to continue updating for you and keeping access to this data alive. Therefore, to avoid that, or to mitigate the risk of total loss in the future, this thread is going to act as updates on our progress acquiring everything and a place to post these magnets, links, files, data, resources as we get them, which we will be then consolidating, updating, and hosting over on the new Ep Files Hoard reddit. I'm going to step away from my computer for a bit because I've been sitting at it since 2PM yesterday, lol, and I need to eat something, but you can find everything we have so far in a comment I've posted below. We also have some great outside resources that have been created and posted by various contributors below as well WHO HAVE BEEN AMAZING in making sure access stays alive regardless of Reddit themselves. Because For Real -- Fuck Reddit. I AM SO TIRED OF STUPID FUCKING MODS NOT BEING ABLE TO READ TWO FUCKING SENTENCES IN TO A POST FOR FUCKS SAKE@@niut[n4ut ***EDIT 9:44PM EST: Okay everyone, new community is up, and invite-only. We're still maintaining this thread, but everything we've compiled so far is over there. It's got every restriction imaginable on it to try and keep Reddit form fuxxing with us anymore than necessary, and I really have to thank u/Kindly_District9380 for setting it up. Since it's invite-only, head over to here: https://www.reddit.com/r/EpsteinPublicDatasets/ , and "request to join"--I'll approve as they come in. This is also to root out anyone who might be there specifically to start shit or cause trouble, specifically from Reddit itself or (GOD FORBID) the DOJ (fuck u spez, lol), so if you ask for an approval with a super sus account that's like 15y old with zero posts, or a brand-new account with zero posts and karma, plz be kind enough to actually send a message explaining why your shit looks crazy, please. ***EDIT 9:10AM EST 2/1: GOOD MORNING EVERYONE!! Sorry guys, I needed to check out for a while; not sleeping/eating + psychological/physiological stress + anxiety disorder = BAD, so thanks for not crucifying me during that time! We have a fuxxTON of requests to join over at the Ep Hoard subreddit, and because I've been kinda one-arm pushup-ing this shit for so long, it's mainly just going to me approving them, but I'm looking to appoint some mods that have been leading the charge dragging these files into the open to ensure their continued access to the public, so that when I step away from my PC for a while there will still be a core structure in place that will be able to publish links to the data and work proactively in-the-moment should Reddit decide to nuke us again. So! I'm gonna take a brief moment to run through the comments, check messages, gather updates, and see what's up and what the progress on DataSet 9 is before moving back to invite approvals. Crucially, tho, I'm looking for people who have been posting, communicating, staying active and working hard within this community to acquire all of these DataSets that would be interested in moderating over on the Ep Hoard reddit. I'm primarily looking for people who are the ones that are hosting, seeding and capable of acquiring and generating links to the data. If this isn't you, then please don't ask. If it IS you, drop me a PM. After around 10:30-11AM EST I'm gonna have to step away from my PC for a while (Unfortunately life--it does press on, Winter Storm & 14" of snow/6" of ice or not) and probably won't be able to check back in until later in the afternoon, so tagging in a few mods would help ensure that access remains solid. Lastly, I cannot emphasize enough how amazing, diligent, stubborn, supportive, resilient and god damn doggedly determined this community has been during these last three days. You have all been so incredible, and the amount of support I, personally, have received to continue this effort has really been heartfelt and inspiring. Some of you I've spoken to in chats, so you know. Also, I wanna credit the DataHoarder Mod Gods as well (one in particular I won't name but I singled out in chat because they're amazing--they know who they are) who both endured my verbal abuse and got their shit together enough to restore & maintain access to this information, rather than nuke the post themselves permanently (which one of them almost did). So for now, I'm gonna start combing the comments looking for updates, checking my messages before moving over to approvals, and going from there before checking out for a while. Any major updates, I'll update in my comment below and over on the Ep Hoard sub. God, I am so tired, lol. ***EDIT 9:59AM EST: Okay wow, so um I really need to thank u/Okayeesh for the link to these. Talking about having a sense of what was in Dataset9 and why the DOJ pulled the zip file, we now have an idea of what was in that zip file: unredacted photos of Susan Harman, and guys? These are very much NSFW. Crucially, these are screenshots that display the DOJ link that (mostly) prove that they do, indeed, come from the DOJ website DataSet9 tranche. Because These Are NSFW I CANNOT POST THEM HERE WITHOUT RISKING REDDIT NUKE THE THREAD, but because the EpHoard sub that was created is specifically labelled NSFW, I will post the link to them there. I will be posting them in the Ep Files META there, in the comments. ***EDIT 11:27AM EST: Okay, everyone, I've been running through approvals alone virtually non-stop over on EpHoard. I started with the oldest requests first--those who have waited longest--but eventually swapped to ones that were coming in because I was getting overwhelmed scrolling down the list lol. If you haven't been approved yet, don't worry--I am working my way through it but for now I need to take a break bc life, it presses. It should only be for a few hours, and then I'll be checking back in. Again, looking for leaders to mod who have been providing files and links! ***EDIT 2:47PM EST 2/2: Hey Everyone! I am so sorry! I wanted to do a real-quick check in bc I haven't been able to update on here since yesterday 😭. Honestly, I needed a sanity check/mental health break. Looking through some of these files + managing this whole effort to acquire them has been beyond taxing & exhausting in a way that, I have to admit, I wasn't fully prepared for when I began this thread. If I could interject a little bit of RL here for a moment, because I think it's important to understand and put all of this effort in context of what the impact & purpose of scraping & providing access to all of this data has on and does to real people who see it & read it: like many of you, I am a parent, a mother (yeah I bet that's gonna surprise more than a few of you, lol. I curse like a fucking sailor and behave 100% like a bruh 😂 like my kids literally call me bruh) but, more importantly, I am a parent to two beyond amazing girls--who happen to be the same age as some of Epstein's victims, and have gotten older as this whole thing has dragged on. I think there are a lot of ppl out there who can understand how enraging it would be, to see and read about some of these girls and thinking "OMG I have children, teenagers that age", but the difference is that I'm in the impossible position of trying to manage & guarantee access to that information as well. FR that fuxx me up a lil bit, because I see some.of these girls in the photos, many who are smiling, and what comes to my mind in those moments is "if that were my child in that photo and I saw it, I would fucking end him, no cap." So, yesterday, while I was out I took some time to reaffirm why I'm doing all of this in the first place. I talked to them, showed them all of this, and talked to them about the photos, the content of it. Each of them had their own answer. Taken from text messages (bc of course it's 2026 and to talk with my own kids I have to chat lolwtf): My Oldest, 18: "Pftt yess! That’s awesome mom! ...but yeah it’s horrible, and the worst part is we can’t really do anything about it, we can only vote an protest and those may be taken away as well, so we share our information and just hope it’s enough, I’ve read some of the files and it doesn’t surprise me, I’m happy some of it is out there so there is proof" My youngest, 17: "You have the power. QUICK, abuse it! 😂 Yeah..I was actually reading up on it..and how...and what...they did to..CHILDREN. not "young girls"..CHILDREN. It's "Cheese Pizza" abbreviated..and I'm glad it's in your hands and not the weirdos 😭" Finally, I talked to a different family member until 3am (shout-out to moms, lol, who was in the car when they called to save my sanity), who was super affirming and validating, and awesome as usual, even with their own life and shit going on. So! Now I feel like I'm in a better head-space to keep going and dealing with this insanity. I'm sorry if I've left a bunch of you hanging, but you've all been amazing in plugging on, even in my brief absence. I'm going to be updating less-frequently for now so I can concentrate on managing and organizing the information we do have, but I wanna make some things really fucking clear right up front: Do NOT, for a moment, think that 9 is a done deal on the part of any one person. This has been a serious fucking slog on the part of everyone. So, if you think "well I mean, I've got 80-100GB it's probably the same as everyone else should I even keep going" the answer is YES-KEEP GOING. Why, you ask? Because-- We have already been able to compile evidence that a fuxxton of files have been clawed back in real time, dynamically, while people have been downloading and scraping. From some reports, it ranges from between 1-100,000 files or more. The DOJ, I'm sure, is thinking "in the grand scheme of 3 million files, whose gonna miss that?", and the answer is US. THE PUBLIC. WE DO. So! You might find yourself in the unusual position of being in possession of data that is absent from the same dataset someone else has compiled. Isn't that fun? Trolls: Fuck Off. There are a few who have, unfortunately, found their way onto this thread. Let's be clear what they're doing: regardless of how, they're actively trying to stymie our efforts to acquire this data and proof of these crimes. In my mind that makes them the fucking enemy and guys, I hope you down vote and report them into fucking oblivion. We, as a community, have endured way, way too much to let some garbage trash no-life ignorant fuckers keep us down now. What's that old phrase the government used to use back in the day? Oh yeah-- "If you see something, say something" --and then fucking destroy them. 😇 Now then! I have about a million chats, comments & requests that I have to slog through 😭 it's gonna be virtually impossible for me to talk for a while. Guys IT IS DAY FUCKING FOUR LET'S GET THIS SHIT DONE! I am so, sososososo so fucking proud of each and every one of you who has been, tirelessly, endlessly, doggedly determinedly slogging away at this shit. This, what we are doing, isn't easy. But, as many others have said, "it is God's work". I have some thoughts on that but the point is-- it is important. Keep at it, never quit, no surrender, get it done and fuck all the others. Fuck em all. ***EDIT 12:48PM EST 2/4: Hey Guys, I think I already mentioned that I would be updating less-frequently to be able to handle the backlog of everything I have in chats & EpHoard for now, but I wanted to check in that yes, I am still here to update. Its always irritating when RL crashes in while trying to manage & deal with this shit, and that basically happened to me yesterday--I live in an area that got nailed by WS Fern, and had to spend most of the day yesterday (not even an exaggeration or a joke bc fr you can't make this shit up) learning that 1. There isn't a shovel, scoop, pickaxe, gardening tools or anything within my entire effing state outside of Amazon and 2. I fucking hate my new neighbor bc he dumped the snow from "his" parking spot into "my" parking spot and it spent 6 days melting & re-freezing in a giant fucking pile of fuckyouICE and I will get my revenge just you wait, and 3. It really sucks digging through this shit for 6 hours while you're waiting on the Verizon guy to come and upgrade/fix your internets from "slow" to 2G fiber (It's the fastest we can manage in our area, sadly) and then he disappears for an hour to go access the hub and doesn't say a word and then randomly comes back like "Uh, I think you should be good" WELL WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?!!! WHAT TF IS THAT SUPPOSED TO MEAN?!!!! ANYWAY!! 😅 NGL, I still have some life shit to deal with today (God help me, I can't catch a break pray for me guys so I can update with REAL information), but I'll be back later this afternoon)evening to chip away at the backlog of chats/messages/updates. submitted by /u/AshuraMaruxx to r/DataHoarder [link] [comments]

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I am NOT the Original Poster. That is Potential-While9923. She posted in r/AITAH Thanks to u/BakingGiraffeBakes and r/anicole325 for the rec! Do NOT comment on Original Posts. Latest update is 7 days old. READ TRIGGER WARNINGS. Trigger Warnings: rape ending in a pregnancy; forced birth; coercive control; trauma; emotional abuse; descriptions of injury Mood Spoiler: horrific; ok ending but overall genuinely horrific Original Post: December 29, 2025 I am an oops baby. My folks had me when they were in their early forties. I got pregnant when I was in university. I probably can't write here why I didn't want it. I wanted to not be pregnant but my parents said they would cut off all aid to me if I did that. So I carried it to term. Then I wanted to put the child up for adoption or drop him at a fire station or something. I was not on a good place. My parents insisted on adopting him so he is legally my brother. I do not hate him but he is a reminder of something terrible that happened to me. I now go back home as little as possible. Maybe two days a year. I have graduated and I have a life far away from my parents. My "brother" is twelve now. And he is not well behaved. My parents are now in their seventies and ar having a shitty retirement. They have to dedicate all their time to him. They can't take the vacations they planned. They won't downsize to a condo so they still have yardwork and stuff that he will not help with. None of my actual siblings will watch him to give them a break. They reached out to me for help. I said no. I said that he is their son and their responsibility. They think I'm being cruel for forcing them to do everything after they helped me so much. It took everything I had in me not to curse them out. Some of my relatives have reached out to me to see why I refuse to help fix the mess I made. Them I curse out and block. None of them helped me when I was pregnant against my will. The biological father is on the registry and cannot be near kids. Before you ask. Some of OOP's Comment: Dachshundmom5: Why not block your parents like you do others? They are the people who forced you to keep the pregnancy and refused to let you give the baby a shot at a good life. They are not good people. OOP: Still my parents. I have many, MANY, issues with them but they are my parents. To another commenter: I'm already low contact DeeSusie200: (downvoted- included for OOP's comment) At one point you could have said NO to your parents. You could have said NO to the adoption but you wanted money from them. Now an innocent child is suffering. OOP: Needed. Not wanted. If I was ever going to have a life of my own I needed their money. If I could have figured out any way to complete my education without their money I would have done that instead. To another downvoted commenter: They didn't chain me to a bed or anything. But you do not understand the coercion I experienced. To one more commenter: Decided is a soft term but essentially yes. Please note that at the time of this "decision" I was in the hospital recovering from a violent rpe and my parents were my entire support system. Not sure what job I could get with broken ribs and a broken jaw and one eye in a bandage while the doctors try to figure out whether it's worth saving. To a kind, longer comment by DramaticReach9854: OOP: Thank you. I am in therapy and have been for a long time. First at my college then through a victim's fund and now on my own. I am not okay yet. I'll probably never be okay with what happened. But I'm getting better. SummerWedding23: (downvoted, again included for OOP's response): Out of curiosity, if you didn’t want the baby…why did you bother to tell them you were pregnant? Why not end it without ever telling them? ESH in my opinion. They never should have tied financial support to this pregnancy, but you should not have taken financial support in exchange for this pregnancy. It’s clear there was some version of SA, and I hope you’ve received adequate counseling, especially now that you are an adult and responsible for your own mental health. You all could have made different choices 12.5 years ago, you didn’t and the child is the only innocent party suffering for the selfish decision of adults. OOP: Because they were caring for me after I was attacked? They were deeply involved in my mental and medical care at the time. To another commenter: After being attacked and impregnated against my will I had some mental health issues. My parents made a lot of my decisions while I was hospitalized. But you have a valid opinion I guess. Usual-Archer-916: I was conceived in rape. They should have let you adopt the baby out, period. I am so sorry they didn't do that and I am so sorry you had this experience. Under the circumstances NTA. The fact that your siblings won't help says a lot. I feel bad for you and for the boy but this is not your fault. OOP: My oldest brother is already a grandfather. He doesn't want a twelve year old. As an example. OkRecommendation2774: Do your relatives know the child was conceived, carried and adopted by your parents all without your consent? Because them framing it as "your mess" makes me think your parents have told them an entirely different story that paints you in a very different light. [...] OOP: My parents covered up what happened to me with most of the family. Bio father can usually be around their bio children (downvoted): He cannot actually. There is a permanent restraining order that my parents have had no problem renewing. Does the child know his true parentage: Yes he knows. And yes I'm in therapy. Editor's note: including this comment from OOP because of the sheer amount of comments that were either blaming OOP or telling her she was being rude to people in the comments and I'm trying to head off anyone here saying shit: OOP: Okay the person said I should have kept my legs shut. I tried. I yelled, I fought back, I scratched and bit. His DNA under my nails and in my teeth helped convict him. I tried to keep my legs shut. But I'm rude because the idiot can't read? Editor's note: The one good note out of all of the horrific comments is that OOP was put in touch with a specialized trauma therapist/counselor. Update Post: January 2, 2026 (4 days later) Thank you guys for finally giving me the motivation to tell my story to my family and to cut ties with my parents. I did s many of you suggested and I wrote everything out. Bo explained that I had been violently assaulted and raped. That my parents, who were my only support told me that they would be kicking me out, stopping paying for my education, and removing me from their health insurance if I took Plan B. I further explained that when I found out I was pregnant from the rape they once again coerced me the same way into carrying the fetus to term. And how they insisted on adopting him after I stated I never wanted to see him again. I wanted him out up for a closed adoption but they would not relent. I then added pictures of me from the hospital. Blood, bruises, missing teeth, shattered face, everything. I included a recent picture of myself with my orbital prosthesis removed so everyone could see the permanent damage. I posted everything onto the family group chat. I included that I would now consider the matter closed and have decided to completely cut myself off from all of them. It was my New Year's gift to myself and my mental health. I have received messages and emails from family members using unknown numbers and emails to tell me that they didn't know about all of this and that they are sorry. I blocked the new sources. I'm just done. I honestly have not had the strength to do this until you guys gave it to me. Thank you. Some of OOP's Comments: thetiredlamb: I cant believe they wouldnt even let you take a plan b. Im so sorry nobody was there for you at such a devasting time in your life, especially your parents. Im proud of you for being so strong, spiritual hug 🫂 OOP: They are cultist Christians. TararaBoomDA: (downvoted) So 13 years ago you were so violently raped and beaten that you lost an eye, yet none of your relatives knew about it. How sad. OOP: My parents told everyone I was in a car accident. Retired_ho: I’m curious did the ones offering apologizing do something I missed? OOP: I'm just done. I don't need or want their apologies. TvManiac5: (downvoted) So can I ask something? Couldn't you get a plan B without telling them or putting it on the insurance? Or alternatively couldn't you get an abortion without them knowing and tell them you had a miscarriage? OOP: I was hospitalized and under their care for a while after the attack. Do you know the damage that is required to a human skull that plastic surgery isn't enough to make your face something that doesn't make you scream when you look in a mirror? And then require an actual prosthesis that replaces part of your face not just your eyeball. I wasn't making a lot of decisions for myself. Editor's note: Thanks to u/blue51planet for this comment: In case anyone needs it. 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