Amazon Gift Card Birthday

I don't shop any of the other places either, except Amazon when I am given a gift card for Christmas or my Birthday. That has been one of my parent's favorite gifts for years. I don't have kids so I don't buy much outside of groceries and Ilike the local store better. Order ammo online or hand load.

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i texted him , he said he hadn't refunded it, and when he tried to refund it now he couldn't because it said i already used the money. edit: i have not paid for any purchase since redeeming the card. my friend refunded the card, however has not gotten his money back. so he just got his money stolen and i just don't get a birthday gift. he's going to file a dispute. we will see what happens. sigh. edit 2: he got the money back. submitted by /u/yappatron2500 to r/amazonprime [link] [comments]

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I love having birthdays for my kid, to take pictures, celebrate and let the kids have fun. However, I do hate the gift part of birthdays because everyone is socially obligated to bring you toys that inevitably fill up your house with more crap, year after year. I do have 529 college fund for her but feels so awkward asking to put money there. Amazon gift card or cash is the most useful gift but also awkward to ask that. So I just wish it was socially acceptable to ask for no gifts/toys. Books and clothes are fine but I just hate tons and tons of toys toys toys. It’s so wasteful. We always get her a gift ourselves but dont want all these other toys from everyone else. Am I the only person who feels this way? Open to suggestions! submitted by /u/Kitanatron to r/Parenting [link] [comments]

My aunt surprised me with an Amazon gift card for my birthday. I've been browsing for cool things to buy on amazon but honestly I'm stuck. Everything I look at feels like it'll break in 6 months or I'll forget I even bought it. I'm into cooking and gaming mostly if that helps. Anyone found something actually worth spending on that doesn't just end up collecting dust? UPDATE: So I finally pulled the trigger on a few things. Ended up getting a cast iron skillet (Lodge) and a nice mechanical keyboard for gaming. Both were highly recommended here and honestly the best cool things to buy on amazon with birthday money. Quick tips from my research: check the "frequently bought together" section for ideas, read 1-star reviews to spot real issues, and don't rush it. Also learned that cool things to buy on amazon often go on sale randomly, so patience pays off. Someone mentioned Task Monkey can track prices after you buy and help get refunds if stuff drops. Might check that out for future purchases since I'm always worried about buying right before a sale lol. submitted by /u/nebulagala_xy to r/BuyItForLife [link] [comments]

I am NOT the Original Poster. That is Funny_Leather_5540. She posted in r/AITAH Paragraph breaks added for readability. Thanks to u/BakingGiraffeBakes for the rec! Do NOT comment on Original Posts. Latest update is 7 days old. This has not been posted in this sub before. Mood Spoiler: some good but still a LOT unresolved and frustrating Original Post: January 4, 2026 I only have four days to make a decision. I have been going back and forth trying to decide if I should cancel my husbands birthday reservations I made for him at this really cool indoor golf place followed by reservations for dinner. He's always commented on wanting to try both and I thought it would make a nice gift. His birthday is only a few days after mine. For Christmas he legit took the time to buy and wrap me a box of diapers for our daughter in the next size up and presented it to me as my gift. I'm still angry about that. No, gag gifts for Christmas has never been a thing between us. Last year he got me a spatula and I thought this year he would do better after the falling out we had over the spatula. A little bit of Background info: Our daughter is now two months old and we have been working on replacing the floor and painting our home since before she was born with the goal of having it done before she can crawl. Over the summer he did the nursery floor and in the fall, a week before she was born, he did the flooring in our older son's room. Mind you, the flooring was given to us for free from my dad, and my dad bought my husband his own miter saw for Christmas to get the job done so we would no longer have to borrow his. I do all the painting. This past week as we have been clearing things out of our bedroom for me to do the painting and him the flooring he brought up my birthday. He said, "wow, all this work for your birthday gift." I said "Excuse me, what gift? He said "All the work of putting the flooring in our bedroom, but don't worry I'll still do a dinner for you and we can invite your mom and my family, what do you want me to cook?" I said "I would like to just have a quiet birthday dinner, you, me and the kids at Longhorn Steak House, come home and watch a movie together. Also, the flooring is not my gift. This is something we've been planning now for a year. And with the house torn up, I don't want to host anyone in our home especially after having hosted for Thanksgiving and Christmas. Besides we don't even have a place for people to sit. We have all the bedroom furniture, and our clothing in the living room. I'm currently sleeping on the mattress on the floor in here. Plus, I'm not a fan of your brother coming over so you two can sit and just drink beer all evening while I watch our and his kids." He said no, I'm going to cook at home, just tell me what you want me to cook. I said "Ok, I want to do steak, mashed potatoes, and green beans." (But there is a problem here, he can't make mashed potatoes to save his life and only likes green beans if their boiled. I like fresh green beans slowly sautéed with olive oil, garlic and herbs. So if I want it cooked this way, I will have to do it.) He said "no, we're not doing steak, it will cost to much if the family comes over. I'll just do a chicken." I lost it. I said again, "For MY birthday... I DO NOT want people over." He kept arguing the issue and I said "fine, do what you want for my birthday." Side note: Last year, he ordered the traditional tres leches cake but he ordered it with peaches. I hate peaches, he likes peaches. I like strawberries. Plus, my name was spelled wrong on the birthday cake, he thought it was hilarious. I am now seriously considering cancelling his b-day golf outing & dinner reservations, leaving home if he invites his family for my birthday, buying him a box of diaper wipes and presenting it with a card that says "Happy birthday. I painted the house for you." Would I be the Asshole? OOP's only comment: To a longer comment: Thank you. This is the first post I've read that basically wasn't calling me an asshole for not divorcing him over Christmas and birthday this year. And yea, about 2 weeks after Christmas last year, when I had time relax, I asked him for a genuine answer about the spatula as a gift and what the hell he was thinking. He said that he was at the store and saw that it was blue, the type of blue I like and and he thought of me and thought that it would match the utensil holder and our blue microwave that I found in the store one day and geeked over. He said he thought I would like it because of the pretty blue color. That's about as deep as the thought went. He said that he never thought the gift would be sexist, or imply that I had to do more cooking for him. To make up for the spatula though he did go out and buy me the KitchenAid stand up mixer I had my eye on for over 2 years. I was really happy about it...Until he said "So when are you going to make me some homemade bead?" We had the talk about never, ever buying kitchen appliances for someone as a gift unless directly asked for. That kitchen things used by the whole family is not a gift for one person. When I am no longer angry about the diapers, I'll be able to calmly ask him "after the 2024 Christmas spatula debacle, what the hell were you thinking gifting me diapers 2025." I mean hell, I'm thinking if this is how its gonna be, we might just make it a pact to buy each other practical gifts for the home. No more disappointment that way. Update (Same Post): Later that day Update: Birthday plans: I have since logged in and cancelled his birthday golf outing and dinner reservations for next week. Tomorrow is my birthday and his day off work so he will be watching baby as I have also booked myself for a 90 minute massage. After that I will be stopping by Starbuck for my favorite drink and one hour of un-interrupted time with my new book that my son got me for Christmas. Then I will be picking him up from school and taking him to go see a movie. I will round off the day by coming home, taking a long hot bubble bath, ordering DoorDash and ending my day holding baby girl. That sounds like an amazing birthday to me. For him, I will just be getting him a card that reads "Happy Birthday, I painted the house for you." The bag will contain a case of diaper wipes. If he looks disappointed, I will just tell him "I cancelled the Golf outing and dinner reservations and instead go this bulk pack of wipes; the perfect gift to accompany the box of diapers you got me for Christmas." He will get the message. Divorce: As for the people advocating for divorce, kicking him to the curb, leaving with the kids in the middle of the night, claiming that he isn't a good husband to me and father to our baby, please know that you only got one little glimpse into our life. He is a loving and caring father to our children. We struggled with infertility for a very long time so this baby was a surprise but a welcomed blessing. Every day I prayed to not miscarry and even feared death during labor as my pregnancy was high-risk. He took a month off of work to care for me as I recovered from 3 degree tearing and a bruised tailbone. Every night he does the night time routine: Bath, pajamas, story time, and rocks baby girl to sleep. While he does that, I do the house reset: dishes, garbage, sweep. He wakes with me for all her feedings and prioritizes my sleep over his to make sure that I am rested enough to care for our daughter during the day. This is the same man who, during pregnancy, cooked me breakfast every morning and massaged my feet every night. Before he leaves for work every day he will make sure I have time to self-care (shower, brush my teeth, eat breakfast, and pump) before handing me the baby (if she's awake). Then he will make sure I am happy on the couch with baby girl and anything I could need before he leaves-blanket, remote, water cup, my phone, phone charger, a clean binky and bottle for baby. As soon as he get's home from work, he will take her and give me 30 minutes to myself before we start talking dinner plans. We make a good team when it comes to daily life. I don't have to make him lists of things to do. I like that when were low on milk, he will just pick it up on his way home without having to be asked and he doesn't wait for a "thank you" like he did me some big favor the way I have seen other men seek gratitude for doing basic tasks. He sucks at gift giving and this year and last year, so yes! I will be doing nothing for him for his birthday. Despite the shitty thoughtless gift and non-birthday birthday plans, I will be holding off on kicking him out and just matching his energy for his birthday. For Christmas 2026, I think I will get him an IKEA toddler bed to assemble for our daughter and call it a day. Update 2 (Same Post): January 6, 2026 (Next Day) Birthday update: Yesterday was my birthday. Hubby surprised me with breakfast out at my favorite local spot and we did a Home Depot run for more flooring. After that, I did go for my massage, It was wonderful, and I did stop at Starbuck for my free birthday drink. I didn't have time to sit and read before I had to pick my boy from school, but that's ok. Instead of going to see a movie at the theater we came home and began a Harry Potter Movie marathon. I LOVE Harry Potter. However, my son, without my knowing, had texted my dad and my best friend to come over and surprise me with a visit. He didn't know that I had already had my best friend and her niece scheduled to come over to look through a pile of clothes before I took a large haul to donate at the Salvation Army. It was so much fun watching her niece try on dresses. We wrapped up the night with some pizza and cheesy bread. Hubby surprised me with a little gift: two new books, a pack of my favorite cookies, and a squishy niffler that I can add to my Harry Potter book shelf. Overall, I had a great day. :) OOP's Comments: OOP comments a stand alone comment and is downvoted: I am disappointed that an AITA post became a dumping ground for people advocating for divorce... He does not deserve to lose his family. I don't deserve to become a single mother, and my children don't deserve to have their family torn apart over this. I was only looking to see if I would be an ASS for matching his energy when it comes to gift giving, not throw the whole marriage away. However, because of all the negative comments, calling me an asshole if I don't leave him, telling me that I have no self-worth. I have decided that I am going to still make the original birthday plans I had for him happen. I'm going to do it not because he didn't do something for me, I'm going to do it because I want my kids to see him happy. I want him to be happy. I want my son to see me do the right thing and not be petty. Despite how I felt on Christmas/birthday he is such a good father & husband in other ways and that is something I don't need to justify here on Reddit to make other people feel good. My original idea to be petty and match his energy died when I read all the hateful comments here on Reddit. So thank you Reddit readers, all the hate made me see how small this really was in comparison. He sucks at gift giving but is still worthy of love and respect for all the rest that he does for me and this family the other 363 days in a year. Marriage takes work, time and a whole lot of patience. No relationship lives in perpetual happiness because we are human and we make mistakes. CatPerson88: My husband wasn't quite this bad, but he did get me a vacuum during one of our first Christmases together. He got a lecture about what giving a woman household appliances says, especially when your wife also works full time... I learned to send him a list of specific items in a wide price range. He still occasionally screws up, but he's much better. We're still married 30+ yrs. Set ground rules. If he's a poor gift giver, I recommend doing what I do- when it's time to get you a gift, offer him a specific list, with site links, sizes, and colors. Any home repairs in lieu of gifts is to be discussed openly, not assumed, and both parties need to agree. It will get better. OOP: (downvoted) Thank you for your thoughtful comment. I'm thinking that next year I will be making him an Amazon wish list and sending it to him. He can pick something off that list and it will still be a surprise as to what he chose. submitted by /u/LucyAriaRose to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

Had some gift card cash at Amazon and decided to grab an 86 Springer. Amazon had three listed under resale. My gut told me these are likely some douchebags return of Siege Springer in the 86 box, but I still gave it a shot. Arrived today, my birthday, and lo and behold. Don’t know why I tried, was not shocked. Now I have to go drop it at UPS in the morning and wait for my gift card to return to my account. It’s my own doing knowing already what I’d get. I’ll try and get him from BBTS instead next month. I’ll put the gift card towards something more practical. People who do this are the scum of the Earth. submitted by /u/thestormsend to r/transformers [link] [comments]

I am married with four children. Our first who just turned 11 was born on my birthday. So for 12 years I haven’t had a birthday. My husband is forgetful I guess. He doesn’t get me personal things for gifts I usually get nothing. But when I do it’s just a mindless Amazon click that is bought on the day of so I get it late. This year he gave me a toaster. I get that our toaster broke like 8 months ago but I have been using the airfryer. It doesn’t bother me I can make four slices at once in there but he hates not just having a toaster. My mother had me run all over town to get my selfish little brother (19) a gift that she didn’t even give me enough money to cover so I had to help pay for so he would have it before his birthday. Our birthdays are 22 days apart. She fucking forgot mine, again! She literally lives with me. I cook her food and help pay her bills. But I’m the one forgotten, she said oh sorry and I guess that was that since it was over a week ago. Today I set up the toaster and just broke. I do everything for this family while holding a full time job at home that takes my full undivided attention. I work every weekday from 3am to 11am then I have the rest of the house to manage while holding our baby and entertaining out toddler and our two oldest go to school. I have my “lunch break” scheduled for 6:50 - 7:20 everyday so I can drive them to school. They can take the bus but they don’t like to so I drive everyday. I cook I clean I do everything I even do all of the driving because my husbands vision is too poor so the dr had to take his license. So I do all the shopping, play dates, trips to the park! Fucking everything. I feel like too little butter being spread over too much bread, I need a holiday. All I wanted was a card! A fucking card that says hey I love you, you matter, anything. But no, I got a toaster, something for everyone, not for me. And now my husband is upset because I don’t appreciate things when he finally does anything. All I get are excuses. “I have that action paralysis, I know what I need to do and I just can’t”. I am so sick of that excuse. I know he is trying but I am literally telling them I just want to be appreciated! Breakfast in bed, a card, flowers. Just something for me not an amazon click for the house. I just feel heartbroken and I feel like a cunt for being heartbroken. Edit: Wow thank you all so much for the support, shared experiences and birthday wishes. I am so grateful for all of you and appreciate you all so much!! ❤️ submitted by /u/fasting4me to r/Vent [link] [comments]

Here’s something I discovered a while back. I was poking around my Amazon orders and stumbled across some old Amazon egift cards I’d sent. To my surprise, one of the egift cards I’d emailed / printed for a birthday still showed "Ready to print" / "Not Yet Redeemed." Because the recipients never claimed them and Amazon gift cards never expire.... the money was just sitting in limbo. I grabbed the egift card codes, applied them to my own account. I then combed through every Amazon gift card order more than a year old. By the time I finished searching, I’d recovered over $500 which I was happy to apply back into my account. It feels a little shady, but I’m really just reclaiming cash that was lost in someone else’s inbox or junk drawer. I give people at least a year to use the card; after that, fair game. Worst-case scenario, a friend finds the card later(after a year) and asks what happened, at which point I’ll happily send them a fresh one and blame Amazon. submitted by /u/Mallu620 to r/UnethicalLifeProTips [link] [comments]

I am NOT the Original Poster. That is u/Tiberius_Jim. He posted in r/AmItheAsshole. Do NOT comment on Original Posts. See rule 7. Mood Spoiler: tentatively happy Meme Spoiler: the Iranian yogurt was not the issue here Editor's spoiler 3: reading through all 105 of OOP's comments/replies made this go from "oh, nice palate cleanser" to "sometimes I hate reddit" Original Post: May 28, 2024 I recently celebrated my birthday, and a large portion of my gifts were, by request, Amazon gift cards. I added the balance of each card to our account and ordered an item, and had some funds left over. Today I went to order a few more items only to discover that my gift card balance was $0.00. I was confused and surprised, and at first thought something had gone wrong. Maybe I ordered more than I meant to with my first purchase...and then I remembered my wife had placed an order for some items for our kids the day before. I checked the order details and sure enough, she used the remainder of my gift cards on those items. It was everyday stuff like mouthwash, toothpaste, deodorant, etc. I asked her if she realized she had used my gift cards for this purchase and she said yes and that “we might as well, better than paying out of pocket.” I expressed annoyance since that money was for my use and not to use towards everyday items, to which she replied “So just buy what you want and pay out of pocket, it’ll all come out even” I understand...if she hadn’t used the gift cards we would have paid for those items out of pocket and we’ll end up spending the same amount anyway. Yet something still bothered me about it, mostly because she used the money without informing me, leading to my momentary confusion when I went to place an order. It also just seems somewhat rude to use someone’s birthday money for everyday things, especially without telling them first. I wasn’t angry, just mildly annoyed and I asked her, in the future, to not use my gift cards for her own orders. It’s simple enough to uncheck the box that says “use gift card balance” and if, as she says, it doesn’t matter in the end, then just don’t use the gift cards. Call it irrational or illogical but when I buy something I want but don’t exactly need (some aesthetic upgrades for my PC in this case) I feel way more guilty about buying them when it’s coming out of pocket versus being covered by a gift card. Again, I realize that it’s six of one, half a dozen of the other but mentally it just *feels* different, and now I feel less inclined to spend the money. I’m the one in the family who always watches our budget and manages the money, so my frugal side is saying to let the gift card cover the stuff we need and skip the stuff I want but at the same time, I know that’s not fair. Meanwhile, my wife is now angry with me for “whining” and “making a big deal out of nothing” when I simply expressed some mild annoyance and asked that I be allowed to use my own money in the future. She’s now talking about opening her own bank account and never ordering from Amazon again to avoid this, which A. wouldn’t solve anything because a separate bank account has nothing to do with Amazon orders (we use an Amazon credit card) and she obviously doesn’t need to stop ordering altogether...just simply don’t use someone else’s gift cards going forward. Am I really being unreasonable by making this request? Relevant Comments (OOP has over 100. I tried to choose a spread but there were a LOT of opinions and many were people making up things about OOP and his wife.) Commenter: NTA Perhaps next time keep the gift cards in your wallet and upload them when you plan to use them on your purchases. Wife just looks at it as "free" money for the family budget. OOP: Yeah, good point. I had thought I was going to use it all at one time but needed to wait before ordering a few items (had to take some measurements first) and before I could do that, she'd used the remaining balance. Commenter: Unless they have changed things, gift card balances automatically upload and it’s hard to not use them. Get a separate account. OOP: The problem with a separate account is that we pay for Prime, and I'd really rather not pay for that twice if I can help it. Commenter: Yes, you can share a prime membership with your spouse too. That’s what I did until we cancelled. There’s no reason not to have separate Amazon accounts. OOP: I wasn't aware that was possible, I'll look into that. It would solve the issue of us buying gifts for each other and telling the other to stop paying attention to Amazon notifications for a few days. 😄 Commenter (part of a longer comment): Also, out of curiosity, is the amount she spent totally equivalent to the gift cards? Because if she spent even a little over the gift cards, then some money also came from the shared pot. And if you don’t spend as much as she did, how do you keep track of what you have left? OOP: She went over the balance by $1.47. I didn't bother bringing that up because I knew she'd point out that's hardly anything. Her defense is that I can still buy whatever I want and we'll have still spent (roughly) the same amount out of pocket, which is true...but to me it's just the principle of the thing. She could have just as easily unchecked "Use gift card balance" when she placed the order and it also contradicts her "better to use the gift cards than pay out of pocket" reasoning for why she used them. Commenter: I mean honestly the way my husband and I do our budget, it absolutely comes out in the wash because his Fun Money category world have gotten that amount and I’d have used the GC without batting an eye. I don’t like to leave money in the Amazon account. BUT the second my husband expressed annoyance at that, I’d apologize and not do it again. Because it doesn’t matter and so respecting his feelings costs me nothing. If she’d done that there would be N A H OOP: Yeah, it seems like her default reaction to me being upset by anything is to...be upset with me. There is rarely, if ever, the realization that "Hey, maybe I did something wrong here." It's usually more like "He's wrong for feeling that way about what I did." Everything gets flipped around to where I'm the bad guy. Commenter: What sort of reaction would she have if you bought something selfish and fun for yourself from family funds? With the gift card balance separate, you have a gift still. Without it, you have to remember that you’re supposed to still have a gift, and insist on chasing it down. TBH her reaction is so over-the-top that it makes it look a lot more like she was pulling something. If it’s just an innocent “well money is fungible” issue then why is she acting like you’ve made a terrible accusation? OOP: She'd be really irritated and accuse me of wasting our money. As it is, she made a comment about the item I bought already with the gift cards before this happened, something along the lines of "You needed more stuff for that?" I was pretty surprised by her reaction, and I'm wondering if something happened at work that had her on edge and me bringing this up pushed her over it. She has a history of not apologizing for things she's objectively done wrong but her reaction to hang up, refuse my calls and start talking about opening her own account/never using Amazon again were just really, as you said, over-the-top. Commenter: It sounds like she’s acting throughout that those gift cards aren’t really gifts for you, but instead family funds that should be budgeted and used the same way. But people got you those gifts, as contributions to those things that you want. They didn’t just hand over cash for your family budget. Are funds tight, so that the family budget actually needs additional money? Are there other things that money is being used for that might be more difficult if those expenses didn’t come out of your cards? OOP: Things are a little tight temporarily due to a trip we took for our anniversary that exceeded our budget a bit, but nothing along the lines of "we either feed the kids or pay the water bill but not both" tight. And our Amazon orders go on a credit card that wouldn't come due until next month anyway so its not like not using the gift card would have immediately impacted us. Commenter: Do you always pay attention to what form of payment is attached to an Amazon purchase? Did you let her know that you’d put your gift cards on your shared account? Or did she have a subscribe a save order for every day home items that all of you use to take care of your household and maybe just clicked checkout without noticing because she had no reason to notice? When’s the last time you bothered to pay attention to the fact that your children needed toothpaste? OOP: I do pay attention, and we rarely have gift cards to the point that yes, she knew that any in our account were emine from my birthday. The kids don't need toothpaste, she just saw a good deal and was stocking up. Not sure why you assume I was neglecting my children's dental needs or something. 😄 Commenter: I would say NAH for a slightly different reason. When you have a gift card balance with Amazon, the payment always defaults to the gift card first. You have to really think it through and take extra steps to not use the gift card. I just mentally keep track of what I've spent for myself and consider that to be my gift. OOP: And if she had said "oh whoops, sorry I didn't mean to use your gift card for that stuff!" I never would have thought to make this post. But she instantly got defensive and accused me of making a big deal out of it when all I was asking was for her to not do that again. Commenter: Honestly it doesn’t sound like he’s upset about the gift cards specifically, it sounds like he was mildly miffed about them and is now upset over her reaction to his being miffed. Which is totally fair, if a life partner doesn’t care that they’ve hurt you, that’s messed up. Even if it is something small and silly. And I’m not even saying she needs to rectify the situation, but a simple “oh I’m sorry, I didn’t realize it would bother you and I won’t do it without asking again” is literally all it would’ve taken to make the whole situation better. OOP: This. I was at most mildly annoyed because I was looking forward to spending the gift cards only to find the balance was zero. I simply asked her if she had used them on purpose because I assumed it was done by mistake. She told me she knew she had used them (it wasn't clear yet whether she used them intentionally or used them accidentally but was fine with it. I later confirmed that it was the former) and I expressed that I'd rather my gift cards weren't used for everyday items, and would prefer that not happen again. That's when she blew up on me, started talking about opening separate accounts and then hung up on me. It was that completely out of left field reaction hat prompted me to post here because I honestly didn't think bringing it up was going to be a big deal. Commenter: YTA. I'd do the exact same thing as your wife, "Might as well clean up this balance". Then I'd expect you to just buy your stuff later. It's all the same money. No matter how you feel about the symbolism, it IS all the same money. Your wife is running a household and doesn't need to be responsible to gatekeep your weird guilt about spending the amount you were given for your birthday. Also, don't you guys talk? Like you talk about what you're buying with your birthday $? You talk about how there's an extra balance left while you go measure stuff, please dont use it? You talk about how you'll get back to the balance in a few days to finish your order? If you talked to her, she wouldn't have to read your mind. OOP: A. She doesn't "run the household," I do. I work from home, pay the bills, take/pick the kids up to/from school, make them dinner and take them to extra-curriculars. She...goes to work and occasionally makes dinner if I'm out with the kids at the aforementioned extra-curriculars. She has basically zero responsibilities outside of going to work. She has a fairly stressful job in a medical field so I take on what I can so she doesn't have much to worry about. That, and she's not great with money while I am pretty detailed. B. We talk, but I just hadn't mentioned that I had yet to use my gift cards yet. I got them on Sunday and it's only now Tuesday. She knew I had placed one order but could have easily seen I still had some leftover. I've never had to tell her to not use up my gift card balance on other stuff before, had no inclination I had to do so now. There shouldn't be any mind-reading necessary to know that I would want to spend my own birthday money. One more comment from OOP: It's not a matter of things that shouldn't be shared, but things that simply wouldn't because I'm the only one who would use them. For example, my kids would have very little use for new fans for my PC seeing as they don't seem to have much interest in improving its thermal dissipation performance. I let them use the PC occasionally, but buying the fans is really only something that interests me. And IMO I'm allowed to use my gift card money to buy something that interests me and me alone. Can I buy them with our actual money? Of course. The issue was that I considered the money that as gifted to me to be mine to do with as I pleased, and it was used in a way I wasn't expecting. If roles were reversed and I was placing an order for an everyday item and my wife's gift card had been applied, I'd have taken the step to remove it and pay for the item with the credit card. yes, it's purely symbolic, but that's hers to spend, not mine and it's a simple, single click of the mouse to not use it. If I'm unsure whether she's going to use it today or a month from now, all I have to do is ask her. It's the same mentality that should be applied to any gift. The fact that the gift was money is irrelevant IMO. The fact that it was gifted to me specifically is. Update (Same Post): May 29, 2024 (Next Day) UPDATE: We sat down and talked about this after the kids went to bed and cleared the air. She started of still really adversarial about it but we eventually got down to the real issue and our disconnect in terms of how we believe gift cards like mine can and should be used. First of all, she was irritated with me because she was having a tough day at work and claimed my bringing this up "ruined her lunch break" as it didn't allow her to relax. I'd only brought it up because her lunch breaks are our only chance to talk during the work day, and I had only meant to verify that she knew she had used by gift cards and nothing more. I call her on her lunch break every day, and this topic just happened to come up in conversation. I didn't call specifically to talk about this. She was also irritated because she didn't understand why I would even be mildly annoyed because it just seemed logical to her to use the balance since we were placing the order now versus the money sitting there until I eventually ordered something. She knew I had ordered something already but didn't know when I'd be using the rest (and neither did I, really) so she figured...why not just use it? She didn't consider it "my money" anymore once it was in the account and figured I would be fine with ordering whatever and putting it on the credit card. This mostly stems from the fact that she uses her own gift cards, usually Target and Costco but sometimes Amazon, whether received from work or from family and friends for birthdays and Christmas, for things we need versus things for herself. I wasn't aware of this, mostly because she knew if she told me I would insist she treats herself rather than spend the money on necessities. She assumed I would be okay with using mine in the same manner. In the end we realized we simply have different thoughts about how gift cards should be used, and in the future she'll ask first before using any gift card balances, and I'll simply only input them into the account as I use them versus loading them all in at once. Both of those changes together should prevent this from happening again. Best of all, we were able to end the evening on a happy note, no longer irritated at each other. She saw I had the item in the cart I had wanted and placed the order for me. UPDATE 2: We just set up her own Amazon account and linked it to our Prime Membership, so this will not be an issue again in the future. It will mainly help keep gifts a surprise when we order things for each other or have the kids pick things for us, but it will also avoid anyone using the other's gift card like this going forward. Relevant Comments: OOP clarifies: Yes, I called her for our normal lunch time talk and happened to bring this up offhand, which caused her to get upset and hang up on me. I called back once, she sent it straight to voicemail. I guess it's technically true that I "called multiple times" but the first call wasn't specifically about this topic, and the second call was because she abruptly hung up on me. Commenter: And that he brought this up to her on her lunch break at her high stress medical field job. Then he thinks that she hung up on him and isn't taking his calls, only to say later that it was a stressful day for her at work, and she was unaware of all that. I wonder if it is like at my job? I lose service in certain areas.. Also, he didn't call her multiple times, but his calls were going directly to voicemail.. She doesn't want him to buy his hobby stuff, but went ahead and bought the hobby things in the cart so he didn't have to worry about the mentality of cash vs. gift card. He states that he does the household stuff and does most of the mental load, but was unaware that she bought necessities with her own gift cards, which of course she must have been deliberately hiding from him, since he would have encouraged her to use them for herself if he knew. 🤦‍♀️ OOP: For what it's worth, her job is not usually stressful. She simply was having a stressful day due to being unusually short-staffed. You also keep insinuating that I called her with the specific intent of complaining about this when in reality we were talking about a wide range of things like what happened last night on Bridgerton and how funny the reel was she sent me earlier. During that I simply brought up. Hey I noticed you used my gift card balance to buy the kids stuff, was that on purpose?" And the rest is history. She got mad, hung up and I called back once which went straight to voicemail. That's it. You can paint a picture that I angrily called her and chewed her out for using my gift card while she had patients dying all around her or something and then called back repeatedly when she hung up, but that's far from the truth. Especially since patients typically don't die at an eye doctor's office. Commenter: Guess what?? That already happens. [wife paying for things with gift cards] She uses her gift cards for all the household needs. OP was so oblivious he didn't realize this. That's why she thought it was okay. OOP: I'm not oblivious, she purposefully didn't tell me because she knew I'd insist she treat herself rather than spend the money on household items. I know, I'm a monster. Commenter: So yes...... You were oblivious. You didn't notice her spending her gifts on you and your kids. You and bunch of people dragged her on here calling her evil and selfish. In your update you said you guys talked and worked it out....but seriously...how do you think your made her feel in that moment?? Even if she moved on from it and let it go later.... That stings and stinks OP. OOP: If someone keeps information from you, it's not due to you being oblivious, it's due to them purposefully keeping that information from you. It's not due to lack of attention, it's due to the other person withholding information. I never called her evil or selfish, nor have I seen anyone call her evil. It's hardly under my control if someone feels she was being selfish. What exactly "stings and stinks"? We talked and agreed that we had different views on how GCs should be used and found a solution. From all indicators, she felt perfectly fine after our talk Commenter (downvoted): NTA, but your wife is for trying to invalidate your feelings and gaslighting you into thinking you are the issue here. OOP: This is the one thing we talked about tonight that didn't get resolved, unsurprisingly because she's been like this as long as I've known her. She could do something 100% objectively wrong but if I get angry, I'm the bad guy for getting angry. She either has an excuse, blames me or someone else for what she did, points out a time I did something similar, or all of the above. Commenter: Did you show your wife this post yet? And let her read every comment on here? OOP: I can't say I would show her every post here because there's a lot I don't agree with and wouldn't want her to read. I might agree with certain things, but definitely not all. But nothing I've said here is anything I haven't already said to her. I'm pretty sure that's not a normal thing people do with their posts here, though. "Hey I asked Reddit if I'm the asshole in this situation and a bunch of them said no but that you are!" I'm pretty sure nobody does that... submitted by /u/LucyAriaRose to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

UPDATE: We sat down and talked about this after the kids went to bed and cleared the air. She started of still really adversarial about it but we eventually got down to the real issue and our disconnect in terms of how we believe gift cards like mine can and should be used. First of all, she was irritated with me because she was having a tough day at work and claimed my bringing this up "ruined her lunch break" as it didn't allow her to relax. I'd only brought it up because her lunch breaks are our only chance to talk during the work day, and I had only meant to verify that she knew she had used by gift cards and nothing more. I call her on her lunch break every day, and this topic just happened to come up in conversation. I didn't call specifically to talk about this. She was also irritated because she didn't understand why I would even be mildly annoyed because it just seemed logical to her to use the balance since we were placing the order now versus the money sitting there until I eventually ordered something. She knew I had ordered something already but didn't know when I'd be using the rest (and neither did I, really) so she figured...why not just use it? She didn't consider it "my money" anymore once it was in the account and figured I would be fine with ordering whatever and putting it on the credit card. This mostly stems from the fact that she uses her own gift cards, usually Target and Costco but sometimes Amazon, whether received from work or from family and friends for birthdays and Christmas, for things we need versus things for herself. I wasn't aware of this, mostly because she knew if she told me I would insist she treats herself rather than spend the money on necessities. She assumed I would be okay with using mine in the same manner. In the end we realized we simply have different thoughts about how gift cards should be used, and in the future she'll ask first before using any gift card balances, and I'll simply only input them into the account as I use them versus loading them all in at once. Both of those changes together should prevent this from happening again. Best of all, we were able to end the evening on a happy note, no longer irritated at each other. She saw I had the item in the cart I had wanted and placed the order for me. UPDATE 2: We just set up her own Amazon account and linked it to our Prime Membership, so this will not be an issue again in the future. It will mainly help keep gifts a surprise when we order things for each other or have the kids pick things for us, but it will also avoid anyone using the other's gift card like this going forward. Original Post: I recently celebrated my birthday, and a large portion of my gifts were, by request, Amazon gift cards. I added the balance of each card to our account and ordered an item, and had some funds left over. Today I went to order a few more items only to discover that my gift card balance was $0.00. I was confused and surprised, and at first thought something had gone wrong. Maybe I ordered more than I meant to with my first purchase...and then I remembered my wife had placed an order for some items for our kids the day before. I checked the order details and sure enough, she used the remainder of my gift cards on those items. It was everyday stuff like mouthwash, toothpaste, deodorant, etc. I asked her if she realized she had used my gift cards for this purchase and she said yes and that “we might as well, better than paying out of pocket.” I expressed annoyance since that money was for my use and not to use towards everyday items, to which she replied “So just buy what you want and pay out of pocket, it’ll all come out even” I understand...if she hadn’t used the gift cards we would have paid for those items out of pocket and we’ll end up spending the same amount anyway. Yet something still bothered me about it, mostly because she used the money without informing me, leading to my momentary confusion when I went to place an order. It also just seems somewhat rude to use someone’s birthday money for everyday things, especially without telling them first. I wasn’t angry, just mildly annoyed and I asked her, in the future, to not use my gift cards for her own orders. It’s simple enough to uncheck the box that says “use gift card balance” and if, as she says, it doesn’t matter in the end, then just don’t use the gift cards. Call it irrational or illogical but when I buy something I want but don’t exactly need (some aesthetic upgrades for my PC in this case) I feel way more guilty about buying them when it’s coming out of pocket versus being covered by a gift card. Again, I realize that it’s six of one, half a dozen of the other but mentally it just *feels* different, and now I feel less inclined to spend the money. I’m the one in the family who always watches our budget and manages the money, so my frugal side is saying to let the gift card cover the stuff we need and skip the stuff I want but at the same time, I know that’s not fair. Meanwhile, my wife is now angry with me for “whining” and “making a big deal out of nothing” when I simply expressed some mild annoyance and asked that I be allowed to use my own money in the future. She’s now talking about opening her own bank account and never ordering from Amazon again to avoid this, which A. wouldn’t solve anything because a separate bank account has nothing to do with Amazon orders (we use an Amazon credit card) and she obviously doesn’t need to stop ordering altogether...just simply don’t use someone else’s gift cards going forward. Am I really being unreasonable by making this request? submitted by /u/Tiberius_Jim to r/AmItheAsshole [link] [comments]

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I am not The OOP, OOP is u/BurydaAshette I (33F) won’t share gift cards with my Husband (33M) Originally posted to r/relationship_advice Original Post Nov 29, 2023 I (33F) have a type of job in one of the care industries. While I do work for an actual company, sometimes the clients that use the services of the company are so grateful of the level of care that an individual employee may give to their loved one, they feel moved to give us gifts for our efforts. These gifts can range anywhere from a bouquet of flowers, to home made/store bought treats, gift cards, etc. Anytime I get delicious treats from clients I always share them with my husband (33M). However if I come home with a gift cards (like a $25 Amazon card or $50 visa) my husband wants me to share those as well. One time I came home with four gifts cards (Target, a Visa, and two Amazon). When he saw them he started talking about how I need to share them since no one gets him gifts for his work (he works in construction). He moped about it (and I do love him, he works hard) and I gave him one of my Amazon gift cards and insisted on keeping the other ones myself, since these are gifts from clients I work with for the care of their loved ones. Recently I have been given gift cards again and when he saw them he said asked what I planned on getting with them. So I told him, and the items I plan on getting will be strictly for me and he scoffed at that. He started complaining again about why how I should share or get something that benefits both of us. We went back and forth for a bit. I reminded him I always spend my own money for things that benefit us both or that we can both enjoy, and that when I use these gift cards I always get something I can’t always afford with my own money. He kept insisting I share. He brought up the fact that it wasn’t fair that even though I shared an Amazon gift card with him before, he ended up with nothing because Amazon messed up his order and he never received his item, but he got a refund. I told him that THAT was not my fault at all and at that point I got really annoyed and told him to leave me alone. He made a commit about me “not being raised to share” (I’m an only child) and I got mad and told him “that’s that sibling mentality and only works with parents and their kids. Get over yourself” and I walked off. He side-eyed me. I kinda feel bad about it all but honestly I just want my gift to be mine. I work with a new set of clients every few months so this is a frequent occurrence. Is there a better way I can respond or handle it better in the future? (Some extra context: We are not exactly well off, but bills are always paid and our fridge is always full. We can afford to treat ourselves once a month and we always treat ourselves together or we don’t leave each other out. But like if we want to get ourselves something really nice, like a set of weights or a nail art/care kit then it is a sacrifice the other does not benefit from so we put purchases like that on the back burner for a while. We have gifted each other just because in the past as well.) EDIT: for more context we are 50/50 in the sense that he covers a set of bills and I cover a set of bills, not the “we both take money from our accounts and put it together for all bills” type of set up. We honestly live paycheck to paycheck and make just enough to have all our needs covered. Any wants we both discuss with each other but we rarely and I mean RARELY stop each other from getting something we want. ONE MORE EDIT: A $50 visa is a VERY rare occurrence (only got one once). I’m only getting maybe one or two gift cards every 6 months to a year. Not anywhere near montly. Last time I got 4 gift cards it was was in February of this year and only 2 of them were $25 Amazon cards (one of them I gave to my husband). The other two a keep were $10 at Target and $10 at Starbucks. It has been 9 months since I last got a gift and this time I only got two. What we got into it about is ONE $25 Amazon gift card. The other one is Starbucks and he hates Starbucks and doesn’t even care about that one. Update Dec 2, 2023 I didn’t expect to get so many comments so to anyone who cares enough here is an update. original post that made folks think I’m being abused? I didn’t think any financial details were relevant to a situation about gift cards, so I’ll clarify that. My husband works construction and I work in a care industry that is NOT medical. In fact in the field I work in it is customary (US) to give gifts to the workers during a designated “appreciation week” or during Christmas holidays. So I only get gifts twice a year, more than 6 months apart usually and the most gift cards I’ve ever gotten was four but the value of those gift cards usually don’t amount to more than maybe $50 (2 $5 Starbucks, $10 Target, $25 Amazon to give an example). The rest are usually skin care gift or food items. The one time I got a $50 visa gift card we went to an expensive restaurant with it. For the record my husband and I do not celebrate birthdays and holidays and this is a mutual decision between both of us. We have no children. We consider ourselves 50/50 but it goes like this. My husband makes more than I do. He takes on all utility bills (including internet and cell phone service), covers health insurance and car insurance. I inherited a house that needed repairs. There is no mortgage but there is a home repair loan I pay monthly and I pay the car note for a car I purchased. Since the home belongs to me I choose on the responsibility of saving for property taxes. After we are done paying our bills with our own separate accounts we usually have a few hundred dollars left in our individual accounts. We put that together and use that to buy groceries/bath/home essentials. We treat ourselves once a month. We share almost every interest and hobby, so say if one person wants to go to the comic book store as a treat we both walk out with comics. If one wants to by a video game that’s cool because we’re both gamers, or we take a drive to the beach, go see a movie, go out to dinner, etc. We’re not rich but we can afford to get take out twice a week (we try not to). We treat each other/gift each each other when we can. I am fortunate enough to have clothes given to me by family members that happen to shop at expensive department stores. The clothes are nice, barely worn or will even still have tags on them. I actual love this since my family is very fashionable and only give me good stuff. I have absolutely no problem with this. Since I get clothes for free I often buy my husband clothes (especially since he wear them out faster). He would take clothes from others if he could but there are no men in his family or mine his size. We are not perfect but we honestly don’t argue, any disagreements we have we can either talk it out or agree that it’s not serious enough to get to deep off into. I recently got a couple of gift cards because of the holiday season. One is $5 at Starbucks, the other is $25 at Amazon. I brought up that I may have a package showing up soon because I wanted to buy something for myself from Amazon and he suggested we should share that card and get something for both of us. I disagreed and we said some not so nice things to each other. THE ACTUAL UPDATE: I read all the comments from the previous post and while I appreciate your concern I am in no way being financially abused or given the short ends of any sticks. We both share the burden of living and are doing fine. I asked him about why he got miffed at me wanting to use the one $25 Amazon gift card I was gifted for myself and he admitted he hoped I would get something for the house since the kitchen is lacking some equipment and that he knows $25 is not much but it could make something nice cheaper. He THEN told me I don’t have to do that. I asked him why he brought up me being an only child and he said “idk I guess I just am used to having to share and such with my sisters…but I guess that’s different”. I reminded him we share everything expect makeup and clippers and reminded him it’s not my fault my mom couldn’t have more of me just like it’s not his fault his family had to stretch resources and comparing our childhoods ain’t gonna cut it in any of our situations. I told him I wanted to get a poly gel nail kit so I could do my own nails again (lost my old stuff in a fire) and he said “I do like when your nails are done.” Then we went out for a nice breakfast So yeah, keeping my dern gift card. The end. Thank you and good night. THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I (F22) have an older brother, (M29). He has three kids, ages 9, 7 and 7. I don't have a lot of disposable income for multiple reasons and I have been strict with my Christmas budget. For my niblings, I've had a budget of ~€30 per child, which I know isn't a lot. My SIL (my brother's spouse) is very particular about things and is trying to be one of those mommy blogger influencers. It feels like with the kids' Christmas and birthday presents, I can never get it right and I wouldn't be surprised if my gifts end up in the garbage. She's usually polite and grateful to my face but then my mom or brother will contact me and complain about my SIL's complaining about my gifts! She usually makes a gift list for Christmas and birthdays for the kids but all of the items on these lists are over €80. This year, all of them are over €100. There is no way I could afford that. In Christmas 2021, I got all the kids cute outfits each with cartoon characters they like. They loved them but I never saw the kids wear them, and I got an earful from everyone saying my SIL was complaining. For 2022 Christmas, I got them all lego sets each. SIL complained to me endlessly and said that she doesn't want to be picking up lego pieces every night. This year, I'm just giving the kids Amazon gift cards so they can pick out toys that are approved by their mom. Recently my brother and SIL asked me what I'm getting the kids for Christmas and I told them that I'm giving them Amazon gift cards. My SIL said "Well, that's not very Christmassy" and left it at that. Tbh at the time I thought she was just making a dry joke. Anyway, now my brother is complaining to me and saying that his wife is really not happy with me because I haven't bought anything off the wish list. I told him straight it's because all the items are too expensive. He said I should've said that from the beginning instead of just ignoring it and buying gift cards. He said the kids are too young for gift cards when they can't go and buy the stuff themselves without help from the parents and I should've asked first. I argued that he and his wife know I don't have a lot of money, of course I'd love to spoil my niblings but I do not have €300+ to spend on people's kids. Am I wrong for this? submitted by /u/JadedBullfrog7710 to r/AmItheAsshole [link] [comments]

Was for $10. Should I be insulted? I’m pretty sure I’m insulted. submitted by /u/aximusmaximus to r/antiwork [link] [comments]

I didn’t expect to get so many comments so to anyone who cares enough here is an update. original post that made folks think I’m being abused? I didn’t think any financial details were relevant to a situation about gift cards, so I’ll clarify that. My husband works construction and I work in a care industry that is NOT medical. In fact in the field I work in it is customary (US) to give gifts to the workers during a designated “appreciation week” or during Christmas holidays. So I only get gifts twice a year, more than 6 months apart usually and the most gift cards I’ve ever gotten was four but the value of those gift cards usually don’t amount to more than maybe $50 (2 $5 Starbucks, $10 Target, $25 Amazon to give an example). The rest are usually skin care gift or food items. The one time I got a $50 visa gift card we went to an expensive restaurant with it. For the record my husband and I do not celebrate birthdays and holidays and this is a mutual decision between both of us. We have no children. We consider ourselves 50/50 but it goes like this. My husband makes more than I do. He takes on all utility bills (including internet and cell phone service), covers health insurance and car insurance. I inherited a house that needed repairs. There is no mortgage but there is a home repair loan I pay monthly and I pay the car note for a car I purchased. Since the home belongs to me I choose on the responsibility of saving for property taxes. After we are done paying our bills with our own separate accounts we usually have a few hundred dollars left in our individual accounts. We put that together and use that to buy groceries/bath/home essentials. We treat ourselves once a month. We share almost every interest and hobby, so say if one person wants to go to the comic book store as a treat we both walk out with comics. If one wants to by a video game that’s cool because we’re both gamers, or we take a drive to the beach, go see a movie, go out to dinner, etc. We’re not rich but we can afford to get take out twice a week (we try not to). We treat each other/gift each each other when we can. I am fortunate enough to have clothes given to me by family members that happen to shop at expensive department stores. The clothes are nice, barely worn or will even still have tags on them. I actual love this since my family is very fashionable and only give me good stuff. I have absolutely no problem with this. Since I get clothes for free I often buy my husband clothes (especially since he wear them out faster). He would take clothes from others if he could but there are no men in his family or mine his size. We are not perfect but we honestly don’t argue, any disagreements we have we can either talk it out or agree that it’s not serious enough to get to deep off into. I recently got a couple of gift cards because of the holiday season. One is $5 at Starbucks, the other is $25 at Amazon. I brought up that I may have a package showing up soon because I wanted to buy something for myself from Amazon and he suggested we should share that card and get something for both of us. I disagreed and we said some not so nice things to each other. THE ACTUAL UPDATE: I read all the comments from the previous post and while I appreciate your concern I am in no way being financially abused or given the short ends of any sticks. We both share the burden of living and are doing fine. I asked him about why he got miffed at me wanting to use the one $25 Amazon gift card I was gifted for myself and he admitted he hoped I would get something for the house since the kitchen is lacking some equipment and that he knows $25 is not much but it could make something nice cheaper. He THEN told me I don’t have to do that. I asked him why he brought up me being an only child and he said “idk I guess I just am used to having to share and such with my sisters…but I guess that’s different”. I reminded him we share everything expect makeup and clippers and reminded him it’s not my fault my mom couldn’t have more of me just like it’s not his fault his family had to stretch resources and comparing our childhoods ain’t gonna cut it in any of our situations. I told him I wanted to get a poly gel nail kit so I could do my own nails again (lost my old stuff in a fire) and he said “I do like when your nails are done.” Then we went out for a nice breakfast So yeah, keeping my dern gift card. The end. Thank you and good night. submitted by /u/BurydaAshette to r/relationship_advice [link] [comments]

EDIT: WOW! I had no idea this would get the type of attention it did. I honestly thought it would get downvoted to oblivion with a few "you're mean' comments and then that would be the end. I don't really post on Reddit and mainly lurk around subs that pertain to my career, so at least I now have some karma! I appreciate everyones comment and view. As I tried to explain in the post and some of my comments, I wasn't being sarcastic or snarky. I really didn't know if this was a new thing for teachers. Especially for younger ones coming into the workforce. It is no secret that there is a massive teacher shortage and teachers aren't respected, treated, or paid as the professionals they are. I subbed about ten years ago and I while that is never going to be the same as teaching, I KNOW it's a bitch. That was ten years ago too, pre-covid and pre-whatever this generation is currently. YIKES. Maybe this is a new way to show appreciation and kindness to teachers. I figured I'd ask. Anyway, I do really appreciate all of the input. It was made clear that this definitely isn't the norm, even now, and I was right to raise my eyebrows a bit. ​ First of all, THANK you for all you do for students. My kids go to a charter school and both of their teachers are 22 years old. My daughters teacher doesn't really communicate with parents, which is OK, she probably has a lot going on. She recently did something that left me wondering if it was typical. Our kids were out of school for the entire week because they both had COVID. We requested their assignments from the teachers and my sons teacher sent their slides, and a link to the worksheets for us to print. I had to email my daughters teacher 4 times, once per day, and she finally sent everything at the end of the day on Thursday. My daughter started on it and managed to finish all work except for 2 worksheets before this past Monday. I sent a letter with her (printed out) that she would send in the other two that week and that she needed a bit more time to complete them since she got them a bit later in the week and would also now have homework to do. The teacher told her she would get zeroes if she didn't do them right then so my daughter panicked and did them. Poorly, might I add, and the teacher graded that accordingly. I didn't even have a chance to address this once my daughter came home upset about it before I got an email that was sent to all parents that said, The kids know darn well my birthday is right around the corner and they have asked me what I want! Just a heads up, I LOVE candles, Starbucks, Amazon, hand made cards, lemonade, Lindor Truffles, and beef jerky...just in case anyone would love to send me a gift! Thanks in advance!" I totally don't mind sending a gift, my daughter said she had mentioned it several times in class, but I was wondering if it is common practice for it to be emailed to parents like this? Maybe it is just the fact that I grew up with an old southern grandma who was obsessed with etiquette rules lol...but I got a weird vibe from it. Maybe I'm just irked from the no responses when we needed her schoolwork but there was a prompt email about birthday gifts. It has been a sucky week, so who knows. I just wanted to see if this is the usual because if so, I'm happy to send in a gift. submitted by /u/holyshit_CAN-U-NOT to r/Teachers [link] [comments]

UPDATE: Both winners have been given a way to redeem Valorant Points. It has been really eye-opening to see how difficult it is to gift someone Valorant Points directly. One agent let me login to their Valorant account and the other chose an amazon giftcard. The redemption value due to conversion was equivalorant or less than $25. Thanks everyone for participating, this is an attempt to spread some positivity in the game. Happy Holidays! ​ https://preview.redd.it/m44485rlbl281.png?width=1019&format=png&auto=webp&s=99f45e8a6bb47456b86a4c5e5e839896c6e2d6e8 ​ https://preview.redd.it/ate5ltipbl281.png?width=415&format=png&auto=webp&s=8c6f36981e35253ed31fc52e442256c7e13cce7e Hi everyone! This is inspired by a previous post that many expressed how unaffordable skins are in Valorant. So in the Thanksgiving spirit and wanting to do something nice to celebrate my birthday, I would like to gift someone $25 that’s redeemable for Valorant. It’s not a lot of money, but I hope you can use it for a Battlepass or finally be able to afford a nice phantom skin 😊 Rules: You can only enter once by commenting on the post. Any duplicate entry is invalid. Since I can’t verify if you can afford cosmetics items or not, I trust in you to enter if this is something you need Any rude comments is going to be excluded from the raffle Optional: Tell me what you’d get if you get the gift card This is my first time hosting a raffle on Reddit, so I will need some time to figure stuff out. I will be using RedditRaffler to randomly select 2 winners. The deadline to enter is Friday, 11/26 11:55pm Pacific Time (GMT-8). Raffle winners will be contacted the next day to receive a redeemable online Game Code or another equivalent payment option. EDIT: If you're not in NA, I can send over a prepaid VISA gift card or through Paypal. I will work this out with the winner. I am super sorry for not knowing that the Game Code only works in the US and Canada :c EDIT: they unlocked it! Since this may be the first and last post to have a raffle on here so I'll pick 2 people who gets $25/each! UPDATE: Congrats to the winners u/ivolloxy and /u/Ok_Froyo_8427! :) I have contacted each person separately to work out the details. I will update this post once we have processed the gifts. https://preview.redd.it/xhk9s3qqk6281.png?width=3360&format=png&auto=webp&s=d8b11eb95149fdbbece95267011d6f6d448fdbb7 submitted by /u/iamyourmonster to r/VALORANT [link] [comments]

This happened a couple years ago. I still wonder to this day if I was an asshole. When I was 13 years old, my orthodontist (doctor that puts braces on your teeth) had a raffle where the winner would get $200 in the form of a debit card. I was lucky enough to win. My parents bought me an Amazon Kindle Fire tablet with the prize money. A Kindle, for those who don't know, is a touch screen device made by Amazon that allows people to read a lot of books digitally. A Kindle fire also lets users browse the internet, download apps, play games, and more. When I turned 14, one of the birthday presents I received was an Amazon gift card. A few weeks after my birthday, I was browsing through the app store on my Kindle fire tablet and found an app I wanted - the thing is, the app costed $3. Being a minor, I did not have a job and was financially dependent on my parents. I thought about asking my parents if they would buy the app for me, but then I remembered the Amazon gift card I had received for my birthday. Since the Kindle fire tablet is a device made by Amazon, I would be able to use the Amazon gift card to pay for the app. So, I casually took the gift card which was inside a cabinet in the family dining room, redeemed it on my device, and got the app. My parents did not see me take the card or redeem it. The Amazon gift card had $100 on it, and while I only needed $3 for the app, it was not possible for me to just redeem onlypart of the money on the gift card. So, I had a balance of $97 left on my Amazon account which I figured I'd use later on other apps and games. After redeeming the gift card, I put it back in the dining room cabinet (I probably should've recycled it in hindsight). About a month after I bought the app, my parents wanted to make some purchases on Amazon. They took the gift card I had redeemed (since I had put it back in the dining room cabinet) and when they found out it was no longer valid, they called Amazon support and the truth came out - I had redeemed the card. When I got home from school, my parents confronted me about this. They got angry when I told them what I had done with the gift card. They said I lost their trust and took my Kindle fire tablet away for a while. Was I the asshole? In my defense, the gift card was MY birthday gift. Should I have recycled the gift card after redeeming it? Should I have asked my parents before redeeming it? submitted by /u/throwaitaawaylol1 to r/AmItheAsshole [link] [comments]

EDIT 3: Y’all have been overwhelmingly supportive of this goal. I cannot express how much this means to me and will ensure my son has a great experience building with me. I always thought it’d be too challenging, but with a community like y’all, I am confident we will meet the challenge. Thank you so much! Means the world to me. I will look at everything suggested and put forth and update this week with what I believe I have settled on (which will include a monitor this time! Lol). When we go to build, I will ensure we take photos of the process. He doesn’t like his photos, something about curly hair (I think it looks nice), so if you could drop a line of encouragement that’d be appreciated. I am surprising my son by building him a PC for his birthday. He goes to his friends house now to watch him play and I really want him to have one he is proud of and can play all the games. He is turning 16 soon, and I think it’ll be a great gift. Can you let me know what you think I could do to perhaps make it better? I haven’t purchased anything but the case and a SSD drive so far. I have looked into everything I believe I can learning in this process. I appreciate any feedback. EDIT: You all are AWESOME! I have been convinced that I should save some money on my processor and get a better GPU. Also, I learned about a great site and have made a list. My budget all in is 2k USD. PCPartPicker Part List Type Item Price CPU AMD Ryzen 7 3700X 3.6 GHz 8-Core Processor $298.99 @ B&H CPU Cooler Corsair H100i RGB PLATINUM 75 CFM Liquid CPU Cooler $159.99 @ Best Buy Thermal Compound ARCTIC MX-4 2019 Edition 4 g Thermal Paste $9.77 @ Amazon Motherboard Asus TUF GAMING X570-PLUS (WI-FI) ATX AM4 Motherboard $183.99 @ Best Buy Memory G.Skill Ripjaws V 16 GB (2 x 8 GB) DDR4-3600 Memory $82.99 @ Newegg Video Card EVGA GeForce RTX 2080 SUPER 8 GB XC ULTRA GAMING Video Card $693.98 @ Newegg Case Fractal Design Meshify C ATX Mid Tower Case $99.98 @ Newegg Power Supply Corsair RM (2019) 750 W 80+ Gold Certified Fully Modular ATX Power Supply $119.99 @ Best Buy Case Fan Corsair LL120 RGB LED 43.25 CFM 120 mm Fan $34.94 @ Amazon Prices include shipping, taxes, rebates, and discounts Total (before mail-in rebates) $1714.62 Mail-in rebates -$30.00 Total $1684.62 Generated by PCPartPicker 2020-03-08 22:47 EDT-0400 EDIT 2: We are gonna build this together. That means I have to tell him early before his bday. I think I might do it tomorrow after school. Monday’s are always hard. I cannot thank everyone enough for the support. Your enthusiasm has made confident that this will be a great thing for us. I cannot thank you enough. submitted by /u/askin_57 to r/buildapc [link] [comments]

My son is 25 and makes way more than i do, he's also childless & has roommates who help him w/bills, so he's flush with cash. I am a single mother & still have his younger sister in my care so money is always tight. Every year i go out of my way to give him a nice dinner, cake and the presents he asks for, some of which can be pricey. In exchange, he always shows up to holidays empty handed. No gifts, nothing. He can't even be bothered to bring a dish to holiday meals to help out. He always "forgets" or says money is tight. The last straw was mothers day where he told me money was too tight for a gift & then proceeded to order stuff off Amazon right in front of my face. So, i decided enough is enough. Tired of giving with zero in return. Edit: The reason for the post is his Bday is coming up in 3 weeks. He's already texted me what he wants and i've ignored it completely. submitted by /u/poptart8341 to r/AmItheAsshole [link] [comments]

For a friend's birthday I got him a budget record player from Amazon along with 10 old vinyls from a second hand shop. He is pretty into music so I thought it would be a cool gift. Plus I'm tight on money to give him anything more expensive. After I gave him the presents at the birthday party he opened it to test it out. Here enters Pretentious Music Snob (PMS), he starts fiddling with the record player, as soon as my friend opened the package. PMS: (asking me) How much did you get it for? Me: 60 dollars. PMS: (friend's name) be careful of the needle. It's a cheap vinyl player and it might scratch the records. I thought that was a weird thing to say, considering that he was right in front of me, but I gave him the benefit of the doubt since it might actually be useful advice. My friend put on a vinyl and it started playing. PMS: The speakers sound pretty crap. Friend: I think it sounds fine. PMS: You know what you can do? You should take out the speakers from the player and rewire it to better speakers to improve the sound. Here's the setup I have at home. (Pulls out his phone, starts showing him stuff) The one that xxx gave you is like the cheapest record player you can buy so it's not going to give you a good sound. At this point I was pretty annoyed. He might be right, but I think it's a dick move to straight up say that my gift crap when I was right next to him. So I decided to call him out. Me: Hey look, if you think that my gift is trash, why didn't you get him something better yourself instead of a 20 dollar gift card? (Yes, he got him a 20 dollar gift card for my friend's 18th) The room became silent and it got pretty awkward. I know that it's the thought that counts and it's bad to compare the value of the presents that you give, me calling PMS out about the value of his gift might be shallow and petty, but I reckon that he deserves it for talking shit about my gift right in front of me. So AITA? Edit: I posted this before going to bed (I live in Australia) and woke up in the morning expecting like 50 comments but Holy Crap this blew up. Here's some additional info: When birthday friend opened the present, everyone gathered around and was watching because we're (mostly) 18 year old who have never seen a record player at work before. So when PMS was pointing out the flaws in my gift, it was to everyone at the party since all the attention was on the record player, and thus him at that moment. To be honest I'm not a confrontational person and I wouldn't have said anything until the point where he pulled out his phone and showed birthday friend what he thought would be better gifts, that was the last straw for me. I said what I said to A) shut him up, I wasn't in the mood for listening to him saying how bad my gift was for 10 more minutes B) Yes I said it in a way that embarrassed him. I'm not a saint, I didn't take the high road, but I sure as hell feel good about standing up for myself. When I said the room went silent and awkward, it was like for 10 second. I've apologised to birthday friend over text for making a scene, he said to not worry about since PMS was also annoying him. I posted this to see if my response was appropriate and that I didn't over escalate it. My conclusion is that sometimes you gotta be an asshole yourself to stand up to a bully and I don't regret what I did. submitted by /u/ttt098290 to r/AmItheAsshole [link] [comments]

In their defense, they are out of touch with technology and retired in northern Georgia. I work for a major telecom company in Boston and am considered by most to be a massive geek. They were honestly trying to make a sweet and heartfelt gesture. But I mean COME ON! Have they never heard of Amazon? Or cash? Let's hear it reddit. submitted by /u/sausagefingers to r/AskReddit [link] [comments]