Short Mullet Mens

mr_chun said: On and off. I've had a few eras - mens wolf cut, mullet, man bun, curly slick back, buzzed. I'm kinda in between rn. I’ve just always had short hair. My earrings could never be missed. lol

Anyone have any suggestions of a more mens/androgynous alternative/edgy hairstyle that wouldn’t cause someone with sensory issues around the ears and neck that feeling of “I GOTTA CUT THAT OFFFFF” ?? I usually shave the sides and back and keep the top a decent length (just above my eyebrows) but I’m tired of the same style. My hair right now is probably 2.5-3 inches long on the sides and back, and about 4.5 -5 inches on the top, it’s quite thin (but gel does work!) I really badly want to try a short mullet kinda style but I worry that even if I shave the sides around my ears that the neck area of the back is going to bother me still. Anyone have any experience with that? I know it’s not an issue to try and then just cut it off but I only have the funds for ONE haircut right now, not two if I don’t end up liking it due to sensory issues. Anyone have any tips for dealing with sensory issues around hair near their ears and neck, or any suggestions on cut style would be so appreciated!! submitted by /u/ChickenNubby to r/SPD [link] [comments]

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ok hi i’m here to discuss and try to wrap my head around your points while also offering up some of my own. im a woman and i AM attracted to men. i also would say i feel like i either am a lot more attracted to them, or my open about my attraction, than a lot of women i both know in life and see online. also yes i do think i experience sexual attraction to women too but i think i prefer dating exclusively men (i’ve never tried dating a woman and don’t really want to). i know for sure i am attracted to men like i love looking at them i feel physical attraction and visual attraction etc etc nonetheless i ztill would say i do think women in general are a lot more good looking than men. by good looking i don’t necessarily mean i would sleep with them, but if i were to set them up with a good looking member of the opposite sex, i would not feel like im doing that member of opposite sex a disservice. that said i think a lot of it is because women DO take care to make themselves look better - that random meme that’s top upvoted abt the same face as a man vs woman on tinder i dont think is fair, because that is a bad haircut on th man and the stubble doesn’t really suit. i think women understand what hair suits them, how to dress well (which comes down to emphasising either their boobs, butt, or waist), and then of course makeup or other “softmaxxing” techniques like skincare or plucking or waxing. now for men i do think it is naturally way harder for them, i think the default male fashion doesn’t do much to flatter them, men aren’t socialised to pluck their eyebrows, it would be ”gay” for them to wear makeup, they arent taught what hair looks good on them, and also the way facial hair can really be utilised to have the same effect as makeup on a guys face eg if u have a strong jaw don’t do anything with a beard, but if u have a weak chin get a goatee, etc etc. nonetheless i cannot think of a single guy that i know who dresses in very fashionable clothing (im 21 so think like baggy but well fitting jeans, trendy shoes, a cool shirt and then a stylish haircut) with a fashionable haircut (mullet but like the 2020s style one, middle part curtains, curly hair, etc like kinda depends on the hair type and the guys facial features) that i wouldn’t classify as “good looking”. however i would say maybe 20% of guys at most do this. i know guys who are hygienic and get groomed regularly but they clearly lack the knowledge to go from that to actually stylish and choosing things that suit them, and that’s probably where the big disparity is - id say 60% of women do this. therefore i do think there is hope for everyone like if ur brave enough drop a photo in the comments and i can explain what they should be doing if they’re not “good looking“. but yeah my point is i don’t understand the idea here that this lack of attraction is an innate gendered issue but instead an issue with socialisation (also i know it’s gonna get asked so yeah i feel like i know a lot of short guys who are good looking but im literally 5’11 so i am just kind of not physically attracted to any guy below about 5’8 (in person - in movies or online or whatever when i can’t tell height isn’t rly a factor but just in person) which yeah may tie into the whole script / me internalising the idea a guy needs to be big and manly but it’s too late for me so idc) furthermore i think there is the feminist argument that id like to explore a bit more. i think women are socialised to be ashamed of their desire - think abt a high body count woman being a slut but it’s not as shameful for a guy, like i do feel kinda embarrassed to admit just how attracted to men they are. if i was born 60 yrs ago or idk whenever the peak of casual sex was id probably have a body count of a billion however because the internet has influenced me i refuse to have casual sex like that even tho i enjpy it because i enjoy the guy but because i know it’s shameful and might put off any future partners. another factor is that because the percentages are off on women who made themselves attractive vs men who made themselves attractive like back to what i said earlier about more “good looking” women existing vs “good looking” men, id say it’s like 60% vs 20%, i think u see a lottttt of women coping online about what they’re into in guys because ok that means 80% of women are going to end up with a not ”good looking“ guy, and 40% dating down, and then it’s Shallow to try to fix the guy or give him a makeover or whatever (i’m actually undecided on this lol if u dated a girl who saw ur visual potential and changed ur wardrobe and hair and facial hair to make u look better would u care?) so u see all these women online talking abt how they’re into the guy for his personality or whatever because it’s easier to do that than risk ending up alone if you just go for the hot guy. i think my biggest ”men r ugly” believer female friends are those with avoidant attachment or with self esteem issues who hate that they use/used to use male attention for validation. whereas when men are avoidant they kidna don’t admit to it and i also do think men just aren’t as aware of being reliant on female validation for self esteem. i think societally we kind of do place a woman’s value moreso on the type of guy eg how when you get married you lose your last name and that’s also meant to be the best day of the brides life and stuff, whereas with men they either don’t get trained to tie their identity to women , or maybe they do idk but it’s not something a lot of them realise, i do feel like the ppl in this sub do admit to it tho. furthermore i do think women are always objectified more like i actually am frustrated by the fact in every movie or tv show or yt video or whatever the fuck there’s always beautiful shots of the beautiful woman character jsut so viewers get to admire the female form. thre is none of that in this day and age of the male form like you never see the sunlight dappling over the attractive male character‘s beautiful legs or something. i think the media aspect is just one dimension of the fact that women’s looks are the most important thing for women whereas for men it’s about everything else, and i think that kind of unequal objectification kind of reinforces everything and it becomes a cycle. i know u guys are already aware of the idea that for women its only looks that matter but men they matter the least but i dont understand why you guys dont realise the connection to the feminist idea of women getting objectified/sexualised. also another consequence of this is that women understand from all of this sexualisation how to make themselves sexually appealing, what people find attractive, how to appeal to the male gaze, etc whereas for men you’d have to actively go out of your way to find a blueprint or example to follow of how to achieve this, and it’s hard because women are not open about this type of thing anyway because they are shamed about their desire. i do think that with women it kinda comes down to boobs waist or ass for their physique to be attractive whereas for men i think people don’t talk enough about how the width of their shoulders is a huge factor that i’ve noticed when women are attracted to men. i think that might also be lacking, and obviously it kinda sucks if u have shitty genetics lol but i do think the gym can help if u have narrow shoulders. also ”big” hands / forearms matter like if a guy has no veins and small hands they might be in trouble because that is genetic lol (but so a nice rack or small waist for women so is what it is). anyway i guess my argument is that i do agree that there is this kind of cultural narrative that women aren’t attracted to men reinforced by women but i think the cultural training of women to sexualise themselves and the shaming of women‘s desire is also a huge factor. i also think every single one of u guys has hope for becoming attractive, even if u r short (u will be limited to shorter women tho sorry), but u will need to learn how to fully looksmaxx urselves since you missed out on the socialisation. idk i find this really interesting and i came across this subreddit when i was looking for female perspectives on how attractive men are and how women never seem to talk about it like how it’s ”embarrassing” to admit how hot they are and how nobody ever talks about how much they admire the male form except gay men. it was very hard to find what i was looking for but this sub does seem to align with my general dislike of th narrative that men are ugly so i would appreciate perspectives submitted by /u/sobeautifulsoperfect to r/WomenAreNotIntoMen [link] [comments]

Hi all, I'm writing because I'm feeling conflicted about my fiance's personal stylings. FWIW I'm 37(m), he's 28(m). We both work in management in professional environments. Since September, he's been letting his hair grow out long. I really dislike long hair on men, but I don't want to be a fuddy duddy stick-in-the-mud who's attempting to control his fiance's appearance, so I've kept my thoughts mostly to myself. He says he's worried about balding soon, so he wants to enjoy long hair as long as he can have it. I'm balding myself, and for the same reason, went from very-short-hair in college to medium-short-hair after I graduated, so I completely get that sentiment. He has lately expressed interest in growing a mullet. I cringe at the thought of it, but the mullet style is making a comeback with younger guys in my area, and again, I don't want to be making a problem about what he chooses to do with his own body. Last night he broached the topic of putting his hair in a man-bun or ponytail. At that point I started saying that I'd have a serious problem with it. I don't know why, but the fact of the matter is that I strongly dislike long hair on men, and I intensely dislike ponytails on men. My fiance said that he'd probably never actually do a ponytail, but he was offended that I have such a strong opinion against ponytails, to the point that I think he's considering a ponytail more now than he was before, because of how negatively I reacted to it and what he said was my sexist thoughts on it. In my brain I know the right answer is simply "his body, his choice" and that if the roles were reversed, it'd be crazy to expect anything different. I feel shitty even typing this all out, because I don't think I'm going to come out looking sympathetic in how I feel, and this post probably makes me look shallow and that I'm way overemphasizing something silly about my fiance's appearance. But be that as it may, it is how I feel, and while it's not remotely about being "embarrassed" or anything of the sort to be seen with him, because I truly don't care about what strangers who I don't know or care about think of us, the best way to explain my feelings is that I'm the one who has to look at him all day, and what I'm seeing is a look that I personally find distasteful. Should I just shut up and keep my thoughts to myself and accept something that I in my bones just don't like? That's what I've been doing, and I don't think it necessarily leads to a happier or more productive outcome. But if I say anything about it, I look and feel like I'm trying to control something that I have no business controlling. submitted by /u/mattsylvanian to r/AskGaybrosOver30 [link] [comments]

TLDR below. For context: We’ve been best friends (both 23f) for about three years. I’ve hinted at being queer very subtly (talking about queer media I like and my distaste for men, showing her my emails with my lesbian-themed Outlook 😆, etc.) but am not out to her yet. We both grew up in extremely religious and homophobic households, but are questioning faith/not practicing. She has never mentioned her sexuality. I know she is not homophobic, despite our faith communities and the huge taboo. We are both in the process of becoming independent and moving out of our parents’. I don’t want to assume my best friend likes me because I feel: 1. full of myself and 2. presumptuous, but there have been things she’s expressed that are raising a flag for me. We got close extremely fast. In the first weeks of knowing each other, she started laying her head on my shoulder, holding my hand, and giving really “intimate” hugs (not weird just like…longer than someone you aren’t close with yet would). Although I don’t tend to initiate it, I love physical touch, so I didn’t mind it. Time passes and she’s a pretty great friend. Warm, enthusiastic, caring. We get along great. You know, deep talks, sharing our day to day, doing most things together. Standard best friend stuff. This past year though, there have been times where she’s said things and I’ve been like…oh? is that *normal*? For starters, one of the first things I learned about her was that she hates marriage (which would typically imply straight marriage because that is what is socially normative with our faith communities/family expectations). She randomly would bring it up matter-of-fact-ly in our conversations but never responded to further prodding. The only times she’s elaborated were very vague responses along the lines of “ugh men” and her thoughts being the after math of her parents’ awful relationship. I didn’t think anything of it until it shifted and she started suggesting a future together. There’s probably been over 15 times in the last half a year alone where she’s unpromptedly, both playfully and seriously, mentioned: Moving in together long term, decorating our apartment, how our daily lives could be, and building a life together. How’d she’d be happy living with me forever if we just did things together, and that she “wouldn’t need a husband”. That she has no desire to be with a man. She backs it up saying she sees plenty of people move in with their best friends all the time. That she really wants a dual income household, but that she wouldn’t mind being the breadwinner for me (again, unprompted). Suggesting other future focused things like travelling the world together. Jokingly asking me to marry her/calling me her wife. She once said that when she first met me she thought I was the “prettiest person she’d ever seen”. Reassuring me often there is “no pressure” around her ideas (meaning she’s serious). Expressing that she has dreams of us travelling and living together at night. The thing is, I am an affectionate and expressive person platonically to my friends. I usually match her energy and respond to these comments playfully, or talk about how I also yearn to move out and that it’d be amazing if we could move in together *short term*, with nothing else implied, but she seems to hold her ground. She is a mature, respectful, non-needy person, and does have a life independent of me. It’s not in a pressuring or violating way, but it feels like has these wishes and keeps trying to see how I respond. I do feel a bit uncomfortable with the comments sometimes, but I’m not sure if it’s because im projecting and worried she’s thinking of me like that, or because of how “intimate” the affection feels? I’ve expressed my wants (short term rooming, being best friends), but I obviously can’t be like “oh yeah id love to do this…just as friends”, haha. It’d be like I’m implying something, and it’s a sensitive subject. So, I’m worried she thinks my boundaries are circumstantial or something and that I secretly want the same thing. She is also a nerd, mostly has guy friends, and loves piercings, tatts, alt, and mullets. I KNOW, I know ✋ that is not definitive at all of her sexuality, but you know. One more coin in the well of my curiosity. I don’t know where to go from here. She seems uncomfortable if I bring up the concept of marrying a man, what her real expectations are, or if I try to get more information from her about her long-term wishes. I will come out to her soon, I’m just waiting for a good time (she’s extremely busy). I feel like that could open up a door to discussion, but I really don’t know. I feel crazy. For all I know, this could just be normal affectionate friend behaviour, or she genuinely has no romantic interest in *anyone*, and I’m just an overthinking dope. I’ve had plenty of very lovey, touchy, close friends it’s just never felt this…intimate? To clarify, I don’t want or need to form any guesses about her sexuality. I also don’t want to pressure her into a conversation she doesn’t want to have or isn’t ready for. I just can’t tell if these things are normal. I also care about her feelings and don’t want to lead her on incase my “what if” is true. *TLDR: my best friend of 3 years from a strict/religious household hates the idea of marrying men, and keeps hinting at planning a future together. I am not interested romantically, and am worried I’m leading her on somehow. submitted by /u/SitePlastic8026 to r/WLW [link] [comments]

- he obviously got pushed and pushed hard due to being Riki Choshu's "boy" for the early portion of his career (to the point of more or less being a "clone" of Choshu to some extent early on). - I think he truly came into his own sometime around '99 and especially 2000, when he grew the stache/goatee out along with the mullet and biker jacket (although his most iconic look is probably when he cut his hair short and started wearing more colorful tights, like in the pic). - It's funny that he was being positioned as NJPW's new "Ace" figure in the late early 00's, especially after the promotion fired Shinya Hashimoto and Keiji Mutoh chose to leave for AJPW, only for Sasaki to leave in 2002, when he and Choshu had a dispute with the rest of NJPW management. Sasaki would then have a dispute with Choshu, when they started World Japan, with Choshu leaving Sasaki in debt. - Even though Sasaki was treated as an "outsider" whenever he came back to NJPW, he was actually one of the most consistent main event guys they had during that "Dark Age" period. Had solid matches against the likes of Nagata, young Tanahashi, Tenzan, Nakanishi. - Became one half of the greatest "power couple" in Japanese pro wrestling (and maybe wrestling overall) when he married Akira Hokuto (easily one of the best wrestlers to have ever lived, who gifted the Northern Lights Bomb to Sasaki). It's said their romance got the heavyweight during NJPW's "Collision in Korea" event in 1995, with their "lovemaking" apparently being so loud it woke up most people in the hotel room. - Sasaki is one of the men to have a good chuck of time with the IWGP Heavy, holding it 5 times for a combined 11 defenses and 547 combined days. - Sasaki trained three key talents in the form of Katsuhiko Nakajima (who he and Hokuto virtually adopted), Kento Miyahara (probably Sasaki's most successful pupil, in terms of being THE top guy of a promotion) and Masa Kitamiya (who was also trained by Masa Saito). - Sasaki's involvement in the death of Hiromitsu Gompei is obviously a dark shadow over his career (and over Japanese wrestling as a whole), where it was reported that Gompei died due to Sasaki's stiff succession of German Suplexes he gave him in the Dojo. This also ties into the fact that Sasaki, under the instruction of Riki Choshu, the booker of NJPW in the 90's, has been long rumored to be one of the bigger "Dojo bullies/teachers", with Tanahashi not referring to him by name but talking about wanting to do away with that style of teaching, as well as Togi Makabe directly calling Sasaki out for his bullying, when Makabe was a "young lion". submitted by /u/MrPuroresu42 to r/njpw [link] [comments]