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For context I manage a Hair & Makeup freelance business. I do all client communications, payroll, book additional artists for larger jobs when we need extra hands, etc. I am also a makeup artist so I work on clients as well. The owner of the company (we will call him Bill) is also a makeup artist and hair stylist. I get a base pay each week to run the business and when I do clients I get paid for each of them. But he does most of the clients since he also does hair and has a lot of regulars for cuts, colors etc. Bill has a trip planned to go out of the country to visit family for 2 weeks. This trip has been planned for several months. Bill is the type of person who gets very anxious and spirals, creates issues in his head that haven’t even begun etc. I talk him down off of ledges often. He is a workaholic and will literally say yes to every single client, even if we don’t necessarily have space in our schedule for them. But at the same time, he will complain about how he’s always working and never has time off or time to himself. He will have complete meltdowns over how exhausted he is. Even though he’s the cause of his own exhaustion. He has been worried about not having income during the time he is gone. He mentioned maybe a few weeks ago that maybe he should take the work phone with him and handle client communication while he is gone so he doesn’t have to pay me since he won’t have income during those 2 weeks. I told him I didn’t think that was necessary and if money became an issue we would figure it out. It’s something that has happened during times when business was slow and we figured it out. We have been posting on social media about him being out of town, but that I will still be here to take clients. However it’s Summer, kids are getting out of school, people are going on vacation. So things are generally slow for us in June/July. So he sends me this text a couple days ago. Am I wrong for being upset by this? No clear conversation with a conclusion was ever had about this. Then the fact that he tries to say that *I* never brought it back up?! It’s not my trip nor my responsibility to since this was his concern. Mentioning that we should have posted about him being out of town more literally is irrelevant. It doesn’t hurt or help. It just makes people aware that he isn’t available. I was under the impression it would be business as usual on my end. It’s truly not even about the money. It’s about the way this has been handled and lack of concern for my personal finances and overall lack of accountability. I’m really just disgusted and frustrated by this. So AIO? submitted by /u/Icy-Purpose4990 to r/AmIOverreacting [link] [comments]

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/Virgo514 Originally posted to r/AmItheAsshole Previous BORUs #1 by LucyAriaRose #2 by u/insafian #3 by LucyAriaRose #4 by u/insafian Status: Concluded Trigger Warning: Emotional Neglect Mood Spoiler: optimistic Original (AITA for telling my husband he works for himself not for our family) - Jan 19th 2024 My husband and I have known each other for 6 years and been married for almost 3 years now. We have a one year old, and we're expecting another baby. Our marriage has been full of emotional highs, we love each other and let the other know regularly. My husband has a 9 - 5 job after which he is also a tutor. He had started this back when we were in college, and it was never an issue, he always had enough time. Even in the years leading up to the marriage and the first year of our marriage, this was never a big issue. However, in the last year or so it's become a big issue, and it's getting worse. He keeps on adding more classes to his schedule. Until last month we had a red line that no classes on Sunday, he would devote that entire time to us. But last month he even added a class on Sunday on the excuse that exams are starting. It started to feel like me and my son weren't a priority to him anymore. Some days he comes home at 11. On other days he's doing it online but that's not much better because he still can't give us any time. Last Sunday, I finally spoke out and told him he was neglecting his family. He was offended and told me that he doesn't enjoy having to work so hard but he's doing it for our family. This is where I told him that no, I think he does enjoy it, it gives him an excuse to not spend time with us, and that he was doing this for himself not for us. As things currently stand, our collective income is more than enough, there really was no need for him to add more classes on top of his existing ones, he's doing it for himself at this point. He's literally busy Monday - Saturday and now he's trying to cross the red line we established for Sunday. We've been on bad terms since this fight. He keeps saying he can't believe that I said he works for himself not for us. AITA here? Relevant Comments: Comment 1 ( downvoted): It’s going to be hard and you’re going to have to grit your teeth through it, but if he is working all the time to support his family. Love the man and cherish the little time you get with him. He’s grinding to support yall. Would you rather you spend all the time in the world together and living in squalor or on the streets? Please support him while he supports his family. Hell have you told him you’re proud of him working so hard? OP: I have a 9 -5 job too, and like I said our collective income covers our expenses and then some. If that weren't the case ofcourse I wouldn't be angry, I would understand. But given the situation, the fact that he took away the one day we get together just because "it's exam season" really got to me. I also want to make clear I absolutely appreciate how he provides for us to give us a great standard of living. And I've told him this many times. But now it feels like he's adding more work to disengage. Comment 2: Info: Did he grow up lower income? His father may have worked himself to the bone to keep them above water. So it may be all he knows. OP: No, both his parents are doctors. That was certainly not the case. Comment 3: INFO: I see where you’re coming from but I gotta ask - you sound like you feel secure about your financial situation. But does he? You’re expecting another kid. You have a 1-year old with another on the way. I don’t know where you’re based, but certain regions are more expensive than others for families to live in. Based on just that information alone, there could be plenty of thought put behind whether or not you guys have the financial stability for the future. You clearly think so, but does your husband? Have you ever had that conversation with him, fruitfully, honestly, about the objective truth of your financial stability AND his and your thoughts on it? OP: Yes, we had that discussion before. We talked about how since we're already comfortable, there shouldn't be any need to have a class on Sunday. In fact at the time, I also thought he should cut down on his existing classes but relented on the Sunday agreement. I didn't think the numbers were important, but a lot of comments (not you) seem to doubt my judgement that we're stable. I'm an accountant who makes $70k/year. My husband is a software engineer who makes around over $100k. And based on how many students he teaches and how many classes he has, he makes over $100k from that. Our household income covers our expenses. I'm an accountant, this is kind of my bread and butter. Update 1 - Jan 20th 2024 Thank you for the feedback in the last post. The comments said that me asking him to adhere to the boundaries we established was reasonable. Some comments also suggested that I should not have implied that he works just to get away, so I was a little apologetic as well. After he came back I decided to talk to him about this. The conversation was a bit of a trainwreck. I brought up the fact that our income far exceeds ur current and projected expenses. That me and our son were missing him, and needed him to spend more time with us, and I made sure to stress that I appreciated all that he did. It just seemed like we were on completely different wavelengths. He said he kept on taking more lessons and students because he wanted us to have a good standard of living, have better vacations, better schools, a second house. I was dumbfounded. I never knew he felt that way. I stressed our current standard of living was great, we make enough money, and that if he thinks that way there's no end in sight. What if he decided we should also have a third house or something? Right now I needed him with me. At this point, I kind of lost control and started crying. I didn't mean to, it wasn't something I wanted to do to pressure him or anything, just the fact that we were at an impasse was wrecking me. I told him I'd been feeling unhappy, that I kept compromising and he reneged on it. After some more crying and consoling, my husband agreed that Sunday should have remained off-limits. He gently asked me to give him a pass for one more Sunday, because his students exams end next week, and he would make Sunday untouchable the following semester onwards. He also promised to try to resize his classes in order to be able to come back home for dinner even if it's late dinner. He asked for time to do all this. I've given it to him and I know he loves us enough to do what he promised. Thanks for the feedback to the original post. Relevant Comments Comment 1: You need to tell him that he needs to get right with his family and you right now. Or he might be living in that third house alone. Play him "Cat's in the Cradle" as background music. OP: I would like the changes to happen immediately but I want those changes to be permanent. If he does something at a snap right now but has to go back that would suck. So I'm just giving him the time to make those sustainable changes. I'm getting our Sunday back after the next one which is progress. At least we're back to the red line. He said he'd already booked a lot of classes for the next semester, so he just asked for time to discuss and rearrange them since he can't just say no to his students after agreeing. He was earnest, I believe I made it known to him the toll its been taking on me, and he will make the necessary changes. Comment 2: OP. You did a good job and took an important first step. I think it would be unrealistic for him to do a complete 180 after this conversation, and this is a necessary stepping stone. I’m usually very negative about relationships, but it disheartened me to see all the top comments being so negative when you took the time to update us and you didn’t need to. I hope things continue to improve for you OP: Thank you. I had thought I did good, and then found out a lot of people here disagreed, so I started doubting how I did. I appreciate what everyone is saying, but he's a loving husband, friend, and father, it's just this one issue that's just gotten out of hand, I cant think of packing my bags. I believe he was neglecting us, but during the conversation realized he didn't know the extent to which it was affecting us. The classes issue has been getting bigger and bigger over time, so I realize fixing it will require some time, I'm just going to make sure I see him do it. Comment 3: Have you guys considered hiring a maid/nanny to help with household duties? If your making enough money it could be worth the investment to reduce your burden OP: Ya, that came up in the conversation and I'm looking into it. My job is wfh two days of the week so that helps, and my mom lives close by which is super helpful too. Most days I manage the household and child rearing without any issues. Like it's not like I plan to give him a list of errands to run on the days he's in the house, but him just being physically present is something I'm missing now, and he's promised to remedy it as well he can. Comment 4: The biggest problem I see is that his self-worth is being validated by his students and classes - more than by his own family. He likes how teaching makes him feel, and he doesn't get the same validation from being just a husband and father. So, he will continue to prefer working as much as he can. And it's a double whammy because he justifies the extra work is for his family, so he feels doubly validated for doing "good" things. OP: Your comment stayed with me for some reason, and I kept coming back to it. I asked him yesterday if he enjoyed teaching Physics and Math for hours on end, that he works so long how does he not start hating it. (I didn't bring up the topic of reduced hours or Sunday because we already have an agreement on that for now). He said he does like it. After some more inconspicuous needling he told me he enjoys the fact that so many people trust that he can make them understand stuff and better their grades/future. I didn't go further into it. But your comment really helped give me some insight. Thank you so much. Update 2 - March 11th 2025 Around a year ago I had been having issues with my husband regarding his tutoring schedule and had come here to know if I was in the wrong. A few people had asked me to let them know if things improve or continue to deteriorate. We're in a better place now. We've been blessed with a daughter now too. He has become better at handling his workload and tutors primarily online now. I know I had said at the time that that's not much better but it really is. Sundays have become sacrosanct again(with very rare exceptions that he asks my approval for in advance), and Wednesdays are free now too. He does more group tutoring now and so gets done by 8 30 most days too. He also got a new day job which is entirely wfh, which has made things much better because he isn't so burnt out anymore. In the weeks following up to my daughters arrival, he'd been by my side(especially since she arrived during the summer when school is out).I also took some advice from here and hired help to ease the burden which has worked out really well. I've also learned to embrace the fact that his tutoring gives him joy which maybe his software development job doesn't. He seems to be proud when his students get into good universities, and that it results in even more students. He still claims to do it for purely financial reasons but I know that can't be completely true, because our financial needs really do not require it. So it must be something he enjoys. So I've become more understanding on that front too. I have had to put my foot down a few times though especially in the initial days following our conversation to make sure he understands that I was serious about needing his presence more. I had also confided in his older sister about this issue (which he was NOT happy about at the time and was probably an accidental AH move on my end) but it helped. They had an argument, she straight up told him he was either going to end up working his way into an early grave at the age of 30 or ending up divorced, which helped. Full disclosure the only time we ever really argue is still about this when I'll want him to be free but he won't be. But it's rare and overall we've come up with a good balance that seems to be working for us. Thank you. Relevant Comments Comment 1: This is so sad. Imagine having to go through all of this to force your spouse to spend time with you and your kid. It's sad that your idea of "better" is still him barely being around except for one full day a week. At the end of the day, if the choice was up to him, he would rather spend time tutoring than with you and his own child. That's because he's not doing it for money like he said. He doing it so he doesn't have to be around you guys. It's so sad that you've accepted it. Comment 2: It sounds as if the situation is still sort of a "work in progress," but is getting more positive for both of you and resentment isn't growing on either side. That's good, and congratulations on your daughter. New post by OP (AITA for telling my husband I'll go on vacation with the kids and my best friend if he's too busy with work) - November 5th 2025 My husband and I have been married for over 4 years. Our son is 3 and our daughter is 16 months old. My husband has a busy schedule, due to both his day job and his business after that and on Saturdays (and sometimes if I'm ok with it, Sundays). We had planned to go to Spain at the end of December for a couple of weeks. Like we've bought tickets, booked a hotel, talked about how we'll spend our two weeks there. Last weekend he asked if we could postpone our trip to the end of June. Like a literal six months after we're supposed to go. I said no, it was so unfair that he was pulling this at the last minute. He asked me to understand that his business required him to suddenly change his plans, that it was important, that hed been looking forward to this down time as much as I had. To provide more context this isnt the first time this has been an issue. His business hours had been an issue over the past 2 to 3 years. He'd made changes and organized his hours better and his job had become wfh too, so we had struck a balance that I could be ok with. But his business hours again started infringing on our family time, and he'd been promoted to a managerial role at his day job so he was now going in to work on some days too. I told him I'd been looking forward to this for so long, counting days till our vacation. I told him I'll be going regardless whether he wants to come or not, and if he doesnt want to come we can get a refund and my best friend can go in his place. Admittedly I was just lashing out I have no idea of the logistics of it. Yesterday I asked him again what his plan was. He tried to show me messages from his clients to show how busy he was during that period, I told him I don't care. He gave me his word. According to him I'm being unreasonable. I wanted to know AITA here. Also, I dont even know if its logistically feasible and I dont want it to come to it, but would I be the AH if I actually went on vacation and took my best friend along? Relevant Comments Comment 1: INFO: what’s the financial situation? Does he need to be working a second job, and does he really need to please this client this much? OP: Our financial situation is well in the green. Tending to These clients during those two weeks won't make or break us. Comment 2: He needs to either set the boundary with his clients that he won’t be available those 2 weeks, or do the work remotely from Spain. His business is tutoring students, if he lets them know now, he can plan what’s he’s tutoring them on to get them ready for exams before he goes away. Definitely hold your ground on this. From your previous posts he has a real issue with over-working and not prioritising family. It’s like he feels like he’s failing if he relaxes - and that’s not good for his health long-term, or his marriage. OP: Thanks. I agree and maybe thats the compromise I can go with. That he can do it online from there. Its not ideal, I'm not wild about him doing his classes while we're on vacation but at least we'll be together. I'll think about it. Also, I just realized my profile was available for people to see my previous posts. It sounds wrong but I was trying to keep the business vague rather than mention that its his tutoring business because when that gets mentioned, everyone becomes a lot more sympathetic about the work. But its not a charity he's running, its his business. Comment 3: The tutoring thing makes him look worse, honestly. He could easily have told his students he's not going to be available those weeks months ago. And that's even before I peaked your profile and saw you were the one who posted previously about what a workaholic your husband is. If you do delay the vacation, you know he's just going to cancel again, right? He's addicted to working and this is never going to end. OP: I'm surprised and honestly relieved that his business being tutoring isn't clouding people's judgement. It definitely does irl. If I ever in passing talk about how busy he is, everyone, including my own mom lol, is like yeah it sucks but also look at how many students future he's securing. At this point I just honestly want to reply with what about our kids. My kids get his undivided attention less than other people's kids. I know it sounds horrible lol Comment 4: Knowing what the business is actually makes me more sympathetic about you. It’s not like he’s a contractor and that maybe something unexpected happened and X project got delayed and suddenly he needs the time. If he’s tutoring students, then LITERALLY HE CHOOSES HOW TO FILL HIS AGENDA. A responsible father/husband would block his agenda for those vacation days, make plans with the students, and would be very clear with his boundaries. Unfortunately, your family is not a priority for him, and doesn’t know how (or doesn’t want to) make you guys a priority. And besides that, Spain in June is full summer, and the heat is reaaaaaally strong. December yes, it’s winter, but depending where you’re going, it would be a better weather. Finally, I would bet ANYTHING that if you agreed, you would be having this same conversation in May. NTA, go on that trip OP and have a great time with your kids. OP: Exactly, I know Spain is going to be so hot in the summer, thats why I don't want to delay it. We had planned on being outside and going places and walking in the heat with out kids doesn't sound like fun. He knows he has to make us a priority and he'd been trying to juggle it well, and doing well with it too. But his classes just get more filled up every semester. I handle the finances so I can see it. I've made the case to him that he should just cap it now but that doesn't go anywhere. And then his new role at his software job also messed up the balance we had. Comment 5: Girl, girl. I remember your previous posts now! You are so NTA. Your husband is pulling this crap again?? He literally sets his own schedule. He scheduled these students KNOWING you already had a vacation planned. What is the deal? He’s not the most important tutor in the world. These kids can find another tutor if he’s full. If this was totally unexpected or he was like the only doctor in the world who could perform a lifesaving surgery during that week I would feel a little more sympathy. But he’s literally doing this to himself. And he’s doing it to you. I’m so mad for you. When is he going to start prioritizing his family?? I mean seriously if you go to Spain by yourself is that really all that different from the life you’re living right now when he’s working all the time?! OP: I'm going to bring up the idea of him doing his classes while in Spain (with boundaries). Its not ideal but it should work. I've been really looking forward to this family vacation, so this way we'll get to have that. Comment 6: That may be a fix for now but boundaries don’t work when your husband continues to blow thru through them and faces no consequences. If you divorced right now and your husband had 50/50 custody we would see his kids more. Is this really how you want to continue living? If you’re fine with how things are right now then that’s fine. But it doesn’t seem like you are happy. Because this keeps coming up again and again. And he continues to not listen to you and then he complains about problems that he created. This vacation is now an issue between the two of you because he knowingly scheduled people during the vacation time. He had complete control over this situation and scheduled students anyway. He can’t say no to his students. But he has no problem saying no to you and making you comprise and clean up his mess again and again and again. Are you really okay with that? OP: No, I'm not. I would like him to dedicate more of his time to us. And he did make things better but things got out of hand again. Hes a good and loving husband and father otherwise, its just this one issue, and it is what it is ig. But pulling the rug out at the last minute is unacceptable and thats why I dont think I should postpone the vacation. I'm going to push for him doing it online from there, I think that'll be a good compromise. Comment 7: INFO Does he provide all of the income for the household? How old is his business? Did he breakdown the difficulties he would be facing with you in pursuing a new business when you married or when he started it? Is he eventually hoping to turn his business into his full time profession? What is the goal in it? I ask these questions because it really does determine if he is a AH or not. My business is less then three years old and often a new business can require a lot of work. Like A LOT. Vacations changing is like one of the most common changes a business owner needs to face. I spoke with my husband before pursuing. Did he speak with you? OP: No, I also work. I'm an accountant and I have wfh half the week so like on a 2-3 basis. Our income distribution is roughly 75 - 25. His business is about 7-8 years old now. He started it in college. And the workload wasnt a problem until a few years ago. I have suggested he make the business his sole work, especially since we'd be comfortable without his day job too. His reasoning has been that because his business hours kind of don't align with a 9-5, he wouldn't be making use of those hours anyway although I have told him that him doing nothing would be the goal. Comment 8 (downvoted): Dont make threats or it will harm your marraige. Not enough info here. Do you.work? Are you a trophy wife? Do you provide any financial support to household or does his business pay the bills. As a man he is doing his best to make the business a success and maintain a clientel to give you the life you and he think your family deserves. Support him. We do not know if your best freind is guy or girl as that matters. If my wife did what you suggested you would do and it was a man the next conversation we would be having is about divorce and custody arraingments. OP: Yes I work. And I'm proud of what he's accomplished. But I also want him to be creating these memories with me and our kids. If I thought him forgoing the clients for those two weeks would be critically harmful I wouldn't push him. But we've long passed the point of being fine financially. And I just feel these other aspects of our family life need more attention. My best friend is a girl. She's been my best friend since we were in school. Update 4 - November 9th 2025 Hi, thanks a lot for the feedback on my first post. I had decided to suggest he do his tutoring classes online while we were in Spain as a compromise and thats what I was planning on doing. My husband caught a cold on Thursday though and had been really down and out the last couple of days. He had taken these two days off work (from his day job). Despite my insistence that he rest, he tried to do his tutoring class as scheduled but literally couldn't get through it and canceled those as well. I didn't want to have the conversation while he was this sick so I postponed it. It was great (maybe not the best choice of words as a wife talking about my husband getting sick lol) to kind of just have him do nothing for these two days. He spent time with me and the kids, a few of his friends and some mutual friends of ours also came to our place to see him because they rarely see him outside of important occasions. Last night I brought up the vacation again. He agreed without too much resistance. He said he'll move around some classes or take them in advance but either way he'll be with us for the vacation. I thanked him and also told him he needs to take it easy its clearly affecting his health. He was like him being sick isn't because of the work its because of the change in weather. I did bring up that we had had an agreement earlier and that he'd kept to it for a while and we'd really struck a good balance but things are back to the way they were prior to that. He said he always asked me before filling up Sundays, and that is true tbf, its just, there's only so many times I can say no. He also mentioned how two people he knows have recently been laid off, that times are bad economically. I told him I don't see why that has to affect him, we're doing well financially, we have more than enough savings, our careers are good, he has a business that has been growing every year, we're secure where we are. He said he was too sick to talk about this, and that right now our kids are young, they need less of him, that his classes are important because students and parents come to him after having heard of him, and that its important for them to get into good universities. I told him our son is old enough that he now wants to spend time with him, and that I can compromise on my needs and wants but not our kids'. He got the point I was trying to make and said that he'll make the necessary changes. I'm glad our vacation is back on track! I'd really been looking forward to this as a family. Also, I'm glad I told him how he'd been reneging on the balance we'd established earlier and he'll be going back to it. He did do it last time so I'm confident he'll do it again, we both just have to work to make sure we keep it in place. Thanks a lot. Comment 1: Glad the vacation is happening (supposedly) but he’s full of crap. He’s made his priorities clear. Young kids need their parents more! Comment 2: As soon as you mentioned Sundays I remembered your older posts. I'm glad that the vacation is back on, but honestly your husband needs some sort of Cats in the Cradle, three ghosts visiting him wake up call. He really only stayed with your previous deal for a short amount of time. I wish I knew some way to get through to him, but I think that's going to be very hard. I'm sorry, I don't think he is going to get better with his time management and it will always be on you to nag him. If he really doesn't get better, I think in the futre you should just book any vacation you want and if he comes or not that's on him. He needs his eyes opened Enjoy your vacation and I hope you have great family memories! OP: He did get better with it a while back when I had seriously brought it up with him. This was when I was pregnant with my daughter. He just slipped back lately, and the new role in his day job also messed with the balance a bit. I think this vacation will be a good reset. Update 5 - January 8th 2026 Hi, a few people were kind enough to keep me in their thoughts and wanted to know how our vacation went (if it did at all).So my husband did keep to his word and we had a really good time in Spain (and Portugal too), and he didn't do any classes while we were there. So lately he'd been frequently running fevers and not been well.I'd brought up that his workload was catching up to him, he denied it, we ended up going to our family doctor. His blood pressure had come out 150/110 She asked us questions and also asked him if his day-to-day involved stress and he said no. I was actually stunned when he said that. I unloaded and told her exactly what his schedule looks like. She made it clear that with his family's history of high blood pressure and his workload he was shaving years off his life, and messing up his immunity too.That was my breaking point. I told him I loved him to bits, if anything happened to him I'd be devastated, crazy with grief but I would summon the strength to live. But I will not let him deprive our kids of their father by working himself to death. That I had given him enough chances and he was taking advantage of my love for him by reneging on our established boundaries, if I had to disrupt his late night classes myself I would. He told me to give him time, we had an argument because I was having deja vu of previous conversations. I gave him a week to do what he needed to.He managed to make some really meaningful changes. It was stuff I'd been suggesting for so long but he'd been resisting and not listening to me, I think he thought if he combined into larger groups than he already had, he'd receive some pushback. Well not a single student left nor any parent complained after he did it. He's since managed to have Wednesdays and Sundays completely free, Mondays, Fridays and Saturdays are reasonable, only Tuesdays and Thursdays are bad. We had a great vacation, he was fully present, and it was the kind of vacation that I had wanted, one where we could decompress. When we were flying back I asked him if he'd had fun, he kind of laughed and said that he's not our kids that I had to check up on him. I told him its not that, I was really happy with the way he'd kept to our established boundaries and I know its a change for him. And that we were both going to make sure we keep those boundaries intact. I know its just a step in the right direction but I am hopeful we can maintain this. I'm also going to be more forceful about this. I don't care if people around us think I'm holding him back or if these boundaries mean some kids don't get the help from him they need, I will not sacrifice my kids happiness for them. Thanks a lot for all the help and advice. Relevant Comments Comment 1: I'm glad the vacation was great (and actually happened)! Sucks his health is actually in trouble and we can hope this is the wakeup call he needs but god, you had to mom him and tell the doctor his likely cause of stress. That's not a good look for him. Is he like actively parenting your kids or is he just the family friend/grandparent who pops in to "help" you. Could he take care of the kids if you got in an accident and knows what they like/dislike as well as any allergies or would you need to call in external help to take care of them for him? When is he planning on cutting back so he can spend time with them does he even have a time frame or is it just a nebulous promise? Like I'm glad he's making changes...again, but his schedule isn't fair to you or the kids. His lack of time lines or concrete goals means he'll always have some excuse. And idk if anyone ever said but be firm on not getting a second house. What's even the point of one if he almost bailed on a simple vacation? It's something you'll have to maintain on top of everything else be it hiring cleaners/yard work or renting it or both, and it'll just be another excuse to work longer and keep pushing back the date he'll step up and actually father his children. OP: Since he's changed his schedule and consolidated classes he has been more involved. He plays basketball with our son now in the backyard (we'd had an adjustable hoop put in which is now finally being used) , he is spending time with our daughter too. The new changes have helped. We have a nanny that comes in and a cleaner too so that helps with the chores. I deliberately don't give him like chores or errands tbh because he's still adjusting, even when he asks if there are any. Really all I want him to do is be in the living room with us, go out with us, and just be present with us which he's doing a lot more of now. Comment 2: I think you need to establish a rule that he's no longer even allowed to ask if he can tutor on Sundays. It's not fair to be making you the bad guy who has to say no, and if he was serious about this, he wouldn't be asking in the first place. OP: If he asks I will say no now. But thats a good point about even the question being off limits. I'll think about that! Comment 3: I'm happy that you got your vacation! Hopefully your husband gets more tests done to narrow down his health issue. The part where you have to veto his "extra work" makes me narrow my eyes a bit. He's making you the bad guy instead of holding himself accountable. OP: At this point honestly I'm ok with being the bad guy. I won't let him do what he was doing. I won't let him deprive my kids of their father by working himself to a grave. If it seems like I'm becoming overbearing or "mothering" him, I'm ok with being seen that way now. Comment 4: Sorry if this is rude.... but are you not at the same point as a year ago? Nothing really changed. Like..at all its the same update as before. He'll go back to the same stuff, and then you'll be back here. And then you'll update again that you finally found a workaround! And he's free on Wednesday and Sunday!! Then you'll ne back again saying he broke his word again...rinse and repeat. Again, I'm sorry if this is rude. But nothing is gonna change. He's just going to wait to do the same bs. I'm saying this as this man's daughter. My dad worked like that for most of my life and is trying now to build a relationship with me. I love him, but it's weird. You are being naive. You have to be strong, or that's gonna be your life. Forever. Really. It does not get better if you don't grow a spine. OP: I won't let us go back. Not when going back is affecting his health and by extension our kids. When I said I would disrupt his late night classes, I really meant it at the time. Update 6 [Final Update] - May 19th 2026 Hi! I thought I'd give an update. It was actually because this weekend my mom was over and had remarked that I look a lot less stressed and that we seem to be all doing much better. I felt pretty happy about that, if a third person can see some improvement we must be doing something right! I'd been a lot firmer with my husband since his health scare. I'd told him that I'd had two kids with him with the knowledge that they'll have their father and there was no way I was going to let them be deprived of one. He too has been taking organization of his hours more seriously. I've helped him in handling his schedule and sometimes dealing with students/parents. He almost exclusively does group classes now, I've set it up so his classes end at 7 30 pm on weekdays, and sundays are totally free. Once or twice every couple of weeks there'll be a late weekday but they're sometimes required according to him (he says since its group classes he keeps pace with the school thats going the fastest which means he sometimes has to do an extra class with those students who were behind in school compared to his). Its fine though, its not that often. He was more reluctant to let me handle some of his communication with parents and students. Honestly, I don't mean to be disrespectful, but some parents can be extremely entitled, like they keep insisting on extra attention or 1-1 classes, act like just offering to pay more will get them whatever. My husband and I talked about it, I told him hardly anyone would leave, if theyre coming off of reputation they won't, and not a single one has. Based on the doctor's instructions we've been diligently tracking his BP. Its still worrisome, especially with his family history. Its better like 140/85 most recently, so its still worrisome but I'm hoping these changes, less stress, better sleep schedule helps. Because he's free after at latest 7 30, and all of sunday, he's spending a lot more time with me and our kids. I'm really glad we were able to get to a better place while my daughter is still an infant. I do feel very guilty and feel like I failed our son a bit because he didn't get that time when he was her age, but he's getting it now and I hope that can continue and not change now. Like I think I've said this before too, I don't need to give him chores around the house, all that is fine, really all I needed was him to be present for us like a normal family and I think we've done a good job in that regard of late. Thank you to everyone who helped, some comments stung last time, but maybe I needed that to stop letting things slide so thanks. Relevant Comments Comment 1: Parents can be truly entitled, and they don't stop (I work with college students)! Glad he's doing better, though 140/85 isn't fantastic, it's still an improvement and a win for you both. It really sounds as though your entire family is on the right track--hope it stays that way! 💖 DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/insafian to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I am not The OOP, OOP is u/educatedvegetable Notified my work weeks ago I'm leaving for a family vacation in July, tickets were bought, non-transferrable, and they are panicking, begging me to cancel Originally posted to r/antiwork Thanks to u/soayherder & u/boringhistoryfan for suggesting this BoRU TRIGGER WARNING: Hostile workplace Original Post March 14, 2026 This whole situation is absurd and I need a sanity check. I work in admin in a niche but important, multi-national industry. I am a knowledgeable, reliable cog, and I pick up alot of slack as we are incredibly short-staffed with plans to add more because "its working out fine for right now" blah blah. My boss is going on vacation, and she and I were comparing dates and realized they line up. She immediately told me I had to cancel. I told her I can't, things are non-refundable, since I am a cog, I never considered my manager's schedule. That is not my job. She told me she could deny my PTO, and if I go, I would be released. Great. I go to her boss, and say "lets make a plan". They say "ok great" and I build a schedule for task coverage, including him taking a few hours each day to sit at my desk and doing my in person job of fielding industry questions (or taking their info and I'd follow up later), and I offer to log in (paid) for a couple hours every day to help support. He says "Cool, I'll present this to the higher ups." My bosses boss told me that the higher ups think that he's "too important and high paid" to sit at a front admin office for any amount of time. Then the board comes up with a great idea, we'll just offer to reschedule MY VACATION. They offered a few hundred bucks to cover scheduling fees. I calculated the fees, they are way more than a few hundred dollars. Talking thousands as hotels, travel, transport, everything for 4 I book in advance so I can just relax. We do this because it's not just my life, but my partners summer schedule and his two kids, and their crazy schedules with sports, split custody, their bio mom's vacation plans, a whole thing. They asked me to cancel it and go some other time. I said a firm no. The kids are finally old enough to comfortably travel internationally, they are excited, and I'm not telling them we can't go because "work won't let me". HUH??? My thing is, I'm a cog. Should I have double checked everyones calander before scheduling? Sure, but I'm not a managing party. I haven't experienced something like this in my entire working life. I've previously notified upper management of my vacation time at the beginning of the year just like this and they just say "ok great thanks for letting us know". Why is my leaving for 7 working days leaving the office in SUCH A PANIC? There are options to resolve this, like having someone come from another department for a couple days here, another a couple days there, and I offered to support remotely. Also, my vacation is scheduled for JULY?? I tell you in February??? Also, shouldn't this be a reasonable indicator of how short-staffed a department is if TWO people being out for any extended period of time throws a wrench into everything? Did I do something wrong? Is there something I'm not seeing? Any insight or advice would be amazing. ETA: I am a woman. RELEVANT COMMENTS No_Albatross7213 It’s March.. July is 4 months away. They can pull their shit together and figure out a plan. Either this company is imploding, or this post is rage bait. 😅. OOP Unfortunately, this is very real. The company is actually expanding and other 2 personnel have left, but will not be replaced due to cost and since they left, the department is no longer "overstaffed". The president of the company is a tight wad and has successfully run with a skeleton crew for over 2 decades, and is the kind of person that will tell his employees (minions) to make a grand idea happen. If he is questioned or told "that won't work because of X" he gets so angry that he's being asked to explain himself or take input from the people around him, it just makes him dig his heels in harder. Luckily, as a cog, I don't have to face the brunt of his ire, but my boss and bosses boss do, which is why my boss got so emotional when this all started. I would leave, but opportunities for this niche industry with my skill set and location are minimal. Also, I'm good at it. Update Apr 18, 2026 Interesting update in this saga(OG post linked, hopefully), and I need another sanity check. Summary: I notified my workplace in March that I would be going on vacation in July. Dates overlap with my boss's, who panicked and told me she would deny my leave and it would be job abandonment. Cool. So, some time has passed, and upper management is absolutely begging me to reconsider, reschedule, cancel, anything so that I am here for the time our dates overlap. Overlapping time? 5 work days. They keep telling me they have to consider the needs of the business, that they will pay for rescheduling fees (in the thousands), they keep asking me to pull up or answer for my personal calander to conjole me into rescheduling to come back early to cover some of the time, they keep saying "but you know how busy it gets, look at your metrics!". On top of this, we had two people leave the department in as many months, and we are being told no additional personnel will be hired. The reason why no one is being hired? Is because I've absorbed most of the workload and "see, it's fine, we don't need more people!" Great. The thing is, know how busy it gets. That's why I booked a family vacation during the slowest time of the year and told ya'll in March that I wouldn't be here. I wasn't asking. I feel like I'm going crazy with 6 people telling me I'm being unreasonable, inflexible, and "putting them in a bad position." I even made a temporary schedule for other departments to cover my work for that time (again, 5 days) and was told it's not going to be considered, because other departments are already short-staffed. It just really is making me feel like all personnel issues are falling onto me The thing is, I'm looking at the job market right now, and it is BLEAK out there, recession indicators waving red flags. Sure, I could get a new job, but not at my pay scale or in my field right away. I'm seriously considering making my part of my family trip shorter so I can come back early. Do I hold strong, or do I let them bully me into changing my vacation plans so I have job security? Seriously asking, because I feel like I'm actually going crazy from the stress. RELEVANT COMMENTS MyLadybits Take your vacation. Say out loud to them if you can’t do without me for 7 days what will you do without me if you fire me. OOP I did. They told me I was a valuable employee but ultimately replaceable and should start looking for other work. Final Update May 17, 2026 Final update, hopefully I linked the post correctly. Thanks to all who commented or interacted with me on the previous posts, all comments were read, considered, and offered many perspectives I didn't consider, so thank you. In short, I notified my employer months in advance that I was leaving for vacation. They needed coverage for 5 days, and they told me that if I went, I would not have a job when I returned. Cool. After some reflection and your encouraging comments, I decided to look for another job in the industry I work in. It's pretty niche so the major players know of or have met each other. I reached out to a vendor of the company I currently work for and they immediately offered me a position, fully remote and at the same pay scale. They said I can start now, later, whenever; they are stoked to have me on the team. They mentioned I have a great reputation, and all of our vendor interactions have been positive, and because they were a vendor they couldn't approach me, but they were happy I reached out to them. I'm over the moon! I gave my current position a month's notice, am training my replacement over the next two weeks, taking a short break, and then starting my new remote position. And, I get to keep my vacation with no hassle :) All in all, I'm really happy how this all worked out and not sure if I would have persued anything new without my current position treating me so poorly, so honestly, kind of have to thank them for opening my eyes. FINAL COMMENTS Feeltheforceharry How did they react to you leaving? If they can't cover you for five days I would expect them to panic even more over replacing you? OOP They were mostly resigned, made a counteroffer but I respectfully declined. They asked if I could stay an additional week and I also declined that saying I wanted to establish my routine with the new company and that I wanted to focus on my growth there. I thanked them for everything I've learned while with them and the opportunity to move on wouldn't have been a possibility without them, which is true. These last couple weeks have been a mad scramble for them to get a replacement, and frankly they are in for a fun awakening when they realize they are taking on the job of about 3 people, but this workload will be up to management to decide how to allocate. Not my problem anymore :) THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP's OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7 submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I am writing this on my lunch break and my blood is completely boiling. I work in a small industrial logistics office managing supply routes. There are only four of us who handle the main dispatch desk, meaning our vacation policy is incredibly strict. We cannot have more than one person off at any given time because the workload is too heavy. Because of this, our program director makes us submit our holiday requests for the entire year back in October. It is a first come, first served system, and I made sure to lock in my two weeks for this upcoming July the exact minute the portal opened. I have a whole road trip planned through the Pacific Northwest with a few guys from college. We rented a cabin, booked some specific guided fishing trips that have a non refundable deposit, and everything is locked down. I have been looking forward to this for eight months because our winter peak season was an absolute nightmare and I am on the verge of complete burnout . Yesterday, one of the other dispatchers, Dave, cornered me in the break room. Dave has been with the company a year less than me. He told me that his nine year old son has been obsessed with going to this specific theme park in California, and Dave apparently promised him they would go this July. The problem is Dave did not bother to check the calendar until last week, and he realized my approved vacation completely blocks the dates he needs. He asked me to swap my two weeks in July for his two weeks in late September. I told him I could not do it because everything is already paid for and my friends already took time off from their own jobs. Dave did not take that well. He started pressing me, saying that September is a better time for a single guy anyway because the crowds are smaller, and that I am ruining his kids summer. He literally said, "He is nine, he is only going to be this age once and he has been crying about it all week." Now the mood in the office is incredibly awkward. Dave is giving me the silent treatment, and today our supervisor subtly hinted that it would be a "great team building gesture" if I accommodated him since I don't have a family of my own. That part pissed me off the most. Just because I am not married and do not have children does not mean my personal life and my time off have zero value. I earned my seniority, I followed the rules, and I planned ahead. Dave dropped the ball because he cannot manage his own schedule, and now he is trying to use fatherly guilt to make his mistake my problem . Part of me feels slightly bad for the kid because he is caught in the middle of his dads incompetence, but I am absolutely not throwing away a thousand dollars in deposits and canceling plans with five other people just to bail Dave out. My friends think Dave is being an entitled prick, but the pressure at work is getting real. WIBTA if I just stand my ground and let him deal with his own crying kid? submitted by /u/Safflower8 to r/WIBTA_AITA [link] [comments]

I am NOT OOP. OOP is u/TheEmperorofJenks. Previous BoRU by garethp [Final New Update]: TIFU by importing bees to Uruguay + 4-Year Update NEW UPDATE MARKED WITH ---- Editor's note: please note this is a large BoRU, recapping prior posts to refresh our minds before the latest update, removed some relevant comments for space in this latest BoRU Thanks to u/czechtheboxes, u/Jenn_There_Done_That, & u/Direct-Caterpillar77 for letting us know about the new update! Trigger Warnings: ableism RECAP Where to buy gourds?: July 17, 2020 I'm looking to buy ornamental gourds in bulk for a project. I need probably 1500 or so. Does anyone know of a local farm that grows them? Thanks! Commenter: Why, pray tell, do you require such a gourd hoard? I already regret asking. OOP: Due to local fluctuations in the tropopause, the jet stream has been shifting rapidly in a counterclockwise vector, causing a rapid disincorporation of the Hadley vortex cells in the lower ionosphere. Because of this, the geostrophic solar wind balance has deteriorated rapidly in the northern hemisphere. In essence, autumnal weather patterns in the western United States will lead to the biggest ornamental gourd yield in recorded history. Investing in gourd agricultural futures could likely produce up to $1600 per day in passive income. However, investing at the apex of the curve would be the most conducive to profit as the arbitrage (particularly 12b-1 fees) will develop at a market share higher than the back-end load. Basically, no one will be able to buy the stock at a higher price than you, and all value invested will be retained. A preliminary market penetration investment of $50,000 would be most efficient in generating this revenue.   I am financially ruined (agricultural futures): Jan. 18, 2021 (six months later) I have lost everything, and I'm not sure how to continue. This summer I invested $17,500 (six months’ salary and my entire life savings) into ornamental gourd futures, hoping to capitalize on this lucrative emerging industry. After watching a video about Vincent Kosuga and his monopoly on onions, I decided I'd try to do something similar with another vegetable. I did some research and found out many agricultural forecasters expected this year's gourd yield would be far smaller than the past, due to deteriorating soil conditions in central Mexico and a warmer-than-average spring. At first, demand soared around Halloween and prices skyrocketed, but the gourd bubble burst on November 12th. Unfortunately, the coronavirus caused a massive drop-off in demand due to fewer families decorating their tables for thanksgiving, and prices plummeted. I had invested early enough that I thought I would still be fine, but then on the morning of December 2nd, a new email in my inbox caused my stomach to turn into a pretzel. The massive gourd shipment from Argentina, scheduled for early March, had arrived. I was planning on selling off my futures right before this, in February, but this ruined everything. To top it off, the gourds in this shipment were absolutely gargantuan, some topping 4 pounds each, causing the price-per-pound to drop like an anchor into the range of 6 cents per pound. I am ruined.   Market potential for gourd instruments in Great Plains region?: Jan. 19, 2021 (next day) Hey all, I've made a massive investment blunder and am faced with either selling off my futures for a loss of $10,500, or taking delivery of roughly 115,000 lbs. of ornamental gourds. Both prospects seem pretty dismal, but I figure with some entrepreneurial prowess I could make my money back. I saw on a PBS documentary three years ago that some cultures use gourd instruments pretty regularly, and I imagine it's a pretty large industry in places like Brazil. Does anyone know if the market is large enough in the US (particularly in the southern great plains region) for this to be a viable strategy? If so, how hard is it to make a flute out of a gourd? Thanks!   I've found out how to make gourds edible: Feb. 5, 2021 (nearly three weeks later) Over the last few weeks I've been experimenting with gourds almost nonstop looking to find a way to turn them around for a profit. I've come up empty. But out of hunger and sheer boredom, I did find a way to make a moderately edible dish out of your standard, thanksgiving table, ornamental gourds. Here's the recipe: - Cut all the knobs and warts off the gourd with a knife. Then use a potato peeler to take the skin off. This is really difficult and doesn't need to be perfect, but the less skin the better. - Fill a large pot with 8 cups water, one cup apple cider vinegar, 1/2 cup salt, and a bay leaf. Stir. Bring this to a rolling boil and add up to four gourds. Put a lid on the pot and boil on high for three hours. - Remove the gourds and place on a baking sheet. Cut them in half and sprinkle them with generous amounts of salt and paprika. - Broil on the top rack for 30 minutes, flipping half way through. - Remove and cut into cubes. Serve over rice.   Editor's note: the next several posts are a bit out of chronological order from the previous post, but this is to help understand a separate incident OOP has created Rhodium is skyrocketing!! Invest now for Ultimate Profit!!: Feb. 1, 2021 an image of a graph showing the cost increasing suddenly for Rhodium. Commenter 1: You know that old expression, "Buy low, sell high?" Investing at the top is how you lose money, not make it. OOP: Wrong. It will only go up. I expect it will reach 40k by mid-April. Commenter 2: That may be, but Rhodium is a fickle bitch. People following metals for a while know that Rhodium makes these moon shots every once in a while and crashes just as quickly .There was a run up at this time last year, and it crashed in March. I see it testing $10,000 again before it goes to $40k.   Where to buy custom water beds?: Feb. 2, 2021 (next day) I'm expecting huge profits on an investment I just made, so I think I'll stay in Tulsa after all. I need a new bed, and am thinking I'll be able to afford something nice after I strike it rich. I've always been intrigued by the concept of water beds, and was wondering if there's a store in Tulsa that will make you one of custom dimensions (i.e. 10 x 10 feet).   My rhodium just arrived!: Feb. 4, 2021 (two days later) an image of a piece of Rhodium in the shape of a small cube OOP purchased, along with a certificate of Authenticity Commenter 1: When did you buy in? And how much OOP: I bought it a week ago for about $4000. Paid on credit so I'm planning on selling it in a few weeks. Commenter 2: Selling in few weeks?!? What a retard. Have you even looked at the bid-ask spread? You've clearly never done this before. Well, live and learn Commenter 3: Not to burst your bubble but rhodium is not reactive and does not rust or tarnish. That material is clearly quite oxidized so either it is full of impurities, or you were sold some random chunk of scrap metal.   Any stores specializing in rare metals?: Feb. 6, 2021 (two days later) Hey Tulsa, I just bought some rhodium off the internet and am starting to get concerned it isn't legit. Does anyone know of a shop nearby that deals with rare and expensive metals? Thanks.   Is this rhodium?: Feb. 8, 2021 (two days later) an image of the Rhodium close up Commenter 1: Looks like pyrite. It would help if you took it out of the bag though. OOP: I spent over $4000 on this. Not going to take it out of the bag. What makes you think it isn't rhodium? Commenter 1: Rhodium is chemically inert and corrosion resistant. Taking it out of the bag is not going to hurt it. Rhodium does not form an oxide in the presence of air, so your rhodium should be a shiny, silvery-white color. The fact that this metal is dull and looks a bit tarnished is really not a good sign. I'm sure it's a man-made metal ingot and not pyrite if you bought it from an online seller as rhodium, but it sure doesn't look like pure rhodium to me. I would start by getting an accurate measure of its density (it should be 12.4 grams per cc). If you're going to spend that much money on metal though you should probably look into a professional identification service. Visual IDs from reddit aren't going to cut it. https://www.sigma-verifiers.com/en/how-to-verify-gold Call around to local jewelry stores or pawn shops. See if they can help you out with testing. Commenter 2: Where did you buy it from? OOP: I found it here. I'm trying to return it, but the listing is gone and customer service won't get back to me. We're currently having a huge winter storm in Tulsa so I can't have a professional jeweler look at it for a few weeks. Commenter 2: That is the Slovakian version of Wish. Jewelers aren’t going to be able to tell you anything about it. They’re gemologists by in large, and this isn’t a gem. You either need a university based geologist. And go into it already accepting that it is completely fake. This is how precious metals normally look when you buy them. They’re pressed and marked. This looks like you got a worthless chunk of nothingness. I’m going to be completely honest. This is either the greatest troll ever, or you might be too autistic to manage your own money for a while. And I don’t mean that insultingly. You’ve dug yourself very deep in the last couple of weeks and maybe you need to give the hustle a rest   It wasn't rhodium: Feb. 16, 2021 (eight days later) I'm gonna keep this short cause I'm kind of in a mood right now. I took the metal cube to a local NDT shop my buddy works at. Turns out it's pyrite, which is essentially worthless. Moral of the story? Just invest in Tesla or Amazon. This BS is ridiculous and I've had it. Editor’s note: this is the end of the rhodium incident   I have just received Uruguayan citizenship and I have some questions: Jan. 27, 2021 Hello Uruguay! My mother (wife to a Uruguayan man) has claimed her citizenship, and because of that I now have it. I have lived in Oklahoma all my life, but I speak Spanish quite well and know some of the Uruguayan culture through my stepfather. Right now I am in a not very nice situation with my finances, and I want a fresh start, so I plan to move to Uruguay in March. I have never visited your country, and I am a little worried about the transition. - How is Melo? I have acquaintances in that city, so I'm thinking of living there at first. - I don't have many strengths, but I have worked for a year in a supermarket. What industry has the most opportunities for foreigners? He preferred to work in the fields, or at least outdoors. - I have a private pilot's license (from the USA). Do you know if it is easy to transition it to a Uruguayan license? I want to fly to the Andes one day. Thank you!   How is the legality of informal beekeeping?: March 4, 2021 I'm from the US and you can keep bees here without many rules. My cousin has some beehives in his garden, and they produce a good amount of natural honey. I am moving to Uruguay soon, and I want to become something of an amateur beekeeper. What I want to know is if there are any regulations or whatever regarding beekeeping. Thank you!   Goodbye Oklahoma (and good riddance): Mar. 12, 2021 La Paloma: March 20, 2021 Transporting 200,000 bees across Uruguay is the experience of a lifetime. Mar. 29, 2021 Series of image posts showing him flying out of Oklahoma, landing at La Paloma airport and driving (presumably with 200,000 bees behind him)   Demand for mead (the alcoholic drink) in the US?: April 6, 2021 Hey America! I'm a former resident of Oklahoma, and currently one of the largest beekeepers in Uruguay by hive volume. I'm looking for ways to market honey products abroad as there is very little demand here in South America. Mead is obscenely easy to make and very lucrative profit-wise. Would anyone be interested in switching over to mead from beer if it were substantially cheaper (labor and packaging costs are essentially negligible down here). Thanks!   About to up-size my apiary. What's the best layout for my hives?: April 18, 2021 My humble apiary near Melo, Uruguay: April 30, 2021 An image post showing his bee hives before and after spreading them out and organizing them.   Editor’s note: below is the original title post TIFU by importing bees to Uruguay: May 27, 2021 This has all been happening over the last few weeks, but I’ve just gotten back to the states and had the time to take it all in. First, some context. I’m a grocery store employee from Tulsa, Oklahoma. Over the covid pandemic I was burnt out and acting impulsively. I made some risky investments which destroyed me financially. Sick of my mundane life in the great plains and with economic mobility out of reach in America, I decided to move to Uruguay where I had citizenship through my stepfather. I figured the small amount of savings I had managed to keep would go further in South America, and I’d be able to start a modest business. I had recently read a book about beekeeping, and had this romantic image in my head of a life out in the country, tending to my hives and selling honey at the local farmer’s market. The problem: I had no money or technical knowhow. I found a solution I believed could solve both of these. I entered an informal agreement with an ecology professor in Montevideo, which I believed was binding. This was my downfall. In exchange for letting his grad students conduct research on my cousin’s farm in Cerro Largo, he would pay for me to import Apis Cerana honeybees from Myanmar, and show me how to set up an apiary. These bees had never before been farmed in the region, and he believed it could make an interesting research paper. The bees arrived quickly and we soon had a respectable apiary established. Bees usually don’t start producing honey for at least a year, so I was mostly spending my time helping my cousin with his other farm projects, and trying to find a part time job in Melo. Things seemed to be going well until the professor and his team stopped showing up. I tried contacting him, but he wouldn’t return my calls either. A few days later, two MGAP agents showed up and informed me that I was under investigation for the illegal importation of an invasive species to Uruguay. I explained my situation with the university, but I think it was the professor who had turned me in. Of course, the word of a respected ecologist was taken over that of an American Jew who had arrived in the country two months prior. Turns out, the bees had shown up at a few other farms in the area. Authorities were concerned they could destroy the local colonies, which have already been on the decline recently due to climate change. I was in over my head, so I ran. I arrived at the airport paranoid out of my mind. Even though I was mostly likely in for nothing more than a hefty fine, I felt like Frank Abignale. I boarded a flight to Los Angeles and landed in the US with $14 in my bank account. My friend was able to Venmo me a hundred dollars, which unfortunately wasn’t enough to get to Tulsa. I found a flight to Seattle for $75 and took it without thinking. I am now writing this from the train out of the airport. God help me. TL;DR I imported an invasive species of honeybee to Uruguay and got in trouble with the authorities after a university professor ghosted me. Commenter: Hi, I am a Uruguayan scientific researcher, and I have been working with bees for the last twenty years. Can we please get in touch? I need to talk to you. If the story is true it can cause an ecological disaster in our country. We can prevent this, but we need to find those colonies. OOP: you will go to Bondi to cerro largo under the tallest palm tree within a 40km radius of Melo you will find a telephone. When you have it, call me. (This was translated)   I am hereby claiming Seattle for the State of Oklahoma: May 28, 2021 The Emperor is back!: June 23, 2021 Images of OOP arriving in his new home in Seattle and then promptly finding himself back in Tulsa.   Using an ant farm to generate encryption keys?: Aug. 1, 2021 I was recently sent a post about a guy talking about using an ant farm to generate random numbers for encryption keys, which he could supposedly sell to companies for a profit. I know there was that company that did a similar thing with lava lamps. Is this viable? If so, what kinds of algorithms would I need to use? How much do companies pay for random numbers like this?   Transporting ants across the country? (+gourds): Aug. 18, 2021 I'm currently negotiating the purchase of a 120-gallon ant farm from an amateur scientist in the Pacific Northwest. I live in NE Oklahoma and have no car / money. I was wondering if USPS or FedEx transports ants considering the sizeable risk of infestation? Also can they survive a long journey like that with no food? On that topic - can ants eat gourds? I'm currently growing some and thought it could be a low-cost source of nutrition.   Need ride to Seattle: Sept. 16, 2021 Would anyone be able to give me a ride to Seattle next week? I need to pick something up there and have no car. I'd be willing to pay for half the gas and am also a formidable DJ (hope you like Argentinian Rock). PM me if this sounds like a fair deal. Thanks! Edit: found someone. Commenter 1: To Seattle Washington? Are you fucking high? Get a plane ticket. OOP: I can't bring a massive ant farm back on a plane nimrod. Commenter 2: If it contains a queen you technically can't bring it back at all. Ants are considered invasive species and queens aren't supposed to cross state lines. Not to mention that offering to only pay for half the gas on a 30 hour car ride with a complete stranger is laughable. OOP: I know that's "technically" the case, which is why I can't bring it on a plane. Commenter 2: So you're just straight up hoping somebody will help you break import laws without even telling them. That's shitty AF. NVM just noticed who you were. GTFO out of here troll.   Pawnshop? (Sonic side): Sept. 29, 2021 I am in Nogales, Sonora and need to locate a pawn shop immediately. It would also be very useful if someone knows where passports are sold (ideally Canadian or German) because mine was stolen. Thank you.   Spent my last day in Mexico City gourd spotting. Some beautiful varieties, but couldn't bring myself to buy any.: Mar. 24, 2022 Three images of Gourds in shops in Mexico City Commenter: Gourd man is alive. We we’re all worried about you. What’s the next adventure? OOP: Haha, yes I'm alive. Recently came down from a 6-month bender in Mexico City. Just got back to Oklahoma and looking for something new. Probably gonna go back to working at the grocery store in the meantime tho.   Any Turkish Okies know where to get salep?: April 1, 2022 I'm trying to learn how to make dondurma so I can practice ice cream juggling, but I can't find anywhere nearby to get salep or mastic.   How to become ice cream juggler?:** April 21, 2022** Merhaba! I am an entrepreneur from Oklahoma looking to open a Turkish ice cream shop in my hometown of Tulsa. I really think there's substantial demand for it in the United States, but practically zero supply (at least in the Great Plains region). I've been working on making my own recipe for Dondurma using American ingredients, but when it comes to doing the juggling trick, I'm completely incompetent. I am planning on coming to Turkey in a couple months to hopefully learn this art form. Is it possible to become an apprentice of an ice cream vendor? How should I go about learning? Thanks!   Thoughts on Turkish Ice Cream (Dondurma): April 27, 2022 Hey guys, I'm thinking about opening up a Turkish ice cream shop and was wondering what y'all think. Thanks! Commenter 1: I would start with a cart (if possible). I don’t know what makes Turkish ice cream special, and what issues a cart or truck based platform would cause. However overhead on a cart/truck is significantly less than brick and mortar. You can start small, if you make a big enough splash with your marketing and product I can see it being very successful. Aka stable income from loyal customers and hype would bring the income needed to be successful. But what do I know, I’m just some jerk on the internet. Good luck! Commenter 2: I’d go if there were vegan options. Commenter 3: I'd never had it, I've only seen the videos of guys teasing kids taking it away from them on the street. I'd try it though! Commenter 4: I love mastic so I'm down, but it is an acquired taste. How strong does that come through?   Best dondurma in Aegean region?: May 26, 2022 Merhaba! I am coming to Turkey in a few weeks to hopefully learn to make and juggle dondurma. I am planning on mostly traveling around the Aegean region due to its geographical resemblance to my homeland of Oklahoma, and was wondering if any town around there is particularly known for its ice cream? Also, is it really true that anything goes in Izmir?   Crossing the Bosphorus in İstanbul in search of ice cream: June 15, 2022 Finding some interesting flavors for the shop I'm opening (in Mudanya, Turkey): June 17, 2022 Two image posts of him trying ice creams in Turkey   Dream came true today! Started training as a dondurma salesman in Nevşehir, Turkey!: June 26, 2022 An image of OOP working as an apprentice at an ice cream place in Turkey, with face blacked out   Does anyone have experience with the startup visa?: Sept. 1, 2022 Goedendag, I'm an entrepreneur from Oklahoma who recently spent over a month in Turkey learning to make and juggle dondurma (Turkish ice cream). I had originally planned to open a brick-and-mortar dondurma parlor in my hometown of Tulsa, but have been held back by the upfront costs. I've been unable to secure a bank loan to start my business, and so have had to reassess my plans. Instead of a shop, I'm thinking about serving my ice cream out of a cargo bicycle like this. Unfortunately, apart from a few expensive cities like NYC or Seattle, the US is extremely unsuitable for this business model due to a century of car-centered urban planning. I've heard that "bakfiets" businesses are not only viable but common in the Netherlands and so believe your country is my best option to pursue my goals. I am also increasingly disillusioned with Oklahoman / American politics and would like to leave before the 2024 election if possible. Does anyone have experience with the startup visa for entrepreneurs? I think my business idea would count as innovative, but I've heard Dutch people are particularly close-minded about foreigners. Also, if I'm being honest, I'd mostly like to move to the Netherlands to go back to university and get a proper career in tech. Would I have to keep my business operating in order to remain in the country? I plan on visiting / unofficially moving to the country in a few weeks so would appreciate any advice you all have on applying for this visa. Bedankt! Commenter: I don't know anything about the startup visa, but your plan is really out of touch with reality. It sounds like you've done shockingly little research on any of this. Moving to The Netherlands is nothing like moving to another state. You are not a member of some privileged class as an American. You do not have the right to live or work in The Netherlands. Getting any kind of residence permit takes months to years of preparation and thousands of euros (at a minimum). Just skimming the requirements for the startup visa suggests it will be difficult and expensive. Your idea will probably not qualify as innovative. It does not sound like you have enough savings to live in The Netherlands for a year. It seems unlikely that you will be able to find a facilitator willing to fund your stay. There is basically a 0% chance that you can "unofficially" move to The Netherlands when you visit. That is not the way immigrating works. If you try to illegally stay you can say goodbye to any chance of getting legal status or a visa in the future. The Netherlands is in the middle of a country-wide and absolutely crippling housing crisis. You will not find someone willing to rent to a foreigner with no income and no realistic plan or prospects of getting a residence permit. I do not mean that it will be difficult – I am trying to tell you that it is hopeless. Expats making six figures struggle to even get apartment viewings. The Dutch are not "particularly close-minded" about foreigners. It sounds like you don't even know anything about the country you're "unofficially moving to" in a few weeks. Going to a Dutch university is your realistic avenue into the country, but it will cost you roughly 10x more as a non-EU national. Again, this takes years of planning. You cannot just show up. OOP: "The Dutch are not "particularly close-minded" about foreigners." Tragically, you have disproven this statement with the very premise of your snarky comment. Also with regards to the "unofficial immigration problem," could you explain to me why the following plan won't work: I have dual US-Uruguayan citizenship and carry two passports. I could simply enter the Netherlands with one, stay for three months, then take a day trip to London and reenter with my other passport. It seems like I could continue this way in perpetuity, however I of course intend to become a naturalized Dutch citizen once my visa is approved, which I assure you it shall.   Is Zeeland suitable for a Turkish ice cream business?: Sept. 11, 2022 Hi, I'm an entrepreneur from Oklahoma who's moving to the Netherlands in about a week. I'm hoping to start a 'bakfiets' -based Turkish ice cream (dondurma) business. Over the past few days I've been researching the best city in the Netherlands in which to base my operations, and would really love some advice from you guys. In the United States, ice cream stands are commonly associated with beach towns, and I imagine it's similar in the Netherlands. However, I have come to realize my product is both niche and seasonal in its nature. Because of this, I believe staying in a single city would be unsuitable. Instead, I am planning to travel between 4 or 5 cities during the week on a fixed schedule. Not only would this let me build a larger customer base, but also generate hype my product and efficiently generate capital. Perhaps each town would have a weekly 'Dondurma Day' celebrating my arrival. Looking at the map, it seems like the Zeeland province has the best geography for this business model. While it doesn't have any large cities, it appears to have a high density of small beach towns I would be able to easily cycle between. Furthermore, its rural character would make it easier to camp overnight as I am unlikely to have a permanent home at first due to lack of citizenship and the current housing crisis. Can anyone who's been to Zeeland corroborate the soundness of this plan? Are there any cities in particular you would recommend? Thank you! Commenter: You know that NL has long cold winters, which start in a few weeks, and Zeeland is basically empty during wintertime. Camping outside campgrounds is illegal and in winter very cold. Sound like a bad idea all around especially when just starting next week. With Turkish ice cream you would probably have a higher audience during winter when selling in places with a high Turkish population, maybe beverwijk bazaar? Your plan sounds better for Spain or just turkey when trying to start during wintertime. OOP: Do you really think the camping laws will be enforced considering the current housing crisis?   Need someone to assume monthly payments on large waterbed: Sept. 13, 2022 Hey guys, I recently bought a large waterbed mattress (80" x 85") on a monthly payment plan. However, due to unexpected circumstances, I am now leaving the US for the foreseeable future. I decided to give the mattress to my mother in Sand Springs, and she has grown quite fond of it. Unfortunately, I am unable keep up the monthly payments ($174 / mo.), which last until July 2024. I was wondering if anyone would be willing to pay 85% of this in exchange for getting the bed at the end of the contract. I expect that by then I should be able to buy my mother a replacement in cash. The mattress is of excellent quality and extremely comfortable. Thanks! Commenter: You want someone to pay 85% of the cost of a new mattress in exchange for your promise to give it to them in a couple years after the new has worn off? Really? OOP: 85% is a fairly conservative estimate for the value after 2 years. Waterbeds suffer from very little depreciation due to their novelty. Commenter 2: Are you aware how abusive this is? Like do you actually think this is okay? OOP: Abusive? What are you talking about? I'm not coercing anyone into a predatory loan, simply offering an unorthodox deal on a spectacular mattress.   Does NS check if you're really 18?: Sept 21, 2022 Hello, I need to take a train tomorrow from Vlissingen to Rotterdam to hopefully purchase a bakfiets. Unfortunately I cannot afford the ~50 euro round trip cost and was hoping to get the

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/sparkle_fairy458 Originally posted to r/AITAH WIBTAH if I refused to run errands for my parents anymore? Editor’s note: changed letters to names for ease of readability Thanks to u/NotayourDadBR for suggesting this BoRU Trigger Warnings: manipulation, entitlement, possible financial infidelity Original Post: April 27, 2026 THROWAWAY ACCOUNT! Hey guys! I {28f} have absolutely had it with being used by my parents. So a bit of context: I live very close to my parents. I have two children under the age of 6 and a husband. My husband works abroad, so most of the time it's just me and my littles. I work from home and I work 8 hours a day for four days a week. We do well for ourselves. A few months ago, my car decided it was going to have engine problems and just shit out on me. So while I was shopping around for a replacement, my father decided to help me out with a used car that him and my mother owned. It's an SUV very spacious. And honestly they weren't going to be using it anymore considering my father takes the company car home from his job. Not only that but they were finally gonna fix their Nissan for my dad. Now I do need to include the amount of vehicles they have. 2 Chevys, 1 Nissan, and the SUV they gave me. Now because my father taught me responsibility I absolutely didn't want to take it for free, so I bargained with my dad to help him out. They had paid $3300 for the SUV when they got it. But it needed several repairs. (2 Window regulators, side mirror, ac, etc.) A few minor things. So my dad and I agreed that I would pay $1500 for it and just promise to take care of it. Which of course I do and have. So he signed it over to me and I got it in my name immediately, insurance, tag etc. Now because I had to get the repairs done (just one regulator was almost $600 for the part and the labor cost) my dad agreed to let me do $100 a month or more depending on what I want to do that month. I agreed and handed him $500 right there as the first payment. (It's been about 4 months now and I have paid him a total of $950 out of the $1500 for the SUV.) Last month my youngest brother {15m} was at school (his school is 6 minutes from my parents’ house), and he got caught vaping on a THC pen with his buddy from school. So he got "sentenced" to alternative school which is an hour drive from my parents’ house. And the little friend of his that got it with him is their neighbor and his mother doesn't have a working vehicle either, so the boys just go together with my mom normally. They have to be at the alternative school at 7:45 am every morning and picked up at 12:30 pm every afternoon. (This is relevant I promise) Now in the last four months I've had this SUV, my mother has used me as a personal assistant. Why you might ask? I DONT KNOW. But at first it wasn't a lot. Just little hey are you out? Can you stop by the store and grab this and bring it to me? Etc. just small stuff. And recently my grandmother had a surgery hours away, so my mom needed me to pick up my brother and his friend and bring them to the alternative school for 3 days. No biggie. Of course mom I've got you. But I did ask them for gas money. Since I was taking my brother and his friend in my car with my gas and I had just filled it up. My dad gave me 50 one time. (The SUV takes 65 to fill up and the drive to the school being an hour there and an hour back takes about a quarter and a half of my tank each trip) Still I didn't make a big deal of it since it was only 3 days. Now here's where I might be an AH. After those three days my parents have asked me to take my brother and his friend to this alternative school EVERY DAY coming up with excuses and while my dad works my mom is at home laying on the couch. Now I'm sure she gets up during the day, but when I leave she's in the same spot as she is when I come back. No they have not given me anymore gas money. And on top of all of that I've had to still work, take my kids to their appointments, take them to school, etc. Gas is extremely expensive right now and we aren’t broke but I just don't have the extra funds to constantly be filling up my tank and not getting any help but one time. I'm so fed up and I feel like I'm being used. So WIBTAH if I just refused to run errands for my parents? AITAH has no consensus bot, OOP was unanimously NTA Relevant Comments Commenter 1: You should have buy a car from a dealer without strings. OOP: Yeah I sometimes wish I did. Commenter 2: If you're doing so well financially, why can't you afford to pay $1500 cash for an old junker from your parents? Also I don't understand how a school in your district would be an hour each direction plus only a half day. Doesn't make any sense that you're driving four hours per day on high school transportation. The kid needs to get a hardship license OOP: We are doing well enough to make it. But these trips and constantly having to drive while gas is as expensive as it is tearing down our money fast. And I was going to buy it outright for the $1500 but when my dad offered the payment plan my husband and I had agreed that it would help us get the repairs done and not completely clear out our bank account while doing so. Commenter 3: Daughter: Ask the question; what’s wrong with mom? Why isn’t she motivated to get off the sofa? Talk with your brother, find out what’s going on in the house? Are your parents actively caring for him, prep meals, clean house, wash clothes???? Before you cut off your services at least try to find out if your family really needs help. OOP: My little brother is very much a trouble maker. He has been in trouble countless times for several things because he wants to "fit in" but he's choosing the wrong the crowd to hang with. And honestly I don't know what's going on with mom. Commenter 4: Is the mother of the other boy giving you gas money? Because she absolutely should be. Also, “no” is a perfectly acceptable response to unreasonable requests regardless of their past helpfulness to you. OOP: I haven't gotten a penny from the boy’s mother. But as much as the boy is a trouble maker he tried to give me his $5 for lunch one day because I bought the boys breakfast on the first day. He's a sweet kid. I didn't take his money of course. Is OOP's mother taking care of her grandma? OOP: No grandma is at home, and my uncle lives with them and has been taking care of her.   Update #1: April 28, 2026 (next day) UPDATE: WIBTAH if I refused to run errands for my parents anymore? Here's an update for you guys. Yesterday I asked you guys if I WBTAH if I stopped running errands for my parents. Here's what happened. So after talking to my husband and taking y'all's advice, we've decided we will be paying off the SUV. It's only $550 left so it won't be a huge financial hit, but it'll definitely put a dent in the bank account. So this morning, my mother had asked me again to take my brother and his friend to school. I of course said sure, but I'll need gas money. Mom said oh okay well in that case I can just take your SUV for the day and fill it up for you. Now I know my mother. She is the type of woman that will run her gas tank all the way empty and waste her money on other things (cigs, clothes, etc.) before putting it in gas. She also has asked to borrow my car (the one that shit out on me) before and it had a full tank. When she took it she was gone all day, I missed a very important ultrasound for my youngest, and when I got it back it was damn near on E. So I wasn't too willing to let her just take my SUV. So I said no mom. I can take them, but I need gas money, otherwise he's going to have to take a bus or Uber. This is how that convo went. Mom: "Honey I don't understand we gave you gas money." Me: "Yes mama, for the three days I had to and it was only 50. You haven't given me any since and I've been taking them every day." Mom: "50 is a lot of money, you should've made it last." Me: "50 IS a lot of money mama, but that's my point. Driving Henry and Grayson to school every day takes at least a quarter and a half of my tank each trip." Mom: "Okay well I'll just take it and fill it up for you then." Me: "Mama, no. I can take them just please give me gas money." Mom: "This is ridiculous." Me: "It's either you give me gas money or Grayson is just gonna have to take the bus or an Uber." Mom: "Excuse me?!" Me: "Mama I know you. You've borrowed my vehicle before multiple times and each time it goes from a full tank to damn near empty, and you have given me zero compensation for those times. I don't mind helping you mama, but there is a line where help becomes too much and is turning into being used. And right now I feel like you are using me. I feel like y'all only let me buy the SUV so I could be your little errand girl. It's not fair to me, my children, nor my husband. I have a job, my babies have school and appointments, and taking Grayson and Henry to school is affecting our lives and my job negatively." Mom: "I'm calling your father." *Hangs up* About three hours later I get a call from my dad. Here's how that convo went: Me: "Hey dad." Dad: "Hey honey what's going on?" Me: *explains the same thing I told mama* Dad: "Well firstly, I gave her gas money to give to you multiple times. I have just had in cash and not on my card lately, so I gave it to your mother to give to you every morning. Secondly, I absolutely did not let you buy the SUV to be our errand runner. And lastly, Henry's mama was supposed to be giving you money as well." Me: "well dad I haven't received any money unfortunately. And it's affecting my job and the kids schedule. I just can't keep driving 4 hours a day." Dad: "Okay honey. Then don't. I'm sorry. I'll get to the bottom of everything and talk to you later. You didn't take your brother today did you?" Me: "No sir." Dad: "Good, ttyl honey." As of right now, as far as I know from gathering info from my brother, Dad said that Grayson would be paying for an Uber by working for my dad for the whole summer. He won't be getting to do anything but work this summer. As for Henry, he will also be working for my dad the whole summer. Honestly I think some good honest work would be good for the both of them. Mom had a meltdown because Dad found out she was pocketing the money and she won't tell him where it's at. As of right now I don't have any extra info on that part. And my dad has decided that instead of paying the last $550 it's considered PAID OFF. Woohoo! So that's all I have for you guys, I appreciate all your help and comments and helping me grow a shiny new backbone 😊. Relevant Comments Commenter 1: I don’t get it, how does she get to your vehicle if they have several at home? I take it the boys aren’t old enough for drivers licenses yet? OOP: Grayson has his permit, but my dad won't let him drive because he will just go joy-riding instead of going to the alternative school. (He did the first week of alternative school) Henry I am not sure if he has one, but they only have one car and it's run down. Commenter 2: Dad found out she was pocketing the money, and she won't tell him where it's at Mom's got a gambling and/or shopping problem. Betting if Dad starts checking the accounts and cards, there'll be a lot of other money missing. OOP: I'm starting to think that too. But idk I'm trying to get more info out of my other brother.   Editor’s note: OOP made the next two updates on to the same post with the first update Update #2: April 28, 2026 (same post, same day, hours later) EDIT TO ADD UPDATE #2: Okay firstly thank you all again for your comments and support! MANY of you wanted the update on where the money went. Well here's the tea: My other brother (18m we will call him Tyler) lives with them so he's my primary source of info on this update. He said that when he got home from work, my parents were at the table. Tyler said that Dad was calm, but Mom was crying. So Tyler went upstairs and set his stuff down and kinda hovered over the balcony to see if he could hear what was going on. According to Tyler this is how their convo went: Dad: "honey where is the money you were supposed to give (OP)?" Mom: "I gave it to her!" Dad: "No you didn't. And honestly dear this isn't the first time money has been missing." Mom: "What are you accusing me of (Dad's real name)?!?" Dad: "I'm not accusing you, I'm asking for your honesty and your reaction is only solidifying my suspicion." Mom: "WHAT THE HELL IS THAT SUPPOSED TO MEAN?!?" Dad: "Where did you go the other night?" Mom: "I didn't go anywhere!" Dad: "I woke up at 2 am that night and you were nowhere to be found." Mom: apparently bawling her eyes out and screams something incoherent Dad: "Calm down and breathe. All I want is honesty." Mom: grabs car keys and runs out the door still incoherent That's all I got so far! I'll keep you guys posted! Relevant Comments Commenter 1: What do you think she has done with it? Could it be cheating? Gambling? Addiction to Drugs? Another family? I’m too invested! OOP: Tyler and I are betting she's messing around Commenter 2: What’s the chances she’s paying for either a side piece or drugs? OOP: Drugs I doubt, but the way she's acting both Tyler and I think she's messing around. Dad hasn't said anything to Tyler when Tyler asked if everything was okay. According to Tyler, Dad looked drained and he went to bed.   Final Update: April 29, 2026 (next day) EDIT TO ADD UPDATE #3: Okay this is the final update. I just got off the phone with my dad. Three things happened. 1) Mom came home this morning at 4am and my dad was waiting for her. 2) He served her divorce papers. Apparently it's been a long time coming. (Not sure if he gave her actual divorce papers or if he just told her he's divorcing her and showed his legal paperwork. I am just relaying what I was told.) 3) He told me about her affair. She's been seeing someone for the last 3 years right under his nose and only found out when on her laptop. He said he never suspected anything because the money that went missing was little bits at a time and mom always had an excuse. But when he noticed she wasn't showing up with the things she said she was buying he started a tally of times she took money and how much. This had been going on for at least a year when my dad found out about her hiding money. So his first reaction was much like most of y'all. She's gambling. But when he started tracking her location via her cars GPS she had never gone to the casinos. She went to her friend Karen's house. Dad had confronted Karen about why mom was gone at night and if they were spending money and Karen covered for mom saying she doesn't know anything about the money but that her and mom were just hanging out when Mom got super stressed. Well you'll never guess the next part. The affair she was having was with Karen and Karen's husband. The money was used for sex toys etc. Apparently dad found about this affair 5 months ago and had divorce papers already drawn up. When my mom got home at 4am he gave her the paperwork and copies of all his evidence against her. He just didn't think that she would stoop so low to steal money from me for my gas. That's the final update, they are getting a divorce and obviously I'm shocked and disgusted. And my brothers are just as shocked.   Editor’s note: Marking this concluded as the issue has been resolved and OOP has deleted this account   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]