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I am not The OOP, OOP is u/ThrowRAPurplePeach Husband (37M) accused me (35F) of having a "porn addiction" Originally posted to r/relationship_advice BoRU 1 TRIGGER WARNING: false accusations Original Post Dec 19, 2021 My husband (37M) and I (35F) got married about two years ago, shortly before the pandemic hit. We've both had a very rough time during those couple years, due to losing multiple family members to Covid and both having jobs that got more stressful/demanding. Despite all these stresses, we have managed to maintain a really high quality sex life (about 4-5 times a week or sometimes more, with sex that is fun, creative and highly satisfying to both of us). Our marriage has also otherwise been great with excellent communication, lots of non-sexual affection, and support for each other through the stresses. At least until about a week ago. My husband and I both like to read quite a bit. However, we tend to read during our commutes or lunch breaks and not so much at home, so that we can spend more interactive quality time together when we both have free time. We don't usually spend a lot of time discussing what we are reading - I know he likes books about history and spy novels, but at any given time I probably couldn't tell you what he is reading (we both read on Kindle and have separate accounts from before we were married) unless there is an especially interesting book he brings up. I will admit I like to read romances that have an erotic component...at least within certain parameters. I don't read any books that glorify adultery or other cheating and most of what I read involves hot monogamy and committed relationships. That being said, there are a lot of explicit scenes. I will also admit that I do use the books to keep my personal "spark" alive and bring that back to my husband. I don't fantasize about being with other men, but often do get ideas for positions, role-play scenarios, lingerie I could wear, etc. With all the family deaths and work/pandemic stress, it would have been really easy to let my libido get smothered but the books have helped remind me to prioritize intimacy with my husband and have provided some ideas for how to do that, when I have been too stressed and exhausted to come up with my own ideas from scratch. My husband happened to see my reading list last week and, much to my surprise, went ballistic. Said I was hiding a porn addiction from him and ranted at me for hours before storming out. Then he went and told our family members and several close friends about my "addiction." I am just flabbergasted because THEY'RE JUST BOOKS, books I don't read during time we are otherwise supposed to be spending together and that actually help my sense of sexuality. Also - we don't have any particular restrictions on actual porn in our relationship anyway - neither of us is much into visual porn, but we've never prohibited it with each other. Unfortunately, the people he told now think I am spending hours a day watching porn and ignoring my husband and aren't believing me that my "addiction" is just mainstream romance novels that I read during time that would otherwise be wasted. Husband has given me an ultimatum to get "treatment" (12-step program, therapy or even rehab) for my "porn addiction" or he will divorce me. I want to be sensitive to his feelings but I don't think I "addicted" or doing anything wrong here. I could give up the books, but then I just wonder what harmless thing he is going to demand I give up next. I really do love him and want our marriage to work, though. What should I do? INFO: In case anyone is wondering if this is a money issue, it isn't. We pool most of our money in joint accounts but each have an allotment to personal accounts for our own spending money. The money for my books comes out of my personal account so it's not taking anything away from my husband or our household expenses. TL;DR: Husband found out I like to read erotic romances, then accused me of being a "porn addict" and is demanding I get "treatment" for this or he will divorce me. RELEVANT COMMENTS [deleted] Something is up with him. Maybe he’s having an affair, maybe he is massively fragile and his ego can’t handle the idea that you are getting erotic enjoyment from a book. I would offer him a counterproposal: marriage counseling for both of you or divorce. You need to get to the bottom of this BS. OOP But the thing is I'm not even getting "enjoyment" from it in the sense of , say, touching myself. If I've had a stressful day at work (which is most of the time lately) then if I use my commute to read an erotic romance I'll bring that charge home with me and usually we have a great night. Otherwise I'm much more prone to bring the work stress home with me instead. Marriage counseling is a good idea. I'd like to hear from a professional if I'm doin anything wrong (I don't really think I am but am open to other perspectives) or if there are other things I can/should do to keep up my libido that would be less upsetting to my husband. ~ unHolyDumpfire Whoa. Divorce? Over books? Dude is wikkid projecting or totally searching for a reason to get you out of the way. If this is his genuine no bullshit belief, he's got screws loose and you ought to consider taking your half and leaving. A 12 step program for books? GTFO. Get a PI to check him out. This is a classic misdirection campaign to shift all blame to you before he starts his "new found" relationship post divorce. OOP It's weird because it's so sudden. He has always been relaxed and easygoing. More stressed lately (we both have been) but never snapping at me let along making huge accusations. I'm so confused and you're right, it does seem like a move deliberately designed to throw me off balance. Update - rareddit Dec 21, 2021 (2 days later) First, I appreciate all those who responded - never thought this one would get so much interest! As many suggested, I spoke to my husband again about the issue and suggested marriage counseling. I said that, while I disagreed that my romance novel habit (again, I only read during my commute or lunch break, not during time we would have to spend together) was the same thing as full-blown porn and that I definitely didn't see it as "cheating," I was sorry that I hadn't been more upfront about this hobby and my reasons for it, and was also sorry that I had hurt him. I told him that I thought a professional evaluation would be helpful just in case it was an addiction for which some sort of treatment was warranted, and also that we could use professional guidance on keeping our spark alive during extremely stressful times through other strategies if he disagreed with me reading the novels. Unfortunately, he didn't accept my apology and insists that the damage has been done to our relationship. He wants to proceed with a divorce since I said I wanted a professional evaluation before admitting I had an "addiction" and that as I'm not taking responsibility for behavior he views as a betrayal, there is no trust left to save. We're still in the same house for now, but he is going to move out as soon as he can get an apartment, hopefully in January, and...I guess that's it. I'm devastated because I really love (loved?) him and thought we have a strong and lovely marriage. A bit part of me wants to throw myself at his feet and tell him whatever he wants to hear, but I know that wouldn't be healthy for me. I just have to assume he wanted out for whatever reason and latched onto this as something he could blame me for. I did reach out to all the people (family/friends) he told I had a "porn addiction" (at least my family members and friends, I don't really know how many people altogether he told) and clarified that I don't watch visual porn, that I do read mainstream romance novels during my commute and lunch break and that this is what he was objecting to as "porn" and "cheating." My family/friends seemed horrified and shocked (at his behavior, not mine) and I have now regained their trust and support to get through the divorce. I'm going to go visit my parents for a week starting in a couple days and will be spending New Year's weekend with a couple friends in the area so I won't be alone for the holidays. I feel like I've been put through the wringer but I'll muddle through. I don't think I'll ever know the real reason why my husband decided he didn't want to be married to me anymore, but I guess it doesn't really matter. And whenever I'm ready to start dating again, I'll be sure to disclose upfront that I regularly read romance novels, including ones with a lot of erotic scenes, just in case that's a dealbreaker. FINAL COMMENTS ucancallmebless I think you're right that he wanted out and just used that as an excuse. I'm sorry he made you feel bad, and I'm also sorry he tried to turn your support system against you and twisted things so horribly. This is deja vu for me. But I can tell you a year later I'm in such a good healthy place and I hope eventually, you will be too. The fact that he didn't want to try and repair things with counselling seems like a dead giveaway that he was ready to be done. OOP Thank you - that is really encouraging. I knew we were likely done for when he wouldn't agree to counseling, because someone who was upset but still invested in the relationship would probably at least listen to my apology (I know I don't have to be extremely sorry for reading mainstream romances in my spare time, but I was indeed sorry for hurting someone I loved) and at least try out counseling. So glad to hear you are in a better place now and I do have hope that next holiday season will be a lot more joyful/festive (this one is a real bummer although I'm trying to stay positive). Does OOP know what the husband's motivation for all this was I do think his motivation was to blow up the marriage, come out smelling like a rose and generally put me on the defensive. And for a bit it worked! I think he counted on me being so embarrassed that I wouldn't talk to my family/friends about what really happened but I actually decided to fight back and now he's looking like a complete idiot at least to anyone who matters to me. What if the husband offered counseling in exchange for giving up the books I could quit and read other types of books, but I would be losing something that both brings me joy and adds a spark to our marriage. If he had asked me to quit but agreed to sit down with me and work on other ideas for keeping our bedroom spark without using any outside material, I would have gladly done that. Instead he came at me with accusations and badmouthing me to my friends and family. And why should I contort myself to please someone who would be so cruel? Were there any problems in their sex life No - we didn't have any problems in the bedroom. We were being intimate around 4-5 times a week, for long and satisfying sessions. Sometimes I did need a little help to get in the mood in the first place, yes - but not because our bedroom life itself was poor, but because I was sad from losing several family members to Covid. The books got me out of my own head and back to wanting to be romantic with my husband - because they showed couples making each other a priority even during difficult times and that inspired me to show more love and affection instead of letting sadness get the best of me. THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP's OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7 submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

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I am not The OOP, OOP is u/notyourdadjustadingo I (34f) found a text thread where my fiancé (32m) told a friend he is worried about our wedding photos Originally posted to r/relationship_advice TRIGGER WARNING: Body shaming Original Post - rareddit July 19, 2020 My fiancé Dave and I have been dating two years and live together. Earlier today I was using his iPad to watch a show in our room because I wasn’t feeling well and we don’t have a TV in our room. We don’t use the iPad much, maybe a couple times a month. While I was watching he was getting texts from a friend of his Mike. The banner just said “text message” so I kept swiping up but they were coming on so fast. At one point I accidentally opened the text convo. So to start I’m not a beauty. It doesn’t mean I’m not confident though. There’s rarely a day that goes by where I look in the mirror and am unsatisfied with my appearance. How people treat women who do not fit any mold of “attractiveness” is a story for a different day but, I’ve often been referred to as a “starter girlfriend” or “stepping stone” and that my exes had no confidence since they chose to date me, or were closeted, and every guy I’ve ever asked out has always said no. I’m not someone to date just to date, I don’t chase guys anymore, generally I’ve stayed away from dating. It took some time to trust that someone was interested in me and wasn’t going to drop me when someone “better” came along. So the texts were Dave sending pictures of me to his friend trying to figure out what my “best angle” is. Mike said that my left side is “tolerable I guess, if anything you should tell the photographer to focus on that side.” Dave expressed his frustration like “I think I do want to marry her but maybe you’re right just ask the photographer to edit some things here and there.” And Mike said, “it would make you both feel better. Maybe just have photos of her straight on since she looks best that way.” I was more offended than hurt, and I’m still more offended than hurt. I know I’m not attractive but to say I need editing in my own wedding pictures is so rude and demeaning. I took screenshots with my phone and handed the iPad back to Dave so the first thing you see when you open it is the conversation. He asked me how the movie was and I told him it was great, then we had lunch. I wear my heart on my sleeve and he knew immediately something was up and kept pestering me about it. I kept saying I was still feeling off but he kept asking. So I told him he should talk to Mike about his concerns, since he and Mike have so many opinions about me. He kinda turned white for a second before asking me what I meant. I handed him his iPad and I went to our bedroom and shut the door. He hasn’t come to talk to me for a few hours which is killing me. We usually talk things through but I don’t know what to do. I know he hasn’t left the apartment. TL;DR: Caught my fiancé telling a friend he wants our photographer to post-edit my appearance in our upcoming wedding photos. I am so offended and don’t know how to approach this. TOP COMMENTS witty_punny_name Oh man. My heart broke for you reading this. You don't need to settle for someone who doesn't love you completely, and unconditionally. It's true when they say love is blind. Someone who truly loves you wouldn't be worrying about how you will look in your wedding photos, and he absolutely wouldn't be allowing his friend to put you down for your looks. I know the thought of spending your life alone is scary and depressing, but trust me, it is way better than spending your life in a bad relationship. You deserve so much better. ~ anonymys I've typed out the beginning of several replies, OP, hoping I could be reasonable, but honestly, I'm just so fucking pissed for you. You deserve someone who has more respect for you than to discuss behind your back how best to make you "palatable" in his wedding photos. You deserve someone who thinks you're gorgeous all of the time, regardless of what society at large thinks. You deserve someone whose only concern for your looks in the wedding photos (and every day for the rest of ever) is whether he's lucky enough to be the reason for the huge, lovely smile that's gracing your face. I don't know if you can forgive him, or whether you even should. But I do know you deserve better than to be treated like someone's accessory. ~ snortgiggles I "think" I want to marry her? What the hell does that mean? toomanyrougneds He's settling for someone he thinks is his inferior. Why that is I can't imagine, unless he was hoping she would be too afraid of being alone to leave him. His attitude is so, so "Mr. Darcy before Hunsford". Update - rareddit Aug 16, 2020 (1 month later) I posted this post about a month ago. There were a lot of comments, but more often than not the comments told me to leave and how I don't deserve him. And all that. We had a civil conversation (our first for a while) and he told me he had been wanting to break up for a while but didn't think it was right. Apparently he cares about me but had been wanting to break up for a while, but he felt bad. And said he doesn't know how to handle criticism about our relationship from other people. So I took that advice and left. It only took a few days, and I hired movers to take my things. We talked a few times but I was really busy with work and packing that we stayed away from each other. I found an apartment for rent and here I am. It's a really nice place, and I'm happy it is. But I can't say that I'm much happier. If anything I might be a little worse off, I guess. Like in my original post, I mentioned how I'm aware of how I look. And now that I'm alone it's all I can really think about. Talking about it with my family just leads to things like, "oh you're great, you're too beautiful to deal with someone so ugly," just kinda of made it worse. All my friends are pretty and the way we are treated in public is just a reminder. Going out in a group to a club is a photographer getting shots of them, and one asked me to take a picture of him with everyone else. I've generally paid for more than half of everything (I'm not saying guys should pay for anything, but my friends are always getting things from their boyfriends or husbands, even cars). And I'm definitely excited for them but it is just a reminder. I've been trying to work out more because I gained about 20lbs since we started dating, so I work out some but more often I snooze my alarm. There is a novel I am trying to write and I've gotten some written but I am having trouble staying motivated. I read and then I get inspiration and write like 200 - 400 words once or twice a day which is good so far. I found my 360 and have been playing Oblivion again lol. And I draw a little. But my apartment is an absolute mess. And like I don't miss him or anything, it's actually quite nice being on my own. But I am just so... sad? I don't have a distraction maybe? I can't really put my finger on it. But overall I am doing well. Everyone was right about leaving him, because we'd both grown pretty agitated with one another and it was reaching a breaking point. Living alone has helped a lot. TL;DR: Broke up with fiance over him saying he didn't think he wanted to marry me. Now I'm kinda going through a depression but I'll be ok. TOP COMMENT Mindtaker Look all your feelings are valid as fuck, so feel those feelings and I hope you get better regarding being depressed. I will just say this then let you get back to slaying monsters and kicking ass. I was my wifes first actual boyfriend. She is disabled and she doesn't think she is pretty (I think she is gorgeous). She was 36 when we met. You are never too old, you never don't have enough "Experience" lifes just an unfair bullshit game that we all have to play. Enjoy this time to yourself, use it to remember why you do kick ass, so that when you meet the right person, you love yourself, which is the only way you will be capable of fully loving someone else. Cheers. Oblivion is an awesome game. THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP's OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7 submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I am not The OOP, OOP is u/IvyCat213 OOP has given her permission to repost these Please help me prank my husband $20+ Originally posted to r/PhotoshopRequests Thanks to u/soayherder for suggesting this BoRU Original Post Nov 14, 2025 Please help me prank my husband. He has had carried this framed poster of Jane Seymour aka “Dr. Quinn Medicine Woman” around everywhere with him for 20+ years. It’s been hung up in every place we’ve ever lived in. It’s the bane of my existence. I would like to replace his 3” x 2” print (rough estimate) with another very discrete one, with my face photo shopped in as a prank. Let’s see how long it takes him to notice. P.S. I have the utmost respect for Jane Seymour. OOP corrected the size Edit: the poster is 3 FEET by 2 FEET 😂 not inches BEST COMMENTS hospicedoc Your husband definitely has a type. ~ flamecowsenpai My mom used to keep a picture of Denzel Washington above the fireplace. Idk what happened to it, but I look at this the same way OOP This. If only everyone understood just how sentimental it is to have a Denzel above the fireplace. Or a Jane Seymour above the bed. The Pics of the original Jane Seymour poster and OOP's pose0 The pic chosen by OOP submitted by u/UberVincent who has given their permission to repost it The Winner Processing img ii2fjftena1g1... Update Nov 27, 2025 WHOA! I was told by a mod that my silly little prank idea is now the post with the most visitors ever in this community! SAY WHAAAT?! 🤯. I truly appreciate all the photo admissions and the unexpected compliments. I even appreciate the insults and the extensive dissections of both my self esteem and my relationship. What would’ve been an uneventful past two weeks, has morphed into a never-ending thread more hilarious and entertaining than I ever could’ve imagined. Let’s address the more frequent comments, shall we? Why do I “let” him hang this picture up? For the same reason he “lets” my geriatric, senile cat shit in the fireplace sometimes. When you choose to immesh your life with someone, you also choose to tolerate their quirks. And their elderly pets. And their weird vintage posters. Life itself is weird, so……pick your battles. You must be so unhappy if you felt the need to do this “prank” At our first apartment, my husband had a man cave where he could decorate to his heart’s content. Dr. Quinn hung freely, along with other things I didn’t necessarily love, but didn’t have to stare at every day. Now, we recently moved to a new house. Pro: Our wildly opposite decorating styles can go balls to the wall(s we own). Con: No more man cave. Here lies the inspiration for the prank: One day she was just hanging up in our new bedroom. Why am I so insecure and worried over a poster of an old celebrity? Guys, I don’t lose sleep over Jane Seymour, I just fall asleep staring at her 😉 All jokes aside, I used to have an autographed, laminated headshot of Orlando Bloom as Will Turner in Pirates of the Caribbean circa 2003. Let me tell ya, if my mom didn’t throw it away, I would have that shit framed for LIFE. Drink up me ‘hearties, yo ho. I am Jane Seymour aka Dr. Quinn’s doppleganger and that’s the only reason why my husband married me. While I am FLATTERED by the comments saying I look just like her….I promise you, in real life, I absolutely do not 😂 My husband actually only married me because I know how to push our trash bin to the curb. The phrase “bane of my existance” fired up a trigger storm. Actually, a category 5 hurricane. Perhaps “eye sore” would have been better verbiage? My bad for thinking the majority would interpret this as a joke, because who actually lets a poster be the bane of their existence? I stand corrected. Still, I appreciate all the protective women encouraging other women not to put up with shit. Right complaint, wrong HR department. How creepy it is that my husband has carried around this picture with him everywhere: For all the Literal Larry’s out there, “carried” was more so meant to portray, “packed, moved and preserved”. He found the poster at some flea market in college (15 yrs before we met) and has made sure that it (along with a few other of his “classic” posters) have made it in one piece to each of the new spots he’s moved to. I am also guilty of saving random, sentimental, decorative items that everyone else thinks should be thrown away. Aren’t we all? So weird and creepy that he carries around a wallet sized photo My bad for posting the wrong size. It is exactly 16” x 20”, but with the matte and frame, I swear it’s 2’ x 3’ in my mind. Has he noticed it yet? No, no he has not. My cat, however, is extremely disturbed, and can’t take her eyes away from this forced, tasteful imitation. Parting words: To all the nonjudgey folks having fun in the comments and not taking it too seriously, y’all are my homies. Moral of the story is, we all have VERY different senses of humor. And expectations of a partner. And that’s okay. Let’s all be nicer to each other ❤️. The photo hanging in the house Processing img 89lf7je1w04g1... The cat and the picture Processing img cbyh7ahl324g1... FINAL COMMENTS ellecellent This can't be your last update! You HAVE to let us know when he realizes! OOP …..1 year later….. THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP's OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7 submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

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All art and furniture pieces are authentic aside from the bed! My mom’s old stereo is the a new addition along with the plant installations my grandma helped me build. It’s not an official installation yet and I’m excited to really put it together. The coziest room I’ve been in is my moms old bedroom from the 80s, so I’m doing the best I can to replicate that vibe with respect to the original - still a work in progress and can’t wait to see where it goes! (Taken on my 2002 digital camera to give it a nice touch of nostalgia) submitted by /u/WaffleFry427 to r/80sdesign [link] [comments]