Toddler Sleep Sack

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... doing for pjs once your toddler isn’t in a sleep sack anymore? I don’t want... and a 1.5 tog sleep sack. I’m thinking of using fleece ...

sleep sack and light blanket. we didn't do a pillow for my oldest until she went into her toddler b3d at 2.5. my girl is a light sleeper so no stuffies for her to play with qhen she wakes in the night.

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My son (15 mo) currently sleeps in a crib with a stuffy and he wears a sleep sack. I want to know your opinion on when it’s time to introduce a pillow and blanket. I know he’s going to start climbing soon so I’m thinking we will have to transition to a toddler bed. Is it too early still? I’m looking into getting one of those sleep suits as well, do you guys like those?

... my little guy to his toddler bed already... he was climbing... it could go and backwards sleep sack. but here we are! it's... him down. he was previously sleep trained and never really cried... bedtime. this is worse than sleep training though 😢. any advice...

baby deedee Fleece Sack with Feet, Sleep Kicker, Toddler Wearable Blanket Sleeper, Navy, 2-4T (Pack of 1)( copy and paste above ��) Amazon . I’ve not personally tried this one for our son but, this one goes to 4t. Looks cozy . He’s growing too quickly and I think he may be too big or I would probably try it too !

We didn’t do blankets for our older kids until they switched to a toddler bed between 2.5 and 3. We just kept using a sleep sack. We sleep with the house pretty cold and didn’t want them to kick the blanket off at night. We did start giving them a lovie to sleep with around one!

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... in a sleep sack. We will transition to a toddler bed soon but will keep the sleep sack. My almost... 4 year old still sleeps in a sleep sack. My... kids move way too much in their sleep...

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Using both plus a sleep sack. I just tuck a light ... especially. I got her a toddler pillow because when she cosleeps ...

We just do a sleep sack at home in a crib, but she was also transitioned to a cot at daycare and she has a little toddler nap mat that she uses now. They check on the kids every 15 mins when sleeping so that helps ease my anxiety

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... we simply started putting his sleep sack on backwards so he couldn't..., and his room is mostly toddler proof at this point. We...

... always put himself back to sleep. He sleeps in his room... him a little but his sleep hasn’t been affected until now... 5 minutes, he took his sleep sack off and climbed out of ... today because he probably didn’t sleep well with all the commotion... strong willed, stubborn and intense toddler but I feel like this ...

... schedule where she would always sleep in her crib in her... tried to put her sleeping sack backwards so she can’t unzip... her back to sleep. Is it time to switch to a toddler bed? I’m so...

... place him in a light sleep sack in case he spikes a... am also feverish with a toddler and baby and my husband...

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Hi, I hope this is the right sub for this, but I recently bought a secondhand sleep sack for my toddler and it smells heavily of scented detergent. I don’t use scented products on my son and I’m trying to figure out if there’s a way to get the smell out. I know I should’ve asked the person when I bought, but I spaced it and we’ve bought several in the past where the scent was gone after washing it. I know I could just buy a new one, but they are pretty expensive brand new so I’m trying to make do with what I have. So far I’ve tried: -RLR powder soak -laying in sun after washing -washing twice with tide free and gentle powder Any other suggestions? submitted by /u/Routine_Climate3413 to r/laundry [link] [comments]

My toddler is about 20 months and has used a sleep sack since 4 or 5 weeks old, she hated being swaddled so we stopped that pretty quickly. She doesn’t seem to like blankets at all, even just sitting on the couch she won’t let you put one on her. I’m not sure how/when I should be trying to transition her from the sack to the blanket. She is still in her crib and loves it. She falls asleep independently, we do a bed time routine and kind of toss her in her crib and she falls asleep after 20-30 minutes. She will not fall asleep if you are holding her, and I recently pushed her bedtime back by an hour and it still takes her the same amount of time to fall asleep, I think she just needs to wind down on her own? Her naps are the same. When I put her in there I will put the blanket on her, but by the time I get to the door of her room it’s off her and she’s rolling around. Is it a big deal that she is still in a sleep sack? When I mention it people think it’s weird she is still in it. How do you get a toddler to use a blanket when they don’t seem to like it? submitted by /u/tanky_bo_banky to r/NewParents [link] [comments]

I need another sleep sack for my daughter as we just have 2 in rotation, including a woolino. While I wouldn't rave about it it's good enough, so i've been looking for second-hand options and found one online that looks good, but in the toddler size 2-4 yo. My daughter is tall so wears 18m to 2y. Is there any risk to the sleep sack being a bit big at first, like her being cold in it ? Thanks in advance ! submitted by /u/chestnutflo to r/moderatelygranolamoms [link] [comments]

My LO is 2 years and 4 months. She is still in a crib, she’s a good sleeper overall- but she refuses to sleep in anything but a sleep sack with arms. At daycare she’ll use a blanket but at home? No way! The problem is she’s a tall gal- she’s already 39 ish inches, and almost ready to transfer into 4t pants. The gunamuna sleep sack with the arms only goes to 40 inches and for the life of me I can’t find anything similar that goes beyond 36 months or so. Hopeful there’s some suggestions for me- or advice. She didn’t mind sleeping with the armless ones until recently :/ I guess I have the option of putting her in one and letting her fuss it out, but we know that’s such a mental hassle. submitted by /u/awholelottaass to r/toddlers [link] [comments]

When did you stop using sleep sacks? My kiddo loves his and we are not currently thinking about removing or swapping. He is 15 months old. I find myself needing 1 more sleep sack for the laundry rotation but of course he uses the most expensive brand. Toddler parents - if you were us would you 1) say screw it and buy another one ~100$ 2) suck it up and deal until he transitions out 3) buy another one but get the next size up (18-36mo) or a footed one? I don’t think they make a cheaper version of this brand and buying a different brand isn’t an option cause my kid has opinions. Also FWIW he is a tall kid but is still fitting well in the 6-18mo size sack. submitted by /u/lrbsto to r/NewParents [link] [comments]

**thank you for the overwhelming amount of helpful information everyone! I would reply to each one of you if I could. Cheers!** As the title says, I’m at my wits end. 18 month old boy pees through his diaper, pajamas, sleep sack and something sheets every single morning. We switched to overnight Pull Ups which seems to be better than a regular diaper but we are still having the accidents. I don’t mind doing laundry every day but I’m more concerned about how this is affecting him (if at all). When he’s soaked he doesn’t seem to care and still wakes up at the same time in the morning. Additionally, his diapers during the day are nowhere near as full as they are during nap and bedtime. Pediatrician wasn’t worried - said these are good signs of a functioning liver and kidneys. LO loves water and drinks a decent amount throughout the day. I really don’t want to limit his intake since this is such a good, healthy habit to have. Suggestions on keeping my guy dry throughout the night? Not that this probably matters but he’s a big boy - 3 ft tall and 31 pounds. THANK YOU! 😊 EDIT: Toddler had bloodwork and no signs of diabetes/ no family history. submitted by /u/Migrainegirlie to r/toddlers [link] [comments]

I am sooo upset to find out that the wool in woolino sleep sacks have “superwash” coating aka they are coated in plastic. My baby has slept in that thing every night for months. I feel like this is not common knowledge at all so sharing this here as I know woolino is used and recommended a lot in this sub. Anyways I’m going to switch over to organic cotton sleepsacks.. any good ones to recommend for toddlers (18 months+)? submitted by /u/Consistent-Mango6742 to r/moderatelygranolamoms [link] [comments]

My about-to-be 2 year old son no longer wants to sleep with his sleep sack. He’s still in a crib, doesn’t know how to cover himself with the blanket because he’s used to one being put on him during nap time while he’s on his tummy. I saw him laying on his stomach in the middle of the night saying “blanket on” (that’s how he thinks the world works) so I went in there, draped it over him, he kicked it off. He started standing up and o grabbed his sleep sack and asked if he’d like it on and his response was “no”, threw himself down and went back to sleep. In the middle of the night when he wakes up to move or switch positions, he often played with the bottom zipper, maybe as a way to soothe himself back to sleep?? Now, without it, he sit there and whines for 10-15 minutes periodically through the night until he goes back to sleep. Taking his binky away a few months ago resulted in a two hour wake up for only one night. This random transition out of a sleep sack is a lot harder and it’s not even our doing. We’re going to take him to the store tomorrow to pick out a blanket, in hopes that’ll be easier to teach him to cover himself up. Thoughts, experiences, suggestions? submitted by /u/LogicalZebra123 to r/Mommit [link] [comments]

My 16 month-old has figured out how to unzip her sleep sack from the bottom-up. So her feet stick out. Of course it’s so freaking cold, and we hate the heater. Here I am at 12:30 am worrying about her cold toesies on the one night I put her in a footless pajama. So, looking for recommendations for a sleep sack that just has a single zipper that zips up from bottom to top like normal and the zipper gets tucked at the top like usual. Alternatively, what else are we putting our toddlers in to bed ? submitted by /u/_rose__rose_ to r/NewParents [link] [comments]

My 2 year old (26 months) has been using sleep sacks since she's outgrown swaddles. We never gave her a blanket or put anything in her crib. Right before she turned 2, she outgrew her sleep sacks so we decided that was our opportunity to switch from a sleep sack to blanket. She absolutely hated it. Would not settle or sleep and just cried. We put her back in a sleep sack and she fell asleep instantly. We just figured she wasn't ready, bought the next size up in sleep sacks and carried on with our lives. Well, now we're creeping in on this current sleep sack getting too small. We decided to do a "slow transition" of still putting her in a sleep sack, but also covering her with a light blanket. This went well and she slept without issue. Well, this past week, we tried removing the sleep sack again, and she did fall asleep, but woke up every single night around midnight and we couldn't get her resettled so we had to bring her to our bed to sleep. Last night we decided to put the sleep sack back on, and she slept through the night without issue... So now we're probably going to start with the sleep sack again but I just feel like she is getting too old for them? And I'm sure there aren't sleep sacks much larger than the ones she has... So, for those whose kiddos loved their sleep sacks and had a strong sleep association with them - when did they make the transition out of them? How long did it take your kiddo to adjust? submitted by /u/JessicaM317 to r/toddlers [link] [comments]

Alternative title: What am I doing wrong with it that I don't find it great? Recently bought a 2-4 year Woolino sleep sack for my toddler after reading tons of rave reviews here on Reddit. I'm very underwhelmed with it. I still have to choose his specific pyjamas based on the current temperature, so I don't get how the Woolino makes things any simpler for my brain when getting him ready for bed. What am I missing here? submitted by /u/ZestySquirrel23 to r/Mommit [link] [comments]

To preface, I love buying secondhand goods. I love thrifting my own clothes, clothes for my husband and housewares for our home. For context, I live in an area where the thrifting for adult clothes is just ok and brick and mortar kid’s resale isn’t a thing, so I’ve been trying to do this mostly online and via marketplace. I thought I’d be able to do this easily for baby stuff since most baby clothes are only worn for a handful of months at a time and people don’t usually keep baby furniture and gear after they’re done having kids! WRONG. People are INSANE with the money they want for used baby stuff. $20 for dirty toddler Vans? $50 for a pilled Little Sleepies bamboo sleeper with obvious vomit stains on the front? $100 for a stroller with rusted bolts and fossilized crumbs in every crevice? Tf? And they won’t budge an INCH on the price. They’ll literally let it sit up there for months until they drop it by $5. My marketplace is literally full of things people really should throw away being sold for half the original retail price. I’ve been trying to buy a secondhand wool sleep sack for two months and encountered basically new prices for stained or open box items. I finally caved and bought it new with a coupon code because at least then I got to pick the color and I’d be reasonably confident it wouldn’t show up smelling like Cheech and Chong’s sofa cushions. EDIT: I’m getting a lot of recommendations for Buy Nothing, and I always recommend the project! But the effectiveness of the project can vary greatly by location, and mine isn’t very good. 😭 submitted by /u/NorthernPossibility to r/Mommit [link] [comments]

16 month old here, she has always slept with a sleep sack but has outgrown the one she is in. how does your toddler sleep? any sleep sack recommendations you love but won’t break the bank lol! edited to add: i ended up getting the bubblepanda footed sleep sack (from amazon). it arrived today and LOVE IT!!! it’s super soft, 100% cotton. i think my toddler will love having her legs free now that she’s so mobile! i hope she loves it :)) she looks like a little marshmallow with legs in her crib rn 🥲😂 submitted by /u/agrizzgrazz to r/toddlers [link] [comments]

Hi, my 16 month old toddler just started daycare last week. Today was her 2nd week. Last week she was mostly observing and had some emotional moments. Nap time is from 12:30-2:30. Today I picked her up early from daycare at 2:45 and noticed she was still in her sleep slack on her cot, while every other toddler was playing and off their cots. We use an app for nap time routines and it was updated that she woke up at 1:47pm. Is this normal? We asked the ece why our toddler was still in her sleep sack when she woke up almost an hour ago. The response we got was she was just observing, I didn’t change her diaper yet. Is this normal or is this a concern? Thanks. submitted by /u/Haunting_Ad_9852 to r/ECEProfessionals [link] [comments]

My daughter is 20 months and still happily snoozes in her sleeveless, footless sleep sack. She hasn’t tried to Houdini out of it yet, but I’m curious: At what age did your kid switch to a loose blanket (or other bedding)? What made you decide it was time? Is there really a reason to switch to loose blanket given that ours is happy with a wearable one? Would love to hear your timelines and “why’s”. Thanks! submitted by /u/shrek912 to r/sleeptrain [link] [comments]

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/Intrepid_Buy_3152 Originally posted to r/AITAH AITAH For Telling My Husband That I See Him As A Liability and Not A Partner? Trigger Warnings: past trauma, body injuries, property damage, possible abuse and alcoholism Original Post: July 24, 2024 Sorry for the long post, it's 2am and I'm crying and tired and worn out. If I'm rambling, it's because I've held this in for so long not wanting to burden friends or family with my marital troubles. I 34F have been with my husband (37M, we'll call him Nathan) for 8 years. Ever since our daughter (3F) was born, I have been unable to trust Nathan with anything no matter how small. Background context: When I was 19 after a semi truck driver fell asleep at the wheel and turned my car into scrap metal with me inside it. I have enough metal holding me together that I light up like a Christmas tree for TSA and physically impaired with good days and bad days. I used a portion of my settlement check to buy a house outright and have it retrofit to accommodate my needs as I'll eventually require a wheelchair. I work in software development as it's fun and nobody cares if I work from bed on bad days. My husband has not worked in 5 years. Which has been fine until our daughter was born. Between the settlement money, a paid off house, and my salary, I enjoyed having him here with me. He contributed by handling most of the domestics. We pay for a weekly cleaner with monthly deep cleaning because it gave us more time together. Ever since our daughter was born, it was like a light switch turned off in his head. For our daughter, he would buy the wrong size diapers. Not fully mix bottles. Put diapers on backwards. Leave out poop-covered wipes. Forget to latch cabinets. This past week, he has gone to the store 3 times because he keeps coming home with the wrong size socks and shoes for her. I eventually just ordered the right ones on Amazon. For me, he has tried to help me with my weekly pill organizer fill-up and several times has spilled the contents of new medications all over the floor. Then "not seeing" that he didn't get all of them off the floor. He has repeatedly brought me grapefruit juice to take my medications with - a huge no! He has repeatedly forgotten that I can't have dairy and puts milk in my coffee. Or cheese on a burger. He has broken SO many things of mine from being careless. He shattered my laptop because it slipped out of his hand when he tried to pack it for a trip. Even after I said I would pack my own electronics. We've lost so many spoons and forks to the disposal. He tried to replace the head gasket in my car and over torqued the engine bolt (??) Which shattered insode the block and two different shops said they couldn't repair it. We ended up getting a new vehicle because a replacement engine would have cost $11,000. A week later, he crashed the new car into the garage door because he thought he'd pressed the brakes, not accelerator. He wanted to do TikToks and streaming as a hobby. I supported him initially. But I quickly noticed a pattern. Anything regarding our daughter or me, he was sloppy and careless. He never whoops'd his own stuff. He would build entire sets to stream or make videos with, leave the garage, and leave his brain in the garage. It came to a head four nights ago. He streamed himself building a new set piece. Nine hours straight. Meanwhile I worked, "clocked out early" to pick up our daughter from summer camp, cooked and fed both of us, got her ready for bed. He came out to help put her to bed. I let him know that I needed to get some work done and would be in my office. And I asked him to take the trash out. He says he will. 2 hours later, I left my office and the house felt really warm. He'd taken the trash out, but left our front door partially open. And was back in the garage with his game volume really loud. I panicked since our daughter is able to get out of bed and thankfully she was sound asleep. But she could have easily toddled right out of the house and he wouldn't have noticed. Then I noticed a stove top burner was on. With a small pot on it with nothing inside. I didn't use the stove for cooking that night. I pop my head into the garage and said "hey, I need you for a minute." I informed him of the door situation and he responds "i thought I locked it". We checked the camera and no, he did not. I ask about the burner being on and he said he was planning to make ramen and forgot. He pulled the still hot pot off the burner and put it straight into the sink on top of our daughter's favorite plastic plate. Which is now ruined. I'll admit I overreacted and screamed "What are YOU DOING". He realized what he'd done and pulls the pot off our daughter's plate... and straight onto the countertop. I grab it quickly and run it under water to cool it down. I tell him I can't tonight. I can't deal with him. I'm taking my meds and going to sleep. He gets a cup from the cupboard, and sets it straight onto the burner that'd been on. I hit my limit. I started crying. He kept saying that it was fine, things happen, it's just an accident, he's had a rough day from streaming, he's just tired. Why am I crying, it's just a cup. We can replace it. The anger hit and I said "It's because I have a liability and not a partner." He said "what the fuck does that mean". I screamed that it's because I can't trust him to do anything. That I'm always having to watch him like a child. Always having to bear the costs of his mistakes. That every time I get careless and think I can trust him to be an adult, I'm always the one getting fucked over. I then said "I can't see you as a partner anymore. You're just another liability in my checkbook". He immediately stormed out of the kitchen and went to bed. I called my mom and told her what happened. She thinks it's just stress and offered to take our daughter for a week so we could figure this out without our daughter seeing it. She says it was an asshole thing to call my husband a liability. In the morning, I told my husband that my mom would pick up our daughter from summer camp and offered to watch her for a week. He said "ok" and that's the only interaction we've had since. He spends all day in the garage playing games with his friends, making Tiktoks, and streaming. For food, he's been ordering DoorDash and having the person deliver it in the garage. It's been days and he refuses to be in the same room as me. I've tried messaging him to ask if we can talk. Or figure out a solution. But he's just left me on read. If I pop into the garage, he ignores me but apologizes to his friends or viewers for the interruption and geek unmute his mic when the noise stops. Before the blow up, I've asked if there was something going on. I tried to gently respond every time he screwed up so our daughter didn't associate "mistake" to "anger". I asked him to schedule with a doctor to see if something was going wrong medically. He always said I was over-reacting, people make mistakes. And didn't see an issue, even when the same mistakes kept happening. When I tried to get him to understand that it was concerning just how expensive his mistakes were getting, he'd wave it off as a "it's not like we can't afford it". I love him dearly, I just miss the person he was before we had a child. The one I could trust and rely on. Did I screw this up forever? Was I being too harsh on his mistakes? Am I missing something? Am I the asshole? Relevant Comments OOP on if her husband is using her money OOP (downvoted): We do have a shared account for household expenses and bills but he is using his own money as far as I can see. When he became a stay at home husband, I didn't want him to ever feel like he was financially trapped or abused. Also the thought of my husband having to ask for money (permission) to buy things for himself or not being able to buy gifts discreetly felt ick to me. My paychecks get split between the expenses account, $300 each deposited into separate accounts the other can't see, and the rest to savings. To me, it's his money to save or spend how he wants. + I read through all the responses and have removed the allocation to his account. I also removed his name as an authorized user on the bills/expenses account. Before our daughter was born, this did seem the fairest because he was managing the household tasks and maintenance. But I understand everyone's frustration at me since the arrangement is no longer fair or equitable. I can't cancel his card because my name isn't on that account at all, but I have put a stop to this Friday's and all future deposits. OOP on if her husband contributed to anything before their daughter’s birth and afterwards OOP: Before our daughter was born, he was contributing and I valued him for it. He cooked most our meals, did the daily cleaning chores like dishes, wiping counters, cat litter scooping. We did bi-weekly grocery trips and bulk store runs together, but one-offs during the week he would handle. He also helped me hit the ground running with scrambled eggs and coffee in bed so i could take my heart medication. I never had to run the laundry or consider taking the heavier pain meds to get through folding and hanging everything. He still mostly does these, minus breakfast. Dishes sometimes sit overnight due to his streaming, but I also attribute it to our toddler wanting each part of her meal in a different small bowl and our dishwasher can only fit so many of the Ikea kids bowls. + He does do the daily things like dishes, scooping cat litter, wiping counters, getting trash out, cleaning random messes that occur, etc. Plus laundry, yard work. We pay for a weekly cleaner so we dont run into the issue of deferred cleaning (?) where neglecting the house for a few days (illness, doctor visits, family visiting, local outings, etc) doesn't ever turn into a "theres too much to catch up on omg where do i start" freeze. I've always struggled with that in the past. And the monthly deep cleaner because it's honestly just really nice having a professional come in. Our monthly deep cleaner is also a professional organizer which has been a tremendous help with the transition from infant to toddler organization of clothing and toys. OOP on her husband’s qualities OOP: He's incredibly creative and we used to have so much fun working on projects together. He's a modern day MacGyver. Give him a roll of duct tape, two pennies, some foam, cardboard and paint and he can build beautiful set pieces that could be mistaken for props on Broadway. He learned how to make a mini forge from a flower pot and a makeshift lathe. He practiced until he made the ring he proposed with. Complete with my favorite gemstone. Blue opal. His smile is infectious and he tells the best of horrible puns and jokes. He took cooking classes to learn how to make my favorite dishes and made his own notecard recipe book. He doesn't hesitate to belt out everything from AQUA to Backstreet Boys, Broadway showtunes, Nightwish, and everything in between. Offkey but as if the rest of the world isnt there. Play a Michael Jackson song and he's on the dance floor by the end of the first note. When i gave birth to our daughter, I didn't have hospital food as my first meal. He'd worked out an arrangement with the owner of my favorite restaurant. No matter what time of day or night, as soon as i went into labor, he would message the restaurant owner who would prepare my usual faves and personally deliver the meal to the hospital. I had no idea until it arrived and the smell hit my nose. I cried so many happy tears into my food. I love frogs. He used to take a photo of every frog he'd find in our yard. He designed and vaccuformed a sign for our house that has both our favorite animals that says "Welcome Home". If he was out, he'd send me photos of, or come home with, cute frog themed things. On my bad pain days where I mostly "rot" in bed, he would bring me meals. On a wooden tray he made. It converts from a carry tray to a bed tray. He got the idea from hospital food trays. He helps me get my socks and shoes on when i just cant quite do it myself. He learned how to do a few styles of updos and how to curl and flatten hair to help me feel pretty. On days where I hate the broken body I have, he'll put my hair up and it brightens my day. That's the person i fell in love with. And so deeply miss. Some days he's that person. But more frequently now, hes not.   Update: July 30, 2024 Sorry for not being so responsive. Thank you to everyone who gave feedback and suggestions and all of the messages. It's been a week. Before I get into the update, going to answer some repeated questions. (Skip ahead 8 paragraphs for the actual update) Why does my husband not work? He can easily find employment but we both agreed that the pay was never worth the toxic environment of his field unless he wanted to start his own business, which he did not. He worked in home repair and renovation. It was gross how his coworkers spoke of and treated women, female customers and coworkers alike. He saw many female coworkers be sexually harassed into quitting. He hated how gross it made him feel when sales and adjusters would take advantage of women. Yes, selling inferior and unnecessary services at a premium is a thing. If he said anything, his hours would get cut until he left. He left one job on the first day because his boss left a screaming voicemail for not selling a refrigerant service to a young black couple who didnt even need refrigerant. Yes, he's got documentation and reported multiple employers to the state labor board. And checked back. Nothing was ever done to our knowledge. He's also tried a factory job and a warehouse since leaving the trades. Both heavily penalized him for needing scheduled time off for my medical needs. Theres no worker protection here for any of that until FMLA - unpaid - which takes a year to be eligible for. Yes. It is a privilege to walk away from a paying job with your middle fingers held high. I have done the same many times but am happy where I'm at right now because its the opposite of toxic. I'm thriving and our company has a no penalty, unlimited paid sick/medical leave policy that is strictly "enforced" at all levels of management. Any lead who penalizes people for taking leave gets sacked. A unicorn of a company. Add in a child and short of finding another unicorn employer who won't penalize him for needing time off for me or our daughter -such as when daycare closed for a week due to an RSV outbreak- puts him out of the workforce until either I stop working or our child old enough to not need consistent monitoring. Last reason for this dynamic is that although I'm disabled, my job pays almost double the highest salary he's ever had. With no reduction in pay for needing time off. It doesnt make financial sense for us to switch who the working partner is. Does my husband have a large following or make money from streaming/TikTok? No. His lives have an average of 6 viewers. And his Twitch has 3 followers. When we did our taxes, he didnt get a 1099 and he showed me that hed got all of $6 from TikTok live gifts. Nothing from Twitch. His viewer counts are about the same as end of last year. Why do we still have a weekly housekeeper and have our daughter in summer camp and part-time daycare? I hate the dynamic of one spouse working a single job for 40 hours a week while the other juggles simultaneous domestic duties, child rearing (care, enrichment, socialization), and essentially being on call 24/7. I would not want those expectations of me and couldn't fathom putting all of it on someone I love and cherish. If my husband did all of the activities and field trips that daycare did, his evenings and weekends would be taken up by domestic duties that i would physically struggle with assisting. The weekly housekeeper helps prevent deferred cleaning "paralysis". Where small missed things pile up into unwieldy monster tasks and struggling with where to start. The monthly deep clean and organization has been a world of self care as we navigated to having an infant and the transition from infant to toddler. (Edited to add: Our daughter started at the part time daycare when she turned 3. Before then, my partner *was* the primary caretaker which made the weekly housekeeping that much more helpful in not letting things fall to disarray.) The "allowance" thing. Yes. I wanted a dynamic where my husband had his "own" money even if he was not working a paying job. Maybe I've been on social media too long, but I've read so many stories of non working spouses (albeit mostly women) being financially abused or unable to leave marriages because they did not have access to money they could save up in private. Should I have stopped it sooner when our dynamic became too unbalanced? Yes. I own that. As for "what happens if/when we divorce", the house and settlement balance is in a trust completely separated and as far as my lawyer can tell, out of his reach. Alimony would be up for a judge to decide, but between my documentation, that his licenses/certs aren't expired, plus my continual medical costs, theres a good chance of not being obligated. Hopefully that answers most or all of the background-related questions? Onto the update. Friday I finished work to the smell of food being cooked. My husband was plating dinner on the table when I left my office. He said he wanted to talk over dinner. Some people had given me a heads up that my story was on multiple TikToks and Im grateful because it meant being prepared for the possibility he would see it. Which, I have feelings about my post being used for content on the very platform my child and I have been neglected for. Not good ones. He did see one. He asked if it was me and I told him the truth. Yes, I wrote it. Yes, that's how I feel. And Yes, I read the comments on Reddit. And no, I won't delete or change how I write about him just because I know he can see it. I don't know how to describe his reaction, but he said he'd spent the last day reflecting on "just how bad could it be" for so many medical diagnosis suggestions be given as reason and justification. He did say that he's not ADHD. His mom was addicted to opioids and Ritalin when he was a kid and she tried to get numerous doctors to have him diagnosed ADHD. She had him believing he was so he also sought out two opinions once he was an adult. He didnt learn about her addiction until his mid 20's. He did seek therapy once he was aware that his mom was trying to use him for pills. He said he was willing to see a psychiatrist one more time, but he doesn't think he's ADHD or autistic at all. He does think he might be depressed though. If not depressed, he will ask about some of the other medical suggestions if it will ease my worry or rule out a major problem. He did sound genuine in this but something he said is sticking with me. He said it jokingly and apologized as soon as he saw the hurt in my eyes. That everyone saying there's something wrong in his brain must be onto something since he chose to love and marry someone "medically fragile" knowing our life together would be anything but normal. He did also admit that the night he'd left the door open, the pot on, ruined our child's favorite dish, and a cup - he'd drank a little too much on his stream. And would monitor that more closely. He said the last few nights, he had been filling his "wine bottle" with grape juice so it looked like he was a jolly drinking viking, but was actually sober. He said he would keep doing that. After dinner, we went out and he surprised me with seeing the new Deadpool movie. We didn't go to our normal theater because he looked up what each theater had for limited edition popcorn buckets. I now have the baby Deadpool one that holds popcorn and a drink. We spent the next day going over the extent of how our family dynamic changed for the worse. How the little things have added up. How I see "change" as a part of an apology - if you verbally apologize but repeatedly do the same thing, the apology words are worthless to me. And that he didn't recognize just how frequently he was making the same/similar oopsies. Sunday, we spent talking over short and long term. What needs to change immediately, him scheduling his own doctor appointments. Timelines for expectations. He agreed that replacing or fixing things he caused will no longer come out of our expense account. He will pay it from his "allowance" account. Which we talked about. I did turn deposits back on, but only for $50 per paycheck. He suggested we keep it that way until he's "paid back" the cost of repairing the garage and car from earlier this year. He said it will take him far longer to undo the cost of destroying the engine to my last vehicle, but that he's going to step up and find ways to make it right. Yes. I see the red flags. Love bombing. Not "knowing" how frequently despite repeated talks. Thinking verbal apologies are the final step in apologizing and not "understanding" that repeatedly doing the same problem thing is the same as never apologizing. And yes, I know he will read this. Do I actually think this is resolved and we will come out of this as a perfect married couple who stays together until one of us croaks? Not really. (Full offense to husband, for now) Is it a potential resolution? Maybe. But my husband is fully aware that he has a lot to make up for, a lot to fix, and a tight schedule to make it happen. And that the lesson for our daughter (later in life) is either going to be "taking real accountability can steer a wayward ship back to course", "taking accountability is the right thing to do, even if you don't get the result you wanted", or "love alone isn't enough." tldr: Wow this sucks. I suck for letting it get this far. My husband sucks for what he's put us through. Life owes me a dinner date if its gonna eff me so hard. But there's a potential path forward that doesn't involve divorce. But may involve divorce. Edit to add: He finally read the post so please read between the lines to what I'm actually saying. Last 4 words of the previous 4 paragraphs if it's not obvious. Relevant Comments yesimreadytorumble: there is some truth to his joke given his ability to work has been impacted due to your medical needs, neither of you seem very keen on being a partner and given your take on alimony and money in general, i hope he looks out for his own financial interests. OOP: I'm trying to be a partner. It's why I am supportive and pay for help (housekeeping, part time daycare that is currently a full time summer camp) as well as ensure he has his own money to spend how he wants. There is truth that my medical needs impacts his ability to work, which would hurt him for alimony because he wouldn't need a unicorn job with unpenalized PTO if we aren't together. Would I still help him land semi-softly on his feet? Most likely. A judge, from what I've been told, would be less likely to obligate it. OOP on needing to grow a spine and have her talks with her husband to improve things OOP: I wish I could grow a spine and replace the one being held together with duct tape, screws, rust, and vibes. I'm -well- aware that he's 99.9% likely in a panic and the next month if that is going to be a refreshing, but temporary, change. Sorry people wrongly dogpiled you previously, but you are quite mistaken here for assuming my "I want to verify that my husband is indeed choosing to suck" is proof that I intend to continue living like this. BunchFull: Your two posts have a much larger following after a week that he does on all of his streaming junk combined 🤣 I have a very hard time believing he couldn’t keep a job because of how toxic his work environment was….but that’s just me 🤷🏻‍♂️ OOP: Looooook, I wasnt gonna say it. But you're not wrong. The toxic work environments part is sadly very true; I've seen the evidence he collected and submitted to the labor board. At least before everything went sideways, things were really nice with him as a house husband. Am sad he squandered it. I'll be financially able to retire in just a few years barring my career field suddenly tanking salaries though.   DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7 THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP submitted by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I have a toddler who is 26 months and she keeps trying to remove her sleep sack, mostly during her daytime nap but I was just wondering…when did ya’ll stop? submitted by /u/RoyalCaterpillar9173 to r/toddlers [link] [comments]

Just when talking baby/toddler stuff I’ve gotten some people being baffled that my daughter 2 and 3 months) is still sleeping in sleep sacks. Specifically Ergopouch ones, sack with arms. Everyone’s toddlers seem to be onto pillows and duvets, with some having moved into open beds as well My girl sleeps great, I usually wake her up in the morning or if she wakes first just lays in bed singing for a while, for naps I always wake her. And because she’s still in a proper cot she can’t get out to attempt to walk anyway. She moves so much in her sleep, and when she slept with her doll she would loose it in bed and wake me up to get it for her, I can’t imagine she’d be great with a blanket and I guess I find it comforting to know that she is warm and snug. I’m afraid to ruin our great sleep by making any of these changes (esp with new baby coming in a couple of months), but being the only one I know still using sacks is making me question wether I should? When did you switch out of the sleep sacks and are there any reason why I shouldn’t basically keep them until she refuses to wear them anymore? submitted by /u/Newmom060521 to r/beyondthebump [link] [comments]

Please help. Baby is 13 months and tall for her age. I’m wondering about switching to blankets instead of investing in more sleep sacks, they are so much money here (Canada.) But she regularly flips positions in her crib so idk... Any input welcome submitted by /u/_fast_n_curious_ to r/NewParents [link] [comments]

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