Tennis Aesthetic

..., including football, hockey, cricket, table tennis, handball, and chess. Farashganj Sporting... were built with such an aesthetic design that the beautiful craftsmanship...

... box no bigger than a tennis ball wrapped in brightly coloured... seems to add to the aesthetic attached is a tag with ...

... the side door in the tennis court area, you can just ... environment can definitely fit the aesthetic of Abiotic Factor's horror game ...

... leather seat with open legs|tennis court, sweaty exhausted face, sitting... detail, masterpiece, best quality, very aesthetic, highres, best illustration, novel illustration...

... eyelets not only enhance the aesthetic appeal but also contribute to... badminton, cricket, golf, running, and tennis, making it a versatile accessory ...

... them a clean and modern aesthetic, while the solid pattern and... them suitable for sports like tennis or other athletic activities. Originating...

my wife and I have used a red light blanket. She uses it on her face for aesthetic reasons. I used it on my tennis elbow and it seemed to help but who knows. I have no idea if it's legit or not. Doctor friends say the science is questionable but it seems to work so they don't have a strong opinion one way or the other.

... with a smart aesthetic. Taking its name from Brentham Tennis Club in...

... he touched. Basketball, football, tennis, table tennis—everything they had tried, Satoru..., but it didn't bother his aesthetic sensibilities at all. Rather, he...

... he touched. Basketball, football, tennis, table tennis—everything they had tried, Satoru..., but it didn't bother his aesthetic sensibilities at all. Rather, he...

... Robert Redford Jeremiah gif My tennis elbow and rib injury has... training is more to the aesthetic than strength side, shoulder press ...

... know,,,, PE7wA39PlfA I only watch Tennis Cup. QUOTE(mick84 @ Apr... perfect if you want the aesthetic of being sporty without the...

... the train station and the tennis courts at the end of ... to create a sleek minimalist aesthetic kitchen but instead overloaded it ...

...% Polyester. From Italian ski and tennis apparel to iconic 80s sports ... brand nails that retro athleisure aesthetic with branded badges and oversized...

... comfort, durability, and a sleek aesthetic. At its core, this women’s... sporting outfit—such as golf, tennis, or driving-inspired apparel—and as...

... told Miura to join the tennis club though, while at most... do have a toxic yaoi aesthetic going on…and I just...

... versatile choice, drawing inspiration from tennis shoes but designed for everyday... stitch detailing add to their aesthetic appeal. With a low-top design...

... T-Toe design enhances the traditional aesthetic, making them suitable for casual... well-suited for everyday activities, including tennis. Customer Reviews

....g., security fencing or a tennis pavilion) have undergone some NEPA-related... from the First Lady on aesthetic/historic aspects. While advisory bodies (...

... Spring Summer Kid's Collection Celebrates Tennis Marc Jacobs Kids and Disney’s... creativity, energy, and a sporty aesthetic, and features bright prints and... offers a modern take on tennis fashion. Items include sweatshirts, t-shirts...

... specialties. Musculoskeletal Conditions Plantar fasciitis Tennis elbow Shoulder pain Achilles tendon... Rehabilitation Post-surgical recovery Improved mobility Aesthetic Medicine Skin tightening Cellulite reduction...

... have tried my hand at tennis before." "Are you planning on..., characterized by a rebellious, westernized aesthetic—dyed hair, tanned skin, and...

... lot of reporting around female tennis players choosing not to gain... to lose weight due to aesthetic pressure that actually harmed their...

... ticket.” “Is there a public tennis court with lights on that.... Any spots with a cozy aesthetic and a table for 4...

Ozempic and glp-1 has now made it big to my small city in Canada and I feel like it’s EVERYWHERE now. So many people are talking about starting it. So many celebrities are so open about it. Idk it just feels so pushed on us and like it’s such a normal thing to take but I’ve got a feeling it’s going to really hurt the people who are falling for it… submitted by /u/Wimzie_Oo to r/conspiracy [link] [comments]

He was just so beautiful to watch. For me he is the most naturally skilled player to ever play and goat even if he doesnt have the most slams. I count greatest of all time as not just trophies won but influence on and off the court, the untold magic we saw everytime he stepped foot on the court. I grew up not just watching him but because of him and there are so many internationally just like me. submitted by /u/punjabkingsownersout to r/unpopularopinion [link] [comments]

I’m used to this,” Carlos Alcaraz says with a beguiling grin. “I’ve been on the floor on clay before, so this isn’t new!” We’re watching Alcaraz roll around on brick orange clay, but we’re not watching him play tennis. There’s some of it on his face; around his thick eyebrows and sprinkled above his lips. It’s lightly dusted over his freshly trimmed beard and his hair—longer than usual, a little disheveled. It’s all over his clothing too: a Louis Vuitton tank top that he’ll occasionally let slide up his taut abdomen, some Nike gym shorts (six-inch inseam, in case you were wondering) that offer a glimpse at his tan line, and his personal Rolex watch. Alcaraz, like many athletes of his stature, has lucrative apparel contracts, in his case with those brands. He’s not quite a style icon—though he has his fascinations, like wearing zany highlighter-colored looks on the court and his 300 plus-strong sneaker collection—but he wears clothes well. It’s the day before his first match at the Miami Open, and the Spaniard, who turned 23 earlier this month, has given Vanity Fair a fraction of his morning for a photo shoot and interview. Prior to his arrival alongside his formidable manager—Alcaraz’s fellow Murcian Albert Molina—there’s some anxiety in the air; we’re working on a tight schedule. But it clears once he walks in. Alcaraz is down for it all. I had heard—and seen clips online—of Alcaraz being a gent: sweeping clay courts himself after practice rounds, greeting staffers and fellow players with the same warmth. And yet I was not prepared for his disarming niceness. If anything, he was deferential, in a manner surprising for a person so famous and an athlete known for his vigor and on-court boldness. When he hears his fans cheer, Alcaraz points to his ear to encourage them to scream louder. He vigorously huffs and puffs and assuredly kicks his racket in between serves. His cockiness on the court is well-earned. On the day we meet, he sits atop the ATP Tour rankings and collects celebrity spectators with the same ease he does trophies: film legend Spike Lee, pop superstar Dua Lipa, soccer giant David Beckham, golf champion Rory McIlroy. The list goes on. Together with Jannik Sinner, Alcaraz is one half of “Sincaraz,” the fan-coined nickname for his rivalry with the current world number two, which has been widely described as a “rebirth” for tennis following the dominance of the “Big Three” era (Roger Federer, Rafael Nadal, and Novak Djokovic). In person, Alcaraz is more gentle than he lets his on-court persona reveal. But he’s tennis’s greatest contemporary showman, and he knows it. In February, Alcaraz became the youngest man to complete a career Grand Slam. Djokovic, his opponent at the decisive match in Melbourne, lauded the achievement: “What you’ve been doing I think the best word to describe it is historic,” the Serbian said in his on-court interview. “Legendary.” When Alcaraz arrived at his first match in Miami, he carried a new Nike duffel bag that read “YOUNGEST EVER TO WIN THE 4 OF THEM.” As it often happens with almost anything Alcaraz does, the bag lit a match—as journalist José Morgado pointed out on X, the statement seemed to forgo a key word: man. In the Open era, Steffi Graf was 19 when she achieved the feat in 1988, and Serena Williams was 21 when she did it in 2003. But the flip side of Alcaraz’s bag read: “El más joven de la historia en ganar los 4 grandes.” In Spanish, the line is gendered, as any bilingual Alcaraz zealot may point out. His detractors will say that, in Spanish, the masculine form is the general one. Was the omission classic Alcaraz audacity or a mere translation issue? Skeptics question whether what they see as immaturity is affecting his play. During a Miami match against American Sebastian Korda, Alcaraz approached his box. “I can’t anymore. I can’t anymore, dude, I want to go home, dude,” Alcaraz told his team in Spanish. (Last month, as the Monte-Carlo Masters kicked off, Alcaraz said he regretted these comments. The Spaniard lost to Sinner in the final in Monte Carlo, falling to number two.) Did Alcaraz intentionally flunk out of Miami? Is he “bored” from Masters 1000 events, as French tennis coach and commentator Patrick Mouratoglou suggested? Had he come to Miami to party, as some online said mockingly? “Well, I think that nowadays we have to be way more careful with what we say, and what we do, but at the end of the day, we’re just human, you know?” Alcaraz tells me. We spoke in Spanish, both our first language. What he is acutely aware of is that people will react. “It’s stressful, because you have to think about what you do and when you do it and where you are all the time,” Alcaraz says. “But as a person, we have good days and bad days, we wake up sometimes not wanting to do anything, but we still have to show up, and sometimes we don’t react in the way we should.” Yet Alcaraz is not a victim of his stature. What he is, really, is young. The youngest man to ever do it, but also just a guy in his early 20s. “I don’t want to say vertigo,” he answers when I ask him about having already accomplished so much. “I’m aware that I have so much ahead of me, and I try not to think that I have 12 or 15 years left of my career because I get overwhelmed,” Alcaraz says, laughing. What he doesn’t want is to end up leading a monotonous life that makes him “a slave to tennis.” Alcaraz began his professional tennis career at 14 and broke into the top 100 rankings three years later. In 2022 he won the US Open and became the first male Zoomer to win a major singles title, in addition to becoming the youngest man to be ranked number one in the world. His name is mentioned alongside a plethora of records that oftentimes start with “the youngest ever to.... “I know I’m living a dream life, a life I dreamed of,” Alcaraz says. “But I sometimes wish I could have more moments for myself, to do things a 22-year-old guy would do.” From the outside, it looks like Alcaraz does make time to do those things. (After his losing match to Korda, a tennis-head friend jokingly texted me that we’d likely see photos of Alcaraz at E11even, the famed 24-hour Miami nightclub.) Alcaraz has become known for seemingly living his life off the court with as much intensity as he plays on it. He slips past questions about his private life; he is, however, happy to talk about his downtime. He shares much of his life online with his more than 8.5 million followers. From Miami alone: clips jumping off a yacht, a video of golf with his friends, snapshots watching an Inter Miami CF soccer match and an NBA game, a selfie with DJ Martin Garrix. “Over time, you grow aware of what you need,” Alcaraz says. “There’s been times in which I didn’t stop to take a break,” he says, “and that led to me not playing well, or becoming injured, or...” he pauses. “Let’s just leave it at that, that it didn’t end well.” (In the months after we spoke, Alcaraz injured his wrist. He’s since withdrawn from tournaments following the Monte-Carlo Masters and decided not to defend his championship at Roland Garros.) He’s been vocal about the intensity of the tennis calendar and tells me he’s working to change it. “I think it’s just as important, or more, than taking care of your body,” he says about his mental health. “There’s people who are, fairly so, obsessed with body aesthetics, but to me it’s just as important to take care of your head.” There was a time in which it seemed, as Federer and Nadal appeared close to retirement, that men’s tennis would never be as exciting again. Those reservations have been blown up by the bombastic presence of Alcaraz combined with Sinner’s stoicism, a synergy seen in full force at Roland Garros last year. It was the first time they met at a major final. Sinner was ranked first and Alcaraz second and the defending champion. Alcaraz lost the first two sets but recovered in the third, and he and Sinner delivered what has been widely discussed as some of the most riveting tennis play in history in the last two, which the Spaniard also won. At 5 hours and 29 minutes, it is the longest French Open final of all time. “It is, on record, one of the greatest matches ever,” Lee tells me. He recalls sitting courtside right where players leave their towels, so after every point Alcaraz would come over and Lee would, in his words, “pump him up.” “Look, I’m a sports fan and a New Yorker, so I’m going to be loud and cheer for my guy.” Lee laughs. “And as it got tighter, I got louder.” After the match, Lee gave Alcaraz his Yankees hat. Alcaraz likes to keep the tension with Sinner within the match. “We’re showing the world that we can be on court and give our best, and try to do the most possible damage to the other while playing, try to beat each other, and then, off court, just be two guys who get along really well,” he says. “We help each other give our best.” There is, as Alcaraz says, no bad blood. “We are fighting for the same goal, but there’s no need to hate each other because we want the same thing.” That said, “when you are competing at this level, having a close friendship is complicated,” he says. “It can be done,” he clarifies. “I’m all for it.” Sincaraz has been great for tennis and for tennis fandom, but Alcaraz wants to manage expectations. Rivalries are “long processes,” he says. “It’s not comparable to the historic rivalries that have happened in tennis, because we both have so many years ahead. Hopefully, we will continue playing against each other many times, at many finals, and that we will split the greatest tournaments.” Alcaraz is one of tennis’s most decorated players today, but he is also becoming a pop culture obsession due to both his magnetism on the court and also to the fact that he is, objectively, very attractive. “Buzzcaraz is elite,” texts another friend as we discuss Alcaraz’s hairstyle in Miami, which is longer than usual after he’s grown out a mullet-style fade he debuted at Indian Wells. There’s also been a shaved undercut, a bleached buzz, and myriad other hairstyles that have, Beckham-style, made headlines: “With respect to both [Reilly] Opelka and Alcaraz’s tennis skills, though, the main thing fans will remember about this match was the surprise unveiling of Alcaraz’s shaved dome,” wrote GQ of the buzz cut in question. Alcaraz is aware of the public compulsion to analyze his looks. He doesn’t purposefully feed it, but he doesn’t try to stop it either. “Listen, I try for it to not be a disaster, but if there’s something I want to do, I do it,” he says. “If I were to listen to everyone’s opinion, I’d go crazy, right?” He smiles again. Alcaraz’s smile is wide and unrestrained, baring his teeth and his full lips—features he’s grown into since breaking into tennis as a teenager. When I ask him about the culture’s preoccupation with his clothes and his training, he simply laughs, not denying, nor underscoring, his enjoyment of it. There have been many other sex symbols in sports: Muhammad Ali, Beckham, Cristiano Ronaldo, Tom Brady, to name a few. Is Alcaraz on the same path? None of those are children of the internet era. None of them have the same preternatural sense of how fast an image can travel that comes with being a digital native. None of them are “Carlitos,” who goes viral online with the same speed and ease he hits a tennis ball. He has earned a perennial spot on social media feeds of anyone who is remotely interested in tennis or men. From the Australian Open alone: more than 1.2 million views on TikTok for defending his opponent Alex de Minaur from a time violation warning, another 3 million on Instagram for removing his tank top after a match and nodding at the camera after erupting applause; 3 million on Instagram for a supercut of him after his victory in Melbourne; and 9.2 million across both platforms for his “vibing” with his headphones on after a match. Then there’s the hundreds of thousands of views Alcaraz procures from clips and supercuts from some of his most memorable points, remarkable foot speed, and impressive strength. He has been described as a “human highlight reel” by the tennis podcaster Matt Roberts, an assessment backed by The Guardian, The Telegraph, and The New York Times. “What makes Carlos so compelling is the emotion he brings to the game—joy, spontaneity, real artistry,” Pharrell Williams, the creative director of Louis Vuitton Men’s, tells me via email. “Seeing him live, you feel his presence immediately. He’s not just playing—he’s expressing something.” If many of his counterparts tend to come across as self-serious and reserved, Alcaraz is explosive. Does he purposefully put on a show, or is he an innate performer? He suggests that his showmanship is integral to his game. “It’s how I play, it’s how I like to play, and how I want to play,” he says. “When people are entertained and I notice that they’re enjoying it, I have a good time too.” The viral moments are good for his image, he says, and for the sport in general. But there’s also a downside. “Now, anyone can easily leave a comment, you can harm an athlete with just one comment,” he says, admitting that negative comments have at times affected his game. Despite the Nike duffel, Alcaraz says he doesn’t obsess over breaking records. “There are records I want and that I’m chasing, but for when I can look back at my career when I reach the end of and see what I’ve done, and where I am in comparison to others,” he says. “But I have to say that it is nice to see your name in some places.” Djokovic himself has said Alcaraz combines “the best of all three worlds,” his own, Federer’s, and Nadal’s. But Alcaraz argues that he’s grown past simple parallels. “We’ve reached a point in which comparisons are over,” he says. He can appreciate a compliment like Djokovic’s. “It’s nice to hear it,” he pauses, then smiles like a young boy who’s been praised by one of his idols: “It’s really cool.” He composes himself: “But I’m always going for my own style, it’s what I’ve created and I’ve trained to perfect it. I haven’t copied anyone,” he says. “People now know that I am Carlos Alcaraz.” submitted by /u/minivatreni to r/tennis [link] [comments]

submitted by /u/Laura_Whitson to r/TennisCourtPorn [link] [comments]

submitted by /u/berizart to r/aiArt [link] [comments]

The tenniscore aesthetic is more than just a fashion trend—it’s a mood. It’s the perfect blend of athletic grace, summer sunsets, and poolside luxury. In my latest series, I capture the vibrant essence of the tennis girl lifestyle, but I do it through a completely new artistic lens. ​Having worked as a professional digital and traditional artist since 1995, I’ve always believed that the artist is an inventor of technology. Just as Picasso created the technology of blending realities through Cubism, and Pollock gave us the technology of drip painting, I am using Artificial Intelligence as the next stage in the evolution of painting. ​AI is not just a button to push; it’s a revolutionary medium. In these pieces, I use algorithms to flawlessly emulate the thick, tactile brushstrokes of classical oil impasto. The fiery orange sunsets, the deep turquoise pools, and the iconic tennis racket are brought to life with a highly expressive, contemporary energy. ​I wanted to take the modern "tennis girl" aesthetic and elevate it into serious, conceptual figurative art. : #tenniscore #tennisgirl #digitalart #impastopainting #aiart #contemporaryart #sportsaesthetic #poolsideart #summerdecor #modernwallart #figurativeart submitted by /u/berizart to u/berizart [link] [comments]

I liked Feds Uniqlo kits in 2019, especially French, US Open, and indoors. Where can I find clothes with a similar aesthetic? submitted by /u/Fun-Advertising-8006 to r/10s [link] [comments]

submitted by /u/Dossant_Monique to r/TennisCourtPorn [link] [comments]

So right now there are three surfaces for Tennis: grass, clay and hardcourt Which is fine, but there are 4 grand slams. So at the moment both the US open and the Australian open use a hardcourt. This is boring and means that the French open (clay) and Wimbledon (grass) are more distinctive. Therefore I propose that one of either the Australian open or the US open switch to a brand new, never before seen surface. I have some suggestions: Wood. This would have a cool, retro vibe. Low bounce but fast, but would need to be indoor and climate controlled Glass. Or rather some kind of synthetic transparent polymer. This would be very aesthetically pleasing but might be too slippery. Also you could put an aquarium under it. Metal. My personal favourite - probably some kind of aluminium alloy would work best but Titanium would also work if cost isn’t an issue. This would go hard as fuck. Seriously, it’d look sick. Any others? submitted by /u/Flabby-Nonsense to r/CrazyIdeas [link] [comments]

Just thinking about the amount of people in the post-Covid world who think khakis mean khaki shorts are welcome and think there’s such thing as a nice t-shirt nice enough for a wedding… If you’ve ever made someone’s wedding look more casual than the aesthetic AND dress code actually are, please share your story of shame. This is a safe confession zone! My own wedding requested guests to refrain from casual attire with specific exceptions for polos, nice jeans (those you could wear a sport coat with) and sundresses for ladies… We had so many guys show up in khaki shorts and tennis shoes it proves if you give an inch they take a mile! But also, some people don’t dress up or attend weddings often so it is an easy mistake to make especially for a blue collar crowd. We were just grateful to share the day with everyone! This post is all in good fun! We’ve all been there! I once half-flashed my sibling’s wedding with a wardrobe malfunction… Thankfully that was quickly fixed! Edit: If anyone wants to be weird or say something negative, that is your right but don’t try to tell me how I feel. I used an example from my own experience based on things I see in pictures I look at regularly as a newlywed. That explains why I remember it. It does NOT mean I am upset about it, so take my words at face value when I say I am truly just here to have a lighthearted conversation. Don’t be one of those obnoxious people who thinks remembering something tacky is the same as being hung up on it or upset about it. In general, don’t tell other people how they feel when they calmly and sincerely tell you otherwise. It makes you look silly and honestly a little dumb. submitted by /u/SignificanceWitty210 to r/weddingshaming [link] [comments]

I really don't know if she famous or not as much as she likes to propound submitted by /u/hornyspiritualist to r/Instagramreality [link] [comments]

I've always been fascinated by the covers of table tennis rubber packages, they have a vintage aesthetic that can be traced back to y2k. submitted by /u/External_Director467 to r/y2kaesthetic [link] [comments]

So this happened a couple weekends ago at EPCOT, and I’m still cringing. My husband and I were Disney Bounding, as a refresher, Disney Bounding is when fans wear regular clothes inspired by a Disney character’s color palette or aesthetic. It’s a way to express your love for a character without violating Disney’s very strict rules about impersonation (because adults are absolutely not allowed to wear costumes in the parks, especially ones that might confuse guests into thinking you're a cast member or character performer). I was channeling Snow White: yellow tennis skirt, blue tee, red cardigan, red belt, and a cute apple-shaped purse. My husband was Grumpy: red shirt that read “I didn’t think I would become a grumpy old man, but here I am, nailing it!”, brown shorts, and a floppy brown bucket hat. It might be important to say here, we are in our 50s. In NO WAY could anyone mistake us for being the actual Disney employed cast members who are playing Snow White or Grumpy. We were walking past the German Pavillion, on our way to our dinner reservation at Garden Grill, when a woman with two little girls flagged us down. She didn’t ask, she told us that her kids wanted pictures with “Snow White and Grumpy.” I politely explained we were just guests, not characters, and actually late for a dining reservation. She immediately got huffy, saying she didn’t want to “wait in that ridiculous line” to see the real Snow White, and her kids were “already excited.” I tried to say no again, but she waved us off and literally pushed her kids toward us while pulling out her phone. Cue awkward frozen smiles while my husband (bless his grumpy soul) muttered, “This is why I don’t go to Magic Kingdom.” We finally had to excuse ourselves and make a break for it. For those wondering: yes, this could 100% get you kicked out of the park or have your annual passes revoked. Disney takes “character integrity” VERY seriously, even if you’re just a fan in a color-coordinated outfit. Moral of the story: Just because someone looks Disney-adjacent doesn’t mean they’re on the payroll. We were just two nerds trying to get to our Mickey-shaped waffles in peace. TL;DR: Lady demands we take photos with her kids at EPCOT because we looked like Snow White and Grumpy. We were just Disney Bounding and late for a reservation. No ma’am, we don’t work here—and we like our APs too much to pretend we do. submitted by /u/MB_FanFic to r/IDontWorkHereLady [link] [comments]

submitted by /u/No-Attention-801 to r/NYCinfluencersnark [link] [comments]

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/Mindless_Tennis_4045 Originally posted to r/AmIOverreacting Am I overreacting after I found out my boyfriend’s online “friend group” I became part of 2 years ago has been JUST him the whole time? Thanks to u/queenlegolas & u/soayherder for suggesting this BoRU Trigger Warnings: gaslighting, possible stalking Original Post: December 30, 2024 Copy of the text message Transcript of the text messages OOP: i just want to know why OOP: when it finally came time for the Hawaii trip, how were you going to explain that?? what were you thinking [redacted] BF: You know something I've noticed about you? BF: You can never just be calm, and there always has to be an issue. I know you were raised in a volatile environment and still have to relearn a lot about healthy relationship dynamics, but it's like you thrive on chaos. only. BF: And we were gonna see wicked tonight. Pfft I guess there that goes. OOP: you can't be serious. OOP: i deserve answers, i am honestly so creeped out OOP: basically half of my life for the past two years has been a complete and total lie and you were behind all of it BF: Okay, don't be dramatic. You know this isn't a big deal, you're just giddy to harp on this and make a bigger issue Text box below the text messages I guess I should’ve been less oblivious, but since a little before we started dating in 2022 I was added to my boyfriend’s (just friend at the time) three person instagram group chat with what he explained were some of his closest online friends. The two other accounts seemed like real people because they had real followers and comments on their posts, and drastically different aesthetics/looks to them. We eventually made a discord server for us and that alone was convincing enough since multiple times we’d all be active at the same time. We never voice chatted but I used to never voice chat either, so I didn’t think twice. The group got closer though as more and more time passed since I was first added to their group chat, and last month we got together and planned a research TRIP TO HAWAII for August (we live on the East coast of the US). Like we booked everything! So imagine my surprise when I’m over at his house tonight and his computer is open and I just want to log into my google docs when I accidentally stumble across first of all, follower bot sites, and also him logged in and chatting with me as one of the individuals I thought I had become close with, and just got this sinking feeling. I didn’t jump to the idea that they could be fake either, I was like, maybe he just has their logins since they’re all so close and is way too interested in their messages, but then I noticed their only chats were the group chats and the server, and the real kicker was the email address it was signed up under was his backup email with his full name. I quite literally snooped until he got out of the shower and caught me, which I’m not saying was right of me but I couldn’t help myself. During my snooping I gradually became devastatingly confident that he wasn’t behind just one but both accounts. I’ve never seen his face so red and he just absolutely panicked and started shouting at me to get out of his business. I couldn’t even form the right words to say to him, in the end I just walked out of his apartment sobbing. It’s very early in the morning, I get that, but this screenshot is what he has to say and I’m starting to feel crazy. Am I overreacting about my discovery? Relevant Comments Commenter 1: NOR. Ghost him and be thankful you didn’t procreate….. OOP: i think ghosting is exactly what I’m going to do. and right LMAO OOP should leave her boyfriend if they live together. Not Safe. OOP: thankfully we have never lived together so it will be easy to discard him from my life asap Commenter 2: That is seriously so fucking creepy 😳 he probably made those accounts to try to get with you back when you were just friends, and then just contiuned with the lie after he won his prize. This is gross and unsettling.. I wouldn't even wanna be anywhere near him after that 😳 OOP: god yeah that tracks???? looking back they did hype him up an awful lot……… bruhhhhhhhhhhh   Brief update: December 30, 2024 (same day, four hours later) Copy of another text message Transcript of one text message BF: Do you want to get our tickets off the AMC app or buy them at the theatre? Just got this. He still hasn’t explained himself, essentially at all. I am going to take the advice of the majority of the comments section and block on everything. Thank you so much for all of your kindness and support. I have not slept at all as this is just such a bizarre situation, so I appreciate you all Relevant Comments Commenter 1: This is messed up. Has he otherwise been a functional member of society? Was he afraid to admit he didn't have any friends? OOP: yes this is honestly shocking, i thought he was just mean sometimes not additionally crazy and the other proper words, he has a best friend in his hometown   I assume people will be looking at my account so I just wanted to reassure you of my safety and leave you with this for now December 30, 2024 (same day, one hour later) I honestly have the biggest migraine of my life and I haven’t slept at all. Nothing similar to this has ever happened to me before but my life has been crazy enough to where I wasn’t able to prepare for the huge reaction something like this gets, I knew it was bizarre but I didn’t know it would jump to the top of EVERYTHING, I assumed it would collect some advice or opinions I could read and then the post would get lost in the void like how it goes with the majority of my others. But I sincerely appreciate every bit of support. Unfortunately I am also being bombarded with hate and nasty messages and my headache keeps getting worse, so I need to get off Reddit for today but I don’t want to just ghost and make people think something horrible happened, because I am taking the steps to make sure nothing does. He does have my address but I live with my family in an apartment building that needs a key fob to get in so I have at least those two layers of safety for now, but for some reason I doubt that at least today there will be any attempts at a personal confrontation, and even then I am confident I will be able to remain safe and far away as possible in the case he does come around. I have alerted some of my (real) friends of the situation as well, and they will be close to me as much as they can So, please do not worry when I am not active for the rest of today, I’m just getting nauseous from my headache and I don’t want to start the day feeling like this Top Comments Commenter 1: To add to the alt theme, this guy is clearly very adept on "how to use the internet" to further his own means. The fact that your posts exploded means he's likely seen them if he spends any time on Reddit and he'll be using this as a means to get to you, your friends, and anyone you trust as a method of spreading misinformation about you. I know you're asleep, but this isn't something that you should sit on until tomorrow. I'm not sure what the 'correct' course of action here is, but inform your family and call police non-emergency to let them know that there's an issue. They may have some indication for what to do next. I'd also arrange some scheduled wellness calls and safe words with people you trust, where if you don't check in then it signals an alarm, and they can verify that who they're talking to is you. Tell them the safe words over the phone by voice so it can't be gleaned from your message history. I'm not trying to be dramatic or overreact, here, but this kind of extreme situation requires even more extreme countermeasures. Please treat it with the gravity that it deserves! Commenter 2: Based off what he’s already done I wouldn’t be surprised if he assembled a bot army to post some of the hateful/nasty responses you’re getting lol. But for real, getting offline and taking care of yourself is a good next step, good luck ❤️ Commenter 3: Is your family aware of what's going on too? It's vital you start telling those you trust exactly what's happened so that they understand the gravity of the situation. Also, get in there before he starts lying, because he absolutely will. Commenter 4: Also. Assume all of your devices are compromised. He’s probably tracking you everywhere online. You need to spend some time securing your accounts and devices   Little Non-update: Dec 30, 2024 (same day, 11 hours later) I still see people concerned for my safety so even though I’m taking a break for today I just want to share that I have received no communication from him today, and ended up going on a hike with a friend and then out to dinner and drinks and had a nice time, I am home with my family now and hopefully the rest of the night is as uneventful   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

AIW? Invited to a wedding but there's a catch. (New Update) I am not The OOP, OOP is u/EdenCapwell AIW? Invited to a wedding but there's a catch. Originally posted to r/amiwrong Thanks to u/theprismaprincess for suggesting this BoRU Thanks to u/Basic_Bichette for finding the new update BoRU 1 BoRU 2 TRIGGER WARNING: Ableism, entitlement, misogyny, harassment Original Post July 11, 2024 I was so happy to see a wedding invitation in my mailbox. I pulled it out and a little note fell out on an index card but I looked at the invitation first. It was truly beautiful and I immediately stuck it to my fridge like the work of art it was. It was addressed to my husband and me and I was beyond stoked. I love weddings. I tend to get teary-eyed and smile until my face hurts at the joy of new beginnings and all the love. I was even a wedding singer ... that's how much I love them. I picked up the notecard and read that and while my husband was invited ... I'd be in another room helping to babysit all the children there with several other female invitees. There's a special room for children at the church and that's where I'd be. For everything. I'd still need to dress for a wedding in case I wind up in any photos, but I'd be taking my reception meal with the children and I'd be with all the kids for the ceremony. Then there was a link for their gift registry. Oh, and the meals for my husband and myself would be $100.00 each and we have a link to pay it when we digitally RSVP. The first problem here is that I am disabled at 50 years old. Legally. I use oxygen. I use a walker when I need to walk long distances. I sometimes have to give up the walker entirely and use a wheelchair. I'm not proud of it, but there it is. I could happily sit in a room and LOOK at kids but I'd be pretty useless to prevent a fall or stop a child from choking or anything else that would require me to move quickly. Second, my husband isn't the one who has been friends with these people since childhood. I am. Why would he be invited to watch the ceremony and be part of the reception but not me? My husband said he'd happily watch the kids and let me attend the wedding and reception but the invitation specified that only other FEMALE invitees would be watching the kids so I doubt they'd let him. Is this a normal thing at weddings now? Do you pick guests to babysit other guest's children? Should I call them up and explain my health situation even though they already know it and visit me during my multiple hospitalizations a year? I hate having to pull the health card but honestly ... what were they thinking? I confess that I feel offended and hurt that I'm nothing more than a babysitter to them who is expected to pay for my supper and babysit for free. Would I be wrong to simply tell them we won't be able to attend and to find another sitter? And if we don't go ... do we still send a gift? Updating to address some questions: I know these folks because my mom (RIP, Mom) and the bride's grandma were besties. So, I grew up with the bride's mom as an almost sister to me. We went to school together, graduated together, worked at the same place twice, and have been super close since. The bride is like a goddaughter... at least I thought she was. I'm gobsmacked here. The church where they are getting married is a Southern Baptist church. They aren't members. None of us are overly religious. They just liked the venue and booked it. I've never been inside but it's lovely on the outside and apparently, it has a childcare room that is big enough for a bunch of women and kids to hole up comfortably for a wedding and reception. We're all American. The groom's family is related to my family via marriage and the bride and groom met at my house at a cookout a few years ago. I've always been way closer to the bride's family, though. I knew that there had been a proposal. I got Facetimed about ten minutes after it happened and my husband and I cried and laughed and wished them well and ooohed and ahhhed over their story and the ring. I was expecting an invitation, sure. But not like this. The last time I had lunch with the bride's mom, she told me they're inviting around 200 people so it'll be a large wedding with, I'm assuming, a ton of children. No, I don't hate kids. I love kids. I would have loved to have kids of my own but my body just wouldn't do it. It took two miscarriages and a stillbirth to finally make me accept that it wouldn't happen for us. We are in the process of adult adopting two young adults that we brought into our home when we found out they were kicked out and homeless at 18. They've lived with us for years and we're making it legal. They call us Mom and Pop and we're a family. I'm still considering my options. I've started and deleted multiple emails to the bride's mom. I'm a raw nerve right now and my tone isn't the kindest. I want to keep it all in writing so there can be no he said/she said. I plan to ask if they incorrectly sent me the note about babysitting since they know I physically cannot do that. But every inception of the email led with 'WTAF, Donna!?' So, I need to think about it some more. :) Thanks for all the comments. I'm reading them all. RELEVANT COMMENTS cakolin “I’m not proud of it, but there it is.” Sorry to not reply to your initial question, but this comment caught my attention. I just wanted to let you know that you should actually be very proud of yourself and your body, for pushing through and using the equipment that is needed to support your body well. OOP Thank you. So much. I never expected this to be my reality at fifty years old. Never. I went from being so healthy and doing all kinds of sports (I rocked Roller Derby! And could swim like a fish! And loved to play tennis!) to this. And sometimes I feel like it's not even my own body I'm living in anymore. It's just not okay. Therapy is helping me accept it but it's an uphill battle that I feel like I can't win. So thank you. From the bottom of my heart. Thank you. OOP Updated the same post 6 days later July 17, 2024 UPDATE: I spoke to my friend (the mother of the bride) and I'm pretty upset. I've been bawling for most of the day. She called and said that they were getting a lot of backlash from the wedding guests. No one wants to pay $100 for dinner and only three of the women asked were okay with babysitting. I told her I understood that the guests were upset because it's just tacky to 1) be asked to pay and 2) be TOLD you are invited but only to babysit. I told her I would not be a babysitter. At all. No. Just no. She got mad and brought up how we were lifelong friends. She said I'd be helping them more by babysitting than I'd be helping by simply sitting in a pew watching. I reminded her that I couldn't physically help at ALL due to, you know, being legally disabled. She said they completely understood that and expected me to simply 'supervise' the other sitters since they trusted me most. Again, I told her that I felt it was insulting to be volun-told (thanks, Reddit, for that word) that I'd be babysitting and that I had no desire to do that, especially not dressed in formal wear. THEN we got to the truth. She said that she didn't know if I'd be in a wheelchair that day or require a walker. That's fair. I don't always know which one I'll need. She said that they wanted everyone in pews for the wedding video and me sitting in a wheelchair would make me stick out and ruin video/photos. I said, "If I need a wheelchair that day then I can move to a pew and my husband can put the wheelchair in another room or back in our car. I may not even need it that day." Then she says, "Well, space is limited in the pews. You would take up the space of two people with your purse and oxygen tank." I said, "No, I would not. I wouldn't bring a purse in and the oxygen tank either sits on my lap or between my feet." (it's like a little backpack.) Then she said, "Well, having you in oxygen in the photos would be distracting from the other people." And there you have it. Words were exchanged and she hung up on me. I haven't been removed from any social media YET but I fully expect to be. I already feel awful for being this way at only 50 years old. I didn't choose this. I didn't want this. If she thinks its awful to having it photographed ... just imagine living with it. Which is what I told her before she hung up on me. I'm devastated. Just devastated. OOP Updated a 2nd time on July 25, 2024 UPDATE 2: I'm not in the greatest headspace. I don't think I've ever been less okay, honestly. I did not register to RSVP or communicate with them further. Until ... another invitee got in touch with me and said that the mother of the bride, a person I thought of as basically my sister, was badmouthing me into the ground. I explained my side and our mutual friend was livid. They told the mother of the bride and the bride that they were wrong to want to exclude me because I might or might not need a wheelchair and would have oxygen on my face. I could remove the oxygen for photos, they told her. So, the mother of the bride sent me a message saying .... and I quote, "Well, if you're going to be butthurt about the aesthetic we want to achieve and try to turn other guests against us then you can f*cking come and sit in a pew. But not in photos. And we'll try to get the videographer to do edits to the wedding vid, too. But I won't forget how you made this difficult for us." I replied, "How did I make it difficult other than existing?" She replied, "You clearly told ***** about what I told you regarding your wheelchair and oxygen. And she's telling everyone else. We're getting a ton of hate." I said, "She asked me if I was attending and I told her no and explained why. I didn't lie to her. I told her exactly what you said. You didn't tell me not to tell anyone your reasons. If they're valid reasons to you then you shouldn't care who knows." So, I'm now blocked. By the bride, the mom, the dad, and the groom. A friendship I've had my entire life is over. A goddaughter that I helped nurture and care for is just gone now. We paid for the bride's car insurance, gas, and cell phone all through high school and college because we wanted her focused on just her studies and not a part-time job (her parents got her a car but insisted she work but her grades fell when she did and we helped her) ... and this is how they thank us. This is how they repay our kindness. I guess I'm a great friend when I'm giving money ... but I'm not good enough to be seen. I've felt like a burden my whole life and this has set me back so far. I'm just not okay. Update #3 Added JULY 30, 2024 Brand new update #3: Apparently, my post went sorta viral because it was on Fox News and a site called BoredPanda. A few mutual friends reached out and asked if it was me and I admitted that it was. They were told something completely different about the situation. The bride's mother told them that *I\* refused to come because of my health difficulties and that I was afraid I would ruin the wedding and declined the RSVP. She even claimed that she had been begging me to attend ever since the engagement happened which was a bold faced lie. I am the one who organized and paid for the after engagement party so they could announce the happy news to everyone and I was clear to everyone that I couldn't wait to attend the wedding. So, I sent screenshots, photos of the invitation, and the notecard telling me I'd be babysitting, and then the showdown where I was told I could sit in the pew and just be edited out of the video and would NOT be in any photos. I also posted it on Facebook and shared receipts there, too. Well, WWIII has officially commenced. Granted, I'm getting this all third and fourth hand, but here's the latest. Word has spread fast. Links to the news article have made it all over the place and I've been told that the few ladies who had agreed to babysit have backed out and asked if there was something wrong with THEM that would make them not fit to sit in the pews or be in photos. (And I think that's probably the case since two of them have unnatural hair coloring and the other has facial piercings.) The church that was booked as the venue has been notified and I'm hearing it's probably not going to happen there because the pastor's daughter is wheelchair bound after a car accident. He was going to officiate but now he says he's conflicted about it and the message it would send. My ex friend and the bride have blown up my husband's phone because I blocked them after this went public (they blocked me first on all of the social media spots) and he let it go on for a few days to see what they had to say. He has blocked them but the bulk of it is that I'm jealous that I was never blessed with any children of my own so that's why I'm ruining this for them. I'm hateful and vile and vindictive because I hate them for their clear health. I mentioned that the groom is related to me by marriage, right? That whole branch of the family tree has now divided itself with some on my side and some on the bride's side. The groom hasn't contacted us at all but his mother did and told me that I was wrong for sharing personal business and that I need to let the bride have her wedding how she wants it. I don't agree that I did anything wrong here. I can't help that I'm sick. They've made me feel like utter trash that should just be tossed into the landfill. I hurt. I literally ache because of this. So, hi Donna, my ex best friend and practical sister. If you're reading this, you devastated me. I'm not okay. I don't know that I'll ever be okay again. I invested time and money into both YOU and your daughter. I gave you both a home when your marriage was messed up and never charged you rent or asked for help with groceries or utilities. For over a year, you lived in our home and we paid your way so you are wrong to treat me this way. My oxygen mask and possible need for a wheelchair should be the last thing on either of your minds ... because what matters most is that I, feeling as bad as I normally do, was still going to put on my best dress, make myself look presentable, plant a smile on my face through my pain, and show up for you like I always have. But I never, ever will again. If people noticed me in your photos at all ... it would have been because I had the biggest and most proud of anyone there and they'd see the love I had for you radiating off the image. You will regret this one day when I'm gone and you realize that there are more important things in life than a perfect photo. RELEVANT COMMENTS OOP This has been updated. You guys, thank you for the private messages and all the comments. It's safe to say that war has commenced in my town and I'm just ... I'm reeling and I've honestly never felt lower in my life than I do right now. I've had pretty unhealthy thoughts so I'm seeing my therapist two times a week now instead of every couple of weeks. I'm seriously not okay but you guys and your support and all the funny comments have really helped me. Thank you all. NEW UPDATE Nearly 3 months later UPDATE (and possibly the final update) The wedding was today 11/16/24. Friends rented a big cabin venue about 20 minutes from the wedding venue and everyone who was offended over being asked to pay at the reception and babysit or serve the food (yes, several people got invitations telling them they were invited, but would be serving food at the reception they paid to eat at) got together at the cabin. Me included. I was on the fence about going because I really didn't want to sit there and talk about everything and rehash it but that wasn't my experience at all. I had a truly lovely time. My husband and I even danced to our wedding song! And I had mixed drinks! Quite a few so forgive me if this has typos. LOL! Two of the bridesmaids opted out of the wedding over mistreatment and, without anyone knowing, they sent letters to all the guests who had been invited to tell them what went down with me and others being asked to babysit/be servers. Those guests were given the address of the cabin. They were the two bridesmaids who addressed all the envelopes and still had the guest list, from what they told me. Anyway, we had a great time. There were about 80 of us before all was said and done, though I didn't take a head count. It was PACKED. Several people went to the wedding but didn't attend the reception (they refused to pay for their meal) and came to our get-together instead. Including the two bridesmaids who told me all about what I was being called and the story of how I was trying to ruin their wedding because I was jealous of their good health. The bridesmaids who backed out of the wedding due to bridezilla behavior were posting a ton of pics of all of us dancing and eating (we all chipped in $$ weeks ago for catering and booze) and was seen by my ex-bestie because she unblocked me (I unblocked her weeks ago in the hope that she'd come around, much as I'm loathe to admit it) and called me to tell me off again. I told her I didn't plan the alternate reception but I was invited and came because they didn't care about my health or me ruining any photos, just me having a good time. Apparently, the wedding was 'ruined' because of me. They had invited hundreds of people and the church wasn't even halfway full. And the reception had less than 30 people (so that's $3000 the guests paid) when the food and liquor cost around $15,000 and it's my fault they're eating that cost now. They likened me to the antichrist and the devil and claimed I had to be possessed to do this to a young girl and the groom, when he's a member of my family. I said, "I didn't do anything. I told the truth and if the truth hurts you then maybe you were wrong to do it. Did you consider that?" She hung up on me and started calling others and demanding the address so they could come to the actual reception. No one gave it to her. I just got home at 11:00 pm. It was a great day. I laughed. I even felt up to dancing a little (I had good news! I don't need my oxygen all the time now and just at night via CPAP or after exercise and I have been going to the pool and doing senior aquatics - as much as I can - and it's helped so much with my breathing and my mobility! I can walk around the whole grocery store now without needing to sit down on my walker! I still use the walker for long periods due to dizziness from Meniere's Disease but I think I'm doing better! At least, I'm trying! I feel very proud of myself, friends!) Anyway, the wedding still happened but they didn't have the numbers they expected and I've heard that someone suggested they donate the excess food instead of throwing it away but they didn't. Which sucks because I just know that firemen, or police, or the hospital, or the homeless shelter would have been so happy to get it. I think I'm doing better mentally after today because everyone who talked to me told me it was wrong to exclude me because of my wheelchair or oxygen. I did have my walker with me today but not my wheelchair OR an oxygen tube. I had it in my car just in case I needed it and there were a couple of times I could have used it but I was determined not to be in any pics with it out of pure spite. I also wore the pretty dress I bought for the wedding and had many compliments. I'm still hurt and angry and miss having that closeness with their family but I'm going to be okay. And that's a wrap. THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP's OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7 submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I am not The OOP, OOP is u/EdenCapwell AIW? Invited to a wedding but there's a catch. Originally posted to r/amiwrong Thanks to u/theprismaprincess for suggesting this BoRU TRIGGER WARNING: Ableism, entitlement, misogyny Original Post July 11, 2024 I was so happy to see a wedding invitation in my mailbox. I pulled it out and a little note fell out on an index card but I looked at the invitation first. It was truly beautiful and I immediately stuck it to my fridge like the work of art it was. It was addressed to my husband and me and I was beyond stoked. I love weddings. I tend to get teary-eyed and smile until my face hurts at the joy of new beginnings and all the love. I was even a wedding singer ... that's how much I love them. I picked up the notecard and read that and while my husband was invited ... I'd be in another room helping to babysit all the children there with several other female invitees. There's a special room for children at the church and that's where I'd be. For everything. I'd still need to dress for a wedding in case I wind up in any photos, but I'd be taking my reception meal with the children and I'd be with all the kids for the ceremony. Then there was a link for their gift registry. Oh, and the meals for my husband and myself would be $100.00 each and we have a link to pay it when we digitally RSVP. The first problem here is that I am disabled at 50 years old. Legally. I use oxygen. I use a walker when I need to walk long distances. I sometimes have to give up the walker entirely and use a wheelchair. I'm not proud of it, but there it is. I could happily sit in a room and LOOK at kids but I'd be pretty useless to prevent a fall or stop a child from choking or anything else that would require me to move quickly. Second, my husband isn't the one who has been friends with these people since childhood. I am. Why would he be invited to watch the ceremony and be part of the reception but not me? My husband said he'd happily watch the kids and let me attend the wedding and reception but the invitation specified that only other FEMALE invitees would be watching the kids so I doubt they'd let him. Is this a normal thing at weddings now? Do you pick guests to babysit other guest's children? Should I call them up and explain my health situation even though they already know it and visit me during my multiple hospitalizations a year? I hate having to pull the health card but honestly ... what were they thinking? I confess that I feel offended and hurt that I'm nothing more than a babysitter to them who is expected to pay for my supper and babysit for free. Would I be wrong to simply tell them we won't be able to attend and to find another sitter? And if we don't go ... do we still send a gift? Updating to address some questions: I know these folks because my mom (RIP, Mom) and the bride's grandma were besties. So, I grew up with the bride's mom as an almost sister to me. We went to school together, graduated together, worked at the same place twice, and have been super close since. The bride is like a goddaughter... at least I thought she was. I'm gobsmacked here. The church where they are getting married is a Southern Baptist church. They aren't members. None of us are overly religious. They just liked the venue and booked it. I've never been inside but it's lovely on the outside and apparently, it has a childcare room that is big enough for a bunch of women and kids to hole up comfortably for a wedding and reception. We're all American. The groom's family is related to my family via marriage and the bride and groom met at my house at a cookout a few years ago. I've always been way closer to the bride's family, though. I knew that there had been a proposal. I got Facetimed about ten minutes after it happened and my husband and I cried and laughed and wished them well and ooohed and ahhhed over their story and the ring. I was expecting an invitation, sure. But not like this. The last time I had lunch with the bride's mom, she told me they're inviting around 200 people so it'll be a large wedding with, I'm assuming, a ton of children. No, I don't hate kids. I love kids. I would have loved to have kids of my own but my body just wouldn't do it. It took two miscarriages and a stillbirth to finally make me accept that it wouldn't happen for us. We are in the process of adult adopting two young adults that we brought into our home when we found out they were kicked out and homeless at 18. They've lived with us for years and we're making it legal. They call us Mom and Pop and we're a family. I'm still considering my options. I've started and deleted multiple emails to the bride's mom. I'm a raw nerve right now and my tone isn't the kindest. I want to keep it all in writing so there can be no he said/she said. I plan to ask if they incorrectly sent me the note about babysitting since they know I physically cannot do that. But every inception of the email led with 'WTAF, Donna!?' So, I need to think about it some more. :) Thanks for all the comments. I'm reading them all. RELEVANT COMMENTS cakolin “I’m not proud of it, but there it is.” Sorry to not reply to your initial question, but this comment caught my attention. I just wanted to let you know that you should actually be very proud of yourself and your body, for pushing through and using the equipment that is needed to support your body well. OOP Thank you. So much. I never expected this to be my reality at fifty years old. Never. I went from being so healthy and doing all kinds of sports (I rocked Roller Derby! And could swim like a fish! And loved to play tennis!) to this. And sometimes I feel like it's not even my own body I'm living in anymore. It's just not okay. Therapy is helping me accept it but it's an uphill battle that I feel like I can't win. So thank you. From the bottom of my heart. Thank you. OOP Updated the same post 6 days later July 17, 2024 UPDATE: I spoke to my friend (the mother of the bride) and I'm pretty upset. I've been bawling for most of the day. She called and said that they were getting a lot of backlash from the wedding guests. No one wants to pay $100 for dinner and only three of the women asked were okay with babysitting. I told her I understood that the guests were upset because it's just tacky to 1) be asked to pay and 2) be TOLD you are invited but only to babysit. I told her I would not be a babysitter. At all. No. Just no. She got mad and brought up how we were lifelong friends. She said I'd be helping them more by babysitting than I'd be helping by simply sitting in a pew watching. I reminded her that I couldn't physically help at ALL due to, you know, being legally disabled. She said they completely understood that and expected me to simply 'supervise' the other sitters since they trusted me most. Again, I told her that I felt it was insulting to be volun-told (thanks, Reddit, for that word) that I'd be babysitting and that I had no desire to do that, especially not dressed in formal wear. THEN we got to the truth. She said that she didn't know if I'd be in a wheelchair that day or require a walker. That's fair. I don't always know which one I'll need. She said that they wanted everyone in pews for the wedding video and me sitting in a wheelchair would make me stick out and ruin video/photos. I said, "If I need a wheelchair that day then I can move to a pew and my husband can put the wheelchair in another room or back in our car. I may not even need it that day." Then she says, "Well, space is limited in the pews. You would take up the space of two people with your purse and oxygen tank." I said, "No, I would not. I wouldn't bring a purse in and the oxygen tank either sits on my lap or between my feet." (it's like a little backpack.) Then she said, "Well, having you in oxygen in the photos would be distracting from the other people." And there you have it. Words were exchanged and she hung up on me. I haven't been removed from any social media YET but I fully expect to be. I already feel awful for being this way at only 50 years old. I didn't choose this. I didn't want this. If she thinks its awful to having it photographed ... just imagine living with it. Which is what I told her before she hung up on me. I'm devastated. Just devastated. OOP Updated a 2nd time on July 25, 2024 UPDATE 2: I'm not in the greatest headspace. I don't think I've ever been less okay, honestly. I did not register to RSVP or communicate with them further. Until ... another invitee got in touch with me and said that the mother of the bride, a person I thought of as basically my sister, was badmouthing me into the ground. I explained my side and our mutual friend was livid. They told the mother of the bride and the bride that they were wrong to want to exclude me because I might or might not need a wheelchair and would have oxygen on my face. I could remove the oxygen for photos, they told her. So, the mother of the bride sent me a message saying .... and I quote, "Well, if you're going to be butthurt about the aesthetic we want to achieve and try to turn other guests against us then you can f*cking come and sit in a pew. But not in photos. And we'll try to get the videographer to do edits to the wedding vid, too. But I won't forget how you made this difficult for us." I replied, "How did I make it difficult other than existing?" She replied, "You clearly told ***** about what I told you regarding your wheelchair and oxygen. And she's telling everyone else. We're getting a ton of hate." I said, "She asked me if I was attending and I told her no and explained why. I didn't lie to her. I told her exactly what you said. You didn't tell me not to tell anyone your reasons. If they're valid reasons to you then you shouldn't care who knows." So, I'm now blocked. By the bride, the mom, the dad, and the groom. A friendship I've had my entire life is over. A goddaughter that I helped nurture and care for is just gone now. We paid for the bride's car insurance, gas, and cell phone all through high school and college because we wanted her focused on just her studies and not a part-time job (her parents got her a car but insisted she work but her grades fell when she did and we helped her) ... and this is how they thank us. This is how they repay our kindness. I guess I'm a great friend when I'm giving money ... but I'm not good enough to be seen. I've felt like a burden my whole life and this has set me back so far. I'm just not okay. NEW UPDATE Update #3 Added JULY 30, 2024 Brand new update #3: Apparently, my post went sorta viral because it was on Fox News and a site called BoredPanda. A few mutual friends reached out and asked if it was me and I admitted that it was. They were told something completely different about the situation. The bride's mother told them that *I\* refused to come because of my health difficulties and that I was afraid I would ruin the wedding and declined the RSVP. She even claimed that she had been begging me to attend ever since the engagement happened which was a bold faced lie. I am the one who organized and paid for the after engagement party so they could announce the happy news to everyone and I was clear to everyone that I couldn't wait to attend the wedding. So, I sent screenshots, photos of the invitation, and the notecard telling me I'd be babysitting, and then the showdown where I was told I could sit in the pew and just be edited out of the video and would NOT be in any photos. I also posted it on Facebook and shared receipts there, too. Well, WWIII has officially commenced. Granted, I'm getting this all third and fourth hand, but here's the latest. Word has spread fast. Links to the news article have made it all over the place and I've been told that the few ladies who had agreed to babysit have backed out and asked if there was something wrong with THEM that would make them not fit to sit in the pews or be in photos. (And I think that's probably the case since two of them have unnatural hair coloring and the other has facial piercings.) The church that was booked as the venue has been notified and I'm hearing it's probably not going to happen there because the pastor's daughter is wheelchair bound after a car accident. He was going to officiate but now he says he's conflicted about it and the message it would send. My ex friend and the bride have blown up my husband's phone because I blocked them after this went public (they blocked me first on all of the social media spots) and he let it go on for a few days to see what they had to say. He has blocked them but the bulk of it is that I'm jealous that I was never blessed with any children of my own so that's why I'm ruining this for them. I'm hateful and vile and vindictive because I hate them for their clear health. I mentioned that the groom is related to me by marriage, right? That whole branch of the family tree has now divided itself with some on my side and some on the bride's side. The groom hasn't contacted us at all but his mother did and told me that I was wrong for sharing personal business and that I need to let the bride have her wedding how she wants it. I don't agree that I did anything wrong here. I can't help that I'm sick. They've made me feel like utter trash that should just be tossed into the landfill. I hurt. I literally ache because of this. So, hi Donna, my ex best friend and practical sister. If you're reading this, you devastated me. I'm not okay. I don't know that I'll ever be okay again. I invested time and money into both YOU and your daughter. I gave you both a home when your marriage was messed up and never charged you rent or asked for help with groceries or utilities. For over a year, you lived in our home and we paid your way so you are wrong to treat me this way. My oxygen mask and possible need for a wheelchair should be the last thing on either of your minds ... because what matters most is that I, feeling as bad as I normally do, was still going to put on my best dress, make myself look presentable, plant a smile on my face through my pain, and show up for you like I always have. But I never, ever will again. If people noticed me in your photos at all ... it would have been because I had the biggest and most proud of anyone there and they'd see the love I had for you radiating off the image. You will regret this one day when I'm gone and you realize that there are more important things in life than a perfect photo. RELEVANT COMMENTS OOP This has been updated. You guys, thank you for the private messages and all the comments. It's safe to say that war has commenced in my town and I'm just ... I'm reeling and I've honestly never felt lower in my life than I do right now. I've had pretty unhealthy thoughts so I'm seeing my therapist two times a week now instead of every couple of weeks. I'm seriously not okay but you guys and your support and all the funny comments have really helped me. Thank you all. THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP's OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7 submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I am not The OOP, OOP is u/EdenCapwell AIW? Invited to a wedding but there's a catch. Originally posted to r/amiwrong Thanks to u/theprismaprincess for suggesting this BoRU TRIGGER WARNING: Ableism, entitlement, misogyny Original Post July 11, 2024 I was so happy to see a wedding invitation in my mailbox. I pulled it out and a little note fell out on an index card but I looked at the invitation first. It was truly beautiful and I immediately stuck it to my fridge like the work of art it was. It was addressed to my husband and me and I was beyond stoked. I love weddings. I tend to get teary-eyed and smile until my face hurts at the joy of new beginnings and all the love. I was even a wedding singer ... that's how much I love them. I picked up the notecard and read that and while my husband was invited ... I'd be in another room helping to babysit all the children there with several other female invitees. There's a special room for children at the church and that's where I'd be. For everything. I'd still need to dress for a wedding in case I wind up in any photos, but I'd be taking my reception meal with the children and I'd be with all the kids for the ceremony. Then there was a link for their gift registry. Oh, and the meals for my husband and myself would be $100.00 each and we have a link to pay it when we digitally RSVP. The first problem here is that I am disabled at 50 years old. Legally. I use oxygen. I use a walker when I need to walk long distances. I sometimes have to give up the walker entirely and use a wheelchair. I'm not proud of it, but there it is. I could happily sit in a room and LOOK at kids but I'd be pretty useless to prevent a fall or stop a child from choking or anything else that would require me to move quickly. Second, my husband isn't the one who has been friends with these people since childhood. I am. Why would he be invited to watch the ceremony and be part of the reception but not me? My husband said he'd happily watch the kids and let me attend the wedding and reception but the invitation specified that only other FEMALE invitees would be watching the kids so I doubt they'd let him. Is this a normal thing at weddings now? Do you pick guests to babysit other guest's children? Should I call them up and explain my health situation even though they already know it and visit me during my multiple hospitalizations a year? I hate having to pull the health card but honestly ... what were they thinking? I confess that I feel offended and hurt that I'm nothing more than a babysitter to them who is expected to pay for my supper and babysit for free. Would I be wrong to simply tell them we won't be able to attend and to find another sitter? And if we don't go ... do we still send a gift? Updating to address some questions: I know these folks because my mom (RIP, Mom) and the bride's grandma were besties. So, I grew up with the bride's mom as an almost sister to me. We went to school together, graduated together, worked at the same place twice, and have been super close since. The bride is like a goddaughter... at least I thought she was. I'm gobsmacked here. The church where they are getting married is a Southern Baptist church. They aren't members. None of us are overly religious. They just liked the venue and booked it. I've never been inside but it's lovely on the outside and apparently, it has a childcare room that is big enough for a bunch of women and kids to hole up comfortably for a wedding and reception. We're all American. The groom's family is related to my family via marriage and the bride and groom met at my house at a cookout a few years ago. I've always been way closer to the bride's family, though. I knew that there had been a proposal. I got Facetimed about ten minutes after it happened and my husband and I cried and laughed and wished them well and ooohed and ahhhed over their story and the ring. I was expecting an invitation, sure. But not like this. The last time I had lunch with the bride's mom, she told me they're inviting around 200 people so it'll be a large wedding with, I'm assuming, a ton of children. No, I don't hate kids. I love kids. I would have loved to have kids of my own but my body just wouldn't do it. It took two miscarriages and a stillbirth to finally make me accept that it wouldn't happen for us. We are in the process of adult adopting two young adults that we brought into our home when we found out they were kicked out and homeless at 18. They've lived with us for years and we're making it legal. They call us Mom and Pop and we're a family. I'm still considering my options. I've started and deleted multiple emails to the bride's mom. I'm a raw nerve right now and my tone isn't the kindest. I want to keep it all in writing so there can be no he said/she said. I plan to ask if they incorrectly sent me the note about babysitting since they know I physically cannot do that. But every inception of the email led with 'WTAF, Donna!?' So, I need to think about it some more. :) Thanks for all the comments. I'm reading them all. RELEVANT COMMENTS cakolin “I’m not proud of it, but there it is.” Sorry to not reply to your initial question, but this comment caught my attention. I just wanted to let you know that you should actually be very proud of yourself and your body, for pushing through and using the equipment that is needed to support your body well. OOP Thank you. So much. I never expected this to be my reality at fifty years old. Never. I went from being so healthy and doing all kinds of sports (I rocked Roller Derby! And could swim like a fish! And loved to play tennis!) to this. And sometimes I feel like it's not even my own body I'm living in anymore. It's just not okay. Therapy is helping me accept it but it's an uphill battle that I feel like I can't win. So thank you. From the bottom of my heart. Thank you. OOP Updated the same post 6 days later July 17, 2024 UPDATE: I spoke to my friend (the mother of the bride) and I'm pretty upset. I've been bawling for most of the day. She called and said that they were getting a lot of backlash from the wedding guests. No one wants to pay $100 for dinner and only three of the women asked were okay with babysitting. I told her I understood that the guests were upset because it's just tacky to 1) be asked to pay and 2) be TOLD you are invited but only to babysit. I told her I would not be a babysitter. At all. No. Just no. She got mad and brought up how we were lifelong friends. She said I'd be helping them more by babysitting than I'd be helping by simply sitting in a pew watching. I reminded her that I couldn't physically help at ALL due to, you know, being legally disabled. She said they completely understood that and expected me to simply 'supervise' the other sitters since they trusted me most. Again, I told her that I felt it was insulting to be volun-told (thanks, Reddit, for that word) that I'd be babysitting and that I had no desire to do that, especially not dressed in formal wear. THEN we got to the truth. She said that she didn't know if I'd be in a wheelchair that day or require a walker. That's fair. I don't always know which one I'll need. She said that they wanted everyone in pews for the wedding video and me sitting in a wheelchair would make me stick out and ruin video/photos. I said, "If I need a wheelchair that day then I can move to a pew and my husband can put the wheelchair in another room or back in our car. I may not even need it that day." Then she says, "Well, space is limited in the pews. You would take up the space of two people with your purse and oxygen tank." I said, "No, I would not. I wouldn't bring a purse in and the oxygen tank either sits on my lap or between my feet." (it's like a little backpack.) Then she said, "Well, having you in oxygen in the photos would be distracting from the other people." And there you have it. Words were exchanged and she hung up on me. I haven't been removed from any social media YET but I fully expect to be. I already feel awful for being this way at only 50 years old. I didn't choose this. I didn't want this. If she thinks its awful to having it photographed ... just imagine living with it. Which is what I told her before she hung up on me. I'm devastated. Just devastated. OOP Updated a 2nd time on July 25, 2024 UPDATE 2: I'm not in the greatest headspace. I don't think I've ever been less okay, honestly. I did not register to RSVP or communicate with them further. Until ... another invitee got in touch with me and said that the mother of the bride, a person I thought of as basically my sister, was badmouthing me into the ground. I explained my side and our mutual friend was livid. They told the mother of the bride and the bride that they were wrong to want to exclude me because I might or might not need a wheelchair and would have oxygen on my face. I could remove the oxygen for photos, they told her. So, the mother of the bride sent me a message saying .... and I quote, "Well, if you're going to be butthurt about the aesthetic we want to achieve and try to turn other guests against us then you can f*cking come and sit in a pew. But not in photos. And we'll try to get the videographer to do edits to the wedding vid, too. But I won't forget how you made this difficult for us." I replied, "How did I make it difficult other than existing?" She replied, "You clearly told ***** about what I told you regarding your wheelchair and oxygen. And she's telling everyone else. We're getting a ton of hate." I said, "She asked me if I was attending and I told her no and explained why. I didn't lie to her. I told her exactly what you said. You didn't tell me not to tell anyone your reasons. If they're valid reasons to you then you shouldn't care who knows." So, I'm now blocked. By the bride, the mom, the dad, and the groom. A friendship I've had my entire life is over. A goddaughter that I helped nurture and care for is just gone now. We paid for the bride's car insurance, gas, and cell phone all through high school and college because we wanted her focused on just her studies and not a part-time job (her parents got her a car but insisted she work but her grades fell when she did and we helped her) ... and this is how they thank us. This is how they repay our kindness. I guess I'm a great friend when I'm giving money ... but I'm not good enough to be seen. I've felt like a burden my whole life and this has set me back so far. I'm just not okay. THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP's OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7 submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

submitted by /u/godsobedientslave to r/tennis [link] [comments]

Regardless of subscriber count, if you are looking to add a sub to this list, please comment below on this thread. If you have already commented your sub below or your sub is already on the list and now going private, please do NOT send a modmail - if you comment here, your sub will be on the list. Please see pinned comment for most recent participating subreddit statistics. Please see Thread 2 for 50-500k, Thread 3 for 5-50k, Thread 4 for 1-5k, and Thread 5 for below 1k due to text limit. Many subreddits are still actively discussing how to participate in the protest in a way that best fits their community. Please do not harrass or act disrespectfully towards any subreddits, or their moderators, who have not yet been added to the list below. Subreddits Participating On June 12th. 40+ million: r/funny 30+ million: r/aww r/gaming r/Music r/Pics r/science r/todayilearned 20+ million: r/art r/askscience r/books r/DIY r/documentaries r/EarthPorn r/explainlikeimfive r/food r/gadgets r/gifs r/Jokes r/LifeProTips r/mildlyinteresting r/NotTheOnion r/Showerthoughts r/space r/sports r/videos 10+ million: r/creepy r/Damnthatsinteresting r/dataisbeautiful r/fitness r/Futurology r/GetMotivated r/history r/interestingasfuck r/InternetIsBeautiful r/lifehacks r/listentothis r/NatureIsFuckingLit r/nosleep r/personalfinance r/philosophy r/photoshopbattles r/technology r/Television r/tifu r/unexpected r/wholesomememes 5+ million: r/AdviceAnimals r/amitheasshole r/AnimalsBeingBros r/AnimalsBeingDerps r/AnimalsBeingJerks r/anime r/AskMen r/askwomen r/Awwducational r/bestof r/bitcoin r/BlackPeopleTwitter r/buildapc r/Confession r/ContagiousLaughter r/cryptocurrency r/dadjokes r/EatCheapAndHealthy r/facepalm r/FoodPorn r/gardening r/HistoryMemes r/HumansBeingBros r/mademesmile r/malefashionadvice r/me_irl r/mildlyinfuriating r/minecraft r/nba r/nextfuckinglevel r/oddlysatisfying r/Parenting r/pcmasterrace r/photography r/programming r/ps4 r/stocks r/therewasanattempt r/tinder r/WatchPeopleDieInside r/Whatcouldgowrong 1+ million: r/2meirl4meirl r/30PlusSkinCare r/3amjokes r/3dprinting r/3ds r/abandonedporn r/AbruptChaos r/AbsoluteUnits r/adorableporn r/agedlikemilk r/Amateur r/amateurcumsluts r/AMD r/Analog r/Android r/AnimalCrossing r/AnimalsBeingGeniuses r/AnimalTextGifs r/AnimeART r/AnimeFunny r/animememes r/antiwork r/ApexLegends r/Apple r/applyingtocollege r/architecture r/AsianBeauty r/asianhotties r/AskAcademia r/AskEconomics r/askhistorians r/AskUK r/AssholeDesign r/asstastic r/Astronomy r/astrophotography r/atheism r/audiophile r/Australia r/Autos r/awesome r/awfuleverything r/backpacking r/baseball r/Battlestations r/BeautyGuruChatter r/bicycling r/BigBoobsGW r/BiggerThanYouThought r/BikiniBottomTwitter r/birdswitharms r/blackmagicfuckery r/blender r/blessedimages r/blowjobs r/blursedimages r/boardgames r/BodyBuilding r/bodyweightfitness r/BokunoheroAcademia r/BoneAppleTea r/booksuggestions r/bossfight r/boxing r/boxoffice r/brasil r/BreakingBad r/BreedingMaterial r/budgetfood r/BustyPetite r/BuyItForLife r/camping r/campingandhiking r/Canada r/carporn r/cars r/CasualUK r/cats r/CatsWithDogs r/catswithjobs r/changemyview r/ChatGPT r/childfree r/childrenfallingover r/ChoosingBeggars r/cinemagraphs r/classicalmusic r/CleverComebacks r/climbing r/coffee r/college r/CollegeAmateurs r/collegebasketball r/Colorization r/combatfootage r/comedycemetery r/comedyheaven r/comicbooks r/compsci r/confusing_perspective r/conspiracy r/Cooking r/coolguides r/copypasta r/Coronavirus r/CozyPlaces r/crafts r/crappyoffbrands r/CrazyfuckingVideos r/creampies r/CreditCards r/cringepics r/CryptoMarkets r/cscareerquestions r/cumsluts r/curlyhair r/cursedcomments r/cursedimages r/CuteLittleButts r/cyberpunkgame r/dating_advice r/datingoverthirty r/DCcomics r/de r/DecidingToBeBetter r/DeepIntoYouTube r/design r/destinythegame r/digitalnomad r/digitalpainting r/Disney r/DnD r/dndmemes r/dogs r/DotA2 r/drawing r/DunderMifflin r/Economics r/edm r/electronicmusic r/EngineeringPorn r/ethereum r/ethtrader r/europe r/evilbuildings r/ExpectationVsReality r/eyebleach r/Fantasy r/fantasyfootball r/FanTheories r/FellowKids r/femalefashionadvice r/FiftyFifty r/FightPorn r/filmmakers r/financialindependence r/foodhacks r/forbiddensnacks r/formula1 r/france r/freefolk r/Frugal r/FrugalFemaleFashion r/frugalmalefashion r/FuckYouKaren r/Gamedev r/gameofthrones r/getdisciplined r/GetStudying r/gifsthatkeepongiving r/GirlsFinishingTheJob r/GlobalOffensive r/gonewild30plus r/gonewildaudio r/GOONED r/gothsluts r/graffiti r/graphic_design r/Guitar r/hacking r/Halo r/hardware r/harrypotter r/health r/HealthyFood r/Hearthstone r/hentai r/HENTAI_GIF r/HighQualityGifs r/hiphopheads r/HistoryPorn r/HobbyDrama r/hockey r/holdmycosmo r/HoldMyFeedingTube r/holdthemoan r/holup r/homeautomation r/Homebrewing r/HomeImprovement r/horror r/houseplants r/howto r/HumansAreMetal r/humor r/hydrohomies r/iamverysmart r/idiotsFightingThings r/IdiotsInCars r/IDontWorkHereLady r/Illegallifeprotips r/illegallysmolcats r/im14andthisisdeep r/india r/indieheads r/insaneparents r/insanepeoplefacebook r/InstagramReality r/instantkarma r/iphone r/itookapicture r/IWantToLearn r/javascript r/JizzedToThis r/Jobs r/justiceserved r/JUSTNOMIL r/KerbalSpaceProgram r/kpop r/learnprogramming r/Lego r/LetsNotMeet r/likeus r/LipsThatGrip r/literature r/LivestreamFail r/LofiHipHop r/lotrmemes r/mac r/MachineLearning r/MachinePorn r/madlads r/MakeMeSuffer r/Makeup r/malelivingspace r/MaliciousCompliance r/Marvel r/MarvelStudios r/mashups r/math r/maybemaybemaybe r/MealPrepSunday r/MealtimeVideos r/MechanicalKeyboards r/meirl r/meme r/MemeEconomy r/metal r/milf r/mindfulness r/minimalism r/MMA r/MostBeautiful r/motorcycles r/MovieDetails r/moviesinthemaking r/MUAontheCheap r/MurderedByWords r/Nails r/Naruto r/nasa r/nevertellmetheodds r/nfl r/niceguys r/Nintendo r/NintendoSwitch r/nonononoyes r/nsfw r/NSFW_GIF r/nsfw_gifs r/NSFW411 r/nsfwhardcore r/nutrition r/nvidia r/oddlyspecific r/offmychest r/okbuddyretard r/oldpeoplefacebook r/onepiece r/OnlyFans101 r/OnOff r/outdoors r/Overwatch r/palegirls r/paranormal r/pawg r/pcgaming r/perfectlycutscreams r/Philippines r/photoCritique r/physics r/piracy r/PixelArt r/Poetry r/pokemon r/pokemongo r/politicaldiscussion r/PoliticalHumor r/popculturechat r/popheads r/porn r/PornhubComments r/PornID r/porninfifteenseconds r/PraiseTheCameraMan r/PremierLeague r/PrequelMemes r/Privacy r/programmerhumor r/PS5 r/PUBATTLEGROUNDS r/PublicFlashing r/publicfreakout r/Pussy r/Python r/quityourbullshit r/Rainbow6 r/rareinsults r/RarePuppers r/Raspberry_Pi r/reactiongifs r/RealGirls r/reallifedoodles r/recipes r/reddeadredemption r/relationships r/rickandmorty r/roadtrip r/RoastMe r/Robinhood r/RocketLeague r/rpg r/rule34 r/running r/SadCringe r/SavedYouAClick r/scifi r/Screenwriting r/self r/sewing r/SexInFrontOfOthers r/ShingekiNoKyojin r/ShitpostCrusaders r/shitposting r/Shitty_Car_Mods r/ShittyAskScience r/shittylifeprotips r/SimpleLiving r/Simulated r/SkincareAddiction r/skyrim r/SluttyConfessions r/sneakers r/snowboarding r/soccer r/socialskills r/softwaregore r/somethingimade r/SouthPark r/spaceporn r/spacex r/SpecArt r/specializedtools r/squirting r/StardewValley r/StarWars r/Steam r/streetwear r/strength_training r/StupidFood r/suggestmeabook r/suspiciouslyspecific r/SweatyPalms r/technicallythetruth r/techsupport r/teenagers r/Terraria r/terriblefacebookmemes r/thalassophobia r/thathappened r/thedepthsbelow r/TheLastAirbender r/Thewalkingdead r/thick r/ThriftStoreHauls r/tihi r/TikTokCringe r/TinyTits r/tipofmytongue r/TooAfraidToAsk r/tooktoomuch r/toptalent r/traps r/trashy r/trashyboners r/travelhacks r/trees r/TrueCrime r/truegaming r/tumblr r/twitch r/TwoSentenceHorror r/UKPersonalFinance r/UnethicalLifeProTips r/UnitedKingdom r/unpopularopinion r/UnresolvedMysteries r/UrbanHell r/VALORANT r/vandwellers r/vegan r/vinyl r/wallpaper r/watches r/WatchItForThePlot r/WeAreTheMusicMakers r/webdev r/wellthatsucks r/WhatIsThisThing r/whatsthisplant r/WhatsWrongWithYourDog r/whyweretheyfilming r/WinStupidPrizes r/womensstreetwear r/woodworking r/worldpolitics r/wow r/writing r/XboxOne r/XboxSeriesX r/xxfitness r/yesyesyesyesno r/yoga r/youtubehaiku r/zelda r/ZeroWaste r/Zoomies 500k+: r/2007scape r/52book r/aa_cups r/abelladanger r/accidentalcamouflage r/AccidentalRenaissance r/ActLikeYouBelong r/ActualPublicFreakouts r/adhdmeme r/Advice r/aliens r/ama r/AmongUs r/amv r/animenocontext r/animesuggest r/Anticonsumption r/antimeme r/antimlm r/apolloapp r/AppleWatch r/Aquariums r/Arduino r/argentina r/AskCulinary r/AskElectronics r/AskEurope r/AskHR r/AskOldPeople r/AskOuija r/AskRedditAfterDark r/AskScienceFiction r/asoiaf r/AssholeBehindThong r/assinthong r/audioengineering r/AutoDetailing r/AutumnFalls r/BadDesigns r/baddragon r/badeconomics r/BadMUAs r/badwomensanatomy r/bayarea r/BBQ r/bdsm r/bestoflegaladvice r/BestofRedditorUpdates r/betterCallSaul r/beyondthebump r/BJJ r/bodyperfection r/BollyBlindsNGossip r/Boobies r/BootTooBig r/Boston r/Braless r/Breath_of_the_Wild r/Breeding r/brooklynninenine r/Buddhism r/buildapcsales r/burstingout r/CampingGear r/cardano r/CatsAreAssholes r/catswhoyell r/cawwsplay r/Celebhub r/Celebs r/chess r/Chicago r/chonkers r/chromeos r/churning r/CityPorn r/civ r/ClashRoyale r/classicwow r/coding r/comedyhomicide r/community r/ConvenientCop r/cosplayers r/cosplayprops r/CrackheadCraigslist r/CrazyIdeas r/creampie r/creepyPMs r/cricket r/crochet r/crossfit r/cuckquean r/Cursed_Images r/Cyberpunk r/cybersecurity r/daddit r/DadReflexes r/damngoodinterracial r/dankvideos r/DarkAngels r/darkjokes r/datahoarder r/dbz r/de_IAmA r/deadbydaylight r/declutter r/Destiny2 r/DigitalArt r/dirtypenpals r/DirtySnapchat r/disneyland r/disneyvacation r/DMAcademy r/DndBehindTheScreen r/dndnext r/doctorwho r/dogpictures r/dogswithjobs r/dontdeadopeninside r/donthelpjustfilm r/dontputyourdickinthat r/doodles r/Drugs r/EASportsFC r/EbonyCuties r/EconomicHistory r/edmproduction r/electronics r/Embroidery r/Emogirls r/EmpireDidNothingWrong r/EngineeringStudents r/engrish r/escapefromtarkov r/excel r/Exxxtras r/eyeblech r/facedownassup r/fallout r/fantasybball r/FantasyPL r/fauxmoi r/feetpics r/FestivalSluts r/ffxiv r/findareddit r/findfashion r/Fingering r/firstworldanarchists r/FlashingGirls r/flexibility r/FloridaMan r/football r/forcedorgasms r/formuladank r/fortyfivefiftyfive r/freebies r/freelance r/FullmetalAlchemist r/funnymemes r/funsized r/futurama r/GameDeals r/gamernews r/Gamingcirclejerk r/gatekeeping r/gentlemanboners r/germany r/gifsthatendtoosoon r/ginger r/girlsmasturbating r/GirlswithGlasses r/Glitch_in_the_Matrix r/GoneMild r/gonewildcolor r/GoneWildStories r/gonewildtrans r/GooglePixel r/gravityfalls r/GTA r/guns r/gwpublic r/gymmemes r/h3h3productions r/haircarescience r/Handwriting r/headphones r/HighStrangeness r/hitmanimals r/hmm r/homegrowntits r/homelab r/hometheater r/HongKong r/horny r/Hotchickswithtattoos r/HouseOfTheDragon r/hugeboobs r/hulu r/HunterXHunter r/ich_iel r/ifyoulikeblank r/ihadastroke r/ihavesex r/Illustration r/imsorryjon r/indiameme r/IndianBabes r/IndianDankMemes r/IndoorGarden r/instantpot r/Intel r/interiordesign r/introvert r/Ireland r/IRLEasterEggs r/italy r/Itemshop r/IthadToBeBrazil r/iwanttobeher r/IWantToSuckCock r/jailbreak r/JoeRogan r/Justfuckmyshitup r/JustGuysBeingDudes r/ketorecipes r/ketoscience r/KGBTR r/KitchenConfidential r/Kryptostrassenwetten r/LabiaGW r/LabRats r/Lakers r/languagelearning r/LateStageCapitalism r/LatinoPeopleTwitter r/lawncare r/LeagueOfMemes r/LearnJapanese r/legaladviceuk r/libertarian r/LiminalSpace r/lingerie r/linux r/london r/losangeles r/lotr r/LoveIsBlindOnNetflix r/magicTCG r/MakeNewFriendsHere r/malegrooming r/mangacoloring r/manhwa r/medicalschool r/Megalophobia r/Melbourne r/menwritingwomen r/MiaKhalifa r/MiaMalkova r/Milfie r/militaryporn r/minecraftbuilds r/MinecraftMemes r/mls r/mommit r/MonsterGirl r/MonsterHunter r/MorbidReality r/MusicTheory r/mycology r/nascar r/NatureWasMetal r/NeutralPolitics r/Nike r/nipples r/NoahGetTheBoat r/NoMansSkyTheGame r/normalnudes r/NotHowGirlsWork r/notinteresting r/notliketheothergirls r/O_Faces r/obsf r/offbeat r/oilpainting r/oldphotosinreallife r/Olympics r/onebag r/onejob r/OneSecondBeforeDisast r/OnlyFansAsstastic r/Ontario r/orgasms r/PandR r/PantiesToTheSide r/Pareidolia r/pathofexile r/patientgamers r/Patriots r/perfectloops r/petite r/Phatasswhitegirls r/photoshop r/pizza r/PLASTT r/playrust r/playstation r/plotholes r/politicalcompassmemes r/Polska r/PornStarletHQ r/PourPainting r/PreggoPorn r/PupliftingNews r/pussypassdenied r/Quiver r/quotesporn r/r4r r/ramen r/RandomActsOfBlowJob r/Rap r/Ratemypussy r/RBI r/rearpussy r/reddevils r/redditgetsdrawn r/RedditLaqueristas r/redheads r/redneckengineering r/RileyReid r/rimjob_steve r/roblox r/romania r/rupaulsdragrace r/sbubby r/Scams r/Seaofthieves r/Seattle r/seduction r/seethru r/SelfAwarewolves r/serialkillers r/SexyTummies r/sfx r/shavedpussies r/Shemales r/ShittyFanTheories r/ShittyMovieDetails r/shittysuperpowers r/Shoes r/shortscarystories r/simps r/sims4 r/singapore r/sissies r/slutsofsnapchat r/slutwife r/smashbros r/soccercirclejerk r/spiderman r/spotify r/SpreadEm r/Squaredcircle r/StardustCrusaders r/startrek r/statistics r/StraightGirlsPlaying r/streetwearstartup r/submechanophobia r/Subnautica r/SubredditDrama r/SuccessionTV r/SuddenlyGay r/summonerschool r/surrealmemes r/Sweden r/talesfromthefrontdesk r/tanlines r/tattoo r/taylorswift r/technews r/techsupportgore r/tennis r/TerrifyingasFuck r/texas r/tf2 r/Tgirls r/thatlookedexpensive r/TheBoys r/thelastofus r/TheMandalorianTV r/thenetherlands r/TheSilphRoad r/thesimpsons r/TheSims r/theyknew r/thickloads r/thighhighs r/tightdresses r/timelapse r/tipofmypenis r/tits r/toolporn r/tools r/toronto r/traphentai r/TrueCrimeDiscussion r/TrueCrimePodcasts r/TrueReddit r/Turkey r/Ultralight r/VaporwaveAesthetics r/vegetarian r/vexillology r/virtualreality r/WaltDisneyWorld r/Warframe r/warriors r/watchpeoplesurvive r/web_design r/webcomics r/Weird r/whatsthisbug r/Whatswrongwithyourcat r/Wholesome r/wholesomemes r/whooties r/WhyWomenLiveLonger r/wildernessbackpacking r/witcher r/WitchesVsPatriarchy r/WomenOfColor r/woof_irl r/worldcup r/Xsome r/yesyesyesno r/YoungGirlsGoneWild r/youngpeopleyoutube r/YouTube submitted by /u/SubManagerBot to r/ModCoord [link] [comments]

I am not the Original Poster. That is u/Froggie_Five. She posted in r/AmItheAsshole. This was a confusing post to put together due to all of OOP's edits and comments, but I tried to make it as streamlined as possible. Trigger Warning: catfishing; physical assault; attempted sexual assault Mood Spoiler: insane and scary Original Post: April 7, 2023 I (F20) have a close friend (F22). She asked why I was still single (I haven’t been dating since I was 18, after leaving a relationship of five years.) Upon me telling her I wasn’t interested in dating right now, she said ‘so basically, you can’t find anyone’. I brushed past it, not wanting any arguments. She later asked what I’d look for in a guy. As I told her, and my basic standards would be; • respect goes both ways • us vs the problem, not me vs you • likes dogs (I have three, so, obvious reasons) • general good hygiene • decent level of fitness (not necessarily aesthetic; I’m heavily into the gym, and fitness, so I want someone to match this, ideally) • driven, and hardworking (ie. Has a goal/drive of what they want to do with their life). I told her exactly as written above; and she’s burst out laughing. I was a little confused, and asked what was up. She told me that, ‘(I’m) never going to find a guy, because (I’m) asking far too much. If (I) were to lower my standards, I’d find a lovely guy. The only standard should be compatibility. If I did, I wouldn’t be alone for the rest of my life; because that’s where (I’m) heading.’ I told her that without standards, we’d accept any sort of treatment, and I didn’t think they were unreasonable. Later that evening, my brother messaged me; with a screenshot from Tinder with my photos, and ‘my’ profile; asking whether it was me, as I assume due to similar ages, and location, we’d matched. I don’t like the idea of dating apps at all, and my family know this. It was a whole lot of back and forth; turns out the friend made a dating profile ‘’on my behalf~~’’~~ to find a good guy for me’’. I was absolutely fuming, and made it clear to her. She told me ‘she was helping me out’ and knew what was good for me as a friend. Besides, if I post photos on instagram, why’s it different to tinder? I told her that ‘just because all she looks for is a penis and a pulse, it doesn’t mean that I do. She’s blocked me on all platforms, and won’t take the profile down. Update in comments same day: Turns out, Tinder isn’t the only profile she’s made. My brother and I are searching now so they can be reported. But, we’ve found numerous dating profiles, instagram, twitter and Facebook. All with the exact same description and photos. I’m slightly panicking now, because I think it’s gone way too far. How’s the best way to go about it? Like, this woman knows everything about me; family, home address, work place etc. What are you going to do? "I’m staying over at my brothers’ tonight; bless him, he’s got me and the three dogs in his one-man apartment. The accounts we’ve found have been reported; and she’s not aware of where my brother lives etc, so I shouldn’t be in any immediate danger; just a little scared about it all. If it hasn’t blown over by the morning, I think I’m going to call, and see what they advise." Update (Same Post): April 8, 2023 (next day) FURTHER UPDATES + SECOND AITA QUESTION Thank you so much for everyone’s lovely responses, I’m so overwhelmed at the response - you guys are my lifeline at the moment :) We later found several more accounts (current count at 22), all containing the same photos and desc. The latest (we know of) dating 5 weeks ago. The night I posted this, I stayed over at my brother’s, and neighbours informed me 2 separate cars pulled up in the middle of the night. So, she’s been sharing my address since. Someone on here advised to get security cameras, to monitor whilst I’m not home (obviously), and in the space of 6 hours, 14 men showed up at my home. It’s absolutely f*cking mental, especially as I’ve got no idea what she’s telling these men, it has the possibility of getting very, very dangerous, quickly. On the police/lawyer front, she’s definitely against the law. But, until we have direct evidence that she’s sending the men to my address (ie. Message from her to one of the men), she can’t be charged with harassment. Lawyer seems sure we’ll win the case, though; on the basis of harassment, identity theft and defamation (possible), with up to 8 months jail time. Would I be the asshole if I pressed full charges against her? I think there’s still that element of ‘what if she was trying to help?’, though to be honest, I doubt it. Update April 8 (In Comments) Wow. Thank you so much for the amount of thoughtful, kind and informative responses from everyone - you guys have quite literally been my lifeline through this. I apologise for a late update; it’s been an unbelievably hectic day. To start, cameras were installed in the late morning, before we spoke to the police, or lawyer. I’ve just got to my brothers’, and have been checking through the footage. 14 separate cars. She’s sent 14 effin men to my address, for god-knows-what. I watched up until about 4pm; and to be honest, I’d seen all I needed to see, and gave up watching. Police and lawyer both had similar advice. So, the general consensus was that it’s definitely against the law (obviously, with the sharing of address). However, the lawyer mentioned that they’d be a high chance of winning the case; as she doesn’t really have a leg to stand on, with evidence provided. It would go under harassment, identify theft and (perhaps) defamation. However, he said it’s likely she’d be arrest in terms of harassment for up to 6 months. Though, one thing he did mention was that the biggest evidence we could get towards harassment is screenshots of the messages of someone who actually turns up at the address; in order to prove the harassment and her, are related. So. We’ve got a little group of us together; myself, my brother, two friends of his, and a friend of mine; and we’re staying at my house for a few hours tonight, to speak to anyone who shows up. We’re hoping that they’ll give us a hand, and give us some info on exactly what’s been happening, from their side, along with any messages that have been shared. That’s the plan, anyway. A lovely hotel near where I live, (the manager) messaged my brother after seeing the post about what’s been going on, allowing myself and the dogs to stay for the next week or so, tomorrow night, as they’re fully booked tonight. So, thankfully, we’ve got somewhere to go for a little while. You guys’ have really helped keep my mind off what’s been going on, and I’m so, so thankful for your concern, and support. Thank you a million times over 🤍 Update 4 (Same Post): April 9, 2023 (2 days from OG post) Potential TW for blood. So, last night was nothing short of unsuccessful (for anyone who didn’t see it, a group of us were waiting at the house with a note on the door, trying to gather evidence from the messages etc). It’s ended with a massively swollen jaw, and cracked one of my back teeth in half. All good this morning; just pretty sore. Just to prevent this post getting too long and AITA rules, if you follow my account, I’ll be posting further updates over there, if you’re interested! You guys’ have really helped keep my mind off what’s been going on, and I’m so, so thankful for your concern, and support. Thank you a million times over 🤍 For everyone concerned, the doggies and myself are all good, just a little frightened about it all; but we’ve just got to keep our fingers crossed, eh? Will keep the thread updated :) More Information on what happened that night (Comments April 9) Details on the attack TW for blood I’m okay, now! I was up the hospital for a little while last night, as I was worried it was something to do with my jaw; but thankfully, they don’t think so, and my teeth have taken most of the damage, so just a little knocked up! So, the sign on the door said, ‘’If you’re here to see (my name), you’ve been catfished by a woman using her photos, and name, to harass her. I’m currently collecting evidence against her, and I’d really appreciate if you have any messages from her you could show us. If you’re not comfortable, please give (my brothers number) a call.’’ Anyway, a car pulled up, and left about 5 minutes later - no luck there. But, after an hour or so (half 10, maybe?), a guy knocked at the door; I just assumed he was coming to help. I kind of thanked him, and began to explain what was going on, but he grabbed the side of the shoulder, and pushed me towards the corner of the porch (it’s fairly small). He’s still pinning me into the corner at this point; so I’m pushing off, and screaming for the others in the house with me. He punched smack bang over the right side of my face, I’m so thankful it wasn’t my nose. But, blood was streaming out of my mouth (from the tooth), so I ran over to the kitchen, whilst my brother and his mates were trying to sort it. The friend that was with me called the police. I don’t really remember what happened afterwards; I think it was a bit of shock. But, everyone else was unscathed; so I don’t think he was there too long. Safe to say we won’t be doing that again :/ First Update Post: April 9, 2023 I’ll detail the up-to-date post into the comments, and will post updates here. The responses from the AITA was absolutely overwhelming, thank you so, so much. However, due to how to situation escalated, I think it went beyond AITA territory; and so, any further updates can be found on here! Thank you so, so much - you guys’ have quickly become my lifeline 🤍 Alright; I’ll start at the most significant; though it’s a little tied. The psycho ‘friend’ (can we call her Olivia, for the purpose of making updates easier). Anyway, Olivia’s sister (been in contact with my brother, and later, her family informing them of the situation) rang me up this evening, and said she got my number from my brother. There was a bit of awkward small talk, ‘sorry this is happening’ etc. But, she mentioned a friend of Olivia’s had visited (Olivia) after seeing the posts from the sister (if that makes sense, I’m sorry, it’s been a lot today). She said that (the friend) was really concerned about Olivia; and seemed ‘emotionally unstable’, bursting out into tears etc. She said she’d completely dyed her hair (She’s normally blonde - dyed) to dark brown, had an effing tattoo done of a tulip (emotional significance to me) and was saying she desperately needed money for liposuction (fat removal) and breast reduction; and was pleading with the friend that visited, saying it was urgent. Let’s just have a think, and see who that sounds an awful lot like? Dark hair - check, tattoo of a tulip on my calf - check, small boobs - check, skinny - check. This woman is trying to fucking copy my entire life. So, the sister of Olivia asked the friend where she was staying (obviously concerned for the welfare of her sister), and the friend won’t say anything about it. The sister lives out of town, and can’t get hold of her, at all. And, the sister won’t tell me who the friend was that visited her. Helpful, right? On the positive note! The police are holding the guy in custody atm. They were able to pick up the reg from one of the neighbours security cams, and I’d assume, traced it to an address or something? Anyway. They rang earlier, confirming details of my description; and it matches both the security footage, and my desc. They haven’t told me anymore than the guy is being held at the moment. On another positive(ish) note, my brother finally gets a bit of space back. The hotel invited myself, and the dogs, to stay for the next week; tonight being our first night. I’ve made it very clear to the hotel that no info can be disclosed that I’m staying there etc, and they’ve agreed. She’s read the (fake profile) messages on the dating site, and hasn’t responded. Thank you for all your concern, guys; beyond appreciative 🤍 Relevant Comments: "Fingers crossed! The attorney has advised that it’ll be okay to keep a log on social media; as long as it remains anon for the ‘friend’, myself and anyone else involved. Police took down the friend’s number that I have her under, but apparently weren’t able to find any message exchange relating, and believe she’s using a separate number. Just waiting to hear back from a few of the sites, now; and hopefully we can find the number. Thank you so much for your concern, I really do appreciate it 🤍" Can you guys make fake profiles to try to catch her in the act? "The issue we were having with doing that was that in majority of the sites where she’s responsive (where it says she’s active etc) are companies that require a photo to sign up. Now, if it’s any of my friends, or brother, she’s likely to catch on. However, if we were to use a random photo of someone else, I think we’d end up being legally implicated for identity fraud; especially since a lawyer is involved. After speaking to some of my friends outside of the country, most said that she’d sent them a friend request two or three months ago. It just seems so weird, and obsessive, that it’s something she’s been planning for a while. Because really, why is she requesting family/friends of mine, who live hundreds of miles away; and I’ve never even mentioned them to her. Thank you for your input! 🤍" People ask her what she does for work: "I mean, I’ve got a ordinary day-to-day job. I work in a local coffee shop. I’ve done a few modelling gigs over past two years; mainly fitness based clothing etc; and they were pretty successful; but it wasn’t worth the heavy dieting for it. I haven’t modelled in the past 6 months at all, though. The last (small) job I did was last October." Someone says she is lying because she posted elsewhere she has done sex work: "I have done sex work in the past, which is why I left it out of the thread; as you’ve mentioned. I didn’t want it to be a case of ‘what did you expect if you’re doing that’, as it wasn’t relevant to this situation - the friend isn’t aware of it, as I use a different name etc. If you don’t believe it, don’t - it doesn’t affect me. But, I’m not sure why anyone would make up some elaborate story for the sake of what? Thanks :)" OOP asks for help with her jaw: April 9, 2023 Hey there! Following on from a recent AITA post, so I won’t go into details here; I’ve got a heavily swollen jaw, and either the completely loss of a back tooth, or almost completely cracked. I was up in the hospital last night, and they advised seeing a dentist about the tooth, but gave me numbing injections in my gum, and my jaw. However, my jaw is on a complete tilt, if that makes sense? I want to say swelling is maybe the size of half a tennis ball off my jaw/low cheek. Is there anything I can do to help it? I can barely talk without heavy pain :( Thanks! Update in Comments: April 10, 2023 (3 days from OG post) We made a dating profile with one of my brother’s mates; who doesn’t really know me, so chances are, she won’t have found him. So, technically it’s not exactly fake. I did ask her sister whether she had any history with that sort of thing; but she said it was so out of the blue, and never shown any signs - wonder whether she’s trying to cover her own ass though. We’ve been sent over the chat log from one of the dating sites; and it’s absolutely horrendous. However, she forwards them onto a separate number; multiple different ones, too, to arrange to meet. The worst part, though, things I’ve told her that have happened in my life, like for instance, my aunt being diagnosed with cancer, she’s echoing the same things that have happened in my life off to these men. This thing has been going for far longer than my brother and I assumed; I spoke to my mum last night (she lives in Australia, so we don’t see her very often). I was telling her about what was going on, and she said she spoke to her four, maybe five months ago. (The friend) told my mum that she was arranging a photo wall? For my 20th; and asked whether she had any childhood photos, and any pictures she had of me to use. She also asked for my mum’s address to mail any photos from the day to her. This (obviously) absolute bullshit, but I wonder whether she wanted the address to confirm I wouldn’t go live with my mum? I don’t know. My mum never mentioned anything, as it was meant to be a ‘surprise’, apparently; and she’d forgotten all about it afterwards. Off to speak to the lawyer about it this afternoon, keep fingers crossed for us! X Update in Comments: April 14, 2023 (1 week after initial post) Apologies it took so long, update here x Update 3 (is it?) Firstly, apologies for not updating! I wanted to make sure the info was correct; so they’d be no speculation with what was going on. The friend has been arrested since last update. As suspected by many, she was encouraging CNC. (Editor's note- I believe this is Consensual Non-Consent, a kink) From the message with the guy that attacked me, she told him that she’s cheating on her boyfriend; and he found that she want on dating sites. So, she had to lie and say that it was a catfish, which might explain why the sign was ignored. Lawyer thinks she’ll be taken in for psychological examinations. I’m not sure what’s happening with the guy that attacked me, but I’m tentative to push for charges against him if he really did believe her lie about the catfish. But really, how stupid can you be? Still men turning up at the house; so I plan to move to the coast in the next couple of weeks. The sister ended up lying to the police; telling them that she’d never spoken to me. So, I think she received a warning for false info to police? I think that’s all! Oh! And thank you to everyone asking about my jaw - swelling is down, just bruised :) Lots of love and hugs to all :) Again, I did my best to put this in the most streamlined order possible, but please let me know if I missed anything or anything needs changing. Also remember the no brigading rule- do not comment on OOP's posts. submitted by /u/LucyAriaRose to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

Laver cup? submitted by /u/Aomiin to r/tennis [link] [comments]