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Honestly, you’ll be sweaty pretty much as soon as you step off the boat. I re-wore clothes until they got a bit smelly. Not my usual operating procedure, but having even mostly fresh clothes every time you go out would mean a steamer trunk full. We showered every time we returned to the ship and I had a couple of outfits I kept “fresh” for just ship time.

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#39 these days there are non iron clothes and, if people don’t have an iron or steamer, they use a laundry/launderette service.

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... DRY CLEANING: Home and travel steamer removes odour and kills 99... to refresh between washes so clothes stay fresher and last longer... COMPACT AND FOLDABLE: Our portable steamer is light, compact and foldable... 100ML DETACHABLE WATER TANK: The steamer comes with a 100ml detachable ...

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I’m honestly getting tired of dealing with wrinkled clothes all the time, ironing just feels like too much effort now so I’m thinking of getting a garment steamer for everyday use. A sales person recommended Jiffy but I’m not sure if it’s actually worth it or just hype. I’ve also seen brands like Rowenta and Conair so now I’m confused what’s actually good. Does anyone here use a steamer at home? Does it really remove wrinkles properly or is it just for light fabrics? Just want something easy and reliable that I’ll actually use. submitted by /u/BatRevolutionary4700 to r/malefashionadvice [link] [comments]

Essentially the title. I am wondering if others have successfully replaced ironing clothes in their lives and if they have a good product they could recommend. I am looking for something with strong steam output that works well on all kinds of fabrics. thanks for any help! submitted by /u/TradeOverall567 to r/BuyItForLife [link] [comments]

I originally got my instant heat steamer for kitchen messes. Melting grease off cabinet doors, all very satisfying. Then I used it to lightly freshen up our fabric couch, and at some point my brain went, wait… isn’t this basically what a steam iron does? It doesn’t give you that super crisp, sharp shape. But for casual clothes, it looks smooth and put-together without looking overly pressed or too formal, like you really tried. The only thing I’m still figuring out is the slight dampness afterward. submitted by /u/Hernanlincon422 to r/CleaningTips [link] [comments]

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I have reached a point in adulthood where I finally admit that most of my outfits would look better if I actually dealt with wrinkles. The problem is I really hate ironing. Between dragging out the board and figuring out the right heat setting for each shirt, it feels like a whole commitment. So now I am wondering if a steamer iron for clothes is the shortcut I should have tried years ago. I borrowed one from a friend to test, and honestly, the difference in effort was surprising. I did not get runway crisp lines, but the shirts fell a lot better and the fabric looked cleaner without that “I just rolled out of bed” texture. I tried it on cotton, linen, and a couple of synthetics, and the results were good enough that I started comparing different models online. A few on Alibaba looked similar to ones I had seen at Target, just without the branding. What I am trying to figure out is whether this is actually a worthwhile upgrade for guys who want to look put together without spending half an hour ironing. Does the steamer become the thing you reach for every morning, or does the novelty fade once the rush of real life kicks in. Would love to know how it changed your routine if you made the switch. submitted by /u/Reasonable-Middle921 to r/malefashionadvice [link] [comments]

I was tired of plastic boxes breaking at the handles and the plastic seems to become brittle after a few years. And they aren't even cheap. So I bought ten old, large steamer trunks and suitcases. Some of them date back to the late 1800s. I cleaned them and mostly gave them a cosmetic makeover. On some I had to remove old moldy fabric, sand and paint the inside. I gave the handles leather grease and polished some of them up again with beeswax. Re-varnished the wood bands. They are now beautiful, solid craftsmanship storage that will probably last another hundred years. Besides that I smile every time I go to the attic, they give off a magical old-world feel. UPDATE: Thank you so much for all your kind comments! Here's a little more info about the project: 1) I bought them on online markets. In Denmark and the Nordics, steamer trunks like this aren't very expensive if you take the time to find the good deals. On average, I paid 25 EUR (about 30 USD) per suitcase. 2) The large plastic boxes I replaced were thin, a bit poor quality, low to medium price range. Not top shelf quality! 3) Luggage tags. Great idea as suggested by u/Tara-BuyMeOnce-CEO, among others. I already have a pile of old tags that I bought from a military surplus warehouse for the project. Good quality in leather and brass. They just need to be put on. (Here's a picture https://imgur.com/a/PBgzv4B ) That's what's needed to complete the project! Also the great map idea! 4) They don't smell musty :-) I've mainly bought some that were in good condition and have subsequently both cleaned them and given them surface treatments corresponding to the materials. They smell of wood, leather and varnish/wax. (In addition to that, I've thrown a desiccant packet and a french potpourri sachet in each of them, which makes them smell so nice every time we open them) 5) They are not very heavy even though they look like they are. Some of them are made of light wood (balsa/pine) and they are quite easy to handle. And they stack pretty well. 6) Our attic is dry and ventilated and mold (or rodents/insects) has fortunately never been a problem even though the temperatures can fluctuate quite a bit. Clothes and linen that we also store in them are in sealed garment bags. 7) Someone said that old suitcases could be haunted! They don't seem to be haunted (I hope - fingers crossed) But there is definitely a different atmosphere in the attic now. I know this isn't a storage solution for everyone, but for our small household it works well with the things we have. Plus we think it looks cool with some good old craftsmanship. Even though it's an attic, it might as well look good. I hope this answers some of the questions Best regards submitted by /u/r37n1w to r/BuyItForLife [link] [comments]

Hi! New host for 2 months here. We built a 500 sq ft. studio apartment on the lower level of our home: kitchenette, no laundry, major US city. This morning our guests message asking if we had an iron. I took them our iron, ironing board, and handheld clothes steamer. Now, I realize I need to put something in the closet down there. I haven't used an iron in decades, only a steamer. My husband asked if an iron would be a liability. What do you provide? Iron with board? Steamer? Both? Neither? submitted by /u/Lopsided-Wishbone606 to r/airbnb_hosts [link] [comments]

Morning all! Hubby here, after last time with the help for 40th gift ideas for my wife, I’m seeking another recommendation. A couple of years ago she got a Kmart cheap garment steamer to try it out, basically used it daily now. It tripped the house power this morning so has likely given up the ghost. Seeking recommendations for a good bang for buck home clothes steamer? TIA Edit: thanks for everyone’s help. I ended up having a flick through Marketplace from one of the suggestions and found so many! I’ve secured a 3 month old ProPress 580 (rrp over $1000) for $250. Legends, thanks again ladies for your help and time. submitted by /u/Present_Standard_775 to r/AusFemaleFashion [link] [comments]

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Recently my iron broke down so I needed to buy a new one, my friend told me to get a steamer instead as it's much quicker. I mostly wear sweatshirts, sweatpants and cotton tshirts. Will a steamer be able to remove most wrinkles off clothes that have a thick material? I'm seriously getting tired of ironing as my schedule is more busy now than ever. submitted by /u/Tanay2513 to r/malefashionadvice [link] [comments]

I was interested in purchasing a garment steamer. Sales person in high end department store said they work amazing and she has one for her home use. Anyone have a Jiffy steamer and which model do you have? Does it get it wrinkled out well? Is it only for delicate clothing? Any suggestions advice is welcome! Thanks! submitted by /u/Sunshine33X to r/BuyItForLife [link] [comments]

All they do is make your clothes a little less wrinkled. It is a poor substitute for being able to use steam and press the wrinkles out of your clothes leaving them crisp looking. I would 1000x rather iron. submitted by /u/OkWestern188 to r/unpopularopinion [link] [comments]

Bailey wants us all not to worry about her wrinkly clothes. But doesn’t understand that not all electronic devices have a voltage converter and can be used abroad. The steamer she linked says in the description that this can short circuit in Europe submitted by /u/Cornishpixies to r/McKnightFamSnark [link] [comments]

Theres a party theme called “my favorite thing” and everybody brings in an item in a price range they thought was neat/helpful and actually use and bring 2 of them. Everybody presents their item and has 2 of them. Once presentations are done people get to pick 2 items white elephant style. In line with that, what was something 20-30$ that was surprisingly useful? Im adding universal because i know a lot of people brought lotions or makeup in the examples but i want the range to be more broad. For me it would be a roll up toiletries bag. (16$ at Ross) I travel semi-frequently so mine is pre-packed with toiletries, my meds, a few hair tools. Its made packing for a trip much easier because i can just throw the whole bag in and not worry about packing each individual thing. submitted by /u/MyFrenchGirls to r/Gifts [link] [comments]

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I am NOT OOP. OOP is u/Unhappy_Voice_3978 Originally posted to r/AITAH BoRU #1, BoRU #2 [New Update]: AITAH If I say "No" to allowing my husband's daughter to come live with us full time? NEW UPDATE MARKED WITH ---- Trigger Warnings: bullying, mentions of physical altercations, physical assault, descriptions of torture, harm towards minor with disabilities, possible child abuse RECAP Original Post: April 10, 2024 I have been married to my husband for 6 years. We have 2 kids together (8m and 4m). Our youngest is special needs. My husband also has a daughter (12) from his previous relationship. My husband's ex has had primary custody. My husband gets SD on weekends and alternating holidays/birthdays. This past weekend, my SD asked my husband if she can come live with him fulltime. Her mom recently moved in with her fiance and his kids and there has been some friction with that from what I understand. Nothing nefarious, just new house, new rules, having to share a bedroom etc. My husband didn't give her an answer either way, he said he would look into it. When he and I were discussing it I had the following objections: SD and our kids do not get along. It is something we have worked on for years, in and out of therapy - and it just ain't happening. SD resents mine for existing, and is cruel towards my youngest for their disabilities. There have been issues with her bullying. My oldest is very protective of his little brother and hates SD for being mean to his brother. He has started physical altercations with her over it. The truth is that most of the time we have SD, I make arrangements to take the boys to visit their grandparents or husband takes her out of the house for daddy daughter time to avoid conflict. I cannot imagine how living together full time would be for them. We really don't have room. We have a 4br home. Both my husband and I wfh so we can be a caretaker for my youngest. Due to the nature of his disabilities it is really not feasible for him and my oldest to share a room. It wouldn't be safe or fair for my oldest. My SD's room is used as my wfh office space during the week. I arrange my vacation time and whatnot around her visitation so I can stay out of her space while she is here. I have to take very sensitive phone calls, and I need a closed door when I work so common areas are out and my husband uses our bedroom as his home office so that's out too. We don't currently have room in the budget to make an addition to the house or remodel non livable spaces at the moment. My husband hears my objections and understands them, but he wants to go for it and figures that everything will eventually work out. He doesn't want his daughter to think he is abandoning her. And I feel for the girl, it would be awful for your dad to say no when you ask if you can live with him! but I have my own kids to think about too and I just do not believe that her living here is in their best interest at all considering their history and our current living arrangements. Does saying "no" to this put me in evil step mom territory? EDIT: For the people who want to make me into an horrible homewrecker to go along with being an evil stepmom... Sorry to disappoint, but we did not have an affair. My husband and my stepdaughter's mom were never married. They were never in a relationship. They were friends with benefits. They bartended together, would shoot the bull, and would sometimes get drunk and fuck (my husband claims he needed beer googles cause she really isn't his 'type"). When my SD's mom found out she was pregnant she told my husband she was keeping it and asked if he wanted to be in the baby's life. They never lived together, except for a few weeks during the newborn stage to help out. Yes. I had my first before I married my husband. My husband and I were in a long term relationship when I had a birth control malfunction. My husband and I discussed what we wanted to do, and we both decided we wanted to raise the child. A few days later my husband proposed. I wanted to take time to recover from birth and wait until our kiddo was old enough to pawn him off on the grandparents for the week so husband and I could enjoy our wedding. We didn't get married until my oldest was 2. EDIT 2: Regarding my youngest son's disabilities, SD's bullying, and my oldest's starting fights since there is a lot of projection and speculation. My youngest son has both physical and mental disabilities. He uses multiple kinds of medical and therapy equipment. My SD has shoved him out of his wheel chair. She has pinched him hard enough to leave bruises. She has hit his face when he was having trouble verbalizing. Idgaf if this is "normal" sibling behavior. It is alarming enough to me that I feel it is best for my youngest to spend as little time as possible with her until this behavior completely stops (and I will say it has LESSENED quite a bit. We went through a period of it happening frequently, and it has slowed. The last incident was 2 months ago when SD grabbed my son's wheel chair and aggressively pushed him out of her way because he was blocking the hallway) One of the times that my son had started an altercation with her, was because she had told my son that his brother was not a real person and that she was going to call the hospital to have him taken away so they could perform experiments to find out what it was. She went into detail about things they would do to him. Like ripping his fingernails out. And yes, my son did lose his temper and hit her. My son was immediately disciplined (loss of tablet time) and we had an age appropriate discussion about how his heart is in the right place to want to protect his little brother but he needs to find an adult when something like that happens. This was not made up. Stepdaughter admitted she said it to my husband when he was able to sit her down and talk with her later in the day. (I am not allowed to discipline or have parenting talks with SD per biomom's wishes) I am not welcomed to be a part of SD's therapy journey, mostly per biomom's wishes. She does not want me involved. My husband has always been worried about rocking the boat with biomom on these things. So I do not know the extent of what therapeutic treatments she has had. I do know she does go to therapy during the week, and my husband has gone to sessions but it isn't something he is free to discuss with me. So I am in the dark about that. EDIT 3 - There's someone in the comments who claims to be my sister in law. They are either a troll or are mistaken. My husband is an only child. I don't have a sister in law. AITAH has no consensus bot, OOP was NTA Relevant Comments Crimsonwolf_83: NTA. It seems your Stepdaughter is the single common factor in the issues with blended families. She only wants to live full time with you because she’s been spoiled by the efforts you make to keep the peace on weekends. She’s delusional OOP: I do believe she has a very different idea of what living here full time would be than the reality of it, yes. But she's a kid. When she is here 90% of dad's attention is on her because of the visitation arrangement and interpersonal issues between her and our sons. I honestly don't think she is going to like the daily grind here anymore than she likes it at her new house. tooearlytoothink: My concern would be why she wants to leave. Is there more to this story? If she wants to leave because of abuse or neglect, then I think while her moving in may not be a permanent solution, doing nothing would make YTA. That being said, if she wants to leave for something minor like, she wasn't allowed staying up late on a weekend. Then, I think the Bio parents need to ha e a sitodsn and sort it our. OOP: She is upset that she has to share a room with her soon to be stepsister (step sister is moving out in the fall and just needs it for weekends home and holiday breaks). And biomom and her partner decided that all kids will follow the same set of rules in their household, so she has new limitations about screen time and more household responsibilities. Nothing nefarious like abuse or neglect. OOP on having all spaces for all kids including SD and should prioritize the children’s spaces over her office space OOP: The house had plenty of room for 3 kids when we bought it. Unfortunately when my son was 8 months old he had a seizure. And then very quickly after that first seizure 11 more as we raced to the emergency room. After that, all of our lives changed forever. Both my husband and I had to restructure our entire careers to provide the level of care he has needed. If I do not prioritize my desk... then none of the kids are gonna have a home. That's just the reality that we face. Both my husband and I need to work in order to keep our home, keep up with medical expenses and keep everyone housed, clothed, and fed. We've done our best to make sure that SD still feels like it is her room. It is decorated the way she wants. She has permanent personal items here. Closet full of her own clothes so she doesn't have to pack between homes. We've given her a locking trunk for privacy... But yeah. I need to have office space to keep my job. So the rule is that she clears off the desk before leaving and I put up a room divider in that corner and make myself a little cubicle when she is not here. I HAVE to have private space with a door for my job. I will be fired if I do not have that. I cannot work in common areas. My company takes client privacy and security very seriously. OOP on the relationship between her children and her husband/the father, his relationship with SD’s mom Yes, I had my first with my husband before we were married. He proposed to me after we found out I was pregnant and I wanted to take some time after the birth of our first before we got married. My husband and my SD's biomom were never married and never in a relationship. They had a casual sexual relationship.   Update #1: April 16, 2024 first post: https://old.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1c0v55o/aitah_if_i_say_no_to_allowing_my_husbands/ So last week my husband and I sat down together and talked about SD coming to live with us full time and how that would work out. It was a difficult discussion because, as some redditors had suggested, I really pushed hard for him to really think things through and figure out the obstacles. Where would he and I work? Common areas are out due to the nature of our jobs. (I can't due to employer restrictions. He does some NSFW things in his we don't want the kids to see). How were we going to handle the animosity and bullying between the kids? What consequences would be in place? We talked about what expectations would be for SD living here full time vs just weekends. About how she probably has unrealistic expectations about what the nitty gritty life here is like. We talked through very possibility we could come up with. Including out there possibilities like selling out home or separating our household and living apart for a while. We ran numbers to see how it may effect our finances. And ultimately we agreed that the answer was "not yet" with a goal for our family working towards it. And that the best course of action would be to slowly adjust the amount of time she spends in our home vs a sudden custody switch. So Fri night my husband took SD out to talk to her about everything. He explained to her that she wouldn't have her own room at our place for a couple years but that is something that is on the top of the list for home improvements once our youngest's handicap accessibility renovations are paid off. He talked to her about what expectations of living with us would be like. That she would have chores and responsibilities. And most importantly they talked about the bullying and laid down the provision that we needed to see her relationship and attitude towards her brothers improve before she can live here fulltime. SD obviously wasn't thrilled about any of this, but she said OK and that she would do better with her brothers. So Saturday I made arrangements for my parents to watch our sons, and we invited SD's mom over so we could all sit down and figure out how SD can start to spend more time here. And that is when it fell apart. Mom is NOT ok with a change in custody at all. "Absolutely not" was her answer. She took SD home early Sat. My husband tried to reach out to SD on Sun to see how she was and ask if she wanted to do their guitar lesson over skype or something since her mom took her home early, but she never responded. He called SD's mom and she informed him that SD had lost her phone privileges. So we don't really know what is going on with all that. Relevant Comments OOP on why her SD lost her phone privileges when SD was with her mother OOP: Turns out she threw her phone at her mom's face, hitting her mom and cracking the screen. Mom isn't giving it back until SD has paid off the deductible. We do have alternative forms of contact with SD at this time. OOP on her SD’s reasons for wanting to live with her dad and her. And if the biomom knew about the plans OOP: No SD's mom didn't come to us. SD asked weekend before last if she could live with us instead because her and her mom recently moved in with her mom's partner. My husband told her that we would need to discuss it and figure out if it was a possibility. We didn't talk to biomom until after we know what our answer was. As soon as mom found out SD wanted to spend more time with us, she shut it down immediately I know a lot of people have been speculating that my SD may be being abused in the comments. And I understand the concern, and I know that it can happen to ANYONE. But... I don't have any reason to believe that is happening here. Mom's new partner isn't exactly new. They've been together 5 or 6 years I think now. SD has spent lots of time with her soon to be step-dad. Moving in together is the new thing. My SD does have a good relationship with my husband and she has not confided anything to my husband about Step dad making her uncomfortable. I believe that she would (but i won't discount the possibility she wouldn't) From my understanding, the issues in her new home are more to do with having to share her bedroom with her new soon to be step sister and adjusting to a new set of household rules. OOP on what her husband does for a living *OOP: * Nothing exciting! He does video editing. He has clients who do porn. They send him the raw footage they film and he makes it into saleable videos for them and teaser trailers and stuff. He also edits youtube videos, special event videos, and even local commercials. The way we see it, everyone's money spends the same. LOL One day he edits the commercial for the local church's annual yard sale, and the next some hot chick getting a cleveland steamer. We just have to be really careful about when and where he edits the naughtier videos so none of the kids walk in on him. We try to make sure he only does those when I'm not working so he can stay behind a locked door with headphones on.   My husband and I recently found out his daughter isn't biologically his. He is spiraling. I don't know what to do.: June 22, 2024 (2 months later) My husband has a daughter that predates our relationship, we also have 2 children of our own, one of which is severely disabled. He and his daughter's bio mom never had a formal custody arrangement, but due to some recent drama and changes, it became apparent we needed to get something formal and court ordered in place. So we consulted an attorney. While on that course we discovered that my husband wasn't listed on the birth certificate. We had paternity testing done. My husband is not the biological father. He is absolutely devastated. He's spiraling. He's hurting so bad, and I can't do anything to take his pain away. We've hugged and cried together so many times this week. He's not OK. He's flip flopping through despair and anger. The anger scares me. His knuckles are all fucked up from punching something (he wouldn't talk to me about what happened). Shit is falling apart at home. My husband is in no place to be a father and partner right now. I sent our oldest to my sister's but my youngest is having a really bad week with his medical issues. I think he picks up on the stress/mood of the house. We had to go to the ER last night due to the increased seizure activity. When I came home. My husband was fucking drunk. He became belligerent and demanded I have our sons tested too. He didn't even ask how our son was doing I was so pissed off but held my tongue and walked out of the room. I left a few gatorades and some asprin next to him after he passed out. I'm trying to get him in to see a therapist. No dice so far. We haven't told SD or Biomom yet. We've already skipped one of our regularly scheduled visitations with SD, and another is coming up soon. So that is going to need to be dealt with ASAP. I just don't know what to do. I'm so frayed right now. I don't know how much longer I can hold things together. I want off this ride. Comments Mimikyu4: I would try your best to be there for him while also making sure your children are not affected. This is not your fault or the kids fault. And I would tell him if he can’t at least attempt to get a better control on things then he needs to stay somewhere else because it is negatively impacting his son! And if he ain’t gonna be there for them and take care of him then you will. It can have life lasting affects on the kid and it’s not fair to him stand up for him please. hdmx539: OP, my heart goes out to you, and your husband, and your stepdaughter. It is ALL so awful! Is there any possible way you can have a scheduled family therapist meeting when it's your husband's time for custody? He may need to have a session or two prior to that particular session so he can get a game plan on how to tell stepdaughter. Further, the meeting with a family therapist while it's his custody time is so that he can do it in session with the therapist there. Maybe just the two of them. Is that feasible?   ----NEW UPDATE---- UPDATE: My husband and I recently found out his daughter isn't biologically his. He is spiraling. I don't know what to do.: August 27, 2024 I had a couple people asking if I would update and let you guys know how my husband is doing now that we are a couple months out from our D day. Some things are better, and others are a hell of a lot worse. Not long after I posted, my husband and I had the biggest, full blown drawn out fight of our entire relationship. I honestly cannot even tell you how it started. It was one of those little things that just triggered and all the stress, anger, resentment and other negative emotions we have been feeling were just completely taken out on one another. I took the kids and left afterwards. I refused to come home until my husband got his head out of his ass and talked to someone about all of this. The silver lining to the big blow out was it did spur my husband on to start dealing with everything. He has been to his doctor and has been prescribed medication and he has been looking for a therapist. He did a session with one, but didn't particularly click with them. He is going to pursue others as our finances allow. My husband and I discussed his drunken demand for paternity testing. I was able to express how hurtful that was to me. He apologized fully and has decided he does not need to have our sons tested right now. We've discussed options for what we'll do if doubt continues to linger on my husband's part, but as of now no testing is being done. Husband and I are both trying our best to show each other grace on this matter. The "hell of a lot worse" part is what is going on with step-daughter. My husband had to take a few weeks without visitation to get his own emotions under control. Then we had our typical weekend visit. We did not tell step-daughter or bio mom about the test results yet, as we were still considering our options for the next move. My husband had ultimately decided that he still wanted a relationship with his daughter and still wanted to pursue legal custody. The attorney we had consulted suggested that with our state's laws and the established parental relationship, we should have a claim and could likely get court ordered partial custody, but it would be a more complicated legal case. So that's all fine and dandy, but my husband in a very boneheaded move did not play his cards close enough to his chest with bio mom. Several weeks ago they had a verbal altercation. We have not been able to get in contact with bio mom, her fiance or step daughter since. We contacted the police who told us this was a civil matter and we needed to go through the courts so no help there. Sorry. I wish I had a happier update, or more of an update in general. Relevant Comments OOP on giving her husband peace of mind OOP: What about my peace of mind? Of having a husband that trusts me? I told him we could have the tests done, but we will be doing couple's counseling along with it. + Of course it does. Which is why I've been helping him find a therapist and covered his copay when he was short. It's why I have been taking the lion's share of household responsibilities while he is adjusting to his new anxiety medication since they knock him on his ass. The paternity test would ease his mind and stress, you know you didn’t cheat so it shouldn’t be as bad as you make it It may ease his mind and stress, but then I am in a marriage with a man that I feel doesn't trust me, which will put my mind into a spiral and stress me the fuck out, and make me second guess our entire marriage. We are husband and wife. One of us doesn't get to pursue a course of action for their peace of mind that causes the other to go into a tail spin. We can have tests done once we have some extra scratch, but only if my husband is willing to do counseling with me about it That is the only way I see it happening without it destroying our marriage. OOP on doing the paternity test OOP: I'm OK doing paternity tests, but ONLY if he will do couple's counseling. I will die on that hill. As of right now, husband has said he doesn't feel the need for us to do a paternity test now that he's come down a bit emotionally, and since we have a lot of other financial obligations on priority list ahead of paternity testing it's waaaaaaaay on the back burner. + He is currently looking for an individual therapist. He had a session with one, but didn't click with them. He'll be looking for another after we catch up financially from paying the attorney and court filings. + Paternity testing is not happening unless we have a couple's counselor. That's a hill I am willing to both die and kill my marriage on if need be. It will put him at ease and will build his trust in you. After the decade we have been together, where we have had zero issues of infidelity, or untrustworthy behaviors between us, he should not have to be "building" trust in me. At this point in our relationship, the trust should be there. For me, the level of distrust that he has shown in accusing me of cheating (which, is what a demand for paternity testing is) means that our marriage is in deep shit. There simply is no meaningful romantic relationship without trust for me. Giving him "peace of mind" with a paternity test does not address the underlying trust issues. So he may get peace of mind in that regards, but doing so will cause me to doubt the entire foundation of our marriage. To be put simply, a paternity test without couple's counseling will lead to our divorce. He'll get 3 envelopes. 2 with positive paternity results. 1 with my petition for divorce. Yes. I feel that strongly about it. As it is, my husband says he does not feel the need to test our kids. That it was a drunken outburst. He says he is in a better place now and hasn't brought it up again in discussion. And he does know my stance. If he still feels the need to have our kids tested, fine. We'll make it happen but only if he also agrees to couple's counseling first OOP on asking the county sheriff’s office to do a wellness check on her stepdaughter OOP: They wouldn't tell us ANYTHING! I don't know what the hell went down, the first person from the sheriff's office seemed like they were going to be helpful. They said they would send someone. I don't know what biomom said or did but a second office came to our house and asked for documentation and told us we need to take this up with the court.   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I am NOT OOP. OOP is u/Unhappy_Voice_3978 Originally posted to r/AITAH AITAH If I say "No" to allowing my husband's daughter to come live with us full time? Trigger Warnings: bullying, mentions of physical altercations, physical assault, descriptions of torture, harm towards minor with disabilities, possible child abuse Original Post: April 10, 2024 I have been married to my husband for 6 years. We have 2 kids together (8m and 4m). Our youngest is special needs. My husband also has a daughter (12) from his previous relationship. My husband's ex has had primary custody. My husband gets SD on weekends and alternating holidays/birthdays. This past weekend, my SD asked my husband if she can come live with him fulltime. Her mom recently moved in with her fiance and his kids and there has been some friction with that from what I understand. Nothing nefarious, just new house, new rules, having to share a bedroom etc. My husband didn't give her an answer either way, he said he would look into it. When he and I were discussing it I had the following objections: SD and our kids do not get along. It is something we have worked on for years, in and out of therapy - and it just ain't happening. SD resents mine for existing, and is cruel towards my youngest for their disabilities. There have been issues with her bullying. My oldest is very protective of his little brother and hates SD for being mean to his brother. He has started physical altercations with her over it. The truth is that most of the time we have SD, I make arrangements to take the boys to visit their grandparents or husband takes her out of the house for daddy daughter time to avoid conflict. I cannot imagine how living together full time would be for them. We really don't have room. We have a 4br home. Both my husband and I wfh so we can be a caretaker for my youngest. Due to the nature of his disabilities it is really not feasible for him and my oldest to share a room. It wouldn't be safe or fair for my oldest. My SD's room is used as my wfh office space during the week. I arrange my vacation time and whatnot around her visitation so I can stay out of her space while she is here. I have to take very sensitive phone calls, and I need a closed door when I work so common areas are out and my husband uses our bedroom as his home office so that's out too. We don't currently have room in the budget to make an addition to the house or remodel non livable spaces at the moment. My husband hears my objections and understands them, but he wants to go for it and figures that everything will eventually work out. He doesn't want his daughter to think he is abandoning her. And I feel for the girl, it would be awful for your dad to say no when you ask if you can live with him! but I have my own kids to think about too and I just do not believe that her living here is in their best interest at all considering their history and our current living arrangements. Does saying "no" to this put me in evil step mom territory? EDIT: For the people who want to make me into an horrible homewrecker to go along with being an evil stepmom... Sorry to disappoint, but we did not have an affair. My husband and my stepdaughter's mom were never married. They were never in a relationship. They were friends with benefits. They bartended together, would shoot the bull, and would sometimes get drunk and fuck (my husband claims he needed beer googles cause she really isn't his 'type"). When my SD's mom found out she was pregnant she told my husband she was keeping it and asked if he wanted to be in the baby's life. They never lived together, except for a few weeks during the newborn stage to help out. Yes. I had my first before I married my husband. My husband and I were in a long term relationship when I had a birth control malfunction. My husband and I discussed what we wanted to do, and we both decided we wanted to raise the child. A few days later my husband proposed. I wanted to take time to recover from birth and wait until our kiddo was old enough to pawn him off on the grandparents for the week so husband and I could enjoy our wedding. We didn't get married until my oldest was 2. EDIT 2: Regarding my youngest son's disabilities, SD's bullying, and my oldest's starting fights since there is a lot of projection and speculation. My youngest son has both physical and mental disabilities. He uses multiple kinds of medical and therapy equipment. My SD has shoved him out of his wheel chair. She has pinched him hard enough to leave bruises. She has hit his face when he was having trouble verbalizing. Idgaf if this is "normal" sibling behavior. It is alarming enough to me that I feel it is best for my youngest to spend as little time as possible with her until this behavior completely stops (and I will say it has LESSENED quite a bit. We went through a period of it happening frequently, and it has slowed. The last incident was 2 months ago when SD grabbed my son's wheel chair and aggressively pushed him out of her way because he was blocking the hallway) One of the times that my son had started an altercation with her, was because she had told my son that his brother was not a real person and that she was going to call the hospital to have him taken away so they could perform experiments to find out what it was. She went into detail about things they would do to him. Like ripping his fingernails out. And yes, my son did lose his temper and hit her. My son was immediately disciplined (loss of tablet time) and we had an age appropriate discussion about how his heart is in the right place to want to protect his little brother but he needs to find an adult when something like that happens. This was not made up. Stepdaughter admitted she said it to my husband when he was able to sit her down and talk with her later in the day. (I am not allowed to discipline or have parenting talks with SD per biomom's wishes) I am not welcomed to be a part of SD's therapy journey, mostly per biomom's wishes. She does not want me involved. My husband has always been worried about rocking the boat with biomom on these things. So I do not know the extent of what therapeutic treatments she has had. I do know she does go to therapy during the week, and my husband has gone to sessions but it isn't something he is free to discuss with me. So I am in the dark about that. EDIT 3 - There's someone in the comments who claims to be my sister in law. They are either a troll or are mistaken. My husband is an only child. I don't have a sister in law. AITAH has no consensus bot, OOP was NTA Relevant Comments Crimsonwolf_83: NTA. It seems your Stepdaughter is the single common factor in the issues with blended families. She only wants to live full time with you because she’s been spoiled by the efforts you make to keep the peace on weekends. She’s delusional OOP: I do believe she has a very different idea of what living here full time would be than the reality of it, yes. But she's a kid. When she is here 90% of dad's attention is on her because of the visitation arrangement and interpersonal issues between her and our sons. I honestly don't think she is going to like the daily grind here anymore than she likes it at her new house. tooearlytoothink: My concern would be why she wants to leave. Is there more to this story? If she wants to leave because of abuse or neglect, then I think while her moving in may not be a permanent solution, doing nothing would make YTA. That being said, if she wants to leave for something minor like, she wasn't allowed staying up late on a weekend. Then, I think the Bio parents need to ha e a sitodsn and sort it our. OOP: She is upset that she has to share a room with her soon to be stepsister (step sister is moving out in the fall and just needs it for weekends home and holiday breaks). And biomom and her partner decided that all kids will follow the same set of rules in their household, so she has new limitations about screen time and more household responsibilities. Nothing nefarious like abuse or neglect. OOP on having all spaces for all kids including SD and should prioritize the children’s spaces over her office space OOP: The house had plenty of room for 3 kids when we bought it. Unfortunately when my son was 8 months old he had a seizure. And then very quickly after that first seizure 11 more as we raced to the emergency room. After that, all of our lives changed forever. Both my husband and I had to restructure our entire careers to provide the level of care he has needed. If I do not prioritize my desk... then none of the kids are gonna have a home. That's just the reality that we face. Both my husband and I need to work in order to keep our home, keep up with medical expenses and keep everyone housed, clothed, and fed. We've done our best to make sure that SD still feels like it is her room. It is decorated the way she wants. She has permanent personal items here. Closet full of her own clothes so she doesn't have to pack between homes. We've given her a locking trunk for privacy... But yeah. I need to have office space to keep my job. So the rule is that she clears off the desk before leaving and I put up a room divider in that corner and make myself a little cubicle when she is not here. I HAVE to have private space with a door for my job. I will be fired if I do not have that. I cannot work in common areas. My company takes client privacy and security very seriously. OOP on the relationship between her children and her husband/the father, his relationship with SD’s mom Yes, I had my first with my husband before we were married. He proposed to me after we found out I was pregnant and I wanted to take some time after the birth of our first before we got married. My husband and my SD's biomom were never married and never in a relationship. They had a casual sexual relationship.   Update: April 16, 2024 first post: https://old.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1c0v55o/aitah_if_i_say_no_to_allowing_my_husbands/ So last week my husband and I sat down together and talked about SD coming to live with us full time and how that would work out. It was a difficult discussion because, as some redditors had suggested, I really pushed hard for him to really think things through and figure out the obstacles. Where would he and I work? Common areas are out due to the nature of our jobs. (I can't due to employer restrictions. He does some NSFW things in his we don't want the kids to see). How were we going to handle the animosity and bullying between the kids? What consequences would be in place? We talked about what expectations would be for SD living here full time vs just weekends. About how she probably has unrealistic expectations about what the nitty gritty life here is like. We talked through very possibility we could come up with. Including out there possibilities like selling out home or separating our household and living apart for a while. We ran numbers to see how it may effect our finances. And ultimately we agreed that the answer was "not yet" with a goal for our family working towards it. And that the best course of action would be to slowly adjust the amount of time she spends in our home vs a sudden custody switch. So Fri night my husband took SD out to talk to her about everything. He explained to her that she wouldn't have her own room at our place for a couple years but that is something that is on the top of the list for home improvements once our youngest's handicap accessibility renovations are paid off. He talked to her about what expectations of living with us would be like. That she would have chores and responsibilities. And most importantly they talked about the bullying and laid down the provision that we needed to see her relationship and attitude towards her brothers improve before she can live here fulltime. SD obviously wasn't thrilled about any of this, but she said OK and that she would do better with her brothers. So Saturday I made arrangements for my parents to watch our sons, and we invited SD's mom over so we could all sit down and figure out how SD can start to spend more time here. And that is when it fell apart. Mom is NOT ok with a change in custody at all. "Absolutely not" was her answer. She took SD home early Sat. My husband tried to reach out to SD on Sun to see how she was and ask if she wanted to do their guitar lesson over skype or something since her mom took her home early, but she never responded. He called SD's mom and she informed him that SD had lost her phone privileges. So we don't really know what is going on with all that. Relevant Comments OOP on why her SD lost her phone privileges when SD was with her mother OOP: Turns out she threw her phone at her mom's face, hitting her mom and cracking the screen. Mom isn't giving it back until SD has paid off the deductible. We do have alternative forms of contact with SD at this time. OOP on her SD’s reasons for wanting to live with her dad and her. And if the biomom knew about the plans OOP: No SD's mom didn't come to us. SD asked weekend before last if she could live with us instead because her and her mom recently moved in with her mom's partner. My husband told her that we would need to discuss it and figure out if it was a possibility. We didn't talk to biomom until after we know what our answer was. As soon as mom found out SD wanted to spend more time with us, she shut it down immediately I know a lot of people have been speculating that my SD may be being abused in the comments. And I understand the concern, and I know that it can happen to ANYONE. But... I don't have any reason to believe that is happening here. Mom's new partner isn't exactly new. They've been together 5 or 6 years I think now. SD has spent lots of time with her soon to be step-dad. Moving in together is the new thing. My SD does have a good relationship with my husband and she has not confided anything to my husband about Step dad making her uncomfortable. I believe that she would (but i won't discount the possibility she wouldn't) From my understanding, the issues in her new home are more to do with having to share her bedroom with her new soon to be step sister and adjusting to a new set of household rules. OOP on what her husband does for a living *OOP: * Nothing exciting! He does video editing. He has clients who do porn. They send him the raw footage they film and he makes it into saleable videos for them and teaser trailers and stuff. He also edits youtube videos, special event videos, and even local commercials. The way we see it, everyone's money spends the same. LOL One day he edits the commercial for the local church's annual yard sale, and the next some hot chick getting a cleveland steamer. We just have to be really careful about when and where he edits the naughtier videos so none of the kids walk in on him. We try to make sure he only does those when I'm not working so he can stay behind a locked door with headphones on.   Latest Update here: BoRU #2   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

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