Battery Tender

... a charger for the bike battery, if I found myself with... a dead or low battery I could use said power... USB-C wall charger, no separate battery tender needed. First time I've not... an SAE connection to the battery as it's not needed. Mine ...

... decent knowledge about EVs and battery packs. The main point I’m... the 108 is up for tender right now or if it ... Red Arrow sibling 507/11 tender did? I haven't seen it ...

... have a strobel box seed tender with an “intercomp” brand scale.... I have made sure the battery is fully charged and connections ...

Note: I have noticed in past posts that Cetek chargers have a lot of issues. Thats why I use a Battery Tender, they're not perfect but better.

..., upgraded Victron electrical system, lithium battery bank and solar array, full... polish - no repainting needed Tender & Ground Tackle: Highfield CL290...

... mats 70th anniversary car cover ,battery tender.Car was professionally wrapped.Also...

https://wingstuff.com/products/1055-...attery-charger Get a Battery Tender - it's one of the best purchases I have ever made. I keeps the battery healthy and the vehicle will start immediately after long periods of being in storage. Congratulations, beautiful car!

..., I have it on a battery tender whenever it's in the garage. ... see these have a full battery management system and I know ... than a standard lead acid battery. I also know that lithium ...

... before putting it on a tender over winter. Sheltered but not ... restart end of February — nothing. Battery health looked fine throughout on ...

If the car runs fine other than the lights try plugging the battery tender in then try clearing the codes .. just be sure to get a charger designed for the Lithium battery.

...: perfectly scrambled eggs paired with tender yam, a truly delicious and... up, I noticed my phone's battery was critically low. The immediate...

whenever I'm not going to be running it for a while, I always plug the Battery Tender Plus into the trunk plug. Better safe than sorry!

braveheart said: Buying a new battery this week for my 2004 ... the grounds and pulled the battery. It was not even 18... to try was a new battery. So I got a new..., at least for motorcycles. This battery was $35 shipped. The first... battery, the stock one lasted about 7 years. I have a tender and always...

... happens. An Odyssey approved battery tender would not be a bad ... or twice a week. The Battery Minder 2012AGM comes to mind ...and is approved. All Battery Minders temperature compensate as well. ... effects. I have purchased several Battery Minders from this place, as...

... a solid battery maintainer. The red X indication, means the battery tender is detecting... a "bad" battery. Your testing shows... may want to have the battery tested with a carbon pile ...: I would use the ring battery terminal connectors if it came ...

Some good deals can be found on the internet for mobility scooter batteries. They are so common these days you can have one shipped to your home ready to use. I'd also consider using a Deltran or Shumacher battery tender to keep it charged and greatly extend its life.

If my Corvette is not going to be used for more than 3 days i connect my Deltran Battery Tender. I have been doing this starting back with My 1989 C4 and have Batteries Last 10 years. My 2015 C7 was 8 years old when i Traded in for my 2023 C8 still had its Original Battery !!

I installed a Shorai lithium battery in my bike in Sept ... there's no need for a battery tender. It is permissible to use ... for short periods if the battery requires charging but I have ...

... the bike plugged into a "Battery Tender" whenever I'm not riding it... riding to be sure the battery is charged.  He informed me ...

... power wiring from the battery to the actuator take the... make sure it gets full battery voltage use larger wire improve...multimeter and check voltage: at battery at actuator while it is...is already seeing near battery voltage, a relay will do... fused heavy positive from battery to relay heavy wire from... (they've been on a tender for a while now), and ... setup, I'd have my battery switch, where I'd tap into ...

I plugged in the tender overnight and now it works fine. But it's really BS how it just stopped working and gave no notification that somehow the battery had fallen below the magical unknown threshold to work.

JoelB said: Do you idle the engine to warm it up occasionally? If so I'd change the oil. If you get it up to operating temp every time you drive it, I'd leave it for another year. No idle , when I drive it I drive for about 20min then put back on battery tender.

... with a car cover and battery tender that is pictured in the...

GOOD LUCK;.... HOPE ALL GOES WELL Will be a much shorter wait than I had....my 2017 GS M7 had to sit in the drive with tender on battery for 4 months while healing from Quad Tendon reattachment surgery...She cranked up, no issues after 4 months sitting

So I live in an apartment building but have a garage. the garage is unpowered. Is there such a thing as a battery powered battery tender that can keep my bikes topped up and itself may only need to be recharged once a week?? submitted by /u/Appropriate-Price73 to r/motorcycles [link] [comments]

Plugged my Rivian R1t with a battery tender via OBD2 port.. Left for Spring break trip on 3/24.. battery was at 68.2%… currently at 67.1%.. pretty good. Car is still asleep and has not woken up in 24hrs+ Method works! submitted by /u/Chef926 to r/Rivian [link] [comments]

what battery tender would y'all recommend for me to flash my 2016 M235i xdrive back to stock. online It says between 25-30amp but I don't know what brands or amp is actually correct. for reference I bought the car tuned submitted by /u/Rebel1Sniper to r/M235iandM240i [link] [comments]

Hi, I have a 2024 Honda CRF300L that I haven’t ridden or started since October 2025. I just ordered an OptiMate3 battery tender. I was wondering if any of you know if this bike has a factory SAE pigtail for a battery tender? I saw that the 2025 CRF does. I couldn’t find anything in my manual about it. I won’t be near my bike for a few more days, so I can’t look for it yet myself. Also, are there any precautions you have about trickle charging? Can I leave the battery connected to the bike while charging? I thought I read something in the manual about not doing that, but I may be confused. Thank you! submitted by /u/nakedbilgediver to r/CRF300L [link] [comments]

Wondering if someone with electrical knowledge could advise if the following setup is hazardous or ok for my bike. -Installing onto the battery: 2 electrical rings per terminal (total of 4 eyelets) -1 ring on each terminal is for a battery tender (Optomix) -Other ring on each terminal is for a GPS monitor/security system (Scorpio RLink) Is having two rings routed under the faster screw for each terminal, for this purpose, suboptimal for my bike and equipment? I need the battery tender and want the Scorpio RLink, but I suppose I could just tape an airtag inside the cowling if too many items on the system are problematic. The specific rings I'm talking about are the ones in the picture, in case my verbiage is unclear. Thanks to any who might be able to advise! submitted by /u/MattP1540 to r/motorcycles [link] [comments]

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Trying to identify this battery charger/ tender. Would anyone have a clue? It’s a full audio bike with too many accessories. Bike has been caught up in a divorce case, was meant to be sold and it never did so I unfortunately have possession but of course the battery charger / tender did not come along with it. submitted by /u/sevenhundredeighty2 to r/Harley [link] [comments]

Anyone have any Battery Tender product recommendations and suggestions of point of sale. Had a quick browse over AMX Superstore, SCA, Repco sites and I can't seem to find one (or I don't even know what I am looking for) because "Battery Tender" returns a heap of other related products, basically anything to do with battery, so it seems I need to search for a specific brand or product to find anything. submitted by /u/notofuspeed to r/AussieRiders [link] [comments]

I dont use my 2021 x5 xdrive40i 4 months out of the year. I dont let it touch salt. Are all tenders created equally? submitted by /u/Try_Harder7 to r/BMWX5 [link] [comments]

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I have 2 backup batteries all charged up but when they are hooked up to the R7 they don’t stay charged? submitted by /u/Old_Factor579 to r/YamahaR7 [link] [comments]

Car info: CPO 992.1 CS Is this a battery tender lead? If so, any ideas which model uses this connector? This CPO came with some after market connections I believe. There’s also a hardwired RJ11/12 power cord by my rearview mirror for a Escort/Valentine. submitted by /u/EdgeFiles to r/porsche911 [link] [comments]

So I’ve been seeing products like the Deltran battery tender (link below) advertised with claims that it will prolong the life of your battery (and also, I assume, your alternator, because if I understand correctly, the lower your car’s battery charge gets, the harder your alternator has to work). Trying to approach this with a healthy amount of skepticism and find out whether it’s really worth it. My household pays an average of $0.11/kWh for electricity (apologies to any non-USA folks reading this lol) during off-peak hours. I drive a 10-year old Toyota Highlander for an average of 20 miles per day, mix of freeway and town driving, in Southern California (so cold is not a concern). A new alternator will cost about $350, battery about $180. The battery tender costs $60 at Costco. No idea how much the home electricity will cost per battery top-off, but let’s say it’s $100 over the life of the battery and/or alternator. $160 / ($180 + $350) is 30%. So… I guess the battery tender would have to make my battery and alternator last 30% longer just to break even on the purchase and electricity usage? Please check my logic and math here 😅 With everything going the way it is, gotta figure out creative ways to save money. https://www.batterytender.com/blogs/battery-tender-blog/battery-tender%C2%AE-5-amp-battery-charger-now-available-at-costco-wholesale-nationwide-selectable-voltage-multi-chemistry-smart-charging submitted by /u/The_WASPiest to r/Cartalk [link] [comments]

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Looking at this 5 bank battery tender to keep 5 motorcycles on over the winter. Was wondering if anyone has personal experience with this tender or another that'll do the job. Am I better off going with multiple single units? TIA submitted by /u/Wide_Compote9342 to r/batteries [link] [comments]

There's all these little things I didn't know and wish I did. I learned these all the hard way. What little thing did you learn, that you wish you had known? Things that make things last longer. These are some of mine: Clothes Dryers: Lint kills dryers. Even if you are religious about clearing the lint trap, it's important to occasionally vacuum out the vents. Too many towels in the dryer at once kills dryers. The lint trap may catch the lint, but the blocked air flow from a towel lint will wear your dryer out. This is especially true, if you use towels until they become rags until the rags disintegrate. Air conditioners: Clean your coils! And change the filter monthly. For window or portable air conditioners, clean filter at least weekly. This will make ya cooler when it's hot outside and can help the a/c last longer. Refrigerators: Unplug it and open that thing up from the back, and clean those coils! Brushes for clearing Dryer Lint double as refrigerator coil brushes. Nothing like figuring out the main issue with a 24 year old refrigerator was 24 years of build-up on the coil. Who knew?! I didn't. Outdoor spigots and hoses: Apply Vaseline to the threads before connecting a hose. Do this with anything you connect the hose to long term, like a nozzle. This way, when you want to remove that hose or disconnect a nozzle later, it won't have corroded together permanently. Vehicles: Properly inflated tires last longer. Battery powered, digital, portable tire inflates are available and affordable. It's easier now than it has ever been to keep your tires inflated. Motorcycles: If it's going to sit for an extended period, empty the fuel tank and put it on a battery tender. Ethanol is deadly, (well... not deadly, but really bad) for older bikes that live in the garage without moving for long period of time. submitted by /u/No_Poetry4371 to r/Frugal [link] [comments]

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I am not the OOP. The OOP is u/PsychFactor posting in r/offmychest Ongoing as per OOP 3 updates - Long Update 3 - 9th September 2024 Thanks to u/IceBlue for the heads up on the new update ​ New Update Update 4 - 12th September 2024 ​ Previous BORU is here which has the first three parts to the BORU. Reddit posts have a 40k character limit, so I can't include them as well as the latest update ​ Summary of the previous three posts: ​ Original - 2nd September 2024 OOP is married to Luke who has a girl bff Amy who he claims is like a sister to him. Even after getting married Luke maintained a very close bond with Amy. OOP has 4 kids Sophie, (15) Owen, (12) Louise, (10) and Carter (6) Amy has 4 kids Tom, (17) Kaylee, (14) and twins, Adam and Jenna, (9), but no-one know who the dad is and has never been in any long term relationships. All the kids have grown up together and are close. OOP has begun to suspect that Luke has fathered at least one, if not all of Amy's kids. Amy stopped having kids after Luke had a vasectomy. The kids also look like Tom. OOP has turned a blind eye for years, but know Tom wants to date Sophie. OOP is worried they are actually half-siblings and Tom and Amy also don't want it to happen. ​ Update - 5th September 2024 OOP doesn't try a sneaky DNA test, but confronts Luke and Amy who deny anything untoward and Amy refuses to have her kids DNA tested. Luke's mother also suspects something. OOP and Luke have a big fight and he spends the night at Amy's. ​ Update 2 - 6th September 2024 OOP confides in Sophie about what she suspects about Tom's real father and is surprised to find out that the kids already suspect this and the 'relationship' was actually a plan to get things out in the open and force the truth from Luke and Amy. OOP plans to move ahead with a divorce and try to get a DNA test done as well ​ Update 3 - I think my husband fathered his best friend's children, and now one of them is attracted to my daughter - 3 days later ​ First, a few points to answer from the comments. I don’t have any DNA test results back yet. That can take weeks. But now that I know Sophie is in no danger of dating a relative, the pressure is off. I’ll get into this momentarily, but, it frankly no longer matters if Luke fathered the children. I highly, highly doubt my father-in-law is having an affair with Amy. At worst, he might know (or even just suspect) the truth about Amy and Luke. But it’s also possible that he just refuses to believe they would do such a thing. I’ve been vague about details for privacy, but to put it very simply, Jim and Amy are both pretty white. Cat and Luke are not. Had Jim fathered Amy’s babies, they would look different than they do. Nevertheless, I do have an update. While a stream of comments have called me spineless and naive, called me a “sister wife” (as an ex Mormon, that hits a particular nerve) and most recently, a stream of comments have said my story is fake (fair enough, it’s the internet, but Luke is not the first scumbag husband to have two families.) Several other comments have been incredibly kind and supportive and I really appreciate that. Apologies if I haven’t responded to a comment or direct message that you sent. I covered as many as I could but I was literally getting hundreds, so I definitely missed several of them. First thing’s first. I discussed this in the comments, but our little “team” has (supposedly) recruited my mother in law. I say “supposedly” because Sophie and Tom were going to talk to her about getting help with submitting the DNA test and, at the advice of my lawyer, I am staying out of the process. Officially, I told Sophie not to do it, and she said she wouldn’t. MIL hasn’t contacted me about it either. (Though we have been in touch, I’ll get into that more in a moment.) The bottom line is that I can honestly say I had no knowledge of any DNA test. Loophole city. Another bit of good news. I was digging through the paperwork in preparation for my divorce, wanting to get a head start against Luke, and one thing that came to my attention is that my name is on the paperwork for our home. Luke’s name is not. I was the one who bought the house and we always planned to add Luke onto the paperwork at some point, but we never got around to it and eventually the idea was forgotten. It was my lawyer, “Paige” who pointed this out to me, and it was like finding a winning lottery ticket on the ground. I don’t know where I’d be without Paige. She’s a dear friend from college who I reached out to, hat in hand, for help. She’s been there for me this past week not just as legal counsel but as a friend I really needed right now. The thing is, she’s not “our” lawyer, me and Luke. We have our own “family” attorney who has helped us out of jams in the past (we clashed with our HOA a few years ago, not worth getting into right now) but Paige is a lawyer who specializes in family law and has handled divorces before. Luke remembers her from college and knows she went into law but doesn’t know she’s a divorce attorney. So I can have her over for coffee like we’re “catching up” and he has no idea anything is going on. Turns out, he’s not the only one who can harbor someone under his spouse’s nose under the guise of being a “friend.” ​ So. Onto the update… ​ The last time I looked in Luke’s phone was three months ago, around the point Sophie and Tom began to go around claiming they wanted to date. I found nothing. While I know how to search for recently deleted photos and didn’t see any, my comments taught me how to find recently deleted messages. So, when Luke was asleep, I did just that. Swiped his phone and brought it downstairs, checked recently deleted. I am glad I did but I also wish I had not, because I’m still reeling from the pain. Sure enough, a conversation with Amy had been deleted. Recent texts talking about the conflict between her and me, with Amy describing me as a “problem” and Luke trying to pacify her - without defending me at all, to be clear. They both alluded to how they had “expected” this for a while and just hoped it would never happen - presumably me accusing them of having an affair. While the whole conversation and the fact that it was deleted was sketchy, nothing was actually admitted. So I scrolled a bit higher, to a few days before the fight. Amy’s messages got a bit more flirty. Then. I saw it. Five days before I confronted them, Amy had sent Luke a topless pic. A selfie with no shirt or bra. ​ Guys, I teared up. I knew it was true, I knew it in my bones, but seeing the proof still cut me like a hot knife. (Doesn’t help that Amy’s always had bigger breasts than me.) I exited the messages app and checked Luke’s recently deleted photos. Sure enough, the same selfie was there, and others. Amy topless, Amy naked, in various poses to show off. There were pictures of the two of them together, cuddled and pressed close like a couple. In some of these, she was naked. In some, they both were. There were videos. Amy sent Luke a video message of herself topless, and I had to actually hear her voice talking to him in a tone that made me sick, about how she was sending him a quick video to “help him get through the day.” In more than one video, she called him her “boo” and, hearing her call him that, I almost vomited. Stopped looking at that point, I’d seen enough. For about five minutes anyway, then a strange compulsion to keep searching led me to check Luke’s laptop. I knew enough of his passcodes to access his iCloud storage and…yeah, basically more of the same. There were letters, long letters between them. I didn’t have the heart to read past the first few lines of one of them, but I did read Luke mention “our children.” There were countless naked/topless selfies of Amy. Selfies of them together. Videos where Amy appeared to be masturbating. There were sex tapes. Of the two of them. Tom had previously offered to try and hide a camera in Amy’s room, but fuck, he never needed to. Luke was hiding a whole treasure trove under my nose all along. I scrolled, and scrolled, and scrolled. There were so many. Going back years. Not all of it was even sexual. There were some photos of Amy’s kids, too. One video was of Kaylee and the twins playing together when they were younger, and Luke and Amy’s voices from behind the camera. There were even old pictures of Luke and Amy from when they were younger. I’d even say teenagers. I snapped. All these years, I had been telling myself I had to be wrong, that it couldn’t be true. Well, it was true. I know that no one forced me to look at as much of the evidence as I did, but I’m still hurting very badly from having seen it and in that moment, I wanted to act, so I did. I called my lawyer, who is a remarkable woman. It was the middle of the night, so I had to call her twice, and she picked up. Though I had woken her, when I asked her to come by and said it was an emergency, she agreed. I also asked her to draw up the paperwork and have it ready. She told me that she’d already had it ready since I first reached out to her. As I waited for her, I went through the necessary channels on Luke’s laptop to make sure he wouldn’t be able to remotely disconnect our access to his little stash, changing passwords and all that. My lawyer (Let’s call her “Paige”) arrived, and I went outside to greet her in the car. Spent a good half hour in the passenger seat just crying, and she was great about that, before I passed her Luke’s phone and his laptop, with all the information she needed to use them. She warned me that this could be considered theft. So I asked her to forward and print out copies of everything she could and then bring the items back, because I just couldn’t bear to do it myself. She agreed. I went back inside, and then, I packed up Luke’s things while the house slept. At one point Owen got up to use the bathroom and asked me what I was doing, but I told him I was just cleaning. Luke stirred once or twice while I was in the bedroom but did not wake. I got all of his things packed into trash bags and I loaded up the car. That’s when I woke him up, and told him to come outside. He was confused and half asleep, but he did notice things were missing. I ignored his questions and just told him to come with me. So he followed me outside. Once we were by the car, I pulled out the divorce papers and officially handed them to him. That was about when he figured out what I was doing, and he tried to talk me out of it. Tried to be sweet with me, to be tender. He kept insisting that he loved me and that there had never been anything with Amy. Kept trying to persuade me not to tear our family apart. Even two weeks ago, I might have wilted under him because the manipulation and gaslighting were truly masterclass, but I can see through it now. I didn’t tell him that I knew he was full of shit, I didn’t tell him what I had seen, I just told him we were finished. He tried a different approach. He refused to go. Stated firmly that our children were his too, and that even if we were separating, I had no right to just decide the kids would stay with me over him. This was where I very coldly presented the paperwork reminding him that the house is in my name, and told him under no circumstances would my kids be staying with Amy. He argued a while longer, but in the end he decided to be the “bigger person” and “keep the peace.”At that moment I didn’t care where he went. Before he left, he did ask about his phone and laptop, and I waved him off by saying they were in one of the bags. Bought a little time. I couldn’t sleep for the rest of that night. I cried more. Eventually I realized I’d have to wake my children up early and explain to the extent that I could. Naturally, I woke Sophie first. I told her that I had kicked her father out, and that I had discovered evidence of an affair on his devices. I did not specify what kind of evidence and she did not ask. I woke up the others and gently told them that their Dad had gone to stay somewhere else for a while. That I wasn’t sure where, but from now on things were going to be different. Louise was the one to ask if we were getting divorced, and I couldn’t lie to her. I told her yes. Owen asked when they could see their father again and I wanted to cry. Sophie was a very big help, urging her siblings to be sympathetic to me right now and worry about Dad later. I knew better than to “poison” them against their father (Paige warned me against doing that as well) so I only told Sophie that the affair was confirmed since she had already been in the know. However, as the kids were getting ready for school, Owen approached me and asked me point blank if it was about Amy. If Luke was going to be with her instead of me. I couldn’t answer, but I suppose that’s an answer on its own. Got the kids to school, and my next step was calling to have the locks changed. I knew Luke would be back for his devices before long, but thankfully Paige returned with them before he showed up again. It was a very quick visit. She just told me that all was accomplished, and she had records of everything we would need in court. Sure enough, Luke turned up an hour later demanding to know where his laptop and phone were. I had set them back in our bedroom like they had never moved, and I just told him he had forgotten them. He insisted that I had said they were in one of the bags, so I just shrugged him off and told him I “must have been mistaken.” After he grabbed them, he tried again to reason with me, but I just showed him the door. I knew the kids would start to come home from school before long and I think he was trying to delay leaving so he could see them. I was not having it. I started shouting again and sent him on his way. I’m still just in absolute pain and despair for what I saw. I don’t know if he’ll realize that anyone went through his devices and made copies of the evidence, or if he suspects I saw anything, but he obviously didn’t say so. After he left, I cried once again. Talked to my mother in law that night. Apparently Luke did show up to his parents’ house, which was a surprise, as I was so certain he’d stay with Amy. But maybe even he knows how suspicious that would look to the children and doesn’t want to rock the boat as much. Maybe he knows I’m more likely to let my children see their grandmother than Amy at this point, and he wants to see them to give his version of events. That is not happening. Cat already shared his version with me, that he relayed to her and Jim. That I’m having some kind of mental breakdown, that he wishes he could help me, but my paranoia is causing me to lash out and turn violent. (I was never violent. I shoved him away when he tried to hold me, that is all.) And what’s so hilarious is that he didn’t mention Amy at ALL to his parents. He didn’t even frame it as me “falsely” believing he was having an affair. Even though that’s his story when talking to ME, he left Amy out of it when talking to his parents. Cat noticed that. She believes me. Jim doesn’t know what to believe anymore. According to Cat, he seemed very, very troubled by what he heard from all sides. As for Amy, she’s radio silent. Tom has told Sophie that she’s acting like nothing is wrong but is clearly stressed out. That when her children ask, she makes the same sort of claims. That I am having some kind of emotional, nervous breakdown, and pushing her away, as well as Luke. She doesn’t mention anything about my accusing them of an affair, but still puts it all on me. Amy has not reached out to talk to me directly, and I have not tried talking to her since our big argument. I haven’t really told my kids anything, just that I’m having disagreements with Luke and Amy - though I was very clear that it is NOT a question of my mental health. Honestly, I think they all kind of know what’s going on. Sophie continues to be my rock, as I try to be for her and the others, and Tom continues to be our spy in the ranks. Right now, my biggest regret is the stress that all of this is causing on the children, which I knew it would, but it still needed to be done. My life has fallen apart. But it was never my life. ​ Comments ​ ComparisonFlashy8522 Owen asking if it was about Amy. All of your kids must have seen and heard things from them when they thought they weren't being observed. Please get them into counselling soon. You are AMAZING!Stay strong and calm, that will negate all claims of you having a mental breakdown. You've got this. ​ pinepplegone This, all the people who talked about keeping the kids together were off their rockers. Her 12 - year old knew there was something wrong and they have been constantly thrown into a situation that was uncomfortable for them. OP has to start putting her kids first. ​ leftymeowz If this is fiction: nicely done. If this is real: you got this. ​ Aggravating_Prune914 This is how I feel. There’s so much effort put into the story even if it was made up by her or AI, im all in. ​ LadyLoo16 Oh, OP. I think I was secretly holding out hope that this would all turn out okay. But... Life is not a fairy tale. It was a very brave thing you did, going through his devices and facing this truth. Kind of like breaking your own heart, you knew what you would find. I'm SO proud of you! I can't imagine the strength it took to quietly pack his things while he slept peacefully in bed. Sounds like Luke is a master manipulator. The most recent convo with Amy even talked about knowing this would happen. He had a cover story to explain being kicked out locked and loaded. Curious to see how he can spin this into your fault once the truth comes out. I would inquire with your attorney about putting in a stipulation in your divorce decree that Amy not be allowed around your children or under the same roof during his custody times. Amy is a vile, disgusting woman and that's a hill I would be willing to die on. You can't do anything about Luke being around your children, but you can put any kind of stipulation like this built into your divorce decree. Seems you have done everything you could at this point... No matter how difficult it has been, you faced the truth and now you will be able to live the rest of your life without a nagging thought at the back of your mind constantly. Don't stop updating! OOP: Life is not a fairy tale indeed. You're right, the nagging worry is at least gone. In a way, I think not finding anything would have been worse, because it would have perpetuated the ambiguity. After talking to Tom I was all but certain but it was still possible to be a misunderstanding, that it wasn't true. Now I know for sure. And I hate knowing, but at least the question isn't hanging over me anymore. It's tricky, because them not being allowed to see Amy is going to impact their ability to see their best friends/half siblings. If being my husband's affair partner was all it took for me to demand she not be allowed to see the kids, I feel like a LOT of divorces would have clauses like that but I never hear about it. I don't want Amy seeing my kids but I'm not sure how realistic that is. ​ interstellararabella I honestly don’t understand why Luke and Amy went through all this trouble. No one was stopping them from being together at the beginning. Why do all this? They’re literally psychotic. They’re gonna start painting you as a crazy person to your circle / social media soon. Do you think you can get ahead of the curve and tell people the truth / social media? Without including the photos / videos but screenshots maybe? Ofcourse only if your lawyer approves. Or atleast once the divorce proceedings have started and Luke and Amy knows just how much evidence you have. If not they’re gonna spin the story as you went crazy and divorced Luke and they looked for each other for support and fell in love. I know you think no one will believe that story but it’s important your narrative gets out. ​ **New Update - 3 days later*\* ​ In my last post, there were a number of criticisms toward Paige. (You guys will like this update as it turns out, you weren’t the only ones who had a problem with her.) As far as the deed being in my name, it’s not an absolute hook, line, and sinker, but Paige is convinced that between that and my having been the one paying the mortgage, I stand a very good chance. It could be interpreted as a common marital property, but I’m going for primary custody with supervised visits anyway. I’m playing hardball. People also questioned whether I should still be posting these, but so long as it’s all anonymous, I am in the clear. Doesn't even matter if someone who knows me could figure out I posted this. I didn’t use any real names, or reveal my location, or anything like that. As for the laptop, even Paige admitted that was questionable, but technically I gave permission and she was only doing what I could have easily done on my own. I just really didn’t want to go through all of that content. As far as the divorce papers, Paige had them filled out after the very first time I contacted her. My ‘serving’ them to Luke was ceremonial, she still contacted him later to “officially” serve him and request his lawyer’s details. But before he could respond, I had already done something a little sneaky. I reached out to our “family” attorney, the one who has always been on call to represent me and Luke during our marriage. (He helped us out of a jam with the HOA a while back.) I’ll call him “Zack.” Now, contrary to some of the comments’ suggestions, I cannot just go around town consulting with every lawyer in the area, with the explicit purpose of locking my husband out of hiring them. That is bad faith and judges don’t look too kindly on it. However, this was Zack. He had been my attorney (and Luke’s) for years. I feel like I had just as much right to him as Luke did. And I got there first. So I was able to nail down our family’s lawyer. Met with both him and Paige, and boy howdy, do they not like each other. Zach brought up some of the same problems as some of my comments. He argued that Paige’s activity was in the “gray” area and urged me to hire him to represent me in the divorce instead. That caused a bit of conflict as Paige is explicitly a “family” attorney and this is her specialization. So I’m going to be consulting both of them from here on out. Zach actually thinks it’s a good thing that I made these posts as they can’t really do much other than prove my sanity when Luke and Amy try to argue otherwise. Overall, I am doing better. I’ve been talking to a friend in real life, the mom of one of Sophie’s friends. I also have therapy scheduled for myself, and I intend to look into family therapy as well. When my kids ask me what’s going on, I simply tell them that their father and I are having adult problems and it’s nothing they need to worry about. That worked for about a day. Sophie warned me they were planning to confront me as a group, and they did, asking if Dad had cheated on me with Amy. Obviously, they’ve been talking about this, and perhaps they have been for longer than I had anticipated. Perhaps they’ve been wondering. Again, even though I had absolute proof, I was hesitant to tell them as much, and let me explain why. I naturally wouldn’t tell them about the pornographic content I found, I would simply say that I found messages between Luke and Amy revealing their affair. But, with the exception of Sophie, they wouldn’t be satisfied with that. I already know Carter, curious little sweetheart that he is, would want to see these messages. So instead, when I was asked directly by my kids if their Dad had cheated on me, I simply said “I believe he did, yes.” With as much sincerity as I could muster. I think they believe me. Tom and Sophie are texting nonstop, and from what I can gather, there’s doubt among Amy’s children as well, that this is about me “losing my mind” and not about their mother being too close to my husband. I think it’s slowly sinking in for poor Jim that what he didn’t want to believe was possible is very much possible, and it’s happening. I haven’t shown him or Cat any letters or anything. They’re hosting Luke, so I haven’t had much of any contact with them at all. But I did have one phone call with Cat where we wished each other well, that was nice. In the background, I could hear shouting and though Cat quickly went outside, I did hear what sounded like Jim shouting at Luke. He doesn’t usually shout, he’s the calmest man I’ve ever met, so in a way I’m worried about him but also relieved that the wool is being pulled off of his eyes. According to Cat, Luke is still staunchly denying everything. He was pretty upset when he found out that I had poached Zach, though. Which gave me a kind of grim satisfaction. The test results came back! Sophie and Tom tested their DNA against each other to see if they truly are blood siblings. Here’s a surprise - according to the test, they’re not. They don’t share any DNA. To everyone who believed Jim had fathered Amy’s babies, here is definitive proof that he did not, because the test would have revealed that too. But I never believed it anyway. Sophie has her doubts and wonders if the results weren’t faulty and if we shouldn’t take another test to be absolutely certain, but I’m not really worried about that. More confused than anything. I was so certain Tom had to be Luke’s son. He was too. Now he doesn’t know what to think and I don’t either. I obviously now know the affair happened and lasted years, and I know from the letters that Kaylee is Luke’s child, or at least both he and Amy seem to believe she is, which confirms they were intimate fifteen years ago. Now I’m just wondering for Tom’s sake. Who, if not Luke, is his father? He does kind of look like Luke, but that might just be coincidence. In general, everything was quiet for a few days, until it wasn’t. Until she finally showed her face. My “best friend” Amy. I am so happy I installed ring cameras everywhere as you are about to understand. Sure enough, Amy turned up on my doorstep and asked to talk. She had a relaxed demeanor and did not raise her voice. Assuming she was approaching me on Luke’s behalf, I told her that I wasn’t interested in talking to her and to just go away. She did not leave, but she didn’t make a scene either. She persisted in telling me we needed to have a conversation. The kids weren’t home, and did have cameras inside - I was also recording her on my phone and being discreet about it - so eventually I relented and let her in. I don’t know if she realized she was on camera. We sat down on the couch, and she instantly got into the reason for her visit. Turns out, she and Luke know (or suspect) that I procured damning material from his laptop. Amy accused me of going through his devices and told me that anything I found was not my business and I needed to delete it. That was all she had to say. No apology, no admission of guilt, didn’t take responsibility for her own behavior. Hell, she might have known I was recording her, because she didn’t even directly acknowledge what the “sensitive material” on Luke’s laptop actually was. So I confronted her, letting out some of my anger. I asked how she could have the nerve to make demands of me. I asked her why she and Luke would do a thing like this in the first place. Why had they seen fit to spend all these years betraying me? I posed the question that I’d been wondering about for a long time, and as I expected, I got no answer. Literally, Amy didn’t seem to really hear me even as I confronted her. She seemed like she was stressed. Panicked, even. But she was keeping it under wraps. She ignored my questions and accusations, and just kept telling me to delete whatever content from Luke’s laptop that I had. She said that if I wanted to divorce Luke, that was my call, but not to “drag her into it.” Oh, that made me so mad. I kept my temper, but I did snap back that she was already very much in it. Amy just kept repeating herself. Telling me to delete whatever I found. So I just refused. I asked her, point blank, why I should. Why did I have any reason to? Amy got more aggressive, raising her voice. She was trying to intimidate me but I held my ground. She told me that this wasn’t about me, and that I needed to just do as she said. That it was very important. So, I asked again: Why? And yet again, she would not answer. So I asked her if Luke had sent her to do this or if she had shown up on her own. No answer to that either. It was like talking to a brick wall. So I asked her to leave. Just as I’d been afraid of, she wouldn’t go. She refused to leave until I had deleted everything I’d found “in front of her.” I couldn’t help laughing. I told her no, that wasn’t going to happen. This is where I could see her starting to freak out more. In another moment, she got up, ran into the other room, and grabbed my laptop. Before I could stop her, she smashed it on the floor. I really don’t know why she thought that would work or get her the outcome she wanted, I think she was just panicking. Obviously, I still have everything (except now I need to buy a new laptop..) and, sadly, her doing this was out of frame of the camera, but it’s fine. All of my important files are backed up, and at that moment, I was more concerned that Amy would do something else drastic. She looked like she was going to have a breakdown. I tried again, very calmly, to tell her that she needed to leave or I would call the police. She refused again, and just kept repeating her demand that I drop this whole “cheating” angle and divorce Luke without trying to argue that an affair took place. At that point I just stared at her. At the woman I had considered one of my dearest friends in all the world. And I told her that I didn’t owe her anything, but she owed her children the truth. That they had the right to know where they came from. Who Luke really was to them. Amy bristled and told me it was none of my business - that I didn’t understand her family and I needed to back off. She kept going back to this idea that I could divorce Luke, but I must not claim he’d had an affair with her. I just told her that I didn’t need her permission to handle my divorce how I wanted, and told her again to leave. She got more and more desperate, and her anger accelerated to the point that she physically attacked me. I did not expect her to actually do this. I’m not much of a fighter but I do know the human body pretty well, and where it’s weakest. She hurt me pretty badly, but I got her off me. That part was very much on camera, and the whole audio was recorded on my phone. She finally left after that, and I immediately called to file a police report. I had the strangest feeling she’d try something similar and wanted to beat her to the punch. I was able to clean myself up by the time I had to face my kids, and while I downplayed the story, I did not lie to them about why I had a black eye. I told them, for their own safety, to steer clear of Amy. I also sent the footage to Paige and Zack, as well as pictures of my injured state before I cleaned up. They’ve also printed out the letters that reference Kaylee as Luke’s child. I really feel like Amy just screwed herself over on all this. I don’t know what her motives were. Was she protecting Luke? Was this his idea? Does she just really not want the world to know she’s a homewrecker, is she covering her own ass? As if people didn’t know already? The more of my social circle I talk to, and inform of the basics, the more people are confessing that they had wondered in the past if Luke wasn’t cheating on me, but didn’t have any concrete proof. I suppose Amy doesn’t want her kids to know who fathered them, which does line up, but…I’m still not sure about Tom. I didn’t ask Amy about him in particular. I don't know why you guys are so eager for these updates but I don't mind posting them. I've never blogged about my life before, I'd imagine it feels something like this? ​ Comments ​ BellaMissyStorm I'm so sorry that she had gone to your home and attacked you. Glad you still have the evidence and didn't back down. I have a feeling that she is wanting you to delete the stuff because maybe your in laws have threatened to cut her off financially if it is true? Thank you for the update. Hope you are healing. OOP: I could see that being the case. ​ Nily_che Oh, to be a fly on the wall when Luke finds out that the children he thought were his actually belong to someone else and that his mistress has been cheating on him for years! It would be sooo satisfying. He will lose not only his wife and mistress but also some of his "children." Not to mention losing the respect of the children he had with you. He’s headed straight for the downfall. ​ Brokenforthelasttime Ooh I had not considered this angle! How interesting. Another poster said they thought Amy might be so insistent that she be left out of everything because the in laws will cut her off, and I still think that’s a strong possibility but even more so if the kids aren’t actually Luke’s. ​ Nily_che Sweet life. Amy has buy herself a house with these peoples help and receives regular financial support every month. She has hooked a sick man, who struggles to leave the house (according to one of OP's comments), and made him her puppet. Even if Luke suspects something, he can't confront Amy, because if he does, Amy could spill everything. She's been in the control of narrative until now, and suddenly the whole world she's built is going to be turned upside down. I think that's why she's freaking out. There's also being humiliated, yes, but she can always leave the city she lives in. Hell, even the country! But as long as the children are the grandchildren of this rich family. But if they're not, she's fucked. ​ GodsWarrior89 What DNA test did the kids use? That was super fast. Amy sounds like she has mental problems. No accountability for her actions. Zero remorse. No empathy. She thinks she can’t do any wrong. Sue her for the laptop & press charges for battery or assault. OOP: Literally just one of the over-the-counter paternity tests you can buy at a drugstore. If it gets to the point of having tests done in court, those are likely to be more reliable. Oh you read my mind, kind stranger, that's exactly what I want to do. Laptop is likely to just be small claims court but it's another charge on the pile. ​ I am not the OOP. Please do not harass the OOP. submitted by /u/SharkEva to r/BORUpdates [link] [comments]

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