Rc Cars For Adults

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..., Blue - £9.98 CMJ RC Cars Road Rebel Police Pursuit 1..., Thrilling Fun for Kids and Adults - £10 Dog toys included...

Great price for a great truck, I've seen them go for $91 on other platforms a long time ago but this is close enough https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FL1PMLNW

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Saw this on my local group, yes they offered to do small jobs in return but 3 grown adults starting over?? Wild asks submitted by /u/Towel43 to r/ChoosingBeggars [link] [comments]

So backstory my gf and I moved into a house together. I’ve probably got 40 plus rc cars/boats/planes in the basement so as you can see I love the hobby. I don’t always want to go somewhere to run them. So about a month later I was always running my rc cars after work with an adult beverage to let off steam. One day I’m running my super Baja Rey 2.0 a kid asks to run it and he seems alright. I explained to him that this one is too expensive but I have another one for him. I was a kid once to so I understand the coolness factor. I let him run my slash 2wd. On 2s for a bit and he seemed good at it. Little did I know he’s friends with like the 12 other kids in the neighborhood and must have told them. Skip forward a couple of weeks. And I’m running one of my 5th scales. (At this point I sold the slash mind you) A whole pack of kids come running down the street and left and right these kids are asking me to drive it. I said “guys you are welcome to watch and I can tell you anything you want to know, but this one is too expensive. The asking continues. I give them another firm no and try to explain once again. The other kids watch while two run off literally crying. I wasn’t mean at all to them. Next thing I know I see the two kids and their mom coming my way. Great… She puts her hands on her hips and says. “How hateful can you be to not let a child play with a toy, what harm could it do?!” I said “ma’am this car can break people’s legs and damage property if not operated in the correct manner. This is absolutely not a young child’s toy. But if you really insist you can hand me the $1500 in collateral and take responsibility for anything they may damage.” She scoffed and walked off. What happened to some kids not being able to be told no? I love kids and have one of my own. I’m just trying to relax and have a beer and run my cars 😅 submitted by /u/501Forrest to r/rccars [link] [comments]

I've wanted a proper RC car since I was a kid, but my parents never had the money to buy it. Well, I finally have a job and some adult money to spend on my wants, so it's time to make it happen! I'm completely new to the hobby and would love some recommendations. My total budget is $1,000 USD, but I need that to cover the entire starter package: The car itself (Ready-to-Run) Batteries (LiPos) and a safe, reliable dual-charger Maybe some upgrades (better steering servos, roof skids, metal bumpers, etc.) Spare cash left over for replacement parts (because I know I'm going to crash and break something) My Requirements: Terrain: Mostly gravel, dirt, and general off-roading. Driving Style: I want something incredibly fun that can take a beating, launch off ramps, and pull off stunts like backflips. Bonus: If you have specific recommendations, please drop the links so I can check them out! Also, I'm out in the Bay Area, so if anyone knows of any great local hobby shops or bashing spots around here, I'd love to hear about them. Thanks for helping me figure this out. I can't wait to finally get my hands on one! PS: used AI to structure the post submitted by /u/subatomic_glen to r/rccars [link] [comments]

My wife is child free, well employed and wants what she describes as a “cute hot hybrid”. I fully acknowledge that the prelude is a poor value proposition for most people but this fits her to a “T”. She is coming from a 23 hybrid AWD Corolla. It was a great car but the interior definitely felt like a penalty box. She did love filling up for 20 bucks but we never felt like we were in a situation that required the AWD. If the weather was bad enough we have an old F150 better suited to the task. She tossed around a Lexus but we couldn’t find an IS/RC hybrid (and I don’t think they offer one) All of the other Lexus options were massive and she didn’t care for owning an SUV/CUV I knew the prelude just came out with the same powertrain as the Civic Hybrid. I mentioned it in passing. To be clear, my wife gives exactly 0 fucks about 0-60 times, lap times, skid pad numbers, etc. It is a cute hot car that’s faster than her Corolla and might get better gas mileage not lugging around AWD components (she was getting 39 as in the Corolla) We found a dealer with one and took a peek. The Prelude is beautiful in person. The interior looks like my Integra but with blue accents instead of red and with better seats. The rear seats are larger than a BRZ/86 but not by much. Sticking an adult in the back is doable but would be punishment. I’m not sure if an adult could lay down in the back with the seats folded but she’s intrigued. but The infotainment with google seemed snappier than nearly the same one in my Integra but neither are as quick as the system in an Elantra N I had until recently. I’ve never seen a Honda with such an attractive white. It’s a metallic off white with shades of blue. The color is obviously confusing the cellphone camera with the blue tint overall. The dealer required all of the dealer installed options as a way of padding the sale price but she wanted most of those things anyway (front spoiler rear spoiler, overpriced floor mats, puddle lights and overpriced wheel locks). Perception is very subjective but she mentions the Prelude feels very feminine and has “big hips”, at least compared to the Corolla. It’s also faster than the Corolla and gorgeous in our eyes. She says “it glides” in a way her Corolla never did. I don’t think the Prelude is as special as the folks at the dealership would have wanted us to believe. As we were looking at the car the salesman mentioned the Prelude is related to the Civic Type R and asked if I would be jealous. I told him the only thing I was jealous of would be the gas mileage as my ITS returns low 20s and has a small gas tank. I’m aware the Prelude and Civic Type R share suspension and brake components. It’ll be nice to have some shared consumables as I do my own maintenance. The Prelude is not a great value proposition -at all- but my wife is over the moon. It meets her constraints of being a cute hot car that gets good gas mileage. If everyone only ever made responsible car buying decisions then we’d all drive the same refrigerator white Toyota Corolla LE. submitted by /u/Platinum_Foxx to r/Honda [link] [comments]

I am not The OOP, OOP is u/helpfulishaunt AITA for stepping in to do “mom” things for my niece because my SIL is disabled? Originally posted to r/AITAH Thanks to u/queenlegolas for suggesting this BoRU & u/Choice_Evidence1983 for findijg the new update BoRU 1 Original Post Nov 9, 2025 I have a niece, “Gigi” (10), who is the daughter of my brother “Chris” and his wife “Anna”. Anna became disabled when Gigi was 4, it was triggered by an infection and ever since she has been mostly using a wheelchair. Obviously, this has been hard on their family. Anna was the centre of their home, even though she had a demanding job. She had to quit her job which is tough on their finances, and she is no longer able to be as involved with Gigi’s school and extracurricular activities due to her fatigue and accessibility issues. I help as much as I can - school pick up and driving her to dance practice, going to school events if Chris can’t make it such as chaperoning field trips. My husband and I even took Gigi to Disneyland with us over the summer. I only do what i’m asked to do and within the boundaries of what I have time to do as I have my own child, just whatever I can do to make things easier for their family and for Gigi, so she doesn’t miss out. Gigi’s school is organising a Christmas market she and her friends volunteered to do a booth (which basically means the parents lol). She asked me to be part of it because Chris is really busy with work around the holiday period. I confirmed with Chris that this was the case and he was really enthusiastic about me doing it because it involves crafts which he doesn’t have time for. He is helping construct the physical booth though. So I got my daughter involved and Gigi and her friends came over to my house to make stuff for the booth all together. We are even making costumes. I thought I was doing a good thing and Gigi seems so excited. But on Friday Anna called me and chewed me out. Apparently she was never ok with me being involved with the booth. She said Chris building it was enough and I should have just stayed out of it. I said that Gigi asked me because they needed adults to help out on the day, but Anna said she was sick of me taking over all the “mom” stuff and that Gigi needed to learn that if her parents couldn’t make it that’s just the way it is, she can’t just replace Anna with me. I told her that that seems unfair to Gigi, to not be able to do things just because one of her parents isn’t able to be there. (There’s been times I’ve taken Gigi to birthday parties that need supervision at places like trampoline parks, or taken her to dance competitions where she just didn’t want to be the only one there without a female adult to help her change or do her hair and make up. If I hadn’t done those things, Gigi probably would have missed out) Anna said well that was Gigi’s reality and she can’t just ignore the fact that Anna is her mother and this is the family that she was born into, not mine. I ended up telling Anna that I never meant to disrespect her but that I made a commitment to Gigi and to the other parents so I’m going to do the booth, but after that, if she and Chris want me to step back then I will. Honestly, I’m really upset about the whole thing. I have my own child, it’s not lien I’m trying to play mom to Gigi, I just want her to feel supported and not miss out on anything. Chris does his best but he works crazy hours to support Anna and Gigi, I thought it was a good thing that they had a “village” to help out, as Anna’s family isn’t local. I thought since Gigi would come to me for these things that we were doing right by her. It seems so unfair that she should not have the same experiences as her friends because of something out of everyone’s control. But I’m not her parent, and Anna is, and if Anna doesn’t mind Gigi missing out then maybe that’s not my business. My own mom thinks Anna is being unfair to Gigi with this request, but my mom was the super involved type, and I know there’s tons of kids whose parents don’t make it to everything. So maybe we’re just an overbearing type and I went too far. AITA? EDIT because I see this coming a lot - the reason the craft session was at my house is because one of the other girls was supposed to host it, but the house is small for all the girls to be taking over the whole living room. The mom also has another child and was worried about supervising all the kids the whole day. She messaged me privately and asked if I had the space and time to host and I did. Anna and Chris’s place doesn’t really have the space in the common area to accommodate the craft making, and I know how stressed Chris is by play dates and probably wouldn’t have wanted it at their house. I thought I was helping out that mom by saying yes. I say yes to most things, not because I’m trying to push anyone out or take over, but I guess being a Sahm mom to one kid, I feel like it’s only fair I should take on a bit of extra kid stuff for other parents where I can. EDIT 2 for anyone asking about Anna being driven to things - Driving Anna would mean I would need Chris’s car, which he needs for work because he needs to haul stuff around. We can’t swap cars because mine can’t be used for that stuff. So for me to drive Anna in Chris’s car Chris needs to also not be busy in which case he wouldn’t need help. Chris does drive Anna to dance recitals and sports activities when he is available. Update Nov 19, 2025 (10 days later) Hi! A lot of people asked for an update and so many people were really kind and helpful so I thought I would provide one. Chris and Anna came over over the weekend to discuss everything. Just for any avoidance of doubt, Chris always made Anna aware of what I was doing with Gigi, and Anna has confirmed this when we met. A lot of people thought maybe Chris was not relaying the information to her, but that is not the case. Obviously the first topic was what prompted Anna to contact me. It turns out there’s a myriad of things that led to it. First, a few weeks ago she read Gigi’s journal while using her tablet, and was hurt by what she read. I’m not going to be sharing what Gigi said out of respect for her privacy but it’s what you’d imagine a kid in her situation would say, just obviously sucks for a parent to read. Anna says she’s been continuing to check Gigi’s journal as a way to connect with her because since the school year Gigi has been busy with schoolwork and extracurriculars and is not home/engaging a lot when she is. She knows this is wrong and has stopped doing it now, but she and Chris agreed they’re going to make sure Gigi’s school counsellor is aware she might be struggling a bit more than she lets on. Second, Anna recently connected with a woman through an online community who said she doesn’t let her kids participate in anything that’s not completely accessible for her. Anna says she has tried to “soft launch” this concept with Chris but Chris said he never understood the full scope of what she was suggesting, and Anna felt like he wasn’t taking her seriously, which is why she decided to go straight to the “source” aka me. The third part of this is that Anna has been wanting to move closer to her family. Chris has shut this down as they can’t afford a move, it’ll be tougher for him find work there, the education is not as good statistically, Gigi is comfortable here, and Anna’s home county, let’s just say, doesn’t offer a very diverse cultural or political experience, it’s also very rural. Chris also cited the lack of support system there, because while Anna has family, they all have large families of their own and are not financially stable and he worries about relying on them. This reasoning especially hurt Anna’s feelings which is what caused her to lash out at me, whom she saw as the main reason Chris didn’t want to move, although that’s not the case. From the discussion, it seems Anna and Chris are really at an impasse about the move and Anna said she has considered moving on her own. Anna went on to say that I’m not who she’d have picked for a female role model for her daughter, to which I said I’m not trying to be one, I’m just trying to make sure Gigi doesn’t miss out on important childhood experiences, but I reiterated that I’m not going to force my help on them if it’s not a two yes situation, because I wouldn’t want any of my in laws to do that. Chris and Anna strongly disagree on this issue and it was just devolving into an argument that I think they should have in private so until they settle that, I’ve decided to help with driving only, no extra activities. And I’m also going to try and help with non-Gigi stuff, so that it might free Chris up a little to do more things. I’m going to take over grocery shopping (and hopefully talk Chris into at least letting me out some money towards the cost), and I’ve asked an account of mine to get in contact with Chris, she can maybe do an audit of their finances and see where they can move things around to lighten the load. Maybe not but it’s worth a shot. My husband and I are thinking of getting Chris a gas card for Christmas to help with expenses. (If anyone has ideas how to help without being overbearing, I’m open to suggestions!) So, for now, I think it’s best that I do step back on extra activities with Gigi. I’m not here to cause issues in anyone’s marriage, and i do think of parenting as a two yes one no thing for the most part. Fundamentally I think a lot of you were right, this has ended up being more about Chris and Anna’s marriage than anything to do with me. There’s more going on there that I won’t share because it’s not really relevant and private between them, but they need to work it out, and I’m definitely not going to insert myself by going off Chris’s preferences when I know one parent isn’t okay with it. This is a very complex situation and I really just want the best for everyone, contrary to some people’s belief, so I’m just going to focus on the ways I can make an impact. I feel bad that Gigi might be hurt that I’m less active in the new year but I’m also hopeful that Chris and Anna will use the Christmas break to really talk and figure out a path forward. If I’ve missed anything, please let me know, but otherwise, thank you to everyone who commented and especially to disabled parents who shared their perspective with me! EDIT - just to be clear, I’m not totally stepping out of Gigi’s life. I’m still going to do drop offs and pick ups from extracurriculars and school, and friends houses. When I say “step back” I’m talking about not doing “Dance mom” duty or hosting play dates. We’re hoping easing Chris’s burdens will free him up to take over that stuff so Gigi isn’t disadvantaged. NEW UPDATE Update 2 Feb 5, 2026 (3 months later) New update Hey everyone, happy new year! I still get messages on this account asking for an update so thought I’d provide one for anyone interested. First thing to get out of the way, Chris and Anna are separating, and Anna has chosen to move back to where her family lives. It all started early December, when Chris had a health scare. The stress had just absolutely wrecked him and he collapsed with chest pain. He needed a couple of weeks off, and during that time, Gigi came to stay with us so that I could drive her to school and just so she could have some stability as Anna’s health hadn’t been the best at that time either and Gigi needed to be fed, her homework needed to get done, etc. For everyone wondering about the booth, it went really well, the kids loved it, the costumes turned out great (I’ve given birth to the next Yves Saint Laurent I swear lol). Gigi was back home with her parents before Christmas. But Chris went back to work the day after Christmas, which left Gigi and Anna in the house together. Over that next week before school started again, things disintegrated. I think the stress of her dad being unwell and then being stuck at home while her friends were meeting up just got to her. Gigi was very upset with Anna and they had a big fight. When Chris came home, Anna basically said she was done, she wanted out. So Chris and Anna are working through the financial mess. They’ll be putting the house up for sale, hopefully it’ll fetch enough to clear a lot of the debt. Chris and Gigi will live in our guest house until Chris is back on his feet. I’d like him to stay until he saves enough to buy a house again but that’ll be up to him. Gigi is staying with us at the moment, because things have turned really hostile between Chris and Anna and it’s not good for her. Chris comes to see her every day after work, and has dinner here. Gigi is pretty withdrawn. She blames herself for Anna leaving. I don’t know how to tell her things were a mess long before she said anything. She’s a little girl, she shouldn’t have to deal with what she’s dealing with at this age. From what Chris has said, Anna is not really that interested in having much custody. It seems like she’s resenting Gigi for the fight. We’re doing our best to make Gigi feel welcome and support her but it doesn’t seem like much is working. She’s opened up a little bit to my husband surprisingly but not too much. I told Chris that he should put her in therapy and I’d help look for one but I don’t know what specialist I’m looking for? One that specialises in parental abandonment? Pre-teen resentment? I don’t even know. Gigi is also adamant she doesn’t want to see one. I don’t know how to make Gigi see that this isn’t her fault or what I can say to support her through this upheaval? Chris is trying to help but he’s very focused on getting things with the house squared away and legal stuff so that he is able to move in with Gigi. I totally get that. I’m just worried about her. If anyone has any advice what we could be doing better to help her through this, feel free to share. But yeah that’s the update. Messy, as things often are. THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP's OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7 submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

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Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/complaints/comments/1p1ahit/guess_its_time_to_sell_my_toyota_now/ HIGHLIGHTS Was literally about to buy a Toyota. I guess they go on the same category as Tesla now which is “couldn’t pay me to drive one…”. Lol, you’re going to avoid buying the most reliable car brand, with the lowest maintenance costs, and best value for the money for politics? Let us know how that works out for you. It has ZERO to do with politics. Trump is arresting and deporting US citizens (among a laundry list of other human rights violations). That's not a political stance. It's a moral one. Hes also an adjudicated r#pist and a convicted felon. He was best friends with the country's most notorious p*dophile. You cant support trump and be a decent person. You just described some democrats too. 🤣🤣🤣 are you going to boycott companies that give to democrats as well. 🤣🤣 Which democrat elected official is a convicted felon and r*pist? I’ll make sure not to vote for them. Which Republican is one? You political worshippers are constantly parrot talking points and have no clue you are spewing lies. Next thing you’ll be saying is the POTUS is a p*dophile. 🤣🤣🤣 Tell a lie often enough eventually people will think it’s the truth. 🤣🤣 He just lost half of his potential buyers. Unlikely because most people on the left aren't suffering from extreme TDS. I don't get why you are hating on a company investing in our country. Talking like TDS is a thing is a symptom of TDSS: Trump Dick Sucking Syndrome. Awww hope you find medication for your TDS. Seems like it broke your brain When Trump's dick occupies the space between your ears Poor weirdo. Hope your family talks to you again one day. I don’t blame them for disowning you. You seem like a really useless person. Lol. Gotta love Russian bots programmed with Trump's dick I've never bought Toyota but I'm in the early stages of figuring out what I want to buy. Now I know I can ignore Toyota. "I'm no longer going to consider the most reliable vehicles on Earth because politics." You guys are weird AF. Yeah 15 years ago your take would have been correct. Today it's not about politics it's about human decency. If you support people who put a secret police in the street, who went to court to have those secret police be able to detain people just for the color of their skin, and then sending the non Americans to concentration camps in continents they've never been to, yeah you're not getting my money. The sad thing is I actually had to pause and decide which example of horrific MAGA anti American and anti human policies and behaviors to use. You are lost in your own delusions lol…. The quicker people like you go away the better we all areZ Ah I see ....you're a cult member. Nope didn’t vote for trump. I just can look from an objective lens on the whole system. Republicans are bad but Democrats are Faaaaarrrr worse. Examples? The clearest example? They spent an entire year swearing Biden was “fit” for a second term… then yanked him off the field at the last second and slid CAMEL TOE in even though nobody wanted her and none of the proper nomination steps were followed. That’s not leadership that’s back-room manipulation. The Democrats have been running the same play for decades: lie to your face, scheme behind closed doors, then act shocked when people stop trusting them. How is that worse than the attempted coup of January 6th? You can always buy used. They really are the best cars on the road. His TDS won't let him lol Weird to openly defend a p*dophile. Hope your family knows who you are. buying a historically extremely dependable and affordable vehicle = openly defending a p*dophile be fr you sound privileged asf 😂😂😂 We all know what TDS is, dipshit. Stop pretending like you aren't bent over for all the p#dos. Or, at least, the one you've decided can r#pe all the kids he wants and still get your vote. You have no integrity. I'm begging you to go outside and interact with real people dawg 😂 you genuinely sound unhinged You sound desperate since you've been directly called out for the p*do-loving monster you are. Hope your family knows. I bet they do, though, and that's why you tried to backpedal. I bet they know exactly what a creep you are and have stopped associating with you. I hope they have. this is really intense, you projecting buddy?? 😂 (27 more comments of these two arguing) Market is super competitive, and Honda makes good cars And they just did the same thing. 5.6 billion investment in the us over the next 5 years. There goes the 2 best autos on the road i guess Dude their CEO fangirl out in full MAGA gear because I think that's the issue people are having here. They all do that when there trying to make a multi billion dollar deal with a much larger and more powerful country/ company whatever its all an ego stroke. Bottom like honda and toyota are by far the best two autos in the world and are going nowhere and they dang sure dont want to lose the ability to trade with the United states. Redditors live on a high horse lol Most large corporations support Trump or have kissed the ring but the line they draw in their minds is “public support” I guess it makes them feel better 🤷🏽‍♂️ Yep, reddit has the dumbest users out of any social media. I think it's even worse than tiktok. Crazy. And here you are... People mad in here about investments in America because of a hat. Lmao too funny It's not because of a hat. It's the fact the he is openly supporting a p*dophile, actually. The p*dophile thats so far in every case has been proven not to be a kid diddler unlike the previous guy who's own daughter wrote about Lol is that one of your little Q-Anon fantasies? lol arnt your screeching that there is a child sex cabal that’s Qanon 101 Lol Jeffery Epstein and Ghelaine Maxwell were convicted in the court of law. It’s a proven fact that there was a child sex cabal. Prince Andrew paid millions and lost his title. Q-Anon 101 would be to believe something in which there’s no evidence. Lol did you actually think this response was some sort of “gotcha” moment? They were using your exact same evidence……….. that Epstein and Maxwell were convicted. Nothing new has really been released in the last 5 years…………. Wow you all are pathetic losers. Not buying toyota because of this. Get over your TDS! Get a life! They can't afford one anyway. They're surfing the marketplace for a 15 year old hoopty for under $5k. They weren't buying a new Toyota. Speak for yourself. I was actually going to get rid of my Type R for a Lexus RC F Final Edition. Probably not now. prove it Should I forward the calls from the relentless Lexus salesman to you or what? Show me the money in your account Do you think I keep $90,000+ just sitting in a bank account to buy an RC F? Tell me you’re 15 without telling me. Surely you’re not spending more than your entire networth on this vehicle. you must have investments, retirement accounts, etc. So show me the money Bare minimum show me the income that would support a $90k car Do you think I am going to share screenshots of any personal financial information with a random troll who will lambast the proof as fake anyway? TDS is wild. Yes. It makes mentally ill people support Trump. Pretty sad really. Mentally ill like people thinking they can change their gender? 🤡 Mentally ill like people who hyper focus on other people's genitals. You idiots just can't stop thinking about what other people are packing. It's pretty weird. Ohhh the irony of that comment. 🤣🤣 Another cult member who doesn't know the meaning of words. Perfect. I left the liberal cult many years ago. Pure insanity. You joined the actual MAGA cult. There isn't a cult on the left. To say otherwise shows your lack of information. All these comments are hilarious. I’m looking forward to stories of these lunatics firebombing Toyota dealerships and spray painting swastikas on grandmas Camry. Maga already does that by themselves. The real lunatics are the fascists who support Epstien's best friend When has maga firebombed anything? It’s looking like a democrat set the bombs at j6 even. Love how you morons just make shit up Total sham. Why did AOC think rioters were in her office building, hours before any riot, unless she was expecting it ahead of time? 🤔 Are you asking why AOC was smart enough to know what the violent insurrectionists were going to do? What's interesting is that the right is so peaceful and reasonable that Jan 6 is still the go-to example years after the fact. Like conservatives have fresh liberal violence or ghoulishness to throw in your face every few months but you're still clinging to the riot from 5 years ago where the only person murdered was the typical BLM story- a woman who would be alive today if she just obeyed the officer's orders. No riots for Ashlee though 🤷🏾 (25 more comments of these two arguing) Welp im actually in the market for a new vehicle and Toyota has always been my favorite. They lost a customer. Edit lmao the fan girls are hurt they act like a shot their dog. Brand loyalty is wild to me. Awwww boohoo. Grow up. Be an adult. The man is helping create jobs for working Americans and you say, “screw him I’m buying something else because he doesn’t agree with my opinions” lmao!!! Cry harder. Some of us have standards and do not support p*dos and their sycophants. When was Trump convicted of anything in a court of law to classify him as a p*do? It’s coming. Oh so he’s not a p*dophile then. So a killer is only a killer when he is found guilty? Why are you supporting p*dophiles? Is it because you can relate? submitted by /u/CummingInTheNile to r/SubredditDrama [link] [comments]

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Me and a friend have been toying (literally) with an idea we wish already existed — so we figured, why not build it? THE PROBLEM: You want a hobby-grade RC car but it costs as much as a bike. Even if you buy one, there’s nowhere to actually race it. And let’s be honest — none of your friends are into it 😭 THE SOLUTION: An RC Car Racing Arena 🏁 Think: • Off-road jumps + tarmac drifts • Rental RC cars (₹100–₹300) so you don’t own have to spend thousands to buy one • Bi-weekly tournaments with entry fee (₹200–₹500) • Cash prizes + bragging rights No need to burn fuel or save for months — just channel your inner kid, hold the remote, and send it. We’re thinking of a space where adults can let loose and race like it’s the golden Cartoon Network era again. We’re still in the early stages and would genuinely love to hear your thoughts: • Would you actually show up? • Should it be competitive or just pure chaotic fun? • Any wild suggestions? Weird track ideas? RC Monster Truck battles? Open to ideas so drop a comment or DM me if you have something in mind *image for illustration purposes submitted by /u/FutureIllustrious287 to r/pune [link] [comments]

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Would like some advice on what you would tell your younger ADULT self getting into RC for the first time. I want a backyard RC car/truck to rip around. Grass, off-road trails etc… Things I believe I want. Decent Controller ( which brand / model ) 1/10 scale Brushless 4WD LiPo batteries ( which brand) I’m not sure if I should buy a off the shelf kit, go to a hobby store, put one together etc… Budget $500? Can be more or less just tossing a number out there. Thanks in advance for your help. submitted by /u/fvmfvm to r/rccars [link] [comments]

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/Impossible-Angle-364 Originally posted to r/relationship_advice is it okay if my boyfriend (33M) doesn't want to cook? I'm 30F, his mother told him he doesn't have to cook if he doesn't like doing it Thanks to u/queenlegolas, u/soayherder, & u/Direct-Caterpillar77 for suggesting this BoRU Editor’s note: added paragraph breaks and small edits for readability Trigger Warnings: entitlement, financial exploitation, misogyny why won't my boyfriend (33M) tell his family about me (30F)?: November 16, 2024 I (30F) started dating him (33M) about 1 year ago. He claimed to love me and wanted to have a future with me all the time, but he did not want to tell his family about me (I told my family about him on the same day we started dating). At first he said he wanted to wait at least 3 months, then 6 months, then his mom is very catholic doesn't believe in pre-marital sex/living together (despite the fact he had multiple other relationships before me). When I finally pressured him into telling his family about me, he was still very reluctant. whenever he talked to his parents on the phone, he would go to the other room and locked the door, never mentioning the fact that I was nearby. when I took him home to meet my parents, he barely wanted to spend time with them. In fact, he received a phone call from his dad at my parents' house, they talked over 1 hour about some car insurance, NOT once did he mention to his dad that he was visiting my parents with me. I helped him move into his new apartment in a nearby city, cleaned it, stocked his pantry, bought pots/pans, even got him new couch, mattress, and TV. despite all this, when his parents called him to check on him to see how the moving was going, he never mentioned me. I'm considered very attractive with a good career, so it's not like I'm not presentable or anything. I don't want go down the dark path, but we are difference race and different religion...does that play a factor, or he simply does not love me enough? Relevant Comments How is the boyfriend’s relationship with his parents and are they okay with him dating outside his race? OOP: as far as I can tell, he has normal relationship with his parents, he talked to them every week + that's thing, because he is delierately keeping us apart even after he very very reluctantly told his parents about me, I had very limited contact with his parents (like total speaking time 30 min tops), I don't know what they think about me. they seem polite enough to me, and my BF keeps telling me they would love to have me as a daughter...but why would he behave this way? Commenter 1: This gives me the vibe that your boyfriend is living a double life, not mentioning you at all or refusing to let you meet the parents after this long is a big red flag no matter what backgrounds you come from OOP: he did finally tell his parents about me, only after I threatened to break with him, twice. but he is still reluctant to bring me up in any conversation. we lived togerther for a whole year now, he still can't talk to them over the phone in front of me, never say hi for me. in fact, his parents don't even know we are living together...   Original Post: November 16, 2024 (same day, one hour later) I (30F) have been dating this guy (33M) for 1 year now, he moved into my house right away, I cooked for him practically daily for the entire year, despite having a very busy job. He is also very messy, so I cleaned after him all the time. He never offered to help with cooking (his reason: I don't have talent for cooking like you do), cleaning, or any chores around the house. He did help do some minor things like putting dishes in dishwasher or taking them out, BUT only after I asked him repeatedly, never voluntarily. I'm sometimes baffled at how much common sense he is lacking in general. for example, the one time he did try to cook, he didn't even put in oil (he claimed he doesn't know cooking oil's existence), resulting in complete ruin of the pot. in fact, he doesn't even know to how to use tie twister to seal the bread back. it's not like his family is super rich or anything for him to get away with this much ignorance, even Kardashians know how to cook! I tried to teach him how to do simple cooking many times, but he doesn't really want to learn. we live in a rather small city, so if I don't cook, it's going to be fast food or greasy fake Asian food that day. And he's picky eater too. I'm okay with eating leftover for multiple days in a roll, but he wants fresh and different food every day, so I have to cook daily. I complained to him, begging him to cook just some simple things like pasta, airfry salmon, or salad once in a while to help out, but he said he talked to his mother about it, and she said if he doesn't like cooking, then he doesn't have to do it, there are 2 people in a relationship, 1 has to cook more than the other. what does she mean by that statement? do they expect me to cook and do chores all the time because I'm a woman? I work 12 hours per day, is it so horrible to ask my BF to chip in some help to share the house work? I'm just so stressed out to think how nightmareish my life will be once we have kids. Relevant Comments The boyfriend might never improve if she kept trying to help him be independent OOP: thanks, I'm just so stressed out these days that I don't know what's normal anymore, he keeps promising he will improve, but I never see any actions Commenter 1: Why do you want a relationship with a guy with no skills, no reliability, no motivation to learn? You have to work and take care of him? Why do you want that? (He wants it because he can get it.) Dating is a choice. Choose better. OOP: thank you, I need to hear that, I keep making making excuses for him Commenter 2: I just have to ask. What’s attractive to you about him? What made you think, I got to have this guy for a year and move in? What’s he bringing to the table beyond a burden? (Beyond just being nice) OOP: he's my first boyfriend, and we were colleagues before we started dating, he seemed nice and easy going as friends, other than that, not much + no, I'm a physician, so never really had time for dating before Does BF work or contribute financially to OOP’s household? OOP: nope, I pay for literally everything. Commenter 2: He’s a physician and won’t cook or clean and YOU PAY FOR EVERYTHING?!? No, girl. Just no. I know nothing about you but I do know that you deserve better than this. You are worth more than to be treated like this. Let him go. Reclaim yourself. OOP: technically I'm a physician, he is physician in training, so I guess since I'm making more I feel I should pay more. But you are right, I will leave him and move on Did OOP’s BF do any cooking before he moved in with her OOP: He lived on his own for years, but he eats takeout daily like five guys or pizza. He doesn't clean his apartment, it took him 2 weeks for him to clean it enough for me to set my foot in   Update: November 18, 2024 (two days later) These are the original 2 posts if you want the details: horrible problem 1 horrible problem 2 To summarize, I (30F) started dating a man (33M) about 1 year ago. He was my first boyfriend/relationship, so I was very committed and involved, but for him I was his 4th GF. We met through work. He moved in with me right away, and he recently moved to a different city (nearby) for a job. I encountered many issues during this relationship, including but not limited to him not wanting to cook, clean or help out with any chores (this continued even after he moved to new apartment, so whenever I went there for visit, i was still doing those things for him, essentially doing chores for 2 places). He also didn't want to tell his parents about me, eventually he told them after I threatened to leave, but he still doesn't mention me at all during his phone conversation with them. Some people accused me of making up stories. I wish. Sadly this is my life. In fact I haven't even told half the outrageous things that happened in our relationship. To answer some questions: Did I stay with him for money? No, I make much more than he does, so I practially paid for everything, including all the furnitures in his new apartment, new phone, even a $7000 oversea vacation (canceled last minute becuase we started fighting at that point). He did offer to pay for meals when we go out to eat, about once weekly, I always picked something cheap like pizza or burger to save him money. Did I stay with him for sex? No, in bed he was very selfish, only taking his own pleasure, never asked if I was happy, when I asked for oral sex, he said it was dirty and he has a phobia, but he has no problem with me performing oral sex on him. Did I stay with him because he is very handsome/attractive? No, he is only considered cute at best, shorter than me, has a beer belly, and a physical defect that I'd rather not disclose due to privacy. Quite the opposite, I was told I could be a model if I want to. I think the real reason I stayed in this horrible situation is because he is my first relationship, and we were colleagues/friends before this, so I keep wanting to give him one more chance. He also has one positive? trait going for him: nice (or rather passive/flat) temperament. For example, whenever I yell at or become frustrated with him, he doesn't yell back, always promising to do better next time. BUT he never did. You guys are absolutely right, this is weaponized incompetence and I was enabling him. I just broke up with him. I will admit I did yell at him during the breakup (over the phone) becasue I was so disappointed and sad and angry. I told him I cooked, cleaned and bought all those things for him because I loved him. To me love is a verb, I wanted him to know that I show my love through my actions, but I could not feel his love. However, he accused me of keeping scores, "if you really love me, why are you keeping track of things you did for me? I didn't ask you to do or buy me any of those things." I'm not a vindictive person, but at that point I was so angry I told him I want to take back the things I purchased in his new apartment. intially he was okay with me come to get a few items, but after he realized I wanted to get everything (I literally bought everything in that apartment), he said, "I don't want you to come to my place. if a couple breaks up, they should not see each other anymore." When I insisted I wanted to get my things, he refused to budge, "I will talk to my parents, we will drop your TV together to your place. Do not come to my place." I don't understand why he suddenly wants to involve his parents at this stage of our relationship, he never botherd to mention me to them or them to me before. And he claimed we should not see each other, BUT when they return my things to me (assume that they will), we will still see each other, so what's the point? Also he only mentioned the TV, nothing else. My parents told me to forget about it and move on, but I'm just so angry right now. I honestly don't care about money, likely I will throw everything I purchased for his apartment to the dumpster/street, I just don't want him to have them anymore because they represented my love that he careleslly tossed aside. what do you suggest I do, I don't feel comfortable meeting with him and his family. Call the police to get my things? or do you think my parents are right, I should forget about it? Thank you! Edit: as I made this post, he literally just texted me saying he loves me and all he wants is for me to be happy. and he never planned on involing his parents, he was just upset and stressed out. I told him what he can do at this point is let me get my things and move on. We compromised, he can keep the mattress since I really don't care to sleep on it again, but I'll take everything else with me, likely donating to Goodwill. I don't know how to intepret the love and happiness part. He doesn't even remember his own mother's birthday, but I can't deny he loves her. so maybe he did love me, afterall why wouldn't he when I made his life so easy, but he simply loved himself much more. All I can say is that he's a selfish and immature person. Time to move on! Relevant Comments Commenter 1: Forget about the stuff. You aren’t getting it back. Everything was a gift so he doesn’t owe you any of it. Get into therapy. You know you stayed far too long and tried to buy his love with stuff and doing everything for him even though he treated you like dirt. See a therapist so you never repeat this. OOP: when he moved into the new apartment, he claimed he was broke and couldn't afford any furniture, would likely sleep on air mattress for months! if I don't buy them I would probably sit on the floor (he doesn't even have chairs), I felt I was forced to purchase things just for my own comfort. in hindsight I realized he lied about being broke, because he lived with me for free for a whole year Commenter 2: Regardless of if it's codependency or not, you need therapy. You claim to be model level attractive, you have a very well paying job, seem to be able to function as an adult....but you let yourself be used by this man for a year, including moving in immediately. You definitely need to figure out why you accepted that and how to protect yourself going forward. OOP: we got along very well as friends, often going out for drinks and such, our mutual friends all commented how much chemistry we have together, and it shocked no one when they found out we started dating. I have a hot temper, he has a very mild manner, peronality wise we match well, just not everything else Commenter 3: I get it, you're mad, but I'd still suggest to stop thinking about him and start focusing on yourself. You have work to do in therapy. OOP: He just texted me agreeing to let me get all the things. I'm gonna go load up my things, shut the door on his face, and book myself a spa resort on the Caribbean   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/BurningMann84 Originally posted to r/AITAH AITA for teasing my friend about not recognizing my kid, thus ruining her marriage and an unrelated engagement party? Thanks to u/soayherder, u/queenlegolas, u/Direct-Caterpillar77 for suggesting this BoRU Editor’s note: added paragraph breaks for readability Trigger Warnings: accusations of infidelity, gaslighting, slander, emotional abuse and manipulation Original Post: October 18, 2024 tl;dr at the end. Also - burner account obviously. So, me and my wife have a 5 year old son. Our group of friends is mostly couples with kids as we are nearing our 40s and so a lot of our meetings with friends now include meeting up as entire families, kids included. This can sometimes mean a lot of adults and a lot of of kids. One person in this group, Emma (fake name) used to be my roommate in college. She was married and has her own kids, and we hang out with her and her husband sometimes in a group setting, but rarely on our own. Emma also tends to run late, often. This is all relevant to the story. As our son is an only child, we sometimes worry that he wouldn't really learn to share or get along with other kids. To prevent this, and while I love spending time with him, I would sometimes preemptively nudge him to engage with other kids when we are in public playgrounds or at the beach or the pool. To that end when I buy him a water pistol or an RC car or the like, I'd often just buy 2 or 3. I'd get to the playground and play with him, and when another kid would show interest in the toys I'd just go "oh you wanna play with us?" and hand him the remote or the pistol or the whatever, thus getting the kids to play. This works great quite often, and I have a generally good relationship with the parents at our neighborhood. This is also relevant. One day, like a year back, me and my wife were planning on taking our kid to the pool. I pack my large bag of pool toys. Emma texts me - her husband is away that day and she's looking for something to do with the kids. I talk to my wife and tell Emma we're going to our local pool and she's welcome to join us, but we're planning on heading there early, so she can just join us whenever. We arrive at the pool pretty early and get a really good spot poolside, right by the shallows. I grab some water pistols and me and my kid start playing world domination (I am trying to take over the world and can only be stopped through the power of water pistols. It's a whole thing. Kid loves it.) Soon another kid is there - it's a kid from my son's kindergarten class. he's there with his mom. He is, of course, welcome to join us. We know the family, the mom and my wife are pretty friendly and our kids play together often. So my wife says she wants to go for a swim, and the kid's mom says she wants to join her, and asks me if I'm okay watching the kids - I say sure since by this point the kids are blasting each other with water pistols and I'm just chillin' poolside, just occasionally having to call out "oh no, my plans for world domination, ruined!!!" (because sometimes that's just what parenting is.) Then Emma and her kids show up. She is really happy to see me, and I give out toys to her kids. All is going well. Then my son's friend runs up and asks for some other toy and I go "sure thing" and hand it to him. Emma goes: "OH MY GOD! so cute! He looks just like you!" I laugh and say "okay cool, but this isn't my kid." Now, In her defense - the kid DOES look kinda like me, making this kinda hilarious. When my wife and the kid's mom come back - I tell them this story. they also find it hilarious. We all have a friendly chuckle but think little of it. Fast forward to a few months ago. I haven't seen Emma in a while. We are at a friends group gathering, and it was a good time all around. When we're about to call it a day, me and Emma are at the enterance, she's grabbing her stuff and I'm on my 2nd trip from the car (kid's toys, kid's clothes, dirty dishes, Tupperware with leftovers I want etc.) and I call out to Emma's husband "Hey! Can you call my wife and kid over! Just make sure it's actually my kid and not some random kid who kinda looks like me." I think it's a hilarious callback. He seems confused and kinda angry. He asks what the hell I'm talking about. Why would he call a random kid? I'm also confused so I tell him the pool story. He doesn't laugh. Emma doesn't laugh either. the entire thing now feels kinda awkward. I awkwardly say goodbye, go grab my wife and kid myself and we leave. Later that day I text Emma to ask if everything is alright. I get no reply. I text again a few days later. no reply. I get the distinct sense I fucked up, but also if she doesn't wanna talk to me, I'm not gonna force the issue. I leave well enough alone. At worst I thought she was mad at a joke I made which was apparently in poor taste. Boy howdy did I underestimate the fallout of this joke. A few days ago I arrive at a friend's place and she's there. This is an engagement party, so no kids. I wasn't supposed to come but decided to last minute, and my wife was at home with our kid. Emma sees me and is LIVID. She wasn't expecting to. she only came because she thought I wouldn't be here. She does, however, take the opportunity to tear me a new one though. She calls me out in front of everyone. Because of my "joke" (originally said with air quotes) her husband was furious. From what she said and what I gathered from mutual friends afterwards - she previously commented on someone else's kid looking like someone who wasn't his father. Except that whole thing led to family drama in Emma's husband's family because in that case that dude WAS cheating and that was his kid and a whole bunch of people were really hurt in the aftermath. Emma's husband was FURIOUS because he apparently thought she would know better than to comment on kids looking like people AGAIN. This sent them down a spiral, especially because the husband apparently thought she told me that other family story - and that I was mocking him for his family drama, and he thought the story I told was just covering for her when I realized I fucked up - this was not the case. I had no idea that whole thing happened. Still - he didn't believe Emma when she told him. So they are now separated. She calls me an asshole and says I ruined her marriage. I am not a confrontational person, I apologize profusely. I say I didn't know and if she didn't want me telling the story she should have said something. She tells me I'm making excuses. This is now a scene. I apologize profusely again and leave quickly after telling the couple a quick congratulations. I am later told this was anything anyone could talk about at the party and now the engaged couple are mad at me too. Emma is even more mad because now EVERYONE knows her drama. I am unfriended and unfollowed on everything. Some friends think I couldn't have known better and the joke was pretty benign. Other friends say it was in really poor taste to "throw her under the bus" and I am totally the asshole. Emma's best friend (who I also know from college) thinks I DID know about the thing with her husband, and now I'm just covering my own ass to get away with being cruel. It has been a few days and some of my friends will no longer talk to me. Others think she is wrong to blame me and that marriage was doomed anyway. Still - I feel really guilty about making the joke, and I obviously wouldn't have made it had I known the trouble it would cause. I like Emma, and I didn't want to hurt her. I also liked her husband. I'd like to say that maybe he was wrong to let the marriage implode like that because of a stupid joke, but at the same time I don't exactly know his family drama and their history, nor the specifics of his relationship with Emma, so I can't really say he's wrong or overreacting. The entire thing just kinda sucks. My wife sortta got my back though. She thinks the joke was hilarious, and actually thinks me breaking up their marriage makes it even funnier, because WTF. She also loves crazy Reddit stories so she sent me to post this... so at least I got that going for me, which is nice. so... AITA? Tl;dr - my friend accidentally said someone else's kid looks like me. I later made a joke about this in front of her husband. Turns out she said something like that before and it destroyed their marriage. She confronted me at an engagement party, and apparently I ruined that too. AITA? AITAH has no consensus bot, OOP was NTA Relevant Comments Commenter 1: Nah it sounds like she's being blamed for someone else's infidelity and her whole in-law family is gaslighted her. I actually kinda feel bad for her. OOP: I haven't actually thought of that. That entire thing must be really hard on her, I will try talking to her again in a few days, try to clear the air again. Because she IS a friend, and she is clearly going through stuff. Like I'm not super thrilled about how she called me out at the party but at the same time... I dunno I've known her for over 15 years... Commenter 2: Info: I'm curious if you reached out to the husband to try and explain, especially considering how everyone in your group is supposed to be friends. And if you did reach out to him, what did he say? OOP: I did not, and probably will not since he and I were never really close like that. I liked him well enough but he wasn't really the friendliest guy (at least with me). Commenter 3: NTA Emma’s husband wanted an out and you gave him one. It wasn’t your fault and you shouldn’t have even apologized. There was nothing wrong with your joke. Honestly though your friend group sounds like it thrives on drama and you’re probably better off not being friends with the people who took Emma’s side. Commenter 4: NTA - at all. And I love how she freaks out on you and publicly airs her dirty laundry then blames you for everyone learning about the situation she blurted out. 🙄   Update #1: October 19, 2024 So yesterday I posted this: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1g6pcee/aita_for_teasing_my_friend_about_not_recognizing/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button I am now updating you because the last few hours have been... a lot. It turns out that when I wrote my post I left out one critical piece of context: I thought I was regular person living a normal life. Turns out I am Chaz, a side character on the worst Gossip Girl episode ever written. So after posting yesterday, reading replies and thinking it over, I decided to reach out to Emma one final time. Some of you thought I shouldn't and that these were, in fact, not my monkeys. Others made me realize that Emma was probably in a shitty situation with her husband and his family and was actively being gaslit. Now, of note here, while as I mentioned we're not as close as we used to be - we used to be very close. She helped me pick out a spot and let me borrow her car for my first date with who later became my wife. She was a significant part of my support system during some very rough times in my life. Despite everything, I still felt like I cared about her and wanted to work things out. This is no longer the case. See from my perspective - I thought we were good friends, then when she met her husband we naturally drifted apart, and then this thing happened out of nowhere. This was not what it looked like from her perspective. How do I know? Well buckle up because this is absolutely unhinged. So, last night, before going to bed, I text her a long thoughtful message. I explain that I do apologize for the part I played in ruining her marriage, and I understand she is going through a tough time. I understand if she wants nothing more to do with me, but if and when she feels she wants to talk it out, she is welcome to reach out, and I leave the ball in her court. I show this to my wife and she is practically giddy. She tells me there is no way this shit doesn't blow up in my face and I should have just cut my losses, like many of ya'll said. Emma SHOWS UP AT MY HOUSE AT AROUND 7AM UNANNOUNCED. I ask WTF. She says she really needs to talk to me. I call my wife to the door and explain this. She sends me off with this woman because she understands this shit can only go poorly and apparently she is here for it and it's my own fault at this point. So as I said, from my perspective we were friends, we drifted apart. From her perspective - for the last 15 years she has been playing some weird game of 4d chess. Or... 2 different games of 4d chess? Apparently she had feelings for me back in college, and she was trying to "nice girl" her way into a relationship with me. By being there for me when my dad died, and when I was struggling with being single. She always gave everything because she just assumed I would, at some point "come around". You'd think that me getting married or her getting married would change that, and it did, just... badly. apparently her husband knew about her feelings, which is why he always kept me at a distance. We never drifted apart, he explicitly asked her not to meet with me anymore outside of large social gatherings. that day at the pool? yeah that was her sticking it to him, because he was "away" cheating on her or something, and he didn't like her hanging around me scantily clad. It wasn't just that he was upset at the joke, he was upset because apparently I was having an affair with his wife and rubbing it in his face. Makes no sense? I know. It gets worse. That thing at the wedding? Well at least she didn't plan THAT. I told our friends getting engaged that I wasn't coming. She asked and verified this. She wasn't expecting to see me and they told her I wouldn't be there, but once I showed up, she decided to exploit it. She INTENDED to have a huge scene with me, so that she could tell her estranged husband and friends - that I ambushed her because she broke off OUR AFFAIR. OUR AFFAIR. APPARENTLY WE HAD AN AFFAIR "Oh what affair is that?" you ask. I did too. apparently the story some people got was that she and I were having an affair, and it ended and I was stalking her. Her husband left her because he found out. So people more inclined to believe her just thought that was what happened and wanted nothing to do with me anymore. so why did her husband ACTUALLY leave? well some of you called it. According to her, he was cheating on her a bunch and overall not a nice person. She never actually cheated on him, but used me to pretend that she did without my knowledge. So after the joke at the gathering which may have indeed been in poor taste - they had a huge fight and he left the house. As for the thing with his family - from what I gather it was some dude sleeping with his cousin's wife or some such shit. So anyway, she tells me all this insanity, and tops it off with that my message really moved her and we can still be friends. The reason she rushed to show up at 7am? My message made her realize I am actually the only one who really cares about her and everyone else in her life is fake and don't really care. I'm not the sharpest tool in the shed, but now this sounds like some really manipulative shit to me, and now I'm thinking back to a lot of our previous interactions - and a lot of them also seem like that to me now. I am not a confrontational person. I was willing to accept that I fucked up. maybe some of you were right, and the joke was in poor taste, and I'm a huge asshole for making it because I thought that if he knew the story he would get the callback, and if he didn't I'd tell him a funny story about his wife. I accept all that criticism. But THIS?! Fuck no. I was done. I tell her I am done with her shit. She can get back to her husband, leave her husband, keep any friends she wants, because I am fuckin done. I can forgive a lot, but she had been basically not communicating with me for over 15 years. I was telling her everything about my life and my feelings, and I was absolutely appalled by just how much of a one way street it turned out to be. I feel like I didn't ever really know her. Maybe I played a role in that too. Maybe I was self centered or selfish and didn't consider her emotions or her signs. I don't know. And you know what? At this point I don't think it matters. She lied to me SO MUCH. she lied to SO MANY PEOPLE SO MUCH. I just don't care anymore. I don't think there's anything left to this friendship to fix. And the worst part? I just gave you this huge update, and I genuinely don't know how much of it is true. Maybe she was completely honest with me. Maybe she lied about everything and we're still playing 4d chess. Who knows? I certainly don't. And that, more than anything, is why this friendship is over - because even if I could forgive everything - I can never really trust her. So that's that. there will probably not be anymore updates because this was meant to be a lighthearted post and it turned out into a total clusterfuck and I'm just so tired and so sad. I'm sorry if this wasn't as readable or as coherent as my previous post. This just happened and I am just exhausted. My wife has been very supportive, though I assume at some point I'm due some well-earned "I told you so"s. She knows there wasn't an affair and certainly no stalking, and most of my friends probably know that too. I may try reaching out to some others because well... I dunno maybe they were told even worse things about me? But I am just done with this. And now I am going to spend what's left of this weekend with my family and try to put this shit behind me. thank you all for reading, and for your advice. Top Comments Commenter 1: Wow, what a rollercoaster. It sounds like you made the right call in cutting ties. The situation was beyond your control, and you can’t be responsible for someone else’s complex web of lies and manipulation. Focus on your own well-being and enjoy the support of your wife and family. Commenter 2: So she's been telling people you had an affair? RUN FOR THE HILLS, open a group chat with the friends, tell the truth and whoever doesn't belive you drop them, if she takes the narrative would be your word againts her.   Update #2: October 22, 2024 (three days later) So if you read my original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1g6pcee/aita_for_teasing_my_friend_about_not_recognizing/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button and first update, here: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1g7cfqs/update_aita_for_teasing_my_friend_about_not/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button some of you thought things were going to get pretty crazy. Before I give the update I should probably clarify some things that were brought up in comments: First - when I said we were roommates, I did not mean we shared a literal room. We lived off-campus in an apartment with another friend. Each had their own room. Second - to clarify (and more on this later) the only person she told about having an affair with me long term was her husband (now ex). Everyone else "heard" about it only after the engagement party outburst. Third - my house already has cameras and security. My dogs and her never really got along so I don't think she's going to be trying anything anyhow. (suppose they were the first to know what's up?) Okay onto the actual update: while unfortunately I do not have the conversation with her recorded. I DO have a text from a later time where she confirms making it up. I did not block her because my wife said it might be better to let her incriminate herself further and have it documented, so I just let her do it for a while and once I got her to admit she made the affair up, I stopped responding. Got increasingly angrier text but nothing yesterday so hopefully that's done with. She said some pretty nasty shit about my wife, and I considered responding, but my wife laughed it off and said that's just how sore losers are, and I shouldn't engage any further, so I didn't. I also have screenshots from her husband where she talks about the affair she is supposedly having with me. How do I have those you ask? Well, realizing just how much she lied about to me, it occurred to me that almost everything I know about her husband - let's call him Dave, comes, even indirectly, from her, and by this point I suspect she might not be the most honest conveyor of events. So I took a risk and texted him to meet up. We had a long talk, and... again he might be lying of course, but from what he said - he actually never cheated on her, though she often accused him of that. the "innocent mistake" she made with his family? Yeah she felt his cousin's wife was being a little bit TOO familiar with him (Dave), and started actively spreading the rumor the kid was his, maliciously. This, understandably caused huge backlash, and was one of the many things which caused Dave to want to leave. the interaction with me, in that context, was just the final straw. Thinking of that now - the mistake she made with me might not have been so innocent, and I think she might have tried to start some shit if my wife or the kid's mom were less good-natured about the whole thing. So anyway, Dave is fighting for full custody so that can get really ugly. I don't know the legal nuance of divorce but I assume he's in for a shitstorm. He really likes a lot of our mutual friends and has been a part of the group for quite a while - so he doesn't really want to have to leave or anything, and to be fair, having talked to him vs. Emma, I tend to agree. We talked for a long time and he seems to be a pretty good guy (though I HAVE been wrong before), and I offered some support because, well... having read my posts you can probably assume what divorcing Emma is like. He worries about it and I understand him completely. So I offered support best I could and will probably continue to do so. So as for my friends - I sortta took ya'll's advice but not really - I didn't do a group text, but I DID give a short summary of what happened and some choice screenshots to most of my friends. This started some conversation, and a lot of tea was spilled, and some realizations were made regarding the fact that a lot of drama that plagued our group over the years can actually be attributed to "misunderstandings" attributed to Emma. More tea ensued. Wife is having a blast. So.. yeah, some of my friends were gobsmacked since they didn't really hear Emma's story, but understood what a clusterfuck this was. Others were understanding. Emma's best friend blocked me so she got nothing, but I suspect she'd remain unswayed regardless, and I suppose that's good. Most people I talked to felt We should probably cut contact from Emma, and that would be that. Her house in our neighborhood is owned by Dave, and she already moved out, so we're not supposed to be seeing too much of her day-to-day. I don't want to demonize her. I don't think she was evilly cackling as she tried to ruin lives. I think she is a very troubled person and I still hope she finds peace and friends and relationships that would help her through whatever the fuck she is going through, and mostly a good therapist, but... this is no longer my circus, and she is not my monkey, and so I hope she does all that way the fuck away from me. As for my wife - here things get a little tricky. See my wife confessed that she and Dave were having an affair all this time, and so we are getting a divorce. I'm kidding about the last part, of course. God could you imagine? No, my wife is awesome and remained awesome. Since the situation seems to be mostly resolved she is now allowed to tease me about it, which she had been. A LOT. I might take a while to live this down, but otherwise we are doing well, and for the most part things seemed to have settled down with my friends, though I may want to reevaluate some of my relationships with some of the ones who were more inclined to believe some pretty bad shit about me... and, yeah... that's about it. sorry there wasn't really the crazy showdown some of you may have expected. I do think this thing is behind us now, and thank you all for reading, and for your advice.   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

WTAF?? I am not OOP OOP is u/BurningMann84 Original posted 1 day ago in r/AITAH https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1g6pcee/aita_for_teasing_my_friend_about_not_recognizing/ AITA for teasing my friend about not recognizing my kid, thus ruining her marriage and an unrelated engagement party? tl;dr at the end. Also - burner account obviously. So, me and my wife have a 5 year old son. Our group of friends is mostly couples with kids as we are nearing our 40s and so a lot of our meetings with friends now include meeting up as entire families, kids included. This can sometimes mean a lot of adults and a lot of of kids. One person in this group, Emma (fake name) used to be my roommate in college. She was married and has her own kids, and we hang out with her and her husband sometimes in a group setting, but rarely on our own. Emma also tends to run late, often. This is all relevant to the story. As our son is an only child, we sometimes worry that he wouldn't really learn to share or get along with other kids. To prevent this, and while I love spending time with him, I would sometimes preemptively nudge him to engage with other kids when we are in public playgrounds or at the beach or the pool. To that end when I buy him a water pistol or an RC car or the like, I'd often just buy 2 or 3. I'd get to the playground and play with him, and when another kid would show interest in the toys I'd just go "oh you wanna play with us?" and hand him the remote or the pistol or the whatever, thus getting the kids to play. This works great quite often, and I have a generally good relationship with the parents at our neighborhood. This is also relevant. One day, like a year back, me and my wife were planning on taking our kid to the pool. I pack my large bag of pool toys. Emma texts me - her husband is away that day and she's looking for something to do with the kids. I talk to my wife and tell Emma we're going to our local pool and she's welcome to join us, but we're planning on heading there early, so she can just join us whenever. We arrive at the pool pretty early and get a really good spot poolside, right by the shallows. I grab some water pistols and me and my kid start playing world domination (I am trying to take over the world and can only be stopped through the power of water pistols. It's a whole thing. Kid loves it.) Soon another kid is there - it's a kid from my son's kindergarten class. he's there with his mom. He is, of course, welcome to join us. We know the family, the mom and my wife are pretty friendly and our kids play together often. So my wife says she wants to go for a swim, and the kid's mom says she wants to join her, and asks me if I'm okay watching the kids - I say sure since by this point the kids are blasting each other with water pistols and I'm just chillin' poolside, just occasionally having to call out "oh no, my plans for world domination, ruined!!!" (because sometimes that's just what parenting is.) Then Emma and her kids show up. She is really happy to see me, and I give out toys to her kids. All is going well. Then my son's friend runs up and asks for some other toy and I go "sure thing" and hand it to him. Emma goes: "OH MY GOD! so cute! He looks just like you!" I laugh and say "okay cool, but this isn't my kid." Now, In her defense - the kid DOES look kinda like me, making this kinda hilarious. When my wife and the kid's mom come back - I tell them this story. they also find it hilarious. We all have a friendly chuckle but think little of it. Fast forward to a few months ago. I haven't seen Emma in a while. We are at a friends group gathering, and it was a good time all around. When we're about to call it a day, me and Emma are at the entrance, she's grabbing her stuff and I'm on my 2nd trip from the car (kid's toys, kid's clothes, dirty dishes, Tupperware with leftovers I want etc.) and I call out to Emma's husband "Hey! Can you call my wife and kid over! Just make sure it's actually my kid and not some random kid who kinda looks like me." I think it's a hilarious callback. He seems confused and kinda angry. He asks what the hell I'm talking about. Why would he call a random kid? I'm also confused so I tell him the pool story. He doesn't laugh. Emma doesn't laugh either. the entire thing now feels kinda awkward. I awkwardly say goodbye, go grab my wife and kid myself and we leave. Later that day I text Emma to ask if everything is alright. I get no reply. I text again a few days later. no reply. I get the distinct sense I fucked up, but also if she doesn't wanna talk to me, I'm not gonna force the issue. I leave well enough alone. At worst I thought she was mad at a joke I made which was apparently in poor taste. Boy howdy did I underestimate the fallout of this joke. A few days ago I arrive at a friend's place and she's there. This is an engagement party, so no kids. I wasn't supposed to come but decided to last minute, and my wife was at home with our kid. Emma sees me and is LIVID. She wasn't expecting to. she only came because she thought I wouldn't be here. She does, however, take the opportunity to tear me a new one though. She calls me out in front of everyone. Because of my "joke" (originally said with air quotes) her husband was furious. From what she said and what I gathered from mutual friends afterwards - she previously commented on someone else's kid looking like someone who wasn't his father. Except that whole thing led to family drama in Emma's husband's family because in that case that dude WAS cheating and that was his kid and a whole bunch of people were really hurt in the aftermath. Emma's husband was FURIOUS because he apparently thought she would know better than to comment on kids looking like people AGAIN. This sent them down a spiral, especially because the husband apparently thought she told me that other family story - and that I was mocking him for his family drama, and he thought the story I told was just covering for her when I realized I fucked up - this was not the case. I had no idea that whole thing happened. Still - he didn't believe Emma when she told him. So they are now separated. She calls me an asshole and says I ruined her marriage. I am not a confrontational person, I apologize profusely. I say I didn't know and if she didn't want me telling the story she should have said something. She tells me I'm making excuses. This is now a scene. I apologize profusely again and leave quickly after telling the couple a quick congratulations. I am later told this was anything anyone could talk about at the party and now the engaged couple are mad at me too. Emma is even more mad because now EVERYONE knows her drama. I am unfriended and unfollowed on everything. Some friends think I couldn't have known better and the joke was pretty benign. Other friends say it was in really poor taste to "throw her under the bus" and I am totally the asshole. Emma's best friend (who I also know from college) thinks I DID know about the thing with her husband, and now I'm just covering my own ass to get away with being cruel. It has been a few days and some of my friends will no longer talk to me. Others think she is wrong to blame me and that marriage was doomed anyway. Still - I feel really guilty about making the joke, and I obviously wouldn't have made it had I known the trouble it would cause. I like Emma, and I didn't want to hurt her. I also liked her husband. I'd like to say that maybe he was wrong to let the marriage implode like that because of a stupid joke, but at the same time I don't exactly know his family drama and their history, nor the specifics of his relationship with Emma, so I can't really say he's wrong or overreacting. The entire thing just kinda sucks. My wife sorta got my back though. She thinks the joke was hilarious, and actually thinks me breaking up their marriage makes it even funnier, because WTF. She also loves crazy Reddit stories so she sent me to post this... so at least I got that going for me, which is nice. so... AITA? Tl;dr - my friend accidentally said someone else's kid looks like me. I later made a joke about this in front of her husband. Turns out she said something like that before and it destroyed their marriage. She confronted me at an engagement party, and apparently I ruined that too. AITA? Update posted 8 hrs. ago in r/AITAH https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1g7cfqs/update_aita_for_teasing_my_friend_about_not/ Update: AITA for teasing my friend about not recognizing my kid, thus ruining her marriage and an unrelated engagement party? So yesterday I posted this: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1g6pcee/aita_for_teasing_my_friend_about_not_recognizing/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button I am now updating you because the last few hours have been... a lot. It turns out that when I wrote my post I left out one critical piece of context: I thought I was regular person living a normal life. Turns out I am Chaz, a side character on the worst Gossip Girl episode ever written. So after posting yesterday, reading replies and thinking it over, I decided to reach out to Emma one final time. Some of you thought I shouldn't and that these were, in fact, not my monkeys. Others made me realize that Emma was probably in a shitty situation with her husband and his family and was actively being gaslit. Now, of note here, while as I mentioned we're not as close as we used to be - we used to be very close. She helped me pick out a spot and let me borrow her car for my first date with who later became my wife. She was a significant part of my support system during some very rough times in my life. Despite everything, I still felt like I cared about her and wanted to work things out. This is no longer the case. See from my perspective - I thought we were good friends, then when she met her husband we naturally drifted apart, and then this thing happened out of nowhere. This was not what it looked like from her perspective. How do I know? Well buckle up because this is absolutely unhinged. So, last night, before going to bed, I text her a long thoughtful message. I explain that I do apologize for the part I played in ruining her marriage, and I understand she is going through a tough time. I understand if she wants nothing more to do with me, but if and when she feels she wants to talk it out, she is welcome to reach out, and I leave the ball in her court. I show this to my wife and she is practically giddy. She tells me there is no way this shit doesn't blow up in my face and I should have just cut my losses, like many of y'all said. Emma SHOWS UP AT MY HOUSE AT AROUND 7AM UNANNOUNCED. I ask WTF. She says she really needs to talk to me. I call my wife to the door and explain this. She sends me off with this woman because she understands this shit can only go poorly and apparently she is here for it and it's my own fault at this point. So as I said, from my perspective we were friends, we drifted apart. From her perspective - for the last 15 years she has been playing some weird game of 4d chess. Or... 2 different games of 4d chess? Apparently she had feelings for me back in college, and she was trying to "nice girl" her way into a relationship with me. By being there for me when my dad died, and when I was struggling with being single. She always gave everything because she just assumed I would, at some point "come around". You'd think that me getting married or her getting married would change that, and it did, just... badly. apparently her husband knew about her feelings, which is why he always kept me at a distance. We never drifted apart, he explicitly asked her not to meet with me anymore outside of large social gatherings. that day at the pool? yeah that was her sticking it to him, because he was "away" cheating on her or something, and he didn't like her hanging around me scantily clad. It wasn't just that he was upset at the joke, he was upset because apparently I was having an affair with his wife and rubbing it in his face. Makes no sense? I know. It gets worse. That thing at the wedding? Well at least she didn't plan THAT. I told our friends getting engaged that I wasn't coming. She asked and verified this. She wasn't expecting to see me and they told her I wouldn't be there, but once I showed up, she decided to exploit it. She INTENDED to have a huge scene with me, so that she could tell her estranged husband and friends - that I ambushed her because she broke off OUR AFFAIR. OUR AFFAIR. APPARENTLY WE HAD AN AFFAIR "Oh what affair is that?" you ask. I did too. apparently the story some people got was that she and I were having an affair, and it ended and I was stalking her. Her husband left her because he found out. So people more inclined to believe her just thought that was what happened and wanted nothing to do with me anymore. so why did her husband ACTUALLY leave? well some of you called it. According to her, he was cheating on her a bunch and overall not a nice person. She never actually cheated on him, but used me to pretend that she did without my knowledge. So after the joke at the gathering which may have indeed been in poor taste - they had a huge fight and he left the house. As for the thing with his family - from what I gather it was some dude sleeping with his cousin's wife or some such shit. So anyway, she tells me all this insanity, and tops it off with that my message really moved her and we can still be friends. The reason she rushed to show up at 7am? My message made her realize I am actually the only one who really cares about her and everyone else in her life is fake and don't really care. I'm not the sharpest tool in the shed, but now this sounds like some really manipulative shit to me, and now I'm thinking back to a lot of our previous interactions - and a lot of them also seem like that to me now. I am not a confrontational person. I was willing to accept that I fucked up. maybe some of you were right, and the joke was in poor taste, and I'm a huge asshole for making it because I thought that if he knew the story he would get the callback, and if he didn't I'd tell him a funny story about his wife. I accept all that criticism. But THIS?! Fuck no. I was done. I tell her I am done with her shit. She can get back to her husband, leave her husband, keep any friends she wants, because I am fuckin done. I can forgive a lot, but she had been basically not communicating with me for over 15 years. I was telling her everything about my life and my feelings, and I was absolutely appalled by just how much of a one way street it turned out to be. I feel like I didn't ever really know her. Maybe I played a role in that too. Maybe I was self centered or selfish and didn't consider her emotions or her signs. I don't know. And you know what? At this point I don't think it matters. She lied to me SO MUCH. she lied to SO MANY PEOPLE SO MUCH. I just don't care anymore. I don't think there's anything left to this friendship to fix. And the worst part? I just gave you this huge update, and I genuinely don't know how much of it is true. Maybe she was completely honest with me. Maybe she lied about everything and we're still playing 4d chess. Who knows? I certainly don't. And that, more than anything, is why this friendship is over - because even if I could forgive everything - I can never really trust her. So that's that. there will probably not be anymore updates because this was meant to be a lighthearted post and it turned out into a total clusterfuck and I'm just so tired and so sad. I'm sorry if this wasn't as readable or as coherent as my previous post. This just happened and I am just exhausted. My wife has been very supportive, though I assume at some point I'm due some well-earned "I told you so's. She knows there wasn't an affair and certainly no stalking, and most of my friends probably know that too. I may try reaching out to some others because well... I don't know, maybe they were told even worse things about me? But I am just done with this. And now I am going to spend what's left of this weekend with my family and try to put this shit behind me. thank you all for reading, and for your advice. submitted by /u/ObsidianNight102399 to r/BORUpdates [link] [comments]

tl;dr at the end. Also - burner account obviously. So, me and my wife have a 5 year old son. Our group of friends is mostly couples with kids as we are nearing our 40s and so a lot of our meetings with friends now include meeting up as entire families, kids included. This can sometimes mean a lot of adults and a lot of of kids. One person in this group, Emma (fake name) used to be my roommate in college. She was married and has her own kids, and we hang out with her and her husband sometimes in a group setting, but rarely on our own. Emma also tends to run late, often. This is all relevant to the story. As our son is an only child, we sometimes worry that he wouldn't really learn to share or get along with other kids. To prevent this, and while I love spending time with him, I would sometimes preemptively nudge him to engage with other kids when we are in public playgrounds or at the beach or the pool. To that end when I buy him a water pistol or an RC car or the like, I'd often just buy 2 or 3. I'd get to the playground and play with him, and when another kid would show interest in the toys I'd just go "oh you wanna play with us?" and hand him the remote or the pistol or the whatever, thus getting the kids to play. This works great quite often, and I have a generally good relationship with the parents at our neighborhood. This is also relevant. One day, like a year back, me and my wife were planning on taking our kid to the pool. I pack my large bag of pool toys. Emma texts me - her husband is away that day and she's looking for something to do with the kids. I talk to my wife and tell Emma we're going to our local pool and she's welcome to join us, but we're planning on heading there early, so she can just join us whenever. We arrive at the pool pretty early and get a really good spot poolside, right by the shallows. I grab some water pistols and me and my kid start playing world domination (I am trying to take over the world and can only be stopped through the power of water pistols. It's a whole thing. Kid loves it.) Soon another kid is there - it's a kid from my son's kindergarten class. he's there with his mom. He is, of course, welcome to join us. We know the family, the mom and my wife are pretty friendly and our kids play together often. So my wife says she wants to go for a swim, and the kid's mom says she wants to join her, and asks me if I'm okay watching the kids - I say sure since by this point the kids are blasting each other with water pistols and I'm just chillin' poolside, just occasionally having to call out "oh no, my plans for world domination, ruined!!!" (because sometimes that's just what parenting is.) Then Emma and her kids show up. She is really happy to see me, and I give out toys to her kids. All is going well. Then my son's friend runs up and asks for some other toy and I go "sure thing" and hand it to him. Emma goes: "OH MY GOD! so cute! He looks just like you!" I laugh and say "okay cool, but this isn't my kid." Now, In her defense - the kid DOES look kinda like me, making this kinda hilarious. When my wife and the kid's mom come back - I tell them this story. they also find it hilarious. We all have a friendly chuckle but think little of it. Fast forward to a few months ago. I haven't seen Emma in a while. We are at a friends group gathering, and it was a good time all around. When we're about to call it a day, me and Emma are at the enterance, she's grabbing her stuff and I'm on my 2nd trip from the car (kid's toys, kid's clothes, dirty dishes, Tupperware with leftovers I want etc.) and I call out to Emma's husband "Hey! Can you call my wife and kid over! Just make sure it's actually my kid and not some random kid who kinda looks like me." I think it's a hilarious callback. He seems confused and kinda angry. He asks what the hell I'm talking about. Why would he call a random kid? I'm also confused so I tell him the pool story. He doesn't laugh. Emma doesn't laugh either. the entire thing now feels kinda awkward. I awkwardly say goodbye, go grab my wife and kid myself and we leave. Later that day I text Emma to ask if everything is alright. I get no reply. I text again a few days later. no reply. I get the distinct sense I fucked up, but also if she doesn't wanna talk to me, I'm not gonna force the issue. I leave well enough alone. At worst I thought she was mad at a joke I made which was apparently in poor taste. Boy howdy did I underestimate the fallout of this joke. A few days ago I arrive at a friend's place and she's there. This is an engagement party, so no kids. I wasn't supposed to come but decided to last minute, and my wife was at home with our kid. Emma sees me and is LIVID. She wasn't expecting to. she only came because she thought I wouldn't be here. She does, however, take the opportunity to tear me a new one though. She calls me out in front of everyone. Because of my "joke" (originally said with air quotes) her husband was furious. From what she said and what I gathered from mutual friends afterwards - she previously commented on someone else's kid looking like someone who wasn't his father. Except that whole thing led to family drama in Emma's husband's family because in that case that dude WAS cheating and that was his kid and a whole bunch of people were really hurt in the aftermath. Emma's husband was FURIOUS because he apparently thought she would know better than to comment on kids looking like people AGAIN. This sent them down a spiral, especially because the husband apparently thought she told me that other family story - and that I was mocking him for his family drama, and he thought the story I told was just covering for her when I realized I fucked up - this was not the case. I had no idea that whole thing happened. Still - he didn't believe Emma when she told him. So they are now separated. She calls me an asshole and says I ruined her marriage. I am not a confrontational person, I apologize profusely. I say I didn't know and if she didn't want me telling the story she should have said something. She tells me I'm making excuses. This is now a scene. I apologize profusely again and leave quickly after telling the couple a quick congratulations. I am later told this was anything anyone could talk about at the party and now the engaged couple are mad at me too. Emma is even more mad because now EVERYONE knows her drama. I am unfriended and unfollowed on everything. Some friends think I couldn't have known better and the joke was pretty benign. Other friends say it was in really poor taste to "throw her under the bus" and I am totally the asshole. Emma's best friend (who I also know from college) thinks I DID know about the thing with her husband, and now I'm just covering my own ass to get away with being cruel. It has been a few days and some of my friends will no longer talk to me. Others think she is wrong to blame me and that marriage was doomed anyway. Still - I feel really guilty about making the joke, and I obviously wouldn't have made it had I known the trouble it would cause. I like Emma, and I didn't want to hurt her. I also liked her husband. I'd like to say that maybe he was wrong to let the marriage implode like that because of a stupid joke, but at the same time I don't exactly know his family drama and their history, nor the specifics of his relationship with Emma, so I can't really say he's wrong or overreacting. The entire thing just kinda sucks. My wife sortta got my back though. She thinks the joke was hilarious, and actually thinks me breaking up their marriage makes it even funnier, because WTF. She also loves crazy Reddit stories so she sent me to post this... so at least I got that going for me, which is nice. so... AITA? Tl;dr - my friend accidentally said someone else's kid looks like me. I later made a joke about this in front of her husband. Turns out she said something like that before and it destroyed their marriage. She confronted me at an engagement party, and apparently I ruined that too. AITA? Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/OaO15oTgPe Final update: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1g9kzlk/update_aita_for_teasing_my_friend_about_not/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button submitted by /u/BurningMann84 to r/AITAH [link] [comments]

I am NOT the Original Poster. That is u/Necessary_Light_6626. She posted in r/AITAH Thanks to u/Direct-Caterpillar77 for the recommendation. Trigger Warning: child neglect Mood Spoiler: entitled people act entitled For clarity's sake- the children in this story: Luke- legally OOP's son (biologically OOP's nephew) Justin- biologically (and legally lol) OOP's son Emily- OOP's niece (Luke's biological sister, but legally his cousin) Original Post: August 31, 2023 When I (43f) was 18 and when my sister (47) was 22f at the time had my nephew (let's call him Luke) with her then bf (now husband). My sister and her husband didn't have any interest in Luke when he was born so I took the role of taking care of him. I got my grandmother (she's an angel) to watch him while I was in my last year of highschool in exchange for me cleaning and cooking for her on the weekends. My parents weren't much help either, they would give me about $100 a month for Luke, and if you have a kid then you know it's not much. Me and my grandmother were the only ones to take care of him. A year after I graduated from highschool I was kicked out with my nephew because my parents, sister, and her husband didn't want to deal with us anymore. My sister said she wished she never gave birth to him. I immediately went to my grandmother and we went to a family law attorney and I got custody of him and my sister and her husband signed their rights to me. I lived with my grandmother and when I went to community college and my part-time job she watched my son (Luke). It was a lot of work especially when my grandmother passed away when my son was 6. My grandmother left 90% of her things to me in her will, which caused my parents and sister to reach out to me under false intentions to meet my son and I to reconnect. That didn't last long and I told them they could either act right or never see us again. My dad decided to actually reconnect with my son and I and now we're close, while my mom and I don't really talk much but she treats Luke nice. When Luke was 8 both me and my sister became pregnant and that's when my sister decided she wanted my son back and started to tell him that me and my husband wouldn't love him anymore once my "actual" son came along. My husband met my son when he was 5 and we were already together for a year before he met my son. My husband treats Luke like his and we got married when my son was 7 and adopted him when he was 9, with my son's permission. We found out that my sister was saying this when one day he broke down crying asking us not to leave him after we told him that would never happen. He explained what my sister and her husband were saying. Luke knows that he's not my biological son but he is my son. After that I cut contact with my sister and her husband again and did family therapy and individual therapy for my son. When I had my son (1 pregnancy, 2 children) I made it clear that our love for him (Luke) didn't change. When my sister reached out about two years later I decided to go low contact with her with the okay with my son and husband. My husband and I live comfortably while my sister and her husband struggle sometimes financially. My kids did extracurricular activities, got the presents they wanted, and went on one big family trip in the summer. While my sister and her husband couldn't afford much, so when my niece was around 9 my sister started making comments about how I needed to pay for this or that for my niece but I told her it wasn't my job. I gave my niece the gifts she wanted, took her out from time to time but nowhere near how I would treat my own kids. Now my son (2nd) is turning 17 and my husband and I were talking about getting him a cheap starter car. We did the same for Luke when he was 17. My niece is also turning 17 and apparently my sister told her she was going to get a car too. The thing is my sister can't afford to buy her a car so she asked me to but I told her I wasn't going to buy her a car. That I didn't promise her one and that it's not my job to get her one. My sister then got mad and didn't talk to me for a while. When my son's 17th birthday came around we surprised him with a car. My niece then called me a couple of days later screaming and crying asking me why I hate her and why I can't treat her the same as her brother. I calmly told her things were different, her brother is my son while she is my niece. I'm her aunt and nothing more, that as an aunt my job was birthday presents, Christmas presents, and showing up when it mattered, that was it. That her brother will always be more to me than she'll ever be. Then my niece started yelling at me again telling me that I'm being unfair and hung up. My sister then called me to berate me about how I need to do more, I told her if she wouldn't have promised a car to her or my money to my niece no of this wouldn't have happened. It's been a couple of days and I'm getting calls from some family and some of my sister's friends calling me a bitch and some other things. I do feel bad because my kids did grow up with more and I guess I could have helped more. So AITA for what I said to my niece? Relevant Comments: Why would courts allow a teenager to have custody? "I was 19 when i got custody. With them fine with signing over their parental rights and I proving that I can provide for him gave the courts no reason to not give me custody. It was months of proving I could provide for him. I still had people come to my grandmother's house and see where we lived and to make sure that I could provide a safe and stable environment." Why do you maintain a relationship with these people? "Because she had my niece but mainly talking to my dad about it. It's why I maintained low contact, we only really talk when big holidays and birthdays come up." "I have very low contact with my sister as it is. The only time we're around each other is certain people's birthdays and big holidays. I always put my son first, it's why I never truly let her back into my life especially his. I make sure both my sons are happy and they make it perfectly clear when they don't want them around. That's why I didn't invite them to my son's birthday party. With the smart comments she makes she stopped until she found out I was going to give my second son a car then it started that's when I distanced my family from her more. Even back then when she made comments I put a stop to it. So don't tell me I don't have a spine because I stepped up at 18 to raise an amazing kid. Do you think I would really let my kid suffer, especially to the hand of someone like her. I don't care for my sister but I care for my niece. My niece and sister sadly come as a package deal." Why do you have a relationship with dad? "Because my dad truly tried and did change, he was actually there for my sons and me. After my dad was around for a while my mom wanted to get to know her my kids too and she made some changes too not as much as my dad but enough to were my husband and I felt comfortable. Just because they changed doesn't excuse the past, they still aren't trusted enough to where I ever let my kids alone with them. For my sister a year or two after my niece was born she became a little better but we still didn't really have a relationship and when we did have one it was only to talk about birthdays and big holidays. When she would make smart comments she would stop after my husband, dad, and I said something but she did it more after she found out I was getting my son a car." Does niece know everything? "My niece knows Luke is legally my son, I just don't think she knows how he legally became my son." How tf are other family members calling you out? "I think the extended family got told a different story. For the friends, my sister probably rallied them together. I think it's completely ridiculous especially when we can be civil about it instead of bringing everyone in." More on sis: "I don't know why she rejected him, her husband and her always chose to party and go out over him. They were never home and when they were they were asleep or ignoring him. I don't know what my niece's home life was like except they had financial problems off and on." More on how Luke was treated: "When I would come home from school he would be crying and covered in pee and poop, everyone would just ignore him. About a month of that is when I went to my grandmother and she brought him diapers and formula. This is also when my grandmother and I came up with the deal of her watching him while I'm in school and my part-time job and when I'm out of school or off he'll be with me." "My parents worked a lot so when they came home they didn't want to deal with a baby. They kicked us out because they were tired of Luke crying all the time and me asking for help to buy him diapers, formula, etc. They said that they were tired of giving me money for him ($100) a month." How is Luke now? "Luke is doing well, he graduated from college a little while ago and has amazing friends. He's starting a new job soon and he's looking forward to it." Update Post 1 (preserved with rareddit): September 1, 2023 (Next Day) Thank you for the advice, I really appreciate everything everyone had to say. First I want to set something straight, I never let my sister hurt my kids like some of y'all think. The low contact was for my niece and that's all it was. When birthdays were coming up, we would talk about birthdays or holidays. The conversation would consist of when I would pick up my niece (let's call her Emily), how long I would keep her and when I would drop her off back home. My sister never kept my kids, never been to my house, and never talked to them without me or my husband present. Now another reason for the civil relationship with my sister is because Emily and my second son (let's call him Justin) went to the same school. So any type of school event that was going on my sister was there. My kids and niece had a good relationship before the car situation. Justin and Emily had a close relationship, and Emily and Luke had a friendly relationship. I always made sure my kids were happy where my sister was in their life which is basically non existent except for some school events and some big family get together. Update Two days after Emily's call, I decided to call her to meet up with her. We decided to meet at a park that's a few minutes away from my home. When we met Emily seemed normal but a little bit tired. I told her I didn't mean to hurt her in any way but she needs to understand it's not my job because I'm not her parent. She said she understood that but she was jealous that her brother (Luke) and Justin got everything that they wanted. I told her that first Luke isn't her brother but a cousin. Second of all they don't get everything they want, they work for it. They get good grades, do chores, stay out of trouble for the most part. I then asked her the real reason for why she was acting this way, that she never had a problem before this. She then started crying saying it wasn't fair that Luke and Justin get everything they want while she gets barely anything. That Luke lucked out in life by being adopted by my husband and I. That she deserves to have what my sons have, that she is my family so I have to take care of her too. I told that she is part of my family but not my child. That I do love her but she's not my responsibility. I then asked her why she feels so strongly about it. She said that even though her parents do take good care of her she feels like she's just an obligation to them. When she sees how Luke and Justin were raised she gets jealous because in her eyes we don't look at the boys as an obligation. That we are a family that's always together and always works through problems and helps each other. That even though I stayed in her life and took her out with my family she always felt jealous that she had to be that one to leave. That she felt second place and since I took in Luke I should take her in with no problem. I told her that while I understand her feelings I'm not gonna treat her as my kid. I didn't raise her, but I do love her. That it's her parents job to get her a car or to help her get one. Then she got more upset saying that I clearly don't care about her and she left. I texted her saying that I do care for her but I'm not her mom and it's not my job. After I got home my husband and I talked and we decided to call my sister. I told her that my family and I are going full no contact. My sister then asked about how I'm going to get in contact with Emily, I told her Emily is almost an adult she can contact me if she wants. She then asked me if I was going to get Emily a car, I said no. I told her that it's her job, that she's her mother and needs to act like it. Emily needs her to be a mom and hung up the phone, blocked and deleted her number. The next day I got a call from my mom. She believes that I should give Emily some money for a car if I won't give her one. I told I wasn't going to do that and hung up because all it's going to do is cause a fight. I then called dad and explained everything and he thinks I'm right. Then my dad called asking if he could come over on Wednesday. When he showed up he was visibly upset, mom gave a big chunk of money out of my parents' retirement fund to my sister. This has caused my parents to have a huge fight which led my dad to packing a suitcase and staying in a motel for a bit. Now I'm no contact with my sister and mom, I'll be going low contact with my niece for now. Thank you again for the advice that everyone had given me. Relevant Comments: On Emily deserving unconditional love: "I didn't say she doesn't deserve unconditional love. Luke also doesn't see her as a sister but a cousin. To him the only sibling he has is Justin. I hope she gets the love she wants but I can't give it to her." "What do you think I should do then. I do love Emily but I don't see her as a daughter. To me I have two kids and that's it. Emily isn't my child, I do feel for her but I can't help her like she wants." "She's not unwanted, just because I don't want to be a motherly role for her doesn't mean she's unloved. She's loved by many people that are family and are not." Luke and Emily's relationship: "Luke has an okay relationship with Emily. They have a regular cousin relationship, Justin and Emily had a really close friendship. Luke doesn't think of her as a sister but as a cousin. Justin is the only sibling to him and that's how he feels. He knows what's going on and he agrees with me." "All their life they never had a problem with being cousins. This is the first time she called him her brother. Luke doesn't think of her as a sister at all to him he was one sibling and that's Justin." Did she specifically ask you to act motherly toward her? "She wants me to treat her how I treat my own kids" "She said she wants my family life for herself. Having dinner all together, going out on the weekend to have a family day, joining us for our yearly family vacation, she wants my husband and I to attend her school things, celebrate her like we celebrate our kids, she wants to come over more, to be an equal to our kids, overall she wants to be treated like how I treat my kids." Update Post 2: November 18, 2023 (2.5 months later) About a week after the post I decided to talk to Emily. We decided to meet at my home. I asked everyone not to be home because I wanted her and I to talk privately. When she showed up she didn't really want to look at me and I asked her if I could give her a hug. She nodded her head and the minute I hugged her she cried. She said she was sorry for how she acted and I told her she didn't need to apologize. I asked her about how her parents treat her again to understand more about what's going on. She told me that her dad treats her well and he tries to spend time with her but he's busy because he works two jobs. While my sister is home more she usually just keeps to herself and doesn't really like to be bugged. I then asked her if she feels like she's been neglected, she said no just sometimes they don't have family time that much because her parents argue a lot especially about money. That sometimes her mom does make her feel like an obligation but she knows that they do love her. I then asked her about the money my mom took from the retirement fund. She said that she and my sister were going car shopping soon. I then brought up her calling Luke her brother and if she feels that way about him. She said she sees him like a cousin and she thought if she played the brother card I would feel inclined to help her. She then explained that even though they are biologically siblings they are cousins and will always be cousins. I then asked her if she knew how I ended up adopting Luke. She said that she knew and her dad had explained what they did. Apparently my sister sugar coated it while her dad told her the blunt truth and it was the complete truth that he told her. (Luke only sees her as a cousins also, to Luke only has one sibling and that's Justin) I then spoke to her about seeing a therapist that we would pay for (my husband agreed). She said she would think about it. I then asked her if she would like to do a fun day out with me on Saturdays. She got excited and said she would really like that. So that weekend we went on our first day out. We went to this restaurant that she's been wanting to try. We had a good time, I then took her to a bookstore because she loves to read and I bought her a couple of books that she's been wanting. When Emily and I were supposed to have our second weekend out I had to cancel because Justin ended up in the hospital. While at football practice he started wheezing a little bit and he took his inhaler but didn't wait the appropriate time. He then got tackled which knocked the wind out of him and caused him to have a bad asthma attack. This happened on a Friday and Justin stayed at the hospital till Sunday. Emily and I were supposed to go out Saturday and that morning I called her and told I had to cancel before I could tell her why she started yelling at me saying I never cared about her and hung up the phone. I tried calling her back but it went straight to voicemail. Then I sent her a text saying that I didn't mean to hurt her but Justin was in the hospital and that we can have our day next weekend. I never heard back from her. I gave up on reaching out to her after a couple of days. Two days ago, my family and I were out for a family night when my neighbors called saying that they called the cops because someone was vandalizing one of our cars. When we got home the cops were there and it was Justin's car. The car had scratches, little dents, and paint. There are two broken windows. My husband and I checked our security footage you could clearly see Emily and someone else vandalizing the car. My husband gave the video copy to the police and Emily and her friend got arrested next morning. My sister and mom came to my house screaming that I was ruining my nieces life and if I loved her I would drop the charges. My husband is admitted that we don't drop the charges and Justin and Luke agree with my husband. A lot of people have asked Luke's view on everything so I decided to talk to him. He said he's over everything and it's best to cut contact with everyone, even Emily, because she's just like her mom. So we are cutting contact with everyone except for my dad. Relevant Comments: Someone follows up on the first post asking how OOP's family could be mad that she didn't get Emily a car: "My husband and I make a good amount of money, were not rich but we live comfortably. When I first started having a relationship with Emily my sister would try to demand things from me especially when it came to money. When I wouldn't give in she'll try to get my mom to make me give into her, of course that would never work. Most of the time mom would stop when dad got involved. I'm sure my sister told a false narrative of me to her friends and some family members that I really don't talk to. My sister promised Emily a car, she's been wanting a car for awhile. When she didn't get one everything went into chaos. My sister decided to save herself by trying to blame me for Emily being upset." What does your dad think of all of this? "He's upset with Emily but not surprised by her. He agrees to press charges also and says not to back out of pressing charges. I think he's just tired and wants everything to calm down." One more explanation for why OOP didn't cut contact before this: "The reason for me having contact with my sister and niece is Justin and Emily went to the same school and had the same classes. Anytime I went to a school event my sister was there. I didn't want Justin to be in a hostile environment at school so I thought having a semi civil relationship would be best especially when Emily and Justin were making friends with the same people. I didn't want to move Justin out of the school because it's a very good school and he already loved it there. With my parents, we came in contact after my grandmother died and the will was read. That was when Luke was 6, my mom tried to be nice because I was left with 90% of my grandmother's things. My dad actually tried to have a relationship with everyone and he admitted his wrong doings. This took years to build up not just a simple "I'm sorry" and we were good." submitted by /u/LucyAriaRose to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

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Well a while ago someone here commented the idea that my parents should sell a bunch of my brother's stuff. So I talked to my parents about how they could probably recoup some of their losses from the birthday rampage by selling a lot of my brother's stuff. I was surprised by how readily they agreed it was a good idea. I mean it was like a lightbulb moment for them. Then over the weekend they had a big garage sale. They sold my brother's bike, his video game systems, everything! I went to help out with the sale and could hear my brother crying in his room. All of the video game systems he had were sold. And I mean there was a lot of them. He had a Gamecube, a WII, a 3DS, A Switch, PS2, PS3, PS4, XBOX 360, XBOX 1, and a ton of games for them all. And they sold ALL of them! I was pretty tempted to buy something from the sale myself. But I knew if my brother were to be made aware that I had something he used to own, who knows what he might do. So I held back. The bike alone went for $30. They also sold his TV, his RC cars, his drone, and pretty much anything else electronic he owned. They are in the process of selling his gaming PC online now as well. There's a cheap laptop too. But it was mainly used for school, and he was denied access to it for anything else. My parents told me that my brother's room had been stripped of everything but the essentials. While I was visiting during the sale, my brother walked out of his room once, saw me, and then ran back into his room crying loudly. I know fake crying from him when I hear it. And it was as fake as it gets. My parents know this too, and have not fallen for his game. I asked them if he was going to be sent to therapy. And they said they really have no choice but to to that. And they fully admitted this was all their fault for enabling him for so long. I could have rubbed it in their faces. But I think the look they saw on my face was enough that they understood. For the past several years they'd been in progressively worse and worse denial about their bad parenting. Friends and family have been telling them for a long time now that they went way too far spoiling my brother. And that not only would it come back on them one day. But it'd also mean that my brother may be incapable of functioning as an adult. And if that's the case, he'd expect someone to provide for his every need forever. And I would not become his caretaker when they become too old. My brother hadn't shown much improvement over the next few weeks. He was still being a brat, fake crying, getting into more trouble, and even stole another kid's cellphone at school. He was caught playing on it in his closet. And my parents had to return it to the school to find out who it belonged to. Last week I had an idea and suggested a family intervention. My parents were hesitant when I brought it up. But they reluctantly agreed to it. I'm sure their hesitation was because an intervention would put them on the spot along with my brother. Then on the next possible day all close family and some friends could gather at my parents' house, we formed a circle of chairs in the living room. Initially without my brother in the room. My aunt spoke first. And oh boy did she let them have it. She'd written an entire speech that we all silently listened to. My parents tried to interject from time to time, but were silenced. When it came to be my turn to speak, I also read a speech I composed. Basically repeating everything I've told on Reddit thus far, and plenty more. My grandparents went next, and it just sort of followed down the line from there. My mother was in tears. And my father just held her. They both apologized to me heavily, and said they were terrible parents. And that they ruined my childhood. I'll never get that back. My aunt loudly stated that it should not have come to this for them to realize their own hypocrisy. And from now on they needed to do better, not only for my sake, but especially for the sake of my brother so he can grow up normal. My brother was brought into the room next. And he was seated away from my parents because my mother would have an urge to coddle him when he was upset. It didn't take long for the family to lay into my brother. He tried fighting us a lot. But when excuses like "If only they just let me have my way" were about all he could say, we all let him have it about how that's not how the world works. He tried getting help from our mother. But she refused to look at him. He started huffing and acting like he was hyperventilating. Then intentionally fell to the floor. It's not the first time he's done this. My aunt just told him to stop milking it and get up. He screamed at her that we were all ruining his life. And he wishes we were all dead. My parents were horrified. My brother refused to get up off the floor and kept breathing heavily to pretend to have some sort of attack. So everyone just left him laying their while they each said their piece about why they were there to him. He screamed at random a few times. But didn't move from where he'd laid down. Eventually everyone started leaving. And my parents had to actually drag my brother back to his room because he refused to get up off the floor. He's not used to people having no sympathy for him. Especially from our parents. This is gonna be a long uphill battle. My aunt has offered to chip in for therapy, and my parents have taken her up on it. Lets hope therapy does my brother some good. Edit: Context, some have been asking what happened with my brother's birthday rampage. Well to put it simply, he didn't get a PS5, so he went mental with a chair and destroyed whatever he could with it. Which was finally the breaking point for my parents and they grounded him severely. If ya'll want any more details on what happened, just look at my prior posts. submitted by /u/Holden-Position-4 to r/entitledparents [link] [comments]

Edit: Thanks everyone! Gotta sign off after 4 hours, but deeply appreciate everyone's comments and may try to jump in a few tomorrow. Thank you!! Hi everyone. I touched on this a bit yesterday, but it’s so nice to be invited here and I continue to appreciate that anyone deems my words worth reading. Thanks to KylIlIlIIllIle (only know their Twitter UN) who was the first to propose this AMA, and u/badasstrader, who promptly set it up. Thanks to other Redditors and mods for also recommending and helping set this up. I ended up here today after I posted a Tweet demonstrating that a Metaverse report by BCG had plagiarized my intellectual property. A few reporters subsequently tagged RC, who then joined the chorus (#1, #2). You can find the outcome of the issue here. My goal today is mostly to talk about the Metaverse! I’m considered one of the leading experts in the nascent and sometimes inchoate field. In July, W.W. Norton will publish my book “The Metaverse and How It Will Revolutionize Everything”. It’s 375 pages on what the Metaverse is, where it comes from, why it matters (and why now), how it’ll be built (and what it needs), what sorts of experiences it’ll enable, where it’s going, the businesses that will be built for it, who is likely to lead, the regulatory response (and need), and so on. I’ve been fortunate to receive some advance reviews and endorsements, which include the CEOs of Epic Games, Sony, Unity, Microsoft Gaming, and Netflix; the blurbs can be found on my blog here. ​ I’m also the Co-Founder of the Roundhill Ball Metaverse ETF (NYSE: $METV). It is the world’s largest Metaverse-themed ETF (also the largest gaming ETF, if you choose to define it as such). It was also the largest sector ETF launch of 2021 and second largest ETF launch overall (excluding mutual fund conversions). It is not enjoying CY 2022! Edit: The ETF is passive-rules based. That is to say, we do not actively pick any stock. It's based on qualifying measurements around sales, adoption, users, APIs, deployment etc. The criteria was established by a council of experts from Nvidia, Oculus, Rockstar/TakeTwo, Spotify, a16z, etc. My day job: I’m a solo VC mostly focused on the gaming space. I also advise a number of start-ups as well, and am producing some TV shows, films and games. If you have any questions feel free to reach out to BadassTrader who will be able to assist. Really big thanks to BT; very patient with me. I spent last night typing up a dozen or so responses and have a few hours today! Hi again! ---------------------------------------------------------------- Questions and Answers: *** (Q) What is your favorite and worst future vision of the metaverse? - u/mt_dewsky (A) Many characterize the Metaverse as inherently dystopic because Snow Crash, Ready Player One, Neuromancer, et al, specifically or transitively portray it this way. I find this flawed. Human drama is the essence of fiction and utopias tend not to produce much of it. In 2017, Neal Stephenson told a reporter “Keeping in mind that [Snow Crash was written] pre-Internet as we know it, pre-Worldwide Web, just me making shit up”. But more broadly, the many proto-Metaverse that have been developed, whether they’re MUDs and MUSHs, Habitat, Active Worlds, Second Life, Roblox, Sandbox - they are entirely different in feel. About creation, exploration, community, expression, collaboration, identity. Which is to say, we should look to social virtual worlds when imagining the future vision of the Metaverse, not science fiction literature. That’s not quite your point, so I’ll return to it. There’s a lot said about the war of centralization versus decentralization. What’s important is to recognize that neither side can really “win”. Partial centralization is an inevitable byproduct of growth in digital ecosystems with no marginal costs and huge returns to scale. Metcalfe’s Law says that a platform with 10 users is more than twice as valuable than one with 5. At a certain point, this means inferior platforms can offer superior value to users. We see similar feedback loops from data growth, revenue growth, talent growth, brand, etc. Look at OpenSea today - it doesn’t own, or even exclusively retail any NFTs, it doesn’t own user accounts, payment information, etc. It even charges higher rates than many competitors. Yet its share is estimated at 80-90%. Habits, brand, ease of use, etc., all centralizes. And now OpenSea is valued at nearly $20B and is actively policing the NFT ecosystem. Recognizing the role of centralization - often good, terrible in extremes, and somewhat inevitable - is key to building a Metaverse we want. A few years ago, Tim Sweeney said “This Metaverse is going to be far more pervasive and powerful than anything else. If one central company gains control of this, they will become more powerful than any government and be a God on Earth.” To avoid this, we need to be really active and smart about which companies and technologies and business models we support, which regulations we advocate for, and what we build. The worst version of the Metaverse is one where the world is more centralized, gatekept, and controlled than it is today (I’d argue even today’s degree of centralization, but in the Metaverse era, would be awful). **\* (Q) What are your thoughts about GameStop, LoopRing, and Immutable-X ushering the world into Web 3.0? - u/Independent-Ad4660 (A) I’m an investor in/advisor to Dapper Labs and Polygon, which are leaders in NFTs, L2s/ZKRs, and in attracting Web3 game developers. They have incredible momentum and I have huge confidence in them. It wouldn’t be appropriate for me to get deep into my thoughts on competitors and alternatives. But I want to be clear: I don’t want or believe in single chain futures and I think the brilliance of these models is that liquidity/entitlements/graphs are not owned by single companies, and the stated and technical goals are interoperation and openness. Which is to say, those who deserve should and will win, and then need to keep fighting to deserve and retain the crown. What I can say is that so much of GameStop’s Metaverse opportunity depends, unfortunately, on regulation. Consider, for example, that none of the major gaming platforms (including iOS or Android) enable blockchain-based games outside the browser (and they limit browser-based ones, too). You can’t even buy an NFT in the OpenSea app! These platforms also don’t really support third party stores (e.g. no GameStop on iPhone or Xbox), nor third party entitlements management services. They also block third party game bundles. I’m a strategic optimist, but these are big restrictions for a company like GameStop - no matter the brand, community, aspirations, capital, it’s hard to get around these problems. And of course, one of the reasons why platforms love the end of physical media is they exclusively sell digital alternatives, then manage that right in perpetuity - meaning more margin versus a GameStop sale, and lock-in forever (can’t resell or take your disc elsewhere). These issues are at the heart of why Epic Games sued Apple and Google The good news is regulators are definitely coming here. I wrote more here: https://www.matthewball.vc/all/applemetaverse *** (Q) What's the most succinct and powerful answer you can give to a person who doubts the value of cryptocurrency, NFTs, the metaverse, etc.? - u/twincompassesaretwo (A) I would consider these different. It’s a bit like saying “tell me why digital payments, deeds, and electrification are so important”. Not a perfect analogy, but hopefully it comes across. More important than cryptocurrencies is the fundamental argument that blockchains are programmable money. Digital payments today are just facsimiles of credit card, ACH and wire services. There’s a lot of value in being able to contract into “money” and make money legible to software. This is why smart contracts are fast and easy, lawyers unneeded, staking/DeFi so fluid. This doesn’t require blockchains, though, to be clear. NFTs are a manifestation of this. If “money” is programmable, you can program whatever you like As for Metaverse https://www.reddit.com/r/Superstonk/comments/ucapbh/comment/i69xfzg/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3 **\* (Q) Hey u/ballmatthewtweets, I see a lot of talk about the Metaverse in terms of gaming and office work, but I work in Manufacturing and companies are quietly spending hundreds of millions investing in Metaverse tech for manufacturing field applications. I have recently started a new role as a Metaverse Engineer in manufacturing with the scope of developing the infrastructure to empower augmented workers in the field and bridge the gap between physical and digital assets in production environments. - u/cntry82txn (Q) How big of a game changer do you think the Industrial Metaverse is and why is it not being discussed as much in public? - u/dndpoppa (A) I like to describe the Metaverse as the fourth wave of computing and networking. The first was mainframes, from 1950s-1970s, the second was the PC and TCP/IP (the Internet Protocol Suite), from 1980s to late 2000s, then the most recent was mobile and cloud. We shouldn’t think of these as replacing the prior wave (there are more mainframes today than ever, we still use PCs and TCP/IP, etc), but building iteratively on top. Instead, they change who accesses computing and networking resources, when, where, why, and how, and so on. What’s interesting is that each of the prior three waves began and/or was first adopted by governments or mega enterprises. Consumer use cases were last. The Metaverse seems to be doing the reverse - and there are really good, fascinating reasons for why, which I get into my book but would require a chapter to get into here. But the result is we typically think of the Metaverse in consumer use cases in entertainment leisure. Of course, almost all of the value in the global economy sits everywhere. And so IF you believe the Metaverse is a successor state to prior eras, then it’s enterprise and industry which will be the primary use cases. It’s just not as exciting to talk about digital twins, automated plants with AR reporting, etc. Just as no one got excited about cloud CRM when talking about the Internet. In the fall, Johns Hopkins performed its first ever live patient surgery in XR. The surgeon, who also leads the neuroscience department, said it was like driving with GPS the first time. This is a great example. Today, we decide between Oculus and PS5. Oculus usually loses because it’s lower powered, with fewer and typically worse games, and a smaller player network - it might have some relative advantages, but not enough. Yet XR in industry isn’t an “or”. You don’t drive GPS instead of driving a car, you use the former with the latter. You define success like a surgeon does: better outcomes. This will be remarkably transformative. Have a look at the Atlanta Water Street Project in Unreal https://www.unrealengine.com/en-US/spotlights/transforming-real-estate-visualization-with-an-xr-based-digital-twin-of-tampa or Nvidia’s Omniverse collaborative simulation platforms. Real estate is the single largest asset class globally, and it’s being made legible to software. *** (Q) How would you elevator pitch the metaverse to someone like me that knows absolutely nothing about it? (A) Couldn’t resist and answered this yesterday! https://www.reddit.com/r/Superstonk/comments/ucapbh/comment/i69xfzg/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3 *** (Q) Thanks dude. I just want to know how you made your leap from MNR to what you're doing now. Much love - u/eatmykarma (A) Thanks u/eatmykarma. For other readers, MNR refers to the Ministry of Natural Resources. For two years, I was an initial attack wildfire fighter. Helicopters, drops, sleeping in tents, all that. I was based in Ontario, Canada, but we could be deployed anywhere, including the U.S. There was no clear leap. I was and remain very fortunate, but I worked hard, followed passions, knocked on a lot of doors (and kept coming back when ignored). Got a few breaks. Followed my passions. My writing has always been the big elevator. I loved my time firefighting (sometimes), though the damage to my knee is awful. A 54kg pump broke and kicked it in. *** (Q) Hey Matthew, your written work on the subject is incredible, you’re pretty much the go-to metaverse guy so it’s awesome to have you reach out to interact with us Apes, thank you! What’s your take on independent development companies creating their own VR-integrated metaverse? Do you think these projects have a chance to survive or will they get eaten up by the mega corps with unlimited funding etc? - u/YoitsPsilo I absolutely think they have a chance. RecRoom and VR chat are awesome and have more users than PS VR, any Oculus title, etc. Because we’re in this early transitional phase, it can be hard to assume anyone but today’s winners will thrive - they have the cash, assets, conviction, et al, to lead. Yet we were continuously taught over the last 30 years that this was not sufficient. Microsoft was as ahead and convinced of the mobile Internet as anymore, but they still ended up completely sideswiped on devices and browsers and web services. This was the result of many fundamental thesis errors. Facebook nearly lost mobile due to its bet on HTML5 over apps (they didn’t have a real app until 2012!) and spent many billions to get there (such M&A won’t be possible for the Metaverse). We see lots of this playing out today - there are different theses around VR versus AR, smartphones versus new devices, focusing on enterprise versus consumer, etc. One of the biggest challenges for these companies is always cultural feedback loops. If you spent 15 years building tech for, and rewarding employees for algorithmic optimization, does that skillset transfer to virtual social worlds and UGC economies? Probably not. A simple analogy. To thrive in the arcade era, a publisher had to make games that were (1) Great for 2-3 minutes of play; (2) Simple; and (3) Pay per use. This is because arcades were bought by businesses and shared devices. The introduction of consumer-grade gaming hardware (i.e. consoles) in the 1980s represented a ground-breaking change: suddenly you could game at home, play multiple titles, and, most importantly, save your progress. Saving meant games could have richer, longer, story-based narratives, and users could play endlessly without an additional fee. This was an entirely different experience. Being good at making Space Invaders or Pac-Man didn’t mean you’d be good at the next medium. Which is why the leading publishers of the arcade era didn’t lead in console, the console leaders don’t really thrive in mobile, or PC, or GAAS, and none in sandbox platforms like Roblox and Minecraft, etc. *** (Q) Any time anyone hears “NFT”, all they think about are scam JPEGs and that it’s bad for the environment, and it seems to me like this will be a significant hurdle. What are your thoughts on how the bad press surrounding NFTs can be overcome? - catsinbranches I agree with you. There’s a ton of scams out there. At the same time, there’s always scams at the next frontier. The Klondike Rush and rush to non-territorial West were real, but lots of fake shovels and deeds were sold. Many believe the cost ($ and environmental) will be solved. Solana claims their average transaction uses less energy than two Google searches. ZK and other L2 solutions are also helping. Part of the problem with, say, Ethereum, is that it treats every transaction like a $100,000 wire. There’s a reason Starbucks doesn’t ask for your zipcode, let alone your address and a signature, but the bank needs that and your ID. The intensity of a transaction should be commensurate with its importance. L2s and Zks do this by reducing security, processing time, etc, relative to their necessity. (And for what it’s worth, it’s not like going to bank to place a wire in person doesn’t have a very high allocated dollar and environmental cost compared to a $5 Venmo) *** (Q) Out of all the companies who have taken the initiative to become a pioneer in the industry by ushering in the era of the metaverse through innovation and technology, which company do you think has had the best approach/execution thus far and why? (A) Epic. They are relentlessly focused on finding ways to make it easier, cheaper, and faster for developers to build better and more lucrative experiences. To this end, they are more focused on the Metaverse’s GDP than their own revenue, knowing the latter will follow a thriving former. This is a brilliant thread https://twitter.com/mikeBithell/status/1469657086678245376?s=20&t=pNwfGd5JguVP8SzlQ2UIvA *** (Q) Ryan Cohen appears to be extremely selective about his tweets. Why then do you think he chose to reply to you, knowing full-well the strength of the microscope lens he is under just from this community, let alone the bad actors and SEC? - mikekal717 (A) Not a clue, but the financial press tagged him into the post a lot *** (Q) What would you say drives your interest in digital media? What did you find fascinating as a kid or young adult that led you down the path you’re now - - a_blue_ducks (A) I’ve always been fascinated with technology and storytelling. I ran a BlackBerry reseller business on Craigslist while in grammar and high school, moderated Digimon websites and message boards, imported manga in the pre-Ebay days and loved Dragon Ball, Zelda, Metal Gear and all that. I try to build or write about the stuff I love and want to see. Finished up but more replies below! submitted by /u/ballmatthewtweets to r/Superstonk [link] [comments]

This happened during Christmas last year. My older sister has always been a handful one might say. She would generally act entitled, but then when someone makes her back off, she goes back to acting normal for a while before starting it all over. She got married a decade ago and has two young sons that are 5 and 6. And every year she makes sure there's something extra under the tree from Santa for them. Which we're all fine with. But Christmas of 2021 she did something that blew my mind. The Christmas Eve gatherings with the whole family are usually held at my grandparents' house. That way the individual families have their personal celebrations on Christmas Day with their own kids, or with families of SOs or spouses. Last year I was worried I might not make it to the Christmas Eve party as I was away on some personal matters. So I shipped the presents I got for relatives prewrapped in a large box to my grandparents' house just in case. But I did manage to make it home the day before Christmas Eve by driving through several states. Everything went well, and we had the big dinner with both turkey and ham. I am real sucker for the turkey. Then came time for gifts. We draw straws for who passes around the gifts among the younger members of the family, and my 15 year old cousin pulled the short straw. Everything was good until the presents I got for my nephews were passed to them. All the presents I sent in advance used the same wrapping paper. So it was pretty obvious after a while which ones were from me. But when the two boys got the ones I gave them, my sister pointed to new name labels on them both that were clearly pasted over the ones I'd put on them and exclaimed they were from Santa. Which made the two boys eagerly open them and shout with glee. I was pretty angry, and my sister saw it on my face. She pulled me aside to talk and I asked her what the hell she thought she was doing. She beat around the bush for a moment and said that since she thought I wasn't going to make it to Christmas that year, that it would have been better if the kids thought the gifts were from Santa. I was furious and yelled at her. That caught the attention of my grandmother, who'd also knew what happened. She begged me to keep quiet about the false Santa gifts, but I blew up over her wanting to rugsweep. And that attracted half the family into the kitchen to ask what all the yelling was about. My sister tried to say something, but I spoke over her that she'd rebranded the gifts I got for my nephews as being from Santa. My grandfather looked at her and said "Is this true?!". My sister looked emotional and then did what she usually did when called out on something this bad. She started sobbing like a little kid and crouched down on the floor to have a pity party. Between sobs she kept trying to defend herself. But the only one that was buying into her act was my grandmother, who only made more excuses like what my sister said. They thought I wasn't going to be there. It was for the sake of the children. ETC. ETC. My grandfather was unphased though. And he along with several other members of the family said that she needed to make it up to me for this. Because that means the boys technically got nothing from me that they know of when I clearly gave them nice expensive gifts that now they won't know ever came from me just because of what my sister did. My grandmother finally backed off and briefly sided with the rest of us before going out to the living room to watch the kids. I then had an idea and said that I will give each of my nephews $50 bills from my wallet. And I expect to be paid that money back and get paid back for the gifts that were no longer from me because my sister had commandeered them. My brother-in-law sighed and agreed. Then dragged my sister to the garage to have words with her. I gave my nephews each a crisp $50 bill and told them to buy whatever they like with it. My sister spent the rest of the evening almost silent. No more tears or anything. Just silent. She may as well have been a mannequin on display or something. And before I left, my brother-in-law promised my sister will personally pay me back. I thought I was gonna have to wait a good while to get the money back. But yesterday my sister and brother-in-law came knocking at my door and my sister meekly handed me an envelope with $200 in it and apologized to me. She started to make more excuses for what she did when brother-in-law told her to just stop. Because what she did was a crummy thing and she knows there was no excuse for it. So she just apologized one more time and walked back to their car loudly sniffling on a tissue. My brother-in-law told me the $200 came from out of my sister's account. And that was basically her fun money for this month. And maybe having a leaner month will teach her a lesson. Probably not though. [Edit] Sorry I forgot to include my gender in this. I'm a guy in my early 30s. [Edit 2] I'm getting tired of so many messages from people talking about how I should have let the situation go. And that in their family branding gifts for the kids as being from Santa is normal. Newsflash for you people. Your family is not mine! My parents never did Santa gifts. Hardly any of my relatives ever did either. The only ones who really do anymore are my sister and BIL. And someone also pointed out a great fact. To get gifts from Santa on Christmas Eve, Santa would have to be a day early. I played along just enough that nothing was ruined for my nephews. And some acted like what I did was out of validation or competition. It wasn't. It was to teach my sister a lesson. I try to give to all kids in my close family equally on Christmas Eve, and I never outshine their parents on any gifts. And because of my sister's narcissistic logic, the two presents from me to my nephews were made to be no longer from me. So I gave each of the kids $50, which was the value of the things I'd gotten them. RC cars if anyone was wondering. Also, if any of you actually knew my sister like I do, practically none of you aside from trolls would stick up for what she did with the presents. 30+ years I've dealt with her antics. So here's a taste of what she did to me. She shaved part of my head in my sleep when I was 16. Had to have the rest of my head shaved before going back to school. She physically attacked me for not getting her way many times. It wasn't until I actually fought back hard enough that I almost badly hurt her that she finally stopped laying her hands on me. After that she switched tactics to emotional abuse and terrible pranks. One of the things she did was to sign my name up for various adult magazines. And I mean the really creepy gross ones. And they were not only sent to where I lived, but also to my parents and numerous other relatives. Which made them question why they were getting magazines for that crap with my name on them in their mail. I only found out it was my sister that did that because one of her friends came forward and told us. And my sister reacted by throwing a huge fit over how she'd ruined her best prank and cut out said friend. Said friend is now my friend. And we even briefly dated. My sister also passed my number and picture around town telling people I was gay. Which made my phone blow up with calls and texts from people who were looking for a good time. I had to have my number changed like five times to make it stop. My sister also signed my email up for crazy things too. Had to repeatedly change my email because she kept somehow getting it. The only way I got that shit to finally stop was by threatening to tell BIL what she was really like when they were dating. She was actually mad at me for ruining her fun. Then she put on a complete nice girl act and married BIL. Whom we all managed to convince to get a prenup before marrying her. So my sister switching the tags on the gifts for my nephews to be from Santa was just the latest in a long line of her shit. Shit that I won't stand for. If I'd let it slide, she most certainly would have done it again, and kept doing so till someone made her stop. I had to stop it now. Otherwise it would have kept going. Some have stated that I'm too angry. Let's see you go through everything I just listed and not be angry. I've been to both therapy and counseling. They actually found my anger towards my sister justifiable because they were appalled when I unloaded on them all of the things my sister did. Especially since I only let that anger out when she does something bad to me anymore. I could be angry all the time or every time I see her. But I am not. Just angry when she makes me angry. submitted by /u/Not-Santa-Throwaway to r/entitledparents [link] [comments]

THIS POST IS FOR ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY NOT LEGAL ADVICE; NO ATTORNEY-CLIENT PRIVILEGE IS CREATED BY THIS COMMUNICATION; THIS IS DEFINITELY NOT FINANCIAL ADVICE, I BLEND MY CRAYONS WITH MY MORNING SHAKE TO REALLY GIVE IT THAT NICE CRAYON-Y FLAVOR. FINAL EDIT Hi all, work is whipping up, so I gotta run. Thanks for all of your questions and I'll be lurking in the shadows if you need to come find me. BYE!! (104 PM PDT) Quick edit (1139 AM PDT): I'll be going to lunch at 12:30 PDT to take off my pants for the last 30 minutes of the market so my boner doesn't rip my zipper, so if you have questions and they're not getting answered I will do my very very best to get to them once the market has closed and I've eaten my lunch. A few edits: This is for US Based Apes only. I am sorry, CA/UK/EU/Beyond apes, my magic is limited to this country. :( BEWARE: IF YOU LIVE IN LOUISIANA as your laws are basically based on France's old Civil Code and may not conform to ANYTHING resembling the rest of the union. DEFINITELY seek professional counsel IN LOUISIANA or BARRED IN LOUISIANA for help. Hello all. I am a fully licensed attorney in two states (happy to provide proof to mods upon request!) and I wanted to drop my .02 and give you a little (not legal) advice on behalf of someone who works with lawyers all day and every day. You're about to be rich - protect everything you have. So here we are at the brink of a totally new era of financial stability for a lot of people. How many of you have a minimum insurance policy on your car/apartment/home? Show of hands? Okay, put them down. That's a lot of you. The first thing you need to do is immediately protect your property to the fullest extent possible as someone with a high net-worth is basically a giant bullseye for dicks who will sue you for anything and everything simply because they know that you are "the deep pocket" as we say in the law. Personally, I carry a $250,000/$500,000 policy on my vehicle with a $1M Personal Liability Umbrella for about $131/mo. YMMV based on zip codes, your credit, and what you drive but whatever it is, is it worse than getting hit with a shitty frivolous lawsuit because you bumped them at 3 mph and they have a fuckton of crooked doctors who will swear to anything as long as they get cut. Trust me. I know. I fight these people on a DAILY BASIS. There are policies available for every conceivable situation and some brokers may not have what you need. Do your DD or see a licensed professional for help. For instance, that new Lambo you're gonna buy? Most insurers won't touch it and if you're under 25, best of luck. There are specialty insurance companies who serve that area. HOWEVER there are also a LOT of shady insurance agencies who will happily take your premium and then smile while they write you the minimum policy limits you bought because you weren't paying attention. coughTheGeneralcough All Attorneys are NOT the Same Would you go to a barber to have your oil changed? FUCK NO. Then why would you go to an attorney who doesn't do what you want them to do. I used to be what is called a "General Practictoner" because that is what my father did before me for 30+ years. I got out of that game and focused (notice I didn't say specialized...more on that later) on a small area of practice and carved out my niche because no one wants a Jack of All Trades anymore in 2021. In the case of Tax and other Financially related areas of practice, you want someone who focused on these areas and these areas almost solely. By the time you finish reading this sentence, the tax law has changed and those attorneys who do that kind of thing have received an email alert from WestLaw telling them that the law changed and to make note of it. See, it just changed again. Your Friends (and you) are Not Good with Money I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but they're not and you're not. Talk to your accountant and your attorney about money; talk about boobs/dongs with your friends. An attorney who deals in trusts and estates can help you set up whatever kinds of trusts are available in your state. They vary from state to state by statute, so don't try to copy-paste something you find online. Also, for the love of everything holy, do not AND I CANNOT STRESS THIS ENOUGH, do not try to create your own trusts unless you know what the fuck you're doing. You may think you're saving some money by copying something you see online but if you set the thing up wrong, you could end up double or even triple taxing yourself and really doing some irreversible damage. You're an adult with adult money now. Go see a professional. DIY is for home projects not the protection of potentially multi-generationally held assets. Get Recommendations From an Accredited Organization Finding a lawyer should not be done by "letting your fingers do the walking" - holy shit, I'm so old that I remember what that actually means - instead you should get recommendations from the State Bar Association if you have one or a local City/County association. If you live in a Metropolis, there is one there. 100% sure of that. If you're from more rural surroundings, call your State Bar. They have lists of lawyers who have agreed to be on the list and usually have agreed to a certain number of conditions including, but not limited to - maintaining Malpractice Insurance in states where it is not compulsory and/or a statement no disciplinary actions (public and/or private) in any state. However, no matter what you do, research that firm/person. They may not have a public/private discipline record but they might be enormous assholes. Sometimes you want that, but sometimes you really don't. You want to mesh with this person - not like socially or anything - but in a sense that you would not cringe anytime they call or when you need to call them. As for "specialization" (see, I came back for it) some states do NOT allow an attorney to say that they "specialize" in an area of practice unless they are accredited by a smaller sub-bar association who deals with that kind of accreditation. Do your DD. Tax Haven States A fun little loophole rich people like to do is create corporations in tax free states like Montana or Oregon and then have that corporation own the property. Why? Because you may not have to pay tax on huge purchases because you don't own them, the corporation in Montana owns it. Ever wonder why SOOO MANY supercars in the US have Montana plates? Well, now you know. No one in their right mind wants to purchase a $350,000 car and then have to cough up another $35,000 in TAX. DEFINITELY TALK TO A PROFESSIONAL ABOUT THIS ONE. The loopholes are closing slowly and if you don't want to end up with your nuts/labia caught in the loop when it tightens, you better have some help. Parting Thoughts So, that's all I can think of while I procrastinate and eat some snacks while I watch Kenny and the Gang gasp for air as the water rises around them. I am at work until 5 PM PDT so, I may not be EXTREMELY responsive but I will endeavor to answer as many questions or concerns as I can. Glory in the Highest to DFV and RC. May they bless and protect our Crayon and Tendie Sandos forever and ever. Amen. submitted by /u/dodecaphonicism to r/Superstonk [link] [comments]

Yesterday we had a Springtime Festival hosted by my grandmother's school. It was a small thing, with only about 100 people showing up, but this was a concentrated mess of EP's, an amalgamation of all the seven deadly sins: Lust, Gluttony, Greed, Sloth, Wrath, Envy and pride. And today I'll share stories of all these happening in the span of 8 hours, but first, more backstory. The event was a small fundraiser for the school, as well as a competition for Potjiekos so many of the school's students came along with families and family friends and most of us were in a pretty great mood. I was stationed at the games area managing two different games; namely Pop-a-balloon and Ring toss; most of the time just making sure kids payed, played fair and got the prizes they deserved. One other thing to note is that since there was a competition for the potjiekos, people who wanted to vote for the best tasting dish had to buy a single use meal ticket to get a serving of food, vote, and stand a chance to win a prize raffle at the end of the event. Names will be standard as always: Entitled parent- EP, Magnificent Enigma- Me. Now, ON TO THE SEVEN DEADLY SINS! Edit #1: I've seen a lot of people freak out over a $400 Nerf gun, to clarify however, all these dollars are based in Namibian Dollars (NAD), which is roughly N$14 = $1. Lust This one, in my opinion was one of the worst, considering the event was held at a school with kids around. EP decided her and her partner needed some... alone time and thought that my games tent would be the best place to do exactly that, as it had a closing zip flap. Approaching me with her lover the following conversation happened: EP: Hey there, I was wondering if you could help us out? Me: Sure thing, what do you two need? EP: Well, our kids are having a ball and well, hubby and I didn't have time for eachother for a long time and we were hoping you'd tell the kids you're closed so we can use your tent? Me: You want me, to tell kids, that the ALL DAY GAMES BOOTH is closed, because some adults want to f*ck? EP: It sounds bad when you say it like that! just tell them we want to cuddle for a while... I'll make it worth your while *At this she reached into the man's pocket, pulling out a crumpling 10 dollar bill (something that here is basically enough to buy a soda)* Me: Yeah no, I think you'll have more luck trying the bathrooms, and if you keep asking me to do anything I'll call a teacher to escort you out. EP: You are such a brat you know! People like you are why romance is dying! Me: If you think f*cking in a tent in public is romantic I'm glad I killed that. EP turned and walked away with a huff, strangely enough the guy looking at me with a very sad "help me" expression. ​ Gluttony Once it was about 1 in the afternoon, an announcement was made that the games and entertainment would be temporarily closed, to allow everyone to head over to the food stalls of the festival and get some food. everyone seemed to be in good spirits and the smells were really great, and this attracted people from across the street to attend the festivals as well, everyone taking their portions of food from the chefs they deemed looked like 1st prize materiel. And as always, EP had to make sure he got everything even if that meant nobody got anything. He was a heavy set man thundering his way past other people and I'm pretty sure his gut knocked a kid over in the process. He brought his own plate and it was more akin to a cake pan than a plate. Heaping up a large portion of rice, as well as macaroni and five pieces of cornbread he helped himself to massive helpings of around 5 people's cooking, most of them in pure shock as the food kept getting piled higher and higher. At one cooking station I stood behind him and saw the stew levels drop by about an inch while he served himself. The entitled part of this story? He never even finished his plate. ​ Greed Back to the gaming booth we have a wonderful example of a cookie monster we'll call Satan spawn the first (SS1 for reference). SS1 was a typical bratty kid, trying to cut in line and trying his best to cheat without getting caught, typical of a 8 year old you say, but SS1 is special, SS1 was in 9th grade (15 years old). Everytime he cut in line, I ignored him until I reached the kid he could've gotten behind, then just maybe I'd take his tickets and he can play. It wasn't long until SS1 was banned from playing pop-a-ballon as he tried to throw me with a dart while I was setting up the balloons, commanding me to go faster. In ring toss he wasn't far away from a ban due to his major lack in listening to the rules, standing with his whole body across the throwing line while leaving his one foot in there and claiming he still was behind the line. I didn't care as SS1 couldn't throw for shit no matter how much he cheated. The last time however, as he was waiting his turn (outside the line of course), one of the smaller kids managed to pop five balloons consecutively, winning himself the best prize: a Nerf Elite Infinus gun sponsored by a toy store as the school was a long time advertiser of the store. SS1 threw a fit, basically screaching as he tore the gun from the small kid (maybe about 8 years old that time) and started running away. Thankfully one of the older kids managed to trip him and we got the gun back. Calling his parents to which the following occurred: EP: WHY IS MY SON CRYING?! WHAT DID YOU DO TO HIM?! *I explained the situation to her and told her that due to his behavior he was not allowed near the games booth again* EP: But if he really wanted that toy why didn't you give it to him? Me: Miss, another kid has already won it fair and square, if your son wanted it so badly he should've played better at the games. EP: Well why don't you give my son that gun and the other kid could have... this *she points to an RC car in the second last prize pool, kneeling down to the kid to try and convince him he wants the car instead. He wasn't taking the bait* *EP got upset and tried to threaten to get the boy into trouble with his parents, and he just darts out of her clutches into the crowd* EP: THAT BOY STOLE YOUR GUN?! ARE YOU NOT GONNA CALL SOMEONE TO GET IT FROM HIM?! *pointing to me* Me: No, because he won it as I said. EP look at me in disgust, and walks away with a bawling 15 year old boy. ​ Sloth This one is not as bad, but still, really trashy in my opinion. One of the contestants for the competition would constantly be sitting on a chair, drinking beers while either his son or his wife tends to the food, with him barking out orders. And whenever someone said something about his food, complementing it, he was quick to say that it all came from a good amount of hard work. Yeah right. ​ Wrath Not much that I can say for this one. One entitled parent thought that they were Gordon Ramsey and insulted everyone else's food, hollering at customers when they didn't take food from him, and threatening to punch me when I made a comment of him being crazy. ​ Envy This one ties into the story of greed, as SS1 makes a return appearance along with another stellar cast member, Satan spawn the second (SS2). Since SS1 was banned from the games booth following his Nerf meltdown he resorted to using his little brother to get his new sought after prize, a Nerf Elite Firestrike pistol. The only kink in his plan was his brother didn't fare any better, and he soon called his mom again to... Mediate a deal. EP: How much for that toy gun? Me: five points with the balloon pop and three rings tossed on the center pole. But your son won't be winning it as he isn't allowed to play anymore. EP: No, I mean how much can I buy it for with cash? Me: I think about 10 thousand dollars might do the trick (This was purposefully an exaggeration as the guns cost about 400 dollars here). EP: What?! you can't be serious. What else do you want for that gun? Me: Five points at the balloons, three rings on the center pole. EP: But you said my son can't play! Me: I'm sorry miss. He should've thought about what he did before he tried stealing another kid's prize. After this tirade EP and both SS's walked a short distance away as all of them glared at the kids slowly but surely pecking away at the larger prizes, their faces becoming sour by every win, it was satisfying to say the least, I even gave them a little wave when a large prize is won. Pride The sin of pride reared it's ugly head at the end of the day following the raffle and the final calls for the winner. The raffle going smoothly and afterwards came the competition conclusion, fourth, third, and second came and went, the announcer keeping a lighthearted atmosphere as he joked with the contestants, giving them their prize and thanking them for their effort. EP from wrath then assumed he would naturally be first as of course, Gordon Ramsey makes the best food, and took the mic from the announcer and thanking everyone for their votes, saying how glad he is to win. After a couple of minutes of stunned silence the EP turned to face the announcer to ask if he did on fact win. The announcer shook his head and to this EP's amazement, another person in fact had won. With a loud "F*CK" he tossed the mic on the ground and stormed off, pissed at the world. ​ A fun day overall, save for the sins. For each EP there were ten other parents who appreciated the work we were doing, and I've even gotten tips from some of them! submitted by /u/AcetheWolf195 to r/entitledparents [link] [comments]