Dapper Men Outfits Casual Summer

Hello! I recently started a PhD and now work in an office with other students. There is no real dress code by any means, people wear outfits ranging from jeans and a T-shirt to long summer skirts and dresses to a suit! But everyone else in the office looks nice and put together. I never look nice and put together. I really really dislike so much about my body, and so all I’ve I’ve been wearing for years is big T-shirts and sweatpants which I feel conceal me somewhat. But now I’ve started this PhD I feel like I actually want to dress more like an adult and start looking a bit more put together. But whenever I try to dress ‘nice’, I just feel like everything looks awful on me, and I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I tried on a bunch of stuff to see if I could plan some easy ‘go to’ outfits that actually look ok. I’d really hugely appreciate any help or advice about which of the outfits I’ve tried here looks best. It might also be helpful to know what silhouettes might work best on me. I think almost any input would be helpful tbh, I’m lost lol. And thank you to anyone who reads this! Sorry for the slight wall of text 😅 submitted by /u/ThowRA_FloorGremlin to r/DressForYourBody [link] [comments]

Gray suit, white shirt, beige suede sneakers, cream canvas/brown leather belt, blue-gray scarf. I was thinking, should I add a pocket square. I'm not sure about the belt either. edit: Now I started thinking that perhaps dressier shoes would be more suitable. And the belt too. submitted by /u/KERMANENPERUNA to r/mensfashionadvice [link] [comments]

Do most young men (below the age of 30) in America prefer to wear shorts during spring and summer seasons in the current years? I have seen some episodes of the Wheel of Fortune show (USA Version show) whereby the final contestants' teenage sons or nephews wear shorts during the Bonus Round segment. It makes me wonder if shorts are the preferred choice of casual wear among most young men in America. Edit: Thank you everyone for your comments. submitted by /u/NormalLife6067 to r/AskAnAmerican [link] [comments]

I’m getting married this summer and I’ve been trying hard to be a “chill bride.” My family and myself are doing most of the planning. My cousin is letting us stay at her house in Antioch, TN, just outside in Nashville so we’re saving money before the bachelorette party and another cousin has a van and we’re all driving down together so we just have to split the cost of gas. None of us are exactly swimming in cash and I wanted to keep costs down as much as possible. I also told my bridesmaids, if there’s anything about my wedding stressing you out, let me know. I’m the only one that should be stressing and before this little scenario, I was feeling pretty good. Anyway, I found these perfect cocktail dresses at Anthropologie, inclusive sizing, great color and the holy Grail they were on sale. I made a deal with the bridesmaids. I buy the dresses if they covered any necessary alterations, everyone was happy. I gave everyone their dresses. Everyone looks fabulous and we’re all happy, who said planning a wedding was hard? Enter Roxy: back in December I saw a photo of Roxy at her work Christmas party wearing the bridesmaids dress. I’ll admit it bugged me. I wanted the big reveal at the wedding to feel special not like a rerun of an HR office mixer, but I bit my tongue because none of our mutual friends were there so I’m not going to stress myself out about something I felt like was kind of petty. The problem is we have a mutual friend getting married in June, one month before my wedding. A lot of my wedding guests will be at this wedding, and when I asked Roxy what she was wearing she casually said “Oh I’m just wearing the bridesmaids dress from your wedding. I look hot in it and it’s my favorite.” I paused . I told her I didn’t want her wear the bridesmaid uniform as a guest to a wedding filled with our mutual friends right before my big day Well, now Roxy thinks I’m being a bridezilla. She pointed out that I did say I wanted them to have a dress that they could wear again ( I meant after the wedding obviously) she then dropped the bombshell that she’s already worn it to several events. I might’ve snapped. I told her that since I bought the dress, I didn’t want her to wear it again until after my wedding she hit back in that since she paid for the alterations, she’s invested just as much money into the dress as I did which thanks to the sale might actually be true. My other bridesmaids are on my side, but Roxy thinks I’m overreacting because it’s just a dress. Am I the asshole for wanting the first time our friend group sees her in the dress to be when she’s standing at the altar with me. Mini update I guess - we’re meeting for dinner tomorrow to talk. She actually reached out to me, so fingers crossed 🤞 Update: She’s not wearing the dress to the June wedding and she even apologized. Yay! That’s the update. I’m going to go on to elaborate but if you don’t like ramblers, I would stop reading here. I like to ramble. Plus I had a few delicious cocktails at dinner tonight (it was happy hour) and tipsy me loves to go off topic and since there’s no one here telling me to stop and focus, who knows what’s going to come out. Im pretty sure this is going to be a long read. I’m using text to talk on my iPad because I hate typing on my iPad. I have a laptop but it’s old and every time I turn it on, it updates for what feels like a year, and by the time it lets me do what I need to do, I’ve lost interest or gone and did it on my phone or tablet, so it’s not worth it. Also I’m not going to apologize for grammar and spelling mistakes. Anyone who comes to Reddit posts and schools people on grammatical errors must get a kick out of it, so have fun, I’m sure this will be full of them. I get there, their and they’re confused sometimes. It makes my sister insane ands she loves to correct me when I do that. Sometimes when she’s feeling down, I do it on purpose just to give her a pick me up, so I get it. Back to the story, when I got there, she was already there, which is unusual because I’m usually the early one. I hate being late. I also hate when other people are late so I tend to get to things early because how can I judge other people for being late if I’m late? That’s no fun. But I was watching Ladies of London and the etiquette lady said that being early is also rude. Who knew. She actually said if you’re going to a dinner party, you should actually be about 15 minutes late so the hosts have time for unexpected things that come up. If you get there too early, they feel like they have to entertain you instead of wrapping up whatever they need to finish. I thought that was interesting and wanted to share. But let me get back to the update. I walk in, she stands up and gives me a hug and apologizes. So of course, I immediately start to tear up which makes her tear up and we’re just standing there hugging and crying in the middle of the restaurant. When we finally sit down, she tells me what’s going on. Apparently she’s been a little depressed for the past few months. She feels like she’s the only single person in our friend group, and I hadn’t thought about it but she kind of is. She said even our friend who is asexual has a partner. Again true. But it’s not like Roxy doesn’t date, and I’m not going to say she’s picky. She just feels like if she can tell that her and the guy aren’t compatible, there’s no reason to waste time. I’ll tell you why it hasn’t worked out with the last 3 guys she’s gone out. Guy number 1. Great guy, owned his own business, and I thought he was very handsome. But he’s not a pet guy. And if you do have a dog, he thinks it shouldn’t live in the house. It should be outside with a nice dog house. And the dog definitely shouldn’t get on the furniture. Her dog is her baby so he had to go. I agree, my fiancé knows to never make me choose between he and my dog. It would not be pretty. Guy number 2 hated his ex wife too much. She said he was always bringing her up but never in a good way. He seemed to always bring her up in conversations. Like they went to the movies, and he said his ex always said she loved movies, that’s why her and her girlfriends went so much, but it turns out she wasn’t really going to the movies, she was going out to cheat. Or they were going for a hike and she had her hair in a ponytail. He told her how cute she looked then said his ex wore ponytails all the time, unless she was meeting up with the guy she was cheating on him with, she always wore her hair down for him. She swears any topic of conversation, he could bring back to his ex cheating on him. She felt like he wasn’t over his ex wife so she cut it off. And guy number 3 just enjoyed fart humor too much for her liking. I don’t think I have to elaborate. My boo loves a good fart joke too, but I find it endearing. She thinks it’s immature. So anyway (I’m going to say that a lot, that’s how I get back on subject) she had been in a funk and I’m sure me talking about my upcoming wedding constantly didn’t help. She didn’t say that, but I do talk about it a lot. I mean look at me, I’m on Reddit talking about it now. So getting back to Roxy, she was in a funk. She picked up the dress from the seamstress and tried it on to see how it fit and she said she felt so pretty. She hadn’t felt pretty in a long time. Isn’t it funny how some outfits just make you feel good? I feel like that in my wedding dress, which I got at a consignment shop, can you believe it? I took it this seamstress and she worked magic on this dress. It was pretty before but now it’s beyond. Now you see what I did there, talking about my wedding again. I’m trying to do better. So anyway, when her holiday office party came along, she so didn’t want to go and procrastinated until the last minute to find something to wear. She went shopping and couldn’t find anything she liked. She even went to Anthropologie and couldn’t find anything in the store she liked and because she waited so long, didn’t have time to wait for an online order. And she knew it was wrong but she wore the dress and everyone loved it. She got so many compliments. Her work crush flirted and danced with her. Even the women there liked it. She hit it off with one of her work colleagues, “Aja” and they’ve hung out a lot since the party. They didn’t talk much before that night because they’re in completely different departments. But now they’ve gone to dinner several times and movies. They even hung out at Aja’s apartment and watched Bridgerton with their dogs who are also good friends now. She also feels like upper management noticed her too because since the office party, they’ve put her on bigger projects. So anyway, life’s been pretty good since she wore “the dress”. And this past weekend, when we were hanging out and I’m of course droning on and on about my wedding and then bring up what to wear to another’s friend’s wedding, that funk came back and she snapped a little bit. She said it really started off as a joke when she said she was going to wear the bridesmaids dress, but my reaction pissed her off. Looking back at my original post, I didn’t elaborate on my reaction. I was hopping mad yall. And I didn’t ask her not to wear it. I TOLD her she wasn’t wearing it because I paid for it. She said I made her feel like a child and I was her mother and she had to do what I told her to do because I said so. Therefore she acted like a child and threw a tantrum. She also hasn’t worn it anywhere else. Again she just said that to piss me off. After the party, she did take it to the dry cleaners, but it’s been hanging in her closet since. Even though I come off looking like an ass, I’m so happy. I even told her about the Reddit post. She thought it was hilarious. She said she knew I must have been mad because I gave her a Misfit name and not a Hologram name. It’s from a cartoon wet both lived add kids. She feels like Reddit was right since most people called her the asshole. I apologized to and told her the ESH people were right. We were both assholes who deserve each other, but I still feel like it’s a happy ending. submitted by /u/Due_Bedroom3146 to r/AmItheAsshole [link] [comments]

I am not The OOP, OOP is u/SteelStrawberries My [29/M] girlfriend [28/F] refuse to wear a dress to my brother's wedding (or anywhere else if that matter). TRIGGER WARNING: sexism Original Post Feb 8, 2016 I [29/M] have been with my current girlfriend "Lisa" [28/F] for a little bit more than 2 years. She's a self-made woman, incredibly successful in everything she does, work, sports, etc. She the most intelligent, kind, funny, generous person I have ever met. Each and every day I am amazed at the luck I had to get such a girl to love me. She's a very down-to-earth girl, and prefer the outdoors to fancy outings. She hates everything "fussy" and she's a bit of a tomboy. I never saw her with makeup, or with something fancier than a ponytail. She's self employed and mostly wears jeans, t-shirts and hoodies, even wearing dress pants and a blouse for meeting clients is a huge event. Since my previous girlfriend was a typical girly-girl pink princess fashionista drama-queen (don't get me started...), I find Lisa extremely refreshing. As for our relationships, I moved in to her house last year, and was thinking about proposing sometime next spring. However, with the current state of affair, I don't know what to think about, well, everything... We've been invited to my brother's wedding. It's a very formal, black tie event in the classiest venue around town. When I told Lisa we would have to go shopping for clothes, she expressed her disdain for "formal" events. I jokingly told her I was looking forward to the wedding so I could see her for the first time all dressed up, in a beautiful dress, heels, hair done etc. She looked at me like I told the least-funniest joke in the history of mankind and said she's not going to wear a dress. Period. No discussion. I said it's a black tie event, so every woman will wear a dress. She said I don't understand. She doesn't wear dresses or skirts. She doesn't wear makeup. She doesn't wear heels. At first I thought I could persuade her, but she the queen of stubbornness (one of her bigger qualities sometime becomes her biggest fault). I talk about her reactions to her parents, they laughed at me when I told them I might be able to persuade her to change her mind. They told me the last time Lisa wore a dress, she was maybe 5 years old and even then it was an hassle to get her do it. After that, she threaten to disrobe if someone forced her to wear a dress. Even her beloved grandparents couldn't convinced her to wear one. Her friends told me the same things, they stopped trying long ago. I tried to have a serious discussion with Lisa to find the source of her disdain against dresses and skirts. Maybe there's a hidden trauma or something ? I probed and asked, all I can get is "I don't wear dresses because I don't like wearing dresses. Same thing with heels and makeup". Everyday it's the same reason over and over. I thought maybe it was some weird case of body shame, which would be a shame in itself because she has a killer body. I tried this approach but she saw right trough my strategy and assured me she know she would look stunning in a dress, she just don't wear dresses. I even offered to pay for it, she laughed again because she makes way more than I and could easily afford any dresses she like. I also offered a trade. She could make me do anything she want, any "improvement" she wish on myself in exchange of her wearing a dress to my brother wedding. She simply answered that she'll never ask for someone to change something about themselves for her, because she would hate being asked the same thing. Yesterday was breaking point. I was tired of not making any progress and simply plead to please wear a dress for a couple hours, it's a small sacrifice, everybody will be happy to see her there and after that no more dresses I swear. I was on my knees at this point, nearly crying. Her answer hurt more than I could care to admit, she said "I am not wearing a dress to your brother's wedding. It has nothing to do with your brother, nor with you or anyone else for that matter. I don't wear dresses because I don't like to and nobody will change that. I put up with you those last weeks hoping you would get the message, but at this point and I am annoyed beyond end that you don't understand. Now hear me : if I can wear dress pants and blouse to the wedding, I will attend. If I have to wear a dress, then I'll have to tell your brother and her fiancee that sadly I cannot attend their wedding due to personal circumstance. " Then she stopped for a moment, took a deep breath and said "you know... those last weeks really made me reconsider us a as couple. I understand your point of view and I know how frustrating I can be, but my decision was made way before you were even in my life. Another episode like that would probably means the end, at least for me... I thought about breaking up with you during those last week to be honest, but I couldn't do it, I didn't have it in me to throw the last two years to pieces because of this.... I don't know if it means the end for us, you have all the rights to be angry at me and wouldn't blame you if you leave." I've slept on the couch last night, just to be alone and think. Lisa tried to change my mind but I told her I needed some time by myself to think. She let out a sad chuckle and told me that I'm welcome in our bed anytime I want, and said she's not angry at me. I've already RSVP to my brother and told him we will be there, as a couple. My brother and his fiancee absolutely adores Lisa and I know they will be disappointed if she cannot makes it, as are my parents and most of my family. But even more than my brother's wedding, it leaves me worried about our future as a couple. We had two years of pure bliss. I understand couples fight sometime, but such a huge fight for something as petty ? What does it say about the strength of our relationship if she was nearly ready to break up with me because of a dress ? Deep down inside me, I know a potential breakup would devastate me. I had my share of failed relationships, but never was with a girl like Lisa. I know it would be rough for her, but she wouldn't be destroyed like I would. And this hurt more I think. I know she loves me (and everybody who knows her told me I must be something special for her to considering a long term relationship with me, everyone was beyond surprised when she offered I moved in with her). So I don't even know what is my question, precisely. Maybe someone could offer some outside perspective ? Are we doomed to fail ? Should I just accept her quirks and live happily ever after or should I move on and find someone else ? tl;dr: Girlfriend refuse to wear a dress to a formal event because she don't like wearing dresses. I tried to convince her, there's talks of breaking up. TOP COMMENTS ScrollButtons Sounds to me like she's not the only stubborn one. Look, she doesn't want to wear a dress or makeup or heels. There is literally no precedence where she has worn these things. She doesn't want to do it. She's willing to compromise with an outfit that will match the occasion (if not your expectations). From an outsider's perspective, yes you're being ridiculous and trying to fit her into a mold that she won't fit into. She's made it abundantly clear on how she stands with the issue and is now getting (rightfully) upset that you are ignoring her boundaries. Buy a dress for yourself if you want to be half of a couple where one person is wearing one. Otherwise, leave off or you'll lose her. ~ lonnielee3 You knew she only wears slacks - you knew it soon after you met her, when you dated, when you moved into her home. You KNOW she only wears slacks. So why did you put so much energy into trying to change a decision she made when she was 5 years old? If she has habits that are detrimental to her (or your) health, then that's one thing to be concerned about. But if she chooses her style to not include dresses, well, that's her decision. Frankly, I'm sorta surprised she hasn't kicked you out of her house yet. ~ slinky999 Tomboy here. I rarely wear skirts/dress or makeup, and never wear heels, so I'll offer you my perspective. You say you love your GF, and you don't want to change anything about her, but here you are trying to change her. You knew she was like this when you got together with her, and you're trying to beg/plead/cajole her into doing something you know she doesn't like. And you refuse to take no for an answer, even when threatened with breaking up. What really is the issue here ? Is it that you think your family will look down on you for having a GF that doesn't want to dress up ? Do you think your family/friends will laugh at you when your GF isn't all gussied up like the other women ? What is the problem with her wearing dress pants and a blouse ? Do you think that will reflect badly on you, are you not attracted to her in her preferred clothes, or do you simply look at her choices with disdain ? You say you accept her exactly how she is, and in the same breath you're trying to change her. This is not ok. Either you accept her or you don't. Which is it ? You are showing a profound lack of respect for her and her wants and needs. You knew this is how she was when you started dating her. You pushed and pushed and bribed and whined when she wanted to do exactly what she's always done. If you don't see the issue with that, then I'm not sure how much Reddit can help you. EDIT: The answers in this thread made it painfully clear I was in the wrong all the time, and for the wrong reasons (two wrongs don't make a right... never have I best understand it than now). I will go home and tell Lisa I am sorry for being so stubborn about a stupid dress and that I'll never ever try to get her to do thing she don't want just because I'm afraid to be ashamed or that people will laugh at her. Then I will call my brother and tell him that Lisa plan on wearing dress pants and a blouse to his wedding, and if it pose a problem well we'll have to pass. I cannot thank everyone enough for the perspective your answers gave me. What I thought was an huge problem was just me being a dick. And I agree with everyone in this thread who said I have bigger issues about myself to deal with. Being told so frankly by random internet stranger is more humbling that I thought. Update Feb 10, 2016 (2 days later) UPDATE : My [29/M] girlfriend [28/F] refuse to wear a dress to my brother's wedding (or anywhere else if that matter). Update from this post So this is an update about the previous post about my [29/M] girlfriend [28/F] refusal to wear a dress to a wedding. I went back home after work Monday night and first thing I did was to apologize for my behavior to Lisa. I told her I was really sorry for pestering her those last weeks to make her do something she didn't want to do. I told her I realize it's doesn't matter at all for me if she don't wear a dress (true, she can rock absolutely anything and be stunning) and that I was more worried about what my extended family would think of her (and myself, by ricochet). It's something that's obviously very important for her, and not important at all for me, I should have respected her choice. She also apologized for telling me she thought about breaking up, because even if she did thought about it, she couldn't go with it, and it was unfair to let me know, especially as mean to end our arguments. From the answer in my first post, nearly half said she was in the right and I was childish, and the other half said I was in the right and she was childish... I was apparently downvoted to hell by both parties too ! Well I agree with everybody. The fact is, Lisa is stubborn, it's part of who she is, and it's part of why I love her so much. Without the stubbornness, Lisa wouldn't be Lisa and it's perfectly fine with me (we're not perfects but she put up with my flaws too) Also in my previous post, some people were outraged at what she offered to wear, describing it at business casual. I saw the outfit and it's very formal : black flowy pants...someone called them "palazzo pants" I believe, white satin blouse and a long black cardigan-like thing that doesn't close in the front in a very fine material with some sparkle in it and shiny black leather flats (sorry about the terms, woman fashion isn't something I really know). So back to Lisa on Monday night... She said we should ask my brother and her fiancee if they are comfortable with her wearing pants, because it's their wedding so they should have the last word. So yesterday I called them and told them about it. My brother quickly passed the phone to her fiancee, since she's in charge of those things (he don't care at all, if it was only for him, he would have eloped). So I asked my brother's fiancee and she said that she would have been more surprised seeing Lisa in a dress than her showing in pants, and that it wouldn't offend her at all. We're both agree some people may try to make some negative remarks, but it's the general consensus that Lisa can handle that without trouble. And that anyway, knowing the extended family, everything that is not up to their standard will be a scandal, so what's a pair of pants gonna change. So were are going to my brother's wedding, me in a tux and Lisa in her outfit (which, according to my brother's fiancee, is A-W-E-S-O-M-E). And since we were all in wedding discussions, I told Lisa I was planning to propose sooner than later. We are going shopping for rings sometime after my brother's wedding. As for our wedding ceremony, we agreed on having a small ceremony next summer at her family cottage with our grandparents, parents, siblings and close friends (maybe 30 persons total). Since it's on a small island in the middle of lake nowhere, we have the perfect excuse to have a small, casual and intimate ceremony. Honestly, we couldn't fit everybody there even if we wanted to. Everyone else will receive a postcard from our honeymoon destination saying we happily married on XX date and please don't send gifts. tl;dr: Apologized to Lisa for my behavior and she apologized for what she said to me. Brother and her fiancee don't care at all if she wears pants to their wedding.... And we're getting married next summer. THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP's OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7 submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

Alright, time to rank all of the Year 9 Special Heroes. I remember not being enthusiastic about this batch of Special Heroes from what I remember, but I am curious to see if this preconception will stick around to the very end. But before I do, I think it's necessary that I bring up the disclaimer once again: DISCLAIMER: If you disagree with something, that's perfectly fine. Please don't be an asshole about it in the comments section, just because I ranked someone higher or lower than you think that person's appearance "deserves". Everyone has different opinions, after all. Got it? Good. Now, time to begin... Total Rankings Easter Veyle is very cute. I like how the design borrows some elements from her casual attire from Engage. The special art is also gorgeous, especially the grass that spawns below her; I think that's very wholesome and sweet. So I'll start off with an A-Tier with Easter Veyle. Great start. Easter Eitr...The giant, black, floppy ears are hilarious. I know a lot of people hate this one for the reasons you'd expect, but I don't think that's what's going on here; what I see is that she's more or less emulating her adult self's Easter design (on the Karla Harmonic) while adding her own elements to make her look very cute. And I think they captured her personality and cuteness well, so I'll give her an A-Tier for that. Easter M_e is cute, but the colors are very bright and way too in your face. I'm also not a huge fan of the design or the combat art, so I'm gonna say... C-Tier, honestly. I was gonna say B for her, but now that we have the brand new art (you can tell when I actually started ranking these lmao), this variant is pretty lackluster in comparison... Easter Plumeria (& Olivia), this is the REAL sexualized Easter alt. Design-wise, I don't hate it, though; Plumeria's design is way better than fucking Easter Triandra's art, and Olivia having a white color scheme to contrast Plumeria's black is a neat idea. The combat art is fine though, so I'll say B-Tier. Easter Lon'qu... Design-wise, he's kinda dull. Plus, the dark colors and the bright colors don't blend very well together here. The combat art is pretty, but I'm not impressed by it, either, so... C-Tier...? I don't know, I don't really care. Young Leo is cute. With all of these younger variants, I do like that they removed the armor they had and gave them regular clothes instead. However, that's about all Leo has going for him, as well as the decent special art, so...uhhh...B-Tier. Young Camilla, I love the sort of Victorian-style dress. It's very pretty. The combat art is also kinda funny, with the way she's swinging that axe, especially in the special art. So you know what? A-Tier. Her design really did grow on me a little. Young Elise...isn't that much different from the regular Elise design-wise. Sure, I like the braided hair rings, and I do think it's funny how small she is compared to the others, so I'll give her a B-Tier for that, but I really wish they did a bit more with her design... Young Male Corrin (& Female Corrin)... I mean, they're alright. I find it funny how they're finally actually wearing shoes for once, though there's not much else to say regarding their design or their combat art or anything. Female Corrin, I guess, is a bit cuter since I like the dress, but I think Young Camilla does the dress thing better, so...also a B-Tier Young Xander is okay. I'm not crazy about this design though, honestly... I'm also a bit mixed on the combat art, mostly the special art's effects, but I can kind of see the vision if I squint hard enough. Mmm...B-Tier. Aside from Camilla, who I really liked, the Young Nohrians are all okay. Groom Seliph is alright. Nothing special art or design-wise, but I'll give him a B-Tier since there's nothing I dislike about it. Downside is, there's not much else I really can say that I like, either. It's just...Groom Seliph, I guess. But then with Bridal Larcei... THEN it's more fun. I like the purple color scheme, and the exotic dress patterns and tiara to go with it. The fact that she's also using a candlestick as a lance is also funny. I also love the special art, even if it is a bit busy. Despite that, I really do like this bridal alt, so A-Tier. Bridal Tine is cute. It's a simpler outfit design, but the added whites on top of her black color scheme contrast very well together. I also like the flowers replacing a part of the ribbons, and the mini veils in her hair; that's pretty cute. B-Tier. Bridal Julia (& Ishtar), very beautiful dress designs, but I don't like that they have the exact same color scheme as one another; they end up blending together when they really shouldn't. The two different colors and effects of the special art, however, I do like, which helps bring a bit more color variety. Even still, I'll say A-Tier. It would've been perfect if HACCAN had made their color schemes a bit more distinct. Bridal Lana, I like the blue color scheme of her dress. I'm not a fan of her face, however, since she looks a bit derpy...but B-Tier. It's another simple design like Seliph, so again, not much else to say. Summer Nino is cute. I like the giant purple inner tube. It's not as funny as Summer Gullveig's snake inner tube, but I'll give her a B-Tier for that inner tube alone. That and the large dolphin in the special art. She's alright otherwise. Summer Lapis, I really like the idea of her and Donnel leaning more into the "fisherman" concept, with Donnel using a net and Lapis a harpoon. The fisherman's hat, combined with the harpoon, the more modest outfit, and the box she has to keep her catch in, are all fun details. The octopus in the special art is also funny. Yeah, A-Tier. Summer Palla, whoa, I forgot just how much detail they put into the lighting. I don't hate it, though. The giant leaf fan is funny, though I'm not really impressed with her design; it's kind of average, I think. B-Tier. The gold accessories with the fan could fool me into thinking this was part of a Desert banner. Summer Celica (& Serra)...They're pretty, but not as pretty as I think they should be. Design-wise, they're a bit too simple; a two-piece with scarves and sarongs. And the combat art doesn't impress me, mostly since the special art just changes up the water particles and does little else. In my heart, as much as I am happy that Celica finally got a proper seasonal, this is gonna have to be a B-Tier. Summer Fogado is awesome. I love the vibrant color scheme, the inner tube is funny (hey, just like Nino, which I guess makes sense since he can't swim), and the combat art is also spectacular, with a giant whirlpool surrounding him. Yeah, A-Tier. I really like it. Summer Yuri, eww... Somehow, he's both a masculine man and a pretty boy at the exact same time (or a "twunk" as others called him), and it does NOT blend well together. The abs, combined with how ridiculously detailed his feet are, are so gross and uncomfortable to look at. This is a D-Tier; sure, the special art effects are nice, but it's also WAY too busy and can't save a mediocre design with a terrible appearance. Summer Heiðrún... Uhh, honestly, without her bandages, Heiðrún looks pretty lackluster. I also do not like the water particles in the special art (oh, it's another sencha piece, that explains it). So honestly, I'm gonna say C-Tier. A big factor for Heiðrún's appeal to me were the bandages (or just how beautiful her kimono was in her New Year's alt), which leaves the Summer alt with basically nothing to offer. Summer Eikþyrnir is cool. I like the idea of making him into a lifeguard, with the safety ring, shades, and the little bag. I think his body proportion is a bit awkward compared to his other variants, so that brings it down for me. But I'll say B-Tier, mostly for the added effect of him putting on his shades in his special art. Summer Hapi (& Constance)...They're alright, I guess. Apparently, they're meant to be based on their post-timeskip outfits, and while I can see that with Hapi, I don't see that with Constance... I'm also not crazy about their designs, nor am I crazy about their combat art, though I like the detail of Constance in her "sunlight" mode via the damaged art. Eh, B-Tier; it's kind of mediocre, if I'm being frank. In fact, a lot of these Special Heroes so far are not that good... Summer Balthus, I'm not a fan of design-wise; it's just him in a speedo, and that's it. But he still gets an A-Tier for that special art alone. The giant shark is SO awesome. I really wish they added a bit more to his design than just a speedo and a few other accessories to go with it; he fell short of S-Tier for that reason. Maid Veronica is very cute. In fact, I haven't given one of these out yet, but I'll say S-Tier. First, adapting her new design into a maid dress works surprisingly well. Second, the combat art where she's pouring the tea in the attack art, the gorgeous special art particles, and having her trip in the damaged art has a lot of personality. Last, and certainly not least, did you know that the objects that she's carrying are the exact same ones seen in the Book VI Ending Movie? That's great attention to detail. Everything about her is just super wholesome, so S-Tier. Butler Felix is funny. The outfit is very nice and dapper, and him being as grumpy as ever makes it all the more hilarious. The combat art, I'm not a fan of, mostly due to the weird posing. I get that's because he has a tray in his other hand, but still, I don't like it. So I'll say B-Tier for Butler Felix. Maid Céline... Is this any different from her base form? Sure, there's the shorter dress and the swapped the colors of said dress, but that's literally all they did, alongside giving her a maid's headdress. The combat art is also not great, not the poses or the effects. So I'm gonna say C-Tier. The other three Célines are way better (oops, spoilers i guess lol). Maid Ingrid (& Nanna) are fine. I don't like that they have the exact same outfit with minor variations; that's kind of lazy. The designs aren't even that interesting, either. The combat art is alright, especially with that giant spoon that Ingrid has, so I'll give them a B-Tier for that. Otherwise, they're just dressed like maids, not much else. Butler Finn has the exact same problem as Maid Céline: not that much different from the regular Finn's design. The big cake cutter weapon is kinda funny, but it's a forgettable alt otherwise. I'm also not that big on the artstyle used to portray him, so...ehh, C-Tier. Gladiator "Marth" is alright. The combat art is pretty cool, but design-wise, it kind of just looks like the regular, disguised Lucina with gold armor and a tattered cape. I don't hate it, but I'm gonna say B-Tier; it's okay. Gladiator Chrom I like better. This is the closest we'll ever get to a non-Resplendent base Chrom that doesn't look off-model and wimpy, and they really captured his strength with the bulky armor, big muscles and abs, and the heavy armor. The combat art, again, is also really cool. Yeah, A-Tier. This is what Chrom's base form should've been more like. Gladiator Chulainn... Again, it's not that much different design-wise... The combat art is nice, as usual with these Gladiator alts, but the rest of I'm not a fan of. Honestly? C-Tier; he looks a lot wimpier than his base form, where he looked a lot more badass... Gladiator Fir (& Karla) is...fine. The art is decent, even if the special art doesn't really wow me as much as the damaged art does. As for the design, it looks kind of stupid to me... But because I like the particle effects in the damaged art and the different colored particles in the special art, I'll give them a B-Tier. Gladiator Ogma is awesome. The design doesn't take any creative liberties with his design, as per usual, but that special art RULES. The sheer power that he's unleashing is absolutely awesome, so I'll give him an A-Tier for that. If the design were a bit more unique or creative, it would've been an S for me. Halloween Nerþuz... More like Wedding Nerþuz, because if you had told me this was a Wedding alt, I would've fully believed you. It only vaguely resembles a Halloween alt with the minor additions like the bandages and the web tiara. Honestly, this design looks like they just added random shit on Nerþuz's original design and didn't know what to do with it... And the combat art isn't wowing me either, so... I'll say C-Tier. Sophia does the "corpse bride" thing way better. Halloween Peony is cute. The pumpkin motif is simple, but it does fit the Halloween theme quite well. So B-Tier. Halloween Skrimir... I don't get it. What is he even supposed to be dressed up as? It's also the exact same issues that I have with Halloween Nerþuz, where it feels like they just took his base form and slapped on some vaguely Halloween-themed colors and accessories, and it looks super messy. The combat art is fine, the meat is funny, but I'm giving him a C-Tier for that hideous and unfocused design. Intelligent Systems, next time you make a Halloween banner, pick a costume and stick with it, man! Halloween Freyja (& Eitr) is absolutely wholesome and beautiful. I LOVE the angel/devil motif, paired with their respective color schemes; it works so well together. And that combat art is absolute cinema. I'm gonna say S-Tier; I haven't given out enough of those yet. There's a lot of details, like the little "devil" butterflies, the Freyr balloon, the balloons' expressions in the damaged art, and I think they work very well. S-Tier. Halloween Ranulf... Why does the artstyle make the images look like they're low-quality? The combat art is also a bit too simple for my tastes. But...I like the pirate costume, so he gets a B-Tier for that. I think you could've done this a little cleaner, though... Ninja Female Shez is alright. A pretty simple redesign of an alt since she already kind of fits the "ninja" vibe, but I'll say B-Tier, if only for the gorgeous autumn leaf particles in the special art. That's all she has going for her, though. Ninja Yunaka, I like the cherry blossom scarf; I think that's a cute detail. That, and replacing her regular hair stars with ninja ones. The cherry blossom petals in the special art are also pretty, so I'll say B-Tier as well. Another simple one. Ninja Hríd, oh hey, he's got a Nifl dragon form mask too. Same deal as the previous two; decent, albeit samey design, great combat art, B-Tier...you get it. Ninja Gullveig (& Kvasir)... You know, having Gullveig's snakes hold her loose sleeves up as well as those giant scrolls is kinda funny. I also like the snakeskin pattern on her threads. Kvasir's design is a bit more generic though, even if I like the very shiny shuriken weapon. Oh, it's even glowing in the special art alongside Gullveig's hand. You know what? I'm warming up to this; I'll give them A-Tier. Ninja Male Shez is cool. While his design is not that much more distinct from his base form, his combat art is absolutely awesome. Especially that damaged art, though not because of the fanservice, but because of just how much detail goes into the stuff around it, like his clothes being sliced off. So I'll give him an A-Tier for that. Certainly makes up for that atrocious Summer Yuri art... Christmas Gatekeeper is an S-Tier; look at all of those adorable doggies and kitties! They're even helping him out for the festival and in combat, that's really wholesome. Heck, the combat art itself is so silly that it wraps right around into being awesome. Daisuke Izuka knew the assignment, and he knocked it out of the park once again. Christmas Seiðr, I like the starry night shawl, I think that fits her design combined with the Christmas feel, but the rest of the design is really ugly and does not blend well together at all. Personally, this would've been better if they leaned way more into the blue and white color scheme instead of trying to force in a bunch of red and green in there. Combined with the lackluster combat art, she gets a C-Tier. Christmas Alfred is cute. A simple Christmas-themed design, and so is the combat art, but he looks pretty good. B-Tier. Christmas Ivy (& Camilla), damn, what a gorgeous pair of designs. For once, (adult) Camilla actually looks very modest, and the colors are very beautiful... My only complaint is that the special art should've added a bit more to it, but otherwise, I'll give them an A-Tier. A very well-done Christmas pair. Christmas Zelkov, my goodness, he looks absolutely *handsome*. Having his entire outfit be black and white with a bit of green and gold is very bold, but it works very well in his favor. The giant sack of presents also fits his character, and the combat art, oh dear LORD, the combat art...the special art is absolutely gorgeous, AND they drew four unique frames (courtesy of Akira Egawa!)?! S-Tier. What an amazing Christmas alt, and I'm so sad that he was our last free "new" Special Hero given out. At least they went out with a bang, am I right? New Year's Heimdallr, oh god... The regular Heimdallr's design looks absolutely badass, and her New Year's variant looks so disgusting by comparison... The eyes look very creepy, the hair is really shiny for some reason, and the combat art is just...it's just bland! D-Tier, honestly;. Comparing Homare's previous work, I refuse to believe that this was even finished, like they didn't have time to polish it up... New Year's Váli is very cute. The cherry blossom kimono works with her pink color scheme. Also, the Baldr-colored flowers and accessories are a cute addition. The flower particles in the special art are also very cute. Yeah, A-Tier; I really like it. New Year's Sedgar is...fine. Compared to the other characters on this banner, he's kind of just...there. The bow having the colors of the Coyote's Men is a neat idea, but otherwise, he's just a C-Tier. New Year's Baldr (& Höðr) is an S-Tier; I LOVE the vibrant color scheme! The giant parasol, the special art particles of each god using their respective powers, and Baldr protecting her sister in the damaged art is very wholesome. As an additional note, I love how the angel sisters' kimonos have a repeating pattern on the edges, which looks like the Ásgarðr sigil; that detail is very subtle, but I think it works out very well. Regardless, S-Tier. Oh boy, now we're getting into these bozos that have no distinct outfits... Ilian Mia... I like the special art effects, but that only gets her a C-Tier, because her outfit is pretty similar to her base form already; there's not much to say about her... Ilian Azura... Again, cool special art effects, but these alts are all the same; just Elibe Pegasus Knight outfits...C-Tier; I really don't care about these fucking alts. And I don't care about this! In fact, I don't like Ilian Minerva looks at all. The artstyle does not capture her personality, and her design isn't nearly as cool. In fact, just because of how much I dislike the artstyle of choice and how off-model she looks to me, Minerva gets a D-Tier. Fuck this. Ilian Hilda (& Florina)... I don't get this one, either. Hilda's design, again, is very uninspired, and that's literally JUST the base form of Florina but with very minor additions. I know the special art is nice and the artstyle is good, but who cares? C-Tier; it's boring as hell. If not for the good artstyle or combat art, I would've rated this an instant F-Tier. Maybe I was too harsh on the Thief banner after all... Valentine's Céline, alright, here we go. Now we're back on track: A very cute design, with a gorgeous dress, a cute bonnet, plus I love how they used elements from her casual outfit, namely the dress pattern and the butterfly bows. And the special art opening up to reveal a dessert role? That's really sweet (pun absolutely intended). A-Tier. Definitely the best of the Célines appearance-wise. Valentine's Hortensia is an S-Tier because THAT DRESS IS SO PRETTYYYY! The bright, vibrant colors, the bows from her casual attire, the Treat staff from Engage, oh my god, it's soooo cute! I love this Hortensia variant. Honestly, I think all of the Hortensias have such amazing alts, but this one wins by a landslide. nope, not biased at all Valentine's Louis is alright. Design-wise, it's mostly just his casual attire and not much else, meaning he's a bit generic compared to the girls. But I love the gorgeous special art, so I'll give him B-Tier for that (also, I don't get the lily joke; what's with him and lilies?). And finally, Valentine's Veyle (& Female Alear)... Yeah, you know? I haven't given out enough of these, I'll say S-Tier. Again, much like Hortensia and Céline, GORGEOUS dresses, I love how they're based on their casual outfits, I also love how they have flowers in the other's respective color schemes, either in their bouquets or on their heads... And that special art is beautiful, I love the colors and the particle effects. Plus, Alear defending her sister in the damaged art is really sweet. Well, that was all of the Special Heroes for this wave. If I had to pick one word to describe this batch, I would say "Mid". Unlike previous years, which had a lot of high highs but also low lows, most of the Special Heroes, appearance-wise, all seem...fine, to me, for the most part. There weren't a lot of units that I disliked, but also very few that I really loved. None of these units made it into SS or F-Tier, to really hit the point across! Also, I feel like, with each coming year, I'm starting to become a lot harsher towards these Heroes' appearances, mostly since, with how many we've gotten over the years, I kind of expect more out of them, or rather, I've established some standards as the game has evolved. And with this batch, I don't think that these artists have truly been giving it their all with these guys' art and/or designs. But maybe that's just reflecting me and my current enjoyment of the game, who knows? Either way, what do you think of this wave of Special Heroes? 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I am not the OOP. The OOP is u/Princessprotect posting in r/AITAH Concluded as per OOP 1 update - Medium Original - 17th October 2024 Update - 4th July 2025 AITAH, for calling out my husband for changing up the rules in our open marriage? I (35f) am in an open relationship with my husband (36m). It was over the summer he mentioned it to me. I wouldn't say I was totally for it but it took some getting used to. Now everything is going great but recently my husband keeps changing the rules. Once I started dating Evan (45m) that's when he started acting differently. My husband and I agreed on a dont ask don't tell policy but,keeps pestering me about the details of our relationship. I give him a little here and there but never the explicit stuff. Everything positive I mention about Evan he downplays or critiques. Last week, I planned a date with Evan and asked him to watch the kids. He agreed. He was to get back home by 9 but texted me to say he's doing overtime that night. I was left scrambling for a sitter at the last minute. This isn't the first time he has done this. Luckily this time I got a hold of a sitter but I could not stay as long as I was hoping for. Afterward, he acted as if everything was okay. He began policing me when I left the house and began picking my outfits apart. Expressing concern about how the neighbors would perceive me. To avoid conflict, I started wearing jackets to cover up before heading out. Then came the issue of Evan dropping me off. He worried about the neighbors seeing a strange car pull up at night. This forced me to do lunch dates. It wasn't a bother. I would bring my laptop to Evan's and work at his place.However,I preferred the dinner dates because I got a chance to dress up more. Changing up the times seemed to alleviate some tension but I still feel like I was compromising too much. He didn't even want me to drive to the dates but when Evan pays for an Uber or drops me off it's an issue. It makes no sense. The breaking point was when Evan sent flowers to the house. My husband lost it claiming it's dangerous for a strange man to know our address when we have kids inside. I will say he was right about this. I did drop the ball however, he insisted that I shouldn't bring home any gifts at all going forward, arguing it violated our don't ask don't tell rule. He used to joke about me not getting chivalry in my open relationship and now that I'm getting dates it's a big deal? I asked him if he doesn't take the women he sleeps with on dates and he said no it's strictly sex and none of that "lovey dovey bullsh**" that I'm doing. I confronted my husband about these rules and he just brushed it off like it was nothing. Saying "it's just a respect thing" I was really enjoying this but he's sucking the fun out of it and it just feels highly stressful. Comments myweechikin Your husband wanted to have a wife and to still sleep with whomever he liked. He didn't want that for you. Come on now, surely you realise that? clackagaling to me, it seems like husband wanted NSA sex with people other than his wife without any of the emotions that come with either an additional girlfriend or hurting his wife. however, wife found someone who also respects and appreciates her, and isnt using her like a hole like how husband is doing his part of the open relationship. so i think this is extra incensing for him, he’s emotionally removing himself just to get extra pussy, she found someone who will put up with the weird rules and treat her well. it’s not just the sex, it’s that she’s getting treated well. myweechikin Yeah, not everyone can enjoy sex with random, one night strangers. Clearly that's not her bag, and he should have known that. Or maybe he did and that's why he thought it would all fall into place nicely for him. Maybe he thought he could have it all while she was at home not sleeping with anyone else Dapper-danimal NTA. Question: Does your husband actually hook up with other women? Reading between the lines I wouldn’t be surprised if things weren’t working out for him. If this is going to work, you can’t just agree to “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” and call it a day. Rules have to be in place. If he only wants sexual relationships outside of the marriage, without emotional intimacy, that’s a fine rule IF you agree to it. It’s also fine to change the rules after they’ve been established, but that should be based on a conversation where everyone is on the same page. He shouldn’t be able to change or establish the rules on his own and get mad that you haven’t been following them. OOP: I think he does he dresses up on the weekend to go out and comes in late. We both agreed to Emotional intimacy/ ONS/ casual. It’s just the nitpicking that’s too much. I don’t mind having a discussion but when I’m met with “it’s not that serious” that’s when I get pissed. Corpuscular_Ocelot You need to see this for what it is. He opened the marriage w/o understanding that it meant you would be going "on dates" too. He never wanted the rules to be fair, so starting from that premise is only going to get him subverting any discussions. He just thought a out all the fun he would be having. Now he is treating you like shit because he can't stand that what is good for the gander is good for the goose. You need to bottom line it for him: Open marriages are not easy to maintain. Most couples can't handle it. The only way to handle it is to set clear rules and follow them. One thing I will say is that your partner needs to be your primary, so if both of you are putting all your efforts into getting laid outside of the relationship, you will trash the marriage. You need regular date nights and check-ins, etc. It also takes a lot of trust and respect for your partner. In other words, you need to put work into your marriage to make it work, open or closed. There is plenty of literature out there on how to make this work if you really want it to, but it is work. Opening a marriage isn't a "quick release valve" to save a marrige for people who aren't good and communicating and take their spouse for granted. **Judgement - NTA*\* Update - 9 months later You guys were right, this was a shit show. I'm not sure where to start but we are getting a divorce.He infact did not change and became way more possessive and controlling while changing the rules. Everything I did was either wrong or inconsiderate. Evan had planned a weekend trip to Cabo to celebrate a new business venture. I asked my husband if he was okay with it weeks in advance. He enthusiastically agreed mentioning I deserved the trip he even told me to make sure I "flood his phone" with pics. I told him I was going to stay with Evan the night before for easier commute, he insisted on taking me to the airport instead. Since it was our last night until Tuesday. However, when it was time to leave he overslept! Despite urging him to get up to the point that I pulled the covers off and turned off the air he spent an entire HOUR in the bathroom. Then to make matters worse he didn't fill the tank!! I told him the evening before. I called an uber which was another hour late but luckily I got to enjoy my trip. I let it slide and moved on. Boy oh boy I wish I never went on that trip because things got worse. It's like I was being punished for the trip. He became incredibly invasive in my personal relationships. He wanted to know what my sex life with Evan was like. If he was better etc. he used to play it off like it was not a big deal to him then I caught him snooping through my phone. It was too much. I didn't understand because Evan was no longer the only man I was seeing but Evan triggered him the most. If that wasn’t enough he had his friends over for boys night, I was getting ready for girls night. Before I left he said out loud “ You’re really gonna leave me to go fuck him” in front of his friends! The embarrassment and humiliation I felt, even typing this. I just sat in my car and cried so much and that’s when I knew it was done. He apologized mentioned he was drunk. I don’t buy it one bit. He has never acted like this. This open relationship has left me drained mentally and emotionally and it wasn’t even my idea to begin with. I have filed for divorce but he keeps begging for reconciliation but I can’t. Before anyone comments I know you told me so. Sigh. Comments AcanthisittaBoth8524 he didn't want an open marriage, he wanted your permission to sleep with others while you were not allowed the same. NTA then or now Enjoy yourself Christinemfm_84 This nta, op if he ever says anything in front of people again call him out and say he was the one who wanted to open the relationship. Your husband wanted to sleep around and didn’t realize you’d be having fun too. AcanthisittaBoth8524 I also wonder if it's not working out for him as much as he hoped it would Christinemfm_84 Yeah he probably slept with whoever he wanted to sleep with and it wasn’t as great as he thought and he isn’t getting as many girls as he thought he would. Boo-Boo97 Isn't that how these stories usually go? Husband demands open marriage so he can screw around, discovers that he's not that attractive and women aren't lining up to be with them while their wives are picking up guys right and left. Then demands their wives stop meeting others and the wives meanwhile have found there are much better men out there than the assholes they married and file for divorce. I am not the OOP. Please do not harass the OOP. Please remember the No Brigading Rule and to be civil in the comments submitted by /u/SharkEva to r/BORUpdates [link] [comments]

https://preview.redd.it/ioohqnzxn3xe1.jpg?width=1472&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=369f97722fccb4fe9e66e95b7cca72a8622e9dd0 The Power of the Solid Tie: A Modern Gentleman’s Guide to Style In the ever-evolving world of men’s fashion, where trends come and go, there’s one accessory that continues to stand tall through the decades: the solid tie. Understated yet bold, versatile yet statement-making — solid ties are the silent champions of men’s formalwear. At La Mode Men’s, we believe the right tie isn’t just an accessory — it’s an extension of who you are. Whether you’re dressing for a wedding, job interview, gala, or date night, here’s why every gentleman should keep a few solid ties in his arsenal — and how to wear them with confidence and class. 1. Simplicity Speaks Louder Than Patterns In a world saturated with patterns, graphics, and florals, there’s something powerfully refined about a solid tie. Its minimalism draws the eye not with noise, but with intention. A solid-colored tie lets your suit, shirt, or pocket square shine — while still commanding attention. It’s fashion without shouting. Style without stress. Solid ties are the definition of effortless elegance. When in doubt, reach for one. You’ll never be underdressed, and you’ll always be timeless. 2. Versatility for Every Occasion Solid ties work in nearly every setting. Here's how to match them to life's major moments: 🔹 Business & Interviews Stick with navy, black, or gray for a professional, trustworthy appearance. These colors exude confidence and align perfectly with classic suit colors like navy or charcoal. Pair a navy tie with a crisp white or light blue shirt and a gray blazer for a look that says "I'm here to win." 🔹 Weddings & Formal Events Burgundy, forest green, or champagne ties are perfect for weddings and evening affairs. For example, a burgundy silk tie looks fantastic against a light gray or tan suit — especially in fall and winter months. Add a matching pocket square, and you’re ready to impress. 🔹 Casual & Smart-Casual Solid knit ties or cotton-blend ties add texture without the formal stiffness. Pair a solid knit tie with an Oxford shirt and chinos for a business-casual look that feels relaxed yet intentional. 3. The Psychology of Color Every color sends a message. Choosing a solid tie allows you to communicate that message directly — no distractions, just bold clarity. Color Meaning Best Paired With Navy Trust, stability, confidence Gray or light blue suits Black Power, elegance, formality Black or charcoal suits Burgundy Sophistication, ambition Tan, navy, or gray suits Green Growth, freshness, originality Brown or navy suits Champagne Warmth, celebration Ivory, beige, or pastel suits With a solid tie, your message is sharp, unambiguous, and intentional. 4. Fabric Matters At La Mode Men’s, we offer a wide range of premium materials so you can find the right tie for the right mood. Silk Ties: Smooth, luxurious, and formal. Ideal for weddings and professional events. Knitted Ties: Casual with texture. Great for smart-casual or creative environments. Cotton or Linen Ties: Lightweight and perfect for spring or summer affairs. Wool Ties: A great cold-weather option that adds warmth and texture. Your choice of fabric can elevate even the simplest look. Match the season and the vibe with the right material. 5. Mastering the Solid Tie Style Formula Here’s a foolproof equation: Or invert it: Try playing with tone-on-tone combinations. A charcoal suit, slate shirt, and black tie deliver a sleek, powerful aesthetic. On the other end, a beige suit, white shirt, and champagne tie are perfect for beach weddings or summer parties. 6. Easy to Match, Easy to Style If you've ever stood in front of the mirror debating which tie works with which shirt, a solid tie is your solution. No guesswork. No clashing patterns. It simply works. Pairing tips: Solid ties love patterned shirts — think stripes, checks, or gingham. They also anchor bold jackets or suits, letting your outerwear do the talking. Add a pocket square in a complementary shade to show extra attention to detail. 7. Ideal for Gifting Looking for a graduation, Father’s Day, or birthday gift? You can’t go wrong with a quality solid tie. It’s practical, stylish, and universally appreciated. At La Mode Men’s, we even offer tie bundles and gift sets perfect for the dapper man in your life. 8. The La Mode Men’s Difference We didn’t reinvent the tie — we just perfected the experience. At La Mode Men’s, each tie in our Solid Tie Collection is carefully crafted from premium fabrics with hand-stitched detailing and a modern cut that flatters all builds. We’ve curated our colors to match current trends while respecting timeless appeal. ✅ Wide Color Range ✅ Premium Materials ✅ Perfect Width & Length ✅ Fast, Reliable Shipping Whether you're shopping for prom, preparing for a job interview, or refreshing your everyday style, we have a solid tie for that. Conclusion: One Tie, Infinite Possibilities A solid tie is more than just a backup option — it’s a foundation. It can pull your outfit together, express your personality, and show that you care about how you show up in the world. At La Mode Men’s, we make sure you don’t just wear a tie — you wear confidence. 🎯 Ready to upgrade your style? ➡️ Shop Our Solid Tie Collection Now The Power of the Solid Tie: A Modern Gentleman’s Guide to Style In the ever-evolving world of men’s fashion, where trends come and go, there’s one accessory that continues to stand tall through the decades: the solid tie. Understated yet bold, versatile yet statement-making — solid ties are the silent champions of men’s formalwear. At La Mode Men’s, we believe the right tie isn’t just an accessory — it’s an extension of who you are. Whether you’re dressing for a wedding, job interview, gala, or date night, here’s why every gentleman should keep a few solid ties in his arsenal — and how to wear them with confidence and class. 1. Simplicity Speaks Louder Than Patterns In a world saturated with patterns, graphics, and florals, there’s something powerfully refined about a solid tie. Its minimalism draws the eye not with noise, but with intention. A solid-colored tie lets your suit, shirt, or pocket square shine — while still commanding attention. It’s fashion without shouting. Style without stress. Solid ties are the definition of effortless elegance. When in doubt, reach for one. You’ll never be underdressed, and you’ll always be timeless. 2. Versatility for Every Occasion Solid ties work in nearly every setting. Here's how to match them to life's major moments: 🔹 Business & Interviews Stick with navy, black, or gray for a professional, trustworthy appearance. These colors exude confidence and align perfectly with classic suit colors like navy or charcoal. Pair a navy tie with a crisp white or light blue shirt and a gray blazer for a look that says "I'm here to win." 🔹 Weddings & Formal Events Burgundy, forest green, or champagne ties are perfect for weddings and evening affairs. For example, a burgundy silk tie looks fantastic against a light gray or tan suit — especially in fall and winter months. Add a matching pocket square, and you’re ready to impress. 🔹 Casual & Smart-Casual Solid knit ties or cotton-blend ties add texture without the formal stiffness. Pair a solid knit tie with an Oxford shirt and chinos for a business-casual look that feels relaxed yet intentional. 3. The Psychology of Color Every color sends a message. Choosing a solid tie allows you to communicate that message directly — no distractions, just bold clarity. Color Meaning Best Paired With Navy Trust, stability, confidence Gray or light blue suits Black Power, elegance, formality Black or charcoal suits Burgundy Sophistication, ambition Tan, navy, or gray suits Green Growth, freshness, originality Brown or navy suits Champagne Warmth, celebration Ivory, beige, or pastel suits With a solid tie, your message is sharp, unambiguous, and intentional. 4. Fabric Matters At La Mode Men’s, we offer a wide range of premium materials so you can find the right tie for the right mood. Silk Ties: Smooth, luxurious, and formal. Ideal for weddings and professional events. Knitted Ties: Casual with texture. Great for smart-casual or creative environments. Cotton or Linen Ties: Lightweight and perfect for spring or summer affairs. Wool Ties: A great cold-weather option that adds warmth and texture. Your choice of fabric can elevate even the simplest look. Match the season and the vibe with the right material. 5. Mastering the Solid Tie Style Formula Here’s a foolproof equation: Or invert it: Try playing with tone-on-tone combinations. A charcoal suit, slate shirt, and black tie deliver a sleek, powerful aesthetic. On the other end, a beige suit, white shirt, and champagne tie are perfect for beach weddings or summer parties. 6. Easy to Match, Easy to Style If you've ever stood in front of the mirror debating which tie works with which shirt, a solid tie is your solution. No guesswork. No clashing patterns. It simply works. Pairing tips: Solid ties love patterned shirts — think stripes, checks, or gingham. They also anchor bold jackets or suits, letting your outerwear do the talking. Add a pocket square in a complementary shade to show extra attention to detail. 7. Ideal for Gifting Looking for a graduation, Father’s Day, or birthday gift? You can’t go wrong with a quality solid tie. It’s practical, stylish, and universally appreciated. At La Mode Men’s, we even offer tie bundles and gift sets perfect for the dapper man in your life. 8. The La Mode Men’s Difference We didn’t reinvent the tie — we just perfected the experience. At La Mode Men’s, each tie in our Solid Tie Collection is carefully crafted from premium fabrics with hand-stitched detailing and a modern cut that flatters all builds. We’ve curated our colors to match current trends while respecting timeless appeal. ✅ Wide Color Range ✅ Premium Materials ✅ Perfect Width & Length ✅ Fast, Reliable Shipping Whether you're shopping for prom, preparing for a job interview, or refreshing your everyday style, we have a solid tie for that. Conclusion: One Tie, Infinite Possibilities A solid tie is more than just a backup option — it’s a foundation. It can pull your outfit together, express your personality, and show that you care about how you show up in the world. At La Mode Men’s, we make sure you don’t just wear a tie — you wear confidence. 🎯 Ready to upgrade your style? ➡️ Shop Our Solid Tie Collection Now The Power of the Solid Tie: A Modern Gentleman’s Guide to Style In the ever-evolving world of men’s fashion, where trends come and go, there’s one accessory that continues to stand tall through the decades: the solid tie. Understated yet bold, versatile yet statement-making — solid ties are the silent champions of men’s formalwear. At La Mode Men’s, we believe the right tie isn’t just an accessory — it’s an extension of who you are. Whether you’re dressing for a wedding, job interview, gala, or date night, here’s why every gentleman should keep a few solid ties in his arsenal — and how to wear them with confidence and class. 1. Simplicity Speaks Louder Than Patterns In a world saturated with patterns, graphics, and florals, there’s something powerfully refined about a solid tie. Its minimalism draws the eye not with noise, but with intention. A solid-colored tie lets your suit, shirt, or pocket square shine — while still commanding attention. It’s fashion without shouting. Style without stress. Solid ties are the definition of effortless elegance. When in doubt, reach for one. You’ll never be underdressed, and you’ll always be timeless. 2. Versatility for Every Occasion Solid ties work in nearly every setting. Here's how to match them to life's major moments: 🔹 Business & Interviews Stick with navy, black, or gray for a professional, trustworthy appearance. These colors exude confidence and align perfectly with classic suit colors like navy or charcoal. Pair a navy tie with a crisp white or light blue shirt and a gray blazer for a look that says "I'm here to win." 🔹 Weddings & Formal Events Burgundy, forest green, or champagne ties are perfect for weddings and evening affairs. For example, a burgundy silk tie looks fantastic against a light gray or tan suit — especially in fall and winter months. Add a matching pocket square, and you’re ready to impress. 🔹 Casual & Smart-Casual Solid knit ties or cotton-blend ties add texture without the formal stiffness. Pair a solid knit tie with an Oxford shirt and chinos for a business-casual look that feels relaxed yet intentional. 3. The Psychology of Color Every color sends a message. Choosing a solid tie allows you to communicate that message directly — no distractions, just bold clarity. Color Meaning Best Paired With Navy Trust, stability, confidence Gray or light blue suits Black Power, elegance, formality Black or charcoal suits Burgundy Sophistication, ambition Tan, navy, or gray suits Green Growth, freshness, originality Brown or navy suits Champagne Warmth, celebration Ivory, beige, or pastel suits With a solid tie, your message is sharp, unambiguous, and intentional. 4. Fabric Matters At La Mode Men’s, we offer a wide range of premium materials so you can find the right tie for the right mood. Silk Ties: Smooth, luxurious, and formal. Ideal for weddings and professional events. Knitted Ties: Casual with texture. Great for smart-casual or creative environments. Cotton or Linen Ties: Lightweight and perfect for spring or summer affairs. Wool Ties: A great cold-weather option that adds warmth and texture. Your choice of fabric can elevate even the simplest look. Match the season and the vibe with the right material. 5. Mastering the Solid Tie Style Formula Here’s a foolproof equation: Or invert it: Try playing with tone-on-tone combinations. A charcoal suit, slate shirt, and black tie deliver a sleek, powerful aesthetic. On the other end, a beige suit, white shirt, and champagne tie are perfect for beach weddings or summer parties. 6. Easy to Match, Easy to Style If you've ever stood in front of the mirror debating which tie works with which shirt, a solid tie is your solution. No guesswork. No clashing patterns. It simply works. Pairing tips: Solid ties love patterned shirts — think stripes, checks, or gingham. They also anchor bold jackets or suits, letting your outerwear do the talking. Add a pocket square in a complementary shade to show extra attention to detail. 7. Ideal for Gifting Looking for a graduation, Father’s Day, or birthday gift? You can’t go wrong with a quality solid tie. It’s practical, stylish, and universally appreciated. At La Mode Men’s, we even offer tie bundles and gift sets perfect for the dapper man in your life. 8. The La Mode Men’s Difference We didn’t reinvent the tie — we just perfected the experience. At La Mode Men’s, each tie in our Solid Tie Collection is carefully crafted from premium fabrics with hand-stitched detailing and a modern cut that flatters all builds. We’ve curated our colors to match current trends while respecting timeless appeal. ✅ Wide Color Range ✅ Premium Materials ✅ Perfect Width & Length ✅ Fast, Reliable Shipping Whether you're shopping for prom, preparing for a job interview, or refreshing your everyday style, we have a solid tie for that. Conclusion: One Tie, Infinite Possibilities A solid tie is more than just a backup option — it’s a foundation. It can pull your outfit together, express your personality, and show that you care about how you show up in the world. At La Mode Men’s, we make sure you don’t just wear a tie — you wear confidence. 🎯 Ready to upgrade your style? ➡️ Shop Our Solid Tie Collection Now The Power of the Solid Tie: A Modern Gentleman’s Guide to Style In the ever-evolving world of men’s fashion, where trends come and go, there’s one accessory that continues to stand tall through the decades: the solid tie. Understated yet bold, versatile yet statement-making — solid ties are the silent champions of men’s formalwear. At La Mode Men’s, we believe the right tie isn’t just an accessory — it’s an extension of who you are. Whether you’re dressing for a wedding, job interview, gala, or date night, here’s why every gentleman should keep a few solid ties in his arsenal — and how to wear them with confidence and class. 1. Simplicity Speaks Louder Than Patterns In a world saturated with patterns, graphics, and florals, there’s something powerfully refined about a solid tie. Its minimalism draws the eye not with noise, but with intention. A solid-colored tie lets your suit, shirt, or pocket square shine — while still commanding attention. It’s fashion without shouting. Style without stress. Solid ties are the definition of effortless elegance. When in doubt, reach for one. You’ll never be underdressed, and you’ll always be timeless. 2. Versatility for Every Occasion Solid ties work in nearly every setting. Here's how to match them to life's major moments: 🔹 Business & Interviews Stick with navy, black, or gray for a professional, trustworthy appearance. These colors exude confidence and align perfectly with classic suit colors like navy or charcoal. Pair a navy tie with a crisp white or light blue shirt and a gray blazer for a look that says "I'm here to win." 🔹 Weddings & Formal Events Burgundy, forest green, or champagne ties are perfect for weddings and evening affairs. For example, a burgundy silk tie looks fantastic against a light gray or tan suit — especially in fall and winter months. Add a matching pocket square, and you’re ready to impress. 🔹 Casual & Smart-Casual Solid knit ties or cotton-blend ties add texture without the formal stiffness. Pair a solid knit tie with an Oxford shirt and chinos for a business-casual look that feels relaxed yet intentional. 3. The Psychology of Color Every color sends a message. Choosing a solid tie allows you to communicate that message directly — no distractions, just bold clarity. Color Meaning Best Paired With Navy Trust, stability, confidence Gray or light blue suits Black Power, elegance, formality Black or charcoal suits Burgundy Sophistication, ambition Tan, navy, or gray suits Green Growth, freshness, originality Brown or navy suits Champagne Warmth, celebration Ivory, beige, or pastel suits With a solid tie, your message is sharp, unambiguous, and intentional. 4. Fabric Matters At La Mode Men’s, we offer a wide range of premium materials so you can find the right tie for the right mood. Silk Ties: Smooth, luxurious, and formal. Ideal for weddings and professional events. Knitted Ties: Casual with texture. Great for smart-casual or creative environments. Cotton or Linen Ties: Lightweight and perfect for spring or summer affairs. Wool Ties: A great cold-weather option that adds warmth and texture. Your choice of fabric can elevate even the simplest look. Match the season and the vibe with the right material. 5. Mastering the Solid Tie Style Formula Here’s a foolproof equation: Or invert it: Try playing with tone-on-tone combinations. A charcoal suit, slate shirt, and black tie deliver a sleek, powerful aesthetic. On the other end, a beige suit, white shirt, and champagne tie are perfect for beach weddings or summer parties. 6. Easy to Match, Easy to Style If you've ever stood in front of the mirror debating which tie works with which shirt, a solid tie is your solution. No guesswork. No clashing patterns. It simply works. Pairing tips: Solid ties love patterned shirts — think stripes, checks, or gingham. They also anchor bold jackets or suits, letting your outerwear do the talking. Add a pocket square in a complementary shade to show extra attention to detail. 7. Ideal for Gifting Looking for a graduation, Father’s Day, or birthday gift? You can’t go wrong with a quality solid tie. It’s practical, stylish, and universally appreciated. At La Mode Men’s, we even offer tie bundles and gift sets perfect for the dapper man in your life. 8. The La Mode Men’s Difference We didn’t reinvent the tie — we just perfected the experience. At La Mode Men’s, each tie in our Solid Tie Collection is carefully crafted from premium fabrics with hand-stitched detailing and a modern cut that flatters all builds. We’ve curated our colors to match current trends while respecting timeless appeal. ✅ Wide Color Range ✅ Premium Materials ✅ Perfect Width & Length ✅ Fast, Reliable Shipping Whether you're shopping for prom, preparing for a job interview, or refreshing your everyday style, we have a solid tie for that. Conclusion: One Tie, Infinite Possibilities A solid tie is more than just a backup option — it’s a foundation. It can pull your outfit together, express your personality, and show that you care about how you show up in the world. At La Mode Men’s, we make sure you don’t just wear a tie — you wear confidence. 🎯 Ready to upgrade your style? ➡️ Shop Our Solid Tie Collection Now submitted by /u/lamodemens to r/LaModeMens [link] [comments]

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Building A Masculine-Leaning Wardrobe, With Considerations for Body Type Or, the Basic Bastard, but for Butch/Stud/Masc Lesbians who can't just go wear men's clothes. Alternate, more-detailed, google doc link. ((sorry for crossposting if you also follow r/butchlesbians)) How to use this guide: This is intended to be a tool to help folks who are rethinking their fashion to be more masculine, who want some product recommendations, and folks who are frustrated with how their body shape, size, etc. don’t let them dress how they want to dress. It is not meant to be the masc fashion bible, nor is it meant to represent anything but the opinion of two people who want to help folks potentially feel better about the clothes they’re trying on in stores and maybe find some clothes that work for them. It is, however, meant to help people branch out and away from jeans, a hoodie, and a t-shirt. The idea behind this guide is to help people find and build a starter wardrobe that they can then expand on. We want to get you enough masculine clothes that you can go out on a nice date, through a job interview, go out with friends, and look presentable at work and/or school for a few days without laundry. The basic wardrobe consists of the following: A pair of slacks A pair of jeans A short and long-sleeve button-up shirt A handful of t-shirts that fit you well A flannel (note that I say a singular flannel) A denim/chambray shirt A pair of shorts A handful of tank tops (or vests) that work for you A Jean Jacket and Chore Coat, with some recommendations around 1) leather, 2) raincoats, and 3) parkas. This approach draws heavily on The Vivienne Files Starting From Scratch series on constructing a capsule wardrobe, which is well worth the read, even if it is far more of a femme fashion approach. The general principles are the same no matter what kind of clothes you’re shopping for or general vibe for fashion you’re rolling with. Disclaimer: This post is also informed by my (180, 5'7, broad shoulders and narrower hips) and my native Hawaiian girlfriend's (175, 5'3, hourglass, very broad shoulders) experiences with masc fashion, body types, etc. As with everything, your mileage may vary on the advice in this post. Disclaimer Two: This post was written by cisgender women primarily thinking about the body types and body fat distributions that cisgender women and non-binary folks, and trans women who have been on estrogen a while deal with. We also live in the US. Please bear this in mind! Some Tools To Help You Succeed in Fashion: Measuring Tape - Knowing your measurements is essential to finding clothes that fit when ordering online and translating between men's and women's clothing. Get someone to help you measure. Always check the size guide. Boob Tape to ensure button-downs stay closed and look uniform - I'm a B/C cup, and my girlfriend is a DDD; we both recommend Hollywood Secrets, which is available at most US-based drug, shoe, and beauty stores. This shit should be your best friend. Do you ever wonder how folks avoid boob gap? This is how. Well, this and a good sports bra. Ideas and Principles to Adopt: READ: Always read fit reviews on websites offering clothing, and be honest about your weight and height with yourself as you read them to see how you would fit these clothes. Also, review clothing that you like! Don't be afraid to add your weight and height to help others as well. Say you’re masc or butch! Help a friend in need. Know your body shape and seek out fashion influencers, advice, etc., that match your body type. For example, if you're curvy, don't follow and look for fashion advice from petite, curve-less, skinny people. That will discourage you and make you want to throw in the towel before you even get into fashion. I'd also argue that's a form of self-harm and, if my girlfriend's experiences are anything to go off of, will turn you off of trying to pay attention to fashion entirely and only gravitate toward "safe things" like hoodies and t-shirts and jeans. Don't be afraid to tailor your clothes, or to learn how to tailor your clothes. Don't be afraid to wear a bra or binder that changes how your breasts lay on your chest - or no bra at all. You can wear a sports bra or binder (if that's your jam) or a more shaped bra depending on what your support needs are and what you want out of the shape of the shirt. It is okay!!!! to have tits and wear a men's shirt, it's all about having the right bra or binder, and probably some boob tape too. Sometimes you have to spend money to get clothes that fit you well - An issue I keep encountering when I read lesbian fashion advice pretty much anywhere is that there are two price points, one is as cheap as humanly possible, and the other assumes a level of disposable income that a lot of people just don’t have. The thing is, sometimes money must be spent to either get clothes that work or help clothes to fit you better. Paying the extra money for the queer brand, or to take that pair of pants that looks so fucking good on you to the tailor is a good thing. There is no shame in spending money to look good. Get comfortable with with saving up for good quality pieces, or for looking at second-hand options. Step 1: Colors According to the Vivienne Files, a good capsule wardrobe has two core colors (e.g., black and brown), and three accent colors (e.g., red, white, and blue). This is not a how to build a capsule wardrobe post, but the general principles are the same. You probably have one or two colors you like on yourself, one of them is probably black. Figure out what the other colors are! My (very white/warm autumn) colors are baby pink, navy blue, cranberry red, gray, and black with some brown and tan accents. My girlfriend's (Native Hawaiian/Italian/cool winter) colors are mustard yellow, olive green, sunset orange, black, and grey with some brown, cranberry red/maroon (she wears so much do this), and navy blue accents. Your colors are your own! Figure out what makes you look good, and make sure to note them down for looking at clothes. Don't buy clothes in colors you look bad in! Step 2: Sizing & Getting Comfortable So here's the kicker: men's clothing doesn't work on everyone's bodies. Women's bodies are, unfortunately, built differently than men's, particularly if you have curves. If this is rough for you or causes you dysphoria, I'm sorry, it sucks. This is a post with some strategies to shop for clothes in the dreaded women's section if that's what you need to do in a way that suits your personal presentation choices (e.g., how to find or make clothing made 'for women' work for your body). Below are some key pointers that are useful for getting started. Firstly, measure yourself! Here are useful measurements for shopping for clothes. In all cases, don't pull the measuring tape tight to ensure accuracy. Otherwise, you'll feel very uncomfortable in the clothes you try on. Shoulder to Shoulder (esp. important if you have broad shoulders.) Bicep circumstance (measure around the widest part of your bicep while flexing) Many women's clothes have small armholes. Knowing this measurement helps to avoid looking like an overly jacked dude in a too-small shirt, ripping seams when you put on a shirt, or wearing shirts that are so tight that you can't bend your arm. This is a good measure of if you need to size up in a shirt because the rest of the measurements can be tailored. Bust (measure across your nipples) Underbust (measure around your ribcage under your breasts) Waist (measure from the narrowest part of your waist -- probably right around your belly button) Hips (measure from the widest part of your hips) Butt (Around the widest part of your ass) Inseam (measure from your ankle up into your crotch) Find clothes that fit your measurements - not clothes you instantly like or safely gravitate towards, but clothes that fit your measurements broadly and diversely - at a department store or a place like Target, Macy's, TJ Maxx, M&S, Primark, etc. that has a wide variety of inexpensive clothing, and try them on, drawing from both the men's and women's sections of the store. This is how you start to figure out what works for your body type and why you have to try things on broadly rather than just what feels "safe.'' Try on the following in a few different styles: Slacks, Jeans, Work Pants, Shorts When selecting clothes to try on, attempt to locate pieces that seem more gender-neutral to you in the women's section, such as straight-legged or boot-cut jeans or slacks (especially if you're curvy). In the men's section, look for athletic cut pants if you have any kind of curve, as these have more flex built into them to accommodate lifting butt on guys. NOTE ON PANT SIZING: Some clothing companies - especially those catering to a broader audience - use your waist size (e.g., 28-inch, 34-inch) as the size of the garment in question. Other companies use different sizing scales (such as a 10, 14, or 18). KNOWING YOUR MEASUREMENTS WILL HELP YOU TO USE THE SIZE GUIDE STORES PROVIDE TO TRANSLATE BETWEEN THE TWO. Button Up Shirts (note: a button down shirt is a shirt that has buttons to secure the collar down, which is why most shirts you'll see are button up, not down shirts). In the men's section, try on both a slim and a regular cut. Slim will be a tighter fit, particularly if you have curves, regular fit may look boxy on you in the wrong bra. In the women's section, try and find blouses that look more masculine -- this will be found by leaving the 'young person' section and going into the professional women's workwear section of the store. Some of these shirts may have darts, some may be cut baggier than others. Try both. Try and grab at least one fun young man Hawaiian shirt, as those are a fixture of masc wardrobes. T-shirts/Tanks (or vests) Grab some men's v-necks (higher neck) and some women's v-necks (deeper neck, less prone to giving boob shelf if the girls are big); Men and women's crew neck t-shirts, as well as thicker strapped men's and women's tank tops -- these should fit more loosely in a men's fit, or more form fitting in a women's fit. Sweaters/Crewnecks Usually unisex sizing -- so just grab one you like. My general advice for the trying on clothes part of this is to potentially also try on two different kinds of bras. If you've got bigger breasts, you probably want a more structured and supportive bra. This could potentially be the one you wear into the store, if you've got a fave, or this could be one you try on. Also, grab a bralette/unsupportive bra and a good sports bra with medium to high support. When looking at shirts try each with each bra. When trying on pants or shorts, drop a big squat and check if you have duck butt. Step 3: Black Slacks Think of this as an investment. The first thing you'll want is to be able to build outfits that you can dress up or down. This starts with a solid pair of slacks or trousers in a #suiting color. In terms of fit, I would suggest that you avoid having these be super baggy or super slim fitting. Slim or Skinny fitting will make the outfit look feminine (in terms of slacks) and baggy tends to make people look like their clothes are swallowing them. Neither of these looks is good for a wardrobe staple. Some advice from r/butchlesbians: Hem or cuff all pants so there is no excess fabric bunching at the ankle – this makes you look shorter. It is worth it to get nicer slacks hemmed for this reason alone. Keywords to look for: Trousers, Slacks, (and for a slightly more casual look, chinos) Avoid: Cargo pockets, drawstrings, no belt loops, pocket stitching on the pant leg, or double knees. Slacks cut like Wildfang's Empower Trouser, H&M's basic Slacks, Old Navy's Built-in Flex Slim Rotation Chinos or High-Waisted OGC Chino Pants, Both&'s Marlo, Daper Boi’s Slim Fit Chino Pants or Everlane's Utility Barrel Pant or Stretch Twill 5 Pocket Pant have a nice silhouette that can be made casual or dressed up should the occasion call for it. Note: If you look at the reviews and see pictures of either models or owners of the pant style in question and you don't like how it looks on a body type similar to yours, don't order them as returning clothes can be a pain in the ass with time limits and other challenges. However, if you're in a store and can try them on, give them a shot! You might be surprised! Brand Recommendations: $20-40 USD: Target, H&M, Old Navy, Uniqlo $41-80 USD: Gap, Uniqlo, Androgynous Fox $81-120 USD: Everlane, Wildfang, Both&, Dapper Boi $120+ USD: Peau De Loup, Haute Butch, Kirrin Finch Caveat: As I'm sure you've noticed, to buy clothes designed for queer people by other queer people, you have to spend more money. I wish this wasn't the case, as these companies price out most queer folks with how much their clothing costs. However, as these trousers are an investment, it's worth spending more for them and supporting a queer brand if you have the funds to do so. Also, many of these are available on resale sites like Poshmark or Facebook Marketplace. If you know your size, you can easily get pants from Wildfang and other queer-catering brands for far less money (e.g., I paid $35 for my Wildfang empower trousers on Poshmark). Step 4: Button-Down Shirts Button-downs are the staple of any masculine wardrobe -- you're going to end up owning about ten of them. The unfortunate thing about button-downs, though, is that they're a pain in the ass to figure out, fit-wise. Men's shirts tend to fit women with larger breasts or wider hips poorly because (the vast majority of) men don't have large breasts or hips. So when shopping for a button-up, try to take this into account and don’t let not fitting into a men’s shirt ruin your day. There are options! A good button-up should fit your shoulders without there being a ton of space to move around (i.e., you should be able to raise your arms, but you should not be able to grab handfuls of fabric on each shoulder and pull. It also should fit your neck. Men tend to have wider necks than women, which means their shirts are built to accommodate this fact. Gaping collars make shirts look oversized and, therefore, visually look like they fit you poorly, even if they fit the rest of your body well. When shopping for button-ups, try to avoid gaping collars. A good button-up shirt is also one you can comfortably button the whole way down. This includes the last button. A big problem I see with many masc or butch lesbians is that they’re wearing shirts that don’t fit their hips, while they do fit their shoulders, chest, and neck. A solution for this is tucking your shirt in, yes, but sometimes you don’t want to do that, and having a shirt that can be versatile with both a tucked-in and tucked-out look is essential for this wardrobe staple. The good news is that many button-down options are available for women’s bodies that don’t have darts or a feminine cut. However, sometimes, if you’ve got hips, you need a feminine cut that has more space through the hips. Companies like Androgynous Fox, Wildfang, Bridge & Burn, Dapper Boi, Peau De Loup, and Kirrin Finch have all taken this into account in designing shirts that fit women’s bodies. But there are cheaper options as well. Target’s men's section is where I’d start. If you can make a Goodfellow and Co button-down shirt work for you, you’re golden. Try on a few of them. This said, if for whatever reason, a men’s button down doesn’t work for you – take a look at Androgynous Fox's The Mickey, Urban Outfitter’s Cooper Solid Button Down, H&M’s Muscle Fit Cotton Shirt (more space in the chest for breasts) or Wildfang’s The Essential Oxford Button Up. If you have money to burn, Kirrin Finch’s Frankie is cartoonishly expensive but quite worth the price. Everlane’s Relaxed Oxford Shirt is also quite pricey but goes on sale often. In terms of plus size recommendations, Wildfang, Androgynous Fox, and Kirrin Finch all accommodate a wide variety of body types. I’ve also found that Morning Witch's Button Down Shirts (Deathly Bouquet) go up to 4XL. Maurice's Plus Size 90s Prep Relaxed Button Up Shirt and Old Navy’s Linen Blend Button Down Boyfriend Shirt go up to 4X. What’s important to note here is that these sizes are built to accommodate how women’s bodies grow in size rather than how men’s bodies do – these are shirts that provide a boyish, masculine look while also being designed with bodies like yours in mind. Styling Tips: A short-sleeve collared shirt is easier to wear underneath a sweater, crew-neck sweatshirt, or open in the front. A long-sleeve collared shirt is easier to wear buttoned up and tucked in—it also looks more professional. Brand Recommendations: $20-40 USD: Target, H&M, Old Navy, Uniqlo, Urban Outfitters $41-80 USD: Gap, Uniqlo, Androgynous Fox, Urban Outfitters, Morning Witch $81-120 USD: Everlane, Wildfang, Bridge and Burn, Dapper Boi $120+ USD: Peau De Loup, Haute Butch, Kirrin Finch Step 5: Jeans Denim is an essential part of any masculine wardrobe. r/malefashionadvice has a master post about Denim that includes the various terms you may encounter when shopping for denim or jeans that work for you and your body. This master post is essential when reflecting on fit, style, color, etc. It’s also written by fashionable, and nerdy-about-fashion, guys, and has some good product recommendations. A good pair of jeans can look professional (if they are in a cut that looks professional [i.e., not excessively baggy]) or casual, depending on how they are styled. What we want from these jeans is a silhouette that isn’t too form-fitting - but also doesn’t look like it is oversized. Currently, fashion for young people is shifting away from more form-fitting cuts of jeans into baggy styles of jeans – which is fine if that floats your boat. Still, for a pair of jeans that you are turning into a masculine wardrobe staple, I recommend sticking to the more classic cuts: Boot, Straight Leg, Slim, Athletic Slim, or Skinny. I am including skinny here because sometimes, particularly if you are bottom-heavy, skinny jeans can be very slimming, while baggy jeans only work on particular body types (such as those who are skinny, slim, apple-shaped) and tend to feminize bodies that aren’t that type. Vintage Levis are a staple of hipster men’s fashion these days (writing in summer 2024) because they sit at men’s natural waists, which makes them better than a lot of current cuts of men’s jeans to fit a body with hips or an ass. If you’re short and have curves, particularly in the hip, try bootcut jeans. Levi’s makes great vintage-style bootcut women’s jeans (my girlfriend’s go-to) as well as the 315s, which are shaping in a similar look. For a more classically masculine look in women’s jeans, you can also try the higher-waisted 80s Mom Jeans which are tapered, or the straight-fit, mid-rise wedgie that is a favorite recommendation of dyke fashion bloggers. r/mensfashionadvice also suggests the following if you can make men’s pants work for you: Levis 510 (skinny), 511 (slim), 512 (slim taper), 513 (slim straight), 514 (looser slim straight). Bullet point from curvy girlfriend: Don’t be afraid to mid or high-waist it. Levi’s Wedgie only goes up to a 34-inch waist – HOWEVER, I wear a 32, have a 36-inch natural waist and a 47-inch around the widest part of my butt [and a 27-inch inseam] – so I’d encourage you to try them on if you are even remotely close to these measurements. My go-to pair of jeans is the Goodfellow athletic cut jeans from Target (linked in a lighter wash). I’ve also had good luck with Urban Outfitters BDG brand’s vintage slim fit jean (men’s) and their high-waisted cowboy jean (women’s). Additionally, Old Navy’s OG Slim-Straight High/Mid-Waisted Jean (also in curvy) is sized for women (on a 00-30 scale as opposed to 24-50-inch waist scale). Bear your measurements in mind when looking at their stuff. My girlfriend has had good luck with Lee jeans (which are sold at Wal-Mart) and jeans from Express. I have enjoyed my jeans from Nordstrom x Wildfang’s collaboration and my skinny jeans from the Gap. The thing with jeans is that you probably already have a pair or three that you like. What I’d focus on is for more dressy jeans, go for a darker wash with no rips or tears, but for casual jeans, whatever works, works. Don’t let fashion snobs bully you out of clothing that you like and makes you feel confident, or tell you that the cut of jeans that works for you isn’t fashionable anymore (I’m looking at you, Gen-Z), and understand that if it works for you, it works for you and you are the one who makes it fashion. Don’t throw out your skinnies – if you want to wear baggy jeans go for it! Remember that everyone’s style is different but that if something is too baggy or too skinny it tends to look unprofessional. Step 6: T-Shirts Derek Guy (the menswear blogger), has an incredible Twitter thread on how to find a t-shirt that fits you well. Start Here. If you can’t be bothered, essentially he argues that there is a certain ratio between a person’s torso and legs in those classic pictures of men in t-shirts that we masc folks covet as like, fashion goals: slightly cropped torso, long legs. T-shirts are, in general, cut long because t-shirt companies need to sell across multiple torso sizes. This is why styles like the half/french tuck on the t-shirt are so popular with fashion modeling and photography – the shirt is simply too long for both the model’s torso and where their pants sit on their legs. Point being: cheap men’s t-shirts - a staple of most masculine-leaning lesbian wardrobes - tend to sit oddly on a lot of bodies – particularly if you’re shorter, have noticeable breasts or hips, or are rounder about the middle. Buying a 10-pack of Hanes or Fruit of the Loom t-shirts at Walmart will get you places if you have a very specific body type, but most likely, you don’t have that body type. That’s okay! Good quality t-shirts both last longer, and fit you better, but you have to pay more for them. Don’t get sticker shock at spending 20 bucks on a t-shirt if it fits you well and works for your body. So how do you, in trying to find more masculine looks, find a stylish t-shirt that works? Ideally, a t-shirt should fit about 1/3 of your body – most men’s t-shirts are cut to fit 1/2 of a man. Given that you are - most likely - not a six-foot tall man, you probably want to focus on the silhouette that falls just above or just below your hips. Boxier cuts, if you’re slim, look very good on women with breasts. You can also achieve this by tucking in a t-shirt at your natural waist. Don’t french tuck, that was horrific advice on Queer Eye. Cut and Style There are three necklines and one style that I think are particularly useful for wardrobe building: Crew neck (think your traditional collar on a sweatshirt or sweater that doesn't have a hood) This is your basic ‘unisex’ t-shirt A crew neck with jeans or slacks looks effortlessly classy or casual, depending on how it is styled. V-Neck (shaped like a v, obviously) In women’s clothing, v-necks tend to be a bit deeper A v-neck t-shirt under a button-up or flannel allows you to comfortably button up the shirt to the neck without having too many layers of fabric in the way. Henley (buttons at the neck) In women’s clothing, henleys tend to cut lower with more of a boat or scoop-cut neckline before the buttons start. A henley can be worn with anything but looks great underneath a chunky sweater – the kind you find at Goodwill and are like score. Baseball Style Tees (Typically with full sleeves or 3/4 length sleeves - though they do come in short sleeves too) Characterized by having sleeves of a different color than the rest of the shirt and the triangular cut of the sleeves going into the neckline of the shirt is good for people with broad shoulders. Baseball tees make everyone look masculine - they’re practically designed this way. I think they’re a positive staple in anyone’s wardrobe if you’re trying to create a masculine vibe. So try some t-shirts from both the women’s and men’s sections in a place like Target or a department store. Try the athletic and boxy fits and maybe some of the shirts with deeper v-necks, too. Gay men wear them all the time, why can’t you? Product Recommendations My favorite all-time masculine-looking t-shirts are Target’s A New Day Women’s Short Sleeve T-shirt (curvy girlfriend note: these don’t fit well if you have hips, as they tend to sit at the hips and ride up to them), Homage’s Women’s Go-To Tee, Arizona Men’s V-Neck Short Sleeve T-Shirt, Androgynous Fox Basics | V Neck (warning that this shirt runs LONG AF and needs to be tucked in to work and I’m 5’7”). Gap’s Everyday Soft Crewneck T-Shirt (originally got these in a three-pack), H&M Basics T-shirt and their Linen-Blend T-shirt (love the deep v on this). What you’ll notice here is that these are all women’s t-shirts except the ones from Arizona and Gap, but they have the length to achieve the correct length slightly cropped on my body. What you’ll also notice here is that these are all short-sleeved, because I live in a warmer environment. As a Vermonter, I'd be remiss if I did not share this recent NYT write up on Comfort Colors, as the factory is just up the road from my mom's place. My girlfriend’s favorite masculine-looking t-shirt is: Carhartt’s Women’s Loose Fit Heavy Weight Short-Sleeve Pocket T-Shirt Some places and styles to check out: Cos Regular-Fit Mid-Weight Brushed T-Shirt or Extra-Fine T-Shirt. Quince 100% Merino Wool All-Season Short Sleeve Base Layer Tee (also in V-Neck/Women’s v-neck). Men’s Heavyweight Short Sleeve T-shirt from Target, Gap’s Everyday Soft Crewneck T-Shirt, Organic Cotton Vintage T-Shirt, Everlane’s Organic Cotton Box Cut Tee. Uniqlo’s Lifewear Supima Cotton Crew Neck T-Shirt, or, if you can wear an oversized tee comfortably: AIRism Cotton Oversized Crew Neck T-Shirt. Additionally, Carhartt’s Women’s Loose Fit Heavy Weight Short-Sleeve Pocket T-Shirt is an excellent pocket tee. T-shirts are your call in terms of cuts and styles that you like, but you should probably have the following basics: Two plain black T-shirts Two plain white T-shirts One plain gray T-shirt Two-Five plain T-shirts in a few colors you like that look good on you! Graphic t-shirts are a separate matter. As I’ve gotten older (I’m 36 now), I’ve found myself staying away from graphic tees in favor of blank t-shirts, but this isn’t everyone’s experience. My girlfriend LOVES graphic tees and practically lives in them. I have a few, though - a vintage Blondie Tour Shirt, a shirt with mountain on it from J-Crew, and a shirt from a farmer’s market with a bunch of beets on it. My girlfriend has many graphic tees, but the point here is that if you have a shirt you like, keep it! This is not a guide for how to find cool graphic t-shirts, though. ---> Part Two Here submitted by

Building A Masculine-Leaning Wardrobe, With Considerations for Body Type Or, the Basic Bastard, but for Butch/Stud/Masc Lesbians who can't just go wear men's clothes. Alternate, more-detailed, google doc link. How to use this guide: This is intended to be a tool to help folks who are rethinking their fashion to be more masculine, who want some product recommendations, and folks who are frustrated with how their body shape, size, etc. doesn't let them dress how they want to dress. It is not meant to be the masc fashion bible, nor is it meant to represent anything but the opinion of two people who want to help folks potentially feel better about the clothes they’re trying on in stores and maybe find some clothes that work for them. It is, however, meant to help people branch out and away from jeans, a hoodie, and a t-shirt. The idea behind this guide is to help people find and build a starter wardrobe that they can then expand on. We want to get you enough masculine clothes that you can go out on a nice date, through a job interview, go out with friends, and look presentable at work and/or school for a few days without laundry. The basic wardrobe consists of the following: A pair of slacks A pair of jeans A short and long-sleeve button-up shirt A handful of t-shirts that fit you well A flannel (note that I say a singular flannel) A denim/chambray shirt A pair of shorts A handful of tank tops (or vests) that work for you A Jean Jacket and Chore Coat, with some recommendations around 1) leather, 2) raincoats, and 3) parkas. This approach draws heavily on The Vivienne Files Starting From Scratch series on constructing a capsule wardrobe, which is well worth the read, even if it is far more of a femme fashion approach. The general principles are the same no matter what kind of clothes you’re shopping for or general vibe for fashion you’re rolling with. Disclaimer: This post is also informed by my (180, 5'7, broad shoulders and narrower hips) and my native Hawaiian girlfriend's (175, 5'3, hourglass, very broad shoulders) experiences with masc fashion, body types, etc. As with everything, your mileage may vary on the advice in this post. Disclaimer Two: This post was written by cisgender women primarily thinking about the body types and body fat distributions that cisgender women and non-binary folks, and trans women who have been on estrogen a while deal with. We also live in the US. Please bear this in mind! Some Tools To Help You Succeed in Fashion: Measuring Tape - Knowing your measurements is essential to finding clothes that fit when ordering online and translating between men's and women's clothing. Get someone to help you measure. Always check the size guide. Boob Tape to ensure button-downs stay closed and look uniform - I'm a B/C cup, and my girlfriend is a DDD; we both recommend Hollywood Secrets, which is available at most US-based drug, shoe, and beauty stores. This shit should be your best friend. Do you ever wonder how folks avoid boob gap? This is how. Well, this and a good sports bra. Ideas and Principles to Adopt: READ: Always read fit reviews on websites offering clothing, and be honest about your weight and height with yourself as you read them to see how you would fit these clothes. Also, review clothing that you like! Don't be afraid to add your weight and height to help others as well. Say you’re masc or butch! Help a friend in need. Know your body shape and seek out fashion influencers, advice, etc., that match your body type. For example, if you're curvy, don't follow and look for fashion advice from petite, curve-less, skinny people. That will discourage you and make you want to throw in the towel before you even get into fashion. I'd also argue that's a form of self-harm and, if my girlfriend's experiences are anything to go off of, will turn you off of trying to pay attention to fashion entirely and only gravitate toward "safe things" like hoodies and t-shirts and jeans. Don't be afraid to tailor your clothes, or to learn how to tailor your clothes. Don't be afraid to wear a bra or binder that changes how your breasts lay on your chest - or no bra at all. You can wear a sports bra or binder (if that's your jam) or a more shaped bra depending on what your support needs are and what you want out of the shape of the shirt. It is okay!!!! to have tits and wear a men's shirt, it's all about having the right bra or binder, and probably some boob tape too. Sometimes you have to spend money to get clothes that fit you well - An issue I keep encountering when I read lesbian fashion advice pretty much anywhere is that there are two price points, one is as cheap as humanly possible, and the other assumes a level of disposable income that a lot of people just don’t have. The thing is, sometimes money must be spent to either get clothes that work or help clothes to fit you better. Paying the extra money for the queer brand, or to take that pair of pants that looks so fucking good on you to the tailor is a good thing. There is no shame in spending money to look good. Get comfortable with with saving up for good quality pieces, or for looking at second-hand options. Step 1: Colors According to the Vivienne Files, a good capsule wardrobe has two core colors (e.g., black and brown), and three accent colors (e.g., red, white, and blue). This is not a how to build a capsule wardrobe post, but the general principles are the same. You probably have one or two colors you like on yourself, one of them is probably black. Figure out what the other colors are! My (very white/warm autumn) colors are baby pink, navy blue, cranberry red, gray, and black with some brown and tan accents. My girlfriend's (Native Hawaiian/Italian/cool winter) colors are mustard yellow, olive green, sunset orange, black, and grey with some brown, cranberry red/maroon (she wears so much do this), and navy blue accents. Your colors are your own! Figure out what makes you look good, and make sure to note them down for looking at clothes. Don't buy clothes in colors you look bad in! Step 2: Sizing & Getting Comfortable So here's the kicker: men's clothing doesn't work on everyone's bodies. Women's bodies are, unfortunately, built differently than men's, particularly if you have curves. If this is rough for you or causes you dysphoria, I'm sorry, it sucks. This is a post with some strategies to shop for clothes in the dreaded women's section if that's what you need to do in a way that suits your personal presentation choices (e.g., how to find or make clothing made 'for women' work for your body). Below are some key pointers that are useful for getting started. Firstly, measure yourself! Here are useful measurements for shopping for clothes. In all cases, don't pull the measuring tape tight to ensure accuracy. Otherwise, you'll feel very uncomfortable in the clothes you try on. Shoulder to Shoulder (esp. important if you have broad shoulders.) Bicep circumstance (measure around the widest part of your bicep while flexing) Many women's clothes have small armholes. Knowing this measurement helps to avoid looking like an overly jacked dude in a too-small shirt, ripping seams when you put on a shirt, or wearing shirts that are so tight that you can't bend your arm. This is a good measure of if you need to size up in a shirt because the rest of the measurements can be tailored. Bust (measure across your nipples) Underbust (measure around your ribcage under your breasts) Waist (measure from the narrowest part of your waist -- probably right around your belly button) Hips (measure from the widest part of your hips) Butt (Around the widest part of your ass) Inseam (measure from your ankle up into your crotch) Find clothes that fit your measurements - not clothes you instantly like or safely gravitate towards, but clothes that fit your measurements broadly and diversely - at a department store or a place like Target, Macy's, TJ Maxx, M&S, Primark, etc. that has a wide variety of inexpensive clothing, and try them on, drawing from both the men's and women's sections of the store. This is how you start to figure out what works for your body type and why you have to try things on broadly rather than just what feels "safe.'' Try on the following in a few different styles: Slacks, Jeans, Work Pants, Shorts When selecting clothes to try on, attempt to locate pieces that seem more gender-neutral to you in the women's section, such as straight-legged or boot-cut jeans or slacks (especially if you're curvy). In the men's section, look for athletic cut pants if you have any kind of curve, as these have more flex built into them to accommodate lifting butt on guys. NOTE ON PANT SIZING: Some clothing companies - especially those catering to a broader audience - use your waist size (e.g., 28-inch, 34-inch) as the size of the garment in question. Other companies use different sizing scales (such as a 10, 14, or 18). KNOWING YOUR MEASUREMENTS WILL HELP YOU TO USE THE SIZE GUIDE STORES PROVIDE TO TRANSLATE BETWEEN THE TWO. Button Up Shirts (note: a button down shirt is a shirt that has buttons to secure the collar down, which is why most shirts you'll see are button up, not down shirts). In the men's section, try on both a slim and a regular cut. Slim will be a tighter fit, particularly if you have curves, regular fit may look boxy on you in the wrong bra. In the women's section, try and find blouses that look more masculine -- this will be found by leaving the 'young person' section and going into the professional women's workwear section of the store. Some of these shirts may have darts, some may be cut baggier than others. Try both. Try and grab at least one fun young man Hawaiian shirt, as those are a fixture of masc wardrobes. T-shirts/Tanks (or vests) Grab some men's v-necks (higher neck) and some women's v-necks (deeper neck, less prone to giving boob shelf if the girls are big); Men and women's crew neck t-shirts, as well as thicker strapped men's and women's tank tops -- these should fit more loosely in a men's fit, or more form fitting in a women's fit. Sweaters/Crewnecks Usually unisex sizing -- so just grab one you like. My general advice for the trying on clothes part of this is to potentially also try on two different kinds of bras. If you've got bigger breasts, you probably want a more structured and supportive bra. This could potentially be the one you wear into the store, if you've got a fave, or this could be one you try on. Also, grab a bralette/unsupportive bra and a good sports bra with medium to high support. When looking at shirts try each with each bra. When trying on pants or shorts, drop a big squat and check if you have duck butt. Step 3: Black Slacks Think of this as an investment. The first thing you'll want is to be able to build outfits that you can dress up or down. This starts with a solid pair of slacks or trousers in a #suiting color. In terms of fit, I would suggest that you avoid having these be super baggy or super slim fitting. Slim or Skinny fitting will make the outfit look feminine (in terms of slacks) and baggy tends to make people look like their clothes are swallowing them. Neither of these looks is good for a wardrobe staple. Some advice from r/butchlesbians: Hem or cuff all pants so there is no excess fabric bunching at the ankle – this makes you look shorter. It is worth it to get nicer slacks hemmed for this reason alone. Keywords to look for: Trousers, Slacks, (and for a slightly more casual look, chinos) Avoid: Cargo pockets, drawstrings, no belt loops, pocket stitching on the pant leg, or double knees. Slacks cut like Wildfang's Empower Trouser, H&M's basic Slacks, Old Navy's Built-in Flex Slim Rotation Chinos or High-Waisted OGC Chino Pants, Both&'s Marlo, Daper Boi’s Slim Fit Chino Pants or Everlane's Utility Barrel Pant or Stretch Twill 5 Pocket Pant have a nice silhouette that can be made casual or dressed up should the occasion call for it. Note: If you look at the reviews and see pictures of either models or owners of the pant style in question and you don't like how it looks on a body type similar to yours, don't order them as returning clothes can be a pain in the ass with time limits and other challenges. However, if you're in a store and can try them on, give them a shot! You might be surprised! Brand Recommendations: $20-40 USD: Target, H&M, Old Navy, Uniqlo $41-80 USD: Gap, Uniqlo, Androgynous Fox $81-120 USD: Everlane, Wildfang, Both&, Dapper Boi $120+ USD: Peau De Loup, Haute Butch, Kirrin Finch Caveat: As I'm sure you've noticed, to buy clothes designed for queer people by other queer people, you have to spend more money. I wish this wasn't the case, as these companies price out most queer folks with how much their clothing costs. However, as these trousers are an investment, it's worth spending more for them and supporting a queer brand if you have the funds to do so. Also, many of these are available on resale sites like Poshmark or Facebook Marketplace. If you know your size, you can easily get pants from Wildfang and other queer-catering brands for far less money (e.g., I paid $35 for my Wildfang empower trousers on Poshmark). Step 4: Button-Down Shirts Button-downs are the staple of any masculine wardrobe -- you're going to end up owning about ten of them. The unfortunate thing about button-downs, though, is that they're a pain in the ass to figure out, fit-wise. Men's shirts tend to fit women with larger breasts or wider hips poorly because (the vast majority of) men don't have large breasts or hips. So when shopping for a button-up, try to take this into account and don’t let not fitting into a men’s shirt ruin your day. There are options! A good button-up should fit your shoulders without there being a ton of space to move around (i.e., you should be able to raise your arms, but you should not be able to grab handfuls of fabric on each shoulder and pull. It also should fit your neck. Men tend to have wider necks than women, which means their shirts are built to accommodate this fact. Gaping collars make shirts look oversized and, therefore, visually look like they fit you poorly, even if they fit the rest of your body well. When shopping for button-ups, try to avoid gaping collars. A good button-up shirt is also one you can comfortably button the whole way down. This includes the last button. A big problem I see with many masc or butch lesbians is that they’re wearing shirts that don’t fit their hips, while they do fit their shoulders, chest, and neck. A solution for this is tucking your shirt in, yes, but sometimes you don’t want to do that, and having a shirt that can be versatile with both a tucked-in and tucked-out look is essential for this wardrobe staple. The good news is that many button-down options are available for women’s bodies that don’t have darts or a feminine cut. However, sometimes, if you’ve got hips, you need a feminine cut that has more space through the hips. Companies like Androgynous Fox, Wildfang, Bridge & Burn, Dapper Boi, Peau De Loup, and Kirrin Finch have all taken this into account in designing shirts that fit women’s bodies. But there are cheaper options as well. Target’s men's section is where I’d start. If you can make a Goodfellow and Co button-down shirt work for you, you’re golden. Try on a few of them. This said, if for whatever reason, a men’s button down doesn’t work for you – take a look at Androgynous Fox's The Mickey, Urban Outfitter’s Cooper Solid Button Down, H&M’s Muscle Fit Cotton Shirt (more space in the chest for breasts) or Wildfang’s The Essential Oxford Button Up. If you have money to burn, Kirrin Finch’s Frankie is cartoonishly expensive but quite worth the price. Everlane’s Relaxed Oxford Shirt is also quite pricey but goes on sale often. In terms of plus size recommendations, Wildfang, Androgynous Fox, and Kirrin Finch all accommodate a wide variety of body types. I’ve also found that Morning Witch's Button Down Shirts (Deathly Bouquet) go up to 4XL. Maurice's Plus Size 90s Prep Relaxed Button Up Shirt and Old Navy’s Linen Blend Button Down Boyfriend Shirt go up to 4X. What’s important to note here is that these sizes are built to accommodate how women’s bodies grow in size rather than how men’s bodies do – these are shirts that provide a boyish, masculine look while also being designed with bodies like yours in mind. Styling Tips: A short-sleeve collared shirt is easier to wear underneath a sweater, crew-neck sweatshirt, or open in the front. A long-sleeve collared shirt is easier to wear buttoned up and tucked in—it also looks more professional. Brand Recommendations: $20-40 USD: Target, H&M, Old Navy, Uniqlo, Urban Outfitters $41-80 USD: Gap, Uniqlo, Androgynous Fox, Urban Outfitters, Morning Witch $81-120 USD: Everlane, Wildfang, Bridge and Burn, Dapper Boi $120+ USD: Peau De Loup, Haute Butch, Kirrin Finch Step 5: Jeans Denim is an essential part of any masculine wardrobe. r/malefashionadvice has a master post about Denim that includes the various terms you may encounter when shopping for denim or jeans that work for you and your body. This master post is essential when reflecting on fit, style, color, etc. It’s also written by fashionable, and nerdy-about-fashion, guys, and has some good product recommendations. A good pair of jeans can look professional (if they are in a cut that looks professional [i.e., not excessively baggy]) or casual, depending on how they are styled. What we want from these jeans is a silhouette that isn’t too form-fitting - but also doesn’t look like it is oversized. Currently, fashion for young people is shifting away from more form-fitting cuts of jeans into baggy styles of jeans – which is fine if that floats your boat. Still, for a pair of jeans that you are turning into a masculine wardrobe staple, I recommend sticking to the more classic cuts: Boot, Straight Leg, Slim, Athletic Slim, or Skinny. I am including skinny here because sometimes, particularly if you are bottom-heavy, skinny jeans can be very slimming, while baggy jeans only work on particular body types (such as those who are skinny, slim, apple-shaped) and tend to feminize bodies that aren’t that type. Vintage Levis are a staple of hipster men’s fashion these days (writing in summer 2024) because they sit at men’s natural waists, which makes them better than a lot of current cuts of men’s jeans to fit a body with hips or an ass. If you’re short and have curves, particularly in the hip, try bootcut jeans. Levi’s makes great vintage-style bootcut women’s jeans (my girlfriend’s go-to) as well as the 315s, which are shaping in a similar look. For a more classically masculine look in women’s jeans, you can also try the higher-waisted 80s Mom Jeans which are tapered, or the straight-fit, mid-rise wedgie that is a favorite recommendation of dyke fashion bloggers. r/mensfashionadvice also suggests the following if you can make men’s pants work for you: Levis 510 (skinny), 511 (slim), 512 (slim taper), 513 (slim straight), 514 (looser slim straight). Bullet point from curvy girlfriend: Don’t be afraid to mid or high-waist it. Levi’s Wedgie only goes up to a 34-inch waist – HOWEVER, I wear a 32, have a 36-inch natural waist and a 47-inch around the widest part of my butt [and a 27-inch inseam] – so I’d encourage you to try them on if you are even remotely close to these measurements. My go-to pair of jeans is the Goodfellow athletic cut jeans from Target (linked in a lighter wash). I’ve also had good luck with Urban Outfitters BDG brand’s vintage slim fit jean (men’s) and their high-waisted cowboy jean (women’s). Additionally, Old Navy’s OG Slim-Straight High/Mid-Waisted Jean (also in curvy) is sized for women (on a 00-30 scale as opposed to 24-50-inch waist scale). Bear your measurements in mind when looking at their stuff. My girlfriend has had good luck with Lee jeans (which are sold at Wal-Mart) and jeans from Express. I have enjoyed my jeans from Nordstrom x Wildfang’s collaboration and my skinny jeans from the Gap. The thing with jeans is that you probably already have a pair or three that you like. What I’d focus on is for more dressy jeans, go for a darker wash with no rips or tears, but for casual jeans, whatever works, works. Don’t let fashion snobs bully you out of clothing that you like and makes you feel confident, or tell you that the cut of jeans that works for you isn’t fashionable anymore (I’m looking at you, Gen-Z), and understand that if it works for you, it works for you and you are the one who makes it fashion. Don’t throw out your skinnies – if you want to wear baggy jeans go for it! Remember that everyone’s style is different but that if something is too baggy or too skinny it tends to look unprofessional. Step 6: T-Shirts Derek Guy (the menswear blogger), has an incredible Twitter thread on how to find a t-shirt that fits you well. Start Here. If you can’t be bothered, essentially he argues that there is a certain ratio between a person’s torso and legs in those classic pictures of men in t-shirts that we masc folks covet as like, fashion goals: slightly cropped torso, long legs. T-shirts are, in general, cut long because t-shirt companies need to sell across multiple torso sizes. This is why styles like the half/french tuck on the t-shirt are so popular with fashion modeling and photography – the shirt is simply too long for both the model’s torso and where their pants sit on their legs. Point being: cheap men’s t-shirts - a staple of most masculine-leaning lesbian wardrobes - tend to sit oddly on a lot of bodies – particularly if you’re shorter, have noticeable breasts or hips, or are rounder about the middle. Buying a 10-pack of Hanes or Fruit of the Loom t-shirts at Walmart will get you places if you have a very specific body type, but most likely, you don’t have that body type. That’s okay! Good quality t-shirts both last longer, and fit you better, but you have to pay more for them. Don’t get sticker shock at spending 20 bucks on a t-shirt if it fits you well and works for your body. So how do you, in trying to find more masculine looks, find a stylish t-shirt that works? Ideally, a t-shirt should fit about 1/3 of your body – most men’s t-shirts are cut to fit 1/2 of a man. Given that you are - most likely - not a six-foot tall man, you probably want to focus on the silhouette that falls just above or just below your hips. Boxier cuts, if you’re slim, look very good on women with breasts. You can also achieve this by tucking in a t-shirt at your natural waist. Don’t french tuck, that was horrific advice on Queer Eye. Cut and Style There are three necklines and one style that I think are particularly useful for wardrobe building: Crew neck (think your traditional collar on a sweatshirt or sweater that doesn't have a hood) This is your basic ‘unisex’ t-shirt A crew neck with jeans or slacks looks effortlessly classy or casual, depending on how it is styled. V-Neck (shaped like a v, obviously) In women’s clothing, v-necks tend to be a bit deeper A v-neck t-shirt under a button-up or flannel allows you to comfortably button up the shirt to the neck without having too many layers of fabric in the way. Henley (buttons at the neck) In women’s clothing, henleys tend to cut lower with more of a boat or scoop-cut neckline before the buttons start. A henley can be worn with anything but looks great underneath a chunky sweater – the kind you find at Goodwill and are like score. Baseball Style Tees (Typically with full sleeves or 3/4 length sleeves - though they do come in short sleeves too) Characterized by having sleeves of a different color than the rest of the shirt and the triangular cut of the sleeves going into the neckline of the shirt is good for people with broad shoulders. Baseball tees make everyone look masculine - they’re practically designed this way. I think they’re a positive staple in anyone’s wardrobe if you’re trying to create a masculine vibe. So try some t-shirts from both the women’s and men’s sections in a place like Target or a department store. Try the athletic and boxy fits and maybe some of the shirts with deeper v-necks, too. Gay men wear them all the time, why can’t you? Product Recommendations My favorite all-time masculine-looking t-shirts are Target’s A New Day Women’s Short Sleeve T-shirt (curvy girlfriend note: these don’t fit well if you have hips, as they tend to sit at the hips and ride up to them), Homage’s Women’s Go-To Tee, Arizona Men’s V-Neck Short Sleeve T-Shirt, Androgynous Fox Basics | V Neck (warning that this shirt runs LONG AF and needs to be tucked in to work and I’m 5’7”). Gap’s Everyday Soft Crewneck T-Shirt (originally got these in a three-pack), H&M Basics T-shirt and their Linen-Blend T-shirt (love the deep v on this). What you’ll notice here is that these are all women’s t-shirts except the ones from Arizona and Gap, but they have the length to achieve the correct length slightly cropped on my body. What you’ll also notice here is that these are all short-sleeved, because I live in a warmer environment. As a Vermonter, I'd be remiss if I did not share this recent NYT write up on Comfort Colors, as the factory is just up the road from my mom's place. My girlfriend’s favorite masculine-looking t-shirt is: Carhartt’s Women’s Loose Fit Heavy Weight Short-Sleeve Pocket T-Shirt Some places and styles to check out: Cos Regular-Fit Mid-Weight Brushed T-Shirt or Extra-Fine T-Shirt. Quince 100% Merino Wool All-Season Short Sleeve Base Layer Tee (also in V-Neck/Women’s v-neck). Men’s Heavyweight Short Sleeve T-shirt from Target, Gap’s Everyday Soft Crewneck T-Shirt, Organic Cotton Vintage T-Shirt, Everlane’s Organic Cotton Box Cut Tee. Uniqlo’s Lifewear Supima Cotton Crew Neck T-Shirt, or, if you can wear an oversized tee comfortably: AIRism Cotton Oversized Crew Neck T-Shirt. Additionally, Carhartt’s Women’s Loose Fit Heavy Weight Short-Sleeve Pocket T-Shirt is an excellent pocket tee. T-shirts are your call in terms of cuts and styles that you like, but you should probably have the following basics: Two plain black T-shirts Two plain white T-shirts One plain gray T-shirt Two-Five plain T-shirts in a few colors you like that look good on you! Graphic t-shirts are a separate matter. As I’ve gotten older (I’m 36 now), I’ve found myself staying away from graphic tees in favor of blank t-shirts, but this isn’t everyone’s experience. My girlfriend LOVES graphic tees and practically lives in them. I have a few, though - a vintage Blondie Tour Shirt, a shirt with mountain on it from J-Crew, and a shirt from a farmer’s market with a bunch of beets on it. My girlfriend has many graphic tees, but the point here is that if you have a shirt you like, keep it! This is not a guide for how to find cool graphic t-shirts, though. ---> Part Two Here submitted by

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Guide to Jewellery - Part 1. Bracelets. Introduction: Jewellery is a polarising subject when it comes to menswear, because some say men shouldn’t wear any jewellery aside from a wedding ring and a watch, some say to hell with that, give me my bracelets, my rings and my pendants. Jewellery has been a part of mens fashion since fashion was a thing, so it’s certainly hard to disregard it. Many treat jewellery as the last piece to their style identity - the cornerstone that finalises their outfit and style as a whole Can there be too little jewellery? Probably not, because it’s by no means a necessary part of an outfit. Can there be too much? Certainly, but that would largely depend on your style and environment you are in. As with everything, balance is key. In this instalment, we will cover bracelets - different types, where to buy them and how to wear them. Note 1: Etsy is one of the largest marketplaces for jewellery, featuring thousands of sellers. Prices are generally very affordable and choice is huge, which makes it a great place to start looking first. Note 2: Some links will lead to the british site of MrPorter, which is known to behave erratically when accessed from other countries. Consider pre-emptively switching your country to UK if you are planning to click on specific examples. Beaded. Probably the most common and most varied type is the beaded bracelet, beaded bracelets are often made of round beads tied on an elastic string or a cord. One can find it anywhere from tourist shops all the way to high end jewellery. Materials vary as much as the bracelets - plastic, glass, metal, stone, lava, gems, you name it. Beaded bracelets are the simplest way to get into this type of jewellery, because they are simple, affordable and easy to work into an outfit. Where to buy: Etsy - $ to $$$ - As mentioned, a great place to start looking. You can get a decent natural stone beaded bracelet for around $20-30. Ones I liked in particular are this simple one; and this lava stone variation. Tateossian - $ to $$ - Great quality jewellery for a decent price. Choice is huge. I particularly like this one from their current lineup. Thomas Sabo - $$ - I really recommend this brand as a starting point if you are willing to commit a bit, the quality is great and the pieces are great. They don’t have much variety year on year though, so you will probably want to look elsewhere if you want to diversify. This tigerseye is one of my favourites Chain. Probably the second most popular and most varied type of a bracelet, chain bracelets can come in a variety of link types, from simple oval-shaped, to complex multi-link designs. Most often made in metal, these bracelets are durable and versatile. Many come with variations and additions to the chain itself, such as [ID bracelets] or [other bracelet example] Chain bracelets made out of precious metals such as gold or silver are often more expensive due to the combination of material and craftsmanship required to make it. However, there are still plenty of options to consider. Where to buy: Etsy - $-$$$ - Again, best starting point for lower budget options is Etsy. I particularly like this and this one. A.P.C. - $$ - the brand liked for their great quality basics also makes wonderful chain bracelets. This ‘Jill’ bracelet is currently on my list, but this is a great example as well. Your local jewellery store - $-$$$ - while mens bracelets are far less common in the local stores, this trend has been changing in the past years. Chain bracelets for men can be found in many local jewellers for a good price without brand markup. Designers & modern jewellers - $$$ - many designer brands make mens jewellery, and chain bracelets are quite common. Keep in mind that if the brand doesn’t specialise in jewellery though, quality won’t be directly proportional to the price. I am particularly fond of Maison Margiela jewellery such as this. Leather. Leather bracelets. Probably the most sophisticated type of bracelet, leather bracelets are easiest to work into a more formal outfit, while also working great in casual outfits. Classic leather bracelet construction involves a leather cord with a metal buckle - just like a tiny belt. Leather bracelets come in a great variety of types and styles, from plain straps to woven and studded variations. Where to buy: Amazon - $-$$ - I find Amazon having a very good selection of this type of bracelet (reasons unknown but there we go). I wouldn’t buy anything expensive from here, but budget to medium level pricing selection is solid. Fossil - $-$$ - Fossil deserves a particular shoutout for their affordable leather bracelets. Given brand’s outdoorsy and natural focus, they make plenty of styles with that aesthetic. Luxury Designers - $$-$$$- while other jewellery types may take them out of their comfort zone, many luxury designers is right at home when it comes to leather. Tom Ford and Bottega Veneta bracelets deserves a particular shoutout, but you will find many others with beautiful designs. Miansai - $$ - Miansai makes nautically-themed bracelets of great quality for very good prices. While their speciality is rope bracelets (on that later), the leather versions are a step above in terms of style and sophistication. Cord/Rope. Coming from a very utilitarian background, cord bracelets are the more rugged option for a bracelet. These work perfectly in the summer setting, particularly near the sea, but are also great for any other outdoors-inspired styles such as hiking or lumberjack. There is an extremely practical option in form of survival bracelets, that features a woven cord that can be unwound if you need it. Many of these look pretty good actually, and if you are going for utility, these can turn out useful. Where to buy: Etsy - $ - there are loads of rope and thin cord versions here, I am particularly fond of this one Miansai - $$ - If you are going for a nautical theme, there will be no better place to look than here. This classic variation comes with rose gold anchor, but there are many options to choose from. Amazon - $ - there are plenty of options here as well which may be easier in terms of shipping, but I would start with Easy first. Cuffs. Cuff bracelets, or bangles come in form of solid circles or semi-circles of metal. I feel that these are the hardest to wear, mainly because of how literally inflexible they are. They can also feel very restrictive and feel odd on the wrist, so make sure to try them out in store, at least as a style, before you commit to an online purchase. Be careful that if anything made of brass, it will most likely bend soon so if you like to keep your bracelet perfectly round, go for a harder metal. Where to buy: Etsy - $-$$ - Has the biggest selection that I could find. Be careful that if anything made of brass, it will most likely bend soon so if you like to keep your bracelet perfectly round, go for a harder metal. Designer brands - $$-$$$ - cuffs are a popular type of bracelet to find with designer brands, particularly Alexander McQueen with their signature skull cuffs. Gucci and Margiela make them often as well. They will often be quite expensive, as solid metal is often priced up due to perception of material worth. Local jewellers - $-$$$ - you can easily find loads of cuff bracelets for men in local stores. Be careful with buying online, as many often mark women’s bracelets as unisex, although sizing may be on the smaller side. How to Style. There appears to be two main approaches to styling mens bracelets, and that’s either wearing multiple at once to create a stack, or wearing just once, two max to add a flair to the look. You can wear the bracelet on the same hand as your watch - it can be a great combination. Stacking bracelets is a popular thing with fashion bloggers and lookbooks, as it allows to show off a range of styles and looks good in pictures. While not particularly opposed to this, I find it quite cumbersome for everyday wear. Some good examples of this done well are this stack worn with a suit, or this streetwear look&zoom. Wearing a watch & a bracelet on the same hand can work very well when your watch and bracelet work together, rather than contrast - like here with a cuff, or with a leather bracelet; it can be done well even with an apple watch. Wearing just one, max two bracelets on the opposite hand from your watch is the simplest, and my favourite way of working a bracelet into your outfit. It works with any style of bracelets and pretty much any outfit. Here are just a few examples that I liked: with a chain bracelet; beaded bracelet; simple leather wraparound; a contrasting cuff, and here with a suit Other places to look for bracelets: Easiest places to try out a wide range are department stores, which often feature whole departments for jewellery. Mens floors often have them in accessories as well, so make sure you check there as well. Websites such as Farfetch and MrPorter have a huge selection as well. Particular shoutout to Wolf&Badger, which features up and coming designers and often has much better prices and really unique finds. It’s UK based, but they ship globally as far as I know. List of brands to check out, in no particular order: Tateossian Alexander McQueen Miansai Thomas Sabo Bottega Veneta Tom Ford Anchor&Crew Seven London Maison Margiela A.P.C. Nialaya Luis Morais Fossil Alice Made This Northskull Gucci Smith/Grey Plus more brands suggested by others: Werkstatt Muenchen Parts of 4 Node by Kudo Shinji The Great Frog London Tod's Giles and Bros Tom Wood Pura Vida Afterword: Bracelet is the easiest piece of jewellery to incorporate into your outfits, thanks to the variety of options and styles and probably the fact that men already wear something on a wrist a lot so the jump is easier to make. I personally wear a bracelet almost every day, it’s one of my favourite things to complement an outfit with. Hopefully this guide helped with navigating this wonderful type of jewellery. As always, comments and questions are welcomed and encouraged. Edit 1: Fixed missing link to an A.P.C bracelet as per u/TheFranchize note. 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I'm doubly motivated to share this blog post here because the whole idea of re-purposing came up in another MFA thread earlier this week, and turned into a great conversation. You can view the entire post with pictures here on my blog, but the full text and links are below: This outfit post was spawned out of a few moments of serendipity - I just happened to be wearing this great shirt that I recently re-purposed and wanted to share - we just happened to be passing this really cool mural in Wicker Park and wanted to grab the chance for a photo op - I just happened to like the resulting outfit/photo combo enough to want to slap it on the blog for everyone to check out: Outfit Picture The big take away from this one is definitely the re-purposed shirt. I’ve been seeing band collar shirts pop up all over the place, most notably as a new staple in Wes’ wardrobe (of TSBmen fame). I dig the look, however, much like pop-over shirts, the surge in popularity of this style doesn’t seem to have really made it into the affordable shopping realm, so I’ve been stuck admiring from afar. More recently, I saw a few mentions of making your own DIY band collars by simply cutting off the collar of one of your button-front shirts. Again, I was pretty enamored with the idea, but was unnerved by stories of crazy fraying and couldn’t muster the courage to take my scissors to one of my dear shirts. A few weeks ago, however, I was sorting through my closet trying to free up some space and hangers, and came across this shirt that I reviewed for Trashness back in the fall. Back then, I was impressed with the denim shirt they sent me, and more recently was a big fan of their updated oxford cloth, but this first OCBD offering they sent me was just a little rough around the edges. That said, I realized that the things I didn't love about it to being with (kinda rough collar, fraying along the placket, slightly messy logo), made the shirt a perfect candidate for some impromptu surgery. Best part was, I rarely wear the shirt as is, so if it turned into a huge failure, I wouldn't be all full of regret. Ten minutes of careful snipping later, and voila - band collar OCBD. And boy am I glad I took the leap. After a wash or two, the fraying and the collar along with the rough stitching on the placket gave this barely-worn shirt a perfect, beat up and lived-in look. On top of that, the fabric is a bit lighter for an oxford, and along with the band collar makes this a really nice casual summer shirt. I’ll add, too, that the trim fit was an aspect I already loved (good work, Trashness), and the silhouette is pretty sharp - so while casual, I think it comes together very well in a dapper, ‘weekend gent’ look like this one. Close-up Picture For this look, I paired it with a pair of Uniqlo chinos in a lighter blue (again, great for the sunny summer day - I believe we were headed to a street fest here in Chicago) that I picked up during my recent trip to SF. I could have definitely played down the formality by wearing sneakers or boat shoes, and maybe a ribbon belt, or my go-to braided brown belt, but I wanted to keep that dapper edge, so I went with my black Everlane belt (similar here) and my favorite (but unfortunately almost worn out) black Allen Edmond’s (similar here) - and of course, I kept it seasonal and breezy by rocking the sockless look with the help of some PACT no-shows. Moral of the story - I say this is a sartorial jump you should really consider. The benefit (besides what I think is a really stylish look) lies strongly in the whole idea of re-purposing rather than buying new - not only do you get to save money, but you get to recycle on older piece of clothing that might otherwise go to waste. It’s a great move for any clothes-horses who have hit their budget limits early and need to fulfill the urge to add something new and exciting to the rotation before the next payday! What do you think? How did the look come together? Is the band-collar shirt a strength or a weakness? Does this tempt any of you to undergo some DIY shirt surgery? Again, you can find the full article, formatted with pictures, over here. submitted by /u/adamlehman1 to r/malefashionadvice [link] [comments]