Cat Carrier For Car

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I really wish my dog could fly in the cabin with us when we fly our cat. He's old and never barks, he'd be a perfect angel... but is slightly too tall for a carrier that fits under the seat in front. And he gets pretty car sick, poor dear.

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So sorry about the loss of your kitty. I wonder if any of the cat lovers here had a recommendation for a carrier that could be used for a long distance car ride? We have an elderly Persian cat thinking of taking him on a 3 to 4 day journey…

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Three weeks ago, I found Kiki abandoned in a park while walking my dog. I brought her home and she was immediately the sweetest, most affectionate little baby. She ran around the room playing, she loved every toy you gave her, she was a Serial toe-biter, she loved to cuddle and be pet, and she had so much to say if you weren’t fast enough putting her bowl down or sharing your own meal with her. Two days ago, she was much sleepier than usual. She’s usually out and about playing and looking for mischief, but she spent most of her day curled up on the couch. She was still demanding her food with the same vigor, trying to join in all of our meals, and cuddling up to us at every opportunity. She’d even follow us around to get us to sit and cuddle with her again if we got up for any reason. Other than being a little sleepy, which we didn’t think anything of with her being a growing baby, nothing seemed wrong. She was eating, drinking, using the litter box, no noticeable grimace, and acting otherwise normal. She slept on my chest all night like she always did, and I noticed while petting her that she had a small, soft lump under her jaw. We agreed we’d keep an eye on it and bring it up at her next vet appointment early next week. Yesterday, she was still sleepy, but continued to get up to eat, drink, use the litter box, and following me around to give her opinions on me leaving after petting her. She still climbed all over me while I put her food together. She still walked around the apartment exploring and even discovered watching cars out of the window for the first time yesterday. In the evening, she stopped leaving her spot on the bed. My boyfriend went in to check on her and noticed that she was grimacing and had started breathing very quickly and periodically making small crackly sounds. Our other two cats had been somewhat sickly babies, so we thought we were dealing with another standard upper respiratory infection. We brought her to the emergency vet, we thought just to be safe, joking about bracing for spending $500 for a Tylenol. She had even gotten up to take a drink of water while we were on the phone with the vet’s office to tell them we’d be bringing her in. Once we got there, things were quickly getting worse as we waited. Her breathing was becoming more and more labored and she stopped wanting to be right in my lap, opting to put herself in the back of her carrier. When we were finally able to be seen, they found she had a fever and wanted to give her x-rays to check for pneumonia since she was sounding a little crackly. Even listening with a stethoscope, they didn’t think she sounded too wet. I mentioned the lump I’d felt the night before and they said it was likely a lymph node swollen from trying to fight off whatever this was. It took a while for them to come back, but things got flipped completely upside down for us. They told us that she had what was either a fungal infection or cancer throughout her whole lungs. They told us that we could try to hospitalize her and treat it as a fungal infection, but she more than likely would not respond and even if she did, it may take months to over a year for her to fight it off. In a matter of hours Kiki had gone from our spunky little baby to barely moving and sounding absolutely horrible. We couldn’t force her to suffer through treatments without us in a hospital when we knew we were being told she would almost certainly not make it. She spent her last moments cuddling up with us again. She didn’t want to leave my lap and climbed in even with the catheter in her tiny little arm. They put her to sleep right there in my arms. This isn’t the first pet I’ve lost in my life, but I’ve never been so blind-sided and devastated by walking out with an empty carrier before. This is my boyfriend’s first pet loss and he is absolutely broken. We just don’t understand why it happened so fast. If it was so widespread and severe, why was she acting so normal for so long? Why weren’t there any signs when we brought her to start her vaccines and check her over? We’re just completely in shock. I had so little time with her, but she wanted to be right on top of me wherever I was. She was the sweetest kitten I’ve ever had and I’ve never had a cat “choose me” the way that she did. She slept on top of me all night every night and would meow for pets if she noticed I woke up even for a second in the morning. I’m so heartbroken. Apologies for the long rant, I just am trying to process and it’s really hard right now. I’ve never had to put down a little baby like this. Rest in peace, my sweet Kiki girl. If anybody knows somebody who takes commissions for memorial art, I would really like to get something made to remember my little baby. I just hope we made the right choice for her quality of life. I’m so devastated. submitted by /u/11ajriv3 to r/cats [link] [comments]

I had a fun little post ready to celebrate Hazel Wassername’s turning 1 and graduating from kittenhood, but life has a way of intervening sometimes. I came home from travelling on Wednesday to find her in obvious respiratory distress. She was hyperventilating, breathing using her abdomen rather than her chest, and barely eating or drinking. Hazel was incredibly loving and affectionate to everyone from the moment we adopted her. In the car home, she purred relentlessly in her carrier and tried to groom our hands when they were near her. Within minutes of someone coming in the door, she was ready to snuggle, to play, to climb all over you. She’d muscle in on whatever you were doing - working, sleeping, showering, cooking, working out, eating - just because she wanted to be near you and to love you - and to be loved by you. Even by cat standards, she did not believe in tasks that required zero cats, because if you were there and doing it, Hazel wanted in on the action. I once remarked to my wife that Hazel had the biggest heart of any being I’d ever encountered. It turns out we didn’t know how horribly accurate that statement was. At the emergency vet, she was diagnosed with feline cardiomegaly - an enlarged heart - that was causing her heart to fail and fluid to leak into and around her lungs. Given how young she was, the vets believe it was congenital. Although they stabilized her and she was able to come home Thursday, cardiomegaly is a sick bastard of a disease. The median survival time from diagnosis is eleven days, because it’s typically only caught when it progresses to congestive heart failure and decompensation begins. On Friday, it became clear that it was time; she had lost so much weight and just seemed so *tired*, and there were several moments Friday where we thought we were about to lose her. We made the decision to give her peace, and she crossed the rainbow bridge on Saturday, May 23 - a few days before she would have turned 1. It was peaceful, and she passed on our bed and in our arms, surrounded by love until the very end. Her older sister, Dr. Leo Spaceman, would have intervened if we had any way of knowing where the heart is. She was the most loving cat and an absolute stinker. She broke every rule we tried to set about counters she couldn’t be on and food she couldn’t try to eat. She found her way into every nook and cranny of our apartment. She chased her older sister all over the house. She demanded love and affection from everyone in the vicinity, and she was so cute and so sweet and so kind that she always received it back. She turned Leo from a staunch solo cat into a loving older sister and playmate. Losing her this young is heartbreaking. I’ve cried more in the last 96 hours in the last 6-7 years combined (and I’m a natural weeper). The universe feels monstrously cruel right now, but I’m grateful to have been her cat dad/poop-shovelling officer for the brief time we had her. She loved us, and we loved her back. See you on the bridge someday, Hazel. submitted by /u/AidanGLC to r/kittens [link] [comments]

I was tired and hungry after work and attempted to stop at McDonald’s for a fry, when they stated they were all out, I headed over to Taco Bell next door (thank heavens I did) instead and as I was leaving, I heard the loudest meowing, I stopped the car as quickly as possible and ran out to find this scared little boy who I estimate to be 3-4 weeks running toward the street. My brother managed to snag him up and he immediately stopped crying. We got him home asap in the box where he was then transferred to a carrier, and by this point it was 12am, there were no stores open that carried formula. I called a vet line for advice and was advised to give him 2ccs of diluted unflavored pedialyte, which i happened to have on hand along with a baby syringe and repeated this every 2 hours, as well as changing out the warmed water bottle I put under his blanket in the cat carrier, and stimulating him to use the bathroom, and petting him to sleep, which he loves. I drove around the area searching for more, but only found older cats, I’ll return in the morning just in case. This isn’t my first rodeo with bottle babies but this is the first time I’ve ever had one so malnourished which scares me so much. I’m gonna do everything I can to give him a fighting chance but I’m hopeful. He’s energetic, so loving and affectionate, and he’s a curious little one who wouldn’t stop escaping the box id brought him in, eventually we relented and he spent the rest of the ride in my brothers arms. We’ll likely end up keeping him. The CDS visited me for the first time in a few years, and I intend to make the most of it. submitted by /u/AngelineLove to r/CatDistributionSystem [link] [comments]

Edit- holy cow! I didn’t expect this post to blow up. Thank you for all of the rewards! I’ll answer a couple of questions! I named her bleach because her fur looks like it’s been stained/splattered with bleach. I am taking her to the vet this week, I found her Sunday late evening and it’s only 6 am Monday morning. I know cats are supposed to be in cat carriers in the car. Finding her out of the blue was not on my bingo card! Sorry I don’t keep a cat carrier in my car 24/7. Woke up this morning to no appreciation or plans for Mother’s Day from my husband. No problem. Thought to treat myself to McDonald’s (guilty pleasure) and eat in the parking lot contemplating life. (Already spent the day with my kiddos!) I had the windows down and hear the faintest cry… found this little sugar in the bushes. Put her in the car and searched for what felt like an hour for a mama, and babies. Nothing. Went inside to McDonald’s and asked if they have seen a mama or kittens. No one has seen anything. Now I’m sitting here with this girl who I’m naming bleach. My shitty day (not because of my babies) turned around and I feel completely blessed to of found this little babe! Please enjoy the last photo of the stinky angry girl. submitted by /u/SlashandAxl to r/torties [link] [comments]

i truly cannot believe this is my life and i need to talk about and show her off 🥹 yesterday i was going for run at my usual trail and as soon as i pulled over i noticed a tiny cat laying on the side of the road (pic 2). i immediately went up to her slowly and weirdly enough she didn’t run away at all. i followed her for a bit and she even let me pet her. i eventually got close enough to grab her but she freaked out and after following her a bit more (and having a near panic attack when she was in the road as a car was coming), i decided to buy cat food and come back to hopefully lure her in (it was obvious she was hunting for food). i found her again RIGHT away and the poor baby was SO hungry. after about 30-45 minutes of luring her, 1 failed attempt, help from a nice random guy, and multiple scratches, we finally got her in my car! she freaked out for a couple seconds in there but then calmed down and sat on the back dashboard. i took her straight to the vet because 1. i had no idea what i was supposed to do and 2. she looked to be in rough shape. her claws & ears looked messed up, she had a bald patch on her chest, and had a bunch of ticks. the vet gave me a carrier and recommended me to pull my car in my garage and let her roam for a bit and to give them a call once she settles. after a couple hours of hiding in my garage (she loved laying under my dads toolbox), i was able to get her out, in the carrier, and brought her up to spend the night in my bathroom. i still can’t believe how fast she warmed up. i found her at 11am, got her in my car at 12pm, letting me pet her all over by 4pm, got her upstairs at 5:30, and by 7 she was so cuddly and affectionate. she started purring and meowing and rubbing up against me i wanted to cry 😭 she’s a flopper!!! i love cat flops so much!! she used her litter box and by 10pm she was meowing to greet me and was VERY vocal about being let out of the bathroom lol. i had to put treats in her bowl so i could sneak out. she had a vet appt today at 10 and not only is she the chillest, sweetest cat ever, she’s healthy!! i thought she was pregnant because her belly is big, but the vet said that’s from milk and she had kittens recently. i followed her to her little shelter that she stayed in and there were definitely no kittens there. vet thinks that because she’s so small (only 6 pounds!!) and young (around a year old), the kittens didn’t make it; which is sad, but i can’t help to feel a little relieved that there aren’t more stray, scared little babies roaming around outside :,( truly i cannot believe this is my life. she is the sweetest thing ever. she loves belly rubs and is so affectionate. i felt like a monster taking her but i’m so happy and relieved. she’s so chill. she literally slept in the car!!! anyways, done with the yapping. idc if no one reads this i need to tell anyone and everyone that will listen that this is my baby submitted by

I wish I could afford to keep them. Especially the little Siamese!!!! I closed my eyes while I put them in the carrier because I cannot fall in love right now. We have a big big cat problem in my neighborhood, I’ve been doing TNR for the last 2 years and I suspect someone noticed me coming and going. I saw a car pull up on my ring cam and watched them dump a box on my porch and run. I immediately ran out of work because I knew exactly what was happening. I have a full time stray in my back yard and I’m so grateful she wasn’t here because she’s aggressive. I don’t know how she would’ve reacted to them. submitted by /u/BottomPieceOfBread to r/CatDistributionSystem [link] [comments]

I’m honestly sitting here crying right now and just need some reassurance. I took my tuxie to a low-cost spay clinic today, and I had no idea it was going to be like this. There were SO many cats there… probably 40–50 total. Carriers stacked everywhere, no space, very much a “factory” feel. When I had to leave, they had me place her carrier on a stack with a bunch of other cats. And she was just looking at me as I walked out. I completely lost it when I got to my car because I feel like I just abandoned her. I can’t pick her up for hours and it’s killing me thinking about her being there, surrounded by so many other cats (some are trap-neuter-release cats), and worrying about things like stress or even airborne illness. If I could have afforded a private vet, I would have done that in a heartbeat. This was the only option I could realistically make work right now. Has anyone else gone through this? Is this normal for low-cost clinics? Do they actually keep the cats safe in these environments? I just need someone to tell me she’s going to be okay and that I didn’t do something wrong. I know the benefits of spaying outweigh the risks, but I feel absolutely awful right now. 😔 submitted by /u/Prudent_Paramedic_23 to r/TuxedoCats [link] [comments]

Spy Kids 2 - In a movie that involves a hacked teleprompter changing the heads of government agencies, an island of lost dreams, and a device called a Transmooker, a scientist randomly drops one of the hardest lines in cinema history out of nowhere. "Do you think God stays in heaven because he, too, lives in fear of what he's created? Richie Rich (1994) - The whole movie involves a family richer than God having wacky technology like a laser to cut their own Mt. Rushmore, a sniffing device that identify hidden objects, and a McDonalds in their own home. Then, when the villain breaks into the family vault and only finds heirlooms he demands to know where the money is. That's when the father drops the funniest line of realism. "In banks, where else?" Suburban Commando - In a movie where Hulk Hogan is an alien taking a vacation on planet Earth by accident, aliens attack, and people are shooting laser guns, Hogan's character almost damages a car. The owners approach him, warning him. Hogan's character then mocking suggests they are going to use physical violence. The guy, utterly confused, then says the line. "What are you nuts? This is 90's! We're gonna sue ya!" Alvin and the Chipmunks (2007) - The movie is about singing chipmunks who get their adopted father Dave a record deal. It's fully of wacky adventures, hijinks, and generally silliness. Then, near the end their agent Ian kidnaps them, stuffs them in a cat carrier, and threatens to take them on a world tour when they really just want to go live with Dave. Dave chases Ian's car to rescue them, only for the chipmunks to appear in the car with them. Shocked, Dave asked them how they escaped. Simon then drops a very obvious line. "We're talking chipmunks Dave. We can get out of a cat carrier." submitted by /u/thisismypornaccountg to r/TopCharacterTropes [link] [comments]

A little background - I worked at a specialty and emergency animal hospital, my aunt is a vet, I volunteered in cat rescue for a long time. I’ve seen a lot. I can guess a lot. This is just a hope that maybe someone here can give a suggestion. About 3 weeks ago my 10yo male neutered domestic long haired cat, Hagrid, started reverse sneezing. It was weird but with the weather changing I figured I’ll just watch. After about 4 days I took him to a veterinary urgent care (it was a Saturday) - they took X-rays and sent me home with a nose drop solution for feline congestion and an antiviral (famciclovir). On cray his heart was fine and lungs had “minor changes”. I started doing 20m steam bathroom sessions with him 2-3x/day to loosen possible mucus and ease breathing if that’s what it was. After a few days of not seeing any change, I did follow up with my regular vet. I used to work with her at the emergency vet and I trust her judgment. She said other than the GRADE 3 HEART MURMUR and the minor lung changes, she has no guesses. She said go get the echocardiogram and that will basically tell us where to go. Whether this is heart disease or possibly asthma and we may try a bronchodilator and/or inhaler. I preemptively bought the inhaler mask just in case. The next day we went to an ER vet near me becaue he started coughing and because they have “3 internal medicine specialists on staff” and, if he needed it they could “get a cat scan”. 5 hours later they said no he’s fine he’s breathing normally take him home. Keep using the nose drops and finish the antiviral. That was it. A few days later (it’s now 2 weeks) he didn’t eat breakfast. This cat has never ever missed a meal. This cat stole my husbands spam from a piping hot skillet straight from the oven (he’s Korean, spam is a staple here). Later that day I was vacuuming and for the first time he ran from the vacuum and when I caught up to him he was full body shaking. I put him in a carrier and drove him 3 hours to the ER vet I used to work at because the dr working that night is brilliant. He took X-rays; ran bloodwork, 3 vets determined no heart murmur, flashed his abdomen to make sure there was no free fluid. He told me bloodwork confirmed no heart disease, he’s not dehydrated, his white blood cells were normal (no infection). Temp slightly high but it was snowing and we drove in the dark to a place I hadn’t been to in almost 10 years and he doesn’t love the car, so that didn’t say much. He was obviously breathing weird (at this point the cat breathes noisily- mouth hangs open- NOT PANTING, NOT LABORED BREATHING) but he didn’t need oxygen and was getting 100% O2 without added oxygen. We made the soonest appointment I could find in THREE STATES for 2 weeks from then on April 16. That was 04/02. Since then he has become lethargic and inappetent and lost almost 3/4 of a pound in a week. I called the hospital and begged them to see him sooner. So, this past Friday, 04/10, they had me bring him in for a drop off and one of the internal medicine specialists doctors was able to do a cat scan. She also took samples from inside his nose/mouth for histopathology. She confirmed no masses, there is nothing obstructing his airway. Radiologist confirmed no obvious signs of cancer like masses or tumors. So while still a possibility, it could be that or even allergies. (Side note she did say his intestines are a little thickened which could indicate IBD or even GI lymphoma. I let her know that Hagrid has had an abdominal ultrasound in the past and yearly labwork because he does have a sensitive stomach and about once a month will vomit/have diarrhea but after a day or 2 is back to normal. No answers on that and it’s been a minimum of 7 years) That was last Friday. He is still not eating. I started him on Cerenia (anti nausea) and picked up Hills Science Diet AD (for critical care pets) because it is high calorie and very easy to mix with water to syringe feed him. We are waiting for results of the samples the dr took. I just want this cat to want to eat again. I have tried all kinds of shit to help- sure he’ll eat a churu but not the food under or mixed with it. I’ve tried the food he loves but usually gives him diarrhea but he won’t touch it. He’s still using the litter because he’s still somewhat drinking water and he’s getting liquid in the syringed food or wet food he does lick up. The video is from 3 weeks ago before he stopped eating, before urgent care. The reverse sneezing has pretty much stopped. Now he just…breathes with his mouth open and is noisy and still won’t eat in his own. Any help or advice or suggestions are welcome. **** Edited to make sure I tell you that yes I’ve been syringe feeding him since he stopped eating and hand feeding him but he lost a lot in one week which is why I’ve moved into critical care food. submitted by /u/Usual_Bag6660 to r/cats [link] [comments]

Saturday night in Brooklyn my Husband, our best friend, and myself were returning back to our apartment. We were coming home with some takeout, ingredients to make old fashioneds, and a plan to play mario party when I heard a kitten crying in distress. After a short search, we narrowed down the noise to a parked Honda directly outside of our apartment. We weren’t sure where she was located but her cries were loud and constant. Eventually I shined my flashlight through the spokes of the wheel and I saw her little face looking back at me from within the gears underneath the car. Quickly, I ran into our apartment and grabbed a can of our resident cats’ food as well as their carrier. As soon as I opened the can, she was immediately enticed. My husband guided her through the gears underneath the car and through the wheel with the scent. With the help of a Good Samaritan neighbor, we were able to put her in the carrier and take her into our apartment. We, luckily, have a spare room in our apartment as my husband is a pianist and I am a classical singer that we use to record ourselves, teach lessons, and practice. We set her up a little sanctuary room with food, water, and a makeshift litter box as it was too late to go to the pet store. Within an hour she was already comfortable: purring, revealing her belly for tummy rubs, and chatting. She is the sweetest most easy going cat. She loves sitting on my chest and shoulders and sleeping there for hours. We’re slowly beginning the process of integrating her with our other cats. She has a clean bill of health aside from some worms and ear mites. When she’s big enough, we will get her spayed, but she’s a bit shy of 2 pounds currently. I feel so lucky to have found this sweet perfect girl and shudder to think what might have happened if that car turned one while she was inside. Welcome to your forever home Claudette 💕❤️🌹 submitted by /u/taytay451 to r/CatDistributionSystem [link] [comments]

Hello everyone! Gregg is one of the stray/community cats that I feed every day. He was gone for a few days, and when he returned a couple of days ago, I noticed that he was severely limping and struggling to put weight on one leg. I suspect he may have been hit by a car. I was able to take a video of him, but unfortunately I didn’t have a pet carrier with me at the time. After finishing feeding the other stray cats, I went home to get one. When I came back to pick him up, he was already gone. I still decided to make a post, hoping I would find him the following day—but he was nowhere to be found. Today, I brought Ginger to the vet. She is another stray cat that I feed daily, but from a different colony. Her right eye has become shrunken, so she underwent an eye examination and blood work. According to the vet, her kidney, pancreas, and liver results are all normal. Most of her blood work is also within normal range, except for a high white blood cell count caused by an infection from the wound on her cornea. The vet suspects that her eye was likely scratched by another cat, possibly during a fight. While I was on my way home from the clinic, I saw Gregg. He was easy to recognize because of his limp. I didn’t have a pet carrier again, but I didn’t hesitate—I carried him in my arms all the way home. He was very gentle and didn’t try to bite or scratch me. Maybe he knew it was finally time to get help from a human. Gregg is now safely secured in one of my cages and will stay here until he recovers. I suspect he may have a fracture in his left hind leg. The donations received from my post last Thursday totaled $124. Ginger’s vet bill, including her prescriptions, came to $60 (please see photo 14 for the receipt, photo 17 for the prescription, and photo 18 for the medications I purchased for her). Gregg’s estimated vet bill is $98, and I still need $34 more to bring him to the vet. I am humbly asking for your help so I can bring Gregg to the vet as soon as possible. Any amount you can spare will mean a lot and will go directly toward his medical care. Thank you. To donate: PayPal: paypal.me/catsofmagdalena GCash: 0925-705-5102 (W.J.A.) Wise: [[email protected]](https://) You may also contact Deloso Vet Clinic if you would like to donate directly to them. You may also check my Instagram page for updates: instagram.com/catsofmagdalena submitted by /u/Frequent-Towel-5762 to r/Straycats [link] [comments]

My lynxie here is Helena, she's almost 2 years old, I adopted her when she was less than 40 days old bc she was malnourished. I moved states inside my country, it was 15h car drive, and I decided to go by car bc plane tickets are crazy expensive here, and bc I'm afraid of flying with her, a friend of mine 4 years ago lost his cat due to a heart attack inside a plane, so as long as I can avoid traveling by plane with her before she's fully comfortable with travels, I will. I take her almost everywhere with me, but she HATES being inside her carrier inside the car. Where I live is against the law to have an animal loose on your car when there's only you and the animal. When I came from my state to this state, my aunt and uncle came to help with the drive, so Helena rode the 15h smoothly and calmly, she slept most of the time on my lap and explored the car when we stopped to fill gas. But now I drive alone with her, and I can't have her out of the carrier and she hates being inside the car in the carrier. When we're in other places she sleeps inside the carrier, but in the car she cries out, tries to dig the carrier and sometimes gets desperate to the point I have to stop the car and let her out the carrier for a bit. she hyperventilates when she's in the car inside the carrier for more than 20 minutes,.but will just sleep calmly for ours in the car if she's out the carrier, but I'm afraid of letting her out and god forbid we suffer and accident and she runs away and I can never find her again. it's not safe for any of us. She loves her carrier, I have to leave it out at home bc she loves to sleep inside of it, so idk what the issue is with the carrier inside the car, could it be motion sickness? Idk she never vomited inside the car ever. Do you guys have any tips to get her used to being in the car inside the carrier, or do you guys have any recommendations of carriers that are safe and better for inside the car? submitted by /u/potatoelize to r/lynxpointsiamese [link] [comments]

Hi everyone! I recently posted asking if she was pregnant or fat and found out shes very pregnant lol so heres the update. So the morning after, I went around my neighborhood looking for the orange kitties when I saw my neighbor with them. I started talking to her and long story short shes a pos. She told me the cats are hers and kept offering them to me saying that she needed to get rid of them because of her daughter’s new baby. Thats when it clicked why I randomly started seeing these 2 cats in the neighborhood a month ago when I had never seen them before. Im guessing she just threw them outside in hope they would run away or become outdoor cats. Anyways I reached out to a family friend who actually fosters and tries to adopt cats out. He’s had over 100 successful adoptions last year so I was hopeful. Initially the appointment was Monday and I was supposed to drop her off Sunday for him to take mama. He ended up calling me that night asking if he could have her that moment as he saved a bunch of kittens (that looked around 3 days old) in a box off the side of Target. I took her and shes now taking care of the abandoned kittens and has her spaybortion sooner. But I did find out that shes not as far along as everyone thought she still has around 2 weeks until she gives birth so the spaybortion is still on. ALSO I found out the other orange cat following her around is her son so my neighbor sucks and just let them both out un neutered. Plan is to also recuse the son but for now were focusing on mama Thank you to all the previous helpful comments! I have only had dogs my entire life so I wasn’t too sure how to care for a cat. This community is so wonderful and understanding so bless all your guys hearts. You educated me and I’m happy to know more now how to care for the strays in my neighborhood. I also learned the difference between neuters and spay so thank you for that. Also, I loved the funny comments! They helped me be less of a disappointed mother who’s daughter got knocked up. AND TO THE RUDE COMMENTS I have never had a cat. Im asking questions on here to help not for y’all to be snarky 😭 and the “you should’ve had them neutered already you piss me off” I had seen them for only 1 month I also am a full time student majoring in Law (so you can just imagine the homework) and work almost everyday to pay for school. As much as I love the cats I can’t drop everything else. “You shouldn’t feed them if you’re not gonna get them neutered”. Spending money on wet food specifically (since I read it’s better for winter) for like 4 cats is expensive. Im already doing a-lot more than others who let the cats starve so chill on me. Im not gonna be like oh I cant get you neutered so you don’t get food like thats so messed up 😭And to the commenters that rallied against me since I made a House Targaryen joke OBVIOUSLY I know incest is a thing DAMN. Also disclaimer I know kitty isn’t in a carrier in the car, I didn’t have a crate and the family friend needed her ASAP for the abandoned kittens. She was very well behaved and was purring and laying down while I put ok calming cat music lol submitted by /u/Vaneela351 to r/Feral_Cats [link] [comments]

I am not The OOP, OOP is u/Complex-Wing7114 I have 2 weeks to get away from my husband Originally posted to r/offmychest Thanks to u/soayherder & u/Pawleygirl76 for suggesting this BoRU and finding the new update BoRU 1 BoRU 2 BoRU 3 BoRU 4 BoRU 5 TRIGGER WARNING: controlling behavior, abusive behavior, stalking, assault, physical violence, DARVO Original Post Apr 27, 2024 Throwaway account as my husband and In-laws are follow my main. I, 29 F, have been married to my husband, 30 m, who I'll call Alex. Alex and I met in college during our freshman year. We started off as just friends, and got married seven months ago. I've gotten along with his family, but we aren't super close but we're friendly enough. The problem is that Alex has begun to make me incredibly uncomfortable. Firstly, he's begun to ask me who I'm meeting with, where, what we plan on doing, how long every single time I leave the house without him. At first, I just thought he was being protective and a good partner just in case something happened, but then he started checking my phone after the visits, vetting and researching each of my friends as well. He also has been pursuing me to link my bank account to his, as he's "in charge" of the finances when he was perfectly fine with keeping them separate before. We fight about it almost every day. Finally, yesterday when he was preparing to go on a work trip for two weeks in California, he demanded I wear a tracker so he could keep and eye on me while he's gone. I can't do this anymore, I feel like I'm suffocating and his family who I've spoken to about his worrying behavior just said he's being careful and protective as a good husband should. I need to gather my things together and find a way to be gone before he gets home without tipping him off. He's always threatened that if he ever found me cheating on him he'd turn in divorce papers the same day. He keeps a filled out copy in his desk. I'm going to submit those the day I leave. But there's so much to do, bergen finding a new place to live, seeing if my job has any transfers available, packing and moving in two weeks. His return flight May 11th, so I need to move quickly. I'm posting here because I don't have any close family, and I can't risk dragging my friends into this as we share the same friends.I just needed a place to vent, and ask if anyone has any advice on the easiest and safest way to do this? Edit: oh my god you guys are amazing! I never even thought to not use his divorce papers. I'll check for cameras before I start any packing or prepping. I may also shred his divorce papers just in case and look into getting a lawyer for myself. I'm in a no fault divorce state, that much I so remember which will help. I'll update again when I know more. The tracker he wants me to use is a small clip to put on the belt or waistband. I'll wear it unless I'm going or doing something related to me leaving. No pets yet thankfully. Update Apr 28, 2024 So I've gotten a lot of support and helpful advice along with questions I thought I should clarify before I proceed with the update. Some asked why I'd be 'hiding' things from Alex regarding going out and who I'm meeting with. I don't, and I have nothing to hide. However when he begins to then double check everything I tell him with the other people there right down to each person I talked to and what I said. Did I send any text msgs, did I order food, how much did I eat, that's when it started to feel like I was slowly being pushed into a corner. It didn't start that bad, but gradually grew worse overtime. All of the Reddit subs my in-law's families are part of are related gardening and diy so I highly doubt they'll see this, if so by the time they do, I'll hopefully be gone. I talked to my job and explained things to my manager. And they promised to look into openings in other states to see if they could get me into one. They'll have an update on that in three days. I trust that my bank account us secured, considering he's tried to get into it before and failed. I found one camera in the kitchen, another in the living room and one in our bedroom. As such, I've left them in place for now and done all other planning, either in the bathroom pretending I'm taking a bath. I'm honestly staying away from the domestic violence services as my sister-in-law is unfortunately higher up in those considering she volunteers there and I have a feeling if I did show up there, they would know in a heartbeat. I can't look for apartments until I get the update from my work, but either or i'm still gonna be leaving the state. The day before I do I will be changing my number carrier and wiping my laptop and all of his electronics before I do. I've met with 2 lawyers so far and had them look over the paperwork. My husband had prepared and both said that it did it have some clauses in it. That could have caused me some trouble down the line. What alarmed all of us close the fact that several of those clauses dealt with future children, and not as a hypothetical. Like several hair suggested I have a feeling he fully intended on getting me pregnant to keep me trapped and tied to him. There are 3 other locations. My job could send me to and I have. As a precaution Begun looking into all 3 cities and housing in the areas. Just in case one of those, this is the one they send me to. Even if they don't have an opening that they can push me into then I will just have to quit, move and figure things out on my own. I have enough money to live and survive for a few months until I can pick up another job. Unfortunately all of our friends are mutuals and would likely be unaware of the consequences of saying or sharing anything I do or say with my husband. I don't have any surviving close family and obviously my in laws are not a good resource to rely on. I am on my own unfortunately, other than the wonderful bonds, i've begun to make here. I will update again if I get more information or something else happens. Otherwise all update when my work gets back to me. I do plan on leaving before he returns, though. Just to make sure that i'm not anywhere near here at that time. Update 2 Apr 30, 2024 Good news! My work has an opening I qualify for that will not only shift me across the country, but also comes with a salary increase as well. I've started telling my in laws and friends that I'm planning a surprise outing for when my husband gets back for just the two of us. This way, people don't give me odd looks if they see me out and about. I've even gone as far as asking MIL to show me his favorite recipes. Meanwhile, I've found a moving company that while small is willing to work in a storm. The reason is in five days, we're supposed to get hit with a large storm front. I plan to shut off the breaker and say we lost power if he asks just as several people here suggested and even send him a short clip of the storm. I will have all of my stuff moved that afternoon, and I will be flying out once the weather has cleared enough to do so. I have a lawyer who will push my divorce through, and I've filled out the necessary paperwork so that I don't have to be here for it. I'm not suing for assets or alimony and I've shredded his divorce papers as well. I've set up a cheap payphone plan through cricket until this is all said and done at which point I will find a new carrier, number and phone. This one is being wiped and left behind. My laptop is provided by my work, and the IT department inspected it thoroughly and it was clean thankfully. No other electronic aside from my laptop and new phone will be coming with me. If alex needs to talk to me, he can do it through my lawyer. Not sure if anything else will happen, my fingers are crossed that he doesn't think anythings amiss until after I leave - and I'm not turning the breaker back on when I do. He can when he gets home. My work is covering the plane ticket, so that at least is one expense I don't have to finagle in. Update 3 May 7, 2024 It's been a busy week, but I've gotten so much done. Firstly, I am now out of the house and am currently in a hotel while I look for an apartment. It's a big city, bustling with people no matter where you look. We had a pretty bad storm system hit back home, that actually lasted two days. High winds, thunder, lightning and even hail everywhere. I didn't take much from the house, my documents, clothes and important sentimental items. I left all of the furniture and electronics behind. I cleaned the house top to bottom and took pictures on my phone so he couldn't claim I damaged anything when I left. My lawyer has already started divorce proceedings, and my husband will be served on the 8th. His plane is due to land early morning, and the sheriff will be there at the house waiting for him. He is very much about public appearances and reputation. My lawyer will be calling him as well to inform him that I am more than willing to air out everything to the public about his actions if it means securing my freedom from him. I will go to court as long as I must to get this pushed through. I haven't told our friends or his in-laws yet, I will do that while he is on the flight to prevent him from getting wind of it before he's handed the divorce papers. I will be calling around and explaining why we're getting divorced, to try and prevent him from twisting this into somehow being my fault. I don't want him trying to claim I had an affair or something so I want to get the truth out before he can twist this. I'm... doing okay. I'm tired, but yet I feel almost jittery and off-kilter. I keep looking over my shoulder and monitoring what I say even when I don't really need to anymore. Hopefully that will fade soon. My work is covering the cost of the hotel, and I'm working on getting my other things in order. I also need to find a new GP as I want to get a full test just to make sure everything is okay. I don't know when my next update will be, probably when the divorce papers are filed or if we have to go to court to push them through. I will try to keep my head up, but it feels like I'm in a whirlwind or something with so many things to do and think about. I kinda thought it would be easier once I got out of the house but while the fear is smaller, somehow the number of tasks only seems to have grown. Update 4 May 14, 2024 Sorry I haven't updated for a while, things got hectic and a bit chaotic honestly. Firstly, I'm working on getting an apartment still and have applications in at three different places and will hopefully hear back from them soon. I'm still going into work here at the new location, so I don't have to worry about burning through my emergency savings completely. I've gotten a lot of emails from Alex, his family and our old friend group asking question after question. I have only sent one return email to Alex, explaining that I don't believe we are truly compatible, and it is best we separate now. That his treatment of me when I'd done nothing to deserve as such was just as much of a deal breaker as cheating was for him. I ended the email with the statement that I would not be contacting him further and anything else he needed to pass on to me or vice versa would be done through my lawyer. For his family and friends, I just typed up one email outlining everything that had happened and why I left. I told them I wished them no ill will, but that such treatment of his wife and partner was not acceptable. That should Alex get remarried in the future, I wished they would help support both partners and not just Alex. Alex, from what my lawyer told me, was livid when he was served. The sheriff actually ended up booking him for assault on an officer and menacing due to the threats he was shouting. His father bailed him out in a few hours, but with the testimony of the sheriff, my lawyer believes I have a very good chance at getting a restraining order. Alex, upon returning to the house, apparently lost his temper again, breaking the dining table into pieces as well as the tv, and putting several holes in the walls. At least that's what one of the emails from one of our friends reported as Alex called him to help him clean up the mess. My lawyer already has pictures of the house I took, with timestamps as evidence nothing had been damaged by me. My friend reported that Alex tried to claim I'd been the one to trash the house but the holes in the wall were at head height - Alex is 6'3", and I'm 5'4" so he knew that was false. Either way, taking the pictures definitely will help me so again thank you everyone here for the advice because I never would have thought of that on my own. My work won't share details of where I am, as I do work with some higher end clientele who value security and that information won't be gossiped about and no, I'm not some stripper or escort. I deal with contracts, notary and business management. As such, even if Alex tried to use my work to find me, he wouldn't succeed. Update on leaving May 26, 2024 It’s been a little bit, and I thought I’d answer some questions before giving my update. It may be a while after this until things change. Firstly, No I didn’t bring my car. The public transport here is good enough to use without needing one. I have secured an apartment, and the building has good security. You need a key card to enter, and there is a security guard at a desk right by the entrance to the building. As part of my contract, I gave them a photo of Alex and his family so that even in the off chance they do find me, they won’t be let in. The responses I got from the emails varied. His family said I was overreacting, and that I owe Alex an apology for the problems this has caused him. The pending criminal charges puts him at risk of losing his job if he’s convicted. Alex sent a long email, apologizing and pleading for me to come home. He said he was worried for me, that he is willing to go to therapy if it will appease me. He wants us to remain together, and he didn’t think leaving was an appropriate response to his genuine concern and worry for my health and safety. The friends gave somewhat lacking replies, saying that they didn’t think Alex was ever going to hurt me and that I shouldn’t be letting my imagination run away wild. As much as I want to say I was surprised by the lack of support, I’m honestly not. He intends to fight the divorce. I am letting my lawyer handle it, and I am also pursuing a protective order as well. Once I got approved for my apartment, I also froze my credit. I’ve changed my phone carrier and number, as well as making sure none of my documents list Alex as next of kin or POA. Some have asked why I was so paranoid about Alex and his possible future actions. The answer for that actually is somewhat simple – my grandmother. I loved that woman to bits. As a teen, she explained why my grandfather was never around. He was extremely abusive and manipulative, and her generation didn’t allow divorce really. She wouldn’t have been able to buy a house or get a good enough job to support her and my mother on her own. As such, she endured it, shielded my mom as she could until my grandfather died. When I felt like I may have been overreacting, I remembered how she’d said she’d always wished she’d been able to see grandfather for what he was early on when she may have been able to annul the marriage. I don’t know when I’ll update again, maybe when the divorce goes through or if something big happens but until then, I’m just trying to keep my head above the water. Another Update June 25, 2024 It’s been a month since my previous update, and I wanted to share some of what’s been going on in the meantime. The divorce is proceeding, but even though I don’t need him to agree – and he’s not – it means I have to go through the courts to get it approved. As such, it could be upwards of six months to push it through even though I’m filing without attempting to claim property, alimony or compensation. I just want a clean break and separation. Alex has attempted to use our friends to reach out to me, as he doesn’t want to use my lawyer for communication. He’s saying its disrespectful and cowardly to hide behind my lawyer and not meet him face to face. Alex wrote me a letter that he did pass off to my lawyer, but the contents were him justifying his actions and claiming that in today's time it is dangerous for women to be on their own which is why he was so intent on trying to keep me safe from harm. He wanted me to understand that he was trying to protect me as best he could and was hurt that I would just lie to him and hide my actions from him related to my dissatisfaction with our marriage and my moving. I didn’t reply, because at no point did he apologize. All he did was turn everything around on me as I was being overly dramatic, emotional and cowardly. There was a second letter with Alex’s from my SIL. Her letter… was honestly disturbing and completely justified my misgivings regarding approaching her in any kind of professional capacity. She spent five paragraphs detailing how a ‘real abusive’ relationship looked like and that Alex was the furthest thing from abusive. The details she included were all related to financial abuse and physical abuse. Nothing like what Alex had been doing. She stated that my attempts to smear her brother’s name for attention and clout made me the abuser not him. I haven’t really been able to process that admittedly. Part of me can’t help but wonder if she’s right. I mean, I blindsided him by leaving as I did and am refusing to speak with him at all. My old boss recommended that I look into getting into therapy after I moved, and I think I need to. I have had a hard time adjusting to being on my own, I keep censoring myself and haven’t even gone out to eat yet. I always end up worrying about what if someone sees me, what if I get in trouble for spending my money on something frivolous… My lawyer is continuing to fight for the divorce, and I shouldn’t need to be physically present in court. Any meetings needed between me and the judge can be done via zoom. I’m trying to avoid confrontation with Alex and his family for now as much as I can and passed both letters to my lawyer in case he needs them. Our friends are mostly trying to avoid taking sides still, and I’m honestly approaching the point of just letting them go as well. I’m tired of fighting for them to understand at this point. I don’t know if anything is going to happen, so my next update may not be until around mid-November depending on how long it takes to push the divorce through. Work is going well, and it’s helpful to have something familiar to anchor my day to day life when so much has changed and is changing even now. Divorce Proceeding Update Oct 17, 2024 It’s been a while since I last updated, as I needed to let the court step in as Alex was not willing to grant my request for a divorce. We started with mediated session via zoom, but after four sessions it was decided that no compromise could be reached between us. The things Alex was pushing for were one’s I’m not even willing to humor let alone agree to. He wanted me to tell our friends and those I’d sent the information to about his actions that I’d made it up in order to gain sympathy. He also wanted me to pay him for defamation and suffering, especially the wages he lost because of sitting in jail for two days and missing work before getting bailed out. Lastly, he also wanted me to return and to quote him ‘stop my foolish behavior and act like a proper wife and partner.’ Yeah no. So, needless to say, our ‘mediated’ sessions went absolutely nowhere. The judge isn’t seeming to buy into Alex’s act thankfully, because he’s certainly tried. It took me far too long to see Alex for who he was, and part of me feels like an idiot because I didn’t see it at all. Yet, the judge seemed to clock him for exactly what he is within the first meeting. Maybe I just didn’t want to see it. I don’t know. Alex ended up arguing with the Judge a LOT, even being held in contempt four different times. I think it's honestly why this moved as quick as it did. It didn't help that Alex tried to pull in his family as character witnesses but they were dismissed by the Judge as the 'abuse wasn't seen or heard by them, and as such, they only knew part of Alex's character.' In his closing statement after he approved the divorce, he went on to call Alex a narcissist and that if Alex loved himself so much to abuse the one he'd married to let the divorce happen and marry a mirror next. I didn't think a Judge was allowed to say that. At all. But my lawyer just shook his head and told me not to say anything so we left. So here’s the update I’m sure everyone’s been hoping for and guessed: I’m officially divorced. The documents were processed three days ago, and I’m still in disbelief. I have no contact with Alex any longer, nor do I want any. I’m not going to give our friends my new contact information. I may not have replied to everyone, though I tried, but I did read all of your comments. I really did. Your repeated statements about how they weren’t actually friends really helped me see that they weren’t. So, I decided that since I moved far from that place, I needed to start over. New home, new place, new friends. It’s slow, and I’ve started therapy though it took almost three months to get it due to the usual wait times but I’ve been going three times a week ever since. It’s helping, even with things I thought were done and dusted. Alex didn’t take the divorce well according to my lawyer who’s been keeping up with him to make sure he stays away from me. He did something at work, I don’t know what as obviously I have no way to gain that information, but whatever it was cost him his job. My lawyer also did something I didn’t expect him to, but something I think everyone will like – He took the letter my ex-sil sent me and forwarded it to the domestic violence organization she works for along with an formal statement regarding Alex, his actions, and the decision of the Judge. She’s been let go as well, and given how tight those organizations are with one another, my lawyer said that the likely hood of her getting a position at another is slim to none. I actually laughed, though I was a bit teary, when he said that and that ‘slim is on a leaky rowboat to China.’ I’ve been crying a lot lately, but my therapist says it’s normal and shows I’m actually processing things instead of bottling them up and pushing them down. I’ll try to update in a month or so, if my emotions level out some, to explain a few more of the details but I wanted to get this out there, and thank everyone for their continued support and encouragement. I appreciate each and every one of you. I really do. You gave me the hope that leaving him wasn’t going to be this giant black mark I’d never heal from or move on from. Work is going well, and the sense of normality and routine is helping me avoid feeling like everything has been spiraling out of control. I'm working on me now... Nov 18, 2024 It's been a month since I finally was able to share the success of my divorce from Alex. My mood swings are still happening, but they don't last quite as long anymore so I'm taking that as a good sign. My therapist recommended that I sign up for some kind of physical activity, just to help work out and channel what she called the fight/flight instincts more. So I've joined a local self-defense club and I'm going twice a week. I felt really awkward in the beginning, but they've all been super nice and welcoming so it's been easier. It has helped I think, a lot of my jitteriness and anxiety has calmed and I'm sleeping better as well. I've also joined a book club, though it's all online at the moment, they're discussing the possibility of meeting in person rather than over skype at a local park. It's hard, honestly. I feel like a kid that just changed schools and sometimes feel like it's either sink or swim. My therapist pointed out that if I feel like I'm sinking to stop, take a step back and remind myself that I have all the control over my actions - if I don't like something I don't have to do it. I can feel my emotions but I also need to not let them control and dictate my actions. She also pointed out how I've developed a tendency to try and fix other people's bad moods. She told me that they're adults, and it's not my responsibility to manage anyone else's emotions other than my own. It's been hard. But... I'm getting there. I think in a year, as a celebration for my divorce, I may go visit my grandmother's grave. Just to talk if nothing else as silly as that may sound. I passed on your thanks to my lawyer, who smiled and said - a bit smugly I might add - that he loves giving people who thought they were untouchable the karma they deserved. He went on to add that he enjoyed being 'Karma's helping hand'. My lawyer has kept abreast of what's been happening with Alex and his sister both, just to make sure they don't try anything. According to him, my ex-sil threw a fit when she was let go from the DV center, enough that she was barred from the premises. It seems that she shares some traits with her brother in regards to temper. She's now working at Lowes apparently, as while she was a volunteer at the DV center, she has to pay some fines for damages she caused during the incident that got her banned. As for Alex, he's been quiet which worried me at first. But my lawyer told me he's keeping his head down. He's gotten another job with a construction crew, but with everything he has to pay, he cannot afford to lose his job. I was awarded damages for emotional distress and harm, as he never touched me physically. I was able to prove my statements thanks to records of the text conversations between Alex and I regarding the tracker and not leaving the house without permission. As my financial situation is stable, I don't need Alimony, so my Lawyer advised not to try for it and focus on compensation for damages in stead. Alex's family apparently hates me now, as they've reached out to my lawyer, telling him to pass on the message that I've successfully ruined both Alex and his sister's lives over my 'lies'. Honestly, at this point... I'm getting to the point of not caring anymore. I only have so much to give right now for emotional needs and I want it for my own, not to expend on someone else if that makes any kind of sense. So that's where I'm at right now. It's hard, coming up to the holidays and being alone but a few weeks ago, I found a kitten in the alley next to my work. He's a tiny, raggedy little thing. He's black, long hair with three white paws and he's also missing his tail. He's got the first vertebrae but nothing else. According to the vet, mom may have accidently bitten it off at birth... which I didn't even know happened but apparently it does. I'm calling him Bandit. So I'm not alone anymore, but now I have a kitten that thinks EVERYTHING needs to be hunted... including my toes to I wear slippers constantly cause those little claws of his are like freaking daggers I swear. I'll update again if anyone wants me to, but yeah... that's where things are now. Bandit photos per request Nov 18, 2024 OOP pays cat tax with 10 pics of Bandit NEW UPDATE Update on my new life Feb 1, 2026 Hello everyone, I know it's been a long time since my last update. I didn't want to bog everyone down with small little things here and there as recovering and learning who I am feels like a process that never seems to end. But good things have happened, my life has stabilized, and I wanted to give all of you who have supported me and offered me advice and encouragement the update you deserve. So here goes. First, Bandit is doing great. He's a little skittish sometimes, I think from just finding him as a stray kitten some of that still stuck around but he's quiet and a menace all at once. I sometimes wonder if he sent out signal because about five months ago another kitten decided to make my house his home and I couldn't say no. So now I have two cats. His name is Maverick and he lives up, and down, to his name constantly. He's a full time cuddler as if you sit he wants on your lap and purrs constantly, adores meat, and loves to make Bandits life chaos like an annoying little brother. I can provide photos if anyone wants them. Second, my job is going well. It's stable, challenging and keeps me focused so I'm not getting lost in my own head all the time as I might have if the work was easy. The rest of the time I feel like I'm a cat herder and losing. I signed a lease on a new apartment, about a month ago, I've got a good 1B/1B apartment that came with an in unit washer/dryer which was got so excited for then felt so old at the fact that I got excited over that. Health wise, I got a new GP and had a bunch of tests run and thankfully everything came back clear though she did warn I showed signs of high blood pressure, but that it could be caused due to stress and circumstances rather than diet or genetics and encouraged me to continue with my physical exercise. I've also started what I call international night, where on friday nights after work I cook a dish/meal from another country. It's been fun, I've had good and bad ones admittedly but it's been enjoyable so if anyone has any recipe suggestions I'd love to hear them! Therapy is still a process but progress is there. I'm not panicking or having spirals nearly as much, and when I do they aren't as bad. Notably so. I've made a decent group of friends here, and while none are 'sister' level yet, they are good people, and genuinely care about me. I did visit my grandmother's grave about two months ago. Had a breakdown there but in spite of the snow I still felt warm if that makes any sense, even if the wind made my face feel like a kid licking a frozen pole ouch. It helped to just pour it out to someone who understood, and couldn't say anything, to just vent and bleed it out. My therapist 'requested' I call her after, and I did so. It feels weird to have someone so invested in my mental health like that even outside of her office. Good weird though. Lastly, Alex and his family. I haven't contacted them, haven't wanted to honestly. I know I've gotten a lot of DM's from people claiming that by saying how much I thought about what Alex and his family did meant I missed my Ex-Husband and felt guilty. I don't quite follow that logic but I just didn't respond to them. That said, no I don't miss him or his family. I miss what I thought I once had, and mourn the future we could have had had he not turned out to be a controlling narcissist. But I don't miss him, his family, nor do I regret leaving. Alex is still working at the construction company, and his sister was let go from Lowes though why I don't know, nor do I care all that much as long as they leave me alone. Alex is dating again, but none of them seem to stick around long. He was charged by the officer for the assault, but got off with probation sadly. I know it might be a bit of a boring update given the chaotic whirlwind it was before, but the calm is so nice. I just wanted to let everyone know I'm okay, I'm still healing and to thank you all again for your advice, support and encouragement. More Cat Tax Bandit and Maverick per request THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP's OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7 submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I am NOT the Original Poster. That is still jessibook. She posted in r/EntitledPeople Thanks to u/Skilier_IGuess, u/TheKittenPatrol, u/everythinghurtsat47 and u/Luv_u_a_latte who let me know about the new update. Previous BORU here. New Update marked with ****\* Do NOT comment on Original Posts. Latest. update is 7 days old. This is a long post. Trigger Warnings: discussions of abuse; discussions of infidelity; drugs; animal abandonment Mood Spoiler: sad but OOP will be ok Cat Spoiler: Alvin the cat is currently ok, but things aren't 100% resolved Original Post: January 16, 2026 I was away from my home for a month for a planned surgery plus recovery. This was a very intensive surgery. I'm six weeks out right now and I can still barely walk. At the last minute, my hired pet sitter cancelled on me and I was desperate to find a replacement. I offered that money to a friend who was having housing difficulties. She was to take care of my house and pets. I let her stay in my home while I was gone, and I even bought $300 worth of groceries for her. The agreement was for her to take care of my kittens and fish and to have the house tidied up before I got home. My car would be there in case of an emergency, but otherwise please avoid driving it; it's a lease and I have an allotment of miles I can drive before I have to pay extra. After I was admitted into the hospital, she moved her own cat in, and also her boyfriend in. When I got home, my house was an absolute disaster. Dishes piled up in the sink (took me four loads to clear), dishes and leftover food scattered around the house, cat vomit left to dry on the floor, bags of cat litter clumps in the hallway, half full trash bags left in the entry way, stains on the couch, floors and counters filthy. There was a 3 foot circle of wood ash on the floor around the fireplace. They used up about 80% of my winter wood pile, so now I don't have enough wood to last me the rest of the winter. So here I am, post surgery and barely able to walk, scrubbing the floors, doing dishes, taking out the trash, sweeping and mopping and vacuuming. But there's only so much I can physically do before I'm in massive pain. Well, you guessed it - I have been in massive pain every night since that first night doing too much trying to clean up after her. It hasn't even been a week. She tried to negotiate with me to stay at my house for several more weeks or longer, "to help with the kids and take care of you." No. Not a chance. But I'm so weak right now that I had to play it as tactfully as I could. What resulted was her staying an extra two days, her useless boyfriend sitting on my couch, eating my food, watching me clean up and not offering to help. She, at least, cooked food for me the next day. I called my two besties, a married couple, and asked them to come by to ensure these two left my house when the Lyft arrived to take them home. I told them hours beforehand to pack up and be ready to leave. They waited until ten minutes prior to finally start packing, and the Lyft driver had to wait a half hour for them. As they were leaving, the boyfriend was questioning my friend and asking him how long they were staying. He grey rocked with excellence. The boyfriend was all, "I'm just concerned about her and want to make sure she has the help she needs. And I'll be back to help out as much as I can." That asshole did absolutely nothing to help and made everything harder on me! As soon as they were gone, my real friends sent me to bed and helped clean up my kitchen and living room. My kids also helped out. Even with that, I would still end up having to spend time over the next several days cleaning up after them. I still haven't tried to remove the couch stains, but at least my son vacuumed all the crumbs and such out of the cushions and cleaned up the fireplace. And then, I discovered my car. I had given her permission for two non-emergency trips into the city, about 30 miles away. She also admitted to using my car "a little bit" while I was gone. I was too weak to make a fuss of it. Well, it turns out they drove my car over 1100 miles! These parasites took absolute advantage of me while I was at my weakest. So today, I sent a text requesting they pay me 30¢ per mile of unauthorized use, which adds up to $255. I'll either get some money back for my troubles, or I'll scare them away so badly that I'll never have to see them or deal with them again. Either way, it's a win. Some of OOP's Comments: dilligaf_84: Jeeeeezzzzusssss! I’m so sorry this happened to you OP! OOP: Thank you. It's hard for me to enforce boundaries even when I'm at my best, but I'm trying to get better. I've been learning and practicing ever since I divorced my cheating ex. RatedPG922: Why in God's name didn't you ask your two "besties" right from the get go? Why did you ask some scumbag friend? OOP: Yeah. They asked me the same thing. I was stressed and panicking and didn't think they'd be available with their jobs, especially since I live a good 45 minute drive from them. I figured it was easier to help a friend in need than to impose upon them. I suffered for my choice. NutAli: How old are your children, and where were they when these slobs were at your house? OOP: Elementary school age. I have 50/50 custody of them, so they stayed with my ex while I was gone. Why couldn't ex help: My ex is a cheater and a liar and deeply hurt me with the multiple affairs. I would really really prefer not to have to rely on my ex for anything other than what is strictly necessary regarding the children. xCyn1cal0wlx: Are the fish ok? OOP: Fish are doing well. Oh! And my water filter broke the night before I left and I had to spend another $70 on a new one! 😭 I'm just glad the pet store was still open when it happened. Valuable-Job-7956: Is your cat ok OOP: Kittens are doing well! Happy, healthy, well socialized. At least she took care of them well. People aren't all bad, and as much as she and her bf used me, at least my pets were taken care of. (I'm forever the "silver linings" girl) fandomnightmare: I'm so sorry this happened to you when you were just trying to help out a friend, even at a time when you needed the most help yourself. Though we all of course need to be discerning, please don't lose your beautiful kindness over this. I hope your surgery went well, please take the best care of yourself and allow yourself to rest ❤️ (Saying that last party because I messed up my own C-section scar two weeks after I had my baby by cleaning and walking, and I'm guessing you had something at least as invasive if not more so to contend with.) OOP: Thank you, hunny. It's been a little rough having to both clean up after my "help" and also take care of the kids. Fortunately, my older two have been incredibly helpful. And I've been feeding them with the slow cooker; super easy meals that last for days. A girlfriend stopped by on Wednesday to take me to the pharmacy and go grocery shopping for me. Then she spent the evening playing with my kids, helping with homework, and even made dinner for us. She was amazing. And I hired a nanny yesterday, and she's starting Monday to take the kids to school for me, and help me around the house a bit. I'm just going to have to bleed money for a little while. To a longer Comment: I love your advice. Thank you so much. I do have external cameras. I've been meaning to get internal ones for common areas, but there's only so much I can afford at once and right now all my funds are going towards divorce and medical care. Once my divorce is finalized, I'll be spending funds on a restraining order against my abusive parents. I do have quite a few friends who have simce offered genuine help, just most of them live far from me. They were just unavailable at the moment I needed them. When my hired help fell through, I was desperate to find someone. And I was too stressed to think of all my options. Anything stolen? I was so scared my medicine would have been taken that it was the first thing I looked through. Fortunately, the only valuable jewelry I have I wear (my ex never bought me jewelry; they're all pieces I bought myself after the divorce). I still have to check out the garage and see if things are where they're supposed to be. And yes, searching the house for anything illegal is definitely something I should do. It's just hard to do everything while recovering from surgery. I move slow, I'm in a lot of pain, and there's always something that needs to get done - including bed rest. Comment next morning: brownzeus: Something like this, you need to go nuclear and publicly shame them on instagram or Facebook, or even any active group chat. It's shitty behavior, and very sus the boyfriend said he wanted to come back to continue helping. People need to be warned of parasites like these or they will continue taking advantage of people. OOP: I did. It got worse last night and I ended up sharing it all within a specific tight knit community that will spread the local word. Update Post: January 17, 2026 (Next Day) Editor's note: OOP has posted over the last several months about her cutting off her parents, her divorce, the affairs her ex had and the abuse she suffered. I didn't include those posts here because they weren't specifically relevant to THIS post, but wanted to make a note that OOP's words and explanations in this post are backed up by her other posts] Original post here: https://www.reddit.com/r/EntitledPeople/s/tGhSl4mOkp I didn't expect an update to happen so quickly. Honestly I didn't expect an update at all. You may call me naive. You're probably right. I just always try to see the best in people and hope they choose to be good. It's time to use some names. Her name is Raven. I don't know if it's her real name, but that's what she introduced herself to me as and that's how I know her. Her boyfriend is Angelo. The cat's name is Alvin (he's a sweetheart). A bit of background on me. I grew up in an abusive household. One of those "never rock the boat" homes where image was more important than anything else. If someone harmed me, hurt me, insulted me, anything, and I got upset, I was forced to apologize to them. My dad is also an explosive man. He was fine most of the time, except for the times when he wasn't. When I was 18 he strangled me. I fled to the army. Got away for four years. Sent to war and got PTSD. My dad has only assaulted me a few times since, over the years; the most recent was last June. The time before was last Feb, and he left bruises on me. I ended up marrying an emotionally unavailable person who would later become a serial cheater and blame me for the affairs. For years I accepted that blame, tried to change myself and make myself better so they wouldn't cheat anymore. I finally filed for divorce at the end of 2024. When I called my mom for support, she took the side of my ex, downplayed the affairs, and told me to cancel the divorce and beg my ex back "for the sake of the kids." It took me a long time to be able to admit to myself that none of this was my fault, and most of that was just this past year while I have been in therapy. Despite everything that happened, I always blamed myself, not them. I tried over and over to explain to them how they harmed me. It never worked. It's not my fault that I have been abused. But it is my responsibility to take ownership of my healing. Fault is past focused, responsibility is future focused. We learn from the past, but we focus on the future. I am now estranged from my parents as of three months ago. My mom does not respect that and keeps trying to find ways to contact me, including showing up at my house unannounced. My dad has been shit talking about me to anyone he can. He battered my ex, threatened to sue us both for grandparents rights. As soon as my divorce is signed by the judge and finalized, I'll be talking to a lawyer about getting a restraining order against my parents. All that is to explain what happened between me and Raven and why it was so hard for me to kick her out. Not only am I bad at boundaries in general, but also with major surgery I'm in a severely weakened state as I slowly recover. I'm so thankful for my best friends for coming in to help me. I say all this to preface what happened last night. I am too nice. I know I am. But it's not something I want to let go. People do take advantage of me sometimes. I know. It's a risk of being kind, but I refuse to let my kindness go. I want to live in a world with kindness, and that always starts with yourself. I don't want to grow into a bitter old hag. Despite posting my story only yesterday, the events took place last weekend. I returned home from surgery last Friday, and it took me until Sunday to actually get Raven and Angelo out of my house. I couldn't have done it without my two best friends, who helped enforce it for me. Even then they left behind several things. Some clothes, her prescription medicine, her cat, etc. This was likely so they could worm their way back into my home, though I didn't realize it at the time. Then I spent all week taking care of my kids and slowly trying to clean house. Yesterday was custody exchange day, so now I finally have some time to just relax and recover. Yesterday I also ran out of pain meds. I've been desperately trying to get more all week, but my surgeon is unavailable, my primary care physician is out of office, my gynecologist never called me back... Finally I just went to the ER for pain management. The doctor and staff there were wonderful, but it still took a total of seven hours. I didn't get home until after 9 pm. At 11:45 pm, I got a phone call from a local number I didn't recognize. I answered. It was Raven. She was in tears. She said the house she was staying at ended up being a meth house and they were trying to kill each other and she was scared and i was the only person she knew and she needed me to come get her. I told her I can't. I can't get her, I can't drive that much, I just got out of the ER, I'm on pain meds that make it so I can't drive, I'm not going to put myself around druggies especially in my current state, and I can't bring her back to my home. I need my home to be for me. Her attitude immediately shifted. The crying immediately stopped, the pitch of her voice dropped, and she said something about, "Fine. I get it. I'll figure it out. It's not your problem." She hung up. I don't remember exactly as my pain meds make my head fuzzy. After that, she texted me. I'll copy and paste the response, as this sub doesn't let me post pics and I can't share the screenshots. Raven: "I'm sorry I asked. And also you can tell me, are we not friends anymore, did I do something really bad?" Me: "Call 911. You're in danger and so is everyone around you. Get the police to arrest them and get you to safety." Raven: "I already did." Me: "Good" Raven: "I don't know what to do anymore. The cops are here but they won't help. It looks like the cops left doing nothin in the process. I'm sorry. It's ok, I'll figure out something." At this point, I wrote a long message about how I can't have her back. However, I took a lot of the advice given to me on my last post - especially the criticism calling me a doormat, calling me naive, and saying this was my fault for being too kind. So I copied what I wrote into an AI and had it rewrite it for me so I could better enforce boundaries. Here's what I originally wrote but didn't send: "You have to figure that out for yourself. I am not your rescuer. I have my own health to take care of and my own children. Besides, I have given you a lot already and you abused that. You left my house in shambles. It's taken me all week to clean up after your stay, and there's still more to do. I've torn stitches trying to make my home safe for my kids. I'm not safe around you and angelo. He especially scares me; I'm fairly certain he's an addict. For the time being, you're not welcome at my home. If you show up, I will call the cops. Ditch that man, get stability in your life and I may reconsider. For now, Alvin will be well taken care of." Here's what I actually posted with the help of the AI: "I’m really sorry you’re in a frightening situation. I’m not able to help beyond encouraging you to work with emergency services and local resources. I need to be clear that I cannot be your rescuer, and I cannot take on crisis support, transportation, or housing. I’m recovering from surgery and need to focus on my health and my children. Due to what happened during your stay, including the condition my home was left in and the negative impact on my recovery from it, you and Angelo are not welcome at my home going forward. This boundary is firm. If you show up here, I will call the police. Alvin will be cared for. I wish you safety, but I can’t be involved beyond this." Raven: "So the stuff I left I can't get back? Not even my cat?" Me (again with AI help): "Please send me a list of the personal items you want returned and an address where they can be shipped. I’m not able to arrange in-person pickup. For Alvin, I will coordinate a drop-off at a vet or shelter, and you can retrieve him from there. If you have a preferred vet, please let me know. Otherwise, I’ll select one." Raven: "The stuff I don't care about, can you please just drop my cat off, that I can get him. And I'm sorry that I didn't take care of the house well enough, just please don't throw my cat away. Can you just drop him off at [local vet] like on Monday? Whatever time I'll be there, just don't take my cat away from me." And that's it. I spent the rest of the night so scared they would show up to my house anyways. I already have PTSD from the army which leaves me super paranoid that people are going to attack me and harm me. So whenever conflict comes up, I end up spiraling and panicking about it, imagining scenarios over and over. Fortunately my anxiety meds help. I locked all my doors and windows. I eventually fell asleep at 1 am. I've been up since 5. On Monday, I plan to ask a friend to come with me to drop the cat off. And then after I leave I will inform her that she can get him. And if she can't, well, it's not my problem. As for me, today I have some different friends dropping by to cook me dinner and help clean my house some more. I have also asked them to help me change the locks, thanks to all the advice I received in my last post. Hopefully this is the end of it. I really just want to be able to recover in peace. Edit: To answer some of the same questions that keep coming up: Yes, I have cameras. Yes, I am changing the locks, but I haven't been able to do so yet. I didn't get home from the emergency room last night until 9 pm, and I'm not in a position where I can keep running errands all day. I went to the grocery store this morning, and that took about everything I have out of me. I have friends coming tonight to help. Yes, I have a credit monitoring subscription set up and I will be going through that when I have the time and energy. There's only so much I can do in a day before my body shuts down. Recovery from major surgery is absolutely exhausting. No, I will not keep Alvin. I do not want to have anything that will invite Raven back into my home. For all of you saying I need to keep him - I welcome you to take him for yourself and subsequently invite Raven into your lives. Then you can deal with all this and I can recover in peace. I'll let you know what location I drop him off at, and you can go pick him up before she does. If she does at all. Some of OOP's Comments: ArtisticLicence: OMG. Sounds like a Raven I know. Do you live in the Sunshine State? This is what AI is good for. Helping to reword stuff. OOP: I'm on the other coast! California girl. The cat: I feel bad for the cat, but I don't legally own him and I cannot put myself in a position where she will try to use him as leverage against me or to reenter my life. Editor's note: Including this comment because I figured some people may have had a similar question. OOP is open about being a trans woman on her page and has chronicled her journey. perpetuallyxhausted: You should be proud of how you've handled this OP! Lesson to learn going forward though? Don't let people stay unsupervised in your home if you don't even know their real name. OOP: Thank you! 💜 It's super common in my community for people to use a chosen name. I have one as well. Jessica is my chosen name. I don't tell people my legal name. New Update: *****Update Post 2: January 26, 2026 (9 days later)****\* Title: UPDATE: My "friend" took advantage of me when I was in the hospital. Part 3: Feline Adventures. It's been over a week. A rough week. I need more bed rest, post surgery. That's what everyone tells me. They all say I do too much. But with four kids and a house to maintain, it's hard. Especially with all this crap with Raven. I've torn my stitches twice. Been to the ER once. And have been surviving on pain meds. Most nights I cry myself to sleep because the pain is so intense. Meanwhile, in the midst of all this, my dryer broke! Of fucking course it did. New ones are expensive, especially ones big enough for my family. I'm in no position to pick them up or install them myself. So I paid the extra fees to have them delivered, installed, and the old ones taken away. Turns out Home Depot refuses to install propane dryers (wish they said that when I purchased it). They only installed the new washer and took away the old one. They left the new dryer, unhooked, right next to the old broken one, still hooked up. I had to hide a different company to come out to install the new dryer; but apparently the propane adapter was with the box and home depot took the box with them. So they had to leave to go purchase a new one. They said they'd be back tomorrow. Four days I've been without being able to do laundry and my kids rack up a lot of dirty clothes, between school and sports and playing "real life Minecraft" out on the hillside. Sigh. But hey, at least they're playing outdoors. And they've found some pretty rocks. Anyways, last weekend I went through the house and the garage and found all of Raven's crap she left. I didn't even know she had stuff in my garage (the audacity of trying to store stuff in my garage without asking or informing me), until she asked me for the tent and two sleeping bags she left, which suggests exactly what we all suspected - she's actually truly homeless and lied to me about having a place to stay. I knew she was having housing trouble, but she always said she was staying with a friend or at a relative's house. I also found some clothes she left behind, and some prescription medication in her name. I sent her a text informing her of all this and to have a place for me to take Alvin, since she was demanding her cat back instead of letting me care for him, despite her inability to properly care for him. I told her I would not meet her in person, and requested a vet or shelter so I could drop him off and she could pick him up. She gave me the name of a clinic. Not an animal clinic. A normal one. For people. I can't drop an animal off there, which means she was trying to get me to be there in person. Likely so she could try to manipulate me and take advantage of my poor boundary skills (my therapist helpfully pointed this out to me). Still, on Saturday, the ever self-sacrificing me drove aaalll the way to the city, 35 miles away, to drop off Alvin at a shelter near her so she could get him. They refused, but only because I don't live in that county. They said I'd have to take him to the shelter in my county. So I drove home, and on the way back Alvin clawed his way out of the cardboard cat carrier Raven left behind. He spent the rest of the trip alternating between standing on my dash watching the road, and jumping into the backseat. In total I drove 80 miles that day. Normally that's not a big deal, but my current medical condition doesn't allow me to sit upright for long, and I was in massive pain for the rest of the day. On Sunday, a friend pointed out that Uber and Lyft do courier services. I can hire them to deliver things so I don't have to drive. This is perfect, as I can deliver all her crap to her. I informed Raven of this, and asked for a time and location for dropoff. She said she'd get back to me by the end of the week. Well, girly, it's been a week. Today is Sunday again. I didn't hear a damn word from her. Tonight is also trash pickup night for me, which is where all her stuff went. Except for the tent and sleeping bags, as those are brand new and unopened. As such, they'll go to good will on my next trip out there. Meanwhile, the cats had an adventure! As I was returning from taking out tonight's trash to the end of the road (pickup is about a quarter mile from my home), I noticed the side door of my house was open. My kittens are indoor cats for now, as they're too small for country living lest a hawk or owl take them. And I've been keeping Alvin indoors in case I had to return him. I put all four kids to work finding the cats. We found one kitten under my bed, but Alvin and the other kitten were MIA. I pulled up the security footage and had my daughter go through the history. Meanwhile the other three I sent searching in all the hiding nooks. Well, it turns out Alvin is rather clever and opened the door himself! Ten minutes later, the braver of the two kittens discovered the open door. He went out, sat for a moment, then went back in. Five minutes later he went out again. As we were searching, Alvin decided to get into a fight! Cat yowls let us figure out exactly where he was. My oldest ran out, scared the other cat off, and managed to get Alvin back inside. The kitten we eventually found under the side deck, hiding about five feet away from the side door. My six year old decided to be the bravest little boy ever and crawled under the deck, in the dark, to rescue him. With all cats back inside, I declared it was bedtime (to many groans and complaints) and eventually tucked everyone in. Despite the adventure, all kids were asleep within 20 minutes of lying down. As I write this, Alvin hasn't left my bed, and the kittens are sleeping on the cat tree. I think in a few weeks, after I'm more healed, I'll take Alvin into the vet to get him checked up and see if he's tagged. If not, I'll see about adopting him. If I can't, I know of a no kill shelter not far from here where he can go, and then I'll adopt a different cat in his place. Here's hoping I never have to update again, and Raven stays out of my life for good. submitted by /u/LucyAriaRose to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

This is going to be a long one, so don’t feel obligated to read, just take a look at some of the pictures of my sweet girl if you want! Around a year and a half ago, I posted on this subreddit about my sweet girl that found me through the cat distribution system. Her name was Bunny, and everyone here gave her so much love on that post (deservedly so, she was adorable). This community is wonderful, and I love seeing the stories of cats finding their forever homes! Being a long time member of the cat distribution system, I had had two cats prior enter my life through it. One became my family pet, and stayed with my parents when I moved out for college. The second was found at my current husband, then boyfriend’s house. At the time, she lived with him, and I would see her on the weekends when I visited. Bunny, on the other hand, was purely my cat. I love each and every single one of these cats so much, but I would be lying if I said that Bunny wasn’t the cat I felt the most connected to. She came into my life at a very dark time, one where I was isolated, and had recently gone through a very difficult event that resulted in some issues with my friends. So, when my boss told me his wife had found four abandoned kittens in a park, I knew I had to do something. Of course, tale as old as time, I went into it thinking I would foster, or help to look for potential homes for them. But then I met my Bunny girl. The only girl in a litter of four orange boys, with the most beautiful eyes and adorable meow, I knew I couldn’t let the cat distribution system’s gift to me go. Her timid nature from the first time we met was instantly flipped on its head the moment she settled in. On her second night with me, she climbed out of the two foot tall playpen I had her sleeping in. She loved playing with my husband, and established herself as both a climbing enthusiast and an escape artist. She was ferocious, hilarious, and so loving. At the time, I worked night shifts, and didn’t really have time to see friends, and ended up quite lonely at times. But with Bunny with me, my quiet house was never quite that quiet again. Like, ever. Being a kitten, I would get frustrated with her at times when she would bite incessantly, steal my food, or scream at me for pets. I regret that frustration so much now. When I needed to calm down, or got overwhelmed by her after a ten hour shift, I would scoop her up like a baby and sing her a song. It was a stupid little song, just telling her that mommy loves her, to the tune of My Darling Clementine. When I say she was my baby, I mean it. She was the runt of the litter, just barely a pound when I first got her. I watched her grow up and mature and turn into the most beautiful cat. I remember when her eyes started changing color, and it was so beautiful. She was a shoulder cat, and loved being held. I joked at times that I needed a baby sling with how much time I spent holding her around the house. Eventually I moved in with my husband, and she got to meet the three other cats in the house (a mix of my our cat and our roommates two cats). Though rocky at first, she became quite close with them. Playing with the two slightly younger cats, and napping next to the oldest. She celebrated her first birthday in September. In early December, she started being picky with her food. I had to sit with her and coax her, which wasn’t completely out of the norm. We had also changed flavours of her food, so we figured it might just be that. Everything seemed fine, as she was still eating. But around two days later, she just completely refused her dinner, and barely picked at her breakfast. My husband and I had already gone out and gotten her different foods, and were going to plan a vet appointment. The next morning I called her vet to schedule a checkup for her, but as the day progressed I became increasingly worried as she was refusing all food. By the time the afternoon rolled around, I had played Dr. Google a bit, and just so happened to check her gums, and they were almost white. I called my husband at work and we immediately went to the emergency vet, trying to convince ourselves she was fine, and would definitely get to come home that night. Her RBC count was 8%, as opposed to the healthy range of 30-40%. So, she stayed for a transfusion. Still, we remained hopeful, as we were told at worst she was having an autoimmune issue that while severe, could be treated and fixed. The next day, her vet called me, asking to test her for FELV and FIP. Bunny had already been tested for FELV, so I wasn’t worried about that, and FIP could at least be treated. Her vet called me back less than an hour later and told me she had tested positive for FELV. Her test as a kitten had either pulled a false negative or her infection was too new for it to show up. It was the hardest phone call of my life. With her infection being so far progressed, and her not taking well to the infusion, there truly was nothing we could do. I made the most painful decision of my life that day to let her go. She went in peace, feeling slightly better with a little blood and three churu treats in her, surrounded by her mommy and dad. It was truly devastating and the hardest thing I have ever, ever gone through in my life. In less than 24 hours, I went from mildly concerned about her condition, to going home with an uneaten can of food and an empty carrier. She was my best friend, the light of my life, and my sweetest baby girl. I miss waking up with her on my chest, my cheeks turning red from her licking me over and over again, and trying to do dishes while I held her. I miss the way she would flip herself near upside down on our wall scratching posts, how I would have to lean down at the door when I opened it to stop her from running outside into my yard, and the sound of her yelling at me once her can of food cracked open. I miss the sound of her meow. I wish there was something I could have done, even though logically I know there wasn’t. I wish I hadn’t closed the door to the bedroom so she wouldn’t wake me up in the night. I wish she had more than a year. Bunny girl, you were one of the best things to ever happen to me, and I will miss you forever. Thank you to this community for always being a place of support, love, and cat appreciation. Thank you for loving Bunny while she was here. submitted by /u/bio_luminescence to r/CatDistributionSystem [link] [comments]

Final update With 99% of the keys having been distributed this giveaway is now officially over! Update: December 25, 23:50 GMT HO-HO-hold it there! I was hoping to finish ticking off the list tonight and sped things up a little but Reddit decided to tell me to take a break from messaging. It appears I will have to get back to it later (I read somewhere that cooldown period might be 24 hours). Also regarding the previous update, fortunately it appears that only a few keys were affected by region restrictions. Update 2: Unfortunately it has turned out that some of the keys may not be available in all regions. There was no indication of this anywhere on the Humble Bundle site, but I should have done more research. I'm really sorry about that as I don't want to disappoint anyone. In case you are unable to redeem a key because of region lock don't hesitate to reply to me and I will try to provide something else from the list that hasn't been claimed yet. Update: the submissions are now closed! I was not expecting this amount of interest. Thank you everyone for participating and thank you for all your kind words. I will start gradually updating this post (it might take a while, please bear with me) with the names of respective winners as I send the keys out (comments posted or edited after this point will not be eligible except if any leftovers happen to remain at the end). I decided to finally clear out my 14 year old pile of unused Steam keys from Humble Bundles. As such majority will be indie titles from 2010s but there are all sorts of odds and ends there (I have tried my best to prune from the list all long-abandoned early access, shut down online-only and gone free-to-play titles). Steam keys only. All keys should be redeemable globally and currently have no expiration date attached (with a single exception which I've noted). To enter post a single comment with up to three titles of your choice. Giveaway will last for 72 hours (until 18:00 GMT on December 22) after which I will message the keys to randomly selected posters. 1 Screen Platformer u/Xander65 112 Operator u/DaStampede 140 u/thaldrel 1954 Alcatraz u/Erebus25 2064: Read Only Memories u/ushiotokonoko 2Dark u/Vmassaoy 7 Grand Steps: What Ancients Begat u/Ep-365 80 Days u/Berjua12 911 Operator x 2 u/bad_technician u/Zebrakiller 99 Spirits: Special Edition u/Jabidailsom A Glider's Journey u/pacifistsailor A New Beginning - Final Cut x 2 u/MindOfErick u/dcrooma A Story About My Uncle u/Verberos A Virus Named TOM u/Lost_Puppies A Year of Rain u/moonpieeyes Aarklash: Legacy u/andyroosta Abyss Odyssey u/BruteWayne0 Action Henk u/DiseasedProject Adventure Boy Cheapskate DX u/actonpant Agent in Depth u/dcrooma Airline Tycoon 2 u/Mizzou48 Alchemist's Castle~ u/Pix3lPwnage The Amazing American Circus x 2 u/thaldrel u/NotBabaYaga Amnesia: The Dark Descent + Amnesia: A Machine for Pigs u/Hall7901 Among the Sleep - Enhanced Edition u/Sid_The_Brawl_God Anachronox u/essicks Animal Super Squad u/israelilocal Anna's Quest u/G33Kman2014 Anomaly 2 u/Helphaer Anomaly Defenders u/Helphaer Anomaly: Warzone Earth + Anomaly Korea + Mobile Campaign u/va243 Antichamber u/senko78 AquaNox u/oliprice1989 AquaNox 2: Revelation u/oliprice1989 Arma 2 u/Dankapedia420 ARMA: Cold War Assault u/txhelmet Arma: Gold Edition u/WorldlyRutabaga6436 Arma Tactics u/TempleMade_MeBroke Armello u/Little_Cake Artemis: God-Queen of The Hunt u/Lunarchaos Astebreed u/Sebbafan Attractio u/classjoker Aurion: Legacy of the Kori-Odan u/CraftlordDark Avadon: The Black Fortress u/nopesorry1384 Avicii Invector u/gutterfreaklabs Back to Bed Backbone (aka Tails Noir) u/KhaosApache Balancelot u/SodsPassionProjects The Bard's Tale u/bachinblack1685 BASEBALL STARS 2 u/glenricearoni Bastion x 3 u/VIP_Ender98 u/jitterystyleoinkery u/sethdetiago Battlefleet Gothic: Armada u/Myst-9th Battlevoid: Harbinger u/SpookyPocket Beat Hazard Ultra u/TheFacelessSheep Beatbuddy: Tale of the Guardians u/ghISnar Beholder u/James_Kuller Beholder 2 u/CanadaDuck Beware Planet Earth! u/Hello-Pancake BioShock u/rangedps Bit Blaster XL u/iuse2bgood Black The Fall u/FrootLoop23 Blackguards x 3 u/mvegeta1 u/Steronoknex u/nanosommers Blackguards 2 x 2 u/Duerthuer u/nanosommers The Blue Flamingo u/D33P_F1N Book of Demons u/Soten14 Borderlands: Game of the Year Edition u/Dankapedia420 Borderlands: The Handsome Collection u/Fair_Artichoke4370 Boundless u/Lunarchaos Breathedge (key expires October 15, 2026) u/HotsuSama Broken Age x 3 u/isucamper u/3rdplaceenjoyer u/Ch3ru Brothers: A Tale of Two Sons u/fnwc Bulb Boy u/Lunarchaos Burly Men at Sea u/TonyRubbles Butcher u/Negative-Dinner-974 Calico temporary out of stock Call of Juarez®: Gunslinger u/Novel-Egg-4798 Canabalt x 2 u/Dexikovicek u/eclipseb Capsized u/FoulTarnishedOne Car Mechanic Simulator 2018 u/dirtydriver58 Caravan u/Smoothwhisp Carrier Command: Gaea Mission u/PipRabbit Cat Quest u/1800sukkmyballs Cathedral u/SwedeMcSwedeface Cats and the Other Lives u/imknownascro Cave Story+ u/VIP_Ender98 Caveblazers u/Gaudzauw Children of Zodiarcs u/BlueDraconis Chivalry: Medieval Warfare x 2 u/Sziriuss u/Jackman1506 Cities: Skylines + Green Cities, European Suburbia DLCs u/moisesnb Citizens of Earth u/Rasrey Claire (2014) u/Philo_of_Arnor Closure u/rom8n Cogs u/electrobugi Coin Crypt u/Howerev Colt Express u/actonpant Company of Heroes u/SwiftyMcBold Company of Heroes™ 2 temporary out of stock Contagion x 3 u/AliGcent u/Zer0_4You u/_TheOneFromSpace_ Contraption Maker u/CompleteOutlaw The Corporate Machine u/actonpant Corridor Z u/electrobugi Cosmic Express u/Gondololikescheese Crayon Physics Deluxe x 2 u/Hello-Pancake Cris Tales u/KhaosApache Crusader Kings II: Dynasty Starter Pack u/KingFantastic Crying Suns u/Sedonis Cubetractor u/Hello-Pancake The Dark Eye: Chains of Satinav x 2 u/CyberpwnPiper u/ir0nek The Dark Eye: Memoria x 2 u/Physical-Ad-5039 u/CyberpwnPiper Darkout u/Nothing-Somethingz Darksiders u/Intrepid_Body_8191 Darksiders II u/king_mo_of_metal420 Day of the Tentacle Remastered x 2 u/Miles_Prowler u/Physical-Ad-5039 Dead by Daylight + Curtain Call, Of Flesh and Mud, Spark of Madness DLCs u/tartade Dead State: Reanimated u/Crush-117 Deadbeat Heroes u/KillaRoyalty DEADBOLT u/Crush-117 DeadCore redeemed, my mistake Deadfall Adventures u/DiceDsx Deadlight: Director's Cut u/Rogallo The Deadly Tower of Monsters u/Twizztard Dear Esther: Landmark Edition u/No_Ad_8069 Death Squared u/iamteamblue Death's Gambit u/Maylson_Satoshi Deep Sky Derelicts x 2 u/CordobezEverdeen u/No-Pen-855 Deep Under The Sky u/ytgy Deponia x 3 u/Grinchtastic10 u/BranTheLewd u/Steronoknex Deponia 2: Chaos on Deponia x 2 u/BranTheLewd u/Steronoknex Deponia 3: Goodbye Deponia x 2 u/pastebin1010 u/AlternativeDraw1795 Deponia: The Complete Journey u/eto2629 Deponia Doomsday u/Gothic-Shortstack Detached: Non-VR Edition u/D33P_F1N Deus Ex: Game of the Year Edition u/The-Dirty-Dave Dino Run DX u/MajorAssMoon Divekick u/Marathon_Cake DmC: Devil May Cry u/VVertigo-eyes Door Kickers u/DRHawkI Doughlings Arcade u/zachm1866 Doughlings Invasion u/zachm1866 Draw Slasher u/drakthwan Drawful 2 u/Vertzi Dreadlands u/NockBreaker Dream Daddy: A Dad Dating Simulator u/DudeManPennState The Dream Machine: Chapters 1-5 u/MatterUnlikely2545 Driftland: The Magic Revival u/Mendelbar Duet (2015) u/Ok-Ask2341 Dungeon Defenders + All DLC x 2 u/CatbugWarrior_ u/CSBreak Dungeon of the Endless x 2 u/Ok_Fix1994 u/TheGamingMinstrel Dungeon Souls u/imawhitegay Dungeons 2 u/Lord_Iron_ Dust: An Elysian Tail x 2 u/FioraSlayer u/Synthesizer_ Dustforce u/BlitzPlanet ΔV: Rings of Saturn u/Ligetxcryptid Dwarfs!? u/Bacillb Dynamite Jack u/D33P_F1N Eador: Masters of the Broken World u/eto2629 EarthX u/dirtydriver58 eden* u/ImouGirl Edna & Harvey: Harvey's New Eyes x 2 u/LeqitAndre u/Hanzer0624 Edna & Harvey: The Breakout u/ghISnar Eets Munchies u/Hello-Pancake Eidolon (2014) u/FoulTarnishedOne Electronic Super Joy u/MouFMassTeR Elegy for a Dead World u/ThePristineBean Else Heart.Break() u/Bubbanator27 Emergency 2014 u/electrobugi Endless Space – Collection u/Fit_Variety_9822 Endless Space 2 u/LostInTheVoid_ Endless Space Emperor Edition u/TheAddiction2 English Country Tune u/albatrossSKY ENSLAVED™: Odyssey to the West™ x 3 u/picorin81 u/Accomplished_Smile23 u/Kutangtong Epic Battle Fantasy 4 u/Bolder_guy Epistory - Typing Chronicles u/_TyMario85_ Escape Goat 2 u/GranLoboBlanco Eufloria HD u/ytgy Euro Truck Simulator 2 x 2 u/bloke_pusher u/bangtheorem Everything x 2 u/liquid_lazer u/elkaki123 Expand - Soundtrack Edition u/Hungry-Commission412 Fallen Enchantress u/HennyGraith Farming Simulator 17 u/Amatex F.E.A.R. 3 u/ismaelgokufox Fear Effect Sedna u/Eedrah_RoJethhe FEZ x 2 u/sethdetiago u/SlurredPrey87 Fire: Ungh's Quest u/Nothing-Somethingz Firegirl u/pacifistsailor Fish Fillets 2 u/classjoker Flat Kingdom Paper's Cut Edition key no longer available Flinthook u/thebillo Flynn: Son of Crimson u/m3rple FORCED u/Lost_Puppies Forgotton Anne u/Jaesalyn Freedom Planet u/PostPopDecade Frick, Inc. u/albatrossSKY Front Mission Evolved u/ismaelgokufox FTL: Faster Than Light u/gold_shadow Full Throttle Remastered x 2 u/Sensitive-Island-697 u/MS17AA Fury Unleashed u/Rasrey Galak-Z u/FoxMeadow7 GameGuru u/The_Jyps Gang Beasts u/gochris Genital Jousting u/m3rple GET EVEN u/GrizzlyOne95 Getting Over It with Bennett Foddy u/BlazingSword01 Ghostrunner u/Key-Comfortable-403 Giana Sisters: Twisted Dreams u/UnderstandingSea2127 GIGANTIC ARMY u/voxelion GNOG u/Pieman6930 Gnomoria u/joeingo Go Home Dinosaurs u/Hello-Pancake GOD EATER 2 Rage Burst u/ImouGirl Goetia u/ErrorTnotFound Going Under u/_TyMario85_ Gone Home u/TheFacelessSheep Gratuitous Space Battles u/TheCapedMoose GRID 2 u/mnb301 Grim Fandango Remastered x 3 u/truthovertribe u/EleventhDegree u/Simonc0pt3r Grow Home u/Vertzi G-senjou no Maou - The Devil on G-String Voiced Edition u/nutjob_ita Guacamelee! Gold Edition u/TrevorBOB9 Guacamelee! Super Turbo Championship Edition u/Intrepid_Body_8191 Guns & Fishes u/SirReedyy Gyromancer u/Comfortable-Dog9167 .HACK/G.U. LAST RECODE u/phrostbyt Hack 'n' Slash u/The_Jyps Halcyon 6: Starbase Commander (LIGHTSPEED EDITION) u/CraftlordDark Hatoful Boyfriend u/DuchessBoo Hearts of Iron III u/mr_swain Her Majesty's SPIFFING u/Lucky02604 Her Story x 3 u/YourRAveragePerson u/xXF33TL1CK3RXx u/Not_Alb HERO DEFENSE u/SuspiciousHamster0 Heroes of Might & Magic 3 - HD Edition u/FlyinDanskMen Hexcells Complete Pack u/camusStranger00 Hexologic u/flakdefense Highway Blossoms u/digboggo Higurashi When They Cry Hou – Chapters 1-4 u/No-Salt-3161 HIVESWAP: Act 1 u/-illusoryMechanist Holy Potatoes! A Weapon Shop?! u/tamwyn_eopia Homeworld: Deserts of Kharak u/disgrace_to_family Homeworld Remastered Collection u/fnwc Horizon (2014) u/Jlivw Hostile Waters: Antaeus Rising u/Sky_HUN Hotline Miami u/Icy_Woodpecker5895 Hotline Miami 2 u/Miles_Prowler How to Survive u/Vizier_Thoth How to Survive 2 x 2 u/Vizier_Thoth u/RiioT Human Fall Flat u/tartade HunieCam Studio u/Puzzleheaded-Fuel206 HuniePop u/Alarmsky Hyper Gunsport u/KillaRoyalty Idol Magical Girl Chiru Chiru Michiru Part 1 and 2 u/ruukuto Immortal Planet u/techknowart1010 Impact Winter u/spicyfreshmilk Infested Planet + Trickster's Arsenal DLC u/ViralBox4 Infinifactory u/DZ-47 INK (2015) u/AvoidableAccident Insurgency u/supercognito The Interactive Adventures of Dog Mendonça and Pizza Boy u/AvailablePut165 Into the Pit u/ronin_drift Intrusion 2 u/Nothing-Somethingz Invisible Inc. u/totallynotabot1011 Iron Danger u/Mendelbar Jotun u/MyCatBurnedTheBible The Journey Down 1 + 2 u/zachm1866 Journey of a Roach u/-ChosenUndead- JYDGE u/Dry_Reference_8855 Kalaban u/MindOfErick Kathy Rain u/Extrarium Kentucky Route Zero u/Jensen2075 Kerbal Space Program u/patelraj99 Kill The Bad Guy u/SodsPassionProjects Killing Floor u/boylive16 Kingdom: New Lands x 3 u/maverickthemad u/Hurricane0815 u/JoseGamer2807 Kingdom Two Crowns u/CatbugWarrior_ Knight Squad u/KillaRoyalty La-Mulana u/RyuuSaikou Lara Croft and the Guardian of Light u/akiba305 THE LAST BLADE u/porn_cake Legacy of Dorn: Herald of Oblivion u/BranTheLewd Legend of Grimrock u/OrdinaryMean8070 Legends of Eisenwald u/Inifinitality Lethal League u/Marathon_Cake LIMBO u/bg1017x Little Inferno u/Malt_The_Magpie Little Nightmares u/Jensen2075 The Long Journey Home u/monkeyboyape Long Live The Queen u/Jaesalyn Loot Rascals + Soundtrack u/Dextext Lorelai u/Xokage Loren The Amazon Princess - Deluxe Edition u/CraftlordDark Lovers in a Dangerous Spacetime u/flakdefense Lumino City u/pacifistsailor Lust from Beyond: M Edition u/ShadowMerlyn Machinarium u/AlternativeDraw1795 Magical Battle Festa u/judgementdeus Magicka u/boxa_ Magicka + DLC u/boxa_ Magicka 2 u/hawkthorney Majesty 2 Collection u/Miles_Prowler Magrunner: Dark Pulse u/Hanzer0624 Mark of the Ninja u/AbjectPhilosopher703 Marooners u/AsoarDragonfly Massive Chalice u/yer-da-sells-avon- Memory's Dogma CODE:01 u/Mistigrum Mercenary Kings: Reloaded Edition u/BarbarianCaffeinism Mini Metro u/laflex MirrorMoon EP x 2 u/Ok-Ask2341 MISSING: An Interactive Thriller - Episode One u/revadike Monaco: What's Yours Is Mine x 3 u/TonyRubbles u/Ixion_Zero u/AsoarDragonfly Moon Hunters u/ZorroStylex3 MotoGP 15 u/HoshuaJ Motorcycle Mechanic Simulator 2021 u/gochris Motorsport Manager x 2 u/AbjectPhilosopher703 u/bene14082004 Mount & Blade: Warband u/Kalido12 Murdered: Soul Suspect u/spicyfreshmilk Must Dash Amigos u/Hanzer0624 MX vs ATV Reflex u/sweetbabyger MXGP - The Official Motocross Videogame u/hibanapewpew N++ (NPLUSPLUS) x 2 u/laflex u/MouFMassTeR Napoleon: Total War u/No_Heart1310 Napoleon: Total War Collection u/phrostbyt NASCAR Heat 4 u/amishducky Natural Selection 2 u/SpookyPocket NBA Playgrounds 2 region-locked to EU NecroWorm u/Dextext Nemo Dungeon u/baldy1316 NEO AQUARIUM - The King of Crustaceans u/SeeThroughTree Neon Chrome u/Kipkrap Neon Drive u/gochris Neverout u/classjoker Nex Machina u/barelyangry The Night of the Rabbit u/Odd-Box-6291 Nightsky u/LividTheDream Ninja Senki DX u/Hikitaro Non-Stop Raiders u/Comfortable-Dog9167 Oceanhorn: Monster of the Uncharted Seas u/scullys_alien_baby Octahedron: Transfixed Edition u/SeeThroughTree Offspring Fling u/JPB-182 Oh My Godheads u/omghahalol Omensight: Definitive Edition u/HybridAugment Orbital Racer x 2 u/ytgy u/thaldrel Out of Reach: Treasure Royale u/kremeyy Out of the Park Baseball 15 u/DizzyD19_ Outcast - Second Contact u/RandomRedditUser_94 Outlast x 2 u/Icy_Woodpecker5895 u/Not_Alb Owlboy u/Jensen2075 Oxenfree u/powbang Pacify u/Yee_gamer PAC-MAN™ CHAMPIONSHIP EDITION 2 u/That_Palpitation_107 Panzer Corps + Allied Corps DLC u/alphadelta006 Partial Control u/Kyle240 Pathfinder: Kingmaker - 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We took our cat (~8 months old) on a road trip to visit family for Thanksgiving, and we're going to be going back in a couple weeks to stay through Christmas. The drive is around 7 hours each way. He was mostly fine in the car but we definitely had some periods of meowing/trying to scratch his way out. I would take him out and hold him so he could see out the window and that helped but obviously that's dangerous so I would really rather he stay in his carrier. His car carrier is quite large (pictured) so he has tons of space to move around and I sat in the backseat with him to give him company. We have a travel litter box set up but he wasn't interested. I used feliway spray but I can't say whether it was effective - has anyone had better luck with the treats? I'm planning to call his vet to ask about medications but I'd really rather exhaust our natural options first, I know Gabapentin can be hard on their kidneys and I don't want to risk upsetting his stomach. Has anybody used Anxitane or anything similar? submitted by /u/assflea to r/ragdolls [link] [comments]

Hello all, I currently feed and love on 2 male feralish cats that are not neutered yet. I have an appointment for both on December 5th. However, I’m a little scared for their wellbeing as well as for my car. They have never been in a vehicle before, and the vet is about an hour and a half away. Will they angry poop/pee in their carriers? Should I put trashbags under the carriers? And on the way home when they are coming off sedation, how do I keep them as comfortable as possible? Attached is a photo of said cats in their special cat hole that they made. submitted by /u/screamcry to r/Feral_Cats [link] [comments]

I am not The OOP, OOP is u/BFdrowninginCP My [33 M] fiance is drowning in overdue child support, and I [31F] am thinking of leaving him. TRIGGER WARNING: deadbeat parenting, possible infidelity, lies about debt Original Post Oct 21, 2015 Okay, so first thing I want to say is that I LOVE my fiance. He's a great guy. Whip smart, kind, funny. A year and a half ago I would never imagined I'd be at this point. We've been dating for 5 years, ever since we met. He works at a call center and I'm a postal worker. We make a moderate income, and the wedding is tentatively in April. (Small, courthouse wedding with a tasteful reception afterwards.) (I apologize in advance for the legal gobbily-goop. He hasn't really kept me in the loop, and I'm a mail carrier, not a lawyer. I don't have a head for this.) One year into our relationship he got a notice for paternity from the state he used to live in, for a 3 year old boy. So clearly this happened waaaay before I met him. He thought it was ridiculous, but took the ordered DNA test. Turns out, he IS the father. (Insert Maury audience cat-calling here.) The mother was apparently mentally unwell, and it turned out the boy was in custody of the grandparents. They offered to adopt the boy if my fiance gave up all his paternal rights. He jumped at the offer -- they pulled some strings (I've heard it's supposed to be hard, but we literally flew down to his old state on the date they told him to, signed some papers in front of a judge, and that was that.) I was personally... ambivalent about the thing. It seemed like he just gave up all rights to his son without a care. But in the end, it's his business, not mine. I told myself I would be supportive Step-Mother if the boy ever came to him for help/answers when he was older. There was some messy legal business about arrears child support, because the mother apparently was on welfare for years, and the state wants repayment from Fiance. I don't know much about it, because he refuses to share. Only that it's around 20k. For three years. Damn. A couple years go by, I take Fiance to the DMV to renew his license because it's waaaaay past expired and he won't do it. Low and behold, it's suspended. Why? Past due child support judgement for ANOTHER child. A 12 year old girl. 30 thousand dollars. Fiance is literally sick. (And I mean he threw up all night.) Worse, in order to get his license suspended he had to contact child support department in his old state and give them all his current contact info -- where he works, where he lives. Soon enough, a notice comes through HR: He's going to be garnished 25% of his after-tax pay because of the child support judgement. Reddit, he just shut down after that -- stonewalls any conversation regarding the issue at all. I took up more of the bills, but now we're both struggling. We have had to move into a smaller, crappier apartment using my credit alone because his has a big fat judgement on it. He had to refinance his almost paid off car because he couldn't afford the high payments. There's... some kind of hearing coming up. I don't know what it's about because he flatly refuses to tell me. I think maybe it's to adjust the payments based on his current income (which has grown due a promotion). Either way, he hasn't bought plane tickets. (Or rather, hasn't asked me for the money because he can't afford them). I think he's not going. It'll be an automatic judgement against him. Here's the thing: He could request a DNA test for the girl. He hasn't, though he's told me he's certain he's not the father. He could hire an attorney -- I've offered to front the cost -- but he has a thousand excuses: He'd have to get one in his other state, they'd gouge him because he wasn't there, he doesn't have the time, excuse, excuse, excuse. The hearing is in three weeks. I don't know what's going on and he's so passive about it that I'm worried. So, I opened up an official looking notice he received a few months back, but never bothered to open. There's a THIRD child. This one is a brother of the girl. Maybe the hearing is actually about him? God damn it. I just don't know. He has actually left the house for a long walk when I questioned him a few weeks back. I am not a nagging person. Asking him to deal with his bullshit is uncomfortable for me, too. If I have to confront him with an ultimatum, we've reached the point of no return. But I'm almost there. So here's the deal. I love my fiance. He's 50k (For the first boy and girl) in debt that will haunt him for the foreseeable future. He won't DO anything about it -- just sticks his head in the sand and hopes it goes away. Maybe he's depressed? He acts normal, as if none of this is happening. There might be more on the way, with the third child. If I stay with him, I'll never be able to buy a house. I will have to make all major purchases on my credit alone -- we can never combine income. He has abandoned three children. I don't know the full stories of the relationship between him and the mothers, other than it was painful and full of lies. One is his biological child for sure. The other two are a question, but they may as well be in the eyes of the state. He doesn't care about them, other than the bi-weekly garnishment on his paycheck. As far as I understand, he's never asked about them once. I had a pregnancy scare last month. Well, actually I found out I had been pregnant via miscarriage. (No condolences needed, please.) I didn't tell him. It's done. But the first thought in my head after I realized... uh, what came out, was my child would have been fourth in line for any support if things went south. Who says he wouldn't abandon me, too? We do plan on having children eventually. My heart loves this guy. My head says I'll be throwing away my financial future if I stick with him. What does Reddit say? Update 1 Oct 22, 2015 (Next Day) Unfortunately, someone linked my previous post from another subreddit, so the post was locked and deleted. The basic jist was my fiance had stuck his head in the sand and was ignoring child support notices and hearings to the tune of 50k, for children conceived way before our relationship started. After the second surprise child, he had completely shut me out on the subject. I opened up some of his forgotten mail and saw there was a notice for a THIRD child. To recap: Baby 1: 3 year old boy -- he was able to give up his paternal rights in favor of the mother's grandparents because the mother had mental health issues. 20k child support in arrears. Baby 2: 12 year old girl. 30k on going child support. I don't know the story behind this one, and he isn't talking. Baby 3: Brother of 12 year old girl. The birthdate was on the paperwork, but he took that letter with him. Thank you for all of the comments, PMs, and valuable feedback from my other post. The ones that told me I, too, was sticking my head in the sand really put it in place with me. As did the ones who gave professional insight that it was simply NOT possible for him to have been completely blindsided with all three children. So I was in a mood when he got home tonight. I showed my fiancé (who I'm now calling Johnny Appleseed, thanks to a previous commenter) the letter I opened about the third child. Luckily, he didn't get all huffy about me opening his mail because I was not in the mood. Johnny's face just fell and he said it was impossible for him to be the father of the third child. (He didn't know about it -- not having opened his child support mail over the last few months.) That the mother of the 12 year old had won child support judgment against him for the girl, and now was clearly looking for more. I told him I thought that was BS and I wanted the truth now, that I'd been looking through his old state's law and the courts can't have ruled him the father of the 12 year old without evidence. He pulled his usual stonewall stuff, said it didn't matter, because there was a judgment against him he was screwed for life. He actually started to cry. I kept on him. Finally he told me the truth. He and the Baby Momma were in love since they were teenagers, but it was a on and off relationship. She was drama. She got pregnant and he was there for her, but right before the baby was born she told him he wasn't the father. He was stubborn and proud, and still signed the birth certificate. But he left her soon after at her request, and didn't have any contact. Why didn't he get a DNA test? It was expensive and his heart was broken. By the end of this, he was crying. I started crying too, and I told him I can't marry him right now with all this going on. OMG did he go instantly from sorrowful to pissed. He kept asking me how I could do this, that I knew about the child support going in, that he'd always been honest with me. (Um, no, he'd said nothing, or insinuated she put his name on the birth certificate -- not the same as honesty). That he knew Baby Mamma was trying yet again to ruin his life. The judgment was already in, there was nothing he could do because the courts ALWAYS ruled in favor of the mother. There was no point in trying. This was all her fault for trying to ruin his life, and by taking her side over him I was letting her. Reddit, I'd like to say I threw in some good zingers. The fact is, when things get heated my brain stalls out. I said some things about how he was handling the situation, keeping me locked out of what was going on with the upcoming hearing, that if this kept blowing this off he could go to jail, but my delivery sounded kinda lame even to me. It's never like how I practice in my head or can type out here, you know? Then he started asking me if this was about a male coworker I had once given a ride home, like three months ago. If I had an affair with him. WTF? NO. I took off the ring (his grandmother's) and told him to take it. That he needed to move out tonight, stay with someone else, and give me some space. The wedding was off, and I needed a few days to consider the rest of the relationship. He kept asking me why, like he couldn't believe I was breaking off the wedding because of a little ol' thing like 50k in debt, three surprise children, and a complete shut-down of the subject. Then he called me shallow, that money means more to me than love. It went on, but I'm already sick of reliving this. (He does swear there is no possibility of any more surprise children. Period.) He packed a duffle full of clothes and left, having convinced himself that I was either cheating on him or shallow and money hungry. So I spent the evening rereading comments (I've done the right thing, right?) and browsing For Rent sites. The lease is in my name only because of the judgments on his credit report. (Ugh, this is what I've become -- lying to landlords because of my deadbeat fiancé.) He probably has some sort of resident rights anyway. Meh. At least he's out of the apartment for now. I texted him a long message an hour ago: (Johnny) before we join our lives together, I need to know you can handle your responsibilities like an adult. Go to the hearing. I will help you with a lawyer, with a plane ticket. Whatever. If you treat me like a partner, maybe we can rebuild our relationship. I love you. He hasn't answered. I hope he listens to reason once he cools down. He has so many good qualities -- I had to share the very worst in my post to you all. He would be an excellent father if he wanted visitation, and I am willing to put in the work to sort this out and move forward with these kids if he is. He's convinced himself he's screwed for life, and I think it's paralyzed him. It's a terrifying place to be. I know... basically everyone wanted me to kick him to the curb, but I'm hoping this break is enough of a 'come to Jesus' moment for him to prove he's not a deadbeat. Basically, if he wants to fight for this relationship, he has to go to the hearing and handle his business. Get on a payment plan, and keep on it. Then relationship counseling. Lots and lots of relationship counseling. Then, we'll see? I still may break up permanently but at least he'll have sorted out a thing or two. Maybe I'm just holding onto hope. So that's it. I really wish I had thought of something awesome to say during the argument, but life isn't a movie. Ball's in his court. Let's see if he mans up or not. Anyone been through anything like this before? I did blindside him a little because I, too, had been waaaay too passive in letting this slide. How do I help him help himself? tl;dr: Got (maybe) the truth about Baby Momma, called off the wedding, and hinged any hope of our relationship on him attending his child support hearing. Update: He hasn't answered the text with the offer to help. I've called the landlord and requested a new lock for the door. He's not on the lease, and it's probably not legal, but as someone pointed out (and I agree) he's adverse to going to court. Responses have been... passionate. I don't think I was clear. We're essentially done, I returned his grandmother's ring told him to give me space. If IF he accepts help and steps up to his obligations to his children with no backsliding, only then will I consider taking him back. Not for immediate marriage (JFC I'm not insane.). Not to get pregnant (as some lovely commentator suggested). But considering it's morning and he still hasn't answered the text, it probably doesn't matter. RELEVANT COMMENTS prettydirtmurder "He would be an excellent father if he wanted visitation" Wat. He would be a doctor if he graduated medical school. He would be a millionaire if he won the Powerball. If he had wings, he'd be a bird. What he is, is a total failure as a father, times 3. He participated in the creation of three little ones, abandoned them emotionally and financially, and now complains that they are a burden. Three children growing up fatherless, which will color their lives forever, because of him. This is the depth of compassion and empathy that he is capable of. This is how he treats the truly powerless and dependent, even though he has every legal and moral obligation to support them, because there's nothing in it for him. His maybe-they're-not-mine excuse is a total load, because if he had an iota of humanity in him, he'd care enough to find out. OOP "Wat. He would be a doctor if he graduated medical school. He would be a millionaire if he won the Powerball. If he had wings, he'd be a bird." Okay, this did make me laugh. You have a point. ~ MegaTrain I'm not a lawyer, but I do hang out in /r/legaladvice/ a bit. Not attending a hearing is absolutely the worst thing he can do. The judgement will go against him, the 50k he owes becomes 70k or more, and it becomes much more difficult to reverse after the fact. But not impossible. I say that not to give him an excuse to miss the upcoming hearing, but to give him hope that he might be able to have the earlier judgment reversed. He needs an experienced family lawyer in that state to handle the current hearing, and to come up with a plan regarding the existing judgement(s). Just so I'm not over selling it: he may or may not be able to realistically contest the prior judgments, depending on state law regarding paternity and statutes of limitations. Only an attorney in that state can assess his chances. Will this be cheap? Maybe not, but certainly less than letting the existing judgement stand, while adding even more. With regard to relationship advice, I think you're doing the right thing. Either he'll step up and get this taken care of, maybe even get mistakes of the past fixed, or you probably don't want to be with him anyway. OOP Thanks for this. If he takes my offer for help and steps up, I still may not take him back. The fact of it is, I don't know how bad the situation is, really. He may have warrants out for his arrest. But for my peace of mind, I have to extend the offer to help with at least the hearing. You can't stop someone from destroying their life if they're hell bent on it, and I don't intend to be dragged down with him. But offering to get a lawyer or a single plane ticket? It's not too much. MegaTrain Yep, it seems clear that he's either not telling you everything, or maybe even he doesn't really know how bad it is. Like he's hoping that just ignoring it will make it all go away. (Trust me, it doesn't. I've never had paternity/child support issues like this, but I still have the tendency to engage my best IGNORE:LEVEL 10 around very stressful issues. This obviously does nothing to actually fix the problem, and frequently makes it worse. I'm still working on this tendency in myself, and sometimes a swift kick in the butt from my wife or someone else is exactly what I need to get going. Not that it really ought to be her responsibility, of course.) Good luck. OOP I think it's a little of both. He probably doesn't know how deep in shit he is, and I seriously doubt he's told me EVERYTHING. He hasn't opened the mail from state child support in, like, 10 months. All this is the reason why he slept at a friend's last night, and why the wedding is off. He's in denial land. I'm hoping a swift kick in the ass wakes him up. It still might not be enough. Last night he was whining that this child support situation has ruined his life. No, his reaction to the child support orders has. He's brought it on himself. Update 2 Nov 21, 2015 (1 month later) The original post was locked and deleted because someone linked it from another subreddit. I've pasted the contents in the first comment. Here's the link to the first update. I don't even know where to start. After I called off the wedding and returned his grandmother's engagement ring, he packed a duffle full of his clothes and left. It's been about a month, and I haven't heard a peep from him. I changed the locks on the apartment, but he hasn't been back for his stuff anyway. He blocked me on facebook and when I gave in and tried to give him a call a week later, he'd changed his phone number too. I heard he was staying at his Best Bro's house, courtesy of Bro's girlfriend. Trust me, I went through all the stages of grief -- denial, anger, acceptance, etc -- and I finally accepted he wasn't coming back. I thought maybe he'd gone back to his home state to be with one of the baby mama's, but his car was parked in the parking lot at his work. (I may have... drove past once or twice.) The hearing was scheduled for early this week. Finally, tonight, I plucked up my courage and went to the Best Bro's house to confront him. The least he could do is get his crap out of my apartment, right? I grabbed up his many many unopened child support notices, and a picture of boy #1 he left on his dresser. It's the only picture of the three kids that he has, and he left it behind. Best Bro answered the door, and what followed was just about the most awkward conversation ever. I can't remember the conversation verbatim but I asked where ex-Fiancé was, and Best Bro said he wasn't there. He was being all evasive, so I asked if he went to the hearing or not. Best Bro looked confused. What hearing? I told him the child support hearing for his three kids. Best Bro looked super confused, like I was crazy. Then he asked if I was seeing anyone else, other than ex-Fiancé. Of course I wasn't. I gave Best Bro a very abbreviated version (kicked ex-Fiancé out bc he was ignoring his child support from his baby mamas, he had a hearing earlier this week.) I was getting loud because I'd been bottling this up and Best Bro's girlfriend came out to see what was going on. She's the one who told me, her exact words: Your man lost his damn mind. The weekend after I kicked him out, he went out to a bar with Best Bro for some good ol' girl bashing. He met up with some 22 year old bartender, and hooked up. Reddit, he MARRIED her last weekend. Drove up to Reno (we're a couple hours from the Nevada border) and did the whole chapel of love thing. Best Bro and his girlfriend were the witnesses. They hadn't really supported his decision, but he had them convinced I was a cheating whore, and he was so heartbroken. Plus, Best Bro's girlfriend implied later that he'd overstayed his welcome by crashing at their house for most of a month. I was shocked and pissed and wanted to cry because I sorta got the vibe that Best Bro still didn't believe I wasn't cheating. So I grabbed the court documents from my car and gave them to him to 'pass along' to my ex. I doubt they'll open them up, but the fact they're from his old state county's child support division should be good evidence. I don't know why I should care about their opinion. Neither one of them called me during this. I thought I was their friend, too. But they believed him. Now I'm back home, surrounded by his crap, and trying to sort out my feelings. I feel like... I've just watched someone blow through all the 'bridge is out' warning signs and drive off a cliff. I told my ex I'd help him get a lawyer for the hearing, help him with the plane ticket. Instead of taking care of his business, he went and married some chick he'd known for... like two and a half weeks at most? (I think. I'm not in the mood to drag out a calendar. Let's be generous and call it three weeks.) I should feel bad for the girl (HIS NEW WIFE WHAT THE FUCK) for what she's just gotten into, but she must either be a real piece of work herself or just an idiot. Who marries someone they've known for that short of time? (And I know someone out there is thinking: 'You're an idiot. He had to have known her for longer. He was cheating before this.' Well, I'm certain he wasn't. He's a homebody by nature. There was never any missing time in our relationship, and Best Bro was pretty clear they'd met at the bar that night.) So basically, instead of going to his child support hearing, he was moving in with his new wifey, and probably doing what newly married people do. I hope they're happy together. (ahahaha. Of course I don't.) I guess my next stop is the legal advice subreddit to figure out what to do with his stuff. He might have a contempt of court warrant out for him for skipping the hearing, so I doubt he'll sue me if I toss it all, but I do want to cover my butt. I know I need to ask a question, so here it is? What in the world was he thinking? Out of all the options he had to him, he picked the very worst. What was SHE thinking? I love (loved) the man, but even I can admit he's not classically good looking. He had nothing to offer but a low paying job, and being practically homeless. And finally, what is wrong with me, that I feel terrible he's found some new way to fuck up his life? tl;dr: He found and married someone else within a couple weeks, and I'm all alone wondering why. THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP's OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7 submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I posted Tang here a few times. Unfortunately, cancer and heart failure demanded the ultimate duty a cat parent must see through. Tang passed peacefully today at home, where he spent most of his life. My wife and I were by his side. Tang was my first ever cat, and as the oldest, the first death I have experienced. Today has been the hardest day of my life. Tang was originally adopted by my brother and his new wife. They chose Tang from the other cats at Petsmart because he happened to have their wedding date listed as his date of birth. They saw it as a sign. If it really was a sign, it was a bad one, as my brother divorced barely a year later LOL. He had to move to a new apartment, one that didn't take cats. He asked if I could take Tang just for a little while until he could find a new place. I was hesitant, as I was a single guy in my early 20s. But I agreed. Tang's journey to my house is a story that gets retold all the time, with great laughter. But if I'm being honest, the memory makes me cringe. I still feel bad, all these years later. My brother said Tang hates car rides and would cry the entire 2 hour drive back to my place. He suggested I should put his carrier in the trunk of my little Honda Civic so I wouldn't be bothered with the crying for 2 hours. At this point, I should mention that this was in the height of summer...but I was young and dumb and didn't know any better. As I start driving, I could hear Tang crying from the trunk. There was almost no soundproofing. Putting him in the trunk was pointless. But after about 5 minutes, he stopped. I thought, cool, maybe the solitude of the trunk calmed him down. I drove the 2 hours to my house. When I opened the trunk and looked into the carrier, Tang looked like he had a bucket of water dumped over him. He was panting like crazy. I rushed him into the house, toweled him off, and gave him water. For the next 3 weeks, Tang hid under the couch I had in the formal living room. One night, as I sat on the couch in the main living room, watching TV, Tang came slowly into the room and then jumped on the couch and settled into my lap. And just like that, I had a constant companion for the next 13 years. He was the opposite of most cats' reputation. He was never aloof, but clingey. He never had zoomies or really played at all. He just liked to sleep, eat, cuddle with me all night, and eat some more. He had the best life. When my wife came into the picture, he included her in his cuddles. He loved to literally lay on top of her head at night. She loved him as much as I did. I wish I could have had several more years with him. But I'm infinitely glad of the years I got. Tang, we love you and will miss you for all our lives. We are so grateful we got to be your humans. I hope you are already running around and eating as much tuna as you want. We will see you again. Wait for us. submitted by /u/Random-reddit-name-1 to r/seniorkitties [link] [comments]

I am still NOT the Original Poster. That is amme04. She posted in r/AITAH and r/TwoXChromosomes Previous BORU post here. New Updates start with ****\* A reminder that this sub has the 7 day waiting period, so the last update is 7 days old **Trigger Warnings:** attempted murder; domestic violence; stalking; Mood Spoiler: things are looking better for OOP, but the whole thing is still very scary Original Post: November 30, 2023 I don’t know if i watch too many crime shows or if I’m just paranoid so I’ve come here to ask. Last week I made chicken gnocchi soup. When it was almost done I started helping my daughter with a school project. She got us both a bowl and a few seconds later my bf runs into the room with a bowl and tells me to eat the bowl he has. I told him it was all the same and he insisted that he wanted mine because it had more chicken. Thinking back now I don’t know how he would know that considering my daughter dished it out. My daughter took the bowl he gave me and said she would eat it. He yanked it out of hand and said “no it’s for mom”. I took the bowl and he went to the living room. I continued doing my daughter's project and told her not to eat the soup. 20ish minutes later I walked into the kitchen to pour the soups out and he was still eating his. He asked why we didn’t eat any and I said the cat got into it while we were waiting for it to cool down. He screamed “WHAT!? Was it your bowl !?! Cats can’t eat that!?”. I told him it was only a lick but he has been stressed out watching the cat like a hawk, obsessive even. His reaction was very weird. These "accidents" all happened before the soup incident over the span of 6 months. It wasn't one after another in a short period of time. Since then my emergency money has gone missing. I keep money hidden just in case. I lost my older sister because she wasn’t able to escape a dangerous situation and I literally swore on her grave I would never be in that position. After the soup incident I went to get my money and it was gone. It was hidden and I changed the location every few months. I asked my daughter if maybe she found it and that if she took it I wouldn’t be mad because I knew she couldn’t have spent it. She said no. A few hours later she tells me she forgot but the other day her and my bf got pulled over and she saw my pink wallet in his glove box. I did not tell her which wallet it was in or that it was in a wallet. I decided to ask him if he found it by accident. He asked me why I was hiding a large amount of money, “you know you could never leave me” and laughed. (He has never said anything like that before). I told him it was for my daughters Christmas. He said no he didn’t find the money but could use his credit card for gifts. I didn’t tell him about my daughter seeing my wallet in his car. Now here are a few other things that have happened in the past few months that seemed random at the time but now they don’t. I have a severe allergy to latex. One day we were about to have sex and I glanced at the mirror we have by our bed and saw the condom wrapper was a different color. I stopped him because it wasn’t latex free and he said it was a mistake and just an older one he had. We have been dating for over 2 years and he knows how serious my allergy is. My epipen that I keep in my room is missing and I didn’t realize it. I didn't realize it was missing until I was searching for my money. Another odd thing is one day he was following me down the stairs while I was carrying laundry and he kicked the back of my leg and I fell. He said he slipped but the stairs are wood and he was wearing his steel toe boots. At the time I thought it was an accident. Am I overthinking this? My anxiety has been at an all time high. Do I watch too much true crime? Here is why I think I might be the asshole. We have a good relationship. He loves my daughter like she is his. We split all shared bills and we both pull our own weight around the apartment. We don’t fight. He has never so much as raised his voice at me. We are paycheck to paycheck but bills are paid. I thought about going to my moms house for a few days and asking him when I get there when I’m safe about the money but I don’t have money to do that now. She is on a fixed income and can't help. I feel stupid for being scared. Last night I decided to check his car for my wallet and he caught me. I asked him for my money back and he tried playing dumb. I told him my daughter saw it there. He told me she was lying. I told him I never told her about the money or what wallet. He said he was a grown man and kids lie all the time. I asked him once more for my money and he said “I’m not giving you money to leave me”. I waited until he was in the shower to grab my cat and my daughter and we left. I can’t take my cat with us to a shelter and the DV shelters are full. I was able to get us a night at a cheap motel. This exact situation is why I had money saved. I did everything right and now I’m screwed. I feel like I just blew up my entire life. Yes I'm using a burner account and reading all the comments that I can. Relevant Comments: The red flags are so obvious here: "In my defense the few odd accidents seemed like a genuine accident until the soup thing. It really really freaked me out and that is when I started thinking." Yeah the soup incident is very shady: "That is what made me start thinking about the other "accidents" and putting the pieces together. I thought I just watched too many true crime shows but everyone's response confirmed I'm not just paranoid." In order to believe this I have to think you're a moron. Like, I had to stop reading at the staircase incident: "Have you ever accidentally stepped on your dog's foot, were you trying to kill your dog? No. That is what I thought at the time, it was an accident." Several people accuse this of being obviously fake because events escalated too quickly and why would she be posting on reddit for advice: "I'm not a character in a anonymous fucking story. I wasn't looking for advice, I was looking for confirmation I wasn't paranoid. You bet your ass I left as soon as he said my daughter was lying. Fuck off" There is no consensus bot on AITAH, but it was pretty obviously NTA Update Post 1: December 4, 2023 (4 days later) A TL:DR; I think my boyfriend put something in my soup. After that incident I remembered a few months ago he almost used a latex condom knowing I’m severely allergic and I also remembered when he “accidentally” knocked me down the stairs. I started piecing things together and realized my epi pen was gone as well as a large amount of money I had hidden. My daughter saw my old wallet in his glove box and he denied it. My post got alot of attention and my account was shadowbanned for a few days. I was able to appeal and get my account back because I’m not a bot or some AI. Now for the update. The day after we left he sent me a picture of my epi pen and tried telling me it was in my nightstand the whole time. I tore that room apart looking for it so I KNOW for 100% fact it wasn’t there. He took it. He tried getting me to come back telling me I scared myself stupid and watched too many true crime TV. Something didn't feel right so I told him to put my money and epi pen in the mailbox. We went back and forth and he denied having my money. He then said “If we broke up you and Maria (my daughter) are no longer allowed in my apartment and will be treated like trespassers” and sent me a pic of his target practice sheets. I went to the police about the money and was told it was a civil issue. I was upset but wanted the rest of my stuff so I asked for an escort. Yesterday I finally got an escort into the apartment with a cop and my landlord. He destroyed everything of my daughters and he ruined the laptop charger I use for work. No epi pen. My daughters medication and back up medical supplies were ruined. Our landlord let me off the lease without having to pay an early termination fee which is great considering I have no money. Motels are expensive. I don’t want to get rid of our cat. All shelters are full and this is scary as shit. I’m sorry this is a shitty update but I know people wanted it. Relevant Comments: There has to be something that can be done about your daughter's meds: "I'm beyond angry that nothing can be done. Insurance won't cover her medications or supplies until next month. She JUST got refills. I can get her meds but I'll pay out of pocket. I have no money. Since I couldn't prove my money existed I can't prove he stole it. I'm livid." Restraining order? "Nope not unless he gets physical with me. I should have let him hit me and I would have a lot more help available which is so fucked up." Why are the police so useless? "I wouldn't say useless. I did get a police escort to get the rest of my stuff." Update Post 2: December 10, 2023 (6 days later, 10 days from OG post) My OP got a lot of attention but then my account got shadowbanned and was temporarily removed. I just updated 5 days ago but this will be my final update because there is nothing anyone can do. I was encouraged to go back to the police station after my last update. On Saturday December 9th I went back AGAIN. This time I printed out the threatening text messages that included the target practice sheets he sent, I explained in detail about the “accidents” proving he was trying to hurt me, and I even had my landlord put in writing that he believed our lives were in danger after seeing everything I was showing the police and let me leave my lease early. I brought in the destroyed medical supplies and medications. The police said they had already talked to him and said he didn’t do any of it. He told them my daughter probably destroyed her stuff because she is “special ed”. She has very mild Asperger's but doesn’t destroy things! Since it was his word against mine they believed him. I didn’t have proof he stole the money or that it even existed in the first place. I was told the epi pen was my responsibility and they won’t do anything if it’s lost. I was told to “let it go” and acted like I was bothering the police with my “petty civil issues”. I am so defeated and angry. My daughter isn’t going to have gifts for Christmas because I have to save for a new deposit on an apartment. We have been staying in motels while I was reaching out to DV resources. I can’t get help without a restraining order/ police report. Every place is out of funds. He is getting away with everything and I’m so glad we got out because there is no doubt in my mind he would have gotten away with my murder. I know this sounds like my last update but that is what happened…nothing new. No justice. No repercussions for him. He gets to stay in the apartment. My landlord offered me another unit across town but I can’t afford to move in. This exact situation is why I had money stashed away because no one has ever cared about me/us and I knew that. There is nothing else I can do. Editor's note: OOP posted in another sub with the exact same information as above and no new update. However, she did add this clarification about shelters: "All shelters are full. I found an organization who helps DV victims with housing but only if you have a police report and a restraining order. I guess they are tired of victims going back to their partner, safety reasons, or something. I was denied a restraining order because I had no proof. I’m scared, exhausted, and disappointed." *****Update Post 3: December 28, 2023 (18 days later)****\* Title: I thought we were safe Alot of people wanted a update so here it is. On Christmas he slashed my tires knowing I would have to pay out of pocket to replace them which I don’t have. Today he threw a heavy patio chair through the window of the place we were staying at to let me know he knew where we were and I was asked to leave for everyone's safety. Except my daughter and I aren’t safe. I walked in the sleet/snow with my daughter and our cat and I felt vulnerable and like open prey so we came back to the police station to sit in the lobby until morning. Shelters are still full and I now have to disclose that he is dangerous anywhere we go. Police couldn’t find him but I know he has to be close. I don’t know what his end game is. Relevant Comments: Can police direct you to a DV shelter? "The shelters here are full so we are just sitting in the police station lobby. We are at least safe and warm so I'm grateful for that." On donations: "Donations aren't allowed here and my post could get removed because of it. I'm trying to stay awake and really just venting. I'm so frustrated that he keeps getting away with this shit." Do you know how he keeps finding you? Have you checked for trackers? "I honestly have no idea! He is supposed to have a new girlfriend too so IDK why he is messing with me and destroying property" Reset your phone to factory settings: "I got a cheap burner after we left. He doesn't have my number nor have I used it to call anyone so IDK how he is tracking me." You said he sent you a photo of the epi pen after you left. How did he communicate that to you? "He sent it through my email before I blocked it." Update Post 4: January 1, 2024 (4 days later; a bit over 1 month from OG post) Title: I found the air tag in the cat carrier Please read my other posts for more context but a tl:dr; I’m pretty sure my ex was/is trying to kill me. There were a few instances that I wrote off as “accidents'' until I think he poisoned my soup that was specifically for me. On Christmas he found where we were staying and slashed my tires and threw a heavy patio chair and planter through a window. He still hasn’t been caught. I checked everywhere I could think of and still couldn't figure out how he was tracking us. I blocked him on everything including email after he sent me pics of his target practice sheets among other things. I got a cheap burner phone. My daughter was out of school for winter break so he didn’t follow her or anything. I checked my car for a tracker. Still nothing. I do not have an iphone so I couldn’t check whatever app a air tag is attached to. My cat is harness trained and wears a collar but there was no tracker. Until today I decided to “feel up” (sorry only way I can describe it) the carrier. I ran my fingers over every inch of it and felt a bump on the bottom soft side. There was no new stitching or obvious cut. He had to use a seam ripper along the stitching. It was undetectable and I almost missed it. He had to have had help because I’ve never seen him sew anything. Probably the same person who is letting him hide now. If his excuse for the air tag was to track my cat he would have put it on his collar or harness because that is what he would wear when we go on walks/car rides. My cat would never go in his carrier unless I was planning on leaving for more than a few days. I have no idea how long it has been there nor do I know how far the tracker works but now we aren’t safe where we are, AGAIN. I feel disgusting and I feel like hunted prey. This is so unnerving and I’m so uncomfortable. Who the f*ck was I living with? Relevant Comment: I’m sorry but I don’t find it believable that he tracked you with an AirTag. I don't know how airtags work and didn't say that is how he is tracking me, just that I found one. It doesn't make sense how he knew where we were. Update Post 5: January 7, 2024 (6 days later, 5.5 weeks from OG post) Title: I finally got the restraining order! I’m hoping this update will make everyone as happy as it makes me! I was finally granted the restraining order. And we get the keys to our new apartment on the 11th. A place I can afford monthly and comes partially furnished. It’s in a super safe area right by my daughter's school. There is security!! We will spend our time living in our car until then and of course it has to be snowing but we are together and we have our kitty. This nightmare is almost over. ​ Editor's note: Some people commented on the last post that OOP's ex was a police officer. However, I can't find anything in OOP's posts or comments that confirms this. It's definitely possible, but I just wanted to address it here since it was brought up so often in the last post! submitted by /u/LucyAriaRose to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]