Makeup Vanity

Vanity makeup presets should be updated with the new makeup that were added in MAC collab and Essential Glam? Or give us the option to customize the presets?

..., things have been left out. Makeup. Skincare bottles. Cotton pads faintly... is missing its cap. A makeup brush rests beside the sink, ... apply a light layer of makeup. When I’m done, I set .... I look up. Under the vanity lights, my face appears almost ...

... than in the past; the vanity projects are more grandiose. He’s... renowned vanity, are the signs of physical decay—his bruised hands that makeup cannot...

... framing her face.  Soft peach-toned makeup, peach blush, glossy peach lips..., plush pillows, and a minimal vanity corner softly blurred in the...

littlemary26 said: I’ve never seen an ‘influencer’ with as large a following as hers… who CANT DO THEIR MAKEUP. The blindness is real. It’s unhinged. PLEASE go to a make up lesson or something and learn to do it properly. OMG. HOW BORING is that GRWM to watch .. FFS the vanity is excruciating for someone with such a mediocre face !!!

...] has DWVO Vanity Desk w/ Mirror & Lights, Makeup Vanity Set on salefor..., anti-tip device to anchor the vanity to the wall

absolutely obsessed with it! i wish it was a bit bigger but it fits everything amazingly! just waiting on my vanity chair to come in now! submitted by /u/WhoIsLoveBug to r/makeuporganization [link] [comments]

I am not The OOP, OOP is u/bfbaldthrow My (23F) boyfriend (25M) and his family are angry because I wouldn't shave my head for his sister who has cancer. BoRU 1 Posted by u/wynonajim Editors Note: the previous BoRU didnt have the final deleted update **TRIGGER WARNING: cancer entitlement Original Post July 7, 2015 Hi Relationships, I'll try to keep this short and blunt. Please don't judge before you've read the entire thing, I promise I'm not as awful as I sound in the title. I've been with Matthew for 3 years now, and we have a perfect relationship. I know everyone says that, but it really is true. I want to spend the rest of my life with him. I've only met his family a few times because they live pretty far away and my boyfriend had a huge falling out with his father a couple of years ago. They've since patched things up, but it's still not the same as it was. Matthew is not particularly close to his sister because she's 12 years younger than him and he doesn't see her that often. Of course he still loves and adores her, but they're not a very close family. Jessica has cancer and as a result has lost all of her hair. Matthew was devastated, obviously, and has been going to visit her more often. I have only seen her a few times since, because of work commitments. I have been down twice alone (without Matthew) to visit her in hospital. She’s a lovely young girl and I’m devastated for her and their family. Jessica is home at the moment and Matthew's mum called last Friday and asked if we could go over there. Upon arrival Matthew's mum whipped out a pair of scissors and shavers and said that the whole family was shaving their heads for Jessica. My job is modelling. I have very thick, natural auburn hair that reaches my waist. It's one of the reasons that I'm fairly successful. It's one of the reasons I can afford to pay the bills. I couldn’t model without my hair. So I respectfully and politely declined, telling them that it would be detrimental to my career. I don’t have two jobs, I don’t have a back-up, this is my job. It’s my money maker. If I couldn’t model, I don’t know what I would do. Matthew immediately got angry, insisting that this is more important, and while I agree that sentimentally and emotionally this is far more important, I cannot afford to lose my hair. I have to think logically about this otherwise I won’t have a roof over my head. Matthew’s mum was very upset, and proceeded to tell Jessica that I wouldn’t shave my hair because I am vain. I apologised to Jessica and explained my reasoning, and I went home. I have barely spoken to Matthew since it happened as he says he ‘needs space to consider if he wants to be in this relationship.’ I told him that I would do anything other than shave my head. I'll do a charity run, I'll raise tons of money, whatever I can possibly do, instead of shaving my head, but he won't listen. All he says is 'how can you put your looks and vanity over my cancer ridden sister'. Did I do the wrong thing? tl;dr my career is modelling and part of my success is due to my hair. My boyfriends younger sister has cancer so the family shaved their heads in support of her. I declined, and now everyone hates me. edit: a few people have asked so I'll copy+paste this from one of my replies: Matthew told me that Jessica is very upset and has told all of their family repeatedly that she hates me for having long hair and refusing to shave it for her. She's only 13 years old though, I have a feeling that the family are perhaps poisoning her view and of course she's going to be having a difficult time as it is. I can't hold any grudges against a young girl being in such an awful situation. Edit 2: I'm completely overwhelmed by the support here, so thank you a lot. I have read every comment and most of them are very helpful and make me feel a lot better. I am going to give it another few days and then I am going to speak with Matthew and his mum and Jessica. I'll be sure to post an update soon. Thank you again. Edit 3: gosh I hate threads with a ton of updates when there's no real update but I feel the need to defend Matthew's family a little. They're not crazy people. They've always been absolutely lovely and kind and welcoming towards me. They were a normal, happy family before this happened. Their youngest member of the family, the innocent, sweet, vulnerable girl is dying and there's nothing they can do about it other than try to make her happy. Of course their view is clouded, of course they're not being rational. Matthew's mum has quit her job to spend more time with Jessica, they've spent every penny they have on gifts for her. I don't think they're crazy or bad people. They're in a world of hell and the only thing that makes it better is putting a smile on Jessica's face and me shaving my head would have done that. If they don't come to terms with it and start thinking clearly soon, then I will agree with everyone and I will call them crazy and run for the hills, but at the moment, I'm trying to be as supportive as I can to my boyfriend and his family whose hearts are all broken. Put yourselves in their shoes. Update 1 July 14, 2015 (1 week later) Editors Note: update 1 was preserved in the original BoRU Update: Sorry it’s taken a while for me to update, I've been really busy and didn't want to post until it was resolved. I got so many helpful and positive comments on my last post, so thank you so much for that. I kept a lot of the comments in mind when I spoke to Matthew and his family. Matthew contacted me saying that he had seen my reddit thread, I'm not sure how. He said that he was really sorry and that a lot of the commenters were right. He said that his view was clouded and he wasn't thinking properly. We spoke for hours and I forgave him. I told him that I accepted his apology and that in the future, if there’s a crisis, he has to try to be calmer and more reasonable. He agreed, and he’s also agreed that him and his mum need some kind of counselling because they’re obviously really struggling. So that was out of the way. We are still taking it slow. He wanted to speak to his family on behalf of me but I requested that it was me that spoke to them, so I went over there and spoke to his mum and his auntie whilst Jessica wasn’t home. I wore my hair plaited under a hat out of respect (thank you to the redditer who suggested that). As soon as I arrived, his mum (Kat) told me that she didn't want to argue, and that she didn't feel she needed to hear my explanation. She said in almost these words: ‘This isn't something that I can be rational about, I hope you can understand that. My world revolves around that girl and I just want to make her happy. I’m sorry I expected too much from you, but I just want to let this go now. You’re obviously a wonderful girlfriend to Matthew and I hope that you can be a part of our family, but until Jessica is better I’d prefer it if you could not be around her. I'm sorry if that’s rude but she’s really self-conscious about her appearance and she hates being around such a young, healthy, beautiful girl with a full head of hair.’ I still wanted to explain my side of the story but she kinda cut me off a bit and pretty much said ‘yeah I'm being ridiculous and I don’t want to listen to reason because all I care about is seeing a smile on Jessica’s face’, so I just apologised for upsetting Jessica, accepted Kat’s apology and left. It wasn't really the discussion I’d hoped to have but it was better than nothing. I also spoke to my agency about the situation and asked how they would feel about me cutting my hair. I knew they'd say no, but I wanted to ask anyway. They did say no, but said that they would like to help in some way. I pulled a few strings, and managed to arrange a photoshoot for myself, Jessica and my niece (actually a friend’s daughter but she calls me auntie). Matthew has told me before that Jessica is struggling to maintain friendships because she’s constantly in and out of the hospital, and most of her friends are a bit wary of being around now. My ‘niece’ is only a year younger than her and I think they'd get along so I thought it would be really nice and helpful for Jessica. I bought her a wig (similar looking to my own hair), and I went shopping and bought her a ton of makeup too. Emptied the bank a little bit but it’s better than shaving my head and not working for 5 years! I called Kat again and asked if it was okay for me to come round. She declined at first but Matthew spoke to her and she eventually agreed. I arrived wearing a bald cap (a few shades darker than my own skin) and Jessica found it hilarious. I spoke to her and told her that I was really upset that she had told Matthew that she hated me. She said sorry and told me that she was just jealous and upset. I told her about the photoshoot and she was incredibly excited, gave me a hug and wouldn't stop thanking me. We're going to have a makeover first and then we're going to have several pictures with Jessica wearing a wig, and several of us being bald because I want her to feel beautiful either way. It might be possible for me to share these photos with reddit but I have a feeling they would go viral and I do not want my boyfriend or his family to be identified, particularly as a lot of people seem to think they're crazy and awful people. There are a lot of trolls online and I don't think the family could handle any kind of backlash. So I think it's kinda resolved for now. Jessica is happy, Matthew is happier, and Kat is at least accepting of the situation. I could have broken up with Matthew and walked away from this situation, and where would that gotten me? Jessica would still be upset, Kat would still be angry, and I wouldn't have my supportive, beautiful and amazing boyfriend in my life. I wouldn't stand for this again, but in the 3 amazing years of us being together, this is the only time he has faulted, and it was for an understandable reason. Also, people kept saying ‘this is how Matthew and his family deal with tragedy! he’ll do this again!’ But I don’t think these people understand that this is not just a tragedy. There is not much that can compare to losing a young sweet daughter/sister to cancer. I’ve been with Matthew for 3 years, and in that 3 years we have dealt with tragedies (his good friend committed suicide) and stressful situations (he almost lost his job) and he has never acted like this before because this is MORE than a tragedy. This is heartbreak and hell. I want to finish with two quotes that I read on reddit recently: ‘Years of love have been forgot, In the hatred of a minute.’ and ‘“We judge ourselves by our intentions and others by their behaviour.” tldr; matthew apologised and we are okay, matthew's mother is kinda okay with me, myself, jessica and my niece are doing a photoshoot together. edit: I am absolutely blown away by the amount of support! thank you so so so much to everybody that has made a kind comment, also everybody who has shared their own stories. I've been crying off and on all day! Happy tears mostly :) also there were a couple of slightly rude comments because I said that I didn't know how Matthew found my post. He doesn't reddit, he barely even spends any time on his PC at all (and never mine). Not many people know about the in's and out's of the situation and I changed some small details to attempt to make it a bit less obvious (I'm terrified of being identified!) So yeah it was kind of surprising that he found the thread. I haven't had a chance to ask him yet but I guess a friend must have sent it to him? Either way, it's not that important to me. thanks again everybody, and let's pray that I can make another update soon saying Jessica has miraculously recovered! :) FINAL UPDATE Update 2 Aug 4, 2015 Original link Thank you again for all the comments I got in my previous posts, they were all so helpful and kind. Myself and Matthew are completely back on track, he's been to therapy and is coping a lot better than he was before. Kat (his mum) is also going to group therapy and she seems to be a lot better. The photoshoot was a little difficult, Jessica wasn't all that compliant. She didn't seem to like my niece, who was nothing but friendly, and it took her some convincing to actually take some photos without the wig. She didn't want many pictures of us together, mostly just of herself. We didn't get the photos on the day, and Jess sent quite a rude text asking when I was going to get them to her. I took the photos to her about a week later and Kat asked if we could sit down and talk. She told me that she really appreciated what I'd done for Jess, but that Jess had been acting weirdly since. Apparently Jess had been trying to speak and dress like me, and was refusing to take the wig off, which was giving her a pretty bad rash on her scalp. Kat seemed quite annoyed that I'd gotten a wig similar to my own hair (that was a mistake on my part) but she kept hinting that it was a cheap wig or that it was made of synthetic hair which kind of offended me. Anyway I brushed it off and spoke to Jess. I told her that she didn't need to wear her wig all the time, that she was didn't need hair or make-up to be beautiful etc. but she got kind of rude and kept saying things like 'that's so easy for you to say' and 'you can lecture me when you have cancer'. I ended up getting a little snippy with her, which I regret, and I told her that I didn't like her attitude, now or during the photoshoot. She ended up crying and Kat asked me to leave, she wasn't rude but I could tell that she was upset with me. When I got home, Matthew reassured me that I hadn't been out of order or unfair. A few days later his mum called and told us that Jess had thrown away the bald photos. I was really upset, so Matthew spoke to Jess and told her that she was being very unappreciative and rude. I received a text from Jess a few hours later with what seemed like a sincere apology, to myself and to my niece. Then a few days later, I received another text from her asking if she could have another photoshoot. I called her and told her that I couldn't, as they wouldn't offer the same discount and I couldn't afford to pay for the whole thing myself, and she put the phone down on me. Then Kat called me and asked me (politely, but unfairly I feel) to no longer speak to Jess as it just keeps causing more trouble. So I haven't spoken to Jess or Kat since. Me and Matthew seem to be okay but I'm worried that this may cause resentment between us later on in life, particularly if Jess gets any more unwell. I'm just taking everything as it comes and trying to stay out of it for now. I care a lot about Jess but I also don't want to be taken advantage of, spoken to rudely, or blamed for problems that I couldn't help. I've tried my best with the whole family, but I can't seem to do much right, so I think it's for the best if I do distance myself from them. Sorry this wasn't a happier update! If anyone does have any suggestions for how I can avoid resentment between myself and Matthew in the future, or how I can try to fix the distance between myself and his family, I would be really thankful. I don't think there is anything more I can do, but there were a lot of really creative and helpful ideas in my last 2 posts so it's worth asking :) Thank you again everybody. tl;dr photoshoot was a struggle because Jess was quite rude, didn't want to take any bald pictures or pictures with my niece. She's since started trying to dress, speak and act like me, and has thrown away the bald pictures that we took. Kat asked me not to talk to Jess anymore. I'm doing as she's asked because I don't know what else to do. THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP's OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7 submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

Finally found my perfect “vanity” desk on Facebook Marketplace for only $150. It has so much storage compared to the tiny entry table I was using before - I don’t know what to do with all the space! I’m about to move all of my excess hair/skincare into the drawers. submitted by /u/wavygirlx to r/MakeupAddiction [link] [comments]

So my wife's friend got married a couple years back. She made it this 3 day long event with multiple meals and two ceremonies, everything with different dress codes. Day 1 was some dinner that started at 9pm and took 3 hours, which she then forced everyone to go dancing afterwards. We joined for the meal but it being on a weekday told her couldn't go dancing. The next day at her brunch she tells us how much fun they had dancing and how even old people and children went. I brush it off and smile. Then two different ceremonies happen that day. And then finally the event will end with another brunch on the 3rd day. By this point we are exhausted, because we are not party people but wanted to be nice and participate. So the morning before the brunch, we get up early, get into our 4th outfit of her event, my wife does her hair and makeup again.. for the 4th time. And we get to this brunch. Her friend greets us and says "Oh hi babe...wow you look....comfy!" with this judgmental tone in her voice as if to say my wife wasn't trying hard enough (which was bullshit). My wife tries her best to brush the event off and says it's just stress from the wedding that made her terrible towards us the entire time. But I've decided that her friend is just an asshole and will slowly repay her for years. since then at various gatherings I have given her the following "compliments"; "I love how you don't care about vanity. Just go with that natural look and who cares what people think" "You look super comfy" (I've said variations of this one several times) "I wish I could have your attitude with arriving whenever. but I always have to show up on time for things." and so on. the greatest part is you can see the gears turning as she tries to figure out if I'm being complimentary or not. I will continue doing this until this person is no longer in our lives, or one of us dies Edit: Holy cow this blew up. You all have given me some incredible ammunition! I will spend the next hour converting them to a note on my phone and cant wait to see her next lol 😆 I will report back in a few months with an update submitted by /u/flanman1991 to r/pettyrevenge [link] [comments]

trigger warnings: infidelity, child abandonment   *I just found out my girlfriend is cheating on me with my brother. * - July 19, 2025 throwaway since my friends know my reddit. but i don’t really know who else to turn to. i (26m) just found out my girlfriend (25f) has been cheating on me with my brother (29m). i’ve been with her for about 6 years and we have a 4 year old son together. im now questioning paternity. excuse me as im on mobile crying and drinking a fireball in my bathroom it all came out at our son’s 4th birthday party a few days ago. it was at my mom’s house and everything seemed normal, i was playing with my son and wanted to take a few photos so i went inside to grab my phone and i heard my girlfriend giggling down the hall behind a closed door. i realized i haven’t seen her in maybe 20-30 minutes so i was wondering if she was with someone or just on the phone. i went back to the party to grab a slice of cake to surprise her. when i was near the door i kept hearing that playful “stoppp” girls usually do when they are “flirting” and i was really confused, but i still opened the door, and i see she’s cuddled up on top of my brother. he was in his boxers and her makeup looked smudged and her shirt was on the floor. i couldn’t even say anything . i just stood there like an idiot. they both immediately noticed me and my girlfriend jumped and immediately started explaining herself, but i was so angry i can’t even remember what she was saying. i told my uncle i have a work emergency and i had to leave. my mom started calling me freaking out because she knows this is my week off and i rarely ever have to deal with work after hours. i didn’t tell her what happened yet. i haven’t told anyone because honestly my wife is my only friend. she never liked when i hung out with my boys or my childhood friends because i was “taking too much attention off her and our son”. the part that’s now messing with me the most is our son. I know this might be a huge reach and i might just be angry, but ever since my son was born, there has been a running joke among my family that my son looks like my brother. I kind of saw it, but always dismissed it because i trusted my wife and i knew she wouldn’t do anything like that to me. My brother has always been the one to start the joke and my girlfriend would always laugh. A lot of things that they used to do is now becoming more clear, like the fact that once or twice a week they often go out together and my wife would always come back super happy and giggly, she would tell me how her day was, but when i would try to initiate intimacy later in the day she would always say she’s too exhausted (she has an insane s*x drive) i am spiraling and i have no one in my life to turn to. my phone has been absolutely blowing up with messages from both my girlfriend, her trash friends and my brother but i can’t even bring myself to read them. i am spiraling and i don’t know what to do anymore. i feel like the life i have dreamt of as a kid is completely ruined and i feel too old to restart. my life is over update 1: it’s 12:28 and ive read all comments and working on responding. thank you so much for the support, and the two awesome guys who dmd me about their experiences. before the update i want to answer a few questions. “wife or girlfriend??” she’s was my girlfriend. when she gave birth to our son, i gave her a temporary ring and promised her i would marry her when i settle my college debt. i haven’t called her my girlfriend in years, i introduced her as my future wife. im sorry for adding that in the post and causing confusion. i was so broken typing it and kept thinking how she was supposed to be my wife in less than a year. “why didn’t you confront them and tell everyone?” my body completely froze and i shut down. it’s easier said than done. “isn’t it weird they’d joke about it? wouldn’t they wanna keep it a secret?” i don’t know how to answer this. when my family or my brother would joke about it i’d always get uncomfortable and shut it off. “she didn’t let you have friends?” it’s a little more complicated than that. she would often (now im aware it’s gaslighting but im still in denial) that i seem like i prioritize my friends over her & our son due to that fact after work i would quickly come home, shower, play with our son a little before bed time and run back out to a bar or event with my friends. i don’t think ive actually hung out with any of my friends in a few months. all i do is talk to online friends occasionally. my friends all drifted away a little bit when i kept using the “the wife (girlfriend) doesn’t want me outside” excuse. “she was gone for so long and no one noticed? and how were they so comfortable to be almost completely naked?” when my girlfriend left during my son opening gifts, she said she was having bad cramps so she was going to lay down for a bit. i don’t have an excuse for my brother because i don’t know. and as for the naked part, i wish i knew. for the actual update, I have replied to my girlfriend. I told her we can talk in the morning & she immediately started spam calling me, but i ignored all of them and kept it short with her. As for my brother, I simply just told him if he died nothing in my life would change. My brother and I have never been particularly close but he was still considered my bestfriend. He helped us out when my girlfriend was going through PP and gave me the bro talk when she was diagnosed with many mental disorders. i feel absolutely disgusted that i let him get that close to us. And i feel even more stupid for not noticing the most blatantly obvious red flags. I am unable to afford a lawyer. most of my savings would be wiped. I have never had to deal with legal stuff so all I’ve been doing is searching cheap lawyers on google. apart of me still wants her to be my official wife, and i have been looking at pictures of our son and trying to convince myself that he looks like me, but it’s getting so much harder. I am so broken, and I have nothing else. If he’s not my son, I don’t know what I’ll do with myself. I plan on telling my mother & father first before she gets the chance the spin the story, and hopefully I can come back in a few days or weeks with an update as I read paternity test take a long time. Thank you to everyone. update 2: I don’t think anyone will see this, so I made a new post, but long story short, She’s not sure my son is mine and I’m done. Relevant Comments: Deleted: Yeah, the red flag in there was she didn't let you have friends. And she has been using that weakness she created against you. Even her own kid, against you. Double child support, extra for her vanity? Could be. OP: I never really viewed it as a “red flag” because i was spending a lot of time with my friends for a while. i have a lot of online friends from gaming but even then, they are just online, i can’t actually have “fun” with them if that makes sense. gleaming-the-cubicle: Get a lawyer, get a paternity test OP: i don’t know how i could possibly get a lawyer, im an average guy making an average wage, i think id blow my entire savings + more affording lawyers and court fees based on what i see Tess27795: You need a lawyer and a paternity test. You will also need therapy. You need to take care of yourself. I know it seems impossible now, but you will survive this for a better day. Just keep moving. You can explain it to HR or a manager at work. You may need some time off. Please be kind to yourself. No one deserves this type of betrayal. The therapy will help you trust yourself again one day. OP: Thank you a lot. My boss knows a tiny bit of what’s going on and has given me a week off. As for therapy, I can’t afford it. I’ve honestly been drowning in debt, I’ve been dealing with still paying off hospital bills, my wife’s emergency c section, the new car she convinced me to finance and a lot of other things. Therapy would just add onto that. But im going to try and see if my friends are still willing to talk to me even though i have been icing them out for a few months. I appreciate the advice.   *I have been raising my brothers son for 4 years. * - July 20, 2025 (1 day later) I made a post yesterday talking about how I caught my ex cheating on me with my brother. I now found out that she doesn’t know if our son is mine or his and I am fucking spiraling. I can’t believe this is genuinely my life right now. Everything I’ve ever had fell apart in 2 hours. after i made the first post, i decided to call a meeting with my family and my ex, i told them i wanted to talk about something serious and had them all come over to my place. my mom, dad, brother, and ex all showed up. my son was with my cousin for the day. i sat everyone down and just told them straight up what i saw at the party. my brother immediately jumped in saying it was a misunderstanding, she was feeling “ugly and lonely”, it was nothing, etc. he was talking so fast it was obvious he was lying. My mother then started crying and my father didn’t say anything. i just sat there and waited for my ex to say something. I rehearsed so many ways of how this conversation could probably go and listened to a lot of advice in my other post but all I got out was “Is [sons name] mine?” All she could fucking say was “I don’t know” and started crying. my heart dropped. i asked how long it’s been going on and she said it started around the time we were trying for a baby. so basically since the beginning. I have basically been raising my nephew for 4 years. I can’t get into much detail at this point, because I barely remember what happened. All I remember is both me and my brother on the floor and we are both bloody. I started screaming for all of them to get out as my ex started crying saying she’s sure our son is ours. But i have 0 reason to believe it’s mine and I’m done. I have spent my entire life dreaming on building a huge family. we were supposed to be trying for another baby in a few months and my entire life is just falling apart in such a short amount of time. I don’t even know what advice i could possibly get at this point. I’ve already made an appointment for a paternity test against her wishes, but I can’t even think right now. My life is done and over with. Relevant Comments: CocoaAlmondsRock: Step 1: Get a paternity test. Step 2: Don't wait -- call a lawyer on Monday and start the divorce process. Step 3: Mute your STBX and trashy brother. (Don't block them -- you may need their messages.) Block any family member who says you should "forgive" or "be the bigger person." Step 4: Get your ducks in a row. Spend not another night in the same place where she is. Separate your finances. If you have a house, whose name is on the deed? What about vehicles? Figure out where you will live. Listen to your lawyer!! Step 5: Figure out what you're going to do if you are NOT the biological father. Hate to tell you, but you're legally responsible for financial support. Since you know who the father is if it's not you, talk to your lawyer about whether you can sue your brother to oblivion. hiroism4ever: FIRST your life isn't done and over with, as hard as it is to see in this moment. You aren't too old, either, you're still very young - the beginning of adulthood still. With that said, reach out to local lawyers like others suggested. No contact but don't block family and her. Get test to verify if it's your child or not. You dont know anything for sure about the child - if it is yours, hes yours still and you will regret not being there if you try cutting him out too. No drugs, no drinks, don't let the courts use anything against you in your upcoming case and divorce. And again I cannot reiterate enough, your life is not over. You slammed into the rock bottom hard, but life isn't over. You will rebound, and your future self and future family (and potentially your current child) will be thankful you didn't give up. Many have rebounded much later in life than you, you can recover and have a future too.   Deleted update on August 21, 2025 I didn’t think i’d ever come back to do an update, but i feel like i owe it to everyone. this is just a continuation of events, everything is on my page it’s been a month & a half since i found out the truth and i honestly didn’t think things could get any worse but they did. the dna test came back and my son isn’t mine. i felt like my whole chest collapsed when i read it. i sat in my car holding that paper until the sun went down and i couldn’t even drive home. i’ve been raising my brother’s kid this whole time, i felt a mixture of relief because apart of me accepted it might be his but my heart is absolutely shattered. the fallout was a mess. there was yelling, crying, everyone talking at the same time. my ex was on her knees begging me not to leave her, saying she’d do anything. my brother was red in the face screaming that the kid was his and i ruined his life. my mom was crying and telling me i was tearing the family apart. i just stood there shaking, my hands in my hair, trying to breathe while they all closed in on me. i’ve never felt so small in my own life. it was like the whole world turned on me in one night. i told my ex that we are over and i didn’t care what she did with the kid, i feel guilty about this because i feel already so emotionally detached from him. after that, everything just got worse. my brother showed up drunk at my buddy’s house a few days later pounding on the door and screaming that i “stole his family.” he was yelling that the kid was his and he deserved to be with his “real dad.” i told him to leave and he tried to fight me right there in the yard until the cops came and dragged him off. i’ve never seen someone so pathetic in my life. my ex hasn’t stopped trying to get me back. she’s been showing up crying, saying she can’t live without me, begging me to forgive her. last week she called me at 2am saying she was going to kill herself if i didn’t come over. i didn’t go. i can’t anymore. i don’t even know if it was real or just another way to guilt trip me. i got a few messages from her friends saying im a piece of shit for abandoning a child and leaving my ex to suffer alone. i don’t even understand why im the one receiving all the backlash, my father is the only one who refuses to speak on the situation the part that hurts most is my mom. she told me if i don’t take my ex back and “fix the family” she doesn’t want anything to do with me. my own mother chose my cheating ex and my brother over me. she said i was “abandoning” my son. i had to remind her he isn’t mine, and she hung up on me. i haven’t heard from her since. i feel like i lost everyone. my brother. my mom. my ex. my son. i’ve been drinking too much just to fall asleep and every morning i wake up feeling worse. i don’t even recognize my life anymore.   *I raised my nephew for 4 years [9 months later] * - March 16, 2026 (9 months later) Hey guys, It’s been about 240 days since my last post and a lot of people asked for an update back then. I’m not sure if anyone will see this or care, but i’m sharing for anyone who’s interested. The paternity test eventually came back and confirmed what I was already bracing myself for. he wasnt my son. That was probably the hardest sentence I’ve ever read in my life. For a long time I didn’t even know what to do with that information. I had spent four years raising him, building my entire identity around being his dad, and then suddenly that reality just… stopped existing. I wish i could be cool and say i crashed out and tore everyone’s life apart, but sadly, this is real life. i didn’t do anything. I couldn’t do anything but cry. I have been getting extreme hate for this decision, despite raising him for 4 years, but i am not interested in staying in his life and have not seen him in 7 months. It’s been hard, it’s disgusting and selfish of me to abandon and a little child like that, but everytime i looked at him, all i saw was my brothers face, it got to the point were i was having disgusting thoughts of hurting the kid so i eventually had to get myself voluntarily admitted for 72 hours due to how scary those thoughts were, which led me to not seeing him again. My brother disappeared and refused to step up. He won’t claim the kid, won’t help, nothing. Last I heard he basically denies responsibility whenever it comes up. That alone told me a lot about the kind of person he is, and I don’t have a brother anymore as far as I’m concerned. There has been absolutely 0 communication between us. My parents chose to keep trying to “fix the family” and push forgiveness instead of holding anyone accountable. They kept inviting me to dinners with him, telling me “blood is blood,” and saying I should move on for the sake of peace. Eventually I realized they cared more about pretending things were normal than what actually happened to me. I cut them off completely. Haven’t spoken to them in months and honestly my life has been quieter because of it. Not to demonize religion, but both of my parents are hardcore christian’s and often try to upkeep looks for their church. They have told them a watered down version of events, but I truly cannot care enough to get the real story out to them. As for my ex, she’s basically couch surfing now. Friends places, relatives, wherever she can stay temporarily. I don’t really keep tabs on her but that’s what I hear through mutual people. I don’t hate her the way I did in the beginning anymore, mostly I just feel nothing. After the paternity test, I completely ghosted her. She came with her parents to pack all of her stuff together while i (admittedly an asshole move) was on the couch watching to catch a cheated (jubal stories are bs but funny lol) on full volume. Didn’t look or talk to her once. I have last heard she is constantly jumping relationships, in and out of hospitals and keeps fighting for my brother to come back. What kind of hurts about that is, after the paternity test, everyone seemed more gravitated towards my brother stepping up instead of seeing if i was okay. My ex only bombarded me with hateful messages before I blocked her, no apologizes, lack of sympathy, just nothing. I do not know where she is now. My life now is… simple. I wish i could say my life bloomed, i found love, found a great job.. but sadly… I’m still at the same boring job I had when I wrote the original post. The only difference is I got promoted to a position that’s, I guess, “okay.” Nothing glamorous, but it pays a bit more and keeps me busy. Routine ended up being one of the only things that helped me stabilize. Mentally I’m still repairing myself. The first few months were brutal. Therapy helped a lot. So did time, even though everyone hates hearing that. I still think about the kid sometimes and that part will probably always hurt, but the constant spiral I was in back then isn’t my daily reality anymore. this will likely be the last ever update, but thank you reddit for being there for me. Relevant Comments: PuzzleheadedTap4484: I feel for you OP but I really feel bad for that kid. He’s an innocent party in all this. A crappy mom whose couch surfacing with a child, a biological dad who never stepped up, a dad he knew all his life that ghosted him due to paternity (but I get it and do understand why), and his life imploded. Hopefully the grandparents have given him a stable life. I’m glad you’re in therapy and I hope it helps you move on from this terrible chapter in your life. Hopefully with time you are able to start living your life again and find happiness again. Congrats on the promotion. just_me_2006: Exactly. That little boy has found himself on a very (statistically speaking) predictable path to future anger problems, juvenile hall to god knows what. All that trauma before age 5 is not great.   Reminder - I am not the original poster. DO NOT COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS.   Edit: Added a deleted update that I was not previously aware of, thanks to u/Odd_Instruction519 submitted by /u/xToasted1 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]

I am not The OOP, OOP is u/12-yoklepto My [20F] sister [12F] stole my credit card and racked up $700 of charges. WTF. TRIGGER WARNING: Mentions if abuse, neglect Original Post Aug 14, 2015 She has an issue of Keeping Up with the Joneses. Her friends have lots of cool stuff and she idolizes those beauty bloggers and YouTubers and wants the things they have. My parents are extremely wealthy but strict. They would reward us with things when we did well in school. She pulled C's this year and asked for an iPhone, and was obviously refused. Early this year in September/October I noticed a lot of my makeup and shoes were going missing. We have the same size feet and the makeup items were popular "cult classics." I put up a camera when I went to work one evening and came back to check. Lo and behold she was taking stuff from my drawers, and sitting down at my vanity to use it. Whatever, she's 12, she wants to use makeup. I "destashed" some items I never used and I gave her a fair amount. For her birthday my other sister and I (other sis does not live with us) chipped in for a Sephora gift card. We thought maybe then she'd stop taking my stuff. It did stop, it looks like, because nothing has gone missing and I recorded for about a month and only saw her in my room when she went to fetch the dog, so nothing suspicious. However lately she has been getting packages from Amazon, she's buying Sims games, and she's using a Netflix account. She stated she's been winning all of these things and despite questioning her she refused to really admit where she got all this stuff from so I dropped it. About two weeks ago, everything on our desktop computer went missing. Looking into the system recovery files, it said that there was a system file reset (something along those lines) at 11:30 AM on a Thursday. Mom and I discovered the computer was wiped that evening. I saw my sister on the computer when I left for work. We know she did something, but again, she refused to answer. Then today, I got my Mastercard bill. It was absurdly high. I paid $78 for a yoga pass and then $10 for something from eBay. At first I thought my card info had been stolen. But the purchases all match up with stuff she has. Origin Canada. Netflix. Amazon, Amazon, Amazon. One eBay purchase. All online purchases. $700~ worth. I have no idea what the fuck to do. My parents are again, super strict. Obviously I have to tell them but they are going to lose it on her. But I'm beginning to think she has a serious fucking problem. I have the money to pay down this card but I don't want to. I want to recoup the losses. But how can I get a refund on something like Netflix? I can't. I've already called to cancel the card. I don't know what steps to take next. TL;DR: Sister was caught stealing real things from me and I tried to help it; now she has stolen my CC info and I have a massive bill. I don't think it's just a problem with wants. RELEVANT COMMENTS goldt33f You need to tell your parents. If they lose it on her, it's because she needs to learn now that money doesn't grow on fucking trees and that she essentially is an entitled thief. You're not going to get through to her. OOP Fuck. You're right. I don't want her to become one of those brats I suffered through in retail. They knew what happened with the first time and my dad just babies her. They're old now (in their 60s) and just don't want to deal with it so my other sis and I have become pseudo parents. But I guess I finally need to let her be their problem. [Canada] 12 y/o sister stole my credit card info and used about $700. Will reporting it as fraudulent cause a criminal investigation? Aug 14, 2015 (Same Day) It's a Mastercard, Scotiabank. I want to report it as fraudulent because I do not want to pay those charges. However I don't want her to be charged for something. While a visit from a lawyer or police officer might scare her good I don't want it to actually pan out. It would cause family drama that I am just not interested in, stolen info or not. If I wanted someone to come talk to her, do you think that could happen without it becoming a legal issue? Or will I have to eat the charges? TOP COMMENTS [deleted] You can't eat your cake and have it to. If you don't want your sister to face consequences outside of your family circle, don't tell anybody. You can't expect both to shield your sister and get your money back; choose which is more important. ~ Cidician I've read your post on relationships and I think even if you did report it to the bank, the chances of you getting your money back is not very high. For starters, all the items that were purchased (Netflix, Amazon, etc.) are things that you could've brought. All the items that were shipped also went straight to where you lived too. It would appear to the bank that you brought those items and just want to pin it on someone else to avoid paying. It would not be a fun investigation. Update 1 Aug 15, 2015 (Next Day) Hi everyone. Thanks for your advice and help. I just want to add in some points that came up in comments: I did get mad at her when she stole from me the last time. I thought that being proactive by helping her get what she wants in a proper way would help, but we did have a nasty fight about it. I didn’t just shrug it off. I now realize I totally fucked that up. My parents were strict when I was younger so to me strict is just the word for them. But for her they have completely checked out. I am basically her parent. My older sister not as much, but she still is involved a fair amount more than my actual parents are. I do want to lock my door but it’s where the dog hangs out, and he needs to leave to pee sometimes, so I am hesitant. I did, however, decide to order a nanny cam for my bedroom. I am still considering the lock. Last night I came home from work and my parents had gone to bed, as well as my sister, so I decided to leave it until the morning. But I heard giggling coming from my sister’s room so I approached her and I decided to ask her about it before I talked to my parents. Well, she full on denied it. I had printed my credit card statement and I showed it to her and she just said it wasn’t her and she didn’t do it. I am the person with the mail key (we have a community mailbox) so I was taking in her Amazon packages. They were from the Marketplace and a few of them had the prices on them so they could go through customs and those prices matched what was on my statement. My dad has a key too so he probably took in the ones I didn’t see which is why I didn’t realize it was such a big problem. I also pointed out the Netflix charge. She said that she was using my other sister’s Netflix. Other sister lives in an area about two hours behind our time so I texted her right then and she said she doesn’t even have Netflix anymore, as it interfered too much with her doctorate work. My younger sister lied and said she was still using it. I told her I am giving her one chance to admit it to me otherwise I’ll be talking to the parents and I will also be calling the cops. Still, she refused to admit. I even started to doubt myself. Maybe she didn’t actually do it. I was going over all the charges and realized she’d have to have an Amazon account. I was the one who set up her email address so many years ago. If she forgot her password, my email was the recovery. I reset her password through my email. Not only had she charged $700 in this last billing cycle, but yesterday she bought two more things off Amazon, an iTunes receipt, got a receipt from a site called The Sims Resource, and a Club Penguin membership. There were still all of the old order receipts. I reset her Amazon password and I cancelled the orders she placed. I emailed Club Penguin and Netflix and told them she was a minor and was not authorized to purchase the membership. Club Penguin was awesome and they reversed the charges for me. I guess they deal with this a lot. Netflix hasn’t responded yet. This morning I talked to my parents. They offered to pay it for me and I told them that is not the point, I want her to learn what she did. They just dismissed it. So I told them if they don’t do something then I will not be doing their job for them anymore. I will disengage totally from my sister’s life. I told them that by choosing to ignore this, my grad school applications are immediately moving out of province. This did upset them because my older sister had gone the same route due to their crazy behaviour so they decided to talk to her. I don’t know what they said as I had to go walk my dog but looks like there’s been 0 consequences because she looks fine and is still holed up in her room. My dad just transferred that amount to my bank account so I am assuming they just still don’t give a shit. I haven't yet paid the card. It is due August 27 so I have time. I talked to my boyfriend and he has some friends on the police force as well as some paramedic friends who know the cops who do the DARE circuits, so he’s going to try and contact one of them. My older sister actually has a planned visit for next Tuesday, so we are trying to coordinate the potential police visit with that. My older sister was shocked to hear what happened and when I told her that I might do my MSc out of province she said she and her husband have room for me at their place. I could even bring my dog if I want to. So maybe that is something to consider. tl;dr: No one cares about what happened and I think my sister needs to see a psychologist UPDATE: My boyfriend reached a cop he knows, who actually referred him to another person. He will be coming over Tuesday afternoon after my sister and brother-in-law arrive. After the cop talks to my sister my boyfriend is going to take her to the army offices which are stationed near the police headquarters. She's going to get a tour of both. We decided to do that part second because she might be more cooperative after the cop shows up. My sister and I are going to talk to our parents about finding her a volunteer placement. My older sister suggested that she might need some perspective -- aka not owning that game is not the end of the world -- and some hard-hitting scenarios might be the best way to get that through. I called one of my cousins who my younger sister really admires and she is going to come talk to my younger sister too when the cops come. Intervention style, I suppose. The cop and I talked on the phone just a few minutes ago and he said that this is not the first time he's done this. He has a lot of stuff he can say so I trust he will do that on his own. He told me that he often refers these kids to a counsellor and that if my sister seems willing he can refer us too. Everyone is being really helpful. I have decided to not press charges yet. A lot of you are coming down hard on my sister and she deserves it. I might show her these threads. However -- she is still my sister. She is 12. My older sister and I basically raised her. We do not want to turn her into someone with a criminal record, even though yes, she deserves it. Right now, we have a chance to rehabilitate her, versus deciding she's not worth it and dumping her. If I leave and she has no chance in hell with my parents, I still will be partly responsible if she goes the wrong way and I didn't try anything. It might be our house, not just her. We have extremely fucked up parents, as you guys have noted. I cannot change their ways. But if I can get her out of here, I will do so. But I can only do that if she agrees to change things. If she doesn't, then the best idea is for me to leave, because I want to have a life too. Update 2 Aug 19, 2015 (4 days after last update) I may have gotten that ^ backwards but on mobile so oops Hi everyone. Thanks for your patience and all the PMs asking if things are okay. I work evening and overnight shifts so I was basically knocked out until now. Just to clarify a few more points: I technically could be financially independent from my parents, as I’ve been working since I was 14 and never did anything crazy fun so I have a lot of money saved. I also make about $30/hr now. However after all I had to go through with my parents and my academics, I felt like I deserved to get my tuition out of them. I got a dog because I topped all of my provincial and IB exams. They love the dog and they treat him nicely, so please don’t worry. The dog is under my name and I pay for all his stuff, they just gave me permission to get him. I don’t want the cops to talk to my parents because my dad is a conspiracy theorist. He once refused to buy milk for a whole year because he said farmers are drugging the milk they give to stores to actually weaken our bones and make us dependent on their “calcium-fortified” more expensive milk. Yeah. I am not going to save the world, lol. I am actually going into physiotherapy. I ignored my sister and family for most of the weekend and just went to work and my boyfriend’s for the majority of the time. Yesterday I got up around 8 to pick up my sister and BIL. In the car we discussed the situation. My BIL is actually a neuropsychologist. He doesn’t remember much from his child development (or so he says) but he offered up some points that are similar to what you guys said. The consensus seemed to be that we needed to leave our parents, but only if little sister cooperated today. This was the major sticking point. My older sister said that when little sister turns 14, we can work on applying for guardianship and moving herself and myself to my older sister’s province. Because of my parents’ age and history of abuse my sister thinks we might have a case. She has already consulted a lawyer. We had a pretty sad talk about how all my older sister wanted was to get both of us out of there. She would have done it a lot sooner if she had known the extent of the problems. I haven’t really told her about my younger sister’s attitude issues and my parents’ detachment because my older sister is working and going to grad school and I didn’t want to burden her. She said the hardest thing she’s ever done is leave me and younger sister in this house. I told her that she was 21 when she left and we didn’t expect her to save us. She also had not met BIL yet and wasn’t making much money so it would’ve been way too hard for her. When we got to the house my BIL and sister briefly said hi to little sis and then went and played with my dog for a bit. My cousin called the home phone and we let little sister pick up. She said she was gonna come over with her dog so we could have a playdate. This worked well because it got my sister out of her room. My cousin lives about 15 minutes away so she was there within half an hour. We put the dogs outside and watched them play until we heard the doorbell ring. I sent little sister to open it. When she saw the cop she started crying immediately. The policeman was super nice. He sat down with everyone in the room and he told her instantly that he wasn’t there to get her in trouble. But he wanted to talk to her. He even had a posterboard! He set it up and started talking about a few girls he had known who had gotten into this type of lifestyle. The stories were kind of sad, and a lot of them were similar to the ones you guys talked about in the comments. There was one story about a girl who had been busted in a drug deal just a few years ago. He also talked about the girl in Medicine Hat who killed her family, and a few girls they rescued from prostitution rings. My cousin told my sister about how hard it was to watch me and my older sister grow up but we did the best we could so we could make a life for her. She told my little sister that she isn’t a bad person, even though she might feel this way because of how mad I was with her. But the lying has got to stop. Kids who lie grow up into adults who lie. And adults who lie don’t get to live nice lives. I talked to her about how all those videos she watches and celebrities she worships – they work really hard for that stuff. Sure, they might get some of that stuff for free, but success has a price. I told her that she’s only 12 and has so much time to be successful but people who steal and lie don’t get to go that way. I even pointed out that her favourite singer (Ariana Grande) just recently had to apologize for something she’s done. And now everyone has forgotten and it’s not as big a deal. My older sister and BIL made her a deal. They said if she gets a 3.5 in her first year of high school (which should be easy as its not an academic school) then she can come with me after I graduate my BA and live back with them. My older sister even showed her printouts of the house they want to buy so that we can live there. They have three dogs and a lot more freedom than we do at this house. The cop explained that not everyone gets a chance to fix things. He pointed to his poster board (which in retrospect is pretty funny) and asked if she wanted to be like them. My little sister was still crying. She ended up coming over to me and hugging me and apologizing. She didn’t make any excuses or say anything except that she was sorry for what she did and that was good enough for me. My cousin and the policeman left and he gave us the referral. However my BIL has a few colleagues who could do better (in his opinion) and he is gonna talk to them instead. But at least we have options for someone she can talk to without feeling judged. I texted my BF and told him to take her to the army HQs this weekend as I didn’t want her to get way too overwhelmed today. Last night we put together a plan before I went to work: She is going to walk and feed my dog every second day until the end of October, or at least until it snows. This is how she will pay me back. She will also learn to do her own laundry, starting this weekend. We are going to get her a bus pass and I’m going to teach her how to get to her school on transit. I did this at her age and it’s time she learnt. She is going to start studying with me, in the school year. I go to the library and she will come with me. The university shouldn’t care as I see it all the time. If her grades go up by her first report card, I’ll talk to my parents about getting her something nice. But any misbehavior: and this means anything – the deal is off. She is handing over all her passwords and passcodes to me. I get to check her stuff whenever I want. If she improves then over winter break we are going to visit my sister where she lives and have a sister trip. My sister offered to pay the tickets but only if my sister’s attitude improves. My BIL drew up the attitude improvements: No more lying, period If she’s upset, she has to talk to me first and foremost before lashing out She does what she’s told, no exceptions She shows me all of her homework to be done at the beginning of the week and lets me check up on it She starts journaling I went through her computer and found lots of story files so I got her a little journal ($5 from Walmart.) I think it’ll help her sort out her feelings before she lies and cries and acts like a brat. BIL is calling his friends later today. Maybe this is all overly optimistic, but this is our chance. If it fails, it fails. But this is my baby sister. I can’t just let her go. So thanks, reddit, for all of your help and concern. If in four months, it goes badly, I will let you know. If you don’t hear from us, we are livin’ it up with my sister’s three dogs. TL;DR parents still crazy. sisters are ok. we are trying our best and we will see how it goes. THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP's OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7 submitted by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 to r/BestofRedditorUpdates [link] [comments]