Weighted Blanket 10 Pounds

Hey folks. I'm a 51-year-old from Edison, and let me tell you, sleep has been kicking my butt for years. I'd lie there staring at the ceiling, brain racing about work, bills, the kids—you know the drill. My wife kept seeing ads for these weighted blankets everywhere, especially this BareEarth one, claiming it could "reduce cortisol and boost serotonin" or whatever. I thought it was just a heavy blanket—what's the big deal? But I went down the rabbit hole of Googling "BareEarth Weighted Blanket reviews complaints consumer reports" to see if this thing was actually legit or just another overpriced duvet. Does It Work? I couldn't find a formal "Consumer Reports" article on weighted blankets, so I grabbed one to test it myself. Short Answer: Yeah, it actually works, but you gotta get the right weight or you'll feel like you're trapped under a sack of potatoes. It uses Deep Touch Pressure Stimulation. That's the fancy term for "feeling like you're getting a gentle hug all night." The weight distributes across your body, which supposedly triggers your nervous system to chill out and produce more serotonin and less cortisol . The Feeling: First night, I put it on and honestly? I felt like I was being swaddled like a baby. Not crushing—just... present. Like a big dog curled up on your legs. It took maybe 10 minutes to get used to it, but then I realized my tossing and turning was way down. I wasn't flopping around trying to find a comfortable position because the blanket kinda held me in place. The Weight Rule: Here's the thing—everyone online says get 10% of your body weight. I'm about 210, so I got the 20-pounder. If you go too light, it's just a regular blanket. Too heavy and you'll feel like you're doing leg presses in your sleep. Do the math before you buy. I've been using this for the last month every single night. Falling Asleep: Used to take me an hour. Now? Maybe 20 minutes. The racing thoughts just... settle down. Staying Asleep: I used to wake up at 3 a.m. and stare at the ceiling for two hours. That's down to maybe once a week. Anxiety: This was unexpected. During the day, I feel calmer. Like my nervous system isn't on edge all the time. The blanket at night kinda resets me. Now, let's talk about the complaints I saw online, because some of them are fair—but a lot of them are people buying the wrong thing or expecting magic. The Problem: The biggest complaint I saw? "It's too hot." Look, if you buy a cheap weighted blanket filled with plastic pellets or polyester, yeah, you're gonna sweat like a sinner in church. Those don't breathe. You'll wake up drenched. The Real Deal: The BareEarth one uses glass beads and a cotton/Bamboo blend cover. Glass beads are smaller and heavier than plastic, so they need less filling, which means more airflow. The bamboo fabric breathes. I run hot, and I haven't woken up sweaty once. If you're buying a weighted blanket from a random Amazon seller for $40, it's plastic beads and polyester. You will roast. The Washing Complaint: Another one I saw—"it's impossible to clean." Yeah, you don't throw a 20-pound blanket in your home washer. That's common sense. It comes with a removable cover. You wash the cover. The blanket itself you spot clean. If you're spilling coffee on your bed that often, you got bigger problems than laundry. If you want a weighted blanket that actually calms you down without turning you into a sweaty mess, do not buy the cheap ones filled with plastic beads. You need the glass beads and bamboo cover. Buy it only from the official site. That's the only place I know for sure ships the genuine BareEarth with the right materials and the warranty. Don't trust the Amazon knock-offs. I'll drop the link to the official site in the comments so you don't waste money on a plastic-filled sweat sack that weighs 50 pounds. TL;DR: It's not magic, it's pressure therapy. Helped me fall asleep faster and stay asleep. Just make sure you get the right weight for your body and the glass bead version with the breathable cover, not the cheap plastic junk. submitted by /u/Sea-Couple9520 to r/AMLCompliance [link] [comments]

I am just looking for additional opinions on this situation. I am grieving very deeply and the only thing that has helped so far is researching my dog’s condition and praying I did the right thing. Species: Dog (I’ll call him “W”) Age: 16 Sex: Neutered male Breed: Pomeranian Weight: 7.1 lbs History: Feb 2022: W presented with vomiting and elevated ALT levels. Abdominal ultrasound done, findings are as followed – “Notable nodular overall echotexture with very irregular cortex. Liver subjectively small in size.” And the clinical assessment was – “Nodular hepatopathy with micro hepatica – Ddx: End-stage chronic hepatitis, hepatic cirrhosis, copper-storage hepatitis, other inflammatory”. Vet suggested a biopsy of the liver but I declined given W’s advanced age. The vet then encouraged me to focus on palliative care. Liver supplements given, but W was otherwise stable and happy. Sept 2022: W brought back into vet due to anorexia, lethargy and weight loss. Vet opted to start him on prednisolone to help bring down inflammation in the liver and help him eat. Bloodwork showed continued ALT elevation. This treatment was helpful – W regained all lost weight and lived for three additional years stable and happy. Jan 2026: W started to decline rapidly at the beginning of January. He stopped showing interest in food, despite his daily steroid dosage. Over the next two weeks, he began to shake frequently – despite being wrapped in blankets to keep him warm. He began to display other symptoms such as confusion, lethargy, head pressing, drooling, and anorexia. The inside of his ears were beginning to turn yellow. I brought him to the vet on 1/27 because he stopped eating all together. Upon weighing W, it was discovered that he had lost half a pound in the last four weeks. (7.6 lbs to 7.1 lbs) Temp was 102.9 Abdominal ultrasound was done which showed free fluid in the abdominal cavity and chest. It also showed a large mass on the liver. The vet could not diagnose the mass without an official biopsy but guessed that it was nodular hepatocellular carcinoma. I was told after these findings that the best thing to do was humanely euthanize W. I was told that the free fluid in the abdomen was a sign that his liver had finally given out. His quality of life had diminished. I made the decision to humanely euthanize W on 1/27. I owned W for 10 years and am grieving his loss tremendously. I just wanted the opinion of others to see if you believe euthanasia was the correct choice in these circumstances. The photo of him just breaks my heart because I can see in his eyes that he was suffering. I am trying to believe I gave him peace by choosing to euthanize. But I miss him so terribly. submitted by /u/enchantedrrose to r/seniordogs [link] [comments]

I have had two weighted blankets that haven’t been heavy enough to help me… I find I need to feel “crushed” for me to feel calm. Usually I have my 240 pound husband put both his legs on me, or just completely crush me so I can sleep. I let out a sigh of relief when he crushes me, it makes me feel good.… it’s like everything just feels better. I can think calmly. I can relax. That said, sometimes he can’t crush me (he doesn’t find it comfy to crush me), so I am looking for something heavy I can wear to sleep in… a weighted vest maybe? The 10% or 20% of bodyweight rule doesn’t seem to apply to me it seems, because my body/brain just doesn’t calm down. It’s the equivalent of using nothing for me. I’m wondering if anyone else has this problem and uses something HEAVY? We‘ve joked about putting a rock or a weight on top of me so I can feel better… but obviously that’s not a great idea so I haven’t tried that.… I’m looking for something more practical. I’m 130 pounds… just wondering if anyone has anyone suggestions. thank you! submitted by /u/bumbledbeez to r/AutismInWomen [link] [comments]

I wish they had a discussion tag, or I just can't see it today. So I heard about a woman who tried weighted blankets and vest and wasn't moved to use them again. Then at a suggestion she used a free weight, the big round weights that you put on a long bar and lift. She put a towel on her chest then the weight. She said it was great. I know that I hold my breath, forget to breathe, and just a lot of issues with my ribs and the connective tissue. While I wait to find a PT to help with it, I figured why not. I have a 10 pound bag of rice. It covers my whole ribcage. I used a blanket around my boobs. It was obviously uncomfortable, but it gave me permission to only think about one thing, breathing. Talk about wow. I checked my heart rate on my watch and even on meds never drops below mid 70s. 61and I was awake. I was so calm afterwards and obviously felt so light. Breathing seemed fun, if that makes sense? I usually run from things that help and feel good because I can't live in them and I don't trust myself to use it wisely. I'm going to set a timer and do it ten minutes every day. Why try to force myself to meditate when this just does it? Why do I feel guilty if something feels good and is easy? It reminds me of Temple Grandin's squeeze box, no wonder she could do so much. submitted by /u/Ok-Shape2158 to r/AuDHDWomen [link] [comments]

Hi! I’m 115 pounds and I know people say 10 percent of your body weight. But I tried a 15 pound bearaby at the store on my lap while sitting on a couch. It was nice but didn’t seem as deep pressure as I would have thought so think I’d maybe like a 20. Unless laying down make it feel entirely different? Do you think this would be too much or make me wake up with painful hips and feet as I’ve heard some people say? Thank you! submitted by /u/pumpkinboogie to r/AuDHDWomen [link] [comments]

I recently purchased a weighted blanket I have been sleeping with on my bed. I have a little dog (dachshund mix) who usually likes to crawl and sleep under blankets. The blanket is 15 pounds and about twin size. My dog is 10 pounds. I read online that weighted blankets are supposed to be 10% of your body weight to safely use, so might be similar for dogs? He keeps crawling under the weighted blanket himself, but I am worried about safety risks. Thoughts? submitted by /u/sweet_dreams_33 to r/Pets [link] [comments]

My wife has anxiety and insomnia and wants to try a weighted blanket because her therapist suggested it. I'm skeptical that a heavy blanket is going to magically fix sleep problems but willing to try it if it might help. The issue is they're not cheap, decent ones are like 60-150 depending on weight and size. I guess you're supposed to get one that's 10% of your body weight but she's 130 pounds and I'm 190 so we'd need different weights which means buying two blankets or just getting one for her. Some are cooling fabric, others are regular cotton or minky material. Reviews mention that cheaper ones have beads that shift around and get lumpy or leak which sounds annoying. We live in Texas so heat is a concern, don't want something that'll make us sweat all night. Has anyone actually noticed improved sleep with a weighted blanket or is it just a trendy thing that doesn't really work? And what weight and material actually stays cool enough for warm climates? submitted by /u/MamtasharmaBlanka to r/sleep [link] [comments]

I used to have one like 5 years ago, but I don't have it anymore, and I don't even remember how much it weighed. I almost feel like it was 10 pounds? I maybe want a 15-20 pound one. Thanks for the assistance and of course any questions for me to further help please reach out! submitted by /u/blaudrache0084 to r/BuyItForLife [link] [comments]

I am 34 years old and my family has had this blanket for as long as I can possibly remember, and I’ve always loved the weight (kinda like a weighted blanket) and feel of it. I am not currently by the blanket, but I estimate that it is a large throw and must weigh at least 10 pounds (or at least that’s what it feels like when it’s draping off of you). 1.) I know absolutely nothing about crocheting but I would like to identify the patterns used in this blanket. 2.) I would also like to know the type of yarn used if anyone can help me identify it. (For weight texture purposes) 3.) I would also like to know if there is an easy pattern that could create a blanket of similar weight. (Without the complexity that this one appears to have). My goal is to make a similar feeling blanket (weight/texture) in a dark color that is equally as (or even more) durable. Thank you in advance! submitted by /u/Substantial-Media-11 to r/CrochetHelp [link] [comments]

Obligatory "on mobile, sorry for formatting." I have a 100% polyester weighted blanket (glass beads, I think about 15 pounds). After finding a bed bug in my room, I laid the blanket outside in the sun for about 10 hours as a heat treatment, as it is hand wash only. However, the blanket now smells really bad. Was the heat bad for it? Do I have to get rid of it? I'm not sure how to wash it, or even if washing it will get the smell out. I don't know how to describe the smell, except that it smells the way I imagine a cigarette butt would taste if you ate it. Not smoky, just... bad. Any help would be appreciated. submitted by /u/ziecatch to r/CleaningTips [link] [comments]

Nearly 10,500 beads and 10 pounds. I was trying to incorporate Era color, album covers, and Eras tour outfits. I tried to nest in a lot of details. Like the 1989 outfit combinations have the shoes as if Taylor is facing you. 🙂 What would you change? submitted by /u/Kakapond519 to r/crochet [link] [comments]

Nearly 10,500 beads! It weighs about 10 pounds. Each section is meant to incorporate era color, album covers, and Eras tour outfits. For example, 1989 has the blue mixed with Eras outfit combinations. Evermore has brown with green hooded capes and mustard dress. And of course the Reputation snake. What would you change?!?! submitted by /u/Kakapond519 to r/TaylorSwift [link] [comments]

Hey everyone. So summer is just around the corner where I live and I want to get a weighted blanket for the warmer weather. Some things of note. 1: I currently sleep under 2 or 3 comforters for the weight. 2: I only want about 10-15 pounds (enough weight to feel secure but still be able to move around comfortably) 3: I want a smaller size because I'll be sharing a queen size bed with my husband but won't be sharing the blanket and it drives me bananas when the blanket gets pulled off the side of the bed. 4: We don't have air conditioning, so the more cooling, the better. 5: we have cats and have to use a communal laundry, so it needs to be easy to wash and dry. I've been sort of looking at the luna bamboo, the YnM bamboo and maybe the Bearby lyocell one. Are any of these good options or would you guys recommend something else. Thanks so much for your time. submitted by /u/Humancowhybrid to r/WeightedBlankets [link] [comments]

We had to say goodbye to our perfect girl Bailey today. Last Friday when I took her downstairs to feed her breakfast she could barely walk down the steps and she refused to eat. She just laid down in front of her bowls and would drink a ton of water. Our vet is closed on Fridays and the emergency vet in our city recently closed. We called other local vets to see if they would see her but everyone said no so we drove 40+ minutes to the nearest emergency vet. About a year or so ago she had time where she didn't want to eat and had a hard time walking. Our vet thought it could be related to arthritis or some type of pain she was feeling when walking. She prescribed an anti-inflammatory and Bailey was back to her normal self in less than 24 hours. Going into the emergency vet we were thinking that is what was going to be the case again. Well, when the Dr. came into the room we told her about that and she listened. Then she said "Well I am afraid this time it is much more serious." She then told us she did a brief ultrasound and found a large mass in her spleen that was bleeding. She quoted us $7,000-$10,000 minimum for surgery and said that even with surgery if it is cancer she might only live a month after surgery. We opted to take her home for the weekend and got an appointment scheduled with our local vet for Monday (today). The plan was to do some blood tests and scans to try and get a better picture of what was going on and then discuss surgery at our vet. Our vet told us none of their Dr.'s will perform the surgery since it is a complicated surgery so we would have to go back to the emergency vet for that. We told her right out we couldn't justify spending $7,000-$10,000 minimum with not knowing what the outcome would be after. Friday when we got back from the emergency vet she just laid on the floor all day and slept. She would only get up if we asked her to go outside. We did get her to eat chicken and rice, tuna, and fruit. Saturday she had a burst of energy in the morning to get her chicken and rice for breakfast and then she had enough energy to get up and follow us from room to room on her own. She even jumped up on my bed to snuggle with me and she wouldn't give me any kisses when I asked but that one time on my bed she gave me two and I think she knew it was time. Sunday she went back to being restless and just laying in one spot pretty much. It snowed and when she peed outside we could see that there was blood. She always loved going to the vet and would literally let the vet do anything. When she would get shots she had zero reaction and just continued wagging her tail. So when we took her to the vet today she couldn't wait to get inside. They took her weight and I thought for sure she had lost a lot of weight but she only lost a few pounds. Our Dr. suggested we take her home and discuss what we wanted to do. She said she was double booked but if we wanted to come back and send her to heaven to call and they would get us in. My mom and I ended up discussing in the room after the Dr. left the room and we made the decision to help her cross the rainbow bridge right then and there. We both agreed that we couldn't go another day just laying on the floor not moving because that isn't her at all. I also don't know if I would have been able to handle seeing her instantly die if we kept her and the bleed caused that. She was so happy in the vet wagging her tail nonstop and saying hi to all the workers. I felt so bad at first sending her off since she was so happy but now that I look at it I would rather know she was happy when she went than very sad and in a bad mood. One of the vet workers brought in two Hershey Kisses and she gave one to Bailey and then gave us the other one to feed her since she said no dog goes to heaven without getting to try chocolate. They brought a blanket in for her to lay down on and the Dr. then came back in. She said she thought we were definitely making the right decision since she was not going to get better and her quality of life was already so bad since she was so active before. The Dr. asked me to hold her tight while she gave her a big shot in the butt and I did and again Bailey had no reaction and just was eating all of the treats in front of her. My mom and I spent a good amount of time with her after she crossed the rainbow bridge. We took her collar, harness, and leash with us. In 2 weeks they will call us when they have her ashes to pick up. I am absolutely devesated because Bailey was my best friend. She was a people lover where she loved people more than other dogs. She wanted to say hello to everybody. With that she always wanted to be close by us and she gave the best snuggles. She just turned 7 years old five days ago so this seemed way to short but we loved every minute she blessed us with. Hug your doodles tight for us! You truly never know when you can lose your best friend. submitted by /u/yoitsjake99 to r/Goldendoodles [link] [comments]

Hey everyone! So lately, I've been thinking about trying a weighted blanket to help with stress and sleep issues, but I’m on a bit of a budget. I’ve seen some super expensive options out there, but I’m wondering if there are any cheaper ones that are still comfortable and effective. I weigh 145 pounds, so I’ve heard I should aim for a blanket around 10-15 pounds—does that sound right? Have any of you found a budget-friendly weighted blanket that you love? What brands or specific models would you recommend? Are there any materials or features I should look for or avoid? Do cheaper options hold up well over time, or do they end up being a waste of money? I’d love to hear about your experiences—what’s worked for you and what hasn’t. Bonus points if you can point me to something available online! Thanks in advance! submitted by /u/HappyHomemakerLife to r/NeedProductHelp [link] [comments]

I am not the original poster. OOP is CurrentPut9801 in /r/relationship_advice*. ORIGINAL Post recovered through Unddit\* *Mood spoiler:* enraging but the best possible outcome given the situation. ... I made a plan to create a relationship contract. I'm having second thoughts. Is this a good idea? I am extremely unsatisfied with my husband, and I’m going to give him a contract in a last-ditch attempt to make this marriage more satisfying. It’s still functional (if annoying), but I haven’t given up on it being a joy in my life just yet. My husband (34) and I (31) were set up by family members almost seven years ago. Our families are conservative and value marrying young, and we were both getting a little old to be unmarried by their standards. We’ve been married for six, and had two daughters (5 and 2). He’s an accountant, I’m at home with the kids now and will eventually go back to working. In the course of our marriage, a bunch of problems have developed. I’ll explain them, why they bother me, and what I did about them. he started believing that he has depression and anxiety and actually wanted to get a therapist. I don’t believe that those are real things, and I definitely don’t want him going to some lying bitch who will cost a hundred dollars an hour to fill his head with lies. He stopped talking about it, but he still clearly thinks that his problem is clinical (he once ordered a weighted blanket online without telling me. I threw it in the trash before he got home). I made it clear that I don’t want to hear about it and that he needs to man up. He’s become really emotionally weak in general and always seems on edge around me. We set a rule that if he starts crying, he has to leave the room so that he’s not doing it in front of me or the kids. I need him to set a good example for them. He was thin to begin with, and he looks like he’s lost at least twenty pounds (he blamed “anxiety” before I set the rule against talking about it). I’ve told him to get on that because it makes him look like less of a man and he’s already short. No dice. I told him that it makes me look bad as his wife. No dice. I have to scold him into finishing his plate like he’s a child. He seems to be avoiding spending time with me. He takes the kids and leaves to stay at his parents’ every other weekend, and often visits friends on weekends when he doesn’t (again, often taking the kids). Often I’ll tell him not to, but he does it anyhow. This has gotten more frequent as time goes on, and now he’s rarely home on weekends. He works 10:30-8:00, and often he’s not home until nine or ten at night. He says he either had to do some overtime or he went out with a friend after work. Either way, it’s happening much more than it used to. During my second pregnancy, he offered looking after the kid in the morning so that I can sleep in. He can’t stop me from waking up and being with him at that time, but he does say that he likes having time alone with the kids. We end up fighting a lot when we’re together. It’s mostly because if he’s not around a lot, I have to get out all my grievances with him while I have him. I feel like part of the reason why he comes home late is so the kids won’t see us fighting. He’s best friends (or at least used to be, he doesn’t talk to me much about his friendships anymore) with this gay couple. Now, I’m a live-and-let-live type, but my husband seems like the type to be especially vulnerable to their influences (right after we married, he told me that he’s not a very sexual person but that we could have sex as often as I want. In general, he shows very little lust, and essentially none in recent years) and I don’t want them confusing him about who he is or what he wants. He also takes our daughters around them. I’m not sure how comfortable I am with that. He still offers sex when asked to, but he never initiates anymore. I once quit initiating to see how long it would take, and it was almost three months before I broke down and initiated. The sex itself is fine. He’s never been very enthusiastic, but as of late he‘s been even less so, and won’t tell me why. Anyhow, the contract: He has to stop believing that he has depression and anxiety, and toughen up emotionally. He is allowed to cry at home twice a week. He has to gain back the weight he’s lost. He can visit his parents for the weekend once a month, and can leave for a friend’s house for upwards of three and a half hours once a month (visits of three and a half hours or less are not restricted in frequency). He has to stop hanging out with the gay couple he’s friends with. He has to initiate sex at least twice a month, regardless of the frequency at which I am initiating. He has to initiate physical intimacy (kissing) at least twice a week. I will get up early at least twice a week from now on, and the kids will see us interacting like a couple should. During this time he is not to start arguments. In general, he is to stop giving me the impression that he’s avoiding spending time with me. His curfew for weeknights is 9:20, and he may break it once per week. Divorce goes against our religion, so I don’t have to worry about him dropping me over this, plus he’s a pretty passive person in general. And despite everything, I do still want him around. He’s a great provider, the kids love him, and raising two children by myself without his help would be difficult. Plus, no one would want a woman in her 30s with two kids. But I wish he were the man I married. He’s gotten weak and cowardly and it only gets worse the more I tell him to get it together. Basically, I wish I could still respect him. Maybe if I tell him as much, and he sees direct, specific ways he can change that written in ink, he’ll wake up. Four months after he signs the document, we can review it, and if all goes well, hopefully the habits will be in place and we won’t need a contract anymore. Anything I should change before I finalize it and print it out? TL;DR: I am thinking of making a contract in order to make a marriage that we're basically trapped in more pleasant. I need advice on how to make it as effective as possible. ... UPDATE, recovered through Unddit - Help- my (31F) husband (34M) is considering divorce. How do I prevent this? So, two weeks ago I made a post to Reddit about how to fix my relationship with my husband. A little background- we’re 31F and 34M, and have two kids- 5F and 3F. Our religion forbids divorce, and my reputation and social life would be at serious risk if it were known that we had marital problems. If you want to know more about our marital problems, go look at the only post in my post history. I took everyone’s advice- I started being nicer to my husband, got a marriage counselor, never used the marriage contract, and even replaced the item of his that I threw away (it’s ordered. He’ll think it showed up months late, but I’m not admitting to throwing it away when our marriage is already so precarious). For a while, I even thought it was working, because he seemed a little more at ease with me and we weren’t fighting as much. Then, yesterday happened. The marriage counselor said outright that though he almost never recommends divorce, I had “come from an abusive household,” and was “creating a toxic environment for my family.” None of this is true. He said that he couldn’t force us to get a divorce, and that he would continue to help us improve our relationship if we didn’t, but that he couldn’t keep going in good conscious without saying that. He also offered to see us separately to help us handle the emotional side of the divorce, if that’s what we decided. I was disappointed, because I thought I’d found a counselor who understood our situation on a social and religious level. I told him that his services would no longer be needed, and we paid him and left for home. I told my husband on the way back that the counselor was just trying to double his profits by seeing us separately instead of together, and he forced a laugh. Then he started asking questions about how I treat the girls. I treat them fine. He mentioned that our five year old has started leaving the room whenever she cries (up until two weeks ago, I a rule against my husband crying in front of me, so he would leave the room when he started crying during our fights). It’s not my fault she picked that up! I never had that rule for her. He said that that doesn’t make that better. Of course it does?? Anyhow, we were fighting the entire car trip. Last night I didn’t see him. I was asleep before he got home. We saw each other this morning, but didn’t really speak. Then tonight, he brought up divorce again and we got into another screaming match. I told him that if we divorced, it wasn’t just me that our families would hate until the end of time- they’d hate him, too. He was going to make us both pariahs in our church and social circles. Then he took the kids and left to God knows where, saying that he didn’t care because he couldn’t live like this anymore. I’m terrified right now and I don’t know how to talk him out of doing this. What do I do? ... UPDATE #2 on r/legaladvice How to win a custody battle? I am 31F. My husband is 34M. Our kids are 3F, 5F, and one on the way. We're effectively divorced, but we're not going to go through any of the legal stuff yet, because my husband feels it would be wrong to put me through that while I'm pregnant (why he feels it's better to do while I'm caring for an infant is beyond me). He makes the money, I stay home with the kids. He's said that he'll leave me enough to live on, and if I get custody of the kids, more than enough for them to live on- but he's going to fight to get custody if he can. He plans on leaving the kids with his parents while he works if he can pull it off. This is obviously ridiculous. Yes, his parents are retired, but foisting a toddler and an infant on them five days a week (our oldest is in kindergarten)? His reasons for this is because he disagrees with some of my parenting methods, but come on- they're in better (and younger) hands with their mother. So how do I maximize my chances? Edit: Location is Arizona. ... UPDATE #3 on r/Christianity How do I become a nun? I’m planning to become a nun in roughly seven months. Where do I go? What do I bring? What do I have to have done beforehand? I’m not telling anyone what I’m doing beforehand. How easy will it be for them to track me down? I want them to never see me again, but they probably won’t look too hard. Also, can you become a nun if you were married before? We’re currently separated and I could get the divorce in writing at any time. I’m in Arizona, btw, but I’m willing to travel to anywhere in the United States for this. ... UPDATE #4 How to rebuild my life after leaving fundamentalism? I lived all my life thinking that if I just followed God enough and did what I was told it would give me happiness and pride. Instead all it gave me was a miserable marriage to a pathetic man, judgement from all my peers, and so few skills that I have no idea what to do next. I’m 32F, and have never worked for money in my life. I’m three months pregnant our third child, and he wants to divorce me as soon as I’ve recovered from the birth. He wants to take the kids due to differences in parenting methods, and I’ve decided not to fight it. I don’t even want visitation rights. If I never see anyone from my old life again, it’ll be too soon. So... how do I do this? How do I get work skills? What do I do now that I serve hedonism instead of God? Where do I go for social support now that I can’t go to church or anyone from my old life? What do heathens do for fun? Part of me is really excited to wear slutty dresses and watch Marvel movies and drink cocktails and have casual sex and live alone in an apartment with four cats and a common-law lover and stuff like that, but I’m also scared. I don’t know what I’m getting myself into. What if I don’t like it? I can’t wait to leave my family, but what if this isn’t any better? What steps should I be taking right now? ... FINAL UPDATES from OOP's comments 10 months ago, responding to a comment about having been a terrible wife- " Yeah. I’ve started going to therapy and I can see that now. My husband is doing better now that we are only coparents. We’ve decided that it’s best if I don’t have equal custody of the kids, but I’m still going to have visitation rights with them every other weekend. We’ve both left Fundamentalism, and I can’t lie, it’s lonely. I wasn’t really supposed to interact with people outside of it, so I don’t really have friends anymore. Getting a job is also proving pretty difficult while I’m pregnant, but hopefully it’ll go better once the baby is born. We already have a place figured out for me to move into once I’m recovered from the birth, and we’ll formally divorce whenever one of us decides it’s necessary. I imagine since he’ll have young kids to look after it’ll be a while, but we’re okay with that." 3 months ago, responding to a comment about whether or not she has stopped abusing her children " I only see them every other week, but yes. " submitted by /u/thanksyalll to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

Sorry so long.... You may wonder why I am being so nit-picky about the weights of these blankets. These weighted blankets are sold for people with various health conditions. They are not just regular bed blankets. I am buying a 15 pound blanket for health benefits to try to improve certain illnesses I have. The weights are supposed to be within 10-12% of your body weight in order for them to work. If the 15 pound blanket turns out to be only 11 pounds, it will not be effective in any way. Since they end up being less weight than the doctor recommend, in order to get correct health benefits from them they have to be 15 pounds. My doctor said any less than 15 pounds is useless and won't help my health issues. The problem is most of the third party sellers selling these are Chinese who have them in the US in the Amazon warehouses for Prime shipping. These Chinese vendors are selling shoddy products and imitating and counterfeiting the American versions of them. When I purchased a 15 pound 48"x72" weighted blanket on Amazon I noticed it felt light when I picked it up. Just for shits and giggles I took out my commercial digital postage scale and weighed it. It only weighed 10 pounds!! I returned it and ordered another 15 pound blanket from another brand. When I got the blanket I got my scale out. It only weighed 11 pounds 10 ounces. So I returned that one. Then I figured since I got screwed twice with 15 pound blankets, I would order a 17 pound one just in case the other one was 2 or 3 pounds lighter than advertised. Guess what?! That one weighed only 13 pounds 3 ounces!! So I returned that one and bought another brand again in a 15 pound weight. Got that one and it only weighed 13 pounds. So I returned that one and ordered another brand's 15 pound blanket and weighed that one. It only weighed 12 pounds 1 ounce. WTF?! A lot of you must be thinking why do you keep bothering if this keeps happening? Well for starters Amazon has a generous return policy. I figure if I try buying different brands when they don't end up weighing 15 pounds, eventually one of the brands being sold will end up being right. These same blankets are being sold on other websites and online retailers for $100-$200 which I cannot afford. The Amazon price is usually less than half or even as much as 60%-70% less for the same brands being sold for so much more at other retailers. At first the customer service reps just told me to return for a refund, and basically told me they were sorry, but it was out of their power to do anything for my inconvenience. However, I persisted and demanded speak to a manager to tell them what was going on. When they said "No ma'am, just return for a refund" I said I wanted to speak to a manager because clearly they didn't seem to care about this blatant fraud. All of the managers I spoke to via chat apologized and tried to compensate me a little for my aggravation. I asked them to please do something about this scam that is going on with these third party Chinese Amazon sellers. I felt less angry, because they did a few nice thing for me by offering me a couple of small credits/gift cards, but I am still quite aggravated. I know I sound like my name is Karen by the way, but trust me I am not, lol. The managers I spoke to admitted this was a rampant problem and they are getting a lot of complaints about this. When I tried to warn people by writing reviews for each blanket brand that I was hoodwinked by, all of a sudden I got a message via email by Amazon stating "Due To Unusual Activity You Are No Longer Able To Write Reviews". I had over 525 reviews that I have written since I was a member all the way back in 2000. 95% of my reviews were positive and I had over 1,500 helpful votes from other members. Apparently, Amazon deleted every single one of my reviews going back to 2000 and I am no longer allowed to write reviews for products I buy. WTF?! I feel they are silencing me to make sure none of these sellers get called out on their scams. Since I am unable to write reviews to warn others of what is going on, I decided to come here to let you know of the fraud that is going on with most of the weighted blanket sellers (most of them Chinese third party sellers). Just to make sure my scale was accurate, every time my husband and I took one of these blankets to our local UPS store to return, I asked them to weigh these blankets (out of the box and packaging) for me and sure enough my scale was spot on. Apparently there is fraud going on with the Chinese dealers of weighted blankets on the site that Amazon isn't monitoring. Here is my suggestion. If you need a 15 pound blanket, buy a 20 pound one because every single one that I have purchased and weighed end up being 3-5 pounds less than advertised. If for health reasons, you need it to be a 15 pound blanket and it weighs less, it won't work as intended. ********UPDATE (EDITED)*******\* I ordered two more 15 pound blankets since writing this with different name brands. One of them turned out to have been a return sold as new. It lacked it's original packaging and was sent to me repackaged in a dirty, plain, generic, large Ziploc type of bag that they attempted to reseal. The Ziploc zipper was busted and the top was open and the bag had tears in it. The blanket inside had stains on it. That one only weighed 11 pounds 5 ounces. The other 15 pound blanket only weighed 11 pounds 8 ounces! In the original box it was packaged and sealed inside of the Amazon shipping box, the name brand was different than the one I ordered. Turns out the different name brand printed on the box, was the same brand as another blanket I was sold that was several pounds less than 15 pounds. It also had Chinese writing on the box too. Apparently it was rebranded and sold under a different name brand. I guess the other name brand had so many negative reviews they just changed the brand name and name brand tag sewed on the blanket to another one to get away with their scam. This time I ordered a 20 pound blanket and am supposed to get it today. As soon as it arrives, I will weigh it and update you all on how many pounds it really is. There is rampant fraud going on Amazon and the sellers of these blankets are truly scamming people. ****UPDATE****: The 20 lb blanket ended up being 17 pounds 4 ounces. I can't seem to win, lol. submitted by /u/IMissMyMomSoMuch to r/amazonprime [link] [comments]

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157.8 > 124.8 I am not hating on the need to take medication for depression or anxiety. I have been on and off of it for years, but Zoloft really messed me up. I was at my heaviest weight of 160 pounds at 5’2. I got off of it, used running and the gym as my method to help my anxiety (including my weighted blanket and a lot of CBD products) and managed to get back down to a weight where I feel pretty amazing! I still have a few ways to go before I get to the weight I want to be for my body but I haven’t been this fit ever! I’m just really proud of how far I have come. At one point it almost felt impossible to reach my goal weight. Now I only have 10 pounds to go! This subreddit really helps keep me going and I hope someone finds motivation from my progress too! submitted by /u/thetinyherbivore to r/loseit [link] [comments]

I've been using a weighted blanket for a couple of years and it seems to help a little with sleep quality and stress. The universally recommended weight is about 10% of your body weight, plus or minus a few pounds based on personal preference, so that's what I've been using. It recently occurred to me, along the same lines as with Yudkowsky's example of outdoing traditional light therapy by adding more light and Don't Worry About The Vase's More Dakka, that more weight might be better. I looked to see if there was any research on this. Ideally I'd find a dose response curve showing diminishing or negative returns after the weight increases above a certain level. What I found was that the 10% recommendation is based on the use of weighted vests (not blankets, and not during sleep) in autistic children. I haven't looked into how that figure was determined, but it should not be surprising if the optimal weight for a blanket on a sleeping adult is different than a vest on an awake child. There are two papers that use a heavier 30lb blanket. The first tested the safety of these heavier blankets by putting them on participants for 5 minutes while tracking their vitals then taking them off. They concluded that this was safe. The second, by the same authors 7 years later (science can be slow), studied the effect of 30-lb weighted blankets on adults "during an acute inpatient mental health hospitalization." They found that it was effective in reducing anxiety and seemed safe ("Safety measures include blood pressure, pulse rate, and pulse oximetry monitoring"). So today I tried lying down with my 17-lb weighted blanket folded in half to simulate a twice-as-heavy blanket. This should correspond to a 34-lb blanket -- far heavier than anyone recommends, albeit not covering my whole body. This feels nicer. I feel like I would sleep better if I had a full-body blanket with this amount of pressure. Then I folded it in half again, so it should correspond to a 68lb blanket. This feels even nicer (on the parts that are covered at least, since now it covers only a small area). I think I'd sleep really well with a full-body blanket this heavy. The heaviest blankets I can find online are 25-30lb, so if I want a heavier one I'll need to either double up or make my own. Thoughts? submitted by /u/lupnra to r/slatestarcodex [link] [comments]

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Where I started: On April 19 of this year, I started at roughly 163 pounds (74 kg) at 5'4" (163 cm) with a BMI of 28 (overweight BMI). Where I ended: On September 10, I hit my goal weight of 130 pounds by weighing in at 129.4 pounds (58.7 kg) and a BMI of 22.3 (normal BMI). Before and After with weight chart: https://i.postimg.cc/MH8xyGvn/Elizalupine_Weight_Goal_Writeup.jpg Timing: When I began the process, I had the intention of losing 1-2 pounds per week which would have taken me about 20 weeks. I estimated pretty well because it took me 21 weeks to reach my goal. On average, I lost 1.6 pounds per week and roughly 7 pounds per month. System: The main system that I used was CICO (calories in, calories out), I tracked my food in MyFitnessPal, and for the first half of my weight loss I used the gym's scale and weighed in once per week, but then switched to a daily weigh-in using the Etekcity Digital Body Weight Bathroom scale. I maintained between a 500 and 1000 calorie deficit, and the exact amount is difficult because of fluctuations with water weight and activity level of that week. This usually worked out to eating 1200-1300 calories during the week and then around 1400 on the weekends which coincided with my workouts. Grab a drink and settle in for my novella about the insights I discovered along the way. I've divided it up into things that worked for me, things that didn't work for me, challenges, and surprises. THINGS THAT WORKED Logging my food became a minimum requirement during my weight loss journey. It's too hard for me to keep track of things in my head, so I log everything that I consume into MFP and I make decisions based on that information. I do not have "cheat meals" or "cheat days" or "no-logging days" because I want to connect the weight fluctuations back to my eating decisions. Of course sometimes I go over my daily limit, but I don't consider that cheating - it's just part of the process. Two things helped to improve my food logging process: at the beginning of my journey, I spent an evening manually importing all of my go-to recipes into MFP's recipe manager, and now I can log those common meals quickly and consistently. Second, I started using a food scale and consistently measured everything in grams, and then found the MFP listings that show the food in grams. I weigh things just before I eat, so if I'm logging some chicken I will look for "chicken breast, cooked, in grams" and use that listing. Tip: ASDA is a grocery chain based in Europe and lists food nutritional values of ingredients and basic foods in grams, so I would search "ASDA corn" to find a listing of cooked corn in grams. One of the main reasons that I have been successful is through joining the 30-day accountability challenges. Shout out to /u/pumpkin_beer , /u/viking187, /u/loquinmalie, and /u/Mountainlioness404d for hosting the challenges! It was so incredibly encouraging to get messages about my thoughts, progress, and reflections and I want to thank them all for taking the time to create a space where we could discuss our daily experiences. Not only was it motivating to talk to other people about the ups and downs, but I set different mini-goals for myself each month that reflected the process in my journey. Each month, I had a daily tracking goal and a monthly mini-goal which was about 5 pounds per month. The first month (May) I focused on reflecting on new behaviors, learning what my body truly needs, and self-soothing techniques that don't require food. The second month (June) I focused on a daily meditation practice, noticing what affects my self-control, and continued reflecting on my new behaviors. The third month (July) I continued the daily meditation practice, noticing what feels good (non-food), and learning how to take anxiety out of cooking. The fourth month (August) I made it more simple and focused on what specific cravings I experienced and instituted a daily appreciation practice. The fifth month (September) I continued the daily appreciation and incorporated a goal to make one new vegetable-based healthy dish per week. During most of the weight loss, I exercised 1-2 days a week with high-intensity kickboxing conditioning classes. Sometimes I would switch one of those days out with an hour on the elliptical machine instead, and I enjoyed watching the TV show Scandal while working out. Mindset: I started losing the weight by thinking "If I want to weigh 130 pounds, I need to eat like a 130-pound person." There was absolutely no shame or self-hate regarding my body at my highest weight, but instead I was making the decision that I no longer needed to carry around 30 pounds of extra weight. I thought of the weight like a storage shed and that I tend to hang on to things longer than they are needed, and the weight loss process was de-cluttering the closet so that I was only carrying around what I needed. This mindset was critical in my success because it didn't feed into a shame spiral and it allowed me to take care of my mental health at the same time as lose the weight. It was a practical and concerted effort rather than an attempt to force my body to change or be someone different than I am. Food: I didn't make any major changes to my diet, and I think this is one of the reasons that it was so successful. Early on I noticed that bread wouldn't sit very well with me after eating it, and it would make me really sleepy, so I removed it from my diet. I didn't make any other intentional changes and focused more on portion control. Of course to maintain a 1000-calorie deficit and not be constantly angry, some gradual changes did occur in my diet. I stopped thinking of foods as "good vs bad" but instead started thinking of them as "worth it vs not worth it." My personal "worth it" foods are ice cream, cake, french fries, fried chicken, chocolate, cheese, and alcohol. My personal "not worth it" foods are tortilla chips, peanut butter, pizza, cheeseburgers, and bread pastries - not because I don't still like these things (I promise, I DO! I absolutely love them) but because the calories were too high or they made me feel too uncomfortable for the level of satisfaction that I gained from them. For example, cheeseburgers are usually 800-1000 calories each, so I couldn't possibly eat one and stay within my calorie range for the day, and because I dislike cheeseburger leftovers, I wouldn't want to eat half and take the rest home; additionally, the bread might make me feel sick, lethargic, and constipated so I just stopped ordering them. On the other hand, a quesadilla reheats well, the thin bread doesn't seem to bother me, and I can portion it out to make it work. Peanut butter is so damn good but the amount that I want to eat is way beyond what I have the calories for, so I just stopped eating it all together (same goes with tortilla chips.) Cakes feel like a special enough treat that I can have it once a week and feel happy that I worked it in, and I would usually split a slice so it's only about 300 calories and my cravings are actually satiated. My piece of advice for anyone who is embarking on this journey - get to know your "worth it vs not worth it foods" and work in the worth it, and just forget about the not worth it foods. It's different for everyone, so learn what works for you!* (see footnote below) Another food change was that I started eating a lot more vegetables. In the past, I avoided vegetables because even though I kept thinking I should eat more, the sound of them was just cold and plain. But due to the low calorie limit, I had to incorporate veggies because they are more filling and less calories than other foods. Now I love roasting root vegetables, and incorporating green vegetables into other dishes. I do eat some salads, but they don't make up the bulk of my diet and instead I will make a chicken and rice bowl and then add some sauteed veggies to give it flavor and bulk up the nutrition. One of the reasons that I don't eat many salads is that my low-calorie dressing options are depressing; there is no good substitute to real olive oil and vinegar and because I love to bulk up salads with lots of different things, they ended up not being very low-calorie. A little bowl of rice and beans with a side of roasted veggies does way more for me than a cold salad. *Footnote: I hated hearing this at the beginning, because I wanted a foolproof system that I knew would just WORK, but the challenge and opportunity of this process is that it IS a process of getting to know yourself. As someone who went through a lot of bad stuff in my childhood, I get very anxious when I have to pay attention to myself and learn what I like/dislike, but that is the only way. It is hard work, it does take dedication, and it does take self-awareness. There is no way of getting out of that. But it's okay because you can also pay attention to what alleviates your stress, and find people that will talk with you every step of the way. We're here for you and you're not alone! Planning: I meal prep for breakfast and lunches during my working week, so I rarely eat anything from the cafeteria unless I ran out of food. I make a list of meals that I want to eat, order the groceries online, and then pick them up from the grocery store to reduce temptation and impulse purchases. I'll usually have oatmeal for breakfast during the week (eggs and potatoes on the weekends), then a basic lunch of protein/starch/veggie in a little glass container, and then another meal for dinner. I tend to eat lean foods like chicken, ground turkey, lean beef, broccoli, kale, sweet potatoes, onions, eggs, almond milk, beans, and mozzarella cheese, and I just rotate those things week by week. I use glass containers (snapware or pyrex) because I don't like the taste of reheated foods in plastic. I stopped drinking lattes, bubble teas, and other high-calorie drinks with the exception of alcohol which I still drink on a weekly basis. I just didn't find that a latte gives me much satisfaction, and it gets in the way of having a snack when I'm hungry. I drink black coffee and a lot of herbal teas. Focusing on portion control did wonders for me, and it re-calibrated my hunger signals. I used to not feel satisfied even after a very big meal, but now I can have a few chips, half a beer, and an appetizer size quesadilla and be absolutely stuffed, and this is good because it's sustainable. If that's my go-to behavior at restaurants, I'll be able to maintain the weight loss. It didn't happen overnight, and the first two weeks were brutal because I was constantly hungry and not used to feeling like that. Over time, my body adjusted to eating less, but I still feel a little weak and lethargic sometimes. It's uncomfortable to eat at a deficit, but that's okay! It's not going to kill me. I switched from automatic eating to intentional eating. If I have a big dinner, sometimes I'm not hungry in the morning, so I will skip breakfast until I'm actually hungry. I am working on not compulsively eating anymore, and it took a lot of dedicated effort in that realm, but I feel pretty much in control now. The main thing that throws me off is when I get poor sleep. THINGS THAT DIDN'T WORK Stressing about how slow the process feels didn't work for me. I had to consciously focus on what I could control today (my intake) and use the forums to discuss my struggles. Doing the weight loss with friends/partner did not work for me either. At the beginning of my process, everyone and their sister also decided to go on a diet and at first, I was so excited to have other people in real life to share in the process! But after about three weeks, they were all back to eating burgers and pizza at lunch, ignoring their calories, stopped tracking, and didn't want to discuss things anymore. I don't judge them for their decision - I've started and stopped in the past too, but the main takeaway is to not rely on other people in your life to keep you motivated. I had to just keep doing my thing regardless of their decisions. I totally bombed when I went on a 4-day road trip with family and tried to stick to a diet - I was stressed and angry the entire time because I felt this strain to choose the most diet-friendly meal on the menu instead of just enjoying the local cuisine and time with them. Dining out for three meals a day is difficult on a 1200-1500 calorie diet, so next time I'll just accept that I'll be eating at maintenance and do some damage control afterward. For a few months, I tried to cut out sweets and desserts from my diet, but it just made me sad. Desserts are a passion of mine (I dream of being a pastry chef) and it just felt so depressing to keep denying myself! Instead, I found some diet-friendly options that satisfied my cravings and allowed me to stick with my restriction: I enjoy fudgiciles, vanilla ice cream, and flourless chocolate cake from skinnytaste. Expecting linear weight loss left me angry and disappointed! I lost a bunch of weight within the first 2 weeks, then I plateaued during the month of June, then I had another big whoosh during July, and then plateaued BAD during the month of August, but then dropped 5 pounds within a week in September. The stall and whoosh is real, and I'm so glad that I had the people in this forum to tell me what to expect. CHALLENGES Clothing: One of my motivators as I lost weight was to save up money (relative to the amount of weight loss) and buy a new wardrobe once I hit my goal, but I needed new clothes along the way, and I didn't want to spend any of that money on temporary clothes. I thrifted when I could, but then soon enough those were hanging off of me before I was at my goal weight. Basically, I looked frumpy this whole summer because nothing fit and I wouldn't spend money on intermediary clothes. Still, I had a hard time saving up money because I have a lot of bills and debt, but I had around $800 once I hit my goal weight. This didn't go very far once I decided to build a capsule wardrobe and only spend money on clothes that feel amazing, so I only managed to get a few basics with my saved up cash. I haven't overcome this challenge because although I do have some stuff to wear (basically jeans, bras and tees), there are so many more styles that I want to wear and I have no money to buy them! What's my goal? I had a weight goal in mind when I started the process and it was the lowest of recent memory (140 pounds.) I thought that that was the lowest that I could realistically achieve, but after looking on this forum and some others, I saw women my height at much lower weights than that, and it changed my perception. So I modified my goal to being the lowest in my adult life (130 pound) because that's what I saw other women at my height that I admired online, so I thought that would be a good goal. Once I reached my goal, I was happy with my size but wanting some more toning in the glutes and abs, so I'll be moving into a body recomp. The takeaway here is that it's okay for goals to change, it's okay to not be sure what you ultimately want, and you may arrive to your goal and want something different. It's a process, and as long as you're moving in a healthy direction, I think it's okay! SURPRISES I feel so much better. I had mental health goals when I started (also vanity goals), but it never dawned on me that I would also feel better physically. I wanted to mend my relationship with food, and I think I have done that (for the most part) but I didn't think that losing weight would physically make me feel better. I sleep better, it's easier to go on hikes (I fly up the trail), overall I actually feel less hungry, I can reach my toes to put on shoes or paint my toes without pressing my gut, and running is easier. People see me! I had a difficult childhood and it left me feeling ignored and invisible, but this weight loss process has shown that people see me, notice me, and validate me. Mostly everyone at work has complimented my weight loss saying "wow you lost a ton of weight." I didn't think 30 pounds was that noticeable, but it made me realize that they saw me. After the initial hunger pangs from eating less food subsided, I was surprisingly satisfied with a calorie deficit. It wasn't nearly as painful as I always imagined! I started drinking way more water because I wasn't getting as much through eating, and that made me realize that many times that I feel awful and weak, I am often dehydrated. Not always, sometimes I truly am hungry, but it's helped me to learn more about myself. My rate of weight loss was really unexpected. I lost 10 pounds in the first couple of weeks, and then I was down 25 pounds in the first few months, but then it took me another 2 months to lose another 10. The initial success was extremely motivating and helped me to get through the lulls by showing me that I was on the right path. Through this process, I realized that I comforted myself with food, and that was a big (and very helpful) realization for me. I learned that I need to cope with my emotions by being present with them, by reaching out for support from the people who are closest to me, and I need warmth. When my body doesn't feel good, getting wrapped up in a blanket and holding a heating pad really does soothe me. Being compassionate toward myself has really helped me to not eat my emotions. Do these posts have a word limit? I better wrap this up or else I'll never post, and I really want this to be shared with the community that did so much for me. Thank you for reading, and I hope that something resonated with you. My main advice is to find your pep-talk people, be honest with yourself (you won't get far if you are in denial), and also be gentle with yourself - this is a hard process and it doesn't always feel good. But just put one foot in front of the other and keep going on the path that takes you where you want to go. submitted by /u/Elizalupine to r/loseit [link] [comments]