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Which ones are we supposed to use and how often? I wash my hair once a week with the ouai detox shampoo but I see comments saying that I should be using a moisturising shampoo as well. What do you guys recommend? I am 1 year loc’d and started with 2 strand twists o-o submitted by /u/Dry-Mail-5354 to r/Microlocs [link] [comments]

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I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/jasmin_cicada Originally posted to r/AITAH WIBTAH If I refuse to stop making my stepdaughter her school lunches? Trigger Warnings: child neglect, manipulation Original Post: February 27, 2026 For a quick context my 28F husband 36M has a daughter Leah 16 with his ex Linda 38F they split when Leah was about 7 and I married my husband two years ago. I used to work in an office so I had to bring food to my job but I work from home now so I still believe all the lunchboxes and stuff. I'm only calling Leah my stepdaughter for the post, but she just calls me auntie. Well, Leah came home one day shaking and very pale, so I asked her what happened to her and she told me she didn't eat anything because she hates her school food and she doesn't eat breakfast because school starts too early, I felt so bad for her and made her something to eat and then I asked her if she wanted me to make her a quick lunch for her to take to school and she said yes. So I prepared a quick lunch for her, a little sandwich, some fruit and some dip with veggies and some chips and a juice, she loved it and came home to hug me and told me everyone was praising her lunch. I made her a lunch every day she was with us last year. School just started again but she's currently with her mom, Linda called my husband and told her she tolerated my 'antics' last year but I can stop playing mom now, because she doesn't like it and Leah should just suck it up and eat what the school provides because she does have time to compete with my bullshit. Well, Leah is coming home tomorrow, and I asked her if she wants me to stop the lunches and that I would apologize if I overstep, she asked me to please don't stop and that she loves them. She said her mom is mad because she asked her mom for some ingredient to make her own lunches in her house and Linda refused I talked with my husband, and we agreed on not stopping because there's nothing wrong with what I'm doing and now he has to talk with his ex about it. I feel a little guilty now because I know Linda would cause some sort of trouble with my husband because of this but at the same time I don't want to stop just because she doesn't like it so wibtah? Edit: I will talk to my husband tonight after he gets home from work. After reading the comments and remembering things after responding to some comments I realized this is overdue. I feel like we should've done something earlier because Leah's well-being should be our top priority not whether or Linda would throw a tantrum. Thank you for helping me see everything clearer I'll show this post to my husband as well tonight Also to clarify some things: 1) Leah is 16 and she can make her own lunches: yes she can and she does sometimes but I like doing it for her just to pamper her a little bit. 2) Why don't you buy her the ingredients for her mom's house: my husband tried, even offered to buy another fridge when Linda said it would take up all the space in there but then she still refused to accept it. 3) Leah should live with just me and my husband: maybe but at the end of the day it's her decision, I'll talk to my husband, and we'll talk to her later in the week, but we can't really force her if she wants to continue going to her mom's AITAH has no consensus bot, OOP was NTA Editor's note: OOP made lots of comments, I am adding for more context to help with the original post Relevant Comments Commenter 1: Sounds like you are more of a mom to her. NTA. Take care of the kid. Let the ex freak out. Just make sure to document everything OOP: I didn't think about that but you're right Commenter 2: How could you possibly be the AH for making sure a child fas something to eat. Just because her bio mom doesn't care enough or is too lazy to make sure her child eats, diesnt mean you have to be. I mean what's she going to say in court? That you're providing her kid a lunch, and she doesn't want her child to eat? Commenter 3: Just because her bio mom doesn't care enough or is too lazy to make sure her child eats, diesnt mean you have to be. Benefit of the doubt. Divorce is expensive and she might have gotten the shit end of the stick with it, so funds are tight. School might provide free lunch/breakfast and the kids mom might not be able to afford the extra expense of a packed lunch. Let's show a bit more grace before saying she doesn't care or is lazy. Technically, the child does have food to eat, she just turns her nose up at it. OOP: They were never married so they didn't divorce, my husband pays for everything Leah wants/needs plus child support twice the amount the judge told him he had to pay. I feel like my husband was generous enough with her Commenter 4: I'm pretty sure NTA. Her mother is the one that made it a competition, and she's an AH for that. Collectively, her parents, you, and anyone else that's in a parental like role should be cooperating to support your step-daughter. If the system in your home that you and her father work out is for you to make her lunches on those days, fine. I could possibly see an issue if the mother had paid for the school lunch, and now that was being wasted. But again, the solution is to communicate and work out those logistics to help raise SD. OOP: The lunch is free paid by the government so not money wasted Commenter 5: So, from the mom's point of view any money spent on food she takes in is wasted because she could have eaten for 'free'. It is really sad when children have to worry about where the money for food is coming from. 16 is old enough to be making her own lunch. She is also old enough to understand her parents may not have the greatest relationship. If this is getting into "talk to a lawyer" expensive, have you considered maybe asking her to tell her mom she is making her own lunch from ingredients her dad pays for?? OOP: My husband talked to her about it, I think my husband also tried to compromise with buying the ingredients for her and buying Leah a fridge for her room to keep the food but Linda said he was making their daughter selfish and lazy, I feel it's time to revisit you custody specially now that she's 16 but I didn't say anything before because I didn't want to be like an evil stepmother trying to separate her from her mom. I have to admit I feel a little anxious when it comes to Leah because I don't want her to hate me if I'm too pushy or something like that, I imagine it's weird for her because I'm only about 12 years older than her and I'm technically not old enough to be her parent. But she's really sweet and I hate the fact that she's most likely going hungry half a month every month OOP on why Leah won't be able to make her own lunch? OOP: She can in our home but I like making them cute, and in her mom's house she has more siblings for what I remember she can't just take things without asking and stuff like that Commenter 6: NTA. Don't stop feeding a hungry child good food when an adult wants you to stop purely for selfish reasons and not for the child's benefit. Tell your husband to get involved if his ex is being shitty about it and I hope he is supporting you/ his daughter. Edit. Why don't you and Leah go out shopping and plan lunches / meals together and she can make her own up some days if she likes? Sounds like mum doesn't like to get anything out of her usual routine so maybe give Leah some options to try some new things like falafel wraps, houmous (I use these as examples as my mum's friend would always serve falafels which I never had at home and I was brought up on houmous which half my friends hated or loved), raw fruit and veg snacks with dips? I liked marinated cooked meat in my lunchbox sometimes instead of a sandwich like a thigh or something. Sounds like she wants to try new things and needs a guide or at least the opportunity to try. OOP: We already go once a week to buy her essentials, I said sandwiches as an example but I vary my lunches depending on what we bought. She made her own lunch a couple times and she helps me cook on weekends as well but maybe I can give her more freedom, this is my first time being something sort of a parent figure so I'm doing my best. I buy her things to hide in her bag as well because if her mom finds them she would make her share with her other siblings OOP gives an example on why Linda doesn't buy anything for Leah OOP: She doesn't buy anything for Leah, tampons, pads, skincare, shampoo nothing, I buy them with my husband, and I have to hide them in her bag. Apparently they all use the same bar soap and have one shampoo and conditioner but it's horrible for Leah's hair because she has curly hair and her mom didn't believe she needed a different product. I think she buys pads for herself and tells Leah she can use them but then says she used too many. Craaaazy Lady Commenter 7: NTA. Her mom is jealous that you are doing more than what she does for her own daughter. She’s definitely old enough to make her own lunches, though. Maybe you can keep some things in the house and tell her that you went to store and picked up these things so she can make her own lunch. She has to learn to feed herself at some point. OOP: She knows how to cook, she isn't spoiled or lazy, she cooks with me sometimes and alone other times, she cleans and she has excellent grades, she is very independent and she takes care of her siblings when she's with her so she can do it. I just like taking care of her too Downvoted Commenter: YTA you would stop caring for your stepdaughter and punish your stepdaughter because your husbands ex is bitter. I feel bad for the stepdaughter since you are so willing to abandon her just because her mom is bitter OOP: I only would've stopped if Leah told me she doesn't want me to make them anymore but I'm not a mom so I'm not sure what or if some things are overstepping boundaries or something like that, that's why I asked, I talked with my husband, but he never disagrees with me, so he's also biased   Update: April 1, 2026 (over one month later) [UPDATE] WIBTAH If I refuse to stop making my stepdaughter her school lunches? The situation is somewhat resolved now so I can make an update. First of all my husband decided to talk to Leah, they talked for about an hour and came to the decision that Leah would stay with us permanently for now. He contacted a lawyer friend of his to talk about his options and because Leah is old enough to decide for herself he said things shouldn't be too complicated. My husband contacted Linda to tell her about the decision, and she didn't take it well understandably, she started to come to our house and tried to pick up Leah out of school, but she refused so the school contact my husband, it was a whole mess. I work from home so I was always home when she came to scream here, she knew I was home because she accused me of stealing her daughter, of being a homewrecker (not even close lol) and she called my husband a creep for having a "child bride" I couldn't handle it anymore, so I called the police but the stressed made me very sick and I almost fainted. At the hospital we found out I'm 10 weeks pregnant, we weren't really trying but we weren't preventing it either I'm a little anxious but kinda excited. because of the pregnancy my husband is considering filling for a restarting order as well not only for full custody, we haven't announced the pregnancy yet because we don't know if Linda would try anything, I want to give her the benefit of the doubt, but her recent behavior is scary. we're also considering moving maybe even to a different city but for now we are still dealing with Linda. Our lawyer send her a cease and desist, and she's been quiet for the past week but maybe she's just plotting something. With my husband we decided Leah and will be staying with my mom for now and he'll go check on the house and then come to my mom's at night. And I think that's all, I'm already home with my mom and Leah and Thursday to Sunday are Holidays here so my husband will be joining us too. Everything is quiet and I feel I'll tell Leah and my mom about the pregnancy this weekend. if anything significant happen again I'll update in my profile but for now I just want to relax and enjoy my pregnancy with my family Wish us luck!   Editor's note: OOP did not leave any relevant comments in this update   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

Hi all! So as the title says, I’m ISO the absolute strongest, most stripping clarifying shampoo there is. I have super greasy scalp and hair due to a hormonal issue (so no, switching to a gentler shampoo „to prevent overstripping” or „training my hair” is not going to work.) My scalp produces so much oil the USA is probably preparing to invade it and even while using those shampoos marketed for oily hair, shampooing twice, using peels and drying my roots immediately I can barely get more than 8 hours of fresh-looking hair and I can forget about looking half decent on day 2. I have tried the following ones, they’re nice but still, can’t stretch fresh hair feel for more than 8 hours, 10 if I’m lucky - Pantene volume and body - garnier pure clean - elseve hyaluron pure - Tołpa dermo hair - Joanna nettle shampoo - ziaja shampoo for oily hair - so!flow oily hair line - afalparf milano oily hair shampoo And probably many more to no avail I’ll be happy to consider drugstore, pharmacy grade, professional etc options:) submitted by /u/morigrl to r/EuroSkincare [link] [comments]

I've tried the Pantene clarifying shampoo but my hair didn't feel super clean after. What clarifying shampoo gives you the cleanest scalp? submitted by /u/Antique-Feature-9355 to r/finehair [link] [comments]

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I’m 39F. Eat great. Workout a ton. Recently, I noticed that my hair just won’t un-grease itself. I try to only wash every other day (I used to wash 2x a day). I used clarifying shampoo. I let it sit. Sometimes I rinse and repeat. Am I doing too much? Is that why it’s rising up against me. Plaaase haaaaaalp. EDIT / UPDATE: Thank you so much for the responses. I tried a few of them and I am happy to report my hair looks clean and even a little volumized today!!!! What I did: - did the apple cider soak. - got a new shampoo (not clarifying). It has mint and onion and smells awesome. - installed a detachable shower head (yay!) - double washed and took my time rinsing it in sections. Thank you again! I saved the other tips to try should it start happening ding again. submitted by /u/Lopsided_Pen_9355 to r/AskWomenOver40 [link] [comments]

So I’ve been on a hair journey. I recently chopped it off because I had so many split ends. I had been trying the Abbey Young method and not really getting the results I wanted… she recommends so many heavy products and clarifying shampoos which left my strands dry, damaged, and weighed down. I live in Colorado and our humidity is basically zero and our water is very hard. Second pic is to show how tiny my ponytail is… I truly have fine hair, I can’t even use elastics because they slip out! I decided to go back to the drawing board and figure out what combos worked for MY hair, which is fine, pin straight, never been dyed, etc. It finally feels bouncy, shiny, and well taken care of! Routine: Before bed: Shu Uemura Hair Oil Daily Shampoo: Living Proof Restore Clarifying Shampoo: L’Oreal Metal Detox Conditioner: Olaplex #5 Leave in: Aveda Damage Remedy Tools: Dyson Blow Dryer w/ a basic round brush submitted by /u/maya_says to r/finehair [link] [comments]

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/Spiritual-Grocery641 Originally posted to r/AITAH Previous BoRUs: #1 [New Update]: AITAH for buying my girlfriend vanilla shampoo? NEW UPDATE MARKED WITH ---- Thanks to u/queenlegolas for suggesting this BoRU Mood Spoilers: positive for OOP ---- RECAP Original Post: January 4, 2026 My girlfriend uses a few different types of shampoo and alternates between them. One of them, a vanilla scented one, is my favorite. She asked me to pick up some things for her at the store, and on my way to check out I saw the vanilla shampoo and grabbed that too. When I got back to her apartment, she started putting away the things I bought. She was confused by the shampoo and asked me why I got it. I said that I saw it and know she uses that kind and grabbed it for her. She said she wasn't running low on shampoo. I said I know, but it doesn't expire and that one is my favorite. I teasingly said that she should use it if she's planning to wash her hair tonight. She asked what I meant by it being my "favorite." I said I like the way it makes her hair smell, like cookies. She looked a little weirded out. I asked her if she was okay. She said it was weird that I sexualized her shampoo. I said smelling nice is sexy. I asked if she thinks I'm sexier when I used nice smelling soaps and deodorants. She said not really, as long as I don't actively smell bad. I said maybe it's different for everyone. She said honestly it bothered her that something as mundane as shampoo was sexual to me. She asked me if someone else smelled like vanilla would I be attracted to them? I said no, that she was misunderstanding me. She asked me to clarify, but I don't think I did a good job. I said I specifically like the smell on her, not other people. She still seemed put out, so I headed home to give her space. Was I an asshole for buying the shampoo and telling her I like when she uses it? To me that's not weird, but maybe that's because I'm a guy. Is there a layer to this I'm not seeing? AITAH has no consensus bot, OOP received the majority of NTAs Relevant Comments Commenter 1: I would’ve thought it was sexy and cute. You’re not the AH at all. The most romantic thing my husband did for me was buy me a personal pizza with olives on it because I told him I like it but hadn’t ordered one in years because I just eat what everyone else likes and they don’t like olives. We were talking about something else and I just casually mentioned it as an aside. Three weeks later I came home and it was sitting on our kitchen island with a heart drawn on the box. It wasn’t the pizza. It was confirmation that he was listening to me and not just paying attention to his phone. Being attentive is important. OOP: I thought I was being sexy and cute too! She's my first real relationship, so I acknowledge that I'm inexperienced here, but I thought it was a very innocent way to flirt. It's not like I bought her underwear. Commenter 2: NTA. What on earth? You did something nice. She should have said thank you. My husband comments if he likes my perfume. She presumably buys the vanilla scented shampoo because she also likes the smell. Making it out like you’re some weird freak for also liking the smell is wild. It’s like she was looking for something to fight about. OOP: Yeah, I don't get it. Liking certain smells is normal, right? Isn't that the point of scented things? And perfume? It's not a creepy thing to like. Commenter 3: Does she often pick fights and criticize you like this? You did nothing wrong. Yes smelling good is sexy. I’ve had women ask me what laundry detergent I used because they loved the way my clothes smelled and wanted to be reminded of me. Your gf is being weird OOP: We fight sometimes, but not often. This is the first fight that felt completely out of left field. Usually I see where she is coming from, but this time I am so confused. Commenter 4: NTA. She’s definitely off. You love the smell of vanilla, especially on her. This isn’t odd. It doesn’t mean you want to bang the first woman you see wearing vanilla, either. Jesus. We are human. We each gravitate to particular scents. We have likes and dislikes. What’s wrong with her?!! You didn’t mention your age, hoping you’re teenagers ? OOP: I'm 19, and she's 20. Downvoted Commenter: I feel like you're definitely leaving something out here?? How long have you been together, is this the first time you told her you like a scent when it comes to her?? She clearly has some sort of trauma that probably needs to be worked through with you not judgement because she didn't respond properly to something out of the blue OOP: We started dating exclusively four months ago. No, I've told her she smells nice before. The last time we were intimate I said she smelled great, and she responded very positively to that. I didn't specifically say that it was her hair that smelled nice, so maybe she didn't realize that's what I was referring to. Commenter 5: Did she grow up conservative or really sheltered? OOP: No, her parents are very progressive. They are supportive of her bisexuality. We met once and they're very cool. Commenter 6: I don't think you're going to have a long relationship with this one she's trying to find trouble. Give her lots of space and never buy anything for her ever again so she can complain about that. Maybe ask her does she wear perfume and why? If she's worried about this why doesn't she use unscented products? I dump her she sounds like a weirdo. She will be the one to put charges against you for any minor thing. OOP: She doesn't use perfume, but she uses scented products and they all smell great. To me the scented soap smell is better than perfume, more subtle, more... I'm not sure which word to use. It's nicer. I've always liked that about her. I didn't think it was weird.   Update #1: January 5, 2026 (next day) So yesterday my girlfriend didn't like it that I took it upon myself to buy her vanilla shampoo when I was picking some things up for her at the store. We met up at her apartment again this morning for breakfast and I asked if we could talk about our boundaries and expectations, because I never want to make her feel uncomfortable. She agreed that we should talk. She said that when she visited her family over winter break she had time to think about our relationship and talk to her parents and sister about me. She said that space and perspective made her realize some things. The first thing she realized is that she isn't happy that we always meet at her apartment. I said I completely understand that and she is welcome to come hang out at mine. When we first started dating she didn't want to visit my apartment often because of my four roommates, but things change and I get that. She still doesn't want to hang out at my apartment because of my four roommates though. She said that my living situation is too crowded and it bothers her. I asked if she wanted me to move, and she said she would like it if I made a commitment to finding a new living situation by the next semester. Since the next semester is a long way off this isn't unreasonable, but I was hesitant. I really like my living situation. My friends and I help each other out a lot. I don't necessarily want to live alone, and it is expensive. She can afford to live alone, but I don't necessarily think I could. I explained that I didn't think I could afford it. She suggested I ask my parents for money, which isn't an option. She also pointed out that I have a part-time job, but that doesn't make me enough money to pay for my own apartment. I asked if me spending too much time at her apartment is the only issue, because I felt like there was more to the shampoo thing. She said yes, that she didn't like that. She said she didn't like the idea that I'm constantly thinking about having sex with her, and that it made her feel disrespected. I said I'm not constantly thinking about having sex with her. I told her it's more that I really like her, and sometimes she does things and I think they are sexy, but that doesn't mean I necessarily want to have sex at that moment. It's just my internal monologue going "that was sexy." That wasn't the right way to explain it. She didn't seem to understand where I was coming from. She asked me what was going through my head when I was at the store and if I was thinking about having sex with her. I said I was thinking about the store, the items I needed to buy, inflation, etc, and then I saw the shampoo and I thought about how she uses it and it makes her hair smell amazing, and I bought it. She asked if I specifically thought about the way her hair smelled the last time we had sex, and I said yes, but it wasn't like I had a full sex fantasy in the store. It was a momentary thought. She said that isn't normal and I might have tourettes or ADHD or OCD or some other condition that causes intrusive thoughts. I'm really glad I made the last post because I was worried about what she said, but then I remembered all the commentators that mentioned also feeling the same way about scents. I told her I posted about our conversation in an anonymous online forum and several people feel the same way I do about smell. I said I think it is normal to feel that way about scents, but maybe it isn't ubiquitous. She said it isn't normal, and I might want to talk to a doctor about potentially having hypersexuality. Between her not liking my living situation and her not liking that I am attracted to her smell (which is probably my fault because I wasn't doing a good job of explaining things) I realized we just weren't compatible. I told her I thought maybe we had different needs for a relationship and maybe would be better as friends. She said she was disappointed in me but that she agreed. We hugged it out. I am a little bummed, but we were only dating for four months. Thanks for being my normalcy barometer, since I don't have one for relationships yet. Relevant Comments Commenter 1: Buddy, she wanted you to tank your financial situation for a relationship of four months??? I know you like this woman, but you dodged a bullet. And liking how someone smells is perfectly normal. 🤦🏽‍♀️ OOP: I think she was just communicating. She wants a partner that has their own place. It's fair for her to let me know that. That doesn't work for me right now, so we aren't compatible. That doesn't make her wrong or a bad girlfriend, just not the right girlfriend for me, and right now I'm not the right boyfriend for her. Commenter 2: You handled that well and you both made the right call. Thank you for the update. She said that isn't normal and I might have Tourette’s or ADHD or OCD or some other condition that causes intrusive thoughts Don’t listen to this. OOP (downvoted): I think I just did a bad job of explaining myself. I think she was imagining that I'm constantly seeing things that make me think about having sex with her. It's more that my mind (and I think this is very common) is a stream of thought. I'm constantly thinking about a lot of things. Every once in a while a thought will be sexual, but it isn't constant, and it doesn't effect my ability to do regular things. I just had trouble verbalizing that to her. Commenter 3: You did the right thing. She clearly has issues: "hypersexuality" indeed! You just dodged a long-term bullet. Hopefully your next girlfriend will be saner... OOP: Well it's a new semester, so I will have the chance to meet a lot of new people and hopefully click with someone nice! Commenter 4: Scent is the sense that is directly linked to memory and emotion, much more so than our other senses, so your reaction was perfectly normal. It's pretty fucked up she'd try to turn a very human response into you having a medical condition, I hope you see that and don't let it affect your self-worth. You deserve much better! OOP: Thank you. I was anxious about it, but then I thought of all the people who told me they also feel that way about smell. So I'm not going to dwell on it. OOP on the financial background involved and if the ex has bought something for him OOP: I think we just come from different financial backgrounds, and maybe she doesn't understand my situation is different from hers. + She has bought me things though. She bought me a new pair of shoes, which is more expensive than a grocery run. They're really nice shoes. OOP responds to a downvoted commenter regarding the goals in a relationship OOP: I think that in the future I want to date a woman that likes being thought of as sexy and that wants me to be sexy for her. Not all the time, obviously but sometimes. I think this experience taught me that is something I value in a partner.   ----NEW UPDATE---- Update #2 January 28, 2026 (3.5 weeks later) Hi! I just want to thank you all for the feedback. I think this is the right place for second updates. You all helped me figure out a really confusing experience. I broke up with my girlfriend three weeks ago and have been on a few dates since then. She texted me a few hours ago asking to give us another shot. If it wasn't for all the feedback you guys gave me I probably would have taken her up on the offer. Keeping in mind what she said about me, I turned her down. She said she noticed some alarming patterns in me and that she might have overreacted. I told her I understand and that it's okay, but I'm interested in dating some more. She said the grass isn't always greener on the other side and we know we're compatible. I disagreed with her and said we aren't actually compatible because of the housing situation. She said she is willing to give me another shot, and if we work out in six months to a year we can move in together. I still said no. I definitely would have agreed before I read all your comments, so yeah, thanks again. I have a couple of dates scheduled for this weekend, a first and a second. Wish me luck! Top Comments Commenter 1: Your ex is Insane AND she is not having any luck dating. I think she made you break up w her so you’re the bad guy and she could date someone else who once she had him was not as good as you. Block her and move on Commenter 2: Good for you mate, well done. Wish you all the best Commenter 3: You dodged a bullet. The things she doesn’t like about you are so juvenile. Her grass is greener comments have her away… I think she realized that based on your last conversations you were more gullible than most men are because you’re young and liked her. She realized that someone smelling nice or living with roommates when young are some pretty bog standard aspects of a relationship and life. Her overreacting and jump to pathologizing you was unhinged and that’s never a person you want to be in a relationship with… you can’t rationalize with that.   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/Spiritual-Grocery641 Originally posted to r/AITAH AITAH for buying my girlfriend vanilla shampoo? Thanks to u/queenlegolas for suggesting this BoRU Original Post: January 4, 2026 My girlfriend uses a few different types of shampoo and alternates between them. One of them, a vanilla scented one, is my favorite. She asked me to pick up some things for her at the store, and on my way to check out I saw the vanilla shampoo and grabbed that too. When I got back to her apartment, she started putting away the things I bought. She was confused by the shampoo and asked me why I got it. I said that I saw it and know she uses that kind and grabbed it for her. She said she wasn't running low on shampoo. I said I know, but it doesn't expire and that one is my favorite. I teasingly said that she should use it if she's planning to wash her hair tonight. She asked what I meant by it being my "favorite." I said I like the way it makes her hair smell, like cookies. She looked a little weirded out. I asked her if she was okay. She said it was weird that I sexualized her shampoo. I said smelling nice is sexy. I asked if she thinks I'm sexier when I used nice smelling soaps and deodorants. She said not really, as long as I don't actively smell bad. I said maybe it's different for everyone. She said honestly it bothered her that something as mundane as shampoo was sexual to me. She asked me if someone else smelled like vanilla would I be attracted to them? I said no, that she was misunderstanding me. She asked me to clarify, but I don't think I did a good job. I said I specifically like the smell on her, not other people. She still seemed put out, so I headed home to give her space. Was I an asshole for buying the shampoo and telling her I like when she uses it? To me that's not weird, but maybe that's because I'm a guy. Is there a layer to this I'm not seeing? AITAH has no consensus bot, OOP received the majority of NTAs Relevant Comments Commenter 1: I would’ve thought it was sexy and cute. You’re not the AH at all. The most romantic thing my husband did for me was buy me a personal pizza with olives on it because I told him I like it but hadn’t ordered one in years because I just eat what everyone else likes and they don’t like olives. We were talking about something else and I just casually mentioned it as an aside. Three weeks later I came home and it was sitting on our kitchen island with a heart drawn on the box. It wasn’t the pizza. It was confirmation that he was listening to me and not just paying attention to his phone. Being attentive is important. OOP: I thought I was being sexy and cute too! She's my first real relationship, so I acknowledge that I'm inexperienced here, but I thought it was a very innocent way to flirt. It's not like I bought her underwear. Commenter 2: NTA. What on earth? You did something nice. She should have said thank you. My husband comments if he likes my perfume. She presumably buys the vanilla scented shampoo because she also likes the smell. Making it out like you’re some weird freak for also liking the smell is wild. It’s like she was looking for something to fight about. OOP: Yeah, I don't get it. Liking certain smells is normal, right? Isn't that the point of scented things? And perfume? It's not a creepy thing to like. Commenter 3: Does she often pick fights and criticize you like this? You did nothing wrong. Yes smelling good is sexy. I’ve had women ask me what laundry detergent I used because they loved the way my clothes smelled and wanted to be reminded of me. Your gf is being weird OOP: We fight sometimes, but not often. This is the first fight that felt completely out of left field. Usually I see where she is coming from, but this time I am so confused. Commenter 4: NTA. She’s definitely off. You love the smell of vanilla, especially on her. This isn’t odd. It doesn’t mean you want to bang the first woman you see wearing vanilla, either. Jesus. We are human. We each gravitate to particular scents. We have likes and dislikes. What’s wrong with her?!! You didn’t mention your age, hoping you’re teenagers ? OOP: I'm 19, and she's 20. Downvoted Commenter: I feel like you're definitely leaving something out here?? How long have you been together, is this the first time you told her you like a scent when it comes to her?? She clearly has some sort of trauma that probably needs to be worked through with you not judgement because she didn't respond properly to something out of the blue OOP: We started dating exclusively four months ago. No, I've told her she smells nice before. The last time we were intimate I said she smelled great, and she responded very positively to that. I didn't specifically say that it was her hair that smelled nice, so maybe she didn't realize that's what I was referring to. Commenter 5: Did she grow up conservative or really sheltered? OOP: No, her parents are very progressive. They are supportive of her bisexuality. We met once and they're very cool. Commenter 6: I don't think you're going to have a long relationship with this one she's trying to find trouble. Give her lots of space and never buy anything for her ever again so she can complain about that. Maybe ask her does she wear perfume and why? If she's worried about this why doesn't she use unscented products? I dump her she sounds like a weirdo. She will be the one to put charges against you for any minor thing. OOP: She doesn't use perfume, but she uses scented products and they all smell great. To me the scented soap smell is better than perfume, more subtle, more... I'm not sure which word to use. It's nicer. I've always liked that about her. I didn't think it was weird.   Update: January 5, 2026 (next day) So yesterday my girlfriend didn't like it that I took it upon myself to buy her vanilla shampoo when I was picking some things up for her at the store. We met up at her apartment again this morning for breakfast and I asked if we could talk about our boundaries and expectations, because I never want to make her feel uncomfortable. She agreed that we should talk. She said that when she visited her family over winter break she had time to think about our relationship and talk to her parents and sister about me. She said that space and perspective made her realize some things. The first thing she realized is that she isn't happy that we always meet at her apartment. I said I completely understand that and she is welcome to come hang out at mine. When we first started dating she didn't want to visit my apartment often because of my four roommates, but things change and I get that. She still doesn't want to hang out at my apartment because of my four roommates though. She said that my living situation is too crowded and it bothers her. I asked if she wanted me to move, and she said she would like it if I made a commitment to finding a new living situation by the next semester. Since the next semester is a long way off this isn't unreasonable, but I was hesitant. I really like my living situation. My friends and I help each other out a lot. I don't necessarily want to live alone, and it is expensive. She can afford to live alone, but I don't necessarily think I could. I explained that I didn't think I could afford it. She suggested I ask my parents for money, which isn't an option. She also pointed out that I have a part-time job, but that doesn't make me enough money to pay for my own apartment. I asked if me spending too much time at her apartment is the only issue, because I felt like there was more to the shampoo thing. She said yes, that she didn't like that. She said she didn't like the idea that I'm constantly thinking about having sex with her, and that it made her feel disrespected. I said I'm not constantly thinking about having sex with her. I told her it's more that I really like her, and sometimes she does things and I think they are sexy, but that doesn't mean I necessarily want to have sex at that moment. It's just my internal monologue going "that was sexy." That wasn't the right way to explain it. She didn't seem to understand where I was coming from. She asked me what was going through my head when I was at the store and if I was thinking about having sex with her. I said I was thinking about the store, the items I needed to buy, inflation, etc, and then I saw the shampoo and I thought about how she uses it and it makes her hair smell amazing, and I bought it. She asked if I specifically thought about the way her hair smelled the last time we had sex, and I said yes, but it wasn't like I had a full sex fantasy in the store. It was a momentary thought. She said that isn't normal and I might have tourettes or ADHD or OCD or some other condition that causes intrusive thoughts. I'm really glad I made the last post because I was worried about what she said, but then I remembered all the commentators that mentioned also feeling the same way about scents. I told her I posted about our conversation in an anonymous online forum and several people feel the same way I do about smell. I said I think it is normal to feel that way about scents, but maybe it isn't ubiquitous. She said it isn't normal, and I might want to talk to a doctor about potentially having hypersexuality. Between her not liking my living situation and her not liking that I am attracted to her smell (which is probably my fault because I wasn't doing a good job of explaining things) I realized we just weren't compatible. I told her I thought maybe we had different needs for a relationship and maybe would be better as friends. She said she was disappointed in me but that she agreed. We hugged it out. I am a little bummed, but we were only dating for four months. Thanks for being my normalcy barometer, since I don't have one for relationships yet. Relevant Comments Commenter 1: Buddy, she wanted you to tank your financial situation for a relationship of four months??? I know you like this woman, but you dodged a bullet. And liking how someone smells is perfectly normal. 🤦🏽‍♀️ OOP: I think she was just communicating. She wants a partner that has their own place. It's fair for her to let me know that. That doesn't work for me right now, so we aren't compatible. That doesn't make her wrong or a bad girlfriend, just not the right girlfriend for me, and right now I'm not the right boyfriend for her. Commenter 2: You handled that well and you both made the right call. Thank you for the update. She said that isn't normal and I might have Tourette’s or ADHD or OCD or some other condition that causes intrusive thoughts Don’t listen to this. OOP (downvoted): I think I just did a bad job of explaining myself. I think she was imagining that I'm constantly seeing things that make me think about having sex with her. It's more that my mind (and I think this is very common) is a stream of thought. I'm constantly thinking about a lot of things. Every once in a while a thought will be sexual, but it isn't constant, and it doesn't effect my ability to do regular things. I just had trouble verbalizing that to her. Commenter 3: You did the right thing. She clearly has issues: "hypersexuality" indeed! You just dodged a long-term bullet. Hopefully your next girlfriend will be saner... OOP: Well it's a new semester, so I will have the chance to meet a lot of new people and hopefully click with someone nice! Commenter 4: Scent is the sense that is directly linked to memory and emotion, much more so than our other senses, so your reaction was perfectly normal. It's pretty fucked up she'd try to turn a very human response into you having a medical condition, I hope you see that and don't let it affect your self-worth. You deserve much better! OOP: Thank you. I was anxious about it, but then I thought of all the people who told me they also feel that way about smell. So I'm not going to dwell on it. OOP on the financial background involved and if the ex has bought something for him OOP: I think we just come from different financial backgrounds, and maybe she doesn't understand my situation is different from hers. + She has bought me things though. She bought me a new pair of shoes, which is more expensive than a grocery run. They're really nice shoes. OOP responds to a downvoted commenter regarding the goals in a relationship OOP: I think that in the future I want to date a woman that likes being thought of as sexy and that wants me to be sexy for her. Not all the time, obviously but sometimes. I think this experience taught me that is something I value in a partner.   Latest Update here: BoRU #2   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

My girlfriend uses a few different types of shampoo and alternates between them. One of them, a vanilla scented one, is my favorite. She asked me to pick up some things for her at the store, and on my way to check out I saw the vanilla shampoo and grabbed that too. When I got back to her apartment, she started putting away the things I bought. She was confused by the shampoo and asked me why I got it. I said that I saw it and know she uses that kind and grabbed it for her. She said she wasn't running low on shampoo. I said I know, but it doesn't expire and that one is my favorite. I teasingly said that she should use it if she's planning to wash her hair tonight. She asked what I meant by it being my "favorite." I said I like the way it makes her hair smell, like cookies. She looked a little weirded out. I asked her if she was okay. She said it was weird that I sexualized her shampoo. I said smelling nice is sexy. I asked if she thinks I'm sexier when I used nice smelling soaps and deodorants. She said not really, as long as I don't actively smell bad. I said maybe it's different for everyone. She said honestly it bothered her that something as mundane as shampoo was sexual to me. She asked me if someone else smelled like vanilla would I be attracted to them? I said no, that she was misunderstanding me. She asked me to clarify, but I don't think I did a good job. I said I specifically like the smell on her, not other people. She still seemed put out, so I headed home to give her space. Was I an asshole for buying the shampoo and telling her I like when she uses it? To me that's not weird, but maybe that's because I'm a guy. Is there a layer to this I'm not seeing? submitted by /u/Spiritual-Grocery641 to r/AITAH [link] [comments]

I have thick, straight hair and it gets oily 2 days after I've washed it. I wash it once a week. Thank you 🙂 submitted by /u/Both-Individual7817 to r/Haircare [link] [comments]

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/Super-Doughnut-8859 Originally posted to r/AITAH Previous BoRUs: #1 [Final New Update]: AITAH for not letting my roommate’s boyfriend shower at our place anymore? Thanks to u/queenlegolas for suggesting this BoRU Editor's note: added paragraph breaks and made small edits for ease of readability. removed older relevant comments for more space in this latest BoRU Trigger Warnings: mentions drug dealing, invasion of privacy, manipulation, accusations of controlling behavior, destruction of property Mood Spoilers: positive at the end RECAP Original Post: June 10, 2025 so I (21f) live in a two bedroom flat with my roommate (22f). we’ve lived together for a little over a year and mostly things have been fine. we split rent and bills evenly, and we’re friendly, though not super close. we respect each other’s space and it’s been good up until recently. about six months ago, she started dating this guy (24m). he was around once or twice a week at first but now he’s here constantly. literally sleeps over 5 to 6 nights a week, sometimes full weeks in a row. he’s not on the lease, doesn’t pay rent, doesn’t bring shopping, doesn’t help with anything at all. nothing. I’ve never said much because I get it, it’s her boyfriend, and I didn’t want to start drama. but what’s been bothering me lately is the shower thing. he showers ALL of the time. like twice a day minimum. sometimes more. and every single time, he uses my stuff. my shampoo, conditioner, face wash, razor, deodorant (yes, I noticed). I didn’t even say anything the first few times because I thought maybe she let him borrow something once. but this is just ongoing now. I’ve moved all my things into my room and carry them back and forth like I’m at a camp or something. I brought it up to my roommate a while ago and she just went “he probably didn’t realize” and didn’t do anything about it. last week I finally said something more direct and told her I wasn’t comfortable with him showering here constantly, especially since he doesn’t live here, doesn’t contribute anything, and uses my stuff. I told her I’d feel different if he at least bought his own stuff or chipped in somehow. she got super annoyed and said he doesn’t have any money right now so it’s not like he can buy his own things, and that I was being cold and controlling. she told me I was overreacting and that it’s “just hygiene.” I snapped and said it’s not about hygiene, it’s about boundaries and respect. for what it’s worth, I wouldn’t have even minded grabbing him some basics if she just asked but she didn’t, and neither did he. they just assumed I’d be fine with it. and honestly I don’t even really like him. he’s not awful, just kinda moochy and not self aware at all. so maybe I’m being harsh because I already find him annoying? now my roommates barely speaking to me and told one of our mutual friends that I’m being weirdly territorial and passive aggressive over a guy “taking a quick shower.” I don’t know. part of me feels bad because he is broke and maybe I’m being too harsh, but I also feel like I’m being walked over in my own home. I just need unbiased advice. so aitah? (throwaway account for anonymity, my normal reddit account has my name)   Update #1: June 10, 2025 (same day, four hours later) so, I ended up having another conversation with my roommate after she got home, mostly because I couldn’t keep walking around like everything’s fine when it’s really not, and the comments I read from my previous post helped me to come to that conclusion. I told her as calmly as I could that this situation is seriously getting to me. I get it that she’s in love, but I’m not just some side character in her life who has to deal with the boyfriend constantly being in our home. I told her flat out that it’s been months now of him basically living here. eating, showering, lounging around, sleeping over 5-6 nights a week and it’s crossing the line. she just kind of blinked at me and said I was being heartless. literally said those exact words. saying I had no compassion for her relationship or for him, or the fact he had barely any money and needed somewhere to stay most days and needed food etc. she accused me of being dramatic and of caring more about shampoo than a person who means the world to her. and I just snapped. I told her this is not about shampoo. it’s about the fact that her boyfriend, who doesn’t pay rent, doesn’t contribute to bills and isn’t even on the lease, has been using all of my personal stuff for months without asking. like literally never asked, not once and neither did she. he just started helping himself to my shampoo, my conditioner, my razor, my face wash and my deodorant like I’m running a free hotel and he’s a guest. and the worst part is he barely even talks to me. this man’s been living in my space for months and I swear we’ve had maybe two conversations ever. half the time he doesn’t even say hi when he walks in the door and just walks straight past me like I’m invisible and hops in the shower with my products like it’s no big deal. I can’t believe I have put up with it for this long. I told her if either of them had asked even just once I probably would’ve been chill about it. like yeah, he’s broke I get it because times are hard. I would’ve even offered to grab him a few basics if he was short on cash, but no one said anything. they just silently decided it was okay for him to mooch off of me and my stuff and my space without so much as a conversation like I don’t get a say in any of this. she got super defensive, like arms crossed and full of attitude and said something like “well, he’s my boyfriend and I’m allowed to have him over. it’s my home too.” and I said yeah you are allowed to have him over but let’s not pretend like he’s just here “sometimes.” he’s always here. he’s been here more nights than not for the past few months, and when he’s not sleeping over he’s still around. he’s basically moved in without actually moving in. and if he’s gonna act like he lives here, then he needs to contribute like he lives here. she just rolled her eyes and said and I quote, “get used to it. he’s my boyfriend, and as I said before he has barely any money so wouldn’t be able to contribute anything.” and that was it for me. I’ve been so patient. I’ve tried to be understanding. I’ve given them the benefit of the doubt over and over again. but at this point I feel completely disrespected and walked over in my own home. I’ve realised I’m not overreacting I’m reacting to months of not being heard and being treated like I don’t matter. I’m calling our landlord tomorrow morning. I’m going to explain that this guy has effectively moved in, he’s been staying here for weeks on end, using the amenities, taking up space, and not paying a single penny toward rent or bills. and if he’s going to keep staying here, he needs to start paying his share. I didn’t want it to come to this, but I’m not going to keep carrying the weight of a third person in this flat just because my roommate’s in a relationship. she made it clear she’s not going to do anything about it, so now I have to. thank you for your responses on the previous post, it really helped me come to terms with the situation!   Update #2: June 11, 2025 (next day) Thank you guys for all of your help and comments on my prior posts!!! And yes if you can tell I’ve taken on board the advice about paragraphs and capitalisation lol sorry I’m so used to typing with no capitals and just totally forgot about paragraphs in the stress of me typing it all out. I appreciate everyone who took the time to comment on my last post. It honestly helped me feel so much less crazy about all of this! So like I said I would, this morning I spoke to my landlord. I was so anxious before calling because I didn’t want it to feel like I was like tattling or trying to blow things up but I also knew I couldn’t ignore it any longer. He picked up quickly and was actually really calm and professional about everything. I explained the situation as clearly and fairly as I could and told him that my roommate’s boyfriend has been staying over 5–6 nights a week (sometimes more), using all of our utilities, taking over our shared space and even using my personal things like it’s all free despite not paying a single penny toward rent or bills or even any shopping. The landlord paused for a moment and then told me that it wasn’t okay. He told me that technically under the lease guests are allowed for short stays like the occasional overnight or weekend. But then said that’s very different from someone else effectively living in the flat, and that if someone is staying over more than a couple nights a week on a consistent basis that counts as an unofficial tenant. He said that if my roommate wants him there full time, he needs to be added to the lease and start contributing to rent and bills immediately. Otherwise, he said her boyfriend will have to seriously cut back on how often he’s staying over and if my roommate refuses to cooperate or tries to keep things as they are it could result in her being in breach of the lease agreement. He said she could face consequences, including possible eviction if this continues without resolution!! That honestly shook me a little, but also validated that I’m not overreacting. Now onto the more awkward part!! A few hours ago at around 5pm her boyfriend showed up again. As he came in and went to walk past me like usual, I stopped him and said I needed to talk to him. He looked caught off guard and kind of gave me that fake confused “about what?” expression, but I stood firm and said I just needed to clear the air. I told him I’d noticed he’s been staying here constantly and using all my stuff such as my shampoo, my face wash, my razor (and yes I got a new razor the same day I noticed he was using mine), deodorant, all of it without ever asking. I said I was really uncomfortable with it, especially since he’s not on the lease or contributing anything. That’s when he got defensive. He didn’t yell or anything, but his tone immediately turned snappy and kind of guilt trippy. He said something like that he was sorry he didn’t have somewhere else to go right now and that he was in a deep place. He then said that he wasn’t trying to make my life hard and that he was just trying to survive. Then he launched into this whole monologue about how he’s unemployed, struggling with his mental health, that his family all cut him off, he can barely afford food let alone shampoo, and how my attitude is just “another example of people turning their backs on someone who’s already at rock bottom.” He even asked if I think he wants to be in this position, or if I think he feels good about the way he lives, like I was supposed to feel guilty for bringing it up. I stayed calm and told him that I wasn’t trying to kick him whilst he’s down. And that if he had just asked me I probably would’ve said yes and I might’ve even bought him some basics. But he didn’t ask and he just started helping himself, like it was owed to him. He didn’t really have a response to that, other than shrugging and muttering that he didn’t think it was a big deal and that my roommate told him it was fine. I said it is a big deal to me. This is my home too, and he has been treating it like a free house that he’s allowed to live in and that’s not sustainable anymore. I told him my landlord’s going to get involved now and things will have to change. Either he gets added to the lease and starts paying his share, or he stops staying over all the time. And if neither my roommate could end up being evicted. He got quiet after that. Gave me some annoyed half apology and went into her room. Honestly, I think he was more embarrassed than anything. But I’m not backing down now because I’ve done my part and I’ve been patient. I’ve communicated like an adult, so what happens next is on them. No word yet from my roommate after her convo with the landlord (which I assume happened as my landlord doesn’t usually say stuff and not follow through with it) and she still hasn’t come back home which leads me to the belief that she’s furious. That said I’m done prioritising her comfort over my own peace of mind as I’ve been more than fair. I will update again if/when my roommate says anything to me. Also, I’ve officially locked my shower stuff away and the snacks that I had previously bought which were my snacks I bought with my money. I went to Argos this morning and got one of those little lockable storage boxes and slid it under my bed as some of you suggested. I made a very unique four digit code for it too, so hopefully my roommate’s boyfriend doesn’t go to the extreme of trying to open and snoop through a locked box! Thank you so much for all of your comments and constructive criticism of my non capitals and paragraphs (sorry), but hopefully this is easier to read!!   Update #3: June 11, 2025 (same day, two hours later) Thank you for all your comments and positivity on my previous posts!! I’m hoping this will all blow over soon as confrontation is not my thing in general, and this is a situation I really don’t want to be in as I don’t want to be the reason someone whose already struggling ends up on the streets. And before I get into the latest update, I did see a comment asking why I didn’t just ask her why he doesn’t use her stuff and the answer is because he already does lol!! He uses both of our stuff whenever he feels like it but for some reason it’s mostly mine he grabs. Anyways, my roommate came home about an hour ago, just before 12pm and it was obvious from the second she walked through the door that she was furious. She slammed the front door shut, slammed her keys a little too hard onto the side table, and threw her bag down. I was in the living room at the time and the energy shift was instant. I waited a moment, then came out from the living room, said hello and asked as gently as I could if everything was okay. She didn’t answer right away and just stood there with her jaw clenched before blurting out that she couldn’t believe I actually called our landlord. And then asked me why I was being so dramatic. I stayed calm and said that I had already told her I was going to if nothing changed and that I didn’t go behind her back. She gave this bitter laugh and said something along the lines of: “Yeah well now thanks to that our landlord told me in no uncertain terms that [boyfriend’s name] is not allowed to stay more than two nights a week anymore unless he starts paying rent.” She was absolutely livid. She asked me if I even understood what that meant. And then said he literally has nowhere else to go right now and he’s been staying here because he doesn’t have a home, not because they were trying to take advantage of me or something. She kept telling me he was struggling and would have no money to pay rent or bills and now what, is he supposed to just wander around in the cold at night and freeze to death while you (AND I QUOTE), “sleep soundly knowing your shampoo’s safe and sound.” That last line was so sarcastic it would’ve been funny if it wasn’t so frustrating and guilt tripping. I took a deep breath and said that it was not about the shampoo, it was about how he’s been here constantly like literally living here without ever being asked to contribute anything and literally had barely even acknowledged me ever. I mentioned that I tried to talk to her about it twice and she blew it off both times. What else was I supposed to do? She crossed her arms and looked at me like I was the most cold hearted person alive. She told me he was her boyfriend, and of course she would want him here. That he’s going through so much and now I’ve made it so he feels completely unwelcome. She told me his family just cut him off one day with no reason and all of his friends stopped talking to him too and apparently treated him awfully (which in my opinion seems ironic but maybe that’s just me lol). Apparently he called her after I confronted him earlier and told her he’s going to stay at a friend’s place tonight and he sounded like he was about to cry before he hung up the phone, then said this was just another example of people not giving a f*ck about him when he needs it most. I literally didn’t even hear him leave so he must have crept out lol. I could feel the guilt tripping in every word. But honestly, I’ve reached the point where I’m done letting it work on me. I said that I was sorry he’s going through a rough time. But this is my home too. I pay rent, I pay bills. I keep this place going just like she does. I’m not an extra in her relationship. She brought someone into this space without asking, let him treat it like it’s his, and didn’t lift a finger when it started affecting me. That’s not okay. She went quiet at that, still clearly annoyed but with nothing left to say that wouldn’t sound like more of the same. After a few seconds she just said, “I hope you’re happy,” and walked off into her room, slamming the door behind her. I’m not happy. I didn’t want it to come to this. But I’m also not sorry. I’ve been way more patient than I should’ve been, and I’ve tried to handle this like an adult. I don’t think her boyfriend feeling “unwelcome” is because I’m cruel, it’s because they’ve both acted like the rules don’t apply to them and that’s not my fault. So I guess this is where things stand for now. Tense, awkward, and probably about to get worse before they get better! But I feel like I can see the horizon of no more stolen shampoo, and hopefully this will all be over soon!!! Thank you for all of your comments, they mean a lot to me :-)   Update #4: June 13, 2025 (two days later) Hi again everyone! I just wanted to say thank you again for the incredible support, advice and unbiased opinions you’ve given me throughout this whole mess of a time. I’ve read every single comment on my last few posts and it’s been genuinely eye opening in a beautiful way to realise how many people have been able to offer advice when my head was spinning!! So, it’s been tense but quiet since my last post. My roommate has barely spoken to me and things have mostly been awkward silence or heavy sighs. I’ve kept my boundaries up and stayed polite but we both clearly needed space. Yesterday, my roommate and her boyfriend (yes he was over, to “collect something of his”) had a huge argument. I wasn’t eavesdropping, but it was loud enough that I couldn’t not hear it as our walls are thin and they were yelling. He was accusing her of being a bad girlfriend for not sticking up for him when I talked to our landlord, or sticking up for him when I raised an issue (which she did lol?) He actually said that she let me humiliate him and that she didn’t even defend him and said I have made him look pathetic. He went full guilt trip, saying she’d betrayed him and that real partners are supposed to protect each other. He said he felt humiliated, abandoned and that she clearly didn’t care about him at all. It was like watching someone weaponise hurt feelings just to control his narrative!!!! She was crying and trying to explain but he kept cutting her off and then suddenly boom he slammed the door and stormed out. She followed shortly after. I thought that was probably the end of the drama for the night. I genuinely felt bad for her in that moment. But then at like 2am this morning she came stumbling in tipsy and immediately started shouting at me. She slurred something about me just being jealous and mad because I don’t have a boyfriend. I literally couldn’t be further from being jealous of her and her boyfriend as he seems to be so cruel and guilt tripping towards her!! Then she said it’s because I can’t stand seeing her happy so I ruin it for her. Then she called me bitter, pathetic, and said I was sabotaging her relationship because I’m lonely. I didn’t even say anything and I just sat there stunned. She then stomped off to her room and passed out cold. This morning I woke up to find her sitting at the kitchen table looking rough. She was hungover and clearly very low. She mumbled something about how she doesn’t know what to think anymore and then said she thinks that her boyfriend is only with her for her money. I was genuinely trying to be kind, as I felt bad for her and it must be a tough situation to be in. I told her I was sorry she felt like that, and that she deserves better if that’s how she’s feeling. I thought we were having a real moment. But then she looked me dead in the eye and said literally, and I quote, “This is your fault.” My jaw dropped. I literally said “Excuse me?” and she repeated it. She said if I hadn’t “blown everything out of proportion,” and gone to our landlord, none of this would’ve happened and her boyfriend wouldn’t be angry with her. And then said I ruined everything. And in that moment, I realised this wasn’t fair. I’ve been nothing but fair and I’ve tried so hard to set boundaries respectfully, communicate like an adult and not cause drama. I’ve gone out of my way to make this place livable and still got blamed for everything. And now I’m being guilt tripped because her boyfriend treats the flat like a free hotel and she’s too far gone to see it. Which brings me to the next part of this post. Our lease is up for renewal on August 1st. Our landlord emailed us both yesterday with a standard renewal reminder and asked us to let him know by July 1st if we’re planning to stay, so he has time to prep the paperwork or start listing the flat. I’ve thought long and hard about this, and I have come to the conclusion that I don’t want to live with her anymore. Even if her boyfriend disappears tomorrow, the trust and respect is gone and the ability to feel comfortable in my own home is hanging by a thread. I won’t be renewing my half. Whether I find a new place alone or with someone else, I’m not staying here. I haven’t told her yet because I’m not in the mood to get screamed at again, but I’ll be giving proper notice soon and reaching out to our landlord to clarify the process. I’ll do it properly and respectfully but I know that I will no longer live here. I’ve mentally committed, and this weekend I’m going to start the flat/house share search. I’m equal parts nervous and excited!! Nervous because I’m in a very good location right now and the rent isn’t cheap but reasonable for what it is. I know I might not get quite as lucky again, especially solo but I’d rather pay a little more than keep sacrificing my sanity lol. If anyone has any tips or suggestions for websites to search for flatshares/house shares in the UK, I’d massively appreciate them. I’ve got: SpareRoom (seems the most legit but can be competitive), Rightmove (good for full flats, not so much for house shares), OpenRent, Roomgo (has anyone used this recently?) and a few local FB groups I’m cautiously dipping into. I’m also wondering if anyone’s had better luck starting as a group of renters looking to sign together rather than joining an existing one? I’d love to hear any experiences, good or bad!! I’m still sad that it came to this because this flat could have been a dream but I know I’m making the right decision. I deserve a space that feels like mine or at least one I’m not constantly being pushed out of emotionally. So yeah wish me luck!! And if anyone knows of a spare room in a chill flat with non toxic housemates and boundaries that are respected feel free to manifest it into the universe for me hahaha. Thank you to everyone who’s commented and supported me through this absolutely bonkers situation. You made me feel sane and reminded me that I deserve to feel safe, respected and comfortable in my own home!!!   Update #5: June 28, 2025 (15 days later) Hi everyone! If you’ve followed any of my previous posts (first of all thank you), you’ll know it’s been a tense, chaotic and honestly emotionally exhausting time dealing with my roommate and her boyfriend essentially living rent free in my flat while I’ve slowly been pushed out of my own space and sanity. The messages and comments you’ve left me throughout have genuinely meant so much to me! A lot has happened in the last two weeks and I wanted to update you properly!!! Things have continued to be awkward. Very, very painfully awkward. Since my last post where my roommate drunkenly accused me of sabotaging her relationship and said everything was “my fault,” she’s barely spoken a word to me. I think we’ve exchanged maybe two sentences since then and they were both household things like “Have you seen the post?” or “The boiler man’s coming on Thursday.” Her boyfriend has still been around, despite what was said. Not as much as before because they’re definitely trying to keep it under the radar now that the landlord’s aware. She’s clearly choosing to keep him in her life and that’s her decision but I can’t pretend it doesn’t suck to come home and feel that tension in the air every day. To be fair he hasn’t touched any of my stuff since the confrontation, probably out of shame or fear I’ll report him again but the atmosphere hasn’t improved. She still looks at me like I’m the villain in her love story and I’m honestly just so tired of being cast in that role. Now here’s where things improve. After I gave notice to my landlord that I wouldn’t be renewing the lease, he asked if I was planning on staying in the area and I said yes. I’ve been flat hunting nonstop online (SpareRoom mostly though it’s a bloodbath) but nothing quite felt right. A few days after my last post, I was reading through the comments (which again, thank you for, you redditors are wiser than most real life advice I’ve had!) and a few people suggested I ask the landlord if there were any other units available in the same building. I hadn’t even thought of that to be honest. I assumed everything around here was taken but I figured I had nothing to lose by asking. So I emailed him just casually saying that before I committed to moving out of the building entirely I wanted to check if there were any other units becoming available around the same time. He replied the next day saying that one of the flats just upstairs (literally one floor above us) was going to be vacant from mid July. Same layout, same rent, same everything but slightly newer kitchen fittings and a nicer view (less bin alley and more rooftops). He even offered me a first viewing since I was a current tenant and had always paid rent on time. I was honestly stunned. Same building, same landlord, same floor plan and no drama roommate.. SIGN ME UP. I viewed the new unit last week. It’s still a two bedroom, which works perfectly because my friend (23F) who I’ve known since sixth form and who’s been looking to move out of her current house share is looking to move around the same time. We had a little catch up to talk about it and realised our timelines lined up almost perfectly. She came to view it with me the second time around and loved it. We signed the lease together this past Wednesday and we officially get the keys on July 17th!! Now here’s the cherry on top. My current roommate isn’t renewing her lease either. Apparently after all the landlord stuff happened she decided she doesn’t want to stay in the building anymore. I’m guessing she doesn’t want to be under the same roof as me (or the landlord who now knows about her boyfriend’s extended stays). She mentioned in passing (very passive aggressively) that she’s moving somewhere with fewer rules whatever that means. So as it stands she’s moving out, I’m moving into a new unit one floor up, and we’ll no longer be flatmates. I haven’t told her where I’m moving yet. I didn’t lie but I also didn’t feel like I owed her explanation you know. When she asked if I’d found anywhere yet I just said that I’ve sorted it with the landlord and left it at that. If she finds out I’m literally upstairs that would be slightly awkward. Just to paint a realistic picture for anyone reading who’s UK based or curious, here’s how the process is going down. I formally gave my 30 day notice in writing to the landlord as soon as I decided not to renew. He accepted it and noted that my tenancy ends on July 31st. The landlord already knows me (obviously) and I’ve paid rent on time for over a year so getting the new lease was smooth. No agency faff this time which I’m so grateful for, it was just a standard credit check and ID confirmation. Because it’s the same landlord and he uses a registered deposit scheme he’s allowing the deposit from this unit to be “rolled over” into the new flat pending an inspection of this one. So if I leave this place in good condition, I won’t have to cough up another full deposit (LIFESAVER). We’re getting the keys to the new flat on July 17th even though this lease ends on the 31st. That gives me two full weeks of overlap to move gradually, clean and avoid a stress meltdown. My dad even offered to drive up with his car to help with the heavier stuff (hero). My friend’s lease ends around the same time, so we’ll be moving in together over the same weekend. I’ve already sorted my council tax and utilities with the landlord, he’ll notify the local council and we just need to set up the new water/electric/internet accounts from the 17th. We’ll split it 50/50 just like I always hoped I could. Honestly I feel so thankful. Knowing I won’t have to be in a flat where I’m constantly tiptoeing around a VERY moody roommate and her (as you say) hobosexual boyfriend is such a relief. I’m very excited to decorate a new space and set new boundaries from day one! Me and my friend already talked openly about how we want to divide shared costs (groceries will be our own, cleaning rota, guests can stay but within reason etc), and it feels normal. I could actually cry at the idea of normal. So now I’m prepping for the move. Starting to box up non essentials, deep cleaning little bits each day and honestly enjoying the idea of creating a new space from scratch. I’ve started making Pinterest boards for our new living room and my bedroom!! I’ll probably do a little post move update once we’re in and settled. Thank you to every single person who read, commented, DM’d or just rooted for me in the background. I owe you all a virtual hug :D   ----NEW UPDATE---- Editor's note: the body text for the latest update was saved before it got removed (due to the AITAH rules) Update #6 (final?): November 28, 2025 (five months later) Hey everyone! I can’t believe it’s been about so long since my last post it literally feels like a lifetime ago. I wanted to give you all a proper final update because so many of you followed along and supported me through what was one of THE most stressful periods of my life. Life is so much better now. I moved into the new flat upstairs with my friend back in July and it has been nothing short of amazing. It is really such a breath of fresh air. We actually talk things through, respect each other’s space, split bills on time and most importantly clean up after ourselves! We set boundaries right from day one and we have fully stuck to them and not argued once about anything. Onto the probably inevitable question: what happened to my old roommate and her boyfriend? They didn’t last long after my last post. I found out through a mutual friend that they officially broke up not too long ago - like a month or two ago? Apparently things got really toxic between them (well more than it already was). But he got arrested!!! Him and many others were caught doing a lot of cocaine supplying. Lol like really a lot of it. When I heard I didn’t know what to say at all because I was shocked but also not surprised if that makes sense??? As for my old roommate, she’s moved out of the area completely. I don’t know where exactly and I haven’t asked. After she left, she blocked me on Instagram and only Instagram which is weird lol. Thank you to everyone who interacted with my posts and commented or messaged me etc!!! I really appreciate it and I’m so happy this is all finally over! :-)   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

Hi everyone, I’d love to get some honest opinions on this. I’m trying to simplify my life and get rid of unnecessary products, whether it’s cleaning, skincare, makeup or now, hair care. I just want a routine that’s time-efficient, because honestly, I’m getting tired of spending so much of my youth washing/caring for my hair instead of being out enjoying the city. So, here’s my question: do we really need clarifying shampoos? The whole concept seems a bit strange to me. If a shampoo’s job is to clean my scalp, why would I need another one that supposedly cleans it more deeply? Doesn’t that mean my regular shampoo isn’t doing its job properly? It feels a bit like being told to use a super face cleanser once a month or bi-weekly, even though you already wash your face every day. Do you see what I mean? I’m genuinely curious whether clarifying shampoos are just a marketing trick to make us spend more, or if they’re a truly useful addition, like bond repair treatments "recently", that actually improve a routine. Where do you all stand on this? submitted by /u/DelightfulFrenzy to r/Naturalhair [link] [comments]

Look…. I’m in my 30s. And I just discovered that I’m not properly washing/conditioning my hair correctly!!!! It sounds so stupid!!! But ever since I could remember I have had oily hair and have been battling it with washing it everyday and dry shampoo. I looked into clarifying shampoo and like it helped a little bit, but 24 hours later it’s be a greasy mess again!!! Then I come across a TikTok that says people with oily hair might not be rinsing out their hair all the way/ using too much shampoo or conditioner, and therefore leaving an oily residue on your strands So I thought well, let’s give it a try….. I fucking washed my hair, and fucking sectioned said hair into several parts when rinsing the shampoo out for a hair, used the smallest fraction of my usual amount of conditioners, and again sectioned while rinsing. literally took 15 minutes to make sure everything was out of it…. And you know what….. My hair looks fucking fabulous!!!! I’m so fucking pissed off and embarrassed! I’m literally on day 2 and it still looks so fucking good!!!! I’m also upset!!! Do you know how many times I’ve just put my hair up in a bun because no other hairstyle looked good on me???? So you know how many times I’ve given up on curling my hair because my hair couldn’t hold a curl!!!! I’m thinking of all the cute hairstyles that I could have had if I had known just needed to fucking rinse my hair better for a minute or two in the shower!!! I’m in my fucking 30s!!! How did I not know how to fucking wash my hair!!!! ETA: whoa, did not realize how much this post was gonna blow up! Thank you all for your tips and advice! I’m definitely gonna be trying some of them out! Hopefully all the advice in the comments will help those out there dealing with oily hair too! ❤️ submitted by /u/DueWonder1316 to r/Vent [link] [comments]

And I'll never go back. Used my shampoo & conditioner as usual and then I did the apple cider vinegar rinse. Mixed 2 tablespoons with 1 liter (33.8 oz) of water, massaged it into my scalp & hair, let it sit for about 3 minutes and rinsed it. Towel dried it, applied my leave in as usual, let it air dry. All the stringiness is gone. It's been years since my hair looked this good. My scalp has been a bit itchy lately but neither dry nor greasy. It's supposed to solve that issue too. I think it's a hormonal thing in my case, but we'll see. Could be worth a shot, if you haven't tried it yet. submitted by /u/Boring_Donkey6433 to r/finehair [link] [comments]

Left is air dried after first shower after salon haircut and blow dry. Right is air dried after clarifying shampoo and shower. Recently posted about my hair getting “ruined” at the salon after a cut and blow dry. A lot of people said it’s just how my hair looks with shorter layers but intuitively I knew that wasn’t it. (If you could touch it the left felt like a broom! I was getting sensory issues from the ends stabbing my chest and back.) Thankfully some people said to use a clarifying shampoo and that was it! Turns out what I assumed was a heat protectant before the blow drying was “Moroccan oil original treatment” and he sprayed it liberally, giving me pretty intense product buildup in 1 session. I’ve been to plenty of hair stylists but this somehow never happened before, and I’ve also never clarified my hair before. So I was freaking out but now it’s all better :) I still have to deal with the cut being way shorter than I asked for but I’m mostly relieved now. Thank you to everyone who gave me advice on my last post! submitted by /u/CuteCourtesan to r/Haircare [link] [comments]

I couldn’t figure out why my once fine, shiny hair started to look dull, feel brittle and tangle easily. I finally went to the salon last week and my stylist told me washing my hair with a moisturizing shampoo wasn’t enough, and recommended I switch to a using a clarifying shampoo weekly (ymmv I work out 3-4x per week). Clarified my hair for the first time yesterday and my hair has literally never looked better (swipe to see what it looked like before). Maybe everyone else already knew this! But after 8 years of being natural (and surviving the bs curly girl method) I am still learning hair care basics. submitted by /u/sourdivision to r/Naturalhair [link] [comments]

alright guys..i’m looking for the best clarifying shampoo for my 3A/3B hair. which one of these is the best and WHY? explain what it did for you. submitted by /u/youdontneedtoknowxo to r/curlyhair [link] [comments]

these are the ones i’ve seen and googled that were good but, i’ve never used any of these. any recommendations on which is the best of the ones pictured? submitted by /u/Zestyclose_Onion_601 to r/Haircare [link] [comments]

Oh, the burden of clarity... I kind of just want to know what everyone's takes are on clarifying and what's worked for them versus what hasn't. I've tried a few in the past and they've been largely curly-UNfriendly. I've also been avoiding Ouai's products as they just don't work for me, be it their gentler "fine hair" shampoo or their detox one. (Also also, my body hates anything and everything, so I have to be particular about what I use.) I have fine, VERY short hair that's on the denser side. Though I'm not 100% sure I'm right about my porosity, it's probably low to medium, but it's also been damaged (but in recovery)! Shea Moisture's strengthen and restore is my go-to shampoo right now, and they advertise it as a clarifying shampoo on their site. Technically not on their bottle, but it works well enough. I use it about 2-3x a week (followed by the conditioner in the set) as I'm still messing around with products and sometimes my hair just ends up in need of a full wash sooner than later. I follow it up every 3rd wash with a deep conditioner. Unless I deep condition, I use NYM's CurlTalk leave-in conditioner to help my hair look more nourished (I've tried skipping it and the frizz was impressive). However... my hair has been getting weighed down faster than usual these past few days and I'm wondering if maybe I need a clarifying shampoo that will remove build-up more thoroughly than the SM set, especially since the latter has butters and large proteins. That got me curious about how routines vary person to person! How do you guys incorporate clarifying into your routines? I know everyone's hair is different and results will vary. I'm just curious! :) submitted by /u/laserfries to r/curlyhair [link] [comments]

I'm looking for a clarifying shampoo that can remove all the buildup from my hair without making it really dry. Sulphate, sulphate free doesn't really matter but it shouldn't contain unnecessary ingredients like silicones I've tried Pantene lively clean unfortunately it just makes my scalp itchy and red afterwards (I'm suspecting it's prob due to an allergic reaction to MIT in it). So please recommend some good clarifying shampoo, price doesn't matter much tbh just want something good that actually works submitted by /u/Infinite_Skill1 to r/IndianSkincareAddicts [link] [comments]